Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode 028 - Don't Grow Weary
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Episode #028 – Don’t Grow Weary
Are you yearning for greater connection with your child? Would you like to parent beyond the moment with eternal perspective? Let’s grow together now with practical tips, scripture, and stories geared to draw your heart to Jesus and guide your child into His arms.
Recently on social media, I’ve seen several friends who admitted that 2022 was not a great year for them. Are you also in a hard season?
Maybe it’s a time of trouble for you personally. Or your child may be experiencing hardships. Your spouse or other loved ones may be going through illnesses or suffering.
My heart is with you for where you find yourself this very moment. Whether you are living in a season of riches and prosperity through Christ or in a time of total dependence in Him, I understand. Each person has been in both places and will be again. But I want to remind you of the truth.
Mothers, God sees the Holy work you do for Him.
He sees the moments you feel you can’t go another day. He knows when you pour your heart into your child and don’t see the results you hope for. He understands your pain, frustration, helplessness, and confusion. He’s with you on the mountain and He’s ready to carry you through the valleys.
Despite how you may feel, you are not alone.
Romans 2:11 says, “For God shows no partiality.”
You probably already know that our Heavenly Father is not a respecter of persons, but He is certainly a respecter of hearts. He loves us each the same, but He knows our hearts are varied.
He sees inside to the core of everyone and knows what lies within us.
God sees you intentionally mature your walk with Him; He watches you seek to show His heart, truths, and commands to your children.
It is human to get weary, to be discouraged, or to feel alone. But remember, when those feelings hit, they are fueled by emotions. Emotions can be controlled through reliance on Him.
Our emotions and feelings are simply how we feel. They are not indicators of truth unless they match the Word of God. Although God allows us individual feelings and emotions, we must recognize that they are not necessarily His truth. We must intentionally use them to steer us in the way we should pivot to draw nearer to Him.
Obviously, sometimes we are weary because we are simply bone-tired from not getting enough rest. If your weariness comes from a place of feeling weary of life or you feel like you’re always under pressure, always behind where you should be, always less than, or always alone, do not give up. Look Up!
Physical weariness can be detrimental to your mind and body. Physical weariness can actually cause you to be easily misled or deceived.
As I said, spiritual weariness is destructive to your mind and body, but especially to your soul. Spiritual weariness affects your eternity, as well as the eternal future of those around you, especially the little eyes who watch every move you make.
I believe there are important questions to consider when you first begin to feel spiritually drained:
1. Are you seeking the world more than the Creator?
2. Do you believe feelings over God’s truth?
3. Are you lifting your emotions, feelings, and troubles to God or attempting to carry them alone?
Galatians 6:9 says, “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”
Does your weariness cause:
Anger? Depression? Loneliness? Hopelessness?
If what we feel conflicts with what God’s truths expose, we must remember that He does not change.
God does not move away from us. Use these times to adjust your alignment with Him and move in the direction He desires – toward Him.
Here is a list of 13 actions to take when you realize you are growing weary spiritually or when the burdens of life seem to be crushing you down. Remember, you can listen now and look at the list or print it later from terrihitt.com.
1. Make time to read God’s Word. Even ten minutes spent studying the Bible instead of scrolling on the phone does wonders. The more time you spend with Him, the more you crave the Father and your personal time together. You find it easier to make time to be with Him. Isaiah 58:11says, “And the LORD will guide you continually and satisfy your desire in scorched places and make your bones strong; and you shall be like a watered garden, like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.”
2. Make sure to get enough rest. Physical exhaustion makes every part of our mind and body weak. Look for ways to ensure you get better quality sleep or simply more of it.
3. Remember life is full of seasons. Nothing lasts forever. As hard as it gets to remember that truth when you are in the midst of turmoil, let yourself remember that your current season will pass. 2 Corinthians 12:9 says, “But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”
4. Change your mindset. When the demands of your children seem overwhelming, remember that caring for them is service to the Lord. Ask for help. Find a trusted Christian friend who will at the very least pray with and for you to strengthen you in this time. Look for help in the areas you need. Allow help to step in where needed. Don’t allow anything to pull you away from growing in Christ. 1 Peter 5:6-8 says, “Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time He may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on Him, because He cares for you. Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.”
5. Study the demands in your life and learn to say, “no” when needed. Even to good things. If something is draining in this season, it is not worth doing. Your walk with Christ and your home life are the most important issues to handle. Psalm 119:28 says, “My soul melts away for sorrow; strengthen me according to your word!”
6. Assess what you can get rid of in your life. If something is no longer serving your growth in the Lord or is hindering your ability to have a mindset like Christ, it might be time to shelf the opportunity, at least for a season. Maybe you are in a season of family. Hebrews 6:10 says, “For God is not unjust so as to overlook your work and the love that you have shown for His name in serving the saints, as you still do.”
7. Consider what may need to be added to your life. Perhaps you need lunch or coffee with a Christian friend, time alone with your spouse, a walk outdoors, a hot bath, a hobby, or a book. You may even enjoy letting things go and having old-fashioned play time with your children. Making a date to connect with them in this way daily does wonders for your relationship and the attitude of your children. Find their “love language” and place connecting with your children above a spotless home or gourmet dinner. One of the biggest blessings I have was making sure I included Bible study with my children daily. Psalm 119:28 says, “My soul melts away for sorrow; strengthen me according to your word!”
8. Talk to your spouse and let him know how to help you. Discuss, pray together, study God’s Word together, and find things to enjoy together.
9. Set your mind on things above. Claim and pray Colossians 3:2, which says, “Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth.” Look for ways to live this verse.
10. Claim the hope and strength of Christ. Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.” Ponder how much you believe this verse. Find ways to move closer to God through the hardships and trials that will enable you to allow God to carry you through anything you face.
11. Praise God, despite circumstances and continue to share the goodness of God. Even when times are tough, look back on what God has done and given in the past. Remember and focus on His truths in His Word and share. Praising despite difficulties lifts your spirits and those around you as they see the power of Christ at work in you. Matthew 11:28-29 says, “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”
12. Talk to trusted believers. If you need support, you don’t need to air all your dirty laundry, but if you have friends, family, or a pastor who will listen to what you are enduring and give sound Biblical advice, consider sharing with them. Trusted believers are a gift from Him.
13. Pray the Word and commit to trusting and resting in God’s truths. Isaiah 40:29-31 says, “Have you not known? Have you not heard? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He does not faint or grow weary; His understanding is unsearchable. He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might He increases strength. Even youths shall faint and be weary, and young men shall fall exhausted; but they who wait for the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.”
Stopping to critically assess your life and walk with Christ and the way it affects your children and spouse is critical. Out of any of the new year resolutions or habits a person might want to add, I believe viewing your present situation or circumstances through eyes set for eternity is the best way to spend your time.
Psalm 63:1-4 says, “O God, you are my God; earnestly I seek You; my soul thirsts for You; my flesh faints for You, as in a dry and weary land where there is no water. So I have looked upon You in the sanctuary, beholding Your power and glory. Because Your steadfast love is better than life, my lips will praise You. So I will bless You as long as I live; in Your name I will lift up my hands.”
Despite what this world preaches and pushes, we need Him. Our children need Him. Become more and more Christlike daily as you pursue Jesus for yourself, your children, and your family.
3 John 1:4 says, “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.”
Rethink this verse with your name and the names of your family members. Pray it daily and watch the hand of God change you, your desires, and your circumstances.
Dear Heavenly Father, You reign in Heaven, yet also live within those of us who follow You. How great is Your love for us and Your sacrifice to be with us. Thank you for allowing us to know and fellowship with You. Thank you for sending your children to live and be trained by us! How hard it must be to see us flounder without Your perfect will and purpose. Help us to seek and follow You more earnestly with great intention to know and show You to our children. Help us deepen our personal walk with you this very moment. Be near to us and draw nearer as we turn our heart toward you. Help our children to find You irresistible because You reside within us and are shown so clearly through us. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen.
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