Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode 005 - Battle for Your Child
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Episode #005 – Battle for Your Child
Are you yearning for greater connection with your child? Would you like to parent beyond the moment with eternal perspective? Let’s grow together now with practical tips, scripture, and stories geared to draw your heart to Jesus and guide your child into His arms.
On the last Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast episode number 004, we discussed Arming Your Child Spiritually. As I stressed in the episode, we must intentionally mature our walk with Jesus so that He pours from us and fills the heart and mind of our child.
Are you aware that there is an unspoken, evil agenda in this world? It’s always been present, but I believe it is more apparent now. Our enemy, the devil roars like a prowling lion seeking whom he can devour. His eyes are on your child. Satan actively engages in battle against your child, and he entices others to desire and make ungodly choices that affect your child and family.
1 Corinthians 16:13 reminds us, “Be on guard. Stand firm in the faith. Be courageous. Be strong.”
We must remember that we are to stand strong in the armor of God, not in our own professed strength. No matter how strong we may be, we are nothing against the enemy, Satan. Thankfully, God didn’t design us to fight our own battles, but to submit to Him along in humble obedience.
1 Peter 5:7 commands, “Give all your worries and cares to God, for He cares about you.”
This world is far from what God originally created for us to live in. His perfect world would have no sin or brokenness. Because we live in a fallen world, we are painfully aware of sin and brokenness. God sees our damaged, defective world and the ugly effects we, and our children suffer. It is imperative that we seekthe Father to guide and protect those He has entrusted to our care. When we have a maturing relationship with God, we seek what Hedesires and we will inherit characteristics from Him that shine the imageof our Heavenly Father to our children. We begin to exhale the fragrance of our Lord for our children to inhale. They need us to lead them with the guidance and wisdom only God can provide. He is the source of wisdom and strength we need to pass on to the next generation.
As I have shared on Live With Eternal Perspective podcast episode number 110, “Armed for Spiritual Warfare,” one way to do that is by wearing the armor of God. To be armed for warfare, we must stand strong, wearing armor as God has specifically prepared it to be utilized. Have you listened to that episode yet? If so, do you remember that almost all of the pieces of God’s armor are used for offense?
When we wear God’s armor in life, and as we raise our children, we must obediently and intentionally cling to the Lord, growing and deepening our relationship with Him moment by moment as we seek His direction and sovereign understanding to raise the individuals He chose to entrust to us. We humbly trust Him to be our protection and strength instead of floundering hopelessly and ignorantly in our own defense.
Our children must see us apply God’s clear, strong offense through accepting His protection and allowing Him to be the voice we teach themto hear and follow. Communication is key. We must let our children know of our trust in and reliance on the Lord for every provision, then live out our profession as a witness for them to emulate as they build their own faith. As they see us allow God to go beforeour trials and tribulations, as we submit to His work, guidance, and protection in our life as He lovingly carries us through each battle, they are more apt to do the same. This is the example we must mentor to our children so that they learn the blessing of an obedient life and grasp the power of God’s protection plan.
God’s armor also carries an important weapon for defense. Scripture tells us in Hebrews 4:12, “The word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.”
God’s holy word allows us the privilege of strong defense against not only the devil, but this world and our own flesh. Nothing carries the poweror wisdom of scripture. Absolutely anything that challenges the word of God will fall short and be exposed in light of His truth.
Finally, just as Jesus spent time alone with God, despite His extraordinarily demanding schedule, we must seek the face of our Father. We must allow our children to see that we prioritize time with the Father. As we come to knowHim intimately through time spent with Him, we recognize His voice. We seek His wisdom and ways and trust His direction, even when we do not understand. Our child sees the difference our time with God makes in our life. There is a definite assault against our children and the only way to rise above it and protect the heart, mind, and soul of our most precious gifts is to live in step with Jesus and teach them to desire and do the same.
I believe that one of the best outcomes of Covid is that the ways this world is after the heart of children was exposed more clearly to parents. Many lived in ignorance of the indoctrination in educational institutions prior to school shut-downs. Even the radical library story hours and topics of paranormal, gender-confused, drug and sex filled books for children and teens that line the shelves of libraries and bookstores have come to light during lock-down. We’ve seen how many churches have altered doctrinal truths to suit what they believe crowds want to hear or what they believe will fill the pews. Unless we know God’s truths through carefully reading and understanding the bible, we are easily swayed or fooled. Parents must stay connected to the issues our children face and are being fed by others, many those we thought we could trust. We must be a godly example our children can rely on for truth and wisdom taught by God alone.
Your walk with Jesus and the home life you create are the most important influences your child will have.
Parenting is hard. You must strive to stay ahead of what influences the world is creating and thrusting upon your child and hold everything up in comparison to God’s words and instructions. Teach your child to do the same. The Bible is the compass of truth and morality, which will never get old or outdated. God’s holy word will never steer you, or your child wrong.
Let’s look at 6 areas of attack parents should be aware of and how the Bible clearly guides us in God’s holy and sovereign wisdom. The bible is just as relevant and practical as it was when it was divinely inspired by our Heavenly Father many years ago.
1. Satan – The roaring lion who seeks whom he can devour delights in planting false teachings and ideas into our world and mind. 2 Corinthians 4:4 says, “The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers so they cannot see the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God.” Do you want your child blinded by the deception of Satan? Or do you want your child living in the fullness a life submitted to God experiences? They must study and understand God’s word in order to know God and desire to please Him. You are the one God selected to lead the way.
2. Culture/Society – One way Satan deceives is through our fleshly, selfish nature. It didn’t take much for the serpent to confuse Eve or convince her that God said something different than what He truly instructed. The devil knows our patterns and ways of life, he recognizes our pride and ego and knows exactly how to tempt and sway us away from the best that God has for us.
Unless we are closely walking with the Lord, seeking His face and purpose or desires for us, the interests we pursue, the way we spend our money, or what we are influenced by are all led by what feels good or what others tell us we should want or do. If we do not know or follow God’s moral codes and instructions, we fall victim to what society tells us is right instead of knowing and following God’s holy truths.
James 1:13-15 says, “When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He tempt anyone. But each one is tempted when by his own evil desires he is lured away and enticed. Then after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.” This world is influenced and corrupted by Satan and fleshly desires. Every area of our life from home to schools and institutions, churches, religions, relationships, gender, literature, movies and music, speech, attire, sanctity of life, marriage, parenting, politics…any area that can be touched has been influenced by the wicked lies of the evil one. While God desires goodness, life, and light for us, Satan destroys and deceives.
Galatians 5:16-17 says, “So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh craves what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are opposed to each other, so that you do not do what you want.” When we do not know God’s word, we do not have the power and godly direction or protection set within our mind to live according to the principles God has established. Our culture calls for us to form our own truths and morals based on what we have experienced, what others tell us, or what feels good or right in the moment.
Following our fleshly instincts will lead to disaster and heartache. Step by step, we are deceived and confused, and led farther from God. This will happen to your child unless you purpose to raise them knowing God’s truth, so they will recognize evil and deceit. Teach your child God’s love for him and study His word together, explaining scripture and weaving God’s truths and morals into everyday living. Use godly morals with daily occurrences and make sure you live up to the standards you are teaching your child to obey.
3. Parental – Because we can easily revert to parenting according to what we have experienced, what others instruct us to do, how we were raised, or what seems to be the easiest, instead of seeking the leading of the Holy Spirit’s guidance and protection for each individual child, our children eventually look to what the world says and teaches to be their guideline of absolute truth.
Without a godly moral compass built within them through intimate relationship with Jesus, our child will always lead opposite of the truths God has established because that is the way our world operates.
Satan seeks to destroy your child and family. He will utilize enticements that have worked throughout the course of history. Prideful and deceitful, the devil knows his time is short. He seeks to carry as many as possible with him straight into darkness. Our minds are easily influenced by what is easy and appealing, such as trying to be a best friend to our child, or presenting gifts and opportunities we never instead of teaching them of our perfect Creator who cherishes them with an everlasting love that will perfectly fill them.
Satan’s influence in this world through those who do not follow God or who meekly sit in ignorance of God or in lukewarm relationships devoid of the knowledge of truth, grooms our children for disaster. Unless we know and humbly seek God’s word for wisdom, insight, and guidance, we fall to the low estimation and expectations of the deceiver, meekly and ignorantly allowing him governance over the mind and life of our child.
Deuteronomy 6:6-8 says, “These words I am commanding you today are to be upon your hearts. And you shall teach them diligently to your children and speak of them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as reminders on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.Write them on the doorposts of your houses and on your gates.” Another area where we fail our children is accepting old sayings such as, “they’re just being a teen,” or “they all go through that,” as we look at what society and culture offers our children in light of what God desires for them. Our children can absolutely be raised “set-apart” and do not have to follow the societal limitations allowed through history. God desires so much more for your child. So should you.
Philippians 4:6-8 says, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think on these things.” Imagine the godly qualities your Heavenly Father desires for each of your children. Make a list, petition the Lord to add or subtract from it and carry it to Him with prayers that honor Him and allow you to raise the children He has loaned to you for such a time as this.
4. Self-worth – Now that you understand there is a battle for the mind and the soul of your children, what are you going to do? Not only is your child fed lies about what God thinks of them, but also about what He calls for them.
2 Corinthians 10:3-5 says, “For though we live in the flesh, we do not wage war according to the flesh. The weapons of our warfare are not the weapons of the world. Instead, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We tear down arguments and every presumption set up against the knowledge of God; and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
Our culture seeks to influence parents and children with lies that we can be and do all that we want, even change the sex God implanted at conception. Instead, we should be convinced of, and teach our children to seek what desires, strengths, talents, and gifts God has crafted into them.
Society influences the way we look at our faces, figures, and minds through advertisements, publications, movies, books, and music, twisting truth and implanting lies and impossibilities that tear our children down and instill confusion. The last two years have pitted God’s children against each other, with culture causing problems with about skin tone and superiority. God purposed to make each of us unique and beautiful. In His eyes no one is higher or lower than another. God created the uniqueness of varying skin colors and hair types, just as He made different eye colors, heights, and bone structures. The Creator of the Universe desired variety. In His eyes, we are all beautiful. We are all worthy.
1 Samuel 16:7says, “But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or height, for I have rejected him; the Lord does not see as man does. For man sees the outward appearance, but the Lord sees the heart.” We must teach our children to seek God’s word to learn on how to view others, as well as himself. Our children must know that what they think, what others say, what society or media preaches, or what their friends tell them are simply worldly opinions biased by fleshly desires, failings, sin, and corruption. Only the word of God will truthfully guide them. God created each person purposely with a loving hand, eye, and heart that specifically wanted them uniquely as they are. In fact, God views them as a one-of-a-kind masterpiece. It is our responsibility to guide our children to be exactly what God desires for them and to teach them to seek and want that, as well.
5. Attitude/Speech – Jesus taught that character, which springs from the condition of our heart, matters more than any spiritual act or word we utter. It is vitally important that we conduct our lives in a way that models godly character qualities for our children. When we possess (and teach them to carry) love for Jesus, confidence through who He says we are, generosity, compassion, honesty, integrity, resiliency, and gratitude despite circumstances, our children are mentored in the values that lead to eternal perspective and fullness of life.
Psalm 49:13 says, “My mouth will impart wisdom, and the meditation of my heart will bring understanding.” Speech is another area in which we must remember that God created us with two ears and one mouth. We must learn to listen more than we speak and when we use our tongue, use it with the modest and honest submission God calls for us to carry. Our children will likely become what they see and hear. How do you expect your child to be living 5 years from now?
James 3:9-12 says, “With the tongue we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, this should not be! Can both fresh water and saltwater flow from the same spring? My brothers, can a fig tree grow olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.”
Ephesians 4:29 says, “Let no unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building up the one in need and bringing grace to those who listen.”
Psalm 141:3-4 says, “Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch at the door of my lips. Do not let my heart be drawn to any evil thing or take part in works of wickedness with men who do iniquity; let me not feast on their delicacies.”
6. Calling – One of the deep joys of parenting comes from watching and knowing our child; interests and talents are usually exposed when children are young. How wonderful it is that we are entrusted by God to help our child discover what He calls for them in life. Why did He create them just as He did? What can they do to bring honor and glory to God in their lifetime?
Matthew 6:33-34 says, “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Today has enough trouble of its own.” It is our responsibility to help our child seek the very heart of God to see where He will lead and guide them in the world. Direct and pray with them. Serve with your child. Be at the feet with your children.
1 Peter 4:10-11 says, “As good stewards of the manifold grace of God, each of you should use whatever gift he has received to serve one another. If anyone speaks, he should speak as one conveying the words of God. If anyone serves, he should serve with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be glorified through Jesus Christ, to whom be the glory and the power forever and ever. Amen.”
Life is not about us. God doesn’t desire for our children to seek fleshly recognition or fame. Teach your child to find what He is purposed to do in this world to honor God and use the life he has been given for the glory of Jesus, instead of selfish ambition that fades away and leaves him empty.
We must know and show God in order for our child to seek Him. One of the most loving acts we can offer our child is to obediently love God so wholly that our child experiences Him fully through our life and they seek Him for themselves because they desire what we are experiencing.
Today we have talked about the ways we can battle for and prepare our child to withstand the battles of this world and be equipped by God to lead lives that honor and obey Him. We see that the true way to battle for them is to be equipped by the armor of God and teach them to rely on Him. Remember the offensive piece we discussed earlier? Prayer. On the next episode of Purposed Parent/Connected Child, we will list specific prayers that will enable you to bring your child to the feet of Jesus so you will both be able to stand against the wicked schemes of Satan, flesh, and this world.
Dear Heavenly Father, we praise You for all that You are and call us to be. Help us to live in ways that honor and please You. Enable us to mentor our children as You desire. May we so love and obey You that our children cannot help but seek and find You. God, we humbly ask that you protect our children from the evil desires and influences of this world. We pray that You guide us in the ways we need to bring our children to a good and strong knowledge of and love for You. Battle for us. Encourage us in Your ways. We need You Father, and so do our precious children. Thank you for entrusting them to us for this time. May we please You in our decisions for them and guidance of them. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen.
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God knows that we are not capable of successful parenting on our own. As we rely on Him, releasing doubts and expectations, and humbly bow to His guidance and experience, we find greater clarity in parenting and a wondrous walk with our Creator that will extend to our children and those around us for generations.
I pray this podcast helps you parent with purposeand deepen your connection to Jesus and your children as you intentionally place Christ above culture or self. Allow Him to work through you for true connection that will draw your children to Him and build a maturing relationship with Christ and your child that lasts for eternity.