I'm Terri Hitt, Christian Motherhood Mentor. I equip women to STOP being good moms - and become GODLY moms who parent with a heart for eternity and raise kids who chase Christ over culture. a Purposed Parenting Plan™️, learn a Motherhood Mindset Model™️, parent the heart of your child, not just the behavior, and learn to disciple, not punish. I also offer a weekly podcast, Purposed Parent Connected Child. Ignite a godly legacy that fuels generations Life is short. How are you using the moments entrusted to you? Do you ever wonder if you're the only woman lying in bed with “should haves” keeping her awake long after the lights turn off? Or wonder if other moms carry secret shame over words yelled in the heat of the moment? Or whether anyone else carries fears about how their kids are turning out? You want your family to choose Christ over culture, but you don’t see how that will happen when your minutes are spent checking the next item off the list and transporting kids who prefer peers over parents. Other women may have close connection with their kids, but it’s all you can do to keep yours feed and clothed. You secretly wonder what God was thinking when He put you in charge of raising kids . How are you supposed to steward them toward godliness when you can’t even make time to open the Bible? There is hope. It’s here when you’re ready to invite peace, grace, and transformation into your home. Through my mentorship, you’ll receive eternity-focused methods that equip and encourage. Become the set-apart mom God entrusted you to be for His children. 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I WANT TO BE A SET-APART WOMAN In a few days, you'll know where to find your purpose (no matter your season of life). In a couple of months, you'll have a strong identity through your Heavenly Father. And by the end, you will be a godly woman who relies on His strength no matter what. YOU WANT TO PLEASE AND HONOR GOD But need to release fear, guilt, or shame. Do the words or actions of others impact your attitude more than truths in the Word? Be equipped to release guilt, fear, shame, or perfectionism in the Godly Womanhood Set-Apart Collective. Strengthen mindset, identity, and relationship skills. Learn how to live beyond moment-to-moment activities and view life with an eternal perspective. Through group and one-to-one mentorship, you’ll receive support and guidance to uncover lies and identify traps that keep you from discovering the godly woman you are purposed to be. About Godly Womanhood I WANT TO BE A SET-APART MOM In a few days, you'll know how to parent to PREPARE not REPAIR . In a couple of weeks, you'll be equipped with practical ways to connect with your kids - no matter their age . And by the end, you will be a godly mom who knows how to steward a legacy . YOU YEARN TO PARENT YOUR KIDS TO THE FEET OF JESUS But you’re unsure how to lead them there. When you rest your head on the pillow at night, what are your last thoughts before sleep? If you wrestle with “should-haves” or wonder how to integrate your faith into daily parenting, The Godly Motherhood Set-Apart Collective will take you from conflict to Christ. The children God entrusted to you need a mother who consistently and confidently mentors them in developing biblical critical thinking skills. They need guidance to grow a godly identity that will carry them from life in your home to life in the world without losing faith, hope, or truth. If you don’t want to raise kids the world calls “typical,” The Set-Apart Collective will enable you to trade overwhelm for overjoy and raise children who are set-apart for Christ. About Godly Motherhood The Set-Apart Collective Christian Community Spiritual investments that extend generations . Group mentorship, a Christian community, + 1:1 mentorship starting at $297 (less than the average mom spends on extra curriculars per year) starting at $297 (less than the average woman spends on clothing per year) starting at $297 (less than the average mom spends on coffee per year) YES, I WANT GOD TO MOVE IN MY FAMILY DO YOU WANT TERRI TO SPEAK TO YOUR GROUP? Some of the topics that will touch your audience: Stop Being a Good Mom and Become the Godly Parent God Entrusted You to Be Disciple the Heart, Not Discipline the Behavior How to Raise Kids to Choose Christ over Culture Children Are on Loan – What Heavenly Deposit Are You Multiplying in Them? 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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #082 –Peace That Guards Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Philippians 4:7 says, “And the peace of God, surpassing all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” About five months ago I felt a warning in my spirit that my sweet golden boy, Max was going to be attacked. There was no reason for the thought. It came on me just as I’ve had random ideas of things to come in the past. Three months after my warning, my Golden Retriever, Max suddenly became ill and passed away on June 18. Our sweet little girl, Misty, our precious Miniature Schnauzer was gone three days later. At the time I wondered if it might be spiritual warfare. The closer we move to God and the more we offer to Him in genuine submission and love to honor and glorify Him, we can be targeted or attacked. God has spoken to me in similar ways over the years. I am not claiming a be a prophet. I certainly am not one. Nor am I a psychic. I do listen for the voice of God and desire to recognize when He speaks to me. Each of us has a personal connection to our Heavenly Father and I know He speaks intimately to us in the ways we will recognize and appreciate. Just as our Heavenly Father has warned me about things in the past, I appreciate hearing His voice and know it kept me calmer since I already knew something was going to happen to my baby boy. Just as when the Lord warned me about losing my oldest daughter 24 hours before she passed or that my father would pass away in 2013, and multiple other events. On the day our Golden Retriever passed away, I was driving home from the emergency veterinary clinic when I felt the same voice in my spirit tell me that “I would be attacked next.” I didn’t tell anyone about it except my husband. Almost two months later, I am not surprised that my doctor recently asked me to return for a second mammogram, then told me that I need to go in for a biopsy. Even through this season, I know that God is going before me and has everything under control. There is a peace that passes understanding girding my spirit and mind. Yesterday as I was sitting at a doctor’s appointment with my youngest daughter, I received a call from my doctor that proves God is paving the way as she explained that she wanted me to switch biopsy providers and was making a new referral for me. It was to the medical center I had hoped to go to, but had not mentioned it because I did not think it could be done. A bubble of peace and calm continues to surround and carry me. Are you like me? It’s actually easier to handle medical concerns and conditions about myself than it is regarding my children. I would much prefer to take on all their battles, and bear their wounds. Yet our sovereign God knows exactly what each of us needs to endure or face that will bring Him honor and glory in not only our life, but also those around us and anyone we may come into contact with. What our child faces will develop relationship with God (for each of us) if we foster a loving mentorship that leads directly to Him. My youngest has testing scheduled right after my biopsy that will not be pleasant for her. I have been seeking and beginning dialogues with her in an effort to prepare and build her reliance on the only One who can handle anything she feels or experiences in perfect ways and measures designed to mature her walk with Him in glorious ways. No matter how involved I am in the care she receives, He will know, understand, and minister to her in intimate ways she may not have voiced to me or even yet understand herself. How privileged I am to have a small part in the development of her present, future, and eternity. Philippians 4:4-9 says, “Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be apparent to all. The Lord is near. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think on these things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me, put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.” How would God define peace? I am positive the Creator of all things, our Holy, Omnipotent God would describe peace much more profoundly than I can. In my weak, human mind, I suspect the peace of God is not only a calmness that erases worry in our mind and attitude. I believe the peace of God is a complete and supernatural presence of Almighty God going before us and carrying us in His capable and loving arms, holding us near enough to feel the beating of His heart against us, filling us with the courage and resolve to continue the journey. As I stated on the podcast last week, I am spending time with my girls preparing for our new school year, doing last minute activities from our summer “to do” list, and taking care of the personal needs I expressed. Instead of a long podcast with new topics in this episode, I want to direct you to past episodes reminding each of us to look Up to the only one who can offer us and sustain us with the peace we need in this world. So many are in need of peace at this moment. Peace is a necessity that often escapes us. I know that in my own life when I feel the fraying of nerves begin and even an inkling of frustration or unrest threatens to invade my spirit, it is an opportunity to choose. Do I want to sit in my emotions, feelings, thoughts, worries, or fears – or will I recognize the opportunity to trust in God? Today, after several medical phone calls and a tight schedule, I knew I needed to rest in God’s word. Yet as wonderful as it is to do so, the first thing I knew I needed was a quiet time to simply sit with God and speak to Him about my feelings and clear my mind and heart to hear Him speak to me. After my time of reflection and prayer, I listened to God’s word on audio instead of reading it myself. Sometimes it is enlightening to hear another speak the words of God and simply listen without reading and studying as I go. Just hearing God’s powerful words, instructions, and promises to me left my spirit calmer and I felt I had taken the opportunity to make a sharp detour away from the course my flesh may have gone earlier. God is the beacon guiding me through any storm and the anchor securing me in a world of chaos and confusion. Yet I must choose to follow Him. Each moment allows me that opportunity to embrace the option to follow self, world, or the Lord of Heaven and Earth. I invite you to listen to a few “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast episodes that will help foster the peace only God can give. Episode 2 – Protecting Our Thoughts Episode 14 – Fear Episode 21 – Peace That Passes Understanding Episode 72 – Faith That Perseveres These episodes point to our Father and the calm He lovingly and willingly promises to those who trust in Him. John 14:27 says, “Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” Father God, You alone are Holy. You are sovereign. You are good. Thank you for allowing me to choose to place my trust in You. Relationship is sweet when we choose the one we are with. I choose You, God. Thank you for the work you have done and continue to do in me. Help me to seek you despite the chaos and confusing messages of this world. You are the foundation I need to build my life on and my trust in. May Your words be buried inside me to draw me ever nearer to You and may Your spirit shine forth from me to light the way for others. Thank you for the choice to be with You and be made new each moment. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 082 Peace That Guards Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #082 –Peace That Guards Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Philippians 4:7 says, “And the peace of God, surpassing all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” About five months ago I felt a warning in my spirit that my sweet golden boy, Max was going to be attacked. There was no reason for the thought. It came on me just as I’ve had random ideas of things to come in the past. Three months after my warning, my Golden Retriever, Max suddenly became ill and passed away on June 18. Our sweet little girl, Misty, our precious Miniature Schnauzer was gone three days later. At the time I wondered if it might be spiritual warfare. The closer we move to God and the more we offer to Him in genuine submission and love to honor and glorify Him, we can be targeted or attacked. God has spoken to me in similar ways over the years. I am not claiming a be a prophet. I certainly am not one. Nor am I a psychic. I do listen for the voice of God and desire to recognize when He speaks to me. Each of us has a personal connection to our Heavenly Father and I know He speaks intimately to us in the ways we will recognize and appreciate. Just as our Heavenly Father has warned me about things in the past, I appreciate hearing His voice and know it kept me calmer since I already knew something was going to happen to my baby boy. Just as when the Lord warned me about losing my oldest daughter 24 hours before she passed or that my father would pass away in 2013, and multiple other events. On the day our Golden Retriever passed away, I was driving home from the emergency veterinary clinic when I felt the same voice in my spirit tell me that “I would be attacked next.” I didn’t tell anyone about it except my husband. Almost two months later, I am not surprised that my doctor recently asked me to return for a second mammogram, then told me that I need to go in for a biopsy. Even through this season, I know that God is going before me and has everything under control. There is a peace that passes understanding girding my spirit and mind. Yesterday as I was sitting at a doctor’s appointment with my youngest daughter, I received a call from my doctor that proves God is paving the way as she explained that she wanted me to switch biopsy providers and was making a new referral for me. It was to the medical center I had hoped to go to, but had not mentioned it because I did not think it could be done. A bubble of peace and calm continues to surround and carry me. Are you like me? It’s actually easier to handle medical concerns and conditions about myself than it is regarding my children. I would much prefer to take on all their battles, and bear their wounds. Yet our sovereign God knows exactly what each of us needs to endure or face that will bring Him honor and glory in not only our life, but also those around us and anyone we may come into contact with. What our child faces will develop relationship with God (for each of us) if we foster a loving mentorship that leads directly to Him. My youngest has testing scheduled right after my biopsy that will not be pleasant for her. I have been seeking and beginning dialogues with her in an effort to prepare and build her reliance on the only One who can handle anything she feels or experiences in perfect ways and measures designed to mature her walk with Him in glorious ways. No matter how involved I am in the care she receives, He will know, understand, and minister to her in intimate ways she may not have voiced to me or even yet understand herself. How privileged I am to have a small part in the development of her present, future, and eternity. Philippians 4:4-9 says, “Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be apparent to all. The Lord is near. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think on these things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me, put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.” How would God define peace? I am positive the Creator of all things, our Holy, Omnipotent God would describe peace much more profoundly than I can. In my weak, human mind, I suspect the peace of God is not only a calmness that erases worry in our mind and attitude. I believe the peace of God is a complete and supernatural presence of Almighty God going before us and carrying us in His capable and loving arms, holding us near enough to feel the beating of His heart against us, filling us with the courage and resolve to continue the journey. As I stated on the podcast last week, I am spending time with my girls preparing for our new school year, doing last minute activities from our summer “to do” list, and taking care of the personal needs I expressed. Instead of a long podcast with new topics in this episode, I want to direct you to past episodes reminding each of us to look Up to the only one who can offer us and sustain us with the peace we need in this world. So many are in need of peace at this moment. Peace is a necessity that often escapes us. I know that in my own life when I feel the fraying of nerves begin and even an inkling of frustration or unrest threatens to invade my spirit, it is an opportunity to choose. Do I want to sit in my emotions, feelings, thoughts, worries, or fears – or will I recognize the opportunity to trust in God? Today, after several medical phone calls and a tight schedule, I knew I needed to rest in God’s word. Yet as wonderful as it is to do so, the first thing I knew I needed was a quiet time to simply sit with God and speak to Him about my feelings and clear my mind and heart to hear Him speak to me. After my time of reflection and prayer, I listened to God’s word on audio instead of reading it myself. Sometimes it is enlightening to hear another speak the words of God and simply listen without reading and studying as I go. Just hearing God’s powerful words, instructions, and promises to me left my spirit calmer and I felt I had taken the opportunity to make a sharp detour away from the course my flesh may have gone earlier. God is the beacon guiding me through any storm and the anchor securing me in a world of chaos and confusion. Yet I must choose to follow Him. Each moment allows me that opportunity to embrace the option to follow self, world, or the Lord of Heaven and Earth. I invite you to listen to a few “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast episodes that will help foster the peace only God can give. Episode 2 – Protecting Our Thoughts Episode 14 – Fear Episode 21 – Peace That Passes Understanding Episode 72 – Faith That Perseveres These episodes point to our Father and the calm He lovingly and willingly promises to those who trust in Him. John 14:27 says, “Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” Father God, You alone are Holy. You are sovereign. You are good. Thank you for allowing me to choose to place my trust in You. Relationship is sweet when we choose the one we are with. I choose You, God. Thank you for the work you have done and continue to do in me. Help me to seek you despite the chaos and confusing messages of this world. You are the foundation I need to build my life on and my trust in. May Your words be buried inside me to draw me ever nearer to You and may Your spirit shine forth from me to light the way for others. Thank you for the choice to be with You and be made new each moment. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #111 – The Way, the Truth, and the Life Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together and live with purposed eternal perspective. My children ask a lot of questions. I’ve always encouraged curiosity and learning. We believe there are no dumb or silly questions. In fact, I teach that the smarter a person is, the more questions they will ask. There is one specific question each person should ask during their lifetime. The question, “Who is Jesus?” will cause them to seek the most important answer each person will need to discover. When most people are asked this question, they answer in simple terms. Perhaps they say Jesus is God’s Son. Maybe they answer that He is their Savior. While both are true, Jesus Christ is so much more. Even the truths I present in this podcast will not come close to everything that Jesus is and will be. When we think of the characteristics of Jesus, the first qualities that may spring to mind are words such as: God, Teacher, Judge, Sinless, Obedient, Mediator, Savior, Eternal, Heir, Healer, Servant, King, Son, Anointed, and Resurrected. All of these are true and accurate, but still don’t grasp the beauty and majesty of Jesus. Words are easy to use without pondering the rich meaning of the description. Without the blessed resource of scripture to back truths about Jesus, I think it is impossible for our human mind and heart to grasp all that Jesus really is. Even when we read the bible and learn all we can about Jesus, He is so far above and beyond us that we struggle to fathom His glory. As was written in the gospel of John, Jesus is the divine Son of God who came to this world in human flesh to save all who believe in Him. Jesus changes lives. Our pursuit of Jesus invites Him to renew our soul and spirit. Studying Jesus arouses new belief or affirms existing belief in Him. In fact, whether you believe in Who He proclaims to be or not, most people at least believe Jesus lived. Those who hold a special relationship with Jesus because we have read the scriptures and believed the testimonies, know that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God, and receive new life in His name. Scripture clearly proves that Jesus is the only way for us to receive life on earth and for eternity in heaven. Let’s examine 8 basic bible verses that reveal some of what Jesus came to earth to complete for the Father and for us. This is where we view and absorb the truth that Jesus is more than God in flesh on earth, and regard His Divine character and Supreme nature. 1. Jesus is our example of obedience. John 6:38 says, “For I have come down from heaven, not to do My own will, but to do the will of Him who sent Me.” Jesus’ focus remained on His Father and what God called Him to do. 2. Jesus warns us of the thief. John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I have come that they may have life, and have it in all its fullness.” Jesus steadfastly warned of the devil and his wickedness, as well as the promise and security through steadfastly remaining with the Father and finding new life through Jesus. 3. Jesus is our light. John 12:46 says, “I have come into the world as a light, so that no one who believes in Me should remain in darkness.” Jesus came to give new, eternal life and conquered the darkness of evil and death through His light. 4. Jesus is our Conquering King. John 18:37 says, “Then You are a king!” Pilate said. “You say that I am a king,” Jesus answered. “For this reason I was born and have come into the world, to testify to the truth. Everyone who belongs to the truth listens to My voice.” Jesus is the King of Kings calling for all who will accept His truth and follow. 5. Jesus is truth. Mark 1:38 says, “But Jesus answered, “Let us go on to the neighboring towns so I can preach there as well, for that is why I have come.” Jesus made time to minister and live His life in this world as He walked among us in earthly flesh, but He never forgot His purpose or that He was the Truth He was to make known. 6. Jesus is our healer. Mark 2:17 says, “On hearing this, Jesus told them, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” Jesus saw and loved each person. Although He didn’t bow to their sin or join in it, he associated with sinners because they needed to hear to find healing. 7. Jesus is our judge. John 9:39 says, “Then Jesus declared, “For judgment I have come into this world, so that the blind may see and those who see may become blind.” After we turn to Christ, we begin to see Him differently. Walking with Jesus alters us, opens our eyes and heart to His truth. Once we have heard the truth of Jesus and experienced Him, we receive spiritual understanding and insight. Those who reject Him, ignoring Truth through self-righteousness or pride, will remain in earthly blindness. 8. Jesus is eternal life. John 14:6 says, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through Me.” Jesus is the only way to God. Not a limited path, but clear and exact, Jesus extends the Way, a path to God. As Truth, He defines clarity of God. As Life, Jesus came in the flesh of man, joining creator to created, heaven to earth, divine to earthly. Deserving of all the glory and honor we can give Him, Jesus clearly models life on earth and in heaven in many other ways, as well. Instead of making my main focus what Jesus gives me, I want my life focus to be on knowing Who Jesus is. Is this the cry of your heart? As we come to realize more about the deity of Jesus, we realize how far we are from Him and how much we need Him to sustain and rescue us. After being justified through faith in Jesus Christ, sanctification follows as we allow Him to erase our sinful nature and we are fashioned into a new creation as the Holy Spirit works within us. Praise God that I am not the same person I was when I first began my life as a follower of Jesus! A life submitted cannot remain unaltered. Do you see His work within you, too? Scripture presents an in-depth look at Who Jesus is and how He is able to make such a profound change in the world and within us. Of course, I can never list all that Jesus is, has done, or will be, but God’s holy word makes Him known. Just as Ecclesiastes 3:11 says, “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men, yet they cannot fathom the work that God has done from beginning to end.” Jesus gives us life, fills every void in our life, and is the way to everlasting life. Three major points will be our focus as we search scripture to learn more about Jesus. As I read, rest in the truths, comforts, promises, and power of His holy word. As Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” The first set of bible verses I share will prove Jesus’ obedience. Through them we see that He is the perfect example for us to follow. 1. Jesus is The Way John 4:34 says, “Jesus explained, “My food is to do the will of Him who sent Me and to finish His work.” John 5:19 says, “So Jesus replied, “Truly, truly, I tell you, the Son can do nothing by Himself, unless He sees the Father doing it. For whatever the Father does, the Son also does.” John 5:30 says, “I can do nothing by Myself; I judge only as I hear. And My judgment is just, because I do not seek My own will, but the will of Him who sent Me.” John 6:38 says, “For I have come down from heaven, not to do My own will, but to do the will of Him who sent Me.” John 8:28 says, “So Jesus said, “When you have lifted up the Son of Man, then you will know that I am He, and that I do nothing on My own, but speak exactly what the Father has taught Me.” John 8:42 says, “Jesus said to them, “If God were your Father, you would love Me, for I have come here from God. I have not come on My own, but He sent Me.” John 10:37-38 says, “If I am not doing the works of My Father, then do not believe Me. But if I am doing them, even though you do not believe Me, believe the works themselves, so that you may know and understand that the Father is in Me, and I am in the Father.” John 12:49-50 says, “I have not spoken on My own, but the Father who sent Me has commanded Me what to say and how to say it. And I know that His command leads to eternal life. So I speak exactly what the Father has told Me to say.” John 14:10 says, “Do you not believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in Me? The words I say to you, I do not speak on My own. Instead, it is the Father dwelling in Me, performing His works.” John 14:31 says, “But I do exactly what the Father has commanded Me, so that the world may know that I love the Father.” John 15:9-11 says, “As the Father has loved Me, so have I loved you. Remain in My love. If you keep My commandments, you will remain in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and remain in His love. I have told you these things so that My joy may be in you and your joy may be complete.” John 17:4-5 says, “I have glorified You on earth by accomplishing the work You gave Me to do. And now, Father, glorify Me in Your presence with the glory I had with You before the world existed.” How much we learn from studying and following the life of Jesus! Perfect in every way, He obediently follows where God has called. Lord, our heart cries for you to make us more like You! 2. Jesus is Truth John 7:37 says, “On the last and greatest day of the feast, Jesus stood up and called out in a loud voice, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink.” John 16:13 says, “When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth, for he will not speak on his own authority, but whatever he hears he will speak, and he will declare to you the things that are to come.” Ecclesiastes 3:11 says, “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men, yet they cannot fathom the work that God has done from beginning to end.” John 1:14 says, “The Word became flesh and made His dwelling among us. We have seen His glory, the glory of the one and only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth.” John 8:31b-32 says, “If you continue in My word, you are truly My disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 1:17-18 says, “For the law was given through Moses; grace and truth came through Jesus Christ. No one has ever seen God, but the one and only Son, who is Himself God and is at the Father’s side, has made Him known.” Lord, thank you for exposing truth to us! If we know You, we know Truth. This world seeks relative truth or how we feel instead of learning and clinging to Your truths, the standard that gives us life. 3. Jesus is Life John 1:1-5 says, “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through Him all things were made, and without Him nothing was made that has been made. In Him was life, and that life was the light of men. The Light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that everyone who believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I have come that they may have life, and have it in all its fullness.” John 6:33 says, “For the bread of God is He who comes down from heaven and gives life to the world.” John 6:48 says, “I am the bread of life.” John 7:37-38 says, “On the last and greatest day of the feast, Jesus stood up and called out in a loud voice, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. Whoever believes in Me, as the Scripture has said: ‘Streams of living water will flow from within him.’” John 8:12 says, “Once again, Jesus spoke to the people and said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows Me will never walk in the darkness, but will have the light of life.” John 10:7 says, “So He said to them again, “Truly, truly, I tell you, I am the gate for the sheep.” John 10:11 says, “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down His life for the sheep.” John 11:25 says, “Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in Me will live, even though he dies.” John 14:6-7 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. If you had known Me, you would know My Father as well. From now on you do know Him and have seen Him.” Jesus, You are Life! Thank you for telling us so clearly that the way to live an abundant life is through You. Cause us to desire You and Your definition of abundance so deeply that we cannot stop learning more about You and allowing You to shine more clearly through us for others to grasp the life that exists in and with You. John 21:25 says, “There are many more things that Jesus did. If all of them were written down, I suppose that not even the world itself would have space for the books that would be written.” This podcast has barely touched on what scripture teaches about Jesus. Beyond what our mind can grasp, Jesus speaks to our heart and whispers for us to recognize and accept Him into our life. It is my prayer that you continue deep study of His word on your own and cling to the Way, the Truth, and the Life with passionate love that grows as you draw nearer to Him. Jesus causes us to look beyond our selfish desires and forces us to ponder the meaning of life and an everlasting existence through eternal perspective. Jesus allows us to see God in flesh at work in our personal life and in all of humanity. How will you respond to Jesus? Once we know and submit to Christ, we are never the same. Dear Heavenly Father, Thank You that through Christ we have been crucified. We have assurance that we no longer live, but Christ lives within us. We know there is no longer condemnation for those of us in Christ Jesus, for we have been set free from the law of sin and death. We praise You Father, for Your goodness and Your everlasting love for us. May we reflect You more and more each moment. May we live good and pleasing lives in Your sight, and by Your estimation, in all godliness and dignity. Thank you that You make Yourself known and that You give us assurance of one way to You, through Jesus Christ, who gave Himself as a ransom for all and is our perfect Mediator. May we reflect Your beauty, love, and honor You with our thoughts and ways. In the precious name of Jesus, our Way, truth, and Life we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this episode. I’m humbled to share that my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” has released! I hope you will look for it, follow it, and share both podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. If you find value in what you hear, would you please also place a rating and review at Apple Podcasts or Spotify to enable others to find each podcast? Now that I am writing and hosting two podcasts, I will release episodes of each show every other week instead of in a weekly format. For example, since the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast released this week, the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast will release next week. Some weeks, I may release bonus episodes, making weekly releases, so be sure to watch for those extra episodes when they occur. Please remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that the podcasts draw you nearer to God and help you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 111 - The Way the Truth and the Life Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #111 – The Way, the Truth, and the Life Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together and live with purposed eternal perspective. My children ask a lot of questions. I’ve always encouraged curiosity and learning. We believe there are no dumb or silly questions. In fact, I teach that the smarter a person is, the more questions they will ask. There is one specific question each person should ask during their lifetime. The question, “Who is Jesus?” will cause them to seek the most important answer each person will need to discover. When most people are asked this question, they answer in simple terms. Perhaps they say Jesus is God’s Son. Maybe they answer that He is their Savior. While both are true, Jesus Christ is so much more. Even the truths I present in this podcast will not come close to everything that Jesus is and will be. When we think of the characteristics of Jesus, the first qualities that may spring to mind are words such as: God, Teacher, Judge, Sinless, Obedient, Mediator, Savior, Eternal, Heir, Healer, Servant, King, Son, Anointed, and Resurrected. All of these are true and accurate, but still don’t grasp the beauty and majesty of Jesus. Words are easy to use without pondering the rich meaning of the description. Without the blessed resource of scripture to back truths about Jesus, I think it is impossible for our human mind and heart to grasp all that Jesus really is. Even when we read the bible and learn all we can about Jesus, He is so far above and beyond us that we struggle to fathom His glory. As was written in the gospel of John, Jesus is the divine Son of God who came to this world in human flesh to save all who believe in Him. Jesus changes lives. Our pursuit of Jesus invites Him to renew our soul and spirit. Studying Jesus arouses new belief or affirms existing belief in Him. In fact, whether you believe in Who He proclaims to be or not, most people at least believe Jesus lived. Those who hold a special relationship with Jesus because we have read the scriptures and believed the testimonies, know that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God, and receive new life in His name. Scripture clearly proves that Jesus is the only way for us to receive life on earth and for eternity in heaven. Let’s examine 8 basic bible verses that reveal some of what Jesus came to earth to complete for the Father and for us. This is where we view and absorb the truth that Jesus is more than God in flesh on earth, and regard His Divine character and Supreme nature. 1. Jesus is our example of obedience. John 6:38 says, “For I have come down from heaven, not to do My own will, but to do the will of Him who sent Me.” Jesus’ focus remained on His Father and what God called Him to do. 2. Jesus warns us of the thief. John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I have come that they may have life, and have it in all its fullness.” Jesus steadfastly warned of the devil and his wickedness, as well as the promise and security through steadfastly remaining with the Father and finding new life through Jesus. 3. Jesus is our light. John 12:46 says, “I have come into the world as a light, so that no one who believes in Me should remain in darkness.” Jesus came to give new, eternal life and conquered the darkness of evil and death through His light. 4. Jesus is our Conquering King. John 18:37 says, “Then You are a king!” Pilate said. “You say that I am a king,” Jesus answered. “For this reason I was born and have come into the world, to testify to the truth. Everyone who belongs to the truth listens to My voice.” Jesus is the King of Kings calling for all who will accept His truth and follow. 5. Jesus is truth. Mark 1:38 says, “But Jesus answered, “Let us go on to the neighboring towns so I can preach there as well, for that is why I have come.” Jesus made time to minister and live His life in this world as He walked among us in earthly flesh, but He never forgot His purpose or that He was the Truth He was to make known. 6. Jesus is our healer. Mark 2:17 says, “On hearing this, Jesus told them, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” Jesus saw and loved each person. Although He didn’t bow to their sin or join in it, he associated with sinners because they needed to hear to find healing. 7. Jesus is our judge. John 9:39 says, “Then Jesus declared, “For judgment I have come into this world, so that the blind may see and those who see may become blind.” After we turn to Christ, we begin to see Him differently. Walking with Jesus alters us, opens our eyes and heart to His truth. Once we have heard the truth of Jesus and experienced Him, we receive spiritual understanding and insight. Those who reject Him, ignoring Truth through self-righteousness or pride, will remain in earthly blindness. 8. Jesus is eternal life. John 14:6 says, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through Me.” Jesus is the only way to God. Not a limited path, but clear and exact, Jesus extends the Way, a path to God. As Truth, He defines clarity of God. As Life, Jesus came in the flesh of man, joining creator to created, heaven to earth, divine to earthly. Deserving of all the glory and honor we can give Him, Jesus clearly models life on earth and in heaven in many other ways, as well. Instead of making my main focus what Jesus gives me, I want my life focus to be on knowing Who Jesus is. Is this the cry of your heart? As we come to realize more about the deity of Jesus, we realize how far we are from Him and how much we need Him to sustain and rescue us. After being justified through faith in Jesus Christ, sanctification follows as we allow Him to erase our sinful nature and we are fashioned into a new creation as the Holy Spirit works within us. Praise God that I am not the same person I was when I first began my life as a follower of Jesus! A life submitted cannot remain unaltered. Do you see His work within you, too? Scripture presents an in-depth look at Who Jesus is and how He is able to make such a profound change in the world and within us. Of course, I can never list all that Jesus is, has done, or will be, but God’s holy word makes Him known. Just as Ecclesiastes 3:11 says, “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men, yet they cannot fathom the work that God has done from beginning to end.” Jesus gives us life, fills every void in our life, and is the way to everlasting life. Three major points will be our focus as we search scripture to learn more about Jesus. As I read, rest in the truths, comforts, promises, and power of His holy word. As Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” The first set of bible verses I share will prove Jesus’ obedience. Through them we see that He is the perfect example for us to follow. 1. Jesus is The Way John 4:34 says, “Jesus explained, “My food is to do the will of Him who sent Me and to finish His work.” John 5:19 says, “So Jesus replied, “Truly, truly, I tell you, the Son can do nothing by Himself, unless He sees the Father doing it. For whatever the Father does, the Son also does.” John 5:30 says, “I can do nothing by Myself; I judge only as I hear. And My judgment is just, because I do not seek My own will, but the will of Him who sent Me.” John 6:38 says, “For I have come down from heaven, not to do My own will, but to do the will of Him who sent Me.” John 8:28 says, “So Jesus said, “When you have lifted up the Son of Man, then you will know that I am He, and that I do nothing on My own, but speak exactly what the Father has taught Me.” John 8:42 says, “Jesus said to them, “If God were your Father, you would love Me, for I have come here from God. I have not come on My own, but He sent Me.” John 10:37-38 says, “If I am not doing the works of My Father, then do not believe Me. But if I am doing them, even though you do not believe Me, believe the works themselves, so that you may know and understand that the Father is in Me, and I am in the Father.” John 12:49-50 says, “I have not spoken on My own, but the Father who sent Me has commanded Me what to say and how to say it. And I know that His command leads to eternal life. So I speak exactly what the Father has told Me to say.” John 14:10 says, “Do you not believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in Me? The words I say to you, I do not speak on My own. Instead, it is the Father dwelling in Me, performing His works.” John 14:31 says, “But I do exactly what the Father has commanded Me, so that the world may know that I love the Father.” John 15:9-11 says, “As the Father has loved Me, so have I loved you. Remain in My love. If you keep My commandments, you will remain in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and remain in His love. I have told you these things so that My joy may be in you and your joy may be complete.” John 17:4-5 says, “I have glorified You on earth by accomplishing the work You gave Me to do. And now, Father, glorify Me in Your presence with the glory I had with You before the world existed.” How much we learn from studying and following the life of Jesus! Perfect in every way, He obediently follows where God has called. Lord, our heart cries for you to make us more like You! 2. Jesus is Truth John 7:37 says, “On the last and greatest day of the feast, Jesus stood up and called out in a loud voice, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink.” John 16:13 says, “When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth, for he will not speak on his own authority, but whatever he hears he will speak, and he will declare to you the things that are to come.” Ecclesiastes 3:11 says, “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men, yet they cannot fathom the work that God has done from beginning to end.” John 1:14 says, “The Word became flesh and made His dwelling among us. We have seen His glory, the glory of the one and only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth.” John 8:31b-32 says, “If you continue in My word, you are truly My disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 1:17-18 says, “For the law was given through Moses; grace and truth came through Jesus Christ. No one has ever seen God, but the one and only Son, who is Himself God and is at the Father’s side, has made Him known.” Lord, thank you for exposing truth to us! If we know You, we know Truth. This world seeks relative truth or how we feel instead of learning and clinging to Your truths, the standard that gives us life. 3. Jesus is Life John 1:1-5 says, “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through Him all things were made, and without Him nothing was made that has been made. In Him was life, and that life was the light of men. The Light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that everyone who believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I have come that they may have life, and have it in all its fullness.” John 6:33 says, “For the bread of God is He who comes down from heaven and gives life to the world.” John 6:48 says, “I am the bread of life.” John 7:37-38 says, “On the last and greatest day of the feast, Jesus stood up and called out in a loud voice, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. Whoever believes in Me, as the Scripture has said: ‘Streams of living water will flow from within him.’” John 8:12 says, “Once again, Jesus spoke to the people and said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows Me will never walk in the darkness, but will have the light of life.” John 10:7 says, “So He said to them again, “Truly, truly, I tell you, I am the gate for the sheep.” John 10:11 says, “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down His life for the sheep.” John 11:25 says, “Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in Me will live, even though he dies.” John 14:6-7 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. If you had known Me, you would know My Father as well. From now on you do know Him and have seen Him.” Jesus, You are Life! Thank you for telling us so clearly that the way to live an abundant life is through You. Cause us to desire You and Your definition of abundance so deeply that we cannot stop learning more about You and allowing You to shine more clearly through us for others to grasp the life that exists in and with You. John 21:25 says, “There are many more things that Jesus did. If all of them were written down, I suppose that not even the world itself would have space for the books that would be written.” This podcast has barely touched on what scripture teaches about Jesus. Beyond what our mind can grasp, Jesus speaks to our heart and whispers for us to recognize and accept Him into our life. It is my prayer that you continue deep study of His word on your own and cling to the Way, the Truth, and the Life with passionate love that grows as you draw nearer to Him. Jesus causes us to look beyond our selfish desires and forces us to ponder the meaning of life and an everlasting existence through eternal perspective. Jesus allows us to see God in flesh at work in our personal life and in all of humanity. How will you respond to Jesus? Once we know and submit to Christ, we are never the same. Dear Heavenly Father, Thank You that through Christ we have been crucified. We have assurance that we no longer live, but Christ lives within us. We know there is no longer condemnation for those of us in Christ Jesus, for we have been set free from the law of sin and death. We praise You Father, for Your goodness and Your everlasting love for us. May we reflect You more and more each moment. May we live good and pleasing lives in Your sight, and by Your estimation, in all godliness and dignity. Thank you that You make Yourself known and that You give us assurance of one way to You, through Jesus Christ, who gave Himself as a ransom for all and is our perfect Mediator. May we reflect Your beauty, love, and honor You with our thoughts and ways. In the precious name of Jesus, our Way, truth, and Life we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this episode. I’m humbled to share that my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” has released! I hope you will look for it, follow it, and share both podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. If you find value in what you hear, would you please also place a rating and review at Apple Podcasts or Spotify to enable others to find each podcast? Now that I am writing and hosting two podcasts, I will release episodes of each show every other week instead of in a weekly format. For example, since the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast released this week, the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast will release next week. Some weeks, I may release bonus episodes, making weekly releases, so be sure to watch for those extra episodes when they occur. Please remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that the podcasts draw you nearer to God and help you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #102 – Resolution or Reflection Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Let’s talk about anticipation. I consider it one of the gifts we have in this life. Have you ever experienced the joy of planning a vacation or special event, awaited a holiday or birthday, perhaps a visit from or a surprise for a loved one? Each event carries the anticipation of what we hope for. Half of the fun is in the planning and anticipation. What if we carry that expectation into the new year in regards to our walk with Jesus? Each year people make New Year Resolutions. Sometimes they stick. Most of the time they’ve disappeared within days or weeks. What would you like your walk with Jesus to look like in the new year? What would you like it to be like at the end of your life? What do you want others to see in you? Do you desire a reflection of the Lord to shine for all to see and be drawn to Him? Over the last two years, through this podcast, I have shared interviews with many people who have spoken of their God stories about how the Lord has, or is, working in their life. I’ve shared practical tips and advice on deepening your walk with God through a personal relationship with Jesus, and how to continue growing the depth and width of your walk. Nothing gives me as much joy as finding ways to experience the fullness of joy that Christ has for each one of us Right now we are each sandwiched between Christmas and New Year’s. For some, it is business as usual as they continue their schedule without change or much thought. For others, they are in that glorious time of year in which they are off work and able to stay home before heading back off to work next week. For others, like me, it is a special time of year in which we are out of school until after the beginning of January and we are each busy getting things we normally don’t have time to do accomplished. I also use this time to think of the upcoming year. Each morning we awaken is a gift. Gratefulness abounds for me the moment I open my eyes. Proverbs 27:1 says, “Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring.” I don’t want to journey into the new year without pondering with great anticipation what the Lord has for me. What work does God request that I allow Him to accomplish through me? I challenge each of us to look not for resolutions for the new year, but to sit with our Bible and in prayer as we seek the Lord and reflect on what He speaks in the silence. Which will deepen and mature your walk with Jesus? Resolution or Reflection? What will draw you nearer to God so that He will draw nearer to you? Resolution or Reflection? Think of what areas you need change or results in life. Will making a resolution help? Maybe. But with certainty, I promise that if you hand it to God and seek Him for guidance and reflection, He will show you the way to a true and lasting resolution. Not just a New Year’s resolution. How should you reflect with the Lord? Simply. 1. Find a quiet space 2. Sit alone with God 3. Seek Him 4. Converse in prayer 5. Listen 6. Respond When we ask for God to intervene and take control, to guide us in His will and ways, He does. Psalm 27:14 says, “Wait patiently for the Lord; be strong and courageous. Wait patiently for the Lord!” Romans 12:12 says, “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, persistent in prayer.” No matter what you are facing in this moment or hour, God is present. He knows your situation and is waiting on you to turn to Him and continue to rely on His strength and wisdom. Heavenly Father, thank you for this moment in time. You are our lighthouse, our strong and mighty fortress. Thank you for allowing us to turn to You, dear Father, our Jehovah-Jireh. There is none like You. Our Great Provider. May we not focus on our trials, but accept Your provision, even when it is not what we expect. Help us to trust You more and more each moment. May we focus on a life with You that extends beyond the world that we can see and taste. Help us to crave eternity with You and our eternal home each day, as we continue to widen our hope and trust in You. We pray that You come quickly, dear Lord. Rescue us from this world that is farther from You than we even understand. We need You so much. May the new year bring us to our knees in search of greater relationship with You. May we experience Your mighty grace and compassion, may Your hand move in this land and in our hearts and homes as we resolve to reflect You in solitude and through our thoughts, attitude, words, and actions. Shine from us, Father because we seek and desire You above all else. Let us reflect on You, reflect Your nature, and resolve to mentor the way to You for others. May we live with anticipation of the glorious ways we will see you at work within and around us daily. In the precious and holy name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, I invite you to help others find the podcast. Please share Live With Eternal Perspective episodes with friends and family so that they can begin to listen each week. You can share my website, terrihitt.com and let others know that on it they will be able to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature their walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage them to raise or influence children and grandchildren to choose Christ over culture. I also invite you to listen to the top ten downloaded episodes of 2021. Is your favorite among them? Simply go to the link in the transcript of this episode (on my website and in the podcast notes) to see who made the list. I’d appreciate it if you would share the link with friends who may like to discover the podcast, too. Thank you for making God known in new and eternal ways. https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2KsuvrYwl4uP34lJmU5b0g I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 102 Resolution or Reflection Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #102 – Resolution or Reflection Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Let’s talk about anticipation. I consider it one of the gifts we have in this life. Have you ever experienced the joy of planning a vacation or special event, awaited a holiday or birthday, perhaps a visit from or a surprise for a loved one? Each event carries the anticipation of what we hope for. Half of the fun is in the planning and anticipation. What if we carry that expectation into the new year in regards to our walk with Jesus? Each year people make New Year Resolutions. Sometimes they stick. Most of the time they’ve disappeared within days or weeks. What would you like your walk with Jesus to look like in the new year? What would you like it to be like at the end of your life? What do you want others to see in you? Do you desire a reflection of the Lord to shine for all to see and be drawn to Him? Over the last two years, through this podcast, I have shared interviews with many people who have spoken of their God stories about how the Lord has, or is, working in their life. I’ve shared practical tips and advice on deepening your walk with God through a personal relationship with Jesus, and how to continue growing the depth and width of your walk. Nothing gives me as much joy as finding ways to experience the fullness of joy that Christ has for each one of us Right now we are each sandwiched between Christmas and New Year’s. For some, it is business as usual as they continue their schedule without change or much thought. For others, they are in that glorious time of year in which they are off work and able to stay home before heading back off to work next week. For others, like me, it is a special time of year in which we are out of school until after the beginning of January and we are each busy getting things we normally don’t have time to do accomplished. I also use this time to think of the upcoming year. Each morning we awaken is a gift. Gratefulness abounds for me the moment I open my eyes. Proverbs 27:1 says, “Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring.” I don’t want to journey into the new year without pondering with great anticipation what the Lord has for me. What work does God request that I allow Him to accomplish through me? I challenge each of us to look not for resolutions for the new year, but to sit with our Bible and in prayer as we seek the Lord and reflect on what He speaks in the silence. Which will deepen and mature your walk with Jesus? Resolution or Reflection? What will draw you nearer to God so that He will draw nearer to you? Resolution or Reflection? Think of what areas you need change or results in life. Will making a resolution help? Maybe. But with certainty, I promise that if you hand it to God and seek Him for guidance and reflection, He will show you the way to a true and lasting resolution. Not just a New Year’s resolution. How should you reflect with the Lord? Simply. 1. Find a quiet space 2. Sit alone with God 3. Seek Him 4. Converse in prayer 5. Listen 6. Respond When we ask for God to intervene and take control, to guide us in His will and ways, He does. Psalm 27:14 says, “Wait patiently for the Lord; be strong and courageous. Wait patiently for the Lord!” Romans 12:12 says, “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, persistent in prayer.” No matter what you are facing in this moment or hour, God is present. He knows your situation and is waiting on you to turn to Him and continue to rely on His strength and wisdom. Heavenly Father, thank you for this moment in time. You are our lighthouse, our strong and mighty fortress. Thank you for allowing us to turn to You, dear Father, our Jehovah-Jireh. There is none like You. Our Great Provider. May we not focus on our trials, but accept Your provision, even when it is not what we expect. Help us to trust You more and more each moment. May we focus on a life with You that extends beyond the world that we can see and taste. Help us to crave eternity with You and our eternal home each day, as we continue to widen our hope and trust in You. We pray that You come quickly, dear Lord. Rescue us from this world that is farther from You than we even understand. We need You so much. May the new year bring us to our knees in search of greater relationship with You. May we experience Your mighty grace and compassion, may Your hand move in this land and in our hearts and homes as we resolve to reflect You in solitude and through our thoughts, attitude, words, and actions. Shine from us, Father because we seek and desire You above all else. Let us reflect on You, reflect Your nature, and resolve to mentor the way to You for others. May we live with anticipation of the glorious ways we will see you at work within and around us daily. In the precious and holy name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, I invite you to help others find the podcast. Please share Live With Eternal Perspective episodes with friends and family so that they can begin to listen each week. You can share my website, terrihitt.com and let others know that on it they will be able to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature their walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage them to raise or influence children and grandchildren to choose Christ over culture. I also invite you to listen to the top ten downloaded episodes of 2021. Is your favorite among them? 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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #139 – Are You Really a Christian? Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. After hearing the name of this episode, you may wonder if I am being judgmental. I promise I’m not. By choosing the title, “Are You a Christian,” I want you, (and myself), to consider what it takes to be a follower of Christ. If a stranger observed your life, actions, and reactions, would they be able to discern which you are? What about the words you speak? Or consider the activities you pursue? How do they reflect Jesus? When your children, whether grown or young watch you day to day, what do they see? What impressions are you making on them? Do you point the way to Christ? Today we’ll discuss ways life challenges us, allowing us opportunities to rely on self or Christ. Which do you usually choose? 1. Relationships - We all know how difficult relationships can be. Have you ever loved someone so much, but just couldn’t communicate clearly with them? Human nature is so complex. Sometimes we have wonderful relationships without issues, but then are those people that for some reason, we can only have a surface relationship with. It’s difficult when one is a believer and one is not, but so much more frustrating when both are believers. Because humans, even believers have different backgrounds, communication methods, interests, and emotional triggers, and we are at different maturity points in our walk with Christ, coupled with the truth that we live in a fallen world, communication and relationships can be extremely difficult. It’s a wonder we can communicate at all sometimes. Not only are relationships challenging, but have you ever finished a conversation with someone with the frustrated feeling that they did not clearly hear what you said? Have you had to pray, knowing that God is using this person to refine you? As much as you may love the person, it’s hard to be sure that you will ever have the deeper relationship you desire. What about when you know someone speaks untruths behind your back? You know it to be true, because trusted loved ones have defended and informed you of it. Now, you’ve become hesitant to share much with the person. Maybe each time you try to deepen your relationship, it just gets harder. You might feel like the more you try to form deeper conversations and move closer to them, it just makes everything worse. You might even feel like you can’t share anything other than a superficial relationship. Or have you ever thought a person was one way, then as you entered into a closer relationship with them you saw the truth? They were not who they pretended or tried to make you think they were. Or have you prayed for someone in your family, at work, or a stranger you met, knowing that God is using you to send mighty prayers up to Him for their sake? You may have had a disagreement, He may have laid them on your heart, burdening you to cry out for them. I’ve learned that no one in this life will ever fully satisfy us. Not even those we are very close to. Why? Because we were not meant for this world and there is no substitution for Christ. The lives we have were meant for much more than we experience here. Without each person submitting to Christ and praying and working to establish relationships under His guidance, the world, and people, will never offer us what He can. We must look for ways to offer Jesus what we can while we journey in this life. 2. Politics - In the last few years, people, even believers have been divided over political opinions. Politics seem to be the tipping point that can extinguish friendships. Have you been unfollowed by someone you thought would be a lifelong friend? Maybe a family member can’t see past the fact that you can simply agree to disagree over life issues, but still carry love and respect for each other through the grace of Christ. How we view disagreements, disappointments, and disasters say a lot about the mind and heartset we carry. We can only look to God and humbly ask Him to heal relationships by working through all parties involved, and we must work to be sure our actions and reactions, even when we are hurt, do not sin against God. There is only one way to work toward that goal: ensure that we are intentionally working to follow and honor the Lord each day. Even if you never reconnect with the person you believe wronged you, continue to pray for them. Don’t let bitterness invade your heart. Relying on Christ to ease and heal the pain of broken relationships is the only way to find healing. 3. Religion – Nowadays, if politics haven’t driven your friends away, religion might. In some ways, it seems like we have more Christians in the world than we really do. What do I mean? Many people profess to be a Christian, yet when you delve below surface talk, you learn that your views are vastly different. Many religions identify as “Christian,” yet unless they follow Jesus Christ as personal Savior and Lord, they are not Christian. Jesus warned us that He would cause division. Luke 12:51-53 says, “Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division. From now on there will be five in one family divided against each other, three against two and two against three. They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.” Of course, life is filled with many more situations that define whether a person is truly living (or attempting to live) a lifestyle that honors Christ. What I mentioned are just a few of the most noticeable, and what so many struggle with. How much joy would we receive if each of us strived to follow Christ in each of these situations? How much would we please our Heavenly Father as we choose to live in His power, then act and react with His grace and priorities leading us? Romans 6:6 says, “We know that our old self was crucified with Him in order that the body of sin might be brought to nothing, so that we would no longer be enslaved to sin.” Our “old self” is defined as what we were before the Holy Spirit abided within us through new life in Christ. Our former existence is no more. When we believe in Jesus as our Lord and Savior, the “old self” dies; the new life we receive now divinely appointed through grace. The control our former self held over us is released; the curse of death replaced by eternal life through Jesus. Believers are no longer subject to live under the influence of evil that the old self carried. Yet, knowing the influence and capacity to sin still flows within our human flesh, we must remember and rely on the power of Christ within us. We cannot trust fleshly responses that guide from hurt, fears, jealousy, and so many more emotions that clash with the Father’s truths. Romans 6:11 says, “So you also must consider yourselves dead to sin and alive to God in Christ Jesus.” In this verse, Paul urges believers to grasp by faith what God says and has revealed to be true. We must strive to remember and live the truth that through Christ, and the Holy Spirit alive within us, we have power over the sin that threatens to rule our nature. We carry power to deny sin abiding within us, enabling us to live with fullness of Christ directing us. Romans 6:17-18 says, “But thanks be to God, that you who were once slaves of sin have become obedient from the heart to the standard of teaching to which you were committed, and, having been set free from sin, have become slaves of righteousness.” True believers following Christ have an instinctive and evident desire to study and obey God’s Word. Having been set free from the death and burden of sin, the Holy Spirit enables believers to escape the binds of unrighteousness and become captive to righteousness. How does a believer remain true to follow the Holy Spirit within and keep the desire for righteousness? Only through the strength of Christ. Believers must fix our eyes, heart, and mind above and allow the work of Christ to grow and flow within us. A life eternally changed by Christ behaves differently because we believe differently. The more a believer seeks Jesus, the more a believer craves Him. The Holy Spirit living within believers fuels us with Christ’s hunger for righteousness and holiness. Living as a Christian is not defined by: 1. Joining a church 2. Reciting prayers 3. Being baptized 4. Serving others 5. Eating certain foods and abstaining from others Christians craving Christ: 1. Humbly accept Christ as Lord and Savior and submit to Him 2. Rely on the Holy Spirit within us to eradicate our sinful nature 3. Admit our need for the strength of Jesus and His grace and mercy as we seek Christ moment by moment 4. Shift our mindset and desires to match His 5. Allow His actions to change our reactions 6. Allow the Holy Spirit to continue to guard and cleanse us of sin 7. Carry joy by the power of Christ in us 8. Live with gratitude for the change Christ has made in us 9. Allow Christ to infuse His love for others inside us 10. Carry a biblical worldview that affects our choices and opinions 11. Intentionally become more Christlike daily John 2:23-25 says, “Now while He was in Jerusalem at the Passover Festival, many people saw the signs He was performing and believed in His name. But Jesus would not entrust Himself to them, for He knew all people. He did not need any testimony about mankind, for He knew what was in each person.” When we believe in His name because we have seen the signs Jesus displayed versus simply trusting that Jesus is who He says He is, we follow Him with an intellectual commitment versus living with a whole-hearted assurance led by faith. Jesus calls for believers to trust, follow, honor, love, and obey because we cannot comprehend living without Him. The Lord sees our whole heart. Jesus is a discerner of genuine conversion for Him versus excitement and intrigue for what could be called “magnificent events” that prompt our belief. Matthew 7:21 says, “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of Heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in Heaven.” I’d like to pose a few questions for each of us to consider: Are you sure you are a Christian? If God is a discerner of hearts, what does He see in yours? What should you change about your beliefs, actions, or reactions that will make your life more pleasing to God? What are ways to ensure you are living the full life God intends His believers to enjoy? What can you do to ensure that Christ is clearly shown to those viewing your life? John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that he gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” 2 Corinthians 5:17 says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” Dear Heavenly Father, You are the God of all creation. The heavens and the earth applaud Your name. Great are Your mysteries and the things You reveal to us. Thank you for loving us enough to make a way for us to find eternal life with You. Thank you for Your painful sacrifices so that mankind could be restored to You. Father, we pray that our hearts will be found clean before You. May we live with pureness of heart that seeks to know You more intimately and show You more clearly. May our mind, heart, and mouth exemplify You more and more each day because we choose You over self and world. Help us to desire You more than what this world offers and pledge to make shifts in our lives that bring us nearer to You. Enable us to humbly seek Your worldviews and live in ways that honor what You desire. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast. You can find this and other transcripts online at terrihitt.com. Remember that both of my podcasts are available on the website. You can also find them on Apple Podcast, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts are also found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. Will you take a moment to follow the shows and think of someone you can share the podcasts with and encourage them to follow and share, as well? Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast - Episode 139 - Are You Really a Christian? Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #139 – Are You Really a Christian? Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. After hearing the name of this episode, you may wonder if I am being judgmental. I promise I’m not. By choosing the title, “Are You a Christian,” I want you, (and myself), to consider what it takes to be a follower of Christ. If a stranger observed your life, actions, and reactions, would they be able to discern which you are? What about the words you speak? Or consider the activities you pursue? How do they reflect Jesus? When your children, whether grown or young watch you day to day, what do they see? What impressions are you making on them? Do you point the way to Christ? Today we’ll discuss ways life challenges us, allowing us opportunities to rely on self or Christ. Which do you usually choose? 1. Relationships - We all know how difficult relationships can be. Have you ever loved someone so much, but just couldn’t communicate clearly with them? Human nature is so complex. Sometimes we have wonderful relationships without issues, but then are those people that for some reason, we can only have a surface relationship with. It’s difficult when one is a believer and one is not, but so much more frustrating when both are believers. Because humans, even believers have different backgrounds, communication methods, interests, and emotional triggers, and we are at different maturity points in our walk with Christ, coupled with the truth that we live in a fallen world, communication and relationships can be extremely difficult. It’s a wonder we can communicate at all sometimes. Not only are relationships challenging, but have you ever finished a conversation with someone with the frustrated feeling that they did not clearly hear what you said? Have you had to pray, knowing that God is using this person to refine you? As much as you may love the person, it’s hard to be sure that you will ever have the deeper relationship you desire. What about when you know someone speaks untruths behind your back? You know it to be true, because trusted loved ones have defended and informed you of it. Now, you’ve become hesitant to share much with the person. Maybe each time you try to deepen your relationship, it just gets harder. You might feel like the more you try to form deeper conversations and move closer to them, it just makes everything worse. You might even feel like you can’t share anything other than a superficial relationship. Or have you ever thought a person was one way, then as you entered into a closer relationship with them you saw the truth? They were not who they pretended or tried to make you think they were. Or have you prayed for someone in your family, at work, or a stranger you met, knowing that God is using you to send mighty prayers up to Him for their sake? You may have had a disagreement, He may have laid them on your heart, burdening you to cry out for them. I’ve learned that no one in this life will ever fully satisfy us. Not even those we are very close to. Why? Because we were not meant for this world and there is no substitution for Christ. The lives we have were meant for much more than we experience here. Without each person submitting to Christ and praying and working to establish relationships under His guidance, the world, and people, will never offer us what He can. We must look for ways to offer Jesus what we can while we journey in this life. 2. Politics - In the last few years, people, even believers have been divided over political opinions. Politics seem to be the tipping point that can extinguish friendships. Have you been unfollowed by someone you thought would be a lifelong friend? Maybe a family member can’t see past the fact that you can simply agree to disagree over life issues, but still carry love and respect for each other through the grace of Christ. How we view disagreements, disappointments, and disasters say a lot about the mind and heartset we carry. We can only look to God and humbly ask Him to heal relationships by working through all parties involved, and we must work to be sure our actions and reactions, even when we are hurt, do not sin against God. There is only one way to work toward that goal: ensure that we are intentionally working to follow and honor the Lord each day. Even if you never reconnect with the person you believe wronged you, continue to pray for them. Don’t let bitterness invade your heart. Relying on Christ to ease and heal the pain of broken relationships is the only way to find healing. 3. Religion – Nowadays, if politics haven’t driven your friends away, religion might. In some ways, it seems like we have more Christians in the world than we really do. What do I mean? Many people profess to be a Christian, yet when you delve below surface talk, you learn that your views are vastly different. Many religions identify as “Christian,” yet unless they follow Jesus Christ as personal Savior and Lord, they are not Christian. Jesus warned us that He would cause division. Luke 12:51-53 says, “Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division. From now on there will be five in one family divided against each other, three against two and two against three. They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.” Of course, life is filled with many more situations that define whether a person is truly living (or attempting to live) a lifestyle that honors Christ. What I mentioned are just a few of the most noticeable, and what so many struggle with. How much joy would we receive if each of us strived to follow Christ in each of these situations? How much would we please our Heavenly Father as we choose to live in His power, then act and react with His grace and priorities leading us? Romans 6:6 says, “We know that our old self was crucified with Him in order that the body of sin might be brought to nothing, so that we would no longer be enslaved to sin.” Our “old self” is defined as what we were before the Holy Spirit abided within us through new life in Christ. Our former existence is no more. When we believe in Jesus as our Lord and Savior, the “old self” dies; the new life we receive now divinely appointed through grace. The control our former self held over us is released; the curse of death replaced by eternal life through Jesus. Believers are no longer subject to live under the influence of evil that the old self carried. Yet, knowing the influence and capacity to sin still flows within our human flesh, we must remember and rely on the power of Christ within us. We cannot trust fleshly responses that guide from hurt, fears, jealousy, and so many more emotions that clash with the Father’s truths. Romans 6:11 says, “So you also must consider yourselves dead to sin and alive to God in Christ Jesus.” In this verse, Paul urges believers to grasp by faith what God says and has revealed to be true. We must strive to remember and live the truth that through Christ, and the Holy Spirit alive within us, we have power over the sin that threatens to rule our nature. We carry power to deny sin abiding within us, enabling us to live with fullness of Christ directing us. Romans 6:17-18 says, “But thanks be to God, that you who were once slaves of sin have become obedient from the heart to the standard of teaching to which you were committed, and, having been set free from sin, have become slaves of righteousness.” True believers following Christ have an instinctive and evident desire to study and obey God’s Word. Having been set free from the death and burden of sin, the Holy Spirit enables believers to escape the binds of unrighteousness and become captive to righteousness. How does a believer remain true to follow the Holy Spirit within and keep the desire for righteousness? Only through the strength of Christ. Believers must fix our eyes, heart, and mind above and allow the work of Christ to grow and flow within us. A life eternally changed by Christ behaves differently because we believe differently. The more a believer seeks Jesus, the more a believer craves Him. The Holy Spirit living within believers fuels us with Christ’s hunger for righteousness and holiness. Living as a Christian is not defined by: 1. Joining a church 2. Reciting prayers 3. Being baptized 4. Serving others 5. Eating certain foods and abstaining from others Christians craving Christ: 1. Humbly accept Christ as Lord and Savior and submit to Him 2. Rely on the Holy Spirit within us to eradicate our sinful nature 3. Admit our need for the strength of Jesus and His grace and mercy as we seek Christ moment by moment 4. Shift our mindset and desires to match His 5. Allow His actions to change our reactions 6. Allow the Holy Spirit to continue to guard and cleanse us of sin 7. Carry joy by the power of Christ in us 8. Live with gratitude for the change Christ has made in us 9. Allow Christ to infuse His love for others inside us 10. Carry a biblical worldview that affects our choices and opinions 11. Intentionally become more Christlike daily John 2:23-25 says, “Now while He was in Jerusalem at the Passover Festival, many people saw the signs He was performing and believed in His name. But Jesus would not entrust Himself to them, for He knew all people. He did not need any testimony about mankind, for He knew what was in each person.” When we believe in His name because we have seen the signs Jesus displayed versus simply trusting that Jesus is who He says He is, we follow Him with an intellectual commitment versus living with a whole-hearted assurance led by faith. Jesus calls for believers to trust, follow, honor, love, and obey because we cannot comprehend living without Him. The Lord sees our whole heart. Jesus is a discerner of genuine conversion for Him versus excitement and intrigue for what could be called “magnificent events” that prompt our belief. Matthew 7:21 says, “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of Heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in Heaven.” I’d like to pose a few questions for each of us to consider: Are you sure you are a Christian? If God is a discerner of hearts, what does He see in yours? What should you change about your beliefs, actions, or reactions that will make your life more pleasing to God? What are ways to ensure you are living the full life God intends His believers to enjoy? What can you do to ensure that Christ is clearly shown to those viewing your life? John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that he gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” 2 Corinthians 5:17 says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” Dear Heavenly Father, You are the God of all creation. The heavens and the earth applaud Your name. Great are Your mysteries and the things You reveal to us. Thank you for loving us enough to make a way for us to find eternal life with You. Thank you for Your painful sacrifices so that mankind could be restored to You. Father, we pray that our hearts will be found clean before You. May we live with pureness of heart that seeks to know You more intimately and show You more clearly. May our mind, heart, and mouth exemplify You more and more each day because we choose You over self and world. Help us to desire You more than what this world offers and pledge to make shifts in our lives that bring us nearer to You. Enable us to humbly seek Your worldviews and live in ways that honor what You desire. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast. You can find this and other transcripts online at terrihitt.com. Remember that both of my podcasts are available on the website. You can also find them on Apple Podcast, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts are also found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. Will you take a moment to follow the shows and think of someone you can share the podcasts with and encourage them to follow and share, as well? Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #122 – Trials and Tragedies Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. On the last Live With Eternal Perspective episode we shared a beautiful reading from Hebrews 11. I thought we would be discussing the verses on this episode, but guess what? Life happened and interfered with the plans I had. Our Heavenly Father cautions us to hold plans loosely. Proverbs 16:9 says, “In their hearts humans plan their course, but the LORD establishes their steps.” And Proverbs 19:21 says, “Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails.” Because of an unexpected event last week, I’ve changed the plans I had, and honestly, it fits right in with what was read in Hebrews 11, and the faith that God desires we carry, yet also allows me to spotlight the goodness, protection, and provision of God right now. Please let me back up a bit with some explanation. One of the main driving factors behind beginning the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast was of course, the belief that God impressed a responsibility within me to create it. I knew nothing about getting a podcast started, but when we are obedient, God shows us the way to achieve His desires. Like you most likely do, I love and serve Him with a humble, grateful heart that recognizes the need for each one of us to view life through an eternal lens. In the back of my mind, I always knew that as a believer I was supposed to live in that way, yet when my oldest daughter passed away in 2009, a responsibility to share that life perspective with others became so strong. Like a surprise that you just can’t hold in, I yearned with great urgency to alert others to focus on Jesus and to live with great expectation that we are here for a short time and with great and intentional purpose granted by God. It may come as no surprise that I love to talk about the Lord wherever I go. I will share Him with anyone I meet at any time. I adore hearing the stories other people, as well, whether they be friends or strangers. When someone mentioned to me last week that life can change so suddenly, and we need to live with that knowledge, I was able to honestly reply that I do. I truly, truly do. It is always in my mind that life can change in an instant. In my heart, I knew that before my daughter died, yet before she passed, I didn’t live with that knowledge impressed in my heart, actions, and responses like I do now. After your life has been affected by hardship, tragedy, or death, you are changed. Each event alters the person you were into the person you are meant to be if you use the occurrences to carry you closer to the Lord. We can only pray that the changes within us are a beautiful expression of love for Him, as well as gratitude despite circumstances. So when my husband was involved in a sudden accident on a recent Sunday afternoon, I wasn’t surprised. Although I don’t look for trouble or live with the expectation of difficulty lurking behind each corner, I do live with the joy of knowing that anything can happen at any time and I must be present, or involved in life fully now so that I don’t miss the blessings before me. All we have, all we cherish can disappear in an instant. How have we used it while it was here? What ways have we honored God with what He has gifted us? Once gone, those beautiful gifts may never arrive again. Especially when what you cherished was a human being. Those we love are here for but an instant of time and always gone before we are ready. I wish I could show you the photo of the accident my husband lived through. The pictures are as bad as any Hollywood film effect, except this was real. When I review them, it almost doesn’t feel like it really happened. By now you’re probably wondering what type of accident he was involved in, but before I get to that part of the story, let me share with you just how God was working in advance. I’m always in awe of the majesty and intimate goodness and faithfulness of our Heavenly Father. We have been waiting for years for the time we could finally get some much needed new siding installed on our home. This is the summer we are planning to move forward to do it! In preparation of this major home improvement, we had several trees and bushes pulled from our yard, both front and back. They were messy, not very attractive, and were ruining our siding! Even though our yard is still a disaster (we couldn’t grow grass with all the shade the trees supplied), I honestly cannot get enough of looking at the difference losing the trees and shrubs has made! I’m surprised at the freedom I feel not having to wonder when we will be able to get rid of them. This bit of change makes me think of how often people keep things in life that need to be extracted. How often do we wait to stop a habit or association with someone that needs to end? Our excuses, no matter how legitimate they may seem, are sometimes just weak justifications for putting off what we don’t want to handle. Those trees needed to be out years ago! By the way, the company that removed all of the trees and shrubs and did quite a bit of trimming for us make a simple mistake while they were at our home. Instead of facing the stump grinder away from our house when grinding down the stumps of trees removed in front, the person running the machine faced it toward our front door and completely shattered our storm door. There was simply no large piece of glass left. Everything was shattered into tiny bits and barely holding together. I didn’t know that the damage had occurred until the first time I opened my front door after the workers left; the suction of opening the front door caused the glass from the storm door to suck inwards towards me. The entire center of the glass panel broke out in the shape of what I saw as a heart. My sweet neighbor saw it as a pair of angel wings. Look for the blessings, right? Despite that bit of damage, we were still feeling great about getting the tree work completed. Next up was getting a window replaced. The company doing the siding won’t start until the window is finished. Did you know that windows are taking months to come in? You’re probably aware that many things are taking way too long to arrive right now. Well, our window finally came in and the manufacturer that received it broke it in the warehouse before our installer could pick it up, so now we are in the process of waiting for a new one. So the siding is postponed again. But the one job that could be completed deck removal from the back of the house. Since our deck needed to be rebuilt, and it is best to replace siding with the deck off the house, the siding company asked us to have it removed before they began their job. After working with several contractors who honestly must have a lot of work and not need another job because they would not follow up with quotes, and getting a high price from one who didn’t seem too excited about doing the job either, my husband and son decided to complete the project together. Although I agreed, and was ready to save the money we would have paid this person to tear down the deck so we could use it toward one of the other projects we were committed to completing this year, I kept having a nagging feeling that my husband was going to get hurt removing that deck. This feeling wasn’t an irrational fear, but a “knowing.” It was more of a feeling that was calm, yet always present, simply letting me know to pray in advance and remind everyone to be careful. For weeks in advance, I let my family know to pray, because I shared that I thought he would get hurt. You may be thinking I was worrying or that I would cause something to happen by getting them concerned, but I sincerely believe in my heart that God was going before us, reminding us that He is in control and that we needed to be praying and watching for Him. Which is exactly what we did. It has been so hot here! We really didn’t get a spring. May was cool and rainy, then June arrived with very hot temperatures early in the month. So, it took about three weeks of my husband and son working together for a couple hours each Sunday afternoon to get the deck off. On the third week my husband and son were working on the deck removal, they had only been outside together for about ten minutes when my son ran into the house yelling for a towel. He said my husband had gotten hurt and he needed something for the bleeding. I gave him a beach towel and went outside with him to check my husband. Since this is a story with many details, let me just say that at this point, I was unable to see the wound because my husband had the towel pressed against his forehead. I asked if I should be calling 911. My husband said he was okay, although he was sitting on the ground with a large puddle of blood in the rocks next to him, but my son disagreed. He told me it was bad. At this point, I believed my son, who had seen the wound, so I rushed back into the house to call an ambulance. After paramedics came and rushed my husband off to the nearest head trauma facility, I left to meet him and my son at the hospital. When I entered the ER and saw his wound, I felt like I was on a movie set. The film, “The Terminator” was all I could think of. Although my husband didn’t look robotic, of course, the gaping wound on his forehead exposed 4 ½” of his skull and the surrounding tissue didn’t look like it would be ever able to stretch back into place. By now, I’m sure you’re wondering what happened. In a nutshell, one of the large, heavy, main supporting beams fell on my husband. After attacking him on the head, the beam finished assaulting him with a blow to his right hand. During the almost 7 hours he was in the emergency room, my husband received a CT scan of his head, which thankfully did not show brain bleeding or skull damage. He also had hand x-rays that revealed the reason his hand felt uncomfortable. Just to speed the story details up a bit, four days later, my husband had to undergo hand surgery. The experienced surgeon said the damage was worse than he could see on the x-rays. In fact, he said it looked like someone took a sledgehammer to the base of my husband’s thumb and shattered it. Now, eight days after the accident, he is learning to live with using one hand, and not being able to use his dominant hand is challenging, yet he never complains. I don’t think I could say the same about myself. He’ll have the pins in his thumb base for a couple of months, then have to endure extensive physical therapy in order to have a usable hand. The surgeon said his thumb will probably always be stiff, and every doctor has said that my husband is lucky to be alive. Lucky? We don’t think so. We know he is blessed to be here. Instead of going to a doctor appointment or surgery every day last week, we could have been planning a funeral. By faith, I know God warned me that my husband was going to be hurt, so we could be praying for protection and provision in advance. God was so good to make sure we knew to pray and to remember that He is in control. Life events are going to happen, but no matter what, we must always keep our eyes fixed on Him. What is the biggest requirement for being able to live with our eyes, heart, and mind centered on Him? Faith. As I was preparing to leave the house to meet my husband at the hospital that day, I was trying to hurry. As I was taking care of last minute things before leaving, I noticed my hand shaking. I’m never the type to be nervous or shaky, so I immediately stopped to pray. Centering myself by speaking the name, “Jesus” aloud several times before I prayed, I then asked my Savior to give me His peace and calm. His perfect peace immediately flooded my spirit, and my hands never shook again. Since we know faith is a pre-requisite to a relationship with God through Christ, what type of faith do we need to carry? How does our faith change or help us? First, let’s examine what kind of faith the Bible tells us to have. 1. Faith in God through Christ – Matthew 9:22 says, “Jesus turned and saw her. “Take heart, daughter,” he said, “your faith has healed you.” And the woman was healed at that moment.” One of my favorite verses is Isaiah 26:3, which says, “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.” 2. Faith that is obedient – Hebrews 11:8 says, “By faith Abraham, when called to go to a place he would later receive as his inheritance, obeyed and went, even though he did not know where he was going.” John 15:14 says, “You are my friends if you do what I command.” James 2:17-18 says, “In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead. But someone will say, “You have faith; I have deeds. Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by my deeds.” 3. Faith that endures – Romans 5:3-4 says, “Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Romans 12:12 says, “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all this through Him who gives me strength.” Hebrews 12:1-3 says, “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before Him He endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider Him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.” As we follow the example set before us in God’s Holy Word, we see that faith in God through Jesus that is obedient and enduring will draw us nearer to Him, and also heal, affect, and perfect us through Christ. As we draw nearer to Him, we begin to resemble our Savior. Remember that in whatever situation or circumstance you may find yourself, any bitterness, fear, anxiety, loneliness, hatred, or anything emotion you can name should be used as a trigger. Let it be your reminder that although feelings are a normal part of being human, when what we feel is not a reflection of our Lord, we know our gaze has slipped. We are looking to self or others to manage our feelings and emotions, whether or not it is intentional. Let this warning direct you to raise your gaze to the Lord. Call out to Him! Say the name of Jesus aloud and ask for His peace and calm to flood you, call on Him to dictate your emotions and actions. We need Him so much! Remember to fix your mind and heart on Christ. He is everything He claims to be. If you need more help in strengthening your walk with God through Christ, the absolute best source you can have is God’s Word. Make it a point to read the Bible, study His Word, and know His Word. I guarantee it will change you, Scripture promises that fact. Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” Get to know Him better. Trust in Him. See and feel the changes only He will make. Dear Heavenly Father, we thank You for the hope You give us when we trust in You through Jesus as Savior. We praise You for the life changes we feel and see within us as we trust in You with obedient faith that endures. There is none like You. You are good and faithful toward us. May our hearts cry out for You and our steps run to You. Enable us to desire obedience and live with a faith that endures, drawing us nearer to You in all the ways You desire. You tell us to rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, and to be constant in prayer. Help us to do so, Lord. We also know from Your promises that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us. Help us to remember and to cast all trials, tribulations, and tragedies at Your feet and allow You to cradle us in Your arms. In the name of Your precious Son, Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. To hear episodes that deal with faith, I suggest listening to Episode 072, Faith that Perseveres. You may find this episode on the terrihitt.com website. Just click on “podcasts” and type in the topic or title you wish to hear about in the search bar at the top of the page. Again, thank you for listening to this episode of the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. As I mentioned, the podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, but is also a part of the Spark Media Network, and the podcast may also now be found on the Edifi app. Have you rated or reviewed this podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? For those who have, I thank you so very much! If you haven’t, would you please consider doing so? It is getting more difficult to keep from being shadow-banned on social media. Podcasts and social medias posts about Christian material simply do not get the same reach as secular topics. When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. If you believe the content you hear should be heard so that more people can begin to deepen their walk with Jesus and live with eyes set on eternity, would you please write a review and rate the podcast for me? I also want to ask if you have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen to this new podcast, especially if you are raising children or influencing grandchildren. Please follow and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 122 - Trials and Tragedies Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #122 – Trials and Tragedies Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. On the last Live With Eternal Perspective episode we shared a beautiful reading from Hebrews 11. I thought we would be discussing the verses on this episode, but guess what? Life happened and interfered with the plans I had. Our Heavenly Father cautions us to hold plans loosely. Proverbs 16:9 says, “In their hearts humans plan their course, but the LORD establishes their steps.” And Proverbs 19:21 says, “Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails.” Because of an unexpected event last week, I’ve changed the plans I had, and honestly, it fits right in with what was read in Hebrews 11, and the faith that God desires we carry, yet also allows me to spotlight the goodness, protection, and provision of God right now. Please let me back up a bit with some explanation. One of the main driving factors behind beginning the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast was of course, the belief that God impressed a responsibility within me to create it. I knew nothing about getting a podcast started, but when we are obedient, God shows us the way to achieve His desires. Like you most likely do, I love and serve Him with a humble, grateful heart that recognizes the need for each one of us to view life through an eternal lens. In the back of my mind, I always knew that as a believer I was supposed to live in that way, yet when my oldest daughter passed away in 2009, a responsibility to share that life perspective with others became so strong. Like a surprise that you just can’t hold in, I yearned with great urgency to alert others to focus on Jesus and to live with great expectation that we are here for a short time and with great and intentional purpose granted by God. It may come as no surprise that I love to talk about the Lord wherever I go. I will share Him with anyone I meet at any time. I adore hearing the stories other people, as well, whether they be friends or strangers. When someone mentioned to me last week that life can change so suddenly, and we need to live with that knowledge, I was able to honestly reply that I do. I truly, truly do. It is always in my mind that life can change in an instant. In my heart, I knew that before my daughter died, yet before she passed, I didn’t live with that knowledge impressed in my heart, actions, and responses like I do now. After your life has been affected by hardship, tragedy, or death, you are changed. Each event alters the person you were into the person you are meant to be if you use the occurrences to carry you closer to the Lord. We can only pray that the changes within us are a beautiful expression of love for Him, as well as gratitude despite circumstances. So when my husband was involved in a sudden accident on a recent Sunday afternoon, I wasn’t surprised. Although I don’t look for trouble or live with the expectation of difficulty lurking behind each corner, I do live with the joy of knowing that anything can happen at any time and I must be present, or involved in life fully now so that I don’t miss the blessings before me. All we have, all we cherish can disappear in an instant. How have we used it while it was here? What ways have we honored God with what He has gifted us? Once gone, those beautiful gifts may never arrive again. Especially when what you cherished was a human being. Those we love are here for but an instant of time and always gone before we are ready. I wish I could show you the photo of the accident my husband lived through. The pictures are as bad as any Hollywood film effect, except this was real. When I review them, it almost doesn’t feel like it really happened. By now you’re probably wondering what type of accident he was involved in, but before I get to that part of the story, let me share with you just how God was working in advance. I’m always in awe of the majesty and intimate goodness and faithfulness of our Heavenly Father. We have been waiting for years for the time we could finally get some much needed new siding installed on our home. This is the summer we are planning to move forward to do it! In preparation of this major home improvement, we had several trees and bushes pulled from our yard, both front and back. They were messy, not very attractive, and were ruining our siding! Even though our yard is still a disaster (we couldn’t grow grass with all the shade the trees supplied), I honestly cannot get enough of looking at the difference losing the trees and shrubs has made! I’m surprised at the freedom I feel not having to wonder when we will be able to get rid of them. This bit of change makes me think of how often people keep things in life that need to be extracted. How often do we wait to stop a habit or association with someone that needs to end? Our excuses, no matter how legitimate they may seem, are sometimes just weak justifications for putting off what we don’t want to handle. Those trees needed to be out years ago! By the way, the company that removed all of the trees and shrubs and did quite a bit of trimming for us make a simple mistake while they were at our home. Instead of facing the stump grinder away from our house when grinding down the stumps of trees removed in front, the person running the machine faced it toward our front door and completely shattered our storm door. There was simply no large piece of glass left. Everything was shattered into tiny bits and barely holding together. I didn’t know that the damage had occurred until the first time I opened my front door after the workers left; the suction of opening the front door caused the glass from the storm door to suck inwards towards me. The entire center of the glass panel broke out in the shape of what I saw as a heart. My sweet neighbor saw it as a pair of angel wings. Look for the blessings, right? Despite that bit of damage, we were still feeling great about getting the tree work completed. Next up was getting a window replaced. The company doing the siding won’t start until the window is finished. Did you know that windows are taking months to come in? You’re probably aware that many things are taking way too long to arrive right now. Well, our window finally came in and the manufacturer that received it broke it in the warehouse before our installer could pick it up, so now we are in the process of waiting for a new one. So the siding is postponed again. But the one job that could be completed deck removal from the back of the house. Since our deck needed to be rebuilt, and it is best to replace siding with the deck off the house, the siding company asked us to have it removed before they began their job. After working with several contractors who honestly must have a lot of work and not need another job because they would not follow up with quotes, and getting a high price from one who didn’t seem too excited about doing the job either, my husband and son decided to complete the project together. Although I agreed, and was ready to save the money we would have paid this person to tear down the deck so we could use it toward one of the other projects we were committed to completing this year, I kept having a nagging feeling that my husband was going to get hurt removing that deck. This feeling wasn’t an irrational fear, but a “knowing.” It was more of a feeling that was calm, yet always present, simply letting me know to pray in advance and remind everyone to be careful. For weeks in advance, I let my family know to pray, because I shared that I thought he would get hurt. You may be thinking I was worrying or that I would cause something to happen by getting them concerned, but I sincerely believe in my heart that God was going before us, reminding us that He is in control and that we needed to be praying and watching for Him. Which is exactly what we did. It has been so hot here! We really didn’t get a spring. May was cool and rainy, then June arrived with very hot temperatures early in the month. So, it took about three weeks of my husband and son working together for a couple hours each Sunday afternoon to get the deck off. On the third week my husband and son were working on the deck removal, they had only been outside together for about ten minutes when my son ran into the house yelling for a towel. He said my husband had gotten hurt and he needed something for the bleeding. I gave him a beach towel and went outside with him to check my husband. Since this is a story with many details, let me just say that at this point, I was unable to see the wound because my husband had the towel pressed against his forehead. I asked if I should be calling 911. My husband said he was okay, although he was sitting on the ground with a large puddle of blood in the rocks next to him, but my son disagreed. He told me it was bad. At this point, I believed my son, who had seen the wound, so I rushed back into the house to call an ambulance. After paramedics came and rushed my husband off to the nearest head trauma facility, I left to meet him and my son at the hospital. When I entered the ER and saw his wound, I felt like I was on a movie set. The film, “The Terminator” was all I could think of. Although my husband didn’t look robotic, of course, the gaping wound on his forehead exposed 4 ½” of his skull and the surrounding tissue didn’t look like it would be ever able to stretch back into place. By now, I’m sure you’re wondering what happened. In a nutshell, one of the large, heavy, main supporting beams fell on my husband. After attacking him on the head, the beam finished assaulting him with a blow to his right hand. During the almost 7 hours he was in the emergency room, my husband received a CT scan of his head, which thankfully did not show brain bleeding or skull damage. He also had hand x-rays that revealed the reason his hand felt uncomfortable. Just to speed the story details up a bit, four days later, my husband had to undergo hand surgery. The experienced surgeon said the damage was worse than he could see on the x-rays. In fact, he said it looked like someone took a sledgehammer to the base of my husband’s thumb and shattered it. Now, eight days after the accident, he is learning to live with using one hand, and not being able to use his dominant hand is challenging, yet he never complains. I don’t think I could say the same about myself. He’ll have the pins in his thumb base for a couple of months, then have to endure extensive physical therapy in order to have a usable hand. The surgeon said his thumb will probably always be stiff, and every doctor has said that my husband is lucky to be alive. Lucky? We don’t think so. We know he is blessed to be here. Instead of going to a doctor appointment or surgery every day last week, we could have been planning a funeral. By faith, I know God warned me that my husband was going to be hurt, so we could be praying for protection and provision in advance. God was so good to make sure we knew to pray and to remember that He is in control. Life events are going to happen, but no matter what, we must always keep our eyes fixed on Him. What is the biggest requirement for being able to live with our eyes, heart, and mind centered on Him? Faith. As I was preparing to leave the house to meet my husband at the hospital that day, I was trying to hurry. As I was taking care of last minute things before leaving, I noticed my hand shaking. I’m never the type to be nervous or shaky, so I immediately stopped to pray. Centering myself by speaking the name, “Jesus” aloud several times before I prayed, I then asked my Savior to give me His peace and calm. His perfect peace immediately flooded my spirit, and my hands never shook again. Since we know faith is a pre-requisite to a relationship with God through Christ, what type of faith do we need to carry? How does our faith change or help us? First, let’s examine what kind of faith the Bible tells us to have. 1. Faith in God through Christ – Matthew 9:22 says, “Jesus turned and saw her. “Take heart, daughter,” he said, “your faith has healed you.” And the woman was healed at that moment.” One of my favorite verses is Isaiah 26:3, which says, “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.” 2. Faith that is obedient – Hebrews 11:8 says, “By faith Abraham, when called to go to a place he would later receive as his inheritance, obeyed and went, even though he did not know where he was going.” John 15:14 says, “You are my friends if you do what I command.” James 2:17-18 says, “In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead. But someone will say, “You have faith; I have deeds. Show me your faith without deeds, and I will show you my faith by my deeds.” 3. Faith that endures – Romans 5:3-4 says, “Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Romans 12:12 says, “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all this through Him who gives me strength.” Hebrews 12:1-3 says, “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before Him He endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider Him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.” As we follow the example set before us in God’s Holy Word, we see that faith in God through Jesus that is obedient and enduring will draw us nearer to Him, and also heal, affect, and perfect us through Christ. As we draw nearer to Him, we begin to resemble our Savior. Remember that in whatever situation or circumstance you may find yourself, any bitterness, fear, anxiety, loneliness, hatred, or anything emotion you can name should be used as a trigger. Let it be your reminder that although feelings are a normal part of being human, when what we feel is not a reflection of our Lord, we know our gaze has slipped. We are looking to self or others to manage our feelings and emotions, whether or not it is intentional. Let this warning direct you to raise your gaze to the Lord. Call out to Him! Say the name of Jesus aloud and ask for His peace and calm to flood you, call on Him to dictate your emotions and actions. We need Him so much! Remember to fix your mind and heart on Christ. He is everything He claims to be. If you need more help in strengthening your walk with God through Christ, the absolute best source you can have is God’s Word. Make it a point to read the Bible, study His Word, and know His Word. I guarantee it will change you, Scripture promises that fact. Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” Get to know Him better. Trust in Him. See and feel the changes only He will make. Dear Heavenly Father, we thank You for the hope You give us when we trust in You through Jesus as Savior. We praise You for the life changes we feel and see within us as we trust in You with obedient faith that endures. There is none like You. You are good and faithful toward us. May our hearts cry out for You and our steps run to You. Enable us to desire obedience and live with a faith that endures, drawing us nearer to You in all the ways You desire. You tell us to rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, and to be constant in prayer. Help us to do so, Lord. We also know from Your promises that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us. Help us to remember and to cast all trials, tribulations, and tragedies at Your feet and allow You to cradle us in Your arms. In the name of Your precious Son, Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. To hear episodes that deal with faith, I suggest listening to Episode 072, Faith that Perseveres. You may find this episode on the terrihitt.com website. Just click on “podcasts” and type in the topic or title you wish to hear about in the search bar at the top of the page. Again, thank you for listening to this episode of the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. As I mentioned, the podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, but is also a part of the Spark Media Network, and the podcast may also now be found on the Edifi app. Have you rated or reviewed this podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? For those who have, I thank you so very much! If you haven’t, would you please consider doing so? It is getting more difficult to keep from being shadow-banned on social media. Podcasts and social medias posts about Christian material simply do not get the same reach as secular topics. When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. If you believe the content you hear should be heard so that more people can begin to deepen their walk with Jesus and live with eyes set on eternity, would you please write a review and rate the podcast for me? I also want to ask if you have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen to this new podcast, especially if you are raising children or influencing grandchildren. Please follow and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode 032 - Teach Your Children to Live in the Power of the Spirit Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #032 – Teach Your Children to Live in the Power of the Spirit Thank you for listening to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast. My prayer is that you and I will parent with purpose and confidently connect with Christ and our children moment by moment. When I think back on my life before Christ, I remember things I did as a child or young adult that broke God’s heart. Even now, as a believer of over 40 years, I regret how I still cause God pain. So much more so before I became a believer, of course, but at that time I had no idea life could be different. When I think of how my life was before I knew Jesus, I also sometimes stop to think of the world before He lived on earth. Can you imagine living before Jesus came? Trying to learn and keep all of the laws would be so hard, and of course, impossible. Remembering to dress a particular way, not eat certain foods, sacrifice animals, and so on must have been so stressful. It’s another thing we can thank Jesus for. Through Christ, we are delivered from the law . Now we are able to serve Him with a new Spirit . You see, in the past, we bore fruit to death , but now we bear fruit to God . What does that mean? Because of Jesus, our relationship with the law is broken. We are free. Through faith in Jesus, we now submit to Him and are able to bear fruit for Him. Praises be to God that He gives us a way to Him through Jesus so we may repent, submit, and live with Him for eternity. Even better, we don’t have to wait until He brings us home. Through the Holy Spirit inside, we can experience life changes right now . Praise God for His mercy and lovingkindness toward us. Have you lived a perfect life? No. None of us have. Because of Christ, we can exist with new life through Jesus. It comes with an assurance that we are a new creation . Not only is our life renewed , but so are our minds and desires . If we choose to follow Him with humble repentance, we can also look to Him for transformation, guidance and provision. Isn’t this what you desire for yourself, but also for each of your children? As believers, we want nothing more than what 3 John 1:4 says, “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth .” What can we do to ensure that our children walk in the truth? Galatians 6:7-9 says, “Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up .” When believers sow to desires of the flesh instead of the Spirit inside, the sin we succumb to will always make us progressively worse in character if we continue to engage in it. This happens whether or not we are believers. Sowing to the Spirit means that we walk under or by the Holy Spirit. It means we walk in truth . We strive to please and submit to Him . There is no personal truth, as the world today likes to promote. Truth is truth and only comes from a holy and righteous God. By submitting to Christ, we gain everlasting life. This transformational truth and benefit is a by-product of the adoration and obedience we naturally offer our Lord as we honor Him. Through following God, we obtain a life that lasts forever, but we can also receive an excellent quality of life while we are on this earth. This transformed life is what our children witness . It is the life that will influence them more greatly than this world will. It is imperative that we allow the Holy Spirit to change us to be more Christlike daily as we seek and submit to Christ. That means we must intentionally pursue Him. He must be at the top of our agenda daily. Our children must see and experience what a joyful life transformed by and through Christ looks like so they will know and desire Jesus. As Galatians 6:10 says, “Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers .” Let us begin with our own home. Our precious God-given children. It is no accident or coincidence that you are entrusted with the children you have. Whether by birth or adoption, God has blessed you with the privilege of influencing them for Him. Instead of viewing specific moments in which to try to influence our children (or others) for Jesus, we must understand that our entire life is an opportunity to make Him known. The consistency by which we obey and honor Him with joy, allowing His nature to be the directing force of our actions, reactions, words, and desires directly affects those we live with and come into contact with each day. It is the lifestyle we adhere to, and it becomes what is advertised and advanced for others to emulate as they come to view Jesus as they see Him appear through us . Ephesians 5:15-20 says, “Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit, speaking to one another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit. Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ .” Viewing life moments (hard and easy) with a perspective beyond this world enables us to remember that life is not about us. Life in this world is about maturing in Christ and if you are a parent, teaching your children to seek God through everything that occurs. During experiences of daily life, we should ask these questions: What lessons can be learned? What truths are being exposed? What mindset shift must happen? How can I ensure this draws me nearer to Christ? How can I be obedient to God through this? How can I influence my children for Christ through this? Teaching your child these truths and questions from a young age enables them to begin seeing this world with a vision more like Christ’s. They begin to understand that they are being raised to be set-apart for service to Christ . Not as a method of bondage, but freedom . If you are new to the podcast, you may not have heard a story I shared about my youngest that illustrates what I mean when I say to train your children to view this world with eyes, heart, and mind focused on eternity. When my youngest had been home with us for a couple of years, she was looking through my jewelry box one day. As I shared stories of the pieces, she picked up a star sapphire ring. “It’s so pretty!” she exclaimed. I told her that the ring was a present from her daddy the first year we were dating. “Come here,” I told her. As I waved my hand for her to follow me, I took the ring to stand under light. “Look. The ring is pretty on its own, but now under light, you can see a beautiful white star.” As she oohed and aahed over the star I continued, “It’s like our life. We can choose to stand in the light of Jesus and allow Him to be reflected in what we do and in who we are.” She gazed at me intently with the ring shining on her finger. “Or we can choose not to shine Him in our actions and the way we live.” As we choose to take each moment in life captive just as we are instructed to take our thoughts captive, we live with eternal perspective. This viewpoint of life will transform our relationship with Christ and our children. It becomes the foundation they will build to choose whether to accept Christ as their Savior and live in ways that honor and please Him. Romans 12:1-2 says, “Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—His good, pleasing and perfect will .” As they see Christ living through you, your children will allow Him to live through them . Children accept the gospel with innocent confidence and clarity of heart. Instructing them in the Lord from a young age allows them to begin allowing Christ to be their guide and foundation before they have even accepted Him as Savior. Helping them to seek Jesus through trials, tragedies, triumphs, and success all set their heart and mind, as well as their spirit, to be more in alignment with His. Mentoring your child in this way allows your child to live with less stress, fears, anxieties, and also sets them up with an important confidence built through the Lord and not on self. Colossians 3:1-2 says, “Since then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things .” Setting a goal for your child to live with this eternal perspective means that you are also living with a perspective set on eternity, rather than this world. As you grow in your walk with Christ and view every opportunity life brings you as one that enables you to mature in Him, you will also set this high goal for your parenting . Dear Heavenly Father, Thank you for the gift of Your perfect Word. In Your infinite love and guidance You left us everything we need through Jesus, Scripture, and the Holy Spirit alive inside believers. Guard us, Father, so that we do not sow to please our spirit, but to honor and follow Yours. Help us never to grow weary of doing good, simply because we deepen our love for You with great intention daily. Thank you, Father for loving us and showing us the way to eternal life with You and great fruits of the Spirit now. May we long for You more each moment and allow our children to see what it means to truly follow You through our mentorship. Enable us to view this world and our life through your eternal mindset. Help us, Father. We need You so much more than we know. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen . Thank you for listening to the “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” podcast. This and my “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, iHeart Radio, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts may also now be found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? Did you know that when you review my podcasts on Apple, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcasts online so that more people are allowed to find and hear them. 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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #073 – Be Rid of Sin Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Earlier this week my daughter Marissa and I went for a long walk together. Sharing a walk is not a new experience. We go out together a lot. Sharing conversation and laughs is a highlight for us. As we are always hopeful that we’ll encounter geese or ducks, my daughter usually carries treats to offer our feathered friends just in case we need them. What made this particular walk different is a new path we tried. I’m not sure when it opened, but our neighborhood added a nature trail for residents to enjoy. Full of winding paths, creeks, slight inclines (for optimum leg exercise), wildlife, fresh air, and sunshine, Marissa and I believed we found a little slice of heaven. Until we got home. Although I brought water with me, I was parched when we returned. For some reason, I was craving grapefruit. I told Marissa I was going to eat before I hopped into the shower. As I was eating, I felt something tickling my skin inside my shirt. I peeked inside my blouse and saw what looked like a tiny spider. After a second look, I knew it was a tick. My reflexive response was to flick it off my skin, but I regretted that move instantly because I didn’t want it to find my two dogs. After my family and I searched the kitchen floor for a bit without finding it, I looked back inside my shirt and saw that I had missed the tick, who was still enjoying walking around my stomach. I started screaming. I know. Screamers are extremely annoying, but I was so grossed out by this tiny blood-sucking bug that I could not help it. My husband grabbed the disgusting creature and smashed it. Ready for a shower now, I left for the bathroom so that I could shower and truly feel clean again. It was going to be a while before that happened. Marissa joined me in the bathroom. She planned to take a bath while I showered so we could both make sure we didn’t have any other creatures ready to suck life from us. As we prepared for our bath and shower, we continued to find more and more ticks. We ended up having so many on the two of us that I lost count. The peaceful woodland setting we had enjoyed together became a dreaded memory we never wanted to revisit. We spent the rest of the evening feeling like we had ticks crawling over our skin and checking under our clothes to ensure we didn’t really have anything to pluck off our body. As I thought about the walk and resulting ticks, I felt God urging me to write this podcast. One message kept coming to mind to share. Sin should have the same effect on us that the tiny eight-legged tick parasites carry. We should be anxious to be rid of any sinfulness touching our life. There was nothing else I could think of when I found each tick. I just wanted them off as soon as possible! The need to remove them was so urgent that it was futile to fathom thinking of anything else. Believers should be so attuned to His thoughts and ways that any sin sickens us and makes us want to escape it immediately. How is sin defined in this world? Basically, sin is an immoral act considered to be a transgression against God’s holy law or an act that is a sin in the eyes of God. Most people, regardless of where they stand in their religious convictions would agree that this is a fair definition of sin. Yet, what is interesting is that we each differ more in what we consider to be a sin in the eyes of God, or more importantly, we seem to forget what God would consider sinful as we habitually fall into practices that feel good or give us pleasure in the moment. Romans 5:12 says, “Therefore, just as sin entered the world through one man, and death through sin, so also death was passed on to all men, because all sinned.” All of humanity is subject to the actions of two men: Adam and Jesus. Do we desire to follow the example of Adam and be content to toy with sin? Or do we yearn to cling to the freedom and hope found through Christ and live with fullness of life because we identify and flee from sin? Genesis 4:7b says, “But if you refuse to do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires you, but you must master it.” Sin is everywhere. We do not experience a day where we can say we were not tempted to sin or we did not encounter some sort of sin. Yet, the miracle is that through the grace of God and the act of Jesus on the cross, we do not need to be a slave to the sinful nature within us. Romans 2:15 says, “They demonstrate that God’s law is written in their hearts, for their own conscience and thoughts either accuse them or tell them they are doing right.” The condition of our heart dictates our thoughts and actions. I believe the easiest way to identify sin in our life is to break it down into two easy to remember categories. 1. Attitude: Are we living with a mind or heartset that strives to please God or be Christlike? Or can we recognize hatred, envy, bitterness, unforgiveness, selfishness, pride, arrogance, maliciousness, and the like in our life? 2. Action: Are we living with actions that are contrary to what God instructs? Are we living in ways that please Him? Does our life draw others to His life-changing or life-giving power or push them away? Or do we secretly live with acts such as negligence, foul language, slander, adultery, stealing, lying, and the like in our life? If we cannot recognize or obey God’s truths, commands, or promptings, we sin. James 4:17 says, “Anyone, then, who knows the right thing to do, yet fails to do it, is guilty of sin.” When we are close to Jesus because we know, love, and follow Him, we allow His sacrificial act to transform our heart, mind, and life. Then we are able to make the powerful decision to put Him before self. It is a decision we will need to make each moment for the rest of our life – not because we have to, but because we love Him and desire transformation into His image. We need to immediately flick any remnant of sin from us with an urgency that conveys absolute obedience to Jesus. Romans 6:12-17 says, “What then shall we say? Shall we continue in sin so that grace may increase? Certainly not! How can we who died to sin live in it any longer? Or aren’t you aware that all of us who were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into His death? We were therefore buried with Him through baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may walk in newness of life. For if we have been united with Him like this in His death, we will certainly also be united with Him in His resurrection. We know that our old self was crucified with Him so that the body of sin might be rendered powerless, that we should no longer be slaves to sin. For anyone who has died has been freed from sin. Now if we died with Christ, we believe that we will also live with Him. For we know that since Christ was raised from the dead, He cannot die again; death no longer has dominion over Him. The death He died, He died to sin once for all; but the life He lives, He lives to God. So you too must count yourselves dead to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus. Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its desires. Do not present the parts of your body to sin as instruments of wickedness, but present yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life; and present the parts of your body to Him as instruments of righteousness. For sin shall not be your master, because you are not under law, but under grace.” Remember that our body on its own is not sinful or evil. Yet, we do not want to allow sin to find a place of dominance or power over our body or in our life. Jesus has rendered sin powerless and unless we do not know or follow Him, or we succumb to the allure of sin instead of keeping our gaze focused on the power of Christ, it will not carry a place of power over us. We can either allow ourselves to fall to the evil forces of sin and live in rebellion and regret or claim victory through the sacrifice of Christ and the power of the Holy Spirit living within us. Satan and sin have no power over us when we are rightfully living under the dominion of Jesus Christ. Hallelujah!! We know we have ultimate victory because the power of Jesus lives within us and He has given us a hope and future. We can also believe and claim His power over daily moment by moment activities as well. Our mind and heart can both turn to and rely on the power of Christ to save us every second if we continue to rely on Him. Grace was extended not so that we could continue to sin and experience grace over again, but so that we would be reconstructed into new life that cannot tolerate sin. 1 Peter 2:24 says, “He himself bore our sins" in His body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; "by His wounds you have been healed." 1 John 3:9 says, “No one who is born of God will continue to sin, because God's seed remains in them; they cannot go on sinning, because they have been born of God.” This verse is spoken in the present tense, meaning a continuous action. It is saying that a follower of Christ will not sin on purpose or make a practice of sinning. When we have been born again through Jesus’s act on the cross, our new nature, born again in the image of a holy God, enables us to follow Him and produce His good fruit. He releases the grip of sin and removes the temptation of bowing to sin when we keep our gaze and heart attuned to and reliant on Him. Sin entered the world through one man and exited the world through one man. Who do you want to follow? Look up to the One who has the authority and grace to render sin powerless. Jesus sacrificed all so that we can live a rich and fulfilling life now and for eternity. Keep your gaze and heart fixed on Him, the One who can do all things. Ephesians 3:20 says, “Now to Him who is able to do so much more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us.” What sin is threatening to grip or deceive you? Render it powerless now through Jesus. Heavenly Father, our good and gracious God. We thank You for the life You gave us through Jesus. Help us recognize the power alive and at work within us as we face life moment by moment. May we always turn to You, enabling Your grace and the gift of new life to lift us above the snares of this world. May our thoughts and behavior be perfected as You are perfect, not to honor us, but to glorify You. Do not let sin reign in our mortal body, or let us obey the lusts of it. Please help us present ourselves as instruments of righteousness, made alive through Jesus with sin carrying no dominion over us in any way. We boldly ask this because we know it is Your intention for us, loving Father. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 073 Be Rid of Sin Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #073 – Be Rid of Sin Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Earlier this week my daughter Marissa and I went for a long walk together. Sharing a walk is not a new experience. We go out together a lot. Sharing conversation and laughs is a highlight for us. As we are always hopeful that we’ll encounter geese or ducks, my daughter usually carries treats to offer our feathered friends just in case we need them. What made this particular walk different is a new path we tried. I’m not sure when it opened, but our neighborhood added a nature trail for residents to enjoy. Full of winding paths, creeks, slight inclines (for optimum leg exercise), wildlife, fresh air, and sunshine, Marissa and I believed we found a little slice of heaven. Until we got home. Although I brought water with me, I was parched when we returned. For some reason, I was craving grapefruit. I told Marissa I was going to eat before I hopped into the shower. As I was eating, I felt something tickling my skin inside my shirt. I peeked inside my blouse and saw what looked like a tiny spider. After a second look, I knew it was a tick. My reflexive response was to flick it off my skin, but I regretted that move instantly because I didn’t want it to find my two dogs. After my family and I searched the kitchen floor for a bit without finding it, I looked back inside my shirt and saw that I had missed the tick, who was still enjoying walking around my stomach. I started screaming. I know. Screamers are extremely annoying, but I was so grossed out by this tiny blood-sucking bug that I could not help it. My husband grabbed the disgusting creature and smashed it. Ready for a shower now, I left for the bathroom so that I could shower and truly feel clean again. It was going to be a while before that happened. Marissa joined me in the bathroom. She planned to take a bath while I showered so we could both make sure we didn’t have any other creatures ready to suck life from us. As we prepared for our bath and shower, we continued to find more and more ticks. We ended up having so many on the two of us that I lost count. The peaceful woodland setting we had enjoyed together became a dreaded memory we never wanted to revisit. We spent the rest of the evening feeling like we had ticks crawling over our skin and checking under our clothes to ensure we didn’t really have anything to pluck off our body. As I thought about the walk and resulting ticks, I felt God urging me to write this podcast. One message kept coming to mind to share. Sin should have the same effect on us that the tiny eight-legged tick parasites carry. We should be anxious to be rid of any sinfulness touching our life. There was nothing else I could think of when I found each tick. I just wanted them off as soon as possible! The need to remove them was so urgent that it was futile to fathom thinking of anything else. Believers should be so attuned to His thoughts and ways that any sin sickens us and makes us want to escape it immediately. How is sin defined in this world? Basically, sin is an immoral act considered to be a transgression against God’s holy law or an act that is a sin in the eyes of God. Most people, regardless of where they stand in their religious convictions would agree that this is a fair definition of sin. Yet, what is interesting is that we each differ more in what we consider to be a sin in the eyes of God, or more importantly, we seem to forget what God would consider sinful as we habitually fall into practices that feel good or give us pleasure in the moment. Romans 5:12 says, “Therefore, just as sin entered the world through one man, and death through sin, so also death was passed on to all men, because all sinned.” All of humanity is subject to the actions of two men: Adam and Jesus. Do we desire to follow the example of Adam and be content to toy with sin? Or do we yearn to cling to the freedom and hope found through Christ and live with fullness of life because we identify and flee from sin? Genesis 4:7b says, “But if you refuse to do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires you, but you must master it.” Sin is everywhere. We do not experience a day where we can say we were not tempted to sin or we did not encounter some sort of sin. Yet, the miracle is that through the grace of God and the act of Jesus on the cross, we do not need to be a slave to the sinful nature within us. Romans 2:15 says, “They demonstrate that God’s law is written in their hearts, for their own conscience and thoughts either accuse them or tell them they are doing right.” The condition of our heart dictates our thoughts and actions. I believe the easiest way to identify sin in our life is to break it down into two easy to remember categories. 1. Attitude: Are we living with a mind or heartset that strives to please God or be Christlike? Or can we recognize hatred, envy, bitterness, unforgiveness, selfishness, pride, arrogance, maliciousness, and the like in our life? 2. Action: Are we living with actions that are contrary to what God instructs? Are we living in ways that please Him? Does our life draw others to His life-changing or life-giving power or push them away? Or do we secretly live with acts such as negligence, foul language, slander, adultery, stealing, lying, and the like in our life? If we cannot recognize or obey God’s truths, commands, or promptings, we sin. James 4:17 says, “Anyone, then, who knows the right thing to do, yet fails to do it, is guilty of sin.” When we are close to Jesus because we know, love, and follow Him, we allow His sacrificial act to transform our heart, mind, and life. Then we are able to make the powerful decision to put Him before self. It is a decision we will need to make each moment for the rest of our life – not because we have to, but because we love Him and desire transformation into His image. We need to immediately flick any remnant of sin from us with an urgency that conveys absolute obedience to Jesus. Romans 6:12-17 says, “What then shall we say? Shall we continue in sin so that grace may increase? Certainly not! How can we who died to sin live in it any longer? Or aren’t you aware that all of us who were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into His death? We were therefore buried with Him through baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may walk in newness of life. For if we have been united with Him like this in His death, we will certainly also be united with Him in His resurrection. We know that our old self was crucified with Him so that the body of sin might be rendered powerless, that we should no longer be slaves to sin. For anyone who has died has been freed from sin. Now if we died with Christ, we believe that we will also live with Him. For we know that since Christ was raised from the dead, He cannot die again; death no longer has dominion over Him. The death He died, He died to sin once for all; but the life He lives, He lives to God. So you too must count yourselves dead to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus. Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its desires. Do not present the parts of your body to sin as instruments of wickedness, but present yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life; and present the parts of your body to Him as instruments of righteousness. For sin shall not be your master, because you are not under law, but under grace.” Remember that our body on its own is not sinful or evil. Yet, we do not want to allow sin to find a place of dominance or power over our body or in our life. Jesus has rendered sin powerless and unless we do not know or follow Him, or we succumb to the allure of sin instead of keeping our gaze focused on the power of Christ, it will not carry a place of power over us. We can either allow ourselves to fall to the evil forces of sin and live in rebellion and regret or claim victory through the sacrifice of Christ and the power of the Holy Spirit living within us. Satan and sin have no power over us when we are rightfully living under the dominion of Jesus Christ. Hallelujah!! We know we have ultimate victory because the power of Jesus lives within us and He has given us a hope and future. We can also believe and claim His power over daily moment by moment activities as well. Our mind and heart can both turn to and rely on the power of Christ to save us every second if we continue to rely on Him. Grace was extended not so that we could continue to sin and experience grace over again, but so that we would be reconstructed into new life that cannot tolerate sin. 1 Peter 2:24 says, “He himself bore our sins" in His body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; "by His wounds you have been healed." 1 John 3:9 says, “No one who is born of God will continue to sin, because God's seed remains in them; they cannot go on sinning, because they have been born of God.” This verse is spoken in the present tense, meaning a continuous action. It is saying that a follower of Christ will not sin on purpose or make a practice of sinning. When we have been born again through Jesus’s act on the cross, our new nature, born again in the image of a holy God, enables us to follow Him and produce His good fruit. He releases the grip of sin and removes the temptation of bowing to sin when we keep our gaze and heart attuned to and reliant on Him. Sin entered the world through one man and exited the world through one man. Who do you want to follow? Look up to the One who has the authority and grace to render sin powerless. Jesus sacrificed all so that we can live a rich and fulfilling life now and for eternity. Keep your gaze and heart fixed on Him, the One who can do all things. Ephesians 3:20 says, “Now to Him who is able to do so much more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us.” What sin is threatening to grip or deceive you? Render it powerless now through Jesus. Heavenly Father, our good and gracious God. We thank You for the life You gave us through Jesus. Help us recognize the power alive and at work within us as we face life moment by moment. May we always turn to You, enabling Your grace and the gift of new life to lift us above the snares of this world. May our thoughts and behavior be perfected as You are perfect, not to honor us, but to glorify You. Do not let sin reign in our mortal body, or let us obey the lusts of it. Please help us present ourselves as instruments of righteousness, made alive through Jesus with sin carrying no dominion over us in any way. We boldly ask this because we know it is Your intention for us, loving Father. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast. Episode #011 – Abundance Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Forced changes in our nation over the last several weeks have shaped a new definition of abundance in the minds of most Americans. If you ponder the definition of the word, you most likely think of “a very large quantity of something” or “plentifulness of good things,” or “prosperity.” Throughout our years of marriage, my husband and I have shared times of ease and of difficulty. Getting married right out of high school with only $1,000 in savings was hard. Within the first year we had a baby and new expenses, medical bills, plus my health took a hit. After suffering for a few years with health issues, I had to have a hysterectomy at the age of 22. By then, we had two children and a lot more medical bills and expenses. I look back at those early years with wonder at how we survived. Before we knew God was caring for us, He was. My in-laws were there to help in many ways, and they prayed for us daily. Gradually, my health improved, and I began babysitting at home until our children were a little older and then I had to go to work outside of the home. We were working very hard to get out of debt. I remember paying about $100 total a month (which was a lot), breaking payments into $5 per medical specialist we owed just to keep them from calling collections on us. It was all we could afford. The Lord definitely provided miracles for us multiple times where we had no idea what we would do. Then, in later years, after our first two children were young adults, and we were in the last months of our first adoption from China, we needed $9,000.00 for the remaining expenses and travel money we needed to bring our infant daughter home. We prayed together daily through our “paper pregnancy” and this was one of the many requests we lifted to the Lord. After praying specifically about this need for about two weeks, my husband was called into his boss’s office at work and received a bonus check. After taxes and tithing, the amount was exactly $9,000.00. Matthew 6:11 says, “Give us this day our daily bread.” On our second adoption, I was no longer working outside of the home as I left my job the week before we left for China the first time. We had sucked through savings when we had to pay for the unexpected funeral of our oldest daughter and then my husband was laid off his job for almost two years. We honestly had no idea how we would pay for another adoption. The cost had risen substantially from ten years earlier, yet we knew with a certainty that God was calling us to obey and adopt. It was clear that God had a plan and we needed to bring home our last child. We knew it was our obligation to be clear on His calling and then step out in obedience. We were absolutely certain that God would provide everything we needed because of what He tells us in His word and faithfulness to us in the past. During this time, God blessed us with many loving friends and family members who donated small amounts that added up to help enormously. He also prompted two special friends to give large amounts that surprised and blessed our hearts immensely. We were recipients of several small grants from various organizations and a matching grant that complimented the giving of friends and family I mentioned earlier. Yet, just one week before our travel date, we were still in need of $3000.00. As I sat in a meeting with hospice discussing arrangements for my mother with Alzheimer’s, who had suddenly taken a turn for the worse, I received a call from one last organization. They wanted to let me know that they had a last-minute grant for us in the amount of $3,000.00. Only God. Matthew 6:33-34 says, “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” We stepped out in abundant obedience and let God manage the abundant details. Through the years, God has proven to me that I have taken times of abundance for granted. The more we made financially, sometimes I expected more. It doesn’t matter whether I felt like we were doing things with our money that God would approve of or not. What was critical is that I began to feel entitled to what I had. Life insurance is a great example of what I mean. Earlier I mentioned my husband’s job loss. It was when the economy took a dip about ten years ago and was the only income source our family had. My husband and I had made a pact that I would remain a stay-home mother as we raised our second family. It was extremely important to us to honor that promise we made to God and each other. Due to his job loss, we had to purchase COBRA (Continuation Coverage Assistance), which was extremely expensive. In addition, my insurance eligibility was suddenly questioned. It took months of work, a doctor visit with different blood tests, and petitioning from a rheumatologist and me before the insurance company decided they would insure me. I knew God heard our urgent prayers. I remembered each time I had complained about insurance premiums and co-pays being so expensive in the past and appreciated the blessing of just being covered now, despite it costing much more money. God had changed my heart while still providing care. Deuteronomy 8:2 says, “Remember how the Lord your God led you all the way in the desert these forty years, to humble you and to test you in order to know what was in your heart, whether or not you would keep His commands.” Everything we experience in life, whether we are ignoring the Lord or following Him intentionally, can be used to deepen our faith and understanding of Him and to allow us to draw nearer to Him so He will draw nearer to us. I consider that ultimate abundance. The majority of us in the United States live abundant lives. Especially in comparison to much of the world. Because of that, even if we live with what we consider to be grateful hearts, we may not live with an abundant awareness that everything we have is truly a gift provided by God. Deuteronomy 8:17-18a instruct us, “You may say to yourself, ‘My power and the strength of my hands have produced this wealth for me.’ But remember the Lord your God, for it is He who gives you the ability to produce wealth.” Everything is formed by His hands and comes to us from His hands. Often, when times are plentiful, we take things for granted without realizing it. We neglect to remember that our prosperity is not to be credited to our own wit, determination, or power. God allows and gives us all that we are and have. Although His love for us is intense and lasting, He rightfully expects us to manage all that He gives us in ways that will be pleasing to Him and with a remembrance that it is all from and for Him. God gives and takes for seasons and purposes that allow His abundant work to be completed in and around us. What God allows us to possess must be used for Him. If our lives are full of abundance, He has entrusted those gifts to us for a purpose at this time. The more we receive from His hands, the higher our responsibility to use our time, understanding, and resources becomes. Often, when our gifts and resources are financial, we find it is easy to become self-reliant and to forget what we have is a gift. It may or may not continue to be entrusted to us. We are to have open hands and an open heart with all we receive from God. Mark 10:23 says, “Jesus looked around and said to His disciples, ‘How hard it is for the rich to enter the kingdom of God.” When we already possess everything we could want and have the means to purchase anything we desire, it can be difficult to recognize our abundant need for a Savior. It is also easy to convince ourselves that the gifts and abundance we have are for our pleasure. Yet, when God has entrusted a resource to us, He expects us to use it for others to glorify His name and bring others to Him. 1 Peter 4:10-11a says, “Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, he should do it as one speaking the very words of God. If anyone serves, he should do it with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ.” How loving God is to endow us with gifts and talents! He could have allowed none of us to enjoy abilities that bring joy and pleasure. That He enables us to serve Him with them is further evidence that His love for us is extravagant and of course, abundant. Have you noticed that when you use what God has gifted you for selfish purposes just how little pleasure is felt? When we exercise generosity and serve others with what we have received, fullness of joy and gratitude flood in and propel us to give more. I have a friend who lives in South Carolina. During the last four years that I have known her, I have witnessed her embody giving with a beautiful spirit of grace. When our youngest celebrated our first birthday home with us, this friend ordered her a beautiful cake that was shipped to us. This past Christmas I received a late Christmas gift in the mail. It was a beautiful Christian Planner that I now use for work in this ministry. Who do you think it was from? Yes, it was also sent from this same South Carolina friend. She always looks for ways to give and enables others to feel seen and honored. I have been immensely blessed in being a recipient of her personalized care and generosity. She has found a way to show the principle of giving with a whole heart that has caused me, and I am sure many others, to feel abundantly loved. Joy and contentment are eternal. When we allow God to fill us with the ability to live and give joyfully with what He provides and strive to honor Him with it, we will also have the abundant peace that accompanies joy and contentment. Philippians 4:11b-13 says, “I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content. I know how to be abased, and I know how to abound. Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Is it easy to live with abundant contentment? No, not easy, but possible. To embody continuous contentment, we must make a choice to rely on the Holy Spirit alive in us to teach the behavior needed to ignore circumstances, or emotions, and build our resistance to complaining or searching for more. The Greek word for contentment is also translated as “satisfied, adequate, competent, or sufficient” in the New Testament. God’s will is for us to be abundantly satisfied despite circumstances. Galatians 5:22-25 says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us walk in step with the Spirit.” Living with abundance is not just about money or contentment mindsets. Jesus gives us the ability to fully live with abundant hearts, thoughts, peace, gratitude, joy, hope, love, kindness, gentleness, patience, self-control, and contentment. Because of Him, our minds and emotions can be free to live with the abundance He intends for us. Ephesians 3:20 says, “Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all we ask or think, according to the power at work within us.” When we strive to live closely with Jesus, He opens our eyes and minds, as well as our heart, to see and firmly believe that an abundant life is built on what we claim through and because of Him. Colossians 3:1-2 says, “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” I think something extremely important in the verses I mentioned from Colossians is found in what comes next in verse 3, which says, “For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God.” Surrendering to Him each and every moment is crucial if we desire an abundant life. Abundant surrender. We cannot recognize and we will not claim all He intends for us if we are not becoming more like Him daily. I want my will to be bent and shaped to His. Less of me and more of Jesus is the chant I keep reminding myself daily. I have recognized that Jesus is the key to fulfilling the abundant desires God placed in me when I was a thought in His heart. Proverbs 16:3 says, “Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.” My abundance has been found in following Him with a willing heart and obedient steps. Psalm 36:8 says, “They feast on the abundance of your house; you give them drink from your river of delights.” Through living with an abundant and obedient heart, we are able to allow others to see and taste what God has done and claim Him for themselves. God does not love any of us more than the other. He desires abundance through Him for every single one of us. When we look at what abundant means in the Greek translation, we see, “exceedingly, very highly, beyond measure, a quantity so abundant as to be considerably more than one would expect or anticipate.” What does that mean for followers of Jesus? He promises us a life that is much greater than we could ever imagine. How can that be? Think of all of the intelligent and highly creative minds this world has ever held. Not a single one of us can conceptualize what God has in store. 1 Corinthians 2:9 says, “But as it is written, eye has not seen, nor ear heard, nor have entered into the heart of man the things which God has prepared for those who love Him.” Wealth, power, and privilege are not priorities in the eyes of Jesus. The King of Kings left His throne to come to this broken world for us. The usual way this world thinks is opposite of the way God’s mind or kingdom operates. Obviously, some Christians have been blessed with wealth and power for a purpose, however, many of us are faithfully seeking what He calls us to count as abundant. Each breath we take, our loved ones, our health, the ability to have an occupation, and so much more that we have been given, are all abundant blessings. Simply knowing Jesus as our personal Savior is the most abundant provision and miracle we have been offered. God calls us to seek spiritual abundance with Him as the focus rather than rely on or chase after worldly abundance. If He looks after the sparrow, and cares for its every need, if He clothes the fields, how much more will He provide for us? We must be faithful to fix our minds and hearts on Jesus; God will abundantly care for the rest. 1 Corinthians 13:12 says, “For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.” As we continue to desire to be more Christ-like, and be stretched and grown through our walk with Him, we have an ever-present hope and promise. When we stand before Jesus one day, we will finally experience the grace and joy of a faithful life that has proven to be amply fulfilled by His passionate, abundant love for us. My beloved brothers and sisters in Christ, God does provide abundantly. He knows the details of our lives and desires good for us. He also expects abundance from us in return. He desires abundant trust and demands abundant obedience. He longs for us to desire Him with abundant passion. He seeks our abundant gratitude for His loving grace. He wants us to be abundantly content with all He has given and taken away. He wants us to surrender willingly and abundantly to Him. Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 011 Abundance Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast. Episode #011 – Abundance Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Forced changes in our nation over the last several weeks have shaped a new definition of abundance in the minds of most Americans. If you ponder the definition of the word, you most likely think of “a very large quantity of something” or “plentifulness of good things,” or “prosperity.” Throughout our years of marriage, my husband and I have shared times of ease and of difficulty. Getting married right out of high school with only $1,000 in savings was hard. Within the first year we had a baby and new expenses, medical bills, plus my health took a hit. After suffering for a few years with health issues, I had to have a hysterectomy at the age of 22. By then, we had two children and a lot more medical bills and expenses. I look back at those early years with wonder at how we survived. Before we knew God was caring for us, He was. My in-laws were there to help in many ways, and they prayed for us daily. Gradually, my health improved, and I began babysitting at home until our children were a little older and then I had to go to work outside of the home. We were working very hard to get out of debt. I remember paying about $100 total a month (which was a lot), breaking payments into $5 per medical specialist we owed just to keep them from calling collections on us. It was all we could afford. The Lord definitely provided miracles for us multiple times where we had no idea what we would do. Then, in later years, after our first two children were young adults, and we were in the last months of our first adoption from China, we needed $9,000.00 for the remaining expenses and travel money we needed to bring our infant daughter home. We prayed together daily through our “paper pregnancy” and this was one of the many requests we lifted to the Lord. After praying specifically about this need for about two weeks, my husband was called into his boss’s office at work and received a bonus check. After taxes and tithing, the amount was exactly $9,000.00. Matthew 6:11 says, “Give us this day our daily bread.” On our second adoption, I was no longer working outside of the home as I left my job the week before we left for China the first time. We had sucked through savings when we had to pay for the unexpected funeral of our oldest daughter and then my husband was laid off his job for almost two years. We honestly had no idea how we would pay for another adoption. The cost had risen substantially from ten years earlier, yet we knew with a certainty that God was calling us to obey and adopt. It was clear that God had a plan and we needed to bring home our last child. We knew it was our obligation to be clear on His calling and then step out in obedience. We were absolutely certain that God would provide everything we needed because of what He tells us in His word and faithfulness to us in the past. During this time, God blessed us with many loving friends and family members who donated small amounts that added up to help enormously. He also prompted two special friends to give large amounts that surprised and blessed our hearts immensely. We were recipients of several small grants from various organizations and a matching grant that complimented the giving of friends and family I mentioned earlier. Yet, just one week before our travel date, we were still in need of $3000.00. As I sat in a meeting with hospice discussing arrangements for my mother with Alzheimer’s, who had suddenly taken a turn for the worse, I received a call from one last organization. They wanted to let me know that they had a last-minute grant for us in the amount of $3,000.00. Only God. Matthew 6:33-34 says, “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” We stepped out in abundant obedience and let God manage the abundant details. Through the years, God has proven to me that I have taken times of abundance for granted. The more we made financially, sometimes I expected more. It doesn’t matter whether I felt like we were doing things with our money that God would approve of or not. What was critical is that I began to feel entitled to what I had. Life insurance is a great example of what I mean. Earlier I mentioned my husband’s job loss. It was when the economy took a dip about ten years ago and was the only income source our family had. My husband and I had made a pact that I would remain a stay-home mother as we raised our second family. It was extremely important to us to honor that promise we made to God and each other. Due to his job loss, we had to purchase COBRA (Continuation Coverage Assistance), which was extremely expensive. In addition, my insurance eligibility was suddenly questioned. It took months of work, a doctor visit with different blood tests, and petitioning from a rheumatologist and me before the insurance company decided they would insure me. I knew God heard our urgent prayers. I remembered each time I had complained about insurance premiums and co-pays being so expensive in the past and appreciated the blessing of just being covered now, despite it costing much more money. God had changed my heart while still providing care. Deuteronomy 8:2 says, “Remember how the Lord your God led you all the way in the desert these forty years, to humble you and to test you in order to know what was in your heart, whether or not you would keep His commands.” Everything we experience in life, whether we are ignoring the Lord or following Him intentionally, can be used to deepen our faith and understanding of Him and to allow us to draw nearer to Him so He will draw nearer to us. I consider that ultimate abundance. The majority of us in the United States live abundant lives. Especially in comparison to much of the world. Because of that, even if we live with what we consider to be grateful hearts, we may not live with an abundant awareness that everything we have is truly a gift provided by God. Deuteronomy 8:17-18a instruct us, “You may say to yourself, ‘My power and the strength of my hands have produced this wealth for me.’ But remember the Lord your God, for it is He who gives you the ability to produce wealth.” Everything is formed by His hands and comes to us from His hands. Often, when times are plentiful, we take things for granted without realizing it. We neglect to remember that our prosperity is not to be credited to our own wit, determination, or power. God allows and gives us all that we are and have. Although His love for us is intense and lasting, He rightfully expects us to manage all that He gives us in ways that will be pleasing to Him and with a remembrance that it is all from and for Him. God gives and takes for seasons and purposes that allow His abundant work to be completed in and around us. What God allows us to possess must be used for Him. If our lives are full of abundance, He has entrusted those gifts to us for a purpose at this time. The more we receive from His hands, the higher our responsibility to use our time, understanding, and resources becomes. Often, when our gifts and resources are financial, we find it is easy to become self-reliant and to forget what we have is a gift. It may or may not continue to be entrusted to us. We are to have open hands and an open heart with all we receive from God. Mark 10:23 says, “Jesus looked around and said to His disciples, ‘How hard it is for the rich to enter the kingdom of God.” When we already possess everything we could want and have the means to purchase anything we desire, it can be difficult to recognize our abundant need for a Savior. It is also easy to convince ourselves that the gifts and abundance we have are for our pleasure. Yet, when God has entrusted a resource to us, He expects us to use it for others to glorify His name and bring others to Him. 1 Peter 4:10-11a says, “Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, he should do it as one speaking the very words of God. If anyone serves, he should do it with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ.” How loving God is to endow us with gifts and talents! He could have allowed none of us to enjoy abilities that bring joy and pleasure. That He enables us to serve Him with them is further evidence that His love for us is extravagant and of course, abundant. Have you noticed that when you use what God has gifted you for selfish purposes just how little pleasure is felt? When we exercise generosity and serve others with what we have received, fullness of joy and gratitude flood in and propel us to give more. I have a friend who lives in South Carolina. During the last four years that I have known her, I have witnessed her embody giving with a beautiful spirit of grace. When our youngest celebrated our first birthday home with us, this friend ordered her a beautiful cake that was shipped to us. This past Christmas I received a late Christmas gift in the mail. It was a beautiful Christian Planner that I now use for work in this ministry. Who do you think it was from? Yes, it was also sent from this same South Carolina friend. She always looks for ways to give and enables others to feel seen and honored. I have been immensely blessed in being a recipient of her personalized care and generosity. She has found a way to show the principle of giving with a whole heart that has caused me, and I am sure many others, to feel abundantly loved. Joy and contentment are eternal. When we allow God to fill us with the ability to live and give joyfully with what He provides and strive to honor Him with it, we will also have the abundant peace that accompanies joy and contentment. Philippians 4:11b-13 says, “I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content. I know how to be abased, and I know how to abound. Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Is it easy to live with abundant contentment? No, not easy, but possible. To embody continuous contentment, we must make a choice to rely on the Holy Spirit alive in us to teach the behavior needed to ignore circumstances, or emotions, and build our resistance to complaining or searching for more. The Greek word for contentment is also translated as “satisfied, adequate, competent, or sufficient” in the New Testament. God’s will is for us to be abundantly satisfied despite circumstances. Galatians 5:22-25 says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us walk in step with the Spirit.” Living with abundance is not just about money or contentment mindsets. Jesus gives us the ability to fully live with abundant hearts, thoughts, peace, gratitude, joy, hope, love, kindness, gentleness, patience, self-control, and contentment. Because of Him, our minds and emotions can be free to live with the abundance He intends for us. Ephesians 3:20 says, “Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all we ask or think, according to the power at work within us.” When we strive to live closely with Jesus, He opens our eyes and minds, as well as our heart, to see and firmly believe that an abundant life is built on what we claim through and because of Him. Colossians 3:1-2 says, “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” I think something extremely important in the verses I mentioned from Colossians is found in what comes next in verse 3, which says, “For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God.” Surrendering to Him each and every moment is crucial if we desire an abundant life. Abundant surrender. We cannot recognize and we will not claim all He intends for us if we are not becoming more like Him daily. I want my will to be bent and shaped to His. Less of me and more of Jesus is the chant I keep reminding myself daily. I have recognized that Jesus is the key to fulfilling the abundant desires God placed in me when I was a thought in His heart. Proverbs 16:3 says, “Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.” My abundance has been found in following Him with a willing heart and obedient steps. Psalm 36:8 says, “They feast on the abundance of your house; you give them drink from your river of delights.” Through living with an abundant and obedient heart, we are able to allow others to see and taste what God has done and claim Him for themselves. God does not love any of us more than the other. He desires abundance through Him for every single one of us. When we look at what abundant means in the Greek translation, we see, “exceedingly, very highly, beyond measure, a quantity so abundant as to be considerably more than one would expect or anticipate.” What does that mean for followers of Jesus? He promises us a life that is much greater than we could ever imagine. How can that be? Think of all of the intelligent and highly creative minds this world has ever held. Not a single one of us can conceptualize what God has in store. 1 Corinthians 2:9 says, “But as it is written, eye has not seen, nor ear heard, nor have entered into the heart of man the things which God has prepared for those who love Him.” Wealth, power, and privilege are not priorities in the eyes of Jesus. The King of Kings left His throne to come to this broken world for us. The usual way this world thinks is opposite of the way God’s mind or kingdom operates. Obviously, some Christians have been blessed with wealth and power for a purpose, however, many of us are faithfully seeking what He calls us to count as abundant. Each breath we take, our loved ones, our health, the ability to have an occupation, and so much more that we have been given, are all abundant blessings. Simply knowing Jesus as our personal Savior is the most abundant provision and miracle we have been offered. God calls us to seek spiritual abundance with Him as the focus rather than rely on or chase after worldly abundance. If He looks after the sparrow, and cares for its every need, if He clothes the fields, how much more will He provide for us? We must be faithful to fix our minds and hearts on Jesus; God will abundantly care for the rest. 1 Corinthians 13:12 says, “For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.” As we continue to desire to be more Christ-like, and be stretched and grown through our walk with Him, we have an ever-present hope and promise. When we stand before Jesus one day, we will finally experience the grace and joy of a faithful life that has proven to be amply fulfilled by His passionate, abundant love for us. My beloved brothers and sisters in Christ, God does provide abundantly. He knows the details of our lives and desires good for us. He also expects abundance from us in return. He desires abundant trust and demands abundant obedience. He longs for us to desire Him with abundant passion. He seeks our abundant gratitude for His loving grace. He wants us to be abundantly content with all He has given and taken away. He wants us to surrender willingly and abundantly to Him. Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective.

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast - Episode 088 - The Truth About Affirmations Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 088 – The Truth About Affirmations Thank you for taking time to share your day with me. I pray this podcast deepens your walk with Jesus and your children. I have some questions for you to ponder as we start the episode today. What do you do when you desire change in your life? Where is the first place you seek to find direction? What gives you strength? Where do you find hope that change can occur? Many people turn to a popular source of hope for change. Affirmations are often used in today’s society. Many coaches, speakers, and influencers recommend their use for daily life and business success. You may wonder what affirmations are. I think an easy description is that affirmations are a method that some people use to change beliefs or behaviors. Affirmations can be written or spoken and are to be used as if they are “already happening.” Some examples would be: “I am successful in my career” or “I attract wealth.” As people use affirmations they create or choose, the written or spoken word is meant to “reprogram” the mind, encourage, and change beliefs or actions about self, life, business, finances, and so on. Affirmations are believed to alter thoughts and actions as they attract what the user desires. Affirmations may be popular, but as I describe them, do you think they sound biblical? As you listen, can you see that they actually sound secular? A word like “attract” is more often a “New Age” term and should alert believers to beware. As we continue this episode, ask God to give you discernment as to whether you should be using affirmations. I’ll show you why I think He calls us to another source. Scripture is very clear that Christians don’t carry transformative power, except for that of the Holy Spirit alive within us. So why would we believe that speaking affirmations that are simply words and thoughts coming from human experiences, beliefs, and desires would be worth repeating in an effort to manifest change ? Jeremiah 17:9 says, “The heart is deceitful above all things, And desperately wicked; Who can know it ?” Romans 8:7 says, “The mind governed by the flesh is hostile to God; it does not submit to God’s law, nor can it do so .” Some proponents of speaking affirmations believe that using them “raises vibrations” or “channels abundance.” Again, this is stepping into New Age terminology and beliefs that are in opposition to God and His Word. Others in favor of using affirmations may believe they’re using positivity to create changes within themselves. They use the affirmations as visual reminders of their goals, prompts to remember goals, encouragement to get there, or inspiration to promote change. When you begin to use affirmations, you learn that there are guidelines – or rules as to how to correctly apply affirmations, such as when and how to use them. As followers of Christ, we have been set free of worldly rules of this type. In fact, we must remember that Scripture offers the best guide for creating desired changes in words, behavior, actions, and successes. You don’t need to chant or write words a certain number of times or get caught up in remembering to recite those affirmations daily. Users of affirmations insist they seem to work. I think the mind is pliable and feeds from the positivity and consistency. However, I also believe that affirmations pose a danger in swaying a person to rely on self instead of Savior . The Bible clearly warns believers against self-reliance. As users repeat the practice of claiming affirmations there is increasing reliance on self and decreasing dependance on God. That is not a safe place for any Christian. Let’s back up a bit and start as I often do by finding the meaning of the word affirm . The word is used “to state or assert positively .” Another definition is to “maintain a true .” Simply making a statement and believing it to be true isn’t as impactful or lasting as prayerful consideration of what God calls you to do - or relying on Him to shift your thoughts, actions, reactions, or circumstances. If you’re a user of affirmations, please don’t shut out what I am saying. Would you please prayerfully consider the message I am delivering? As believers, Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight .” Rely on God to “affirm” you, your future, and what you can or should do. Scripture is clear that you are instructed to take thoughts captive for Christ. In fact, 2 Corinthians 10:4-5 says, “The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ .” Scripture is both your offense and defense . We know from Scripture that the Holy Spirit is the source of the Word . 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work. ” You can trust God’s powerful, holy Word. Through it, you are equipped for every good work. Just what is a good work ? What you discern from following God through a maturing walk with Jesus and prayerful consideration of His voice and will . 2 Peter 1:20-21 says, “Above all, you must understand that no prophecy of Scripture came about by the prophet’s own interpretation of things. For prophecy never had its origin in the human will, but prophets, though human, spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit .” Scripture proves that not even prophets could trust self. They were merely humans who spoke from God as the Holy Spirit moved within them. The Holy Spirit, as the third person of the Trinity, is Truth , as God is Truth . The Holy Spirit always works in accordance with Scripture, never contradictory. Since the Word comes from the Source of the Holy Spirit it is the very breath and life of God. Spoken word (and breath) was used by God to create the world, the universe, you and me. Hebrews 11:3 says, “By faith we understand that the universe was formed at God's command, so that what is seen was not made out of what was visible .” What power comes from God and His word! In Ephesians 6:17 , we read, “Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God .” Using this image of the sword of the Spirit, we better understand that the strength we hold comes directly from God . As Ephesians speaks of the sword, remember that this is a deadly weapon used in war. The imagery used in this verse reminds us again of the mightiness of God and His Word. Proverbs 18:21a says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue .” Great good or destructive harm can be achieved through the tongue. When you speak affirmations you are choosing to affirm life or death. Anything not based on God’s truth is speaking death. Anything based on power of self over Savior carries deception and death. Do you remember Jesus’s reaction when confronted by Satan in the desert? Scripture was the weapon He used with strength and success . Jesus didn’t bargain with the devil or speak positive affirmations. He went straight to the source of wisdom and power. God’s Holy Word . The best defense you and I can employ in this world is to use Scripture as Jesus did. Our Savior didn’t need to fight or look to self. The Word did all He needed. Just as it does for you and me. Our offense is also the Word. As Scripture is used in preaching, coaching, and counseling we recognize power purposed by our sovereign and holy Heavenly Father as He prepares us to rely on His strength and skill. In a culture increasingly falling away from Christ, we must recognize and resist the pull to affirm self . Dare to deepen your faith and consistently proclaim God’s Word as the foundation of Truth on which to build your basis of identity, morality, or change. As you stand on the Word of God as foundational for your thoughts, dreams, and desires and speak His Words as truth over situations, Satan gains zero foothold over your mind, words, or actions. Instead, you move ever closer to the One who created you, defines you, and loves you with an everlasting source of love, hope, and truth. Seek more of Him and less of self, regardless of what this world may instruct. You will begin to recognize the dreams He planted deep within you when you were created. You will accomplish much more than you can imagine or hope for. How can we think that our words hold power to transform? It is nothing more than pride . Do you see the obedience and power in using God’s Word? When people rely on affirmations made by self , they fall victim to this verse from 2 Corinthians 4:4 which says, “The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers, so that they cannot see the light of the gospel that displays the glory of Christ, who is the image of God.” Instead believer, remember John 1:3 which says, “All things were made through Him, and without Him nothing was made that was made.” God is the expert on you. He knows the dreams built within you that you may not have even discovered yet. Build your walk with Him through Christ and seek His thoughts on what to affirm in your life through His holy Word, through prayer, and through relationship with Him. Allow Scripture, not affirmations, to be the force that rewires your brain pathways and changes your outlook, desires, and actions . Using Scripture is easy. Start with several verses from the Bible. Turn those lines into words you can use to affirm truth, power, and strength from God in your life. First, I’ll read the Scripture as it is in the Bible, then using inspiration from that verse, I’ll craft biblical affirmations of God’s truth as examples for you to use and to begin building additional statements for you to use. I love calling these Scripture Statements . 2 Corinthians 1:4 says, “Who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God .” Statement : God is my comforter through any tribulation. He gives me assurance and ability to comfort others in trouble using the comfort and strength He gives to me. 2 Corinthians 3:5 says, “Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God .” Statement: Through God I am competent to claim excellence. Psalm 116:1-2 says, “I love the Lord, because He has heard My voice and my supplications. Because He has inclined His ear to me, therefore I will call upon Him as long as I live. ” Statement: God hears every one of my prayers. Psalm 37:4 says, “Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart .” Statement: I delight in the Lord! He knows the true desires of my heart and will give me all I need. Psalm 46:1 says, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble .” Statement: God is my refuge and strength. Psalm 56:3 says, “When I am afraid, I put my trust in You .” Statement: I have no fear, because I trust in the Lord. Philippians 4:7 says, “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus .” Statement: God’s peace is far above my understanding, and He is the one guarding my heart and mind. Colossians 2:10 says, “And you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power.” Statement: I am complete in every way through God, the head of all principality and power. 2 Corinthians 12:10 says, “That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong .” Statement: Because of Christ, I delight in weaknesses and difficulties because my strength is complete in Him. Isaiah 43:18-19 says, “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland .” Statement: No matter my past, I am renewed through Christ! Through God, I have a new way of life and desires. Psalm 94:19 says, “In the multitude of my thoughts within me thy comforts delight my sou l.” Statement: God comforts and delights my heart and soul. 2 Corinthians 5:7 says, “For we live by faith, not by sight .” Statement: I don’t care what this world brings. I live by faith in the Lord, not by sight. Joshua 1:9 says, “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go .” Statement: I am strong and courageous because the Lord is with me wherever I go. Do you see the power God gives you through His Word and the Holy Spirit within you? Don’t disobediently rely on man-made words to attempt change in your life. Instead, seek God first and use the power He has gifted you in supernatural, holy ways. Dear Heavenly Father, how great You are! We praise You for giving us the gift of Your Holy Word and the strength and guidance You provide to us through it. Father, help us remember to rely on Scripture rather than self. Help us to call on our Savior over self. Help us have your discernment and wisdom. Enable us to discern with Your insight when we are moving away from You or following worldly methods. Bring us back to You and Your will and ways. Help us utilize Your Word as the foundation for our beliefs and identity. Help us craft change in our life because we rely on Scripture and call on Your mighty power. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. If you’re a working mom inside or outside the home and need an easy way to begin teaching your babies, toddlers, or preschoolers about Jesus, send me an email at info@terrihitt.com . I’m currently working on a devotional to bring your children to the feet of Jesus early. Let me know you’re interested, and I’ll let you know how to receive a copy. Also, you may have heard me talk about the Set-Apart Collective often in this podcast. Why do I share it so often? I know the program works. Through 8 weeks of one-on-one and group coaching, along with Scripturally-based materials I provide, you will complete 8 steps that include the following: Seek God First, Establish Identity, Teach Truth, A Set-Apart Woman, Parent Set-Apart Kids, Arm for Battle, Relationships, and Training. What you learn and solidify in your personal life will directly affect the way you serve God and parent for Him. It will help you construct godly confidence and esteem through Christ in your children. Whether you’re expecting or your kids are out of the house, I guarantee that the work you do in this collective will carry you closer to Christ and your children. If you’re ready to invest in the future of yourself and your children, contact me at info@terrihitt.com for more details or visit terrihitt.com/setapart. Because you are a podcast listener, let me know you heard about the special price I’m offering you. I seriously want you to experience results and live a set-apart life with a set-apart family. Instead of a $997 value, I’ll give you a discount code that enables you to pay only $247. If you are serious about parenting with eternal perspective and raising children to chase Christ over culture, I’m making this very affordable and easy to do. Why? Because supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. Godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. That’s why I’ve created the Set-Apart Collective. If you’ve decided peers and culture won’t be the main influence over your child and you desire to parent to prepare your child for eternity with Christ, the Set-Apart Collective, will deepen your walk with Christ. You’ll learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family. The Set-Apart Collective is open now. Please send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information or look online at terrihitt.com/setapart. We can also set up a 15 minute call to see whether it would be a good fit for you. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. If you connected in some way with this episode, it only takes a minute to leave a rating and review. I’m asking you to please do that. It makes it easier for others to find the podcast. Since you and I know that the most trusted recommendations are by word of mouth, would you please choose a friend to recommend the show to? Let them know that the podcast is found at terrihitt.com, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify. Imagine the change we will see in the way mothers parent for Christ if they learn to be intentional, too. Remember, if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection. 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< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 102 - How To Go From Never Enough Time to More Than Enough - Interview with Lissa Figgins Welcome to the Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 102 – How to Go From Never Enough Time to More Than Enough – Interview with Lissa Figgins, Christian Time Stewardship Coach Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray the podcast gives you the awareness and the tools you need to equip you to STOP being a GOOD mom and BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you will be the SET-APART woman who PURPOSELY raises children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child episodes, would you please share this episode (or others) with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, then leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast and are helping affect generations for Jesus. INTRO My guest today is such a timely gift - pun intended. If you wear busy like a badge, this conversation with Lissa Figgins will help you redeem your time and learn to steward it in a way that honors your family and Christ. Today Lissa teaches us how time management is a myth and shares tips to move you from never enough time to more than enough. While the world is running around trying to manage time, as Christians we are called to steward it. Lissa Figgins, Christian Time Stewardship Coach and host of the “REDEEM Her Time” Podcast, is on mission to shift the way busy midlife entrepreneurs approach time so they can finally stop chasing a clock (and their to-do list). After 25 years of leading, teaching, and coaching Christian women, Lissa discovered WHY women feel like ‘there’s never enough time’- even after organizing their tasks & time-blocking their day: Because the problem is NOT a disordered calendar…it’s a disordered heart. In this season of midlife, Lissa invests her time in what matters most - a deepening faith-walk, an empty-nest family, intentional friendships, a growing business, generous giving, kindled passions, a welcoming home…She even has time for taking care of herself & prioritizing rest! And more than anything she loves helping busy women discover… YOU. HAVE. TIME. ______________________________INTERVIEW____________________________ (The complete interview transcript is available in the how notes on Apple Podcast.) OUTRO What a wonderful conversation with Lissa. I’m sure you found at least one insightful tip to help you redeem time in your life and home. If you’d like more information, please be sure to visit Lissa’s website where you may also grab a copy of her “Fill Your Cup First” Guide. All the info on how to connect will be in the show notes. Dear Heavenly Father, we come before You in awe of Your glory and goodness. Thank you for Your loving mercies for us. Time is such a gift from You that is so easily taken for granted. You graciously give us abundance and we just want more. Please allow the words we shared in this podcast today to reach our hearts in new ways. Equip us to seek You first with the time we are allotted each day, and help us envision what we have with an eternal perspective that leads us first to Your feet and heart, then to see what is important through Your eyes and desires. Help us to be redeemed in and with Your time. We thank you for all You give us. Help us to instruct and mentor time stewardship in our lives, actions, and words so that our children learn the way to have more than enough time for You and the purposes You have created them for. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Raising children is challenging. No one has all the answers because each child is unique as are parenting styles and family dynamics. By connecting with and knowing your children as you maintain purposed growth in Christ, you will be better prepared for any situation you face. That’s why you hear me share about the Set-Apart Collective in this podcast. I work with professionals who care about making Jesus known to their children. Are you a high-achieving woman who loves Jesus, but is so busy with the rush of work and daily life that you feel like you’re being drained like the water in your bathtub? Do you yearn to get closer to Jesus and show Him to your kids so you will create a love that will last into eternity? The desire is there, but your days spiral out of control before you even think about opening your Bible. Do you ever stop to think that you are the first Jesus your child will see? Let me remind you there is hope. There is a way you can be equipped to raise kids who chase Christ over culture. If you want a connected relationship with Christ and your children that leads them to your side and His feet, instead of them seeking validation from peers, I have an 8-step program to move you from frustrated to fulfilled. I will show you how to reflect Jesus in a way that attracts your family to a connected relationship that lasts into eternity. Remember, godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset you carry. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will arm you with a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You’ll also deepen your identity in Christ so you can mentor the way for your children to do the same. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family and you will have the tools to raise set apart kids as you parent the heart, not simply the behavior. Does this sound like a lifeline to help you be that set-apart mom God has entrusted you to be? Visit terrihitt.com/coaching and click the link for a free, no obligation conversation call with me. This is a strategic call where I will hear your biggest struggle and show you how to turn it into a blessing that will bring you closer to Christ and your children. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. One last thing to remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. To connect with Lissa: Lissa’s Website: https://redeemhertime.com Lissa’s “Fill Your Cup First Guide”: https://redeemhertime.com/fill FREE “Redeem Your Time Masterclass”: https://redeemhertime.com/masterclass GUESS WHAT? – Lissa’s REDEEM Her Time Planner launches November 12, 2024! But it’s NOT just another planner. It’s a planner + a personal coach that will daily remind you of the truth: YOU. HAVE. TIME. This tool will help you stop MANAGING TIME as a limited resource and start STEWARDING TIME as an abundant gift. Check it out at https://redeemhertime.com/planner Previous Next

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #119 – Conquer Overwhelm Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. What a month we’ve had at our house! Do you ever feel like no matter what you do, you can’t get ahead or things keep happening to throw your plans off-balance?? Maybe you can’t stay on schedule due to unexpected events. Perhaps your family has been through bouts of sickness. Or maybe you’re just tired from the various demands life brings. No matter the reason, I believe it’s sometimes easy to be discouraged, frustrated, or simply overwhelmed by life. We are traveling through a season of what I will just call, “too much” right now. So much going on and way too little sleep!! It’s not even that we’re overscheduled, although we are busy. Life simply happens whether or not we’re ready, and sometimes that means things pop up that demand our attention or that stop the plans already made as we’re forced to shift focus. For example, a few days ago I was washing dishes. We’ve had some illness in our home recently and I always double wash dishes the sick person has used. It usually takes about two weeks of extra washing before I’m convinced that the person is fully well and they aren’t contagious anymore. Right after I finished our two weeks recently, someone else got sick with another virus. Already weary from the first bout of illness, I was not enjoying double-washing dishes. As I thought about what a pain it was and how tired I was of doing it, I felt the Lord whisper to my spirit, “Don’t do this work because you have to keep people from getting sick. Do the work because you love the person you’re serving for Me.” If you want to conquer overwhelm, master your perspective. Release it to God and view your situation through His eternal viewpoint. Galatians 6:9 says, “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Sometimes it feels impossible to complete a difficult task. It often feels impossible to release a stronghold in your life. Sometimes it feels like you can’t even make it through the day when one thing after feels like an attack formed against you. Everything builds up to form overwhelm. When this happens, stop to remember that feelings are just emotions. Emotions have no power unless you allow them to. Emotions are feelings that rise up within us to create strong sentiments. Sentiments reflect our attitude toward something, and our attitude can quickly cause anxiety. Unless we purposely take emotions, feelings, sentiments, or attitude captive and release them to the Lord, deceptive feelings easily and quickly morph into overwhelm. 1 Peter 5:7 says, “Cast all your anxiety on him because He cares for you.” No matter what situation or burden you are facing, know through the model Jesus set for each of us that you can submit your struggles to Him through prayer. I want to be clear on this point. Simply muttering a prayer, hoping that God hears it and changes everything so you can get back to your normal schedule isn’t what I mean. Nothing that has lasting value in our walk with Christ will come easily. It is only through release of self and purposed humility focused on growing our personal relationship with Christ that true change occurs. Standing freely in the grace of God and allowing Him to carry burdens takes determination and release of fleshly will. Jesus is our perfect example of a humble, obedient spirit releasing self. As Jesus turned to the Father through prayer, He also used the power of God’s word. Through prayer and scripture, we see Jesus model the way we are to come to God and offer self, thus truly trusting Him to do the work needed. With our selfish, limited vision we hope He changes our circumstances, making the day easier or more tolerable. Through the beauty of the gospel, however, we learn that submission brings glory to God. In His goodness, our Heavenly Father allows us to be cleansed and transformed through trials and daily occurrences. Instead of easily changing our day, God purposes to take our burdens and turn them into blessings that move us closer to Him and make us more like Him – even when we don’t think it feels good or comfortable. Even when life feels incredibly overwhelming. Jeremiah 1:19 says, “They will fight against you but will not overcome you, for I am with you and will rescue you,” declares the Lord.” God’s truth makes the difference. When we rely on the legitimacy of God’s word to steady us, we understand that He is truthful; He is faithful. Walking closely with the Lord will prevent much of overwhelm. When we recognize that life is coming too fast or that we have lost peace, or we may not be feeling presence with God, it’s especially important to remember to react in those moments preceding great overwhelm. What we do before overwhelm washes over us like a flood sets the tone for our attitude. Attitude will determine our thoughts and actions or reactions. When overwhelm or agitation begins to creep into your spirit, stop to identify what is happening to cause the feelings or attitude you are experiencing. Remember the truth of your situation. It’s easy to get sucked into deceitful feelings and lies about our life and surroundings or events. Fear, trials, illness, lack of rest, new situations, and much more can work against us to create overwhelm. Isaiah 40:28-31 says, “Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary; His understanding is beyond searching out. He gives power to the faint and increases the strength of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall. But those who wait upon the Lord will renew their strength; they will mount up with wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not faint.” God is sufficient. He has the desire and the holy, sovereign ability to carry your burdens, while strengthening you in Him as He does. Everything in our life, small or large, is meant to be evaluated and purposed for His glory. The imperfections of our day or relationships, the scary emergencies or illnesses, the interruptions that frustrate or delay, and the strongholds that threaten to cripple or disable us are each allowed to bring forth the fruit of Christ in our life. They are allowed or purposed to bring us to our knees in front of a Holy God who loves us with an everlasting love and deeply desires that we rest in Him and rely on Him to carry us through the fires of life. Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” When we bring our burdens, overwhelm, or anxiety to the Lord, especially when we first notice it begin to take shape in our heart or mind, we grasp the perfect peace only God offers. God, the Author of peace carries it to us through the Holy Spirit within us. Through His presence, comfort, and protection, we are made new – and so is our attitude as He captures and rids us of overwhelm. Sometimes His help is instant. At other times, we may have been struggling to carry a sin or burden for too long on our own and it will take time to shed the fake covering we used to protect or hide us. Keep your eyes and mind focused on Christ, the true guide out of the confusion and chaos of overwhelm. Psalm 119:114 says, “You are my hiding place and my shield; I put my hope in Your word.” Through the Lord, we have a true hiding place, a strong and mighty shield to cover us despite whatever is happening in our life. How often do you trust God, accept His offer to find comfort and protection under His wing, to hide in His care? One of the reasons we put our hope in Him is because His word is true, it is powerful, it is alive. Psalm 119:105 says, “Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.” Because we have the light of Jesus and the word of God to illuminate our way, we can count on Him to shine His truths and peace into the dark corners of our world. No matter our obstacle, no matter the amount of overwhelm that creeps into our life, God is present and able to erase it and fill us with His peace that passes understanding. Through relying on Him and trusting that God will take captive of overwhelm before it becomes anxiety, we learn that: 1. God is present. 2. God is able to set us on a steady path. 3. God will allow us to learn faithfulness and provisions. 4. God will work through us to set us apart as a witness to others that He is competent. 5. God sees and hears us. 6. God cares about every detail. 7. God is our Mighty Rescuer. As you feel the spirit of overwhelm threaten to take over, I have 4 suggestions that may help. 1. Take a break from what you are doing (even when it feels like you can’t). 2. Focus on one thing at a time. 3. Voice how you feel (sometimes it helps to talk aloud to yourself and let the frustration out so you can focus clearly without emotional deceit). 4. Turn to God through prayer and/or scripture reading. The healing power of God never fails when our spirit humbly turns to Him. Dear Heavenly Father, how great Thou art! Father, thank you for Your goodness to us, despite the way we fail to grasp the love and guidance You have for us every moment, the peace You offer freely. Help us to delight in Your law day and night, and to be like a tree firmly planted by streams of water, which yields fruit in its season and its leaf does not wither. Father, enable us, to create such strong relationships with You that we don’t worry about life, what we will eat or drink; or about the burdens that assault from every angle. Help us to see the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet You provide for them. May we remember the provisions You offer that bring us eternal life, the only thing that matters. Search us, God, and know our heart; test us and know our anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in us, and lead us in the way everlasting, for we know Your grace is sufficient, Your power is made perfect in our weakness. May we allow Your work to be done and see the beauty of the masterpiece as You create it within us. May we allow the power of Christ to rest within us. May we carry the attitude that delights in weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and difficulties. For when we are weak, then we are strong in and through You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. You may find them on the terrihitt.com website. Click on podcasts and type in the topic or title you wish to hear in the search bar at the top of the page. I can suggest three episodes that tie to the topic we discussed today. Episode 82, “Peace That Guards,” Episode 84, “No Worry,” and Episode 2, “Protecting Our Thoughts.” Have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen, follow it, and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 119 - Conquer Overwhelm Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #119 – Conquer Overwhelm Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. What a month we’ve had at our house! Do you ever feel like no matter what you do, you can’t get ahead or things keep happening to throw your plans off-balance?? Maybe you can’t stay on schedule due to unexpected events. Perhaps your family has been through bouts of sickness. Or maybe you’re just tired from the various demands life brings. No matter the reason, I believe it’s sometimes easy to be discouraged, frustrated, or simply overwhelmed by life. We are traveling through a season of what I will just call, “too much” right now. So much going on and way too little sleep!! It’s not even that we’re overscheduled, although we are busy. Life simply happens whether or not we’re ready, and sometimes that means things pop up that demand our attention or that stop the plans already made as we’re forced to shift focus. For example, a few days ago I was washing dishes. We’ve had some illness in our home recently and I always double wash dishes the sick person has used. It usually takes about two weeks of extra washing before I’m convinced that the person is fully well and they aren’t contagious anymore. Right after I finished our two weeks recently, someone else got sick with another virus. Already weary from the first bout of illness, I was not enjoying double-washing dishes. As I thought about what a pain it was and how tired I was of doing it, I felt the Lord whisper to my spirit, “Don’t do this work because you have to keep people from getting sick. Do the work because you love the person you’re serving for Me.” If you want to conquer overwhelm, master your perspective. Release it to God and view your situation through His eternal viewpoint. Galatians 6:9 says, “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Sometimes it feels impossible to complete a difficult task. It often feels impossible to release a stronghold in your life. Sometimes it feels like you can’t even make it through the day when one thing after feels like an attack formed against you. Everything builds up to form overwhelm. When this happens, stop to remember that feelings are just emotions. Emotions have no power unless you allow them to. Emotions are feelings that rise up within us to create strong sentiments. Sentiments reflect our attitude toward something, and our attitude can quickly cause anxiety. Unless we purposely take emotions, feelings, sentiments, or attitude captive and release them to the Lord, deceptive feelings easily and quickly morph into overwhelm. 1 Peter 5:7 says, “Cast all your anxiety on him because He cares for you.” No matter what situation or burden you are facing, know through the model Jesus set for each of us that you can submit your struggles to Him through prayer. I want to be clear on this point. Simply muttering a prayer, hoping that God hears it and changes everything so you can get back to your normal schedule isn’t what I mean. Nothing that has lasting value in our walk with Christ will come easily. It is only through release of self and purposed humility focused on growing our personal relationship with Christ that true change occurs. Standing freely in the grace of God and allowing Him to carry burdens takes determination and release of fleshly will. Jesus is our perfect example of a humble, obedient spirit releasing self. As Jesus turned to the Father through prayer, He also used the power of God’s word. Through prayer and scripture, we see Jesus model the way we are to come to God and offer self, thus truly trusting Him to do the work needed. With our selfish, limited vision we hope He changes our circumstances, making the day easier or more tolerable. Through the beauty of the gospel, however, we learn that submission brings glory to God. In His goodness, our Heavenly Father allows us to be cleansed and transformed through trials and daily occurrences. Instead of easily changing our day, God purposes to take our burdens and turn them into blessings that move us closer to Him and make us more like Him – even when we don’t think it feels good or comfortable. Even when life feels incredibly overwhelming. Jeremiah 1:19 says, “They will fight against you but will not overcome you, for I am with you and will rescue you,” declares the Lord.” God’s truth makes the difference. When we rely on the legitimacy of God’s word to steady us, we understand that He is truthful; He is faithful. Walking closely with the Lord will prevent much of overwhelm. When we recognize that life is coming too fast or that we have lost peace, or we may not be feeling presence with God, it’s especially important to remember to react in those moments preceding great overwhelm. What we do before overwhelm washes over us like a flood sets the tone for our attitude. Attitude will determine our thoughts and actions or reactions. When overwhelm or agitation begins to creep into your spirit, stop to identify what is happening to cause the feelings or attitude you are experiencing. Remember the truth of your situation. It’s easy to get sucked into deceitful feelings and lies about our life and surroundings or events. Fear, trials, illness, lack of rest, new situations, and much more can work against us to create overwhelm. Isaiah 40:28-31 says, “Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary; His understanding is beyond searching out. He gives power to the faint and increases the strength of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall. But those who wait upon the Lord will renew their strength; they will mount up with wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not faint.” God is sufficient. He has the desire and the holy, sovereign ability to carry your burdens, while strengthening you in Him as He does. Everything in our life, small or large, is meant to be evaluated and purposed for His glory. The imperfections of our day or relationships, the scary emergencies or illnesses, the interruptions that frustrate or delay, and the strongholds that threaten to cripple or disable us are each allowed to bring forth the fruit of Christ in our life. They are allowed or purposed to bring us to our knees in front of a Holy God who loves us with an everlasting love and deeply desires that we rest in Him and rely on Him to carry us through the fires of life. Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” When we bring our burdens, overwhelm, or anxiety to the Lord, especially when we first notice it begin to take shape in our heart or mind, we grasp the perfect peace only God offers. God, the Author of peace carries it to us through the Holy Spirit within us. Through His presence, comfort, and protection, we are made new – and so is our attitude as He captures and rids us of overwhelm. Sometimes His help is instant. At other times, we may have been struggling to carry a sin or burden for too long on our own and it will take time to shed the fake covering we used to protect or hide us. Keep your eyes and mind focused on Christ, the true guide out of the confusion and chaos of overwhelm. Psalm 119:114 says, “You are my hiding place and my shield; I put my hope in Your word.” Through the Lord, we have a true hiding place, a strong and mighty shield to cover us despite whatever is happening in our life. How often do you trust God, accept His offer to find comfort and protection under His wing, to hide in His care? One of the reasons we put our hope in Him is because His word is true, it is powerful, it is alive. Psalm 119:105 says, “Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.” Because we have the light of Jesus and the word of God to illuminate our way, we can count on Him to shine His truths and peace into the dark corners of our world. No matter our obstacle, no matter the amount of overwhelm that creeps into our life, God is present and able to erase it and fill us with His peace that passes understanding. Through relying on Him and trusting that God will take captive of overwhelm before it becomes anxiety, we learn that: 1. God is present. 2. God is able to set us on a steady path. 3. God will allow us to learn faithfulness and provisions. 4. God will work through us to set us apart as a witness to others that He is competent. 5. God sees and hears us. 6. God cares about every detail. 7. God is our Mighty Rescuer. As you feel the spirit of overwhelm threaten to take over, I have 4 suggestions that may help. 1. Take a break from what you are doing (even when it feels like you can’t). 2. Focus on one thing at a time. 3. Voice how you feel (sometimes it helps to talk aloud to yourself and let the frustration out so you can focus clearly without emotional deceit). 4. Turn to God through prayer and/or scripture reading. The healing power of God never fails when our spirit humbly turns to Him. Dear Heavenly Father, how great Thou art! Father, thank you for Your goodness to us, despite the way we fail to grasp the love and guidance You have for us every moment, the peace You offer freely. Help us to delight in Your law day and night, and to be like a tree firmly planted by streams of water, which yields fruit in its season and its leaf does not wither. Father, enable us, to create such strong relationships with You that we don’t worry about life, what we will eat or drink; or about the burdens that assault from every angle. Help us to see the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet You provide for them. May we remember the provisions You offer that bring us eternal life, the only thing that matters. Search us, God, and know our heart; test us and know our anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in us, and lead us in the way everlasting, for we know Your grace is sufficient, Your power is made perfect in our weakness. May we allow Your work to be done and see the beauty of the masterpiece as You create it within us. May we allow the power of Christ to rest within us. May we carry the attitude that delights in weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and difficulties. For when we are weak, then we are strong in and through You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. You may find them on the terrihitt.com website. Click on podcasts and type in the topic or title you wish to hear in the search bar at the top of the page. I can suggest three episodes that tie to the topic we discussed today. Episode 82, “Peace That Guards,” Episode 84, “No Worry,” and Episode 2, “Protecting Our Thoughts.” Have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen, follow it, and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #029 Obedience Through His Word Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. One of the greatest joys in my life is finding ways to obey the Lord. Sometimes it takes patience and prayer. Other times God makes what am to do very clear immediately. Waiting and listening are part of obeying His call and direction for us. At the end of January, 2020, I began producing the podcasts I prepared as my step of obedience to the Lord. I knew that He was calling me to allow Him to work through me in a way unique and special for the interests He placed in my heart. I inderstood that He wanted to work through me to reach more people with His word and truths. What a joy and blessing this has been in not only my life, but in the life of my family as well. My husband and I, as well as my children, have grown even more in the Lord and drawn closer to each other. My husband helps me with the podcast by editing and uploading each one. We've all grown together in and through God by my obedience to Him. All we do for God affects those around us. It definitely takes time and dedication each week to prayerfully consider what God is speaking and to write and produce each episode. While the work is a deep and joyful blessing, and I continue to walk in obedience by allowing my Heavenly Father to work through me, I must also carefully prioritize my daily life activities to place Him first, while still placing my husband and children next. It takes much time and effort. As fall is approaching, school will be back in session and there are things I need to prepare for. Homeschool is a lifestyle for us, which could be another podcast topic. In fact, if you are interested in hearing more about that, please let me know. As I pondered how to create more time to prepare for the upcoming school year and get a little extra housework done completed before the new academic year starts, I prayed about taking a hiatus for a few weeks. God whispered to my spirit that He did not want me to create a break time, but to use the time to read His word to listeners. So, for the next several weeks I will not create new messages, but will be reading the best messages the world has ever had the opportunity to read. I pray that you will be blessed by God's word and encourged to study the Bible even more on your own. I will egin where I find my hope and passion for life and all I do - the book of John. I believe it is the heart of the Bible. I hope it stirs your heart for love and obedience to Him. John 12:1-8 "Then, six days before the Passover, Jesus came to Bethany, where Lazarus was who had been dead, whom He had raised from the dead. There they made Him a supper; and Martha served, but Lazarus was one of those who sat at the table with Him. Then Mary took a pound of very costly oil of spikenard, anointed the feet of Jesus, and wiped His feet with her hair. And the house was filled with the fragrance of the oil. But one of His disciples, Judas Iscariot, Simon’s son, who would betray Him, said, “Why was this fragrant oil not sold for three hundred denarii and given to the poor?” This he said, not that he cared for the poor, but because he was a thief, and had the money box; and he used to take what was put in it. But Jesus said, “Let her alone; she has kept this for the day of My burial. For the poor you have with you always, but Me you do not have always.” To me, these verses are so beautiful. I have always loved the book of John. Each chapter is just so special. Let's look a little bit deeper at some of the verses in this passage. As we speak about Mary and Martha, the sisters of Lazarus, we need to remember that Jesus had raised their brother from the dead. So, it shouldn't really be a shock to us that his sisters want to hold a dinner in honor of Jesus. You know, whenever God works through us, when we're saved through Jesus Christ, He is bringing something back that was dead, just like He did with Lazarus. He's made us a new person. We have a new life. When we're following Him in the right way and we live with that realization, the natural response is a desire to show Him love, appreciation, thankfulness, and honor with our life. The oil that was used here by Mary, was very expensive. It was nearly an entire year's earnings. Of course, Judas saw this as a waste. But Jesus could see into the heart of Mary. He knew that for Mary, this was worship. I find it really interesting also in this passage that the disciples must have really trusted Judas. He was handling money. We all know that if we trust someone with our money, it means we truly trust them. Here in this passage of 12:6, John is showing the real nature of Judas, that he was a thief, but he is also showing his heart intent because when Judas talks about the cost of the oil, and how it should have been given to the poor instead of being spent on the oil, Jesus knew His true heart, He knew his true intentions and thoughts behind those words. Judas's words sounded very noble, yet it shows that each one of us has the capacity to say things, to give religious sounding reasons that would justify actions that don't have the true intent or purpose that Jesus would have us to have. It shows how selfish we are and can be, When Jesus talks about in 12:8 how there's a constant presence of poor, he's not showing that he's heartless. We know Jesus isn't heartless. He's not saying they should be ignored, but just the fact that they're always there, but He will not always be there. If we look at Deuteronomy 15:11, as a cross-reference here, "for the poor will never cease from the land, therefore I command you, saying "You shall open your hand wide to your brother, to your poor, and your needy in your land. " We see that Jesus does indeed care about the plight of the poor. The last thing that I want to point out with this beautiful passage is something that should strike a chord for all of us. It should infuse the heart of a servant, it should inspire us to do more for Jesus. If we look at Mary, the one who poured the fragrances of Jesus's feet, and wiped His feet with her hair, we see that Mary was humble. She was teachable. She wanted to be more occupied with Christ than to be occupied for Him. It should inspire each of us to stop, to take a look at our lives. Are we just occupied for Christ? Just taking part in activities and "doing" things for Him? Just as Martha was always so busy doing things for Him? Or are we more occupied, more obsessed with knowing Jesus? In loving Him? In obeying Him? In being with Him and spending time with Him? We learn that in Hebrew, sitting at someone's feet means to learn from that person, to submit to their authority and teaching, and ways of life. That's what Mary was doing here as she showed love for Jesus. She put herself at His feet. I mean, my goodness. Can you imagine using your most expensive fragrance that would cost a year's worth of wages, pouring it on His feet, and wiping your hair across His feet. I mean. I know I love Jesus, but I hope I could do that. I hope I could do that if He walked into my home right now. If we look at Mary's example of spending time at Jesus's feet, we begin to worship Him with a heart that is more loving, and kind, and obedient. One that seeks Him. Can you imagine taking your clean hair and using it to clean the dirtiest part of Jesus? Back then feet were pretty dirty. But she loved Jesus so much. He had brought her brother back to life. He had done many things in their life. But instead of using her perfume for the burial that she had been saving for Jesus, she worshipped Him in true devotion. This showed a true submission to Him and a love for Him. As we each go out through the week, let us remember this, not to worship Mary or to put her on a pedestal. She was human, just like the rest of us, but to look at the heart that she used, to use that as a symbol is our own life to remind us, to spur us on, to develop our own sacrificial love and obedient love, and humble love, and servant heart love for Jesus. Dear Lord, may we follow You so closely and strive to know You so well that we would pour our most expensive item, possession across Your feet so that we can get a better glimpse into Your heart. So that we can get a better awareness of You and follow You more closely, Lord, with our whole heart. Help us, Lord, each day, to know You better, to show You more clearly, and to bind our heart to Yours so that You are so evident to all. God, I pray that each one of us can be a light to inspire others to follow You. In Your precious name we pray. Did you enjoy this episode? I hope you did. Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and to learn how to live with more eternal perspective? Right now, because this podcast is new, listeners can't find it, unless they specifically know the name to search for. You can help them by leaving a quick review and a rating for the show, and by sharing about the show on social media or by word of mouth. Can you think of a friend or family member who might wnjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them. Help them to find it. Help them to tune in. Until next week, keep looking Up and finding new ways to live with eternal perspective. Keep sharing your stories with me. I love to hear them. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 029 Obedience Through His Word Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #029 Obedience Through His Word Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. One of the greatest joys in my life is finding ways to obey the Lord. Sometimes it takes patience and prayer. Other times God makes what am to do very clear immediately. Waiting and listening are part of obeying His call and direction for us. At the end of January, 2020, I began producing the podcasts I prepared as my step of obedience to the Lord. I knew that He was calling me to allow Him to work through me in a way unique and special for the interests He placed in my heart. I inderstood that He wanted to work through me to reach more people with His word and truths. What a joy and blessing this has been in not only my life, but in the life of my family as well. My husband and I, as well as my children, have grown even more in the Lord and drawn closer to each other. My husband helps me with the podcast by editing and uploading each one. We've all grown together in and through God by my obedience to Him. All we do for God affects those around us. It definitely takes time and dedication each week to prayerfully consider what God is speaking and to write and produce each episode. While the work is a deep and joyful blessing, and I continue to walk in obedience by allowing my Heavenly Father to work through me, I must also carefully prioritize my daily life activities to place Him first, while still placing my husband and children next. It takes much time and effort. As fall is approaching, school will be back in session and there are things I need to prepare for. Homeschool is a lifestyle for us, which could be another podcast topic. In fact, if you are interested in hearing more about that, please let me know. As I pondered how to create more time to prepare for the upcoming school year and get a little extra housework done completed before the new academic year starts, I prayed about taking a hiatus for a few weeks. God whispered to my spirit that He did not want me to create a break time, but to use the time to read His word to listeners. So, for the next several weeks I will not create new messages, but will be reading the best messages the world has ever had the opportunity to read. I pray that you will be blessed by God's word and encourged to study the Bible even more on your own. I will egin where I find my hope and passion for life and all I do - the book of John. I believe it is the heart of the Bible. I hope it stirs your heart for love and obedience to Him. John 12:1-8 "Then, six days before the Passover, Jesus came to Bethany, where Lazarus was who had been dead, whom He had raised from the dead. There they made Him a supper; and Martha served, but Lazarus was one of those who sat at the table with Him. Then Mary took a pound of very costly oil of spikenard, anointed the feet of Jesus, and wiped His feet with her hair. And the house was filled with the fragrance of the oil. But one of His disciples, Judas Iscariot, Simon’s son, who would betray Him, said, “Why was this fragrant oil not sold for three hundred denarii and given to the poor?” This he said, not that he cared for the poor, but because he was a thief, and had the money box; and he used to take what was put in it. But Jesus said, “Let her alone; she has kept this for the day of My burial. For the poor you have with you always, but Me you do not have always.” To me, these verses are so beautiful. I have always loved the book of John. Each chapter is just so special. Let's look a little bit deeper at some of the verses in this passage. As we speak about Mary and Martha, the sisters of Lazarus, we need to remember that Jesus had raised their brother from the dead. So, it shouldn't really be a shock to us that his sisters want to hold a dinner in honor of Jesus. You know, whenever God works through us, when we're saved through Jesus Christ, He is bringing something back that was dead, just like He did with Lazarus. He's made us a new person. We have a new life. When we're following Him in the right way and we live with that realization, the natural response is a desire to show Him love, appreciation, thankfulness, and honor with our life. The oil that was used here by Mary, was very expensive. It was nearly an entire year's earnings. Of course, Judas saw this as a waste. But Jesus could see into the heart of Mary. He knew that for Mary, this was worship. I find it really interesting also in this passage that the disciples must have really trusted Judas. He was handling money. We all know that if we trust someone with our money, it means we truly trust them. Here in this passage of 12:6, John is showing the real nature of Judas, that he was a thief, but he is also showing his heart intent because when Judas talks about the cost of the oil, and how it should have been given to the poor instead of being spent on the oil, Jesus knew His true heart, He knew his true intentions and thoughts behind those words. Judas's words sounded very noble, yet it shows that each one of us has the capacity to say things, to give religious sounding reasons that would justify actions that don't have the true intent or purpose that Jesus would have us to have. It shows how selfish we are and can be, When Jesus talks about in 12:8 how there's a constant presence of poor, he's not showing that he's heartless. We know Jesus isn't heartless. He's not saying they should be ignored, but just the fact that they're always there, but He will not always be there. If we look at Deuteronomy 15:11, as a cross-reference here, "for the poor will never cease from the land, therefore I command you, saying "You shall open your hand wide to your brother, to your poor, and your needy in your land. " We see that Jesus does indeed care about the plight of the poor. The last thing that I want to point out with this beautiful passage is something that should strike a chord for all of us. It should infuse the heart of a servant, it should inspire us to do more for Jesus. If we look at Mary, the one who poured the fragrances of Jesus's feet, and wiped His feet with her hair, we see that Mary was humble. She was teachable. She wanted to be more occupied with Christ than to be occupied for Him. It should inspire each of us to stop, to take a look at our lives. Are we just occupied for Christ? Just taking part in activities and "doing" things for Him? Just as Martha was always so busy doing things for Him? Or are we more occupied, more obsessed with knowing Jesus? In loving Him? In obeying Him? In being with Him and spending time with Him? We learn that in Hebrew, sitting at someone's feet means to learn from that person, to submit to their authority and teaching, and ways of life. That's what Mary was doing here as she showed love for Jesus. She put herself at His feet. I mean, my goodness. Can you imagine using your most expensive fragrance that would cost a year's worth of wages, pouring it on His feet, and wiping your hair across His feet. I mean. I know I love Jesus, but I hope I could do that. I hope I could do that if He walked into my home right now. If we look at Mary's example of spending time at Jesus's feet, we begin to worship Him with a heart that is more loving, and kind, and obedient. One that seeks Him. Can you imagine taking your clean hair and using it to clean the dirtiest part of Jesus? Back then feet were pretty dirty. But she loved Jesus so much. He had brought her brother back to life. He had done many things in their life. But instead of using her perfume for the burial that she had been saving for Jesus, she worshipped Him in true devotion. This showed a true submission to Him and a love for Him. As we each go out through the week, let us remember this, not to worship Mary or to put her on a pedestal. She was human, just like the rest of us, but to look at the heart that she used, to use that as a symbol is our own life to remind us, to spur us on, to develop our own sacrificial love and obedient love, and humble love, and servant heart love for Jesus. Dear Lord, may we follow You so closely and strive to know You so well that we would pour our most expensive item, possession across Your feet so that we can get a better glimpse into Your heart. So that we can get a better awareness of You and follow You more closely, Lord, with our whole heart. Help us, Lord, each day, to know You better, to show You more clearly, and to bind our heart to Yours so that You are so evident to all. God, I pray that each one of us can be a light to inspire others to follow You. In Your precious name we pray. Did you enjoy this episode? I hope you did. Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and to learn how to live with more eternal perspective? Right now, because this podcast is new, listeners can't find it, unless they specifically know the name to search for. You can help them by leaving a quick review and a rating for the show, and by sharing about the show on social media or by word of mouth. Can you think of a friend or family member who might wnjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them. Help them to find it. Help them to tune in. Until next week, keep looking Up and finding new ways to live with eternal perspective. Keep sharing your stories with me. I love to hear them.

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Please read this Policy carefully before using this website. This website is owned and operated by a Kansas company (hereafter “Our,” “We,” “Us,” or “Company”). Our principal place of business is located in Shawnee, Kansas. Our mailing address is: P.O. Box 16023 Shawnee, KS 66203 For any privacy-related questions, you can reach Us at: info@melaneandco.com . General We at Terri Hitt Co. LLC respect Your privacy. This Privacy Policy is designed to explain how We collect, use, share, and protect the personal information You provide to Us when You access Our website, purchase Our goods or services, or engage with Us on social media, as well as Your own rights to the information We collect. Please read this Privacy Policy carefully. We may change Our Privacy Policy from time to time, and at Our sole discretion. We will alert You to any changes to this Policy by changing the “last updated” date at the top of this Policy and/or via email notification. 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By consenting to this Privacy Policy, You acknowledge that Your personal data may be available, via the internet, around the world. We cannot prevent the use or misuse of Your data by other parties. In the unlikely event customer data has been lost, stolen, or potentially compromised, Our practice is to alert Our customers via email no later than 72 hours after Our Company becomes aware of the event. We will also report such incidents to any required data protection authority. We will work closely with any customers affected to determine next steps such as any end-user notifications, needed patches, and how to avoid any similar event in the future. Notice to California Residents[TLP9] Residents of California may have certain rights regarding Your personal information under the California Privacy Rights Act (CPRA) and the California Consumer Privacy Act (CCPA). If applicable, Company will provide You with the categories of personally identifiable information that is collected through this website and the categories of third-party entities with whom such personal information may be used at Your request. California law allows You to control who We can and cannot share your personal information with. To obtain any information You are entitled to under California law, please send a request by email to: info@terrihitt.com . There is no charge for requesting this information from Company. International Privacy and GDPR Disclaimer This website’s servers are located within the United States. Thus, if You are visiting this website from outside the United States, You agree that You are sending information to the United States. If you are a member of the EU, Your data is protected by appropriate safeguards, namely the EU-US Privacy Shield and GDPR. We are dedicated to remaining compliant with GDPR regulations when it comes to individuals it applies to. We will not track, sell, or otherwise use Your information unless You have opted-in to do so. You have the right to object to the processing of Your data at any time. Your information will not be shared with any third-parties in the EU. Your personal data is primarily used to provide You with the services and products You opt into. It may also be used to comply with legal obligations We are subject to or to fulfill Our legitimate interests, such as to develop and improve Our services or to detect illegal activities, or through contractual necessity. With Your prior consent, it may also be used to send You custom offers and promotions. You have several rights, including the right to request access to, change, or remove and delete Your personal data, or to change Your marketing preferences. To obtain any information You are entitled to under the GDPR, please send a request by email to: info@terrihitt.com . There is no charge for requesting this information from Company. 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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #020 – Eternal Perspective Parenting Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. One of the greatest gifts and hardest struggles the Lord has blessed me with is parenting. Being a mother has stretched me, helped to erase selfish desires, and shown me the heart and essence of God through a deeper understanding of how much He desires to parent and love me. Parenthood allows God to expose my heart in ways that never would have occurred had I not stepped into the role of mother. To love a child without reserve, to acknowledge that in their eyes, I am everything, yet to skillfully accept that love and adoration, that dependence, and shift it to their Heavenly Father as I aspire to allow Him to guide and direct me is a humbling and beautiful task. Even more beautiful for me is the beautiful gift God extended to me when He called my husband and I to adopt. Adoption has exposed the gospel to me in an even clearer and meaningful way. Jesus was adopted. Orphan lives matter. I understand now how deeply I love each one of my precious children, regardless of how they came to be mine. There is no distinction. They are mine forever. I would die for any one of them. Jesus has manifested Himself to me in supernatural ways through the process of creating a home for and providing for the needs of my children through adoption. He works so clearly as I depend on Him to guide and educate me, to love through me, and increase my understanding of His plans for us and our beloved children. Laying aside my desires and needs to meet theirs can be both joy-filled and exhausting, yet it is what I am called to do as a parent. Life is not about expecting gratitude for sacrifices, either. When I lay down my life for my child daily, it may not be a physical death, but an eradication of self and my self-centered expectations and I am teaching them to do the same for others. There is no greater joy for me than to raise my children to know, love, and honor the Lord and to guide them to accept Jesus as Savior and live the life He has created them to experience with joy and peace. This goal is always on the forefront of my mind. II want to influence them to be lifelong disciplines of Jesus and guide them to exalt Him in every area of their life and to desire following Him in every way. The idea I regard as true for my role as a parent has certainly matured since I became a mother for the first time at age 18. When you envision parenting, do you describe your child (or children) as your best friend or “mini me?” Do you follow the world and fall to the expectations and lean toward the aspirations it sets for your parental goals? Or do you accept your responsibility as their guardian with a heart for the Lord and a grateful spirit that He has entrusted His masterpieces to you for a specific purpose and time? It is certainly not by coincidence that your child has been deposited in your care. The word deposit means, “to place for safekeeping.” I believe when we view our role as a parent to God’s children through this lens, we begin to recognize that we are caretakers, just as Jesus protects us. Mark 9:37 says, “Whoever receives one of these little children in My name receives Me; and whoever receives Me, receives not Me but Him who sent Me.” Regardless of by what method your child came to you, whether biological or adopted, your precious gift was created by God for His purpose and you have the unique blessing of being appointed by Him as the shepherd of your child’s soul. Our children were created for specific purposes that God has ordained for them and set in them. Jeremiah 1:5a clearly tells us, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you.” God has not placed His child in your care for the purpose of becoming their best friend or because we want or deserve to be a parent. We weren’t chosen because of the desire we have for our child or for what purpose we believe they will bring to our life. God has placed them under our stewardship because of the divine objective He designed to work through us. God is molding and shaping parent and child together, as He guides and grows our children and also works in us through them. Parenting is not about, or for us. God has gifted us in this role to allow us participation in an eternal purpose with far greater significance than we can see or imagine. He is entrusting His precious minors in our care so that we will lift them up to Him as we seek His wisdom and guidance. Psalm 127:1 says, “Unless the LORD builds the house, its builders labor in vain; unless the LORD protects the city, its watchmen stand guard in vain.” The key to parenting with God’s eyes, heart, and attitude is to first reflect on, and strengthen, our personal walk with Jesus. I believe we must thoughtfully and purposely consider the following questions: 1. Where is my identity found? 2. Where do I find my hope? 3. How do I define myself? 4. Where do I find success? 5. Who or what do I rely on? 6. What shapes me? 7. Who and what will I allow to mold my children? 8. What is my objective as I parent my children? Until we fully know, trust, love, and follow the Lord in a secure, growing, eternal relationship, we will not be attuned to the fullness of what His call is for us as parents. Without our eternal attachment and reliance on Jesus, our children will lack the spiritual formula they need to flourish. Jesus expects every aspect of my child’s experiences with me and our life together to press them into His arms. 3 John 1:4 says, “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.” The Lord is calling parents to be His truth. Our personal eternal salvation must be secure in order for our child to have the greatest likelihood of an eternal future with Christ. We must willingly allow Jesus to sit on the throne of our heart and life, our attitudes and choices, our actions, and intentions if we want to raise children who joyfully exhibit His love, joy, peace, self-control, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. The foundation for the eternity of my child is my responsibility. One of my favorite passages in the Bible is found in Deuteronomy 6:6-9, which says, “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” God’s ways are full of wisdom and provisions to care for us, build our future, and keep us safe. This passage shows that God calls us to: 1. Know and keep His words as a treasure in our heart. 2. Teach His words to our children through relationship and mentorship. 3. Discuss the Lord and His ways. 4. Ponder Him and His teachings. 5. Fix my thoughts on Him. 6. Talk to God throughout my day as a Father and friend. 7. Remember His faithfulness and promises. 8. Show Him to my children and others through the way I live. In Matthew 22:36, Jesus was asked what the greatest commandment is. He answered with a verse found in Matthew 22:37 and in Deuteronomy 6:5. In Matthew 22:37, Jesus relays the following words. “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.” The heart, soul, and mind are representative of an entire person – our heart, brain, and spirit. We are to cherish, know, love, and serve God, to represent and seek Him with all we are. When we do that, we allow Him to naturally flow from us and into others, especially our children. But we must also purposely teach and model God to them. How? Through making time to read, know, understand, and respect the word of God. His words are to be in our heart. We don’t simply read and get it done, then move on to something else that needs to be accomplished in our day. We seek our Heavenly Father, savor His word, ponder, and reflect His wisdom and guidance as we allow His to transform us. We purposely desire the work God is doing in us to be reflected to our children. We allow them to see the difference Christ is making in our life. We demonstrate the characteristics our changed life has brought. Our relationship isn’t a once a week occurrence. Living with Jesus as the center of our life means that He exists within us and is a natural occurrence of everything about us. He is in our thoughts as we go about our day. We see life through an eternal perspective, understanding and valuing that all things, good, bad, hard, easy, or surprising are opportunities to cleave to Him and draw others to Him. As we speak, our words are scripted by Him, our actions formed as we become more like Him moment by moment. He is as much a part of us, flows as naturally from us as taking our next breath. I find it fascinating that in Hebrew, the term “love” does not only refer to feelings or emotions. The word “heart,” as Jesus uses it, focuses on the intellect, affection, and inclinations or desires of the person. Jesus is commanding us all to cling to God and be devoted to Him in every way and at every moment. Jesus is calling us to seek God in everything, to ponder His requirements of us, His sacrifice for us, to live within His guidelines for us, to seek His heart instead of our own, and to model a life for our children that does not strictly follow laws, but the heart of Jesus. We are to lovingly teach our children to desire God through Jesus and a pattern of His love and word represented in our lives. How do we do that? Through a growing, maturing, purposed relationship with Jesus. The children we call our own are sent to us by God for a season and a purpose He ordained. We must trust and depend on Him to guide us and rely on His wisdom and discernment, instead of our own. God knows we are not enough. We need to realize that fact. He is the creator of our children. No one knows or understands them as He does. He is our deliverance for raising children who thrive in the ways God desires. God always equips the willing. He desires us to desire Him as we influence His children. We will make mistakes. We will learn and evolve every moment as we look up to and depend on God to mold, shape, and perfect us to live as He created. Psalm 139:13-16 says, “For You formed my inmost being; You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Marvelous are Your works, and I know this very well. My frame was not hidden from You when I was made in secret, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all my days were written in Your book and ordained for me before one of them came to be.” God planned me. He planned you. He planned each of our children and knew when they would enter our life. We are not called to be the hero in the life of our child. All we do as we love and parent them is to be modeled after the way our Heavenly Father loves and parents us. We must point our precious children to Him. We want them to rely on and follow the Lord. The beautiful blessing of raising our children in this way is that we also experience the gift of a beautiful relationship with born-again, God-fearing children. Ephesians 3:14-21 says, “For this reason I bow my knees to the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, from whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man, that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height—to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” This is the strength and power we need to raise our children in the way God desires. In order for our children to desire Jesus, and see the need for Him, we must humbly desire the Lord ourselves and exhibit that love for Christ, while allowing it to show it in our life with the fruits we can only receive from a deep and right relationship with the Holy Spirit. Every moment is an opportunity for us to draw nearer to God and to attract our children to Him. Thankfully, He has allowed each of us free will. Our children will make their own choices, but when they regularly see humble love and grace exhibited in the hearts and homes of their parents, and recognize that it is extended from the relationship we built with the Lord, it will be a sweet fragrance that attracts and bonds them to Him and to us. When our own identity is strongly formed and forged with the Lord, we lead our child to follow that example. Just as we grow our walk with the Lord moment-by-moment, we do the same with our children, equipping and encouraging them to do the same with Jesus. Godly parenting emerges when I recognize and admit that it is not about me. It is allowing Him to flow through and guide me to meet the needs of my child. Issues in this world extend from the condition of our heart. We want the heart of our child to be centered in a true, humble, loving, thriving relationship with Jesus. Proverbs 4:23 says, “Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.” Whatever rules my child’s heart and whatever rules my heart, will rule our behavior and relationship. Ephesians 6:1-4 says, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with promise: that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth. And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.” Our children are not saved by following our authority, they are saved through submitting to His. As parents, we must obey the Lord’s command to raise our children as He calls. Ephesians 6:10-18 says, “Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints.” We know from John 10:10 that the enemy is out to steal, kill, and destroy. Jesus has come so that we may have abundant life, for us, our children, our relationship together and with Him. In this world, we are fighting spiritual warfare in the heavenly realms. I appreciate having this passage from Ephesians as a prayer staple to remind me I have what I need to rely on God’s strength and provisions to protect me and my family. His armor is sufficient for our every prayer need. There are many important points for us to remember when parenting the precious, unique individuals God has entrusted to our care. 1. Pray for God to fill my weakness with His mercy, glory, and provisions. 2. Pray for my child in all ways – continually. 3. Never give up believing that God hears my prayers and sees my attempts to raise my children for and through Him. 4. Let my child know that I pray for him or her. Let them hear me pray and pray with them. 5. Let my child know I pray for myself as I parent them. 6. Teach my child to pray for me. 7. When needed, apologize to my child, and point them to God, not my frailties. 8. Look for opportunities to draw my child to God naturally, daily. 9. Point my child to scripture and the power it holds. 10. Utilize God’s wisdom to parent my child, not my own. Isaiah 54:13 says, “Then all your sons will be taught by the LORD, and great will be their prosperity.” It is impossible to fathom just how differently the lives of our children will form and how many more blessings we all receive when we humbly acknowledge and obey God’s directives when raising our children for and through Him. God is enabling us to partner with Him, to humbly and willingly trust Him to guide us through a journey of faith, hope, trust, and transformation of our life and character, as well as the integrity of our children. Psalm 127:3a says, “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord.” If you have already raised your children and have regrets that you did not know Jesus or did not rely on the power and wisdom of the Lord like you wish you would have, please remember that unfortunately, regrets are a part of the journey through life. It is good to have developed awareness of mistakes, but allow yourself to feel the emotions and experience the truth of what you could have done differently, then release your thoughts and pain as you repent to the Lord. He wants to carry those emotions. God does not desire that you beat yourself up and live in shame or anguish. Don’t stay cemented in the past, use your experience to nurture a godly relationship with your children and grandchildren now. Jesus came so that we do not need to remain burdened by mistakes and failures. Allow God to direct and lead you. Our Heavenly Father desires our repentance and humble hearts. He is a master at relationships. What we have sown takes time to change, but God will use our willingness and obedience to complete His work. Proverbs 17:6 says, “Children’s children are the crown of old men, and the glory of children is their father.” Each moment carries the promise, hope, and beauty of redemption through Christ. God is good. He wants our heart and the soul of our children to reflect, love, and honor Him. He will bless our prayers and desires for that result. Did you enjoy this episode? If so, would you please make time to leave a review and rating for the show? Send me an email at thedoovermom@gmail.com if you don’t know how and I will walk you through step-by-step. I pray you find value in our weekly topics. In order for others to be able to hear about Jesus through Live With Eternal Perspective, I need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift this podcast higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Right now, because the podcast is new and the following is small, listeners won’t find it unless they specifically know the name to search for. Can you think of a friend who might enjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them so that they will also find new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 020 Eternal Perspective Parenting Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #020 – Eternal Perspective Parenting Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. One of the greatest gifts and hardest struggles the Lord has blessed me with is parenting. Being a mother has stretched me, helped to erase selfish desires, and shown me the heart and essence of God through a deeper understanding of how much He desires to parent and love me. Parenthood allows God to expose my heart in ways that never would have occurred had I not stepped into the role of mother. To love a child without reserve, to acknowledge that in their eyes, I am everything, yet to skillfully accept that love and adoration, that dependence, and shift it to their Heavenly Father as I aspire to allow Him to guide and direct me is a humbling and beautiful task. Even more beautiful for me is the beautiful gift God extended to me when He called my husband and I to adopt. Adoption has exposed the gospel to me in an even clearer and meaningful way. Jesus was adopted. Orphan lives matter. I understand now how deeply I love each one of my precious children, regardless of how they came to be mine. There is no distinction. They are mine forever. I would die for any one of them. Jesus has manifested Himself to me in supernatural ways through the process of creating a home for and providing for the needs of my children through adoption. He works so clearly as I depend on Him to guide and educate me, to love through me, and increase my understanding of His plans for us and our beloved children. Laying aside my desires and needs to meet theirs can be both joy-filled and exhausting, yet it is what I am called to do as a parent. Life is not about expecting gratitude for sacrifices, either. When I lay down my life for my child daily, it may not be a physical death, but an eradication of self and my self-centered expectations and I am teaching them to do the same for others. There is no greater joy for me than to raise my children to know, love, and honor the Lord and to guide them to accept Jesus as Savior and live the life He has created them to experience with joy and peace. This goal is always on the forefront of my mind. II want to influence them to be lifelong disciplines of Jesus and guide them to exalt Him in every area of their life and to desire following Him in every way. The idea I regard as true for my role as a parent has certainly matured since I became a mother for the first time at age 18. When you envision parenting, do you describe your child (or children) as your best friend or “mini me?” Do you follow the world and fall to the expectations and lean toward the aspirations it sets for your parental goals? Or do you accept your responsibility as their guardian with a heart for the Lord and a grateful spirit that He has entrusted His masterpieces to you for a specific purpose and time? It is certainly not by coincidence that your child has been deposited in your care. The word deposit means, “to place for safekeeping.” I believe when we view our role as a parent to God’s children through this lens, we begin to recognize that we are caretakers, just as Jesus protects us. Mark 9:37 says, “Whoever receives one of these little children in My name receives Me; and whoever receives Me, receives not Me but Him who sent Me.” Regardless of by what method your child came to you, whether biological or adopted, your precious gift was created by God for His purpose and you have the unique blessing of being appointed by Him as the shepherd of your child’s soul. Our children were created for specific purposes that God has ordained for them and set in them. Jeremiah 1:5a clearly tells us, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you.” God has not placed His child in your care for the purpose of becoming their best friend or because we want or deserve to be a parent. We weren’t chosen because of the desire we have for our child or for what purpose we believe they will bring to our life. God has placed them under our stewardship because of the divine objective He designed to work through us. God is molding and shaping parent and child together, as He guides and grows our children and also works in us through them. Parenting is not about, or for us. God has gifted us in this role to allow us participation in an eternal purpose with far greater significance than we can see or imagine. He is entrusting His precious minors in our care so that we will lift them up to Him as we seek His wisdom and guidance. Psalm 127:1 says, “Unless the LORD builds the house, its builders labor in vain; unless the LORD protects the city, its watchmen stand guard in vain.” The key to parenting with God’s eyes, heart, and attitude is to first reflect on, and strengthen, our personal walk with Jesus. I believe we must thoughtfully and purposely consider the following questions: 1. Where is my identity found? 2. Where do I find my hope? 3. How do I define myself? 4. Where do I find success? 5. Who or what do I rely on? 6. What shapes me? 7. Who and what will I allow to mold my children? 8. What is my objective as I parent my children? Until we fully know, trust, love, and follow the Lord in a secure, growing, eternal relationship, we will not be attuned to the fullness of what His call is for us as parents. Without our eternal attachment and reliance on Jesus, our children will lack the spiritual formula they need to flourish. Jesus expects every aspect of my child’s experiences with me and our life together to press them into His arms. 3 John 1:4 says, “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.” The Lord is calling parents to be His truth. Our personal eternal salvation must be secure in order for our child to have the greatest likelihood of an eternal future with Christ. We must willingly allow Jesus to sit on the throne of our heart and life, our attitudes and choices, our actions, and intentions if we want to raise children who joyfully exhibit His love, joy, peace, self-control, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. The foundation for the eternity of my child is my responsibility. One of my favorite passages in the Bible is found in Deuteronomy 6:6-9, which says, “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” God’s ways are full of wisdom and provisions to care for us, build our future, and keep us safe. This passage shows that God calls us to: 1. Know and keep His words as a treasure in our heart. 2. Teach His words to our children through relationship and mentorship. 3. Discuss the Lord and His ways. 4. Ponder Him and His teachings. 5. Fix my thoughts on Him. 6. Talk to God throughout my day as a Father and friend. 7. Remember His faithfulness and promises. 8. Show Him to my children and others through the way I live. In Matthew 22:36, Jesus was asked what the greatest commandment is. He answered with a verse found in Matthew 22:37 and in Deuteronomy 6:5. In Matthew 22:37, Jesus relays the following words. “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.” The heart, soul, and mind are representative of an entire person – our heart, brain, and spirit. We are to cherish, know, love, and serve God, to represent and seek Him with all we are. When we do that, we allow Him to naturally flow from us and into others, especially our children. But we must also purposely teach and model God to them. How? Through making time to read, know, understand, and respect the word of God. His words are to be in our heart. We don’t simply read and get it done, then move on to something else that needs to be accomplished in our day. We seek our Heavenly Father, savor His word, ponder, and reflect His wisdom and guidance as we allow His to transform us. We purposely desire the work God is doing in us to be reflected to our children. We allow them to see the difference Christ is making in our life. We demonstrate the characteristics our changed life has brought. Our relationship isn’t a once a week occurrence. Living with Jesus as the center of our life means that He exists within us and is a natural occurrence of everything about us. He is in our thoughts as we go about our day. We see life through an eternal perspective, understanding and valuing that all things, good, bad, hard, easy, or surprising are opportunities to cleave to Him and draw others to Him. As we speak, our words are scripted by Him, our actions formed as we become more like Him moment by moment. He is as much a part of us, flows as naturally from us as taking our next breath. I find it fascinating that in Hebrew, the term “love” does not only refer to feelings or emotions. The word “heart,” as Jesus uses it, focuses on the intellect, affection, and inclinations or desires of the person. Jesus is commanding us all to cling to God and be devoted to Him in every way and at every moment. Jesus is calling us to seek God in everything, to ponder His requirements of us, His sacrifice for us, to live within His guidelines for us, to seek His heart instead of our own, and to model a life for our children that does not strictly follow laws, but the heart of Jesus. We are to lovingly teach our children to desire God through Jesus and a pattern of His love and word represented in our lives. How do we do that? Through a growing, maturing, purposed relationship with Jesus. The children we call our own are sent to us by God for a season and a purpose He ordained. We must trust and depend on Him to guide us and rely on His wisdom and discernment, instead of our own. God knows we are not enough. We need to realize that fact. He is the creator of our children. No one knows or understands them as He does. He is our deliverance for raising children who thrive in the ways God desires. God always equips the willing. He desires us to desire Him as we influence His children. We will make mistakes. We will learn and evolve every moment as we look up to and depend on God to mold, shape, and perfect us to live as He created. Psalm 139:13-16 says, “For You formed my inmost being; You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Marvelous are Your works, and I know this very well. My frame was not hidden from You when I was made in secret, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all my days were written in Your book and ordained for me before one of them came to be.” God planned me. He planned you. He planned each of our children and knew when they would enter our life. We are not called to be the hero in the life of our child. All we do as we love and parent them is to be modeled after the way our Heavenly Father loves and parents us. We must point our precious children to Him. We want them to rely on and follow the Lord. The beautiful blessing of raising our children in this way is that we also experience the gift of a beautiful relationship with born-again, God-fearing children. Ephesians 3:14-21 says, “For this reason I bow my knees to the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, from whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man, that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height—to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” This is the strength and power we need to raise our children in the way God desires. In order for our children to desire Jesus, and see the need for Him, we must humbly desire the Lord ourselves and exhibit that love for Christ, while allowing it to show it in our life with the fruits we can only receive from a deep and right relationship with the Holy Spirit. Every moment is an opportunity for us to draw nearer to God and to attract our children to Him. Thankfully, He has allowed each of us free will. Our children will make their own choices, but when they regularly see humble love and grace exhibited in the hearts and homes of their parents, and recognize that it is extended from the relationship we built with the Lord, it will be a sweet fragrance that attracts and bonds them to Him and to us. When our own identity is strongly formed and forged with the Lord, we lead our child to follow that example. Just as we grow our walk with the Lord moment-by-moment, we do the same with our children, equipping and encouraging them to do the same with Jesus. Godly parenting emerges when I recognize and admit that it is not about me. It is allowing Him to flow through and guide me to meet the needs of my child. Issues in this world extend from the condition of our heart. We want the heart of our child to be centered in a true, humble, loving, thriving relationship with Jesus. Proverbs 4:23 says, “Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.” Whatever rules my child’s heart and whatever rules my heart, will rule our behavior and relationship. Ephesians 6:1-4 says, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with promise: that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth. And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.” Our children are not saved by following our authority, they are saved through submitting to His. As parents, we must obey the Lord’s command to raise our children as He calls. Ephesians 6:10-18 says, “Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints.” We know from John 10:10 that the enemy is out to steal, kill, and destroy. Jesus has come so that we may have abundant life, for us, our children, our relationship together and with Him. In this world, we are fighting spiritual warfare in the heavenly realms. I appreciate having this passage from Ephesians as a prayer staple to remind me I have what I need to rely on God’s strength and provisions to protect me and my family. His armor is sufficient for our every prayer need. There are many important points for us to remember when parenting the precious, unique individuals God has entrusted to our care. 1. Pray for God to fill my weakness with His mercy, glory, and provisions. 2. Pray for my child in all ways – continually. 3. Never give up believing that God hears my prayers and sees my attempts to raise my children for and through Him. 4. Let my child know that I pray for him or her. Let them hear me pray and pray with them. 5. Let my child know I pray for myself as I parent them. 6. Teach my child to pray for me. 7. When needed, apologize to my child, and point them to God, not my frailties. 8. Look for opportunities to draw my child to God naturally, daily. 9. Point my child to scripture and the power it holds. 10. Utilize God’s wisdom to parent my child, not my own. Isaiah 54:13 says, “Then all your sons will be taught by the LORD, and great will be their prosperity.” It is impossible to fathom just how differently the lives of our children will form and how many more blessings we all receive when we humbly acknowledge and obey God’s directives when raising our children for and through Him. God is enabling us to partner with Him, to humbly and willingly trust Him to guide us through a journey of faith, hope, trust, and transformation of our life and character, as well as the integrity of our children. Psalm 127:3a says, “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord.” If you have already raised your children and have regrets that you did not know Jesus or did not rely on the power and wisdom of the Lord like you wish you would have, please remember that unfortunately, regrets are a part of the journey through life. It is good to have developed awareness of mistakes, but allow yourself to feel the emotions and experience the truth of what you could have done differently, then release your thoughts and pain as you repent to the Lord. He wants to carry those emotions. God does not desire that you beat yourself up and live in shame or anguish. Don’t stay cemented in the past, use your experience to nurture a godly relationship with your children and grandchildren now. Jesus came so that we do not need to remain burdened by mistakes and failures. Allow God to direct and lead you. Our Heavenly Father desires our repentance and humble hearts. He is a master at relationships. What we have sown takes time to change, but God will use our willingness and obedience to complete His work. Proverbs 17:6 says, “Children’s children are the crown of old men, and the glory of children is their father.” Each moment carries the promise, hope, and beauty of redemption through Christ. God is good. He wants our heart and the soul of our children to reflect, love, and honor Him. He will bless our prayers and desires for that result. Did you enjoy this episode? If so, would you please make time to leave a review and rating for the show? Send me an email at thedoovermom@gmail.com if you don’t know how and I will walk you through step-by-step. I pray you find value in our weekly topics. In order for others to be able to hear about Jesus through Live With Eternal Perspective, I need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift this podcast higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Right now, because the podcast is new and the following is small, listeners won’t find it unless they specifically know the name to search for. Can you think of a friend who might enjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them so that they will also find new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 106 - How to Listen So Your Child Hears You Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 106 – How to Listen So Your Child Hears You Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom and BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you will be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episodes, would you please share this episode or others with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, and leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast. You’re helping affect generations for Jesus. Now on to the episode... How blessed we are that God gave us the intelligence and capacity to speak. We’re able to formulate and share thoughts, ideas, express opinions, love, and emotions. Yet, with the ability to speak, share, and feel, an alarming percentage of teens feel unheard by parents. On the flip side of this 27% of kids who feel like parents don’t support them by listening, 71% of parents believe they’re supporting their teens in the way they need. Studies indicate that teens stop listening to their parents or seeking their approval around the ages of 13 to 14. It’s reported that studies include MRI brain scans that providing neurological proof explaining how kids begin to separate from their parents. These researchers say that before the age of 12, children experience pleasure form the sound of their mother’s voice. After this age, the attraction and rewards felt internally begin to come from new voices. The researchers compare this shift as similar to the way a newborn instinctively becomes attuned to the sound of mother’s voice for survival. Researchers believe teens are attracted to voices distinctly different from their parents as they move toward separation and autonomy.The researchers claim that kids are supposed to shift away from parents because they are hard-wired to prioritize the voices and opinions of others. I disagree. I believe that the only voice any of us are pre-wired to receive is the voice of God. This is why it’s crucial that we steward the time we have with our children with eternal perspective . The years we have with our children, although seemingly long at times, are actually very limited . Combined with the distractions of life, the time we actually have to nurture our children in Christ and mentor the way to Him should be protected and purposed with intention . So, back to communication . If children don’t feel loved, seen, and heard, evidence proves they will go elsewhere for validation and connection . Most parents want healthy connection with their children, which starts with communication. If most parents believe they’re good listeners, why do so many teens believe they’re not heard? On the flip side, how many parents complain that their children don’t listen to them? One reason is that we live in a microwave culture. Fast. Easy. Give it to me now. If you don’t, I’m moving on. Too many distractions attack us from every side – both as parents and for our children, and we continue to allow, even invite those distractions entrance to our home and hearts. Yet, with all the changes we’ve seen in the way of life over the last generation or two, something hasn’t changed. What is it? A need for love and acceptance. The need to be heard and to feel understood. As Christian mothers, we must realize the need for security in our home. It starts with God and should end with Him. Let me explain. The way you see yourself, your identity in Christ is the beginning point. If you are secure in your relationship with God through Jesus, you will realize the importance of instilling that security and trust in your children. In order to help your child know , not just feel they’re seen, you must be intentional in the way you help your child craft identity in Christ and the way you model how that relationship should look. I have several episodes in the Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast that give instructions on how to build this type of relationship. Today we’ll focus on how to listen so your child feels heard - and hears you in return. Life is busy . However, there are steps you can take in this fast-paced lifestyle that will help you begin a pattern of listening that would otherwise be lost in the shuffle of life. Although I referenced statistics of teens in the beginning of this episode, I want to be clear that the steps I’ll list now will help build connection and restore relationships in that age group. Yet, as you utilize them with younger children in age appropriate ways, you will also build the foundation you need to avoid or lessen separation as they mature. God doesn’t desire that you or your family maintain what the world calls “typical” relationships or lifestyle. Our Heavenly Father is the author of love and family. He desires that you build strong connection through Him, even when it is time for your children to build a life outside of your home. 1. Phones/Electronics – We all know this one is a major culprit and divider in the home. Often moms claim to never have time for God’s Word, yet have more than enough time to scroll for hours. Our children see the prioritization and recognize when what we do doesn’t match what we say. They see where our priorities rest and will likely pattern their life in the same way. 2. Lectures – How often do you have conversation with your child/teen versus lecturing ? Often parents think they’re conversing with their teen, yet are really only spouting another lecture, then moving on. Conversations are meant to be a back and forth dialogue that builds connection, communication skills, intelligence, and wisdom. Instead of cramming a years’ worth of information into a twenty minute lecture, think of how to have a true conversation that shows your child you respect what they have to say (even when you don’t always agree) and show them how to share thoughts and emotions without being reprimanded on the spot. 3. Reprimands – Which leads us to this next topic. Teens often feel that parents only talk when it’s time to reprimand. Who wants to be around people who only shame or correct? When you listen to your child or teen talk, are you trying to understand what they’re conveying or are you interrupting often to point out what they’ve done wrong - or should have done differently? Teens often shut down communication when they believe parents only correct and never listen. 4. Convenience – As kids grow older, conversations can be less convenient for parents. Somehow, right when mom feels like it’s time for bed, the teen is ready to open up about something huge. Whether it’s in the middle of your busy day at work, right when you’re closing your eyes to sleep, or sitting on the toilet, kids and teens rarely pick convenience as a priority. Listen or eventually they will stop making the effort to talk at all. 5. Topic Blocks – Does your child ever come to you with topics that make you uncomfortable? I hope they do. It can be embarrassing to discuss certain topics with your child or teen. In today’s society especially, children are exposed to topics adults even find uncomfortable. If it’s not you explaining topics or answering questions in age appropriate language, your child will find other sources that may not be truthful, safe, godly, or healthy. 6. Interruptions – How well do you really listen when your child speaks? Do you hear what your children say or are you interrupting to interject your own thoughts and wishes? Even when you want to jump in and share your thought, allow your child or teen the courtesy of finishing what they are trying to communicate. Repeat back what you’ve heard to ensure you understand what they mean, and pause before you offer your own thoughts. Pray for God’s wisdom and guidance for connection with your child so you can connect them to Christ. 7. Eye-Contact – Over time, eye-contact has suffered due to schedules, distractions, and the big culprit I mentioned at the beginning of this list – electronics. Multi-tasking is a way of life. It may be when you’re cooking, driving, reading, scrolling, working, or doing another activity that requires your attention that your child or teen comes to you for connection and communication. If you make the effort to stop what you’re doing - or if needed, schedule time right after you finish a task, you’ll ensure your child you’re looking forward to hearing what they have to say and value what they think. Remember, communication is a gift from God. It should be used for His glory and to guide not only your own heart to Him, but to shepherd the hearts of the precious children He has entrusted to you. If you’d like more information and practical steps in strengthening communication and listening with your children, Purposed Parent Connected Child Episode 091, "Ten Ways to Get Your Child to Listen," shares ways to connect with your child so they hear what you say. You can listen to this episode or read the transcript on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or on my website at terrihitt.com. Dear Heavenly Father, You alone are good. Holy. Loving. Kind. Thank you for the precious gifts you have entrusted to us. Your children. Father, we are human. We make mistakes. We need Your wisdom and direction each second. Help us to remember to listen for Your voice and to heed Your Words. Enable us to carry Your wisdom as we hear and speak to our children. At whatever age our children are, equip us to mentor them straight to You by the way we react and speak. May our lives and obedience to You sow Your love and truth so clearly that we have close connection with You and our children. Carry us, Oh Father in the ways only You can. Restore what we may have damaged and make Your mercies shown. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Raising children is challenging. No one has all the answers because each child is unique as are parenting styles and family dynamics. By connecting with and knowing your children as you maintain purposed growth in Christ, you will be better prepared for any situation you face. That’s why you hear me share about the Set-Apart Collective in this podcast. I work with professionals who care about making Jesus known to their children. Are you a high-achieving woman who loves Jesus, but is so busy with the rush of work and daily life that you feel like you’re being drained like the water in your bathtub? Do you yearn to get closer to Jesus and show Him to your kids so you will create a love that will last into eternity? The desire is there, but your days spiral out of control before you even think about opening your Bible. Do you ever stop to think that you are the first Jesus your child will see? Let me remind you there is hope. There is a way you can be equipped to raise kids who chase Christ over culture. If you want a connected relationship with Christ and your children that leads them to your side and His feet, instead of them seeking validation from peers, I have an 8-step program to move you from frustrated to fulfilled. I will show you how to reflect Jesus in a way that attracts your family to a connected relationship that lasts into eternity. Remember, godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset you carry. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will arm you with a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You’ll also deepen your identity in Christ so you can mentor the way for your children to do the same. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family and you will have the tools to raise set apart kids as you parent the heart, not simply the behavior. Does this sound like a lifeline to help you be that set-apart mom God has entrusted you to be? Visit terrihitt.com/coaching and click the link for a free, no obligation conversation call with me. This is a strategic call where I will hear your biggest struggle and show you how to turn it into a blessing that will bring you closer to Christ and your children. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. One last thing to remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 079 - The Power of Using Scripture in Prayers - A Guide for Christian Homes Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 079 – The Power of Using Scripture in Prayers - A Guide for Christian Homes When I was a little girl my sister and I shared a bedroom until my senior year of high school. I remember praying together, especially at night as we both lay in our bunk beds with whispered words in the dark. I don’t recall how we learned to pray, but I thank God for our clumsy attempts to reach His ears even before I knew who Jesus was or had studied His Word. Luke 11:1-13 says, “One day Jesus was praying in a certain place. When he finished, one of his disciples said to him, “Lord, teach us to pray, just as John taught his disciples.” He said to them, “When you pray, say: “Father, hallowed be Your name, your kingdom come. Give us each day our daily bread. Forgive us our sins, for we also forgive everyone who sins against us. And lead us not into temptation.’” Then Jesus said to them, “Suppose you have a friend, and you go to him at midnight and say, ‘Friend, lend me three loaves of bread; a friend of mine on a journey has come to me, and I have no food to offer him.’ And suppose the one inside answers, ‘Don’t bother me. The door is already locked, and my children and I are in bed. I can’t get up and give you anything.’ I tell you, even though he will not get up and give you the bread because of friendship, yet because of your shameless audacity he will surely get up and give you as much as you need. “So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. “Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask Him !” I’m so thankful God was already reaching down from Heaven to show us the way to Him through the unknown power of prayer. God was already making Himself and the power to reach Him known to little girls who sought hope and provision He alone can give. As we consider the passage I read from Luke 11:1-13, we notice that there is order in the prayer. Although as a child I didn’t understand much beyond the fact that my spirit called out to speak to God, our Heavenly Father does desire order in life and in prayers . In this section from Luke 11, you can see that the first thing Jesus did was praise God , before making requests. As we lift praise to the Maker of Heaven and Earth first, recognizing Who He is , we humbly submit to Him and acknowledge His rightful place in our heart and life. God doesn’t want our prayers to be thoughtlessly thrown to Him as we think about other things. He wants us to be cognizant of Who we humbly bow before. He desires and deserves to be given recognition, honor, and glory. As you study the passage I read earlier, you may notice that there is order in the passage after praise . The verses show three additional aspects of prayer: the content we lift to God, our persistence we should carry in coming before Him, and God’s faithfulness and generosity to us. Jesus’ mentorship of prayer provides a glimpse into His heart and the will of God. Our Heavenly Father desires that we praise Him, seek His daily provisions, keep a clear and connected relationship free of bitterness, unforgiveness, or temptation as we are sustained by God, lift godly requests , remain persistent with faithful expectation, and recognize God’s goodness and grace. As you mold your walk with God and your prayer life after the examples Jesus set for us, you are well-equipped to lift Scriptural prayers that God will receive with great joy. Are you ready to deepen your prayer life and walk with God and mentor the power of using Scripture in prayers to your children? Use God’s truths in His holy Word to craft Scriptural prayers. 1. Believers should regularly assess their heart and mind and ask God to purify thoughts, desires, actions, and reactions. As your relationship remains strong and you mature your walk moment by moment, you will be able to present yourself as one approved and lift your prayers to God without hindrance. 2. Make sure you regularly read God’s Word. The more you know and understand the Father, you are better able to pray according to His desires and will. 3. Any prayer need can be Scripturally-based and beautifully lifted to the Father. God loves hearing His children lift His sacred Words to Him in love, faith, and trust. 4. Find Scripture that fits your prayer requests and praises. You can pray God’s Word as it is or craft His holy Word into your prayers. You may also use the themes of the Bible to see God’s heart and purpose prayers to be lifted for His mighty hand to work in those topical areas of your life or in the world. 5. As your prayer life is shaped by God’s Word you will experience your holy heavenly Father working in ways you may not have yet experienced. Praying God’s Word works miracles in your life, your marriage, for your spouse, your work, your home, and your children. God’s Word applies to every area of life. So can the prayers you form from Scripture. Let’s look at ways to craft powerful prayers from God’s Word. As you grow in studying and knowing God’s Word you will hear His voice more clearly as you pray. 1. If you are a beginner, or need more direction in your prayers, look for topics as you read the Bible. Keep a journal or notepad to reference Scripture of certain themes or use the Topical Index to search for verses that fit your need. Use the topics you desire to transform your needs, praises, and worship into powerful prayers that speak God’s truths back to Him. 2. Find verses applicable to your prayer purpose. You are preparing to humbly present yourself and your desires or gratitude before the sovereign, holy God of the Universe. When you come before Him with a need, know His Word so you will know His ways. When you pray according to His will, 1 John 5:14 says, “This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us .” 3. After selecting Scripture pertaining to the prayer you want to offer God, speak your heart and use His Word to form the prayers you present. I’ll share various examples you may use as templates to guide your prayers or you may use the examples to ignite your own ideas. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 says, “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus .” Father God, I rejoice in You and the treasures You given me through Jesus and the Holy Spirit inside me. Help me focus on You through the ups and downs of life and keep my focus where You call it to be. Matthew 6:6 says, “But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. ” Dear good and glorious Heavenly Father, help my walk with You focus on what You call to my attention. Enable me to care only for Your praise. Work through me to craft an intimate relationship that comes to You with problems and praise. May you be the One I cling to and seek for guidance in all areas. Let’s examine specific topic examples of Scriptural prayers. First I’ll list various verses, then craft prayers that align with them. Prayers for your walk with God : Micah 6:8 says, “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God .” Deuteronomy 8:6 says, “So you shall keep the commandments of the Lord your God by walking in His ways and by fearing Him .” Romans 13:14 says, “Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the flesh .” Ephesians 2:10 says, “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them .” Dear Heavenly Father, You are the Great I Am, the Maker of Heaven and Earth. I thank you for the ability to come before You with requests. I thank you for the merciful, sacrificial work of Jesus who became the bridge that carries me to You. Father, I desire a deeper walk, a deeper relationship with You. You have shown me what is good. All You require of me is to submit to Jesus as Savior, to act justly, love mercy, and to walk humbly with You. I praise You for your mercy and love! Help me keep the commandments You expressed in Your Word as I allow You to carry me through this life. Give me the desire to walk in Your ways and carry a reverent fear of Your holiness. Your Word promises me that I am Your beautiful workmanship created in Christ Jesus to do good works which You have already purposed and ordained for me. Help me please You in the way I seek and serve You and others in those ordained ways. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Prayers for your husband : 1 John 3:22 says, “And whatever we ask we receive from Him, because we keep His commandments and do what pleases Him .” James 1:5-6 says, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.” Psalm 1:1-3 says, “Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers, but whose delight is in the law of the Lord, and who meditates on his law day and night. That person is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither—whatever they do prospers .” Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me .” Dear merciful and loving Heavenly Father, How we need Your loving and holy presence and guidance in our life and family. I thank you for my husband. May He seek You ever more each day. Help him be the man You purposed as You knit Him together in the secret place. I pray that when He comes before You his prayers are heard by You because he knows You intimately and follows Your commands and will. I pray His prayers are always in accordance with Your Word because he follows it. Help him remember that You have promised that he can do all things through You, His strength. Protect him - his thoughts and ways. Help him not to keep company with sinners or mockers who would lead him from You. Help his thoughts and actions not to be offensive to You. Help my husband take delight in Your Word day and night and be like a tree planted by streams of water. May all he do prosper because His follows You with his whole heart and soul. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Prayers for your children : Proverbs 29:17 says, “Correct thy son, and he will give thee rest; Yea, he will give delight unto thy soul .” Colossians 3:21 says, "Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged ." 2 Timothy 3:14-17 says, “But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it, and how from infancy you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.” Dear Heavenly Father, How I praise You for Your many good and loving gifts. You are kind and personal. Thank you for Your love for me and my family. I thank you for my precious children. Help my husband and I raise them in ways that delight Your soul and give us rest because they are obedient to You. Help my husband and I to be sweet honey, like a soothing balm, not embittering our children in any way that would discourage them or deter them from You. May they learn Your truths as preserved in Scripture, Your holy Word. May they cling to them in life, coming to a saving knowledge that lasts for eternity. May they uphold Your good and perfect Word and live a righteous life that equips them for every good work You have purposed for them. May they be a joy and blessing to Your heart and ours. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Prayers for your family : 2 Chronicles 7:14 says, “If My people, who are called by My name, will humble themselves and pray and seek My face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land .” Colossians 1:9-10 says, “For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you. We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of His will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives, so that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please Him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God .” Dear Heavenly Father, You are so wise. How we need Your loving guidance. Help my husband and I continue to humble ourselves before You and each other so that it is Your wisdom, knowledge, guidance, and understanding that we cling to. Turn us from anything that is wicked in Your eyes. Heal the areas our family needs individually and as a unit under You. Help us to be godly examples that mentor You and lead our children to Your feet. I pray Your holiness fills us because we seek, find, and follow You in all the ways You desire. Please fill each of our family members with the wisdom and understanding the Holy Spirit desires so we may live a life worthy of You and please You in every way as we bear Your fruit. May our family encourage others who see us. May they experience something different and know that it is You. Cause the way we live, love, and act to send others straight to Your arms. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Other ways you may use Scripture to pray are to find a verse or passage you want to use and select a portion to focus on. If you can’t express the deep desires or needs on your heart – Romans 8:26-27 says, “In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God .” Dear Heavenly Father, You are so far above me. Your ways so much higher. I need Your love and wisdom to guide me. I don’t know what to pray, but I know You listen. Your heart is attuned to my needs, but You want to hear my words. Father, my burden is too heavy. I don’t know what words to use. May the Holy Spirit inside me carry my requests to Your hands as I humbly ask You to intercede according to Your good and gracious will. If you want to deepen your walk with God and carry deeper trust in Him – Psalm 119:18 says, “Open my eyes that I may see wonderful things in your law .” Gracious, merciful Father, I long for a deeper walk with You. Please open my eyes that I may see the wonderful things in Your law. Help me follow your will and ways and become the person You created me to be. When you need His help - Matthew 14:30 says, “But when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, "Lord, save me!" My Lord, I need You! Save me! When you want to keep a pure heart before God - Psalm 51:2 says, “Wash away all my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin .” Holy Father, I want to be clean before You. I want to be pleasing in every way. Continue to wash away my iniquities and keep me pure before You. When you are in leadership - 1 Kings 3:9a says, “So give your servant a discerning heart to govern your people and to distinguish between right and wrong .” Dear loving Heavenly Father, enable me to see others through Your eyes and know the ways to reach them. Give me a discerning heart that knows good from evil and right from wrong. Help me humbly allow Your work to shine through me. When you want to remain close to God - Hebrews 4:16 says, “Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need .” Dear Heavenly Father, You are my strength, my guide, my life. Help me draw nearer to You so You will draw nearer to me. May I always approach Your throne with confidence that comes from a pure and close walk with You. Thank you for the grace and mercy You extend so freely. Help me always walk with you in times of ease and call out to You in times of need. You may also use Scripture as song and incorporate it into prayers of worship. Let your walk with God grow deeper and wider as You explore the various ways you can connect with Him more intimately through the power of His written Word. Remember the mentorship of Jesus as He guided His disciples of the way to lift requests before our Holy God. Praise Him, seek Him moment by moment, letting Him purify your heart, mind, and walk. Lift godly requests that show Your Christlike character growing daily. As you remain persistent with faithful expectation and lift prayers that release God’s Words back to Him, God will receive your requests and praise with great joy and goodness. Your children won’t wonder how to pray or Who they pray to. They will grow in wisdom and understanding of the Lord and begin a journey you will nurture for a lifetime. Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for the gift of Your Holy Word. Father, You have promised that if I remain in You and Your Words remain in me, I may ask You whatever I wish, and it will be done for me . Thank you for placing the Holy Spirit within me to teach that means I must walk closely with You to know Your will and ways. You don’t call for selfish desires to flow to You through my prayers, but You call for me to be humbled before You. Bring me closer to You. May my requests show the transformation of my heart, mind, and desires as I grow in You. God, You are so good. Thank you for reaching out to me and loving as I am, but showing me the way to become more Christlike moment by moment. May my prayers reflect You and be a joy to Your heart. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. Godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. That’s why I’ve created the Set-Apart Collective. Have you decided peers and culture won’t be the main influence over your child? Would you like to parent to prepare your child for eternity with Christ, not to repair a relationship? In the Set-Apart Collective, you will deepen your walk with Christ, learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family. The Set-Apart Collective is open now. Please send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information or look online at terrihitt.com/setapart. We can also set up a 15 minute call to chat about details. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. If you connected in some way with this episode, would you please rate and review the podcast on Apple or Spotify? It only takes a minute or so and makes a big difference in people finding the podcast. You and I know that the best reviews are by word of mouth, so would you please choose a friend to recommend the show to? Let them know that the podcast is found at terrihitt.com, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify. Imagine the change we will see in the way mothers parent for Christ if they learn to be intentional, too. Remember, if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode 025 - Facing Hard Stuff to Become a Godlier Parent Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #025 – Facing Hard Personal Stuff to Become a Godlier Parent Are you yearning for greater connection with your child? Would you like to parent beyond the moment with eternal perspective? Let’s grow together now with practical tips, scripture, and stories geared to draw your heart to Jesus and guide your child into His arms. Have you paid attention to the explosion of growth in the personal coaching space? Maybe you’ve used a personal coach or are planning to use one in the future. Did you know that the personal development industry brings in billions of dollars of revenue per year and continues to expand rapidly? In fact, the last report I read was published back in 2017, so it was already very dated, but at that time, the reported yearly revenue was already almost 12 billion. Let’s stop and look at the definition of coaching for the purpose of this episode. The term “coaching” as defined by the International Coaching Federation (or ICF) as “partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires clients to maximize their personal and professional potential .” The federation reports that they want people to understand that “coaching is an individual service that greatly differs from therapy, consulting, or training .” Personal development coaches are a large portion of the personal development industry. These coaches help clients understand where they currently are in life, decide where they want to go or who they want to be, and then help them progress toward their determined goal. Acting as a role model or mentor, the coaches guide the way for their clients and hold them accountable. Different areas of help may include, but are certainly not limited to relationships, faith, parenting, health, finances, weight loss, exercise, work/life balance, and career. There are also different types of personal development coaches, as some work one-on-one with clients and others are such celebrities or influencers with big followings that they never even meet their clients face-to-face. In fact, they may never even know the names of their clients, because books, courses, conferences, and events attract and influence hundreds of thousands of people quarterly. Why am I reporting all of this coaching information? Because with so many people using coaching services of various kinds, I want to highlight how important it is to make sure that if you decide to work with a person, you ensure the person you choose is a trustworthy mentor or influencer for the vision you have for your life. More importantly, if you are a follower of Christ, it is crucial to ensure that your guide or coach is a godly Christ follower who wants to help you ensure that you follow God’s purpose for your life. Remember, if your priority is to be a parent who influences your child with and for the Lord, you must first humbly follow Christ daily. In order to be a godlier parent tomorrow than you are today, Christ must remain at the center of your mind, heart, desires, and intentions. Many people do not need coaches to help them because they have found true and righteous healing through Christ. However, many people desire to find help through Jesus as they mature their walk with Him, yet enjoy working with a godly person to educate, guide, and equip them. They may not have wounds to address, but need assistance to move forward with dreams and desires. There are a multitude of reasons a person may choose to work with coaches. Please ensure that if you have one, the individual is centered in Christ and maturing their walk with Him with purposed intention and joy and that Fruits of the Spirit are easily evident . This episode is shared with the intention of equipping each of us to examine where we currently are and progress toward the goal stated in Philippians 3:14-15 which says, “I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Let those of us who are mature think this way, and if in anything you think otherwise, God will reveal that also to you .” Let’s just be honest and say that everyone has done something or has things in their past that they are ashamed of or wish they had handled differently. For those of us with faith in and a future with Christ, we can release the past and embrace the future Christ is revealing to us and enabling us to attain through His direction and strength. In order to become a godlier parent, we must release self to Christ moment by moment, relying on Him to show us the way to live one step at a time. Through humble submission to Him, we are not who we were yesterday . Praise God!! I truly mean that! At the end of each day, believers are able to live with gratitude and offer thanks that we are not even who we were when we awakened at the beginning of the current day. For this episode, I’ve gathered a list of verses and questions for each of us to ponder in order to keep moving nearer to Christ with intention . As you examine where you are now, you’ll be able to prayerfully lift concerns, failures, questions, worries, or whatever you may be feeling to the Lord and allow Him to carry and craft you into the version He desires for you and also for your child or children to learn and grow from. I’ve broken these thoughts into three lists. One is for self-examination , one for parental examination, and one for life examination in order to find ways to draw nearer to God in your personal and parenting life. As I read the verses or questions, pray about how God can carry you to meet His requirements for you through the particular verse. Also remember that you don’t have to write each one down. Allow yourself to listen, pray, and ponder. You can visit terrihitt.com to read the transcript and print the verses, if desired. First up: Self-Examination : 2 Corinthians 13:5 says, “Examine yourselves, to see whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves. Or do you not realize this about yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you? —unless indeed you fail to meet the test .” Psalm 139:23-24 says, “Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting !” Psalm 26:2 says, “Prove me, O LORD, and try me; test my heart and my mind .” Deuteronomy 8:5 says, “Know then in your heart that, as a man disciplines his son, the LORD your God disciplines you .” Hebrews 12:11 says, “For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. ” Job 13:23 says, “How many are my iniquities and my sins? Make me know my transgression and my sin .” Jeremiah 17:9 says, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it ?” Lamentations 3:40 says, “Let us test and examine our ways, and return to the LORD !” Parental Examination : Deuteronomy 6:5-7 says, “You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. ” Isaiah 38:19 says, “The living, the living, he thanks you, as I do this day; the father makes known to the children your faithfulness .” Proverbs 29:17 says, “Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart .” Luke 1:17 says, “And he will go before him in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the disobedient to the wisdom of the just, to make ready for the Lord a people prepared .” Proverbs 17:21 says, “He who sires a fool gets himself sorrow, and the father of a fool has no joy .” Ephesians 6:4 says, “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord .” Life Examination : 1. Problems: How do you handle problems? Do you model releasing problems to God or do you attempt to hold onto difficulties? Do you carry visible stress for your child to witness? Do your children watch you struggle with problems or humbly ask God to carry them for you? Do you close down when you are worried or do you turn to God even more? Are you prone toward depression? What situations bring on feelings of depression or unhappiness? What things steal your joy? Do you try to carry troubles before you lift them to God? 2. Emotions Are you able to lovingly express emotions to your children? Do you portray loving emotions and offer compliments to your children often? Is it difficult for you to love or express love to your children because you carry unresolved issues within? Are you able to easily sacrifice personal desires and comfort for your children? What do you wish you could change about the way you relate to your children? 3. Parenting Do you parent like you were parented or have you developed your own parenting style under God’s leadership and for each unique child He has entrusted to you? Do you parent for and under the Lord or parent by reactions? Do you study scripture so you parent with God’s morals, commands, and heart? Do you intentionally see your children individually through eyes and heart like God? Are you prayerfully trying to hear and follow God’s plans for your child? Are you comfortable with affection from your children? Do you parent for friend, family, or social media approval or for God’s approval? How well do you deal with your child’s emotions and needs? Do you have unresolved issues that keep you from dealing with the hurts and emotions your child faces? Thank you for listening to this small list of Scripture and specific questions designed for personal examination. It’s crucial to stop and focus with godly intention and not let hours or days pass by without steadying yourself in God’s hand. Guided living through prayer and Scripture will help each of us see where we need to invite God to work within us. I invite you to make time to study the verses I suggested, as well as other Scripture that comes to mind as you pray. God knows exactly what you and your children need to follow Him and fulfill the beautiful purposes He plans for you. Everything we endure in life, hard and easy, allows us the opportunity to choose whether we will faithfully walk in humble relationship with Jesus. Life allows us to choose whether we will view life through an eternal and scriptural perspective. Your life and the lives of your children are significant; you each serve a purpose only God ordained and knows. Live a life that relies on and shines Christ. Allow future generations to build a strong foundation on the legacy of Jesus that they receive from your loving guidance and purposed intention. Dear Heavenly Father, Your goodness and mercy toward us is the greatest gift, yet You still lavish even more on those who love You and are called according to Your purposes. As we know and follow You, we understand that these gifts are not meant just for our good pleasure, but for Your honor and glory. Thank you for entrusting each of us with the children You have purposed for us and for giving us all we need to raise them for You as we humbly bow at Your feet. You are truly all we need. Life isn’t easy, but You warned us there would be trials and persecution as we follow You. You also promised that You have already overcome the world. Thank you. Help us to see where we need You and where we need less of self. Allow us to transform through Your holy and loving power and grace each moment. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” podcast. This and my “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, iHeart Radio, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts may also now be found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. Will you take a moment to follow the shows and think of someone you can share the podcasts with and encourage them to follow and share, as well? Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. 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< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 077 - Understanding the Unique Needs of Each Child - Why Parenting Can't Be One Size Fits All Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 077 – Understanding the Unique Needs of Each Child: Why Parenting Can’t Be One Size Fits All When my mother was alive, she adored Christmas. I know one of her love languages was gifts, because she enjoyed shopping and buying lots of presents at Christmastime. She loved Christmas festivities and no one could decorate a tree as beautifully as my mother did. Whether you saw a store-bought or handmade ornament hanging from her tree, you could barely tell the difference, if at all. Her work was so detailed and well done. My mom was one of the most talented women I know. She could do anything from roofing a house to making her own sewing patterns. When Christmas arrived, she wrapped so many presents the gift pile would reach across the room as she continued placing items under the tree. The presents weren’t just wrapped either. She used gift tags and hand-made bows so that the person would have the experience of opening something that felt special. My mom loved buying lots of gifts, but she made sure she was fair. Usually she would spend the same amount on each of my siblings and me. One way she was able to do that was by often buying us the same gifts in different styles or colors. Many times I knew what I would get simply because I saw my sister open a gift earlier and I knew from experience that I probably had something like it under the tree. For example, one year my sister received a blue pants outfit. When I opened my next gift it was the same outfit in a berry color. This technique worked well for my mom. She was able to buy those presents she loved to give, yet feel like she was a fair mom who kept things equal between children. While this idea can make gifting easier, it’s not a wise choice for parenting. I’ve heard parents remark before that although they raised all of their children the same they sure did turn out differently. This remark is a pet peeve of mine. Why? God, in all His glory and wisdom made each person alive unique. If every person is special and created for a purpose, there is no way they should be parented the same. Did you notice I said should? I also mean can . The two words carry different, but meaningful distinctions. Children should not be parented the same because each one is unique and responds to different methods. No child can be parented the same because every parent is evolving, or they should be. As women we should not be the same person tomorrow that we are today. As mothers, when we mature in godly understanding, our parenting techniques should evolve, as well. Do you see what I mean? Think of how long it takes to raise a child. Let’s just say that your child is in your home for eighteen years. That’s a span of almost twenty years. Are you going to be the same person every year or are you going to change? Is your financial situation going to remain the same? Are your friends and family going to remain the same? Is your child going to remain with the same vulnerabilities and characteristics? Or are they going to mature and develop? Life and families are filled with many variables and uncertainties. The only thing you know without a doubt will stay the same is God. Our sovereign, holy Heavenly Father doesn’t change. Although, having said that however, your walk with Him will change. Or at least it should . As you deepen and mature your walk with Jesus, you are transformed. Not just your thoughts, but your beliefs, desires, actions, and reactions. Let’s say you have a few children, each spaced a few years apart. If you are actively and intentionally growing your relationship with Christ aren’t you going to be a different woman, a different mother for each child? In addition, each child brings their own personality, interests, and challenges. What works with one child won’t necessarily be the best choice for another child. Also, times change, culture changes, technology changes. Do you understand all the different variables involved with parenting? Even when children are raised in the same house by the same parents, each child is unique and to an extent , should be parented differently. I believe that when parents speak of raising children the same, what they usually mean is that they disciplined them in the same way or that they used the same basic household rules , consisting of expectations and corrective measures . But we know that each person is mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually unique. They also arrive in the family in a specific birth order and at different times in the lives of the parents. Your firstborn’s birth generally receives much excitement and attention. As a parent, you are usually less confident and more attentive. The firstborn is usually given more expectations than the following children, at least for a time. The eldest may be asked to help more, especially with younger siblings. They are also expected to lead and set a good example for others. The eldest usually also receives more one-on-one attention from parents, at the very least from the primary caregiver. As each child arrives, parents sometimes become more relaxed in expectations and requirements. Mothers often become more confident in parenting abilities and are less anxious about their role. Children, as they grow, tend to find their “position” in the family, whether it be the clown, the entertainer, the studious one, etc., and often match behaviors to that role, sometimes without intending to do so. As time passes, events like jobs, deaths, life choices, education, financial situations, spiritual growth (or lack thereof), and other circumstances also contribute to the way parents respond to and raise their children. Mothers are human. We carry past experiences, disappointments, hurts, personalities, and interests. Those desires and traits often play a role in the way we respond to our children. The dynamics between parents also affects their relationship with their children. If one parent shows partiality to a child, the other parent may over-compensate with the rest of the children. Each of these factors touch the varying personalities and developing actions or reactions of the children, which then feed into the parents and the cycle continues. Do you see how it’s impossible for parents to state they are raising all of their children the same? If that’s the case, how should you strive to raise your children? Make your intention to parent for God , not to raise your children the same. Don’t focus on fairness . Discipling children for Jesus is where your attention should remain. God intentionally gifted you with unique children. He brought them to you at different times and in specific orders. He has blessed them (and you) with gifts and talents. Your Heavenly Father doesn’t desire that you try to evenly raise everyone the same, but He does call you to disciple your children to know, love, honor, serve, and obey Him. He will equip you and provide the ways to do so with each child. Show them the way to Christ as Savior and mentor the way for them to nourish a lifetime relationship with Him. Creating a plan to parent with purpose is the first step. This is a critical piece of your parenting journey. In my Set-Apart Collective™, I teach mothers a method to parent each child for Christ called the Purposed Parenting Plan™ which enables them to construct one plan that is customizable for every child they are privileged to raise. Motherhood is a holy position, assigned by a loving God. Unless you intentionally craft a plan that will keep you focused and accountable and directs them to the heart and truths of Jesus, you risk flowing with the direction life takes you and missing opportunities to bring your children the fullness of life God intends for them. While it is not possible to raise children exactly the same, there are ways to parent each of your children with the same purpose . 2 Timothy 3:14-17 says, “But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it, and how from infancy you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work .” While the world shouts at parents to raise children to be kind, empathetic, well-mannered, responsible, and educated, a mother following Christ understands that raising her children to know and obey Jesus will develop those qualities and others. Instead of focusing on equally raising children with the characteristics endorsed by culture, raise children by the truths instilled in God’s Word . Love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control flow from those with the Holy Spirit abiding within and who humbly submit and mature their walk with Christ intentionally. As you raise your children in the truths of Scripture and show them a pure and humble love for Christ, you will see the characteristics God crafted within them in the womb and help mold them for service and obedience to Christ. Ephesians 6:1-4 says, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother—which is the first commandment with a promise—so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth. Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord .” Parent with godly purpose, not positive parity. Dear Heavenly Father, How blessed we are to fellowship with You through Jesus and the Holy Spirit within us. Help us to remember the power You have invested within us to parent for You. Lead us on Your purposed path to disciple children who know, show, and obey You with humble love and adoration. Enable them to set an example of You for others by their speech, conduct, love, faith and purity . Help us as mothers to see the uniqueness You crafted into each of the children You have entrusted to us. May we disciple them for You as they mature and show them the way to Jesus as Savior. Father, may they love You with joy and fervor. May Your light shine forth from them all the days of their lives because we have led them to you purposely and parented with a plan that clearly showed You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. I believe godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. That’s why I’ve created the Set-Apart Collective. Have you decided peers and culture won’t be the main influence over your child? Would you like to parent to prepare your child for eternity with Christ, not to repair a relationship? In the Set-Apart Collective, you will deepen your walk with Christ, learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family. The Set-Apart Collective wait list is open now. The first group of women is currently growing together. Please send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. If you connected in some way with this episode, would you please rate and review the podcast on Apple or Spotify? It only takes a minute or so and makes a big difference in people finding the podcast. You and I know that the best reviews are by word of mouth, so would you please choose a friend to recommend the show to? Let them know that the podcast is found at terrihitt.com, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify. Imagine the change we will see in the way mothers parent for Christ if they learn to be intentional, too. Remember, if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection. Previous Next

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #125 – Willing Steward Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. This week we reached the one year home mark with our Golden Retriever, Beau. Yesterday was National Dog Day, so it was fun to be able to create a Facebook post sharing how he has grown and changed, what his personality is like now, and how he acts in our family. Like a typical “only child,” Beau likes to be the center of everything we do and is strong enough to force his way in wherever he wants to be. At this point, I’ve lost count of how many toys he has accumulated over the last twelve months. In fact, he has chewed through more than I can remember, so even if I were to count what I can find in the house, he has actually received much more than I would know. Like my dog (and probably your pet), as well as most children, we adults fit into this category of having much more than we realize. Did you notice I said “have,” not own? That’s because just as we provide for Beau, all that is in our possession comes from God for specific purposes as He allows each of us free will to choose what type of steward we will be. 1 Peter 4:10-11 says, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God. If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen.” The definition of the word, “steward” that we find in the dictionary or as it is often defined by society is, “one who is responsible to oversee and protect something considered worth caring for and preserving.” As believers, we understand that the definition of Christian stewardship is different, and would be defined as, “using gifts, talents, resources, possessions, wealth, time, and mindset for the service, honor, and glory of God.” All comes from God and He calls us to steward all for Him. 1 Chronicles 29:14 says, “But who am I, and who are my people, that we should be able to give as generously as this? Everything comes from you, and we have given you only what comes from your hand.” I didn’t always understand this. For example, when I was a younger follower of Christ, I can remember learning in Scripture that I was supposed to tithe. I couldn’t see any way that we could do so. Our finances were so tight that I knew there was no way we would survive tithing. Yet, just as Scripture tells us, God is not mocked. It wasn’t until we finally began offering our finances, as well as self, that we saw God truly shine His glory in ways we never imagined. 2 Corinthians 9:6-8 says, “Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work. “ Honestly, I use this principle of stewardship because it is important, but I don’t want anyone to think that I’m saying when we offer our money to God He will reward us with more money. God, in His sovereignty gives us exactly what we need to grow and mature us in our relationship with Him. Although at the time we did see our finances stretch and multiply in ways we never could have planned or imagined, we have never been blessed with immense financial wealth, and although we have been abundantly provided for by the Lord, He has chosen to bless us more deeply in emotional, spiritual, mental, and relational ways that have been perfect for us. God has also humbled us in many ways over the years, and for that, I am blessed and full of gratitude. Without all we have faced, we would not be the individuals or family we have become. I am thankful and desire to be closer to Christ in every way tomorrow, and more so the next day, and on and on. Matthew 6:33-34 says, “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” It also took me a while as a new Christian to really grasp the fact that all we have has been provided by the Lord. I often thanked God for what we had been given, and trusted that when we didn’t receive some things we thought we needed, He was looking over us and going before us in every way. Then, I finally learned through tough experiences that it’s one thing to have head knowledge that comes from reading God’s word, yet the Word became life-altering and so real when I deeply grasped and took hold of what it teaches and promises. When I applied it to my life, allowing God’s truths to seep into and overflow my heart, I truly acknowledged the sovereignty of God in a way I hadn’t before. His holiness, His love, was seen with a new heart and eyes. I was better able to step out in faith, humbly bow to His authority, and obey His calls and commands. Hebrews 11:6 says, “And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him.” God wants our stewardship offering to reflect our faith and trust in Him. I felt free when we humbly began tithing on that day so many years ago. How blessed I felt to not worry and just do as God asked! We stepped out, not in blind faith, but through confidence supported by God’s words and promises. Our Heavenly Father has never let us down or left us without what we needed, plus more. Again, I’m not speaking of only tithing finances or of prosperity preaching, that falsely teaches if you give abundantly, God will bless your finances with great wealth. God chooses to bless obedience in multiple creative ways that are perfectly suited for each individual and the plans He has for us. Our freedom comes through obedience to Him. Can you think of ways you can be an excellent steward for what God has allowed you to have? It could be financial, or through time or talents, gifts, or resources. Even this podcast is a way I steward and present what God has given to me. The Live With Eternal Perspective podcast and the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast are simply acts of obedience for me and ways I steward time, talents, and interests for our gracious Heavenly Father. Have you wondered just what God requires from you in order to be a good steward? If we look in the Bible, we see several verses that lead us to better understand God’s heart for Christian stewardship. One, however, sticks out to me. God wants us to focus on Him. Our life is not to be founded upon this world, but the foundation of Christ. Romans 14:12 says, “So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God.” Viewing life through an eternal lens enables you to focus on what God considers of value. Remember that all we have will one day disappear. Nothing material will go with us when we leave this world to stand before God. We will face the Creator of the Universe and all mankind without what we accumulated on earth, but with what we learned of Him, used for Him, and did for Him. 1 Corinthians 4:2 says, “Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful.” God has given each of us something, and often, many things that can be used for His good and glory. Nothing we own is simply for us to hide away or use for only ourselves. Even personal experiences shape and stretch us, and through an eternal perspective viewpoint, can be used to affect the lives of others for or against God. Christians are called to joyfully and with honest, loving hearts, give to the Lord. Listen to this passage from 1 Chronicles 29:10-18 which says, “David praised the LORD in the presence of the whole assembly, saying, “Praise be to you, LORD, the God of our father Israel, from everlasting to everlasting. Yours, LORD, is the greatness and the power and the glory and the majesty and the splendor, for everything in heaven and earth is Yours. Yours, LORD, is the kingdom; You are exalted as head over all. Wealth and honor come from You; You are the ruler of all things. In Your hands are strength and power to exalt and give strength to all. Now, our God, we give You thanks, and praise Your glorious name. “But who am I, and who are my people, that we should be able to give as generously as this? Everything comes from You, and we have given you only what comes from Your hand. We are foreigners and strangers in Your sight, as were all our ancestors. Our days on earth are like a shadow, without hope. LORD our God, all this abundance that we have provided for building You a temple for Your Holy Name comes from Your hand, and all of it belongs to You. I know, my God, that You test the heart and are pleased with integrity. All these things I have given willingly and with honest intent. And now I have seen with joy how willingly Your people who are here have given to You. LORD, the God of our fathers Abraham, Isaac and Israel, keep these desires and thoughts in the hearts of Your people forever, and keep their hearts loyal to You. ” David’s prayer to God began with humble praise and thanksgiving. He knew that everything he owned had come from God. Just like us, nothing offered back to God isn’t already His or given to us by Him. David was able to willingly surrender back to God because he understood that God was the Owner, the Originator, and the Operator of the universe. David clearly understood that when we choose to follow God, it is a heart matter, not just a mind matter. 1 Peter 4:10 says, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” Once we choose to be a willing steward, we develop into a trustworthy steward, then mature to become a faithful steward. Through the grace, love, direction, and discernment of our gracious Heavenly Father, we can assess where we are now, where He desires us to go next, and how He will enable us to get there. Dear Heavenly Father, Your goodness is overwhelming. Your patience, kindness, and love for us is unending and undeserved. Thank you for Your holy presence in our lives. As we humbly submit to You, Father, please enable us to examine our heart through Your standards, to live with Your expectations and guidelines, and to sacrifice and steward where and as You call. May we see changes within us from day to day and be filled with joy as we allow You to carry and equip us for the purposes You designed us for. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. Just click on “podcasts” and type in the topic or title you wish to hear about in the search bar at the top of the page or wherever you listen to podcasts I also want to remind you that the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, but is also a part of the Spark Media Network, and now the podcast may also be found on the Edifi app, where you can find thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed this podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? For those who have, I thank you so very much! If you haven’t, would you please consider doing so? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. If you believe the content you hear should be heard so that more people can begin to deepen their walk with Jesus and live with eyes set on eternity, would you please write a review and rate the podcast for me? I also want to ask if you have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen to this new podcast, especially if you are raising children or influencing grandchildren. Please follow and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 125 - Willing Steward Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #125 – Willing Steward Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. This week we reached the one year home mark with our Golden Retriever, Beau. Yesterday was National Dog Day, so it was fun to be able to create a Facebook post sharing how he has grown and changed, what his personality is like now, and how he acts in our family. Like a typical “only child,” Beau likes to be the center of everything we do and is strong enough to force his way in wherever he wants to be. At this point, I’ve lost count of how many toys he has accumulated over the last twelve months. In fact, he has chewed through more than I can remember, so even if I were to count what I can find in the house, he has actually received much more than I would know. Like my dog (and probably your pet), as well as most children, we adults fit into this category of having much more than we realize. Did you notice I said “have,” not own? That’s because just as we provide for Beau, all that is in our possession comes from God for specific purposes as He allows each of us free will to choose what type of steward we will be. 1 Peter 4:10-11 says, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God. If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen.” The definition of the word, “steward” that we find in the dictionary or as it is often defined by society is, “one who is responsible to oversee and protect something considered worth caring for and preserving.” As believers, we understand that the definition of Christian stewardship is different, and would be defined as, “using gifts, talents, resources, possessions, wealth, time, and mindset for the service, honor, and glory of God.” All comes from God and He calls us to steward all for Him. 1 Chronicles 29:14 says, “But who am I, and who are my people, that we should be able to give as generously as this? Everything comes from you, and we have given you only what comes from your hand.” I didn’t always understand this. For example, when I was a younger follower of Christ, I can remember learning in Scripture that I was supposed to tithe. I couldn’t see any way that we could do so. Our finances were so tight that I knew there was no way we would survive tithing. Yet, just as Scripture tells us, God is not mocked. It wasn’t until we finally began offering our finances, as well as self, that we saw God truly shine His glory in ways we never imagined. 2 Corinthians 9:6-8 says, “Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work. “ Honestly, I use this principle of stewardship because it is important, but I don’t want anyone to think that I’m saying when we offer our money to God He will reward us with more money. God, in His sovereignty gives us exactly what we need to grow and mature us in our relationship with Him. Although at the time we did see our finances stretch and multiply in ways we never could have planned or imagined, we have never been blessed with immense financial wealth, and although we have been abundantly provided for by the Lord, He has chosen to bless us more deeply in emotional, spiritual, mental, and relational ways that have been perfect for us. God has also humbled us in many ways over the years, and for that, I am blessed and full of gratitude. Without all we have faced, we would not be the individuals or family we have become. I am thankful and desire to be closer to Christ in every way tomorrow, and more so the next day, and on and on. Matthew 6:33-34 says, “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” It also took me a while as a new Christian to really grasp the fact that all we have has been provided by the Lord. I often thanked God for what we had been given, and trusted that when we didn’t receive some things we thought we needed, He was looking over us and going before us in every way. Then, I finally learned through tough experiences that it’s one thing to have head knowledge that comes from reading God’s word, yet the Word became life-altering and so real when I deeply grasped and took hold of what it teaches and promises. When I applied it to my life, allowing God’s truths to seep into and overflow my heart, I truly acknowledged the sovereignty of God in a way I hadn’t before. His holiness, His love, was seen with a new heart and eyes. I was better able to step out in faith, humbly bow to His authority, and obey His calls and commands. Hebrews 11:6 says, “And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him.” God wants our stewardship offering to reflect our faith and trust in Him. I felt free when we humbly began tithing on that day so many years ago. How blessed I felt to not worry and just do as God asked! We stepped out, not in blind faith, but through confidence supported by God’s words and promises. Our Heavenly Father has never let us down or left us without what we needed, plus more. Again, I’m not speaking of only tithing finances or of prosperity preaching, that falsely teaches if you give abundantly, God will bless your finances with great wealth. God chooses to bless obedience in multiple creative ways that are perfectly suited for each individual and the plans He has for us. Our freedom comes through obedience to Him. Can you think of ways you can be an excellent steward for what God has allowed you to have? It could be financial, or through time or talents, gifts, or resources. Even this podcast is a way I steward and present what God has given to me. The Live With Eternal Perspective podcast and the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast are simply acts of obedience for me and ways I steward time, talents, and interests for our gracious Heavenly Father. Have you wondered just what God requires from you in order to be a good steward? If we look in the Bible, we see several verses that lead us to better understand God’s heart for Christian stewardship. One, however, sticks out to me. God wants us to focus on Him. Our life is not to be founded upon this world, but the foundation of Christ. Romans 14:12 says, “So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God.” Viewing life through an eternal lens enables you to focus on what God considers of value. Remember that all we have will one day disappear. Nothing material will go with us when we leave this world to stand before God. We will face the Creator of the Universe and all mankind without what we accumulated on earth, but with what we learned of Him, used for Him, and did for Him. 1 Corinthians 4:2 says, “Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful.” God has given each of us something, and often, many things that can be used for His good and glory. Nothing we own is simply for us to hide away or use for only ourselves. Even personal experiences shape and stretch us, and through an eternal perspective viewpoint, can be used to affect the lives of others for or against God. Christians are called to joyfully and with honest, loving hearts, give to the Lord. Listen to this passage from 1 Chronicles 29:10-18 which says, “David praised the LORD in the presence of the whole assembly, saying, “Praise be to you, LORD, the God of our father Israel, from everlasting to everlasting. Yours, LORD, is the greatness and the power and the glory and the majesty and the splendor, for everything in heaven and earth is Yours. Yours, LORD, is the kingdom; You are exalted as head over all. Wealth and honor come from You; You are the ruler of all things. In Your hands are strength and power to exalt and give strength to all. Now, our God, we give You thanks, and praise Your glorious name. “But who am I, and who are my people, that we should be able to give as generously as this? Everything comes from You, and we have given you only what comes from Your hand. We are foreigners and strangers in Your sight, as were all our ancestors. Our days on earth are like a shadow, without hope. LORD our God, all this abundance that we have provided for building You a temple for Your Holy Name comes from Your hand, and all of it belongs to You. I know, my God, that You test the heart and are pleased with integrity. All these things I have given willingly and with honest intent. And now I have seen with joy how willingly Your people who are here have given to You. LORD, the God of our fathers Abraham, Isaac and Israel, keep these desires and thoughts in the hearts of Your people forever, and keep their hearts loyal to You. ” David’s prayer to God began with humble praise and thanksgiving. He knew that everything he owned had come from God. Just like us, nothing offered back to God isn’t already His or given to us by Him. David was able to willingly surrender back to God because he understood that God was the Owner, the Originator, and the Operator of the universe. David clearly understood that when we choose to follow God, it is a heart matter, not just a mind matter. 1 Peter 4:10 says, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” Once we choose to be a willing steward, we develop into a trustworthy steward, then mature to become a faithful steward. Through the grace, love, direction, and discernment of our gracious Heavenly Father, we can assess where we are now, where He desires us to go next, and how He will enable us to get there. Dear Heavenly Father, Your goodness is overwhelming. Your patience, kindness, and love for us is unending and undeserved. Thank you for Your holy presence in our lives. As we humbly submit to You, Father, please enable us to examine our heart through Your standards, to live with Your expectations and guidelines, and to sacrifice and steward where and as You call. May we see changes within us from day to day and be filled with joy as we allow You to carry and equip us for the purposes You designed us for. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. Just click on “podcasts” and type in the topic or title you wish to hear about in the search bar at the top of the page or wherever you listen to podcasts I also want to remind you that the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, but is also a part of the Spark Media Network, and now the podcast may also be found on the Edifi app, where you can find thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed this podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? For those who have, I thank you so very much! If you haven’t, would you please consider doing so? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. If you believe the content you hear should be heard so that more people can begin to deepen their walk with Jesus and live with eyes set on eternity, would you please write a review and rate the podcast for me? I also want to ask if you have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen to this new podcast, especially if you are raising children or influencing grandchildren. Please follow and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #066 – Praying Scripture With Children Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Thank you for joining me for this conclusion to the prayer series this month. This final episode was actually unplanned, but I strongly felt the Lord urging me to add specific scripture verses to be prayed with children. Letting your child hear your heartfelt, genuine, and loving prayers lifted to God on their behalf coupled with them seeing you live a life that honors and praises God, despite the storm, while visibly seeking Him through His word daily has a mighty effect that lasts for eternity. I get several questions from mothers, often from parents of teens. The absolute best advice I can give is to begin teaching our children about Jesus from the instant you have them. Pray for them before they arrive, and never stop praying, even after they are grown. My heart yearns to help every mother see her need for Christ and encourage her deepen her personal walk with Him in such an obvious, intentional way that He overflows into the heart of her children. I want to impress the importance of shaping the heart and mind of our children and grandchildren so that they naturally chose Jesus over culture. Last week we learned verses and prayers crafted for us to pray for our family, spouse, and children. We discussed the truth that as we live with eternal perspective, our heart must beat in unison with God’s, stirring the hearts of our precious family members to do the same. The verses and prayers we discussed in Parts 2 and 3 of this series also help us to humbly approach God with reverence and honor. As I said in previous episodes, it is extremely important that we regularly and faithfully pray for our spouse and children. I sincerely desire that the verses and prayers mentioned in the preceding episodes will be used as is or as a framework for you to design prayers from your own heart. It is also my hope that the prayers crafted in this episode will be of eternal value for you and your family. There is absolutely nothing more important than shepherding our child to Christ. Through a loving lifestyle of maturing our walk with Him and exhibiting a faithful, growing relationship with Jesus, we are modeling an eternity-based mindset and instructing our children or grandchildren to rely on Him for all needs. We also show them how to build a healthy sense of esteem based on Christ and His purpose and desires for them. Praying scripture verses with our children or grandchildren builds awareness of God’s holy word and thought patterns and instills a healthy knowledge on which to build godly esteem. Let’s examine God’s promises and instructions through examination of His beautiful and holy words, but before we begin, I want to add a reminder that God’s word is perfect. Flawless. We do not want or need to add anything to it. What we are doing is using specific verses from God to use as the foundation of our prayers. This week we pray with our child present and participating in bowing before the Lord to petition for what He built in and desires for them. Repeating this practice of praying for our child with our child allows them the experience of hearing God’s word prayed over them and learning the importance of praying for others with God’s word. Our Father’s holy words become stitched into their spirit, binding the fabric of their emotions and feelings, thoughts and words, actions and desires with His truths. Psalm 18:30 says, “As for God, His way is perfect; the word of the LORD is flawless. He is a shield to all who take refuge in Him.” Let’s study several verses and use example prayers to lift to God with His words as the foundation. These are beautiful prayers to speak with your child present to hear the cries of our heart for him or her. Of course, you may add their name in the prayer in place of “he” or “she.” Father God, You alone are perfect. Your word is flawless. Help my child to seek You above all else in this world. I pray he understands that You are his refuge in this weary and broken world. Help him to rely on You. Just as we did in the earlier praying scripture episodes, think of qualities you feel the Lord calling you to specifically pray for your child. As every person is unique, each child has special gifts and talents, flaws and fears. You have been blessed with the exact children you have and as we know, God does not make mistakes. The Lord is calling you to surrender ego and pride as you kneel to Him to show you the way to the heart of your child. Allow God to guide you in discipling your child or grandchild for Jesus. Petition our Heavenly Father to show you the needs of your child and the ways you can pray. Eternity will arrive before any of us realize and the molding of your child’s soul is one of your most important responsibilities. Take each moment captive with all you can do to shepherd your child to God. Praying for specific areas and needs is of extreme importance. Romans 12:12 says, “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, persistent in prayer.” Most productive habits develop through daily or lifelong routines. After being established, we usually don’t even think of them as they become a necessary part of our life. Make this habit one that you do ponder as you continue maturing yourself to be the guide pointing your child to the perfect role model, Jesus. No prayers we release for our child will be a waste of time. Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.” Father God, Your word is alive and powerful, sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, joint and marrow. Please use Your holy words to expose the innermost thoughts of my child and I. Show us where we need to release selfish desires and reveal to us how to do it. Make us alive with fresh hearts that seek Your ways and give You great joy. Let’s examine several prayers to be used for any child. 1 John 2:5 says, “But those who obey God’s word truly show how completely they love Him. That is how we know we are living in Him.” Dear Heavenly Father, Your perfect word tells me that those who obey it truly show You how completely You are loved. Show my child and I that we are authentically living in You. Give us a passion to please You and help us remain steadfast to a lifestyle of honor for You. John 8:47 says, “Anyone who belongs to God listens gladly to the words of God. But you don’t listen because you don’t belong to God.” Father, may my child gladly listen to You because he is a child of Jesus. Please help him commit his life to You and steadfastly remain in Your hands because his faith is strong and courageous. 2 Timothy 2:15 says, “Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth.” Father God, may my child always do his best to present himself as one approved by and for You. May he be a worker without shame as he obediently and faithfully handles Your word of truth in every area of his life. As I shared earlier, God knows the exact needs our children have. He yearns for us to run to Him for advice and direction. As our Heavenly Father desires for us to shepherd our precious children back to Him, He calls for us to allow Him to shepherd us. I encourage you to make a list for each of your children or grandchildren of the needs you know they have. Perhaps they need more confidence, a more godly heart, more courage, more understanding of God’s word, esteem built on God’s opinion of and design for him, etc. These will be the first verses you will want to lift to the Lord. An overarching general theme of spiritual needs will be next, as were the verses and prayers we spoke earlier. A few examples of prayers for specific qualities could be as follows: Galatians 5:22-23 says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Gracious Heavenly Father, there is none like You. Through Your merciful gift of Jesus and the Holy Spirit for all who believe in You, You have allowed us to live with the fruit of the Spirit. Please allow my child to possess a deep faith in You with an obedience and trust that allows them to carry love, joy, peace, and patience, as well as kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control that comes from You alone. John 15:10-11 says, “If you keep My commandments, you will remain in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and remain in His love. I have told you these things so that My joy may be in you and your joy may be complete.” Father, in Your goodness, You desire that I have Your joy. Please help my child to remain in Your love by keeping Your commandments with a loving, purposeful heart that desires You. Allow him to attract, treasure, and maintain Your joy always. Psalm 120:2 says, “Deliver my soul, O Lord, from lying lips and a deceitful tongue.” Dear Heavenly Father, You are truth. Your holiness demands truth from Your people. Father, please guide my child in truth. May his lips flee from deceit. May his heart and mind desire truth as You do. Psalm 119:9-11 says, “How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to Your word. With all my heart I have sought You; do not let me stray from Your commandments. I have hidden Your word in my heart that I might not sin against You.” Gracious Heavenly Father, please equip my child to keep his way pure by seeking You with his whole heart and guarding it according to Your holy and perfect word. Do not let him stray from Your commandments. May he never desire to sin against You for his faith is true and his devotion to You deep and pure. James 2:22 says, “You see that his faith and his actions were working together, and his faith was made complete by what he did.” Father God, our Gracious, Holy, Heavenly Father, by Your word we see that faith alone can justify us, yet faith never remains alone. Faith that is true always exists with acts. When our faith is true, we demonstrate it by the works You spur in our life. We understand that works do not save, but they are a loving and obedient response to the love and faith we have for You. Please enable my child to have a faith that multiples and is exhibited by works that please You in their purity and joy. Help my child to believe in and follow You more each day. I pray that these examples are a starting point for you to craft a lasting legacy of prayer with and for your child. I’d love to hear what you design specifically for your home and children or grandchildren. Together, we can all grow in depth and width of faith and devotion for our Lord. There is strength in believing the power of God’s holy words and promises to us. Gift your child with a mature faith that models the way Jesus showed us to live. Allow him to see the evidence of the fruit of the Spirit growing within you and permit them the honor of praying over them daily in their presence. It will become a sweet time of shared fellowship and a direct line to the throne of God you will both treasure. Titus 2:7-8 says, “In everything, show yourself to be an example by doing good works. In your teaching show integrity, dignity, and wholesome speech that is above reproach, so that anyone who opposes us will be ashamed to have nothing bad to say about us.” Father God, please, in everything show me how to be an example of You for my children and grandchildren. Through your perfect words and Jesus’s model for us, may I show integrity, dignity, and wholesome speech that is above reproach so that my children and grandchildren are attracted to Your beauty and transforming power. May I never lead them astray. In Your precious name I pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this last podcast episode regarding praying scripture. I truly pray that it is a help to you in crafting a prayer life worthy of our perfect and holy Heavenly Father. I invite you to visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 066 Praying Scripture With Children Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #066 – Praying Scripture With Children Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Thank you for joining me for this conclusion to the prayer series this month. This final episode was actually unplanned, but I strongly felt the Lord urging me to add specific scripture verses to be prayed with children. Letting your child hear your heartfelt, genuine, and loving prayers lifted to God on their behalf coupled with them seeing you live a life that honors and praises God, despite the storm, while visibly seeking Him through His word daily has a mighty effect that lasts for eternity. I get several questions from mothers, often from parents of teens. The absolute best advice I can give is to begin teaching our children about Jesus from the instant you have them. Pray for them before they arrive, and never stop praying, even after they are grown. My heart yearns to help every mother see her need for Christ and encourage her deepen her personal walk with Him in such an obvious, intentional way that He overflows into the heart of her children. I want to impress the importance of shaping the heart and mind of our children and grandchildren so that they naturally chose Jesus over culture. Last week we learned verses and prayers crafted for us to pray for our family, spouse, and children. We discussed the truth that as we live with eternal perspective, our heart must beat in unison with God’s, stirring the hearts of our precious family members to do the same. The verses and prayers we discussed in Parts 2 and 3 of this series also help us to humbly approach God with reverence and honor. As I said in previous episodes, it is extremely important that we regularly and faithfully pray for our spouse and children. I sincerely desire that the verses and prayers mentioned in the preceding episodes will be used as is or as a framework for you to design prayers from your own heart. It is also my hope that the prayers crafted in this episode will be of eternal value for you and your family. There is absolutely nothing more important than shepherding our child to Christ. Through a loving lifestyle of maturing our walk with Him and exhibiting a faithful, growing relationship with Jesus, we are modeling an eternity-based mindset and instructing our children or grandchildren to rely on Him for all needs. We also show them how to build a healthy sense of esteem based on Christ and His purpose and desires for them. Praying scripture verses with our children or grandchildren builds awareness of God’s holy word and thought patterns and instills a healthy knowledge on which to build godly esteem. Let’s examine God’s promises and instructions through examination of His beautiful and holy words, but before we begin, I want to add a reminder that God’s word is perfect. Flawless. We do not want or need to add anything to it. What we are doing is using specific verses from God to use as the foundation of our prayers. This week we pray with our child present and participating in bowing before the Lord to petition for what He built in and desires for them. Repeating this practice of praying for our child with our child allows them the experience of hearing God’s word prayed over them and learning the importance of praying for others with God’s word. Our Father’s holy words become stitched into their spirit, binding the fabric of their emotions and feelings, thoughts and words, actions and desires with His truths. Psalm 18:30 says, “As for God, His way is perfect; the word of the LORD is flawless. He is a shield to all who take refuge in Him.” Let’s study several verses and use example prayers to lift to God with His words as the foundation. These are beautiful prayers to speak with your child present to hear the cries of our heart for him or her. Of course, you may add their name in the prayer in place of “he” or “she.” Father God, You alone are perfect. Your word is flawless. Help my child to seek You above all else in this world. I pray he understands that You are his refuge in this weary and broken world. Help him to rely on You. Just as we did in the earlier praying scripture episodes, think of qualities you feel the Lord calling you to specifically pray for your child. As every person is unique, each child has special gifts and talents, flaws and fears. You have been blessed with the exact children you have and as we know, God does not make mistakes. The Lord is calling you to surrender ego and pride as you kneel to Him to show you the way to the heart of your child. Allow God to guide you in discipling your child or grandchild for Jesus. Petition our Heavenly Father to show you the needs of your child and the ways you can pray. Eternity will arrive before any of us realize and the molding of your child’s soul is one of your most important responsibilities. Take each moment captive with all you can do to shepherd your child to God. Praying for specific areas and needs is of extreme importance. Romans 12:12 says, “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, persistent in prayer.” Most productive habits develop through daily or lifelong routines. After being established, we usually don’t even think of them as they become a necessary part of our life. Make this habit one that you do ponder as you continue maturing yourself to be the guide pointing your child to the perfect role model, Jesus. No prayers we release for our child will be a waste of time. Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.” Father God, Your word is alive and powerful, sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, joint and marrow. Please use Your holy words to expose the innermost thoughts of my child and I. Show us where we need to release selfish desires and reveal to us how to do it. Make us alive with fresh hearts that seek Your ways and give You great joy. Let’s examine several prayers to be used for any child. 1 John 2:5 says, “But those who obey God’s word truly show how completely they love Him. That is how we know we are living in Him.” Dear Heavenly Father, Your perfect word tells me that those who obey it truly show You how completely You are loved. Show my child and I that we are authentically living in You. Give us a passion to please You and help us remain steadfast to a lifestyle of honor for You. John 8:47 says, “Anyone who belongs to God listens gladly to the words of God. But you don’t listen because you don’t belong to God.” Father, may my child gladly listen to You because he is a child of Jesus. Please help him commit his life to You and steadfastly remain in Your hands because his faith is strong and courageous. 2 Timothy 2:15 says, “Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth.” Father God, may my child always do his best to present himself as one approved by and for You. May he be a worker without shame as he obediently and faithfully handles Your word of truth in every area of his life. As I shared earlier, God knows the exact needs our children have. He yearns for us to run to Him for advice and direction. As our Heavenly Father desires for us to shepherd our precious children back to Him, He calls for us to allow Him to shepherd us. I encourage you to make a list for each of your children or grandchildren of the needs you know they have. Perhaps they need more confidence, a more godly heart, more courage, more understanding of God’s word, esteem built on God’s opinion of and design for him, etc. These will be the first verses you will want to lift to the Lord. An overarching general theme of spiritual needs will be next, as were the verses and prayers we spoke earlier. A few examples of prayers for specific qualities could be as follows: Galatians 5:22-23 says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Gracious Heavenly Father, there is none like You. Through Your merciful gift of Jesus and the Holy Spirit for all who believe in You, You have allowed us to live with the fruit of the Spirit. Please allow my child to possess a deep faith in You with an obedience and trust that allows them to carry love, joy, peace, and patience, as well as kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control that comes from You alone. John 15:10-11 says, “If you keep My commandments, you will remain in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and remain in His love. I have told you these things so that My joy may be in you and your joy may be complete.” Father, in Your goodness, You desire that I have Your joy. Please help my child to remain in Your love by keeping Your commandments with a loving, purposeful heart that desires You. Allow him to attract, treasure, and maintain Your joy always. Psalm 120:2 says, “Deliver my soul, O Lord, from lying lips and a deceitful tongue.” Dear Heavenly Father, You are truth. Your holiness demands truth from Your people. Father, please guide my child in truth. May his lips flee from deceit. May his heart and mind desire truth as You do. Psalm 119:9-11 says, “How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to Your word. With all my heart I have sought You; do not let me stray from Your commandments. I have hidden Your word in my heart that I might not sin against You.” Gracious Heavenly Father, please equip my child to keep his way pure by seeking You with his whole heart and guarding it according to Your holy and perfect word. Do not let him stray from Your commandments. May he never desire to sin against You for his faith is true and his devotion to You deep and pure. James 2:22 says, “You see that his faith and his actions were working together, and his faith was made complete by what he did.” Father God, our Gracious, Holy, Heavenly Father, by Your word we see that faith alone can justify us, yet faith never remains alone. Faith that is true always exists with acts. When our faith is true, we demonstrate it by the works You spur in our life. We understand that works do not save, but they are a loving and obedient response to the love and faith we have for You. Please enable my child to have a faith that multiples and is exhibited by works that please You in their purity and joy. Help my child to believe in and follow You more each day. I pray that these examples are a starting point for you to craft a lasting legacy of prayer with and for your child. I’d love to hear what you design specifically for your home and children or grandchildren. Together, we can all grow in depth and width of faith and devotion for our Lord. There is strength in believing the power of God’s holy words and promises to us. Gift your child with a mature faith that models the way Jesus showed us to live. Allow him to see the evidence of the fruit of the Spirit growing within you and permit them the honor of praying over them daily in their presence. It will become a sweet time of shared fellowship and a direct line to the throne of God you will both treasure. Titus 2:7-8 says, “In everything, show yourself to be an example by doing good works. In your teaching show integrity, dignity, and wholesome speech that is above reproach, so that anyone who opposes us will be ashamed to have nothing bad to say about us.” Father God, please, in everything show me how to be an example of You for my children and grandchildren. Through your perfect words and Jesus’s model for us, may I show integrity, dignity, and wholesome speech that is above reproach so that my children and grandchildren are attracted to Your beauty and transforming power. May I never lead them astray. In Your precious name I pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this last podcast episode regarding praying scripture. I truly pray that it is a help to you in crafting a prayer life worthy of our perfect and holy Heavenly Father. I invite you to visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #070 – Refining Time Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. This week I purchased a gift for a baby shower. Out of all the various gifts listed on the registry, I chose something very simple. A bottle warmer. Why did I choose that item? A bottle warmer certainly isn’t glamorous or exciting. Yet, the simplicity spoke to my heart because of the purpose behind it. The warmer made me recall the days I had babies in the house. My precious memories of that time brought back cherished moments that now seem so far in the past, yet also feel like yesterday at the same time. Have you ever heard older mothers pass on advice about being in the moment? Appreciate the times with your children while they are young. People always say in hindsight that the days are long, but the years are short. How true the words are. As an older mom who has had the unique gift of raising one family and starting again with a baby, the words stir me very deeply. Although it saddens me, I realize the slight differences between the early years with my first two and my last two. I admit that my love for each of my children is the same and very deep and strong, yet I have a deeper appreciation for my time with the younger set because of the wisdom gained during the years I aged in between. That insight allowed me to understand what a gift our children are and how purposely unique each one is. I always knew they were more precious than gold, but when I was young, my attention was split between chasing dreams and gaining the worldly treasures I thought we needed, instead of realizing my blessed role of raising my children for Jesus. Now I have learned that resting in the arms of our Heavenly Father, appreciating what He has given me, whether it be a long session with a crying child or a quiet time of reflection as I gaze at my infant who never knew attention before, rejoicing as she maintained eye contact for the first time, I am blessed. I bought that bottle warmer for a shower gift because I hope the mother will quietly sit with her baby, appreciating every single moment and will desire to be the one holding and feeding her beloved gift from God. Just as it takes intentional time to bond and attach with our child, we must purpose to mature our relationship with God. Have you ever noticed that some people seem to cultivate a deep relationship with the Lord effortlessly? Yet, the truth is that appearances truly are deceiving. Deep relationships, whether experienced with our Heavenly Father or our loved ones on earth, are strengthened through a wise use of time and attention. Wise believers will implement each moment given with a heart focused on eternity. God has no favorites; He gives each of us the same amount of time and love. We are the ones who vary our attention to and devotion for Him. Unless we realize that the time allotted to us is a valuable resource, we never prioritize what we want our life and our future to hold. If we desire our eternity to hold more treasures than what we could accumulate in this temporary life, we will make a faith-fueled decision that heavenly wealth is more precious and meaningful than worldly possessions. Next, our actions must match what we believe, because in reality, most people, with time and focused effort, can obtain all or much of what their heart yearns for. A life spent merely acquiring belongings can never be returned to us, even after we realize that we wasted those moments chasing temporary, worthless trappings. Purpose now to view eternity with Jesus as wealth. Value the time you have on this earth with a heart and mindset that places relationship with Jesus at the top of goals to achieve. People must stop saying we hope to mature our walk with Christ when we find more time. Get on your knees now, pray for guidance and wisdom, then open your Bible and your heart to what He desires to reveal to you. Relationship with Jesus is “free,” yet priceless, but costs in ways we cannot imagine when we decide to follow Him. 1 Corinthians 2:6-10 promises, “Among the mature, however, we speak a message of wisdom—but not the wisdom of this age or of the rulers of this age, who are coming to nothing. No, we speak of the mysterious and hidden wisdom of God, which He destined for our glory before time began. None of the rulers of this age understood it. For if they had, they would not have crucified the Lord of glory. Rather, as it is written: ‘No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no heart has imagined, what God has prepared for those who love Him.’ But God has revealed it to us by the Spirit.” Just as we hope, plan, and dream about our future daily here on earth, we must make more time to contemplate our eternal future. Our beliefs and the focus of our actions and moments in this world form our eternity. Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 says, “To everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to break down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to cast away stones and a time to gather stones together, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to count as lost, a time to keep and a time to discard, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.” What season are you in? Where is God calling you to change the time you spend for and with Him? Let’s focus on some truths about time to see where we should pivot how we use it. Remember, you don’t need to keep notes. You can easily read and print these suggestions at terrihitt.com in the podcast transcripts area. 1. How we spend time directly affects all areas of our life, most directly, our eternity. 2. Who we spend time with affects and shapes our values and actions. 3. Time can either soothe and heal or cause pain, bitterness, and jealousies to multiply. 4. Time is more valuable than currency; we cannot retrieve more once it has been spent. 5. We do not know how much time we have been gifted. Are you utilizing the time you have been allotted in ways that God would find pleasing? Let’s examine ways we can deliberately use our time for God. 1. Make God a priority. It’s easier to sit on the couch and watch television or scroll through our phone than it is to pick up our Bible. Why? What we discover about God and the life-changing power His word and obedience to Him bring are much more impactful than a movie or sitcom will ever be. 2. Learn the word. Memorization can be hard. If you feel it is an impossible task, allow yourself to read God’s word. Reading His truths bring knowledge, faith, love, joy, peace, and so much more into your life. Write His words. Speak His words. Pray His words. Absorb His words. Read them over and over so they become the wind lifting you confidently through life. 3. Obey the word. As we begin to know the Father’s heart, His desires become ours. We long to obey and please Him as His truths penetrate our heart and mind. 4. Communicate with God. Prayer is the lifeline God blessed us with. How often do you think of prayer as a gift? How often are you distracted when praying? We fail often at such a simple task, yet God is faithful and allows us to continue to step into His glorious and holy presence time after time. Experience the reminder of His righteousness and holiness as you pray His words of truth to Him. 5. Listen to God. Once we continue to communicate with the Lord through prayer, we begin to develop ears to hear. As our walk matures, we hear His still, small voice and His booming commands. Both are important. 6. Repent to God. When we open our heart and confess our sins, He is faithful to listen and forgive. He is able to carry our loads and change our habits. 7. Express gratitude. Just as the Lord longs to hear us repent, He desires to hear sincere thankfulness. When we are grateful during the hard and easy times, the joys or disappointments, we grow our trust and dependence on Him and show Him through contented faith that He is enough and we are thankful for His gift of eternal life and His presence in our life. 8. Plan fun activities with God. God delights in knowing that we look forward to spending time with Him! Whether we long to talk to Him throughout our day, sharing secret thoughts or thankfulness, or whether we pray to Him at a special time every morning or night because we long to share that quality time together, or we look forward to reading His word, drawing for Him, singing for Him, or sharing His truths with others, God sees and knows our heart. Think of new ways to authentically bring delightful obedience to the heart of our Father. 9. Give God good gifts. We know we can never outgive God. With a heart full of love for Him, we can give pleasingly when we use what He has given us to further His kingdom on earth. Money, time, and talents all make beautiful gifts to Him that last for eternity. 10. Value and share God’s wisdom. Making time for Him in all the ways I mentioned prove that we are intentionally bowing in humble submission to God. As we practice deepening our walk and desire for Him, we come to value every aspect of God. Our Heavenly Father, I AM WHO I AM, the God who sanctifies, provides, is all powerful, holy and righteous, the God of peace, the Redeemer, and Truth. Allow Him to penetrate all of you and shine through you for all to see His majesty and glory. Just as a secure and healthy attachment is the foundation that allows your child to freely explore the world, trusting that they have a safe anchor to hold them steady, the time we invest in attaching to our Heavenly Father will allow us to organize and adjust our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, actions, and goals through godly methods because we trust the One who created and knows us best. He knows the plans He has for you, to prosper you, and not to harm you, to give you a future, and a hope. Look to the Lord for care, guidance, and comfort as an infant seeks His primary caregiver. Just as with a baby, attachment is essential to long-term emotional, financial, spiritual, mental, and physical health. Matthew 6:19-21 says, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Luke 10:38-42 says, “As they traveled along, Jesus entered a village where a woman named Martha welcomed Him into her home. She had a sister named Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to His message. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations to be made. She came to Jesus and said, “Lord, do You not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her to help me!” “Martha, Martha,” the Lord replied, “you are worried and upset about many things. But only one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, and it will not be taken away from her.” Precious Heavenly Father, we thank you for Your gracious gift of an eternal future with You. Thank you for making the way to You so clear through Jesus and for the ultimate sacrifice You offered to bring us into eternity with You. Cause us to see each moment through Your eternal mind and heart-set. May we please You with our willingness and desire to know You more deeply. Allow us to rest in Your presence without a distracted heart or mind. What we have here is nothing in light of what You offer us in our eternal home with You. Help us to fully realize that truth and grant us inexhaustible treasure in heaven, where no thief approaches and no moth destroys because we have sought You with a heart of devotion through sacrifice and priority, just as You do for us. In Your holy name we pray, Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 070 Refining Time Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #070 – Refining Time Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. This week I purchased a gift for a baby shower. Out of all the various gifts listed on the registry, I chose something very simple. A bottle warmer. Why did I choose that item? A bottle warmer certainly isn’t glamorous or exciting. Yet, the simplicity spoke to my heart because of the purpose behind it. The warmer made me recall the days I had babies in the house. My precious memories of that time brought back cherished moments that now seem so far in the past, yet also feel like yesterday at the same time. Have you ever heard older mothers pass on advice about being in the moment? Appreciate the times with your children while they are young. People always say in hindsight that the days are long, but the years are short. How true the words are. As an older mom who has had the unique gift of raising one family and starting again with a baby, the words stir me very deeply. Although it saddens me, I realize the slight differences between the early years with my first two and my last two. I admit that my love for each of my children is the same and very deep and strong, yet I have a deeper appreciation for my time with the younger set because of the wisdom gained during the years I aged in between. That insight allowed me to understand what a gift our children are and how purposely unique each one is. I always knew they were more precious than gold, but when I was young, my attention was split between chasing dreams and gaining the worldly treasures I thought we needed, instead of realizing my blessed role of raising my children for Jesus. Now I have learned that resting in the arms of our Heavenly Father, appreciating what He has given me, whether it be a long session with a crying child or a quiet time of reflection as I gaze at my infant who never knew attention before, rejoicing as she maintained eye contact for the first time, I am blessed. I bought that bottle warmer for a shower gift because I hope the mother will quietly sit with her baby, appreciating every single moment and will desire to be the one holding and feeding her beloved gift from God. Just as it takes intentional time to bond and attach with our child, we must purpose to mature our relationship with God. Have you ever noticed that some people seem to cultivate a deep relationship with the Lord effortlessly? Yet, the truth is that appearances truly are deceiving. Deep relationships, whether experienced with our Heavenly Father or our loved ones on earth, are strengthened through a wise use of time and attention. Wise believers will implement each moment given with a heart focused on eternity. God has no favorites; He gives each of us the same amount of time and love. We are the ones who vary our attention to and devotion for Him. Unless we realize that the time allotted to us is a valuable resource, we never prioritize what we want our life and our future to hold. If we desire our eternity to hold more treasures than what we could accumulate in this temporary life, we will make a faith-fueled decision that heavenly wealth is more precious and meaningful than worldly possessions. Next, our actions must match what we believe, because in reality, most people, with time and focused effort, can obtain all or much of what their heart yearns for. A life spent merely acquiring belongings can never be returned to us, even after we realize that we wasted those moments chasing temporary, worthless trappings. Purpose now to view eternity with Jesus as wealth. Value the time you have on this earth with a heart and mindset that places relationship with Jesus at the top of goals to achieve. People must stop saying we hope to mature our walk with Christ when we find more time. Get on your knees now, pray for guidance and wisdom, then open your Bible and your heart to what He desires to reveal to you. Relationship with Jesus is “free,” yet priceless, but costs in ways we cannot imagine when we decide to follow Him. 1 Corinthians 2:6-10 promises, “Among the mature, however, we speak a message of wisdom—but not the wisdom of this age or of the rulers of this age, who are coming to nothing. No, we speak of the mysterious and hidden wisdom of God, which He destined for our glory before time began. None of the rulers of this age understood it. For if they had, they would not have crucified the Lord of glory. Rather, as it is written: ‘No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no heart has imagined, what God has prepared for those who love Him.’ But God has revealed it to us by the Spirit.” Just as we hope, plan, and dream about our future daily here on earth, we must make more time to contemplate our eternal future. Our beliefs and the focus of our actions and moments in this world form our eternity. Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 says, “To everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to break down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to cast away stones and a time to gather stones together, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to count as lost, a time to keep and a time to discard, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.” What season are you in? Where is God calling you to change the time you spend for and with Him? Let’s focus on some truths about time to see where we should pivot how we use it. Remember, you don’t need to keep notes. You can easily read and print these suggestions at terrihitt.com in the podcast transcripts area. 1. How we spend time directly affects all areas of our life, most directly, our eternity. 2. Who we spend time with affects and shapes our values and actions. 3. Time can either soothe and heal or cause pain, bitterness, and jealousies to multiply. 4. Time is more valuable than currency; we cannot retrieve more once it has been spent. 5. We do not know how much time we have been gifted. Are you utilizing the time you have been allotted in ways that God would find pleasing? Let’s examine ways we can deliberately use our time for God. 1. Make God a priority. It’s easier to sit on the couch and watch television or scroll through our phone than it is to pick up our Bible. Why? What we discover about God and the life-changing power His word and obedience to Him bring are much more impactful than a movie or sitcom will ever be. 2. Learn the word. Memorization can be hard. If you feel it is an impossible task, allow yourself to read God’s word. Reading His truths bring knowledge, faith, love, joy, peace, and so much more into your life. Write His words. Speak His words. Pray His words. Absorb His words. Read them over and over so they become the wind lifting you confidently through life. 3. Obey the word. As we begin to know the Father’s heart, His desires become ours. We long to obey and please Him as His truths penetrate our heart and mind. 4. Communicate with God. Prayer is the lifeline God blessed us with. How often do you think of prayer as a gift? How often are you distracted when praying? We fail often at such a simple task, yet God is faithful and allows us to continue to step into His glorious and holy presence time after time. Experience the reminder of His righteousness and holiness as you pray His words of truth to Him. 5. Listen to God. Once we continue to communicate with the Lord through prayer, we begin to develop ears to hear. As our walk matures, we hear His still, small voice and His booming commands. Both are important. 6. Repent to God. When we open our heart and confess our sins, He is faithful to listen and forgive. He is able to carry our loads and change our habits. 7. Express gratitude. Just as the Lord longs to hear us repent, He desires to hear sincere thankfulness. When we are grateful during the hard and easy times, the joys or disappointments, we grow our trust and dependence on Him and show Him through contented faith that He is enough and we are thankful for His gift of eternal life and His presence in our life. 8. Plan fun activities with God. God delights in knowing that we look forward to spending time with Him! Whether we long to talk to Him throughout our day, sharing secret thoughts or thankfulness, or whether we pray to Him at a special time every morning or night because we long to share that quality time together, or we look forward to reading His word, drawing for Him, singing for Him, or sharing His truths with others, God sees and knows our heart. Think of new ways to authentically bring delightful obedience to the heart of our Father. 9. Give God good gifts. We know we can never outgive God. With a heart full of love for Him, we can give pleasingly when we use what He has given us to further His kingdom on earth. Money, time, and talents all make beautiful gifts to Him that last for eternity. 10. Value and share God’s wisdom. Making time for Him in all the ways I mentioned prove that we are intentionally bowing in humble submission to God. As we practice deepening our walk and desire for Him, we come to value every aspect of God. Our Heavenly Father, I AM WHO I AM, the God who sanctifies, provides, is all powerful, holy and righteous, the God of peace, the Redeemer, and Truth. Allow Him to penetrate all of you and shine through you for all to see His majesty and glory. Just as a secure and healthy attachment is the foundation that allows your child to freely explore the world, trusting that they have a safe anchor to hold them steady, the time we invest in attaching to our Heavenly Father will allow us to organize and adjust our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, actions, and goals through godly methods because we trust the One who created and knows us best. He knows the plans He has for you, to prosper you, and not to harm you, to give you a future, and a hope. Look to the Lord for care, guidance, and comfort as an infant seeks His primary caregiver. Just as with a baby, attachment is essential to long-term emotional, financial, spiritual, mental, and physical health. Matthew 6:19-21 says, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Luke 10:38-42 says, “As they traveled along, Jesus entered a village where a woman named Martha welcomed Him into her home. She had a sister named Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to His message. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations to be made. She came to Jesus and said, “Lord, do You not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her to help me!” “Martha, Martha,” the Lord replied, “you are worried and upset about many things. But only one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, and it will not be taken away from her.” Precious Heavenly Father, we thank you for Your gracious gift of an eternal future with You. Thank you for making the way to You so clear through Jesus and for the ultimate sacrifice You offered to bring us into eternity with You. Cause us to see each moment through Your eternal mind and heart-set. May we please You with our willingness and desire to know You more deeply. Allow us to rest in Your presence without a distracted heart or mind. What we have here is nothing in light of what You offer us in our eternal home with You. Help us to fully realize that truth and grant us inexhaustible treasure in heaven, where no thief approaches and no moth destroys because we have sought You with a heart of devotion through sacrifice and priority, just as You do for us. In Your holy name we pray, Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #046 – Maturing Character Like Christ Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Guess what I did last week? I went sledding! No, it didn’t snow where I live. I slid right down the basement stairs on my back, hitting each step with my back and tailbone first, then my head following the example set before it, banging down every. single. step. I thought I might stop after each bump, but my outstretched body did a very good job of making sure I touched each stair all the way down to the bottom, where I landed dazed and unable to move for several minutes as I fought nausea and sat shaking with adrenaline. As I work on this podcast I am sitting with an ice bag on my backside and laughing at myself inside. Thankfully, I will be okay. Although I’m still unable to go anywhere and I’ve had a few difficult days of barely being able to move, especially without pain. Why do I bring this up? I feel so blessed. When we choose to view life through an eternal viewpoint, we have to accept the blessings that come hidden in ugly packages. As much as I know my family loves me, I am still surprised and humbled by the gentle care each of them has given me. I cannot express the blessings and gratitude I feel with words that feel so inadequate. I am so thankful. The gentle, loving spirits that have attended to me come straight from God. Our Heavenly Father knows our needs. Sometimes He fills us with an overflowing cup. Other times He gives us just what we truly need and we must be satisfied. This week my cup has been flowing with gratitude beyond my needs to a bountiful supply that I pray extends to those around me. I’m still hobbling around and it is difficult to sit or lie down, but my nursing staff is ready to assist with anything I need. Why? Because their hearts are attuned to Jesus. They are following His lead and loving with His nature. 1 Chronicles 22:19a says, “Now set your heart and your soul to seek the Lord your God.” Our heart is revealed when our days are troubled and difficult. My injury could make them angry or frustrated because it impacts them, too. I haven’t seen that attitude in any of them. I’ve only seen love and concern. How do we handle hardships when they occur? What character is squeezed out of me when bad or hard things happen? Because they will happen. This fallen world is full of disease, misunderstandings, anger, hurt, betrayal, jealousy, accidents, and so much more. Look at the climate of our nation today as just one example. I’ve never seen us so divided. If we all viewed the world as Jesus and loved like Him daily, how different everything would be. I want a heart that constantly offers gratitude, even when my desires are not met and my spirit is disappointed. Even when my plans crumble and my wants are not filled. I cannot offer this type of thanks on my own. Only through Jesus in me can I begin to seek God through disappointment and heartache, pain and fear. Romans 5:1-5 says, “Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom also we have access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God. And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope. Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.” Living under pressure with our heart and mind fixed on Him produces character like Christ. As followers of Christ, we have the hope and trust that we are being transformed moment by moment. Can you feel the changes in your desires? In your heart and mindset as you seek Him? Do you recognize Him changing you, crafting your responses and attitude to mirror His? God will shift our life from the tribulation we are currently enduring when we persevere with reliance on Him, which moves us to a character mirroring His, and through His character, to a hope that endures. His grace and power are sufficient. Our afflictions are but for a moment in the scheme of eternity. God’s timetables are not understood because we do not have the whole picture. We must follow His leads by faith that matures through a close walk with Him. 1 John 5:1-5 says, “Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ has been born of God, and everyone who loves the Father loves whoever has been born of him. By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God and obey his commandments. For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments. And his commandments are not burdensome. For everyone who has been born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world—our faith. Who is it that overcomes the world except the one who believes that Jesus is the Son of God?” Let’s look at the basics. Christianity is very simple. Once we have established a personal relationship with Jesus, He lives within us in the form of the Holy Spirit. Despite anything this world offers or throws at us, we can be sure that Jesus is with us. Nothing can touch us without being sifted through the hands of the Father first. However, our human form is weak and we must ensure that we work daily to allow God to transform us, to help us see momentary troubles through the eyes and mindset of Jesus. The passage I read from 1 John 5 exposes where our heart lies. Is loving Jesus and keeping His commandments a problem? A burden? Or is it pure joy to see our beliefs altered in supernatural ways that prove the existence of the Holy Spirit living in us? Our desires, actions, and words identify where we place Jesus in our life. 1. What do I believe? How is that belief shown in my life? Are my desires and actions in alignment with what God calls? With His word? 2. What does my life look like? Am I living in ways that prove I follow Jesus? Am I striving to keep the commandments God set for me? 3. How do I love? Do I show it in my walk with Jesus and to those around me? To the strangers I meet? 4. Am I transforming daily? Is my life proof that I am changing daily? Am I living with my heart and mind focused on eternity? Do I understand that every word I speak, every choice I make affects my eternity, as well as the eternal heart set of those I live and interact with? Do I live with a peace that surpasses understanding? 5. Do I continue living in old ways that were set before I knew Jesus? Or am I being made new each day? Does conviction sting if I stray or make choices by my flesh? Am I living in ways that honor the commitment I made to God through following Jesus? Psalm 139:23-24 says, “Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” I always say that the difficulties in this world stem from the condition of our hearts. When our heart is right with Jesus, He builds the character of our hearts. Why is there such discord now? Why are friends turning their backs on others? I believe it comes from the residue in our hearts. What do we truly believe? Who do we truly follow? Are we reacting from emotions and feelings or kneeling in prayer before God and waiting for Him to lead and direct our lives? Are we looking for ways to be hurt? Or are we lifting all of it to Him to rectify? Are we seeking Him to purpose our reactions and emotions to reflect His? We should examine the motives of our heart by asking the following questions. 1. Am I following a religion? Do I just go through the motions of Christianity? 2. Am I following myself before Christ, with no compass to guide me except feelings and emotions? 3. Do I welcome the “hard” areas and painful areas of life by inviting Him to carry me and control my reactions? Do I allow Him to transform me daily? 4. Am I truly following Jesus? Whatever we allow to dictate our life will direct our relationships and actions, our words and beliefs. What we pattern our life after now is establishing our eternity. When we do not allow God full reign in our life, morals and relationships crumble. We are unable to react with character or compassion like Christ. When I fell down the stairs, I was disappointed because I was supposed to meet a friend I have not seen all year. I had to cancel. When we want to be saturated with the character of Christ, we must mature our mind to view disappointments as He would. We must be cautious in establishing plans. What does God desire for us? Are we moving toward what He has purposed for us? Or are we moving away from the dreams set by our Creator, because we are selfishly choosing to follow what we think will satisfy us? Am I saying God didn’t want me to meet with my friend? Not necessarily. I am reminding us that we must hold plans loosely. The way we respond when we are frustrated or let down sets our heart tone and can either move us closer to, or away from Jesus. The world tells us to set goals and follow our dreams. That’s a wonderful sentiment, but I want to follow God’s desires for my life. I want to be so connected to God and His whisperings to my soul that I recognize the desires He crafted in my heart. What do we do when our dreams fall apart? What if our ways are not God’s ways? In the following prayer from David, we see a king with a desire to build a beautiful temple for God. His heart seemed to be set with the right motives, yet God had other plans and did not want David to move forward with this goal. David was not meant to be the man to build this temple. God’s ways are incredibly higher than ours. While we think we are honoring God with something we offer, it may not be what God desires or what He needs to happen at that time. While David may have held had a seemingly worthy dream of building a temple for God, the Lord did not want David to be the one to fulfill that act. Our Heavenly Father desired for David to take other actions in order to accomplish the role that was tailor-made for His life. God purposed Him for battle at that time, not building. David had to step back from what he believed was a worthy action to take and listen to what God held as important and ordained for Him. David’s response set a tone for obedience, which not only affected him, but his son, and kingdom as well. God, through His goodness and authority did not want David to build Him a house, but promised David that He would continue His line on the throne. He planned to allow David’s descendants a house that would last forever and achieve an everlasting reign with Jesus. After David realized his dream would not come to fruition, yet trusted that God was still with him, he offered this prayer to his Heavenly Father. David desired that the reputation of God would be lifted and praised for generations. 2 Samuel 7:18-29 says, “Then King David went in and sat before the LORD and said, “Who am I, O Lord GOD, and what is my house, that you have brought me thus far? And yet this was a small thing in your eyes, O Lord GOD. You have spoken also of your servant’s house for a great while to come, and this is instruction for mankind, O Lord GOD! And what more can David say to you? For you know your servant, O Lord GOD! Because of your promise, and according to your own heart, you have brought about all this greatness, to make your servant know it. Therefore you are great, O LORD God. For there is none like you, and there is no God besides you, according to all that we have heard with our ears. And who is like your people Israel, the one nation on earth whom God went to redeem to be his people, making himself a name and doing for them great and awesome things by driving out before your people, whom you redeemed for yourself from Egypt, a nation and its gods? And you established for yourself your people Israel to be your people forever. And you, O LORD, became their God. And now, O LORD God, confirm forever the word that you have spoken concerning your servant and concerning his house, and do as you have spoken. And your name will be magnified forever, saying, ‘The LORD of hosts is God over Israel,’ and the house of your servant David will be established before you. For you, O LORD of hosts, the God of Israel, have made this revelation to your servant, saying, ‘I will build you a house.’ Therefore your servant has found courage to pray this prayer to you. And now, O Lord GOD, you are God, and your words are true, and you have promised this good thing to your servant. Now therefore may it please you to bless the house of your servant, so that it may continue forever before you. For you, O Lord GOD, have spoken, and with your blessing shall the house of your servant be blessed forever.” What do we do when we believe the dreams we hold would be God-honoring, yet they are not coming to fruition? David sets the right examples for us to follow in the following steps. !. David remembered the blessings God had already given him. 2. David rejoiced over what he already held. 3. David resigned himself to obedience. 4. David relied on God’s future plans for him and trusted that they were good. 5. David redirected his spirit and attention to making many plans to prepare his son, Solomon for his important role in establishing the temple. It was not God’s will that David build the actual temple, because He had ordained a different role for David that only he could fulfill. Yet, our Heavenly Father did allow David to plan and prepare for the job Solomon would later complete. The Bible holds many examples of what humans planned and prepared for and what God held for them. Sometimes people waited and relied on the Lord, other times they took matters into their hands and walked ahead of God, later suffering the consequences. If we strive to learn and grow character like Christ, our reactions will mirror His no matter what circumstances we find ourselves in. John 5:19 says, “Then Jesus answered and said to them, “Most assuredly, I say to you, the Son can do nothing of Himself, but what He sees the Father do; for whatever He does, the Son also does in like manner.” Jesus is our perfect mentor and role model. He walked in sync with God because He looked for His Heavenly Father to direct His every step. Jesus placed God in His rightful place above all else. Psalm 16:8 says, “I have set the Lord always before me; because He is at my right hand I shall not be moved.” What are the best methods to mature our life so that we seek and follow God’s will, develop character like Christ, and live in the fulness of joy He desires? Here are ten simple tips. 1. Personal relationship with Jesus. John 3:16-18 says, “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because they have not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son. We must establish a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. John 14:6-7 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you really know Me, you will know my Father as well. From now on, you do know Him and have seen Him.” Study the life of Jesus. Love Him, recognize Him, and follow His ways. 2. Read the Bible. God truly does give us the instruction and wisdom we need in His Holy word. 3. Establish a prayerful life and relationship with God. We must converse with and listen to Him to know Him more intimately. 4. Humble yourself. We may have an intimate walk with our Heavenly Father through Jesus, but we are not on the same level as Him. 5. Seek His truth. The Bible, the Holy Spirit living inside us, and a prayerful life will transform us if we let it. 6. Surrender your will. Listen to the Holy Spirit inside and seek God above all else. 7. Obey God’s commands. Study His word so that you recognize Him and can discern between His good and perfect will and that of the world, your fleshly desires, and false believers. 8. Listen for His still and small voice. God is a gentleman. He will not force you to accept or follow Him. Steer your heart north to remain moving forward in the right direction as you mature in Him. 9. Surround yourself with others who love, listen to, and obey God. Life is sweeter when we have Christian friends who understand and encourage us. 10. Pay attention to the interests and talents He has given you. When we understand ourselves through God’s eyes and heart, we are better able to discern the callings He has and we receive the joy meant for us. Psalm 16:11 says, “You will show me the path of life; in Your presence is fullness of joy; at Your right hand are pleasures forevermore.” Our lives will carry hardship and pain. The glory of knowing and living for Jesus to develop and mature a heart and mindset like His brings the deepest peace, hope, love, and joy available this side of heaven. Hebrews 1:3 says, “He is the radiance of the glory of God and the exact imprint of his nature, and he upholds the universe by the word of his power. After making purification for sins, he sat down at the right hand of the Majesty on high.” May each day push us to be more like Him. I desire to attain and shine the radiance and character of Christ in my life more each day. I want others to see and know that He is everything His word says. I invite Him to be alive and at work within me. Heavenly Father, we thank you for the numerous ways You are at work in our lives, whether seen or unseen. Thank you for the privilege of approaching You. Thank you for leaving the Holy Spirit as a deposit within Your followers to guide and grow us. You have indeed, thought of everything we need. Help us to strive to know and please You more and more daily. We need and desire You in our lives. Lift our heart and minds and fix our eyes on You as our only Source of strength and guidance. Expand our desire to follow You and help us allow Your character to shine brightly through us, despite obstacles, failures, and disappointments. In Your precious name I pray. I deeply desire to allow God to cultivate a strong community of women through the work He has given me. I pray you will be inspired and equipped to live with an eternal perspective and encouraged to raise children for Jesus. Future episodes and resources will also be geared toward the important duty we have as parents and grandparents to influence children for Jesus. If you enjoy this podcast, you might like to visit terrihitt.com, where you can subscribe to the website (for free) and gain access to all the podcasts housed in one convenient location, as well as receive access to blog posts, transcripts, and additional free resources that are added to regularly. Many will be resources directly connected to podcast episodes. The Live With Eternal Perspective podcast is currently linked to my new website and also plays on Apple Podcast and Spotify. Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and learn how to live with more eternal perspective? Can you think of a friend or family member who might enjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them and take time to leave a quick rating and review. Until next week, keep looking for new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective and become more like Jesus. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 046 Maturing Character Like Christ Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #046 – Maturing Character Like Christ Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Guess what I did last week? I went sledding! No, it didn’t snow where I live. I slid right down the basement stairs on my back, hitting each step with my back and tailbone first, then my head following the example set before it, banging down every. single. step. I thought I might stop after each bump, but my outstretched body did a very good job of making sure I touched each stair all the way down to the bottom, where I landed dazed and unable to move for several minutes as I fought nausea and sat shaking with adrenaline. As I work on this podcast I am sitting with an ice bag on my backside and laughing at myself inside. Thankfully, I will be okay. Although I’m still unable to go anywhere and I’ve had a few difficult days of barely being able to move, especially without pain. Why do I bring this up? I feel so blessed. When we choose to view life through an eternal viewpoint, we have to accept the blessings that come hidden in ugly packages. As much as I know my family loves me, I am still surprised and humbled by the gentle care each of them has given me. I cannot express the blessings and gratitude I feel with words that feel so inadequate. I am so thankful. The gentle, loving spirits that have attended to me come straight from God. Our Heavenly Father knows our needs. Sometimes He fills us with an overflowing cup. Other times He gives us just what we truly need and we must be satisfied. This week my cup has been flowing with gratitude beyond my needs to a bountiful supply that I pray extends to those around me. I’m still hobbling around and it is difficult to sit or lie down, but my nursing staff is ready to assist with anything I need. Why? Because their hearts are attuned to Jesus. They are following His lead and loving with His nature. 1 Chronicles 22:19a says, “Now set your heart and your soul to seek the Lord your God.” Our heart is revealed when our days are troubled and difficult. My injury could make them angry or frustrated because it impacts them, too. I haven’t seen that attitude in any of them. I’ve only seen love and concern. How do we handle hardships when they occur? What character is squeezed out of me when bad or hard things happen? Because they will happen. This fallen world is full of disease, misunderstandings, anger, hurt, betrayal, jealousy, accidents, and so much more. Look at the climate of our nation today as just one example. I’ve never seen us so divided. If we all viewed the world as Jesus and loved like Him daily, how different everything would be. I want a heart that constantly offers gratitude, even when my desires are not met and my spirit is disappointed. Even when my plans crumble and my wants are not filled. I cannot offer this type of thanks on my own. Only through Jesus in me can I begin to seek God through disappointment and heartache, pain and fear. Romans 5:1-5 says, “Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom also we have access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God. And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope. Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.” Living under pressure with our heart and mind fixed on Him produces character like Christ. As followers of Christ, we have the hope and trust that we are being transformed moment by moment. Can you feel the changes in your desires? In your heart and mindset as you seek Him? Do you recognize Him changing you, crafting your responses and attitude to mirror His? God will shift our life from the tribulation we are currently enduring when we persevere with reliance on Him, which moves us to a character mirroring His, and through His character, to a hope that endures. His grace and power are sufficient. Our afflictions are but for a moment in the scheme of eternity. God’s timetables are not understood because we do not have the whole picture. We must follow His leads by faith that matures through a close walk with Him. 1 John 5:1-5 says, “Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ has been born of God, and everyone who loves the Father loves whoever has been born of him. By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God and obey his commandments. For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments. And his commandments are not burdensome. For everyone who has been born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world—our faith. Who is it that overcomes the world except the one who believes that Jesus is the Son of God?” Let’s look at the basics. Christianity is very simple. Once we have established a personal relationship with Jesus, He lives within us in the form of the Holy Spirit. Despite anything this world offers or throws at us, we can be sure that Jesus is with us. Nothing can touch us without being sifted through the hands of the Father first. However, our human form is weak and we must ensure that we work daily to allow God to transform us, to help us see momentary troubles through the eyes and mindset of Jesus. The passage I read from 1 John 5 exposes where our heart lies. Is loving Jesus and keeping His commandments a problem? A burden? Or is it pure joy to see our beliefs altered in supernatural ways that prove the existence of the Holy Spirit living in us? Our desires, actions, and words identify where we place Jesus in our life. 1. What do I believe? How is that belief shown in my life? Are my desires and actions in alignment with what God calls? With His word? 2. What does my life look like? Am I living in ways that prove I follow Jesus? Am I striving to keep the commandments God set for me? 3. How do I love? Do I show it in my walk with Jesus and to those around me? To the strangers I meet? 4. Am I transforming daily? Is my life proof that I am changing daily? Am I living with my heart and mind focused on eternity? Do I understand that every word I speak, every choice I make affects my eternity, as well as the eternal heart set of those I live and interact with? Do I live with a peace that surpasses understanding? 5. Do I continue living in old ways that were set before I knew Jesus? Or am I being made new each day? Does conviction sting if I stray or make choices by my flesh? Am I living in ways that honor the commitment I made to God through following Jesus? Psalm 139:23-24 says, “Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” I always say that the difficulties in this world stem from the condition of our hearts. When our heart is right with Jesus, He builds the character of our hearts. Why is there such discord now? Why are friends turning their backs on others? I believe it comes from the residue in our hearts. What do we truly believe? Who do we truly follow? Are we reacting from emotions and feelings or kneeling in prayer before God and waiting for Him to lead and direct our lives? Are we looking for ways to be hurt? Or are we lifting all of it to Him to rectify? Are we seeking Him to purpose our reactions and emotions to reflect His? We should examine the motives of our heart by asking the following questions. 1. Am I following a religion? Do I just go through the motions of Christianity? 2. Am I following myself before Christ, with no compass to guide me except feelings and emotions? 3. Do I welcome the “hard” areas and painful areas of life by inviting Him to carry me and control my reactions? Do I allow Him to transform me daily? 4. Am I truly following Jesus? Whatever we allow to dictate our life will direct our relationships and actions, our words and beliefs. What we pattern our life after now is establishing our eternity. When we do not allow God full reign in our life, morals and relationships crumble. We are unable to react with character or compassion like Christ. When I fell down the stairs, I was disappointed because I was supposed to meet a friend I have not seen all year. I had to cancel. When we want to be saturated with the character of Christ, we must mature our mind to view disappointments as He would. We must be cautious in establishing plans. What does God desire for us? Are we moving toward what He has purposed for us? Or are we moving away from the dreams set by our Creator, because we are selfishly choosing to follow what we think will satisfy us? Am I saying God didn’t want me to meet with my friend? Not necessarily. I am reminding us that we must hold plans loosely. The way we respond when we are frustrated or let down sets our heart tone and can either move us closer to, or away from Jesus. The world tells us to set goals and follow our dreams. That’s a wonderful sentiment, but I want to follow God’s desires for my life. I want to be so connected to God and His whisperings to my soul that I recognize the desires He crafted in my heart. What do we do when our dreams fall apart? What if our ways are not God’s ways? In the following prayer from David, we see a king with a desire to build a beautiful temple for God. His heart seemed to be set with the right motives, yet God had other plans and did not want David to move forward with this goal. David was not meant to be the man to build this temple. God’s ways are incredibly higher than ours. While we think we are honoring God with something we offer, it may not be what God desires or what He needs to happen at that time. While David may have held had a seemingly worthy dream of building a temple for God, the Lord did not want David to be the one to fulfill that act. Our Heavenly Father desired for David to take other actions in order to accomplish the role that was tailor-made for His life. God purposed Him for battle at that time, not building. David had to step back from what he believed was a worthy action to take and listen to what God held as important and ordained for Him. David’s response set a tone for obedience, which not only affected him, but his son, and kingdom as well. God, through His goodness and authority did not want David to build Him a house, but promised David that He would continue His line on the throne. He planned to allow David’s descendants a house that would last forever and achieve an everlasting reign with Jesus. After David realized his dream would not come to fruition, yet trusted that God was still with him, he offered this prayer to his Heavenly Father. David desired that the reputation of God would be lifted and praised for generations. 2 Samuel 7:18-29 says, “Then King David went in and sat before the LORD and said, “Who am I, O Lord GOD, and what is my house, that you have brought me thus far? And yet this was a small thing in your eyes, O Lord GOD. You have spoken also of your servant’s house for a great while to come, and this is instruction for mankind, O Lord GOD! And what more can David say to you? For you know your servant, O Lord GOD! Because of your promise, and according to your own heart, you have brought about all this greatness, to make your servant know it. Therefore you are great, O LORD God. For there is none like you, and there is no God besides you, according to all that we have heard with our ears. And who is like your people Israel, the one nation on earth whom God went to redeem to be his people, making himself a name and doing for them great and awesome things by driving out before your people, whom you redeemed for yourself from Egypt, a nation and its gods? And you established for yourself your people Israel to be your people forever. And you, O LORD, became their God. And now, O LORD God, confirm forever the word that you have spoken concerning your servant and concerning his house, and do as you have spoken. And your name will be magnified forever, saying, ‘The LORD of hosts is God over Israel,’ and the house of your servant David will be established before you. For you, O LORD of hosts, the God of Israel, have made this revelation to your servant, saying, ‘I will build you a house.’ Therefore your servant has found courage to pray this prayer to you. And now, O Lord GOD, you are God, and your words are true, and you have promised this good thing to your servant. Now therefore may it please you to bless the house of your servant, so that it may continue forever before you. For you, O Lord GOD, have spoken, and with your blessing shall the house of your servant be blessed forever.” What do we do when we believe the dreams we hold would be God-honoring, yet they are not coming to fruition? David sets the right examples for us to follow in the following steps. !. David remembered the blessings God had already given him. 2. David rejoiced over what he already held. 3. David resigned himself to obedience. 4. David relied on God’s future plans for him and trusted that they were good. 5. David redirected his spirit and attention to making many plans to prepare his son, Solomon for his important role in establishing the temple. It was not God’s will that David build the actual temple, because He had ordained a different role for David that only he could fulfill. Yet, our Heavenly Father did allow David to plan and prepare for the job Solomon would later complete. The Bible holds many examples of what humans planned and prepared for and what God held for them. Sometimes people waited and relied on the Lord, other times they took matters into their hands and walked ahead of God, later suffering the consequences. If we strive to learn and grow character like Christ, our reactions will mirror His no matter what circumstances we find ourselves in. John 5:19 says, “Then Jesus answered and said to them, “Most assuredly, I say to you, the Son can do nothing of Himself, but what He sees the Father do; for whatever He does, the Son also does in like manner.” Jesus is our perfect mentor and role model. He walked in sync with God because He looked for His Heavenly Father to direct His every step. Jesus placed God in His rightful place above all else. Psalm 16:8 says, “I have set the Lord always before me; because He is at my right hand I shall not be moved.” What are the best methods to mature our life so that we seek and follow God’s will, develop character like Christ, and live in the fulness of joy He desires? Here are ten simple tips. 1. Personal relationship with Jesus. John 3:16-18 says, “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because they have not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son. We must establish a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. John 14:6-7 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you really know Me, you will know my Father as well. From now on, you do know Him and have seen Him.” Study the life of Jesus. Love Him, recognize Him, and follow His ways. 2. Read the Bible. God truly does give us the instruction and wisdom we need in His Holy word. 3. Establish a prayerful life and relationship with God. We must converse with and listen to Him to know Him more intimately. 4. Humble yourself. We may have an intimate walk with our Heavenly Father through Jesus, but we are not on the same level as Him. 5. Seek His truth. The Bible, the Holy Spirit living inside us, and a prayerful life will transform us if we let it. 6. Surrender your will. Listen to the Holy Spirit inside and seek God above all else. 7. Obey God’s commands. Study His word so that you recognize Him and can discern between His good and perfect will and that of the world, your fleshly desires, and false believers. 8. Listen for His still and small voice. God is a gentleman. He will not force you to accept or follow Him. Steer your heart north to remain moving forward in the right direction as you mature in Him. 9. Surround yourself with others who love, listen to, and obey God. Life is sweeter when we have Christian friends who understand and encourage us. 10. Pay attention to the interests and talents He has given you. When we understand ourselves through God’s eyes and heart, we are better able to discern the callings He has and we receive the joy meant for us. Psalm 16:11 says, “You will show me the path of life; in Your presence is fullness of joy; at Your right hand are pleasures forevermore.” Our lives will carry hardship and pain. The glory of knowing and living for Jesus to develop and mature a heart and mindset like His brings the deepest peace, hope, love, and joy available this side of heaven. Hebrews 1:3 says, “He is the radiance of the glory of God and the exact imprint of his nature, and he upholds the universe by the word of his power. After making purification for sins, he sat down at the right hand of the Majesty on high.” May each day push us to be more like Him. I desire to attain and shine the radiance and character of Christ in my life more each day. I want others to see and know that He is everything His word says. I invite Him to be alive and at work within me. Heavenly Father, we thank you for the numerous ways You are at work in our lives, whether seen or unseen. Thank you for the privilege of approaching You. Thank you for leaving the Holy Spirit as a deposit within Your followers to guide and grow us. You have indeed, thought of everything we need. Help us to strive to know and please You more and more daily. We need and desire You in our lives. Lift our heart and minds and fix our eyes on You as our only Source of strength and guidance. Expand our desire to follow You and help us allow Your character to shine brightly through us, despite obstacles, failures, and disappointments. In Your precious name I pray. I deeply desire to allow God to cultivate a strong community of women through the work He has given me. I pray you will be inspired and equipped to live with an eternal perspective and encouraged to raise children for Jesus. Future episodes and resources will also be geared toward the important duty we have as parents and grandparents to influence children for Jesus. If you enjoy this podcast, you might like to visit terrihitt.com, where you can subscribe to the website (for free) and gain access to all the podcasts housed in one convenient location, as well as receive access to blog posts, transcripts, and additional free resources that are added to regularly. Many will be resources directly connected to podcast episodes. The Live With Eternal Perspective podcast is currently linked to my new website and also plays on Apple Podcast and Spotify. Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and learn how to live with more eternal perspective? Can you think of a friend or family member who might enjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them and take time to leave a quick rating and review. Until next week, keep looking for new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective and become more like Jesus.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #023 – Discouragement and Disappointment Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. When I was a little girl I felt like I had so many disappointments that caused me to begin expecting less out of life. Like all of us, I learned that nothing is guaranteed. Instead of using that fact to prompt me to appreciate what I did have, I withdrew and became more introverted. I was already attending my second or third elementary school by the time I entered first grade. We were also living in a new state. I remember my dad taking me to my first day in that new school. The year had already started. Even at that age, I understood that meant everyone already had their friend groups and everyone would be staring at the new girl. In my mind, I still see my dad and I outdoors on the playground on that early morning as he knelt next to me. I cried, pleading with him to let me stay home. I didn’t want to go inside that school. Like parents usually do, he promised me that everything would turn out okay. I knew he couldn’t really promise that, but I also understood I had to go in. My personality was already shutting down, knowing that even if I made any new friends, I’d just have to leave them when we moved again and I wasn’t willing to keep investing the time and energy it took to develop and nurture relationships. Aren’t you glad God isn’t like that? Despite the ways we unknowingly or purposely sabotage our lives, push Him away, or live in disobedience to His callings and purposes for us, He remains faithful and merciful. He craves intimate relationship with each one of us and desires that we spend eternity with Him. Revelation 21:3-4 is a beautiful reminder of what is to come for those of us who choose a personal relationship with God through Jesus. “And I heard a loud voice from heaven saying, “Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and He will dwell with them, and they shall be His people. God Himself will be with them and be their God. And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away.” Life gets bumpy, even when we know and try to please Him, but for true followers of Jesus, there is no way but straight through the disappointment and/or discouragement, allowing the Lord to carry and comfort us. As a child, I did not know Him and could not call upon His help. As an adult, I’m filled with gratitude for the ways I now recognize that He understands and provides for all of my needs. Even when the answers I receive are not at all what I desire, I do recognize and appreciate the way God works out every detail in the circumstances of my life, giving me opportunities to choose whether I will use them to draw nearer to Him and influence others for Him. I remember when our oldest daughter had her first set of seizures. She was in her early twenties and living in her own apartment near us. My husband was sick with a flu virus, and I had worked all day. After showering, I planned to watch television and go to bed. Instead, when I stepped out of the shower and into a towel, the phone rang and I had to head to the hospital. There was no way my husband could go with me, and he remained sick for a couple of days after she was admitted to the hospital. I was disappointed and scared to be caring for our daughter alone. I missed my husband and some of the details of her illness were very serious. I wanted to be able to rely on his wisdom and suggestions. God, in the way He crafts personal relationships with each one of us, knows the intricate ways we are all intertwined with one another and how connected we are to Him. He understands just what is needed for us to draw nearer to Him and He offers opportunities through the events in our lives. As I leaned into the support of God through the terrible illness my daughter suffered, I experienced intimate peace and trust and my faith deepened through the events. If my husband had been present, I do not think my walk would have grown as significantly as it did during that time. God, in His intimate, loving way, knew exactly how I needed to grow in those moments. The Bible offers a variety of life accounts about people who lived before us, providing a catalog of historical and biblical events that enable us to be a spectator viewing the way God warned, promised, cared for, and disciplined His people before us. As I purposely attempt to live each day with more eternal perspective, I appreciate the value in studying the ways God reached out to them before, during, and after each moment in their life, just as He does for us now. God is always present, whether or not we choose to acknowledge Him. Living with hindsight, especially drawn from watching mistakes, setbacks, disappointments, failures, and discouragement experienced by others should be the easiest way to learn. Many times, however, we choose the hardest way to grow, which is from our personal mistakes. Before we fall into traps, lies, or heartaches, we would do well to remember those who left lessons we can all benefit from and avoid hardships and pain to ourselves and others in our lives. The very first human disappointment recorded in the Bible was Eve’s. Disappointment and discouragement can stem from several reasons. Eve must have allowed pride and lust to birth disappointment that she could not eat of the fruit God forbade in the garden. After allowing herself to be deceived by the serpent (Satan), she had to have felt deep despair at the outcome of her disobedience. Her life, as well as Adam’s, were negatively impacted and altered by the actions they chose to take. When discouragement hits so deep, it is sometimes difficult to continue past it. This is where many fall victim to deeper discouragement and disappointment, allowing the feelings to fester and grow into more disobedience. Let’s look at Old Testament Joseph. He did not disobey God, like Adam and Eve. Instead, despite a series of hardships occurring over several years, Joseph continued to look to God through every circumstance and misfortune as they continued to affect him. Recognizing blessings disguised as adversity allows us to focus our perspective on eternity. Joseph understood that this life is not for our pleasure and that God uses everything for His good purposes. What we are allowed to be a part of in this short time on earth, has bigger picture consequences. Without struggle, we cannot develop spiritually in broad or profound ways and others will also miss the opportunity to be reached for and by God through us. Joseph shows us that we must never lose sight of the hidden meanings and plans that God can work through our obedience. Job lived a blameless, upright life, fearing God and shunning evil. In fact, his life was so pious that Satan begged to touch it, believing that Job lived with a shallow, self-serving devotion to God. The Lord allowed Satan to upset Job’s life, with restrictions, because He knew Satan would be proven wrong and that spiritual warfare would not harm the relationship God and Job shared. Job allows us to see that there can be godly purposes at work when we suffer, and that they can be unrelated to punishment or sin in our lives. If we allow disappointment and/or discouragement to rule our emotions and actions, our personal walk with the Lord is damaged and we never see the underlying work He is creating though what we cannot see. Paul, a Pharisee who once hated, punished, and murdered Christians, was shocked, and his life totally transformed when he met Jesus on a road to Damascus. The intensity with which he once massacred Christians then turned into a passion for sharing the gospel and serving others, drawing them to Jesus and helping them to draw nearer to Him. Paul allows us to glimpse the grace, mercy, and forgiveness of our gracious Heavenly Father as we study how Jesus shattered the evil life he followed, and the way God forgave Paul, allowing him the opportunity to reach others for Him. Paul obediently and faithfully stepped through treacherous and painful sufferings and events, proving that the law doesn’t provide freedom. Only grace through the shed blood of Jesus offers us eternity and the forgiveness and transformation we desire and need. Are you able to recognize the types of disappointment and/or discouragement that usually pull us away from God or that causes us to stumble in our walk with Him? How do you define it? To avoid letting disappointment or discouragement from gaining a grip on us, we must recognize when it threatens us. Anything unexpected or unpleasant, whether personal, spiritual, emotional, mental, physical, or financial can affect a change that causes us to be discouraged or disappointed. Those feelings can also be triggered by someone or something. The most common are as follows: 1. Disappointments – Life will carry adversity. 2. Burnout – Trying to please everyone instead of relying only on what the Lord is calling us to do and not releasing our burdens to Him sparks the flame of burnout. 3. Lack of confidence – Relying on self causes false security and fake confidence that will crumble. True confidence comes only from knowing and believing our worth through God. 4. Expectations – Maturing in the Lord means releasing what we want and accepting a higher plan. 5. Comparisons – Not keeping our gaze fixed above and comparing ourselves to those around us is toxic. 6. Timing (delays) – Our timing is never the same as what God follows. 7. Criticism – Constantly viewing life as negative is contrary to God’s plan. Whether it comes from us or others, it never benefits us. 8. Job – Stresses from jobs can be extreme. 9. Family – Relationships are difficult. 10. Friends – Again, relationships can be difficult. 11. Judgement – Just like comparisons, judgements are not something we are meant to do. 12. Spiritual warfare – Satan is out to get everyone of us, especially those who love Jesus. 13. Lethargy – Not standing for something or doing anything causes boredom and gives us time to do nothing but complain and look for things to be disappointed about. To avoid falling victim to disappointment and discouragement we must actively engage in purposing to keep our hearts and minds fixed on God. Always remember to look Up to Him, not around us, and certainly not within ourselves. Exodus 6:8-9 says, “And I will bring you to the land I swore with uplifted hand to give to Abraham, to Isaac and to Jacob. I will give it to you as a possession. I am the Lord. Moses reported this to the Israelites, but they did not listen to him because of their discouragement and harsh labor.” Do not allow yourself to focus on the negative. Wait for what God is working behind the scenes of our vision and understanding . Philippians 3:13-14 says, “Brothers, I do not consider myself to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and reaching forward to what is ahead, I pursue as my goal the prize promised by God’s heavenly call in Christ Jesus.” Circumstances in our lives will change. Practice gratitude by enjoying what you appreciate while you have it. Nothing will ever stay the same. Circumstances, joys, and heartaches will ebb and flow just like the sea. Isaiah 43:18-19 says, “Don’t remember the former things; don’t dwell on things past. Watch! I’m about to carry out something new! And now it’s springing up don’t you recognize it? I’m making a way in the wilderness and paths in the desert.” The Lord is making a way. We must trust and wait with expectation despite circumstances. I will list practical steps to follow to actively combat disappointment and/or discouragement when they threaten to take root. 1. Get enough rest. Everything looks and feels better when we are well-rested. Eat properly. Proper and regular hydration and nutrition affect our minds and body. Exercise. Our bodies were meant to be active and our minds were meant to be challenged. Both need proper exercise. Proverbs 3:5-8 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and shun evil. This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones.” 2. Heed your thoughts. Isaiah 26:3 says, “You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you.” 3. Pay close attention to attitude. Romans 12:2 says, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” 4. Notice the way you interact with others, the words you use, the way you treat others. Hebrews 12:1 says, “Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us.” When we trust the Lord and release the loads we carry to Him, we are free to truly live the way He desires. 5. Exercise gratitude despite circumstances. Proverbs 13:12 says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.” 6. Read the Bible! God’s words are a medicine and balm for all that occurs in this life. The closer we press to Jesus, the more we respect and appreciate the wisdom contained in God’s Holy word. The Holy Spirit works inside us to communicate and decipher the very intentions and words God gave to us, allowing us more clarity, insight, and understanding. Joshua 1:8 says, “This book of instruction must not depart from your mouth; you are to recite it day and night so that you may carefully observe everything written in it. For then you will prosper and succeed in whatever you do.” Romans 15:4-5 says, “For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through the endurance taught in the Scriptures and the encouragement they provide we might have hope. May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had.” 7. Communicate with God through prayer and actively listening for His guidance and direction. Psalm 55:11 says, “Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.” Romans 12:12 says, “Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.” Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” 8. Rely on God, not self, and not earthly friends. Friends, especially godly ones, are true blessings, but do not replace God with a human He created. Psalm 46:10-11 says, “Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth. The LORD of hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our refuge.” Isaiah 41:10 says, “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” 9. Shift your viewpoint of occurrences to one of eternal perspective. Colossians 3:2 says, “Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” 10. Trust God. Let go of personal expectations and follow God’s plan and purposes for your life. Learn to enjoy what happens, instead of what you think should happen or you want to happen. Ephesians 4:27 says, “And do not give the devil an opportunity to work.” 11. Model godly disappointment for our children and grandchildren. When they see us handle discouragement, discontent, or defeat with our heart and mind fixed above, it teaches and encourages them to build the same spiritual strengths. Let them appropriately know your feelings when you are dissatisfied and let them see you pray (or pray with them) about it. Teach them to carry everything to God and share with them as He answers or shifts your heart to the perspective He desires. Remember (and teach our children and grandchildren) Jeremiah 29:11 which says, “ For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” And Joshua 1:9 which says, “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” When we forget or refuse to seek Him and instead fixate on what has disillusioned or disenchanted us, we automatically lose sight of a blessing, joy, or lesson that God has allowed or purposed for our life. Eternal perspective living is born from lifting our gaze above any obstacle this earth gives and allowing that annoyance, setback, failure, defeat, or blow to push us into the arms and care of Jesus. What I call heartitude is revealed when disappointments arise. If we continue worshipping the Lord and living with gratitude despite setbacks and frustrations, we submit to God’s sovereignty over our life. Satan wants Christians discouraged and defeated, hoping that it will cause us to disobey God, not trust God, make wrong decisions, stop believing in God, or cause fear and anxiety. Depression can also stem from discouragement and/or disappointment, draining us of all hope and chipping away at the foundation of our trust and hope in God. When we allow our mind and spirit to become discouraged or depressed, our spiritual life, personal life, prayer life, and obedience suffer. Satan wants to till the soil of our spiritual life and rip away roots of trust to replace them with nettles of distrust and disappointment. He will plant seeds of doubt where the discouragement settled and drip waters of discontent until strong, thorny weeds choke out faith and leave us languishing without hope and filling our mind with lies. Our inner thoughts whisper trash that would never enter God’s thoughts. Satan writes the same dialogue for anyone weak enough to accept the lying words. “God’s not real.” “God is not good.” “If He loved you, He wouldn’t let this happen.” “You aren’t enough for even God to love.” “Christianity is a sham.” “You’re not really a Christian or this wouldn’t have happened.” “God is a liar.” John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” Purpose to draw nearer to God if you feel even a stab of discouragement. Remember emotions you experience when you follow His loving guidelines, read His word, or worship Him in song. Expect that life will bring heartache and uncertainty, but it will also shift again. Jesus warned us that in this world we would experience sorrow and troubles. John 16:33 says, “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” Do not allow Satan, this world, or your pride and selfishness keep you from viewing discouragement or disappointment through an eternal lens. God’s word offers the perfect hope, promise, or comfort for any event or experience and for any one of us. The following verses are perfect for memorizing, writing out, praying over, or carrying with you to read when needed to counter the lies this world offers. God’s word truly is the solution this hurting world needs. Romans 5:5 says, “Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.” 1 Peter 5:7 says, “Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.” Deuteronomy 31:8 says, “It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.” 2 Corinthians 4:17-18 says, “For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.” Remember the Israelites and the discouragement and dissatisfaction they suffered on their journey to the promised land and how it prolonged their disappointment, leading to disobedience, and misery? They certainly did not remember God’s past faithfulness to them or the spectacular miracles they had seen Him perform. How different could their journey and life have been if they had remained faithful to trusting and obeying Him? Our discouragement actually proves our spiritual and relational need for God. No one can fill our emotions, heart, and mind as well as the One who created us. Not even ourselves. Only God. We must read His word to know Him and recognize His voice and promptings. We must pray to Him, and make time to seek, talk, and listen to Him. Why? Because that is the only way to nourish and flourish any relationship. What bond is more important than a personal one with the Creator of the universe? Let’s close this episode with the following beautiful verse. Psalm 34:1-7 “I will praise the Lord no matter what happens. I will constantly speak of his glories and grace. I will boast of all his kindness to me. Let all who are discouraged take heart. Let us praise the Lord together and exalt his name. For I cried to him and he answered me! He freed me from all my fears. Others too were radiant at what he did for them. Theirs was no downcast look of rejection! This poor man cried to the Lord—and the Lord heard him and saved him out of his troubles. For the Angel of the Lord guards and rescues all who reverence him.” Do you enjoy this podcast? 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Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 023 Discouragement and Disappointment Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #023 – Discouragement and Disappointment Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. When I was a little girl I felt like I had so many disappointments that caused me to begin expecting less out of life. Like all of us, I learned that nothing is guaranteed. Instead of using that fact to prompt me to appreciate what I did have, I withdrew and became more introverted. I was already attending my second or third elementary school by the time I entered first grade. We were also living in a new state. I remember my dad taking me to my first day in that new school. The year had already started. Even at that age, I understood that meant everyone already had their friend groups and everyone would be staring at the new girl. In my mind, I still see my dad and I outdoors on the playground on that early morning as he knelt next to me. I cried, pleading with him to let me stay home. I didn’t want to go inside that school. Like parents usually do, he promised me that everything would turn out okay. I knew he couldn’t really promise that, but I also understood I had to go in. My personality was already shutting down, knowing that even if I made any new friends, I’d just have to leave them when we moved again and I wasn’t willing to keep investing the time and energy it took to develop and nurture relationships. Aren’t you glad God isn’t like that? Despite the ways we unknowingly or purposely sabotage our lives, push Him away, or live in disobedience to His callings and purposes for us, He remains faithful and merciful. He craves intimate relationship with each one of us and desires that we spend eternity with Him. Revelation 21:3-4 is a beautiful reminder of what is to come for those of us who choose a personal relationship with God through Jesus. “And I heard a loud voice from heaven saying, “Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and He will dwell with them, and they shall be His people. God Himself will be with them and be their God. And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away.” Life gets bumpy, even when we know and try to please Him, but for true followers of Jesus, there is no way but straight through the disappointment and/or discouragement, allowing the Lord to carry and comfort us. As a child, I did not know Him and could not call upon His help. As an adult, I’m filled with gratitude for the ways I now recognize that He understands and provides for all of my needs. Even when the answers I receive are not at all what I desire, I do recognize and appreciate the way God works out every detail in the circumstances of my life, giving me opportunities to choose whether I will use them to draw nearer to Him and influence others for Him. I remember when our oldest daughter had her first set of seizures. She was in her early twenties and living in her own apartment near us. My husband was sick with a flu virus, and I had worked all day. After showering, I planned to watch television and go to bed. Instead, when I stepped out of the shower and into a towel, the phone rang and I had to head to the hospital. There was no way my husband could go with me, and he remained sick for a couple of days after she was admitted to the hospital. I was disappointed and scared to be caring for our daughter alone. I missed my husband and some of the details of her illness were very serious. I wanted to be able to rely on his wisdom and suggestions. God, in the way He crafts personal relationships with each one of us, knows the intricate ways we are all intertwined with one another and how connected we are to Him. He understands just what is needed for us to draw nearer to Him and He offers opportunities through the events in our lives. As I leaned into the support of God through the terrible illness my daughter suffered, I experienced intimate peace and trust and my faith deepened through the events. If my husband had been present, I do not think my walk would have grown as significantly as it did during that time. God, in His intimate, loving way, knew exactly how I needed to grow in those moments. The Bible offers a variety of life accounts about people who lived before us, providing a catalog of historical and biblical events that enable us to be a spectator viewing the way God warned, promised, cared for, and disciplined His people before us. As I purposely attempt to live each day with more eternal perspective, I appreciate the value in studying the ways God reached out to them before, during, and after each moment in their life, just as He does for us now. God is always present, whether or not we choose to acknowledge Him. Living with hindsight, especially drawn from watching mistakes, setbacks, disappointments, failures, and discouragement experienced by others should be the easiest way to learn. Many times, however, we choose the hardest way to grow, which is from our personal mistakes. Before we fall into traps, lies, or heartaches, we would do well to remember those who left lessons we can all benefit from and avoid hardships and pain to ourselves and others in our lives. The very first human disappointment recorded in the Bible was Eve’s. Disappointment and discouragement can stem from several reasons. Eve must have allowed pride and lust to birth disappointment that she could not eat of the fruit God forbade in the garden. After allowing herself to be deceived by the serpent (Satan), she had to have felt deep despair at the outcome of her disobedience. Her life, as well as Adam’s, were negatively impacted and altered by the actions they chose to take. When discouragement hits so deep, it is sometimes difficult to continue past it. This is where many fall victim to deeper discouragement and disappointment, allowing the feelings to fester and grow into more disobedience. Let’s look at Old Testament Joseph. He did not disobey God, like Adam and Eve. Instead, despite a series of hardships occurring over several years, Joseph continued to look to God through every circumstance and misfortune as they continued to affect him. Recognizing blessings disguised as adversity allows us to focus our perspective on eternity. Joseph understood that this life is not for our pleasure and that God uses everything for His good purposes. What we are allowed to be a part of in this short time on earth, has bigger picture consequences. Without struggle, we cannot develop spiritually in broad or profound ways and others will also miss the opportunity to be reached for and by God through us. Joseph shows us that we must never lose sight of the hidden meanings and plans that God can work through our obedience. Job lived a blameless, upright life, fearing God and shunning evil. In fact, his life was so pious that Satan begged to touch it, believing that Job lived with a shallow, self-serving devotion to God. The Lord allowed Satan to upset Job’s life, with restrictions, because He knew Satan would be proven wrong and that spiritual warfare would not harm the relationship God and Job shared. Job allows us to see that there can be godly purposes at work when we suffer, and that they can be unrelated to punishment or sin in our lives. If we allow disappointment and/or discouragement to rule our emotions and actions, our personal walk with the Lord is damaged and we never see the underlying work He is creating though what we cannot see. Paul, a Pharisee who once hated, punished, and murdered Christians, was shocked, and his life totally transformed when he met Jesus on a road to Damascus. The intensity with which he once massacred Christians then turned into a passion for sharing the gospel and serving others, drawing them to Jesus and helping them to draw nearer to Him. Paul allows us to glimpse the grace, mercy, and forgiveness of our gracious Heavenly Father as we study how Jesus shattered the evil life he followed, and the way God forgave Paul, allowing him the opportunity to reach others for Him. Paul obediently and faithfully stepped through treacherous and painful sufferings and events, proving that the law doesn’t provide freedom. Only grace through the shed blood of Jesus offers us eternity and the forgiveness and transformation we desire and need. Are you able to recognize the types of disappointment and/or discouragement that usually pull us away from God or that causes us to stumble in our walk with Him? How do you define it? To avoid letting disappointment or discouragement from gaining a grip on us, we must recognize when it threatens us. Anything unexpected or unpleasant, whether personal, spiritual, emotional, mental, physical, or financial can affect a change that causes us to be discouraged or disappointed. Those feelings can also be triggered by someone or something. The most common are as follows: 1. Disappointments – Life will carry adversity. 2. Burnout – Trying to please everyone instead of relying only on what the Lord is calling us to do and not releasing our burdens to Him sparks the flame of burnout. 3. Lack of confidence – Relying on self causes false security and fake confidence that will crumble. True confidence comes only from knowing and believing our worth through God. 4. Expectations – Maturing in the Lord means releasing what we want and accepting a higher plan. 5. Comparisons – Not keeping our gaze fixed above and comparing ourselves to those around us is toxic. 6. Timing (delays) – Our timing is never the same as what God follows. 7. Criticism – Constantly viewing life as negative is contrary to God’s plan. Whether it comes from us or others, it never benefits us. 8. Job – Stresses from jobs can be extreme. 9. Family – Relationships are difficult. 10. Friends – Again, relationships can be difficult. 11. Judgement – Just like comparisons, judgements are not something we are meant to do. 12. Spiritual warfare – Satan is out to get everyone of us, especially those who love Jesus. 13. Lethargy – Not standing for something or doing anything causes boredom and gives us time to do nothing but complain and look for things to be disappointed about. To avoid falling victim to disappointment and discouragement we must actively engage in purposing to keep our hearts and minds fixed on God. Always remember to look Up to Him, not around us, and certainly not within ourselves. Exodus 6:8-9 says, “And I will bring you to the land I swore with uplifted hand to give to Abraham, to Isaac and to Jacob. I will give it to you as a possession. I am the Lord. Moses reported this to the Israelites, but they did not listen to him because of their discouragement and harsh labor.” Do not allow yourself to focus on the negative. Wait for what God is working behind the scenes of our vision and understanding . Philippians 3:13-14 says, “Brothers, I do not consider myself to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and reaching forward to what is ahead, I pursue as my goal the prize promised by God’s heavenly call in Christ Jesus.” Circumstances in our lives will change. Practice gratitude by enjoying what you appreciate while you have it. Nothing will ever stay the same. Circumstances, joys, and heartaches will ebb and flow just like the sea. Isaiah 43:18-19 says, “Don’t remember the former things; don’t dwell on things past. Watch! I’m about to carry out something new! And now it’s springing up don’t you recognize it? I’m making a way in the wilderness and paths in the desert.” The Lord is making a way. We must trust and wait with expectation despite circumstances. I will list practical steps to follow to actively combat disappointment and/or discouragement when they threaten to take root. 1. Get enough rest. Everything looks and feels better when we are well-rested. Eat properly. Proper and regular hydration and nutrition affect our minds and body. Exercise. Our bodies were meant to be active and our minds were meant to be challenged. Both need proper exercise. Proverbs 3:5-8 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and shun evil. This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones.” 2. Heed your thoughts. Isaiah 26:3 says, “You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you.” 3. Pay close attention to attitude. Romans 12:2 says, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” 4. Notice the way you interact with others, the words you use, the way you treat others. Hebrews 12:1 says, “Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us.” When we trust the Lord and release the loads we carry to Him, we are free to truly live the way He desires. 5. Exercise gratitude despite circumstances. Proverbs 13:12 says, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.” 6. Read the Bible! God’s words are a medicine and balm for all that occurs in this life. The closer we press to Jesus, the more we respect and appreciate the wisdom contained in God’s Holy word. The Holy Spirit works inside us to communicate and decipher the very intentions and words God gave to us, allowing us more clarity, insight, and understanding. Joshua 1:8 says, “This book of instruction must not depart from your mouth; you are to recite it day and night so that you may carefully observe everything written in it. For then you will prosper and succeed in whatever you do.” Romans 15:4-5 says, “For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through the endurance taught in the Scriptures and the encouragement they provide we might have hope. May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had.” 7. Communicate with God through prayer and actively listening for His guidance and direction. Psalm 55:11 says, “Cast your burden on the Lord, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved.” Romans 12:12 says, “Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.” Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” 8. Rely on God, not self, and not earthly friends. Friends, especially godly ones, are true blessings, but do not replace God with a human He created. Psalm 46:10-11 says, “Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth. The LORD of hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our refuge.” Isaiah 41:10 says, “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” 9. Shift your viewpoint of occurrences to one of eternal perspective. Colossians 3:2 says, “Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” 10. Trust God. Let go of personal expectations and follow God’s plan and purposes for your life. Learn to enjoy what happens, instead of what you think should happen or you want to happen. Ephesians 4:27 says, “And do not give the devil an opportunity to work.” 11. Model godly disappointment for our children and grandchildren. When they see us handle discouragement, discontent, or defeat with our heart and mind fixed above, it teaches and encourages them to build the same spiritual strengths. Let them appropriately know your feelings when you are dissatisfied and let them see you pray (or pray with them) about it. Teach them to carry everything to God and share with them as He answers or shifts your heart to the perspective He desires. Remember (and teach our children and grandchildren) Jeremiah 29:11 which says, “ For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” And Joshua 1:9 which says, “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” When we forget or refuse to seek Him and instead fixate on what has disillusioned or disenchanted us, we automatically lose sight of a blessing, joy, or lesson that God has allowed or purposed for our life. Eternal perspective living is born from lifting our gaze above any obstacle this earth gives and allowing that annoyance, setback, failure, defeat, or blow to push us into the arms and care of Jesus. What I call heartitude is revealed when disappointments arise. If we continue worshipping the Lord and living with gratitude despite setbacks and frustrations, we submit to God’s sovereignty over our life. Satan wants Christians discouraged and defeated, hoping that it will cause us to disobey God, not trust God, make wrong decisions, stop believing in God, or cause fear and anxiety. Depression can also stem from discouragement and/or disappointment, draining us of all hope and chipping away at the foundation of our trust and hope in God. When we allow our mind and spirit to become discouraged or depressed, our spiritual life, personal life, prayer life, and obedience suffer. Satan wants to till the soil of our spiritual life and rip away roots of trust to replace them with nettles of distrust and disappointment. He will plant seeds of doubt where the discouragement settled and drip waters of discontent until strong, thorny weeds choke out faith and leave us languishing without hope and filling our mind with lies. Our inner thoughts whisper trash that would never enter God’s thoughts. Satan writes the same dialogue for anyone weak enough to accept the lying words. “God’s not real.” “God is not good.” “If He loved you, He wouldn’t let this happen.” “You aren’t enough for even God to love.” “Christianity is a sham.” “You’re not really a Christian or this wouldn’t have happened.” “God is a liar.” John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” Purpose to draw nearer to God if you feel even a stab of discouragement. Remember emotions you experience when you follow His loving guidelines, read His word, or worship Him in song. Expect that life will bring heartache and uncertainty, but it will also shift again. Jesus warned us that in this world we would experience sorrow and troubles. John 16:33 says, “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” Do not allow Satan, this world, or your pride and selfishness keep you from viewing discouragement or disappointment through an eternal lens. God’s word offers the perfect hope, promise, or comfort for any event or experience and for any one of us. The following verses are perfect for memorizing, writing out, praying over, or carrying with you to read when needed to counter the lies this world offers. God’s word truly is the solution this hurting world needs. Romans 5:5 says, “Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.” 1 Peter 5:7 says, “Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.” Deuteronomy 31:8 says, “It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.” 2 Corinthians 4:17-18 says, “For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.” Remember the Israelites and the discouragement and dissatisfaction they suffered on their journey to the promised land and how it prolonged their disappointment, leading to disobedience, and misery? They certainly did not remember God’s past faithfulness to them or the spectacular miracles they had seen Him perform. How different could their journey and life have been if they had remained faithful to trusting and obeying Him? Our discouragement actually proves our spiritual and relational need for God. No one can fill our emotions, heart, and mind as well as the One who created us. Not even ourselves. Only God. We must read His word to know Him and recognize His voice and promptings. We must pray to Him, and make time to seek, talk, and listen to Him. Why? Because that is the only way to nourish and flourish any relationship. What bond is more important than a personal one with the Creator of the universe? Let’s close this episode with the following beautiful verse. Psalm 34:1-7 “I will praise the Lord no matter what happens. I will constantly speak of his glories and grace. I will boast of all his kindness to me. Let all who are discouraged take heart. Let us praise the Lord together and exalt his name. For I cried to him and he answered me! He freed me from all my fears. Others too were radiant at what he did for them. Theirs was no downcast look of rejection! This poor man cried to the Lord—and the Lord heard him and saved him out of his troubles. For the Angel of the Lord guards and rescues all who reverence him.” Do you enjoy this podcast? 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< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode 016 - Parenting for God Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #016 – Parenting for God Are you yearning for greater connection with your child? Would you like to parent beyond the moment with eternal perspective? Let’s grow together now with practical tips, scripture, and stories geared to draw your heart to Jesus and guide your child into His arms. In our image-absorbed culture, our children ingest a great amount of photos and videos that are most of the time about absolutely nothing. At least they’re not about anything we should want them to care about. 1 Samuel 16:7b says, “The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” Have you ever felt overlooked? Perhaps forgotten or less than others? Do you ever feel like no one understands you? When sorrow befalls you, do you cling to blessings or allow anguish to overwhelm you? Remember that God sees what happens in this world through an entirely different vision and mindset . One Bible story that I believe we can be encouraged by is what we read about Hannah in 1 Samuel 1, where we see this woman drowning in misery because she could not bear children. Remember, in Old Testament times, to remain childless was to be known as a failure. After Hannah waited for a child years longer than she could stand to bear, she beseeched God, saying to Him, “O Lord Almighty, if You will only look upon Your servant’s misery and remember me, and not forget Your servant but give her a son, then I will give him to the Lord for all the days of his life, and no razor will ever be used on his head .” 1 Samuel 1:11 . Have you ever done what Hannah did? Have you thrown a bargain to the Lord? Hannah, in desperate misery, muttered words felt deeply in her spirit, words that became a promise shaping her future, but also that of her child. Remember, we must be careful how and why we pray to God. Prayer opens the door for God’s work and He hears every thought or word we offer to Him. Hannah so fiercely desired a child that she offered a negotiation to receive a son. God heard her plea and gave Hannah the son she desired. Can you imagine the pain Hannah must have felt when she realized she had to uphold the weighty promise she previously made to God in desperation? As she nursed her son, did she live with regret that she would soon have to release him to service for God? Or was she joyful inside, trusting that this was God’s ultimate will for the precious boy in her arms? In 1 Samuel 1:27-28a we read of the time Hannah took her son, Samuel to stay at the Tabernacle, “I prayed for this child, and the Lord has granted me what I asked of Him. So now I give him to the Lord. For his whole life he will be given over to the Lord . Hannah had promised God the return of her son, and she upheld her end of the agreement she initiated. Obviously, God doesn’t need our negotiations. None of us are in a position to bargain with the Creator of the Universe. Yet despair, heartache, confusion, and many other emotions can cloud our senses and heighten our emotions to the point that we feel we have no other choice. God keeps His promises and expects the same from us. As we ponder the words Hannah spoke in 1 Samuel 1:27-28a, we must remember that when Hannah gave her son up for the Lord, she was actually devoting her own life to God at the same time. In order to sacrifice her son to our Heavenly Father, Hannah had to focus on God and on keeping the promise she made to Him. Her life became a testimony of keeping that vow as she arranged her present and future days to fulfill it. In actuality, Hannah was returning her son to the One he already belonged to. These verses, however, and this story remind us of the types of gifts we should prepare for God. Hannah’s willingness to walk through the pain of extreme and deep loss in order to execute the promise she made to God is an illustration of faithfulness that should spur each of us to examine ourselves and our faith journey. I’m not saying to model how Hannah bargained, but to look beyond that into how she upheld what she promised. Do the gifts you offer to God reflect the joy He brings your life ? Are they costly to you? Do they exhibit the level of your faith? Are you offering God small tokens of belief or presenting Him with more than you can spare because you trust in all He will do with it? I ask these questions of myself, as well. We don’t know each of the reasons Hannah wanted a child. In the Bible, we are able to read some of them, but we can’t know her full heart. If someone else desperately desires a child and they pray like Hannah did, will God bring them a child, too? Not necessarily. God’s not in the business of bargaining with His creation. None of us know the reasons God allowed this child for Hannah. Hannah may have decided that she wanted a child so desperately that she didn’t care if she was able to keep it very long. Perhaps she believed it would be better to bear a child that would be devoted to a lifetime of following and serving the Lord. We can’t understand all of her thoughts or the reasons she released ownership of her son before she had him in her arms. One thing we do know for sure is that like Hannah, we do not own the children God gifts to us. Each precious child is already His , and we are responsible for raising God’s children to answer to Him . We are only stewards of the children He has entrusted to us for a very short while. What this world teaches or believes does not matter. What we find within the pages of God’s Holy Word is the guiding truth that should direct our very short time with them. 1 Peter 1:22-25 says, “Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for each other, love one another deeply, from the heart. For you have been born again, not of perishable seed, but of imperishable, through the living and enduring word of God. For, “All people are like grass, and all their glory is like the flowers of the field; the grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of the Lord endures forever.” Mothers, remember while you change diapers, wash countless loads of laundry, cook meals, correct, educate, and play with your children, it is only a season of life for each of you. Yet, the moments that make up those passages of time are allowed by God and are to be used for His purposes and glory. How you use that time matters for eternity. Both the hard and the easy moments, the joys and the disappointments shape you, as well as your child and form the type of spiritual walk, the relationship you and your child will carry with God into eternity. What can we glean from Hannah’s bargain or prayer to the Lord? Surely there is a lesson that will enable us to draw nearer to our Lord and direct our children to His feet in humble adoration. I believe we learn that no matter what our parenting motives are, no matter where we come from, what type of childhood we had, or where we are in life as we raise our children, God is the true parent of our child. It doesn’t matter whether your pregnancy was a surprise, whether you tried for years to conceive, or whether you adopted your child. The little ones you love and treasure came from Him, belong to Him, and answer to Him. Whether your child is loving and submissive, strong-willed, lives with extensive special needs, is a foster child, or because of divorce or separation is only with you part time, through great privilege and honor, you were chosen to be the one to direct your child to God. There is no greater honor than to live a life that seeks and reflects God with thoughts, words, actions, and reactions. I believe there are 5 practices to ensure that we purpose our heart and mind to hold and exhibit godly influence that we desire our children to witness and imitate. 1. Proclamation - Revelation 4:11 says, “You are worthy, our Lord and God, to receive glory and honor and power, for you created all things, and by your will they were created and have their being .” When we acknowledge God as our Heavenly Father, the Creator and Giver of all, our life must proclaim His truths in all we think and are. Moment by moment, day by day, we seek to know Him better and imitate Him more clearly. 2. Profession - Psalm 27:4 says, “One thing I ask from the LORD, this only do I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, to gaze on the beauty of the LORD and to seek him in his temple.” As we profess that Jesus is our Savior and the only way to God with our mind, heart, lips, and actions, our life becomes worship. 3. Purity - Proverbs 16:2 says, “All a person’s ways seem pure to them, but motives are weighed by the LORD. ” Obedience is one of the purest form of faith and worship. As we study God’s Holy Word and allow the Holy Spirit within us to transform us daily, our life shines the Lord more and more clearly. 4. Persistence - Luke 10:42 says, “but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” As Mary chose to sit at the feet of Jesus and reside with Him, our life must reflect that genuine desire in order for our children to begin to build a walk with God. As we persist in knowing and showing Jesus they will begin to display the same desires and characteristics. 5. Praise - Hebrews 13:15 says, “Through Jesus, therefore, let us continually offer to God a sacrifice of praise--the fruit of lips that openly profess His name.” As we choose to live with open praise, joy in the relationship will be reflected in our expression, words, motives, and dealings. Praise transforms our life as we live with authentic gratitude worship. When we are changed, the present and future of our children and grandchildren are as well. Jeremiah 10:6 says, “There is none like You, O LORD. You are great, and Your name is mighty in power .” Lord, may our lives, and the lives of our children shine a maturing walk that please You more and more each day. Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for Your goodness and faithfulness to us. We know we are not worthy of anything You so generously give, yet we humbly thank You and desire that we please You more and more. Help us to be the example You desire for our children to come to know, follow, and show You. Help them to crave You over culture and live with focus on eternity, even while on this earth. May they proclaim You, profess You, live lives pure in Your eyes, persist in time with You, and praise You in the ways You deserve. May we lead them straight to You with the way we live, as well. Show us the way to model that lifestyle and desire for them. Pierce our heart with Your pureness and desire for You that they will see and grasp. In the precious name of Jesus we humbly pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. 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< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 128 - How to Help Children Form Godly Habits Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 128 – How to Help Children Form Godly Habits Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom so you can BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you’ll be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episodes, would you please share this episode or others with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, and leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast. When you do, you’re helping affect generations for Jesus. Now on to this episode that makes us consider an important question… do you know how to help children form godly habits? Yesterday afternoon I looked out the great room window at the back of my house and saw my youngest daughter crouched in the soil of our fruit and vegetable garden. Just the day before she had spent a portion of the afternoon outside weeding both of our two gardens. As she tenderly removed weeds, she was careful not to eradicate the tiny saplings that had blown into and began growing there. Although she finally decided she couldn’t keep all the little trees, there was one that captured her heart. It made tossing it with the weeds impossible. My daughter took this seedling to another area of our yard and planted it where it could grow strong. Although you can’t see changes in the tree just yet, we know that the roots should take hold and begin to push through the soil, bringing new strength and life to the tree. Just as our heart needs seeds planted over time before we experience changes, others can’t see how the Holy Spirit is working within us until our words, actions, and reactions are altered to showcase His presence. Those transformations become the roots of Christ reaching others through our life. When we first become believers and followers of Christ, we can’t comprehend the life-changing beauty that a maturing relationship with Him will bring. Yet, the longer we walk with Him, and the more intentional we are about pursuing Jesus and submitting to His work within us, the greater our faith grows. As we humbly and intentionally invite Him to shine through us, He also makes a great impact on those around us. It's true that the way we conduct our life and Christian walk attracts attention. Even when we don’t believe anyone is paying attention, they are. The older I’ve gotten, the more I’ve focused on how my actions affect others. Actually, this thought process probably has less to do with aging, and more to do with my walk with Christ. As time has progressed and I have continued to mature in Him, Jesus prompts me to examine motives and actions in light of the way others are impacted by them. I want others to see Him clearly through me and that desire comes with great responsibility. As I ponder what that duty means, I acknowledge how easily my behavior can attract people to, or turn people away from Christ. Have you ever noticed that small and seemingly insignificant decisions you make can cause someone to choose to build their foundation of Christ on rock or on sand? Our words and actions can cause another person to stumble in their relationship with Jesus or cause them to turn away from Christ completely. Daily decisions become habits that carry us closer to the Father or pull us away from Him . Romans 14:12-13 says, “So then each of us shall give account of himself to God. Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather resolve this, not to put a stumbling block or a cause to fall in our brother’s way .” Have you ever been short with someone at work? Or with a family member? Maybe you gave a dirty look to the crazy driver who totally cut you off on the highway or at the person who took the parking spot they could see you were going to take. Have you ever rushed to get in line to order food or check out at the store before someone else could get ahead of you? Once you beat them, do you stop to wonder how well you’re representing Christ? I find it interesting that when I slow down and allow others to go first, I don’t think about how it reflects Christ: I just allow Him to work within me, helping me to think of others first. However, when I try to move faster than someone else (without it looking like I’m doing it), because I’m short on time or hungry, or some other excuse, I do stop to think (after the fact) that I certainly did not represent Christ the way I could have. What if the person you hurried past showed up at church the next Sunday? What if they heard you proclaiming to love Jesus or giving testimony at a later date and they remembered that it was you who did whatever act didn’t give a holy representation of the Lord? “For no other foundation can anyone lay than that which is laid, which is Jesus Christ .” This verse from 1 Corinthians 3:11 reminds us that the only foundation that is true and lasting is one built on Jesus Christ. It’s also true that lasting change can only come through Him. Our reason for desiring to show others the Way, the Truth, and the Life should be because our own heart and mind are so full of Him that He overflows. We can’t help but exude His spirit, grace, mercy, and love to others because He has permanently entwined His spirit within us. Our desire to be set-apart for Jesus also comes through obedience. God’s Word and (the Holy Spirit within us) literally instruct believers to make Him known. Consider this question…Do you guard your actions, your mind, your heart, and reactions daily through the power of the Holy Spirit alive within you? In order to train yourself to respond in ways pleasing to God and that will showcase Him well to others, you must be aware of how your actions reflect Him . Just as an athlete develops discipline through intentional daily training, we must be attentive to the coaching of the Lord within us. We must desire to reflect Him properly. We must allow Him to guide and guard us and our responses and reactions so that others clearly see the work He has done (and is still completing) within us. Each person – whether believer or not - develops habits. Some are good, making us stronger in the Lord while others may take us in the opposite direction. As we grow in relationship, strength, and character through Christ, our affections and actions toward others change. Galatians 2:20 says, “I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me .” When most of us become believers, we still think of “self” more than Christ. Once we begin to mature our walk, allowing the Holy Spirit to transform our character and desires, our thought processes change the more we pursue Him. We begin to think of others more than self. We desire to be stewards of the relationship we have with Christ. When selfishness, jealousy, impatience, or other fleshly feelings try to overtake us, it is a blessing to know we can utilize the power of Christ within us to shift our thinking process to - and for - Him. He makes us aware of how others see Him through us, reminding us of the challenge and responsibility we bear. Our inadequacies, even when we strive to follow and honor Christ are apparent in differing ways. Obviously, as stated earlier, one method to strengthen our Christian walk and make Jesus known to others in ways that attract them to Him is through our habits. We all have behaviors we repeat daily. We know it’s much easier to develop bad or harmful habits over nurturing good ones. One key to growing habits that forward our walk with Christ and draws others to Him is to pay attention to what encourages you, gives you more joy, and what matures your personal walk with Christ. Of course, right now we are only discussing godly habits, not health, beauty, finance, work, or study habits. Goodness! When you think about it, our lives consist of a variety of routines and habits we have developed over years without giving them much thought. One purpose of fostering positive habits is to build character. As followers of Christ, we want our character to reflect His. Righteousness or godly character is fashioned through reflection and formation of excellent, repeated actions. Those actions become habits. It is crucial to discover which thought processes you need to alter and commit to doing it. Just as we get out of bed, get dressed, brush our teeth, etc. we must have a set standard we commit to completing. However, without thinking about what we are creating, excellent habits are almost impossible to achieve. We often plan to be consistent or to begin character formation in some way, but life interferes. Our schedules are tight. We get sick. Our children need us. Maybe we run around town all day and just need to relax in the evening. When we are tired, hungry, cold, or overscheduled, we tend to think of “self” first. We want to satisfy the burning need we have or the commitment to child or spouse that must be completed. Instead, stop to allow yourself to think of Christ. As He was dying on the cross, He put sinners first. He didn’t just fulfill what obligations He had to. Jesus remained committed to a lifestyle of integrity and obedience. Jesus followed habits He intentionally constructed throughout His life. Those habits He followed with purpose became habits that honored the Father purposely crafted by the Son for us to see and follow. Remember: 1. People see your actions. 2. People hear your words. 3. People appreciate your acts. 4. People feel your love. 5. People are changed through your devotion to Christ. When unbelievers see those of us who follow Christ, they consciously and subconsciously observe. They judge whether we appear to be genuine, whether we lovingly serve others, how well we appear to trust and obey Christ, whether we are discerning or judgmental, and how our actions affect them and others. The only way to form godly habits that will shape and transform lives is through following Christ and doing the following: 1. Study His Word 2. Know His Word 3. Honor His Word 4. Practice His Word 5. Share His Word God changes hearts that have been changed through Jesus. The more you pursue Him, the closer you draw to Him, the nearer He is to you. Another important step in forming godly habits is to pray. Specifically ask God to help you form habits that honor Him. Praying in alignment with God’s Word and desires works miracles. Jesus changes lives. Here are some truths to remember. As you live with them foremost in your heart and mind, teach and mentor them to your children and grandchildren. 1. Jesus is Who He says He is – John 14:6 says, “Jesus answered, "I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me .” 2. Jesus leads us to the Father – Matthew 4:19 says, “Come, follow Me,” Jesus said, “and I will make you fishers of men .” 3. Jesus heals hearts and lives – Matthew 4:23 says, “Jesus went throughout Galilee, teaching in their synagogues, proclaiming the good news of the kingdom, and healing every disease and sickness among the people .” 4. Jesus saves – John 3:16, 17 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through Him. ” and Acts 4:11, 12 says, “Jesus is the stone you builders rejected, which has become the cornerstone. Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved .” Your belief and view of eternity will affect the habits you develop and pass to your children and grandchildren. They begin to build the beliefs and views they rely on and build identity through. Here are questions to ask yourself. 1. Which habits will you construct to support what you believe? 2. Which habits will be important enough to ensure you continue? 3. Which habits will draw you nearer to Christ? 4. Which habits will draw others to Jesus? 5. Do you possess the qualities needed to form godly habits in your children? 6. What do your children see in your daily habits that will draw them nearer to, or farther from, Christ? 7. Which habits will they copy? Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things .” Does your professed faith match your actions, reactions, and words? If not, why? How are you working daily to develop strong, righteous integrity that is pleasing to God? 1 Samuel 16:7b says, “For man sees the outward appearance, but the LORD sees the heart .” Make sure that the habits you craft are intentionally more pleasing to God day by day. Dear Heavenly Father, oh Lord, how we need You! Left alone, we are so far from the holiness You require. Thank you for sending Jesus to show us the way to You. Thank you for loving us as we are, yet purposely making sure that we don’t have to stay where we are. May our lives proclaim Your glory, mercy, love, and holiness more each day. Enable our hearts to desire You above all else. Give us a longing for You that cannot be quenched by this world. Help us remain steadfast in studying Your Word, the life of Jesus, and obeying what You call. Help our lives proclaim You to those who do not know You and draw them closer to Your heart. May we never act in ways that turn people away from You. Equip us and place in us habits that bring us closer to You and invite You to shine brightly through us to others who need You. May our children and grandchildren live in close relationship with You because of the habits we carry. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. If you’re ready to become the godly mom God entrusts you to be for Him and His children, you’ll love my free “Good to Godly: A 31-Day Scripture and Prayer Guide for Moms.” Visit terrihitt.com to receive this resource. If you’re ready to be more intentional - to be purposed in preparing your children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ, contact me at info@terrihitt.com . I think you’ll be interested in my Set-Apart summer renewal for $197. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. Remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 122 - Do You Know How to Play With Your Kids? Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 122 – Do You Know How to Play With Your Kids? Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom and BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you will be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episodes, would you please share this episode or others with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, and leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast. When you do, you’re helping affect generations for Jesus. Now on to this episode that raises an important question…Do you Know How to Play With Your Kids? My Grandma Smith had the greatest ability to make me laugh. I remember going to her house was a treat I looked forward to. I always knew she’d do something funny or sit on the floor and tickle me. She simply acted like a kid while still maintaining authority. I always felt safe and loved with her. I often think of Grandma when I play with my kids. I have to ask…have you played today? One of the perks of being a mom is recognizing and cherishing the ability to keep childlike qualities – or rediscover the inner child alive in our heart. As for me, I’ve never lost the ability to intertwine the little girl still living inside with the adult me. Maybe it’s because God created me with a strong imagination, but I also like to think that I just enjoy connection. Like Grandma seemed to with me. After parenting two sets of children over two generations, I’ve had an extended period of playtime. In fact, my siblings were five and six years younger than me, and I had a lot of experience playing with my sister before I ever became a mom at the age of eighteen. Numerous memories are easily brought to mind when I think back over the years I’ve enjoyed playing with kids. When my first child, my daughter Jaime was almost two, I was at a local park with her and two children I cared for at the time. With three children under two years old, I had to be creative in the way I kept them all together and entertained. On that particular day in the park, we mastered the slide over and over. The kids were gleeful as I had them lined up in front of me, each securing their little arms around the waist of the child in front of them. My legs were wrapped around everyone as we slid towards the bottom. When my first set of kids were growing up, I remember playing baseball with my son. Now I have to state that I’m one of the most athletically-challenged people in the world. Athleticism is not a gift God chose for me. So when I say I played baseball, please know that it shows the depth of love I have for my boy. It also shows his patience with me. I remember times of throwing pitches for Brandon to practice hitting, then switching places and letting him practice pitching to me. That was a sacrifice! I’ve never been able to catch any ball, whether it be small like a baseball or a large kickball. Instead of spreading my arms out to gracefully receive the ball, I usually duck my head and scream. But guess what? Playing ball with my son was such a joy. In fact, he’s the only person who can throw a pitch I can hit. Somehow, he knew exactly how to throw that ball in a way I trusted and could connect with. I hope he felt as special as I did in those moments. There were also other play times with my kids using typical childhood toys, as well as playing dress-up, Play Doh, drawing or coloring, dancing, and acting. What are some of the ways you play with your children? Or your grandchildren? My youngest daughter and I still have a date for play time daily. It’s what she looks forward to most each day. When I keep my word to place her above anything else during the time we spend together, joy radiates from her eyes and movements. If you are actively pursuing play as a way to teach and connect, I applaud you. Then I say, “keep on.” When we enjoy playing with our children, we understand that we are building connection that can’t be created any other way. The benefits of playing with our children are high. As I stated earlier, not only do we experience a deeper bonding and attachment experience, but our children receive benefits such as a wider vocabulary, patience, trust, resilience, strengthened social skills, and higher cognitive development. Despite the love of electronics in this day and age, I say ditch those and find other ways to play such as the following: Toys – From the earliest of time with your child, you can play with toys together. I’m also going to place books and music in this category, and for every age group. Lullabies and Christian music are especially sweet. Books are a means of making time together special Sitting together as you read lends a special closeness and connection from an early age, plus reaps many of the benefits I spoke of earlier. Reading to your child often and regularly also helps them to be better prepared and more eager to read to you as time progresses. Letting yourself simply have fun with baby toys and age-appropriate toys with your child will expand creativity for you both. Physical Play – While building relationship and connection, you’re also building muscles, coordination, and strength. Outdoor Play – This can include physical play, as well as walks and nature studies. These activities allow both parent and child to experience fresh air, sunshine, appreciation, curiosity, imagination, and time together. Pretend Play – Even more imagination abounds with pretend play, which also builds curiosity, connection, and joy. Enjoy yourself. Let yourself be whatever age your child is. Or let yourself become an imaginary friend, creature, or whatever the situation calls for. Simply have fun. Through play, children learn, reduce stress, build connection with you, release fears, and work out problems. Through this process, parents are often alerted to thoughts and interests they may not have been made aware of yet. As my daughter and I play, I can tell things she’s concerned about or thinking. I also see how she responds to those thoughts or feelings through the way she has characters respond and react. Children are wired to play. So were you once. In fact, I bet you still are, even if you don’t realize it. When kids are able to play in early years, essential neural pathways are created that impact future learning. When kids experience sensory rich play and creative exploration, their time spent playing with you becomes more than recreation, and should be recognized as an investment in a critical piece of childhood development. For a more joyful childhood and future adult life, invest in playtime with your children. Mind, body, and spirit are transformed through such a simple act. If you think you don’t have time, I say you can’t afford to neglect making the time. If you’re not used to playing, let me list a few suggestions you might enjoy. Hearing them might spur your mind to come up with even more. Reading is very important at any age. Reading together, even when your kids are older is a fabulous bonding experience. As a homeschool mom, this is one of my favorite tips. Even when my girls were teens we read together. We still do daily when we sit to read the Bible together. Walking is also an easy activity to enjoy together. My middle daughter and I enjoy this activity year round. We’re outside together unless the weather makes it impossible. Through this simple act, we share so many stories and plans. We share our heart, give and hear advice, and simply enjoy one another. Our laughter is so full we’re often doubled over, barely able to walk, and that incredible connection strengthens our bond. You can also observe nature with your children. This activity is an easy way to begin conversations and talk about the Lord as you observe His creation, the seasons, or the weather. If you’re looking for more age-based suggestions, I’ll list a few. Again, this is a short list to get you thinking about what might be enjoyed together in your home. Six months – Recite short rhymes, prayers, condensed Bible stories, sing, play Peek-A-Boo, Pat-A-Cake, find your ears, nose, etc. Cover toys with a cloth or blanket and uncover to find. Nine months – Play imitation and “find it” games Twelve months – Fill containers or play instruments (anything from a pot and lid to an empty paper towel roll can become an instrument or you may invest in age appropriate instruments. Eighteen months – Memory games with music, cards, or toys. Sorting or matching games are also fun. Two to Three years – Music with movement, silly dances, Follow the Leader, Dress-up, Dolls, Play Doh Four to Seven Years – Simon Says, Climbing activities (yes, you can climb, too), Parks, play house, dolls, or ball. Eight to Twelve Years – Puzzles, mazes, word finds, crossword puzzles, strategy games, physical games Thirteen to Seventeen – Musical Instruments, Dancing, Acting, Sports All of these are activities that you can do with your child, not just watch them participate. Throughout the lifetime of your child, play is one of the best investments you can make for both of you. Skills, mental and emotional health, and connection are shaped grown, and maintained through this remarkably simple activity. You know your children. Find what they enjoy and jump in with them. Dear Heavenly Father, Thank you for Your mighty presence in this world, our lives, and in our heart through the Holy Spirit alive in us. We need Your guidance and leadership. Help us to shine You. Help us to connect with our children in ways that merge the beautiful interests and talents You crafted into them and all You have purposed within us. Help us enjoy the youthfulness, imagination, and love You have placed within us. Let us recognize all the gifts You have in store for us as we invest in time with You and our family. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Raising children is challenging. No one has all the answers because each child is unique as are parenting styles and family dynamics. By connecting with and knowing your children as you maintain purposed growth in Christ, you will be better prepared for any situation you face. That’s why you hear me share about the Set-Apart Collective in this podcast. I work with professionals who care about making Jesus known to their children. Are you a high-achieving woman who loves Jesus, but is so busy with the rush of work and daily life that you feel like you’re being drained like the water in your bathtub? Do you yearn to get closer to Jesus and show Him to your kids so you will create a love that will last into eternity? The desire is there, but your days spiral out of control before you even think about opening your Bible. Do you ever stop to think that you are the first Jesus your child will see? Let me remind you there is hope. There is a way you can be equipped to raise kids who chase Christ over culture. If you want a connected relationship with Christ and your children that leads them to your side and His feet, instead of them seeking validation from peers, I have an 8-step program to move you from frustrated to fulfilled. I will show you how to reflect Jesus in a way that attracts your family to a connected relationship that lasts into eternity. Remember, godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset you carry. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will arm you with a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You’ll also deepen your identity in Christ so you can mentor the way for your children to do the same. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family and you will have the tools to raise set apart kids as you parent the heart, not simply the behavior. Does this sound like a lifeline to help you be that set-apart mom God has entrusted you to be? Visit terrihitt.com/coaching and click the link for a free, no obligation conversation call with me. This is a strategic call where I will hear your biggest struggle and show you how to turn it into a blessing that will bring you closer to Christ and your children. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. One last thing to remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. 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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #136 – How to Thrive as a Christian in a World of Unbelievers Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. An event that happened one evening about 15 years ago stands out in my mind like it was yesterday. Most of the women at this event were strangers to me, but since a mutual friend had invited each of us to her place to watch an important adoption movie, I felt very comfortable going. At the end of the film, several of us shared our thoughts about what was important to us and why. As soon as my beliefs were spoken, one woman exploded with angry words that shocked and silenced me. Amazed that my belief in God and the viewpoint I had on adoption based on my relationship with Jesus had offended her so harshly, I was unable to think of any response other than to concentrate on stopping the tears threatening to spill down my cheeks. Although my logical side guessed that she was not a believer and must have had something happen in her past that turned her angry against God or Christians, I couldn’t converse logically because I was so disappointed in my friend for not intervening and keeping the space we were in safe for all viewpoints and, of course, for the hurtful words thrown at me by this stranger. As soon as possible, I left the meeting and cried all the way home as I poured my thoughts out to God, and then on the phone with a close friend. I had never faced someone so violently opposed to hearing biblically-based views. It was only later than I realized I had assumed the woman was not a Christian. In reality, believers can look so much like the world that God is never seen. It used to be that professing Christianity was respected. Tolerated. Trusted. Now the most outspoken seem to be those who despise or reject God, or those who when you mention God carry their own definition of what a Christian is. It’s only when you begin conversations that you’re able to discern that the God you worship is not the god they claim as lord of their life. Since it is common for many who profess to be Christians not to read their Bible, they aren’t familiar with the Word. Many of these believers enjoy or prefer the “gentler” approach to preaching. They don’t want to spend a Sunday morning uncomfortable in the pews. In fact, most churches don’t even have pews anymore. It’s more casual to sit on a chair you’d find at any meeting. And it’s more pleasant to hear that God is our friend, looking out for us from above. He understands when we slip up, but He knows we don’t plan to continue sinning. Surely He knows that we aren’t hurting anyone but ourselves, so it’s not a big deal. We’re told he’s an awesome, patient God, so there’s not really anything to worry about. Unbelievers or casual “Christians” do believe that God knows the Gospel offends people. They think He understands that we don’t know how to share Jesus without discomfort or embarrassment. In fact, many believe it’s easier to hear prosperity preaching or blame our issues on enneagram numbers so we don’t have to face change. Or growth. Or put effort into developing a relationship with Christ that purposely matures daily. That way we won’t stand out as separate from others and we won’t offend anyone. God knows we don’t want to scare people off or act like we’re superior by judging them. God surely understands that believers shouldn’t mention current cultural topics like abortion, pre-marital sex, politics, assigned sex at birth, or pornography. By the time believers with this mindset are finished compromising self on so many issues, they may as well remove the identifying label of “Christian” from their identity. Just as unbelievers who have chosen to deny God, each believer must come to a time of humble brokenness that forces us to acknowledge our trust, faith, and hope are only found through Jesus, and confess that we are a product of grace and mercy extended by Christ alone. 1 Corinthians 3:11-17 says, “For no one can lay a foundation other than that which is laid, which is Jesus Christ. Now if anyone builds on the foundation with gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, straw— each one’s work will become manifest, for the Day will disclose it, because it will be revealed by fire, and the fire will test what sort of work each one has done. If the work that anyone has built on the foundation survives, he will receive a reward. If anyone’s work is burned up, he will suffer loss, though he himself will be saved, but only as through fire. Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him. For God’s temple is holy, and you are that temple.” How often do you think of representing God, of being a living representation of His holy temple? Each of us needs to be cognizant of exactly Who God is and what He requires from us as followers of Jesus. Have you noticed that many churches in our present day don’t mention hell often, but Jesus actually preached more about hell than heaven. Many modern churches focus more on a loving God who blesses with prosperity than a God who lovingly disciplines. Romans 1:18-32 says, “For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth. For what can be known about God is plain to them, because God has shown it to them. For his invisible attributes, namely, his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived, ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made. So they are without excuse. For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Claiming to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man and birds and animals and creeping things. Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen. For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error. And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done. They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, maliciousness. They are gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless. Though they know God’s righteous decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who practice them.” Just like unbelievers, Christians reap what we sow. God will release us to follow the acts of our choosing. When we turn away from the Lord and follow worldly desires instead of heeding the commands of our long-suffering Heavenly Father, God may turn us over to live as pagans to follow the depravity in our heart. This is how generations are lost. Choosing to live the easiest lifestyle is actually more difficult in the end. Thus, we must face the question: how many children and grandchildren are negatively affected or spiritually lost due to compromises in our life that became lifestyle? How many unbelievers will never be reached because they see no difference in the life of those of us professing to be believers? Believers must find that “sweet spot” of reliance on Christ and maturing faith that fuels a desire to be mentored by Christ. One that propels us to sit at His feet in humble adoration. Love is the greatest commandment after worshipping God. It is the only way the holy, agape love from Jesus will lead us to study and understand His Words and desires, even those unspoken pleas and beliefs in the Bible. If we know the Father and we are led by the Son, we should understand and exemplify His guidelines in our life. Our beliefs, words, actions, and reactions should mirror those of Christ, not portray personal feelings or emotions. We should be able to display Jesus, yet point others to Him. When we are questioned or ridiculed about our ideology, we must direct those unbelievers to Him. What we think doesn’t matter. What Jesus says to be truth affects each of us for eternity. The world may not like the fact that believers have a different set of moral codes, but true followers of Christ should be more concerned about reading and studying the Word than listening to the opinions of the world. We must seek to fully understand the Words in red and strive to humble ourselves before Him rather than seek human approval. People may reject the teachings and commands of God, but they may come to follow Him if what we live and speak comes from His Word as we faithfully and prayerfully seek His will and ways, then respond with genuine love and concern when leading others to His Word for direction. What are some of the ways unbelievers view Christ or Christians? 1. Some look at God as a personal “magic genie” who should grant every wish. When He doesn’t, they reject Him. 2. Some think Christians are mean and judgmental. Scripture is foreign to them or they interpret the Word differently because they do not spend time studying and understanding God. 3. Some see God as a crutch and they believe only weak or simple-minded people believe in God. What are some of the reasons people choose to reject Christ? 1. They were raised in a non-Christian home. 2. They may have been raised in a “Christian” home, but never saw biblical principles lived or they were never discipled. 3. They never made the faith of their parents fully their own. 4. They had a weak faith that was rocked or shattered by experiences. 5. They do not understand the Bible because they do not make time to study the Word and grow or mature their walk with Christ, so they begin to question God. 6. They don’t want to humble themselves and submit to God. 7. They don’t want to release sin. I believe God gives each of us the opportunity to experience personal relationship with Him. Because He allows us free will, we shouldn’t expect that everyone will follow Him. It is God’s desire that all know Him, but it is He who does the work in the heart and soul of each person. We should share the Good News of Christ and not be afraid to mature our personal walk with Jesus, but we should not be ashamed or hesitant to speak boldly about our walk with Him. We should be ready to give an account of the work He has done within us. One of the hardest things for me to understand is how those of us who profess to be believers and followers of Christ can differ so greatly on topics such as pre-marital sex, homosexuality, abortion, politics, assigned sex at birth, and other topics like these. Certainly, what we have lived and experienced comes into play, but must be released to focus on what God’s Word teaches and instructs. We are merely fallible humans and only God’s Word can be trusted to lead and instruct what is truth and what are products of a broken, sinful world. Some people claim that abortion isn’t addressed in the Bible, but if you know the character and teachings of our Holy God, we understand that He values life. The Creator of Heaven and Earth intimately planned and prepared each life. Scripture is very clear as to what God believes about abortion. But while our God of love and grace detests abortion, he still loves the person who has had one. Just like any other sin we serve, God is ready to forgive and move us from a place of shame, confusion, deceit, or fear into His mercy and truth. Since we all come from different backgrounds and histories, are at different steps of growth in Christ, live in a fallen, sinful world full of hardships and tragedies, coupled with the fact that not everyone believes in Christ as Savior and attempts to live within His guidelines, it is amazing to me that anyone gets along. But what saddens me is that knowing Christ, and knowing the changes He has and continues to make in me daily as I trust in and follow Him, it makes it difficult for me to understand why some are hesitant and even sometimes passionately hateful about learning more about Jesus and also what He would believe about the state of the world today. Is it because Christians have failed them? Even when we allow for godly grace and love to move us in relationships and communication with others, our sinful nature will sometimes get it wrong – or they will misunderstand. In our pursuit of Jesus, we must always remember the grace and mercy extended to us and live within the guidelines He established for us. Trust Him for the rest and remember that although we should attempt to treat others with love and respect, we cannot please everyone, especially those living with evilness through serving this world. Believers are to live in ways pleasing to God, glorifying Him, not simply live to please everyone in the world. There are times our viewpoints and attitudes will just not be in alignment. This is what causes the divide. This is how the devil flourishes. Also, when others do not believe or follow Christ, they will simply not understand the words we share or the beliefs we carry. 1 Corinthians 2:14 says, “The natural person does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are folly to him, and he is not able to understand them because they are spiritually discerned.” Because of the relationship we carry with Jesus, we must fix our eyes and heart on Him, knowing that when our deepest desire is to please Him, we can trust that He is in charge and will be with us. We can cling to Him and allow Him to carry us through what occurs, whether it be pain and suffering or promise and success. Because believers have the promises of God through His holy Word, we live with hope that is certain, not just a belief. Hope that carries us, comforts us, and connects us to an eternal future with Him. God’s holy Word beautifully and personally instructs each of us about how to live and withstand life in this broken, sinful world. Yet, the power of His living Word also intimately encourages and equips us at the same time. Romans 15:5-6 says, “May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.” As believers, we have this hope, but also many other fruits of the Spirit, yet because we are at different stages of maturation in our personal walk with Christ and interpretation of the Bible, we will not see eye to eye on all subjects. Imagine if we each allowed the grace of Christ to control our hearts, instead of judgement. With mind, heart, and mouth we should seek to allow Jesus to control our thoughts, motives, actions, reactions, and words so that they remain glorifying to Him and edifying for others. Matthew 5:13-16 says, “You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown out and trampled under people’s feet. You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” I believe one of the strongest benefits of believing is the hope found through Christ. How do we learn of this hope? Through reading and studying His precious words. More than ever, I crave reading God’s holy Word. Similar to how we become addicted to sugar when we have it often in our diet, the Word of God draws us in the more we read it. As our relationship grows and matures, our desire for God does as well. Romans 15:4 says, “For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.” My youngest daughter was brought home to be with us when she was nine years old. If you’ve listened to this podcast for long, you may already know some of her story. Now that she has been with us for several years, and has learned to speak English, it is very interesting to hear what she has to say about her time in China. One of the most touching statements she has made is that she never had hope while there. Now that she is living life with a family that loves her very much, and she has found Jesus as her Savior, she faces each day with hope for the present and for the future. Romans 15:13 says, “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.” The biggest source of hope for her is found through family and the living hope she has discovered by living in a loving Christian home. By reading God’s Word daily, participating in family devotional time, family prayer time, scripture writing, and conversations that bring Christ into every aspect of life, she has learned that she can hope for a future that is secure through Jesus. The Bible has been integral in allowing her to seek and find Jesus herself. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.” Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” • What are some of the benefits believers can exhibit to unbelievers as we show them the difference Christ makes in our lives? We can show them the difference He makes in the following areas: Relationship, Obedience, Faith, Love, Pardon from sin, Fruits of the Spirit, Fellowship with God, Eternal Life • What are some of the benefits they can discover as they commit to following Christ? They will see God work in areas that prove His faithfulness: Love, Relationship, Forgiveness, Faith, Wisdom, Trust, Respect, Grace Ephesians 3:14-20 says, “For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named, that according to the riches of His glory He may grant you to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” As we strive to live in ways that honor the Father and show grace to others, I believe Christians have strides to make. Only through the loving direction of our gracious Heavenly Father can we properly begin to exhibit His love. As we do so, it does not mean that we compromise the standards He has set for us, but we do live with freedom to love others, even those who rebel against God. We realize that each of us has sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. We are to be discerning, not compromising or going against what God calls for us, but understanding that not all know Him. When living in ignorance, one will not understand or come to accept what they perceive as judgment from a group of people living in ways they do not comprehend. The hardship of trying to live with grace in a world of unbelievers grows more challenging each day. But don’t let it silence your voice or stop you from reaching out to let someone hear stories of God at work in your life and what He can and wants to do for them. God does not issue warnings or instructions to stifle or control any of us. He desires that we walk in step with His commands because He carries no sin and can tolerate no sin. Following His wisdom allows us to stay in step with the Holy Spirit and His beautiful purposes for our life. Through grace and mercy, we have the privilege of seeing the heart of our Father more clearly, thus leaving us with a huge responsibility and purpose to make Him clearly known. So first, we must intentionally seek Him ourselves and strive to humbly know Him fully. Dear Heavenly Father, how far from You we are. How mighty is Your great love for us. Thank you for never leaving or forsaking us. Thank you for Your Son who allows us to be reconciled to You. Father, help us to desire to know You more each day. May the person we are today never be the person we reveal tomorrow because we are in pursuit of a deepening relationship with You moment by moment. Help us to reveal You to others in the ways You ordain and desire. Help us to clearly show You because we make the time to know You. Help our nation and our world to deeply desire and find You because believers are living in the fullness of Your truths and love for others to be attracted to You. Thank you for Your great book of instruction, the Bible. We could spend a lifetime pursuing You within this book and still not be close to knowing You fully. Fill in the gaps we miss and allow our spirit to shine You. We are lost without You. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast. You can find this and other transcripts online at terrihitt.com. Remember that both of my podcasts are available on the website. You can also find them on Apple Podcast, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts are also found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. Will you take a moment to follow the shows and think of someone you can share the podcasts with and encourage them to follow and share, as well? Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 136 - How to Thrive as a Christian in a World of Unbelievers Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #136 – How to Thrive as a Christian in a World of Unbelievers Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. An event that happened one evening about 15 years ago stands out in my mind like it was yesterday. Most of the women at this event were strangers to me, but since a mutual friend had invited each of us to her place to watch an important adoption movie, I felt very comfortable going. At the end of the film, several of us shared our thoughts about what was important to us and why. As soon as my beliefs were spoken, one woman exploded with angry words that shocked and silenced me. Amazed that my belief in God and the viewpoint I had on adoption based on my relationship with Jesus had offended her so harshly, I was unable to think of any response other than to concentrate on stopping the tears threatening to spill down my cheeks. Although my logical side guessed that she was not a believer and must have had something happen in her past that turned her angry against God or Christians, I couldn’t converse logically because I was so disappointed in my friend for not intervening and keeping the space we were in safe for all viewpoints and, of course, for the hurtful words thrown at me by this stranger. As soon as possible, I left the meeting and cried all the way home as I poured my thoughts out to God, and then on the phone with a close friend. I had never faced someone so violently opposed to hearing biblically-based views. It was only later than I realized I had assumed the woman was not a Christian. In reality, believers can look so much like the world that God is never seen. It used to be that professing Christianity was respected. Tolerated. Trusted. Now the most outspoken seem to be those who despise or reject God, or those who when you mention God carry their own definition of what a Christian is. It’s only when you begin conversations that you’re able to discern that the God you worship is not the god they claim as lord of their life. Since it is common for many who profess to be Christians not to read their Bible, they aren’t familiar with the Word. Many of these believers enjoy or prefer the “gentler” approach to preaching. They don’t want to spend a Sunday morning uncomfortable in the pews. In fact, most churches don’t even have pews anymore. It’s more casual to sit on a chair you’d find at any meeting. And it’s more pleasant to hear that God is our friend, looking out for us from above. He understands when we slip up, but He knows we don’t plan to continue sinning. Surely He knows that we aren’t hurting anyone but ourselves, so it’s not a big deal. We’re told he’s an awesome, patient God, so there’s not really anything to worry about. Unbelievers or casual “Christians” do believe that God knows the Gospel offends people. They think He understands that we don’t know how to share Jesus without discomfort or embarrassment. In fact, many believe it’s easier to hear prosperity preaching or blame our issues on enneagram numbers so we don’t have to face change. Or growth. Or put effort into developing a relationship with Christ that purposely matures daily. That way we won’t stand out as separate from others and we won’t offend anyone. God knows we don’t want to scare people off or act like we’re superior by judging them. God surely understands that believers shouldn’t mention current cultural topics like abortion, pre-marital sex, politics, assigned sex at birth, or pornography. By the time believers with this mindset are finished compromising self on so many issues, they may as well remove the identifying label of “Christian” from their identity. Just as unbelievers who have chosen to deny God, each believer must come to a time of humble brokenness that forces us to acknowledge our trust, faith, and hope are only found through Jesus, and confess that we are a product of grace and mercy extended by Christ alone. 1 Corinthians 3:11-17 says, “For no one can lay a foundation other than that which is laid, which is Jesus Christ. Now if anyone builds on the foundation with gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, straw— each one’s work will become manifest, for the Day will disclose it, because it will be revealed by fire, and the fire will test what sort of work each one has done. If the work that anyone has built on the foundation survives, he will receive a reward. If anyone’s work is burned up, he will suffer loss, though he himself will be saved, but only as through fire. Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him. For God’s temple is holy, and you are that temple.” How often do you think of representing God, of being a living representation of His holy temple? Each of us needs to be cognizant of exactly Who God is and what He requires from us as followers of Jesus. Have you noticed that many churches in our present day don’t mention hell often, but Jesus actually preached more about hell than heaven. Many modern churches focus more on a loving God who blesses with prosperity than a God who lovingly disciplines. Romans 1:18-32 says, “For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth. For what can be known about God is plain to them, because God has shown it to them. For his invisible attributes, namely, his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived, ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made. So they are without excuse. For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Claiming to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man and birds and animals and creeping things. Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen. For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error. And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done. They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, maliciousness. They are gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless. Though they know God’s righteous decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who practice them.” Just like unbelievers, Christians reap what we sow. God will release us to follow the acts of our choosing. When we turn away from the Lord and follow worldly desires instead of heeding the commands of our long-suffering Heavenly Father, God may turn us over to live as pagans to follow the depravity in our heart. This is how generations are lost. Choosing to live the easiest lifestyle is actually more difficult in the end. Thus, we must face the question: how many children and grandchildren are negatively affected or spiritually lost due to compromises in our life that became lifestyle? How many unbelievers will never be reached because they see no difference in the life of those of us professing to be believers? Believers must find that “sweet spot” of reliance on Christ and maturing faith that fuels a desire to be mentored by Christ. One that propels us to sit at His feet in humble adoration. Love is the greatest commandment after worshipping God. It is the only way the holy, agape love from Jesus will lead us to study and understand His Words and desires, even those unspoken pleas and beliefs in the Bible. If we know the Father and we are led by the Son, we should understand and exemplify His guidelines in our life. Our beliefs, words, actions, and reactions should mirror those of Christ, not portray personal feelings or emotions. We should be able to display Jesus, yet point others to Him. When we are questioned or ridiculed about our ideology, we must direct those unbelievers to Him. What we think doesn’t matter. What Jesus says to be truth affects each of us for eternity. The world may not like the fact that believers have a different set of moral codes, but true followers of Christ should be more concerned about reading and studying the Word than listening to the opinions of the world. We must seek to fully understand the Words in red and strive to humble ourselves before Him rather than seek human approval. People may reject the teachings and commands of God, but they may come to follow Him if what we live and speak comes from His Word as we faithfully and prayerfully seek His will and ways, then respond with genuine love and concern when leading others to His Word for direction. What are some of the ways unbelievers view Christ or Christians? 1. Some look at God as a personal “magic genie” who should grant every wish. When He doesn’t, they reject Him. 2. Some think Christians are mean and judgmental. Scripture is foreign to them or they interpret the Word differently because they do not spend time studying and understanding God. 3. Some see God as a crutch and they believe only weak or simple-minded people believe in God. What are some of the reasons people choose to reject Christ? 1. They were raised in a non-Christian home. 2. They may have been raised in a “Christian” home, but never saw biblical principles lived or they were never discipled. 3. They never made the faith of their parents fully their own. 4. They had a weak faith that was rocked or shattered by experiences. 5. They do not understand the Bible because they do not make time to study the Word and grow or mature their walk with Christ, so they begin to question God. 6. They don’t want to humble themselves and submit to God. 7. They don’t want to release sin. I believe God gives each of us the opportunity to experience personal relationship with Him. Because He allows us free will, we shouldn’t expect that everyone will follow Him. It is God’s desire that all know Him, but it is He who does the work in the heart and soul of each person. We should share the Good News of Christ and not be afraid to mature our personal walk with Jesus, but we should not be ashamed or hesitant to speak boldly about our walk with Him. We should be ready to give an account of the work He has done within us. One of the hardest things for me to understand is how those of us who profess to be believers and followers of Christ can differ so greatly on topics such as pre-marital sex, homosexuality, abortion, politics, assigned sex at birth, and other topics like these. Certainly, what we have lived and experienced comes into play, but must be released to focus on what God’s Word teaches and instructs. We are merely fallible humans and only God’s Word can be trusted to lead and instruct what is truth and what are products of a broken, sinful world. Some people claim that abortion isn’t addressed in the Bible, but if you know the character and teachings of our Holy God, we understand that He values life. The Creator of Heaven and Earth intimately planned and prepared each life. Scripture is very clear as to what God believes about abortion. But while our God of love and grace detests abortion, he still loves the person who has had one. Just like any other sin we serve, God is ready to forgive and move us from a place of shame, confusion, deceit, or fear into His mercy and truth. Since we all come from different backgrounds and histories, are at different steps of growth in Christ, live in a fallen, sinful world full of hardships and tragedies, coupled with the fact that not everyone believes in Christ as Savior and attempts to live within His guidelines, it is amazing to me that anyone gets along. But what saddens me is that knowing Christ, and knowing the changes He has and continues to make in me daily as I trust in and follow Him, it makes it difficult for me to understand why some are hesitant and even sometimes passionately hateful about learning more about Jesus and also what He would believe about the state of the world today. Is it because Christians have failed them? Even when we allow for godly grace and love to move us in relationships and communication with others, our sinful nature will sometimes get it wrong – or they will misunderstand. In our pursuit of Jesus, we must always remember the grace and mercy extended to us and live within the guidelines He established for us. Trust Him for the rest and remember that although we should attempt to treat others with love and respect, we cannot please everyone, especially those living with evilness through serving this world. Believers are to live in ways pleasing to God, glorifying Him, not simply live to please everyone in the world. There are times our viewpoints and attitudes will just not be in alignment. This is what causes the divide. This is how the devil flourishes. Also, when others do not believe or follow Christ, they will simply not understand the words we share or the beliefs we carry. 1 Corinthians 2:14 says, “The natural person does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are folly to him, and he is not able to understand them because they are spiritually discerned.” Because of the relationship we carry with Jesus, we must fix our eyes and heart on Him, knowing that when our deepest desire is to please Him, we can trust that He is in charge and will be with us. We can cling to Him and allow Him to carry us through what occurs, whether it be pain and suffering or promise and success. Because believers have the promises of God through His holy Word, we live with hope that is certain, not just a belief. Hope that carries us, comforts us, and connects us to an eternal future with Him. God’s holy Word beautifully and personally instructs each of us about how to live and withstand life in this broken, sinful world. Yet, the power of His living Word also intimately encourages and equips us at the same time. Romans 15:5-6 says, “May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.” As believers, we have this hope, but also many other fruits of the Spirit, yet because we are at different stages of maturation in our personal walk with Christ and interpretation of the Bible, we will not see eye to eye on all subjects. Imagine if we each allowed the grace of Christ to control our hearts, instead of judgement. With mind, heart, and mouth we should seek to allow Jesus to control our thoughts, motives, actions, reactions, and words so that they remain glorifying to Him and edifying for others. Matthew 5:13-16 says, “You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown out and trampled under people’s feet. You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” I believe one of the strongest benefits of believing is the hope found through Christ. How do we learn of this hope? Through reading and studying His precious words. More than ever, I crave reading God’s holy Word. Similar to how we become addicted to sugar when we have it often in our diet, the Word of God draws us in the more we read it. As our relationship grows and matures, our desire for God does as well. Romans 15:4 says, “For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.” My youngest daughter was brought home to be with us when she was nine years old. If you’ve listened to this podcast for long, you may already know some of her story. Now that she has been with us for several years, and has learned to speak English, it is very interesting to hear what she has to say about her time in China. One of the most touching statements she has made is that she never had hope while there. Now that she is living life with a family that loves her very much, and she has found Jesus as her Savior, she faces each day with hope for the present and for the future. Romans 15:13 says, “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.” The biggest source of hope for her is found through family and the living hope she has discovered by living in a loving Christian home. By reading God’s Word daily, participating in family devotional time, family prayer time, scripture writing, and conversations that bring Christ into every aspect of life, she has learned that she can hope for a future that is secure through Jesus. The Bible has been integral in allowing her to seek and find Jesus herself. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.” Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” • What are some of the benefits believers can exhibit to unbelievers as we show them the difference Christ makes in our lives? We can show them the difference He makes in the following areas: Relationship, Obedience, Faith, Love, Pardon from sin, Fruits of the Spirit, Fellowship with God, Eternal Life • What are some of the benefits they can discover as they commit to following Christ? They will see God work in areas that prove His faithfulness: Love, Relationship, Forgiveness, Faith, Wisdom, Trust, Respect, Grace Ephesians 3:14-20 says, “For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named, that according to the riches of His glory He may grant you to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” As we strive to live in ways that honor the Father and show grace to others, I believe Christians have strides to make. Only through the loving direction of our gracious Heavenly Father can we properly begin to exhibit His love. As we do so, it does not mean that we compromise the standards He has set for us, but we do live with freedom to love others, even those who rebel against God. We realize that each of us has sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. We are to be discerning, not compromising or going against what God calls for us, but understanding that not all know Him. When living in ignorance, one will not understand or come to accept what they perceive as judgment from a group of people living in ways they do not comprehend. The hardship of trying to live with grace in a world of unbelievers grows more challenging each day. But don’t let it silence your voice or stop you from reaching out to let someone hear stories of God at work in your life and what He can and wants to do for them. God does not issue warnings or instructions to stifle or control any of us. He desires that we walk in step with His commands because He carries no sin and can tolerate no sin. Following His wisdom allows us to stay in step with the Holy Spirit and His beautiful purposes for our life. Through grace and mercy, we have the privilege of seeing the heart of our Father more clearly, thus leaving us with a huge responsibility and purpose to make Him clearly known. So first, we must intentionally seek Him ourselves and strive to humbly know Him fully. Dear Heavenly Father, how far from You we are. How mighty is Your great love for us. Thank you for never leaving or forsaking us. Thank you for Your Son who allows us to be reconciled to You. Father, help us to desire to know You more each day. May the person we are today never be the person we reveal tomorrow because we are in pursuit of a deepening relationship with You moment by moment. Help us to reveal You to others in the ways You ordain and desire. Help us to clearly show You because we make the time to know You. Help our nation and our world to deeply desire and find You because believers are living in the fullness of Your truths and love for others to be attracted to You. Thank you for Your great book of instruction, the Bible. We could spend a lifetime pursuing You within this book and still not be close to knowing You fully. Fill in the gaps we miss and allow our spirit to shine You. We are lost without You. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast. You can find this and other transcripts online at terrihitt.com. Remember that both of my podcasts are available on the website. You can also find them on Apple Podcast, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts are also found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. Will you take a moment to follow the shows and think of someone you can share the podcasts with and encourage them to follow and share, as well? Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #117 – The Bible - Life, Hope, and Truth Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. According to the Guinness Book of World Records, the Bible remains the best-selling book of all time and is also the most translated book in human history. What wonderful news! Yet, I know that I sometimes purchase books I don’t always read, and I don’t always finish the books I do begin reading. As I looked at the online information available for sales and statistics of the Bible, I read other interesting facts about what sells best around the world. Reading the titles and subject matter saddens me. As someone who has read the Bible through more than once, I know and trust the power the Bible has to change lives. When we literally hold an item so transformative and filled with such piercing truth and love, yet ignore the contents, it is like going to the doctor, receiving the life-saving medicine we need, then going home and pouring it down the drain. I’ve been there. When I first became a Christian I wanted to know all I could about Jesus. The sweetness of new love filled me! My mind couldn’t comprehend the information as quickly as I was researching and reading it. When I began to experience difficulties with people at church, my passion for Jesus faded. I didn’t intend for my growth in Christ to be affected by trials at church. In fact, I wasn’t looking for trouble or separation at all. I loved going to church! I jumped “all in.” Joining various ministries and learning how to share the love of Christ was a joy. My health was tricky at that time as I was experiencing a lot of bleeding and pain. I needed a hysterectomy at the age of 21 and it was very difficult to continue caring for my two young children and also minister to children at church. When I stopped volunteering in the church and received nasty remarks and indifferent behavior because I couldn’t do everything they needed, I became disenchanted with church in general. In time, we stopped attending. As I quit going to church, recovered, and began working full time outside of the home, I also stopped reading my Bible daily. Just as a frog can be boiled without ever feeling the heat rise, our life changes without noticing the difference when we stop drawing nearer to God. Of course, we don’t see or feel the separation from Christ immediately. The best thing I’ve ever done in my life is accept Jesus as my personal Savior and submitting to Him, allowing Christ to transform and direct me as He desires. Thankfully, He is always waiting for us to draw nearer to Him. As I began reading His word again daily, I experienced anew the blessings of a life dedicated to drawing nearer to Him. Those who don’t know Jesus would say it sounds like he is a domineering puppeteer. Until you actually read the Bible and come to know Jesus in an intimate way, you will not understand and you will not experience abundant life. If you haven’t read the Bible before, or if you aren’t in the habit of reading it daily, you might wonder what is so special about this book. Let’s hear some facts about the Bible. The Bible truly is “history” – His story. Sixty-six books and letters compose the Bible. The original text was communicated through three different languages – Hebrew, Greek, and Aramaic. The Old Testament was written mostly in Hebrew, with a small percentage of Aramaic. The New Testament was written in Greek. Since I enjoy learning about root words, I find it interesting that “Bible” is an English word which was derived from “biblia” in Latin and “biblios” (biblos) in Greek. The word, Bible means book, or books, and it is believed that Bible may have come from modern-day Lebanon (which was the ancient day port of Byblos (Biblos), one of the oldest continuously inhabited cities in the world and also part of the history of numerous ancient civilizations, such as the Romans, Egyptians, Assyrians, Persians, and the Phoenicians). This area was one where papyrus was used for making books and scrolls. Other terms used for Bible are Holy Scriptures or sacred writings. I believe one of the absolute best facts about the Bible is that the writings are God-breathed and inspired. Once you have experienced the life-transforming power of the Holy Bible in your life, you know God is mightier than we humanly understand. 2 Peter 1:20-21 says, “Above all, you must understand that no prophecy of Scripture comes from one’s own interpretation. For no such prophecy was ever brought forth by the will of man, but men spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit.” Through the Old Testament, God foretells of the Savior; the New Testament presents Jesus to us in fleshly form. The Bible points to way to Jesus, the central figure in history, and the Cornerstone by whom all things were created and are sustained. All the fullness of God is within Jesus, who is not a mere man or teacher, prophet or peace-maker. He was, is, and will always be fully God. Colossians 1:15-22 says, “The Son is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn over all creation. For in Him all things were created, things in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities. All things were created through Him and for Him. He is before all things, and in Him all things hold together. And He is the head of the body, the church; He is the beginning and firstborn from among the dead, so that in all things He may have preeminence. For God was pleased to have all His fullness dwell in Him, and through Him to reconcile to Himself all things, whether things on earth or things in heaven, by making peace through the blood of His cross. Once you were alienated from God and were hostile in your minds, engaging in evil deeds. But now He has reconciled you by Christ’s physical body through death to present you holy, unblemished, and blameless in His presence.” Through this wondrous, divinely inspired word from our holy and sovereign God, we uncover an intimate and personal collection of prophecies, laws, sacrifice, and truths that unfold to reveal God’s plans and purpose for each of us and reveal His sacrificial love and provision. To know and understand God’s word and truths, to know Him, we must read the Bible. If you believe God’s holy word and allow scripture to transform and change you, it will alter your present and future, as well as the lives around you as you allow God to work within and through you. God’s holy words are not just an inspirational collection of stories, but are inerrant truth inspired by our holy, omnipotent God. Because of the Bible, we know His truth and doctrines. In our present age, moral relativity has pierced the hearts and minds of many. Our feelings, thoughts, and emotions have replaced seeking and standing on the authentic, complete, life-changing word of God. Of course, our thoughts, opinions, and emotions matter. God gave them to us, He crafted us in unique and emotional ways. What we live through, are exposed to, and have learned shape us in various ways. We are human and God gives us free will, but His word, God’s righteous, inerrant truths must be what form and instruct us, enabling us to know and to allow the Holy Spirit within us to work, enabling us to grow into an clearer image of God day by day. A true moral compass, God’s word is immune to bias or blunder and will steady us through smooth sailing or storms of life. God’s word is a rock that does not sink in sand or swamp, no matter the weight of our earthly burdens. Remember, how we view God will form our thoughts and actions. If we are angry or bitter, distant, or keep God as a virtual stranger, we will not cling to Him, or allow the fullness of God to penetrate the corners and crevices of our heart. There are questions each of us must ponder and answer honestly in order to seek and find deeper relationship with God through Jesus and His holy word. 1. Do you consistently read God’s word daily? 2. Do you pray for discernment and guidance specifically about God’s word? 3. Do you seek and use ways to remember God’s words and truths? 4. Do you study God’s word for deeper understanding and application? Jeremiah 29:13 says, “You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.” God is truth. He cannot lie. Deceit goes against His very nature. God will prove Himself faithful in every circumstance, however, He does not follow our ways or timelines. We can trust His word. Let’s examine what Holy Scripture is: 1. Inspired - 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for instruction, for conviction, for correction, and for training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be complete, fully equipped for every good work.” From the mind, heart, and will of God, scripture gifts each of us personally with truth from the Creator of all things. 2. Inerrant - John 17:17 says, “Sanctify them by the truth; Your word is truth.” Completely free from error, trustworthy and true, God’s word awaits each of us ready to seek eternal truths and everlasting-life with our Creator. 3. Complete - Proverbs 30:5-6 says, “Every word of God is flawless; He is a shield to those who take refuge in Him. Do not add to His words, lest He rebuke you and prove you a liar.” God, the Great I Am, has ensured that each word in the Bible is accurate and a complete representation of the message He desired to bring for us. 4. Authoritative - Matthew 5:17-18 says, “Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets. I have not come to abolish them, but to fulfill them. For I tell you truly, until heaven and earth pass away, not a single jot, not a stroke of a pen, will disappear from the Law until everything is accomplished.” And Matthew 4:4 says, “But Jesus answered, “It is written: Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.” 5. Alive - Isaiah 55:11 says, “So My word that proceeds from My mouth will not return to Me empty, but it will accomplish what I please, and it will prosper where I send it.” And Jeremiah 23:29 says, “Is not My word like fire,” declares the Lord, “and like a hammer that smashes a rock?” 6. Discerning - Hebrew 4:12 says, “For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it pierces even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow. It judges the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” 7. Divulging - Hebrews 4:13 says, “Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight; everything is uncovered and exposed before the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.” 8. Truthful - Psalm 119:151 says, “You are near, O Lord, and all Your commandments are true.” John 8:30-32 says, “As Jesus spoke these things, many believed in Him. So He said to the Jews who had believed Him, “If you continue in My word, you are truly My disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” Psalm 119:104-105 says, “I gain understanding from Your precepts; therefore I hate every false way. Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” 9. Eternal - Matthew 24:35 says, “Heaven and earth will pass away, but My words will never pass away.” And Isaiah 40:8 says, “The grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of our God stands forever.” 10. The Answer - John 14:6 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” And John 1:1-5 says, “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through Him all things were made, and without Him nothing was made that has been made. In Him was life, and that life was the light of men. The Light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” And John 5:39 says, “You pore over the Scriptures because you presume that by them you possess eternal life. These are the very words that testify about Me, yet you refuse to come to Me to have life.” Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. No one can reach the Father, except through Him. The way to know Jesus is through the Bible, God’s perfect, infallible, life-changing gift to us. Have you ever wished for a manual to guide you through life, relationships, marriage, parenting, death, and eternal life? We have one. I am convinced that every problem we have on this earth stems from the condition of our hearts. Our heart can only be changed in ways that bring collective good when we read, study, learn, and practice God’s will and ways. Dear Heavenly Father, how great You are! Thank you for Your everlasting goodness and love. You are always present, even when we fail to realize or admit it. You are faithful and loving. This we know, for Your Holy Word tells us. Thank you for the Bible, Your gift to us. You show us the Way, the Truth, and the Life through words we can grasp and study, hold onto for hope and strength, and share with others to lead them to life everlasting with You. Thank you for the hope and light You offer willingly to us, despite our neglect and rejection. Help each of us to seek You more this day, to begin a new or closer walk with You, and allow You to transform us and complete the good works You have determined for us as You lovingly prepared for and formed us long ago. Our Sovereign Lord, You are our strong deliverer, You shield our head through the battles we face, and Your Holy Word provides us with the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, providing all the protection we need if we turn to You and study Your scriptural gifts. May we please You with our thoughts, words, and actions, and become the person You desire. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. You may find them on the terrihitt.com website. Click on podcasts and type in the topic or title you wish to hear in the search bar at the top of the page. Have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen, follow it, and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 117 The Bible - Life, Hope, and Truth Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #117 – The Bible - Life, Hope, and Truth Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. According to the Guinness Book of World Records, the Bible remains the best-selling book of all time and is also the most translated book in human history. What wonderful news! Yet, I know that I sometimes purchase books I don’t always read, and I don’t always finish the books I do begin reading. As I looked at the online information available for sales and statistics of the Bible, I read other interesting facts about what sells best around the world. Reading the titles and subject matter saddens me. As someone who has read the Bible through more than once, I know and trust the power the Bible has to change lives. When we literally hold an item so transformative and filled with such piercing truth and love, yet ignore the contents, it is like going to the doctor, receiving the life-saving medicine we need, then going home and pouring it down the drain. I’ve been there. When I first became a Christian I wanted to know all I could about Jesus. The sweetness of new love filled me! My mind couldn’t comprehend the information as quickly as I was researching and reading it. When I began to experience difficulties with people at church, my passion for Jesus faded. I didn’t intend for my growth in Christ to be affected by trials at church. In fact, I wasn’t looking for trouble or separation at all. I loved going to church! I jumped “all in.” Joining various ministries and learning how to share the love of Christ was a joy. My health was tricky at that time as I was experiencing a lot of bleeding and pain. I needed a hysterectomy at the age of 21 and it was very difficult to continue caring for my two young children and also minister to children at church. When I stopped volunteering in the church and received nasty remarks and indifferent behavior because I couldn’t do everything they needed, I became disenchanted with church in general. In time, we stopped attending. As I quit going to church, recovered, and began working full time outside of the home, I also stopped reading my Bible daily. Just as a frog can be boiled without ever feeling the heat rise, our life changes without noticing the difference when we stop drawing nearer to God. Of course, we don’t see or feel the separation from Christ immediately. The best thing I’ve ever done in my life is accept Jesus as my personal Savior and submitting to Him, allowing Christ to transform and direct me as He desires. Thankfully, He is always waiting for us to draw nearer to Him. As I began reading His word again daily, I experienced anew the blessings of a life dedicated to drawing nearer to Him. Those who don’t know Jesus would say it sounds like he is a domineering puppeteer. Until you actually read the Bible and come to know Jesus in an intimate way, you will not understand and you will not experience abundant life. If you haven’t read the Bible before, or if you aren’t in the habit of reading it daily, you might wonder what is so special about this book. Let’s hear some facts about the Bible. The Bible truly is “history” – His story. Sixty-six books and letters compose the Bible. The original text was communicated through three different languages – Hebrew, Greek, and Aramaic. The Old Testament was written mostly in Hebrew, with a small percentage of Aramaic. The New Testament was written in Greek. Since I enjoy learning about root words, I find it interesting that “Bible” is an English word which was derived from “biblia” in Latin and “biblios” (biblos) in Greek. The word, Bible means book, or books, and it is believed that Bible may have come from modern-day Lebanon (which was the ancient day port of Byblos (Biblos), one of the oldest continuously inhabited cities in the world and also part of the history of numerous ancient civilizations, such as the Romans, Egyptians, Assyrians, Persians, and the Phoenicians). This area was one where papyrus was used for making books and scrolls. Other terms used for Bible are Holy Scriptures or sacred writings. I believe one of the absolute best facts about the Bible is that the writings are God-breathed and inspired. Once you have experienced the life-transforming power of the Holy Bible in your life, you know God is mightier than we humanly understand. 2 Peter 1:20-21 says, “Above all, you must understand that no prophecy of Scripture comes from one’s own interpretation. For no such prophecy was ever brought forth by the will of man, but men spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit.” Through the Old Testament, God foretells of the Savior; the New Testament presents Jesus to us in fleshly form. The Bible points to way to Jesus, the central figure in history, and the Cornerstone by whom all things were created and are sustained. All the fullness of God is within Jesus, who is not a mere man or teacher, prophet or peace-maker. He was, is, and will always be fully God. Colossians 1:15-22 says, “The Son is the image of the invisible God, the firstborn over all creation. For in Him all things were created, things in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities. All things were created through Him and for Him. He is before all things, and in Him all things hold together. And He is the head of the body, the church; He is the beginning and firstborn from among the dead, so that in all things He may have preeminence. For God was pleased to have all His fullness dwell in Him, and through Him to reconcile to Himself all things, whether things on earth or things in heaven, by making peace through the blood of His cross. Once you were alienated from God and were hostile in your minds, engaging in evil deeds. But now He has reconciled you by Christ’s physical body through death to present you holy, unblemished, and blameless in His presence.” Through this wondrous, divinely inspired word from our holy and sovereign God, we uncover an intimate and personal collection of prophecies, laws, sacrifice, and truths that unfold to reveal God’s plans and purpose for each of us and reveal His sacrificial love and provision. To know and understand God’s word and truths, to know Him, we must read the Bible. If you believe God’s holy word and allow scripture to transform and change you, it will alter your present and future, as well as the lives around you as you allow God to work within and through you. God’s holy words are not just an inspirational collection of stories, but are inerrant truth inspired by our holy, omnipotent God. Because of the Bible, we know His truth and doctrines. In our present age, moral relativity has pierced the hearts and minds of many. Our feelings, thoughts, and emotions have replaced seeking and standing on the authentic, complete, life-changing word of God. Of course, our thoughts, opinions, and emotions matter. God gave them to us, He crafted us in unique and emotional ways. What we live through, are exposed to, and have learned shape us in various ways. We are human and God gives us free will, but His word, God’s righteous, inerrant truths must be what form and instruct us, enabling us to know and to allow the Holy Spirit within us to work, enabling us to grow into an clearer image of God day by day. A true moral compass, God’s word is immune to bias or blunder and will steady us through smooth sailing or storms of life. God’s word is a rock that does not sink in sand or swamp, no matter the weight of our earthly burdens. Remember, how we view God will form our thoughts and actions. If we are angry or bitter, distant, or keep God as a virtual stranger, we will not cling to Him, or allow the fullness of God to penetrate the corners and crevices of our heart. There are questions each of us must ponder and answer honestly in order to seek and find deeper relationship with God through Jesus and His holy word. 1. Do you consistently read God’s word daily? 2. Do you pray for discernment and guidance specifically about God’s word? 3. Do you seek and use ways to remember God’s words and truths? 4. Do you study God’s word for deeper understanding and application? Jeremiah 29:13 says, “You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.” God is truth. He cannot lie. Deceit goes against His very nature. God will prove Himself faithful in every circumstance, however, He does not follow our ways or timelines. We can trust His word. Let’s examine what Holy Scripture is: 1. Inspired - 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for instruction, for conviction, for correction, and for training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be complete, fully equipped for every good work.” From the mind, heart, and will of God, scripture gifts each of us personally with truth from the Creator of all things. 2. Inerrant - John 17:17 says, “Sanctify them by the truth; Your word is truth.” Completely free from error, trustworthy and true, God’s word awaits each of us ready to seek eternal truths and everlasting-life with our Creator. 3. Complete - Proverbs 30:5-6 says, “Every word of God is flawless; He is a shield to those who take refuge in Him. Do not add to His words, lest He rebuke you and prove you a liar.” God, the Great I Am, has ensured that each word in the Bible is accurate and a complete representation of the message He desired to bring for us. 4. Authoritative - Matthew 5:17-18 says, “Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets. I have not come to abolish them, but to fulfill them. For I tell you truly, until heaven and earth pass away, not a single jot, not a stroke of a pen, will disappear from the Law until everything is accomplished.” And Matthew 4:4 says, “But Jesus answered, “It is written: Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.” 5. Alive - Isaiah 55:11 says, “So My word that proceeds from My mouth will not return to Me empty, but it will accomplish what I please, and it will prosper where I send it.” And Jeremiah 23:29 says, “Is not My word like fire,” declares the Lord, “and like a hammer that smashes a rock?” 6. Discerning - Hebrew 4:12 says, “For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it pierces even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow. It judges the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” 7. Divulging - Hebrews 4:13 says, “Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight; everything is uncovered and exposed before the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.” 8. Truthful - Psalm 119:151 says, “You are near, O Lord, and all Your commandments are true.” John 8:30-32 says, “As Jesus spoke these things, many believed in Him. So He said to the Jews who had believed Him, “If you continue in My word, you are truly My disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” Psalm 119:104-105 says, “I gain understanding from Your precepts; therefore I hate every false way. Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” 9. Eternal - Matthew 24:35 says, “Heaven and earth will pass away, but My words will never pass away.” And Isaiah 40:8 says, “The grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of our God stands forever.” 10. The Answer - John 14:6 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” And John 1:1-5 says, “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through Him all things were made, and without Him nothing was made that has been made. In Him was life, and that life was the light of men. The Light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” And John 5:39 says, “You pore over the Scriptures because you presume that by them you possess eternal life. These are the very words that testify about Me, yet you refuse to come to Me to have life.” Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. No one can reach the Father, except through Him. The way to know Jesus is through the Bible, God’s perfect, infallible, life-changing gift to us. Have you ever wished for a manual to guide you through life, relationships, marriage, parenting, death, and eternal life? We have one. I am convinced that every problem we have on this earth stems from the condition of our hearts. Our heart can only be changed in ways that bring collective good when we read, study, learn, and practice God’s will and ways. Dear Heavenly Father, how great You are! Thank you for Your everlasting goodness and love. You are always present, even when we fail to realize or admit it. You are faithful and loving. This we know, for Your Holy Word tells us. Thank you for the Bible, Your gift to us. You show us the Way, the Truth, and the Life through words we can grasp and study, hold onto for hope and strength, and share with others to lead them to life everlasting with You. Thank you for the hope and light You offer willingly to us, despite our neglect and rejection. Help each of us to seek You more this day, to begin a new or closer walk with You, and allow You to transform us and complete the good works You have determined for us as You lovingly prepared for and formed us long ago. Our Sovereign Lord, You are our strong deliverer, You shield our head through the battles we face, and Your Holy Word provides us with the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, providing all the protection we need if we turn to You and study Your scriptural gifts. May we please You with our thoughts, words, and actions, and become the person You desire. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. You may find them on the terrihitt.com website. Click on podcasts and type in the topic or title you wish to hear in the search bar at the top of the page. Have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen, follow it, and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Episode 008 - Building Character Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #008 – Building Character Are you yearning for greater connection with your child? Would you like to parent beyond the moment with eternal perspective? Let’s grow together now with practical tips, scripture, and stories geared to draw your heart to Jesus and guide your child into His arms. Whether you are a parent of young children, have children who are about to leave for college, or have grown adults raising their own children, it’s always a humbling blessing to see them reflect the Lord in their words and actions. Being a parent is such a layered gift. We can easily tend to parent in our own strength, look for ways our children are like us, and in fact, call them our “mini me.” Most of us have been there at some time; viewing our children as tiny extensions of ourselves, finding ways they are like us, and basking in their accomplishments that reflect well on us. What I’ve learned by maturing my walk with Jesus is that each child in this world was miraculously and individually formed with intimate and personal care. For God so loved the world that He brought my child into it with a purpose in mind. He brought your children to this world for special purposes only they can fulfill as they allow Christ to work through them. 1 Chronicles 16:8-11 says, “Give praise to the Lord, proclaim His name; make known among the nations what He has done. Sing to Him, sing praise to Him; tell of all His wonderful acts. Glory in His holy name; let the hearts of those who seek the Lord rejoice. Look to the Lord and His strength; seek His face always .” With hindsight gained from raising one set of children and now well into my years of mentoring my second set in Christ, I know the importance of intentionality . Living with eternal perspective applies to everything we do and how we view life. Like decay that spreads unless addressed, if we are not purposeful in our walk with Jesus, our children will most likely follow the world and the desires taught by those who do not know Jesus. Our walk with Christ and the truths we teach because of the Holy Spirit alive within us is the shield that will offer protection from this world and make Jesus known to them. A mature relationship that builds Christlike character cannot be formed without a deep desire for Jesus to be reflected daily for our children. It’s easy to raise them in ways that produce the morality taught in this world, but we must desire and do more for the children God has entrusted to us. When we imagine the character we want them to hold, let’s not confuse the holiness Christ seeks with morality . Worldly morality prompts our child to conform to rules or standards for conduct, but who sets the boundaries? Many preach living your own truth and doing what feels right. God’s word teaches His truths, which are the only holy, living, active truths that serve all and honor our Lord. Holiness is a transformation only realized through relationship with Christ . When we are lovingly following the Lord and what He calls good or holy, Christlike character is formed in us and then, our children as they witness the Holy Spirit at work within to transform us. As they follow Jesus, developing their own faith, they recognize the Holy Spirit inside, beckoning their spirit to humbly please and honor Christ, and character training begins. When our children look to Jesus instead of the morals advertised by friends, influencers, celebrities, or culture, they will respect the instruction shown and given by us. Holy character is forming. 1 Chronicles 22:19a says, “Now set your heart and your soul to seek the Lord your God.” As we live in a world increasingly hostile to the gospel of Christ, we must remember the basics of a strong foundational relationship with Jesus and our children. As we draw nearer to God, our character matures and transforms to one that attracts our children and causes them to draw nearer to us and their Heavenly Father. We know the basics, done with a loving and consistent spirit makes a dramatic difference in the spiritual life of our children. Reading our Bible , making time for quiet study and reflection of God’s word and spending time in prayer with Him, speaking and listening for His guidance, wisdom, knowledge, and understanding builds a strong connection that withstands the trials life will bring. When we extend that same purpose with our children, reading and studying the Bible together, praying together and looking for the ways God is working and teaching, a solid groundwork is laid on which to mentor and help them to build a mature relationship with their Heavenly Father. I’d like to offer a suggestion: when you finish this podcast episode, I recommend listening to Live With Eternal Perspective podcast episode 046, “Maturing Character Like Christ” to hear practical and encouraging tips for living under pressure with heart and mind fixed on Jesus. When we allow our gaze to rely on Him despite difficulties, the Lord moves us to character mirroring His , and through character, to a hope that endures and reflects His grace, hope, and love. Our children see and absorb exactly how we process and react to life. We want to do all we can to ensure we live the way Jesus calls and continue growing in Him moment by moment so that our children will, too. You can find “Maturing Character Like Christ” on the terrihitt.com website. Simply click on the podcasts page and type the information in the search bar. It’s so simple to listen on your phone or iPad as you work, exercise, or travel. Beyond the basics of our walk with Jesus, what else can we do to guide our children to Him? How do we enable them to desire and grow Christlike character that pleases God and deepens their walk with Jesus? The Holy Spirit is the enabler of character like Christ. When our children or grandchildren are taught to know and love Jesus, to view the world as Christ does, their drive for ungodly behavior or worldly pleasures that do not please God diminishes. They must love and honor Jesus. The same applies to us. So how do we ensure that we raise our children or influence grandchildren with the ability to view the world as Christ does? How do we instill godly character that gives God joy? By teaching them God’s holy word and applying His truths to life. We make Him real to them. We show them the difference Christ makes in a life submitted to Him. Each of us pass through this world quickly. We are here for such a short while. Isaiah 40:7 says it best. “The grass withers and the flowers fade beneath the breath of the Lord. And so it is with people.” Our life can be proof that we can live in this world, yet not be a part of it. We can live set-apart with thoughts and character . We can examine and process where we are in our life at this very moment and where we want to be. Is it where He would have you go? Ponder ways to submit to God and allow Him to take you where He desires and has purposed. What differences would it make in the life of your child or grandchild to witness you asking for and submitting to the changes God makes in you ? The world tells us that integrity is adherence to moral and ethical principles. But whose principles? As believers in Christ, we know that His standards are the only ones we should esteem. The world tells us that we must hold good character, evident through characteristics such as persistence, self-control, honesty, optimism, intelligence, gratitude, integrity, and leadership. But who is the judge of the level of our character? Why do they choose these specific qualities? I believe there are 3 higher objectives we must keep at the forefront of our mind as we raise our children to view this world as Jesus does and live as He would call. 1. Heart for Christ – Prepare the soil of our child’s heart to make them ready for the gospel seeds to sprout and flourish. 2. Submission to Christ – Exhibit personal submission to Jesus in ways that draw our child nearer to Him. 3. Separation from World – Live a life that is set-apart and more attractive than what this world advertises as desirable. How are we able to do these steps? The answer is the same for each objective: mentor the behavior of Christ . 1. We consistently apply the foundational Bible and prayer basics we discussed earlier in this episode. 2. We allow the Holy Spirit to work within us and transform us to react like Christ. 3. Listen to your child, empathize, but don’t turn away from discipline when needed. 4. Discipline as correction, not punishment. God holds us accountable, but He does not shame us. 5. Don’t reflect or condone the behavior of this world, instead allow the Holy Spirit to continue renewing you moment by moment. As you live consistently with behavior that reflects the teachings of Jesus, you are showing character that will be noticed. 6. Be consistent in godly thoughts, actions, and reactions. 7. Take life moments as they come and use as teachable times. Don’t ignore the hard moments that often appear when families are in a rush or during very active times. Think of these as opportunities (that have been expressed through the trials of life) and use them to bring ungodly behavior up for discussion (yours included). Address consequences or ways to change. The way we exhibit Christ when we use parental authority over our children can be a magnet that attracts or repels them to our Savior. Remember, the nearer we draw to Jesus, the more we allow the Holy Spirit authority to reconstruct our heart and mind. As our children see the change within us reflected in daily actions and words, they witness, learn, and recognize the power of Christ and their character will change. Ezekiel 36:26 says, “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh .” Allow Christ to multiply in and through us while we are in the midst of trials and tragedy. Teach your children to do the same. 1 Peter 1:3-7 says, “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! By His great mercy He has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, and into an inheritance that is imperishable, undefiled, and unfading, reserved in heaven for you, who through faith are shielded by God’s power for the salvation that is ready to be revealed in the last time. In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in various trials so that the proven character of your faith—more precious than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may result in praise, glory, and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ.” Christ sustains and grows us during trials and persecution. Nothing lasts forever, the cruelty or trials will end, but the fruits of Christ’s transformation within us brings us to an eternity with Jesus. Romans 5:1-5 says, “Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we stand. And we rejoice in the hope of the glory of God. Not only that, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out His love into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, whom He has given us .” Seek and exhibit character that shines Christ. 2 Peter 1:5-8 says, “For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith virtue; and to virtue, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness;and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love. For if you possess these qualities and continue to grow in them, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ .” As the Holy Spirit works within us, as it works within our children, godly character forms new traits that are impossible for humans to possess apart from Christ, such as: fruits of the spirit, discernment, wisdom, knowledge, understanding, patience, self-denial, mercy, humility, pureness of heart, honesty, loyalty, and godly integrity. Galatians 5:22-24 says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us walk in step with the Spirit.” As godly parents, we must search the heart and mind of our child and reflect on the following questions: 1. Who am I when no one is watching? 2. Who is my child when no one is watching? 3. What do I do when the right action will hurt me, but benefit another person? 4. What does my child do when the right action will hurt him, but benefit another person? 5. Are my actions consistent when I am watched by someone and when I am not? 6. Are my child’s actions consistent when he is watched by someone and when he is not? Abe Lincoln said, “Character is like a tree and reputation like its shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing . As followers of Christ, we know Jesus is the real thing. We must stand in His shadow, praying for His light to pass over and remove the darkness from us. We must also pursue a genuine and strong walk with Him. As life mentors for our children and grandchildren, we must think of our leadership in terms that are simple enough to remember and follow daily: 1. If we are a godly, trustworthy, consistent leader, our children will see Christ in us and trust Him. 2. Good mentors follow excellent leaders. Keep your eyes and heart on Jesus so your child will, too. 3. Shift praise and accolades to Jesus and remember where your strength and wisdom is established so your child will do the same. 4. Counsel others to look to and lean on Jesus. It’s easier to speak in general as you share about God, but it is imperative to narrow down to Christ . Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life. Your child needs to see your faith in action. 1 Chronicles 28:9 says, “And you, My son Solomon, acknowledge the God of your father, and serve Him with wholehearted devotion and with a willing mind, for the Lord searches every heart and understands every desire and every thought. If you seek Him, He will be found by you; but if you forsake Him, He will reject you forever .” I’m sometimes asked what I believe makes the biggest difference in a child’s life. I would say introducing our children to Jesus by the way we live our relationship with Him and joyfully studying the Bible together is key. Shoot for daily. Hebrews 4:12 reminds us, “For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.” Nothing will reach our children for Jesus and build godly character better than God’s holy word and seeing their parent and or grandparents lovingly and joyfully live by it . Dear Heavenly Father, You are the biggest blessing to us. Thank you for the Holy Spirit within believers. Thank you for the access we have to You every moment. You are so, so good. Father, You have entrusted such precious gifts to our care. You search us, know us intimately, and still place them with us. How we need You! Draw us ever nearer to You daily. Enable us to seek You in clearer ways, in more godly ways. Help us to recognize our needs and release ourselves to You fully. May we please You greatly with the way we raise and influence our children and grandchildren for You. We are not worthy. But You are. We want our children to love You with joyful and godly hearts. Give them character that pleases and shines You. May they walk ever more closely with You than we have. May each generation draw nearer to You than the last. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you pray for your child, please look for my free ebook, “Prayers for My Child,” available on the website under the “Resources” page and is designed to guide the heart of your child to the feet of Jesus through scripturally-based prayer. The Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast is now available at terrihitt.com, where you can access the episodes housed in one convenient location, receive access to blog posts, read transcripts, and find additional resources designed to mature your walk with Christ and equip you to raise or influence connected children through Him. God knows that we are not capable of successful parenting on our own. As we rely on Him, releasing doubts and expectations, and humbly bow to His guidance and experience, we find greater clarity in parenting and a wondrous walk with our Creator that will extend to our children and those around us for generations . I pray this podcast helps you parent with purpose and deepen your connection to Jesus and your children as you intentionally place Christ above culture or self. Allow Him to work through you for true connection that will draw your children to Him and build a maturing relationship with Christ and your child that lasts for eternity. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 127 - How to Be a Godly Mom Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 127 – How to Be a Godly Mom Goodness! I can’t believe school is about to end and my favorite time of year has arrived! The first blooms of spring have already fallen, making way for additional foliage to emerge. Summer is right around the corner, pushing out the comfortable cooler weather and bringing in blasts of air that feel like a furnace. No matter how hot it gets, I much prefer summer over winter and I’m sure I always will. Since nothing lasts forever, seasons are a beautiful reminder of why we need to live with eternal perspective. Have you had days, weeks, or years of life that you want to last forever? Or maybe right now you feel the opposite. Do you wonder how much longer you have to endure the season you are experiencing? Change can be good. Especially when we aren’t aware that we’re not living in ways God desires for us. Change can become the catalyst that moves us to be in sync with the next transformation God has for us. I distinctly remember a time I wasn’t living in ways that God desires. There was a period in my life before I knew Christ when I wanted to make sure I was a good person. A good woman. A good wife. A good daughter. A good mother. As I found, and purposely began maturing my relationship with Jesus, I understood that limiting myself to “good” was “ungodly.” Why do I say that? Because God wants to richly bless His followers with so much more. He calls us to a much higher standard than good. Good isn’t good enough for God . It’s true that in the beginning when God created, He exclaimed that what He made was good. However, God is proclaiming His creations are good, not that we individually or collectively are. What I mean is that what God created is by His intelligent and perfect design. Anything He makes is good. Yet, in this sinful, fallen world, it didn’t take long for God’s creations to choose sin. Without Christ indwelling us, we continue to move farther from God. Without the Holy Spirit within us, there is no perfection or godliness. In fact, we are unable to claim the status of “good,” let alone “godly.” So how do you and I move from desiring a good life to building godly lives? Only through Christ. Once believers see our need for God, we begin to realize the need for His perfect Son, Jesus to pay the price for our sin. Once we realize the need for a Savior, and accept the free gift Jesus offers, we are able to live with His Holy Spirit within us. We are no longer bound to the world and the sinful temptations. Through relationship with Him, the Holy Word, and prayerful conversations with God, we can experience a shift from good to godly. That is, if we are seeking Him and a humble, obedient, close connection daily. What we desire must be held up to a mirror, so to speak, as we look at how our desires are reflected against what God calls for us in His holy Word. My heart fills with joy when I remember the time between when my first set of children were raised and before my husband and I knew that God was calling us to adopt a sweet baby from China. Before we knew our daughter was waiting for us, I was experiencing deeper growth in my spiritual walk with Christ. Slowly by slowly, I allowed God greater access to me. I wish I could profess to be one of those people who surrender fully in the moment they accept Christ, but the truth is that each of us have varying degrees of surrender throughout our lifetime. We never reach that finish line in this life. We are so very far beneath God, and so far from Him, that our lifetime should be focused on pursuing deeper relationship with Him and continuing to surrender self. As my relationship with Jesus deepened and widened, I thought back to when my husband and I had raised our first two children. I was not a Christian when my first two were born. Although I came to follow Jesus when they were young, I wasn’t well discipled. I wasted so many years thinking I was “good” and not striving to be godly. Would you like to know my deepest regret? Although my children always heard about Jesus, and knew I loved and followed Him, I did not know to intentionally disciple them. I didn’t yet understand that the Christian walk is a beautiful relationship between God and man. I didn’t understand the command in Deuteronomy 6:5-9, which says, “You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates .” I assumed that what I was doing to teach my children about Jesus was enough. In reality, they were learning my limited faith, and since I was not growing as well as I should have been, they were only able to mimic a portion of my faith and not being discipled well to chase Christ for themselves. By parenting in this manner, I was ignorantly accidentally teaching my children to follow me instead of God. If we parent in this way, we teach our children to find and craft identity in us, not the Father. I didn’t yet realize with my first set of children that in order to be a godly mom, I had to first focus on my growing and deepening my walk with God through Jesus. I had to train my mind to think biblically about everything. I had to view my responsibility as a mother through a biblical lens that removed the worldly filter I was accustomed to using or that we as humans automatically revert to. I had to live the fact that my children were really His and were on loan for a season. God entrusted them into my hands to raise for Him. How would He judge my work? As my husband and I grew our walk with Jesus, we knew with certainty that God was calling us to travel to China to bring home the baby God had waiting to be ours. Before we went, we prayed together daily for the girl she would grow to be. Our heart desired that she be a light for Jesus, that she pursue Him with a pure heart, and that she would be an inspiration for others to follow Him. I remember the days I worked backwards, formulating a plan to raise her with what I prayed were very Christlike goals. Ten years later when we returned to China to bring home our last child, the “master plan” for raising our girls for Christ had been practiced, and our youngest enabled us to continue the course with another beautiful soul to nourish for Jesus. Although there are so many important details I’m not including here, this story is so important to me, because our second step into parenting with a new generation of children was very intentional. My mind and heart was fixed, anchored on Christ through all obstacles. My husband and I committed to stand on that firm foundation. When deep waters swirled around us, when tragedy and troubles plagued our home, we tightened our grip on that three-fold cord that kept God in the center of all. No matter what happened, we remained committed to raising our girls and influencing our grown son and grandson for Christ. I want you to know that my heart truly sings with joy when I encourage and equip busy mothers to move past guilt, anxiety, frustration, or the variety of other emotions this world presses upon us. God has greatly pressed upon my heart the need for me, as an older mother, to wrap my arm around you and help you move from these emotions or feelings to a place of peace. I want to encourage and equip mothers to create close connection with Christ and her children and raise kids who chase Christ over culture. Mothers and grandmothers too, it is time to rise and purposely raise children who know and honor God. How long will mothers sit back and watch as children follow peers over parents or Christ? It doesn’t matter how good a parent you want to be or already are. God calls you and I to be holy, godly mothers – not women who settle for good. There is nothing greater we can do than fix our heart and mind above and focus on the methods given by God to raise children for Him. If we don’t purposely lead our children to Christ, the world will sway them away. It starts with you and me. Our life must be so focused on living godly lives through Christ that our children clearly see Him through us and desire Him for themselves. It's time to stop the attachment our children place first on peers and mentor the way to attachment with Christ. It starts with the parent. That means you and me. Will you walk with me in creating a movement of mothers who deeply desire to be set-apart women parenting set-apart kids for Christ? It happens moment by moment and you are the first Jesus your children see. What are you showing them? Remember, you are the mother chosen by God to till the soil of your child’s heart and lay a solid foundation based on biblical truths, not worldly emotions or trends. You were meant to be more than good. Good is defined by human experience, opinions, and feelings. Godly is defined by a holy, sovereign Heavenly Father. Which definition do you want to use to direct your parenting, relationships, and ultimately – the eternity of your children – whether they’re still in your care or grown and out of the home? If you’d like more information about influencing your children for Christ intentionally and with godly strength, send me a message at info@terrihitt.com for access to a free mini session on parenting the heart – not reacting to behaviors – no matter the age of your children. Dear Heavenly Father, You alone are holy. You alone are greater than the good we desire. Move us from good to godly in the ways You know we need. Help us to be more and more pleasing to You each moment. May our heart and mind be in sync with Your desires for us as we move ever nearer to You. Father, I thank you for Your Word, Your perfect guidance. May we understand You better and please You more as we read and act in obedience to it. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. If you’re ready to become the godly mom God entrusts you to be for Him and His children, you’ll love my free “Good to Godly: A 31-Day Scripture and Prayer Guide for Moms.” Visit terrihitt.com to receive this resource. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. Remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 130 - Are You Living With Eternal Perspective? Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 130 – Are You Living With Eternal Perspective? Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom so you can BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you’ll be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episodes, would you please share this episode or others with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, and leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast. When you do, you’re helping affect generations for Jesus. Now on to this episode that poses an important question: Are you living with eternal perspective? 1 John 2:25 says, “And this is the promise that He made to us—eternal life .” Eternal life. Forever Alive. No death. It’s impossible for our human mind to grasp the depth, the mercy, or the holiness of this promise. We cannot comprehend all that God has in store for those of us who humbly love Him, and follow Him with humble faith, love, and obedience. So many believers hear the words eternity, eternal life, or live with eternal perspective and have a moment of gratitude for the gift God promises. Yet, how many of us actually grasp those words and apply them to daily living? What does it even mean to purpose to live with a perspective beyond self and this world? 1 John 5:13 says, “I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God, that you may know that you have eternal life .” When many people imagine the end of their life, they hope for something good. Christians can be certain of life with Christ in eternity, but we only have our limited human understanding of what it might be like. In fact, 1 Corinthians 2:9 says, “Rather, as it is written: “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no heart has imagined, what God has prepared for those who love Him.” Some people don’t want to dwell long on thoughts about life after death because they begin to feel depressed or anxious. But hallelujah ! Because of Jesus, we can be assured of life eternal with Him and that it will be far beyond our miniscule expectations. The promise I read from 1 Corinthians 2:9 isn’t based on how we feel or what we hope for, but on God’s truth . If you have confessed and committed your life to Christ, you can rest in assurance through faith that you will have eternal life with Jesus. How beautiful that life will be…more exquisite than words can convey when you sit and really soak that promise in and take it to heart. As a long-time believer, I thought I was living with eternal perspective when my oldest daughter passed away. I already had a close, maturing relationship with God through Jesus. I loved Him, served Him, honored, and obeyed Him. Yet, when my beautiful child died unexpectedly at the age of twenty-nine, my life was forever altered. Suddenly one of my children was gone. She was living somewhere else - without me. She was in another place – somewhere I couldn’t go to visit her. She had moved into her eternal home. Never again would I see her gorgeous, light up a room smile. I’d never get to hug her again. I’d never share another conversation, listen to her musical laugh, and I’d never hear her witty jokes, funny thoughts, or get to offer her advice. Because I was so young when I had my firstborn, we used to tease that we’d grow old together. My heart squeezed with pain that she was gone before me and I wasn’t able to say an intentional last goodbye and hold her so tightly God would let her stay. My precious daughter was simply immediately gone . It was then that I understood living with one foot here on earth, and one firmly planted in Heaven. This is where God has me for now. One day it will be my time to go to be with Him forever in eternity. Right after my hug from Jesus, I want to see and hug my girl. Her death made me realize with surety that everything in this life is temporary, and begin to live like it. With one foot here and one foot creating a bridge to where my Jesus and my Jaime reside, I immediately changed my thought and living patterns. I don’t waste moments – each one carries a lesson or opportunity to grow in Him or nurture another for Him. Each moment is captive for Christ. I’m still far from perfect, but seek His perfect guidance moment by moment as I rest and abide in the Father’s arms. Are you living like I used to? Do you think you’re experiencing each moment with a perspective beyond this world? Or are you going through the motions of life just “believing in eternity” without the effects of seeing how thin the veil between worlds is? Are you living without intention that shows the Father you’re using the time He’s allotted for you with purpose for Him? There are four beautiful verses that offer hope, truth, and assurance for us now and in the future. Let me share them now. Matthew 7:13-14 says, “Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few .” Jesus stressed that He knows how difficult it is to stay focused on following Him. Represented by the two gates are the two choices each person must face. Will you purpose to faithfully and intentionally follow Jesus or something else? John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. ” This verse captures truth about God’s plan. Who would sacrifice their beloved son? But God’s plans are never what we expect, yet somehow they are exactly what we need, even before we know or carry the ability to understand. Ephesians 2:8-10 says, “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them .” Believers are not saved by our works, but we have been saved for the good works He will accomplish through us. As we mature our personal relationship and grow a godly lifestyle through maturing our Christian walk, the works are an outgrowth, an extension of Christ within us as He works through our humble, obedient spirit. John 14:1-3 says, “Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me. In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and will take you to myself, that where I am you may be also .” In these precious words from Jesus, we find assurance that our way to eternal life is secure . If your hope and faith are in Him, you can trust that He has personally prepared your way to and in life eternal. Jesus didn’t give specific details, but with faith, we don’t need them. Our trust is in Him and our future is with Him . Obviously, the promise of eternal life isn’t based on our works, but on His Word and His sacrificial act. Why wait for eternity to begin claiming this gift? You and I can live for eternity in the present. Right now. In ways that honor and please Christ. Jesus lived with His heart and mind fixed on eternity – not this world. This place was a temporary holding ground that enabled Him to fulfill the purpose God held for Him. How do you view this world? Do you live for fleshly desires or to fulfill God’s will? Do you live with your eyes fixed above, knowing Jesus could return at any moment? Do you live with a heart that longs to please your Heavenly Father? Do you live with a mind that honors and dwells on thoughts pleasing to God? Or are you getting through each day without grasping the significance of the moments you’ve been granted? Are you holding moments loosely and allowing the Father to craft them into the purpose He desires? Are you teaching your children to do the same as they watch the way you honor the life you’ve been given with such great cost? No matter the suffering Jesus faced, He never faltered. He never failed, because Jesus carried a godly and righteous view of eternity . Jesus lived backwards according to the way most humans live on earth. The Lord looked to the end of His earthly days to plan out what He did as He relied on, honored, and obeyed God fully. His life was defined by His longing for obedience under God and eternity with Him . When we live with Jesus’s mindset, we carry His mind and strength to cleanse our life of the sin that pulls us away from our Heavenly Father. It is only by His grace and Spirit within us that we can begin to understand and desire a life focused beyond this world. Then we can allow our relationship with Jesus to dictate our earthly walk and fellowship with Him and others. We can allow Him to show us what to count as important or worthy of attention. We consider what our life should look like under God and strive to live in ways so that others may detect His presence within us and be drawn to Him because of it. Especially our spouse and children. Would you like to know ways to ensure you live for eternity now? 1. Cling to Jesus – with an intentionally intimate and deepening relationship. Abide in the Father’s arms and live in the fullness of Christ’s sacrifice and with His mind and heartset. 2. Connect with prayer – Through intimate conversation with the Father throughout each day, set times to pray, scriptural prayers, and heartfelt musings, and remain connected to the Father through this lifeline to Him. Listen for His responses and guidance. Keep an open conversation and set times for deeper praise and petition. 3. Read, study, and share God’s word – Mature your walk and share Him and your testimony with others, whether they be friends, family, or strangers, not only through words, but in your actions, reactions, desires, and integrity. The way we present ourselves must be in alignment with how we live and how we treat family members, friends, and strangers. Our lifestyle must be in alignment with God’s Word. 4. Love the Lord - with all your heart, soul, strength, and mind and expose Him through words, actions, reactions, and desires. 5. Find and follow God’s will – Following and obeying the Lord, studying His word, and conversing through prayer, listening for His voice and direction, and heeding sound biblical advice are ways to find and follow the Lord. 6. Raise children to know and honor Him – As we draw nearer to Him, our children are drawn closer, as well. The same is true for your spouse. As you hear this list, does it seem overwhelming? I promise it’s not. As you seek the Father through relationship with Jesus and seek time with His Word daily, then converse with prayer and worship, you will find more and more time to continue. He begins to take priority over worthless tasks or time-suckers you may be wasting time on right now. Through this transformation, you will be centered on Christ most of all. As He flows through all that you are, you become more like Him. You view the world more as He does, and realize more of the desires God crafted within you. So often we scan the library and bookstores to find the perfect books to improve and change us or to change others. Books challenge and develop us, but not always in the ways God desires. The Bible is the single most important book ever written, yet so often we pass it by as we seek the newest fad or forget the true wisdom it holds. The keys to healthy, joyful living and the secrets to living with eternal perspective are written in every book the Bible contains. As a book lover and a reader, I understand the value of reading books with godly values, but please don’t overlook the most important and influential book. Don’t place it to be read last or when you think you have time. Make sure to read it first, then include other quality books that align with God’s morals and directives. The focus of your heart behind the desire to change or improve as a believer should be what directs and propels you to act. Place Christ at the forefront of daily thinking and witness the changes He makes in and through you. This self-development is the most important change you can make because the results matter for eternity. 1. Search the Scriptures 2. Humbly submit to Christ 3. Honor the Father 4. Serve how He calls 5. Witness the changes He makes in you and others because of your obedience Philippians 2:3-4 says, “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others .” As you draw nearer to God through Scriptures, prayer, and relationship, your faith becomes a deeper love. It becomes one that humbles you to receive what Christ desires to accomplish within and through you. Are you using and truly believing the power of God’s Word? Luke 9:23 says, “And He said to all, “If anyone would come after Me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow Me .” Dying to self is not something we can accomplish on our own. By trusting Jesus more each day as you grow your walk with Him, looking upward toward the eternal plan He has established, toward the eternity you will have with Him, you will be drawn to allow Him more access to your heart and home. Galatians 5:22-26 says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us walk in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying one another .” Living with eternal perspective takes the sting out of disappointments as we trust the Father. This eternal-driven mindset takes the competition out of daily life. We trust that our personal life holds a purpose no one else has. Likewise, we recognize that the lives of others are unique and purposed by the same Hand that crafted each individual with intention. The fruits we receive from the Holy Spirit thriving and growing within us become focused on serving others over self. Intentionally developing godly character qualities honors the Father who intentionally crafted each one of us with purpose. Jesus placed others before self, yet allowed God full reign over His life. Each step we take toward following Christ moves us closer to eternity as we live for it in the present. Grow in Him. Inhale Christ so you can exhale Him on your family. In time you will see a difference in your connection with Jesus and those you love. 2 Corinthians 3:18 says, “And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit .” Dear Great and Glorious Heavenly Father, help us in Your Sovereign love for us, to view this world through Your eyes. May our treasures be placed under You because they are what You have deemed worthy of praise. Help us to decrease as we allow You to be increased within us. Lord, You tell us that if we hate our life in this world we will keep it for eternity. May we follow You as faithful servants yearning to honor and please You. May our minds be sober and our intentions pure as we cling to Your promises of tomorrow today. Help our life to be so transformed that the lives in our families are as well. May Your glory and grace be so evident in us that it shines through the lives of our spouse and children. May that cycle continue for generations. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. If you’re ready to become the godly mom God entrusts you to be for Him and His children, you’ll love my free “Good to Godly: A 31-Day Scripture and Prayer Guide for Moms.” Visit terrihitt.com to receive this resource. If you’re ready to be more intentional - to be purposed in preparing your children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ, contact me at info@terrihitt.com . I think you’ll be interested in my Set-Apart summer renewal for $197. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. Remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast - Episode 002 - Mentor God's Heart Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #002 – Mentor God’s Heart Are you yearning for greater connection with your child and Christ? Would you like to parent beyond the moment with eternal perspective? Do the days seem long, but you know the parenting journey is short? Let’s grow together now with practical tips, scripture, and stories geared to draw your heart to Jesus and guide your child into His arms. When we brought our youngest home from China at the age of nine, there was nothing I could do to convince her that my intentions for her were good and loving until she spent time with me and learned my heart for her. Some of our earlier days were shared battling hours of tears and meltdowns, language confusion, and misunderstandings. Once she had consistently observed my temperament, action, and reactions, she was able to know what lay within my heart and whether or not she could trust that I had her best interests in mind. True bonding, attachment, and attunement occurred once she had a foundation of trust on which to firmly stand. Just as she had to learn to understand and trust me, unless we spend time in God’s word, learning His heart and intentions for us, we cannot know Him, show Him, and likely will not see Him grow within our child. The Bible gives us the way to follow the heart of God. Scripture allows us to be mentored by Jesus, so that we are equipped and empowered to do the same for our children. As we submit to God and allow Him to work within us, our children witness the power of Christ so that they desire Him in their life, as well. A heart must be prepared to accept God’s word. Just as we can’t expect seeds to flourish when thrust into soil that hasn’t been cultivated, God’s word cannot penetrate our spirit if we are not ready to welcome it. The same is true for our children. If we do not have a loving, trusting relationship established with them, they are less likely to trust a God they cannot see. You are the first image of Christ your child will see. James 1:21 says, “Therefore lay aside all filthiness and overflow of wickedness, and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls .” Sin not only prevents us from receiving God’s word, but the practice of sin also actually prevents the word of God from penetrating our heart. I find it interesting that the Greek word for receive is translated several times in the New Testament as welcome . When we read or hear God’s word, we must be ready to hear and receive it, to welcome it into our life. We are only changed when the transformative power of God’s words and holy truths penetrate our heart, mind, and soul. It is then that we are filled with His desire to obey and practice what He has revealed to us. God’s word must penetrate the heart of your child for true change to occur. Simply hearing us preach about God has no effect, no power behind the words. True change and relationship blossoms when we have been transformed through the holy power of a saving God. Because of relationship with Jesus, God’s word comes alive in ways a non-believer cannot see. As we spend more time in the word, we begin to crave God more. True heart and life transformation occurs after we read , study , process , and apply His word. Character is changed or created anew when our heart is pierced with the word of God as the Holy Spirit enables us to know and follow His heart. Receipt of God’s word moves us to pattern our life after Jesus, to follow the footsteps of His teachings. James 1:22-25 says, “Be doers of the word, and not hearers only. Otherwise, you are deceiving yourselves. For anyone who hears the word but does not carry it out is like a man who looks at his face in a mirror, and after observing himself goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But the one who looks intently into the perfect law of freedom, and continues to do so—not being a forgetful hearer, but an effective doer—he will be blessed in what he does." If we read the Bible, then simply lay it aside to think and do whatever we please, God’s word brings no permanent value to our life. God calls us to go beyond mere listening to doing . Diligent hearers of the word intentionally dig through God’s word, searching for truths and treasures. They understand and trust that lives do not change without careful study and application of the material they read. In fact, passages in the Bible are more than words they study; scripture is God-breathed and inspired instruction just for them. 2 Corinthians 3:18 , one of my very favorite verses says, “So all of us who have had that veil removed can see and reflect the glory of the Lord. And the Lord—who is the Spirit—makes us more and more like him as we are changed into his glorious image.” Every new day offers a choice to believers. Do we follow our fleshly will and desires or do we obediently choose to seek Jesus and draw nearer to Him? Now that we are united with Christ, the veil is gone. We see Christ face to face. His lives within us, transforming us more and more into His glorious image…if we allow Him to do the work He started. God word is truth . A truth that testifies through the holy transformation of God with us. Jesus is the work that moves hearts and changes lives; ours and our children. Christ’s transformative work within us allows us in turn, to mentor the heart and mind of Jesus to a watching world, and most importantly, the children He has entrusted to us. Parents are to: 1. Love unconditionally 2. Love sacrificially 3. Love personally 4. Love holy This type of love is impossible without the saving power of Christ within us. Only Jesus can mentor and fill us with the love He possesses. 1 John 3:1 says, “Behold what manner of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God. And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know Him.” What amazing, powerful love we have within us! Agape love is not a term we use much in our time. Yet it is the most splendorous love imaginable. This is the type of love God holds for us. This love is extended to us freely with nothing expected in return. A purer, holier love will never be found. None of us are able to fathom this type of love without it abiding within us. Agape love is what we want to carry for our child. It is a love that should be directed to them for the purpose of expressing Christ to them and guiding them to His feet. John 21:15-17 says, “When they had finished eating, Jesus asked Simon Peter, “Simon son of John, do you love Me more than these? “Yes, Lord,” he answered, “You know I love You.” Jesus replied, “Feed My lambs.” Jesus asked a second time, “Simon son of John, do you love Me?” “Yes, Lord,” he answered, “You know I love You.” Jesus told him, “Shepherd My sheep.” Jesus asked a third time, “Simon son of John, do you love Me?” Peter was deeply hurt that Jesus had asked him a third time, “Do you love Me?” “Lord, You know all things,” he replied. “You know I love You.” Jesus said to him, “Feed My sheep .” This passage of scripture occurred after the resurrection of Jesus. In it, Jesus asked Peter to tend to His sheep, meaning lead His people to Him. Once Peter realized he had turned from Jesus and followed his own flesh, he repented and was able to embrace the gentle, yet powerful grace of God and step into the role of the powerful leader God equipped him to become. God also calls us to feed His sheep, but parents have a special calling , a high responsibility to nurture the children God has entrusted to us. Jesus commanded not to hinder the children from coming to Him. When our lives are intertwined with Jesus and we humbly allow Him to guide and equip us, He will work within and through us to reach the hearts of our children. When we submit, He crafts us to become the parents He desires, yet graciously allows us the responsibility and privilege of being the first witness of Christ our children will see. How often do you ponder that you are the first witness of Jesus your child experiences ? Focus on your personal relationship with Christ to bless your life and the life of each of your children . Once we acknowledge the agape love and power of Christ living within us, how do we begin to mentor the Master to our children? Here are 10 important tips to remember as you parent with the intention of mentoring the Master. 1. Mentors train to teach as they live . Just as an athlete trains, we must purpose to train our heart and mind to pursue Christ. Even when we don’t feel like it. Bible reading and study, exploration of passages to find how they apply to our life, solitude with God, prayer, seeking the plans God has for us and obeying them, and fellowship with other believers will enable us to train our children for their eternal future. As our lives authentically point to Christ, He will genuinely shine Him into them. 2. Know and show Jesus through the agape love we receive from Him. As our children witness our life in humble submission and calling to Christ, they begin to pursue Jesus for themselves with dedication and obedience. 3. Give testimony . If you have experienced the changing power of Christ, tell what Jesus has changed in your life. Show the ways He has transformed you. Share how you and your life are different. 4. Embrace Christ within you . Your words , actions , reactions , and lifestyle reveal all your child needs to know about whether Christ can be trusted. If you profess to be a changed person through the power of Jesus, yet live like every other person, believer or not, your child will not see the difference he or she needs to commit to a relationship with God through Christ. However, if your child sees that you are set-apart and continuing to embody Jesus more each day, they will notice and be drawn toward the love and power of Jesus themselves. Your faithfulness also builds their courage to live a set-apart life. 5. Foster connection with your child through the discernment of Jesus . God created your child for a purpose . He or she was placed with you for this time. Nothing is a mistake or accident. God chose you to parent the child or children entrusted to you. God knows you are not enough. No matter what society tells us, we were not made to be perfect. We do not have all the answers or do all things well. Only God can give you with the discernment , knowledge, understanding, wisdom, guidance, direction, insight, and love that your particular child needs. Pursue God’s best for your child as you prayerfully acknowledge God’s authority and wisdom . Petition His will for your child’s present and future. 6. Make specific prayer request lists . Pray them daily. Pray for God to give you the prayers He desires you to raise for your child. Our Heavenly Father has a good and perfect plan tailor made for your child. Imagine the godly future you desire for your child. Pray for the specifics that come to mind. Ensure that they align with God’s will. For example, don’t pray for your child to become a millionaire. You can pray for God to equip your child with a strong passion for Him. You can pray that God will provide for all of the needs of your child. Pray for a godly spouse if your child is to be married. Prayers like these are surely heard and honored by God. 7. Be mindful of the talents and interests of your child . Knowing that God has created each person uniquely with specific gifts, talents, interests, and desires, we must honor the unique person God made and placed in your care. Our children are not our mini’s. They do not have to carry the same goals and dreams we did. They are not the indicator of our success. Attunement to our child and a strong connection built through Christ will show you many glimpse of the future He may have for them. 8. Offer Biblical encouragement . As you travel a journey toward Christ together, you must remember the individuality of your child. Your faith is not theirs. Your precious child must develop a personal faith and relationship with Jesus on their own. It may be while they are living with you. It may be when they are an adult. Either way, the end goal is to restrain from judging, yet be discerning and observant as to the progress your child is making so that you can continue to parent a wholesome, genuine relationship with Jesus. 9. Pursue Jesus together . Make sure your child sees that you have a desire for Jesus and that you follow through with personal Bible and prayer time. Pray alone in front of your child. Pray with your child. Pray for your child. Ask your child to pray for you. Pray for your parenting in front of your child. Honestly, the list is endless. There are many ways to pray for your child and with your child. Maintain regular Bible study with your child. Discuss the verses you read together, as well as the study points. Allow them to hear study notes from the Bible and teach apologetics and critical thinking so that they understand the basics of Christianity and can defend their faith. The key is to involve your children so that they develop the habits of Bible study and prayer. Then a strong desire is rooted within them and a sturdy foundation is built beneath them. 10. Do not pressure your child to follow Jesus . God Himself does not demand that we follow Him. Our Heavenly Father allows us free will. Our children deserve the same. This doesn’t mean we allow disrespect, rather that we regularly fertilize, cultivate, and water the soil of their heart with the way we live, God’s word and truths, prayer, and connection built daily by wise parenting and attachment. John 16:13 says, “However, when the Spirit of truth comes, He will guide you into all truth. For He will not speak on His own, but He will speak what He hears, and He will declare to you what is to come .” Never forget or undervalue the powerful Holy Spirit alive within you. Submit to Christ, pursue Him moment by moment, obediently follow where He leads, nurture your child in and through Jesus, and experience a relationship with Him and your children that only comes from the gracious, agape love our Heavenly Father can bestow. Life will never be perfect this side of heaven, but it can be glorious when rooted and built on a firm, authentic foundation of Christ. Gracious, loving Heavenly Father, we come to You in humble submission and adoration. Thank you for the precious gift of Your Son for us so that we can see You, know You, and follow You more clearly. Thank you that through Jesus, we can approach Your throne of grace with confidence and clarity. Enable each of us to embody You in our parenting. Please extend to us Your wisdom, Your knowledge, Your insight, and Your understanding of each of our precious children. For we know they are truly Yours on loan to us for such a time as this. God, we cannot know them, cannot reach them without You. Anything constructed in this world without a foundation purposely built on and through You will not stand. We humble bow to Your guidance and agape love in every area You know we need. Protect our heart and minds so that they seek and reflect You and Your desires and ways. May our children run to Your arms because of the nurture and grace we pour into them and guide them straight to You. In the precious name of Jesus we humbly and lovingly pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this episode. The Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast will soon be available at terrihitt.com, where you can access the episodes housed in one convenient location, receive access to blog posts, read transcripts, and find additional resources designed to mature your walk with Christ and equip you to raise or influence connected children through Him. God knows that we are not capable of successful parenting on our own. As we rely on Him, as we release doubts and expectations, and humbly bow to His guidance and experience, we find greater clarity in parenting and a wondrous walk with our Creator that will extend to our children and those around us for generations . I pray this podcast helps you parent with purpose and deepen your connection to Jesus and your children. Intentionally place Christ above culture or self. Allow Him to work through you for true connection that will draw your children to Him and build a maturing relationship with Christ and your children that lasts for eternity. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 113 - Are You Parenting Your Toddlers for the Teen Years? Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 113 – Are You Parenting Your Toddlers for the Teen Years? Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom and BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you will be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episodes, would you please share this episode or others with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, and leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast. When you do, you’re helping affect generations for Jesus. Now on to an important question to consider in this episode…are you parenting your toddlers for the teen years? Parenthood gives mothers such unique abilities to learn about relationships. Not only how to foster relationships, but how to recognize potential issues early in relationships and try to avoid those problems. We see our children up close and personal…and they see us, too. Just as our kids know us well by watching and cataloging our expressions, actions, and words, observant mothers will use everyday opportunities to view and evaluate how well our children listen, obey, and care for others. Do they show kindness, respect, and truth? How well are they responding to the truths of God that we present to them in multiple ways daily? Are you aware that the way you parent your toddlers can help set your teens up for failure or success? Common threads are often uncovered among parents when they chat about navigating the tapestry of the teen years, but for the most part mothers don’t share for fear or judgement, rejection, or embarrassment. I find it interesting that when parents are in the throes of raising toddlers, there’s more levity in what’s shared than when a parent is battling an issue with their teen. When a mother is living hard days with a teen in the home, the entire household can be affected for days or months. Although they need guidance or support, women are reluctant to share such personal struggles, and the actions of a wayward or obstinate teen can cause everyone in the home to struggle. On the flip side, it’s much easier to ignore or distract the behavior of a toddler. For example, when a toddler refuses to wear an article of clothing, a mother learns that the next time she wants her child to get dressed she won’t ask. Instead, the next time she’ll prepare her child with a transition between activities and will give her toddler two choices, both of which she has already picked as options. “It’s time to get dressed. You can wear this dress or this one.” Or “It’s time to get dressed. Today you can wear this shirt or this shirt.” Hold the choices up in front of them or lay them on a bed in front of the toddler and let them choose. Of course, if you don’t have a child who cares about the clothing they wear, you don’t need to start the options phase. Don’t bring challenges into your life. Continue picking out their clothes and move on quickly in your morning routine. However, when you recognize that what your child wears matters to him or her, allow your child the freedom to have autonomy. On the other hand, when your teen refuses to wear something you’ve asked them to, and they begin dressing in ways you don’t approve of, the challenge feels much harder. It is, but the way you prepare your child for the teen years while you parent the toddler years and between will make those teen years much less challenging for both of you. You’ll also ensure you don’t create barriers by reacting in ways totally different than any other time in their life. For example, when your child is young, you make life easier by giving them choices you approve of. As your child grows, their ability to reason grows with them. As you see ways they are changing, you begin to build on groundwork you’ve already poured to make that foundation of your relationship stronger. You offer different choices depending on age and abilities, but you’ve been working with them over the years to help your child learn how to reason logically and biblically and to make wise choices. Remember that every child is as unique as a snowflake. They’ll each develop at their own God-given pace, however, there are ways to predict the most common times children will develop new skills. When we look at phases of human development, we see that in the toddler phase of development, children need to get good sleep, nutrition, stimulation, and need to continue building close bonds with their caregivers. So, using the example of attire, if you don’t want your teen to wear certain clothing, you must nourish your relationship and their decision-making in certain ways. I knew I didn’t want my youngest daughters to wear skimpy clothing when they were teens or adults, so I wanted to instill morals and integrity in them that would teach them to want to dress conservatively. Now, at 18 and 20 years of age, they both dress with reserve, yet are still stylish and choose their own clothing based on personality and interests, while remaining modest and current. Because it was a priority to me to teach my girls to respect their body (and not desire to flaunt theirs the way we see women doing on social media), and because I didn’t want them to wear tight, short spandex dresses that almost look like an article of shapewear, I took purposed steps when they were toddlers. Here are some of the most important ways I planned for my girls to dress in the ways I believed God would approve: First, I didn’t dress in the ways I didn’t want my daughters to dress. Next, I didn’t compliment women who dressed in that way. I drew attention to others who dressed modestly, yet stylishly. Finally, I didn’t purchase that type of clothing for my girls, even when they were small. I didn’t place bikinis on them in public, because I didn’t want them to wear them as teens. Since I believed God would find it more pleasing for my girls to wear a modest one-piece swimsuit, that’s what I dressed them in as toddlers. It’s what they got used to wearing. It’s what I also wore when I put a swimsuit on. I also taught the girls these things to think about attire over the years: Is this outfit right for the climate/weather? Is this outfit appropriate for the event I’m attending? Will I be comfortable in my choice? Will my choice of clothing be respectful of others in attendance? I know attire is one simple example, but the same principle applies to other areas of parenting toddlers so that you lay the groundwork for smoother teen years. There are many ways parenting teens and toddlers compliment each other or leave you with similar challenges, so let’s examine a few of those ways. 1. Parents find raising teens challenging because they feel it is hard to talk about certain topics such as sex with their children. When the kids are young, parents are reluctant to talk about those subjects, even though society today is causing parents to broach those topics at younger and younger ages and phases of childhood. So, the parent, who should be able to use their common and God-given sense to know when to approach topics feels pushed to teach things they’re uncomfortable with or they don’t want to harm their child by discussing. Then, on the flip side, once children are teens, parents might find certain topics embarrassing for them or their children, and become slow to tackle that topic. However, if parents wait too long, they may have a teen who has gotten into trouble because they were too naïve to know to stay away from something, or you may find your teen in a dangerous situation because they were never warned or taught godly morals around that situation. You may also have a young child frightened before it is time to hear of certain topics. At either end, if the timing isn’t right, parents may cause issues that could have been avoided, or they may cause trust issues between them and their children after children see or hear about delicate topics from unsavory or untrustworthy sources. 2. Toddlers and teens both have anger, frustration, or distractions that seem very similar to one another. Remember, the temper tantrums, bossiness, and new skill sets you navigate with your toddler can set up your relationship with your teen to be more closely bonded. 3. Both toddlers and teen are searching for identity. Be sure to teach your child godly identity in Jesus because you have (and continue) to deepen yours with Him. Just knowing the gospel won’t be enough for your child to grasp and construct their own house of faith. Be sure that they see Jesus really is important to you, not just words you speak or actions you take, like religiously going to church every week, then leaving Jesus at the door to your home. 4. Notice the strengths and weaknesses your toddler exhibits and direct those in Christlike ways as he grows. Consider the ways your child reacts to trials and triumphs. Is he easily frustrated or angered as a toddler? Help him by your tone, reactions, words, etc. to teach him how to battle and conquer ways of handlings situations in godly ways. 5. Teach your children godly characteristics like honesty, integrity, love, kindness, patience, etc. from toddlerhood. Root those qualities in God’s truths and show them in your own life. This will set them up to carry those same qualities that have been strengthened over the years, like a muscle that has been exercised. 6. Take note of the gifts, talents, and interests God has purposed in your children. As they grow, help them navigate how to stay true to who God made them to be while remaining rooted in His truths. Help them find how to use the gifts, talents, and interests in ways that honor God and serve His purpose for them. 7. Make time to be with your toddler, not only in everyday care, but in play and relaxation. Go outdoors together. Roll on the floor and laugh together. Play games together. Color or draw together. Play ball. Search for insects outdoors or find beautiful leaves on the trees. Let your inner child be revived as you find ways to spend time together. Use your imagination and creativity, or use theirs, but have fun just being together. When you laugh together when your child is a toddler, you’re more apt to continue that routine as they grow and enjoy fun times together when they become a teen. 8. Be there for your toddler when they’re afraid or hurting. Even when it’s hard, let them see that you love them enough to be brave and present when life is hard. Model how to ask God to carry you all through the hard times and show them a pure faith that doesn’t turn away through hard or easy times. 9. Speak God’s truths and Words to your toddlers and teens through conversations, everyday life, and prayers. Think of how many similarities there are between toddlers and teens. Both ends of your parenting years can have many of the same interests and characteristics. Listen to these qualities and you will recognize that they apply to toddlers and teens. Selfishness, mood swings, and egos that think the world revolves around them, know-it-all attitudes, desire to gather people and friends, the desire to be independent, even if they’re not ready, risky behaviors (as a toddler your child may run into traffic or climb bookshelves and your teen may partake in dangerous or sneaky behaviors such as smoking, sex, drugs, alcohol, driving dangerously, stealing, or lying. Both toddlers and teens may begin these actions when they need more attention or they may have personalities that are impulsive and inquisitive. Either way, your children, both toddlers and teens, need close, loving guidance toward a loving Savior by a parent who lives what they preach. Remember it is key to be building your own strong identity in Christ. If you have questions about how to do that, please connect with me at info@terrihitt.com . Also, love your toddler and your teen in ways they understand and need. You know your children better than anyone else. The Bible and a strong walk with God will be your guiding tools. Connection with other godly individuals sharing experiences will help you when you’re hurting or confused about how to parent. Connect with your children intentionally – connect with them personally, and connect them to Christ. Don’t treat your children as an afterthought. Let them know how important they are to you. Know their body language and love language. You don’t have to pamper or spoil your children, but you do need to prioritize them over selfish needs. Respect your children and teach them to respect you and most importantly, God. Let your children know you are chosen and entrusted by God to raise them for Him. Foster obedience Don’t exasperate Look to God to guide and guard your parenting decisions. Pray. Put God first in your own life. Read the Word daily – and also read and study the Word together. You have time. It’s all in what you prioritize. Find answers together when your kids have questions you don’t know. Discipline to disciple, not punish Be a godly, not good parent Don’t try to be your child’s best friend. They need godly parents. Infuse your home with a genuine, godly atmosphere. Teach integrity. Make your home a safe place. Enjoy your child’s friends – welcome them, get to know them. Help your kids know how to choose godly, faithful friends. Have godly entertainment in your home (music, books, shows, artwork, etc,). I ‘ve included a few Bible verses you may use to pray over your children or to teach them. Use the concept when your children are young, as they mature, teach the full verse. 1 Timothy 4:12 says, “Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.” 2 Timothy 2:22-26 says, “So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart. Have nothing to do with foolish, ignorant controversies; you know that they breed quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth, and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, after being captured by him to do his will.” Ecclesiastes 11:9 says, “Rejoice, O young man, in your youth, and let your heart cheer you in the days of your youth. Walk in the ways of your heart and the sight of your eyes. But know that for all these things God will bring you into judgment.” 1 Peter 5:7 says, “Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.” Psalms 119:9 says, “How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word.” 1 Corinthians 10:13 says, “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.” Dear Heavenly Father, how great You are, our holy Maker of Heaven and Earth. Thank you for your generosity to us. We in no way deserve to be raising Your precious children, yet You entrust them to us. Equip us to be godly parents who chase You over culture and teach our children to do the same. Work within us. Change us. Mold us into the mothers You desire us to be. Give us a thirst for You that nothing else will quench and help our children to thirst for You, too. Please equip us to raise children who come to know, honor, obey, and serve You with humble love and gratitude. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. This is the part of the episode that you usually hear me talk about the Set-Apart Collective. Today I want to share about my new mini program called “Establish Identity.” Why? Your identity is a major force behind what you do. Who you believe yourself to be, and who you find your identity through affects the way you live, parent, love, serve, and discipline. Your identity is one of the lifelines, a pulse point of your home. Do you ever stop to think that you are the first Jesus your child will see? Even if they are grown, your identity affects your child. The way you think, speak, and react is rooted in your identity. Send me a message at info@terrihitt.com if you’d like details or go to terrihitt.com and join my email list. You’ll get updates before anyone else and hear a little about what makes this so important. If you join the email list you’ll also be able to access free resources such as my new Good to Godly: A 31 Day Scripture and Prayer Guide for Moms. One last thing to remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode 031 - How to Lay Groundwork for Your Child to Build a Life of Faith Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #031 – How to Lay Groundwork for Your Child to Build a Life of Faith Thank you for listening to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast. My prayer is that you and I will parent with purpose and confidently connect with Christ and our children moment by moment. Reading with my daughters has always been a joy for me. I remember the very first night my middle daughter, Marissa came home to us when she was ten months old. After about 36 hours of traveling, my husband, our precious new baby, and I were exhausted. When we finally arrived home from the airport, we felt dirty, hungry, and ready to clean up, unpack, and get to bed. Instead, we needed to acclimate our sweet baby to a new home. While in China, she had finally accepted us and adjusted to the hotel we were staying in, right before we had to whisk her off to another new place. There was no way she could comprehend that this was the end to her journey. She was finally home. I remember carrying her around the house, taking her into every room, showing her new surroundings. I kept my voice soft and gentle, and while carrying her close to me, I swayed her, rocked her, and fed her, but nothing soothed her. I finally paid attention to the thought that continued to press into my mind. “Read to her.” Before we had left for China, I had prepared her room, so I went to the rocking chair we purchased for her nursery, sat down, and picked up “The “Story of Jesus” book we had received at one of our baby showers from the small table next to the chair. I honestly didn’t think my ten month old would appreciate a book. Certainly she wasn’t old enough to be soothed by me reading to her, especially since she was just getting used to me and the sound of my voice. Nevertheless, I followed the still, small command in my mind and began reading as I held her in my lap. Instantly, tears stopped flowing and her cries ceased. “The Story of Jesus” worked what felt like a miracle that night, just like Jesus Himself has done for so long. What miracles do we overlook daily ? What signs and wonders are still shown today? Study the life and miracles of Jesus in Scripture so that you are growing in your walk with Him moment by moment. Learn to seek the deeper meanings of the miracles He performed. Remember that He still performs miracles today. John 20:30-31 says, “Jesus performed many other signs in the presence of His disciples, which are not recorded in this book. But these are written that you may believe that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in His name .” Share the wonder and miracles of Christ with your children. The book of John is a wonderful place to begin filling your child with curiosity and amazement at the power and life of Christ. John 2:11 says, “What Jesus did here in Cana of Galilee was the first of the signs through which He revealed his glory; and His disciples believed in Him .” The word “sign” in this verse was used by John because he was referring to displays of magnificent authority and glory executed by Jesus . Through faith , those present were able to witness divine events in the midst of ordinary days . Jesus, however, did not use these miracles to show His power or self. The signs carried a significance beyond the acts Jesus performed; they laid holy evidence of sacred power and majesty . The Book of John, Chapter 2 shares eight particular signs that showcase and give glory to the significance of Christ. Signs & Significance = Jesus is/has : John 2:1-12 - Jesus turns water into wine proving He is The Source of Life John 4:46-54 - Jesus heals a nobleman’s son - proving He is Master over distance John 5:1-17 - Jesus heals a lame man at the pool of Bethesda proving He is Master over Time John 6:1-14 - Jesus feeds 5,000 proving He is The Bread of Life John 6:15-21 - Jesus walks on water and stills a storm proving He is Master over Nature John 9:1-41 - Jesus heals a man who was blind from birth - proving He is The Light of the World John 11:17-45 - Jesus raises Lazarus from the dead - proving He has Power over Death John 21:6 - Jesus causes an abundant fish catch proving He is Master over Animals When taught about Jesus, children cannot resist the miraculous feats of Jesus. Their minds are open and ready to learn of Jesus and to accept the groundwork of a strong and lasting faith. As you read these stories, present them in age-appropriate ways. Pay attention to the interests and characteristics of your child or children. Consider how they learn. There are so many options for teaching about Christ in fun, exciting, and serious ways. You can choose to draw stories on a white or chalk board, or on paper, you may use felt pieces, dolls, or costumes, or you can simply read from the Bible and discuss study notes together. Children are filled with wonder. They easily grow a desire for Christ and an understanding of His holy power and meaning in their life. Enable them to begin viewing Him as the Authority and one who cares for them in every way. Laying the groundwork for our children to build a life of faith consists of many small, intentional acts of eternal perspective. If you think back to my story at the beginning of this podcast, the reaction my baby had to hearing “The Story of Jesus” led me to begin reading many books to her right away. Enjoying reading and stories together has always been a delightful time of bonding, imagination, and dreams. Marissa began going to the library before she was a year old and the outing was always something she seemed to look forward to. Beyond strong literature with beautiful illustrations, however, she was exposed to Bible stories from that first night home. It was such a gift to see her calmed by the book I read to her that first night. I recognized that my Heavenly Father was at work, already constructing the foundation for a lifetime of faith for my child if I would remain faithful to Him in mentoring and discipling her. It's never too early to expose our children to Bible stories and truths that will grow their interest and knowledge of Christ. Children easily see miraculous signs. They are awed by the amazing acts of Jesus. This is the groundwork parents can use to train children to look deeper into Who Jesus is and to construct faith based on the significance of His signs and wonders. The stories of Jesus will draw them in and allow them to pay attention to the man who will change everything about their life and identity if they welcome Him. Matthew 19:14 says, “Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these .” It’s never too late to honor the Lord in the way you mentor Him to your child . Expectant mothers have the beautiful gift of preparing their heart and deepening their personal walk with Jesus before her precious baby arrives. How beautiful it is to look into the future and imagine what life God would desire for your baby. I suggest expectant mothers prayerfully compose a list of the attributes God would desire your baby to have. Write down where you see your child in a year, five years, ten years, as a teen, and when they graduate from high school. Locate Scripture to write prayers to guide the development of your child in godly ways. Seek God’s plans and follow His promptings. Mothers of newborns have the blessing of singing or speaking God’s Word over their children. Reading Scripture to your baby is a wonderful way to introduce them to the Bible. They will grow up with reverence for the Word and know where to find answers to life situations if they are accustomed to hearing His Word and seeing you study Scripture. The same applies to toddlers and preschoolers. You can also enjoy Bible devotionals together. Short times of study and prayer together become a staple in the lifestyle your child expects and deserves. As your child matures, continue to pray with them and ask them to pray with you. Seek God together when they have questions or problems. Help them acquire the habit of always seeking their Heavenly Father in all situations. There are so many ways to make Him known. Nature walks, Bible studies, life situations, as well as the trials and tragedies in this world are all moments you can share with your child. As you naturally invite God into every moment of life, your child will do the same. Discipling a child from birth is a blessed way to enjoy a life of joy together. What if you came to know Christ later in life? What if you did not grow your Christian faith until your children were older? While you are breathing on this earth, it’s never too late to mature and deepen your personal walk with Jesus and mentor your child to do the same. If your child is a teen without Christ or even an adult, allow them to see the changes Christ makes in your life. Remember that every action and reaction you make, the words you speak, the attitude you carry is a reflection on the God you follow. As you grow in Him, the changes you make visible will greatly impact those around you when you give the Lord glory and credit. Our children, no matter the age, are precious to God. They matter to Him because He created them with intention and for a purpose. The greatest gift He offered each of us was His own Son and He deeply desires that we make Him known to our children. Dear Heavenly Father, there truly is none like You. That You have such a love for us, despite what we feel for You is astounding. That You allow us to influence the children You personally crafted with intention and for great purposes is a miracle I never forget. Please help us to remember the price Jesus paid to allow us to come to You now and for eternity. Help us to see our children with Your eyes full of love, mercy, and grace. Help us to desire to raise them as You call us to. Help us to mentor You in ways only possible as we cling to You and allow Your mighty hands to carry us. May our children have great faith and desire for You. May they find You now and cultivate close relationship with You on purpose. Help us to please You as we parent. Thank you for Your beautiful gifts. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” podcast. This and my “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, iHeart Radio, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts may also now be found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? Did you know that when you review my podcasts on Apple, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcasts online so that more people are allowed to find and hear them. 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< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 131 - How to Teach Children to Find Security through Scripture Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 131 – How to Teach Children to Find Security through Scripture Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom and BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you will be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episodes, would you please share this episode or others with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, and leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast. When you do, you’re helping affect generations for Jesus. Now on to this important episode with questions Christian parents need to consider…do your kids know how to rely on Scripture? Do you know how to train them to do so? Last week my youngest daughter went to a local children’s hospital for an appointment with an ear, nose, and throat doctor. This was a new ENT to her; the one who performed her ear reconstructive surgery a few years ago no longer practices at this hospital. If you’ve listened to this podcast for a while you probably already know a little history on my daughter. If you’re new here, I’ll share that she came to us at the age of nine years old. She had been severely neglected and had many serious health concerns. The infections raging in her ears had been there for most of her life, and we had to send samples to the Mayo Clinic to find out what resided in her ears and what antibiotic would be best to treat and resolve the infection. Because she was born with smaller inner ear bones and nerves, that infection resulting from a urine bacteria harbored in her ears from the time she was an infant. Because of that, my girl is deaf in one ear and almost deaf in the other. Her “good” ear was losing what sound she had and we needed a doctor visit to test her hearing and see what was going on with her ear. After some advocating at this local hospital, they got her in, and my youngest was glad to be able to find out what was going on, but not happy to have to revisit the ear situation. To add a little about why - when she was newly home with us she’d had to undergo an ear cleaning procedure that was loud and scary for her. The thought of doing that again was on the forefront of her mind. She’d had to do it again a couple of years later, and the experience was very frightening. As things turned out, I became sick with reactivated mono and unable to get out of the house to go to the appointment. My wonderful husband was glad to take her to the visit, but I was unsure how our youngest would react when the person who usually went was unable to attend. My prayers were fervent for her to be safe, not scared, and to fully rely on God. I prayed with her, on my own, and with the family for her and for this area in little bits over the weeks preceding the visit. I wanted to balance just enough attention without scaring her or drawing attention to the visit and making her nervous. On the day of the visit, a big thunderstorm rolled through the area. Just as the doctor came in to see our girl, tornado sirens blared and my husband and daughter, along with everyone at the hospital, had to retreat to a stairwell deemed safe to weather the storm. Staying in contact with them during the storm via text helped me continue to pray for her and the situation. After about forty-five minutes of remaining in that shelter, they were able to return to the examination room and see the doctor. This doctor was gentle and knowledgeable and listened to our girl. Hearing of her experiences with two former cleanings, she used a gentler approach and was able to clean her ears without trouble or provoking fear. Because her ears were very inflamed, my daughter will return this week for her hearing test after using antibiotic drops in the interim. God, in His infinite wisdom and sovereignty used that time in the shelter area as a refuge of prayer for our youngest. Brooklyn told me that evening that she had kept repeating Scripture while waiting. She mentioned three that spoke to her heart and she said during that time in the stairway and while in the procedure room she let God’s Words flow over her heart and mind, keeping her in perfect peace. As a believing mom who loves Jesus, I’m sure I’m a lot like you. While we treasure that bonding and attachment with our children, our highest goal should not be to draw them to us – but to Him. As I’ve parented my second set of children it has been with a deep desire to point them to the Father for every need. My goal has been to foster a close relationship with them and be able to share my love for Jesus and dependance on our Heavenly Father to be an example for them. When she was able to fully rely on God to help her through the situation, I was so thankful I wasn’t there. I was thankful I had to stay home. I was thankful her faith was maturing and she could see that this was an obstacle (like many others she’d have in life) that could be used to thrust her into the arms of the One who could care for her in every way she needed. This is our ultimate goal as Christian mothers. I had to share this single example to encourage you as you continue in your role - sometimes feeling inept, unseen, unheard, or overwhelmed. But God sees! He hears your cries, your praises, and He waits for you to jump into His arms and rest and abide there…then teach your children to do the same. Because of my daughter’s recent experience, I want to use this podcast to tie into a former episode on Scripture. In case you don’t know, guess what?! I’m in the process of editing my book, “The Good Mom Trap: Break the Belief that Good Parenting Produces Godly Kids” – and I’m on a very tight deadline to get it completed. Having mono for such a long period has thrown me behind on the editing process, but God is in control and I can’t wait to see and share how He uses all of this for His glorious purposes and timing. Over the next few weeks I will be repurposing content from previous episodes and perhaps broadcasting some new ones because I long for you to continue being nurtured and growing in Him. This episode is one of the most important reminders about teaching kids to rely on Scripture that I can give you. Mothers, we must be in the Word in order to teach our children to rely on it. To rely on Him. I pray you find something insightful or helpful in this episode that will equip you to reside in His arms and remain in His Word. It’s your most effective tool to becoming that godly woman and mother He is entrusting you to become. Let me ask…Before you became a parent did you realize the depth of skills you’d need? As a mother, you’re most likely the encourager, the equipper, the peacemaker, the comforter, the chef, and the maid. Keeping the home tidy and well-managed, the children growing and thriving, and your life with your husband flourishing can be challenging. But when those thoughts of inadequacy or overwhelm hit, do you stop to assess why you’re experiencing those feelings? Most often, it’s because you’re relying on self. Moms often try to be perfect, manage it all, and take care of everyone around us. Instead, we must be resting in the Father’s arms and seeking His approval and direction above all else. When you put Him first, He truly does make the rest of your day flow more smoothly. He fills you with His peace and His strength to face the challenges and erase overwhelm as you learn to depend on the Holy Spirit within you moment by moment. Then you have the tools you need to lovingly teach your children to do the same. Once you’ve pursued relationship with Jesus through the gift of salvation, you learn the character of God through Scripture. Without your humble submission to the Lord and continued growth through His Word, your personal and family life simply cannot thrive. As believers, we long for our children to know Jesus and follow Him into eternity one day. But the truth is that if you’re not personally mentoring a love for Him that keeps you in the Bible, studying and growing with loving intention, your child isn’t going to see the need. Life only gets busier once you have children! You already think you’re busy, then suddenly you find time to do what needs to be completed to enable you to give the best care to your precious child. What about time with your precious Father in Heaven? Somehow, the most important relationship you can have gets relegated to the back of your mind and heart. Eventually, unless you are intentional, you stop hearing and responding to the Holy Spirit inside. Life gets heavier, messier, and you wonder why you no longer feel peace, joy, or a longing for the Lord. Is this the life you want your children to witness? Is this the life you want them to emulate? Of course not. Believing moms understand this isn’t the life they want for their children. They just struggle to find the time to do all the things. The first step is realizing that you’re really the first Jesus your children see. You must make time for what God calls most important. When you strive to follow Him, prayerfully and humbly request that He show you what He desires for your life, and then show you how to make time to do as He desires, He will. If you believe God could part the sea for Israelites to cross, do you believe He can guide you to find time for Him? God’s Word tells us that when we seek Him we will find Him. Once you realize that you have His power to find time to be in the Word and inhale Christ so you effortlessly exhale Him, you must continue to seek the Father in His Word. So, what is the best way to train your child to rely on Scripture? Ensure that you are reliant on God’s Word. First, let’s look at Bible verses that equip how you shape desire for and reliance on Scripture and mentor that to your children. Philippians 4:9 says, “What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you .” 1 Corinthians 11:1 says, “Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ .” Titus 2:7-8 says, “Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity, and sound speech that cannot be condemned, so that an opponent may be put to shame, having nothing evil to say about us .” Matthew 19:14 says, “But Jesus said, “Let the little children come to Me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven .” The book of Proverbs teaches that godly wisdom is critical for creating and maintaining a life pleasing to God. As you lay a foundation of faith for your children to stand on to construct their own relationship with Jesus, you’ll build the rails that also guard and guide them. These rails line the pathway that leads them to Scripture. Without this strong foundation to hold the personal house of faith they will build, your children won’t carry godly insight, wisdom, or judgement that instills and directs this path to navigate life with integrity and insight from God. As you raise your young ones to know, love, honor, and obey God and direct them toward a personal relationship with Jesus, craft prayers to be lifted to God in your personal time with Him and also speak prayers you offer with your children. Lifting prayers in the presence of your children teaches them how to prioritize relationship with God and how to approach Him with reverence, honor and relationship. Let them see and hear you rely on God’s Word through each day. Make it as natural as breathing…as walking…as speaking. As the Holy Spirit resides within you, invite Him to be evident through you. Whether your children are older, and you’re just now teaching them to rely on God or you’ve been modeling relationship that leads to Jesus over the years, using Scripture naturally, not forcefully, will deepen their hope and trust while leading them closer to our Heavenly Father as you remain committed and consistent. Ask God to direct you to verses that will reach and teach the heart of your children while continuing to deepen your walk with Him in ways that transform your desires, actions, and reactions for your children to witness His life-changing power. The closer you move to God, the more your parenting desires will reflect His will. Start with Scripture that is easy for your children to understand and that will build the basics of a lifelong trust in, and relationship with God, through Jesus. As you pray these prayers consistently with your children, you’ll find that the truth resting in the verses you use will also flow into conversations and guide the lifestyle you establish in your home. My daughter remembered Psalm 23:1-4 in the doctor’s office, in the KJV which says, “The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me .” Each time she felt that fear may arise, she kept reciting the verse in her mind and praying, trusting in her Heavenly Father. This is our Father’s desire for His children – the ones He entrusted to you and me. Are you preparing your children each moment to rely on Scripture? Also, as so many children struggle with anxiety, and they often face fears such as this doctor visit, plus so many other things in life, I’ll list a few Scriptures that offer hope and reassurance to those who’ve been trained to seek Him and His Word. Proverbs 3:1 says, “My son, do not forget my teaching, but let your heart keep My commandments. ” Philippians 4:6 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God .” Romans 12:2 says, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect .” 1 Peter 5:7 says, “Casting all your anxieties on Him, because He cares for you .” Remember, Matthew 19:14 says, “But Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven .” Can you see how reassuring it is to know God through His Word and to find Scripture that comforts, reassures, and offers hope and guidance? I urge you to seek Him through the Bible today for yourself and future generations of your family. Scripture is God’s gift, and a powerful tool to keep your heart and the heart of your family in alignment with God. A tool that leads to intimately know Him, His character, and His will. Through Scripture your children will understand how to build critical thinking skills that match the Father’s heart and mind. Scripture offers protection and guidance in a world of confusion. As you continue to teach and instruct from God’s Word, your desires and actions are transformed into the image of Christ that will attract your children as you become a godlier woman and parent. This equips your child to use Scripture as easily as breathing - to learn, to craft prayers, and to use His Word in their life – through trials and on the smoothest of days. Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for instructing me through Your Word so that I can lovingly mentor my children in Your ways. You say that I should not hinder the little children from coming to You. Show me the way to bring them to You. Help me show Your heart and truths in ways that are lasting in their life. Please keep me in alignment with Your will and ways in all things so my family will also draw near to You. May my children choose to serve You all the days of their life and long to be pleasing in Your sight. Help them remember all of Scripture is breathed by You and will train, correct, and equip them for every good work. May they treasure Your Word and hold it dear in their heart. May they always delight in delighting You. In Jesus’s name I pray. Amen. If you have questions after this episode, please reach out to me at info@terrihitt.com . I’m happy to help you give the gift of Scripture to your children. I also have a resource that you’ll find helpful as you navigate your daily routine as a mom. If you’re ready to become the godly mother God entrusts you to be for Him and His children, you’ll love my free “Good to Godly: A 31-Day Scripture and Prayer Guide for Moms.” Visit terrihitt.com to receive this resource. If you’re ready to be more intentional - to be purposed in preparing your children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ, contact me at info@terrihitt.com . I think you’ll be interested in my Set-Apart summer renewal for $197. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. Remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode 033 - What is Better Than Reading Scripture to Your Children? Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #033 – What is Better Than Reading Scripture to Your Children? Thank you for listening to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast. My prayer is that you and I will parent with purpose and confidently connect with Christ and our children moment by moment. With each child I have raised, I have learned more about being a parent and a person submitted to God. I’ve shared on the podcast before that I have always been a good mom. Through the graciousness and mercy of our Heavenly Father, I’ve become a godly mom. There is such a difference! If we pay attention to the needs of our children, strive to be with them daily, discipline when needed, and so on, this world allows us to be good parents. We take pride in the fact that we are good parents. When we discover the difference between good and godly, a lifetime opportunity for discipleship extending toward eternity awaits us and our children! In order to arrive at the understanding between these types of parenting, we must begin with seeking the Lord. Of course, many agree that reading Scripture to your children is the best way for them to come to know Christ. I disagree. It is so much deeper than simply reading the Bible. As a young mother, I thought that if my children knew I loved Jesus and I talked about Him, imparting knowledge of and love for Him that my children would come to follow the same faith. As I grew in my wisdom and understanding of God, I came to understand that there is so much more! Parents can’t be held accountable for whether our children decide to follow Christ, but we are responsible for growing them in the fullness of knowledge of the Lord . We are called to lay a strong foundation built on the solid ground of Christ. We are the tillers of the ground before the foundation is laid, and we are the carpenters that will carefully examine the construction of the house and quickly seek to address any repairs that must be made. Our walk with God through Christ and the way we allow Him to carry and create us anew daily is the sweet aroma that will attract and guide our children toward Him. In order for our children to have an interest in Jesus they must see Him clearly in us and desire the same relationship. What a joy and privilege we have been gifted! Where is the best place to start to ensure that we are God-driven in your pursuit of Christ and your desire to resemble Him in life and parenting? A strong passage of guidance is found in Matthew 4:1-11, which says, “Then Jesus was led by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil. After fasting forty days and forty nights, He was hungry. The tempter came to Him and said, “If you are the Son of God, tell these stones to become bread.” Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’” Then the devil took Him to the holy city and had Him stand on the highest point of the temple. “If you are the Son of God,” he said, “throw yourself down. For it is written: “‘He will command His angels concerning you, and they will lift You up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.’” Jesus answered him, “It is also written: ‘Do not put the Lord your God to the test.’” Again, the devil took Him to a very high mountain and showed Him all the kingdoms of the world and their splendor. “All this I will give You,” he said, “if You will bow down and worship me.” Jesus said to him, “Away from Me, Satan! For it is written: ‘Worship the Lord your God, and serve Him only.’” Then the devil left Him, and angels came and attended Him .” In this short passage much is revealed about Satan’s tactics and the faithfulness and holiness of Christ. The devil knew who Jesus was and intended to sway Him from the task He was to carry out. If Satan knew who Jesus was and the power He carried, yet still attempted to distract and sway Him, the devil will certainly attack our children ! At Satan’s urging, Jesus could have proven Himself and turned stones into bread, but Satan wasn’t the one Jesus followed. His eyes remained on the Father. Jesus had intentionally gone into the wilderness to fast. In Scripture, the wilderness has typically meant a time of preparation. This was an important and crucial time for what was to come with Christ. Satan desired to ruin the mission Christ was on. Testing and tempting Jesus was a targeted attack, and the devil had nothing to lose. For Jesus to succumb to such an easy temptation to take the chance at having food would have ruined what God was about to do through Christ. Think about the significance. Just as in the garden of Eden, the devil tempted with food. However, Jesus, fully God and fully man, did not take the bait. Through the power of Christ within us, we also do not have to take the bait when temptation arises. Guess what? It is within our strength, and it is our duty as parents to teach our children to rely on the same power. Next, the devil tries to cause Jesus to throw Himself from a temple in order to cause angels to rescue Him. Satan saw that Jesus had trusted God in the first test of temptation, so now he twisted his ploy to try to force Jesus to jump in order to show that He still trusted God. In his appeal, Satan even quotes Scripture in his tempting speech. But Jesus used godly wisdom, knowing well that God promises protection for His own, but also crafted us with common sense and wisdom from Him. Just as many people quote the Bible out of context and false preachers twist passages into something they are not, Jesus recognized the devils tactics. We are wise to teach our children more than just words from God. They need to learn and trust depth and context . The last temptation from the devil seems more desperate. Calling for Jesus to worship him, Satan offers all the kingdoms of the earth and promises them to Jesus if He would only bow down and worship him. It is as though Satan believes he can tempt Jesus to forgo the suffering of the cross and just take all that is His already. Although many have easily believed the great deceiver, Jesus did not. Christ knew that He must continue to follow God in complete obedience and focus . It was His privilege and birthright to do so. Christ would never follow or serve Satan. Just as He remained focused on truth , we have the task of embedding the truth of God and the love of Christ into our children . Through the power of the Holy Spirit within us, we can complete our privilege and birthright to be the guiding force of godliness for our children . While parenting, it is almost like we are in a time of roaming the wilderness. So many trials and triumphs surround us. We can feel alone, but we never are. Just as Jesus was tempted, we are tempted. Our spouse is tempted. Our children are tempted. But as Christ kept His eyes and mind focused on the Father, drawing strength and fortitude from Him, we can trust and rely on God to guide us through the wilderness years of parenting and guard our children as we direct them to Him time and time again. Our source of spiritual , mental , physical , emotional , and parenting strength is God’s Holy Word. It serves as the answer to every need and question we have. The key is reading and studying the Word so that we know the resources available to us. The Bible is the life manual we wish for, yet forget we have . God’s Word: 1. Imparts Truth – John 17:17 says, “Sanctify them by the truth; Your word is truth .” 2. Saves – John 14:6 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me .” 3. Sanctifies – John 17:19 says, “For them I sanctify myself, that they too may be truly sanctified .” 4. Protects – Psalm 94:22 says, “But the Lord has become my fortress, and my God the rock in whom I take refuge .” 5. Blesses – Psalm 1:1-2 says, “Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers, but whose delight is in the law of the Lord, and who meditates on his law day and night .” 6. Enlightens – Isaiah 5:20 says, “Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter .” 7. Guides – Psalm 32:8 says, “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go. I will counsel you with My loving eye on you.” 8. Rewards – 2 Timothy 2:15 says, “Similarly, anyone who competes as an athlete does not receive the victor’s crown except by competing according to the rules .” 9. Provides Life – Matthew 4:4 says, “Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’” What are 5 ways to do more than simply read Scripture to your children? 1. Establish a routine to read and study God’s Word together . In order for you or your children to know and grow in the Lord, you must make Him a priority. It’s hard, but well worth the time and energy it takes to establish a consistent schedule. Study God’s word on your own to build and shape your character, knowledge, and trust. Study it with your children and family. 2. Write or memorize Scripture together . Any time spent memorizing or writing Scripture carries benefits and blessings. To teach your child this habit is a beautiful goal that will bring lasting blessings if they continue in it. 3. Pray together . Use God’s Word in your prayers. Encourage your children to do the same. Ask God to teach and enlighten you and your children through studying and living His Word. 4. Teach and Practice Critical Thinking . Children must learn to effectively approach and analyze information and form godly discernment. They must know how to defend their faith in order to make it their own as they grow, mature, and make important decisions. 5. Live Your Beliefs. Show your children that it is important and honoring to God for each of you to live what He commands through words, actions, reactions, attitudes, etc. What are some tips to help you do more than simply read Scripture to your children? 1. Be age appropriate . Purchase age appropriate Bibles for your child to use in personal reading time. Also break verses or passages down to an age appropriate level. You can get the meaning and importance of the Word across even when you change words you use to explain Scripture. Using drawings, music, poems, skits, and toys to enact Bible scenes is very helpful with younger children. I used a white board often with my youngest. The drawings enabled her a deeper level of understanding than just using words as she was learning a new language. 2. Vary lesson lengths . Make your lessons shorter or longer, depending on the ages of your children and the subject matter you are studying. Stretch your children, but do not exasperate them. Make time to answer questions. When questions arise that you cannot answer, find the answers together. It’s wonderful when you both grow in the Lord together. 3. Remember that God’s Word is applicable to every age and season of life . Allow your children to experience God’s love, grace, and mercy, as well as learn His commands. The Bible is for your children, but is not simply about them. Teach them it is about the love of God and encourage them to find Him in the Words. 4. Teach and grow the basics you’ve imparted to them as your children mature and life situations arise. Use Scripture to guide daily events, as well as the praise and the discipline you give them. Pray that your growth in God and guidance through Him will allow you to see and grasp opportunities to illustrate what you and your child have learned and are learning together in the Bible. Remember, the wilderness years of parenting allow us to continuously and prayerfully connect with God to renew our mind and heart through Him, His Holy Word, and the wisdom He imparts to us through both and the Holy Spirit alive within. The closer we draw to Him, the closer we are to those we love and carry a greater ability to draw them nearer to the One who holds the key to a life of love and godliness that leads to a beautiful eternity with Christ together. Dear Heavenly Father, Your goodness to entrust children to us is astounding. We are so thankful and filled with gratitude at Your lovingkindness and mercy toward us. Thank you for allowing us to raise Your children and showing us the ways to direct them to You if we only choose to do so. Enable us to please You more and more daily as we strive to draw nearer to You and make You clearly known to Your children. May their hearts and souls cry out for You and find You through the godly instruction we impart to them. May they grow to be faithful followers of You and continue longing for You and obeying You throughout their life on this earth. Equip us to be the parents You created us to be and please don’t allow us to stray from Your desires or will. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” podcast. This and my “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, iHeart Radio, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts may also now be found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? Did you know that when you review my podcasts on Apple, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcasts online so that more people are allowed to find and hear them. 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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #153 – Change from a Good to Godly Woman and Mother Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. Goodness! I can’t believe school has started once again and the gorgeous days of summer will soon be moving out, ushering in crisper, cooler air. This time of year always makes me a little sad. I long for summer to last indefinitely. Since nothing lasts forever, seasons are a beautiful reminder of why we need to live with eternal perspective. Have you had days, weeks, or years of life that you want to last forever? Or maybe right now you feel the opposite. Do you wonder how much longer you have to endure the season you are experiencing? Change can be good. Especially when we aren’t aware that we are not living in ways that God desires for us. Change can become the catalyst that moves us to be in sync with the next transformation God has for us. I distinctly remember a time I’m glad I moved away from. There was a period in my life when I wanted to make sure I was a good person. A good woman. A good wife. A good daughter. A good mother. As my relationship with Jesus matured, I understood that limiting myself to “good” was “ungodly.” God calls believers to a much higher standard than good. Good isn’t good enough for God. It’s true that in the beginning when God created, He exclaimed that what He made was good. However, God is proclaiming His creations are good, not that we individually or collectively are. What I mean is that what God created is by His intelligent and perfect design. Anything He makes is good. Yet, in this sinful, fallen world, it didn’t take long for God’s creations to choose sin. Without Christ indwelling us, we continue to move farther from God. Without the Holy Spirit within us, there is no perfection or godliness. In fact, we are unable to claim the status of “good,” let alone “godly.” So how do you and I move from desiring a good life to building godly lives? Only through Christ. Once believers see our need for God, we begin to realize the need for His perfect Son, Jesus to pay the price for our sin. Once we realize the need for a Savior, and accept the free gift Jesus offers, we are able to live with His Holy Spirit within us. We are no longer bound to the world and the sinful temptations. Through relationship with Him, the Holy Word, and prayerful conversations with God, we can experience a shift from good to godly. That is, if we are seeking Him and a humble, obedient, close connection daily. What we desire must be held up to a mirror, so to speak, as we look at how our desires are reflected against what God calls for us in His holy Word. My heart fills with joy when I remember the time between when my first set of children were raised and before my husband and I knew that God was calling us to adopt a sweet baby from China. Before we knew our daughter was waiting for us, I was experiencing deeper growth in my spiritual walk with Christ. Slowly by slowly, I allowed God greater access to me. I wish I could profess to be one of those people who surrender fully in the moment they accept Christ, but the truth is that each of us have varying degrees of surrender throughout our lifetime. We never reach that finish line in this life. We are so very far beneath God, and so far from Him, that our lifetime should be focused on pursuing deeper relationship with Him and continuing to surrender self. As my relationship with Jesus deepened and widened, I thought back to when my husband and I had raised our first two children. I was not a Christian when my first two were born. Although I came to follow Jesus when they were young, I wasn’t well discipled. I wasted so many years thinking I was “good” and not striving to be godly. Would you like to know my deepest regret? Although my children always heard about Jesus, and knew I loved and followed Him, I did not know to intentionally disciple them. I didn’t yet understand that the Christian walk is a beautiful relationship between God and man. I didn’t understand the command in Deuteronomy 6:5-9, which says, “You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” I assumed that what I was doing to teach my children about Jesus was enough. In reality, they were learning my limited faith, and since I was not growing as well as I should have been, they were only able to mimic a portion of my faith and not being discipled well to chase Christ for themselves. As my husband and I grew our walk with Jesus, we knew with certainty that God was calling us to travel to China to bring home the baby God had waiting to be ours. Before we went, we prayed together daily for the girl she would grow to be. Our heart desired that she be a light for Jesus, that she pursue Him with a pure heart, and that she would be an inspiration for others to follow Him. I remember the days I worked backwards, formulating a plan to raise her with very high goals. Ten years later when we returned to China to bring home our last child, the “master plan” for raising our girls for Christ had been practiced, and our youngest enabled us to continue the course with another beautiful soul to nourish for Jesus. Although there are so many important details I’m not including here, this story is so important to me, because our second step into parenting with a new generation of children was very intentional. My mind and heart was fixed, anchored on Christ through all obstacles. My husband and I committed to stand on that firm foundation. When deep waters swirled around us, when tragedy and troubles plagued our home, we tightened our grip on that three-fold cord that kept God in the center of all. No matter what happened, we remained committed to raising our girls and influencing our grown son and grandson for Christ. Just as I began this podcast almost four years ago through an act of obedience when I knew God was whispering to me to begin one, I know He is now calling me to end this show. I’ve waited through the summer months to ensure I knew for sure what He was calling, but I recently came to realize that waiting any longer to make sure my choice is good, or what God is calling when I know the peace I have in my heart to end the podcast is actually a form of disobedience. Even if I never intended it to be. So what is next? My heart sings with joy when I encourage and equip busy mothers to move past guilt, anxiety, frustration, or the variety of other emotions this world presses upon us. God has greatly pressed upon my heart the need for me, as an older mother, to wrap my arm around you and help you move from these emotions or feelings to a place of peace. I want to encourage and equip mothers to create close connection with Christ and her children and raise kids who chase Christ over culture. Mothers and grandmothers too, it is time to rise and raise children who know and honor God. The effects of this culture have run rampant for too long. How long will mothers sit back and watch as children follow peers over parents or Christ? It doesn’t matter how good a parent you want to be or are. God calls you and I to be holy, godly mothers. There is nothing greater we can do than fix our heart and mind above and focus on the methods given by God to raise children for Him. I invite you to follow my other podcast, Purposed Parent/Connected Child. I urge you to please leave a review and rate the show so that others may find it. If we don’t purposely lead our children to Christ, the world will sway them away. It starts with you and me. Our life must be so focused on living godly lives through Christ that our children clearly see Him through us and desire Him for themselves. It's time to stop the attachment our children have with peers and teach them the way to attachment with Christ. It starts with the parent. That means you and me. I have so much to share in future Purposed Parent/Connected Child episodes. A new season begins very soon. I pray you will be moved from a good to godly woman and mother as you listen to the episodes. Dear Heavenly Father, You alone are holy. You alone are greater than the good we desire. Move us from good to godly in the ways You know we need. Help us to be more and more pleasing to You each moment. May our heart and mind be in sync with Your desires for us as we move ever nearer to You. Father, I thank you for Your Word, Your perfect guidance. May we understand You better and please You more as we read and act in obedience to it. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast for the last several years. This podcast has brought me and my family even closer to God and each other. I have witnessed our faith and obedience multiply because of this show. I truly hope that it has affected you in ways that move you to the woman God intended for you to be. As much as I loved this podcast, I feel in my spirit that God is calling me to end this chapter of obedience to Him, and I know that makes me available and humbly ready to serve in the new ways He calls. I hope you look for the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast and share it with friends and family so that we can be the generation that returns our children to godly lifestyles and desires. I pray that Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast and what you have heard on past episodes of Live With Eternal Perspective draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Thank you so much for your past support. I pray that even if you are no longer a parent of a child growing up in your home, you will find resources in Purposed Parent/Connected Child episodes that will strengthen your attachment to your grown child or grandchildren and draw you ever nearer to God. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 153 - Change From a Good to Godly Woman and Mother Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #153 – Change from a Good to Godly Woman and Mother Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. Goodness! I can’t believe school has started once again and the gorgeous days of summer will soon be moving out, ushering in crisper, cooler air. This time of year always makes me a little sad. I long for summer to last indefinitely. Since nothing lasts forever, seasons are a beautiful reminder of why we need to live with eternal perspective. Have you had days, weeks, or years of life that you want to last forever? Or maybe right now you feel the opposite. Do you wonder how much longer you have to endure the season you are experiencing? Change can be good. Especially when we aren’t aware that we are not living in ways that God desires for us. Change can become the catalyst that moves us to be in sync with the next transformation God has for us. I distinctly remember a time I’m glad I moved away from. There was a period in my life when I wanted to make sure I was a good person. A good woman. A good wife. A good daughter. A good mother. As my relationship with Jesus matured, I understood that limiting myself to “good” was “ungodly.” God calls believers to a much higher standard than good. Good isn’t good enough for God. It’s true that in the beginning when God created, He exclaimed that what He made was good. However, God is proclaiming His creations are good, not that we individually or collectively are. What I mean is that what God created is by His intelligent and perfect design. Anything He makes is good. Yet, in this sinful, fallen world, it didn’t take long for God’s creations to choose sin. Without Christ indwelling us, we continue to move farther from God. Without the Holy Spirit within us, there is no perfection or godliness. In fact, we are unable to claim the status of “good,” let alone “godly.” So how do you and I move from desiring a good life to building godly lives? Only through Christ. Once believers see our need for God, we begin to realize the need for His perfect Son, Jesus to pay the price for our sin. Once we realize the need for a Savior, and accept the free gift Jesus offers, we are able to live with His Holy Spirit within us. We are no longer bound to the world and the sinful temptations. Through relationship with Him, the Holy Word, and prayerful conversations with God, we can experience a shift from good to godly. That is, if we are seeking Him and a humble, obedient, close connection daily. What we desire must be held up to a mirror, so to speak, as we look at how our desires are reflected against what God calls for us in His holy Word. My heart fills with joy when I remember the time between when my first set of children were raised and before my husband and I knew that God was calling us to adopt a sweet baby from China. Before we knew our daughter was waiting for us, I was experiencing deeper growth in my spiritual walk with Christ. Slowly by slowly, I allowed God greater access to me. I wish I could profess to be one of those people who surrender fully in the moment they accept Christ, but the truth is that each of us have varying degrees of surrender throughout our lifetime. We never reach that finish line in this life. We are so very far beneath God, and so far from Him, that our lifetime should be focused on pursuing deeper relationship with Him and continuing to surrender self. As my relationship with Jesus deepened and widened, I thought back to when my husband and I had raised our first two children. I was not a Christian when my first two were born. Although I came to follow Jesus when they were young, I wasn’t well discipled. I wasted so many years thinking I was “good” and not striving to be godly. Would you like to know my deepest regret? Although my children always heard about Jesus, and knew I loved and followed Him, I did not know to intentionally disciple them. I didn’t yet understand that the Christian walk is a beautiful relationship between God and man. I didn’t understand the command in Deuteronomy 6:5-9, which says, “You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” I assumed that what I was doing to teach my children about Jesus was enough. In reality, they were learning my limited faith, and since I was not growing as well as I should have been, they were only able to mimic a portion of my faith and not being discipled well to chase Christ for themselves. As my husband and I grew our walk with Jesus, we knew with certainty that God was calling us to travel to China to bring home the baby God had waiting to be ours. Before we went, we prayed together daily for the girl she would grow to be. Our heart desired that she be a light for Jesus, that she pursue Him with a pure heart, and that she would be an inspiration for others to follow Him. I remember the days I worked backwards, formulating a plan to raise her with very high goals. Ten years later when we returned to China to bring home our last child, the “master plan” for raising our girls for Christ had been practiced, and our youngest enabled us to continue the course with another beautiful soul to nourish for Jesus. Although there are so many important details I’m not including here, this story is so important to me, because our second step into parenting with a new generation of children was very intentional. My mind and heart was fixed, anchored on Christ through all obstacles. My husband and I committed to stand on that firm foundation. When deep waters swirled around us, when tragedy and troubles plagued our home, we tightened our grip on that three-fold cord that kept God in the center of all. No matter what happened, we remained committed to raising our girls and influencing our grown son and grandson for Christ. Just as I began this podcast almost four years ago through an act of obedience when I knew God was whispering to me to begin one, I know He is now calling me to end this show. I’ve waited through the summer months to ensure I knew for sure what He was calling, but I recently came to realize that waiting any longer to make sure my choice is good, or what God is calling when I know the peace I have in my heart to end the podcast is actually a form of disobedience. Even if I never intended it to be. So what is next? My heart sings with joy when I encourage and equip busy mothers to move past guilt, anxiety, frustration, or the variety of other emotions this world presses upon us. God has greatly pressed upon my heart the need for me, as an older mother, to wrap my arm around you and help you move from these emotions or feelings to a place of peace. I want to encourage and equip mothers to create close connection with Christ and her children and raise kids who chase Christ over culture. Mothers and grandmothers too, it is time to rise and raise children who know and honor God. The effects of this culture have run rampant for too long. How long will mothers sit back and watch as children follow peers over parents or Christ? It doesn’t matter how good a parent you want to be or are. God calls you and I to be holy, godly mothers. There is nothing greater we can do than fix our heart and mind above and focus on the methods given by God to raise children for Him. I invite you to follow my other podcast, Purposed Parent/Connected Child. I urge you to please leave a review and rate the show so that others may find it. If we don’t purposely lead our children to Christ, the world will sway them away. It starts with you and me. Our life must be so focused on living godly lives through Christ that our children clearly see Him through us and desire Him for themselves. It's time to stop the attachment our children have with peers and teach them the way to attachment with Christ. It starts with the parent. That means you and me. I have so much to share in future Purposed Parent/Connected Child episodes. A new season begins very soon. I pray you will be moved from a good to godly woman and mother as you listen to the episodes. Dear Heavenly Father, You alone are holy. You alone are greater than the good we desire. Move us from good to godly in the ways You know we need. Help us to be more and more pleasing to You each moment. May our heart and mind be in sync with Your desires for us as we move ever nearer to You. Father, I thank you for Your Word, Your perfect guidance. May we understand You better and please You more as we read and act in obedience to it. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast for the last several years. This podcast has brought me and my family even closer to God and each other. I have witnessed our faith and obedience multiply because of this show. I truly hope that it has affected you in ways that move you to the woman God intended for you to be. As much as I loved this podcast, I feel in my spirit that God is calling me to end this chapter of obedience to Him, and I know that makes me available and humbly ready to serve in the new ways He calls. I hope you look for the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast and share it with friends and family so that we can be the generation that returns our children to godly lifestyles and desires. I pray that Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast and what you have heard on past episodes of Live With Eternal Perspective draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Thank you so much for your past support. I pray that even if you are no longer a parent of a child growing up in your home, you will find resources in Purposed Parent/Connected Child episodes that will strengthen your attachment to your grown child or grandchildren and draw you ever nearer to God.

< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode 030 - How to Teach Your Child to Listen for God Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #030 – How to Teach Your Child to Listen for God Thank you for listening to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast. My prayer is that you and I will parent with purpose and confidently connect with Christ and our children moment by moment. Listening for the voice and direction of God has become one of my favorite aspects of living the Christian life. I adore how intimately God speaks to His children. Scripture makes that evident, but so does a life of obediently following Christ. As we experience what the Word says through deepening our walk and communication with the Lord, we will hear Him more completely and clearly. It's very interesting to me to hear how the voice of our Heavenly Father reaches each individual person. One of the best ways believers can be certain that we have heard direction from God is by experiencing the peace that passes understanding. I believe God’s peace can be the foundational connection that erases uncertainty as to whether a person has clearly heard instruction from God. Let’s examine peace first. Philippians 4:7 says, “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus .” Three facts to remember about peace are: 1. Peace is not built upon or affected by circumstances. 2. Peace is based upon God’s promises and truths. 3. Peace isn’t an emotion – it is a miraculous benefit promised by God How do we set ourselves up to experience this supernatural peace that passes our human understanding? 1. By studying , not just reading Scripture 2. Open, honest communication with God through prayer 3. Utilizing God’s Word and maturing our desires to reflect His 4. Deepening our faith through relationship with Christ 5. Claiming the truth and inerrancy of God’s Word and promises Isaiah 26:3 says, “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in You .” Before we can teach our children to listen for and recognize the voice of God, we must purposely deepen our own walk with Christ. As we reflect and experience a godly lifestyle and communication with the Lord, we can confidently mentor the way to hear the Father. We’ve already discussed how one of the precious gifts of following Christ is the underlying peace God provides. Although believers are blessed with an ability to abide in perfect peace as we trust in and follow God, we can also experience moments where we feel extra close to Him. My deepest peace is often felt early in the morning when I awaken. My soul cries to begin the day with God and it helps me to get out of bed early when I think of spending private time together. Sometimes in the middle of the night I will awaken and feel a great peace, knowing my God is watching over me and I will spend sweet time with Him in a few hours. We want our children to know and trust that God is always present, but to anticipate special moments with Him. His peace can abide within them at all times, but they can also cherish intimate and personal moments with Him as they develop and mature their walk together. When we have walked with God longer, it’s logical to feel closer than at the beginning of our faith journey. Our children are beginning a relationship and are getting to know their Heavenly Father and trust Jesus as Savior. Because of that, they may experience moments where they don’t feel the presence of God at all. This can even happen to believers after they have spent years walking with Christ. In fact, many people, depending on what they are experiencing in life have had moments where they did not feel closeness to God or His peace. Because we trust God’s inerrant Word, we know that we are the ones who move away from God, not the other way around. We should also remember that just because we “feel” a certain way, it doesn’t mean it is true. That is why the steps I mentioned earlier are so important for us to master. This enables us to teach our children the truths of God in order to equip them to feel the peace and hear the voice of God. As we parent and encourage our children in their walk with Christ, we have the privilege of helping them grow to live with an underlying sense of constant peace based on faith, trust, and truth. Until then, we can help them decipher when they feel an underlying peace versus uncertainty or indecision . Discovering how to pay attention to the difference is one of the ways they will learn to listen to and for God. Remember, trials and tragedies will always be a part of this broken world, but they do not have to be the dictator of our emotions, thoughts, feelings, or reactions. God truly can provide a healing and protection that fills us with peace despite what we can tend to feel or think. In order to teach our children how to look for the peace that surpasses understanding, we must know how to find and carry it deep within our soul. We must trust the Scriptures over emotions, thoughts, or feelings that can shift like the wind. As parents build personal trust and faith, we are better equipped to guide our children to build a strong lifeline of trust, faith, and hope in Christ. Without God’s peace, we tend to listen to the world or self instead of His still, calm voice. As believers build our hope and trust in the Lord we are able to direct our children to understand and remember certain truths about the character of God that enable them to hear His voice despite seasons or circumstances they may be facing in life . Let’s hear 8 truths that will help our children live with a peace that enables them to hear God speak:. 1. God desires relationship 2. God desires intimate, personal communication 3. God desires faith 4. God desires obedience 5. God desires affection – He wants to be sought - and He wants to be found 6. God desires genuine hearts 7. God desires us to remember that His voice may come in different forms to each person, but will always be in perfect alignment with Scripture 8. God desires us to listen As we teach our children about the peace of God, we must also teach them the ways God speaks. But there is one important step before they will hear the voice of God – relationship with Christ. Before coming to know Christ as their personal Savior, our children won’t recognize God’s voice. How could they if they do not know Him? A parent must prepare the heart and mind of their children to see Jesus at work in them and to desire Him in their life . By mentoring a godly relationship , cultivating a godly home , and always bringing the glory and recognition to Jesus , our children begin to understand who He is and why He is important. When our words, actions, and reactions are pleasing to God and the décor in our home, our clothing, our words, attitude, tone, and activities match the character of God, our children see and seek Him. Teach your children the ways God is transforming you, helping you, and carrying you. Help your children see the ways He is at work in their life as well. Pray specific prayers that are in alignment with God’s Word so that your children recognize you repeating Scripture and relying on God. If they believe all you do is self-focused or generated, they will never see the need for relationship with Christ. Teach your children that: 1. God speaks through Scripture – let them see you with your Bible. If possible, have a chair or special place you can sit with your Bible and a notebook for writing Scripture, studying God’s Word, and praying. Let them hear you pray for others and for them, your spouse, and yourself. Teach them to rely on God as easily as drawing their next breath. Help your children experience God’s Word with an age appropriate Bible. Remember that your children will need new Bibles purchased as they mature. This is a necessary expense. To gift them in this way is a beautiful and wise investment in eternity. 2. God speaks through Prayer – Just as we’ve already discussed in this episode, it is a privilege to pray for your children. Pray with them daily, for them daily, and encourage your children to speak to God on their own time and ask them to pray for you. 3. God speaks through the Holy Spirit – When your children come to know Christ as Savior, teach them to listen for indications that God is speaking to them. The Holy Spirit inside will speak through Scripture, people, church messages or programs, and feelings. Although feelings and emotions are not something to rely on, we can trust feelings that are within God’s character and in alignment with Scripture. God chooses to speak in multiple ways and we must teach our children to be sensitive to how God directs them. Teach them to remember that God’s peace always accompanies His presence. 4. God speaks through Others – Surround yourself and your children with trusted and godly mentors and friends. Let them experience a Christian lifestyle that extends beyond your family. 5. God speaks through Nature – God intended us to enjoy and know His beautiful creations. Have you ever gone outside for a walk and felt the peace of God as you inhale fresh air, feel the sunshine, or simply relax? Being outdoors enjoying nature allows us to relax in ways not experienced indoors. Cultivate the talents of observation, drawing, singing, dancing, exercising, or whatever fits the unique characteristics of you and your children and experience them outdoors. Relaxing in God’s intended surroundings allows a new way to hear Him speak. 6. God speaks in the Morning – Scripture taught that Jesus sought God early in the morning. I never understood why that was important until I began doing the same consistently. There is a special communication when you seek the Lord early, intentionally, and consistently. As you place Him first, you hear His voice more clearly. Faith is grown by deepening our walk with Christ. The closer we grow to God, the nearer He draws to us. This truth is the same for your children. As our faith grows and our walk with Christ matures, we are able to hear His voice and mentor the way for our children to do the same. Dear Heavenly Father, Your Word speaks truth. We thank You for Your Son and for Your perfect peace and protection. We thank You for Your constant care and guidance. Help us to draw nearer to You daily and show our children how to do the same. Teach us to cast our own cares on You so You will sustain and mature us so that we will mentor You to our children in ways that please and honor you and draw our children ever nearer to You day by day. Let them never be shaken and help them to always look to Your perfect wisdom and instruction. Help them clearly hear Your righteous voice and obey You as they rest in Your peace that passes understanding. Help us to mentor the way to You and clearly teach the way for them to hear You speak to their heart and mind. May our relationship with You draw them nearer to You and to us. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” podcast. This and my “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, iHeart Radio, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts may also now be found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? Did you know that when you review my podcasts on Apple, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcasts online so that more people are allowed to find and hear them. Will you please take a moment to follow the shows and think of someone you can share the podcasts with and encourage them to follow and share, as well? Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway them away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Parent and Connect With Eternal Perspective. Previous Next

Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #068 – In Pursuit of Godly Truth – Interview with Professor William Wagner - Part 1 Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Colossians 1:10 says, “So that you may walk in a manner worthy of the Lord and may please Him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God.” As I have been obedient in producing this podcast, God has been faithful, going ahead of me in every way. One of the stirrings He has placed in my heart is the desire to enable others to want and know Him more so that we may all deepen and mature our walk with Jesus, striving to live a life worthy of the gift God offers us through Jesus. In order to please according to His ways, we must live with an eternal perspective that draws us to follow Him moment by moment. I believe God has blessed us today with an interview that will shift perspectives of those listening or spur us into more action so that we may each hear and show Him more clearly. Whether you are living in the United States, or as some of my listeners, in other countries, what ties us together is our bond in Christ, the author and definer of truth. As you listen to this interview with Professor William Wagner, the President of Salt and Light Global, an international ministry preserving and shining truth in the culture, pray for God to expose areas of your life in which you can allow God more freedom to complete His good work in and through you. It takes each of us to stand firmly for the salt and light only Jesus offers. He loves each person, each country, and each soul in our world. He will not forsake us, yet we cannot ignore Him or the work He calls us to allow Him to complete through us. Professor William Wagner holds the academic rank of Distinguished Professor Emeritus. Prior to joining academia, he served with distinction in all three branches of the federal government, including as a federal judge. Professor Wagner knows what he is discussing, but most of all, loves the Lord and strives to honor, obey, and please Him. I pray you hear God’s voice speaking to you as you listen. _____________________ Interview with Professor Wagner _________________ Have you enjoyed the interview so far? I respect the passion and determination God has gifted to Professor Wagner. I split this conversation with Professor Wagner into two episodes because the material is bold and relevant to the culture our world is facing. I pray each of us ponder what was heard today and allow God to stir areas of our hearts where we may be clinging to selfishness or ignorance and prayerfully ask God to expose where we need to shift into action for Him. Are we walking worthy of the manner to which we have been called? Father God, you alone are holy. You are worthy. Please humble our hearts to allow Your work in and through us. You are in Your holy temple, seated on Your holy throne, yet Your eyes roam the earth, they watch us closely as You examine us, the sons of men. I know we are far from You and Your desires for us. May we seek You more humbly and serve You with greater passion as we allow what we learn in Your word, through prayer time with You and through conversations such as the one we have heard today and will complete next week. Show each of us where we need to change and what we need to do to allow our world to be holy as You are holy, and worthy as You desire us to be. Enable us to step out in faith, regardless of fear, and help us to be obedient in every way You call for us. Keep our eyes, heart, and mind centered on You. In Your holy and precious name we humbly pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. I encourage you to listen to the podcast next week as I finish my conversation with Professor Wagner. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 068 In Pursuit of Godly Truth - Interview with Professor William Wagner - Part 1 Listen to Episode Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #068 – In Pursuit of Godly Truth – Interview with Professor William Wagner - Part 1 Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Colossians 1:10 says, “So that you may walk in a manner worthy of the Lord and may please Him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God.” As I have been obedient in producing this podcast, God has been faithful, going ahead of me in every way. One of the stirrings He has placed in my heart is the desire to enable others to want and know Him more so that we may all deepen and mature our walk with Jesus, striving to live a life worthy of the gift God offers us through Jesus. In order to please according to His ways, we must live with an eternal perspective that draws us to follow Him moment by moment. I believe God has blessed us today with an interview that will shift perspectives of those listening or spur us into more action so that we may each hear and show Him more clearly. Whether you are living in the United States, or as some of my listeners, in other countries, what ties us together is our bond in Christ, the author and definer of truth. As you listen to this interview with Professor William Wagner, the President of Salt and Light Global, an international ministry preserving and shining truth in the culture, pray for God to expose areas of your life in which you can allow God more freedom to complete His good work in and through you. It takes each of us to stand firmly for the salt and light only Jesus offers. He loves each person, each country, and each soul in our world. He will not forsake us, yet we cannot ignore Him or the work He calls us to allow Him to complete through us. Professor William Wagner holds the academic rank of Distinguished Professor Emeritus. Prior to joining academia, he served with distinction in all three branches of the federal government, including as a federal judge. Professor Wagner knows what he is discussing, but most of all, loves the Lord and strives to honor, obey, and please Him. I pray you hear God’s voice speaking to you as you listen. _____________________ Interview with Professor Wagner _________________ Have you enjoyed the interview so far? I respect the passion and determination God has gifted to Professor Wagner. I split this conversation with Professor Wagner into two episodes because the material is bold and relevant to the culture our world is facing. I pray each of us ponder what was heard today and allow God to stir areas of our hearts where we may be clinging to selfishness or ignorance and prayerfully ask God to expose where we need to shift into action for Him. Are we walking worthy of the manner to which we have been called? Father God, you alone are holy. You are worthy. Please humble our hearts to allow Your work in and through us. You are in Your holy temple, seated on Your holy throne, yet Your eyes roam the earth, they watch us closely as You examine us, the sons of men. I know we are far from You and Your desires for us. May we seek You more humbly and serve You with greater passion as we allow what we learn in Your word, through prayer time with You and through conversations such as the one we have heard today and will complete next week. Show each of us where we need to change and what we need to do to allow our world to be holy as You are holy, and worthy as You desire us to be. Enable us to step out in faith, regardless of fear, and help us to be obedient in every way You call for us. Keep our eyes, heart, and mind centered on You. In Your holy and precious name we humbly pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. I encourage you to listen to the podcast next week as I finish my conversation with Professor Wagner. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Professor William Wagner holds the academic rank of Distinguished Professor Emeritus. Prior to joining academia, he served with distinction in all three branches of the federal government, including as a federal judge. https://www.facebook.com/SaltLightGlobal/ https://www.slgwitness.com/

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 126 - How to Avoid Tantrums Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 126 – How to Avoid Tantrums Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom so you can BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you’ll be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episodes, would you please share this episode or others with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, and leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast. When you do, you’re helping affect generations for Jesus. Now on to this episode that makes us consider an important question… do you know how to avoid tantrums? Many parents have experienced being the center of attention with a child who decides to throw a tantrum while out shopping or at an event. While this isn’t an unusual event, when it happens, the situation makes you feel like the only person this has ever happened to. You feel like every other parent present is focused on you, your parenting skills, and your reaction. It’s easy to convince yourself that they’re already judging your skills. I always thought I was such a good mom with my first two kids because I never experienced this happening to me. That was before my third daughter let me know “good” parenting wasn’t enough. Her behavior at the mall one afternoon forced me to make an assessment about what I had done to let her down. How could I have better prepared both of us so that she didn’t have to feel so out of control that she threw a fit at the mall? Just like adults, children have a tipping point. How many times have you put up with being over-tired, but you pressed on? Or maybe you had to go to an event you weren’t thrilled about, and your attitude wasn’t the best, but you went anyway. Perhaps you had to run a last minute errand you weren’t physically, mentally, or emotionally prepared to complete, but there wasn’t a way to get out of it. Life feels like this for children, too. Except they usually don’t have a say in what we spring on them. During the time my daughter had her tantrum at the mall we were going through very difficult times with extended family. My daughter was young and didn’t have the ability to let me know her thoughts and emotions. All I wanted was to go to the mall for a while and not have to think about anything. I wanted to let my little girl play in the toddler area and just let her have fun. I wanted to feel like I was living a normal life doing a normal activity. I thought going to the mall, walking around to window shop and seeing people, then letting her play would be relaxing for both of us. I thought afterwards we’d go home for lunch and she’d take a nap. Do you notice how many “I” statements are here? Did you catch that I had personal expectations for the day? I’d been going through a lot, which meant my child had also experienced disruption from our normal routine. Although she seemed to be doing fine, and I knew she liked going to the mall and riding in the stroller, as well as playing in the children’s area, I wasn’t paying attention to subtle clues that would have alerted me that she was low on her emotional charge, as well. On that particular day when we arrived at the play area, I released my daughter from the confines of the stroller and sat near her, watching her play. My outgoing toddler loved watching the older kids, and was great at playtime alone, as well as with strangers. Happily alternately interacting with others and playing alone, she moved about with a huge smile shining from her face and eyes. Until it was time to leave. Because I wasn’t paying attention to her cues and I didn’t exercise parenting wisdom, I didn’t give enough transition time before rounding her up to go home. From the first slip of one of her legs into the stroller, she let out loud squeals of disagreement. Nothing would dissuade her as her volume continued to increase. With what felt like all eyes on me, I hurried from the area. When attempting to talk to my daughter didn’t work because by then she was too upset and loud to hear me and her eyes were squeezed shut as she screamed, I stepped up my pace like I was in a marathon and hightailed it to the parking lot. Still howling as I struggled to put her in the car seat, my daughter’s cries had me worried someone was going to confront me. Would they think I was kidnapping her? Oh, I just wanted to get home. This was not a normal reaction for my girl. My toddler obviously had strong feelings she didn’t know how to express. She was too young to verbalize her emotions or thoughts, except through the now high-pitched screams she couldn’t stop. Because there had been a lot of disruptions in her daily schedule recently, she was over-stimulated and now totally exhausted. I’d been thinking of what I needed and missed the fact that we should have stayed home that day. Instead of going out, being at home together with a relaxed day where I gave myself permission to do nothing but play and spend quiet time with my daughter would have been the best course of action to rejuvenate our spirit, mind, and connection with each other. Have you ever made choices that you wish you could change? That was me that day. All I wanted was a relaxing day, but instead of looking for cues from my child, and using God-given wisdom, I forged ahead with what I thought would be fun for both of us without really paying attention to the fact that we were both already overburdened and overstimulated. I’m not saying I should have let her have her way when she started throwing a fit. But chances are very high that there never would have been a fit if I had been more considerate of our schedules and the fact that we both needed down time. Because it’s very important that we become observant mothers, here are some tips that you can remember if you find yourself in a similar position. Here are a few ways to prepare to avoid tantrums: 1. Use Wisdom in Judgement – Is it a good idea to go out? What has life been like recently? Maybe you’ve had too much going on like we did. Maybe you’ve been cooped up and need a break outside the home. Is it best to be in nature or to go to an activity? 2. Inform Your Child – Set expectations. Let your child know (in an age-appropriate version) what you’re doing. For example, tell a toddler, “We’re going to the mall. We’ll play and then come home.” When you’re an observant parent and you pay attention to needs (for both of you), and set expectations consistently, your child will get used to doing what you say because you do what you say. In hindsight, I wish I had driven to a far corner of the mall parking lot and held my daughter for a bit before attempting to drive home. I could have rocked and soothed her instead of just going home. Because I was concerned that someone would stop us and accuse me of kidnapping since I’m Caucasian and she’s Asian, I just wanted to hurry home. Another aspect of setting expectations allows you to transition your child to leave when it’s time to go home. Instead of giving her proper notice through a count down, I shortened our departure and only told her once. Children like to feel in control, especially when things have felt out of control. My daughter was enjoying her time and would have responded much differently if I had handled departure better with a count down. 3. Be Armed With Necessities – When my girls were young, I always carried water and snacks. A hungry, dehydrated, or tired child needs a pick-me-up and you want it on hand before they have time for behavior to spiral. Even adults have a change in temperament when they’re tired, hungry, or thirsty. Let’s give consideration to our children to help them grow and learn sensible habits. 4. Keep Your Child Involved – I consider this letting them know what the plans are in advance, and reminding as needed. This also applies to that transition time I mentioned. No one likes to simply be pulled out of a good time. Respect your child while remaining in authority and they will better respect you in return because you set them up for success and connection. Now, what happens if things fall short of your expectations or hopes and a tantrum occurs: 1. Be Relaxed, Calm, and In Control – Breathe and pray. Ask God to keep you calm. Ask Him to guide you in next steps. Instead of focusing on what people might think of you, ask for guidance from the expert on your child. 2. Pretend You’re Alone With Your Child (Forget Watching Eyes/Listening Ears) – When you’re at home you don’t worry about listening ears or watchful eyes. Simply climb into God’s arms and ask Him to guide and carry you and your child. 3. It’s Not the End of the World – Even though it feels like it! What can you learn from the experience? What could you have done better? What can you change for the next time you’re in a similar situation? Would you change anything you did this time? Where do you need to focus on yourself or your child to better strengthen certain areas to grow character, obedience, and connection? 4. Are You Parenting the Heart or the Behavior – When troubling times or pressures arise with your child, it’s so easy to want to stop the behavior, especially when you feel like you’re being watched and judged. But the most important task you have as a parent is to bring your child to the heart and feet of Christ. The only way you can do that is by discipling their heart, not focusing on changing behavior. Once the heart knows and obeys Jesus, He will change the heart. Remember this as your top goal each day as you parent, whether it’s during challenging times or moments of ease. Remember these verses as you adjust your parenting techniques and live and learn from the Lord. Colossians 3:21 says, “Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged .” Hebrews 12:11 says, “For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. ” Proverbs 29:17 says, “Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart. ” If you want more on disciplining, be sure to listen to the Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episode 117 – “Should Kids Be Spanked?” Dear Heavenly Father, how great You are. How we need Your perfect presence in our lives. Thank you for making a way for us to parent Your children. Thank you for guiding and guarding our steps as parents if we only rest and abide in Your arms and ask You to show us the way. Please show us the way to reach the hearts of our children for Christ. Help us draw so near to You that they cannot help but find You. Equip us to know how to parent in ways that honor You and the unique children You have entrusted to our care. Help us parent in ways that set our children up for success and strengthen their connection with us so tantrums aren’t a concern. Please help us be pleasing to You. Make us a sweet joy in Your eyes just as I pray our children will be to You and us. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. If you’re ready to become the godly mom God entrusts you to be for Him and His children, you’ll love my free “Good to Godly: A 31-Day Scripture and Prayer Guide for Moms.” Visit terrihitt.com to receive this resource. You are the first Jesus your child will see. Your relationship with Christ is the light that shines Him to your children. If you want a connected relationship with Jesus and your children that leads them to your side and His feet, instead of them seeking validation from peers, my Set-Apart Collective program can show you how to reflect Christ in a way that attracts your family to a connected relationship that lasts into eternity. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will arm you with a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You’ll also deepen your identity in Christ so you can mentor the way for your children to do the same. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family and you will have the tools to raise set apart kids as you parent the heart, not simply the behavior. If you’re the mom of an adult child and in need of strengthening connection with them, you can also visit terrihitt.com/coaching and click the link for a free, no obligation conversation call with me. This is a strategic call where I will hear your biggest struggle and show you how to turn it into a blessing that will bring you closer to Christ and your children. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. Remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode 035 - Should Your Child's Conscience Be the Guide? Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #035 – Should Your Child’s Conscience Be the Guide? I did so many things I shouldn’t have done when I was a child. My goodness! I was very mature for my age and carried responsibilities I shouldn’t have had to shoulder, but when I look back at my largely unsupervised childhood, I see so many things I wish I had done differently. Yet I was just a child who didn’t know better. When I compare my childhood to the way I raised two sets of children, I see even more clearly how important it is for children to have supervision and direction as they grow up. Most importantly, godly instruction. If you are a working mom listening to this episode, I ask you to prayerfully consider the type of care your children receive while you are away. I promise this is not intended to make you feel guilty or cause turmoil in your life. I worked outside the home when I raised my first set of children. However, I do want to caution you to be proactive and consider that children are just that – kids. They need godly adult guidance to show them the way to act and respond and to keep them protected. So many things happen when adults aren’t around to supervise and guide decisions children are faced with. When I was growing up in the 60’s and 70’s, the world was considered a lot safer than it is now. The world wasn’t accessible through a keyboard or phone. We were able to play outside all day without parents worrying unless we didn’t come in by dark. There weren’t sexualized pressures like today and generally speaking, most children were free to be kids who followed imagination and adventure. Some of my best memories are highlighted by time spent outside riding my bicycle, playing in the woods, creating forts and clubs, and using creativity. By the time I began raising my first two children, the world had changed some, but children could still play outside for hours without anyone thinking something had happened to them. The personal computer was introduced into homes during their lifetime, but it wasn’t as easily accessed as it is today. Their lives were affected by the internet, but not during younger years. Now that I am raising my second set of children, everything has changed. My children didn’t grow up with the freedom to roam outdoors for hours. We’ve certainly discovered the dangers of internet accessibility. All children can be very easily influenced by many forms of media and advertisers. Even though my last two have been homeschooled, interactions through activities, events, jobs, and friends still allow the dangers of the 21stcentury to penetrate the walls of our home. It’s called life. We can’t keep the wolf from roaming the world, but as parents, we can work to keep it from harming our children. All this is to say that children are influenced by a multitude of means. Each time one of them penetrates their mind and heart, it shapes thoughts, actions, reactions, words, feelings, and emotions. Many people use these feelings or instincts formed by experiences and emotions to guide them through what they call their conscience. The dictionary defines conscience as “an inward sensibility of wrongdoing .” I do believe that God places a special knowledge of Himself within us, and we will talk more about that, but without directly seeking Christ and following God to discover Him, His will and ways, and His desires for them, your children will freely choose to follow the world that directly affects them. The world, or culture, and the distractions, influences, deceit, and sins will be what shapes your child the most. Romans 9:1 says, “I am speaking the truth in Christ—I am not lying; my conscience bears me witness in the Holy Spirit -.” Human beings are created with an instinctive knowledge of right and wrong. That inner sense, however, might produce a sense of wrong at first, but if left ignored, becomes quieter until it is imperceptible. What people experience or feel in this world shapes and deceives. Even when one listens to the inner warning of guilt or conviction, our minds are bombarded with so much garbage, so many deceitful images and messages that we must always measure what we feel against Scripture, which is God’s truth. This is what you must teach your child to do. Romans 1:18-21 says, “For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth. For what can be known about God is plain to them, because God has shown it to them . For His invisible attributes, namely, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived, ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made. So they are without excuse. For although they knew God, they did not honor Him as God or give thanks to Him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened .” In this passage we see that God has sovereignly and mercifully ingrained proof of His existence in each human being. As the verse says, “what can be known about God is plain to them, because God has shown it to them .” Whether or not each person acknowledges what God has implanted is free will and choice, also given by God. Every person, which includes your children, have knowledge of God alive inside them. They may not recognize that what they hear or feel is from and of God, yet He is made manifest to them. Some call this inner sense their conscience, yet whoever does not acknowledge, accept, and act in obedience to God is addressed in the following passage of verses. Romans 1:28-32 says, “And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done . They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, maliciousness. They are gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless. Though they know God’s righteous decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who practice them .” As this passage shows, those who “did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done .” Although God places a sense of right and wrong within each person, they will not heed His warnings unless they submit to Him. Your child cannot make a lifetime of consistent choices to live in submission and obedience to God unless they decide to follow Christ in humble relationship. Then they will recognize Him because they know Him through His Word. In order for the conscience of your child to work as God has designed it to, you must intentionally mentor the heart and mind of your child to submit to Christ and follow God’s Holy Word. The Bible is the only source of truth and contains godly wisdom that builds holy strength reliant on Christ . Wisdom derived from the mind of your child (or any earthly wisdom) will be self-centered, limited to the wisdom of man (which is poisoned by unsanctified hearts), and led by the devil’s devices. What is the best way to ensure your child heeds the will of God and submits to His leadings? Relationship. With you and Christ. The time with your child is gifted by God with the purpose of making Him known to your child. Daily, loving instruction and mentorship as your child sees you live a life devoted and submitted to following the voice and Word of God, and Bible study and prayer with your child in the home are key. Your lifestyle and walk with Christ are what will impact your child the most. Your training and mentorship must be purposed and consistent . Do not simply rely on church or youth groups to build the foundation you are privileged to supervise as a blessing from God. Romans 2:12-16 says, “For all who have sinned without the law will also perish without the law, and all who have sinned under the law will be judged by the law. For it is not the hearers of the law who are righteous before God, but the doers of the law who will be justified. For when Gentiles, who do not have the law, by nature do what the law requires, they are a law to themselves, even though they do not have the law. They show that the work of the law is written on their hearts, while their conscience also bears witness, and their conflicting thoughts accuse or even excuse them on that day when, according to my gospel, God judges the secrets of men by Christ Jesus .” Don’t let the childhood of your children be wasted by following the world. View your time with them with a holy reverence. If your children are already older and you fear time is short because they aren’t walking with the Lord, do not give up. It’s never too late to influence your child for Christ. Your godly lifestyle may not be evident to them quickly, but you may still remain prayerful for them and continue to show them Christ at work within you. Dear Heavenly Father, we are nothing without You. May you fill us more completely each day. Enable us to continue to submit to Your callings, Your truths, Your Words, and Your desires. Please allow our children to see You clearly through us and correct mistakes we have made so that our children see, trust, and pursue You with gladness and humility. Help them to listen to Your voice in this noisy world and never let a conscience altered by the deceit of this world to guide them. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” podcast. 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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live with Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #045 – Handling Hardships Today is a slight deviation from our regular podcast routine. As this episode is released on Thanksgiving, I wish each of you a Happy Thanksgiving! If you are listening to this podcast later, which many of you will be, I hope your day was filled with blessings. As each of us know, life has no knowledge or respect for the day or time events occur. Holidays are no exception. So if you are struggling right now. I’m so sorry. I pray that God has you listening to this episode for a reason and that will find value and hope that encourages you to continue placing your sight and trust in Jesus. This podcast episode was produced at the very beginning of the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast. For some odd technical reason, the episode got lost. Although it was uploaded to the site, something I cannot explain happened, and it did not show as available for listeners to hear. I believe in God’s perfect timing, so I know someone must need His hope and these words right now. Let’s listen to the episode now. Thank you for entrusting and investing part of your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. At the time I am working on this podcast, several of my friends are experiencing hardships in their life. One will celebrate her first Christmas without her beloved husband; one celebrates her first Christmas without a beloved son; one just lost two family members and has another in the hospital. Others have children in the hospital. Many people I know are fighting battles in this world. Adversity has no schedule. Trials don’t respect holidays, busy lives, or people. Death and affliction sometimes seem to happen randomly, but as believers, we know that God is never surprised. Everything that happens to believers has already been sifted through His sovereign hands. He is with us through every storm, waiting to carry us through. Ten years ago, I lost my oldest daughter, Jaime. My family entered a season of what felt like destruction. The years between 2009 and 2015 were brutal to live through. After walking through the loss of my child, attention had to be shifted to my parents. My mother suffered from Alzheimer’s and my father, sister, and I made the very difficult decision to move her to a memory care unit. Multiple reasons prompted us to make that decision, but we certainly did not want her to feel abandoned or forgotten. My father, my sister, my daughter, Marissa (who was around five years old at the time), and I visited her daily. Marissa was at the facility so much that they allowed her to visit random residents in their rooms. It cheered each one of them, as well as the staff, to see her smiling face and hear the bubbly voice of a young child. Marissa also helped with crafts and the physical activity program in my mother’s unit. Although being around so much illness was often difficult at the time, in hindsight, God allowed the experiences to soften the heart of my daughter toward the elderly. Even now, she feels comfortable around older adults and enjoys conversing with them. After my mother had been living in the memory care facility for a while, my father began having significant symptoms in 2012 that finally prompted him to see a doctor. In January of 2013, he was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. At the time, they gave him one week to a year to live. While we had been seeing my mother every day and devoting large amounts of time to be with her and help with major decisions in her care, Marissa and I now had to divide my mother’s time and share it with my father. He got so sick that we had to lessen the time we spent with my mother considerably, although I still kept in close contact with her caregivers, and my sister was still visiting and helping with her care her as often as she could. Dad simply needed so much at that time. We took him to doctor appointments, helped with his medicine, finances, errands, and general understanding of his health. After he was rushed to the hospital in June, the doctors knew he would not be able to return home. When he regained enough strength by the end of the week to be released, the generous people at the facility my mother lived in tried to find him a room near her. He was moved there briefly, but since his insurance did not cover the facility, we had to find an alternative. Although he was stronger, he was still weak and needed special care, so his deepest wish to return home and drive his little truck around town would not come true. For several reasons, my father was not able to live with my sister or myself. The social worker at my mother’s facility found a nursing home near my father’s house that had an opening and he was moved there within the week. We now had our time split between two parents with high needs, who lived in two separate facilities. Spending almost every day battling emergencies with my father was extremely taxing. On top of that, managing cleaning out his house to donate and sell items to prepare his home for market, and helping with my managing my mother’s care and making time to see her, was exhausting and emotionally difficult. I was burdened by the fact that my young daughter was definitely not getting the time and attention she was accustomed to, or deserved. I was juggling too many things, as was my sister, and the needs of my precious daughter were being ignored. I continually prayed for God to sustain us through this storm. I remember one morning while Marissa was still sleeping, I was putting my makeup on when I received a phone call from the woman I had hired to hold an estate sale at my parent’s home. One of the employees she hired had sold their refrigerator the day before, but had not turned the water off when they pulled out the refrigerator. The house was flooded. Additional bad news came with that call as well, and when it was over, I was crushed. I knew God was with us. I had seen His hand working in so many precious ways through everything during the last four years, and I had tried through it all to remain optimistic and to notice and be thankful for the ways God was working, but in that moment, all I felt was defeat. I went to my closet, lay on the floor inside, and shut the door in case Marissa awakened. Then I began to cry. Hard. In defeat, I threw my feelings out to God. Then, my emotions surfaced; they were my subconscious reactions to everything that had been happening with my parents and family. I knew He already understood and was caring for all of my concerns, but I had to talk to Him. So much was intertwined in caring for both parents, and all the hurts and losses over the years had roots that were being exposed as the soil of my parent’s capabilities eroded. For example, as challenging as it was caring for my father, the blessing of loving him in his final days brought him to me in a new way. I knew God understood and I poured everything out in a jumble of words that only He could piece together into the masterpiece He would create through our distress. My father always told me how much he loved me as I grew up, but his actions didn’t always match his words. I had grown up wanting private time with him, but never got it. I longed for daddy/daughter dates, or even just his undivided attention without him racing off. Through caring for him, I found he was at my mercy. He had to spend time with me. He was so weak and was confined to a wheelchair, so I would take him on “dates” to the physical therapy room to find activities we could do together. Our options were limited, but the act of telling him we were on a date and moving him to a new location was therapy for my soul. One of my favorite activities was placing a bedside table between us and rolling a small ball across the top for him to bat back to me. Years of hurt and sorrow washed from my spirit each time we played. I was reminded of the numerous pleas I had cried to God for my earthly father during most of my life. My Heavenly Father was now answering in small, unexpected, but perfect ways tailored to my specific needs. 1 Peter 5:7 promises, “Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” I wondered if my father had always wanted more time together, too, but because of addiction and shame, had not been able to break the cycle of his life and make the changes he desired. I cherished the deeper talks we began having when he was sick and held them in my heart as I crawled into bed with my daddy on his weakest days, holding him close. I had become the parent, subtly interceding where I felt prompted by God. It enabled any residue of hurt to wash away just as Jesus had washed the feet of His disciples. I now understood sacrifice in a different way that I hoped began to resemble Jesus. Only God knows the purpose of suffering, but I believe our Heavenly Father loves each of His children and intertwines life scenarios for the good of all involved and for His eternal glory. I knew with a certainty that God was in control, that He would provide and care for my parents, as well as my family, but the process was still so hard! Dealing with so much at once, especially with both parents, took a lot of emotional, mental, physical, financial, and spiritual investment. I had tried to be very specific about releasing daily burdens to God and letting Him deal with all that was happening. I knew my relationship was strong, yet there were subtle ways I could see Satan creeping in to attempt to distract me. 1 Peter 5:8 warns us, “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experienced by your brotherhood in the world. But may the God of all grace, who called us to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you.” I had to purposely look for ways God was working in order to stretch my faith and allow it to penetrate my character more deeply. It was an absolutely intentional mindset, but if I hadn’t forced it, my family would have been devastated by the intense needs and demands pressed on us. While I was surrounded by pain, brokenness, and trials, my Savior called for me to release them to Him. As I placed them in His capable hands, intimate grains of hope and joy blossomed inside me and brought forth gratitude, not for the destruction in this world, but for the way He lifts us above earthly vision and draws us nearer to His eternal splendor. He is enough for our every need. Despite many ways that hardship was presented almost daily, God carried me as I clung to His word, mindful of His past faithfulness to me, especially during the loss of my oldest daughter. That combination enabled me to keep myself securely focused on Him. I didn’t want to underestimate the devil, but my relationship with Christ promised me that He was greater than Satan and already had the final victory. I didn’t know how long this battle would last, but I had to remain focused on and committed to the only One who could give me the endurance I would need. I certainly couldn’t find it in my own strength. I’m a very strong and logical person, but I can promise you that my family and I would not have made it through all that happened without God. I’m so thankful I already knew and trusted in Him. I’m also incredibly grateful that He used all of it to draw me nearer to Him and that He has been able to redeem and use all the bad residue from the hardships for His glory. Trials like the ones we experience through challenging times can make us doubt God. The question most people wonder is, “Why does He allow suffering?” My first response to that is always the beautiful reminder that Jesus cared enough to warn about persecution. In John 16:33b, Jesus says, “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world,” and in Romans 5:3-4, Paul speaks words meant to encourage and teach. “We also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Suffering should be expected in this fallen world. Sometimes, it is the catalyst that causes a person to finally release their life to Christ. Other times, it causes a believer to begin viewing affliction with the mindset of Christ. Suffering can purify our mind and heart, causing us to bow to God’s power and sovereignty. At times, however, it may feel as though we are being judged or punished when things are hard and afflictions continue. But if as a believer, we are living in upright ways, and are intentionally deepening our relationship with God, we can be assured that our suffering is a normal part of life and that it is within His will. That means God will use it for His purposes and glory, and not to harm or destroy us. The Bible is filled with examples of men and women who also lived in ways that God approved and disapproved of, and they also experienced distress and pain. Other times, God may allow affliction in our life as instruction or discipline. There are times that God permits it to prove our character and belief, or for the purpose of using what we endured to encourage or inspire others to continue looking to the Lord in their time of need. Other times, God simply allows it to teach us what we could not learn in any other way. Often times, it is for the purpose of erasing or preventing pride in our lives. I know in my life, I have lived through many lessons designed to craft patience. God also allows trials and hardship to teach us to obey Him. How astounding is it that God can use all of the various ways I mentioned (and I am sure even more) and tailor them so individually to each person and situation, yet also intertwine them with others, to change our focus and our future? Through scripture and life experience as believers, we know that God allows things to happen in a believer’s life for many reasons. Sometimes the only way we can grow in a particular area is because of – or by living through - the exact situation that occurred. Whether we endured it, helped a loved one through it, or were a witness to someone else fighting the battle, God knows exactly what to use. Isaiah 48:10 is telling, “See, I have refined you, though not as silver; I have tested you in the furnace of affliction.” Sometimes hardships need to knock us to our knees, and keep us there, as we learn to rely on and completely abide in Him. As believers, we must always remember that we are meant for more. In order to become more like Jesus, we must allow Him to refine us. Without the purification our souls need, our character will never reflect Christ to a world in need. Change can be painful. It’s not easy, it’s never convenient, and we aren’t able to see beyond our present discomfort to the glorious plan God has created and allowed us to be a part of. May we beg God to prevent us from falling into or remaining in a lukewarm relationship with Him, causing Him to vomit us from His mouth. May the trials we endure in our lives force us into His arms and deepen our faith roots in robust soil enriched with His plan for growth and nutrition. 1 Peter 2:21reminds us, “For to this you were called, because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that you should follow His steps.” Jesus is our example in every way. He told us there would be suffering and He modeled how to endure it. Jesus allowed God to direct His steps, His behavior, and His attitude, and His gratitude in every circumstance. This world is not our final destination. As we shift our minds to view every moment of life through an eternal lens, may we remember that we are being prepared for so much more and cling to the perfect example of Christ. Heavenly Father, may our eyes ever be lifted to You and our heart be intertwined with Your desires and ways. Help us humble ourselves under Your mighty hand and cast our cares upon You. Intertwine our daily life issues with Your good and for Your eternal glory. Help us be vigilant and steadfast in our faith through the good and bad, hard and easy. Help us to cling to, abide in, and rely on only You. Let us view our troubles through an eternal lens and remember that we are being prepared for much more with You. May we please You more and more each day. Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 045 Handling Hardships Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live with Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #045 – Handling Hardships Today is a slight deviation from our regular podcast routine. As this episode is released on Thanksgiving, I wish each of you a Happy Thanksgiving! If you are listening to this podcast later, which many of you will be, I hope your day was filled with blessings. As each of us know, life has no knowledge or respect for the day or time events occur. Holidays are no exception. So if you are struggling right now. I’m so sorry. I pray that God has you listening to this episode for a reason and that will find value and hope that encourages you to continue placing your sight and trust in Jesus. This podcast episode was produced at the very beginning of the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast. For some odd technical reason, the episode got lost. Although it was uploaded to the site, something I cannot explain happened, and it did not show as available for listeners to hear. I believe in God’s perfect timing, so I know someone must need His hope and these words right now. Let’s listen to the episode now. Thank you for entrusting and investing part of your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. At the time I am working on this podcast, several of my friends are experiencing hardships in their life. One will celebrate her first Christmas without her beloved husband; one celebrates her first Christmas without a beloved son; one just lost two family members and has another in the hospital. Others have children in the hospital. Many people I know are fighting battles in this world. Adversity has no schedule. Trials don’t respect holidays, busy lives, or people. Death and affliction sometimes seem to happen randomly, but as believers, we know that God is never surprised. Everything that happens to believers has already been sifted through His sovereign hands. He is with us through every storm, waiting to carry us through. Ten years ago, I lost my oldest daughter, Jaime. My family entered a season of what felt like destruction. The years between 2009 and 2015 were brutal to live through. After walking through the loss of my child, attention had to be shifted to my parents. My mother suffered from Alzheimer’s and my father, sister, and I made the very difficult decision to move her to a memory care unit. Multiple reasons prompted us to make that decision, but we certainly did not want her to feel abandoned or forgotten. My father, my sister, my daughter, Marissa (who was around five years old at the time), and I visited her daily. Marissa was at the facility so much that they allowed her to visit random residents in their rooms. It cheered each one of them, as well as the staff, to see her smiling face and hear the bubbly voice of a young child. Marissa also helped with crafts and the physical activity program in my mother’s unit. Although being around so much illness was often difficult at the time, in hindsight, God allowed the experiences to soften the heart of my daughter toward the elderly. Even now, she feels comfortable around older adults and enjoys conversing with them. After my mother had been living in the memory care facility for a while, my father began having significant symptoms in 2012 that finally prompted him to see a doctor. In January of 2013, he was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. At the time, they gave him one week to a year to live. While we had been seeing my mother every day and devoting large amounts of time to be with her and help with major decisions in her care, Marissa and I now had to divide my mother’s time and share it with my father. He got so sick that we had to lessen the time we spent with my mother considerably, although I still kept in close contact with her caregivers, and my sister was still visiting and helping with her care her as often as she could. Dad simply needed so much at that time. We took him to doctor appointments, helped with his medicine, finances, errands, and general understanding of his health. After he was rushed to the hospital in June, the doctors knew he would not be able to return home. When he regained enough strength by the end of the week to be released, the generous people at the facility my mother lived in tried to find him a room near her. He was moved there briefly, but since his insurance did not cover the facility, we had to find an alternative. Although he was stronger, he was still weak and needed special care, so his deepest wish to return home and drive his little truck around town would not come true. For several reasons, my father was not able to live with my sister or myself. The social worker at my mother’s facility found a nursing home near my father’s house that had an opening and he was moved there within the week. We now had our time split between two parents with high needs, who lived in two separate facilities. Spending almost every day battling emergencies with my father was extremely taxing. On top of that, managing cleaning out his house to donate and sell items to prepare his home for market, and helping with my managing my mother’s care and making time to see her, was exhausting and emotionally difficult. I was burdened by the fact that my young daughter was definitely not getting the time and attention she was accustomed to, or deserved. I was juggling too many things, as was my sister, and the needs of my precious daughter were being ignored. I continually prayed for God to sustain us through this storm. I remember one morning while Marissa was still sleeping, I was putting my makeup on when I received a phone call from the woman I had hired to hold an estate sale at my parent’s home. One of the employees she hired had sold their refrigerator the day before, but had not turned the water off when they pulled out the refrigerator. The house was flooded. Additional bad news came with that call as well, and when it was over, I was crushed. I knew God was with us. I had seen His hand working in so many precious ways through everything during the last four years, and I had tried through it all to remain optimistic and to notice and be thankful for the ways God was working, but in that moment, all I felt was defeat. I went to my closet, lay on the floor inside, and shut the door in case Marissa awakened. Then I began to cry. Hard. In defeat, I threw my feelings out to God. Then, my emotions surfaced; they were my subconscious reactions to everything that had been happening with my parents and family. I knew He already understood and was caring for all of my concerns, but I had to talk to Him. So much was intertwined in caring for both parents, and all the hurts and losses over the years had roots that were being exposed as the soil of my parent’s capabilities eroded. For example, as challenging as it was caring for my father, the blessing of loving him in his final days brought him to me in a new way. I knew God understood and I poured everything out in a jumble of words that only He could piece together into the masterpiece He would create through our distress. My father always told me how much he loved me as I grew up, but his actions didn’t always match his words. I had grown up wanting private time with him, but never got it. I longed for daddy/daughter dates, or even just his undivided attention without him racing off. Through caring for him, I found he was at my mercy. He had to spend time with me. He was so weak and was confined to a wheelchair, so I would take him on “dates” to the physical therapy room to find activities we could do together. Our options were limited, but the act of telling him we were on a date and moving him to a new location was therapy for my soul. One of my favorite activities was placing a bedside table between us and rolling a small ball across the top for him to bat back to me. Years of hurt and sorrow washed from my spirit each time we played. I was reminded of the numerous pleas I had cried to God for my earthly father during most of my life. My Heavenly Father was now answering in small, unexpected, but perfect ways tailored to my specific needs. 1 Peter 5:7 promises, “Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” I wondered if my father had always wanted more time together, too, but because of addiction and shame, had not been able to break the cycle of his life and make the changes he desired. I cherished the deeper talks we began having when he was sick and held them in my heart as I crawled into bed with my daddy on his weakest days, holding him close. I had become the parent, subtly interceding where I felt prompted by God. It enabled any residue of hurt to wash away just as Jesus had washed the feet of His disciples. I now understood sacrifice in a different way that I hoped began to resemble Jesus. Only God knows the purpose of suffering, but I believe our Heavenly Father loves each of His children and intertwines life scenarios for the good of all involved and for His eternal glory. I knew with a certainty that God was in control, that He would provide and care for my parents, as well as my family, but the process was still so hard! Dealing with so much at once, especially with both parents, took a lot of emotional, mental, physical, financial, and spiritual investment. I had tried to be very specific about releasing daily burdens to God and letting Him deal with all that was happening. I knew my relationship was strong, yet there were subtle ways I could see Satan creeping in to attempt to distract me. 1 Peter 5:8 warns us, “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experienced by your brotherhood in the world. But may the God of all grace, who called us to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you.” I had to purposely look for ways God was working in order to stretch my faith and allow it to penetrate my character more deeply. It was an absolutely intentional mindset, but if I hadn’t forced it, my family would have been devastated by the intense needs and demands pressed on us. While I was surrounded by pain, brokenness, and trials, my Savior called for me to release them to Him. As I placed them in His capable hands, intimate grains of hope and joy blossomed inside me and brought forth gratitude, not for the destruction in this world, but for the way He lifts us above earthly vision and draws us nearer to His eternal splendor. He is enough for our every need. Despite many ways that hardship was presented almost daily, God carried me as I clung to His word, mindful of His past faithfulness to me, especially during the loss of my oldest daughter. That combination enabled me to keep myself securely focused on Him. I didn’t want to underestimate the devil, but my relationship with Christ promised me that He was greater than Satan and already had the final victory. I didn’t know how long this battle would last, but I had to remain focused on and committed to the only One who could give me the endurance I would need. I certainly couldn’t find it in my own strength. I’m a very strong and logical person, but I can promise you that my family and I would not have made it through all that happened without God. I’m so thankful I already knew and trusted in Him. I’m also incredibly grateful that He used all of it to draw me nearer to Him and that He has been able to redeem and use all the bad residue from the hardships for His glory. Trials like the ones we experience through challenging times can make us doubt God. The question most people wonder is, “Why does He allow suffering?” My first response to that is always the beautiful reminder that Jesus cared enough to warn about persecution. In John 16:33b, Jesus says, “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world,” and in Romans 5:3-4, Paul speaks words meant to encourage and teach. “We also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Suffering should be expected in this fallen world. Sometimes, it is the catalyst that causes a person to finally release their life to Christ. Other times, it causes a believer to begin viewing affliction with the mindset of Christ. Suffering can purify our mind and heart, causing us to bow to God’s power and sovereignty. At times, however, it may feel as though we are being judged or punished when things are hard and afflictions continue. But if as a believer, we are living in upright ways, and are intentionally deepening our relationship with God, we can be assured that our suffering is a normal part of life and that it is within His will. That means God will use it for His purposes and glory, and not to harm or destroy us. The Bible is filled with examples of men and women who also lived in ways that God approved and disapproved of, and they also experienced distress and pain. Other times, God may allow affliction in our life as instruction or discipline. There are times that God permits it to prove our character and belief, or for the purpose of using what we endured to encourage or inspire others to continue looking to the Lord in their time of need. Other times, God simply allows it to teach us what we could not learn in any other way. Often times, it is for the purpose of erasing or preventing pride in our lives. I know in my life, I have lived through many lessons designed to craft patience. God also allows trials and hardship to teach us to obey Him. How astounding is it that God can use all of the various ways I mentioned (and I am sure even more) and tailor them so individually to each person and situation, yet also intertwine them with others, to change our focus and our future? Through scripture and life experience as believers, we know that God allows things to happen in a believer’s life for many reasons. Sometimes the only way we can grow in a particular area is because of – or by living through - the exact situation that occurred. Whether we endured it, helped a loved one through it, or were a witness to someone else fighting the battle, God knows exactly what to use. Isaiah 48:10 is telling, “See, I have refined you, though not as silver; I have tested you in the furnace of affliction.” Sometimes hardships need to knock us to our knees, and keep us there, as we learn to rely on and completely abide in Him. As believers, we must always remember that we are meant for more. In order to become more like Jesus, we must allow Him to refine us. Without the purification our souls need, our character will never reflect Christ to a world in need. Change can be painful. It’s not easy, it’s never convenient, and we aren’t able to see beyond our present discomfort to the glorious plan God has created and allowed us to be a part of. May we beg God to prevent us from falling into or remaining in a lukewarm relationship with Him, causing Him to vomit us from His mouth. May the trials we endure in our lives force us into His arms and deepen our faith roots in robust soil enriched with His plan for growth and nutrition. 1 Peter 2:21reminds us, “For to this you were called, because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that you should follow His steps.” Jesus is our example in every way. He told us there would be suffering and He modeled how to endure it. Jesus allowed God to direct His steps, His behavior, and His attitude, and His gratitude in every circumstance. This world is not our final destination. As we shift our minds to view every moment of life through an eternal lens, may we remember that we are being prepared for so much more and cling to the perfect example of Christ. Heavenly Father, may our eyes ever be lifted to You and our heart be intertwined with Your desires and ways. Help us humble ourselves under Your mighty hand and cast our cares upon You. Intertwine our daily life issues with Your good and for Your eternal glory. Help us be vigilant and steadfast in our faith through the good and bad, hard and easy. Help us to cling to, abide in, and rely on only You. Let us view our troubles through an eternal lens and remember that we are being prepared for much more with You. May we please You more and more each day. Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. 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< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 090 - How Christ Can Help You and Your Children Discover True Identity Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 090 – How Christ Can Help You and Your Children Discover True Identity Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast deepens your walk with Jesus and your children, equipping you to become a set-apart woman and mother. Today I’m sharing an older episode from my previous podcast, Live With Eternal Perspective. Because this episode is a hit with the ladies in my Set-Apart Collective when we study identity, I thought it would be beneficial to share it on the Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast. Here’s the episode: At a recent family gathering, I listened to my adult son share childhood recollections with my younger daughters and grandson. It was a pleasure to hear how he remembered events and what his opinions were. I’ve always been fascinated by how people can live the same experiences and have such different emotions and memories. Listening to his recollections and thoughts allowed me to know him in a new way and appreciate the unique ways God wired him to view and participate in life. So, we’re going to start with memories. Let’s relax and think back. Do you remember something about your childhood that was always a pleasure to do? I don’t mean something you had to do. Did you have an interest that stirred you, motivated you, or set you apart from others? A passion? Was there a gift or calling you had to pursue because it seemed to complete you? What about your child? Is there something she does that is a type of identity marker? When my middle daughter was young, there were two things anyone who knew her would mention if they spoke of her. Dance and painting. Those who know my youngest daughter well would say designing and building with Legos. My oldest daughter had such wit and a quick sense of humor. I am a believer that it is a privilege and responsibility for parents to observe the inclinations and interests our children have. There is a connection between youth and exploration into what we are naturally drawn to. Observant parents will pay attention to these clues, along with the personality of their child. Through prayer and connection to them, we should find joy in assisting them to find what brings light to their spirit and could also be a source of income in the future, as well as an offering they can use to honor God with what He has bestowed to them. My adult son uses skills God gave him to be able to listen well, read body language, and connect with people as he serves them in sales. My youngest daughter crafts intricate designs and constructs buildings and cities with Legos and also has an amazing ability to streamline processes. My middle daughter is gifted visually and artistically with graphic design and through the use of paper, paint, and a brush, brings light and joyful artwork to others. She sees the world through the eyes of an artist and everything is more beautiful because of her vision. One of the biggest parenting joys I have is seeing and recognizing the passions, interests, and abilities God has crafted into each one of my children. Do you find it easier to observe and understand the God-gifted abilities your children possess, but perhaps not what you have yourself? I know it is more challenging for me. Although I always understood what I enjoyed and where I found peace and motivation, I was never able to comfortably or confidently acknowledge that I might have a talent in writing. To be very raw, I still don’t see a great ability, but I am leaning on the trust I have in God and the stirrings He places in my heart to accomplish through Him. I trust God will equip me to humbly follow where He leads to write simply and honestly about Him. What many people find challenging is to balance finding gifts or passions and connecting those talents and interests to enable them to fully express and use them for God. Even more important than finding and using the gifts God has given is learning to see ourselves as God views us and to understand how to navigate life in this world as He desires and calls us to . God wants us to learn the Truths He says about us. His desire is that we mature our walk with Him through deep relationship with Christ. As we build our esteem and life around who He says we are and what we can do through Him we discover godly identity. Psalm 139:14 says, “I praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are Your works; my soul knows it very well .” If you don’t know who you are through Christ, you can’t model to your children where to find their identity. Instead, they will likely search and chase the culture and influences of this world. They’ll establish their identity based on who or what they see and hear the loudest. These days, by the time children are in middle school, and often grade school, many deal with suicide rates, nude photos, chat with dangerous strangers who attract and lead them away, and many have been exposed to pornography. These are topics we never want to hear associated with any person, let alone children. When a child (just like an adult), does not have a moral compass built on Christ, he is much more prone to seek whatever this world or his tell him . He will never find satisfaction or live with joy, hope, or peace. Matthew 6:33-34 says, “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own .” You must have a true and maturing relationship with God through Jesus in order to recognize the need for your child to have the same. Psalm 63:1 says, “O God, You are my God; I earnestly search for You. My soul thirsts for You; my whole body longs for You in this parched and weary land where there is no water .” We were created for beautiful fellowship and communion with God . Ecclesiastes 3:11 says, “Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end .” God created us to desire Him . When we don’t seek Him, our spirit is never satisfied. Our beloved children have the same need for God created in them . If you do not intentionally nurture and instruct your children in a healthy and growing relationship with Christ, they will subconsciously absorb and become what others in this world show and tell - to value and believe. They will also likely find unhealthy ways to cope with stresses and disappointments in life. On the other hand, children who are raised in healthy, God-filled environments at home contain more joy and contentment, and are more optimistic, encouraging, resilient, and flexible. They are also less likely to be promiscuous, use drugs or alcohol, or be lured into or tempted by unsafe encounters, and are closer to parents and family than the average child. Your children, when raised to honor and follow Jesus in a thriving relationship, are also more likely to have wise self-control, habits, and behaviors. They are also more likely to seek godly wisdom over worldly advice. A growing concern today is the sexual orientation of children. Our educational system, as well as books, movies, television shows, music, and celebrities, push a godless agenda of choice and change on our innocent and naïve children. When we raise our children to know, respect, and understand God’s sovereignty, values, and truths, they will understand their God-given sexual identity and carry a sacred view of life - while maintaining respectful tolerance for family and community, even those who carry differing opinions. Children patterning life after Jesus do not look down on others who disagree and can have a conversation without harsh accusations or anger. Instead, they show empathy and respect while allowing others to make personal choices. However, children raised to know God’s views and values respectfully ask God to guide their choices so that He is the one they please and honor. Children who concentrate on growing a relationship with God through Jesus have a deeper respect for authority, are more likely to uphold truthfulness and integrity, dress modestly, respect self, and learn to view set-backs or hardships as opportunities to grow closer to God. They also establish and reinforce healthy and thriving coping behaviors or life skills. It is essential that you build your personal relationship with Jesus moment by moment. When He is important to you, when you delight in Him, His teachings, and your walk with Him, your child will also begin to place importance on relationship with Christ. Once you are growing our faith journey in genuine and fruitful ways, how do you encourage and enable your child to build their identity in Christ? There are multiple ways, but I will list 13 easy methods to begin with. 1. Let your child see you build relationship , not watch you follow a religion . Connections are built through authenticity, joy , and commitment . 2. Share why you hold certain beliefs. Back up your faith with God’s word and stories of His faithfulness. 3. Look for, and point out God, in simple moments of life. Include Him in all you are and do. Nature walks, Bible stories, and tying Him to life events are all easy ways to begin. 4. Develop routines and traditions that guide the entire family to the Lord. Our family made a Family Vision and Mission Statement. You can listen the Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast episode 039 “Family With A Mission,” to hear more about it. It’s also a portion of my Set-Apart Collective. 5. Create your own Family Mission Statement together. Listen to the input of your child and incorporate it into the statement. 6. Read the Bible and pray together daily. I don’t mean rote prayers that you check off your list at the end of the day, but develop relationship with each other and God through prayer together. 7. Let your children see you read your Bible during personal time, as well. Encourage them to do the same. 8. Pray for your children alone, but also in front of them. Encourage them to pray for you, too. 9. Show your children how you look to God in times of trouble so that they will do the same. 10. Let your children see you praise God in good times, too. 11. Teach them (by example) how to serve and honor God. Let them come with you when you serve (where appropriate) and let them choose places to serve so that you can work together. 12. Spend time with your children doing their love language. Work with the schedule of your family to create moments your child will remember. When they are attached and feel close to you, they will be more willing to desire a relationship with God. You will also be able to guide them more easily, because they will let you be privy to thoughts and feelings since you have a strong relationship they trust. Your opinions and guidance will be more important than that of peers. 13. Listen to your child. When you share a close relationship, they will be more likely to entrust questions, fears, joys, and doubts about God with you so that you can help them navigate faith, pray specifically, and help them flourish. Two verses from Proverbs give great hope for parents. Proverbs 22:6 says, “Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.” Proverbs 29:17 says, “Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will bring you the delights you desire .” We cannot guarantee that our children will choose to follow Jesus, but we can ensure that we give them sincere, natural, positive, and faith-filled truths, experiences, and biblical scriptures to make Jesus known and to guide them straight to His feet. Godly character and integrity can be imparted to them through consistent, purposeful mentorship when we personally know, love, and strive to honor the Lord with our children. Then we prayerfully and consistently pursue Jesus in these ways over and over each day. Through easy and difficult times, through tears and smiles, we inhale Christ and exhale Him in beautiful ways moment by moment. Then we prayerfully and obediently trust God to do the work in their hearts. 1 Peter 5:2-3 says, “Be shepherds of God’s flock that is under your care, watching over them—not because you must, but because you are willing, as God wants you to be; not pursuing dishonest gain, but eager to serve; not lording it over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock .” What a purposed privilege to parent children for God. Lamentations 3:22-23 says, “Because of the LORD’s great love we are not consumed, for His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is Your faithfulness.” Remember, God did not allow you to parent His unique child because He knows you are fully equipped. God demands and desires that you trust in Him and allow Him to lead and equip you in every aspect of your parenting journey. Be on your knees daily with mind and heart turned to His every lead. God knows and understands everything about you and your child. He is the only one who can guide you in the ways you should go. He is fully equipped and able to handle every need that you, or your children, have. Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. ” One of my favorite parental instruction passages is Deuteronomy 6:6-9 , which says, “These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates .” God makes the holy importance of purposeful parenting for Him very clear. Psalm 78:1-7 says, “My people, hear my teaching; listen to the words of my mouth. I will open my mouth with a parable; I will utter hidden things, things from of old— things we have heard and known, things our ancestors have told us. We will not hide them from their descendants; we will tell the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the LORD, His power, and the wonders He has done. He decreed statutes for Jacob and established the law in Israel, which He commanded our ancestors to teach their children, so the next generation would know them, even the children yet to be born, and they in turn would tell their children. Then they would put their trust in God and would not forget His deeds but would keep His commands .” Jesus speaks the instruction so clearly in Matthew 19:14 . “But Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven .” Likewise, Mark 9:42 says, “Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to sin, it would be better for him if a great millstone were hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea.” Our glorious Father God, we need You so desperately. Thank you for Your guidance, love, and instruction. Parenting is the greatest and hardest joy You bestow on us. May we be more worthy of Your great gift because of our steadfast pursuit of You and our obedience to You. Help us understand Your desires and see the blessing of our children with Your loving eyes. Enable us to seek and find You in deeper ways daily and show us how to reach each child with Your heart and truths. May our children please and delight You, Father. May they find their identity through and in You. Keep them close and in Your perfect care. Give them Your wisdom and desires. May they be equipped and eager to show You, so that Your truths and commands will be known to, and followed by, future generations. In Your precious name we pray. Amen. I hope you enjoyed this episode from Live With Eternal Perspective. This is a sample portion of the coaching you receive in the Set-Apart Collective. Have you heard me talk about the Set-Apart Collective in this podcast? Do you wonder why I share it so often? It’s simply because I know the program works. If you’re ready to invest in the future of your children, contact me at info@terrihitt.com for more details or visit terrihitt.com/setapart. Because you are a podcast listener, let me know you heard about the special price I’m offering you. I deeply want you to experience results and live a set-apart life with a set-apart family. Instead of a $997 value, I’ll give you a discount code that enables you to pay only $247. If you are serious about parenting with eternal perspective and raising children to chase Christ over culture, I’m making this very affordable and easy to do. Why? Because supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. Godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will deepen your walk with Christ. You’ll learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family. Send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information or look online at terrihitt.com/setapart. We can also set up a no obligation, strategic 15 minute call to chat about your needs to see if the program is a right fit for you. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make your matter for eternity. If you connected in some way with this episode, would you please rate and review the podcast on Apple or Spotify? It only takes a minute or so and makes a big difference in people finding the podcast. You and I know that the best reviews are by word of mouth, so would you please choose a friend to recommend the show to? Let them know that the podcast is found at terrihitt.com, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify. Imagine the changes we will see in the way mothers parent for Christ if they learn to be intentional, too. Remember, if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection. Previous Next