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< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 084 - Prayer Basics You Need to Teach Your Children Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 084 – Prayer Basics You Need to Teach Your Children One of my favorite times is when I come before God at the end of each day with my husband and daughters to pray. This habit has created treasured memories and a time of special blessings in multiple ways. When I listen to my husband pray for me I feel such a deeper connection with him. It deepens my love for him even more. Listening to the sweet voices of my daughters lift praises and petitions to God fills me with such joy. Knowing that my daughters are growing up with a father who places God first and sets an example through prayer is a generational gift. Like believing moms should, you’re also probably teaching your children who God is, but are you teaching them how to pray ? Do they understand how to approach their Heavenly Father as they come into His presence? Are you mentoring a strong prayer life? One of the questions I’ve received the most as a Christian mindset and parenting coach is about prayer. How should mothers teach their children to pray? I appreciate this question. I believe it is a beautiful testament to the fact that these women love God and want to ensure that their children love and serve Him in a godly way. First, however, mothers need to understand the meaning and blessings of prayer and be ready to teach their children the art and gift of devotion to God through prayer. Prayer is a beautifully simple, yet complex act of love extended from God at great cost. Because of Christ, we can approach the throne of God with open communication. Jesus built a bridge that leads us straight to God. It’s vital that you understand the sacrifice and love that gives us opportunity for a strong prayer life. Utilizing this gift allows your children to witness your devotion to God. They are able to learn the great mercy and grace of God through you. Teaching your child how to pray is simple when you live with a prayerful attitude and lifestyle. As your children witness your devotion to and reverence for God, you will be able to build a firm foundation on which they will prayerfully build their house of faith. 1. Let your child witness your consistent prayer life. Let them see you pray, hear you pray for them, and hear you pray for others, the culture, your husband, your pastor, etc. 2. Let you children observe you stopping to pray for others when they talk to someone who needs prayer. 3. Teach your child the basics of prayer – which we will address in this podcast. 4. Grow your child’s prayer life as they mature. As you learn prayer basics, you will observe when it is time to teach them to deepen their prayer roots. 5. Begin when your children are babies. Clasp their tiny hands together as you place your hands over theirs. Start simple, “Dear God, you are so good! I love you. Thank you for my food. Amen.” As your children mature, teach them more about prayer. As you mentor how to craft prayers, teach them to cover these basics: respect God, praise God, submit to God, repent to God, petition God, rely on God, and thank God. There is so much to share about prayer. We could go through many episodes just on this subject. I think the best way to start today is by sharing two passages of Scripture. First, I’ll read from Luke 11. Luke 11:1-13 says, “One day Jesus was praying in a certain place. When He finished, one of His disciples said to Him, “Lord, teach us to pray, just as John taught his disciples.” He said to them, “When you pray, say: “‘Father, hallowed be Your name, Your kingdom come. Give us each day our daily bread. Forgive us our sins, for we also forgive everyone who sins against us. And lead us not into temptation.’ Then Jesus said to them, “Suppose you have a friend, and you go to him at midnight and say, ‘Friend, lend me three loaves of bread; a friend of mine on a journey has come to me, and I have no food to offer him.’ And suppose the one inside answers, ‘Don’t bother me. The door is already locked, and my children and I are in bed. I can’t get up and give you anything.’ I tell you, even though he will not get up and give you the bread because of friendship, yet because of your shameless audacity he will surely get up and give you as much as you need. “So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. “Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? If he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!” This short passage reveals much, but one very important point is that prayer is a two-fold matter of faith and obedience . We trust that God will fulfill His word. Even when it feels like He isn’t present, we trust that He is. We trust that He is listening and is actively working in ways we may not see or understand. As we persistently pursue Him and continue trusting in Him (while acting in obedience as we believe and wait), we proclaim our trust in Him as we also deepen our faith. We trust that whatever His answer or provision is, it is a perfectly timed and offered gift that will honor and glorify Him. It will give us exactly what He knows we need. It is what will help us to humbly submit and continue maturing our walk with Him. Another truth we receive from this passage is that there is absolutely nothing more important than resting in the presence of Jesus. Serving, sharing, and seeing Him are all distinct ways to honor Him, but the trust and worship we extend through resting with Him in prayer is unequaled. If we reflect on the words of Jesus as He instructed His disciples on the heart of prayer, we are able to clearly see He mentored 7 important points we can follow and teach to our children. 1. Approach God as Father - because He is the Great I Am. He may not be flesh and blood standing next to you where you can see Him, but He is beside, within, and before you. He is your Heavenly Father. This begins your prayer with deep respect for God. 2. Adore Him . He is your Creator, your Provider, your Comforter, and your Healer. He is holy. He is worthy to be praised! Hallowed be His name. This offers praise to our Great I Am. 3. Allow His authority and His will to reign in your heart, mind, and attitude. As Jesus said, “Thy will be done.” God desires that we submit to Him in all things. 4. Admit that He is sovereign , and you are a sinner. Repent and restore your walk with God. 5. Accept God’s ability to provide . Believe that He will. As you petition God, trust and wait for Him. 6. Abundant strength against temptation is your protection if you remain rooted in Him. God is sufficient for your every need. Armor is His specialty . God is your Shield, your Protector. Revel in the beauty of relationship with and reliance on Him. 7. Abba Provides . In fact, 1 Corinthians 2:9 tells us that “no eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the heart of man imagined, what God has prepared for those who love Him ”—God has a beautiful future in store for you in eternity, and He also protects and provides, guides and guards us even now. Thank Him for all He has done, is doing, and will do. Do you notice the 7 basics I referred to earlier? Respect, praise, submit, repent, petition, rely, and thank God. Now I’ll share from Matthew 6. Matthew 6:5-13 says, “And when you pray, you shall not be like the hypocrites. For they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the corners of the streets, that they may be seen by men. Assuredly, I say to you, they have their reward. But you, when you pray, go into your room, and when you have shut your door, pray to your Father who is in the secret place; and your Father who sees in secret will reward you openly. And when you pray, do not use vain repetitions as the heathens do. For they think that they will be heard for their many words. Therefore do not be like them. For your Father knows the things you have need of before you ask Him. In this manner, therefore, pray: ‘Our Father in heaven, Hallowed be Your name. Your kingdom come. Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. And do not lead us into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one. For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen.’” As you listened to the Lord’s Prayer in this passage of Scripture, you heard how Jesus taught the perfect model for prayer. Although it is a perfect prayer, do not memorize it for the purpose of mindlessly reciting it. The prayers we offer to the Father must be from your heart and the heart of your child. However, the Lord’s Prayer teaches us that there is a beautiful pattern we may use when praying that helps ensure we honor God in the way He deserves. Let’s dig a little deeper into what this passage reveals. 1. When the Pharisees prayed, it was at arranged times and in front of public places so that they could be recognized and praised for their so-called devotion to God. Jesus is not criticizing public prayer, rather, He is exposing and denouncing false and self-absorbed prayer. The core of prayer is personal. While we may pray for others, our purpose and desires through prayer are between us and our Father. Even when we pray aloud in a public setting, our heart and mind should be focused on, meditating on, and speaking to Him , not impressing others. 2. The Lord’s Prayer is a beautiful example of the qualities Jesus desires us to possess as we pray. However, while it is acceptable to pray as written in the Bible, we must not allow routine or memorized prayers to flow mindlessly from our heart and lips. The Lord desires and deserves our mind and heart to be alive and active when we humbly bow before Him. This prayer template modeled by Jesus sets a tone and instructs us how to pray the priorities of our Father . 3. As we pray to our Father in Heaven as Jesus mentors, we acknowledge God’s deep and profoundly intimate love and recognize His promise that we are heirs in His family. 4. The beautiful words, “Your kingdom come” reveal both God’s spiritual reign and His approaching sovereignty over all of creation. When believers become Christians, we receive the Spirit of God within us, but will also experience the fulfillment of God’s kingdom when Jesus returns in His full eminence and institutes His glorious new world order. 5. As we pray for our “daily bread,” we submissively recognize and accept our dependence on God to supply our every need. He does not always grant us exactly what we desire, but it is always greater than we could anticipate and exactly meets our needs, even if we don’t recognize it in the moment. 6. As Jesus extended forgiveness to us, we must also forgive others. Often, when we are wounded, the only way we can forgive is through the mighty, supernatural power of the Lord. In order to do this, our relationship with God must be a priority . Believers must also regularly confess our sins to the Lord and seek to live in the ways we know He desires and are acceptable when exposed by His light. Otherwise, our relationship will weaken and can become strained or closed off. Although God has promised that we can never be plucked from His hand, when we are not living as we should, we do easily drift away from Him. 7. When we live in the power and light of God, and are striving to be pleasing to Him, our prayers are heard and answered as we pray in the ways that are desirable and acceptable to Him. When we pray for protection from temptation and the evil one, God will hear and provide. Both sections of Scripture I shared showcase the loving guidance and wisdom of Jesus as He highlights the sanctity of prayer. Purposely and patiently, He showed His disciples (and us) how to approach our Heavenly Father through the gift of prayer . What else can we learn from these passages as we look more closely at Jesus’s words? One thing to remember as you begin prayer to your Heavenly Father (or teaching your children to pray) is God’s position . In the Lord’s Prayer, Jesus begins by praying to “our Father in Heaven .” This begins prayer with the proper descriptor of and honor to God. When you call God your Father, you are proclaiming that you acknowledge His love for you as His child. When you teach your children to do the same, they develop their understanding of God as their Heavenly Father and their identity through Him. Prayer is a necessity for anyone desiring to draw nearer to God and live a life pleasing to Him. If you expect intimate, personal fellowship with your holy Creator, you must cultivate relationship with God through His Word and through prayer. Praise God that through Jesus, we have direct access to Him. This is what you want your children to know and strive for! Prayer has grown to be such an automatic response within my brain and body that like breathing, I often do not even realize I am speaking to God. When disaster strikes or emergencies arise, my first response is to fall in humble position before my Father and ask Him to carry the load. Even when the situation is too critical for prayer because time is urgent, my mind and mouth utter the sweet words that bring me comfort and peace each time I say His name aloud. Jesus. Just like every aspect of your faith life, prayer must be something you pursue . Once you realize that you require this lifeline and discipline in your walk with the Lord, you will establish methods to ensure that you connect through worship, praise, and petition . Prayer exposes your core belief system. Kneeling before your Lord in supplication, whether literally or through heart and mindset, is a natural extension of your personal relationship with and belief in Him. Your reliance on prayer exhibits your dependence on God, humbling your position with Him, and proving the level of your reliance on Him. How do you teach your children a lifestyle of prayer? First, you establish connection with God through Christ, then through prayer. An important question to ponder shouldn’t be how do you teach prayer, but rather, by Whom do you establish this access. Jesus is your life and prayer model. As I said earlier, because of Christ, you can approach God boldly through prayer. Teaching this truth to your children begins building the basics of their foundation in Christ. A consistent prayer life molds your child’s mind and heart. God works in you, enabling you to become a godlier mother. God works in your children as they observe your lifestyle of praise, repentance, and thanksgiving through prayer. He transforms the character of you and your children as you each humbly submit to God through prayer. When God sent His Son to earth, it wasn’t simply to offer His life as a sacrifice for our sins (as wonderful as that is). God stepped into this world to exist and walk among us. He came to show us exactly how to live and how to pray . I also believe it’s important to consider the difference in time periods (when Jesus lived versus now). Obviously, Jesus had to live when He did in order for events to occur as God ordained, but beyond that, if you examine the way of life during that time compared to current lifestyle, you probably agree that your life is much easier. Yet, despite daily requirements for survival, chores, and occupation, then later the pressures and demands of His ministry, Jesus still consistently created time to spend communicating with His Heavenly Father. God was His Source of life. Nothing else could sustain Him. Our lifestyles occupy every second of our day and keep us permanently distracted with work, activities, electronics, and hobbies. But all souls were created with a deep need to be nurtured and refreshed by God . Our minds need the interaction, guidance, and wisdom that only He can supply. We were not created for constant preoccupation with earthly diversions. Our heart, mind, and spirit crave much more than this world could ever provide. Teach your children to crave Christ, not culture . Romans 12:2 says, “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God .” How do you follow the instructions of Romans 12:2? By studying, knowing, and applying God’s Word. Also, by heeding the words in the following verse. Colossians 4:2 says, “Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful .” Build relationship with God through Christ, God’s Word, and prayer. What a gift you have received that God entrusts you to model and mentor these truths to your children. Remember, Jesus, through His perfect example of Son seeking Father , committed to sacrificing for God. He willingly planned and enjoyed spending time with His Father. To stand in the presence of God was Jesus’s desire , His lifeline . Christ devoted Himself to constant communication and set-apart prayer times with the Father. How often do you sacrifice for time with God? Are you teaching your child to sacrifice and make time for God? Not out of duty, but to create relationship. Prayer opens the door to hearing and speaking to the Father, building deep relationship. Since Jesus is our mentor for connection to the Father, let’s examine two important aspects of the way He prayed. 1. Jesus prayed without ceasing . His breath and thoughts coexisted in behavior and habits of praise developed through reliance on and relationship with God through prayer. Because He built relationship, Jesus existed in a constant state of heart and prayer connection with His Father . 2. Jesus prepared for prayer . His mind and attitude were prepared to hear God. His heart was primed. As you bow before God with petition, your personal sins must be released. You should seek repentance and restoration with your Heavenly Father before imploring Him with requests. In other words, your communication should consistently be prioritized, and your walk refreshed moment by moment as you humbly submit to Christ. Relationship with God is a mutual and emotional connection requiring your commitment and diligence for it to flourish . James 5:16 reminds us, “The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective .” Instead of bowing before the Lord without much forethought, or asking others who appear “godlier” in their Christian walk to carry your prayer burdens, Jesus modeled the way for you to open yourself to intentional personal time with God. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking others to petition the Lord for you or for you to pray for others. Intercessory prayer is important for several reasons, but in order to grow and deepen your connection with God, you need intimate , intentional , individual moments to share undisturbed, undistracted time with Him. If you are unable to spend this solitary time with God, you will never be able to teach your children to desire or know how to be with Him in prayer. Obviously, the easiest way to create this special time in prayer is to simply begin. Do so with the determination that you will persist until regularity is established. Genuine and connected relationship is the goal, not a fancy, complicated system. Meeting with God can be as simple as getting up early or staying up late or carving out time through the day. If a special area needs to be designated, use a spare room, or an area in an existing space, such as a favorite desk or chair. A piece of floor in the closet may also work. You don’t even need a certain place, but you do need your heart to be prepared. The goal is to come before the Lord in prayer at special times through the day, but also to be in constant communion with God as your thoughts intermingle with His like breathing . It is also important to analyze why you want to pray. Do you view the time as a way to mark a box off of your spiritual checklist? Or do you crave a personal relationship with Christ that deepens daily? Knowing and understanding why you want to pray will enable you to properly teach your children. Personal needs, needs of loved ones, friend requests, requests from church members, world issues, prayer for leaders and pastors, family needs, and prayers to draw nearer to God are common requests to lift to God. As you continue to develop your relationship with Christ and live with a deeper eternal perspective, you recognize many more topics to carry to God in quiet time, as well as lifting praise, offering repentance, and gratitude. We need the Lord so much in every way as we journey through this life and prepare for the next. How beautiful it is to teach your children at a young age so they will live a life in fullness of communication with their Heavenly Father. It is important to remember that Jesus taught us to examine our relationship with our Heavenly Father, the reasons we pray, and the routine in which we pray. Let’s stop to look at more prayer basics. In order to honor God and teach your children to pray in the most honoring, effective ways, these reminders are essential. Remember, start with the basics we talked about early in this episode. Deepen your personal prayer walk, and guide your children in how to build and mature their prayer life as they grow. Depth won’t happen overnight, but you will have a plan to nurture the gift of prayer. 1. Prayer does not have to be fancy . Be faithful, be authentic; speak from your heart. Be focused on your Heavenly Father. Distractions come so quickly! Try to keep from wondering how much longer you should pray, whether the kids are going to come busting through the door, or whether it’s time to eat. 1 Kings 8:28 says, “Yet regard the prayer of Your servant and his supplication, O Lord my God, and listen to the cry and the prayer which Your servant is praying before You today. ” Begin by coming before the God of all creation. Begin or deepen your relationship with Him. He wants you . 2. Pray with confidence formed through a secure and growing relationship with Jesus. Psalm 55:1-2a says, “Give ear to my prayer, O God, and do not hide Yourself from my supplication. Attend to me, and hear me .” You can approach His throne with assurance that He hears and sees you. 3. Always pray in alignment with scripture and the character of God . Psalm 139:23 says, “Examine me, O God, and know my mind; test me, and discover my thoughts .” A deep prayer relationship with the Lord will align your heart and desires to His , not require God to fulfill your wishes or whims. 4. Trust that prayer works . When you don’t know what to pray, the Holy Spirit will intercede. Romans 8:26 says, “Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words .” If you are a follower of Christ, you are guaranteed that the Holy Spirit is alive and active within you. When you carry intense pressure, heavy concerns, or are in deep emotional, mental, physical, financial, or spiritual pain, and you don’t have the words you need to express yourself, the Spirit intercedes because He searches your heart, knows the mind of your Father, and makes intercession for the saints according to the will of God (Romans 8:27 ). What a holy, beautiful truth to teach your children about the grace and goodness of God. 5. Rest in knowing that God hears . He is at work. Psalm 102:17 says, “He shall regard the prayer of the destitute, and shall not despise their prayer .” Psalm 55:16-17 says, “As for me, I will call upon God, and the Lord shall save me. Evening and morning and at noon I will pray, and cry aloud, and He shall hear my voice .” Trust that even if His answer is not what you desired, it is good, God-honoring, and will grow your walk with Him if you humbly submit. 6. Remain in prayerful attitude , even when not physically praying. This so important to apply in your life and to mentor to your watching children. Colossians 4:2 says, “Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful .” Your attitude, words, actions, and reactions are seen. What you do matters and impresses more than what you say . 7. Consider fasting . But if you choose to do so, keep it between you and the Lord. Mark 9:29 says, “So He said to them, “This kind can come out by nothing but prayer and fasting. ” Prayerfully determine whether you need to fast. Fasting is something God would direct us to do or is a sacrifice we willingly and privately make for Him. It is not only abstaining from food, but may be anything that pulls us from Him. Something that your heart desires more than God such as television, shopping, video games, phones, social media, etc. can be lifted in sacrifice to God for a season or permanently. 8. Live with gratitude , whether or not your prayer is answered the way you want God to answer, and even when His timing is not want you desire. Your attitude easily dictates the future of your faith journey. 2 Corinthians 4:15 says, “All this is for your benefit, so that the grace that is reaching more and more people may cause thanksgiving to overflow to the glory of God. ” I waited approximately 43 years for God to answer my prayer that my dad stop drinking. The answer was not in the way I hoped for or expected, but God’s answer was intimate and in a way that was personal to my father and myself. 9. Listen and evaluate what you believe God reveals to you through prayer. Make sure it is from Him . Does it align with His nature and word? Psalm 18:30 says, “As for God, His way is perfect; The word of the LORD is proven; He is a shield to all who trust in Him.” 10. Lift God’s word to Him in prayer . Power flows from the word of God. Isaiah 55:11 says, “So shall My word be that goes forth from My mouth; It shall not return to Me void, But it shall accomplish what I please, And it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it.” Using prayer in praise and petition works mightily. A beautiful way to begin prayer time is to pray scripture that praises God and Who He is. Praying scripture also connects your heart to God and prepares you to worship and petition more as He would desire. God’s holy word is highly effective and never returns void. 11. Model prayer life after Jesus . Growing and sustaining a godly walk with His Father was a top priority for Jesus. He knew His reason for being on earth and was devoted to knowing , trusting , and making God known. Various scriptures attest to the life Jesus led through prayer. Proverbs 15:8 says, “The Lord detests the sacrifice of the wicked, but the prayer of the upright pleases Him .” Jesus was deliberate about the way He approached His Heavenly Father and the way He prayed because of His reverence and love for God. I’m so thankful we have instructions through God’s Word and the Holy Spirit inside to advise, train, and discipline us in our walk with God and prayer life. What a joyful blessing we have that Jesus Himself left instructions on how to pray! Remember, Jesus modeled a perfect prayer life. He also often sought and found ways to be alone with His Heavenly Father. Luke 5:16 says, “So He Himself often withdrew into the wilderness and prayed. ” How do we expect to hear God speaking or guiding us when we are always distracted and preoccupied? Jesus knew the importance of solitude. He respected and honored His Father enough to ensure that He made the time. Here are three other examples of Jesus seeking the Father in private. Matthew 14:23 says, “After he had dismissed them, he went up on a mountainside by himself to pray. Later that night, he was there alone .” Luke 6:12 says, “One of those days Jesus went out to a mountainside to pray, and spent the night praying to God .” Mark 1:35 says, “Now in the morning, having risen a long while before daylight, He went out and departed to a solitary place; and there He prayed .” God gave His Holy word, so full of godly wisdom and instruction, as well as the perfect living example of truth and light - Jesus, God in flesh, who walked among us, the template, the way to serve, love, and honor Him. God knows the season you’re currently in. He understands your heart, motives, and desires. Attune your heart and mind to His. Prayerfully ask Him to lead and guide you to make the time He desires you to share with Him. Most productive habits develop through daily or lifelong routines. After being established, we usually don’t even think of them as they become a necessary part of our life. Continue maturing your walk with Christ so you will be the guide leading your children to the perfect role model, Jesus. Then show them how to communicate with the One who desires their presence now and for eternity. Dear Heavenly Father, You are the Great I Am. You are the Maker of Heaven and Earth. No one compares to You. Thank you for enabling us to have easy and instant access to You through Jesus. How well You have gone before us and provided all we need to know and follow You. Thank you for Your loving kindness to us. Help us live with our eyes, mind, and heart focused on You. Help us make time to study and apply Your Word in our life. Help us to communicate intimately with You through the gift of prayer. Equip us to mentor prayer to our children so they will clearly know and communicate with You in pleasing and loving ways that bring You honor and joy. Thank you for loving us first and calling us to Yourself. Help our children heed Your call in every way You desire. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. Godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. That’s why I’ve created the Set-Apart Collective. Have you decided peers and culture won’t be the main influence over your child? Would you like to parent to prepare your child for eternity with Christ, not to repair a relationship? In the Set-Apart Collective, you will deepen your walk with Christ, learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family. The Set-Apart Collective is open now. Please send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information or look online at terrihitt.com/setapart. We can also set up a 15 minute call to chat about details. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. By the way, this isn’t a course, it’s an interactive program with one-on-one access to me and like-minded women who want to pursue Christ with their children. If you connected in some way with this episode, would you please rate and review the podcast on Apple or Spotify? It only takes a minute or so and makes a big difference in people finding the podcast. 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< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 131 - How to Teach Children to Find Security through Scripture Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 131 – How to Teach Children to Find Security through Scripture Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom and BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you will be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episodes, would you please share this episode or others with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, and leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast. When you do, you’re helping affect generations for Jesus. Now on to this important episode with questions Christian parents need to consider…do your kids know how to rely on Scripture? Do you know how to train them to do so? Last week my youngest daughter went to a local children’s hospital for an appointment with an ear, nose, and throat doctor. This was a new ENT to her; the one who performed her ear reconstructive surgery a few years ago no longer practices at this hospital. If you’ve listened to this podcast for a while you probably already know a little history on my daughter. If you’re new here, I’ll share that she came to us at the age of nine years old. She had been severely neglected and had many serious health concerns. The infections raging in her ears had been there for most of her life, and we had to send samples to the Mayo Clinic to find out what resided in her ears and what antibiotic would be best to treat and resolve the infection. Because she was born with smaller inner ear bones and nerves, that infection resulting from a urine bacteria harbored in her ears from the time she was an infant. Because of that, my girl is deaf in one ear and almost deaf in the other. Her “good” ear was losing what sound she had and we needed a doctor visit to test her hearing and see what was going on with her ear. After some advocating at this local hospital, they got her in, and my youngest was glad to be able to find out what was going on, but not happy to have to revisit the ear situation. To add a little about why - when she was newly home with us she’d had to undergo an ear cleaning procedure that was loud and scary for her. The thought of doing that again was on the forefront of her mind. She’d had to do it again a couple of years later, and the experience was very frightening. As things turned out, I became sick with reactivated mono and unable to get out of the house to go to the appointment. My wonderful husband was glad to take her to the visit, but I was unsure how our youngest would react when the person who usually went was unable to attend. My prayers were fervent for her to be safe, not scared, and to fully rely on God. I prayed with her, on my own, and with the family for her and for this area in little bits over the weeks preceding the visit. I wanted to balance just enough attention without scaring her or drawing attention to the visit and making her nervous. On the day of the visit, a big thunderstorm rolled through the area. Just as the doctor came in to see our girl, tornado sirens blared and my husband and daughter, along with everyone at the hospital, had to retreat to a stairwell deemed safe to weather the storm. Staying in contact with them during the storm via text helped me continue to pray for her and the situation. After about forty-five minutes of remaining in that shelter, they were able to return to the examination room and see the doctor. This doctor was gentle and knowledgeable and listened to our girl. Hearing of her experiences with two former cleanings, she used a gentler approach and was able to clean her ears without trouble or provoking fear. Because her ears were very inflamed, my daughter will return this week for her hearing test after using antibiotic drops in the interim. God, in His infinite wisdom and sovereignty used that time in the shelter area as a refuge of prayer for our youngest. Brooklyn told me that evening that she had kept repeating Scripture while waiting. She mentioned three that spoke to her heart and she said during that time in the stairway and while in the procedure room she let God’s Words flow over her heart and mind, keeping her in perfect peace. As a believing mom who loves Jesus, I’m sure I’m a lot like you. While we treasure that bonding and attachment with our children, our highest goal should not be to draw them to us – but to Him. As I’ve parented my second set of children it has been with a deep desire to point them to the Father for every need. My goal has been to foster a close relationship with them and be able to share my love for Jesus and dependance on our Heavenly Father to be an example for them. When she was able to fully rely on God to help her through the situation, I was so thankful I wasn’t there. I was thankful I had to stay home. I was thankful her faith was maturing and she could see that this was an obstacle (like many others she’d have in life) that could be used to thrust her into the arms of the One who could care for her in every way she needed. This is our ultimate goal as Christian mothers. I had to share this single example to encourage you as you continue in your role - sometimes feeling inept, unseen, unheard, or overwhelmed. But God sees! He hears your cries, your praises, and He waits for you to jump into His arms and rest and abide there…then teach your children to do the same. Because of my daughter’s recent experience, I want to use this podcast to tie into a former episode on Scripture. In case you don’t know, guess what?! I’m in the process of editing my book, “The Good Mom Trap: Break the Belief that Good Parenting Produces Godly Kids” – and I’m on a very tight deadline to get it completed. Having mono for such a long period has thrown me behind on the editing process, but God is in control and I can’t wait to see and share how He uses all of this for His glorious purposes and timing. Over the next few weeks I will be repurposing content from previous episodes and perhaps broadcasting some new ones because I long for you to continue being nurtured and growing in Him. This episode is one of the most important reminders about teaching kids to rely on Scripture that I can give you. Mothers, we must be in the Word in order to teach our children to rely on it. To rely on Him. I pray you find something insightful or helpful in this episode that will equip you to reside in His arms and remain in His Word. It’s your most effective tool to becoming that godly woman and mother He is entrusting you to become. Let me ask…Before you became a parent did you realize the depth of skills you’d need? As a mother, you’re most likely the encourager, the equipper, the peacemaker, the comforter, the chef, and the maid. Keeping the home tidy and well-managed, the children growing and thriving, and your life with your husband flourishing can be challenging. But when those thoughts of inadequacy or overwhelm hit, do you stop to assess why you’re experiencing those feelings? Most often, it’s because you’re relying on self. Moms often try to be perfect, manage it all, and take care of everyone around us. Instead, we must be resting in the Father’s arms and seeking His approval and direction above all else. When you put Him first, He truly does make the rest of your day flow more smoothly. He fills you with His peace and His strength to face the challenges and erase overwhelm as you learn to depend on the Holy Spirit within you moment by moment. Then you have the tools you need to lovingly teach your children to do the same. Once you’ve pursued relationship with Jesus through the gift of salvation, you learn the character of God through Scripture. Without your humble submission to the Lord and continued growth through His Word, your personal and family life simply cannot thrive. As believers, we long for our children to know Jesus and follow Him into eternity one day. But the truth is that if you’re not personally mentoring a love for Him that keeps you in the Bible, studying and growing with loving intention, your child isn’t going to see the need. Life only gets busier once you have children! You already think you’re busy, then suddenly you find time to do what needs to be completed to enable you to give the best care to your precious child. What about time with your precious Father in Heaven? Somehow, the most important relationship you can have gets relegated to the back of your mind and heart. Eventually, unless you are intentional, you stop hearing and responding to the Holy Spirit inside. Life gets heavier, messier, and you wonder why you no longer feel peace, joy, or a longing for the Lord. Is this the life you want your children to witness? Is this the life you want them to emulate? Of course not. Believing moms understand this isn’t the life they want for their children. They just struggle to find the time to do all the things. The first step is realizing that you’re really the first Jesus your children see. You must make time for what God calls most important. When you strive to follow Him, prayerfully and humbly request that He show you what He desires for your life, and then show you how to make time to do as He desires, He will. If you believe God could part the sea for Israelites to cross, do you believe He can guide you to find time for Him? God’s Word tells us that when we seek Him we will find Him. Once you realize that you have His power to find time to be in the Word and inhale Christ so you effortlessly exhale Him, you must continue to seek the Father in His Word. So, what is the best way to train your child to rely on Scripture? Ensure that you are reliant on God’s Word. First, let’s look at Bible verses that equip how you shape desire for and reliance on Scripture and mentor that to your children. Philippians 4:9 says, “What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you .” 1 Corinthians 11:1 says, “Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ .” Titus 2:7-8 says, “Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity, and sound speech that cannot be condemned, so that an opponent may be put to shame, having nothing evil to say about us .” Matthew 19:14 says, “But Jesus said, “Let the little children come to Me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven .” The book of Proverbs teaches that godly wisdom is critical for creating and maintaining a life pleasing to God. As you lay a foundation of faith for your children to stand on to construct their own relationship with Jesus, you’ll build the rails that also guard and guide them. These rails line the pathway that leads them to Scripture. Without this strong foundation to hold the personal house of faith they will build, your children won’t carry godly insight, wisdom, or judgement that instills and directs this path to navigate life with integrity and insight from God. As you raise your young ones to know, love, honor, and obey God and direct them toward a personal relationship with Jesus, craft prayers to be lifted to God in your personal time with Him and also speak prayers you offer with your children. Lifting prayers in the presence of your children teaches them how to prioritize relationship with God and how to approach Him with reverence, honor and relationship. Let them see and hear you rely on God’s Word through each day. Make it as natural as breathing…as walking…as speaking. As the Holy Spirit resides within you, invite Him to be evident through you. Whether your children are older, and you’re just now teaching them to rely on God or you’ve been modeling relationship that leads to Jesus over the years, using Scripture naturally, not forcefully, will deepen their hope and trust while leading them closer to our Heavenly Father as you remain committed and consistent. Ask God to direct you to verses that will reach and teach the heart of your children while continuing to deepen your walk with Him in ways that transform your desires, actions, and reactions for your children to witness His life-changing power. The closer you move to God, the more your parenting desires will reflect His will. Start with Scripture that is easy for your children to understand and that will build the basics of a lifelong trust in, and relationship with God, through Jesus. As you pray these prayers consistently with your children, you’ll find that the truth resting in the verses you use will also flow into conversations and guide the lifestyle you establish in your home. My daughter remembered Psalm 23:1-4 in the doctor’s office, in the KJV which says, “The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me .” Each time she felt that fear may arise, she kept reciting the verse in her mind and praying, trusting in her Heavenly Father. This is our Father’s desire for His children – the ones He entrusted to you and me. Are you preparing your children each moment to rely on Scripture? Also, as so many children struggle with anxiety, and they often face fears such as this doctor visit, plus so many other things in life, I’ll list a few Scriptures that offer hope and reassurance to those who’ve been trained to seek Him and His Word. Proverbs 3:1 says, “My son, do not forget my teaching, but let your heart keep My commandments. ” Philippians 4:6 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God .” Romans 12:2 says, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect .” 1 Peter 5:7 says, “Casting all your anxieties on Him, because He cares for you .” Remember, Matthew 19:14 says, “But Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven .” Can you see how reassuring it is to know God through His Word and to find Scripture that comforts, reassures, and offers hope and guidance? I urge you to seek Him through the Bible today for yourself and future generations of your family. Scripture is God’s gift, and a powerful tool to keep your heart and the heart of your family in alignment with God. A tool that leads to intimately know Him, His character, and His will. Through Scripture your children will understand how to build critical thinking skills that match the Father’s heart and mind. Scripture offers protection and guidance in a world of confusion. As you continue to teach and instruct from God’s Word, your desires and actions are transformed into the image of Christ that will attract your children as you become a godlier woman and parent. This equips your child to use Scripture as easily as breathing - to learn, to craft prayers, and to use His Word in their life – through trials and on the smoothest of days. Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for instructing me through Your Word so that I can lovingly mentor my children in Your ways. You say that I should not hinder the little children from coming to You. Show me the way to bring them to You. Help me show Your heart and truths in ways that are lasting in their life. Please keep me in alignment with Your will and ways in all things so my family will also draw near to You. May my children choose to serve You all the days of their life and long to be pleasing in Your sight. Help them remember all of Scripture is breathed by You and will train, correct, and equip them for every good work. May they treasure Your Word and hold it dear in their heart. May they always delight in delighting You. In Jesus’s name I pray. Amen. If you have questions after this episode, please reach out to me at info@terrihitt.com . I’m happy to help you give the gift of Scripture to your children. I also have a resource that you’ll find helpful as you navigate your daily routine as a mom. If you’re ready to become the godly mother God entrusts you to be for Him and His children, you’ll love my free “Good to Godly: A 31-Day Scripture and Prayer Guide for Moms.” Visit terrihitt.com to receive this resource. If you’re ready to be more intentional - to be purposed in preparing your children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ, contact me at info@terrihitt.com . I think you’ll be interested in my Set-Apart summer renewal for $197. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. Remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #050 – Jesus, Our Constant Hope Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Christmas 2020 is over. Did it meet your expectations? Was it everything you hoped for? Or was your holiday a disappointment? Unfortunately, in our human condition, we sometimes place expectations on our life that unless met, ruin our joy. The older I get, the more I try to live with the purpose of following and maturing in Jesus each day. Any difficulties or “unexpected blessings” that come in the course of the day are a way to help me accomplish that goal because they force me to look up, even when I may not feel like it. Have I arrived? Do I live perfectly? No. Definitely not! I’m human and I never want to leave the impression that I think I have all the perfect answers and responses to life. Yet, I strive to humbly bow to the Father with intention and purpose daily and I deeply desire to be altered moment by moment as I look and cling to Him. During my life, I’ve experienced holiday plans that didn’t work as I hoped, disappointment over not receiving a gift I desired, or worse, not seeing someone dear to me on a holiday. I’ve grieved loved ones who should have been at our dinner table or sitting around the tree with us. I’ve been pierced by the deep pain that comes from decorating the Christmas tree with unique ornaments full of memories that once belonged to deceased loved ones and continue to hang the stocking of a child who will never be with us again. You have no doubt experienced some or all of these things, too. Our human experience contains many pains that only Jesus can heal. I’ve found after many years, that when I purposely release expectations and place my hope in the Lord, I find true peace, joy, hope, and calm through His plans. When things don’t work out as I wanted or thought they should, I find I already have everything I really needed. Even in my darkest moments of life, when situations have been out of my control and there seemed to be no hope, I learned that when I keep my gaze locked on God and remain steadfastly hoping in Him, His grace and provisions are perfect and sufficient for my needs. 2 Corinthians 12:9 says, “Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.” Amen! I have found this verse to be so accurate! I consider myself to be a strong person, but as I have matured in my faith and relationship with God through Jesus, I have learned that my true strength is His. My confidence, strength of mind and character, anything worthy in me is a result of the Holy Spirit living inside me and the transformations have come from that. When I make mistakes, it is the result of following my own flesh or letting my eyes slip from Him. Psalm 39:7 gives the best response we can offer in life. It says, “And so, Lord, where do I put my hope? My only hope is in You.” Did you know that the word, hope is used over 140 times in the Bible? Of course, it depends on which translation you use, but the fact is that God knew we would need assurance and encouragement to remain hopeful. He lovingly provides it through His word. Our Heavenly Father always walks ahead of us, and we recognize Him if we remain focused on Him, study and remember His words and guidance, and accept the provisions He places before us. We use the word, hope as something we believe strongly on, or put trust in, it means something we rely on, or feel will happen. Hope lifts us when we are down, gives us comfort and trust for the future, changes attitudes, helps us to envision a better future, or enables us to accomplish tasks because we see a chance for improvement. Hope is a powerful word that, like love, is defined by God, the author of life. Romans 15:13 says, “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Anyone can hope, but those who put their faith in the Lord access authentic and omnipotent faith, confidence, and optimism. Our Heavenly Father is the author of hope. When we are His, we are able to rise above mere hope as the world sees it. The greatest hope you and I have is the assurance offered through Jesus Christ. Hebrews 11:1 says, “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” Faith is the mechanism that allows the things we hope for to become fact and allows us to carry bold confidence about our future. Because God is perfectly holy and unchangeable, we have assurance that His promises are true. Our hope becomes faith, which develops assurance in our faithful God. Because of the assurance we receive from God through Jesus, we can live with constant and unshakable hope. The book of Romans clearly shows us the righteousness of God, how He reveals His righteousness in this world through Jesus, and why that good news must be shared. Jesus is our hope in this broken and dark world. In Him we place our trust, hope, faith, and find our assurance. Although this is a long passage of scripture, I want to read the truths found in Romans, Chapter 8, verses 1-39. In this, we find all we need to infuse us with the true and lasting hope, assurance, and confidence required to complete the glorious life we have been gifted in this world and live with confident joy. As I read, please listen for many glorious truths and promises, which include: 1. There is absolutely no condemnation for those who are saved through Jesus Christ – we are free from the power of sin and death! 2. Our hope has become assurance. Jesus offered us with secure salvation through His sacrifice. 3. We are no longer slaves to our flesh. Our sinful desires have no control over us any longer. 4. Through Jesus, we stand unafraid before God as adopted sons and daughters of our Father. We are now God’s children and heirs. This spirit of adoption also releases us from the spirit of bondage to sin. 5. Now sharing in glory, we also share suffering, as Jesus did. 6. Our suffering is only for a time, as we eagerly await the day we are released from sin and suffering forever. 7. We have received the Holy Spirit within us as a deposit toward future glory with Christ. 8. Within us lives a helper who constantly searches our heart and intercedes when we have no words to express our thoughts and needs. 9. God is for us, causing all to work for good for those who love Him and are called according to his purpose, despite what happens in this world and despite how we feel. 10. If God is for us, no one can be against us. Jesus Himself is at the Father’s right hand, pleading for us. 11. Absolutely nothing will ever separate us from the love of God. Let’s savor and reflect on these words from Romans 8 together now. “So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. And because you belong to Him, the power of the life-giving Spirit has freed you from the power of sin that leads to death. The law of Moses was unable to save us because of the weakness of our sinful nature. So God did what the law could not do. He sent his own Son in a body like the bodies we sinners have. And in that body God declared an end to sin’s control over us by giving His Son as a sacrifice for our sins. He did this so that the just requirement of the law would be fully satisfied for us, who no longer follow our sinful nature but instead follow the Spirit. Those who are dominated by the sinful nature think about sinful things, but those who are controlled by the Holy Spirit think about things that please the Spirit. So letting your sinful nature control your mind leads to death. But letting the Spirit control your mind leads to life and peace. For the sinful nature is always hostile to God. It never did obey God’s laws, and it never will. That’s why those who are still under the control of their sinful nature can never please God. But you are not controlled by your sinful nature. You are controlled by the Spirit if you have the Spirit of God living in you. (And remember that those who do not have the Spirit of Christ living in them do not belong to Him at all.) And Christ lives within you, so even though your body will die because of sin, the Spirit gives you life because you have been made right with God. The Spirit of God, who raised Jesus from the dead, lives in you. And just as God raised Christ Jesus from the dead, He will give life to your mortal bodies by this same Spirit living within you. Therefore, dear brothers and sisters, you have no obligation to do what your sinful nature urges you to do. For if you live by its dictates, you will die. But if through the power of the Spirit you put to death the deeds of your sinful nature, you will live. For all who are led by the Spirit of God are children of God. So you have not received a spirit that makes you fearful slaves. Instead, you received God’s Spirit when he adopted you as His own children Now we call Him, “Abba, Father.” For his Spirit joins with our spirit to affirm that we are God’s children. And since we are His children, we are His heirs. In fact, together with Christ we are heirs of God’s glory. But if we are to share His glory, we must also share His suffering. Yet what we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory He will reveal to us later. For all creation is waiting eagerly for that future day when God will reveal who His children really are. Against its will, all creation was subjected to God’s curse. But with eager hope, the creation looks forward to the day when it will join God’s children in glorious freedom from death and decay. For we know that all creation has been groaning as in the pains of childbirth right up to the present time. And we believers also groan, even though we have the Holy Spirit within us as a foretaste of future glory, for we long for our bodies to be released from sin and suffering. We, too, wait with eager hope for the day when God will give us our full rights as His adopted children including the new bodies He has promised us. We were given this hope when we were saved. If we already have something, we don’t need to hope for it. But if we look forward to something we don’t yet have, we must wait patiently and confidently. And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words. And the Father who knows all hearts knows what the Spirit is saying, for the Spirit pleads for us believers in harmony with God’s own will. And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them. For God knew His people in advance, and He chose them to become like His Son, so that His Son would be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters. And having chosen them, He called them to come to Him. And having called them, He gave them right standing with himself. And having given them right standing, He gave them His glory. What shall we say about such wonderful things as these? If God is for us, who can ever be against us? Since He did not spare even his own Son but gave Him up for us all, won’t He also give us everything else? Who dares accuse us whom God has chosen for His own? No one—for God Himself has given us right standing with Himself. Who then will condemn us? No one—for Christ Jesus died for us and was raised to life for us, and He is sitting in the place of honor at God’s right hand, pleading for us. Can anything ever separate us from Christ’s love? Does it mean He no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or hungry, or destitute, or in danger, or threatened with death? (As the Scriptures say, “For your sake we are killed every day; we are being slaughtered like sheep.”) No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us. And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Father God, thank you for the truths You pack into Romans 8 for us to ponder and treasure. Thank you for Your sacrifice and the release and relief we receive through Jesus, Your Precious Son. Help our mind remember and our heart be transformed to become more like Yours each day. May we look toward eternity with eager anticipation of what is to come and make choices now that prepare us to meet You face to face while living with fullness of joy and shining You to all we meet where we are right now. Thank you that Jesus is our constant hope, our joy, our assurance. May we become more like Him daily. In Your precious name we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this episode. The Live With Eternal Perspective podcast is currently linked to my new website at terrihitt.com, where you can access all the podcasts housed in one convenient location, as well as receive access to blog posts, transcripts, and additional free resources that are added to regularly. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to Jesus and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up and find new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 050 Jesus, Our Constant Hope Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #050 – Jesus, Our Constant Hope Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Christmas 2020 is over. Did it meet your expectations? Was it everything you hoped for? Or was your holiday a disappointment? Unfortunately, in our human condition, we sometimes place expectations on our life that unless met, ruin our joy. The older I get, the more I try to live with the purpose of following and maturing in Jesus each day. Any difficulties or “unexpected blessings” that come in the course of the day are a way to help me accomplish that goal because they force me to look up, even when I may not feel like it. Have I arrived? Do I live perfectly? No. Definitely not! I’m human and I never want to leave the impression that I think I have all the perfect answers and responses to life. Yet, I strive to humbly bow to the Father with intention and purpose daily and I deeply desire to be altered moment by moment as I look and cling to Him. During my life, I’ve experienced holiday plans that didn’t work as I hoped, disappointment over not receiving a gift I desired, or worse, not seeing someone dear to me on a holiday. I’ve grieved loved ones who should have been at our dinner table or sitting around the tree with us. I’ve been pierced by the deep pain that comes from decorating the Christmas tree with unique ornaments full of memories that once belonged to deceased loved ones and continue to hang the stocking of a child who will never be with us again. You have no doubt experienced some or all of these things, too. Our human experience contains many pains that only Jesus can heal. I’ve found after many years, that when I purposely release expectations and place my hope in the Lord, I find true peace, joy, hope, and calm through His plans. When things don’t work out as I wanted or thought they should, I find I already have everything I really needed. Even in my darkest moments of life, when situations have been out of my control and there seemed to be no hope, I learned that when I keep my gaze locked on God and remain steadfastly hoping in Him, His grace and provisions are perfect and sufficient for my needs. 2 Corinthians 12:9 says, “Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.” Amen! I have found this verse to be so accurate! I consider myself to be a strong person, but as I have matured in my faith and relationship with God through Jesus, I have learned that my true strength is His. My confidence, strength of mind and character, anything worthy in me is a result of the Holy Spirit living inside me and the transformations have come from that. When I make mistakes, it is the result of following my own flesh or letting my eyes slip from Him. Psalm 39:7 gives the best response we can offer in life. It says, “And so, Lord, where do I put my hope? My only hope is in You.” Did you know that the word, hope is used over 140 times in the Bible? Of course, it depends on which translation you use, but the fact is that God knew we would need assurance and encouragement to remain hopeful. He lovingly provides it through His word. Our Heavenly Father always walks ahead of us, and we recognize Him if we remain focused on Him, study and remember His words and guidance, and accept the provisions He places before us. We use the word, hope as something we believe strongly on, or put trust in, it means something we rely on, or feel will happen. Hope lifts us when we are down, gives us comfort and trust for the future, changes attitudes, helps us to envision a better future, or enables us to accomplish tasks because we see a chance for improvement. Hope is a powerful word that, like love, is defined by God, the author of life. Romans 15:13 says, “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Anyone can hope, but those who put their faith in the Lord access authentic and omnipotent faith, confidence, and optimism. Our Heavenly Father is the author of hope. When we are His, we are able to rise above mere hope as the world sees it. The greatest hope you and I have is the assurance offered through Jesus Christ. Hebrews 11:1 says, “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” Faith is the mechanism that allows the things we hope for to become fact and allows us to carry bold confidence about our future. Because God is perfectly holy and unchangeable, we have assurance that His promises are true. Our hope becomes faith, which develops assurance in our faithful God. Because of the assurance we receive from God through Jesus, we can live with constant and unshakable hope. The book of Romans clearly shows us the righteousness of God, how He reveals His righteousness in this world through Jesus, and why that good news must be shared. Jesus is our hope in this broken and dark world. In Him we place our trust, hope, faith, and find our assurance. Although this is a long passage of scripture, I want to read the truths found in Romans, Chapter 8, verses 1-39. In this, we find all we need to infuse us with the true and lasting hope, assurance, and confidence required to complete the glorious life we have been gifted in this world and live with confident joy. As I read, please listen for many glorious truths and promises, which include: 1. There is absolutely no condemnation for those who are saved through Jesus Christ – we are free from the power of sin and death! 2. Our hope has become assurance. Jesus offered us with secure salvation through His sacrifice. 3. We are no longer slaves to our flesh. Our sinful desires have no control over us any longer. 4. Through Jesus, we stand unafraid before God as adopted sons and daughters of our Father. We are now God’s children and heirs. This spirit of adoption also releases us from the spirit of bondage to sin. 5. Now sharing in glory, we also share suffering, as Jesus did. 6. Our suffering is only for a time, as we eagerly await the day we are released from sin and suffering forever. 7. We have received the Holy Spirit within us as a deposit toward future glory with Christ. 8. Within us lives a helper who constantly searches our heart and intercedes when we have no words to express our thoughts and needs. 9. God is for us, causing all to work for good for those who love Him and are called according to his purpose, despite what happens in this world and despite how we feel. 10. If God is for us, no one can be against us. Jesus Himself is at the Father’s right hand, pleading for us. 11. Absolutely nothing will ever separate us from the love of God. Let’s savor and reflect on these words from Romans 8 together now. “So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. And because you belong to Him, the power of the life-giving Spirit has freed you from the power of sin that leads to death. The law of Moses was unable to save us because of the weakness of our sinful nature. So God did what the law could not do. He sent his own Son in a body like the bodies we sinners have. And in that body God declared an end to sin’s control over us by giving His Son as a sacrifice for our sins. He did this so that the just requirement of the law would be fully satisfied for us, who no longer follow our sinful nature but instead follow the Spirit. Those who are dominated by the sinful nature think about sinful things, but those who are controlled by the Holy Spirit think about things that please the Spirit. So letting your sinful nature control your mind leads to death. But letting the Spirit control your mind leads to life and peace. For the sinful nature is always hostile to God. It never did obey God’s laws, and it never will. That’s why those who are still under the control of their sinful nature can never please God. But you are not controlled by your sinful nature. You are controlled by the Spirit if you have the Spirit of God living in you. (And remember that those who do not have the Spirit of Christ living in them do not belong to Him at all.) And Christ lives within you, so even though your body will die because of sin, the Spirit gives you life because you have been made right with God. The Spirit of God, who raised Jesus from the dead, lives in you. And just as God raised Christ Jesus from the dead, He will give life to your mortal bodies by this same Spirit living within you. Therefore, dear brothers and sisters, you have no obligation to do what your sinful nature urges you to do. For if you live by its dictates, you will die. But if through the power of the Spirit you put to death the deeds of your sinful nature, you will live. For all who are led by the Spirit of God are children of God. So you have not received a spirit that makes you fearful slaves. Instead, you received God’s Spirit when he adopted you as His own children Now we call Him, “Abba, Father.” For his Spirit joins with our spirit to affirm that we are God’s children. And since we are His children, we are His heirs. In fact, together with Christ we are heirs of God’s glory. But if we are to share His glory, we must also share His suffering. Yet what we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory He will reveal to us later. For all creation is waiting eagerly for that future day when God will reveal who His children really are. Against its will, all creation was subjected to God’s curse. But with eager hope, the creation looks forward to the day when it will join God’s children in glorious freedom from death and decay. For we know that all creation has been groaning as in the pains of childbirth right up to the present time. And we believers also groan, even though we have the Holy Spirit within us as a foretaste of future glory, for we long for our bodies to be released from sin and suffering. We, too, wait with eager hope for the day when God will give us our full rights as His adopted children including the new bodies He has promised us. We were given this hope when we were saved. If we already have something, we don’t need to hope for it. But if we look forward to something we don’t yet have, we must wait patiently and confidently. And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words. And the Father who knows all hearts knows what the Spirit is saying, for the Spirit pleads for us believers in harmony with God’s own will. And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them. For God knew His people in advance, and He chose them to become like His Son, so that His Son would be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters. And having chosen them, He called them to come to Him. And having called them, He gave them right standing with himself. And having given them right standing, He gave them His glory. What shall we say about such wonderful things as these? If God is for us, who can ever be against us? Since He did not spare even his own Son but gave Him up for us all, won’t He also give us everything else? Who dares accuse us whom God has chosen for His own? No one—for God Himself has given us right standing with Himself. Who then will condemn us? No one—for Christ Jesus died for us and was raised to life for us, and He is sitting in the place of honor at God’s right hand, pleading for us. Can anything ever separate us from Christ’s love? Does it mean He no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or hungry, or destitute, or in danger, or threatened with death? (As the Scriptures say, “For your sake we are killed every day; we are being slaughtered like sheep.”) No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us. And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Father God, thank you for the truths You pack into Romans 8 for us to ponder and treasure. Thank you for Your sacrifice and the release and relief we receive through Jesus, Your Precious Son. Help our mind remember and our heart be transformed to become more like Yours each day. May we look toward eternity with eager anticipation of what is to come and make choices now that prepare us to meet You face to face while living with fullness of joy and shining You to all we meet where we are right now. Thank you that Jesus is our constant hope, our joy, our assurance. May we become more like Him daily. In Your precious name we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this episode. The Live With Eternal Perspective podcast is currently linked to my new website at terrihitt.com, where you can access all the podcasts housed in one convenient location, as well as receive access to blog posts, transcripts, and additional free resources that are added to regularly. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to Jesus and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up and find new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #109 – When Life Seems Hopeless Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together and live with purposed eternal perspective. So many people are hurting right now. As I’ve listened to podcasts, read headlines, and viewed posts on social media, I’ve seen and heard people express feelings of hopelessness. They share feelings of overwhelm by the state of the world, life circumstances, or current hardships. It can be easy to feel hopeless or powerless when our footing doesn’t feel solid. We deal with finances, relationships, health, employment, choices, and parenting; the list of things we could worry about can be very long. Statistics show that over half of young Americans feel down, depressed, or hopeless. I call it an epidemic of heart disease. Why? Everything we are and do stems from the condition of our heart. When stressed or worried, humans can express the ugliest, hurtful actions and words. Under pressure, bitterness or joy can be expelled from within us. What releases exposes the condition of our heart. If we focus on, or allow our mind to linger on things of this world, we will lose joy, feel despair, and begin to embrace hopelessness. Now, it’s okay to have emotions. God blessed us with the ability to experience a full range of emotions. It’s a joy to feel! Yet God does not want us to remain stuck in our emotions. Our Heavenly Father desires that we live life to the fullest. His definition of full. Feel your emotions, evaluate your feelings, then measure them against the lens of God’s eyes and heart. God calls us to be discerning in all things, using His wisdom and understanding, not our own or that of the world. Evaluating and understanding our emotions, thoughts, and feelings under the wise counsel of our Heavenly Father allows us to process godly wisdom and truth. Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think on these things.” Despite circumstances, intentionally cling to the Lord. We cannot change what goes on around us, but we can allow God to work on what is in us. If we focus on God’s truths instead of self, our feelings, thoughts, and emotions (that are colored and affected by neglect, disappointment, loneliness, past experience, or confusion), our beliefs will change. Our heart will be altered and can be healed. Stress and burden becomes something we can choose to carry or release. Matthew 11:28-30 says, “Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” Jesus wants to carry your load. He simply makes His truths known, beckons us, and waits for us to humbly trust and release. Psalm 25:5 says, “Guide me in Your truth and teach me, for You are the God of my salvation; all day long I wait for You.” Knowledge of God’s words leads to discovery of His truths. God’s truths transform who we are inside: our thoughts, emotions, desires, and beliefs. They also reconstruct what shows to others: our actions and reactions, words, and tones. Psalm 1:2 says, “But his delight is in the Law of the Lord, and on His law he meditates day and night.” How do we find release and relief from the burdens of this world? 1. The first step in finding escape from hopelessness or despair, depression or fear is to know God. Through His holy word, the Bible, you can begin or strengthen a personal relationship with God through Jesus. Reading the Bible isn’t a chore, but a study of history, truths, and promises purposed to allow us to intimately know and receive the God of the Universe. John 16:33 says, “I have told you these things so that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take courage; I have overcome the world!” Because God gave us His word, as well as Himself through Jesus, we can know Him intimately. It is our choice whether we will make the time to grow and mature a relationship. 2. After purposing to see and know God, we make the choice whether we will trust Him. Isaiah 40:31 says, “But those who wait upon the Lord will renew their strength; they will mount up with wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not faint.” Psalm 43:5 says, “Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why the unease within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise Him, my Savior and my God.” 3. Growing a mindset for eternity that mirrors Christ is the next step. As we grow in Him, we become like Him. 2 Corinthians 12:9, 10 says, “But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is perfected in weakness. Therefore I will boast all the more gladly in my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest on me. That is why, for the sake of Christ, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” As our mindset shifts, we begin to see the troubles and trials of this world as opportunities to allow Christ to embed Himself in us even more deeply. We accept difficulties and disappointments as bridges to bring us closer to the heart of Jesus. We cry out for Him to work within us, shine from us, and draw others nearer to himself through what we endure and experience. We begin and continue to draw nearer to God despite and through circumstances intended for evil or harm. 2 Corinthians 12:9 says, “But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is perfected in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly in my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest on me.” Psalm 9:9,10 says, “The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble. Those who know Your name trust in You, for You, O Lord, have not forsaken those who seek You.” Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Colossians 3:2 says, “Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” There are so many beautiful verses that help us to see and know the heart of God. We have truths and promises in the Bible that remind us of God’s intentions for us, His plans for us. God created each one of us for relationship; a sacred bond that nothing can snatch from His hand. This podcast has been full of timeless, basic truths. I know life can seem overwhelming, hard, confusing, and hopeless. Each of us have lived through hard times that have caused deep hurts or betrayals, hardships or disaster. I know it can be so hard to release self to Christ. I pray that the basic reminders I’ve shared today will encourage you to continue strengthening your walk with Jesus or cause you to begin a new relationship of trust and surrender. So many beautiful truths fill the pages of God’s holy word. So many promises rest in the pages, promises from a holy God who cannot lie. You can trust Who He claims to be and rely on His source of light and life to alter your life, if you let Him. I want to continue reading verses that I pray will encourage and lift your heart and attitude as you listen, as well as cause you to find your Bible and begin studying God’s word anew in your life. Through purposed study of God’s word, a new life is opened up for you. God is all He says in His word and more. There is no other relationship in this world that will delight and complete you or transform your life like an intimate walk with Jesus. John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” Psalm 34:17-20 says, “The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears; He delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted; He saves the contrite in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him from them all. He protects all his bones; not one of them will be broken.” Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, to give you a future and a hope.” Luke 1:37 says, “For no word from God will ever fail.” Romans 12:2 says, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God.” Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that God works all things together for the good of those who love Him, who are called according to His purpose.” Isaiah 41:10 says, “Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be afraid, for I am your God. I will strengthen you; I will surely help you; I will uphold you with My right hand of righteousness.” Romans 12:12 says, “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, persistent in prayer.” Galatians 5:1 says, “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not be encumbered once more by a yoke of slavery.” Psalm 43:5 says, “Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why the unease within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise Him, my Savior and my God.” Deuteronomy 31:8 says, “The Lord Himself goes before you; He will be with you. He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid or discouraged.” 1 Peter 5:6-9 says, “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, so that in due time He may exalt you. Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you. Be sober-minded and alert. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in your faith and in the knowledge that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kinds of suffering.” Proverbs 23:18 says, “For surely there is a future, and your hope will not be cut off.” Psalm 62:5 says, “Rest in God alone, O my soul, for my hope comes from Him.” Romans 8:38-39 says, “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor principalities, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Psalm 34:17-22 says, “The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears; He delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted; He saves the contrite in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him from them all. He protects all his bones; not one of them will be broken. Evil will slay the wicked, and the haters of the righteous will be condemned. The Lord redeems His servants, and none who take refuge in Him will be condemned.” Dear Heavenly Father, thank you that You are gentle and humble, that Your Spirit yearns for us. Thank you also that You are holy and righteous. Despite all of our frailties and filth, You desire relationship and an eternity with us. Somehow You still look upon us with an agape, eternal love that has no boundaries, no borders. Cause us to see ourselves through Your eyes. Make us seek Your face and Your heart with a passion and heavenly love. Help us to yearn for You more than this world. Help us seek out and remember Your truths so that we walk in Your ways and cause others to know You more. Help us not to trust our thoughts and feelings or emotions, but cling to Yours in all things. Drive out insecurities, bitterness, fears, depression or desolation. Help us seek You for answers and comfort. Scripture teaches us that Your word is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword and cuts between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. Your word exposes our innermost thoughts and desires. Expose to us what we need to see to draw nearer to You and away from sin and self. Give us Your hope and peace, despite circumstances. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, I invite you to share Live With Eternal Perspective episodes with friends and family so that they can begin to listen each week. Would you please also place a rating and review at Apple Podcasts or Spotify to enable others to find each episode? I’m very excited to share that my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” has released! I hope you will look for it, follow it, and share both podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Right now the podcast is on Spotify and iHeart Radio, but will be available on other platforms soon. These podcasts are important steps of obedience that I pray bless you. If we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 109 - When Life Seems Hopeless Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #109 – When Life Seems Hopeless Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together and live with purposed eternal perspective. So many people are hurting right now. As I’ve listened to podcasts, read headlines, and viewed posts on social media, I’ve seen and heard people express feelings of hopelessness. They share feelings of overwhelm by the state of the world, life circumstances, or current hardships. It can be easy to feel hopeless or powerless when our footing doesn’t feel solid. We deal with finances, relationships, health, employment, choices, and parenting; the list of things we could worry about can be very long. Statistics show that over half of young Americans feel down, depressed, or hopeless. I call it an epidemic of heart disease. Why? Everything we are and do stems from the condition of our heart. When stressed or worried, humans can express the ugliest, hurtful actions and words. Under pressure, bitterness or joy can be expelled from within us. What releases exposes the condition of our heart. If we focus on, or allow our mind to linger on things of this world, we will lose joy, feel despair, and begin to embrace hopelessness. Now, it’s okay to have emotions. God blessed us with the ability to experience a full range of emotions. It’s a joy to feel! Yet God does not want us to remain stuck in our emotions. Our Heavenly Father desires that we live life to the fullest. His definition of full. Feel your emotions, evaluate your feelings, then measure them against the lens of God’s eyes and heart. God calls us to be discerning in all things, using His wisdom and understanding, not our own or that of the world. Evaluating and understanding our emotions, thoughts, and feelings under the wise counsel of our Heavenly Father allows us to process godly wisdom and truth. Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think on these things.” Despite circumstances, intentionally cling to the Lord. We cannot change what goes on around us, but we can allow God to work on what is in us. If we focus on God’s truths instead of self, our feelings, thoughts, and emotions (that are colored and affected by neglect, disappointment, loneliness, past experience, or confusion), our beliefs will change. Our heart will be altered and can be healed. Stress and burden becomes something we can choose to carry or release. Matthew 11:28-30 says, “Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” Jesus wants to carry your load. He simply makes His truths known, beckons us, and waits for us to humbly trust and release. Psalm 25:5 says, “Guide me in Your truth and teach me, for You are the God of my salvation; all day long I wait for You.” Knowledge of God’s words leads to discovery of His truths. God’s truths transform who we are inside: our thoughts, emotions, desires, and beliefs. They also reconstruct what shows to others: our actions and reactions, words, and tones. Psalm 1:2 says, “But his delight is in the Law of the Lord, and on His law he meditates day and night.” How do we find release and relief from the burdens of this world? 1. The first step in finding escape from hopelessness or despair, depression or fear is to know God. Through His holy word, the Bible, you can begin or strengthen a personal relationship with God through Jesus. Reading the Bible isn’t a chore, but a study of history, truths, and promises purposed to allow us to intimately know and receive the God of the Universe. John 16:33 says, “I have told you these things so that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take courage; I have overcome the world!” Because God gave us His word, as well as Himself through Jesus, we can know Him intimately. It is our choice whether we will make the time to grow and mature a relationship. 2. After purposing to see and know God, we make the choice whether we will trust Him. Isaiah 40:31 says, “But those who wait upon the Lord will renew their strength; they will mount up with wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not faint.” Psalm 43:5 says, “Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why the unease within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise Him, my Savior and my God.” 3. Growing a mindset for eternity that mirrors Christ is the next step. As we grow in Him, we become like Him. 2 Corinthians 12:9, 10 says, “But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is perfected in weakness. Therefore I will boast all the more gladly in my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest on me. That is why, for the sake of Christ, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” As our mindset shifts, we begin to see the troubles and trials of this world as opportunities to allow Christ to embed Himself in us even more deeply. We accept difficulties and disappointments as bridges to bring us closer to the heart of Jesus. We cry out for Him to work within us, shine from us, and draw others nearer to himself through what we endure and experience. We begin and continue to draw nearer to God despite and through circumstances intended for evil or harm. 2 Corinthians 12:9 says, “But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is perfected in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly in my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest on me.” Psalm 9:9,10 says, “The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble. Those who know Your name trust in You, for You, O Lord, have not forsaken those who seek You.” Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Colossians 3:2 says, “Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” There are so many beautiful verses that help us to see and know the heart of God. We have truths and promises in the Bible that remind us of God’s intentions for us, His plans for us. God created each one of us for relationship; a sacred bond that nothing can snatch from His hand. This podcast has been full of timeless, basic truths. I know life can seem overwhelming, hard, confusing, and hopeless. Each of us have lived through hard times that have caused deep hurts or betrayals, hardships or disaster. I know it can be so hard to release self to Christ. I pray that the basic reminders I’ve shared today will encourage you to continue strengthening your walk with Jesus or cause you to begin a new relationship of trust and surrender. So many beautiful truths fill the pages of God’s holy word. So many promises rest in the pages, promises from a holy God who cannot lie. You can trust Who He claims to be and rely on His source of light and life to alter your life, if you let Him. I want to continue reading verses that I pray will encourage and lift your heart and attitude as you listen, as well as cause you to find your Bible and begin studying God’s word anew in your life. Through purposed study of God’s word, a new life is opened up for you. God is all He says in His word and more. There is no other relationship in this world that will delight and complete you or transform your life like an intimate walk with Jesus. John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” Psalm 34:17-20 says, “The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears; He delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted; He saves the contrite in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him from them all. He protects all his bones; not one of them will be broken.” Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, to give you a future and a hope.” Luke 1:37 says, “For no word from God will ever fail.” Romans 12:2 says, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God.” Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that God works all things together for the good of those who love Him, who are called according to His purpose.” Isaiah 41:10 says, “Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be afraid, for I am your God. I will strengthen you; I will surely help you; I will uphold you with My right hand of righteousness.” Romans 12:12 says, “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, persistent in prayer.” Galatians 5:1 says, “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not be encumbered once more by a yoke of slavery.” Psalm 43:5 says, “Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why the unease within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise Him, my Savior and my God.” Deuteronomy 31:8 says, “The Lord Himself goes before you; He will be with you. He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid or discouraged.” 1 Peter 5:6-9 says, “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, so that in due time He may exalt you. Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you. Be sober-minded and alert. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in your faith and in the knowledge that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kinds of suffering.” Proverbs 23:18 says, “For surely there is a future, and your hope will not be cut off.” Psalm 62:5 says, “Rest in God alone, O my soul, for my hope comes from Him.” Romans 8:38-39 says, “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor principalities, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Psalm 34:17-22 says, “The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears; He delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted; He saves the contrite in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him from them all. He protects all his bones; not one of them will be broken. Evil will slay the wicked, and the haters of the righteous will be condemned. The Lord redeems His servants, and none who take refuge in Him will be condemned.” Dear Heavenly Father, thank you that You are gentle and humble, that Your Spirit yearns for us. Thank you also that You are holy and righteous. Despite all of our frailties and filth, You desire relationship and an eternity with us. Somehow You still look upon us with an agape, eternal love that has no boundaries, no borders. Cause us to see ourselves through Your eyes. Make us seek Your face and Your heart with a passion and heavenly love. Help us to yearn for You more than this world. Help us seek out and remember Your truths so that we walk in Your ways and cause others to know You more. Help us not to trust our thoughts and feelings or emotions, but cling to Yours in all things. Drive out insecurities, bitterness, fears, depression or desolation. Help us seek You for answers and comfort. Scripture teaches us that Your word is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword and cuts between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. Your word exposes our innermost thoughts and desires. Expose to us what we need to see to draw nearer to You and away from sin and self. Give us Your hope and peace, despite circumstances. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, I invite you to share Live With Eternal Perspective episodes with friends and family so that they can begin to listen each week. Would you please also place a rating and review at Apple Podcasts or Spotify to enable others to find each episode? I’m very excited to share that my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” has released! I hope you will look for it, follow it, and share both podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Right now the podcast is on Spotify and iHeart Radio, but will be available on other platforms soon. These podcasts are important steps of obedience that I pray bless you. If we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #082 –Peace That Guards Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Philippians 4:7 says, “And the peace of God, surpassing all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” About five months ago I felt a warning in my spirit that my sweet golden boy, Max was going to be attacked. There was no reason for the thought. It came on me just as I’ve had random ideas of things to come in the past. Three months after my warning, my Golden Retriever, Max suddenly became ill and passed away on June 18. Our sweet little girl, Misty, our precious Miniature Schnauzer was gone three days later. At the time I wondered if it might be spiritual warfare. The closer we move to God and the more we offer to Him in genuine submission and love to honor and glorify Him, we can be targeted or attacked. God has spoken to me in similar ways over the years. I am not claiming a be a prophet. I certainly am not one. Nor am I a psychic. I do listen for the voice of God and desire to recognize when He speaks to me. Each of us has a personal connection to our Heavenly Father and I know He speaks intimately to us in the ways we will recognize and appreciate. Just as our Heavenly Father has warned me about things in the past, I appreciate hearing His voice and know it kept me calmer since I already knew something was going to happen to my baby boy. Just as when the Lord warned me about losing my oldest daughter 24 hours before she passed or that my father would pass away in 2013, and multiple other events. On the day our Golden Retriever passed away, I was driving home from the emergency veterinary clinic when I felt the same voice in my spirit tell me that “I would be attacked next.” I didn’t tell anyone about it except my husband. Almost two months later, I am not surprised that my doctor recently asked me to return for a second mammogram, then told me that I need to go in for a biopsy. Even through this season, I know that God is going before me and has everything under control. There is a peace that passes understanding girding my spirit and mind. Yesterday as I was sitting at a doctor’s appointment with my youngest daughter, I received a call from my doctor that proves God is paving the way as she explained that she wanted me to switch biopsy providers and was making a new referral for me. It was to the medical center I had hoped to go to, but had not mentioned it because I did not think it could be done. A bubble of peace and calm continues to surround and carry me. Are you like me? It’s actually easier to handle medical concerns and conditions about myself than it is regarding my children. I would much prefer to take on all their battles, and bear their wounds. Yet our sovereign God knows exactly what each of us needs to endure or face that will bring Him honor and glory in not only our life, but also those around us and anyone we may come into contact with. What our child faces will develop relationship with God (for each of us) if we foster a loving mentorship that leads directly to Him. My youngest has testing scheduled right after my biopsy that will not be pleasant for her. I have been seeking and beginning dialogues with her in an effort to prepare and build her reliance on the only One who can handle anything she feels or experiences in perfect ways and measures designed to mature her walk with Him in glorious ways. No matter how involved I am in the care she receives, He will know, understand, and minister to her in intimate ways she may not have voiced to me or even yet understand herself. How privileged I am to have a small part in the development of her present, future, and eternity. Philippians 4:4-9 says, “Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be apparent to all. The Lord is near. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think on these things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me, put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.” How would God define peace? I am positive the Creator of all things, our Holy, Omnipotent God would describe peace much more profoundly than I can. In my weak, human mind, I suspect the peace of God is not only a calmness that erases worry in our mind and attitude. I believe the peace of God is a complete and supernatural presence of Almighty God going before us and carrying us in His capable and loving arms, holding us near enough to feel the beating of His heart against us, filling us with the courage and resolve to continue the journey. As I stated on the podcast last week, I am spending time with my girls preparing for our new school year, doing last minute activities from our summer “to do” list, and taking care of the personal needs I expressed. Instead of a long podcast with new topics in this episode, I want to direct you to past episodes reminding each of us to look Up to the only one who can offer us and sustain us with the peace we need in this world. So many are in need of peace at this moment. Peace is a necessity that often escapes us. I know that in my own life when I feel the fraying of nerves begin and even an inkling of frustration or unrest threatens to invade my spirit, it is an opportunity to choose. Do I want to sit in my emotions, feelings, thoughts, worries, or fears – or will I recognize the opportunity to trust in God? Today, after several medical phone calls and a tight schedule, I knew I needed to rest in God’s word. Yet as wonderful as it is to do so, the first thing I knew I needed was a quiet time to simply sit with God and speak to Him about my feelings and clear my mind and heart to hear Him speak to me. After my time of reflection and prayer, I listened to God’s word on audio instead of reading it myself. Sometimes it is enlightening to hear another speak the words of God and simply listen without reading and studying as I go. Just hearing God’s powerful words, instructions, and promises to me left my spirit calmer and I felt I had taken the opportunity to make a sharp detour away from the course my flesh may have gone earlier. God is the beacon guiding me through any storm and the anchor securing me in a world of chaos and confusion. Yet I must choose to follow Him. Each moment allows me that opportunity to embrace the option to follow self, world, or the Lord of Heaven and Earth. I invite you to listen to a few “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast episodes that will help foster the peace only God can give. Episode 2 – Protecting Our Thoughts Episode 14 – Fear Episode 21 – Peace That Passes Understanding Episode 72 – Faith That Perseveres These episodes point to our Father and the calm He lovingly and willingly promises to those who trust in Him. John 14:27 says, “Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” Father God, You alone are Holy. You are sovereign. You are good. Thank you for allowing me to choose to place my trust in You. Relationship is sweet when we choose the one we are with. I choose You, God. Thank you for the work you have done and continue to do in me. Help me to seek you despite the chaos and confusing messages of this world. You are the foundation I need to build my life on and my trust in. May Your words be buried inside me to draw me ever nearer to You and may Your spirit shine forth from me to light the way for others. Thank you for the choice to be with You and be made new each moment. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 082 Peace That Guards Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #082 –Peace That Guards Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Philippians 4:7 says, “And the peace of God, surpassing all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” About five months ago I felt a warning in my spirit that my sweet golden boy, Max was going to be attacked. There was no reason for the thought. It came on me just as I’ve had random ideas of things to come in the past. Three months after my warning, my Golden Retriever, Max suddenly became ill and passed away on June 18. Our sweet little girl, Misty, our precious Miniature Schnauzer was gone three days later. At the time I wondered if it might be spiritual warfare. The closer we move to God and the more we offer to Him in genuine submission and love to honor and glorify Him, we can be targeted or attacked. God has spoken to me in similar ways over the years. I am not claiming a be a prophet. I certainly am not one. Nor am I a psychic. I do listen for the voice of God and desire to recognize when He speaks to me. Each of us has a personal connection to our Heavenly Father and I know He speaks intimately to us in the ways we will recognize and appreciate. Just as our Heavenly Father has warned me about things in the past, I appreciate hearing His voice and know it kept me calmer since I already knew something was going to happen to my baby boy. Just as when the Lord warned me about losing my oldest daughter 24 hours before she passed or that my father would pass away in 2013, and multiple other events. On the day our Golden Retriever passed away, I was driving home from the emergency veterinary clinic when I felt the same voice in my spirit tell me that “I would be attacked next.” I didn’t tell anyone about it except my husband. Almost two months later, I am not surprised that my doctor recently asked me to return for a second mammogram, then told me that I need to go in for a biopsy. Even through this season, I know that God is going before me and has everything under control. There is a peace that passes understanding girding my spirit and mind. Yesterday as I was sitting at a doctor’s appointment with my youngest daughter, I received a call from my doctor that proves God is paving the way as she explained that she wanted me to switch biopsy providers and was making a new referral for me. It was to the medical center I had hoped to go to, but had not mentioned it because I did not think it could be done. A bubble of peace and calm continues to surround and carry me. Are you like me? It’s actually easier to handle medical concerns and conditions about myself than it is regarding my children. I would much prefer to take on all their battles, and bear their wounds. Yet our sovereign God knows exactly what each of us needs to endure or face that will bring Him honor and glory in not only our life, but also those around us and anyone we may come into contact with. What our child faces will develop relationship with God (for each of us) if we foster a loving mentorship that leads directly to Him. My youngest has testing scheduled right after my biopsy that will not be pleasant for her. I have been seeking and beginning dialogues with her in an effort to prepare and build her reliance on the only One who can handle anything she feels or experiences in perfect ways and measures designed to mature her walk with Him in glorious ways. No matter how involved I am in the care she receives, He will know, understand, and minister to her in intimate ways she may not have voiced to me or even yet understand herself. How privileged I am to have a small part in the development of her present, future, and eternity. Philippians 4:4-9 says, “Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be apparent to all. The Lord is near. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think on these things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me, put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.” How would God define peace? I am positive the Creator of all things, our Holy, Omnipotent God would describe peace much more profoundly than I can. In my weak, human mind, I suspect the peace of God is not only a calmness that erases worry in our mind and attitude. I believe the peace of God is a complete and supernatural presence of Almighty God going before us and carrying us in His capable and loving arms, holding us near enough to feel the beating of His heart against us, filling us with the courage and resolve to continue the journey. As I stated on the podcast last week, I am spending time with my girls preparing for our new school year, doing last minute activities from our summer “to do” list, and taking care of the personal needs I expressed. Instead of a long podcast with new topics in this episode, I want to direct you to past episodes reminding each of us to look Up to the only one who can offer us and sustain us with the peace we need in this world. So many are in need of peace at this moment. Peace is a necessity that often escapes us. I know that in my own life when I feel the fraying of nerves begin and even an inkling of frustration or unrest threatens to invade my spirit, it is an opportunity to choose. Do I want to sit in my emotions, feelings, thoughts, worries, or fears – or will I recognize the opportunity to trust in God? Today, after several medical phone calls and a tight schedule, I knew I needed to rest in God’s word. Yet as wonderful as it is to do so, the first thing I knew I needed was a quiet time to simply sit with God and speak to Him about my feelings and clear my mind and heart to hear Him speak to me. After my time of reflection and prayer, I listened to God’s word on audio instead of reading it myself. Sometimes it is enlightening to hear another speak the words of God and simply listen without reading and studying as I go. Just hearing God’s powerful words, instructions, and promises to me left my spirit calmer and I felt I had taken the opportunity to make a sharp detour away from the course my flesh may have gone earlier. God is the beacon guiding me through any storm and the anchor securing me in a world of chaos and confusion. Yet I must choose to follow Him. Each moment allows me that opportunity to embrace the option to follow self, world, or the Lord of Heaven and Earth. I invite you to listen to a few “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast episodes that will help foster the peace only God can give. Episode 2 – Protecting Our Thoughts Episode 14 – Fear Episode 21 – Peace That Passes Understanding Episode 72 – Faith That Perseveres These episodes point to our Father and the calm He lovingly and willingly promises to those who trust in Him. John 14:27 says, “Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” Father God, You alone are Holy. You are sovereign. You are good. Thank you for allowing me to choose to place my trust in You. Relationship is sweet when we choose the one we are with. I choose You, God. Thank you for the work you have done and continue to do in me. Help me to seek you despite the chaos and confusing messages of this world. You are the foundation I need to build my life on and my trust in. May Your words be buried inside me to draw me ever nearer to You and may Your spirit shine forth from me to light the way for others. Thank you for the choice to be with You and be made new each moment. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #092 – Interview with Charlene Notgrass of Notgrass History – Part 2 Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Have you learned tips or training during our homeschool series? Perhaps you’ve been encouraged in new ways or learned how to support a home educator you know. Today we will listen to Part Two of my conversation with Charlene Notgrass of Notgrass History. If you didn’t hear Part One yet, I encourage you to listen to the episode from last week. Charlene has such a heart for following Jesus and allowing Him to lead the education you shape for your child. Now, let’s listen to Part Two, as we continue where we left off in the last episode. -----------------------------------------------------------INTERVIEW ------------------------------------------------------------- It is such a blessing to listen to veteran homeschool parents who have stayed the course and are able to encourage and inspire as we continue in the journey or begin for the first time. You can connect with Charlene Notgrass at www.notgrass.com or follow her daily encouragement at www.notgrass.com/daily. As always, please feel free to let me know if you have specific questions I may be able to answer or if you need information or encouragement about a specific topic related to the podcast or interviews. You can reach me at info@terrihitt.com. Father God, thank you for Your holy presence in our life. Thank you for creating and knowing us, yet still desiring an intimate relationship with each one of us. We want that closeness with our families and for our children to know You well and choose You over culture. Father, we are grateful for the privilege of homechooling our children. We thank you that there are numerous resources to equip and encourage us, that there are women who follow You closely and can guide us straight to You. Help us to know and follow the good and perfect will You established for us and for our children when we were known by You in the secret place. Help us to be more pleasing and obedient to You daily. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 092 - Interview with Charlene Notgrass - Part 2 Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #092 – Interview with Charlene Notgrass of Notgrass History – Part 2 Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Have you learned tips or training during our homeschool series? Perhaps you’ve been encouraged in new ways or learned how to support a home educator you know. Today we will listen to Part Two of my conversation with Charlene Notgrass of Notgrass History. If you didn’t hear Part One yet, I encourage you to listen to the episode from last week. Charlene has such a heart for following Jesus and allowing Him to lead the education you shape for your child. Now, let’s listen to Part Two, as we continue where we left off in the last episode. -----------------------------------------------------------INTERVIEW ------------------------------------------------------------- It is such a blessing to listen to veteran homeschool parents who have stayed the course and are able to encourage and inspire as we continue in the journey or begin for the first time. You can connect with Charlene Notgrass at www.notgrass.com or follow her daily encouragement at www.notgrass.com/daily. As always, please feel free to let me know if you have specific questions I may be able to answer or if you need information or encouragement about a specific topic related to the podcast or interviews. You can reach me at info@terrihitt.com . Father God, thank you for Your holy presence in our life. Thank you for creating and knowing us, yet still desiring an intimate relationship with each one of us. We want that closeness with our families and for our children to know You well and choose You over culture. Father, we are grateful for the privilege of homechooling our children. We thank you that there are numerous resources to equip and encourage us, that there are women who follow You closely and can guide us straight to You. Help us to know and follow the good and perfect will You established for us and for our children when we were known by You in the secret place. Help us to be more pleasing and obedient to You daily. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. https://www.notgrass.com https://www.notgrass.com/daily

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Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #005 - Handling Hardships Thank you for entrusting and investing part of your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. At the time I am working on this podcast, several of my friends are experiencing hardships in their life. One will celebrate her first Christmas without her beloved husband; one celebrates her first Christmas without a beloved son; one just lost two family members and has another in the hospital. Others have children in the hospital. Many people I know are fighting battles in this world. Adversity has no schedule. Trials don’t respect holidays, busy lives, or people. Death and affliction sometimes seem to happen randomly, but as believers, we know that God is never surprised. Everything that happens to believers has already been sifted through His sovereign hands. He is with us through every storm, waiting to carry us through. Ten years ago, I lost my oldest daughter, Jaime. My family entered a season of what felt like destruction. The years between 2009 and 2015 were brutal to live through. After walking through the loss of my child, attention had to be shifted to my parents. My mother suffered from Alzheimer’s and my father, sister, and I made the very difficult decision to move her to a memory care unit. Multiple reasons prompted us to make that decision, but we certainly did not want her to feel abandoned or forgotten. My father, my sister, my daughter, Marissa (who was around five years old at the time), and I visited her daily. Marissa was at the facility so much that they allowed her to visit random residents in their rooms. It cheered each one of them, as well as the staff, to see her smiling face and hear the bubbly voice of a young child. Marissa also helped with crafts and the physical activity program in my mother’s unit. Although being around so much illness was often difficult at the time, in hindsight, God allowed the experiences to soften the heart of my daughter toward the elderly. Even now, she feels comfortable around older adults and enjoys conversing with them. After my mother had been living in the memory care facility for a while, my father began having significant symptoms in 2012 that finally prompted him to see a doctor. In January of 2013, he was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. At the time, they gave him one week to a year to live. While we had been seeing my mother every day and devoting large amounts of time to be with her and help with major decisions in her care, Marissa and I now had to divide my mother’s time and share it with my father. He got so sick that we had to lessen the time we spent with my mother considerably, although I still kept in close contact with her caregivers, and my sister was still visiting and helping with her care her as often as she could. Dad simply needed so much at that time. We took him to doctor appointments, helped with his medicine, finances, errands, and general understanding of his health. After he was rushed to the hospital in June, the doctors knew he would not be able to return home. When he regained enough strength by the end of the week to be released, the generous people at the facility my mother lived in tried to find him a room near her. He was moved there briefly, but since his insurance did not cover the facility, we had to find an alternative. Although he was stronger, he was still weak and needed special care, so his deepest wish to return home and drive his little truck around town would not come true. For several reasons, my father was not able to live with my sister or myself. The social worker at my mother’s facility found a nursing home near my father’s house that had an opening and he was moved there within the week. We now had our time split between two parents with high needs, who lived in two separate facilities. Spending almost every day battling emergencies with my father was extremely taxing. On top of that, managing cleaning out his house to donate and sell items to prepare his home for market, and helping with my managing my mother’s care and making time to see her, was exhausting and emotionally difficult. I was burdened by the fact that my young daughter was definitely not getting the time and attention she was accustomed to, or deserved. I was juggling too many things, as was my sister, and the needs of my precious daughter were being ignored. I continually prayed for God to sustain us through this storm. I remember one morning while Marissa was still sleeping, I was putting my makeup on when I received a phone call from the woman I had hired to hold an estate sale at my parent’s home. One of the employees she hired had sold their refrigerator the day before, but had not turned the water off when they pulled out the refrigerator. The house was flooded. Additional bad news came with that call as well, and when it was over, I was crushed. I knew God was with us. I had seen His hand working in so many precious ways through everything during the last four years, and I had tried through it all to remain optimistic and to notice and be thankful for the ways God was working, but in that moment, all I felt was defeat. I went to my closet, lay on the floor inside, and shut the door in case Marissa awakened. Then I began to cry. Hard. In defeat, I threw my feelings out to God. Then, my emotions surfaced; they were my subconscious reactions to everything that had been happening with my parents and family. I knew He already understood and was caring for all of my concerns, but I had to talk to Him. So much was intertwined in caring for both parents, and all the hurts and losses over the years had roots that were being exposed as the soil of my parent’s capabilities eroded. For example, as challenging as it was caring for my father, the blessing of loving him in his final days brought him to me in a new way. I knew God understood and I poured everything out in a jumble of words that only He could piece together into the masterpiece He would create through our distress. My father always told me how much he loved me as I grew up, but his actions didn’t always match his words. I had grown up wanting private time with him, but never got it. I longed for daddy/daughter dates, or even just his undivided attention without him racing off. Through caring for him, I found he was at my mercy. He had to spend time with me. He was so weak and was confined to a wheelchair, so I would take him on “dates” to the physical therapy room to find activities we could do together. Our options were limited, but the act of telling him we were on a date and moving him to a new location was therapy for my soul. One of my favorite activities was placing a bedside table between us and rolling a small ball across the top for him to bat back to me. Years of hurt and sorrow washed from my spirit each time we played. I was reminded of the numerous pleas I had cried to God for my earthly father during most of my life. My Heavenly Father was now answering in small, unexpected, but perfect ways tailored to my specific needs. 1 Peter 5:7 promises, “Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” I wondered if my father had always wanted more time together, too, but because of addiction and shame, had not been able to break the cycle of his life and make the changes he desired. I cherished the deeper talks we began having when he was sick and held them in my heart as I crawled into bed with my daddy on his weakest days, holding him close. I had become the parent, subtly interceding where I felt prompted by God. It enabled any residue of hurt to wash away just as Jesus had washed the feet of His disciples. I now understood sacrifice in a different way that I hoped began to resemble Jesus. Only God knows the purpose of suffering, but I believe our Heavenly Father loves each of His children and intertwines life scenarios for the good of all involved and for His eternal glory. I knew with a certainty that God was in control, that He would provide and care for my parents, as well as my family, but the process was still so hard! Dealing with so much at once, especially with both parents, took a lot of emotional, mental, physical, financial, and spiritual investment. I had tried to be very specific about releasing daily burdens to God and letting Him deal with all that was happening. I knew my relationship was strong, yet there were subtle ways I could see Satan creeping in to attempt to distract me. 1 Peter 5:8 warns us, “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experienced by your brotherhood in the world. But may the God of all grace, who called us to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you.” I had to purposely look for ways God was working in order to stretch my faith and allow it to penetrate my character more deeply. It was an absolutely intentional mindset, but if I hadn’t forced it, my family would have been devastated by the intense needs and demands pressed on us. While I was surrounded by pain, brokenness, and trials, my Savior called for me to release them to Him. As I placed them in His capable hands, intimate grains of hope and joy blossomed inside me and brought forth gratitude, not for the destruction in this world, but for the way He lifts us above earthly vision and draws us nearer to His eternal splendor. He is enough for our every need. Despite many ways that hardship was presented almost daily, God carried me as I clung to His word, mindful of His past faithfulness to me, especially during the loss of my oldest daughter. That combination enabled me to keep myself securely focused on Him. I didn’t want to underestimate the devil, but my relationship with Christ promised me that He was greater than Satan and already had the final victory. I didn’t know how long this battle would last, but I had to remain focused on and committed to the only One who could give me the endurance I would need. I certainly couldn’t find it in my own strength. I’m a very strong and logical person, but I can promise you that my family and I would not have made it through all that happened without God. I’m so thankful I already knew and trusted in Him. I’m also incredibly grateful that He used all of it to draw me nearer to Him and that He has been able to redeem and use all the bad residue from the hardships for His glory. Trials like the ones we experience through challenging times can make us doubt God. The question most people wonder is, “Why does He allow suffering?” My first response to that is always the beautiful reminder that Jesus cared enough to warn about persecution. In John 16:33b, Jesus says, “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world,” and in Romans 5:3-4, Paul speaks words meant to encourage and teach. “We also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Suffering should be expected in this fallen world. Sometimes, it is the catalyst that causes a person to finally release their life to Christ. Other times, it causes a believer to begin viewing affliction with the mindset of Christ. Suffering can purify our mind and heart, causing us to bow to God’s power and sovereignty. At times, however, it may feel as though we are being judged or punished when things are hard and afflictions continue. But if as a believer, we are living in upright ways, and are intentionally deepening our relationship with God, we can be assured that our suffering is a normal part of life and that it is within His will. That means God will use it for His purposes and glory, and not to harm or destroy us. The Bible is filled with examples of men and women who also lived in ways that God approved and disapproved of, and they also experienced distress and pain. Other times, God may allow affliction in our life as instruction or discipline. There are times that God permits it to prove our character and belief, or for the purpose of using what we endured to encourage or inspire others to continue looking to the Lord in their time of need. Other times, God simply allows it to teach us what we could not learn in any other way. Often times, it is for the purpose of erasing or preventing pride in our lives. I know in my life, I have lived through many lessons designed to craft patience. God also allows trials and hardship to teach us to obey Him. How astounding is it that God can use all of the various ways I mentioned (and I am sure even more) and tailor them so individually to each person and situation, yet also intertwine them with others, to change our focus and our future? Through scripture and life experience as believers, we know that God allows things to happen in a believer’s life for many reasons. Sometimes the only way we can grow in a particular area is because of – or by living through - the exact situation that occurred. Whether we endured it, helped a loved one through it, or were a witness to someone else fighting the battle, God knows exactly what to use. Isaiah 48:10 is telling, “See, I have refined you, though not as silver; I have tested you in the furnace of affliction.” Sometimes hardships need to knock us to our knees, and keep us there, as we learn to rely on and completely abide in Him. As believers, we must always remember that we are meant for more. In order to become more like Jesus, we must allow Him to refine us. Without the purification our souls need, our character will never reflect Christ to a world in need. Change can be painful. It’s not easy, it’s never convenient, and we aren’t able to see beyond our present discomfort to the glorious plan God has created and allowed us to be a part of. May we beg God to prevent us from falling into or remaining in a lukewarm relationship with Him, causing Him to vomit us from His mouth. May the trials we endure in our lives force us into His arms and deepen our faith roots in robust soil enriched with His plan for growth and nutrition. 1 Peter 2:21reminds us, “For to this you were called, because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that you should follow His steps.” Jesus is our example in every way. He told us there would be suffering and He modeled how to endure it. Jesus allowed God to direct His steps, His behavior, and His attitude, and His gratitude in every circumstance. This world is not our final destination. As we shift our minds to view every moment of life through an eternal lens, may we remember that we are being prepared for so much more and cling to the perfect example of Christ. Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 005 Handling Hardships Listen to Episode Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #005 - Handling Hardships Thank you for entrusting and investing part of your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. At the time I am working on this podcast, several of my friends are experiencing hardships in their life. One will celebrate her first Christmas without her beloved husband; one celebrates her first Christmas without a beloved son; one just lost two family members and has another in the hospital. Others have children in the hospital. Many people I know are fighting battles in this world. Adversity has no schedule. Trials don’t respect holidays, busy lives, or people. Death and affliction sometimes seem to happen randomly, but as believers, we know that God is never surprised. Everything that happens to believers has already been sifted through His sovereign hands. He is with us through every storm, waiting to carry us through. Ten years ago, I lost my oldest daughter, Jaime. My family entered a season of what felt like destruction. The years between 2009 and 2015 were brutal to live through. After walking through the loss of my child, attention had to be shifted to my parents. My mother suffered from Alzheimer’s and my father, sister, and I made the very difficult decision to move her to a memory care unit. Multiple reasons prompted us to make that decision, but we certainly did not want her to feel abandoned or forgotten. My father, my sister, my daughter, Marissa (who was around five years old at the time), and I visited her daily. Marissa was at the facility so much that they allowed her to visit random residents in their rooms. It cheered each one of them, as well as the staff, to see her smiling face and hear the bubbly voice of a young child. Marissa also helped with crafts and the physical activity program in my mother’s unit. Although being around so much illness was often difficult at the time, in hindsight, God allowed the experiences to soften the heart of my daughter toward the elderly. Even now, she feels comfortable around older adults and enjoys conversing with them. After my mother had been living in the memory care facility for a while, my father began having significant symptoms in 2012 that finally prompted him to see a doctor. In January of 2013, he was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. At the time, they gave him one week to a year to live. While we had been seeing my mother every day and devoting large amounts of time to be with her and help with major decisions in her care, Marissa and I now had to divide my mother’s time and share it with my father. He got so sick that we had to lessen the time we spent with my mother considerably, although I still kept in close contact with her caregivers, and my sister was still visiting and helping with her care her as often as she could. Dad simply needed so much at that time. We took him to doctor appointments, helped with his medicine, finances, errands, and general understanding of his health. After he was rushed to the hospital in June, the doctors knew he would not be able to return home. When he regained enough strength by the end of the week to be released, the generous people at the facility my mother lived in tried to find him a room near her. He was moved there briefly, but since his insurance did not cover the facility, we had to find an alternative. Although he was stronger, he was still weak and needed special care, so his deepest wish to return home and drive his little truck around town would not come true. For several reasons, my father was not able to live with my sister or myself. The social worker at my mother’s facility found a nursing home near my father’s house that had an opening and he was moved there within the week. We now had our time split between two parents with high needs, who lived in two separate facilities. Spending almost every day battling emergencies with my father was extremely taxing. On top of that, managing cleaning out his house to donate and sell items to prepare his home for market, and helping with my managing my mother’s care and making time to see her, was exhausting and emotionally difficult. I was burdened by the fact that my young daughter was definitely not getting the time and attention she was accustomed to, or deserved. I was juggling too many things, as was my sister, and the needs of my precious daughter were being ignored. I continually prayed for God to sustain us through this storm. I remember one morning while Marissa was still sleeping, I was putting my makeup on when I received a phone call from the woman I had hired to hold an estate sale at my parent’s home. One of the employees she hired had sold their refrigerator the day before, but had not turned the water off when they pulled out the refrigerator. The house was flooded. Additional bad news came with that call as well, and when it was over, I was crushed. I knew God was with us. I had seen His hand working in so many precious ways through everything during the last four years, and I had tried through it all to remain optimistic and to notice and be thankful for the ways God was working, but in that moment, all I felt was defeat. I went to my closet, lay on the floor inside, and shut the door in case Marissa awakened. Then I began to cry. Hard. In defeat, I threw my feelings out to God. Then, my emotions surfaced; they were my subconscious reactions to everything that had been happening with my parents and family. I knew He already understood and was caring for all of my concerns, but I had to talk to Him. So much was intertwined in caring for both parents, and all the hurts and losses over the years had roots that were being exposed as the soil of my parent’s capabilities eroded. For example, as challenging as it was caring for my father, the blessing of loving him in his final days brought him to me in a new way. I knew God understood and I poured everything out in a jumble of words that only He could piece together into the masterpiece He would create through our distress. My father always told me how much he loved me as I grew up, but his actions didn’t always match his words. I had grown up wanting private time with him, but never got it. I longed for daddy/daughter dates, or even just his undivided attention without him racing off. Through caring for him, I found he was at my mercy. He had to spend time with me. He was so weak and was confined to a wheelchair, so I would take him on “dates” to the physical therapy room to find activities we could do together. Our options were limited, but the act of telling him we were on a date and moving him to a new location was therapy for my soul. One of my favorite activities was placing a bedside table between us and rolling a small ball across the top for him to bat back to me. Years of hurt and sorrow washed from my spirit each time we played. I was reminded of the numerous pleas I had cried to God for my earthly father during most of my life. My Heavenly Father was now answering in small, unexpected, but perfect ways tailored to my specific needs. 1 Peter 5:7 promises, “Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” I wondered if my father had always wanted more time together, too, but because of addiction and shame, had not been able to break the cycle of his life and make the changes he desired. I cherished the deeper talks we began having when he was sick and held them in my heart as I crawled into bed with my daddy on his weakest days, holding him close. I had become the parent, subtly interceding where I felt prompted by God. It enabled any residue of hurt to wash away just as Jesus had washed the feet of His disciples. I now understood sacrifice in a different way that I hoped began to resemble Jesus. Only God knows the purpose of suffering, but I believe our Heavenly Father loves each of His children and intertwines life scenarios for the good of all involved and for His eternal glory. I knew with a certainty that God was in control, that He would provide and care for my parents, as well as my family, but the process was still so hard! Dealing with so much at once, especially with both parents, took a lot of emotional, mental, physical, financial, and spiritual investment. I had tried to be very specific about releasing daily burdens to God and letting Him deal with all that was happening. I knew my relationship was strong, yet there were subtle ways I could see Satan creeping in to attempt to distract me. 1 Peter 5:8 warns us, “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experienced by your brotherhood in the world. But may the God of all grace, who called us to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you.” I had to purposely look for ways God was working in order to stretch my faith and allow it to penetrate my character more deeply. It was an absolutely intentional mindset, but if I hadn’t forced it, my family would have been devastated by the intense needs and demands pressed on us. While I was surrounded by pain, brokenness, and trials, my Savior called for me to release them to Him. As I placed them in His capable hands, intimate grains of hope and joy blossomed inside me and brought forth gratitude, not for the destruction in this world, but for the way He lifts us above earthly vision and draws us nearer to His eternal splendor. He is enough for our every need. Despite many ways that hardship was presented almost daily, God carried me as I clung to His word, mindful of His past faithfulness to me, especially during the loss of my oldest daughter. That combination enabled me to keep myself securely focused on Him. I didn’t want to underestimate the devil, but my relationship with Christ promised me that He was greater than Satan and already had the final victory. I didn’t know how long this battle would last, but I had to remain focused on and committed to the only One who could give me the endurance I would need. I certainly couldn’t find it in my own strength. I’m a very strong and logical person, but I can promise you that my family and I would not have made it through all that happened without God. I’m so thankful I already knew and trusted in Him. I’m also incredibly grateful that He used all of it to draw me nearer to Him and that He has been able to redeem and use all the bad residue from the hardships for His glory. Trials like the ones we experience through challenging times can make us doubt God. The question most people wonder is, “Why does He allow suffering?” My first response to that is always the beautiful reminder that Jesus cared enough to warn about persecution. In John 16:33b, Jesus says, “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world,” and in Romans 5:3-4, Paul speaks words meant to encourage and teach. “We also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Suffering should be expected in this fallen world. Sometimes, it is the catalyst that causes a person to finally release their life to Christ. Other times, it causes a believer to begin viewing affliction with the mindset of Christ. Suffering can purify our mind and heart, causing us to bow to God’s power and sovereignty. At times, however, it may feel as though we are being judged or punished when things are hard and afflictions continue. But if as a believer, we are living in upright ways, and are intentionally deepening our relationship with God, we can be assured that our suffering is a normal part of life and that it is within His will. That means God will use it for His purposes and glory, and not to harm or destroy us. The Bible is filled with examples of men and women who also lived in ways that God approved and disapproved of, and they also experienced distress and pain. Other times, God may allow affliction in our life as instruction or discipline. There are times that God permits it to prove our character and belief, or for the purpose of using what we endured to encourage or inspire others to continue looking to the Lord in their time of need. Other times, God simply allows it to teach us what we could not learn in any other way. Often times, it is for the purpose of erasing or preventing pride in our lives. I know in my life, I have lived through many lessons designed to craft patience. God also allows trials and hardship to teach us to obey Him. How astounding is it that God can use all of the various ways I mentioned (and I am sure even more) and tailor them so individually to each person and situation, yet also intertwine them with others, to change our focus and our future? Through scripture and life experience as believers, we know that God allows things to happen in a believer’s life for many reasons. Sometimes the only way we can grow in a particular area is because of – or by living through - the exact situation that occurred. Whether we endured it, helped a loved one through it, or were a witness to someone else fighting the battle, God knows exactly what to use. Isaiah 48:10 is telling, “See, I have refined you, though not as silver; I have tested you in the furnace of affliction.” Sometimes hardships need to knock us to our knees, and keep us there, as we learn to rely on and completely abide in Him. As believers, we must always remember that we are meant for more. In order to become more like Jesus, we must allow Him to refine us. Without the purification our souls need, our character will never reflect Christ to a world in need. Change can be painful. It’s not easy, it’s never convenient, and we aren’t able to see beyond our present discomfort to the glorious plan God has created and allowed us to be a part of. May we beg God to prevent us from falling into or remaining in a lukewarm relationship with Him, causing Him to vomit us from His mouth. May the trials we endure in our lives force us into His arms and deepen our faith roots in robust soil enriched with His plan for growth and nutrition. 1 Peter 2:21reminds us, “For to this you were called, because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that you should follow His steps.” Jesus is our example in every way. He told us there would be suffering and He modeled how to endure it. Jesus allowed God to direct His steps, His behavior, and His attitude, and His gratitude in every circumstance. This world is not our final destination. As we shift our minds to view every moment of life through an eternal lens, may we remember that we are being prepared for so much more and cling to the perfect example of Christ. Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #055 – Discover Identity Through Christ Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. At a recent family gathering, I listened to my adult son share childhood recollections with my younger daughters and grandson. It was a pleasure to hear how he remembered events and what his opinions were. I’ve always been fascinated by how people can live the same experiences and have such different emotions and memories. Listening to his recollections and thoughts allowed me to know him in a new way and appreciate the unique ways God wired him to view and participate in life. So, in this episode today we’re going to start with memories. Let’s relax and think back. Do you remember something about your childhood that was always a pleasure to do? I mean something you had to do? Did you have an interest that stirred you, motivated you, or set you apart from others? A passion? Was there a gift or calling you had to pursue because it seemed to complete you? What about your child? Is there something she does that is a type of identity marker? When my middle daughter was young, there were two things anyone who knew her would mention if they spoke of her. Dance and painting. Those who know my youngest daughter well would say designing and building with Legos. My oldest daughter had such wit and a quick sense of humor. I am a believer that it is a privilege and responsibility for parents to observe the inclinations and interests our children have. There is a connection between youth and exploration into what we are naturally drawn to. Observant parents will pay attention to these clues, along with the personality of their child. Through prayer and connection to them, we should find joy in assisting them to find what brings light to their spirit and could also be a source of income in the future, as well as an offering they can use to honor God with what He has bestowed to them. My adult son uses skills God gave him to be able to listen well, read body language, and connect with people as he serves them in sales. My youngest daughter crafts intricate designs and constructs buildings and cities with Legos and also has an amazing ability to streamline processes. My middle daughter is gifted visually and artistically with graphic design and through the use of paper, paint, and a brush, brings light and joyful artwork to others. One of the biggest parenting joys I have is seeing and recognizing the passions, interests, and abilities God has crafted into each one of my children. Do you find it easier to observe and understand the God-gifted abilities your children possess, but perhaps not what you have yourself? I know it is more challenging for me. Although I always understood what I enjoyed and where I found peace and motivation, I was never able to comfortably or confidently acknowledge that I might have a talent in writing. To be very raw, I still don’t see a great ability, but I am leaning on the trust I have in God and the stirrings He places in my heart to accomplish through Him. I trust that I have what God needs for me to humbly follow where He leads and write simply and honestly about Him. What many people find challenging is to balance finding gifts or passions and connecting those talents and interests to enable them to fully express and use them for God. Even more important than finding and using the gifts God has given is learning to see ourselves as God views us and to understand how to navigate life in this world as He desires and calls us to. Psalm 139:14 says, “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” If we don’t know who we are through Christ, we are not showing our children where to find their identity. Instead, they will likely search and chase the culture and influences of this world, and establish their identification based on who or what they see and hear. These days, by the time children are in middle school, and often grade school, many deal with suicide rates, nude photos, chat with dangerous strangers who attract and lead them away, and many have been exposed to pornography. These are topics we never want to hear associated with any person, let alone children. When a child (just like an adult), does not have a moral compass built on Christ, he is much more prone to seek whatever this world or his tell him to. He will never find satisfaction or live with joy, hope, or peace. Matthew 6:33-34 says, “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” We must have a true and maturing relationship with God through Jesus in order to recognize the need for our child to have the same. Psalm 63:1 says, “O God, you are my God; I earnestly search for you. My soul thirsts for you; my whole body longs for you in this parched and weary land where there is no water.” We were created for fellowship and communion with God. Ecclesiastes 3:11 says, “Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end.” God created us to desire Him. When we do not seek Him, our spirit is never satisfied. Our beloved children have the same need for God created in them. If we do not consciously nurture and instruct our child in a healthy and growing relationship with Christ, she will subconsciously absorb and become what others in this world show and tell her to value and believe. She will also likely find unhealthy ways to cope with stresses and disappointments in life. On the other hand, children who are raised in healthy, God-filled environments at home contain more joy and contentment, and are more optimistic, encouraging, resilient, and flexible. They are also less likely to be promiscuous, use drugs or alcohol, or be lured into or tempted by unsafe encounters, and are closer to parents and family than the average child. Our children, when raised to honor and follow Jesus in a thriving relationship, are also more likely to have wise self-control, habits, and behaviors, as well as seek godly wisdom over worldly advice. A growing concern today is the sexual orientation of children. Our educational system, as well as books, movies, television shows, music, and celebrities, push a godless agenda of choice and change on our innocent and naïve children. When we raise our child to know, respect, and understand God’s sovereignty, values, and truths, she will understand her God-given sexual identity and carry a sacred view of life while maintaining respectful tolerance for family and community, even those who carry differing opinions. A child patterning her life after Jesus does not look down on others who disagree and can have a conversation without harsh accusations or anger. Instead, she shows empathy and respect while allowing others their choice, but respectfully asking God to guide her choices. A child who concentrates on growing a relationship with God through Jesus has a deeper respect for authority, is more likely to uphold truthfulness and integrity, dress modestly, respect herself, and will learn to view set-backs or hardships as opportunities to grow closer to God and also use them to establish and reinforce healthy and thriving coping behaviors or life skills. It is essential that we build our personal relationship with Jesus daily. When He is important to us, when we delight in Him, His teachings, and our walk with Him, our child will also begin to place importance on Jesus. Once we are growing our faith journey in genuine and fruitful ways, how do we encourage and enable our child to build their identity in Christ? There are multiple ways, but I will list the easiest methods with which to begin. 1. Let your child see you build relationship, not watch you follow a religion. Connections are built through authenticity and commitment. 2. Share why you hold certain beliefs. Back up your faith with God’s word and stories of His faithfulness. 3. Look for, and point out God, in simple moments of life. Include Him in all you are and do. Nature walks, Bible stories, and tying Him to life events are all easy ways to begin. 4. Develop routines and traditions that guide the entire family to the Lord. Our family made a Family Vision and Mission Statement. You can listen the Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast episode 039 “Family With A Mission,” to hear more about it. 5. Create your own Family Mission Statement together. Listen to the input of your child and incorporate it into the statement. 6. Read the Bible and pray together daily. 7. Let your child see you read your Bible during personal time, as well. Encourage her to do the same. 8. Pray for your child alone, but also in front of her. Encourage her to pray for you, too. 9. Show your child how you look to God in times of trouble so that she will do the same. 10. Let her see you praise God in good times, too. 11. Teach her (by example) how to serve and honor God. Let her come with you when you serve (where appropriate) and let her choose places to serve so that you can work together. 12. Spend time with your child doing her love language together. Work with the schedule of your family to create moments your child will remember. When she is attached and feels close to you, she will be more willing to desire a relationship with God. You will also be able to guide her more easily, because she will let you be privy to her thoughts and feelings because you have a strong relationship she trusts. 13. Listen to your child. When you have a close relationship, she will be more likely to entrust questions, fears, joys, and doubts about God with you so that you can help navigate her faith, pray specifically, and help her flourish. Two verse from Proverbs give great hope for parents. Proverbs 22:6 says, “Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.” Proverbs 29:17 says, “Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will bring you the delights you desire.” We cannot guarantee that our child will choose to follow Jesus, but we can ensure that we give her sincere, natural, positive, and faith-filled truths, experiences, and biblical scriptures to make Jesus known and to guide her straight to Him. Godly character and integrity can be imparted to her through consistent, purposeful mentorship when we personally know, love, and strive to honor the Lord with our child. 1 Peter 5:2-3 says, “Be shepherds of God’s flock that is under your care, watching over them—not because you must, but because you are willing, as God wants you to be; not pursuing dishonest gain, but eager to serve; not lording it over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock.” What a lovely and significant purpose we have to parent our child for the Lord. Lamentations 3:22-23 says, “Because of the LORD’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” Remember, God did not allow you to parent His unique child because He knows you are fully equipped. God demands and desires that we trust in Him and allow Him to lead and equip us in every aspect of our parenting journey. We should be on our knees daily with minds and hearts turned to His every lead. God knows and understands everything about each of us and our child and is the only one who can guide us in the ways we should go. He is fully equipped and able to handle every need that we, or our child, has. Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” One of my favorite parental instruction passages is Deuteronomy 6:6-9, which says, “These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.” God cannot make the importance of purposeful parenting for Him clearer. Psalm 78:1-7 says, “My people, hear my teaching; listen to the words of my mouth. I will open my mouth with a parable; I will utter hidden things, things from of old— things we have heard and known, things our ancestors have told us. We will not hide them from their descendants; we will tell the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the LORD, his power, and the wonders he has done. He decreed statutes for Jacob and established the law in Israel, which he commanded our ancestors to teach their children, so the next generation would know them, even the children yet to be born, and they in turn would tell their children. Then they would put their trust in God and would not forget his deeds but would keep his commands.” Jesus speaks the instruction so clearly in Matthew 19:14. “But Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.” Likewise, Mark 9:42 says, “Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him if a great millstone were hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea.” Father God, we need You so desperately. Thank you for Your guidance, love, and instruction. Parenting is the greatest and hardest joy You bestow on us. May we be worthy of Your great gift. Help us understand Your desires and see the blessing of our children with Your loving eyes. Enable us to seek and find You in deeper ways daily and show us how to reach each child with Your heart and truths. May our children please and delight You, Father. May they find their identity through and in You. Keep them close and in Your perfect care. Give them Your wisdom and desires. May they be equipped and eager to show You, so that Your truths and commands will be known to, and followed by, future generations. In Your precious name we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this episode. The Live With Eternal Perspective podcast is currently linked to terrihitt.com, where you can access the episodes housed in one convenient location, as well as receive access to blog posts, transcripts, and additional resources designed to mature your walk with Christ and equip you to raise or influence children with love and purpose through Him. Be sure to sign up for my email list to be notified when my next resource, “Scattering Seeds: Planting Character and Faith in Your Child” releases soon. This eBook is an excellent encouragement and support for mothers or grandmothers of young children. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to Jesus and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up and find new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 055 Discover Identity Through Christ Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #055 – Discover Identity Through Christ Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. At a recent family gathering, I listened to my adult son share childhood recollections with my younger daughters and grandson. It was a pleasure to hear how he remembered events and what his opinions were. I’ve always been fascinated by how people can live the same experiences and have such different emotions and memories. Listening to his recollections and thoughts allowed me to know him in a new way and appreciate the unique ways God wired him to view and participate in life. So, in this episode today we’re going to start with memories. Let’s relax and think back. Do you remember something about your childhood that was always a pleasure to do? I mean something you had to do? Did you have an interest that stirred you, motivated you, or set you apart from others? A passion? Was there a gift or calling you had to pursue because it seemed to complete you? What about your child? Is there something she does that is a type of identity marker? When my middle daughter was young, there were two things anyone who knew her would mention if they spoke of her. Dance and painting. Those who know my youngest daughter well would say designing and building with Legos. My oldest daughter had such wit and a quick sense of humor. I am a believer that it is a privilege and responsibility for parents to observe the inclinations and interests our children have. There is a connection between youth and exploration into what we are naturally drawn to. Observant parents will pay attention to these clues, along with the personality of their child. Through prayer and connection to them, we should find joy in assisting them to find what brings light to their spirit and could also be a source of income in the future, as well as an offering they can use to honor God with what He has bestowed to them. My adult son uses skills God gave him to be able to listen well, read body language, and connect with people as he serves them in sales. My youngest daughter crafts intricate designs and constructs buildings and cities with Legos and also has an amazing ability to streamline processes. My middle daughter is gifted visually and artistically with graphic design and through the use of paper, paint, and a brush, brings light and joyful artwork to others. One of the biggest parenting joys I have is seeing and recognizing the passions, interests, and abilities God has crafted into each one of my children. Do you find it easier to observe and understand the God-gifted abilities your children possess, but perhaps not what you have yourself? I know it is more challenging for me. Although I always understood what I enjoyed and where I found peace and motivation, I was never able to comfortably or confidently acknowledge that I might have a talent in writing. To be very raw, I still don’t see a great ability, but I am leaning on the trust I have in God and the stirrings He places in my heart to accomplish through Him. I trust that I have what God needs for me to humbly follow where He leads and write simply and honestly about Him. What many people find challenging is to balance finding gifts or passions and connecting those talents and interests to enable them to fully express and use them for God. Even more important than finding and using the gifts God has given is learning to see ourselves as God views us and to understand how to navigate life in this world as He desires and calls us to. Psalm 139:14 says, “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” If we don’t know who we are through Christ, we are not showing our children where to find their identity. Instead, they will likely search and chase the culture and influences of this world, and establish their identification based on who or what they see and hear. These days, by the time children are in middle school, and often grade school, many deal with suicide rates, nude photos, chat with dangerous strangers who attract and lead them away, and many have been exposed to pornography. These are topics we never want to hear associated with any person, let alone children. When a child (just like an adult), does not have a moral compass built on Christ, he is much more prone to seek whatever this world or his tell him to. He will never find satisfaction or live with joy, hope, or peace. Matthew 6:33-34 says, “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” We must have a true and maturing relationship with God through Jesus in order to recognize the need for our child to have the same. Psalm 63:1 says, “O God, you are my God; I earnestly search for you. My soul thirsts for you; my whole body longs for you in this parched and weary land where there is no water.” We were created for fellowship and communion with God. Ecclesiastes 3:11 says, “Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end.” God created us to desire Him. When we do not seek Him, our spirit is never satisfied. Our beloved children have the same need for God created in them. If we do not consciously nurture and instruct our child in a healthy and growing relationship with Christ, she will subconsciously absorb and become what others in this world show and tell her to value and believe. She will also likely find unhealthy ways to cope with stresses and disappointments in life. On the other hand, children who are raised in healthy, God-filled environments at home contain more joy and contentment, and are more optimistic, encouraging, resilient, and flexible. They are also less likely to be promiscuous, use drugs or alcohol, or be lured into or tempted by unsafe encounters, and are closer to parents and family than the average child. Our children, when raised to honor and follow Jesus in a thriving relationship, are also more likely to have wise self-control, habits, and behaviors, as well as seek godly wisdom over worldly advice. A growing concern today is the sexual orientation of children. Our educational system, as well as books, movies, television shows, music, and celebrities, push a godless agenda of choice and change on our innocent and naïve children. When we raise our child to know, respect, and understand God’s sovereignty, values, and truths, she will understand her God-given sexual identity and carry a sacred view of life while maintaining respectful tolerance for family and community, even those who carry differing opinions. A child patterning her life after Jesus does not look down on others who disagree and can have a conversation without harsh accusations or anger. Instead, she shows empathy and respect while allowing others their choice, but respectfully asking God to guide her choices. A child who concentrates on growing a relationship with God through Jesus has a deeper respect for authority, is more likely to uphold truthfulness and integrity, dress modestly, respect herself, and will learn to view set-backs or hardships as opportunities to grow closer to God and also use them to establish and reinforce healthy and thriving coping behaviors or life skills. It is essential that we build our personal relationship with Jesus daily. When He is important to us, when we delight in Him, His teachings, and our walk with Him, our child will also begin to place importance on Jesus. Once we are growing our faith journey in genuine and fruitful ways, how do we encourage and enable our child to build their identity in Christ? There are multiple ways, but I will list the easiest methods with which to begin. 1. Let your child see you build relationship, not watch you follow a religion. Connections are built through authenticity and commitment. 2. Share why you hold certain beliefs. Back up your faith with God’s word and stories of His faithfulness. 3. Look for, and point out God, in simple moments of life. Include Him in all you are and do. Nature walks, Bible stories, and tying Him to life events are all easy ways to begin. 4. Develop routines and traditions that guide the entire family to the Lord. Our family made a Family Vision and Mission Statement. You can listen the Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast episode 039 “Family With A Mission,” to hear more about it. 5. Create your own Family Mission Statement together. Listen to the input of your child and incorporate it into the statement. 6. Read the Bible and pray together daily. 7. Let your child see you read your Bible during personal time, as well. Encourage her to do the same. 8. Pray for your child alone, but also in front of her. Encourage her to pray for you, too. 9. Show your child how you look to God in times of trouble so that she will do the same. 10. Let her see you praise God in good times, too. 11. Teach her (by example) how to serve and honor God. Let her come with you when you serve (where appropriate) and let her choose places to serve so that you can work together. 12. Spend time with your child doing her love language together. Work with the schedule of your family to create moments your child will remember. When she is attached and feels close to you, she will be more willing to desire a relationship with God. You will also be able to guide her more easily, because she will let you be privy to her thoughts and feelings because you have a strong relationship she trusts. 13. Listen to your child. When you have a close relationship, she will be more likely to entrust questions, fears, joys, and doubts about God with you so that you can help navigate her faith, pray specifically, and help her flourish. Two verse from Proverbs give great hope for parents. Proverbs 22:6 says, “Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.” Proverbs 29:17 says, “Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will bring you the delights you desire.” We cannot guarantee that our child will choose to follow Jesus, but we can ensure that we give her sincere, natural, positive, and faith-filled truths, experiences, and biblical scriptures to make Jesus known and to guide her straight to Him. Godly character and integrity can be imparted to her through consistent, purposeful mentorship when we personally know, love, and strive to honor the Lord with our child. 1 Peter 5:2-3 says, “Be shepherds of God’s flock that is under your care, watching over them—not because you must, but because you are willing, as God wants you to be; not pursuing dishonest gain, but eager to serve; not lording it over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock.” What a lovely and significant purpose we have to parent our child for the Lord. Lamentations 3:22-23 says, “Because of the LORD’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” Remember, God did not allow you to parent His unique child because He knows you are fully equipped. God demands and desires that we trust in Him and allow Him to lead and equip us in every aspect of our parenting journey. We should be on our knees daily with minds and hearts turned to His every lead. God knows and understands everything about each of us and our child and is the only one who can guide us in the ways we should go. He is fully equipped and able to handle every need that we, or our child, has. Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” One of my favorite parental instruction passages is Deuteronomy 6:6-9, which says, “These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.” God cannot make the importance of purposeful parenting for Him clearer. Psalm 78:1-7 says, “My people, hear my teaching; listen to the words of my mouth. I will open my mouth with a parable; I will utter hidden things, things from of old— things we have heard and known, things our ancestors have told us. We will not hide them from their descendants; we will tell the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the LORD, his power, and the wonders he has done. He decreed statutes for Jacob and established the law in Israel, which he commanded our ancestors to teach their children, so the next generation would know them, even the children yet to be born, and they in turn would tell their children. Then they would put their trust in God and would not forget his deeds but would keep his commands.” Jesus speaks the instruction so clearly in Matthew 19:14. “But Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.” Likewise, Mark 9:42 says, “Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him if a great millstone were hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea.” Father God, we need You so desperately. Thank you for Your guidance, love, and instruction. Parenting is the greatest and hardest joy You bestow on us. May we be worthy of Your great gift. Help us understand Your desires and see the blessing of our children with Your loving eyes. Enable us to seek and find You in deeper ways daily and show us how to reach each child with Your heart and truths. May our children please and delight You, Father. May they find their identity through and in You. Keep them close and in Your perfect care. Give them Your wisdom and desires. May they be equipped and eager to show You, so that Your truths and commands will be known to, and followed by, future generations. In Your precious name we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this episode. The Live With Eternal Perspective podcast is currently linked to terrihitt.com, where you can access the episodes housed in one convenient location, as well as receive access to blog posts, transcripts, and additional resources designed to mature your walk with Christ and equip you to raise or influence children with love and purpose through Him. Be sure to sign up for my email list to be notified when my next resource, “Scattering Seeds: Planting Character and Faith in Your Child” releases soon. This eBook is an excellent encouragement and support for mothers or grandmothers of young children. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to Jesus and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up and find new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 086 - Navigating the Challenges of Being a Christian Working Mother Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 086 – Navigating the Challenges of Being a Christian Working Mother Thank you for taking time to share your day with me. I pray this podcast deepens your walk with Jesus and your children. During forty-five years of parenting two sets of children, I’ve been the mother who worked full-time outside the home while parenting my first set of children in the eighties and nineties. I’ve also been the stay-at-home mother who homeschooled my second set of children, and am now a Christian parenting and mindset coach and a podcaster with my second set of children. Over the years I have experienced many emotions and feelings as I navigated what I had to do and what I was called to do. I’m not sure which season you’re currently living in, but there is such a difference in doing what you feel you have to do versus what God is calling you to complete . Where are you in your life? I understand many women have careers they absolutely love, careers they may have known they would have since they were children. But I’ll be honest. When I worked outside the home, I dreaded almost every day I went to work. The first twelve years were the hardest. After I switched jobs going to work was more enjoyable, but my heart still yearned to be at home. I remember in one of the facilities I worked in, there was a bathroom stall that had a window. I used to look out and dream of a time when I would be able to be home and not have to go to work for the money our family needed. I felt like my heart was shriveling up and the passions and dreams God gave me were being wasted. Although I tried to follow some of them in the bits of time left from working, I always felt torn and confused. How was I supposed to reach my goals when I had important duties as a wife and mother, but had to work outside the home, and had so little time? I remember feeling guilty and never fulfilled . Have you ever felt that way? Later, when I was in my early forties I would sit at my desk at work and daydream about how I would change the way I had parented if I had the opportunity to redo those early years. I missed my children being little, and felt like I had been cheated out of moments and memories, because I was aways at work. By this time my first two children were young adults, and because I didn’t feel like I was an empty-nester longing for years passed, I wondered why I was having these thoughts. In hindsight, I understand that I had since matured my relationship with Christ, and God was preparing me for the beautiful plans He had in store for me. It was the beginning of a journey I never dreamed I would take, but it has fulfilled me more intimately and deeply than any dreams I imagined for myself. Isn’t that always the way with the One who created us? I share this portion of my personal story because I want you to know you’re not alone. Whether you are a working mom inside or outside of the home, what you do is important. You may have a career that you know you were created to do or you may have to bring in money to cover food and bills. Either way, I hope you are following God’s plan for your life. I hope that you rely on Him to carry you through the difficult and discouraging times. Life definitely throws us both. When my husband and I got married right out of high school, I was seventeen; he was eighteen. When I say we were financially challenged, it’s an understatement. When we married we had one thousand dollars in our bank account and it quickly disappeared as we had deposits to place on our first apartment, bills to pay, and food to purchase. Thankfully, we had supportive family, especially my in-laws. After adding two children and multiple medical bills, I finally resigned myself to the fact that I had to go to work outside of the home in order to make ends meet. At that time our son was three years old and our daughter was almost six. I had been babysitting children as they grew to that age, but that very small amount barely contributed to our needs. Mom guilt quickly appeared when I began working outside the home. My daughter’s kindergarten teacher didn’t help when she called to tell me my daughter disliked me working and wanted me to stay at home. The babysitter I hired through referral from a friend at church ended up calling me at work to tell me she was upset that my three year old son had discovered her gun and was carrying it around the house. What ?! I probably don’t need to say this, but of course, I immediately took him from that environment. I left work early to bring him home that day and he never went back. If she couldn’t keep a weapon from my three year old, what other dangers were surrounding him at her place? Where did she keep her gun that he could find it so easily? I was astounded. Finding quality child care at an affordable price was so challenging! I felt trapped as a woman and a mom. My goodness! Have you been there? The difficulties of dealing with strong personalities at work, finding quality, safe daycare, combined with making sure the family ate, the house stayed clean, and navigating thoughtless, untrue remarks from an extended family member yet still maintain a relationship with them left me exhausted. That basic feeling of being exhausted never left during the twenty-one years I worked outside the home. In fact my health deteriorated while working outside the home and I began losing weight when I didn’t need or intend to. My life schedule also had to become very well-planned and limited. I didn’t have time for everything I wanted to do in my life, and I wanted to put my husband and children first. I have never enjoyed cooking, so I used our family wall calendar to solve the “what are we going to have for dinner when I get home from work and have so much to do” situation by charting my meals. On that calendar I wrote the meal planned for that day. I would cook for one week on Sunday afternoons and package up the meals to store in our extra refrigerator in the garage. This method allowed us to always have meals ready. When we were ready to eat, the food just needed to be heated. Of course, we could switch days if we wanted something different, but the point is that food was prepared and no one had to question what to eat. We didn’t spend hard-earned cash on eating out and the food was healthy and filling. Weekends were busy with cleaning the house in the moments between games, events, and trying to make time for my hearts true desire - writing. Eventually, I began assigning chores to the family so everyone could pitch in to complete the work together. At the time I felt like a failure that I couldn’t do it all myself, but despite an extended family member telling me that it was the role of the woman to clean, I forged on with my plan and am so glad. My husband didn’t mind pitching in as long as he knew what to do. He’s the type who doesn’t usually think of what to help with on his own, but gladly helps when asked. By helping, my children learned skills they would need later in life, and I was able to feel like I could breathe easier knowing home basics weren’t neglected. How do you handle the chore load at your home? It's not easy to be a working mom. Expectations from work, home, family, and self can cause women to suffer from anxiety, depression, resentment, guilt, and more. Those burdens can leave little time for the one solution that can lift a woman out of the pit of pressures. The Lord. When I became a Christian I was in my twenties. Shortly after, I began working outside of the home. I’d been hurt by the church we attended when I first found Christ. In error, I had placed those members on a pedestal, instead of rightly placing Christ in that position. When I wasn’t treated well, we stopped going to that church. I began using Sunday morning time to clean and cook, or do whatever needed to be completed before I went back to work the next day. I always felt like there was a ticking clock that zapped the time and my energy over that two day, short weekend. It felt so unfair to work 5 days and only have two to feel like I was really living. Am I the only working mother who feels that way? How much different it would have been if I had remained faithful in following Jesus intentionally and maturing my walk with Him. I’ve learned that when we make any amount of time for Him, we crave more. Once we make time for Him, we discover that we actually have much more time than we imagine. The Lord seems to multiply time like He did with the bread and fish long ago. Working women always seem to crave a better balanced schedule. The missing piece is usually time with Christ. Jesus sets all things free. Following Jesus is crucial in daily living. As believers we understand that truth. However, we don’t always live it. Sometimes we deceive ourselves and think we are. Sometimes we love Him with all our heart, but don’t know how to make more time for Him. Sometimes we have time, but don’t stop to hear what He is calling. Where do you fall? One thing I know to be true is that Jesus won’t lead you astray. He cares for you. Your time, schedule, family, health, and finances are all important. He has plans with a purpose set for you. He longs for you to seek Him and see the purpose He desires, the purposes that will fill your heart and home with a joy, peace, love, and beauty you never imagined. Today I want to address struggles, demands, and solutions that may help working moms, whether they are earning a living from inside or outside the home. A working mom shoulders added responsibilities that can either cause her to lift up praise and gratitude to the Lord or pull her away from Him as she struggles to survive. First, let’s look at a fact that working mothers often have to deal with – approval. Many working mothers wonder whether God really gives approval for women to work. Some people fall into the camp that God calls women to stay home, while others believe God allows women to work. Which is true? What do you and your family believe? Each of us have seasons in our life. God understands our seasons. He expects us to cling to Him despite the season we’re in. He desires that we seek Him first, make time to prayerfully hear His guidance , and stay in His Word. He must come before all else. God has crafted different purposes into each of us. What God has created you to do is different than what I am purposed to complete. When we purposely mature our walk with Him, God guides us to step into the desires we didn’t even know were in our heart . But only when we humbly submit and follow where He leads. Some of us were meant to complete tasks that require us to be out of the home. We must be extra diligent not to neglect the important duties and privileges of being a mother and wife. We must also ensure that we don’t find our identity there. Identity must come through Jesus. I don’t believe God ever commanded women not to work . Read Proverbs 31:10-31 , which says, “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night. In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes. She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.” Did you notice the beautiful qualities and conviction of the Proverbs 31 woman? How easily we can compare ourselves to her seeming perfection. However, the truth is that through Christ you are free. Free of comparison. Free of the burdens you may carry from juggling all the things. It’s clear that the Proverbs 31 woman excelled at many things. That assures us she was following the path God laid for her . She wasn’t striking out on her own without consulting the Father. What has God called you to do in this season? I don’t mean what do you think you are supposed to do. What do you know through prayerful certainty that God wants you to complete in this season of your life? Jesus never commanded you to live with stress or anxiety. He calls for you to live in peace . He provides that peace. We only find that beautiful fruit of the Spirit when we humbly and obediently submit to Him. Where is He asking you to be right now ? What is He calling you to do? We know that God has basic instructions that do not change. God commands all mothers to do the following : Love God - Mark 12:30 says, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength .” Trust God - Psalm 121:1-3 says, “I lift up my eyes to the mountains—where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth. He will not let your foot slip—He who watches over you will not slumber .” Follow God - Psalm 27:11 says, “Teach me Your way, Lord; lead me in a straight path because of my oppressors .” God also requires devotion to Him first. Family second . He desires that you, no matter where you are in the work force - at home - or outside the home, to train the children He has entrusted to you in His truths and ways . Proverbs 1:8 says, “Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching .” In order for your children to come to a life-saving knowledge of Christ as their Savior, you must make Him known to them. Many women who work struggle in this area. Time is short. They’re unsure of how to have enough time to get dinner on the table after helping everyone with homework, let alone find time to read the Bible so they can teach their kids about Jesus. What is your plan to do that if you are a full-time working mother? Can it be done? Of course, but you have to be even more purposed and ready to sacrifice short term for the long term investment of your child’s eternity with Christ. It can be challenging for you as a working mom to make time to disciple your children. When you consider all of the trials a working mom faces, there’s barely enough time for the basics of living after she returns home each evening. As a working mom, you face normal life successes and challenges, as well as the following: Time – It can be very difficult to leave the house when your child is sick, tired, or missing you. Sometimes they need more cuddle time or extra care. Even a mom working from home faces times when the kids need extra care even though she’s facing work deadlines. Isaiah 26:3 says, “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in You .” Use blocks of time to direct your children to the Lord through prayer, Bible readings, or devotions together. This is to be an ongoing lifestyle. On days when your children might have to support you through work deadlines, pray with them before you part ways and touch base as you can. Check back with them that evening and spend a few minutes with them to ensure that they are doing well. Depending on your child’s interests, you can take a short walk together at night to find time to explore and talk. You can take a drive together. You can work a puzzle together. You can pass a journal of feelings and thoughts to each other. Use your creativity to observe what would work best for your children and your situation. Of course, there are variables such as age, interests, maturity, etc. Seek God’s guidance in this area before you need it, so you have a strong foundation to build on. I know it can seem impossible to have time to do some of these suggestions, but to make time for these important ways to be together, you will cut out things in your life that don’t honor the Lord or are currently keeping you and your family from spending time together. You’ll always be busy and getting busier. When does parenting for Christ become the priority if it isn’t right now? The world won’t wait to influence your child away from Christ. Don’t give Satan a foothold. Work/Family Balance – Working moms often feel they’re the only one who fails at work/life balance. The truth is that no one juggles everything well at all times. Keep your eyes fixed on what God is calling you to do or how He is leading you . Know that it is godly to say, “no” sometimes. Ensure that your “yeses” are reserved for what God lays on your heart to complete. Colossians 3:23-24 says, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward .” In life, you will experience easier and more challenging seasons. Above all, keep your eyes and heart fixed above. Mentor and teach that lifestyle and decision-making to your children. They need to hear and see you put God first. Are you consistently mentoring the way? Guilt – Guilt’s a feeling that’s easy to carry and let it weigh you down. While working, a mother might miss her children and lose focus while thinking of home demands. When at home, she may feel unfocused on her children due to work demands. She might believe she’s is failing at both jobs. Scripture tells us that Satan is always prowling to see who he can destroy. The devil is out to steal, kill, and destroy. This is why it is imperative to know God’s Word and ingest it daily . Knowing God through His Word is imperative. You cannot build a close relationship or understand where God is calling you or trust He is carrying you without knowing His Word, truths, and character. Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus .” Remember, God never causes you to feel guilt. He doesn’t condemn, but He will convict you. He will guide and guard you according to His Word . As you follow His plan for you, He will equip you for the job. God will also allow circumstances that draw you nearer to Him or cause you to depend on Him, rather than self. Be sure to consistently inhale God so you can exhale Him to your family. Atmosphere/Operations of Workplace – Dealing with people can be the hardest part of working. Whether it be customers or co-workers, relationships can be extra challenging. Exodus 14:14 says, “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still." A working mother carries extra layers of responsibility when she is in the workplace. Not only are the logistics of getting to work daily challenging, but the relationships in the workplace can be as well. Maintaining a godly attitude, work ethic, and reactions are only possible through daily renewal through Christ. Not just knowing you believe in Him or you follow Him, but intentionally seeking Him in fellowship and living at His feet. Even more important, your time at home must reflect the Father you follow. Without relationship through Christ, you cannot cultivate a foundation of hope and trust in Him in your home. Without close relationship with Jesus, your children will not have a firm foundation building under their feet on which to establish a lifetime of faith. You are their first exposure to Jesus. How well are you showing Him? Daycare Struggles (quality, pricing, hours) – It’s challenging to find a caregiver to love your child. When a family member watches your children it might be smooth or could cause more stress, depending on your situation. Finding a quality caregiver is one of the biggest concerns for a working mother. Also important is the consideration of the costs of working (travel, clothing, food, daycare, and more) if one is considering going outside of home to bring in additional income. Sometimes you find that it’s not worth the effort in the long run if you are able to cut costs in other areas. Seek what God’s good and perfect will Is for you. Romans 12:2 says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—His good, pleasing and perfect will .” Sometimes the answer is to stay at home while your children are very young or find a way to work from home. Expectations of others, whether it be a boss, co-worker, customer, family, or client, as well as hours worked, and distance or location of work, and whether traveling is required all play into more added burdens for the working mom. Anxiety hits when you feel overwhelmed. Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things .” Our mind is a powerful tool. Choose to keep your mind fixed above and specifically ask God to protect your thoughts. Prayerfully ensure that you are following His will regarding work. Commit to knowing that you will never please everyone all the time. God first, husband second, family next. As important as work is, it comes last. Create the mindset that God will carry you through difficulties if you are listening to His guidance. Trust that He cares for you in every intimate way you need. Are you looking for ways He is doing so already? Are you praising Him before your children so they hear you and will be thankful for His provisions? Communication with Husband – Sometimes, the person you love most gets shoved to the bottom of your to-do list at home. It can be challenging to find time for intimacy or quiet time with your husband. It’s important to have the proper mindset to take care not to neglect your relationship. One of the best ways I have strengthened my 45 year marriage is by praying together daily. It is a habit well worth establishing with your husband and children. James 1:19 says, “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry .” Look at your spouse as a person God created and loves. Make time to speak to, and listen to your husband, as well as make time to pray and grow in the Lord together, which will help with the next section. Lack of Support from Husband (in work/business) – Sometimes it’s hard to get help from your husband. Marriage is a two-person commitment and so is caring for the children and the home. While some believe the man should take care of “manly” chores like mowing or lawn work, and the woman should take care of the inside chores of the home, what works for your home and the interests and talents of you and your spouse are what need to be considered. If you love to mow and he likes to cook, take the roles you excel in to maintain the home and help your family flourish. When you work together, knowing you work for God - and then each other, housework and free time are accomplished a lot more easily. Ephesians 5:33 says, “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband .” As you make time to grow your walk with God together, you will follow the loving commands He set forth for your relationship. Loving God first enables you to love each other more deeply. Love is sacrificial. Love listens. Love helps. I believe the closer your husband is following the Lord, the clearer He will hear promptings from you and God on how he should support you with the extra burdens you carry. Spiritual Challenges – Sometimes it can be hard to hear God speaking when life is busy. As believers we know the Word tells us God is present . We also have the Holy Spirit living within us. If we can’t hear God speaking, we are moving too fast. It feels counter-productive and scary to slow down, especially when so much is left undone, but placing God at the top of your list in home and work life will give you peace and joy. Without active fruits of the Spirit, it can be impossible to hear Him speak and direct your ways. Don’t look at what others are doing. Set God first in your life and household and do what He has called for you . Galatians 6:4 says , “Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else .” During the seasons you think you don’t have time for reading God’s Word, listen to it. Ensure that your children do as well. Discuss God’s Word and weave it into conversations, as well as ways to apply God’s commands and truths. You need God’s daily bread. Your spouse and children do, too. Even Jesus realized His need and ensured He spent time with God daily, then relied on the Father moment by moment. Desire to Be Present with Kids (but also bring in income) – I don’t think there is a working mom who feels like she gets enough time with her children. Since time is limited, the most important thing you and your husband can do for your family is maintain close and growing relationship with Jesus and each other. Building that basic foundation will enable you to put everything else in order. Pay attention to your children in the small ways that matter. Cultivate time with them, no matter how brief. That one on one time and being there for them in important ways that feel small now will be remembered later. Ask God for guidance and insight into each child and ask Him to show you the way to help them build identity in Him and relationship with Jesus and you. Be present with those you love, not always on your phone or computer. Show joy in your eyes and body posture when they approach you. When you fail, acknowledge it and apologize to your loved ones. No one is perfect, but you will grow in your wisdom and stature with God as you humbly seek His ways and show them to your family. Philippians 4:13 says, “For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength. ” God has commanded you to be the hands that bring His children to His feet. Deuteronomy 6:5-9 commands, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates .” Time for Self – This may be one of the hardest. Time alone is certainly rare. A mom can’t even go to the bathroom alone. But if you’ll listen to an older mom for a moment. Everything I thought I needed to do when I was younger has lost importance when compared to what was completed for Christ. Don’t feel guilty when you need time for yourself. Maybe it’s your love language to take a bubble bath or go to coffee with a friend. Maybe you like long walks with your husband. Whatever speaks to your love language, you need to schedule. But always remember that nothing will complete you like time with God. What did Jesus do when He needed time alone? He used the time to rest in God and be in humble submission to Him. Jesus sought God in all things and in all ways. The Father was first. When you place God as the highest authority in your life, you will be Spirit-led and satisfied. How can you make time for Him before self? Ask God to show you the way to fulfill your duties as a working mom, wife, and mentor of Christ to the children He has entrusted to you. Ask God to give you the joy He purposed for you in this time of your life. No matter where you work in your life at this time, you are in a season. It may be a season you enjoy, or one you can’t wait to finish. Rest in it with Jesus. Know that if you are following where the Lord leads, He is preparing you for the desires of your heart in ways that will honor and glorify Him. Above all, purpose what you are experiencing to enable you to become a set-apart woman who will raise her children to chase Christ over culture. Time is short. But the more you use it in intentional ways that draw you nearer to your Heavenly Father, the more influential you are to His children - for Him . Dear Heavenly Father, How we need Your holy presence in our life. Thank you for making a way for us to reach You at any time. Jesus is the bridge that brings us to You Hallelujah! Father, we thank you for the provisions you make for us through the work of our husbands and our own hands. You know the needs we have, Father. As a woman, we care for much, our attention goes to all, and we constantly think and analyze the world around us. We are naturally intuitive and insightful because You made us that way. Our mind and heart hold so much and we carry the effects of that wherever we are, straddling across the work and home life. God, please comfort and carry us. We need Your strength to navigate the effects of working inside and outside of the home. It seems we’re never off duty and we don’t want to stray from the safety of Your care and loving arms. Please let nothing cause us to drift away from You. Help us continue to cling to You and grow in Your truths and purpose. Keep us on the road You have designed and equip us to carry our children to Your heart and feet. Help our marriages to grow stronger and our lines of communication to be strengthened as we encourage and equip each other in the paths You have called for us. Help us to be present with You and our loved ones in the season we are in and navigate it with Your strength and wisdom. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. If you’re a working mom inside or outside the home and need an easy way to begin teaching your babies, toddlers, or preschoolers about Jesus, send me an email at info@terrihitt.com . I’m currently working on a devotional to bring your children to the feet of Jesus early. Let me know you’re interested, and I’ll let you know how to receive a copy. Also, you may have heard me talk about the Set-Apart Collective often in this podcast. Why do I share it so often? I know the program works. Through 6 weeks of one-on-one and group coaching, along with Scripturally-based materials I provide, you will complete 8 steps that include the following: Seek God First, Establish Identity, Teach Truth, A Set-Apart Woman, Parent Set-Apart Kids, Arm for Battle, Relationships, and Training. What you learn and solidify in your personal life will directly affect the way you serve God and parent for Him. It will help you construct godly confidence and esteem through Christ in your children. If you’re ready to invest in the future of your children, contact me at info@terrihitt.com for more details or visit terrihitt.com/setapart. Because you are a podcast listener, let me know you heard about the special price I’m offering you. I seriously want you to experience results and live a set-apart life with a set-apart family. Instead of a $997 value, I’ll give you a discount code that enables you to pay only $247. If you are serious about parenting with eternal perspective and raising children to chase Christ over culture, I’m making this very affordable and easy to do. Why? Because supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. Godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. That’s why I’ve created the Set-Apart Collective. If you’ve decided peers and culture won’t be the main influence over your child and you desire to parent to prepare your child for eternity with Christ, the Set-Apart Collective, will deepen your walk with Christ. You’ll learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family. The Set-Apart Collective is open now. Please send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information or look online at terrihitt.com/setapart. We can also set up a 15 minute call to chat about details. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. If you connected in some way with this episode, would you please rate and review the podcast on Apple or Spotify? It only takes a minute or so and makes a big difference in people finding the podcast. You and I know that the best reviews are by word of mouth, so would you please choose a friend to recommend the show to? Let them know that the podcast is found at terrihitt.com, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify. Imagine the change we will see in the way mothers parent for Christ if they learn to be intentional, too. Remember, if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 124 - The Most Important Job of a Parent Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 124 – The Most Important Job of a Parent Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom and BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you will be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episodes, would you please share this episode or others with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, and leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast. When you do, you’re helping affect generations for Jesus. Now on to this episode that makes us consider an important question…What is the most important job of a parent? Every job you hold has a description. Think back to any position you’ve ever held. Even if it was your first job, which may have been babysitting, or working at a fast food restaurant, you had a requirement of duties. You had certain responsibilities you were to carry out while performing the job. Motherhood is no different. With this prestigious position, we have certain requirements we must meet. We also have someone we report to and we are expected to meet their requirements for the job they entrusted to us. Today we’ll discuss this holy job description. I remember becoming mother to each of my children. Even though two were biological and two were adopted, the day I met each of them holds a uniquely special place in my heart. I remember my son locking gazes with me as soon as they placed him in my arms. I recall the way my youngest was nine years old, yet a toddler in her actions due to her background. The day we met, she was wary of us, yet hopeful, standing in front of us with hands on hips and bravery etched in her posture. The day each of us have our precious children placed in our arms is obviously different for everyone. It’s a moment forever etched in our mind and heart. For most, in that instant, your heart expands beyond any capacity you knew was capable, and this person becomes someone you love so deeply that you’d die for them, even though you just met. Many of us enter parenthood ready for the responsibility. However, when I was a first time mother, I didn’t feel ready, except that I loved my husband, and together we were bringing our child into the world. Not yet a Christian, my thoughts were to learn and become the best mom I could be. I did everything to become a good mom, wife, and homemaker. I fell short in some ways, but I also grew and succeeded in other ways. Yet, aspiring to be the good mom was actually opposite of the direction I should have headed. It would have given me such relief if I could have been given a manual with each child. Something that would tell me how each of them were wired, and what their interests would be. This guide could prepare me for how to handle their temperament and how to walk them through trials or temptations. How welcome this book would have been for a young mother. As an older mom now, I look back at those early parenting years and wish I could have known things I do now. But the truth is that just like Dorothy with the ruby red slippers, I’ve always had the power. I’ve always held a weapon for success that isn’t secret. God’s Holy Word, the Bible gives us everything we need to know to parent successfully and live a life of joy. The Bible instructs us in how to carry out our most important job. God’s instructions are very clear. We are to teach our kids to love God with all their heart, soul, and might because we do, too. God’s Word shall be on our heart, honored and obeyed, and lovingly shown to our children. We are to weave God and His commandments into everyday conversation and life whether we sit in our house, when we walk by the way, when we lie down, and when we rise. We are to inhale Him so we effortlessly exhale Him as a sweet fragrance that attracts our children to Him. Everything begins with where you place your identity. If it’s not deeply, widely woven by Jesus, your child’s won’t be crafted by Christ, either. Your greatest goal should be that your children love, follow, and obey Jesus. You must be a mirror mentoring Christ over culture. Deuteronomy 6:5-7 makes it very clear that every act of parenting should ultimately point to building a foundation of love and trust in Christ that is strong enough for your child to construct their own solid house of faith that lasts into eternity. If God’s Word makes what our biggest parenting goal should be so clear, why do most parents falter in this area? When asked what they are most concerned about when parenting, most parents respond with different answers. Instead of sharing that they desire to make God clearly known as their first, second, or third answer, many parents remark that they are concerned with entirely different issues. Responses such as strong mental health for their children (specifically addressing depression or anxiety), protecting against bullying, safety concerns, helping their child achieve academic success, and finding ways to better manage screen time are top of mind. When we look at this list of parental concerns, there’s one clear solution to each point. Everything points back to instilling a heart for Jesus and establishing strong identity though Him. When our children build personal identity through relationship with Christ, integrity, character, and habits are formed that protect against what parents are worried about . As they grow in depth and breadth of maturity in their relationship, they learn to take thoughts captive for God and begin daily habits that bring them closer and closer to Him with each moment. As your children witness you seeking God first in daily life, reading His Word and utilizing what you learn in your thoughts, words, desires, and actions, then teach them how to do the same, you are exchanging fleeting treasures of this world for eternal security in the next. When your children see you continue to build and strengthen your identity in Christ, then teach them how to do the same, you are investing in eternal insurance that will bring great dividends for eternity . When your children are taught God’s Truth from you, the first Jesus they will experience, you will mold their heart and mind with eternal treasures that will combat depression and anxiety as they grow in Him. You will fill them with understanding of their purpose in life as they continue to mature. As your children uncover purpose through Christ and use the gifts and talents God crafted within them, they will have less use for mindless screen time and the fleeting interests of this world. As you become a set-apart woman who intentionally parents set-apart kids, your children will stop looking like typical children and teens as they become uniquely equipped to navigate life in this world in ways that will bring peace and security in Heaven. Why is it that believing women raise typical kids who grow into typical adults? Because we fall into the trap of living life day to day with the same patterns we’ve used in the past. Instead of relying on the power of the Holy Spirit within , we mindlessly live in the easiest or most convenient ways. Sometimes we think we’ll get to training about God later or that our kids aren’t mentally ready for certain topics, but the truth is that the devil deceives. It’s way too easy to follow his ways of the world instead of purposely pursuing the only One who can give us and our children or families what we truly desire in the depths of our spirit. If you desire your children to carry peace that passes understanding, love, joy, patience, kindness, gentleness, and self-control, as is promised in Galatians 5:22-23, you must be purposed in making Christ known moment by moment in your life in order to mentor to your child how to show Him in their lives. A once a week trip to church together won’t secure your child’s walk with Christ. It’s a day in, day out process of submitting self, moment by moment, and mentoring Jesus to your watching children. It’s knowing, showing, and experiencing the power of Christ together with the joy and peace that comes from an intentionally close relationship with Jesus. Parents are merely human. We don’t carry special powers or traits that allow us to do everything ourselves, as much as we would like to think we can. We must submit to the Father and receive the Son. Through the Holy Spirit within, you can attract your child to Jesus. Because of free will, none of us can guarantee that our children will accept Jesus as their personal Savior, but we can rest assured that we have done everything to lead them to His feet and heart. Dear Heavenly Father, You reign over us from Heaven, yet you live on earth and within our heart. Anywhere we go, You are present. Thank You for that hope and truth. May we live with ever more awareness of who You are and whose we are. May our children see the love and dedication we have for You because we passionately pursue You moment by moment and show our reliance on You. May we never draw our children, spouse, or others to self, but to You. May we honor You with purpose that exalts You and brings us into alignment with all You have for us. Thank you for including us in Your plans and showing us the way to You. May we climb in Your arms and rest there as we abide in Your glory, care, and love. May our children follow with even more desire for You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. If you’re ready to become the godly mom God entrusts you to be for Him and His children, you might like my free “Good to Godly: A 31-Day Scripture and Prayer Guide for Moms.” Visit terrihitt.com to receive this resource. You are the first Jesus your child will see. Your relationship with Christ is the light that shines Him to your children. If you want a connected relationship with Jesus and your children that leads them to your side and His feet, instead of them seeking validation from peers, my Set-Apart Collective program can show you how to reflect Christ in a way that attracts your family to a connected relationship that lasts into eternity. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will arm you with a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You’ll also deepen your identity in Christ so you can mentor the way for your children to do the same. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family and you will have the tools to raise set apart kids as you parent the heart, not simply the behavior. Visit terrihitt.com/coaching and click the link for a free, no obligation conversation call with me. This is a strategic call where I will hear your biggest struggle and show you how to turn it into a blessing that will bring you closer to Christ and your children. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. Remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode 016 - Parenting for God Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #016 – Parenting for God Are you yearning for greater connection with your child? Would you like to parent beyond the moment with eternal perspective? Let’s grow together now with practical tips, scripture, and stories geared to draw your heart to Jesus and guide your child into His arms. In our image-absorbed culture, our children ingest a great amount of photos and videos that are most of the time about absolutely nothing. At least they’re not about anything we should want them to care about. 1 Samuel 16:7b says, “The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” Have you ever felt overlooked? Perhaps forgotten or less than others? Do you ever feel like no one understands you? When sorrow befalls you, do you cling to blessings or allow anguish to overwhelm you? Remember that God sees what happens in this world through an entirely different vision and mindset . One Bible story that I believe we can be encouraged by is what we read about Hannah in 1 Samuel 1, where we see this woman drowning in misery because she could not bear children. Remember, in Old Testament times, to remain childless was to be known as a failure. After Hannah waited for a child years longer than she could stand to bear, she beseeched God, saying to Him, “O Lord Almighty, if You will only look upon Your servant’s misery and remember me, and not forget Your servant but give her a son, then I will give him to the Lord for all the days of his life, and no razor will ever be used on his head .” 1 Samuel 1:11 . Have you ever done what Hannah did? Have you thrown a bargain to the Lord? Hannah, in desperate misery, muttered words felt deeply in her spirit, words that became a promise shaping her future, but also that of her child. Remember, we must be careful how and why we pray to God. Prayer opens the door for God’s work and He hears every thought or word we offer to Him. Hannah so fiercely desired a child that she offered a negotiation to receive a son. God heard her plea and gave Hannah the son she desired. Can you imagine the pain Hannah must have felt when she realized she had to uphold the weighty promise she previously made to God in desperation? As she nursed her son, did she live with regret that she would soon have to release him to service for God? Or was she joyful inside, trusting that this was God’s ultimate will for the precious boy in her arms? In 1 Samuel 1:27-28a we read of the time Hannah took her son, Samuel to stay at the Tabernacle, “I prayed for this child, and the Lord has granted me what I asked of Him. So now I give him to the Lord. For his whole life he will be given over to the Lord . Hannah had promised God the return of her son, and she upheld her end of the agreement she initiated. Obviously, God doesn’t need our negotiations. None of us are in a position to bargain with the Creator of the Universe. Yet despair, heartache, confusion, and many other emotions can cloud our senses and heighten our emotions to the point that we feel we have no other choice. God keeps His promises and expects the same from us. As we ponder the words Hannah spoke in 1 Samuel 1:27-28a, we must remember that when Hannah gave her son up for the Lord, she was actually devoting her own life to God at the same time. In order to sacrifice her son to our Heavenly Father, Hannah had to focus on God and on keeping the promise she made to Him. Her life became a testimony of keeping that vow as she arranged her present and future days to fulfill it. In actuality, Hannah was returning her son to the One he already belonged to. These verses, however, and this story remind us of the types of gifts we should prepare for God. Hannah’s willingness to walk through the pain of extreme and deep loss in order to execute the promise she made to God is an illustration of faithfulness that should spur each of us to examine ourselves and our faith journey. I’m not saying to model how Hannah bargained, but to look beyond that into how she upheld what she promised. Do the gifts you offer to God reflect the joy He brings your life ? Are they costly to you? Do they exhibit the level of your faith? Are you offering God small tokens of belief or presenting Him with more than you can spare because you trust in all He will do with it? I ask these questions of myself, as well. We don’t know each of the reasons Hannah wanted a child. In the Bible, we are able to read some of them, but we can’t know her full heart. If someone else desperately desires a child and they pray like Hannah did, will God bring them a child, too? Not necessarily. God’s not in the business of bargaining with His creation. None of us know the reasons God allowed this child for Hannah. Hannah may have decided that she wanted a child so desperately that she didn’t care if she was able to keep it very long. Perhaps she believed it would be better to bear a child that would be devoted to a lifetime of following and serving the Lord. We can’t understand all of her thoughts or the reasons she released ownership of her son before she had him in her arms. One thing we do know for sure is that like Hannah, we do not own the children God gifts to us. Each precious child is already His , and we are responsible for raising God’s children to answer to Him . We are only stewards of the children He has entrusted to us for a very short while. What this world teaches or believes does not matter. What we find within the pages of God’s Holy Word is the guiding truth that should direct our very short time with them. 1 Peter 1:22-25 says, “Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for each other, love one another deeply, from the heart. For you have been born again, not of perishable seed, but of imperishable, through the living and enduring word of God. For, “All people are like grass, and all their glory is like the flowers of the field; the grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of the Lord endures forever.” Mothers, remember while you change diapers, wash countless loads of laundry, cook meals, correct, educate, and play with your children, it is only a season of life for each of you. Yet, the moments that make up those passages of time are allowed by God and are to be used for His purposes and glory. How you use that time matters for eternity. Both the hard and the easy moments, the joys and the disappointments shape you, as well as your child and form the type of spiritual walk, the relationship you and your child will carry with God into eternity. What can we glean from Hannah’s bargain or prayer to the Lord? Surely there is a lesson that will enable us to draw nearer to our Lord and direct our children to His feet in humble adoration. I believe we learn that no matter what our parenting motives are, no matter where we come from, what type of childhood we had, or where we are in life as we raise our children, God is the true parent of our child. It doesn’t matter whether your pregnancy was a surprise, whether you tried for years to conceive, or whether you adopted your child. The little ones you love and treasure came from Him, belong to Him, and answer to Him. Whether your child is loving and submissive, strong-willed, lives with extensive special needs, is a foster child, or because of divorce or separation is only with you part time, through great privilege and honor, you were chosen to be the one to direct your child to God. There is no greater honor than to live a life that seeks and reflects God with thoughts, words, actions, and reactions. I believe there are 5 practices to ensure that we purpose our heart and mind to hold and exhibit godly influence that we desire our children to witness and imitate. 1. Proclamation - Revelation 4:11 says, “You are worthy, our Lord and God, to receive glory and honor and power, for you created all things, and by your will they were created and have their being .” When we acknowledge God as our Heavenly Father, the Creator and Giver of all, our life must proclaim His truths in all we think and are. Moment by moment, day by day, we seek to know Him better and imitate Him more clearly. 2. Profession - Psalm 27:4 says, “One thing I ask from the LORD, this only do I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, to gaze on the beauty of the LORD and to seek him in his temple.” As we profess that Jesus is our Savior and the only way to God with our mind, heart, lips, and actions, our life becomes worship. 3. Purity - Proverbs 16:2 says, “All a person’s ways seem pure to them, but motives are weighed by the LORD. ” Obedience is one of the purest form of faith and worship. As we study God’s Holy Word and allow the Holy Spirit within us to transform us daily, our life shines the Lord more and more clearly. 4. Persistence - Luke 10:42 says, “but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” As Mary chose to sit at the feet of Jesus and reside with Him, our life must reflect that genuine desire in order for our children to begin to build a walk with God. As we persist in knowing and showing Jesus they will begin to display the same desires and characteristics. 5. Praise - Hebrews 13:15 says, “Through Jesus, therefore, let us continually offer to God a sacrifice of praise--the fruit of lips that openly profess His name.” As we choose to live with open praise, joy in the relationship will be reflected in our expression, words, motives, and dealings. Praise transforms our life as we live with authentic gratitude worship. When we are changed, the present and future of our children and grandchildren are as well. Jeremiah 10:6 says, “There is none like You, O LORD. You are great, and Your name is mighty in power .” Lord, may our lives, and the lives of our children shine a maturing walk that please You more and more each day. Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for Your goodness and faithfulness to us. We know we are not worthy of anything You so generously give, yet we humbly thank You and desire that we please You more and more. Help us to be the example You desire for our children to come to know, follow, and show You. Help them to crave You over culture and live with focus on eternity, even while on this earth. May they proclaim You, profess You, live lives pure in Your eyes, persist in time with You, and praise You in the ways You deserve. May we lead them straight to You with the way we live, as well. Show us the way to model that lifestyle and desire for them. Pierce our heart with Your pureness and desire for You that they will see and grasp. In the precious name of Jesus we humbly pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. To hear episodes similar to this one, I suggest listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast Episode 076, "Direct Your Focus,” or Episode 108, “Jesus Desires Three Responses.” You may find these on the terrihitt.com website. Just click on “podcasts” and type in the topic or title you wish to hear about in the search bar at the top of the page. The Live With Eternal perspective and Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcasts are also found at iHeart Radio, Spotify, and are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts are also found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. . Have you rated or reviewed the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? For those who have, I thank you so very much! If you haven’t, would you please consider doing so? When you review my podcasts on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcasts online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. If you believe the content you hear should be heard so that more people can begin to deepen their walk with Jesus, live with eyes set on eternity, and raise or influence children for Christ, would you please write a review and rate the podcast for me? Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. 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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast. Episode #009 – The Beauty of Imperfection Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Today I’m starting our discussion with a little fact about myself. I’m a neat person. I don’t mean I’m cool, but obviously, if you want to think that, I’ll let you! Just kidding! My goal has never been to be the one who attracts the attention and envy of everyone around me and it hasn’t been bestowed to me naturally. Honestly, I’m probably one of the last people someone would look at and think I’m the cool girl, because I keep to the basics of just being me. What I mean about being a neat person is that I don’t like to be surrounded by messes. In fact, I find chaos distracting. If I lived alone, I’d most likely spend a good portion of my time front-facing and alphabetizing my pantry. I’d be on my hands and knees dusting all the baseboards and climbing my counters to reach the highest cabinets to wash them with Murphy Oil Soap to make everything smell fresh and look beautifully shiny. Cleaning is relaxing to me. When I’m doing this type of work, my mind can wander or relax. It allows me to talk to and hear God. Thankfully, my day to day reality is quite different than my imagined spotless home. I am truly grateful that I don’t live alone and that I have my beautiful family. I’m also very fortunate that I’ve developed the ability to focus more on things that I believe God is calling me to invest in rather than the dust web in the corner. My life is incredibly busy. Not only do I homeschool my two daughters, one of which has special needs, but I am also involved in activities outside the home for myself and my family, I am dedicated to growing this ministry and podcast that God has entrusted to me for this season, and one of my daughters and I are also building a business together. Through the busyness, we still work hard to spend quality time together and to allow for down times to enjoy simply hearing from God individually and together. We make it a priority to spend time in His word alone and with each other and to pray together daily. This certainly does not leave me time to clean the way my heart desires. Right now, my home is “surface clean” only and most days has tufts of Golden Retriever hair floating around the floor. I thank God for enabling me to cling to the values He finds important during this time in my life. These precious days will never be repeated. Each activity we choose to participate in will evolve into an experience or memory that is one of the foundational blocks building our lives. My security in the Lord allows me to release expectations and stresses of attempted perfection by relying on Him to shift my idea of flawlessness to what He desires. As a mother building her second family, I know how quickly children grow up. I had quiet years between the time my first two were grown and we began raising our second two. I had enough time to do things around the house and I knew the most important and meaningful times were spent one-on-one with my family and growing the depth of our knowledge in Jesus. At that time, my husband worked long hours and was out of town and out of the country often. Our first two children were grown and lived on their own. I can remember sitting in a little hot tub we had outside our back door. I would look up at the sky as I relaxed, letting time carry me back through memories and hearing the whispers God spoke to my heart. He was preparing me for the next phase of my life. I was able to hear Him speak truths to my spirit that revealed how I could have parented with focused intentionality for Him. My relationship with Jesus had deepened and although I raised my children to know God, I could see ways that I had not scratched the surface of how the Lord really desired me to guide those He entrusted to my care to follow Him. I could see the ways I should have intentionally walked more closely with Him and mentored my children to do the same. He fed me the nutrients needed for nurturing a healthy and worthy relationship with Him from birth and began instilling a desire in the hearts of my husband and myself for a baby from China and planting seeds of how to change our parenting style to honor and show Him clearly so He could shine. Focusing on what God values and calls important is where I want my eyes and heart to reside. Although I certainly don’t want to live in filth, I know that keeping my pantry alphabetized and my floors vacuumed daily are not what will keep my family relationships healthy or help any of us mature spiritually. As in everything, balance is essential. When I come to the end of my life, whether it be tomorrow or forty years from now, what do I want to remember? What do I want others to remember about me? Most importantly, will they remember that they saw Jesus in me? Will I have allowed Him to shine from me so brightly that they had to discover Jesus and allow Him to shine through them? Will my family be close? Will we each have strong and continuously deepening relationships? My desire to live in ways pleasing to God and to have positive and joyful answers to these questions propel me to live in the present with eternal perspective. Today our episode focuses on purposely examining our heart and allowing God to cleanse the idea of perfection that separates us from Him so that we can live closer to the way He desires. It’s so easy to feel overwhelmed, hopeless, confused, unappreciated, exhausted, angry, bitter, or defeated when things don’t go smoothly or exactly the way we hoped. None of these are pleasing to or come from the Lord. We can easily get lost in our emotions and be deceived. Don’t bury eternal focus beneath tasks, chores, responsibilities, or imperfections. If we live to survive, we are only coping with life. We should experience a joy-filled existence that builds and anticipates deeper fellowship with God while craving eternity. Psalm 51:10 pleads, “Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.” We don’t want a “surface-clean only” life. Our heart was made to desire beautiful fellowship with Him. Life cannot be perfect, but we can seek to perfectly align ours with the desires God has for us as we pursue intimacy with Him. Wouldn’t it be beautiful if every day was accomplished and without blemish? Smooth easy days with no trials or troubles. No red lights on our way to appointments. No one needing our time or attention while we are already busy with something else that needs to be completed. No spills on white carpet. All of our relationships run smoothly with no disagreements or misunderstandings. No products we need at the store cleaned off the shelf before we get there. I know I’m being silly, but you must admit, all our minds have desired a perfect day at one time or another, but God knows that a perfect world would not bring us to our knees before Him. Proverbs 23:26 says, “My son, give me your heart and let your eyes delight in My ways.” I understand that the context this verse is used for in the Bible is sexual sin, but the truth of it applies to any situation. God wants our heart; He desires that we seek Him and His ways. Without a need for the Lord, we may not choose to seek, grow a relationship with, or depend on Him. Eternity would not be a destination for us. We would simply hope to gain all we could here on earth and remain in our selfish, empty lifestyle forever. I think it’s incredibly important to recognize that at times our emotions and feelings get in the way of seeing clearly. Our ability to think and live with our heart and mind focused on eternity gets blocked. Sometimes, it seems that life continues to knock us down. We fall to our knees before the Lord, but the harsh realities of life in this broken world crash on us day after day without relief in sight. Although hardships can feel unending, Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us that no season lasts forever. God wants our faith and trust to be constructed on such a solid foundation that nothing can crack it. No matter what life looks or feels like, His desire is for us to continue to steadfastly cast our cares and hope on Him. 2 Corinthians 4:8-9 says it well. “We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair, persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.” Life can be devastatingly hard, but God is with us. He is working ahead of, with, and behind us to allow exactly what we need to experience. Remember, our life is not just about us. Aren’t you fascinated by the intricacy of God’s plans and the inter-woven plots and twists that He executes? He has everything under control, even if we don’t see, feel, or recognize it. Will every day be perfect? That depends on how I look at it. 1 Thessalonian 5:16-18 reminds us to “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” At times we may wonder whether we are following the plans God has for our lives. When times are difficult or we don’t receive answers we are seeking, it’s easy to try to pull situations into our own hands and wonder whether God cares or is watching over us. Wise advice comes from James 1:22, which says, “But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.” Keep your eyes and heart fixed above. Remain faithful in crafting a genuine relationship with the Lord through reading His word and conversing through prayer. Make time to have quiet moments to speak to Him, not just in prayer, but in sharing your thoughts and life. Listen for Him to speak. Give God time to respond in His timing. Trust in Him, despite circumstances. Jesus displayed how He escaped to share quiet, personal moments with His Father. If Jesus modeled it, we know we require the same in our lives. Psalm 73:26 reminds us, “My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” Those far from the Lord will perish, but those who abide in Him, who draw near to Him, so that He may draw nearer to them, will live with peace, joy, and assurance, despite anything that occurs in this world. Romans 8:13 tells us, “For if you live according to the flesh you will die, but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live.” Stop and think about how the Romans viewed and executed crucifixion. Look at the parallel between death on a cross and killing the desires of our flesh. Crucifixion was specific. It was personal to the individual. Ponder that we each have an opportunity for a personal relationship with Jesus and must destroy the acts of our own flesh daily through walking in the power of the Holy Spirit within us. Only through Jesus can those acts be crucified. Crucifixion was brutally painful. Just as death on the cross is unbearably hard for us to fully conceive, executing the deeds of our flesh is brutally hard. We cannot do it in our own strength. Only through Jesus can those deeds be crucified. Crucifixion is cruel. The individual being crucified was not to be removed from the cross until they were dead. We must ensure that we allow the Holy Spirit to execute the sins of our flesh. Only through Jesus can those sins be crucified. Romans 8:14 says, “For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God.” As we abide in Him, we are changed, and His desires become ours. Put into practice what we read in His word. Simply reading and going about our day thinking we have had our “spiritual” time brings none of the fruits of the Spirit that we need to live a healthy life. Living a “checklist” life is just as effective as doing nothing at all. When we follow Jesus, we want the qualities He values and offers to be living and blooming inside us. This is what ensures that we are able to live with a spirit unaffected by daily ups and downs, even when we are living in incredibly difficult and dark times. It also ensures that when we are in the midst of an easy season we don’t pull away from the Lord, but rejoice in the knowledge that He is with us no matter what and that we are living through His strength and in His guiding arms. As James 1:17a reminds us, nothing we have or do is gained by our own strength or talents. “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above.” Psalm 37:4-5 says, “Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him, and he will act.” Delight means to take pleasure in. Commit means to be dedicated to or make a pledge to – it means to sacrifice our life and offer it to God. Continue trusting that everything occurring in our life will be used for good and to grow our relationship with our Heavenly Father if we are obedient in the areas He calls us to. There is beauty in imperfection. Embrace yours as it causes you to rely on Him. Everything that drives us to the Father’s arms is cause for gratitude. May we encounter more days that push our to our knees and guide us to His arms. May our faces be ever lifted toward the Son who abides in our hearts, helping us to live with eternal expectation and thankfulness. Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 009 The Beauty of Imperfection Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast. Episode #009 – The Beauty of Imperfection Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Today I’m starting our discussion with a little fact about myself. I’m a neat person. I don’t mean I’m cool, but obviously, if you want to think that, I’ll let you! Just kidding! My goal has never been to be the one who attracts the attention and envy of everyone around me and it hasn’t been bestowed to me naturally. Honestly, I’m probably one of the last people someone would look at and think I’m the cool girl, because I keep to the basics of just being me. What I mean about being a neat person is that I don’t like to be surrounded by messes. In fact, I find chaos distracting. If I lived alone, I’d most likely spend a good portion of my time front-facing and alphabetizing my pantry. I’d be on my hands and knees dusting all the baseboards and climbing my counters to reach the highest cabinets to wash them with Murphy Oil Soap to make everything smell fresh and look beautifully shiny. Cleaning is relaxing to me. When I’m doing this type of work, my mind can wander or relax. It allows me to talk to and hear God. Thankfully, my day to day reality is quite different than my imagined spotless home. I am truly grateful that I don’t live alone and that I have my beautiful family. I’m also very fortunate that I’ve developed the ability to focus more on things that I believe God is calling me to invest in rather than the dust web in the corner. My life is incredibly busy. Not only do I homeschool my two daughters, one of which has special needs, but I am also involved in activities outside the home for myself and my family, I am dedicated to growing this ministry and podcast that God has entrusted to me for this season, and one of my daughters and I are also building a business together. Through the busyness, we still work hard to spend quality time together and to allow for down times to enjoy simply hearing from God individually and together. We make it a priority to spend time in His word alone and with each other and to pray together daily. This certainly does not leave me time to clean the way my heart desires. Right now, my home is “surface clean” only and most days has tufts of Golden Retriever hair floating around the floor. I thank God for enabling me to cling to the values He finds important during this time in my life. These precious days will never be repeated. Each activity we choose to participate in will evolve into an experience or memory that is one of the foundational blocks building our lives. My security in the Lord allows me to release expectations and stresses of attempted perfection by relying on Him to shift my idea of flawlessness to what He desires. As a mother building her second family, I know how quickly children grow up. I had quiet years between the time my first two were grown and we began raising our second two. I had enough time to do things around the house and I knew the most important and meaningful times were spent one-on-one with my family and growing the depth of our knowledge in Jesus. At that time, my husband worked long hours and was out of town and out of the country often. Our first two children were grown and lived on their own. I can remember sitting in a little hot tub we had outside our back door. I would look up at the sky as I relaxed, letting time carry me back through memories and hearing the whispers God spoke to my heart. He was preparing me for the next phase of my life. I was able to hear Him speak truths to my spirit that revealed how I could have parented with focused intentionality for Him. My relationship with Jesus had deepened and although I raised my children to know God, I could see ways that I had not scratched the surface of how the Lord really desired me to guide those He entrusted to my care to follow Him. I could see the ways I should have intentionally walked more closely with Him and mentored my children to do the same. He fed me the nutrients needed for nurturing a healthy and worthy relationship with Him from birth and began instilling a desire in the hearts of my husband and myself for a baby from China and planting seeds of how to change our parenting style to honor and show Him clearly so He could shine. Focusing on what God values and calls important is where I want my eyes and heart to reside. Although I certainly don’t want to live in filth, I know that keeping my pantry alphabetized and my floors vacuumed daily are not what will keep my family relationships healthy or help any of us mature spiritually. As in everything, balance is essential. When I come to the end of my life, whether it be tomorrow or forty years from now, what do I want to remember? What do I want others to remember about me? Most importantly, will they remember that they saw Jesus in me? Will I have allowed Him to shine from me so brightly that they had to discover Jesus and allow Him to shine through them? Will my family be close? Will we each have strong and continuously deepening relationships? My desire to live in ways pleasing to God and to have positive and joyful answers to these questions propel me to live in the present with eternal perspective. Today our episode focuses on purposely examining our heart and allowing God to cleanse the idea of perfection that separates us from Him so that we can live closer to the way He desires. It’s so easy to feel overwhelmed, hopeless, confused, unappreciated, exhausted, angry, bitter, or defeated when things don’t go smoothly or exactly the way we hoped. None of these are pleasing to or come from the Lord. We can easily get lost in our emotions and be deceived. Don’t bury eternal focus beneath tasks, chores, responsibilities, or imperfections. If we live to survive, we are only coping with life. We should experience a joy-filled existence that builds and anticipates deeper fellowship with God while craving eternity. Psalm 51:10 pleads, “Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.” We don’t want a “surface-clean only” life. Our heart was made to desire beautiful fellowship with Him. Life cannot be perfect, but we can seek to perfectly align ours with the desires God has for us as we pursue intimacy with Him. Wouldn’t it be beautiful if every day was accomplished and without blemish? Smooth easy days with no trials or troubles. No red lights on our way to appointments. No one needing our time or attention while we are already busy with something else that needs to be completed. No spills on white carpet. All of our relationships run smoothly with no disagreements or misunderstandings. No products we need at the store cleaned off the shelf before we get there. I know I’m being silly, but you must admit, all our minds have desired a perfect day at one time or another, but God knows that a perfect world would not bring us to our knees before Him. Proverbs 23:26 says, “My son, give me your heart and let your eyes delight in My ways.” I understand that the context this verse is used for in the Bible is sexual sin, but the truth of it applies to any situation. God wants our heart; He desires that we seek Him and His ways. Without a need for the Lord, we may not choose to seek, grow a relationship with, or depend on Him. Eternity would not be a destination for us. We would simply hope to gain all we could here on earth and remain in our selfish, empty lifestyle forever. I think it’s incredibly important to recognize that at times our emotions and feelings get in the way of seeing clearly. Our ability to think and live with our heart and mind focused on eternity gets blocked. Sometimes, it seems that life continues to knock us down. We fall to our knees before the Lord, but the harsh realities of life in this broken world crash on us day after day without relief in sight. Although hardships can feel unending, Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us that no season lasts forever. God wants our faith and trust to be constructed on such a solid foundation that nothing can crack it. No matter what life looks or feels like, His desire is for us to continue to steadfastly cast our cares and hope on Him. 2 Corinthians 4:8-9 says it well. “We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair, persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.” Life can be devastatingly hard, but God is with us. He is working ahead of, with, and behind us to allow exactly what we need to experience. Remember, our life is not just about us. Aren’t you fascinated by the intricacy of God’s plans and the inter-woven plots and twists that He executes? He has everything under control, even if we don’t see, feel, or recognize it. Will every day be perfect? That depends on how I look at it. 1 Thessalonian 5:16-18 reminds us to “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” At times we may wonder whether we are following the plans God has for our lives. When times are difficult or we don’t receive answers we are seeking, it’s easy to try to pull situations into our own hands and wonder whether God cares or is watching over us. Wise advice comes from James 1:22, which says, “But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.” Keep your eyes and heart fixed above. Remain faithful in crafting a genuine relationship with the Lord through reading His word and conversing through prayer. Make time to have quiet moments to speak to Him, not just in prayer, but in sharing your thoughts and life. Listen for Him to speak. Give God time to respond in His timing. Trust in Him, despite circumstances. Jesus displayed how He escaped to share quiet, personal moments with His Father. If Jesus modeled it, we know we require the same in our lives. Psalm 73:26 reminds us, “My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” Those far from the Lord will perish, but those who abide in Him, who draw near to Him, so that He may draw nearer to them, will live with peace, joy, and assurance, despite anything that occurs in this world. Romans 8:13 tells us, “For if you live according to the flesh you will die, but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live.” Stop and think about how the Romans viewed and executed crucifixion. Look at the parallel between death on a cross and killing the desires of our flesh. Crucifixion was specific. It was personal to the individual. Ponder that we each have an opportunity for a personal relationship with Jesus and must destroy the acts of our own flesh daily through walking in the power of the Holy Spirit within us. Only through Jesus can those acts be crucified. Crucifixion was brutally painful. Just as death on the cross is unbearably hard for us to fully conceive, executing the deeds of our flesh is brutally hard. We cannot do it in our own strength. Only through Jesus can those deeds be crucified. Crucifixion is cruel. The individual being crucified was not to be removed from the cross until they were dead. We must ensure that we allow the Holy Spirit to execute the sins of our flesh. Only through Jesus can those sins be crucified. Romans 8:14 says, “For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God.” As we abide in Him, we are changed, and His desires become ours. Put into practice what we read in His word. Simply reading and going about our day thinking we have had our “spiritual” time brings none of the fruits of the Spirit that we need to live a healthy life. Living a “checklist” life is just as effective as doing nothing at all. When we follow Jesus, we want the qualities He values and offers to be living and blooming inside us. This is what ensures that we are able to live with a spirit unaffected by daily ups and downs, even when we are living in incredibly difficult and dark times. It also ensures that when we are in the midst of an easy season we don’t pull away from the Lord, but rejoice in the knowledge that He is with us no matter what and that we are living through His strength and in His guiding arms. As James 1:17a reminds us, nothing we have or do is gained by our own strength or talents. “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above.” Psalm 37:4-5 says, “Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him, and he will act.” Delight means to take pleasure in. Commit means to be dedicated to or make a pledge to – it means to sacrifice our life and offer it to God. Continue trusting that everything occurring in our life will be used for good and to grow our relationship with our Heavenly Father if we are obedient in the areas He calls us to. There is beauty in imperfection. Embrace yours as it causes you to rely on Him. Everything that drives us to the Father’s arms is cause for gratitude. May we encounter more days that push our to our knees and guide us to His arms. May our faces be ever lifted toward the Son who abides in our hearts, helping us to live with eternal expectation and thankfulness. Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #018 – Prayer Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Sharing about my family and the faith God has crafted in us through the years is such a joy for me. Recognizing methods that He uses to stretch and challenge me daily feels like a gift extended in lessons for me to grasp and share. As I have matured, both in age, and in wisdom, I have recognized the simple truth that prayer is not an option. It is a dire necessity for any soul desiring to be filled with the fruits of the spirit and to live a life pleasing to God, expectant of the rich blessing of intimate and personal fellowship with our Creator. In order to cultivate the qualities that Jesus carried, we must cling to Him through a relationship that craves and adores Him and desires to live in ways that are productive for Him. Without faith, I would not be the person I am or have a peaceful, calm nature that carries me through situations with a positive and hopeful temperament. Prayer is a crucial element for growing my faith in, and dependence on, the Lord. Prayer has grown to be such an automatic response within my brain and body that like breathing, I often do not even realize I am speaking to God. When disaster strikes or emergencies arise, my first response is to fall in humble position before my Father and ask Him to carry the load. Even when the situation is too critical for prayer because time is urgent, my mind and mouth utter the sweet words that bring me comfort and peace each time I say His name aloud. Jesus. Just like every aspect of our faith life, prayer must be something we desire. Once we have acknowledged the fact that we require this lifeline and discipline in our walk with the Lord, we will establish methods to ensure that we connect through this worship and petition that is so much more than we often suspect when we begin our faith journey with God. Prayer exposes our core belief system. Kneeling before our Lord in supplication, whether literally or through our heart and mindset, is a natural extension of our personal relationship with and belief in Him. Our reliance on God through the act of prayer exhibits our dependence on our Heavenly Father, humbling our position with Him, and proving the level of our reliance on Him. How do we establish a lifestyle of prayer? The important word to ponder shouldn’t be how, but rather, Who. Jesus is our life and prayer model. When God sent His son to earth, it wasn’t only to offer His life as a sacrifice for our sins. God stepped into this world to exist and walk among us. He came to show us exactly how to live and how to pray. I think the time period Jesus lived in was significant, as well. Obviously, the particular time frame was crucial in order for events to occur as God ordained, but beyond that, if we examine the way of life during that period compared to our current lifestyle, we admit that we have a comparative life of ease and comfort. Yet, despite daily requirements for survival, chores, and occupation, then later the pressures and demands of His ministry, Jesus consistently made sure He spent time with His Heavenly Father. Our affluent lifestyles have occupied every second of our day and keep us permanently distracted with work, activities, and electronics. No matter the purpose for our commitment to a particular task, our souls were created with a deep need to be nurtured and refreshed by God and our minds need the interaction, guidance, and wisdom that only He can supply. We were not created for constant preoccupation with earthly diversions. Colossians 4:2 says, “Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful.” Jesus, through His perfect example of Son seeking Father, committed to sacrificing for God. He willingly planned and enjoyed spending time with His Father. To stand in the presence of God was His desire, His lifeline. 1. Jesus prayed without ceasing. His breath and thoughts coexisted in behavior and habits of praise developed through reliance on and relationship with God through prayer. He existed in a constant state of heart and prayer connection. 2. Jesus prepared for prayer. His mind and attitude were qualified to hear God. His heart was primed. As we bow before God with petition, our personal sins must be released. We should seek repentance and restoration with our Heavenly Father before imploring Him with requests. In other words, our communication should consistently be prioritized, and our walk refreshed moment by moment. Relationship with God is a mutual and emotional connection requiring our commitment and diligence in order for it to flourish. James 5:16 reminds us, “The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” Instead of bowing before our Lord without much forethought, or asking others who appear “godlier” in their Christian walk to carry our prayer burdens, Jesus modeled the way for us to open ourselves to a regular and intentional personal time with God. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking others to petition the Lord for us or for us to pray for others, but in order for us to grow and deepen our own connection with God, we need intimate, intentional, consistent, solitary moments to share undisturbed and undistracted time with Christ alone. Obviously, the easiest way to create this time is to simply begin with the determination to persist until regular time is established. Genuine and connected relationship is the goal, not a fancy, complicated system. Meeting with God can be as simple as getting up early or staying up late or carving out time through the day. If a special area needs to be designed in order to move ahead, a spare room, or an area in an existing space, such as a favorite desk or chair, or a piece of floor in the closet may also work. It is also important to analyze why we want to pray. Do we view the time as a way to mark a box off of our spiritual checklist? Or do we crave a personal relationship with Christ that deepens daily? Knowing and understanding why we want to pray will enable us to reach our goal. Personal needs, needs of loved ones, friend requests, requests from church members, world issues, prayer for leaders and pastors, family needs, and prayers to draw nearer to God are probably the most common requests we lift to God. As we continue to develop our relationship and live with a deeper eternal perspective, we recognize many more topics to carry to God in our quiet time. We need Him so much in every way as we journey through this life and prepare for the next. Jesus taught us that we should examine our relationship with our Heavenly Father, the reasons we pray, and the way we pray. What are the most effective methods to pray? 1. Prayer does not have to be fancy. Be faithful, be authentic; speak from your heart. Be focused on our Heavenly Father, not wondering how much longer you should pray, whether the kids are going to come busting through the door, or whether it’s time to eat yet. 1 Kings 8:28 says, “Yet regard the prayer of Your servant and his supplication, O Lord my God, and listen to the cry and the prayer which Your servant is praying before You today.” 2. Pray with confidence formed through a secure and growing relationship with Jesus. Psalm 55:1-2a says, “Give ear to my prayer, O God, and do not hide Yourself from my supplication. Attend to me, and hear me.” His word promises His love for us. We can approach His throne with assurance that He hears and sees us. 3. Always pray in alignment with scripture and the character of God. Psalm 139:23 says, “Examine me, O God, and know my mind; test me, and discover my thoughts.” A deep prayer relationship with the Lord will align our heart and desires to His, not require God to fulfill our wishes and motives. 4. Trust that prayer works. When you don’t know what to pray, the Holy Spirit will intercede. Romans 8:26 says, “Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.” When we are followers of Jesus, we are guaranteed that the Holy Spirit is alive and active within us. During the times we carry intense pressure, heavy concerns, or are in deep emotional, mental, physical, financial, or spiritual pain, the Holy Spirit Himself does not need us to verbalize our emotions or desires. The Spirit intercedes because He searches our hearts, knows the mind of our Father, and makes intercession for the saints according to the will of God (Romans 8:27). 5. Rest in knowing that God hears and is at work. Psalm 102:17 says, “He shall regard the prayer of the destitute, and shall not despise their prayer.” Psalm 55:16-17 promise, “As for me, I will call upon God, and the Lord shall save me. Evening and morning and at noon I will pray, and cry aloud, and He shall hear my voice.” 6. Remain in prayerful attitude, even when not physically praying. Release your cares and prayers and believe what you cannot see. Mark 9:29 says, “So He said to them, “This kind can come out by nothing but prayer and fasting.” Determine in your heart and through meditation with the Lord whether you need to fast. Fasting is something God would direct us to do or is a sacrifice we willingly and privately make for Him. It is not only abstaining from food, but may be anything that pulls us from Him. Something that your heart desires more than God such as television, shopping, video games, phones, social media, etc. can be lifted in sacrifice to God for a season or permanently. Many years ago God clearly requested that I fast from reading mainstream fiction. After I did so, He made it clear that He had a new direction for my life and also called me to stop writing fiction. A little backstory is important to insert here. During most of my life at that point, I had carried a deep desire to be a published author. I had written several mainstream novels that I intended to polish and present to agents and editors for publication. Although it was painful to let the dream go, I recognized that writing was like breathing air for me, but I needed my relationship with God to be my source of oxygen. After stepping away from writing, I stopped reading small passages of my Bible and began reading it in entirety several times. My walk with God deepened and our relationship blossomed in ways it never could have if I had continued living the way I had been. A few years later God took my husband and I on an adoption journey that He had laid the foundation for during that time of deep yearning and reconstruction of my faith. I had never prayed about whether God wanted me to be a mainstream writer. I had only prayed that He would help me become an author. He clearly had other desires for my life. I only found true joy and peace when I submitted to, prayed for His desires, and followed what He created me to do. 7. Live with gratitude, whether or not your prayer is answered the way you want God to answer, and even when His timing is not want we desire. Our attitude easily dictates the future of our faith journey. 2 Corinthians 4:15 says, “All this is for your benefit, so that the grace that is reaching more and more people may cause thanksgiving to overflow to the glory of God.” I waited approximately 43 years for God to answer my prayer that my dad stop drinking. The answer was not in the way I hoped for or expected, but God’s answer was an intimate method that was personal between my father and myself. 8. Listen and evaluate what you believe God reveals to you through prayer. Make sure it is from Him. Does it align with His nature and word? Psalm 18:30 says, “As for God, His way is perfect; The word of the LORD is proven; He is a shield to all who trust in Him.” 9. Lift God’s word to Him in prayer. There is absolute power behind the word of God. Isaiah 55:11 says, “So shall My word be that goes forth from My mouth; It shall not return to Me void, But it shall accomplish what I please, And it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it.” Using prayer in praise and petition is mighty. A beautiful way to begin prayer time is to pray scripture that praises God and Who He is. Praying scripture also connects our heart to God and prepares us to worship and petition more as He would desire. God’s holy word is highly effective and absolutely never returns void. 10. Model prayer life after Jesus. Growing and sustaining a prosperous walk with God was a top priority for Jesus. He knew His reason for living and was devoted to knowing, trusting, and making God known. Various scriptures attest to the life Jesus led through prayer. Proverbs 15:8 says, “The Lord detests the sacrifice of the wicked, but the prayer of the upright pleases Him.” Jesus was very deliberate about the way He approached His Heavenly Father and the way He prayed. As we review sections of scripture, we recognize distinct approaches Jesus used to pray because of His reverence and love for God. Matthew 6:5-15 and Luke 11:1-4 are both nearly the same, but the verses from Matthew indicate that the prayer was shared during the Sermon on the Mount while those from Luke illustrate instructions Jesus gave to His disciples regarding prayer. How I would have loved to stand with Jesus and have Him personally teach me how to pray! Thankfully, we have instructions through His word and the Holy Spirit inside us to advise, train, and discipline us. I will read both passages of scripture and highlight points of each that enrich our prayer life and journey with God. Let’s start with Luke 11:1-4. “And it came to pass, that, as He was praying in a certain place, when He ceased, one of His disciples said unto Him, Lord, teach us to pray, as John also taught his disciples. And He said unto them, When ye pray, say, Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done, as in heaven, so in earth. Give us day by day our daily bread. And forgive us our sins; for we also forgive every one that is indebted to us. And lead us not into temptation; but deliver us from evil.” If we reflect on these words of Jesus as He instructed His disciples on the heart of prayer, we are able to clearly see 7 important points He mentored for us to follow. The prayer, known as The Lord’s Prayer is not meant to be mindlessly repeated verbatim, but as an outline to encourage us to focus on certain qualities and aspects of God as we come before our Lord in prayer instead of focusing on ourselves or whatever whim we may desire to approach Him for. 1. Approach God as our Father - because He is. He may not be flesh and blood standing next to us where we can see Him, but He is beside, within, and before us. 2. Adore Him. He is our Creator, our Provider, our Comforter, and our Healer. He is holy. He is worthy to be praised! Hallowed be His name. 3. Allow His authority and His will to reign in our hearts, minds, and attitudes. 4. Accept God’s ability to provide. Believe that He will. 5. Admit that He is sovereign, and we are sinners. 6. Abundant strength against temptation will protect us if we become and remain grounded in and reliant on Him. God is sufficient for our every need. 7. Armor is His specialty. God is our Shield, our Protector. Now let’s review Matthew 6:5-15. Jesus says, “And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask Him.” “This, then, is how you should pray: “Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us today our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one. For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” 1. When the Pharisees prayed, it was at arranged times and in front of public places so that they could be recognized and praised for their so-called devotion to God. Jesus is not criticizing public prayer, rather, He is exposing and denouncing false and self-absorbed prayer. The core of prayer is personal. While we may pray for others, our purpose and desires through prayer are between us and our Father. Even when we pray aloud in a public setting, our heart and mind should be focused on, meditating on, and speaking to Him. 2. The Lord’s Prayer is a beautiful example of the qualities Jesus desires us to possess as we pray. However, while it is acceptable to pray as written in the Bible, we must not allow routine or memorized prayers to flow mindlessly from our heart and lips. The Lord desires and deserves our mind and heart to be alive and active when we humbly bow before Him. This prayer template modeled by Jesus sets the tone and instructs us how to pray the priorities of our Father. 3. As we pray to our Father in Heaven as Jesus designed, we acknowledge God’s deep and profoundly intimate love for us, His children and recognize His promise that we are heirs in His family. 4. The beautiful words, “Your kingdom come” reveal both God’s spiritual reign and His approaching sovereignty over all of creation. When believers become Christians, we receive the Spirit of God within us, but will also experience the fulfillment of God’s kingdom when Jesus returns in His full eminence and institutes His glorious new world order. 5. As we pray for our “daily bread,” we submissively recognize and accept our dependence on God to supply our every need. He does not always grant us exactly what we desire, but it is always greater than we could anticipate and exactly meets our needs. 6. As Jesus extended forgiveness to us, we must also forgive others. Often, when we are wounded, the only way we can forgive is through the mighty, supernatural power of the Lord. In order to do this, our relationship with God must be a priority. Believers must also regularly confess our sins to the Lord and seek to live in the ways we know He desires and are acceptable when exposed by His light. Otherwise, our relationship will weaken and can become strained or closed off. Although God has promised that we can never be plucked from His hand, when we are not living as we should, we do easily drift away from Him. 7. When we live in the power and light of God, and are striving to be pleasing to Him, our prayers are heard and answered as we pray in the ways that are desirable and acceptable to Him. When we pray for protection from temptation and the evil one, God will hear and provide. Jesus was not hesitant to be alone. He craved and created quiet time with His Father. Another way Jesus modeled a perfect prayer life was in the way He often sought and found ways to be alone with His Heavenly Father. Luke 5:16 says, “So He Himself often withdrew into the wilderness and prayed.” How do we expect to hear God speaking to and guiding us when we are always distracted and preoccupied? Jesus knew the importance of solitude and respected and honored His Father enough to ensure that He made the time. Here are three other examples of Jesus seeking the Father in private. Matthew 14:23 says, “After he had dismissed them, he went up on a mountainside by himself to pray. Later that night, he was there alone.” Luke 6:12 says, “One of those days Jesus went out to a mountainside to pray, and spent the night praying to God.” Mark 1:35 says, “Now in the morning, having risen a long while before daylight, He went out and departed to a solitary place; and there He prayed.” God gave us His Holy word, so full of wisdom and instruction, as well as the perfect living example of truth and light - Jesus, God in flesh, who walked among us, the template, the way to serve, love, and honor Him. What ultimate gifts we have received. I’d like to share one more passage of scripture that is so beautifully written and models devotion for our Father, sacrificial love for the disciples and all who would believe in Him. These verses are full of discipleship, obedience, and fulfillment that could probably be another podcast on their own. I believe they are beautiful words to end this episode because they expose the pure heart of our Savior and instruct His followers on the way to mold our heart to follow God’s. John 17:1-26 says, “After Jesus said this, he looked toward heaven and prayed: “Father, the hour has come. Glorify your Son, that your Son may glorify You. For you granted Him authority over all people that He might give eternal life to all those You have given Him. Now this is eternal life: that they know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom You have sent. I have brought You glory on earth by finishing the work You gave Me to do. And now, Father, glorify Me in Your presence with the glory I had with You before the world began. “I have revealed You to those whom You gave Me out of the world. They were Yours; You gave them to Me, and they have obeyed Your word. Now they know that everything You have given Me comes from You. For I gave them the words You gave Me, and they accepted them. They knew with certainty that I came from You, and they believed that You sent me. I pray for them. I am not praying for the world, but for those You have given me, for they are Yours. All I have is Yours, and all You have is Mine. And glory has come to Me through them. I will remain in the world no longer, but they are still in the world, and I am coming to you. Holy Father protect them by the power of Your name, the name You gave me, so that they may be one as We are One. While I was with them, I protected them and kept them safe by that name You gave me. None has been lost except the one doomed to destruction so that Scripture would be fulfilled. “I am coming to You now, but I say these things while I am still in the world, so that they may have the full measure of My joy within them. I have given them Your word and the world has hated them, for they are not of the world any more than I am of the world. My prayer is not that You take them out of the world but that You protect them from the evil one. They are not of the world, even as I am not of it. Sanctify them by the truth; Your word is truth. As you sent Me into the world, I have sent them into the world. For them I sanctify myself, that they too may be truly sanctified. “My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in Me through their message, that all of them may be one, Father, just as You are in Me and I am in You. May they also be in Us so that the world may believe that You have sent Me. I have given them the glory that You gave Me, that they may be one as We are one—I in them and You in me—so that they may be brought to complete unity. Then the world will know that You sent Me and have loved them even as You have loved Me. “Father, I want those You have given Me to be with Me where I am, and to see My glory, the glory You have given Me because You loved Me before the creation of the world. “Righteous Father, though the world does not know You, I know You, and they know that You have sent Me. I have made You known to them, and will continue to make You known in order that the love You have for Me may be in them and that I myself may be in them.” Prayer brings us closer to God through continuous communication, recognition, and admittance that God is the provider of our needs, acknowledgement that He is enough, and that we trust Him to care for us. We come to understand God through prayerful reliance on Him, compelling us to depend on the Holy Spirit within us. Prayer forces us to wait on the Lord and listen for His response or direction. Our patience and faith mature as we submit to our Father. My heart yearns for each of us to experience a prayer life like Jesus. May your heart be touched by the humble example of a living God who came to live for a time on earth, but still reigns in Heaven and within the hearts of each of us who follow Him. What a miracle and gift that He desires deep communication with us through the act of prayer. Did you enjoy this episode? If so, would you please make time to leave a review and rating for the show? Send me an email at thedoovermom@gmail.com if you don’t know how and I will walk you through step-by-step. I pray you find value in our weekly topics. 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Sharing about my family and the faith God has crafted in us through the years is such a joy for me. Recognizing methods that He uses to stretch and challenge me daily feels like a gift extended in lessons for me to grasp and share. As I have matured, both in age, and in wisdom, I have recognized the simple truth that prayer is not an option. It is a dire necessity for any soul desiring to be filled with the fruits of the spirit and to live a life pleasing to God, expectant of the rich blessing of intimate and personal fellowship with our Creator. In order to cultivate the qualities that Jesus carried, we must cling to Him through a relationship that craves and adores Him and desires to live in ways that are productive for Him. Without faith, I would not be the person I am or have a peaceful, calm nature that carries me through situations with a positive and hopeful temperament. Prayer is a crucial element for growing my faith in, and dependence on, the Lord. Prayer has grown to be such an automatic response within my brain and body that like breathing, I often do not even realize I am speaking to God. When disaster strikes or emergencies arise, my first response is to fall in humble position before my Father and ask Him to carry the load. Even when the situation is too critical for prayer because time is urgent, my mind and mouth utter the sweet words that bring me comfort and peace each time I say His name aloud. Jesus. Just like every aspect of our faith life, prayer must be something we desire. Once we have acknowledged the fact that we require this lifeline and discipline in our walk with the Lord, we will establish methods to ensure that we connect through this worship and petition that is so much more than we often suspect when we begin our faith journey with God. Prayer exposes our core belief system. Kneeling before our Lord in supplication, whether literally or through our heart and mindset, is a natural extension of our personal relationship with and belief in Him. Our reliance on God through the act of prayer exhibits our dependence on our Heavenly Father, humbling our position with Him, and proving the level of our reliance on Him. How do we establish a lifestyle of prayer? The important word to ponder shouldn’t be how, but rather, Who. Jesus is our life and prayer model. When God sent His son to earth, it wasn’t only to offer His life as a sacrifice for our sins. God stepped into this world to exist and walk among us. He came to show us exactly how to live and how to pray. I think the time period Jesus lived in was significant, as well. Obviously, the particular time frame was crucial in order for events to occur as God ordained, but beyond that, if we examine the way of life during that period compared to our current lifestyle, we admit that we have a comparative life of ease and comfort. Yet, despite daily requirements for survival, chores, and occupation, then later the pressures and demands of His ministry, Jesus consistently made sure He spent time with His Heavenly Father. Our affluent lifestyles have occupied every second of our day and keep us permanently distracted with work, activities, and electronics. No matter the purpose for our commitment to a particular task, our souls were created with a deep need to be nurtured and refreshed by God and our minds need the interaction, guidance, and wisdom that only He can supply. We were not created for constant preoccupation with earthly diversions. Colossians 4:2 says, “Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful.” Jesus, through His perfect example of Son seeking Father, committed to sacrificing for God. He willingly planned and enjoyed spending time with His Father. To stand in the presence of God was His desire, His lifeline. 1. Jesus prayed without ceasing. His breath and thoughts coexisted in behavior and habits of praise developed through reliance on and relationship with God through prayer. He existed in a constant state of heart and prayer connection. 2. Jesus prepared for prayer. His mind and attitude were qualified to hear God. His heart was primed. As we bow before God with petition, our personal sins must be released. We should seek repentance and restoration with our Heavenly Father before imploring Him with requests. In other words, our communication should consistently be prioritized, and our walk refreshed moment by moment. Relationship with God is a mutual and emotional connection requiring our commitment and diligence in order for it to flourish. James 5:16 reminds us, “The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.” Instead of bowing before our Lord without much forethought, or asking others who appear “godlier” in their Christian walk to carry our prayer burdens, Jesus modeled the way for us to open ourselves to a regular and intentional personal time with God. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking others to petition the Lord for us or for us to pray for others, but in order for us to grow and deepen our own connection with God, we need intimate, intentional, consistent, solitary moments to share undisturbed and undistracted time with Christ alone. Obviously, the easiest way to create this time is to simply begin with the determination to persist until regular time is established. Genuine and connected relationship is the goal, not a fancy, complicated system. Meeting with God can be as simple as getting up early or staying up late or carving out time through the day. If a special area needs to be designed in order to move ahead, a spare room, or an area in an existing space, such as a favorite desk or chair, or a piece of floor in the closet may also work. It is also important to analyze why we want to pray. Do we view the time as a way to mark a box off of our spiritual checklist? Or do we crave a personal relationship with Christ that deepens daily? Knowing and understanding why we want to pray will enable us to reach our goal. Personal needs, needs of loved ones, friend requests, requests from church members, world issues, prayer for leaders and pastors, family needs, and prayers to draw nearer to God are probably the most common requests we lift to God. As we continue to develop our relationship and live with a deeper eternal perspective, we recognize many more topics to carry to God in our quiet time. We need Him so much in every way as we journey through this life and prepare for the next. Jesus taught us that we should examine our relationship with our Heavenly Father, the reasons we pray, and the way we pray. What are the most effective methods to pray? 1. Prayer does not have to be fancy. Be faithful, be authentic; speak from your heart. Be focused on our Heavenly Father, not wondering how much longer you should pray, whether the kids are going to come busting through the door, or whether it’s time to eat yet. 1 Kings 8:28 says, “Yet regard the prayer of Your servant and his supplication, O Lord my God, and listen to the cry and the prayer which Your servant is praying before You today.” 2. Pray with confidence formed through a secure and growing relationship with Jesus. Psalm 55:1-2a says, “Give ear to my prayer, O God, and do not hide Yourself from my supplication. Attend to me, and hear me.” His word promises His love for us. We can approach His throne with assurance that He hears and sees us. 3. Always pray in alignment with scripture and the character of God. Psalm 139:23 says, “Examine me, O God, and know my mind; test me, and discover my thoughts.” A deep prayer relationship with the Lord will align our heart and desires to His, not require God to fulfill our wishes and motives. 4. Trust that prayer works. When you don’t know what to pray, the Holy Spirit will intercede. Romans 8:26 says, “Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.” When we are followers of Jesus, we are guaranteed that the Holy Spirit is alive and active within us. During the times we carry intense pressure, heavy concerns, or are in deep emotional, mental, physical, financial, or spiritual pain, the Holy Spirit Himself does not need us to verbalize our emotions or desires. The Spirit intercedes because He searches our hearts, knows the mind of our Father, and makes intercession for the saints according to the will of God (Romans 8:27). 5. Rest in knowing that God hears and is at work. Psalm 102:17 says, “He shall regard the prayer of the destitute, and shall not despise their prayer.” Psalm 55:16-17 promise, “As for me, I will call upon God, and the Lord shall save me. Evening and morning and at noon I will pray, and cry aloud, and He shall hear my voice.” 6. Remain in prayerful attitude, even when not physically praying. Release your cares and prayers and believe what you cannot see. Mark 9:29 says, “So He said to them, “This kind can come out by nothing but prayer and fasting.” Determine in your heart and through meditation with the Lord whether you need to fast. Fasting is something God would direct us to do or is a sacrifice we willingly and privately make for Him. It is not only abstaining from food, but may be anything that pulls us from Him. Something that your heart desires more than God such as television, shopping, video games, phones, social media, etc. can be lifted in sacrifice to God for a season or permanently. Many years ago God clearly requested that I fast from reading mainstream fiction. After I did so, He made it clear that He had a new direction for my life and also called me to stop writing fiction. A little backstory is important to insert here. During most of my life at that point, I had carried a deep desire to be a published author. I had written several mainstream novels that I intended to polish and present to agents and editors for publication. Although it was painful to let the dream go, I recognized that writing was like breathing air for me, but I needed my relationship with God to be my source of oxygen. After stepping away from writing, I stopped reading small passages of my Bible and began reading it in entirety several times. My walk with God deepened and our relationship blossomed in ways it never could have if I had continued living the way I had been. A few years later God took my husband and I on an adoption journey that He had laid the foundation for during that time of deep yearning and reconstruction of my faith. I had never prayed about whether God wanted me to be a mainstream writer. I had only prayed that He would help me become an author. He clearly had other desires for my life. I only found true joy and peace when I submitted to, prayed for His desires, and followed what He created me to do. 7. Live with gratitude, whether or not your prayer is answered the way you want God to answer, and even when His timing is not want we desire. Our attitude easily dictates the future of our faith journey. 2 Corinthians 4:15 says, “All this is for your benefit, so that the grace that is reaching more and more people may cause thanksgiving to overflow to the glory of God.” I waited approximately 43 years for God to answer my prayer that my dad stop drinking. The answer was not in the way I hoped for or expected, but God’s answer was an intimate method that was personal between my father and myself. 8. Listen and evaluate what you believe God reveals to you through prayer. Make sure it is from Him. Does it align with His nature and word? Psalm 18:30 says, “As for God, His way is perfect; The word of the LORD is proven; He is a shield to all who trust in Him.” 9. Lift God’s word to Him in prayer. There is absolute power behind the word of God. Isaiah 55:11 says, “So shall My word be that goes forth from My mouth; It shall not return to Me void, But it shall accomplish what I please, And it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it.” Using prayer in praise and petition is mighty. A beautiful way to begin prayer time is to pray scripture that praises God and Who He is. Praying scripture also connects our heart to God and prepares us to worship and petition more as He would desire. God’s holy word is highly effective and absolutely never returns void. 10. Model prayer life after Jesus. Growing and sustaining a prosperous walk with God was a top priority for Jesus. He knew His reason for living and was devoted to knowing, trusting, and making God known. Various scriptures attest to the life Jesus led through prayer. Proverbs 15:8 says, “The Lord detests the sacrifice of the wicked, but the prayer of the upright pleases Him.” Jesus was very deliberate about the way He approached His Heavenly Father and the way He prayed. As we review sections of scripture, we recognize distinct approaches Jesus used to pray because of His reverence and love for God. Matthew 6:5-15 and Luke 11:1-4 are both nearly the same, but the verses from Matthew indicate that the prayer was shared during the Sermon on the Mount while those from Luke illustrate instructions Jesus gave to His disciples regarding prayer. How I would have loved to stand with Jesus and have Him personally teach me how to pray! Thankfully, we have instructions through His word and the Holy Spirit inside us to advise, train, and discipline us. I will read both passages of scripture and highlight points of each that enrich our prayer life and journey with God. Let’s start with Luke 11:1-4. “And it came to pass, that, as He was praying in a certain place, when He ceased, one of His disciples said unto Him, Lord, teach us to pray, as John also taught his disciples. And He said unto them, When ye pray, say, Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done, as in heaven, so in earth. Give us day by day our daily bread. And forgive us our sins; for we also forgive every one that is indebted to us. And lead us not into temptation; but deliver us from evil.” If we reflect on these words of Jesus as He instructed His disciples on the heart of prayer, we are able to clearly see 7 important points He mentored for us to follow. The prayer, known as The Lord’s Prayer is not meant to be mindlessly repeated verbatim, but as an outline to encourage us to focus on certain qualities and aspects of God as we come before our Lord in prayer instead of focusing on ourselves or whatever whim we may desire to approach Him for. 1. Approach God as our Father - because He is. He may not be flesh and blood standing next to us where we can see Him, but He is beside, within, and before us. 2. Adore Him. He is our Creator, our Provider, our Comforter, and our Healer. He is holy. He is worthy to be praised! Hallowed be His name. 3. Allow His authority and His will to reign in our hearts, minds, and attitudes. 4. Accept God’s ability to provide. Believe that He will. 5. Admit that He is sovereign, and we are sinners. 6. Abundant strength against temptation will protect us if we become and remain grounded in and reliant on Him. God is sufficient for our every need. 7. Armor is His specialty. God is our Shield, our Protector. Now let’s review Matthew 6:5-15. Jesus says, “And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask Him.” “This, then, is how you should pray: “Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us today our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one. For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” 1. When the Pharisees prayed, it was at arranged times and in front of public places so that they could be recognized and praised for their so-called devotion to God. Jesus is not criticizing public prayer, rather, He is exposing and denouncing false and self-absorbed prayer. The core of prayer is personal. While we may pray for others, our purpose and desires through prayer are between us and our Father. Even when we pray aloud in a public setting, our heart and mind should be focused on, meditating on, and speaking to Him. 2. The Lord’s Prayer is a beautiful example of the qualities Jesus desires us to possess as we pray. However, while it is acceptable to pray as written in the Bible, we must not allow routine or memorized prayers to flow mindlessly from our heart and lips. The Lord desires and deserves our mind and heart to be alive and active when we humbly bow before Him. This prayer template modeled by Jesus sets the tone and instructs us how to pray the priorities of our Father. 3. As we pray to our Father in Heaven as Jesus designed, we acknowledge God’s deep and profoundly intimate love for us, His children and recognize His promise that we are heirs in His family. 4. The beautiful words, “Your kingdom come” reveal both God’s spiritual reign and His approaching sovereignty over all of creation. When believers become Christians, we receive the Spirit of God within us, but will also experience the fulfillment of God’s kingdom when Jesus returns in His full eminence and institutes His glorious new world order. 5. As we pray for our “daily bread,” we submissively recognize and accept our dependence on God to supply our every need. He does not always grant us exactly what we desire, but it is always greater than we could anticipate and exactly meets our needs. 6. As Jesus extended forgiveness to us, we must also forgive others. Often, when we are wounded, the only way we can forgive is through the mighty, supernatural power of the Lord. In order to do this, our relationship with God must be a priority. Believers must also regularly confess our sins to the Lord and seek to live in the ways we know He desires and are acceptable when exposed by His light. Otherwise, our relationship will weaken and can become strained or closed off. Although God has promised that we can never be plucked from His hand, when we are not living as we should, we do easily drift away from Him. 7. When we live in the power and light of God, and are striving to be pleasing to Him, our prayers are heard and answered as we pray in the ways that are desirable and acceptable to Him. When we pray for protection from temptation and the evil one, God will hear and provide. Jesus was not hesitant to be alone. He craved and created quiet time with His Father. Another way Jesus modeled a perfect prayer life was in the way He often sought and found ways to be alone with His Heavenly Father. Luke 5:16 says, “So He Himself often withdrew into the wilderness and prayed.” How do we expect to hear God speaking to and guiding us when we are always distracted and preoccupied? Jesus knew the importance of solitude and respected and honored His Father enough to ensure that He made the time. Here are three other examples of Jesus seeking the Father in private. Matthew 14:23 says, “After he had dismissed them, he went up on a mountainside by himself to pray. Later that night, he was there alone.” Luke 6:12 says, “One of those days Jesus went out to a mountainside to pray, and spent the night praying to God.” Mark 1:35 says, “Now in the morning, having risen a long while before daylight, He went out and departed to a solitary place; and there He prayed.” God gave us His Holy word, so full of wisdom and instruction, as well as the perfect living example of truth and light - Jesus, God in flesh, who walked among us, the template, the way to serve, love, and honor Him. What ultimate gifts we have received. I’d like to share one more passage of scripture that is so beautifully written and models devotion for our Father, sacrificial love for the disciples and all who would believe in Him. These verses are full of discipleship, obedience, and fulfillment that could probably be another podcast on their own. I believe they are beautiful words to end this episode because they expose the pure heart of our Savior and instruct His followers on the way to mold our heart to follow God’s. John 17:1-26 says, “After Jesus said this, he looked toward heaven and prayed: “Father, the hour has come. Glorify your Son, that your Son may glorify You. For you granted Him authority over all people that He might give eternal life to all those You have given Him. Now this is eternal life: that they know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom You have sent. I have brought You glory on earth by finishing the work You gave Me to do. And now, Father, glorify Me in Your presence with the glory I had with You before the world began. “I have revealed You to those whom You gave Me out of the world. They were Yours; You gave them to Me, and they have obeyed Your word. Now they know that everything You have given Me comes from You. For I gave them the words You gave Me, and they accepted them. They knew with certainty that I came from You, and they believed that You sent me. I pray for them. I am not praying for the world, but for those You have given me, for they are Yours. All I have is Yours, and all You have is Mine. And glory has come to Me through them. I will remain in the world no longer, but they are still in the world, and I am coming to you. Holy Father protect them by the power of Your name, the name You gave me, so that they may be one as We are One. While I was with them, I protected them and kept them safe by that name You gave me. None has been lost except the one doomed to destruction so that Scripture would be fulfilled. “I am coming to You now, but I say these things while I am still in the world, so that they may have the full measure of My joy within them. I have given them Your word and the world has hated them, for they are not of the world any more than I am of the world. My prayer is not that You take them out of the world but that You protect them from the evil one. They are not of the world, even as I am not of it. Sanctify them by the truth; Your word is truth. As you sent Me into the world, I have sent them into the world. For them I sanctify myself, that they too may be truly sanctified. “My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in Me through their message, that all of them may be one, Father, just as You are in Me and I am in You. May they also be in Us so that the world may believe that You have sent Me. I have given them the glory that You gave Me, that they may be one as We are one—I in them and You in me—so that they may be brought to complete unity. Then the world will know that You sent Me and have loved them even as You have loved Me. “Father, I want those You have given Me to be with Me where I am, and to see My glory, the glory You have given Me because You loved Me before the creation of the world. “Righteous Father, though the world does not know You, I know You, and they know that You have sent Me. I have made You known to them, and will continue to make You known in order that the love You have for Me may be in them and that I myself may be in them.” Prayer brings us closer to God through continuous communication, recognition, and admittance that God is the provider of our needs, acknowledgement that He is enough, and that we trust Him to care for us. We come to understand God through prayerful reliance on Him, compelling us to depend on the Holy Spirit within us. Prayer forces us to wait on the Lord and listen for His response or direction. Our patience and faith mature as we submit to our Father. My heart yearns for each of us to experience a prayer life like Jesus. May your heart be touched by the humble example of a living God who came to live for a time on earth, but still reigns in Heaven and within the hearts of each of us who follow Him. What a miracle and gift that He desires deep communication with us through the act of prayer. Did you enjoy this episode? If so, would you please make time to leave a review and rating for the show? Send me an email at thedoovermom@gmail.com if you don’t know how and I will walk you through step-by-step. I pray you find value in our weekly topics. 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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #103 – 2022 Interview with Marissa Hitt, Co-Founder, Melane & Co. Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. This episode is sponsored by Melane & Co., creator of innocent animal décor for the home and family. Melane & Co. creates joy so you can express it with delightful cards, prints, and custom watercolor pet portraits for you or a loved one to treasure as a personal keepsake. Find Melane & Co. at www.melaneandco.com. On Instagram at @melaneandco, on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/melaneandco, and Pinterest at https://www.pinterest.com/melaneandco/_created/. Any follows and/or shares are much apprecaited as you support the creativity God entrusted to Marissa. It’s only fitting that this episode be sponsored by the online company I share with my middle daughter, Marissa. As the artist and creator of our stunning, realistic artwork and beautiful graphics, Marissa pours her heart and emotion into each watercolor she creates, striving to use the talent and creativity God gifted her in ways that please and honor the beauty of His creation and create joy to share. It is a blessing and honor to work alongside her to build this company. There is much more to come with additional products in the future as we dream and build together. Marissa first appeared on this podcast in January of 2021. Because our conversation was such a high-rated episode, I wanted to bring her back to share about what she has done over the last year. It is my hope that you will find her to be a genuine and refreshing guest who brings you confirmation of joy and hope when you think about the teens of this generation. It is my desire that she points you straight to Jesus. Marissa is the co-creator of Melane & Co., as already mentioned, and is the artist and one of the visionaries of our brand. I must say that she is also a great encourager and one who always looks for ways to bring others joy. Marissa also looks for the positive in life, and is an animal lover, especially dogs. When we go on walks together, her day is always brightened when we get to stop and pet dogs in our neighborhood. I am blessed to welcome my daughter, Marissa Hitt to the podcast. ------------------------------------------------ INTERVIEW--------------------------------------------------- I pray my conversation with Marissa gave you joy. I truly praise God for allowing me to be her mother. I pray she is always directed straight to Him by the way I live, love, and react to life and her. May she see Him each time she interacts with me. The only way I can do that is to bow before Jesus and allow Him to mold and shape me, to renew me daily, so that she allows Him to do the same for her. How I crave that. What a joy it is for me to know she follows and loves Jesus. What a delight that God gives us opportunity to introduce our children to Him. There is nothing more humbling or worthwhile to achieve. Dear Heavenly Father, Lord how I adore You. There is none like You. Father, keep our eyes and heart centered on You. Help us to seek You in deeper ways, listen to You, and follow Your will and calling in humble obedience. May we delight in what delights You. Help us to show You clearly to others because we are so close to You that You seep from us in all areas, drawing others nearer to You. May we please you in the way we influence our children and grandchildren. Help them desire You because You are so easily and lovingly reflected in all we do and are. May we be less of us and more of You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, I invite you to help others find the podcast. Please share Live With Eternal Perspective episodes with friends and family so that they can begin to listen each week. Please also share my website, terrihitt.com. You can let others know that on it they will be able to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature their walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and find ways to encourage and influence children or grandchildren to choose Christ over culture. If we are not purposed in showing Jesus to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 103 2022 Interview with Marissa Hitt Melane and Co Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #103 – 2022 Interview with Marissa Hitt, Co-Founder, Melane & Co. Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. This episode is sponsored by Melane & Co., creator of innocent animal décor for the home and family. Melane & Co. creates joy so you can express it with delightful cards, prints, and custom watercolor pet portraits for you or a loved one to treasure as a personal keepsake. Find Melane & Co. at www.melaneandco.com . On Instagram at @melaneandco, on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/melaneandco, and Pinterest at https://www.pinterest.com/melaneandco/_created/. Any follows and/or shares are much apprecaited as you support the creativity God entrusted to Marissa. It’s only fitting that this episode be sponsored by the online company I share with my middle daughter, Marissa. As the artist and creator of our stunning, realistic artwork and beautiful graphics, Marissa pours her heart and emotion into each watercolor she creates, striving to use the talent and creativity God gifted her in ways that please and honor the beauty of His creation and create joy to share. It is a blessing and honor to work alongside her to build this company. There is much more to come with additional products in the future as we dream and build together. Marissa first appeared on this podcast in January of 2021. Because our conversation was such a high-rated episode, I wanted to bring her back to share about what she has done over the last year. It is my hope that you will find her to be a genuine and refreshing guest who brings you confirmation of joy and hope when you think about the teens of this generation. It is my desire that she points you straight to Jesus. Marissa is the co-creator of Melane & Co., as already mentioned, and is the artist and one of the visionaries of our brand. I must say that she is also a great encourager and one who always looks for ways to bring others joy. Marissa also looks for the positive in life, and is an animal lover, especially dogs. When we go on walks together, her day is always brightened when we get to stop and pet dogs in our neighborhood. I am blessed to welcome my daughter, Marissa Hitt to the podcast. ------------------------------------------------ INTERVIEW--------------------------------------------------- I pray my conversation with Marissa gave you joy. I truly praise God for allowing me to be her mother. I pray she is always directed straight to Him by the way I live, love, and react to life and her. May she see Him each time she interacts with me. The only way I can do that is to bow before Jesus and allow Him to mold and shape me, to renew me daily, so that she allows Him to do the same for her. How I crave that. What a joy it is for me to know she follows and loves Jesus. What a delight that God gives us opportunity to introduce our children to Him. There is nothing more humbling or worthwhile to achieve. Dear Heavenly Father, Lord how I adore You. There is none like You. Father, keep our eyes and heart centered on You. Help us to seek You in deeper ways, listen to You, and follow Your will and calling in humble obedience. May we delight in what delights You. Help us to show You clearly to others because we are so close to You that You seep from us in all areas, drawing others nearer to You. May we please you in the way we influence our children and grandchildren. Help them desire You because You are so easily and lovingly reflected in all we do and are. May we be less of us and more of You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, I invite you to help others find the podcast. Please share Live With Eternal Perspective episodes with friends and family so that they can begin to listen each week. Please also share my website, terrihitt.com. You can let others know that on it they will be able to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature their walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and find ways to encourage and influence children or grandchildren to choose Christ over culture. If we are not purposed in showing Jesus to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. http://www.melaneandco.com Instagram @melaneandco Facebook https://www.facebook.com/melaneandco Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/melaneandco/_created/

Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #002 – Protecting our Thoughts Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. On a previous episode of the Live with Eternal Perspective Podcast, I talked about the condition of our hearts. If you didn’t get a chance to hear it, I recommend listening to Episode #001 soon. Today’s topic stems directly from what we hold in our heart. What goes into our hearts has flowed from our mind before settling there. The thoughts we allow to speak to us ultimately shape who and what we become. What we think is that important. Philippians 4:8 says, “Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.” God places the perfect truth and guidance we need in this world in His word. Our Heavenly Father knows our propensity to fixate on various ideas and images. He understands our thought process can go from topic to topic quickly, escalating from indecision or fear to anxiety and doubt without a shred of truth involved. Think of the verse I read from Philippians. We are instructed to fix our thoughts on what is true. Just because we think something doesn’t mean it is authenticated or valid. The verse also tells us to think about what is honorable and right, what is lovely and admirable. That doesn’t mean to obsess over those expensive heels or lovely blouse we saw at the mall. It doesn’t mean to constantly compare ourselves to someone more attractive or to attempt to model ourselves after a celebrity on the cover of the latest magazine, or to beat ourselves up over what we did earlier that day. God wants the absolute best for His children. He desires us to fill our minds with what is excellent and worthy of praise. Listen to another translation of the same verse I read earlier from Philippians. “Finally, bretheren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy – meditate on these things.” The Greek word translated as “meditate” means to ponder, to consider, to give proper weight to. God does not want us to ruminate on anything but the pure, lovely, virtuous, and praiseworthy. “Good report” translated from the Greek word means acceptable. God wants what we ponder in our mind to be considered acceptable to Him. Scientists are actually finding more discoveries that confirm scripture. The more intensely God’s word is studied; we find that it stands the test of time, as well as substantiate breakthroughs in medicine, mathematics, and science. Actually, all areas of our life are touched by and affirmed by scripture. The God of the Universe who inspired and created the Bible is the same Creator of the world and everything in it, and He tells us we are made in His image, so it is no wonder that we would be able to connect all things to our mind in miraculous ways. That is why it is absolutely not a surprise to me that neurosurgeons have discovered that our powerful minds are shaped and altered by the thoughts we allow to reside there. Unfortunately, it has created a mass of self-help experts who offer life-affirming chants and quotes that never access the power of the Holy Spirit in our lives, but promote living our best life by self-reliance. It’s also not uncommon to hear stories of people spiraling into poor health when they live with constant negative thoughts and emotions. Research in the field of neuroscience has uncovered that the influence of every corporal experience within our brain, such as fear, fatigue, happiness, cold, sadness, etc. is working to shape our brains every time we have it. With each sensation, vision, or emotion we experience for the first time, new relationships between more than 100,000 brain cells is supposedly inevitable. Think of the pornography epidemic and how addictive and damaging it is, even when someone accidentally uncovers it on an electronic device. The image is already embedded in their mind, creating harmful and distracting emotions and feelings immediately. Thankfully, this brain pathway phenomenon must have focused and consistent reinforcement. I believe that is one reason God calls us to meditate on what pleases Him. He knows our beautifully created minds need repetitive stimulus. This is a merciful safeguard when our minds have been traumatized or allowed to be filled with the wrong things. Even then, damage takes time and effort to rewire. Romans 12:2 instructs, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – His good, pleasing, and perfect will.” We don’t want our minds deceived by misleading and false messages that attract us with advertisements, shows, books, magazines, electronics, and even some church pulpits. We must know God’s word, digesting it as we converse and spend time with Him, pray to Him, and then listen for His sometimes quiet voice. We need to purposely remove ourselves from distractions that battle for our time and draw us away from the only One who can give peace and joy to our spirit and calm us with truth. We must use our mind like a tool to excavate poisonous thoughts and replace them with the fresh soil of God’s truths. When we brought our younger daughter home at the age of 9, she had lived in relative isolation due to her illness. She didn’t receive the communication or stimulation she needed to properly develop emotionally, physically, mentally, or spiritually. On top of her heart condition, she had lived with constant ear infections since infancy. When we received her, both eardrums were broken and her ears bled on the plane flight home. Since the infection had festered so long, her already congenitally small bones and nerves were further damaged and dissolved. She is deaf in one ear and suffered almost complete hearing loss in the other. After arriving in America, she had to transition from the way of life she knew in China, to absolutely everything different. Learning a new language, how to live with our family, the foods, the smells, the clothes, learning how to play, countless medical visits, procedures, and surgeries…everything – on top of not hearing correctly, had to be excruciatingly difficult. Yet, little by little, she accepted each challenge with bravery and resilience. After being home with us for four years, she has come incredibly far. It will still take her a very long time to catch up, but she is learning and progressing at her individual pace and she is delighted to learn and grow. I relate her story here, because I think of her when I consider the mind. With all her brain pathways that have been rebuilt and altered, I have seen first-hand how remarkable the human mind is and yet, how difficult it is to imprint lasting change in some areas. I’ve also witnessed the damage that a traumatic past inflicted on an innocent life. Through God’s merciful love, she has seen huge progress, but there are days that show me just how important her positivity and my repetitive teachings are, despite her intelligent mind. I have no doubt that if my daughter had been negative or had not wanted to learn and grow, the challenge would have been overwhelming. I thank God often for her positive attitude and energy. 2 Timothy 1:7 tells us that “God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” He proved that promise to me through Brooklyn’s enduring and joyful spirit and her continuing transformation. The most beautiful part of her story is that she now knows Jesus as her Savior and she relies on Him more and more as she grows her spiritual maturity. As she grows, it is my responsibility to safeguard her mind by protecting what she sees and what she learns to hold in her heart. I want her far from false thoughts or ideas that are counter to scripture. I want her well-acquainted with the freedom God wants for her and that Jesus extends to her through His death and resurrection because God wants us, His believers to model freedom to our children and grandchildren to secure it for future generations. Exodus 34:6b-7 says, “The Lord God, merciful and gracious, longsuffering, and abounding in goodness and truth; keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, by no means clearing the guilty, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children and the children’s children to the third and the fourth generation.” If our thoughts, which affect our attitude and actions control our personal lives, then they surely penetrate the mind, attitude, actions, and future of our children and others around us. God word validates what common sense dictates. If we do not live with peace and joy, intentionally surrendering fear, negativity, anxiety, and the host of numerous dispositions and attitudes we carry to Christ in complete surrender, do we really expect our children to? 2 Corinthian 10:5, offers sound advice. “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient for Christ.” Only when we take our thoughts captive and surrender them to God does change occur. Be still and know that He is God. Take time to meditate and reflect on Him and His word as He instructs. At times we may feel we are losing freedom by surrendering our precious time to Him, but as we purposely devote ourselves to growing in God and loving Him as He desires, we find that it is only through surrender that we are released from bondage. Allow Him to change behaviors, attitudes, thoughts, and desires. As I raise and train my daughters to hold their thoughts captive and guard their heart, I am attempting to model and teach the following steps: 1. Acknowledge thoughts – We are human. God allowed us the capacity to think and feel with an enormous capacity. We are all unique. Our experiences and histories, the way we are raised, the joys and traumas we experience in life all affect us. We must not sweep away what we think or feel. Allow time to process, but not linger in our feelings. 2. Hold our thoughts against God’s truths - Does what we feel stand true to what God’s word says? Are our emotions in alignment with God’s truth? 3. If they are not in alignment, acknowledge God’s truth – immerse our mind in the truths of God. Read, study and reflect on scripture. Consult Godly counsel, if needed. Pray and meditate. 4. Speak God’s truths – Just as we all learn differently, we each absorb God’s word and truths in unique ways. 5. Write God’s word – scripture writing can reach us consciously and subconsciously and become embedded in our mind, especially if we are very visual. 6. Memorize God’s word – As we write God’s word, it helps with memorization. When negative or contrary thoughts invade our mind, God’s word easily overcomes them. 7. Pray – Prayer, especially using God’s word is especially effective in combating negative thoughts or attitudes. Using God’s own words actually aligns us automatically with Him. What is the best part of relying on scripture? Hebrews 4:12 gives us the answer. “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” Without God in control, our thoughts, emotions, feelings, and actions that stem from them hold us hostage, driving depression, negativity, fear, loneliness, and isolation, and effectively driving a wedge between us and our Heavenly Father. Psalm 139:23-24 gives perfect instructions for the ending of this podcast. “Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 002 Protecting Our Thoughts Listen to Episode Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #002 – Protecting our Thoughts Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. On a previous episode of the Live with Eternal Perspective Podcast, I talked about the condition of our hearts. If you didn’t get a chance to hear it, I recommend listening to Episode #001 soon. Today’s topic stems directly from what we hold in our heart. What goes into our hearts has flowed from our mind before settling there. The thoughts we allow to speak to us ultimately shape who and what we become. What we think is that important. Philippians 4:8 says, “Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.” God places the perfect truth and guidance we need in this world in His word. Our Heavenly Father knows our propensity to fixate on various ideas and images. He understands our thought process can go from topic to topic quickly, escalating from indecision or fear to anxiety and doubt without a shred of truth involved. Think of the verse I read from Philippians. We are instructed to fix our thoughts on what is true. Just because we think something doesn’t mean it is authenticated or valid. The verse also tells us to think about what is honorable and right, what is lovely and admirable. That doesn’t mean to obsess over those expensive heels or lovely blouse we saw at the mall. It doesn’t mean to constantly compare ourselves to someone more attractive or to attempt to model ourselves after a celebrity on the cover of the latest magazine, or to beat ourselves up over what we did earlier that day. God wants the absolute best for His children. He desires us to fill our minds with what is excellent and worthy of praise. Listen to another translation of the same verse I read earlier from Philippians. “Finally, bretheren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy – meditate on these things.” The Greek word translated as “meditate” means to ponder, to consider, to give proper weight to. God does not want us to ruminate on anything but the pure, lovely, virtuous, and praiseworthy. “Good report” translated from the Greek word means acceptable. God wants what we ponder in our mind to be considered acceptable to Him. Scientists are actually finding more discoveries that confirm scripture. The more intensely God’s word is studied; we find that it stands the test of time, as well as substantiate breakthroughs in medicine, mathematics, and science. Actually, all areas of our life are touched by and affirmed by scripture. The God of the Universe who inspired and created the Bible is the same Creator of the world and everything in it, and He tells us we are made in His image, so it is no wonder that we would be able to connect all things to our mind in miraculous ways. That is why it is absolutely not a surprise to me that neurosurgeons have discovered that our powerful minds are shaped and altered by the thoughts we allow to reside there. Unfortunately, it has created a mass of self-help experts who offer life-affirming chants and quotes that never access the power of the Holy Spirit in our lives, but promote living our best life by self-reliance. It’s also not uncommon to hear stories of people spiraling into poor health when they live with constant negative thoughts and emotions. Research in the field of neuroscience has uncovered that the influence of every corporal experience within our brain, such as fear, fatigue, happiness, cold, sadness, etc. is working to shape our brains every time we have it. With each sensation, vision, or emotion we experience for the first time, new relationships between more than 100,000 brain cells is supposedly inevitable. Think of the pornography epidemic and how addictive and damaging it is, even when someone accidentally uncovers it on an electronic device. The image is already embedded in their mind, creating harmful and distracting emotions and feelings immediately. Thankfully, this brain pathway phenomenon must have focused and consistent reinforcement. I believe that is one reason God calls us to meditate on what pleases Him. He knows our beautifully created minds need repetitive stimulus. This is a merciful safeguard when our minds have been traumatized or allowed to be filled with the wrong things. Even then, damage takes time and effort to rewire. Romans 12:2 instructs, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – His good, pleasing, and perfect will.” We don’t want our minds deceived by misleading and false messages that attract us with advertisements, shows, books, magazines, electronics, and even some church pulpits. We must know God’s word, digesting it as we converse and spend time with Him, pray to Him, and then listen for His sometimes quiet voice. We need to purposely remove ourselves from distractions that battle for our time and draw us away from the only One who can give peace and joy to our spirit and calm us with truth. We must use our mind like a tool to excavate poisonous thoughts and replace them with the fresh soil of God’s truths. When we brought our younger daughter home at the age of 9, she had lived in relative isolation due to her illness. She didn’t receive the communication or stimulation she needed to properly develop emotionally, physically, mentally, or spiritually. On top of her heart condition, she had lived with constant ear infections since infancy. When we received her, both eardrums were broken and her ears bled on the plane flight home. Since the infection had festered so long, her already congenitally small bones and nerves were further damaged and dissolved. She is deaf in one ear and suffered almost complete hearing loss in the other. After arriving in America, she had to transition from the way of life she knew in China, to absolutely everything different. Learning a new language, how to live with our family, the foods, the smells, the clothes, learning how to play, countless medical visits, procedures, and surgeries…everything – on top of not hearing correctly, had to be excruciatingly difficult. Yet, little by little, she accepted each challenge with bravery and resilience. After being home with us for four years, she has come incredibly far. It will still take her a very long time to catch up, but she is learning and progressing at her individual pace and she is delighted to learn and grow. I relate her story here, because I think of her when I consider the mind. With all her brain pathways that have been rebuilt and altered, I have seen first-hand how remarkable the human mind is and yet, how difficult it is to imprint lasting change in some areas. I’ve also witnessed the damage that a traumatic past inflicted on an innocent life. Through God’s merciful love, she has seen huge progress, but there are days that show me just how important her positivity and my repetitive teachings are, despite her intelligent mind. I have no doubt that if my daughter had been negative or had not wanted to learn and grow, the challenge would have been overwhelming. I thank God often for her positive attitude and energy. 2 Timothy 1:7 tells us that “God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” He proved that promise to me through Brooklyn’s enduring and joyful spirit and her continuing transformation. The most beautiful part of her story is that she now knows Jesus as her Savior and she relies on Him more and more as she grows her spiritual maturity. As she grows, it is my responsibility to safeguard her mind by protecting what she sees and what she learns to hold in her heart. I want her far from false thoughts or ideas that are counter to scripture. I want her well-acquainted with the freedom God wants for her and that Jesus extends to her through His death and resurrection because God wants us, His believers to model freedom to our children and grandchildren to secure it for future generations. Exodus 34:6b-7 says, “The Lord God, merciful and gracious, longsuffering, and abounding in goodness and truth; keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, by no means clearing the guilty, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children and the children’s children to the third and the fourth generation.” If our thoughts, which affect our attitude and actions control our personal lives, then they surely penetrate the mind, attitude, actions, and future of our children and others around us. God word validates what common sense dictates. If we do not live with peace and joy, intentionally surrendering fear, negativity, anxiety, and the host of numerous dispositions and attitudes we carry to Christ in complete surrender, do we really expect our children to? 2 Corinthian 10:5, offers sound advice. “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient for Christ.” Only when we take our thoughts captive and surrender them to God does change occur. Be still and know that He is God. Take time to meditate and reflect on Him and His word as He instructs. At times we may feel we are losing freedom by surrendering our precious time to Him, but as we purposely devote ourselves to growing in God and loving Him as He desires, we find that it is only through surrender that we are released from bondage. Allow Him to change behaviors, attitudes, thoughts, and desires. As I raise and train my daughters to hold their thoughts captive and guard their heart, I am attempting to model and teach the following steps: 1. Acknowledge thoughts – We are human. God allowed us the capacity to think and feel with an enormous capacity. We are all unique. Our experiences and histories, the way we are raised, the joys and traumas we experience in life all affect us. We must not sweep away what we think or feel. Allow time to process, but not linger in our feelings. 2. Hold our thoughts against God’s truths - Does what we feel stand true to what God’s word says? Are our emotions in alignment with God’s truth? 3. If they are not in alignment, acknowledge God’s truth – immerse our mind in the truths of God. Read, study and reflect on scripture. Consult Godly counsel, if needed. Pray and meditate. 4. Speak God’s truths – Just as we all learn differently, we each absorb God’s word and truths in unique ways. 5. Write God’s word – scripture writing can reach us consciously and subconsciously and become embedded in our mind, especially if we are very visual. 6. Memorize God’s word – As we write God’s word, it helps with memorization. When negative or contrary thoughts invade our mind, God’s word easily overcomes them. 7. Pray – Prayer, especially using God’s word is especially effective in combating negative thoughts or attitudes. Using God’s own words actually aligns us automatically with Him. What is the best part of relying on scripture? Hebrews 4:12 gives us the answer. “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” Without God in control, our thoughts, emotions, feelings, and actions that stem from them hold us hostage, driving depression, negativity, fear, loneliness, and isolation, and effectively driving a wedge between us and our Heavenly Father. Psalm 139:23-24 gives perfect instructions for the ending of this podcast. “Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #111 – The Way, the Truth, and the Life Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together and live with purposed eternal perspective. My children ask a lot of questions. I’ve always encouraged curiosity and learning. We believe there are no dumb or silly questions. In fact, I teach that the smarter a person is, the more questions they will ask. There is one specific question each person should ask during their lifetime. The question, “Who is Jesus?” will cause them to seek the most important answer each person will need to discover. When most people are asked this question, they answer in simple terms. Perhaps they say Jesus is God’s Son. Maybe they answer that He is their Savior. While both are true, Jesus Christ is so much more. Even the truths I present in this podcast will not come close to everything that Jesus is and will be. When we think of the characteristics of Jesus, the first qualities that may spring to mind are words such as: God, Teacher, Judge, Sinless, Obedient, Mediator, Savior, Eternal, Heir, Healer, Servant, King, Son, Anointed, and Resurrected. All of these are true and accurate, but still don’t grasp the beauty and majesty of Jesus. Words are easy to use without pondering the rich meaning of the description. Without the blessed resource of scripture to back truths about Jesus, I think it is impossible for our human mind and heart to grasp all that Jesus really is. Even when we read the bible and learn all we can about Jesus, He is so far above and beyond us that we struggle to fathom His glory. As was written in the gospel of John, Jesus is the divine Son of God who came to this world in human flesh to save all who believe in Him. Jesus changes lives. Our pursuit of Jesus invites Him to renew our soul and spirit. Studying Jesus arouses new belief or affirms existing belief in Him. In fact, whether you believe in Who He proclaims to be or not, most people at least believe Jesus lived. Those who hold a special relationship with Jesus because we have read the scriptures and believed the testimonies, know that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God, and receive new life in His name. Scripture clearly proves that Jesus is the only way for us to receive life on earth and for eternity in heaven. Let’s examine 8 basic bible verses that reveal some of what Jesus came to earth to complete for the Father and for us. This is where we view and absorb the truth that Jesus is more than God in flesh on earth, and regard His Divine character and Supreme nature. 1. Jesus is our example of obedience. John 6:38 says, “For I have come down from heaven, not to do My own will, but to do the will of Him who sent Me.” Jesus’ focus remained on His Father and what God called Him to do. 2. Jesus warns us of the thief. John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I have come that they may have life, and have it in all its fullness.” Jesus steadfastly warned of the devil and his wickedness, as well as the promise and security through steadfastly remaining with the Father and finding new life through Jesus. 3. Jesus is our light. John 12:46 says, “I have come into the world as a light, so that no one who believes in Me should remain in darkness.” Jesus came to give new, eternal life and conquered the darkness of evil and death through His light. 4. Jesus is our Conquering King. John 18:37 says, “Then You are a king!” Pilate said. “You say that I am a king,” Jesus answered. “For this reason I was born and have come into the world, to testify to the truth. Everyone who belongs to the truth listens to My voice.” Jesus is the King of Kings calling for all who will accept His truth and follow. 5. Jesus is truth. Mark 1:38 says, “But Jesus answered, “Let us go on to the neighboring towns so I can preach there as well, for that is why I have come.” Jesus made time to minister and live His life in this world as He walked among us in earthly flesh, but He never forgot His purpose or that He was the Truth He was to make known. 6. Jesus is our healer. Mark 2:17 says, “On hearing this, Jesus told them, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” Jesus saw and loved each person. Although He didn’t bow to their sin or join in it, he associated with sinners because they needed to hear to find healing. 7. Jesus is our judge. John 9:39 says, “Then Jesus declared, “For judgment I have come into this world, so that the blind may see and those who see may become blind.” After we turn to Christ, we begin to see Him differently. Walking with Jesus alters us, opens our eyes and heart to His truth. Once we have heard the truth of Jesus and experienced Him, we receive spiritual understanding and insight. Those who reject Him, ignoring Truth through self-righteousness or pride, will remain in earthly blindness. 8. Jesus is eternal life. John 14:6 says, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through Me.” Jesus is the only way to God. Not a limited path, but clear and exact, Jesus extends the Way, a path to God. As Truth, He defines clarity of God. As Life, Jesus came in the flesh of man, joining creator to created, heaven to earth, divine to earthly. Deserving of all the glory and honor we can give Him, Jesus clearly models life on earth and in heaven in many other ways, as well. Instead of making my main focus what Jesus gives me, I want my life focus to be on knowing Who Jesus is. Is this the cry of your heart? As we come to realize more about the deity of Jesus, we realize how far we are from Him and how much we need Him to sustain and rescue us. After being justified through faith in Jesus Christ, sanctification follows as we allow Him to erase our sinful nature and we are fashioned into a new creation as the Holy Spirit works within us. Praise God that I am not the same person I was when I first began my life as a follower of Jesus! A life submitted cannot remain unaltered. Do you see His work within you, too? Scripture presents an in-depth look at Who Jesus is and how He is able to make such a profound change in the world and within us. Of course, I can never list all that Jesus is, has done, or will be, but God’s holy word makes Him known. Just as Ecclesiastes 3:11 says, “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men, yet they cannot fathom the work that God has done from beginning to end.” Jesus gives us life, fills every void in our life, and is the way to everlasting life. Three major points will be our focus as we search scripture to learn more about Jesus. As I read, rest in the truths, comforts, promises, and power of His holy word. As Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” The first set of bible verses I share will prove Jesus’ obedience. Through them we see that He is the perfect example for us to follow. 1. Jesus is The Way John 4:34 says, “Jesus explained, “My food is to do the will of Him who sent Me and to finish His work.” John 5:19 says, “So Jesus replied, “Truly, truly, I tell you, the Son can do nothing by Himself, unless He sees the Father doing it. For whatever the Father does, the Son also does.” John 5:30 says, “I can do nothing by Myself; I judge only as I hear. And My judgment is just, because I do not seek My own will, but the will of Him who sent Me.” John 6:38 says, “For I have come down from heaven, not to do My own will, but to do the will of Him who sent Me.” John 8:28 says, “So Jesus said, “When you have lifted up the Son of Man, then you will know that I am He, and that I do nothing on My own, but speak exactly what the Father has taught Me.” John 8:42 says, “Jesus said to them, “If God were your Father, you would love Me, for I have come here from God. I have not come on My own, but He sent Me.” John 10:37-38 says, “If I am not doing the works of My Father, then do not believe Me. But if I am doing them, even though you do not believe Me, believe the works themselves, so that you may know and understand that the Father is in Me, and I am in the Father.” John 12:49-50 says, “I have not spoken on My own, but the Father who sent Me has commanded Me what to say and how to say it. And I know that His command leads to eternal life. So I speak exactly what the Father has told Me to say.” John 14:10 says, “Do you not believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in Me? The words I say to you, I do not speak on My own. Instead, it is the Father dwelling in Me, performing His works.” John 14:31 says, “But I do exactly what the Father has commanded Me, so that the world may know that I love the Father.” John 15:9-11 says, “As the Father has loved Me, so have I loved you. Remain in My love. If you keep My commandments, you will remain in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and remain in His love. I have told you these things so that My joy may be in you and your joy may be complete.” John 17:4-5 says, “I have glorified You on earth by accomplishing the work You gave Me to do. And now, Father, glorify Me in Your presence with the glory I had with You before the world existed.” How much we learn from studying and following the life of Jesus! Perfect in every way, He obediently follows where God has called. Lord, our heart cries for you to make us more like You! 2. Jesus is Truth John 7:37 says, “On the last and greatest day of the feast, Jesus stood up and called out in a loud voice, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink.” John 16:13 says, “When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth, for he will not speak on his own authority, but whatever he hears he will speak, and he will declare to you the things that are to come.” Ecclesiastes 3:11 says, “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men, yet they cannot fathom the work that God has done from beginning to end.” John 1:14 says, “The Word became flesh and made His dwelling among us. We have seen His glory, the glory of the one and only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth.” John 8:31b-32 says, “If you continue in My word, you are truly My disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 1:17-18 says, “For the law was given through Moses; grace and truth came through Jesus Christ. No one has ever seen God, but the one and only Son, who is Himself God and is at the Father’s side, has made Him known.” Lord, thank you for exposing truth to us! If we know You, we know Truth. This world seeks relative truth or how we feel instead of learning and clinging to Your truths, the standard that gives us life. 3. Jesus is Life John 1:1-5 says, “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through Him all things were made, and without Him nothing was made that has been made. In Him was life, and that life was the light of men. The Light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that everyone who believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I have come that they may have life, and have it in all its fullness.” John 6:33 says, “For the bread of God is He who comes down from heaven and gives life to the world.” John 6:48 says, “I am the bread of life.” John 7:37-38 says, “On the last and greatest day of the feast, Jesus stood up and called out in a loud voice, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. Whoever believes in Me, as the Scripture has said: ‘Streams of living water will flow from within him.’” John 8:12 says, “Once again, Jesus spoke to the people and said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows Me will never walk in the darkness, but will have the light of life.” John 10:7 says, “So He said to them again, “Truly, truly, I tell you, I am the gate for the sheep.” John 10:11 says, “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down His life for the sheep.” John 11:25 says, “Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in Me will live, even though he dies.” John 14:6-7 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. If you had known Me, you would know My Father as well. From now on you do know Him and have seen Him.” Jesus, You are Life! Thank you for telling us so clearly that the way to live an abundant life is through You. Cause us to desire You and Your definition of abundance so deeply that we cannot stop learning more about You and allowing You to shine more clearly through us for others to grasp the life that exists in and with You. John 21:25 says, “There are many more things that Jesus did. If all of them were written down, I suppose that not even the world itself would have space for the books that would be written.” This podcast has barely touched on what scripture teaches about Jesus. Beyond what our mind can grasp, Jesus speaks to our heart and whispers for us to recognize and accept Him into our life. It is my prayer that you continue deep study of His word on your own and cling to the Way, the Truth, and the Life with passionate love that grows as you draw nearer to Him. Jesus causes us to look beyond our selfish desires and forces us to ponder the meaning of life and an everlasting existence through eternal perspective. Jesus allows us to see God in flesh at work in our personal life and in all of humanity. How will you respond to Jesus? Once we know and submit to Christ, we are never the same. Dear Heavenly Father, Thank You that through Christ we have been crucified. We have assurance that we no longer live, but Christ lives within us. We know there is no longer condemnation for those of us in Christ Jesus, for we have been set free from the law of sin and death. We praise You Father, for Your goodness and Your everlasting love for us. May we reflect You more and more each moment. May we live good and pleasing lives in Your sight, and by Your estimation, in all godliness and dignity. Thank you that You make Yourself known and that You give us assurance of one way to You, through Jesus Christ, who gave Himself as a ransom for all and is our perfect Mediator. May we reflect Your beauty, love, and honor You with our thoughts and ways. In the precious name of Jesus, our Way, truth, and Life we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this episode. I’m humbled to share that my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” has released! I hope you will look for it, follow it, and share both podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. If you find value in what you hear, would you please also place a rating and review at Apple Podcasts or Spotify to enable others to find each podcast? Now that I am writing and hosting two podcasts, I will release episodes of each show every other week instead of in a weekly format. For example, since the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast released this week, the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast will release next week. Some weeks, I may release bonus episodes, making weekly releases, so be sure to watch for those extra episodes when they occur. Please remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that the podcasts draw you nearer to God and help you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 111 - The Way the Truth and the Life Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #111 – The Way, the Truth, and the Life Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together and live with purposed eternal perspective. My children ask a lot of questions. I’ve always encouraged curiosity and learning. We believe there are no dumb or silly questions. In fact, I teach that the smarter a person is, the more questions they will ask. There is one specific question each person should ask during their lifetime. The question, “Who is Jesus?” will cause them to seek the most important answer each person will need to discover. When most people are asked this question, they answer in simple terms. Perhaps they say Jesus is God’s Son. Maybe they answer that He is their Savior. While both are true, Jesus Christ is so much more. Even the truths I present in this podcast will not come close to everything that Jesus is and will be. When we think of the characteristics of Jesus, the first qualities that may spring to mind are words such as: God, Teacher, Judge, Sinless, Obedient, Mediator, Savior, Eternal, Heir, Healer, Servant, King, Son, Anointed, and Resurrected. All of these are true and accurate, but still don’t grasp the beauty and majesty of Jesus. Words are easy to use without pondering the rich meaning of the description. Without the blessed resource of scripture to back truths about Jesus, I think it is impossible for our human mind and heart to grasp all that Jesus really is. Even when we read the bible and learn all we can about Jesus, He is so far above and beyond us that we struggle to fathom His glory. As was written in the gospel of John, Jesus is the divine Son of God who came to this world in human flesh to save all who believe in Him. Jesus changes lives. Our pursuit of Jesus invites Him to renew our soul and spirit. Studying Jesus arouses new belief or affirms existing belief in Him. In fact, whether you believe in Who He proclaims to be or not, most people at least believe Jesus lived. Those who hold a special relationship with Jesus because we have read the scriptures and believed the testimonies, know that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God, and receive new life in His name. Scripture clearly proves that Jesus is the only way for us to receive life on earth and for eternity in heaven. Let’s examine 8 basic bible verses that reveal some of what Jesus came to earth to complete for the Father and for us. This is where we view and absorb the truth that Jesus is more than God in flesh on earth, and regard His Divine character and Supreme nature. 1. Jesus is our example of obedience. John 6:38 says, “For I have come down from heaven, not to do My own will, but to do the will of Him who sent Me.” Jesus’ focus remained on His Father and what God called Him to do. 2. Jesus warns us of the thief. John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I have come that they may have life, and have it in all its fullness.” Jesus steadfastly warned of the devil and his wickedness, as well as the promise and security through steadfastly remaining with the Father and finding new life through Jesus. 3. Jesus is our light. John 12:46 says, “I have come into the world as a light, so that no one who believes in Me should remain in darkness.” Jesus came to give new, eternal life and conquered the darkness of evil and death through His light. 4. Jesus is our Conquering King. John 18:37 says, “Then You are a king!” Pilate said. “You say that I am a king,” Jesus answered. “For this reason I was born and have come into the world, to testify to the truth. Everyone who belongs to the truth listens to My voice.” Jesus is the King of Kings calling for all who will accept His truth and follow. 5. Jesus is truth. Mark 1:38 says, “But Jesus answered, “Let us go on to the neighboring towns so I can preach there as well, for that is why I have come.” Jesus made time to minister and live His life in this world as He walked among us in earthly flesh, but He never forgot His purpose or that He was the Truth He was to make known. 6. Jesus is our healer. Mark 2:17 says, “On hearing this, Jesus told them, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” Jesus saw and loved each person. Although He didn’t bow to their sin or join in it, he associated with sinners because they needed to hear to find healing. 7. Jesus is our judge. John 9:39 says, “Then Jesus declared, “For judgment I have come into this world, so that the blind may see and those who see may become blind.” After we turn to Christ, we begin to see Him differently. Walking with Jesus alters us, opens our eyes and heart to His truth. Once we have heard the truth of Jesus and experienced Him, we receive spiritual understanding and insight. Those who reject Him, ignoring Truth through self-righteousness or pride, will remain in earthly blindness. 8. Jesus is eternal life. John 14:6 says, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through Me.” Jesus is the only way to God. Not a limited path, but clear and exact, Jesus extends the Way, a path to God. As Truth, He defines clarity of God. As Life, Jesus came in the flesh of man, joining creator to created, heaven to earth, divine to earthly. Deserving of all the glory and honor we can give Him, Jesus clearly models life on earth and in heaven in many other ways, as well. Instead of making my main focus what Jesus gives me, I want my life focus to be on knowing Who Jesus is. Is this the cry of your heart? As we come to realize more about the deity of Jesus, we realize how far we are from Him and how much we need Him to sustain and rescue us. After being justified through faith in Jesus Christ, sanctification follows as we allow Him to erase our sinful nature and we are fashioned into a new creation as the Holy Spirit works within us. Praise God that I am not the same person I was when I first began my life as a follower of Jesus! A life submitted cannot remain unaltered. Do you see His work within you, too? Scripture presents an in-depth look at Who Jesus is and how He is able to make such a profound change in the world and within us. Of course, I can never list all that Jesus is, has done, or will be, but God’s holy word makes Him known. Just as Ecclesiastes 3:11 says, “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men, yet they cannot fathom the work that God has done from beginning to end.” Jesus gives us life, fills every void in our life, and is the way to everlasting life. Three major points will be our focus as we search scripture to learn more about Jesus. As I read, rest in the truths, comforts, promises, and power of His holy word. As Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” The first set of bible verses I share will prove Jesus’ obedience. Through them we see that He is the perfect example for us to follow. 1. Jesus is The Way John 4:34 says, “Jesus explained, “My food is to do the will of Him who sent Me and to finish His work.” John 5:19 says, “So Jesus replied, “Truly, truly, I tell you, the Son can do nothing by Himself, unless He sees the Father doing it. For whatever the Father does, the Son also does.” John 5:30 says, “I can do nothing by Myself; I judge only as I hear. And My judgment is just, because I do not seek My own will, but the will of Him who sent Me.” John 6:38 says, “For I have come down from heaven, not to do My own will, but to do the will of Him who sent Me.” John 8:28 says, “So Jesus said, “When you have lifted up the Son of Man, then you will know that I am He, and that I do nothing on My own, but speak exactly what the Father has taught Me.” John 8:42 says, “Jesus said to them, “If God were your Father, you would love Me, for I have come here from God. I have not come on My own, but He sent Me.” John 10:37-38 says, “If I am not doing the works of My Father, then do not believe Me. But if I am doing them, even though you do not believe Me, believe the works themselves, so that you may know and understand that the Father is in Me, and I am in the Father.” John 12:49-50 says, “I have not spoken on My own, but the Father who sent Me has commanded Me what to say and how to say it. And I know that His command leads to eternal life. So I speak exactly what the Father has told Me to say.” John 14:10 says, “Do you not believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in Me? The words I say to you, I do not speak on My own. Instead, it is the Father dwelling in Me, performing His works.” John 14:31 says, “But I do exactly what the Father has commanded Me, so that the world may know that I love the Father.” John 15:9-11 says, “As the Father has loved Me, so have I loved you. Remain in My love. If you keep My commandments, you will remain in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and remain in His love. I have told you these things so that My joy may be in you and your joy may be complete.” John 17:4-5 says, “I have glorified You on earth by accomplishing the work You gave Me to do. And now, Father, glorify Me in Your presence with the glory I had with You before the world existed.” How much we learn from studying and following the life of Jesus! Perfect in every way, He obediently follows where God has called. Lord, our heart cries for you to make us more like You! 2. Jesus is Truth John 7:37 says, “On the last and greatest day of the feast, Jesus stood up and called out in a loud voice, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink.” John 16:13 says, “When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth, for he will not speak on his own authority, but whatever he hears he will speak, and he will declare to you the things that are to come.” Ecclesiastes 3:11 says, “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men, yet they cannot fathom the work that God has done from beginning to end.” John 1:14 says, “The Word became flesh and made His dwelling among us. We have seen His glory, the glory of the one and only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth.” John 8:31b-32 says, “If you continue in My word, you are truly My disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” John 1:17-18 says, “For the law was given through Moses; grace and truth came through Jesus Christ. No one has ever seen God, but the one and only Son, who is Himself God and is at the Father’s side, has made Him known.” Lord, thank you for exposing truth to us! If we know You, we know Truth. This world seeks relative truth or how we feel instead of learning and clinging to Your truths, the standard that gives us life. 3. Jesus is Life John 1:1-5 says, “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through Him all things were made, and without Him nothing was made that has been made. In Him was life, and that life was the light of men. The Light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that everyone who believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I have come that they may have life, and have it in all its fullness.” John 6:33 says, “For the bread of God is He who comes down from heaven and gives life to the world.” John 6:48 says, “I am the bread of life.” John 7:37-38 says, “On the last and greatest day of the feast, Jesus stood up and called out in a loud voice, “If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink. Whoever believes in Me, as the Scripture has said: ‘Streams of living water will flow from within him.’” John 8:12 says, “Once again, Jesus spoke to the people and said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows Me will never walk in the darkness, but will have the light of life.” John 10:7 says, “So He said to them again, “Truly, truly, I tell you, I am the gate for the sheep.” John 10:11 says, “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down His life for the sheep.” John 11:25 says, “Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in Me will live, even though he dies.” John 14:6-7 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. If you had known Me, you would know My Father as well. From now on you do know Him and have seen Him.” Jesus, You are Life! Thank you for telling us so clearly that the way to live an abundant life is through You. Cause us to desire You and Your definition of abundance so deeply that we cannot stop learning more about You and allowing You to shine more clearly through us for others to grasp the life that exists in and with You. John 21:25 says, “There are many more things that Jesus did. If all of them were written down, I suppose that not even the world itself would have space for the books that would be written.” This podcast has barely touched on what scripture teaches about Jesus. Beyond what our mind can grasp, Jesus speaks to our heart and whispers for us to recognize and accept Him into our life. It is my prayer that you continue deep study of His word on your own and cling to the Way, the Truth, and the Life with passionate love that grows as you draw nearer to Him. Jesus causes us to look beyond our selfish desires and forces us to ponder the meaning of life and an everlasting existence through eternal perspective. Jesus allows us to see God in flesh at work in our personal life and in all of humanity. How will you respond to Jesus? Once we know and submit to Christ, we are never the same. Dear Heavenly Father, Thank You that through Christ we have been crucified. We have assurance that we no longer live, but Christ lives within us. We know there is no longer condemnation for those of us in Christ Jesus, for we have been set free from the law of sin and death. We praise You Father, for Your goodness and Your everlasting love for us. May we reflect You more and more each moment. May we live good and pleasing lives in Your sight, and by Your estimation, in all godliness and dignity. Thank you that You make Yourself known and that You give us assurance of one way to You, through Jesus Christ, who gave Himself as a ransom for all and is our perfect Mediator. May we reflect Your beauty, love, and honor You with our thoughts and ways. In the precious name of Jesus, our Way, truth, and Life we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this episode. I’m humbled to share that my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” has released! I hope you will look for it, follow it, and share both podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. If you find value in what you hear, would you please also place a rating and review at Apple Podcasts or Spotify to enable others to find each podcast? Now that I am writing and hosting two podcasts, I will release episodes of each show every other week instead of in a weekly format. For example, since the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast released this week, the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast will release next week. Some weeks, I may release bonus episodes, making weekly releases, so be sure to watch for those extra episodes when they occur. Please remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that the podcasts draw you nearer to God and help you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 095 – Self-Care for Busy Moms: Strategies for Prioritizing Your Well-Being through Christ Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 095 – Self-Care for Busy Moms: Strategies for Prioritizing Your Well-Being through Christ Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast deepens your walk with Jesus and your children, equipping you to become a set-apart woman and mother. Self-care. It can mean many things to different people. I’ll be honest. After years of targeted advertisements and big box stores wanting my money, I got tired of hearing the term “self-care.” Since many ads tell women to place themselves first, to escape with bubble baths if they can’t handle stress, or a spa experience after every hard day of work, or shirts that call women to drink a glass of wine each night because parenting is so difficult, I cringe when I hear “self-care.” But advertising agencies shouldn’t dictate the definition of self-care. What does the term mean to you? Is it biblical? I believe the answer lays in how we personally define the expression. If we think of the answer with a secular mindset, the term isn’t Christlike. However, if we define the phrase self-care through the lens of caring for self so that we receive the rest and care we need , then we preserve ourselves for what God calls us to complete, I believe we move with biblical intentions. Life can be challenging. Tiring. It can be stressful. Demanding. Meeting the expectations of others – or even sometimes our own hopes or dreams - can feel overwhelming or impossible at times. That is why true self-care should start with residing and resting in Christ. In reality, none of us have come close to experiencing the burdens Jesus carried. If anyone needed self-care, it would be Him. Because Jesus was burdened, yet led a model life, we are blessed to observe His life and learn from how He lived. As we do so, we see Jesus placed God first no matter the cost, yet He still made time to care for self. During His ministry, Jesus carried a burdensome schedule. He could have continued to serve others, neglecting self. Between healing, teaching, traveling, drawing nearer to God, prayer, and more miracles, Jesus was fully God. He could have found the stamina to continue non-stop work. Yet, remember that Jesus was also fully man. He was a man who loved God with all His heart, soul, mind, and strength. He desired to serve God in ways that were fruitful, yet holy . He knew God called Him to rest, just as He Himself stopped to do when creating the world. Although Jesus knew He needed rest, He prioritized God. He ensured that knowing, serving, and honoring God were top of His mind and heart moment by moment day after day. Jesus understood that nothing was as important as placing God over everything . When Jesus wanted time alone , He spent it with the Father first . Jesus understood that without resting in God, He would not receive the rest His Spirit craved. Listen to this verse from Matthew 22:34-37 , which says, “Hearing that Jesus had silenced the Sadducees, the Pharisees got together. One of them, an expert in the law, tested Him with this question: “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind .’” Jesus’ words teach these truths: Biblical self-care begins with God . Place God first by studying His word – even if you can only manage ten or fifteen minutes a day in your current season, your intentionality will produce huge results over time. If you simply can’t find time to read the Word, listen to the Bible. The more intimate your walk with God becomes, the trials and tribulations of this world lose their sting. You see God at work and recognize His hand in your life - in the way you think, respond, and speak. Biblical self-care doesn’t feel entitled . If you place the Lord first, you’re still allowed to want time for activities such as going out for coffee with friends, a date with your husband, or pursuing a hobby. Because you place the Father first, the time you’ve already spent with God deepening your relationship will keep you from feeling like you’re falling apart without those “extras” you desire. Being refreshed in the Lord helps you maintain joy despite irritations. The time you spend with husband, children, and friends – or even the solo pursuits you follow will be sweeter as you allow God access to areas only He can fill. You begin to hear and respond to His callings and purposes for your life. Biblical self-care doesn’t over-indulge. When you make time to pursue friends, family, and fun, you appreciate the blessings, but don’t let them overtake your life. When God is in His rightful place at the center of your heart and mind, He graciously fills your day with His perfect timing and desire that are pleasing and honoring to Him. Now let’s expand on the 3 points we just discussed by looking at 7 ways to keep God first, avoid self-entitlement, and prevent over-indulgence: 1. Make it your goal to be in God’s Word daily . Study, not just read. When women hear the word “study,” they are often fearful that they don’t have time to read the Bible. When I say study, I mean read and ponder God’s words. Really absorb them by using a good study Bible that gives deeper exploration and expansion on what you are learning. Pray about what God wants you to see, hear, and understand. Ask Him to help you apply His words and teachings in your life in ways that honor Him. You can never outstudy God. But if you are in a season where you can’t spend much time per day, use the time you have to wisely craft relationship with your Heavenly Father. By purposing time with Him, you will see a difference in the way you submit to the Lord and the way His presence is noticed in your actions, reactions, words, and desires. 2. Be Thankful . No matter your circumstances, view life events with a thankful heart. Allow what you consider “bad” to shape and mold your character, heart, and mindset for Christ. If you belong to Jesus, what happens to you or those you love has already been sifted through God’s hands. What happens is not meant for evil or to harm you. Jesus warned us that we would face tribulations in this world. The best is not yet here…it is to come. Let God work through you to let circumstances, (even the hardships) bring you nearer to Him and the person He purposed you to be. Never forget you are mentoring the watching eyes and listening ears in your home. 3. Form a prayer circle of family and friends . Prayer is vital . Gather trusted prayer warriors to lift you, your family, your husband, or your children. Do the same for your prayer partners. Prayer is a mighty fortress and strength. 4. Get wise nourishment . Eat and drink wisely. Make sure you get plenty of liquids. Eat healthy foods. You know the drill. Think of caring for self as an act of gratitude to God and for those who love you. 5. Exercise 5-7 days a week . Exercise is one of those things that you know you have to do, but don’t want to do it until you actually do – and realize how much better it usually makes you feel. Just get started . Even if it is only ten minutes a day to start, go for that walk. Hit the gym. Ride that bike. Do whatever interests you. If it’s outside, it’s an added bonus. Being in nature brings an extra calm and joy to exercise benefits. Don’t think of it as exercise, but as caring for the body God gave you. As you care for your body physically, you also reap benefits mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. 6. Get enough rest . I know it can be challenging to get enough rest. As an adult, you really need 7-8 hours of rest. Even as I tell you this fact, I know it’s difficult for me to get enough rest. In all transparency, I don’t like to sleep. I always wake up in the night and look at my clock to see if I can get up yet. I’m excited to start the day. I usually get about 61/2 to 7 broken hours of sleep. I yearn for a night I don’t have to get up to use the restroom at least once and remember those days I used to sleep without awakenings for at least 8 hours. But try your best to get enough sleep. Your mind and body will thank you today and in the years to come. 7. Spend time with those God gave you . What a gift that God gives us people to love. He hand-chose each of your family members. Be prayerful about your relationships. Strive to honor God with them. Don’t let this list of items make you fret. It may sound like a lot as you listen, but as you incorporate these steps into your lifestyle, they become second nature. You won’t always have time to do every item daily, but as you incorporate them into your lifestyle, you create a flow that is pleasing to God, your family, and yourself. Now that we’ve talked about how to keep God first, avoid self-entitlement, and prevent over-indulgence, let’s look again at the life of Jesus and the examples He set for us. Through Him, we learn how Jesus accomplished self-care while remaining in pursuit of God and how we can do the same. 1. Teach – Jesus wasn’t formally trained as a Rabbi, but people recognized His gifts. Christ is called a teacher over forty times in the New Testament. As He taught, Jesus used many methods to reach people exactly where they were, such as parables, proverbs, riddles, and more. His radical words caused people to challenge the kingdom of this world and view sin and eternal life through new eyes and heart. Do you know Jesus well enough to show Him to others? 2. Serve – Jesus was motivated by love when He served. Love for God and others was always His influence. Obedience to God kept Him focused on love, even when it cost Him His life. Are you motivated to obey God through your love for Jesus? 3. Retreat – Jesus chose stillness. When He retreated to be with God, He didn’t think about time He might be wasting because there were other things He needed to do. He allowed God to quiet His mind. Jesus remained at the Father’s feet so He could easily and clearly hear His voice. He allowed the Word of God to keep Him close as He studied and trusted the commands His father gave. Jesus regularly retreated to a quiet place to pray and prioritize the plans of His Father. He taught His disciples this example, and He clearly mentored how we can do the same. Do you regularly pursue the Lord through time with Him? 4. Rest – At the beginning of His Word to us in Genesis, God set the example of work and rest. Jesus, following the Father’s footsteps, also left a perfect imprint for our heart to follow in obedience. First, we are instructed to come to Jesus. Without relationship with Jesus, we cannot know the way to God. We cannot please Him. Without Christ, we never experience true rest or peace. Jesus calls to each of us when He says, “All you who labor and are heavy laden.” Every living person experiences trials and hardships, burdens that we are unable to carry in our strength. If we desire deep and lasting joy, peace, and rest, we can heed the promise in His words, “I will give you rest.” Jesus also instructs us to “Take my yoke upon you.” He means for us to remove the yoke, or burdens we carry and give them to Him. Allow Him to shoulder the load. Jesus tells us to “Learn from Me,” as He shows us how to rest in God through intimate relationship. He promises we will “Find rest into your souls.” Jesus truly gives “peace that surpasses all understanding.” Are you able to receive what He offers by heeding His actions and words? Are you resting in God as you rest in Christ? 5. Repeat – Maintain and mature the relationship you are building with God through Christ. Follow the loving examples Jesus set for you. It can be distracting to listen to all the self-care advice offered by the world. Television and magazine ads, billboards, and more tout taking care of self as the most important aspect of life. Except we know they just want to sell self-care products or experiences. However, as we’ve heard on this episode, there is truth to the idea that we need to care for self in order to care for others well. Most importantly, we need to care for self in godly ways that honor Christ. The most important ways to care for self are simple. We strive to be healthy physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and financially. As you care for yourself physically, you practice the habits of eating, hydrating, exercising, and sleeping well. As you care for yourself emotionally, you come to know self through emotions and your past and current habits. As you care for yourself mentally, you think and speak to self with love and respect. Most importantly, you study and practice God’s truths and allow them to shape your thoughts and desires. As you care for yourself financially, you work to keep money and the way you accumulate and spend it, in order as God would call. The Bible actually gives much insight into how God calls us to hold and spend money. Of course, He also instructs us how to carry it in our heart in God-honoring ways. As you care for yourself spiritually, you allow self to seek God, not man-made religions. You draw strength from His truths and practice His commands in humble obedience and love. Your spiritual health is the most important component of self-care as it affects all other areas. As you deepen your self-care journey in Christlike ways, I urge you to consider the areas of your life such as sleep, eating and drinking, exercise, relationships, Bible study and prayer, and journaling, if you enjoy getting thoughts out on paper. Keeping a prayer journal or a gratitude journal are also ways of strengthening your spiritual, emotional, and mental health. Pursuing the passions God created within you, serving others, allowing yourself to loosen up and laugh often, caring for a pet, and continued learning to broaden passions and interests, whether through classes, podcasts, reading, or a mentorship are all ways to relax and utilize talents endowed to you. Asking yourself questions such as: What energizes me? What drains me? What do you feel you need to do to be a godly mom? A godly woman? A godly wife? How can you get there? Ask God to build you a strong foundation of self-care that then extends to care for others in your life. Prayerfully consideration of where you feel your life is lacking, what is difficult, or where you feel over-stretched, will enable you to know where to begin pursuing the questions I mentioned. Also prayerfully consider your schedule and season of life. Ask God to show you how to fit His idea of self-care into your lifestyle. Start small if needed, but continue to pursue the Lord first as you incorporate stronger relationship with Him into any area of self-care you choose. Dear Heavenly Father, You are the One who created the heavens and the earth just as You purposely created each of us. Help us to honor You with the care we give self and others. Help us to see where we are lacking in caring for the body, mind, and spirit You crafted for us. Help us seek You first and incorporate Your ideas of care into self and home. May we remember the model life Jesus set for us and know how to apply His lifestyle and teaching into our home. Father, You are truly good. You desire us to care for self, just as You call us to care for others. But it all stems from relationship with You first. May we begin a better routine of self-care today. May we make it godly, not good. May we give you joy as You flow through and guide us. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Raising children is challenging. No one has all the answers because each child is unique as are parenting styles and family dynamics. By connecting with and knowing your children as you maintain purposed growth in Christ, you will be better prepared for any situation you face. That’s why you hear me share about the Set-Apart Collective in this podcast. Supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. Godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will deepen your walk with Christ. You’ll learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family. Send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information or look online at terrihitt.com/setapart. We can also set up a no obligation, strategic 15 minute call to chat about your needs to see if the program is a right fit for you. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. Also, if you appreciated this episode, would you please rate and review the podcast on Apple or Spotify? It only takes a few minutes and makes a big difference in whether people are able to find the podcast. Also, you and I know that the best reviews are by word of mouth, so please choose a friend to recommend the show to. Imagine the changes we will see in the way mothers parent for Christ if they learn to be intentional, too. One last thing to remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 122 - Do You Know How to Play With Your Kids? Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 122 – Do You Know How to Play With Your Kids? Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom and BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you will be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episodes, would you please share this episode or others with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, and leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast. When you do, you’re helping affect generations for Jesus. Now on to this episode that raises an important question…Do you Know How to Play With Your Kids? My Grandma Smith had the greatest ability to make me laugh. I remember going to her house was a treat I looked forward to. I always knew she’d do something funny or sit on the floor and tickle me. She simply acted like a kid while still maintaining authority. I always felt safe and loved with her. I often think of Grandma when I play with my kids. I have to ask…have you played today? One of the perks of being a mom is recognizing and cherishing the ability to keep childlike qualities – or rediscover the inner child alive in our heart. As for me, I’ve never lost the ability to intertwine the little girl still living inside with the adult me. Maybe it’s because God created me with a strong imagination, but I also like to think that I just enjoy connection. Like Grandma seemed to with me. After parenting two sets of children over two generations, I’ve had an extended period of playtime. In fact, my siblings were five and six years younger than me, and I had a lot of experience playing with my sister before I ever became a mom at the age of eighteen. Numerous memories are easily brought to mind when I think back over the years I’ve enjoyed playing with kids. When my first child, my daughter Jaime was almost two, I was at a local park with her and two children I cared for at the time. With three children under two years old, I had to be creative in the way I kept them all together and entertained. On that particular day in the park, we mastered the slide over and over. The kids were gleeful as I had them lined up in front of me, each securing their little arms around the waist of the child in front of them. My legs were wrapped around everyone as we slid towards the bottom. When my first set of kids were growing up, I remember playing baseball with my son. Now I have to state that I’m one of the most athletically-challenged people in the world. Athleticism is not a gift God chose for me. So when I say I played baseball, please know that it shows the depth of love I have for my boy. It also shows his patience with me. I remember times of throwing pitches for Brandon to practice hitting, then switching places and letting him practice pitching to me. That was a sacrifice! I’ve never been able to catch any ball, whether it be small like a baseball or a large kickball. Instead of spreading my arms out to gracefully receive the ball, I usually duck my head and scream. But guess what? Playing ball with my son was such a joy. In fact, he’s the only person who can throw a pitch I can hit. Somehow, he knew exactly how to throw that ball in a way I trusted and could connect with. I hope he felt as special as I did in those moments. There were also other play times with my kids using typical childhood toys, as well as playing dress-up, Play Doh, drawing or coloring, dancing, and acting. What are some of the ways you play with your children? Or your grandchildren? My youngest daughter and I still have a date for play time daily. It’s what she looks forward to most each day. When I keep my word to place her above anything else during the time we spend together, joy radiates from her eyes and movements. If you are actively pursuing play as a way to teach and connect, I applaud you. Then I say, “keep on.” When we enjoy playing with our children, we understand that we are building connection that can’t be created any other way. The benefits of playing with our children are high. As I stated earlier, not only do we experience a deeper bonding and attachment experience, but our children receive benefits such as a wider vocabulary, patience, trust, resilience, strengthened social skills, and higher cognitive development. Despite the love of electronics in this day and age, I say ditch those and find other ways to play such as the following: Toys – From the earliest of time with your child, you can play with toys together. I’m also going to place books and music in this category, and for every age group. Lullabies and Christian music are especially sweet. Books are a means of making time together special Sitting together as you read lends a special closeness and connection from an early age, plus reaps many of the benefits I spoke of earlier. Reading to your child often and regularly also helps them to be better prepared and more eager to read to you as time progresses. Letting yourself simply have fun with baby toys and age-appropriate toys with your child will expand creativity for you both. Physical Play – While building relationship and connection, you’re also building muscles, coordination, and strength. Outdoor Play – This can include physical play, as well as walks and nature studies. These activities allow both parent and child to experience fresh air, sunshine, appreciation, curiosity, imagination, and time together. Pretend Play – Even more imagination abounds with pretend play, which also builds curiosity, connection, and joy. Enjoy yourself. Let yourself be whatever age your child is. Or let yourself become an imaginary friend, creature, or whatever the situation calls for. Simply have fun. Through play, children learn, reduce stress, build connection with you, release fears, and work out problems. Through this process, parents are often alerted to thoughts and interests they may not have been made aware of yet. As my daughter and I play, I can tell things she’s concerned about or thinking. I also see how she responds to those thoughts or feelings through the way she has characters respond and react. Children are wired to play. So were you once. In fact, I bet you still are, even if you don’t realize it. When kids are able to play in early years, essential neural pathways are created that impact future learning. When kids experience sensory rich play and creative exploration, their time spent playing with you becomes more than recreation, and should be recognized as an investment in a critical piece of childhood development. For a more joyful childhood and future adult life, invest in playtime with your children. Mind, body, and spirit are transformed through such a simple act. If you think you don’t have time, I say you can’t afford to neglect making the time. If you’re not used to playing, let me list a few suggestions you might enjoy. Hearing them might spur your mind to come up with even more. Reading is very important at any age. Reading together, even when your kids are older is a fabulous bonding experience. As a homeschool mom, this is one of my favorite tips. Even when my girls were teens we read together. We still do daily when we sit to read the Bible together. Walking is also an easy activity to enjoy together. My middle daughter and I enjoy this activity year round. We’re outside together unless the weather makes it impossible. Through this simple act, we share so many stories and plans. We share our heart, give and hear advice, and simply enjoy one another. Our laughter is so full we’re often doubled over, barely able to walk, and that incredible connection strengthens our bond. You can also observe nature with your children. This activity is an easy way to begin conversations and talk about the Lord as you observe His creation, the seasons, or the weather. If you’re looking for more age-based suggestions, I’ll list a few. Again, this is a short list to get you thinking about what might be enjoyed together in your home. Six months – Recite short rhymes, prayers, condensed Bible stories, sing, play Peek-A-Boo, Pat-A-Cake, find your ears, nose, etc. Cover toys with a cloth or blanket and uncover to find. Nine months – Play imitation and “find it” games Twelve months – Fill containers or play instruments (anything from a pot and lid to an empty paper towel roll can become an instrument or you may invest in age appropriate instruments. Eighteen months – Memory games with music, cards, or toys. Sorting or matching games are also fun. Two to Three years – Music with movement, silly dances, Follow the Leader, Dress-up, Dolls, Play Doh Four to Seven Years – Simon Says, Climbing activities (yes, you can climb, too), Parks, play house, dolls, or ball. Eight to Twelve Years – Puzzles, mazes, word finds, crossword puzzles, strategy games, physical games Thirteen to Seventeen – Musical Instruments, Dancing, Acting, Sports All of these are activities that you can do with your child, not just watch them participate. Throughout the lifetime of your child, play is one of the best investments you can make for both of you. Skills, mental and emotional health, and connection are shaped grown, and maintained through this remarkably simple activity. You know your children. Find what they enjoy and jump in with them. Dear Heavenly Father, Thank you for Your mighty presence in this world, our lives, and in our heart through the Holy Spirit alive in us. We need Your guidance and leadership. Help us to shine You. Help us to connect with our children in ways that merge the beautiful interests and talents You crafted into them and all You have purposed within us. Help us enjoy the youthfulness, imagination, and love You have placed within us. Let us recognize all the gifts You have in store for us as we invest in time with You and our family. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Raising children is challenging. No one has all the answers because each child is unique as are parenting styles and family dynamics. By connecting with and knowing your children as you maintain purposed growth in Christ, you will be better prepared for any situation you face. That’s why you hear me share about the Set-Apart Collective in this podcast. I work with professionals who care about making Jesus known to their children. Are you a high-achieving woman who loves Jesus, but is so busy with the rush of work and daily life that you feel like you’re being drained like the water in your bathtub? Do you yearn to get closer to Jesus and show Him to your kids so you will create a love that will last into eternity? The desire is there, but your days spiral out of control before you even think about opening your Bible. Do you ever stop to think that you are the first Jesus your child will see? Let me remind you there is hope. There is a way you can be equipped to raise kids who chase Christ over culture. If you want a connected relationship with Christ and your children that leads them to your side and His feet, instead of them seeking validation from peers, I have an 8-step program to move you from frustrated to fulfilled. I will show you how to reflect Jesus in a way that attracts your family to a connected relationship that lasts into eternity. Remember, godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset you carry. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will arm you with a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You’ll also deepen your identity in Christ so you can mentor the way for your children to do the same. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family and you will have the tools to raise set apart kids as you parent the heart, not simply the behavior. Does this sound like a lifeline to help you be that set-apart mom God has entrusted you to be? Visit terrihitt.com/coaching and click the link for a free, no obligation conversation call with me. This is a strategic call where I will hear your biggest struggle and show you how to turn it into a blessing that will bring you closer to Christ and your children. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. One last thing to remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #046 – Maturing Character Like Christ Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Guess what I did last week? I went sledding! No, it didn’t snow where I live. I slid right down the basement stairs on my back, hitting each step with my back and tailbone first, then my head following the example set before it, banging down every. single. step. I thought I might stop after each bump, but my outstretched body did a very good job of making sure I touched each stair all the way down to the bottom, where I landed dazed and unable to move for several minutes as I fought nausea and sat shaking with adrenaline. As I work on this podcast I am sitting with an ice bag on my backside and laughing at myself inside. Thankfully, I will be okay. Although I’m still unable to go anywhere and I’ve had a few difficult days of barely being able to move, especially without pain. Why do I bring this up? I feel so blessed. When we choose to view life through an eternal viewpoint, we have to accept the blessings that come hidden in ugly packages. As much as I know my family loves me, I am still surprised and humbled by the gentle care each of them has given me. I cannot express the blessings and gratitude I feel with words that feel so inadequate. I am so thankful. The gentle, loving spirits that have attended to me come straight from God. Our Heavenly Father knows our needs. Sometimes He fills us with an overflowing cup. Other times He gives us just what we truly need and we must be satisfied. This week my cup has been flowing with gratitude beyond my needs to a bountiful supply that I pray extends to those around me. I’m still hobbling around and it is difficult to sit or lie down, but my nursing staff is ready to assist with anything I need. Why? Because their hearts are attuned to Jesus. They are following His lead and loving with His nature. 1 Chronicles 22:19a says, “Now set your heart and your soul to seek the Lord your God.” Our heart is revealed when our days are troubled and difficult. My injury could make them angry or frustrated because it impacts them, too. I haven’t seen that attitude in any of them. I’ve only seen love and concern. How do we handle hardships when they occur? What character is squeezed out of me when bad or hard things happen? Because they will happen. This fallen world is full of disease, misunderstandings, anger, hurt, betrayal, jealousy, accidents, and so much more. Look at the climate of our nation today as just one example. I’ve never seen us so divided. If we all viewed the world as Jesus and loved like Him daily, how different everything would be. I want a heart that constantly offers gratitude, even when my desires are not met and my spirit is disappointed. Even when my plans crumble and my wants are not filled. I cannot offer this type of thanks on my own. Only through Jesus in me can I begin to seek God through disappointment and heartache, pain and fear. Romans 5:1-5 says, “Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom also we have access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God. And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope. Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.” Living under pressure with our heart and mind fixed on Him produces character like Christ. As followers of Christ, we have the hope and trust that we are being transformed moment by moment. Can you feel the changes in your desires? In your heart and mindset as you seek Him? Do you recognize Him changing you, crafting your responses and attitude to mirror His? God will shift our life from the tribulation we are currently enduring when we persevere with reliance on Him, which moves us to a character mirroring His, and through His character, to a hope that endures. His grace and power are sufficient. Our afflictions are but for a moment in the scheme of eternity. God’s timetables are not understood because we do not have the whole picture. We must follow His leads by faith that matures through a close walk with Him. 1 John 5:1-5 says, “Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ has been born of God, and everyone who loves the Father loves whoever has been born of him. By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God and obey his commandments. For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments. And his commandments are not burdensome. For everyone who has been born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world—our faith. Who is it that overcomes the world except the one who believes that Jesus is the Son of God?” Let’s look at the basics. Christianity is very simple. Once we have established a personal relationship with Jesus, He lives within us in the form of the Holy Spirit. Despite anything this world offers or throws at us, we can be sure that Jesus is with us. Nothing can touch us without being sifted through the hands of the Father first. However, our human form is weak and we must ensure that we work daily to allow God to transform us, to help us see momentary troubles through the eyes and mindset of Jesus. The passage I read from 1 John 5 exposes where our heart lies. Is loving Jesus and keeping His commandments a problem? A burden? Or is it pure joy to see our beliefs altered in supernatural ways that prove the existence of the Holy Spirit living in us? Our desires, actions, and words identify where we place Jesus in our life. 1. What do I believe? How is that belief shown in my life? Are my desires and actions in alignment with what God calls? With His word? 2. What does my life look like? Am I living in ways that prove I follow Jesus? Am I striving to keep the commandments God set for me? 3. How do I love? Do I show it in my walk with Jesus and to those around me? To the strangers I meet? 4. Am I transforming daily? Is my life proof that I am changing daily? Am I living with my heart and mind focused on eternity? Do I understand that every word I speak, every choice I make affects my eternity, as well as the eternal heart set of those I live and interact with? Do I live with a peace that surpasses understanding? 5. Do I continue living in old ways that were set before I knew Jesus? Or am I being made new each day? Does conviction sting if I stray or make choices by my flesh? Am I living in ways that honor the commitment I made to God through following Jesus? Psalm 139:23-24 says, “Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” I always say that the difficulties in this world stem from the condition of our hearts. When our heart is right with Jesus, He builds the character of our hearts. Why is there such discord now? Why are friends turning their backs on others? I believe it comes from the residue in our hearts. What do we truly believe? Who do we truly follow? Are we reacting from emotions and feelings or kneeling in prayer before God and waiting for Him to lead and direct our lives? Are we looking for ways to be hurt? Or are we lifting all of it to Him to rectify? Are we seeking Him to purpose our reactions and emotions to reflect His? We should examine the motives of our heart by asking the following questions. 1. Am I following a religion? Do I just go through the motions of Christianity? 2. Am I following myself before Christ, with no compass to guide me except feelings and emotions? 3. Do I welcome the “hard” areas and painful areas of life by inviting Him to carry me and control my reactions? Do I allow Him to transform me daily? 4. Am I truly following Jesus? Whatever we allow to dictate our life will direct our relationships and actions, our words and beliefs. What we pattern our life after now is establishing our eternity. When we do not allow God full reign in our life, morals and relationships crumble. We are unable to react with character or compassion like Christ. When I fell down the stairs, I was disappointed because I was supposed to meet a friend I have not seen all year. I had to cancel. When we want to be saturated with the character of Christ, we must mature our mind to view disappointments as He would. We must be cautious in establishing plans. What does God desire for us? Are we moving toward what He has purposed for us? Or are we moving away from the dreams set by our Creator, because we are selfishly choosing to follow what we think will satisfy us? Am I saying God didn’t want me to meet with my friend? Not necessarily. I am reminding us that we must hold plans loosely. The way we respond when we are frustrated or let down sets our heart tone and can either move us closer to, or away from Jesus. The world tells us to set goals and follow our dreams. That’s a wonderful sentiment, but I want to follow God’s desires for my life. I want to be so connected to God and His whisperings to my soul that I recognize the desires He crafted in my heart. What do we do when our dreams fall apart? What if our ways are not God’s ways? In the following prayer from David, we see a king with a desire to build a beautiful temple for God. His heart seemed to be set with the right motives, yet God had other plans and did not want David to move forward with this goal. David was not meant to be the man to build this temple. God’s ways are incredibly higher than ours. While we think we are honoring God with something we offer, it may not be what God desires or what He needs to happen at that time. While David may have held had a seemingly worthy dream of building a temple for God, the Lord did not want David to be the one to fulfill that act. Our Heavenly Father desired for David to take other actions in order to accomplish the role that was tailor-made for His life. God purposed Him for battle at that time, not building. David had to step back from what he believed was a worthy action to take and listen to what God held as important and ordained for Him. David’s response set a tone for obedience, which not only affected him, but his son, and kingdom as well. God, through His goodness and authority did not want David to build Him a house, but promised David that He would continue His line on the throne. He planned to allow David’s descendants a house that would last forever and achieve an everlasting reign with Jesus. After David realized his dream would not come to fruition, yet trusted that God was still with him, he offered this prayer to his Heavenly Father. David desired that the reputation of God would be lifted and praised for generations. 2 Samuel 7:18-29 says, “Then King David went in and sat before the LORD and said, “Who am I, O Lord GOD, and what is my house, that you have brought me thus far? And yet this was a small thing in your eyes, O Lord GOD. You have spoken also of your servant’s house for a great while to come, and this is instruction for mankind, O Lord GOD! And what more can David say to you? For you know your servant, O Lord GOD! Because of your promise, and according to your own heart, you have brought about all this greatness, to make your servant know it. Therefore you are great, O LORD God. For there is none like you, and there is no God besides you, according to all that we have heard with our ears. And who is like your people Israel, the one nation on earth whom God went to redeem to be his people, making himself a name and doing for them great and awesome things by driving out before your people, whom you redeemed for yourself from Egypt, a nation and its gods? And you established for yourself your people Israel to be your people forever. And you, O LORD, became their God. And now, O LORD God, confirm forever the word that you have spoken concerning your servant and concerning his house, and do as you have spoken. And your name will be magnified forever, saying, ‘The LORD of hosts is God over Israel,’ and the house of your servant David will be established before you. For you, O LORD of hosts, the God of Israel, have made this revelation to your servant, saying, ‘I will build you a house.’ Therefore your servant has found courage to pray this prayer to you. And now, O Lord GOD, you are God, and your words are true, and you have promised this good thing to your servant. Now therefore may it please you to bless the house of your servant, so that it may continue forever before you. For you, O Lord GOD, have spoken, and with your blessing shall the house of your servant be blessed forever.” What do we do when we believe the dreams we hold would be God-honoring, yet they are not coming to fruition? David sets the right examples for us to follow in the following steps. !. David remembered the blessings God had already given him. 2. David rejoiced over what he already held. 3. David resigned himself to obedience. 4. David relied on God’s future plans for him and trusted that they were good. 5. David redirected his spirit and attention to making many plans to prepare his son, Solomon for his important role in establishing the temple. It was not God’s will that David build the actual temple, because He had ordained a different role for David that only he could fulfill. Yet, our Heavenly Father did allow David to plan and prepare for the job Solomon would later complete. The Bible holds many examples of what humans planned and prepared for and what God held for them. Sometimes people waited and relied on the Lord, other times they took matters into their hands and walked ahead of God, later suffering the consequences. If we strive to learn and grow character like Christ, our reactions will mirror His no matter what circumstances we find ourselves in. John 5:19 says, “Then Jesus answered and said to them, “Most assuredly, I say to you, the Son can do nothing of Himself, but what He sees the Father do; for whatever He does, the Son also does in like manner.” Jesus is our perfect mentor and role model. He walked in sync with God because He looked for His Heavenly Father to direct His every step. Jesus placed God in His rightful place above all else. Psalm 16:8 says, “I have set the Lord always before me; because He is at my right hand I shall not be moved.” What are the best methods to mature our life so that we seek and follow God’s will, develop character like Christ, and live in the fulness of joy He desires? Here are ten simple tips. 1. Personal relationship with Jesus. John 3:16-18 says, “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because they have not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son. We must establish a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. John 14:6-7 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you really know Me, you will know my Father as well. From now on, you do know Him and have seen Him.” Study the life of Jesus. Love Him, recognize Him, and follow His ways. 2. Read the Bible. God truly does give us the instruction and wisdom we need in His Holy word. 3. Establish a prayerful life and relationship with God. We must converse with and listen to Him to know Him more intimately. 4. Humble yourself. We may have an intimate walk with our Heavenly Father through Jesus, but we are not on the same level as Him. 5. Seek His truth. The Bible, the Holy Spirit living inside us, and a prayerful life will transform us if we let it. 6. Surrender your will. Listen to the Holy Spirit inside and seek God above all else. 7. Obey God’s commands. Study His word so that you recognize Him and can discern between His good and perfect will and that of the world, your fleshly desires, and false believers. 8. Listen for His still and small voice. God is a gentleman. He will not force you to accept or follow Him. Steer your heart north to remain moving forward in the right direction as you mature in Him. 9. Surround yourself with others who love, listen to, and obey God. Life is sweeter when we have Christian friends who understand and encourage us. 10. Pay attention to the interests and talents He has given you. When we understand ourselves through God’s eyes and heart, we are better able to discern the callings He has and we receive the joy meant for us. Psalm 16:11 says, “You will show me the path of life; in Your presence is fullness of joy; at Your right hand are pleasures forevermore.” Our lives will carry hardship and pain. The glory of knowing and living for Jesus to develop and mature a heart and mindset like His brings the deepest peace, hope, love, and joy available this side of heaven. Hebrews 1:3 says, “He is the radiance of the glory of God and the exact imprint of his nature, and he upholds the universe by the word of his power. After making purification for sins, he sat down at the right hand of the Majesty on high.” May each day push us to be more like Him. I desire to attain and shine the radiance and character of Christ in my life more each day. I want others to see and know that He is everything His word says. I invite Him to be alive and at work within me. Heavenly Father, we thank you for the numerous ways You are at work in our lives, whether seen or unseen. Thank you for the privilege of approaching You. Thank you for leaving the Holy Spirit as a deposit within Your followers to guide and grow us. You have indeed, thought of everything we need. Help us to strive to know and please You more and more daily. We need and desire You in our lives. Lift our heart and minds and fix our eyes on You as our only Source of strength and guidance. Expand our desire to follow You and help us allow Your character to shine brightly through us, despite obstacles, failures, and disappointments. In Your precious name I pray. I deeply desire to allow God to cultivate a strong community of women through the work He has given me. I pray you will be inspired and equipped to live with an eternal perspective and encouraged to raise children for Jesus. Future episodes and resources will also be geared toward the important duty we have as parents and grandparents to influence children for Jesus. 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Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 046 Maturing Character Like Christ Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #046 – Maturing Character Like Christ Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Guess what I did last week? I went sledding! No, it didn’t snow where I live. I slid right down the basement stairs on my back, hitting each step with my back and tailbone first, then my head following the example set before it, banging down every. single. step. I thought I might stop after each bump, but my outstretched body did a very good job of making sure I touched each stair all the way down to the bottom, where I landed dazed and unable to move for several minutes as I fought nausea and sat shaking with adrenaline. As I work on this podcast I am sitting with an ice bag on my backside and laughing at myself inside. Thankfully, I will be okay. Although I’m still unable to go anywhere and I’ve had a few difficult days of barely being able to move, especially without pain. Why do I bring this up? I feel so blessed. When we choose to view life through an eternal viewpoint, we have to accept the blessings that come hidden in ugly packages. As much as I know my family loves me, I am still surprised and humbled by the gentle care each of them has given me. I cannot express the blessings and gratitude I feel with words that feel so inadequate. I am so thankful. The gentle, loving spirits that have attended to me come straight from God. Our Heavenly Father knows our needs. Sometimes He fills us with an overflowing cup. Other times He gives us just what we truly need and we must be satisfied. This week my cup has been flowing with gratitude beyond my needs to a bountiful supply that I pray extends to those around me. I’m still hobbling around and it is difficult to sit or lie down, but my nursing staff is ready to assist with anything I need. Why? Because their hearts are attuned to Jesus. They are following His lead and loving with His nature. 1 Chronicles 22:19a says, “Now set your heart and your soul to seek the Lord your God.” Our heart is revealed when our days are troubled and difficult. My injury could make them angry or frustrated because it impacts them, too. I haven’t seen that attitude in any of them. I’ve only seen love and concern. How do we handle hardships when they occur? What character is squeezed out of me when bad or hard things happen? Because they will happen. This fallen world is full of disease, misunderstandings, anger, hurt, betrayal, jealousy, accidents, and so much more. Look at the climate of our nation today as just one example. I’ve never seen us so divided. If we all viewed the world as Jesus and loved like Him daily, how different everything would be. I want a heart that constantly offers gratitude, even when my desires are not met and my spirit is disappointed. Even when my plans crumble and my wants are not filled. I cannot offer this type of thanks on my own. Only through Jesus in me can I begin to seek God through disappointment and heartache, pain and fear. Romans 5:1-5 says, “Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom also we have access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God. And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope. Now hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.” Living under pressure with our heart and mind fixed on Him produces character like Christ. As followers of Christ, we have the hope and trust that we are being transformed moment by moment. Can you feel the changes in your desires? In your heart and mindset as you seek Him? Do you recognize Him changing you, crafting your responses and attitude to mirror His? God will shift our life from the tribulation we are currently enduring when we persevere with reliance on Him, which moves us to a character mirroring His, and through His character, to a hope that endures. His grace and power are sufficient. Our afflictions are but for a moment in the scheme of eternity. God’s timetables are not understood because we do not have the whole picture. We must follow His leads by faith that matures through a close walk with Him. 1 John 5:1-5 says, “Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ has been born of God, and everyone who loves the Father loves whoever has been born of him. By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God and obey his commandments. For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments. And his commandments are not burdensome. For everyone who has been born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world—our faith. Who is it that overcomes the world except the one who believes that Jesus is the Son of God?” Let’s look at the basics. Christianity is very simple. Once we have established a personal relationship with Jesus, He lives within us in the form of the Holy Spirit. Despite anything this world offers or throws at us, we can be sure that Jesus is with us. Nothing can touch us without being sifted through the hands of the Father first. However, our human form is weak and we must ensure that we work daily to allow God to transform us, to help us see momentary troubles through the eyes and mindset of Jesus. The passage I read from 1 John 5 exposes where our heart lies. Is loving Jesus and keeping His commandments a problem? A burden? Or is it pure joy to see our beliefs altered in supernatural ways that prove the existence of the Holy Spirit living in us? Our desires, actions, and words identify where we place Jesus in our life. 1. What do I believe? How is that belief shown in my life? Are my desires and actions in alignment with what God calls? With His word? 2. What does my life look like? Am I living in ways that prove I follow Jesus? Am I striving to keep the commandments God set for me? 3. How do I love? Do I show it in my walk with Jesus and to those around me? To the strangers I meet? 4. Am I transforming daily? Is my life proof that I am changing daily? Am I living with my heart and mind focused on eternity? Do I understand that every word I speak, every choice I make affects my eternity, as well as the eternal heart set of those I live and interact with? Do I live with a peace that surpasses understanding? 5. Do I continue living in old ways that were set before I knew Jesus? Or am I being made new each day? Does conviction sting if I stray or make choices by my flesh? Am I living in ways that honor the commitment I made to God through following Jesus? Psalm 139:23-24 says, “Search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.” I always say that the difficulties in this world stem from the condition of our hearts. When our heart is right with Jesus, He builds the character of our hearts. Why is there such discord now? Why are friends turning their backs on others? I believe it comes from the residue in our hearts. What do we truly believe? Who do we truly follow? Are we reacting from emotions and feelings or kneeling in prayer before God and waiting for Him to lead and direct our lives? Are we looking for ways to be hurt? Or are we lifting all of it to Him to rectify? Are we seeking Him to purpose our reactions and emotions to reflect His? We should examine the motives of our heart by asking the following questions. 1. Am I following a religion? Do I just go through the motions of Christianity? 2. Am I following myself before Christ, with no compass to guide me except feelings and emotions? 3. Do I welcome the “hard” areas and painful areas of life by inviting Him to carry me and control my reactions? Do I allow Him to transform me daily? 4. Am I truly following Jesus? Whatever we allow to dictate our life will direct our relationships and actions, our words and beliefs. What we pattern our life after now is establishing our eternity. When we do not allow God full reign in our life, morals and relationships crumble. We are unable to react with character or compassion like Christ. When I fell down the stairs, I was disappointed because I was supposed to meet a friend I have not seen all year. I had to cancel. When we want to be saturated with the character of Christ, we must mature our mind to view disappointments as He would. We must be cautious in establishing plans. What does God desire for us? Are we moving toward what He has purposed for us? Or are we moving away from the dreams set by our Creator, because we are selfishly choosing to follow what we think will satisfy us? Am I saying God didn’t want me to meet with my friend? Not necessarily. I am reminding us that we must hold plans loosely. The way we respond when we are frustrated or let down sets our heart tone and can either move us closer to, or away from Jesus. The world tells us to set goals and follow our dreams. That’s a wonderful sentiment, but I want to follow God’s desires for my life. I want to be so connected to God and His whisperings to my soul that I recognize the desires He crafted in my heart. What do we do when our dreams fall apart? What if our ways are not God’s ways? In the following prayer from David, we see a king with a desire to build a beautiful temple for God. His heart seemed to be set with the right motives, yet God had other plans and did not want David to move forward with this goal. David was not meant to be the man to build this temple. God’s ways are incredibly higher than ours. While we think we are honoring God with something we offer, it may not be what God desires or what He needs to happen at that time. While David may have held had a seemingly worthy dream of building a temple for God, the Lord did not want David to be the one to fulfill that act. Our Heavenly Father desired for David to take other actions in order to accomplish the role that was tailor-made for His life. God purposed Him for battle at that time, not building. David had to step back from what he believed was a worthy action to take and listen to what God held as important and ordained for Him. David’s response set a tone for obedience, which not only affected him, but his son, and kingdom as well. God, through His goodness and authority did not want David to build Him a house, but promised David that He would continue His line on the throne. He planned to allow David’s descendants a house that would last forever and achieve an everlasting reign with Jesus. After David realized his dream would not come to fruition, yet trusted that God was still with him, he offered this prayer to his Heavenly Father. David desired that the reputation of God would be lifted and praised for generations. 2 Samuel 7:18-29 says, “Then King David went in and sat before the LORD and said, “Who am I, O Lord GOD, and what is my house, that you have brought me thus far? And yet this was a small thing in your eyes, O Lord GOD. You have spoken also of your servant’s house for a great while to come, and this is instruction for mankind, O Lord GOD! And what more can David say to you? For you know your servant, O Lord GOD! Because of your promise, and according to your own heart, you have brought about all this greatness, to make your servant know it. Therefore you are great, O LORD God. For there is none like you, and there is no God besides you, according to all that we have heard with our ears. And who is like your people Israel, the one nation on earth whom God went to redeem to be his people, making himself a name and doing for them great and awesome things by driving out before your people, whom you redeemed for yourself from Egypt, a nation and its gods? And you established for yourself your people Israel to be your people forever. And you, O LORD, became their God. And now, O LORD God, confirm forever the word that you have spoken concerning your servant and concerning his house, and do as you have spoken. And your name will be magnified forever, saying, ‘The LORD of hosts is God over Israel,’ and the house of your servant David will be established before you. For you, O LORD of hosts, the God of Israel, have made this revelation to your servant, saying, ‘I will build you a house.’ Therefore your servant has found courage to pray this prayer to you. And now, O Lord GOD, you are God, and your words are true, and you have promised this good thing to your servant. Now therefore may it please you to bless the house of your servant, so that it may continue forever before you. For you, O Lord GOD, have spoken, and with your blessing shall the house of your servant be blessed forever.” What do we do when we believe the dreams we hold would be God-honoring, yet they are not coming to fruition? David sets the right examples for us to follow in the following steps. !. David remembered the blessings God had already given him. 2. David rejoiced over what he already held. 3. David resigned himself to obedience. 4. David relied on God’s future plans for him and trusted that they were good. 5. David redirected his spirit and attention to making many plans to prepare his son, Solomon for his important role in establishing the temple. It was not God’s will that David build the actual temple, because He had ordained a different role for David that only he could fulfill. Yet, our Heavenly Father did allow David to plan and prepare for the job Solomon would later complete. The Bible holds many examples of what humans planned and prepared for and what God held for them. Sometimes people waited and relied on the Lord, other times they took matters into their hands and walked ahead of God, later suffering the consequences. If we strive to learn and grow character like Christ, our reactions will mirror His no matter what circumstances we find ourselves in. John 5:19 says, “Then Jesus answered and said to them, “Most assuredly, I say to you, the Son can do nothing of Himself, but what He sees the Father do; for whatever He does, the Son also does in like manner.” Jesus is our perfect mentor and role model. He walked in sync with God because He looked for His Heavenly Father to direct His every step. Jesus placed God in His rightful place above all else. Psalm 16:8 says, “I have set the Lord always before me; because He is at my right hand I shall not be moved.” What are the best methods to mature our life so that we seek and follow God’s will, develop character like Christ, and live in the fulness of joy He desires? Here are ten simple tips. 1. Personal relationship with Jesus. John 3:16-18 says, “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because they have not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son. We must establish a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. John 14:6-7 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you really know Me, you will know my Father as well. From now on, you do know Him and have seen Him.” Study the life of Jesus. Love Him, recognize Him, and follow His ways. 2. Read the Bible. God truly does give us the instruction and wisdom we need in His Holy word. 3. Establish a prayerful life and relationship with God. We must converse with and listen to Him to know Him more intimately. 4. Humble yourself. We may have an intimate walk with our Heavenly Father through Jesus, but we are not on the same level as Him. 5. Seek His truth. The Bible, the Holy Spirit living inside us, and a prayerful life will transform us if we let it. 6. Surrender your will. Listen to the Holy Spirit inside and seek God above all else. 7. Obey God’s commands. Study His word so that you recognize Him and can discern between His good and perfect will and that of the world, your fleshly desires, and false believers. 8. Listen for His still and small voice. God is a gentleman. He will not force you to accept or follow Him. Steer your heart north to remain moving forward in the right direction as you mature in Him. 9. Surround yourself with others who love, listen to, and obey God. Life is sweeter when we have Christian friends who understand and encourage us. 10. Pay attention to the interests and talents He has given you. When we understand ourselves through God’s eyes and heart, we are better able to discern the callings He has and we receive the joy meant for us. Psalm 16:11 says, “You will show me the path of life; in Your presence is fullness of joy; at Your right hand are pleasures forevermore.” Our lives will carry hardship and pain. The glory of knowing and living for Jesus to develop and mature a heart and mindset like His brings the deepest peace, hope, love, and joy available this side of heaven. Hebrews 1:3 says, “He is the radiance of the glory of God and the exact imprint of his nature, and he upholds the universe by the word of his power. After making purification for sins, he sat down at the right hand of the Majesty on high.” May each day push us to be more like Him. I desire to attain and shine the radiance and character of Christ in my life more each day. I want others to see and know that He is everything His word says. I invite Him to be alive and at work within me. Heavenly Father, we thank you for the numerous ways You are at work in our lives, whether seen or unseen. Thank you for the privilege of approaching You. Thank you for leaving the Holy Spirit as a deposit within Your followers to guide and grow us. You have indeed, thought of everything we need. Help us to strive to know and please You more and more daily. We need and desire You in our lives. Lift our heart and minds and fix our eyes on You as our only Source of strength and guidance. Expand our desire to follow You and help us allow Your character to shine brightly through us, despite obstacles, failures, and disappointments. In Your precious name I pray. I deeply desire to allow God to cultivate a strong community of women through the work He has given me. I pray you will be inspired and equipped to live with an eternal perspective and encouraged to raise children for Jesus. Future episodes and resources will also be geared toward the important duty we have as parents and grandparents to influence children for Jesus. If you enjoy this podcast, you might like to visit terrihitt.com, where you can subscribe to the website (for free) and gain access to all the podcasts housed in one convenient location, as well as receive access to blog posts, transcripts, and additional free resources that are added to regularly. Many will be resources directly connected to podcast episodes. The Live With Eternal Perspective podcast is currently linked to my new website and also plays on Apple Podcast and Spotify. Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and learn how to live with more eternal perspective? Can you think of a friend or family member who might enjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them and take time to leave a quick rating and review. 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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #098 – How Big is Your God - Interview with Cindy Newland Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Because of the internet, I have met many women I consider friends. Our greatest ties are adoption, usually from China. Would be friends if we met in person? I believe so. The bonds woven through shared and understood adoption stories, the gift of truly understanding the gospel in a deeper and more intimate way through the grace of adoption, and the high and low emotional journeys through crafting new lives and families together, plus the triumphs and tragedies of love, loss, and medical miracles raise your friendship to levels untouched in day to day life. We love one another’s children, pray for them, and cheer them on through personal struggles and precious moments shared on the web. I feel like I have met most of them in person. We share an unspoken understanding, a trust, and a hope that we are not alone. Not in this world and certainly not in eternity when we or our children pass on. Our ties are fierce; we weep and grieve when hardship hits another. I don’t remember when I first met Cindy. It honestly feels like I’ve known her from the beginning of our adoption journey back in 2005. In reality, it was probably after our second adoption that we became acquainted. We share a respect and appreciation for each other that is rooted in relationship with Christ and in the way Jesus linked us through our love for our children who happened to be born in another country, as well as those still waiting. I invite you to listen today as Cindy shares a theme threaded throughout her life and proves to us just how big her God is and weaves a verbal tapestry of what He has done in her life. -----------------------------------------------INTERVIEW-------------------------------------------------- Does listening to Cindy’s story make you appreciate how big God is? Does it remind you to appreciate Him more as you think about what He has done in your life, too? Does it make you think about what can you do for Him? Stepping forward in obedience when we hear God’s call is one of the greatest ways to show our love for Him. What is He calling you to do? What changes might He want in your life? How big is your God? He is the Great I Am, the Beginning and the End, our Provider and Protector, our Comforter. You may not be called to adopt, but what about helping fund the adoption of another family? What about praying consistently for someone in the process? Maybe God is moving your life in an entirely different direction. What will you do when you feel and hear Him call? How will you answer the Creator of the Universe when He whispers your name and taps your heart? Father God, You alone are good. You are holy. You are sovereign. You are the Beginning and the End. You create each of us with a purpose. You mean good for our lives and Your glory. You don’t need us, but delight in relationship with us. Thank you for Your all-encompassing eternal love and compassion for us. Thank you for choosing us, for creating us with a purpose that fills our spirit will joy and gladness, even through pain when we trust in You and continue pursuing fellowship with, and obedience to You. You warned us we would have trouble. You told us we would be persecuted, but You also promised to carry us through it all. Remind us to keep looking Up to You. Deepen our faith, our hope, our trust in You. May we please You when You look inside our hearts, when You watch the actions we make, hear the words we say, and know the attitude with which we live. In the precious name of Your Holy Son we pray. Amen. Cindy Newland is known as Cindy Champnella, and is the author of two books, “The Waiting Child: How the Faith and Love of One Orphan Saved the Life of Another” and “The Twelve Gifts of Life: Finding Extraordinary Meaning in Ordinary Moments.” She is an acclaimed speaker who has presented to numerous civic, community, and religious groups all over the United States. Cindy has appeared on several TV programs including NBC's "The John Walsh Show," dozens of nationally syndicated radio programs including "The Mitch Albom Show" and "The Al Kresta Show" and the internationally syndicated "Voice of America." She has published features in numerous publications, including Ladies Home Journal and Women's Weekly. Cindy is a feature writer for Adoption Today and a former guest columnist for The Detroit News. She is a keynote speaker at conferences and forums, including an appearance at Duke University. Cindy is married and has 5 daughters. She also has a B.A. from Albion College, a M.A. in business, a M.A. in psychology from Central Michigan University, and a PhD. in psychology. All proceeds from her first book were designated for the charity, Half the Sky Foundation. You can find her books at Amazon.com. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, I invite you to help others find the podcast. I have two requests. If you are able, please go to Apple Podcasts and leave a rating and review to push the podcast out for more people to find. Without good reviews, others won’t hear the episodes designed to mature walks with Christ and equip all to live for eternity now. You can also share podcast episodes with friends and family so that they can begin to listen each week. You can share my website, terrihitt.com and let others know that on it they will be able to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature their walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage them to raise or influence children and grandchildren to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 098 How Big Is Your God - Interview with Cindy Newland Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #098 – How Big is Your God - Interview with Cindy Newland Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Because of the internet, I have met many women I consider friends. Our greatest ties are adoption, usually from China. Would be friends if we met in person? I believe so. The bonds woven through shared and understood adoption stories, the gift of truly understanding the gospel in a deeper and more intimate way through the grace of adoption, and the high and low emotional journeys through crafting new lives and families together, plus the triumphs and tragedies of love, loss, and medical miracles raise your friendship to levels untouched in day to day life. We love one another’s children, pray for them, and cheer them on through personal struggles and precious moments shared on the web. I feel like I have met most of them in person. We share an unspoken understanding, a trust, and a hope that we are not alone. Not in this world and certainly not in eternity when we or our children pass on. Our ties are fierce; we weep and grieve when hardship hits another. I don’t remember when I first met Cindy. It honestly feels like I’ve known her from the beginning of our adoption journey back in 2005. In reality, it was probably after our second adoption that we became acquainted. We share a respect and appreciation for each other that is rooted in relationship with Christ and in the way Jesus linked us through our love for our children who happened to be born in another country, as well as those still waiting. I invite you to listen today as Cindy shares a theme threaded throughout her life and proves to us just how big her God is and weaves a verbal tapestry of what He has done in her life. -----------------------------------------------INTERVIEW-------------------------------------------------- Does listening to Cindy’s story make you appreciate how big God is? Does it remind you to appreciate Him more as you think about what He has done in your life, too? Does it make you think about what can you do for Him? Stepping forward in obedience when we hear God’s call is one of the greatest ways to show our love for Him. What is He calling you to do? What changes might He want in your life? How big is your God? He is the Great I Am, the Beginning and the End, our Provider and Protector, our Comforter. You may not be called to adopt, but what about helping fund the adoption of another family? What about praying consistently for someone in the process? Maybe God is moving your life in an entirely different direction. What will you do when you feel and hear Him call? How will you answer the Creator of the Universe when He whispers your name and taps your heart? Father God, You alone are good. You are holy. You are sovereign. You are the Beginning and the End. You create each of us with a purpose. You mean good for our lives and Your glory. You don’t need us, but delight in relationship with us. Thank you for Your all-encompassing eternal love and compassion for us. Thank you for choosing us, for creating us with a purpose that fills our spirit will joy and gladness, even through pain when we trust in You and continue pursuing fellowship with, and obedience to You. You warned us we would have trouble. You told us we would be persecuted, but You also promised to carry us through it all. Remind us to keep looking Up to You. Deepen our faith, our hope, our trust in You. May we please You when You look inside our hearts, when You watch the actions we make, hear the words we say, and know the attitude with which we live. In the precious name of Your Holy Son we pray. Amen. Cindy Newland is known as Cindy Champnella, and is the author of two books, “The Waiting Child: How the Faith and Love of One Orphan Saved the Life of Another” and “The Twelve Gifts of Life: Finding Extraordinary Meaning in Ordinary Moments.” She is an acclaimed speaker who has presented to numerous civic, community, and religious groups all over the United States. Cindy has appeared on several TV programs including NBC's "The John Walsh Show," dozens of nationally syndicated radio programs including "The Mitch Albom Show" and "The Al Kresta Show" and the internationally syndicated "Voice of America." She has published features in numerous publications, including Ladies Home Journal and Women's Weekly. Cindy is a feature writer for Adoption Today and a former guest columnist for The Detroit News. She is a keynote speaker at conferences and forums, including an appearance at Duke University. Cindy is married and has 5 daughters. She also has a B.A. from Albion College, a M.A. in business, a M.A. in psychology from Central Michigan University, and a PhD. in psychology. All proceeds from her first book were designated for the charity, Half the Sky Foundation. You can find her books at Amazon.com. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, I invite you to help others find the podcast. I have two requests. If you are able, please go to Apple Podcasts and leave a rating and review to push the podcast out for more people to find. Without good reviews, others won’t hear the episodes designed to mature walks with Christ and equip all to live for eternity now. You can also share podcast episodes with friends and family so that they can begin to listen each week. You can share my website, terrihitt.com and let others know that on it they will be able to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature their walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage them to raise or influence children and grandchildren to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #040 – Personal Mission Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. This morning Brooklyn, my youngest, and I were working together in the kitchen. As I diced vegetables, we discussed the pattern inside the cut head of cauliflower. Have you ever scraped off the top layer and viewed the detailed pattern underneath? It reminded us of a snowflake, which led us into a discussion of how intricately God formed all things and how much intelligent thought and purpose is witnessed in all of creation. Beauty in cauliflower? Yes, the curiously-shaped vegetable! God is the expert in originality. I am awed by such unique and original creations of God. We see Him through all of nature, in animals, in humans. Throughout science and math, in His plan for humanity, His sovereignty, and in His plan of redemption. Everything holds the thumb print and signature of our glorious God. Even cauliflower. Do you love those moments where we can find God’s glorious artistry in something so simple? Naturally including God in simple life events is crucial to growing our walk and advancing the journey of our children for Jesus. Ephesians 1:17 says, “that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and of revelation in the knowledge of Him.” God has not only extended us beautiful spiritual riches. Our Heavenly Father also gifted us with the ability to intimately know Him through Jesus. We can seek and reach God through His Son, allowing us access to the intellect, emotions, and will of God. When we acknowledge and exclaim the beauty in something as simple as a vegetable, we allow ourselves and those around us, in the circle of our influence, to proclaim the majesty of God for themselves and carve a deeper understanding and appreciation for themselves. I believe it causes us to yearn more for our Heavenly Father and His presence in our life, even in the smallest of details. We recognize the abilities and style of God in new and personal ways. On the podcast last week, we discussed the specifics my family worked together to establish in creating our set of “Hitt Family Principles.” The activity held a very special and eternal significance for each of us. It seemed a small task, but brought us together as we prayerfully considered and verbalized what we wanted to use as a template to move our family forward on a united path to God. Establishing such a set of principles is not necessary for a family to grow together in Christ or to have a strong relationship with God, but it is a very intentional move in ensuring that each of us clearly knows and understands what our family believes and how we desire to accomplish specific Christian growth. I bring this activity up again this week because I believe it is also a beautiful and significant exercise for each of us to do individually, as well. Yes, it can be argued that the family principles should be personal principles, as well. However, I expect that any of us who spend time working on such a task with our family would also want to elevate and clearly keep personal goals in the forefront of our mind and heart, as well. Let me pause here and do a recap for those who listened to the podcast last week and give a brief rundown of what we did for anyone who did not listen to last week’s episode. If you would like to listen to the full podcast where I discuss what we did in full, please refer Episode #039 Family With A Mission. My family and I brain-stormed together to design a set of what we call the “Hitt Family Principles.” We used a business model to generate the framework we build for spiritual goals in our relationship with Jesus. We created it to guide and keep us connected with the same purpose in deepening our walk with God and reminding ourselves and others who and what our family stands for as a united group. I will share what we established. Core Value: We strive to live with eternal perspective through Jesus. Vision Statement: To love, trust, honor, and obey Jesus and grow in faith through Him. Mission Statement: Our family strives to honor God, intentionally pursue God, and show love and respect to Him, and others, while remaining obedient to Him. Key Verse: “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.” Deuteronomy 6:5 Again, going from how a business usually works to create how they want their business to grow and exist, our family used the same basic framework to pattern the direction of our principles. Let’s begin with the vision statement. It describes what the organization will look like in the future. A mission statement, on the other hand, describes what an organization does, and for whom. How greatly these tools can be used to guide and grow families together in the same, eternal direction! If the vision statement describes what the family will look like in the future, it offers us an opportunity to establish exactly who and how we want to be for Jesus. It gives us the ability to have a clear vision to move forward, enabling us to advance our walk with purpose. How often do we set goals, but fall short because we do not set a clear vision for how to get there? We definitely have a much greater chance of pleasing God with this clear plan in the front of our mind and heart. It serves as a guiding compass straight north to the heart of our Father. Next, is the mission statement. It is used to establish what the family does and for whom, and we know that there is no greater “whom” than the Great I AM! Also shaped at the same time were the core values that completed the statements we created. Core values are what support the vision, shape the culture and reflect what our family values. Our core values also educate others outside our home, those we come into contact with during the course of different days, showing what our family holds dear. The core values also help to clarify the identity of our family, hopefully brightly shining Christ and our desire to be more like Him. We also chose to add a key verse that we each agree sets the heart and tone for our family, as well as for each of us, as individuals. Although we have printed out our set of principles, I am looking for a special way to beautifully display them in our home so that the words, like promises to God, are visible and noticeable for each of us daily. Because constructing the principles together was an enjoyable and blessed activity for each of us, I want to go further in depth with personal principles. Although I have been a Christian for many years, I have never set my heart on a purposed set of standards that I have prayed over and recorded as a guide to deepen my relationship with God. I know in my heart what to do and purposely work toward that goal with intention, yet I want to experience time alone with God to see what He may reveal to me as what He has individually purposed for me. I desire for my family to do the same. Quiet time with God is never wasted, and I wonder what deeper treasures He may offer us in our walk with Him. How much deeper will we know our Heavenly Father through intentioned pursuit in this special, detailed way? Just as some people make new year resolutions, our family usually starts the new year with a word for the year. I love how it causes us to focus with determination on experiencing God in new ways through that word. But now I desire to take that deeper with a set of personal principles. I plan to use the same basic guidelines with finding a private core value, vision, mission, and key verse. How will God work through this? I don’t know yet, but I’m excited and know that I will be blessed to discover what He does. Will He give me words that I will use forever or will He have me change yearly as I continue to progress in my walk with Him? How about you? Let me know if you have already done this and how you set your standards or constructed your personal principles. I urge you to make time to sit with God and let Him guide you in selecting your own set of family and personal principles. I suspect that what I think might be the words and verse I choose may be quite different after prayerful consideration. Who knows what God might lead me to. I’m excited to see and growth in spiritual and personal depth with my Heavenly Father. Luke 2:52 tells us, “And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men.” Jesus, even as a boy, intentionally increased and strengthened His relationship with God in every area: mental, (with His wisdom), spiritual, (with His favor from God), and social, (as He displayed God in every way). Jesus advanced His walk with God daily and purposefully. What a perfect role model we have in Jesus. What a gift God gave us through His Son, His Holy word, and our lifeline of prayer. Developing personal principles seems such a simple action. Jesus always took common and simple aspects of life that should have been obvious to the Jewish people and made short stories, or parables, to teach and reach people as nothing else could. Jesus worked and still works, through divine, but straightforward methods that cause us to pause and ponder, and often be convicted. I pray I am convicted in new ways as I delve into creating this personal set of principles. He looks for those of us with hearts open to seek Him, who desire to be influenced, and changed by Him. As I pray for His guidance and truths to craft a personal principle framework to specifically guide me in new ways, I believe God will unveil new realizations or perceptions to me in unique means specifically tailored for me and where I am in my journey with Him. I am ready for more growth. How about you? Would you join me in seeking Him for a set of personal principles that exist to advance your relationship through Jesus? I would be blessed to hear what you allow God to create through you. Father God, please work through each of us to expose more of what You desire from and through us. Help us to crave you in the way Jesus did. May we allow You to shine in all areas of our life. Please peel away layers of humanity and shine Your holiness through us. Help us to realize daily how far we are from You and may we intentionally advance our dependence on, and wisdom through You. May we honor You with every thought, word, and action and continually find new ways to live with our mind set for eternity with You in ways that are pleasing to You right now. Amen. Thank you for listening to this episode. If you enjoy this podcast, you might like to hear that the terrihitt.com website launches within the next few days! Please visit and subscribe to be a member so that you gain access to all the podcasts housed in one convenient location, as well as receive access to blog posts, and free resources that will be added to weekly. I deeply desire to allow God to cultivate a strong community of women through the work He has given me. May we all be inspired and equipped to live with an eternal perspective and be influenced to raise children for Jesus, not this momentary world. Did you enjoy this episode? Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and learn how to live with more eternal perspective? Can you think of a friend or family member who might enjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them and take time to leave a quick rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast. Until next week, keep looking Up and finding new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 040 Personal Mission Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #040 – Personal Mission Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. This morning Brooklyn, my youngest, and I were working together in the kitchen. As I diced vegetables, we discussed the pattern inside the cut head of cauliflower. Have you ever scraped off the top layer and viewed the detailed pattern underneath? It reminded us of a snowflake, which led us into a discussion of how intricately God formed all things and how much intelligent thought and purpose is witnessed in all of creation. Beauty in cauliflower? Yes, the curiously-shaped vegetable! God is the expert in originality. I am awed by such unique and original creations of God. We see Him through all of nature, in animals, in humans. Throughout science and math, in His plan for humanity, His sovereignty, and in His plan of redemption. Everything holds the thumb print and signature of our glorious God. Even cauliflower. Do you love those moments where we can find God’s glorious artistry in something so simple? Naturally including God in simple life events is crucial to growing our walk and advancing the journey of our children for Jesus. Ephesians 1:17 says, “that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and of revelation in the knowledge of Him.” God has not only extended us beautiful spiritual riches. Our Heavenly Father also gifted us with the ability to intimately know Him through Jesus. We can seek and reach God through His Son, allowing us access to the intellect, emotions, and will of God. When we acknowledge and exclaim the beauty in something as simple as a vegetable, we allow ourselves and those around us, in the circle of our influence, to proclaim the majesty of God for themselves and carve a deeper understanding and appreciation for themselves. I believe it causes us to yearn more for our Heavenly Father and His presence in our life, even in the smallest of details. We recognize the abilities and style of God in new and personal ways. On the podcast last week, we discussed the specifics my family worked together to establish in creating our set of “Hitt Family Principles.” The activity held a very special and eternal significance for each of us. It seemed a small task, but brought us together as we prayerfully considered and verbalized what we wanted to use as a template to move our family forward on a united path to God. Establishing such a set of principles is not necessary for a family to grow together in Christ or to have a strong relationship with God, but it is a very intentional move in ensuring that each of us clearly knows and understands what our family believes and how we desire to accomplish specific Christian growth. I bring this activity up again this week because I believe it is also a beautiful and significant exercise for each of us to do individually, as well. Yes, it can be argued that the family principles should be personal principles, as well. However, I expect that any of us who spend time working on such a task with our family would also want to elevate and clearly keep personal goals in the forefront of our mind and heart, as well. Let me pause here and do a recap for those who listened to the podcast last week and give a brief rundown of what we did for anyone who did not listen to last week’s episode. If you would like to listen to the full podcast where I discuss what we did in full, please refer Episode #039 Family With A Mission. My family and I brain-stormed together to design a set of what we call the “Hitt Family Principles.” We used a business model to generate the framework we build for spiritual goals in our relationship with Jesus. We created it to guide and keep us connected with the same purpose in deepening our walk with God and reminding ourselves and others who and what our family stands for as a united group. I will share what we established. Core Value: We strive to live with eternal perspective through Jesus. Vision Statement: To love, trust, honor, and obey Jesus and grow in faith through Him. Mission Statement: Our family strives to honor God, intentionally pursue God, and show love and respect to Him, and others, while remaining obedient to Him. Key Verse: “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.” Deuteronomy 6:5 Again, going from how a business usually works to create how they want their business to grow and exist, our family used the same basic framework to pattern the direction of our principles. Let’s begin with the vision statement. It describes what the organization will look like in the future. A mission statement, on the other hand, describes what an organization does, and for whom. How greatly these tools can be used to guide and grow families together in the same, eternal direction! If the vision statement describes what the family will look like in the future, it offers us an opportunity to establish exactly who and how we want to be for Jesus. It gives us the ability to have a clear vision to move forward, enabling us to advance our walk with purpose. How often do we set goals, but fall short because we do not set a clear vision for how to get there? We definitely have a much greater chance of pleasing God with this clear plan in the front of our mind and heart. It serves as a guiding compass straight north to the heart of our Father. Next, is the mission statement. It is used to establish what the family does and for whom, and we know that there is no greater “whom” than the Great I AM! Also shaped at the same time were the core values that completed the statements we created. Core values are what support the vision, shape the culture and reflect what our family values. Our core values also educate others outside our home, those we come into contact with during the course of different days, showing what our family holds dear. The core values also help to clarify the identity of our family, hopefully brightly shining Christ and our desire to be more like Him. We also chose to add a key verse that we each agree sets the heart and tone for our family, as well as for each of us, as individuals. Although we have printed out our set of principles, I am looking for a special way to beautifully display them in our home so that the words, like promises to God, are visible and noticeable for each of us daily. Because constructing the principles together was an enjoyable and blessed activity for each of us, I want to go further in depth with personal principles. Although I have been a Christian for many years, I have never set my heart on a purposed set of standards that I have prayed over and recorded as a guide to deepen my relationship with God. I know in my heart what to do and purposely work toward that goal with intention, yet I want to experience time alone with God to see what He may reveal to me as what He has individually purposed for me. I desire for my family to do the same. Quiet time with God is never wasted, and I wonder what deeper treasures He may offer us in our walk with Him. How much deeper will we know our Heavenly Father through intentioned pursuit in this special, detailed way? Just as some people make new year resolutions, our family usually starts the new year with a word for the year. I love how it causes us to focus with determination on experiencing God in new ways through that word. But now I desire to take that deeper with a set of personal principles. I plan to use the same basic guidelines with finding a private core value, vision, mission, and key verse. How will God work through this? I don’t know yet, but I’m excited and know that I will be blessed to discover what He does. Will He give me words that I will use forever or will He have me change yearly as I continue to progress in my walk with Him? How about you? Let me know if you have already done this and how you set your standards or constructed your personal principles. I urge you to make time to sit with God and let Him guide you in selecting your own set of family and personal principles. I suspect that what I think might be the words and verse I choose may be quite different after prayerful consideration. Who knows what God might lead me to. I’m excited to see and growth in spiritual and personal depth with my Heavenly Father. Luke 2:52 tells us, “And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men.” Jesus, even as a boy, intentionally increased and strengthened His relationship with God in every area: mental, (with His wisdom), spiritual, (with His favor from God), and social, (as He displayed God in every way). Jesus advanced His walk with God daily and purposefully. What a perfect role model we have in Jesus. What a gift God gave us through His Son, His Holy word, and our lifeline of prayer. Developing personal principles seems such a simple action. Jesus always took common and simple aspects of life that should have been obvious to the Jewish people and made short stories, or parables, to teach and reach people as nothing else could. Jesus worked and still works, through divine, but straightforward methods that cause us to pause and ponder, and often be convicted. I pray I am convicted in new ways as I delve into creating this personal set of principles. He looks for those of us with hearts open to seek Him, who desire to be influenced, and changed by Him. As I pray for His guidance and truths to craft a personal principle framework to specifically guide me in new ways, I believe God will unveil new realizations or perceptions to me in unique means specifically tailored for me and where I am in my journey with Him. I am ready for more growth. How about you? Would you join me in seeking Him for a set of personal principles that exist to advance your relationship through Jesus? I would be blessed to hear what you allow God to create through you. Father God, please work through each of us to expose more of what You desire from and through us. Help us to crave you in the way Jesus did. May we allow You to shine in all areas of our life. Please peel away layers of humanity and shine Your holiness through us. Help us to realize daily how far we are from You and may we intentionally advance our dependence on, and wisdom through You. May we honor You with every thought, word, and action and continually find new ways to live with our mind set for eternity with You in ways that are pleasing to You right now. Amen. Thank you for listening to this episode. If you enjoy this podcast, you might like to hear that the terrihitt.com website launches within the next few days! Please visit and subscribe to be a member so that you gain access to all the podcasts housed in one convenient location, as well as receive access to blog posts, and free resources that will be added to weekly. I deeply desire to allow God to cultivate a strong community of women through the work He has given me. May we all be inspired and equipped to live with an eternal perspective and be influenced to raise children for Jesus, not this momentary world. Did you enjoy this episode? Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and learn how to live with more eternal perspective? Can you think of a friend or family member who might enjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them and take time to leave a quick rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast. Until next week, keep looking Up and finding new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #153 – Change from a Good to Godly Woman and Mother Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. Goodness! I can’t believe school has started once again and the gorgeous days of summer will soon be moving out, ushering in crisper, cooler air. This time of year always makes me a little sad. I long for summer to last indefinitely. Since nothing lasts forever, seasons are a beautiful reminder of why we need to live with eternal perspective. Have you had days, weeks, or years of life that you want to last forever? Or maybe right now you feel the opposite. Do you wonder how much longer you have to endure the season you are experiencing? Change can be good. Especially when we aren’t aware that we are not living in ways that God desires for us. Change can become the catalyst that moves us to be in sync with the next transformation God has for us. I distinctly remember a time I’m glad I moved away from. There was a period in my life when I wanted to make sure I was a good person. A good woman. A good wife. A good daughter. A good mother. As my relationship with Jesus matured, I understood that limiting myself to “good” was “ungodly.” God calls believers to a much higher standard than good. Good isn’t good enough for God. It’s true that in the beginning when God created, He exclaimed that what He made was good. However, God is proclaiming His creations are good, not that we individually or collectively are. What I mean is that what God created is by His intelligent and perfect design. Anything He makes is good. Yet, in this sinful, fallen world, it didn’t take long for God’s creations to choose sin. Without Christ indwelling us, we continue to move farther from God. Without the Holy Spirit within us, there is no perfection or godliness. In fact, we are unable to claim the status of “good,” let alone “godly.” So how do you and I move from desiring a good life to building godly lives? Only through Christ. Once believers see our need for God, we begin to realize the need for His perfect Son, Jesus to pay the price for our sin. Once we realize the need for a Savior, and accept the free gift Jesus offers, we are able to live with His Holy Spirit within us. We are no longer bound to the world and the sinful temptations. Through relationship with Him, the Holy Word, and prayerful conversations with God, we can experience a shift from good to godly. That is, if we are seeking Him and a humble, obedient, close connection daily. What we desire must be held up to a mirror, so to speak, as we look at how our desires are reflected against what God calls for us in His holy Word. My heart fills with joy when I remember the time between when my first set of children were raised and before my husband and I knew that God was calling us to adopt a sweet baby from China. Before we knew our daughter was waiting for us, I was experiencing deeper growth in my spiritual walk with Christ. Slowly by slowly, I allowed God greater access to me. I wish I could profess to be one of those people who surrender fully in the moment they accept Christ, but the truth is that each of us have varying degrees of surrender throughout our lifetime. We never reach that finish line in this life. We are so very far beneath God, and so far from Him, that our lifetime should be focused on pursuing deeper relationship with Him and continuing to surrender self. As my relationship with Jesus deepened and widened, I thought back to when my husband and I had raised our first two children. I was not a Christian when my first two were born. Although I came to follow Jesus when they were young, I wasn’t well discipled. I wasted so many years thinking I was “good” and not striving to be godly. Would you like to know my deepest regret? Although my children always heard about Jesus, and knew I loved and followed Him, I did not know to intentionally disciple them. I didn’t yet understand that the Christian walk is a beautiful relationship between God and man. I didn’t understand the command in Deuteronomy 6:5-9, which says, “You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” I assumed that what I was doing to teach my children about Jesus was enough. In reality, they were learning my limited faith, and since I was not growing as well as I should have been, they were only able to mimic a portion of my faith and not being discipled well to chase Christ for themselves. As my husband and I grew our walk with Jesus, we knew with certainty that God was calling us to travel to China to bring home the baby God had waiting to be ours. Before we went, we prayed together daily for the girl she would grow to be. Our heart desired that she be a light for Jesus, that she pursue Him with a pure heart, and that she would be an inspiration for others to follow Him. I remember the days I worked backwards, formulating a plan to raise her with very high goals. Ten years later when we returned to China to bring home our last child, the “master plan” for raising our girls for Christ had been practiced, and our youngest enabled us to continue the course with another beautiful soul to nourish for Jesus. Although there are so many important details I’m not including here, this story is so important to me, because our second step into parenting with a new generation of children was very intentional. My mind and heart was fixed, anchored on Christ through all obstacles. My husband and I committed to stand on that firm foundation. When deep waters swirled around us, when tragedy and troubles plagued our home, we tightened our grip on that three-fold cord that kept God in the center of all. No matter what happened, we remained committed to raising our girls and influencing our grown son and grandson for Christ. Just as I began this podcast almost four years ago through an act of obedience when I knew God was whispering to me to begin one, I know He is now calling me to end this show. I’ve waited through the summer months to ensure I knew for sure what He was calling, but I recently came to realize that waiting any longer to make sure my choice is good, or what God is calling when I know the peace I have in my heart to end the podcast is actually a form of disobedience. Even if I never intended it to be. So what is next? My heart sings with joy when I encourage and equip busy mothers to move past guilt, anxiety, frustration, or the variety of other emotions this world presses upon us. God has greatly pressed upon my heart the need for me, as an older mother, to wrap my arm around you and help you move from these emotions or feelings to a place of peace. I want to encourage and equip mothers to create close connection with Christ and her children and raise kids who chase Christ over culture. Mothers and grandmothers too, it is time to rise and raise children who know and honor God. The effects of this culture have run rampant for too long. How long will mothers sit back and watch as children follow peers over parents or Christ? It doesn’t matter how good a parent you want to be or are. God calls you and I to be holy, godly mothers. There is nothing greater we can do than fix our heart and mind above and focus on the methods given by God to raise children for Him. I invite you to follow my other podcast, Purposed Parent/Connected Child. I urge you to please leave a review and rate the show so that others may find it. If we don’t purposely lead our children to Christ, the world will sway them away. It starts with you and me. Our life must be so focused on living godly lives through Christ that our children clearly see Him through us and desire Him for themselves. It's time to stop the attachment our children have with peers and teach them the way to attachment with Christ. It starts with the parent. That means you and me. I have so much to share in future Purposed Parent/Connected Child episodes. A new season begins very soon. I pray you will be moved from a good to godly woman and mother as you listen to the episodes. Dear Heavenly Father, You alone are holy. You alone are greater than the good we desire. Move us from good to godly in the ways You know we need. Help us to be more and more pleasing to You each moment. May our heart and mind be in sync with Your desires for us as we move ever nearer to You. Father, I thank you for Your Word, Your perfect guidance. May we understand You better and please You more as we read and act in obedience to it. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast for the last several years. This podcast has brought me and my family even closer to God and each other. I have witnessed our faith and obedience multiply because of this show. I truly hope that it has affected you in ways that move you to the woman God intended for you to be. As much as I loved this podcast, I feel in my spirit that God is calling me to end this chapter of obedience to Him, and I know that makes me available and humbly ready to serve in the new ways He calls. I hope you look for the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast and share it with friends and family so that we can be the generation that returns our children to godly lifestyles and desires. I pray that Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast and what you have heard on past episodes of Live With Eternal Perspective draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Thank you so much for your past support. I pray that even if you are no longer a parent of a child growing up in your home, you will find resources in Purposed Parent/Connected Child episodes that will strengthen your attachment to your grown child or grandchildren and draw you ever nearer to God. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 153 - Change From a Good to Godly Woman and Mother Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #153 – Change from a Good to Godly Woman and Mother Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. Goodness! I can’t believe school has started once again and the gorgeous days of summer will soon be moving out, ushering in crisper, cooler air. This time of year always makes me a little sad. I long for summer to last indefinitely. Since nothing lasts forever, seasons are a beautiful reminder of why we need to live with eternal perspective. Have you had days, weeks, or years of life that you want to last forever? Or maybe right now you feel the opposite. Do you wonder how much longer you have to endure the season you are experiencing? Change can be good. Especially when we aren’t aware that we are not living in ways that God desires for us. Change can become the catalyst that moves us to be in sync with the next transformation God has for us. I distinctly remember a time I’m glad I moved away from. There was a period in my life when I wanted to make sure I was a good person. A good woman. A good wife. A good daughter. A good mother. As my relationship with Jesus matured, I understood that limiting myself to “good” was “ungodly.” God calls believers to a much higher standard than good. Good isn’t good enough for God. It’s true that in the beginning when God created, He exclaimed that what He made was good. However, God is proclaiming His creations are good, not that we individually or collectively are. What I mean is that what God created is by His intelligent and perfect design. Anything He makes is good. Yet, in this sinful, fallen world, it didn’t take long for God’s creations to choose sin. Without Christ indwelling us, we continue to move farther from God. Without the Holy Spirit within us, there is no perfection or godliness. In fact, we are unable to claim the status of “good,” let alone “godly.” So how do you and I move from desiring a good life to building godly lives? Only through Christ. Once believers see our need for God, we begin to realize the need for His perfect Son, Jesus to pay the price for our sin. Once we realize the need for a Savior, and accept the free gift Jesus offers, we are able to live with His Holy Spirit within us. We are no longer bound to the world and the sinful temptations. Through relationship with Him, the Holy Word, and prayerful conversations with God, we can experience a shift from good to godly. That is, if we are seeking Him and a humble, obedient, close connection daily. What we desire must be held up to a mirror, so to speak, as we look at how our desires are reflected against what God calls for us in His holy Word. My heart fills with joy when I remember the time between when my first set of children were raised and before my husband and I knew that God was calling us to adopt a sweet baby from China. Before we knew our daughter was waiting for us, I was experiencing deeper growth in my spiritual walk with Christ. Slowly by slowly, I allowed God greater access to me. I wish I could profess to be one of those people who surrender fully in the moment they accept Christ, but the truth is that each of us have varying degrees of surrender throughout our lifetime. We never reach that finish line in this life. We are so very far beneath God, and so far from Him, that our lifetime should be focused on pursuing deeper relationship with Him and continuing to surrender self. As my relationship with Jesus deepened and widened, I thought back to when my husband and I had raised our first two children. I was not a Christian when my first two were born. Although I came to follow Jesus when they were young, I wasn’t well discipled. I wasted so many years thinking I was “good” and not striving to be godly. Would you like to know my deepest regret? Although my children always heard about Jesus, and knew I loved and followed Him, I did not know to intentionally disciple them. I didn’t yet understand that the Christian walk is a beautiful relationship between God and man. I didn’t understand the command in Deuteronomy 6:5-9, which says, “You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” I assumed that what I was doing to teach my children about Jesus was enough. In reality, they were learning my limited faith, and since I was not growing as well as I should have been, they were only able to mimic a portion of my faith and not being discipled well to chase Christ for themselves. As my husband and I grew our walk with Jesus, we knew with certainty that God was calling us to travel to China to bring home the baby God had waiting to be ours. Before we went, we prayed together daily for the girl she would grow to be. Our heart desired that she be a light for Jesus, that she pursue Him with a pure heart, and that she would be an inspiration for others to follow Him. I remember the days I worked backwards, formulating a plan to raise her with very high goals. Ten years later when we returned to China to bring home our last child, the “master plan” for raising our girls for Christ had been practiced, and our youngest enabled us to continue the course with another beautiful soul to nourish for Jesus. Although there are so many important details I’m not including here, this story is so important to me, because our second step into parenting with a new generation of children was very intentional. My mind and heart was fixed, anchored on Christ through all obstacles. My husband and I committed to stand on that firm foundation. When deep waters swirled around us, when tragedy and troubles plagued our home, we tightened our grip on that three-fold cord that kept God in the center of all. No matter what happened, we remained committed to raising our girls and influencing our grown son and grandson for Christ. Just as I began this podcast almost four years ago through an act of obedience when I knew God was whispering to me to begin one, I know He is now calling me to end this show. I’ve waited through the summer months to ensure I knew for sure what He was calling, but I recently came to realize that waiting any longer to make sure my choice is good, or what God is calling when I know the peace I have in my heart to end the podcast is actually a form of disobedience. Even if I never intended it to be. So what is next? My heart sings with joy when I encourage and equip busy mothers to move past guilt, anxiety, frustration, or the variety of other emotions this world presses upon us. God has greatly pressed upon my heart the need for me, as an older mother, to wrap my arm around you and help you move from these emotions or feelings to a place of peace. I want to encourage and equip mothers to create close connection with Christ and her children and raise kids who chase Christ over culture. Mothers and grandmothers too, it is time to rise and raise children who know and honor God. The effects of this culture have run rampant for too long. How long will mothers sit back and watch as children follow peers over parents or Christ? It doesn’t matter how good a parent you want to be or are. God calls you and I to be holy, godly mothers. There is nothing greater we can do than fix our heart and mind above and focus on the methods given by God to raise children for Him. I invite you to follow my other podcast, Purposed Parent/Connected Child. I urge you to please leave a review and rate the show so that others may find it. If we don’t purposely lead our children to Christ, the world will sway them away. It starts with you and me. Our life must be so focused on living godly lives through Christ that our children clearly see Him through us and desire Him for themselves. It's time to stop the attachment our children have with peers and teach them the way to attachment with Christ. It starts with the parent. That means you and me. I have so much to share in future Purposed Parent/Connected Child episodes. A new season begins very soon. I pray you will be moved from a good to godly woman and mother as you listen to the episodes. Dear Heavenly Father, You alone are holy. You alone are greater than the good we desire. Move us from good to godly in the ways You know we need. Help us to be more and more pleasing to You each moment. May our heart and mind be in sync with Your desires for us as we move ever nearer to You. Father, I thank you for Your Word, Your perfect guidance. May we understand You better and please You more as we read and act in obedience to it. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast for the last several years. This podcast has brought me and my family even closer to God and each other. I have witnessed our faith and obedience multiply because of this show. I truly hope that it has affected you in ways that move you to the woman God intended for you to be. As much as I loved this podcast, I feel in my spirit that God is calling me to end this chapter of obedience to Him, and I know that makes me available and humbly ready to serve in the new ways He calls. I hope you look for the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast and share it with friends and family so that we can be the generation that returns our children to godly lifestyles and desires. I pray that Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast and what you have heard on past episodes of Live With Eternal Perspective draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Thank you so much for your past support. I pray that even if you are no longer a parent of a child growing up in your home, you will find resources in Purposed Parent/Connected Child episodes that will strengthen your attachment to your grown child or grandchildren and draw you ever nearer to God.

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 014 - Finding Identity Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #014 – Finding Identity Are you yearning for greater connection with your child? Would you like to parent beyond the moment with eternal perspective? Let’s grow together now with practical tips, scripture, and stories geared to draw your heart to Jesus and guide your child into His arms. Many parents I talk to question the job they’ve done with their children. Not one mother finishes raising a child and thinks she was a perfect mom. Why? Perfection doesn’t exist. Except of course, in our Heavenly Father. Think about that truth. Perfection exists only through the Lord, and as believers, we carry His power within us! Does that mean we suddenly become perfect? No, but it does guarantee we have His truths, discernment, and guidance to direct us. So many variables play into parenting. Sometimes we make mistakes that need to be addressed or corrected; sometimes events happen that are beyond our control. Then there’s also free will. Just as our Heavenly Father allows each of us free will and the power to choose whether we will come to Him, our children have that same choice. Mothers, as we are transformed moment by moment, our children gain the opportunity to witness the changes Christ makes through our surrendered life. As we pray for and with our children daily, as we read and study God’s word together , change is guaranteed. Ideally, this relationship with our children and the Lord is started from our earliest time together. Am I saying that just because we’re working for the Lord life will be perfect and our days will be, too? Unfortunately, no. Jesus warned us that we would have trouble in this world. Sometimes it’s harder just because we are working for the Lord. That’s what parenting is. Hard work. Holy work. We are raising children to know, honor, love, and obey Him. That’s not easy and it is not completed quickly. What happens if we invest in the work, yet our children leave our home as adults who don’t love or follow the Lord? We continue praying. We tilled the ground, planted the seeds, watered them, and brought them to the Source of Sunlight – Christ, to nourish them. The more we allow Christ to work in and through us, altering us into the person He created us to be, the better opportunity our children will have for Christ to work in them. In fact, I trust that He is always at work, even when we cannot see or cooperate, but when we freely and lovingly ask for His hand in our life and the lives of our children, a sovereign and holy power is unleashed. Remember when we spoke about free will earlier? It can be a tangly mess! Choice means there’s a multitude of issues that are totally out of our control and can affect our children in both good and harmful ways. Our child could see wonderful fruits of Christ in our life, but be touched by something entirely out of our, or even their control. Since we and our child have free will, that means the whole world does, too. You can bet Satan is playing that card well. Look around at the culture we are raising or influencing children and grandchildren in today. The devil has free reign and is making the most of it. This is certainly not an age most of us would have chosen to raise children in. Yet God chose it for us. It’s certainly not a surprise to Him that we are parenting the exact children we have at this very moment. He is able to work through willing mothers in any time period and through any trials. He has each of us exactly where we are meant to be. Christ is where we find our hope. In Him we trust. As we keep our eyes focused on Jesus, not our parenting trials or our weaknesses, moment by moment, we gain His strength for another day. One of the areas in which the devil has focused great attack in this generation is through gender and identity. I believe humans have always struggled with this area, yet right now, the children we are raising have many more questions and live with more confusion than we ever had to ponder. One look at this culture filled with deceitful groups, movies, shows, books, magazines, music, games, education, and social media with obvious agendas makes the truth of this situation indisputable. Society tells us to look within for identity and validation. We hear that our feelings matter and that truth is subjective . When will these people pushing this lie realize that when there is flexible truth, there is no truth ? As believers, however, we know that there is absolute truth found through God. His word tells us all our Heavenly Father desires for us to know and live by. Scripture is clear. God is the Authority of Truth because He established truth. Often, instead of relying on the truth of God , people craft identity through feelings or experiences. Obviously, what happens to us can shape our thoughts and personality, leading us to believe they form our identity. Sometimes we can also attempt to fashion identity by the way our parents or spouse treat us, through friendships, jobs, financial status, appearance, or gender. Nothing we have chosen through earthly wisdom to be used as markers or validators of our identity is permanent unless is what God has already established. Only our Creator and Heavenly Father, who intimately fashioned us with great thought and purpose can truly define our identity. Once we understand that truth and allow it to counteract the lies of this world, we build a strong foundation on which we can confidently stand and navigate this world of confusion and deceit. Once parents can firmly stand in the identity they receive through Christ as Savior, we are able to mentor truth and confidence for our children to emulate. As we raise them to find identity, not in who this world tells them who or what to be or believe, but through Jesus , our children develop resiliency, faith, hope, trust, and confidence that will carry them through life and enable them to live the fullness of God’s truths . What are the barriers parents must look out for and safeguard against in order to enable our children to live in freedom through true identity rooted in Christ? 1. Culture – The world our children are being raised in tells them that they can choose whatever sex they want to be. It also teaches that they may choose to identify as a cat, a dog, a unicorn, or any other object they desire. Will this give them contentment and peace? Not at all. In fact, studies prove depression and confusion are usually the result of believing and traveling this route to identity. In the moment, the person may feel satisfaction in diverting attention to something different, however, just as happiness is fleeting, the high they receive from a perceived change of character or gender dissolves and the issues they struggled with inside are still present and in many cases have worsened as time passed. Scripture tells us in Genesis 1:27 , “So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them .” Another excellent verse to teach your children about identity is found in Jeremiah 1:5a , which says, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you.” God knew every single one of us before we were in existence. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future .” Scripture is clear that identity is known before we are even created. That means our sex and how we identify is already set and seen at birth . Remember how we feel is not an indicator of truth – God’s word is. When we live outside of His guidelines, (whether we are believers or not), we do not experience joy and peace, as well as other fruits of the Spirit that Scripture reveals. God also crafted specific details within each person that include interests, talents, gifts, intelligence, and more. Some people like to justify things they do by saying, “God just made me this way,” but God never makes anything or anyone contrary to what His word says. Sin in this world causes the evil and confusion, not God. If it is not in alignment with His word, don’t do it or believe it. That is why it is vitally important for us to teach our children God’s truths and equip them to be in God’s word from as young as we have them. It also means we must be diligent in maturing our personal walk with Christ daily. Remember Ephesians 6:1-4, which says, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” Simply teaching our children what religion we believe, but not living it before them daily will do nothing. A loving, humble, maturing, obedient walk with Christ is what makes our children pay attention and helps them to choose to live the same lifestyle of humble love for and obedience to God. 2. Peers – Indoctrination through educational institutions, books, magazines, television shows, movies, music, games, and social media is worse than ever. It has been building for years and will continue to cripple and destroy the future of our children or grandchildren unless we see the destruction taking place before us and decide to change it. Peers have an incredibly powerful effect on children, especially when they are also being indoctrinated, yet a strong family centered on and growing in Christ together is still much stronger, because it is built on and operating on the strength and promises of God. Colossians 3:1-3 says, “Therefore, since you have been raised with Christ, strive for the things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God .” Isaiah 64:8 says, “Yet you, LORD, are our Father. We are the clay, you are the potter; we are all the work of your hand.” Remember we do not have to fight in our own strength. We must stand in faith with our Heavenly Father, claiming the victory Christ promised to those who believe. God has given us everything we need to stand in His power and allow Him to do the work. Ephesians 6:10-18 says, “Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.” 3. Deceit - Satan will do all he can to disarm, distract, and dissuade us from fixing our eyes on the Lord and staying connected to Him through prayer, praise, and God’s Holy Word. When we listen to self and world instead of God, we are unknowingly choosing to be deceived. Emotions and feelings are valid because they are a part of us, but they are based on experience, peer pressure, ignorance, confusion, and more, but not God’s truths. Seek scripture or be confused. Don’t believe or act on what is contrary to God’s word. Teach your children the same guidelines. John 17:17 says, “Sanctify them by the truth; your word is truth .” 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for instruction, for conviction, for correction, and for training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be complete, fully equipped for every good work .” John 14:6 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me .” John 8:32 says, “Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free .” 4. Sin – Since the beginning of our existence, man has easily fallen into sin. Our desires, wants, pride, ignorance, and jealously war against what God has for us or calls us to do. Again, the way to combat this within ourselves and our children, is to develop a faith walk through Christ that leads us to honor our Heavenly Father and to make the right choices and believe the right thoughts, because what we think, do, and say is based on the truth of Scripture. In order to help our children live without sin, we must set a godly example and also teach them to love and honor God so that they desire to honor and obey Him. When we train them in Him and His truths, their worldview is transformed to be as Christ’s as Scripture becomes their compass. They learn to value and expect God’s truth in life and will strive to walk in alignment with His callings, as they are less likely to be deceived by culture or society. John 16:13 says, “But when He, the Spirit of truth, comes, He will guide you into all the truth. He will not speak on his own; He will speak only what He hears, and He will tell you what is yet to come .” 2 Corinthians 10:5 says, “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ .” Psalm 119:160 says, “All your words are true; all your righteous laws are eternal .” 5. Feelings – Just as we discussed in point # 3 – Deceit, our feelings, thoughts, and emotions are not a gauge to trust. We must be diligent in the Word so that we believe and act upon this truth and make it evident to our children through our actions, reactions, and words. They must learn early to view self and world through God’s eyes and truths. Continue to value their opinions, thoughts, emotions, and feelings, but always compare them against Scripture to see whether they are in sync with God’s will and ways. Colossians 2:8 says, “See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forces of this world rather than on Christ. ” Have you noticed the recurring themes? Jesus , God’s Word , and Truth as established by our Heavenly Father. Mothers, we must teach our children by example and through God’s word that because of the sacrifice of Jesus, and what our Heavenly Father says about us, they have a secure identity that no one can steal or change, ridicule or deny because it has already been established with ultimate authority . Our children have power over indoctrination, culture, peers, deceit, sin, and self through Christ and the Holy power of God’s Word. Identity is confirmed by our Heavenly Father. Our world lives in sin and needless pain, suffering, and confusion because we do not read, study, and recognize God’s truths. We do not stand in His power and allow Him to combat the evil and deceit that plague us. Don’t let that be the legacy your child inherits. Today is the day to study God’s word more clearly, pray more consistently, hear with ears ready to listen, and move in humble obedience to the calling of God. Today is the day to lovingly and patiently mentor your child to do the same so that they will live the identity God has ordained for them. Dear Heavenly Father, Your goodness overwhelms us. Your faithfulness gives us joy. Thank you for Your long-suffering and kindness. Thank you for Your Son, Jesus, for He makes all things new. He gives us eternal life. He gives us the way to You. He enables us to teach our children Your ways and makes You known as never before. Father, we praise you because we know we are fearfully and wonderfully made; our children are fearfully and wonderfully made, your works are wonderful, we know that full well. Help us to remember and teach our children all You desire so that they grow in the fullness of Your truths. Stop the indoctrination that has overtaken our society. Help our children to find respite in and through You. Help us and help them to put on your new nature, help them understand that they were created to be like You—truly righteous and holy. Help them claim all You have for them. We know You have engraved them on the palms of Your hands; You say that if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! We claim that for our children and the generations to come, for we know that You have made us and our children Your handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which You have prepared in advance for us to do . We praise Your name, Dear Father and we thank You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. The Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast is now available at terrihitt.com, where you can access the episodes housed in one convenient location, receive access to blog posts, read transcripts, and find additional resources designed to mature your walk with Christ and equip you to raise or influence connected children through Him. God knows that we are not capable of successful parenting on our own. As we rely on Him, releasing doubts and expectations, and humbly bow to His guidance and experience, we find greater clarity in parenting and a wondrous walk with our Creator that will extend to our children and those around us for generations . I pray this podcast helps you parent with purpose and deepen your connection to Jesus and your children as you intentionally place Christ above culture or self. Allow Him to work through you for true connection that will draw your children to Him and build a maturing relationship with Christ and your child that lasts for eternity. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 114 - How Do You Know if You're Fully Submitted to Jesus? Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 114 – How Do You Know if You're Fully Submitted to Jesus? Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom and BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you will be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episodes, would you please share this episode or others with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, and leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast. When you do, you’re helping affect generations for Jesus. Now on to an important question to consider in this episode…one that will affect the way you raise your children. How do you know if you’re fully submitted to Jesus? About the time my husband and I brought our middle daughter home we noticed so many other children arriving from China. It was the peak time of adoptions, and although we hardly knew anyone who had adopted internationally before our journey, during the process and afterwards we recognized that many other families were experiencing the same joy. For us, both of our adoptions (because we went back ten years later), were glorious God stories, Our Heavenly Father is definitely in every detail. What a blessing, and I mean that with every fiber of my being, to have stepped forward in obedience to adopt. Recognizing God’s sovereignty, my husband and I understand that God knew from before He ever created any of us that we would be together. In a broken, sinful world, He enabled beauty to be formed through this special crafting of our family. We are forever thankful. Each of our four children are unique and we’re thankful for them. Whether biological or adopted, they are simply the method God used to bring us together. Knowing these truths, it’s frustrating when I have heard people remark negatively about adoption, especially internationally. Ironically, the people who make the remarks have never adopted a child themselves, either by domestic or international route. Raising one family, then beginning the parenting journey again with a second set of children came from obedience. Through two miraculous God stories, my husband and I clearly knew that we had daughters born in China who needed to come home to us. I share pieces of this story again because clearly hearing God speak and obeying His call are two keys pieces in being fully submitted to Christ . Many people will profess to being a Christian. But some seem to wear Jesus as an accessory. Faith that converts must come before professions, desires, or ambitions. In fact, true faith prevails over family, food, or fun. You might wonder: As long as you believe you’re a follower of Christ, why does it matter whether you’re fully submitted? What does fully submitted even mean? It matters because to be a maturing Christian, you must be fully submitted. Unless you’re “all in” with your life for Christ, you won’t continue to deepen and grow your maturity. When you stand in front of God one day, longing to hear, “well done my good and faithful servant,” you don’t want to be surprised and hear these words instead. “I never knew you.” The depth of your faith and your submission to Christ will determine the extent of how deeply you’re able to mentor Him to your children. As we look at how to know if you’re fully submitted to Jesus, we’ll begin with the Old Testament. These sacred books in the Bible lay the groundwork for submission and faith. In them we see God’s authority and faithfulness, as well as consequences for failing to follow His will. Through Abraham, we see a model for submission and humble obedience as he moves to obey God and sacrifice his beloved son in Genesis 22. Through Joseph we see trial after trial, but Joseph remains with eyes fixed on God. He hears and obeys His Father when it would be easier not to. Yet, God is faithful. Although it seemed things were just getting worse for Joseph and that God had forsaken him, Joseph believed, trusted, and maintained faith. Eventually, many saw that God had never left his servant, Joseph. Joseph was always in God’s hands and tender care. Because of his obedience and unwavering faith, Joseph recognized that everything was used for good by God. Not only for him, but for so many. We witness disobedience from Moses when he provides water for the Israelites in Numbers 20. God clearly told Moses to speak to the rock to receive water for the group, but Moses spoke and struck the rock twice. We may read this story and think of what a little difference this was. We may wonder why it mattered. God is a holy God of truth and authority. When He makes a request to us, we must obey His instructions exactly. What if you asked your child to look both ways before they cross the street and they only choose to look one way on a busy road at rush hour? Partial obedience equals zero obedience. Our actions indicate whether we actually trust God enough to obey Him immediately and fully. We must prove that we believe by what we do . Although God always forgives us when we are disobedient, we still have to face consequences. In the New Testament we see the greatest mentor for following and pleasing God – Jesus Christ. Luke 22:42 says, “Father, if you are willing, please take this cup of suffering away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine.” Jesus pleaded with the Father, making His desire known, but submitted His desire to fall behind the wishes of His holy, sovereign Heavenly Father. Another example of the way Jesus prepared us to follow the Father is through the act of prayer. Because of Jesus, we are able to freely step before the Throne of Grace and direct praise and requests to the Maker of Heaven and Earth. In the discipleship Jesus offers through the template of the Lord’s prayer, we learn submission in the ways God directs. In Matthew 6:10 , we read, “May Your Kingdom come soon. May Your will be done on earth, as it is in Heaven .” Not my will be done. Not your will be done. Not even Jesus’s will when He lived as a man on earth, but the Father’s. A third example of how Jesus directs us to know how to fully submit to God is in Mark 8:34 which says, “Then, calling the crowd to join his disciples, He said, “If any of you wants to be My follower, you must give up your own way, take up your cross, and follow Me. If you try to hang on to your life, you will lose it. But if you give up your life for My sake and for the sake of the Good News, you will save it. And what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul? Is anything worth more than your soul? If anyone is ashamed of Me and My message in these adulterous and sinful days, the Son of Man will be ashamed of that person when He returns in the glory of His Father with the holy angels.” Through examples from Moses and Abraham, and many others in the Bible, but especially through the perfection of Jesus, we see one standard. True followers invite transformation to occur from the inside out. True followers of Jesus who are fully submitted to Him will desire and plead for God to cleanse us from the inside and replace the sin and filth with newness and wholeness of life and Christlikeness. We ask Him to change our heart and create a lasting bond with Him into eternity. True followers invite trials and pain into their lives because they know they will rest in God’s arms as He carries them through. As He makes them new, more faith-filled and obedient than before. Jesus isn’t a religion. Christ is the One we desire to share deep relationship with. Better than a spouse, best friend, child, parent, mentor, or coach. Jesus is our all in all. John 14:6 says, “Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. ” No matter what circumstance you face in life, yours is secure if you abide in His arms. Have you discovered from the descriptions that you’re not fully submitted to Jesus? None of us are, but we can live submitted lives, openly trusting and stepping forward in the darkness when all seems lost or hopeless. Moment by moment we become more submitted, more Christlike in our desires and responses. More willing to follow God wherever He calls as we rely on Him. I have a short exercise that might help you determine whether you’re moving forward in faith to fully submit to Christ. How do you feel if you speak this statement? “I love you Jesus - more than anyone.” Do you feel exhilarated when you speak the words? Are you frightened by the statement? Do you feel guilty? What you feel may be an indicator of your walk with Christ. Use it as a starting point to deepen and widen your faith maturity. I’ll also share Scripture that helps show what God desires from one devoted to Him. Job 33:4 says, “The Spirit of God has made me; the breath of the Almighty gives me life .” Through this verse we remember that we belong to God, who gives us life. Psalm 24:1 says, “The earth is the LORD’s and the fullness thereof, the world and those who dwell therein .” This verse shows us that we live on God’s earth, the One He created, along with all that resides in it. It reminds us of our rightful place with Him, through Him, and in Him. Proverbs 16:2 says, “All a person’s ways seem pure to them, but motives are weighed by the LORD.” This convicting verse reminds us that our Holy God sees and knows us intimately. The way we sinfully and selfishly view our personal motives is deeply flawed in comparison to His standards. Ephesians 4:14 says, “Then we will no longer be immature like children. We won’t be tossed and blown about by every wind of new teaching. We will not be influenced when people try to trick us with lies so clever they sound like the truth .” This verse tells us that through Him we will know Truth from the Source. As we study and know Him we won’t be influenced by sinful ways and people, but will remain steadfast in Truth and grow in depth of maturity. Ezekiel 36:26 says, “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh .” This verse is a promise that God will replace the selfishness of our heart and fill us with His Holy Spirit. As we surrender self, we accept the adorning of a new life that isn’t simply a religion or a seasonal activity. We accept a new and transformative lifestyle . To surrender self and submit to Christ, stop trying to read the Bible by quickly getting your daily quota in, and instead, pursue knowledge and transformation through studying God’s Word. Regardless of whether you have time, do it. We all make time for what we really prioritize . If you’re truly in a season where you simply can’t read, listen to the Word daily and begin studying with a trusted study Bible as soon as possible. Transformation won’t occur unless you release self . C hange your ways to change your lifestyle . Pray. Instead of looking at prayer as a duty, recognize it as a blessing and gift . Jesus died so that He could be a bridge for us to reach the Father. Because of Him we can approach God with any request or for any reason. Embrace the gift of prayer. Next, have fellowship with other strong believers. Examine the fruits of other followers of Christ – not in a judgmental way, but by using your God-given discernment. Be discipled together. Fellowship with those who have a heart for God and growing in Him. Also help others by mentoring Christ to those who are looking for strong believers to disciple them. Also, don’t put God in a box. He is God, Our Heavenly Father, Creator, the Great I Am, the Lord who Heals, the Lord who Provides, Our Mighty God, the Holy, Sovereign One. So often we try to call on God when we need Him, then place Him on a shelf when we think we can handle things. He desires us to call on and depend on Him always. Don’t expect Him to walk beside you or with you. God wants us to climb into His arms willingly and abide there. Invite Him to carry you. Look Up moment by moment. Don’t call on Him when you’re in trouble – Remain in His care and invite Him into every area of your life. He is far better equipped and will protect and provide, guide and guard those who are committed to Him through Jesus. Take your thoughts captive for Christ. Romans 8:5-8 says, “Those who live according to the flesh have their minds set on what the flesh desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires. The mind governed by the flesh is death, but the mind governed by the Spirit is life and peace. The mind governed by the flesh is hostile to God; it does not submit to God’s law, nor can it do so. Those who are in the realm of the flesh cannot please God.” Submit your mind and your body, your will and ways. Romans 7:21-24 says, “So I find this law at work: Although I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; but I see another law at work in me, waging war against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within me. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death? Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord! ” When we humbly and willingly place God in His rightful position in our life, we begin to peel away self, exposing the heart of Christ through the Holy Spirit inside us. Pride, possessions, peers, people, past, and present, as well as relationships, finances, and desires begin to move into alignment. They do so in ways that honor God and give you deep and lasting joy. Over time, you will see His hand at work in ways you never imagined. Peace that passes understanding follows when we place God first through relationship with Jesus Christ. Trust, submit, believe, and obey. Another way to know whether you’re submitting to Christ is to test the level of anxiety, fear, anger, worry, or unforgiveness you carry. If you don’t feel burdened by those, you are likely submitting those areas now. Continue to do so moment by moment with joy. If you carry any of these qualities, examine how you can work to let go of them, handing them into God’s capable care so you can experience true and lasting freedom He desires you to have in your life and home. Begin with prayer and repentance. Ask God for forgiveness and ask Him to show you how to release your load. He never meant for you to carry anything. He is present and able to take your burdens. Right now. Seek Scripture on the topics you struggle with. Pray those verses to God, crafting biblical prayers you know God will honor. We’ve found that the answer to the question we’ve examined today is that none of us is fully submitted to Jesus this side of Heaven, but we should be moving closer to Him and allowing transformation each moment we are alive. No one said the process would be easy, in fact Jesus warned of tribulations. Look at His life. It was never easy. Not in any way. But Jesus continued to look Up and grow in wisdom and stature, in favor with God and man daily. Just as we must do if we are to submit. Here are a few more questions to consider and pray about: Do you pray before you make decisions? Do you go to the Father for every problem or try to carry it yourself? Do you follow where God leads without hesitation? Even when you don’t know the future? Do you harbor grudges or unforgiveness? How does it make you feel to think about submitting those to God? Are you taking your thoughts captive for Christ? Are your thoughts on God when you fall asleep at night? When you awaken do you think of Him and pray? Do you pray for His will? For His guidance and timing throughout your day? Do you pray for His wisdom? Do you pray for wisdom over wealth? Do you hold on to things God has prompted you to release? Do you let go of entertainment, books, friends, games, habits, or jobs that draw you away from God? Or do you continue doing just as you desire? Remember that partial obedience equals no obedience. No obedience means no submission. Here are three verses to help you submit to God and deepen your faith, trust, and obedience. You may use them to pray the Scriptural prayers I mentioned earlier in this episode. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight .” James 4:7-8a says, “Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come near to God and He will come near to you .” Lamentations 3:25 says, “The Lord is good to those whose hope is in Him, to the one who seeks Him .” Dear Heavenly Father, How great thou art! Thank you for Your everlasting kindness, long-suffering, and patience. Thank you for loving us first, for choosing us. We fall short of the praise You desire and the obedience You require. Equip us to become more Christlike moment by moment as we seek and please You. Help us choose You as You have chosen us. We thank you for life and love that You give us so freely. May we honor You and return what You desire because we love You and fellowship with You with whole hearts. Help us be pleasing and obedient, and teach our children to abide in Your arms as they learn to be pleasing and obedient to You, too because we mentor You so well to them. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. This is the part of the episode that you usually hear me talk about the Set-Apart Collective. Today I want to share about my new mini program called “Establish Identity.” Why? Your identity is a major force behind what you do. Who you believe yourself to be, and who you find your identity through affects the way you live, parent, love, serve, and discipline. Your identity is one of the lifelines, a pulse point of your home. Do you ever stop to think that you are the first Jesus your child will see? Even if they are grown, your identity affects your child. The way you think, speak, and react is rooted in your identity. Send me a message at info@terrihitt.com if you’d like details or go to terrihitt.com and join my email list. You’ll get updates before anyone else and hear a little about what makes this so important. If you join the email list you’ll also be able to access free resources such as my new Good to Godly: A 31 Day Scripture and Prayer Guide for Moms. One last thing to remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #066 – Praying Scripture With Children Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Thank you for joining me for this conclusion to the prayer series this month. This final episode was actually unplanned, but I strongly felt the Lord urging me to add specific scripture verses to be prayed with children. Letting your child hear your heartfelt, genuine, and loving prayers lifted to God on their behalf coupled with them seeing you live a life that honors and praises God, despite the storm, while visibly seeking Him through His word daily has a mighty effect that lasts for eternity. I get several questions from mothers, often from parents of teens. The absolute best advice I can give is to begin teaching our children about Jesus from the instant you have them. Pray for them before they arrive, and never stop praying, even after they are grown. My heart yearns to help every mother see her need for Christ and encourage her deepen her personal walk with Him in such an obvious, intentional way that He overflows into the heart of her children. I want to impress the importance of shaping the heart and mind of our children and grandchildren so that they naturally chose Jesus over culture. Last week we learned verses and prayers crafted for us to pray for our family, spouse, and children. We discussed the truth that as we live with eternal perspective, our heart must beat in unison with God’s, stirring the hearts of our precious family members to do the same. The verses and prayers we discussed in Parts 2 and 3 of this series also help us to humbly approach God with reverence and honor. As I said in previous episodes, it is extremely important that we regularly and faithfully pray for our spouse and children. I sincerely desire that the verses and prayers mentioned in the preceding episodes will be used as is or as a framework for you to design prayers from your own heart. It is also my hope that the prayers crafted in this episode will be of eternal value for you and your family. There is absolutely nothing more important than shepherding our child to Christ. Through a loving lifestyle of maturing our walk with Him and exhibiting a faithful, growing relationship with Jesus, we are modeling an eternity-based mindset and instructing our children or grandchildren to rely on Him for all needs. We also show them how to build a healthy sense of esteem based on Christ and His purpose and desires for them. Praying scripture verses with our children or grandchildren builds awareness of God’s holy word and thought patterns and instills a healthy knowledge on which to build godly esteem. Let’s examine God’s promises and instructions through examination of His beautiful and holy words, but before we begin, I want to add a reminder that God’s word is perfect. Flawless. We do not want or need to add anything to it. What we are doing is using specific verses from God to use as the foundation of our prayers. This week we pray with our child present and participating in bowing before the Lord to petition for what He built in and desires for them. Repeating this practice of praying for our child with our child allows them the experience of hearing God’s word prayed over them and learning the importance of praying for others with God’s word. Our Father’s holy words become stitched into their spirit, binding the fabric of their emotions and feelings, thoughts and words, actions and desires with His truths. Psalm 18:30 says, “As for God, His way is perfect; the word of the LORD is flawless. He is a shield to all who take refuge in Him.” Let’s study several verses and use example prayers to lift to God with His words as the foundation. These are beautiful prayers to speak with your child present to hear the cries of our heart for him or her. Of course, you may add their name in the prayer in place of “he” or “she.” Father God, You alone are perfect. Your word is flawless. Help my child to seek You above all else in this world. I pray he understands that You are his refuge in this weary and broken world. Help him to rely on You. Just as we did in the earlier praying scripture episodes, think of qualities you feel the Lord calling you to specifically pray for your child. As every person is unique, each child has special gifts and talents, flaws and fears. You have been blessed with the exact children you have and as we know, God does not make mistakes. The Lord is calling you to surrender ego and pride as you kneel to Him to show you the way to the heart of your child. Allow God to guide you in discipling your child or grandchild for Jesus. Petition our Heavenly Father to show you the needs of your child and the ways you can pray. Eternity will arrive before any of us realize and the molding of your child’s soul is one of your most important responsibilities. Take each moment captive with all you can do to shepherd your child to God. Praying for specific areas and needs is of extreme importance. Romans 12:12 says, “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, persistent in prayer.” Most productive habits develop through daily or lifelong routines. After being established, we usually don’t even think of them as they become a necessary part of our life. Make this habit one that you do ponder as you continue maturing yourself to be the guide pointing your child to the perfect role model, Jesus. No prayers we release for our child will be a waste of time. Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.” Father God, Your word is alive and powerful, sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, joint and marrow. Please use Your holy words to expose the innermost thoughts of my child and I. Show us where we need to release selfish desires and reveal to us how to do it. Make us alive with fresh hearts that seek Your ways and give You great joy. Let’s examine several prayers to be used for any child. 1 John 2:5 says, “But those who obey God’s word truly show how completely they love Him. That is how we know we are living in Him.” Dear Heavenly Father, Your perfect word tells me that those who obey it truly show You how completely You are loved. Show my child and I that we are authentically living in You. Give us a passion to please You and help us remain steadfast to a lifestyle of honor for You. John 8:47 says, “Anyone who belongs to God listens gladly to the words of God. But you don’t listen because you don’t belong to God.” Father, may my child gladly listen to You because he is a child of Jesus. Please help him commit his life to You and steadfastly remain in Your hands because his faith is strong and courageous. 2 Timothy 2:15 says, “Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth.” Father God, may my child always do his best to present himself as one approved by and for You. May he be a worker without shame as he obediently and faithfully handles Your word of truth in every area of his life. As I shared earlier, God knows the exact needs our children have. He yearns for us to run to Him for advice and direction. As our Heavenly Father desires for us to shepherd our precious children back to Him, He calls for us to allow Him to shepherd us. I encourage you to make a list for each of your children or grandchildren of the needs you know they have. Perhaps they need more confidence, a more godly heart, more courage, more understanding of God’s word, esteem built on God’s opinion of and design for him, etc. These will be the first verses you will want to lift to the Lord. An overarching general theme of spiritual needs will be next, as were the verses and prayers we spoke earlier. A few examples of prayers for specific qualities could be as follows: Galatians 5:22-23 says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Gracious Heavenly Father, there is none like You. Through Your merciful gift of Jesus and the Holy Spirit for all who believe in You, You have allowed us to live with the fruit of the Spirit. Please allow my child to possess a deep faith in You with an obedience and trust that allows them to carry love, joy, peace, and patience, as well as kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control that comes from You alone. John 15:10-11 says, “If you keep My commandments, you will remain in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and remain in His love. I have told you these things so that My joy may be in you and your joy may be complete.” Father, in Your goodness, You desire that I have Your joy. Please help my child to remain in Your love by keeping Your commandments with a loving, purposeful heart that desires You. Allow him to attract, treasure, and maintain Your joy always. Psalm 120:2 says, “Deliver my soul, O Lord, from lying lips and a deceitful tongue.” Dear Heavenly Father, You are truth. Your holiness demands truth from Your people. Father, please guide my child in truth. May his lips flee from deceit. May his heart and mind desire truth as You do. Psalm 119:9-11 says, “How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to Your word. With all my heart I have sought You; do not let me stray from Your commandments. I have hidden Your word in my heart that I might not sin against You.” Gracious Heavenly Father, please equip my child to keep his way pure by seeking You with his whole heart and guarding it according to Your holy and perfect word. Do not let him stray from Your commandments. May he never desire to sin against You for his faith is true and his devotion to You deep and pure. James 2:22 says, “You see that his faith and his actions were working together, and his faith was made complete by what he did.” Father God, our Gracious, Holy, Heavenly Father, by Your word we see that faith alone can justify us, yet faith never remains alone. Faith that is true always exists with acts. When our faith is true, we demonstrate it by the works You spur in our life. We understand that works do not save, but they are a loving and obedient response to the love and faith we have for You. Please enable my child to have a faith that multiples and is exhibited by works that please You in their purity and joy. Help my child to believe in and follow You more each day. I pray that these examples are a starting point for you to craft a lasting legacy of prayer with and for your child. I’d love to hear what you design specifically for your home and children or grandchildren. Together, we can all grow in depth and width of faith and devotion for our Lord. There is strength in believing the power of God’s holy words and promises to us. Gift your child with a mature faith that models the way Jesus showed us to live. Allow him to see the evidence of the fruit of the Spirit growing within you and permit them the honor of praying over them daily in their presence. It will become a sweet time of shared fellowship and a direct line to the throne of God you will both treasure. Titus 2:7-8 says, “In everything, show yourself to be an example by doing good works. In your teaching show integrity, dignity, and wholesome speech that is above reproach, so that anyone who opposes us will be ashamed to have nothing bad to say about us.” Father God, please, in everything show me how to be an example of You for my children and grandchildren. Through your perfect words and Jesus’s model for us, may I show integrity, dignity, and wholesome speech that is above reproach so that my children and grandchildren are attracted to Your beauty and transforming power. May I never lead them astray. In Your precious name I pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this last podcast episode regarding praying scripture. I truly pray that it is a help to you in crafting a prayer life worthy of our perfect and holy Heavenly Father. I invite you to visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 066 Praying Scripture With Children Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #066 – Praying Scripture With Children Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Thank you for joining me for this conclusion to the prayer series this month. This final episode was actually unplanned, but I strongly felt the Lord urging me to add specific scripture verses to be prayed with children. Letting your child hear your heartfelt, genuine, and loving prayers lifted to God on their behalf coupled with them seeing you live a life that honors and praises God, despite the storm, while visibly seeking Him through His word daily has a mighty effect that lasts for eternity. I get several questions from mothers, often from parents of teens. The absolute best advice I can give is to begin teaching our children about Jesus from the instant you have them. Pray for them before they arrive, and never stop praying, even after they are grown. My heart yearns to help every mother see her need for Christ and encourage her deepen her personal walk with Him in such an obvious, intentional way that He overflows into the heart of her children. I want to impress the importance of shaping the heart and mind of our children and grandchildren so that they naturally chose Jesus over culture. Last week we learned verses and prayers crafted for us to pray for our family, spouse, and children. We discussed the truth that as we live with eternal perspective, our heart must beat in unison with God’s, stirring the hearts of our precious family members to do the same. The verses and prayers we discussed in Parts 2 and 3 of this series also help us to humbly approach God with reverence and honor. As I said in previous episodes, it is extremely important that we regularly and faithfully pray for our spouse and children. I sincerely desire that the verses and prayers mentioned in the preceding episodes will be used as is or as a framework for you to design prayers from your own heart. It is also my hope that the prayers crafted in this episode will be of eternal value for you and your family. There is absolutely nothing more important than shepherding our child to Christ. Through a loving lifestyle of maturing our walk with Him and exhibiting a faithful, growing relationship with Jesus, we are modeling an eternity-based mindset and instructing our children or grandchildren to rely on Him for all needs. We also show them how to build a healthy sense of esteem based on Christ and His purpose and desires for them. Praying scripture verses with our children or grandchildren builds awareness of God’s holy word and thought patterns and instills a healthy knowledge on which to build godly esteem. Let’s examine God’s promises and instructions through examination of His beautiful and holy words, but before we begin, I want to add a reminder that God’s word is perfect. Flawless. We do not want or need to add anything to it. What we are doing is using specific verses from God to use as the foundation of our prayers. This week we pray with our child present and participating in bowing before the Lord to petition for what He built in and desires for them. Repeating this practice of praying for our child with our child allows them the experience of hearing God’s word prayed over them and learning the importance of praying for others with God’s word. Our Father’s holy words become stitched into their spirit, binding the fabric of their emotions and feelings, thoughts and words, actions and desires with His truths. Psalm 18:30 says, “As for God, His way is perfect; the word of the LORD is flawless. He is a shield to all who take refuge in Him.” Let’s study several verses and use example prayers to lift to God with His words as the foundation. These are beautiful prayers to speak with your child present to hear the cries of our heart for him or her. Of course, you may add their name in the prayer in place of “he” or “she.” Father God, You alone are perfect. Your word is flawless. Help my child to seek You above all else in this world. I pray he understands that You are his refuge in this weary and broken world. Help him to rely on You. Just as we did in the earlier praying scripture episodes, think of qualities you feel the Lord calling you to specifically pray for your child. As every person is unique, each child has special gifts and talents, flaws and fears. You have been blessed with the exact children you have and as we know, God does not make mistakes. The Lord is calling you to surrender ego and pride as you kneel to Him to show you the way to the heart of your child. Allow God to guide you in discipling your child or grandchild for Jesus. Petition our Heavenly Father to show you the needs of your child and the ways you can pray. Eternity will arrive before any of us realize and the molding of your child’s soul is one of your most important responsibilities. Take each moment captive with all you can do to shepherd your child to God. Praying for specific areas and needs is of extreme importance. Romans 12:12 says, “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, persistent in prayer.” Most productive habits develop through daily or lifelong routines. After being established, we usually don’t even think of them as they become a necessary part of our life. Make this habit one that you do ponder as you continue maturing yourself to be the guide pointing your child to the perfect role model, Jesus. No prayers we release for our child will be a waste of time. Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.” Father God, Your word is alive and powerful, sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, joint and marrow. Please use Your holy words to expose the innermost thoughts of my child and I. Show us where we need to release selfish desires and reveal to us how to do it. Make us alive with fresh hearts that seek Your ways and give You great joy. Let’s examine several prayers to be used for any child. 1 John 2:5 says, “But those who obey God’s word truly show how completely they love Him. That is how we know we are living in Him.” Dear Heavenly Father, Your perfect word tells me that those who obey it truly show You how completely You are loved. Show my child and I that we are authentically living in You. Give us a passion to please You and help us remain steadfast to a lifestyle of honor for You. John 8:47 says, “Anyone who belongs to God listens gladly to the words of God. But you don’t listen because you don’t belong to God.” Father, may my child gladly listen to You because he is a child of Jesus. Please help him commit his life to You and steadfastly remain in Your hands because his faith is strong and courageous. 2 Timothy 2:15 says, “Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth.” Father God, may my child always do his best to present himself as one approved by and for You. May he be a worker without shame as he obediently and faithfully handles Your word of truth in every area of his life. As I shared earlier, God knows the exact needs our children have. He yearns for us to run to Him for advice and direction. As our Heavenly Father desires for us to shepherd our precious children back to Him, He calls for us to allow Him to shepherd us. I encourage you to make a list for each of your children or grandchildren of the needs you know they have. Perhaps they need more confidence, a more godly heart, more courage, more understanding of God’s word, esteem built on God’s opinion of and design for him, etc. These will be the first verses you will want to lift to the Lord. An overarching general theme of spiritual needs will be next, as were the verses and prayers we spoke earlier. A few examples of prayers for specific qualities could be as follows: Galatians 5:22-23 says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Gracious Heavenly Father, there is none like You. Through Your merciful gift of Jesus and the Holy Spirit for all who believe in You, You have allowed us to live with the fruit of the Spirit. Please allow my child to possess a deep faith in You with an obedience and trust that allows them to carry love, joy, peace, and patience, as well as kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control that comes from You alone. John 15:10-11 says, “If you keep My commandments, you will remain in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and remain in His love. I have told you these things so that My joy may be in you and your joy may be complete.” Father, in Your goodness, You desire that I have Your joy. Please help my child to remain in Your love by keeping Your commandments with a loving, purposeful heart that desires You. Allow him to attract, treasure, and maintain Your joy always. Psalm 120:2 says, “Deliver my soul, O Lord, from lying lips and a deceitful tongue.” Dear Heavenly Father, You are truth. Your holiness demands truth from Your people. Father, please guide my child in truth. May his lips flee from deceit. May his heart and mind desire truth as You do. Psalm 119:9-11 says, “How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to Your word. With all my heart I have sought You; do not let me stray from Your commandments. I have hidden Your word in my heart that I might not sin against You.” Gracious Heavenly Father, please equip my child to keep his way pure by seeking You with his whole heart and guarding it according to Your holy and perfect word. Do not let him stray from Your commandments. May he never desire to sin against You for his faith is true and his devotion to You deep and pure. James 2:22 says, “You see that his faith and his actions were working together, and his faith was made complete by what he did.” Father God, our Gracious, Holy, Heavenly Father, by Your word we see that faith alone can justify us, yet faith never remains alone. Faith that is true always exists with acts. When our faith is true, we demonstrate it by the works You spur in our life. We understand that works do not save, but they are a loving and obedient response to the love and faith we have for You. Please enable my child to have a faith that multiples and is exhibited by works that please You in their purity and joy. Help my child to believe in and follow You more each day. I pray that these examples are a starting point for you to craft a lasting legacy of prayer with and for your child. I’d love to hear what you design specifically for your home and children or grandchildren. Together, we can all grow in depth and width of faith and devotion for our Lord. There is strength in believing the power of God’s holy words and promises to us. Gift your child with a mature faith that models the way Jesus showed us to live. Allow him to see the evidence of the fruit of the Spirit growing within you and permit them the honor of praying over them daily in their presence. It will become a sweet time of shared fellowship and a direct line to the throne of God you will both treasure. Titus 2:7-8 says, “In everything, show yourself to be an example by doing good works. In your teaching show integrity, dignity, and wholesome speech that is above reproach, so that anyone who opposes us will be ashamed to have nothing bad to say about us.” Father God, please, in everything show me how to be an example of You for my children and grandchildren. Through your perfect words and Jesus’s model for us, may I show integrity, dignity, and wholesome speech that is above reproach so that my children and grandchildren are attracted to Your beauty and transforming power. May I never lead them astray. In Your precious name I pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this last podcast episode regarding praying scripture. I truly pray that it is a help to you in crafting a prayer life worthy of our perfect and holy Heavenly Father. I invite you to visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode 006 - Prayers for the Battle Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #006 – Prayers for the Battle Are you yearning for greater connection with your child? Would you like to parent beyond the moment with eternal perspective? Let’s grow together now with practical tips, scripture, and stories geared to draw your heart to Jesus and guide your child into His arms. On the last Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast episode number 005, we discussed what is means to battle for your child. At the end of the episode, I promised that on the next episode we would discuss specific prayers to equip you in the battle. This episode is rich with scriptural prayers you may use as templates for prayers you are led to offer. Remember, first you must know and show God in order for your child to form a desire to seek Him. One of the most loving acts you can offer your children is to obediently love God so wholly that your child experiences Him fully through your life and realize they must seek Him for themselves. Your child must see the faith life you experience and want the same relationship with their Heavenly Father. Prayer is one of the most important elements that will guide your child to Him. As I always emphasize, we must regularly read God’s word to know Him and grow in Him. We must also intimately communicate with our Heavenly Father through the gift of prayer , through speaking and listening. Prayer is not just muttering words to God and going on our day. It is a sacred, personal time with the Creator of the universe, our holy Heavenly Father. As God’s word teaches us, prayer is the offense we must use in the armor God has created for us. Prayer enables you to guide your child to the feet of Jesus, where you will both be able to stand against the wicked schemes of Satan, flesh, and this world. Our children must know that we trust in and rely on the Lord for every provision. They should see us live out our profession of faith so they may emulate it as they build their own faith. As they see us allow God to go before our trials and tribulations, see us submit to His work , guidance , and protection in our life as He lovingly carries us through each battle, they are more apt to do the same. This is the example we must mentor to our children so that they learn the blessing of an obedient life and grasp the power of God’s protection plan. Our children must see us apply God’s clear, strong offense of prayer through requesting and accepting His provisions and protection . They must witness us allowing Him to be the voice we seek and respond to. We must teach them to hear and follow their Heavenly Father and to make the faith we have taught to them their own . What are 5 key steps you must take to prayerfully release your child to God? 1. Teach your child to seek Jesus . A child can learn to find peace in the presence of Jesus and mature His relationship for a lifetime when he sees you live it in front of him. Teach your child to rest in Him because you do. 2. Pray for your child more than you make “purchases” for him . Children today have everything! But do they have Jesus residing within them? Let your child know how important a personal relationship with Jesus is because you have a maturing one, too. 3. Trust God to develop the faith you plant in your child . God cannot lie. There is only truth within Him. God assures us that He wants relationship with us. He loves your child more than you do and has a plan and purpose for each of your specific and unique children. 4. Surrender everything to God and teach your child to so the same . Let your child know you trust God by praying with and for your child. Teach them to pray for you. Openly discuss how you release cares and concerns to God and prove it by praying with them and living as one who trusts that God has matters in His control. Praise God no matter the answer to your prayers. God has His own timetable and knows the answers that will bring glory to His name. 5. Depend on God for the future of your child . As you go before situations in prayer, speaking God’s word and growing in the Lord in every way, trust that He is working all things for good. Remain steadfast in growing your faith and your prayers. Sometimes answers take a lifetime; sometimes we are unable to see the answers in our lifetime. Always remember to pray in accordance with God’s wills and desires, just as Jesus did, and submit to what He allows. Psalm 145:17-19 says, “The Lord is righteous in all His ways and kind in all His deeds. The Lord is near to all who call on Him, to all who call out to Him in truth. He fulfills the desires of those who fear Him; He hears their cry and saves them .” Prayer works, but doesn’t always bring the answer or timing we hoped for. Scripture tells us in Hebrews 4:12 , “The word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires .” Nothing else carries this power or wisdom of God’s word. Let’s use it now to transform God’s holy word into powerful prayers for the purpose of guarding and guiding the lives of our children and humbly releasing them into the wise and loving hands of God. In the last episode, I spoke of 6 areas parents need to be aware of as they raise their children. Let’s look at bible verses for each topic area and how to use purposed scripture in ways that allow you to pray in accordance with His will. 1. Satan - 2 Corinthians 4:4 says, “The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers so they cannot see the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God .” Dear God, thank you that You are my perfect guide and loving Father. I know the god of this age works to blind the minds of unbelievers, causing them to miss the light of the gospel and the glory of Jesus. Help me to be a lover of You and a parent who shines Your light and glory to my children. Let them see You exhibited so brightly that they cannot ignore Your presence and direction. May they draw near to You by what they see in me so You will draw near to them. Help them be a light for Your glory that enables others to see Your image. 2. Culture/society - Galatians 5:16-17 says, “So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh craves what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are opposed to each other, so that you do not do what you want.” Dear Heavenly Father, You call me to walk in the Spirit, but my flesh craves the opposite. Your truth tells me that by walking with You, I will not gratify the desires my flesh wants. My earthly body is in opposition to what You call. You walk in and only desire truth. Please enable me to please only You and walk in desires of the Spirit as I mentor my child to do the same. Cause them to crave Your desires and seek Your ways and truths. 3. Parental - Deuteronomy 6:6-8 says, “These words I am commanding you today are to be upon your hearts. And you shall teach them diligently to your children and speak of them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as reminders on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorposts of your houses and on your gates .” Gracious Loving Father, You command me to keep Your words upon my heart. Strike my heart with a thirst for Your word that extends to my children. You require me to teach Your truths diligently to my children and request that I speak of them whether I am at home or on the road, when I lie down and when I get up. You teach me to seek You at all times, remember Your words, and enable my children to do the same. Help me remember Your words and to exhibit You and Your scripture so beautifully in my life that my children speak of You and follow you at home, on the road, when they lie down, and when they get up. Fill them with a desire for more of You and the obedience to follow where You call. 4. Self-worth - 1 Samuel 16:7 says, “But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or height, for I have rejected him; the Lord does not see as man does. For man sees the outward appearance, but the Lord sees the heart .” Dear Father God, my fleshly eyes see more of the outward appearance of man at first glance, instead of the way You view each one of us, Your precious creation. Help me to see others as You do, but also to view myself through Your eyes and heart. Enable me to teach my children to value themselves and others through Your lens of truth. May my children release earthly opinions and selfish ambition and see with eyes of Truth the purposed way You have created them. May their heart continually mature to seek Yours and transform more and more into the image You set for them daily. 5. Attitude/Speech - Psalm 49:13 says, “My mouth will impart wisdom, and the meditation of my heart will bring understanding.” Father God, I thank you for Your mighty truth and holiness. May I continue to become more Christlike moment by moment and shine You for my children to view and follow me daily. May my words, actions, and reactions bring them to You and may them mirror the heart, thoughts, words, and attitude You call for them. Please give them Your wisdom because they seek You first and desire to know You in intimate and maturing ways that are pleasing to You. 6. Calling - Matthew 6:33-34 says, “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Today has enough trouble of its own.” Gracious, Loving Heavenly Father. There is none like You. You bring light and life into my existence, shower me with goodness and joy when I humbly follow You. Teach my children through me, show them Your love and grace. Allow me to lead them to Your arms and expose Your heart through me. May they seek You and Your ways without worry as they walk in close relationship with You. Allow them to find the purpose You have crafted within them. May they believe what You say about them through Your holy word and strive to follow what You lead them to be. May they have an intimate connection with You and humbly submit to Your purposes for them with joy as they follow You day by day. Although these prayers are basic, I hope they help you better see the way to pray scripture, kneeling before God with petitions in ways that honor and bring glory to our Heavenly Father. Just as Jesus prayed, we must give honor to God in the beginning of our prayers as we walk into the presence of the Lord with a humble spirit. Since prayers are so intimate, and for the sake of time in this episode, I have not created true beginnings into the prayers during this podcast. Also, I have not added endings to them, but please feel free to use these prayers to craft your own beautiful prayers. I pray that you find deep joy in your time before the Father and see Him work in wondrous ways because of the specific and honoring prayers you humbly offer to Him. Matthew 5:14-16 says, “You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a basket. Instead, they set it on a stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” We must allow the light of God to be what shines for all to see in our life. Followers of Christ must live on guard. We cannot let anything separate us from our Source of Light, or allow anyone to mistake His shining light for our strength. The light abiding within us shines brightly to attract others to Jesus. In another way, I see this verse as a beautiful reminder to me that I must allow Christ to pour out of me so that my children see Him within me. May they be amazed daily at the way I am transformed and may they see and remember that I always turn the praise and glory to Jesus so that they will do the same in their own life. Dear Heavenly Father, You are so gracious, loving, and kind. There is none like You, Great I Am. Thank you for Your provisions for us, Your sacrificial love for us. Thank you for the gift of the children You have purposed for and to us. Your beautiful plans are brighter and better than we can ever imagine. Thank you for entrusting the life of another into our care. May we please You with every step we take. May we move toward You in our own life and in the way we show and shine You to our children. Father, I pray we each desire You more deeply daily and our children do the vary same. May we please You with the intentions of our heart and the actions we take. May our speech praise You and our actions glorify You. Please care for our children through Your great hands. May they clearly see You and be drawn to You through what we make known to them in the way we live and teach them about You. Father, cut off the vines that are useless and prune us to make us more useful and pleasing to You. May our children live in ways that are closer to You and joyful to You because of it. May they give You great joy and pleasure because we have relied on You to show the way to their heart and bring them to their knees before You in humble and grateful love and obedience. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. If you enjoyed this episode, I suggest listening to my “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast episodes on Prayer and Praying Scripture. You can easily find them at terrihitt.com. You may appreciate Episode 18 – “Prayer,” episodes 63-65 on “Praying Scripture,” and Episode 66, “Praying Scripture with Children.” Click on the podcast page and type the episode you are looking for in the search bar at the top of the page. You can also look for “Prayers for My Child,” an ebook available on the website on the “Resources” page designed to guide the heart of your child to the feet of Jesus through prayer. This book continues many more scripturally-based prayers and you’re welcome to access it at no charge as a gift from me. The Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast will soon be available at terrihitt.com, where you can access the episodes housed in one convenient location, receive access to blog posts, read transcripts, and find additional resources designed to mature your walk with Christ and equip you to raise or influence connected children through Him. God knows that we are not capable of successful parenting on our own. As we rely on Him, releasing doubts and expectations, and humbly bow to His guidance and experience, we find greater clarity in parenting and a wondrous walk with our Creator that will extend to our children and those around us for generations . I pray this podcast helps you parent with purpose and deepen your connection to Jesus and your children as you intentionally place Christ above culture or self. Allow Him to work through you for true connection that will draw your children to Him and build a maturing relationship with Christ and your child that lasts for eternity. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast - Episode 083 - How to Establish Consistent Family Devotions and Change Your Family Dynamics Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 083 – How to Establish Consistent Family Devotions and Change Your Family Dynamics I don’t remember the exact date my husband and I committed to daily Bible reading together as a family. Before we brought our baby home, praying together was a highlight for my husband and me at the end of our day. When our daughter was a baby, my husband and I made sure we added Bible study to our prayer time, and we made it a family priority. As she grew older, we continued meeting together after my husband got home from work in the evenings and everyone had eaten dinner, had baths, and was ready to relax. For some reason, we loved gathering in the master bathroom. I smile as I remember the days we sat on the floor between the closet and the bathtub. Our two dogs, a Miniature Schnauzer and a Golden Retriever used to run ahead of us to the area we sat in, as they knew the family routine. Their actions clearly proved they knew where we were going and they were trying to beat one another to the spots that would allow them to cuddle with their favorite humans. Their sweet faces and eagerness made us feel like they wanted to digest God’s Word along with us. Ten years later when our youngest daughter came home to be with us, my husband’s job had changed and because of his long work hours, it was very difficult to get that family Bible time together. Although my husband and I could still read the Bible on our own, we understood how imperative it is to study God’s Word as a family. Even if we were unable to make time together in the Word daily with him, my daughters and I continued to meet and study. I share this because families should not wait for a perfect time to study and worship together. That time may never arrive. Don’t let excuses or schedules get a grasp on your growth in Christ together. Unfortunately, because of my husband’s job, the rest of us usually have to read the Word without him, but our family still has a commitment to pray together after he arrives home at night. My Bible time with my girls and our family prayer time at night remains the two sweetest times of my day. Make the most of the season of life you are in. Point your children to Jesus and ask God to show you the way to make Bible Study together a priority. Without parents lovingly modeling the reading of God’s Word and prioritizing it for children to emulate, without parents teaching the wisdom of God’s Word, and without parents explaining Scripture and ways to apply it to life, how will children begin to value the Word? How will they place it as a priority if they don’t see their parents placing God first? When your family has spent time intentionally reading Scripture together and discussing the applications and truths of God’s Word, your children learn to honor and respect God and listen to the wisdom He offers. When they witness you placing God first and see you lovingly walk in His ways through trials and triumphs, giving Him honor and glory through all things, they learn to do the same. Children believe what you teach when they see you consistently live what you preach. Do you remember the old saying, “A family that prays together stays together?” What a cute, rhyming statement. It’s also a powerful truth proving the power of God. What about the family that reads God’s Word together? Studying Scripture and learning His truths, commands, His values, and desires forms character and godly values in your child from a young age. As they grow, if you continue helping them construct a house of faith upon the firm foundation you built in their younger years, you will likely see them mature Christian faith and relationship with Jesus. Why do I say, “likely?” Life has many unexpected twists and turns. Complications arising from deaths, illnesses, accidents, job losses, and much more make consistency difficult. God knows the curves life throws. He is present and wants you to remain committed to drawing near to Him and showing your children how to do the same. That decision to remain consistent no matter what life brings is crucial. God will honor your dedication in more ways than you can imagine as He works all things together for His glory and your good, if you have been called according to His purpose. Just what would make a family that reads God’s Word together actually stay together and grow in the wisdom and knowledge of the Lord? God’s holy, powerful Word. Using Scripture as a groundwork for all your family stands for , is , and becomes isn’t easy. It begins with a decision to mature your relationship and that of your family. Whether you are in a season of sickness, health, good times, or bad, remain committed to your decision. God’s Word promises that He will never leave you or forsake you. You must choose to trust that no matter what, if you remain in pursuit of Him, relying on His guidance and wisdom to provide and protect, your family will experience the fruits of faithfulness and you will prosper in Him. Several benefits bloom from a family united under God’s Word. But before you can reap the harvest, you must do three things: Decide – Every action and the resulting fruits begin with a decision. When you decide to believe, trust, and humbly submit, your family reaps the benefits from your choice. Commit - A family that joins together in pursuit of Christ has made a choice to commit to God. Life is busy and distracting. The family that places Jesus above desires or schedules and regularly comes together to humbly bow before Him as a unit becomes stronger. Not only as individuals walking in faith, but as a family that serves and praises together. Prioritize – As you make time for Bible study together, your family learns about the importance of sacrifice and service for the Lord. Excuses are easy to lift, but true faith and commitment to God overrides feelings or emotions. Like working out or learning a new skill, it may take time to see the benefits or experience the blessings, but your Heavenly Father is faithful. Through God’s Word, your consistency, and your training, God will begin to transform character, desires, beliefs, and actions in your family members. As you purposely draw near to the Lord and teach your family to do the same, God sees and will bless your work for Him. You may wonder how to start consistent family Bible study. 1. Decide. Commit. Prioritize. Those are the first steps. 2. Choose a time that works to bring each family member together. There is no bad time. Use what works for your home to allow you to experience God’s Word together. 3. Give grace to one another. If you find that changes, don’t forgo coming together. Remember that life has seasons. Just as seasons change and life evolves, your Bible time together can do the same. Remain consistent, even if you have to change schedules sometimes. Just as I make sure I meet with my girls, and my husband joins when he can. Make the most of the time you are given. Ask God to show you the way to worship Him together. 4. Be age appropriate. Whether your children are babies or teens, as long as you consistently meet and study together, you will grow individually and as a unit. Keep ages and mental levels in mind as you plan when and what you will study. You are planting seeds with younger children and thrusting into deeper ground with older children. 5. Don’t think that your time together has to be perfect. Your family may choose to purchase a study to do formally together or you may simply use a good study Bible. Just make sure you get started and keep growing together. 6. Remember that God isn’t looking for perfection, but He is calling you to begin. Keep in mind that the important areas to include are easy to remember. They are: Scripture reading, discussion or question time, and prayer. 7. Know that your family is unique and the way you craft your family worship time can be, too. Make sure you include the basics I listed earlier, but you may also make time for worship in song with singing or instruments, add personal request and intercessory prayer for others, and add time for confession or the Lord’s Supper if you desire. Your time can be as short or long as you choose. It can be as simple or complicated as you wish it to become. Knowing your children or family, the seasons you are in, the interests and talents of your family members, and the relationships you share with God and each other are guideposts that will lead you. 8. Make sure that your time honors God, respects one another, is stress-free, and brings you and your family closer to God and each other. This should be a sweet experience, not a dreaded time of day. It may take a little time to get into the schedule, but don’t let these moments cause division or strife. 9. Incorporate what you read into areas of your lifestyle and experiences. As you study God’s Word together, you’ll find opportunities to refer to Scripture or what you learned during your daily time together. As these situations arise, the Word of God becomes a real and believable tool your child will use to shape beliefs, character, and to make decisions into eternity. Let me know if you need help with age appropriate resources. I’ll be happy to email you a listing of the items that have worked well in our home. Remember, you don’t have to be elaborate and your family worship doesn’t have to be long. Just come before God with your heart and mind ready to receive His truths and let your children see that you place their Heavenly Father first in your priorities. When you practice what you preach with love and patience, godly results are inevitable. Dear Heavenly Father how blessed we are to have relationship with You through Jesus. How good You are to give us Your Son as a guide, to give us Your holy Word, and to have the lifeline of prayer that goes directly to You. How deeply You have proven Your desire to be known to us. Thank you for giving us such unlimited access to You. Help us establish family devotions or grow our devotions into what You desire them to be. Don’t let our family worship become stale and help us to remain consistent and committed. Enable us to desire You more each day and to help our children see the blessings of growing under and through You. Help us never turn from You. Help us to see the many ways You choose to bless us through consistent time with You individually and as a family. We thank you and praise You! In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. Godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. That’s why I’ve created the Set-Apart Collective. Have you decided peers and culture won’t be the main influence over your child? Would you like to parent to prepare your child for eternity with Christ, not to repair a relationship? In the Set-Apart Collective, you will deepen your walk with Christ, learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family. The Set-Apart Collective is open now. Please send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information or look online at terrihitt.com/setapart. We can also set up a 15 minute call to chat about details. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. If you connected in some way with this episode, would you please rate and review the podcast on Apple or Spotify? It only takes a minute or so and makes a big difference in people finding the podcast. You and I know that the best reviews are by word of mouth, so would you please choose a friend to recommend the show to? Let them know that the podcast is found at terrihitt.com, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify. Imagine the change we will see in the way mothers parent for Christ if they learn to be intentional, too. Remember, if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection. Previous Next

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< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 072 - Important Christian Parenting Must-Do's Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 072 – Important Christian Parenting Must-Do’s Humble, merciful, loving. Joyful, peaceful, patient, kind. Gentle, controlled, fair, forgiving, grateful, content, discerning. Meek, respectful, virtuous, sinless. The qualities of Christ. My, there are countless more beautiful, holy descriptors than the basics words I just named. Each of these qualities is so important. Why? Every one of them identifies Jesus as Christ, the Son of God. The One who died for you. For me. For your children. Jesus is the One who made eternity with God possible for you, me, and our children. None of us come close to Jesus. He alone is the perfect mentor for us to pattern our lives after. He’s also the perfect model to follow when parenting. Philippians 2:5 says, “In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus.” Have the same mindset. This command is crucial in your relationship with your spouse and your children. Our families are gifts presented to us by the Father, who purposely allowed each of us to be together. Despite how good we try to be, or regardless of how much we love our spouse and children, we will always fall, always mess up, and always fall short of Christ’s example. Praise God! The closer we draw to Him and begin to carry the mindset of Christ, we experience many more fruits of the Spirit in our personal life and are able to walk in joy and peace with our family. Living and thriving as a family brings certain expectations from God that simply cannot be fulfilled through human strength. As Christians, we know God calls us to love Him first, and to love one another above self as Jesus loves us. He calls us to be faithful to Him and each other, not to provoke one another, and to teach and train our children in and through Him. Like I said earlier, knowing what God requires and actually fulfilling His expectations are two separate functions. Without purposely applying the will of the Holy Spirit living within and a love for Jesus as a driving force, it is easy to carry good intentions, but never fulfill the godly duties as God calls. Today, let’s look at eight ways you can use practical, timeless steps to nurture your personal walk with Jesus and fulfill the beautiful purpose and utilize the privilege God placed on you as a parent. 1. Put Christ First – Your relationship with Jesus is the heart of your walk with God. Your walk with the Lord will affect your spouse, and your children. Study and apply God’s Word. Everything you do reflects the work of the Holy Spirit in your heart. Are you submitting or resisting? The answer will be evident in the way you live, love, and parent. Colossians 2:6-8 says, “So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in Him, rooted and built up in Him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness. See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forces of this world rather than on Christ. ” 2. Ask God to Parent Through You – You are human. You will make mistakes. Pray that God will use your errors for His glory. Ask Him to give you insight into your unique children and direction through His holy Word and Spirit. Ask Him to keep you from repeating mistakes and to guard the hearts of your family members. Humbly submit to the Father parenting through you. The children you raise already belong to Him. Help them reach the purpose and potential that was crafted into them with purpose. Ephesians 6:4 says, “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord .” 3. Praise Your Child – As you instruct your child and watch them respond to Christ and mature their understanding of Him, continue to encourage. Planting the seeds of faith will invite God to sprout strong roots of faith. Do not accidentally or ignorantly be a barrier between your child and Christ. Through your actions, reactions, words, and desires, you can draw them nearer to Jesus or tear them away. 1 Peter 3:15 says, “But in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect .” 4. Set Godly Boundaries – Limits should be established as you protect and prepare your children, but those boundaries should be based on godly principles and truths, not human knowledge. Setting boundaries for your child should be based on godly guidelines imparted through God’s wisdom and insight. Children do need guidelines throughout life. As they mature in their relationship with Jesus with those godly protections in place, they will respect God. That obedience will extend to your relationship. Set loving boundaries that invite trust, faith, and joy, not religious restrictions. Galatians 5:16 says, “But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh .” 5. Require Help – Requiring children to help with chores invites respect and responsibility. When children take part in keeping their home clean or cooking dinner, for example, they begin to understand how home and family functions. They will accept partial responsibility of keeping the home upkept and develop respect for the different roles family members carry. Expecting your children to participate in caring for the home forms respect that will be a foundation for future relationships and responsibilities. Begin chores such as keeping their room clean from a very young age – always help them keep it clean, so that they will respect the space you have given them and help them to understand they are doing the work for God, not just because it is a chore you assign. Colossians 3:23 says, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters .” Hebrews 13:17 says, “Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you .” 6. Plan Personal Time – Just as you need time with God, personal time is needed with your spouse and children. Life is busy. You have to understand what is important in light of eternity and be intentional in making those activities a priority. Become an observer of pockets of time that may be used for enriching your life. Don’t forget to continue touch and conversation with your spouse. You are a team. The closer you are to Christ and each other, the more you will mirror Jesus to your watching children. Use moments to honor those you love with your personal attention and time. Whether it be a walk, a drive, play time, or moments set aside for deep conversation or laughter, look for something that allows you to connect. Genesis 2:24 says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh .” 7. Let Your Children (and your spouse) Know You Love and Understand Them Sometimes it’s easier for your family to believe they are loved, but still feel misunderstood . When they can feel and accept both from you, your relationship draws nearer and you are better equipped to mentor the path to Christ. Remember to let your family members see joy in your eyes when they come to you. At times, your patience might be stretched, you may need quiet time, or you might be exhausted, but they still need you. Let your reactions be gentle and pleasing to God. Tell them that you are tired, your patience might be low, but let them know they are a joy and you will do your best to help them with whatever they need. Does it sound like I’m telling you to be a perfect parent? I’m not. But I am reminding you to use the strength of God within you to be a godly parent who draws your child or spouse nearer to you and points them to the Father through each interaction you have together. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres .” Ephesians 4:32 says, “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” 8. Always Direct Life Issues, Love, Respect, Choices, and Obedience, etc. Back to God – If you are an attuned parent directing your child to God over you, you are purposely helping them to trust Christ as Savior. You are growing their identity through Him and for Him. This allows you to teach your child that no one will ever understand him or her like Christ. Hebrews 4:15 says, “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are--yet he did not sin .” Matthew 11:28-30 says, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” The list shared today is a short, but powerful beginning to ensure you are intentional to plan personal growth in Christ and fulfill the privilege God entrusted to you as a spouse and parent. Each of us must learn to better submit to God moment by moment and allow Him to guide and grow us through the Holy Spirit within. True joy and peace come from following the commands God gives. Use His holy, loving power to parent with purpose. Dear Heavenly Father, God we are amazed at the love and care You have intentionally used to craft our children. You purposely planned for them and assigned us responsibility when You entrusted them to us to raise. Your mercy and grace through the life-saving work of Jesus and gifting us with children are perfect examples of how sacred the work is that parents complete. Help us to humbly bow before You daily with the mindset and heart that You desire, and deserve. Enable us to seek You over self and reflect Jesus in the ways You need our children to see. Father, Your children are such beautiful gifts that we simply cannot take for granted. Help us stop being good parents and become godly in every way you call. Time is so short. Our children need parents who are purposed in working under Your hand and heart. Father, help us honor and obey You in this privileged purpose. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. I believe godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. That’s why I’ve created the Set-Apart Collective. Have you decided peers and culture won’t be the main influence over your child? Would you like to parent to prepare your child for eternity with Christ, not to repair a relationship? In the Set-Apart Collective, you will deepen your walk with Christ, learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family. The Set-Apart Collective wait list is open now. The first group of women is currently growing together. Please send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. If you connected in some way with this episode, would you please rate and review the podcast on Apple or Spotify? It only takes a minute or so and makes a big difference in people finding the podcast. You and I know that the best reviews are by word of mouth, so would you please choose a friend to recommend the show to? Let them know that the podcast is found at terrihitt.com, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify. Imagine the change we will see in the way mothers parent for Christ if they learn to be intentional, too. Remember, if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 093 - Why Good Isn't Enough for God Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 093 – Why Good Isn’t Enough for God Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast deepens your walk with Jesus and your children, equipping you to become a set-apart woman and mother. I can’t believe most schools are already back in session! When that happens, it feels like summer is over. Ahh. It breaks my heart. This time of year is certainly the most challenging for me. No other season holds my heart quite like summer. Even though I don’t find the heat and humidity easy to handle anymore, I’m always disappointed when summer days move out and are replaced with crisper, cooler air. Although I realize I’m in the minority, I desire summer days to make up most of the year. Since we know nothing lasts forever, seasons are a beautiful reminder of why we must live with eternal perspective . Have you had days, weeks, or years of life that you want to last forever? Or maybe right now you feel the opposite. Do you wonder how much longer you have to endure the season you’re experiencing? Everyone knows change can be good. Change can become the catalyst that moves us to be in sync with the next transformation God has for us. I distinctly remember a time I’m glad I experienced a shift in thoughts and actions. There was a period in my life when I wanted to make sure I was a good person. A good woman. A good wife. A good daughter. A good mother. As my relationship with Jesus matured, I understood that limiting myself to “good” was “ungodly.” God calls believers to a much higher standard than good. Good isn’t good enough for God. It’s true that in the beginning when God created, He exclaimed that what He made was good. However, God proclaimed His creations to be good, not that we individually or collectively are. What I mean is that what God created is by His intelligent and perfect design. Of course, anything He makes is good. Yet, in this sinful, fallen world, it didn’t take long for God’s creations to choose what appeared to be good – when it reality it was sin . Without Christ indwelling us, we continue to move farther from God. We shift farther away from what God defines as good . What the Creator of heaven and earth calls good must actually be godly . Without the Holy Spirit within us, there is no perfection or godliness. In fact, we are unable to claim the status of “good,” let alone “godly.” So how do you and I move away from desiring a good life to building a godly life ? Only through Christ . Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God .” Once we realize our need for God, we begin to understand the need for His perfect Son, Jesus to pay the price for our sin. Once we realize our need for a Savior , and accept the free gift Jesus offers, we are able to live with His Holy Spirit within us. We are no longer bound to the world and sinful temptations. Through relationship with Christ, the Holy Word, and prayerful conversations with God, we can experience a shift from good to godly . That is, if we are intentionally seeking Him in a humble, obedient, close connection moment by moment. Ephesians 2:8-9 says, “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— not by works, so that no one can boast .” Every world religion, except Christianity, teaches that eternal life comes through good works of some sort. As the verse I shared from Ephesians shows, salvation is a gift from God extended through His son, Jesus Christ. When we ponder the question of how to move from good to godly, we must assess who or what defines godliness . Only the Creator of all things can define what is good or godly. God’s standard is holy . Godliness , not goodness is His desire . He is the One who sets the definition. He set the price of eternal life. He is the One who extends salvation, allowing each of us a choice. Our motives and what we desire must be held up to a mirror, so to speak, as we look at how our goals are reflected against what God calls for us in His holy Word. We must take what we call good and measure it to see if it may be called holy . Until we reconcile with what God sees as godliness , not goodness, we continue to fall short of what He calls. My heart fills with joy when I remember when my first set of children were raised and before my husband and I knew that God was calling us to adopt a sweet baby from China. We didn’t know yet that we had a baby daughter waiting for us. At that time, I was experiencing much deeper growth in my spiritual walk with Christ. Slowly by slowly, I had allowed God greater access to me. I wish I could profess to be one of those people who surrender fully in the moment they accept Christ, but the truth is that each of us have varying degrees of surrender throughout our lifetime. We never reach that finish line in this life. We are so very far beneath God, so far from Him, that our lifetime must be focused on pursuing deeper relationship with Him and continuing to surrender self. As my relationship with Jesus deepened and widened, I thought back to when my husband and I had raised our first two children. I was not a Christian when my first two were born. Although I came to follow Jesus when they were young, I wasn’t well discipled. I wasted so many years trying to make “good” choices, but not striving to be godly . Would you like to know my deepest regret? Although my children always heard about Jesus, and knew I loved and followed Him, I did not know to intentionally disciple them moment by moment in the everyday process of life. I didn’t yet understand that the Christian walk is a beautiful relationship between God and man. I didn’t understand the command in Deuteronomy 6:5-9 , which says, “You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” I assumed that what I was doing to teach my children about Jesus was enough. In reality, they were learning my limited faith, since I was not growing as well as I should have been. Since they weren’t being discipled well, they modeled a portion of my faith instead of chasing Christ and forming a growing personal walk with Him. How are you pursuing Christ? Is He directing every aspect of your parenting – whether your children are young or grown? The story I share about raising my first set of children is common. Be sure it doesn’t become the story you give your children. As my husband and I grew our walk with Jesus, we knew with certainty that God was calling us to travel to China to bring home the baby girl He had waiting to be ours. Before we went, we prayed together daily for the girl she would grow to be. Our heart desired that she be a light for Jesus, that she pursue Him with a pure heart, and that she would be an inspiration for others to follow Him. We asked God specifically for that result. I remember the days I worked backwards to formulate a plan to raise her with very godly goals. Ten years later when we returned to China to bring home our last child, the “master plan” for raising our girls for Christ had been practiced, and our youngest enabled us to continue the course with another beautiful soul to nourish for Jesus. Although there are so many important details I’m not including here, this story is so important to me, because our second step into parenting with a new generation of children was very intentional. My mind and heart were anchored on Christ through all obstacles. My husband and I committed to stand on that firm foundation. When deep waters swirled around us, when tragedy and troubles plagued our home, we tightened our grip on that three-fold cord that kept God in the center of all. No matter what happened, we remained committed to raising our girls and influencing our grown son and grandson for Christ. Each of us must continue to examine our lives, seeking more of Him and less of self. We must make Him known to our children in ways that cause them to pursue godliness over goodness . We must knit together that close relationship with us and Jesus. A relationship that enables them to pursue with eagerness a life that makes godly over good choices because they love and respect God and want to honor Him . It doesn’t matter how good a parent you want to be or are. God calls you and me to be holy, godly mothers. There is nothing greater we can do than fix our heart and mind above. Focus on the methods given by God to raise children for Him. If we don’t purposely lead our children to Christ, the world will sway them away. We must be focused on living godly lives through Christ so our children clearly see Him through us and desire Him for themselves. We must deepen our connection with our children through Christ and enable them to seek His approval over ours or peers. Remember, your child’s deep connection with Christ begins with your personal walk with Jesus. God’s holy, perfect Word tells us that we don’t earn grace through works or anything we do on our own. Our children must also be taught this truth. They must see us live with joyful expectation of pleasing God and growing our walk with Christ moment by moment. They must be shown how to do so. They must see how to make godly life choices instead of what society calls good. We know good isn’t enough for God. We can’t reach His heart through good works or thoughts. Set your children up for a lifetime walk with God through Jesus by the way you mentor Him with godliness and truth. Think of the end of your life, the end of your children’s lives. What will they look like? How are you going to get there? Is the route you’re taking a good one? Or are you living and leading a godly life for your children to follow to the Father’s feet? Dear Heavenly Father, You alone are holy. You alone are greater than the good we desire. Move us from good to godly in the ways You know we need. Help us to be more and more pleasing to You each moment. May our heart and mind be in sync with Your desires for us as we move ever nearer to You. Father, I thank you for Your Word, Your perfect guidance. May we understand You better and please You more as we read and act in obedience to it. May we stop trying for good and strive to be godly. May we end each day more Christlike than the one before as we remember the words Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” May His godliness influence every act and decision we make and the way we mentor You to our children. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Raising children is challenging. No one has all the answers because each child is unique as are parenting styles and family dynamics. By connecting with and knowing your children as you maintain purposed growth in Christ, you will be better prepared for any situation you face. That’s why you hear me share about the Set-Apart Collective in this podcast. Supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. Godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will deepen your walk with Christ. You’ll learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family. Send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information or look online at terrihitt.com/setapart. We can also set up a no obligation, strategic 15 minute call to chat about your needs to see if the program is a right fit for you. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. Because you’re a podcast listener, let me know if you’re ready to invest in the future of your children. If you tell me you heard about the special price I offer on this podcast, I will give you a big discount because I want you to experience results. Instead of a $997 value, I’ll give you a discount code that enables you to pay only $247. If you are serious about parenting with eternal perspective and raising children to chase Christ over culture, I’m making this very affordable and easy to do. Also, if you appreciated this episode, would you please rate and review the podcast on Apple or Spotify? It only takes a few minutes and makes a big difference in whether people are able to find the podcast. Also, you and I know that the best reviews are by word of mouth, so please choose a friend to recommend the show to. Imagine the changes we will see in the way mothers parent for Christ if they learn to be intentional, too. One last thing to remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #053 –Lifeline of Christ Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. I wish you each a joyous new year! I don’t think I’ve said that on the podcast yet. It’s probably not a surprise to hear that I’m not a big “turn the calendar and get a fresh start with a brand new year” kind of person. While it’s always very fun to celebrate New Years Eve with my family by playing games together and eating great snacks, that’s as far as we go. But it is so much fun to be together on New Year’s Eve and I honestly never want it to end. But as I have already raised a set of children to adulthood, I know it does. Parents, savor every moment you can. While we adore time spent together and appreciate moments because none of us know how long we are here or how many new years we will have the privilege to enjoy with each other, our family doesn’t recognize new year “superstitions” or heavy cultural influences, but I think it is super fun to hear the different ways other cultures celebrate. Let me share a few of the different ways various countries experience ringing in the new year. Some are humorous, some superstitious, but all are interesting. Did you know that in Spain a person will select twelve grapes and as the clock begins to strike midnight, you are to eat one grape at every chime of the clock, up to twelve o’clock? Each grape is supposed to symbolize one month of good luck. In Denmark people will throw old plates and glasses against the doors of their family and friends. Why? Because this act is supposed to banish evil spirits. They also stand on chairs and jump off of them together at midnight to signify leaping into January with the hope of good luck. Have you heard that in Brazil people supposedly wear special underwear on New Year’s Eve? The most popular colors are supposedly red, which is thought to bring love to the new year, and yellow, which is thought to bring money. Hmm. Which would you prefer? In Colombia people will place three potatoes under their beds on New Year’s Eve. One potato is unpeeled, one peeled, and one half-peeled. At midnight, people will reach beneath the bed and pull out one potato – the first one they touch. They believe that if you retrieve a peeled potato, you will suffer a year of financial problems. If you grab an unpeeled potato, you will receive abundance, and a half-peeled potato means a year containing a mixture of both. In the Philippines, people serve round fruits – twelve in all. The round shape is supposed to symbolize coins – meaning prosperity and wealth for each month of the new year. These are just a few of the interesting ways other cultures ring in the new year. I wonder which you found most interesting. I find Colombia and the potatoes humorous; can you imagine forgetting those potatoes and fighting the smell of rotten potato later?! Although each country has unique ways to celebrate at midnight, people around the world have one thing in common when celebrating the new year. Resolutions. It doesn’t matter where you live. Many people around the world make changes when the new year arrives. Unfortunately, by February, most resolutions have been broken or forgotten. Thankfully, when we build our hope around Jesus, we can enjoy hearing the various ways people celebrate, but we don’t rely on superstitious traditions to carry us into the new year or through life. I’ve never been interested in making resolutions to begin a new year, but I am always alert for lifestyle habit changes I need to make. However, I recognize, as I hope you do, that when I see the need to shift my ways, I do not wait until the new year. I want to begin when I realize the need for adjustment. Especially when it comes to my relationship with God. In reality, our walk with Him should be maturing every single day. Some days we may fall back and not do a single thing we wanted to do with God, but our reservoir should be so full from previous time with Him that we remain strong and growing no matter what circumstances swirl around us. Even when we are sick or going through an extremely taxing time, our goal is to still be able to be doing something daily to grow our walk with God through Jesus. What if we are sick and cannot even hold our head up to read His word? We can still converse with Him and listen for His response. We can be sustained by the words we hold in our minds and heart. If we have not invested time with Him, it will set us back and be noticed quickly, but if we usually spend our days wisely growing through Jesus, allowing Him to carry, stretch, and grow us, we will continue to rest and mature in Him through other ways during that time. When we know God intimately through Jesus, we will see events and circumstances through His eyes and mindset. We purposely look for eternal value in each day. Our words, actions, and attitudes should continue to reflect and seek Him. We understand that there is value in problems and set-backs because we allow them to thrust us into His arms instead of whining and complaining or pulling away from Him. Circumstances and pains are valued in the life of a believer, because we want to be able to stand the tests of this world and still be standing strong in Him. In order to utilize that mindset, we must exercise it daily. 1 Peter 5:6-11 says, “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that He may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you. Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that the family of believers throughout the world is undergoing the same kind of sufferings. And the God of all grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will Himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. To Him be the power for ever and ever.” To live this way, we must desire Him above all else. We must be committed to maturing our walk with the Lord to have the ability to put Him first. A decision must be made to cleave to Him through all things. Luke 12:31 says, “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and he will give you everything you need.” Isaiah 26:8-9 says, “Lord, we show our trust in You by obeying Your laws; our heart’s desire is to glorify Your name. In the night I search for You; in the morning I earnestly seek You.” Both of these verses show us facets of dedication to God. Seek Him, lift Him above all else, obey Him, keep His commands (not just to follow laws, but because we want to love and honor Him), seek His kingdom and righteousness, and strive to glorify Him. When we know and trust God, we do not have to follow superstitions or seek ungodly “worldly” counsel. We can go straight to “the Source” through Jesus. Courage and freedom are found through Jesus Christ alone. So often we want to know and love God, but we allow life circumstances or something from our past to trip us up. We wonder how to find a deeper walk with God and don’t know how to reach Him through a true and deepening walk. It is my desire to lead you to Him. I know the changes He has made in my own life. I know His word and promises are true. Jesus is our lifeline. When you think of the definition of the word, lifeline, what comes to mind? Several explanations for the word include the following: a line or rope for saving a life. It is also any of various lines running above the decks of a ship or boat to give sailors something to grasp when there is danger of falling or being washed away. How often are we in danger of falling or being washed away in this life? A lifeline is also defined as assistance at a critical time. Life is full of dire or pivotal times. It is essential that we hold fast to Christ at each step of our walk and maturation with Him. It is my prayer that each person listening to this podcast will stop and make the time to do three things today. I don’t care how close you feel you are to the Lord already. We will never be close enough. Each day is meant to carry the purpose of relying on and growing more deeply with Him and shining Him to others. When we are His, we must realize the importance of following Him above all else in this world. Romans 11:36 says, “For everything comes from Him and exists by His power and is intended for His glory. All glory to Him forever!” How many people live like that? We have to purpose our life for His if we are to begin living the way God truly calls for us to do. Please stop today to ponder and complete five acts that will prepare or enable you to grasp Jesus as your continuous lifeline. 1. Reflect on your walk with Jesus. Reflect on your spiritual walk. Spend time in prayer – speaking to and listening for God. Ask Him to expose sin and to guide you on what to change in your life. Reflect on His word. Even when we may fall short by not reading God’s word daily, our desire and plan should be to do it. Why? Because if we plan to read God’s word daily, we will actually do so more times than not. When we plan to read the Bible daily, it will become habit. When something becomes a habit, we will do it almost daily. Life doesn’t feel the same when we miss it. We crave the routine and, most importantly, our life shows the difference God makes when we truly know and follow Him. 2. Repent to God. 2 Corinthians 7:10 says, “For the kind of sorrow God wants us to experience leads us away from sin and results in salvation. There’s no regret for that kind of sorrow. But worldly sorrow, which lacks repentance, results in spiritual death.” Boldly asking God what He desires us to change leads to profound spiritual growth when we listen and obey Him. God loves prayers that follow His will for us. Until we each begin or continue to change our relationship with God and truly follow Him with love, honor, trust, and obedience, this world will not change. Our children and families will continue to slide more and more into what this ungodly world teaches and what our twisted culture teaches. 3. Renew your commitment to the Lord. Each moment with the Lord is new. We don’t have to wait for the next day. We can come before Him at any time! We should be cognizant of our walk with Him at all times. Why? Because when we truly care about someone, we think about them. We honor them and want to please them. Once we understand our relationship with Jesus, and our place in it, we understand that this world is broken and so far from what God wants for our life. What bothers you? What has God put on your heart to allow Him to change through you? As each of us are created for a purpose, part of the joy of being a follower of Jesus is realizing what He desires from and for us. Our relationship with Him is meant to make a bright difference in this dark world. First, we must allow God to shift our life, attitude, and beliefs. Next, our family must not remain the same. In fact, they will not remain untouched when they see the difference Christ makes in us. 4. React to God. 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 says, “Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? What harmony can there be between Christ and the devil? How can a believer be a partner with an unbeliever? And what union can there be between God’s temple and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God said: “I will live in them and walk among them. I will be their God, and they will be my people. Therefore, come out from among unbelievers, and separate yourselves from them, says the Lord. Don’t touch their filthy things, and I will welcome you. And I will be your Father, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.” It is said that when oxen of different sizes are yoked together, they will move in circles. Just like a relationship with believers and non-believers, they are “unequally yoked.” Any type of unequally yoked partnership will not prosper. I believe this is such an important point to consider and remember. I have actually seen this proven during my life. God’s word is always established to be genuine. Here is where it gets tricky in our culture, however, and I think it is very important to mention. The world we live in is looking to take offense at absolutely everything. God should be our guide and lifeline. We must be strong enough in and through Him that we can withstand the pressures of this world because He is our shield. We do not have to believe what our culture, entertainment, fashion and others tell us. When we are firm in Him, we take everything back to the word of God for authentication. I want to be captive to the word of God and the life of Jesus and live the way they desire. We should study, know, recognize, and follow God’s word, not others in the world, no matter who they are. There are many false prophets and teachers, and I urge you to take anything you hear, even my words, and hold it against what God’s word teaches. Do not allow yourself to be misled. Don’t break that lifeline to Jesus and don’t let it get tangled by confusion or corrupted beliefs. I do believe that God wants us to follow and shine Him in this world. In order to do that well, we must study the life of Jesus and allow Him to be our mentor and guide, as well as allow Him to direct us through the Holy Spirit. Many Christians are perceived as being judgmental and of living with a holier than thou attitude. This is not what God desires. We are to be a sweet fragrance that attracts, not repels others to Him. We are imperfect people trying to follow a perfect God. We will make mistakes, but do not let that be an excuse! As we lean on the Lord, holding firmly to our lifeline, and truly take moments captive for eternity, we will see how vitally important it is that we allow Him to work within us. This world does not need us to preach to them what they should do. They need to see us living a humble life filled with the spirit of Jesus. When they see our attitude, actions, and mindset, and it remains consistent, not attacking others, but setting an example that is different, He will be noticed. Of course, I know that in the world we live in, there is so much to address, but as we let the Lord guide us, He will show us what actions to take. I try to live my life in ways that Jesus would approve of, and each day when I fall short in some way, I take it to Him and allow Him to change and guide me. As I grow in the Lord, I want my thoughts to match His. Jesus offers the only life-changing and saving words this world needs. Paul’s words in 2 Corinthians 6:3-10 speak to the point I am attempting to make. He says, “We live in such a way that no one will stumble because of us, and no one will find fault with our ministry. In everything we do, we show that we are true ministers of God. We patiently endure troubles and hardships and calamities of every kind. We have been beaten, been put in prison, faced angry mobs, worked to exhaustion, endured sleepless nights, and gone without food. We prove ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience, our kindness, by the Holy Spirit within us, and by our sincere love. We faithfully preach the truth. God’s power is working in us. We use the weapons of righteousness in the right hand for attack and the left hand for defense. We serve God whether people honor us or despise us, whether they slander us or praise us. We are honest, but they call us impostors. We are ignored, even though we are well known. We live close to death, but we are still alive. We have been beaten, but we have not been killed. Our hearts ache, but we always have joy. We are poor, but we give spiritual riches to others. We own nothing, and yet we have everything.” People need to see God’s truths in us, not hear us start reciting how they should live. I pray I will live in such a way that I am loving and kind to all. It is God’s job to judge. I can share the gospel and tell how profoundly Jesus has changed my life, I can raise my children to know Him and allow them to choose to love and follow Him because they have not only heard the gospel, but they have seen it in my attitude and actions. What you do is not my business. If you do not believe the same as I do, I am not obligated to try to force your mind or point out flaws. I have enough of my own and each one of us sins every single day. God gives each of us a choice, but we should have the freedom to express what has happened in our life and what Jesus has done for us. I want you to see Him so strongly in me that you will choose Him for yourself and God will change what needs to be corrected in you, as He does in me. I do believe this world is broken in many ways. We have strayed so far from where God wants us to be. I do believe our nation is in for troubled times as we move farther and farther from where God’s word tells us to be or from the example Jesus set for us. Our children and grandchildren will suffer greatly because we have drifted so far. Now is the time to react with a heart change as we allow the Holy Spirit to alter us with light and truth. We must prepare ourselves for battles, including physical, mental, verbal, and spiritual, by living with values and virtues of Christ and arming ourselves with power from the Lord and truth from His word. 5. Rest in God. As we grow in spiritual maturity, trust, and love for God, we are better able to simply rest in Him. Instead of living with constant worry over the state of the nation, our finances, our health, our children, or innumerable potential problems, we humbly fall to our knees and beg the only One who can actually change our situation. We intentionally live in ways that are pleasing to Him and honor the commands He gives us, as only God knows what will truly fulfill us. The closer we move to Him, we become bound to Him as our lifeline, and our heart and mindset reflect the desires and motivations God requires. Ephesians 3:16-19 says, “I pray that out of His glorious riches He may strengthen you with power through His Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.” Jesus tells us in Matthew 10:38-39, “Whoever does not take up their cross and follow Me is not worthy of Me. Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for My sake will find it.” So. Stop. Make time today to reflect, repent, renew, react, and rest. Pay attention to what God says and shows to you. This should be a daily habit we desire, a natural response like breathing. Just like love for those we know on earth, our love for the Lord should be so strong and such a part of us that we fight for it. If your first love, Jesus is not a strong attraction anymore, remember why you became a follower and nurture that light and love until it is a burning flame that will never be extinguished. Dear Heavenly Father, You tell us in Your word that You are the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. You promise us that You never grow tired or weary and that we cannot fathom Your understanding. You give strength to the weary and You increase the power of the weak. You teach us that although youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall, those who hope in You will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles, and will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not be faint. It is only through relying on You and clinging to the lifeline You offer us, Lord that we will experience this truth. Help us to look to You and never release our grip on the lifeline that connects us to You. We need You, Lord. Enable us to live like it more each day. In Your precious name we boldly and humbly pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this episode. The Live With Eternal Perspective podcast is currently linked to terrihitt.com, where you can access the episodes housed in one convenient location, as well as receive access to blog posts, transcripts, and additional resources designed to mature your walk with Christ and equip you to raise or influence children with love and purpose through Him. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to Jesus and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up and find new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 053 Lifeline of Christ Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #053 –Lifeline of Christ Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. I wish you each a joyous new year! I don’t think I’ve said that on the podcast yet. It’s probably not a surprise to hear that I’m not a big “turn the calendar and get a fresh start with a brand new year” kind of person. While it’s always very fun to celebrate New Years Eve with my family by playing games together and eating great snacks, that’s as far as we go. But it is so much fun to be together on New Year’s Eve and I honestly never want it to end. But as I have already raised a set of children to adulthood, I know it does. Parents, savor every moment you can. While we adore time spent together and appreciate moments because none of us know how long we are here or how many new years we will have the privilege to enjoy with each other, our family doesn’t recognize new year “superstitions” or heavy cultural influences, but I think it is super fun to hear the different ways other cultures celebrate. Let me share a few of the different ways various countries experience ringing in the new year. Some are humorous, some superstitious, but all are interesting. Did you know that in Spain a person will select twelve grapes and as the clock begins to strike midnight, you are to eat one grape at every chime of the clock, up to twelve o’clock? Each grape is supposed to symbolize one month of good luck. In Denmark people will throw old plates and glasses against the doors of their family and friends. Why? Because this act is supposed to banish evil spirits. They also stand on chairs and jump off of them together at midnight to signify leaping into January with the hope of good luck. Have you heard that in Brazil people supposedly wear special underwear on New Year’s Eve? The most popular colors are supposedly red, which is thought to bring love to the new year, and yellow, which is thought to bring money. Hmm. Which would you prefer? In Colombia people will place three potatoes under their beds on New Year’s Eve. One potato is unpeeled, one peeled, and one half-peeled. At midnight, people will reach beneath the bed and pull out one potato – the first one they touch. They believe that if you retrieve a peeled potato, you will suffer a year of financial problems. If you grab an unpeeled potato, you will receive abundance, and a half-peeled potato means a year containing a mixture of both. In the Philippines, people serve round fruits – twelve in all. The round shape is supposed to symbolize coins – meaning prosperity and wealth for each month of the new year. These are just a few of the interesting ways other cultures ring in the new year. I wonder which you found most interesting. I find Colombia and the potatoes humorous; can you imagine forgetting those potatoes and fighting the smell of rotten potato later?! Although each country has unique ways to celebrate at midnight, people around the world have one thing in common when celebrating the new year. Resolutions. It doesn’t matter where you live. Many people around the world make changes when the new year arrives. Unfortunately, by February, most resolutions have been broken or forgotten. Thankfully, when we build our hope around Jesus, we can enjoy hearing the various ways people celebrate, but we don’t rely on superstitious traditions to carry us into the new year or through life. I’ve never been interested in making resolutions to begin a new year, but I am always alert for lifestyle habit changes I need to make. However, I recognize, as I hope you do, that when I see the need to shift my ways, I do not wait until the new year. I want to begin when I realize the need for adjustment. Especially when it comes to my relationship with God. In reality, our walk with Him should be maturing every single day. Some days we may fall back and not do a single thing we wanted to do with God, but our reservoir should be so full from previous time with Him that we remain strong and growing no matter what circumstances swirl around us. Even when we are sick or going through an extremely taxing time, our goal is to still be able to be doing something daily to grow our walk with God through Jesus. What if we are sick and cannot even hold our head up to read His word? We can still converse with Him and listen for His response. We can be sustained by the words we hold in our minds and heart. If we have not invested time with Him, it will set us back and be noticed quickly, but if we usually spend our days wisely growing through Jesus, allowing Him to carry, stretch, and grow us, we will continue to rest and mature in Him through other ways during that time. When we know God intimately through Jesus, we will see events and circumstances through His eyes and mindset. We purposely look for eternal value in each day. Our words, actions, and attitudes should continue to reflect and seek Him. We understand that there is value in problems and set-backs because we allow them to thrust us into His arms instead of whining and complaining or pulling away from Him. Circumstances and pains are valued in the life of a believer, because we want to be able to stand the tests of this world and still be standing strong in Him. In order to utilize that mindset, we must exercise it daily. 1 Peter 5:6-11 says, “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that He may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you. Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that the family of believers throughout the world is undergoing the same kind of sufferings. And the God of all grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will Himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. To Him be the power for ever and ever.” To live this way, we must desire Him above all else. We must be committed to maturing our walk with the Lord to have the ability to put Him first. A decision must be made to cleave to Him through all things. Luke 12:31 says, “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and he will give you everything you need.” Isaiah 26:8-9 says, “Lord, we show our trust in You by obeying Your laws; our heart’s desire is to glorify Your name. In the night I search for You; in the morning I earnestly seek You.” Both of these verses show us facets of dedication to God. Seek Him, lift Him above all else, obey Him, keep His commands (not just to follow laws, but because we want to love and honor Him), seek His kingdom and righteousness, and strive to glorify Him. When we know and trust God, we do not have to follow superstitions or seek ungodly “worldly” counsel. We can go straight to “the Source” through Jesus. Courage and freedom are found through Jesus Christ alone. So often we want to know and love God, but we allow life circumstances or something from our past to trip us up. We wonder how to find a deeper walk with God and don’t know how to reach Him through a true and deepening walk. It is my desire to lead you to Him. I know the changes He has made in my own life. I know His word and promises are true. Jesus is our lifeline. When you think of the definition of the word, lifeline, what comes to mind? Several explanations for the word include the following: a line or rope for saving a life. It is also any of various lines running above the decks of a ship or boat to give sailors something to grasp when there is danger of falling or being washed away. How often are we in danger of falling or being washed away in this life? A lifeline is also defined as assistance at a critical time. Life is full of dire or pivotal times. It is essential that we hold fast to Christ at each step of our walk and maturation with Him. It is my prayer that each person listening to this podcast will stop and make the time to do three things today. I don’t care how close you feel you are to the Lord already. We will never be close enough. Each day is meant to carry the purpose of relying on and growing more deeply with Him and shining Him to others. When we are His, we must realize the importance of following Him above all else in this world. Romans 11:36 says, “For everything comes from Him and exists by His power and is intended for His glory. All glory to Him forever!” How many people live like that? We have to purpose our life for His if we are to begin living the way God truly calls for us to do. Please stop today to ponder and complete five acts that will prepare or enable you to grasp Jesus as your continuous lifeline. 1. Reflect on your walk with Jesus. Reflect on your spiritual walk. Spend time in prayer – speaking to and listening for God. Ask Him to expose sin and to guide you on what to change in your life. Reflect on His word. Even when we may fall short by not reading God’s word daily, our desire and plan should be to do it. Why? Because if we plan to read God’s word daily, we will actually do so more times than not. When we plan to read the Bible daily, it will become habit. When something becomes a habit, we will do it almost daily. Life doesn’t feel the same when we miss it. We crave the routine and, most importantly, our life shows the difference God makes when we truly know and follow Him. 2. Repent to God. 2 Corinthians 7:10 says, “For the kind of sorrow God wants us to experience leads us away from sin and results in salvation. There’s no regret for that kind of sorrow. But worldly sorrow, which lacks repentance, results in spiritual death.” Boldly asking God what He desires us to change leads to profound spiritual growth when we listen and obey Him. God loves prayers that follow His will for us. Until we each begin or continue to change our relationship with God and truly follow Him with love, honor, trust, and obedience, this world will not change. Our children and families will continue to slide more and more into what this ungodly world teaches and what our twisted culture teaches. 3. Renew your commitment to the Lord. Each moment with the Lord is new. We don’t have to wait for the next day. We can come before Him at any time! We should be cognizant of our walk with Him at all times. Why? Because when we truly care about someone, we think about them. We honor them and want to please them. Once we understand our relationship with Jesus, and our place in it, we understand that this world is broken and so far from what God wants for our life. What bothers you? What has God put on your heart to allow Him to change through you? As each of us are created for a purpose, part of the joy of being a follower of Jesus is realizing what He desires from and for us. Our relationship with Him is meant to make a bright difference in this dark world. First, we must allow God to shift our life, attitude, and beliefs. Next, our family must not remain the same. In fact, they will not remain untouched when they see the difference Christ makes in us. 4. React to God. 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 says, “Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? What harmony can there be between Christ and the devil? How can a believer be a partner with an unbeliever? And what union can there be between God’s temple and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God said: “I will live in them and walk among them. I will be their God, and they will be my people. Therefore, come out from among unbelievers, and separate yourselves from them, says the Lord. Don’t touch their filthy things, and I will welcome you. And I will be your Father, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.” It is said that when oxen of different sizes are yoked together, they will move in circles. Just like a relationship with believers and non-believers, they are “unequally yoked.” Any type of unequally yoked partnership will not prosper. I believe this is such an important point to consider and remember. I have actually seen this proven during my life. God’s word is always established to be genuine. Here is where it gets tricky in our culture, however, and I think it is very important to mention. The world we live in is looking to take offense at absolutely everything. God should be our guide and lifeline. We must be strong enough in and through Him that we can withstand the pressures of this world because He is our shield. We do not have to believe what our culture, entertainment, fashion and others tell us. When we are firm in Him, we take everything back to the word of God for authentication. I want to be captive to the word of God and the life of Jesus and live the way they desire. We should study, know, recognize, and follow God’s word, not others in the world, no matter who they are. There are many false prophets and teachers, and I urge you to take anything you hear, even my words, and hold it against what God’s word teaches. Do not allow yourself to be misled. Don’t break that lifeline to Jesus and don’t let it get tangled by confusion or corrupted beliefs. I do believe that God wants us to follow and shine Him in this world. In order to do that well, we must study the life of Jesus and allow Him to be our mentor and guide, as well as allow Him to direct us through the Holy Spirit. Many Christians are perceived as being judgmental and of living with a holier than thou attitude. This is not what God desires. We are to be a sweet fragrance that attracts, not repels others to Him. We are imperfect people trying to follow a perfect God. We will make mistakes, but do not let that be an excuse! As we lean on the Lord, holding firmly to our lifeline, and truly take moments captive for eternity, we will see how vitally important it is that we allow Him to work within us. This world does not need us to preach to them what they should do. They need to see us living a humble life filled with the spirit of Jesus. When they see our attitude, actions, and mindset, and it remains consistent, not attacking others, but setting an example that is different, He will be noticed. Of course, I know that in the world we live in, there is so much to address, but as we let the Lord guide us, He will show us what actions to take. I try to live my life in ways that Jesus would approve of, and each day when I fall short in some way, I take it to Him and allow Him to change and guide me. As I grow in the Lord, I want my thoughts to match His. Jesus offers the only life-changing and saving words this world needs. Paul’s words in 2 Corinthians 6:3-10 speak to the point I am attempting to make. He says, “We live in such a way that no one will stumble because of us, and no one will find fault with our ministry. In everything we do, we show that we are true ministers of God. We patiently endure troubles and hardships and calamities of every kind. We have been beaten, been put in prison, faced angry mobs, worked to exhaustion, endured sleepless nights, and gone without food. We prove ourselves by our purity, our understanding, our patience, our kindness, by the Holy Spirit within us, and by our sincere love. We faithfully preach the truth. God’s power is working in us. We use the weapons of righteousness in the right hand for attack and the left hand for defense. We serve God whether people honor us or despise us, whether they slander us or praise us. We are honest, but they call us impostors. We are ignored, even though we are well known. We live close to death, but we are still alive. We have been beaten, but we have not been killed. Our hearts ache, but we always have joy. We are poor, but we give spiritual riches to others. We own nothing, and yet we have everything.” People need to see God’s truths in us, not hear us start reciting how they should live. I pray I will live in such a way that I am loving and kind to all. It is God’s job to judge. I can share the gospel and tell how profoundly Jesus has changed my life, I can raise my children to know Him and allow them to choose to love and follow Him because they have not only heard the gospel, but they have seen it in my attitude and actions. What you do is not my business. If you do not believe the same as I do, I am not obligated to try to force your mind or point out flaws. I have enough of my own and each one of us sins every single day. God gives each of us a choice, but we should have the freedom to express what has happened in our life and what Jesus has done for us. I want you to see Him so strongly in me that you will choose Him for yourself and God will change what needs to be corrected in you, as He does in me. I do believe this world is broken in many ways. We have strayed so far from where God wants us to be. I do believe our nation is in for troubled times as we move farther and farther from where God’s word tells us to be or from the example Jesus set for us. Our children and grandchildren will suffer greatly because we have drifted so far. Now is the time to react with a heart change as we allow the Holy Spirit to alter us with light and truth. We must prepare ourselves for battles, including physical, mental, verbal, and spiritual, by living with values and virtues of Christ and arming ourselves with power from the Lord and truth from His word. 5. Rest in God. As we grow in spiritual maturity, trust, and love for God, we are better able to simply rest in Him. Instead of living with constant worry over the state of the nation, our finances, our health, our children, or innumerable potential problems, we humbly fall to our knees and beg the only One who can actually change our situation. We intentionally live in ways that are pleasing to Him and honor the commands He gives us, as only God knows what will truly fulfill us. The closer we move to Him, we become bound to Him as our lifeline, and our heart and mindset reflect the desires and motivations God requires. Ephesians 3:16-19 says, “I pray that out of His glorious riches He may strengthen you with power through His Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.” Jesus tells us in Matthew 10:38-39, “Whoever does not take up their cross and follow Me is not worthy of Me. Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for My sake will find it.” So. Stop. Make time today to reflect, repent, renew, react, and rest. Pay attention to what God says and shows to you. This should be a daily habit we desire, a natural response like breathing. Just like love for those we know on earth, our love for the Lord should be so strong and such a part of us that we fight for it. If your first love, Jesus is not a strong attraction anymore, remember why you became a follower and nurture that light and love until it is a burning flame that will never be extinguished. Dear Heavenly Father, You tell us in Your word that You are the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. You promise us that You never grow tired or weary and that we cannot fathom Your understanding. You give strength to the weary and You increase the power of the weak. You teach us that although youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall, those who hope in You will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles, and will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not be faint. It is only through relying on You and clinging to the lifeline You offer us, Lord that we will experience this truth. Help us to look to You and never release our grip on the lifeline that connects us to You. We need You, Lord. Enable us to live like it more each day. In Your precious name we boldly and humbly pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this episode. The Live With Eternal Perspective podcast is currently linked to terrihitt.com, where you can access the episodes housed in one convenient location, as well as receive access to blog posts, transcripts, and additional resources designed to mature your walk with Christ and equip you to raise or influence children with love and purpose through Him. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to Jesus and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up and find new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 019 Marty Postlethwait Interview Listen to Episode http://www.shadowbuddies.org

Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Introduction Episode #000 Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast. I’m Terri and you are listening to my Introductory Episode #000. I cannot believe I actually just said those words! Aren’t the things God calls us to do often very surprising and above our ability? At least I find that to be true in my life and this is definitely one of those times. Thank you for spending part of your day with me by listening to my first podcast episode. Sharing God stories and talking about Jesus are two of my favorite things to do with others. If you’re like me, and we were face-to-face, we would probably sip hot teas in a cute coffee shop while time slipped away unnoticed. One of my greatest joys and blessings is sharing what God has done in my life, hearing what He has done in yours, and also encouraging others to deepen their walk with Him. I truly believe part of my calling is to encourage, educate, and equip women to lead intentional lives by embracing an eternal perspective. Today I’ll talk more about what that means to me and why I started this podcast about it. By the way, it feels a little challenging to be the only person talking on this podcast, because I want the authenticity behind what I say to be recognized. I pray you’ll hear my heart behind the words and connect with the love I have for Jesus, and more importantly, the love He has for you. Being able to share ways that He has changed my life and promising you that He can change yours, too is a joy for me. I’ll be the main person sharing on this podcast, but I do also plan to have guests from time to time. One of the most important experiences I want to share today is how the deepest pain in my life so far became a catalyst for me to live intentionally and with eternal perspective. I know we’re supposed to live with our minds fixed on Jesus and eternity, and as a believer, I know that this world is just a passage for me. I am not meant to stay in this temporary dwelling. So let me back up a bit to before everything changed. Although I already understood that truth, and tried to keep it foremost in my heart, I didn’t in the way that I do now. It wasn’t that I blatantly disregarded God’s word. It’s just that life happens and it’s simple to move right along with all the demands and distractions we allow. Of course, sometimes I would stop and ponder the words written in Hebrews 13:14, “For here we do not have an enduring city, but we are looking for the city that is to come,” or the verse in Matthew 6:19-21 that states, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Each time I reflected on those verses, it would bring me a step closer to trying to live the way God calls us to. Don’t you appreciate the way God intimately works in each of us? He knows us so well! He loves us so deeply. Despite ourselves, He cares for us. It’s not that I was living a lifestyle that excluded God. I loved Him and was working to grow my faith walk and relationship daily. I was blessed with nice things I was grateful for, but they weren’t excessive. I didn’t try to store up extravagant treasures, but I know deep down I took too much for granted, even life itself, and sometimes I felt entitled to what I had. Take health insurance, for example. When the premiums kept rising, I complained that I wasn’t getting the benefits I used to, instead of rejoicing that I still had insurance. In His goodness, God is able to use events to guide us to Him in even deeper ways. I hadn’t kept eternity in the forefront of my mind and actions. Even though I attempted to, the active thought of me as an alien or stranger in this world was not embedded into my brain daily until I received a mindset shift when my oldest daughter died. Then, my perception of this world was altered. This world was no longer my home. During that immensely painful season of deep loss, God "lifted the veil" and showed me His face. My precious relationship with Jesus was elevated to an altar of faith. As I experienced this loss with Him, I continued growing and developing holier bonds of understanding and trust. My comfort was endless as He never left my side. As long as I continued to hold tightly to Him, not relying on support from others, or inside myself for strength, Jesus went above and beyond what I knew to expect because His care was deeply personal. No one else perfectly understood what I endured, except for Him. He didn’t just walk through each day with me; He cradled and carried me. I’m not saying a bereaving person should not allow others to help them, but simply that Jesus alone knew what I needed in each moment. When my precious daughter passed, God set me free from life on this earth. This place is no longer my home. My spirit now feels what my head thought it understood. I live with one foot on earth to do as He instructs, and one foot in heaven. I delight in being here with my beloved family. Yet, I know that I must listen intently to what God calls me to. He must work His purposes through me. Eternal perspective is beautifully multi-faceted, it’s not just a lifestyle directive we read about in the Bible and think we interpret and attempt to live. God touched the depths of my heart in new ways that my eyes couldn't see and my ears could not hear previously. Every moment, even when I make mistakes, is a miraculous opportunity to live in a way that moves me, and others, to a deeper relationship with Jesus. I am not guaranteed another second of life. Living with eternal perspective is truly in the forefront of my mind and intentions. I am no longer deceived. Everything that happens to me is viewed through an eternal perspective that also affects everyone around me. After my beloved daughter died, I received extreme comfort in knowing that she was with Jesus. This drove home the impact of including others in my eternal viewpoint. Before my daughter died, when I pondered the definition of eternal perspective, I knew not to store treasures on earth, but to look heavenward. I understood that I was to share the gospel. Those commands are basics in Christianity. What makes it different for me now is that I also keep in the forefront of my mind just how my actions and words can affect the eternal life of another person. Every reaction and word I speak has eternal repercussions for someone else. Of course, I knew it before, but now that God has shifted His wisdom in my heart and renewed my mind, I see more clearly just how easily our own emotions and histories can cloud human reactions. I now purposely attempt to give each emotion and reaction to God before responding or speaking to others. Living with this different viewpoint makes it so much easier to sincerely care more deeply about how everything I do can be shaped to better impact the life of another for Christ. As I raise my younger children, I see clearly how what I do becomes who they are. I knew it before, but Jesus continues to drive the point home to me even more. Here’s a story that may better illustrate what I mean. One day we were on our way home from speech therapy with my youngest daughter. It was hours past lunch time and I was hungry. We had another appointment in a couple of hours and all I could think about was getting food in the girls and me before we had to head out again. I decided to stop at a Subway restaurant on the way home. Because of allergies, I can’t eat it, but the girls love it. I hoped we could run in, get the food, take it home, and I would fix myself something while they ate. The only potential flaw with this solution was that Subway can be SO sloooow. Of course, when we pulled into the parking lot and looked through the window, we could see customers already in line. Another car pulled in beside us. I told my teen to get out quickly and get inside before the other people got in line before us. My plan was for her to run in to get the food while I waited in the car with our youngest. After I spoke, I noticed she started moving a little slower than before. “Hurry,” I reminded her as my stomach growled. “Mom,” she said as she looked at me with disappointment and irritation in her eyes and voice. “Don’t you think they’re hungry, too? What if they need to get in line first?” “We’re in a hurry,” I told her, although the sting of conviction was already pricking my spirit. “Please move faster.” Just short of an eye roll, my daughter got out of the car and entered the restaurant behind the group of people from the car next to us. As I feared, we waited about twenty minutes for her to get back to the car as my lunch time was rapidly dwindling away. Before I backed out of the parking spot, I made sure to address the sting in my pride.”You were right that I was being selfish. I’m hungry and I wanted to eat before we have to leave for our next appointment. You have your food now, but I still have to get home and eat mine before it’s time to leave. I was putting myself first,” I admitted. Although I wanted her to listen to and respect what I instructed her to do, I knew that there was a bigger lesson - an eternal one - at stake. God wants us to follow Him and put others before ourselves. Philippians 2:3 instructs, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.” God wants absolutely everything I do to reflect the highest level of living for Him. Every single moment offers me an opportunity to allow Him to flow through me. It is not easy. As you can see, I make mistakes. My heart is seen by God, however, and He knows that I desire showing Him to all and that I need Him to continue humbling, stretching, and molding me to become who He desires. There is no pleasure in remaining me. True joy abides when He is allowed to reside in and restore what He created. Eternal perspective living applies to absolutely everything I do. Every decision, comment, and action becomes part of a chain of events impacting myself and others around me, especially those I love. Sometimes, when I am tired or rushed, I might feel an urge to hurry things, but I hear Jesus speak to my soul. He reminds me to slow down. The moment at hand becomes a snapshot of the life album of the person I am dealing with. My reaction and attitude have the ability to affect them beyond what I can see, becoming part of their eternity. I’m honestly the worst with strangers when I get this way, especially people I cannot understand well on the telephone and I have been on an endless loop of transfers with no one able to help me when dealing with health issues for my daughter. I also have a hard time when someone offends or harms one of my children. God has worked on, and will continue working with me in these areas. Although I am far from perfect, He reminds me that I represent Him, and that the simple ways I respond can add up to complex negative or positive outcomes. How different would our world be if we lived according to God’s principles and consistently allowed others to become more important than ourselves? I am not a Bible scholar, but I am in love with God’s words and teachings. I’m fascinated that He took the trouble of preparing a life manual for us, sent straight from Him, and full of everything we need to live for Him, learn from Him, and be prepared to meet Him face-to-face one day. There is so much to learn, but I delight in sitting at the feet of Jesus. I consider myself a girl in love with Him. It’s true that I’m technically a married woman, a mother of four, and a grandma to one, but I consider myself a girl in my faith walk, because I want to maintain the childlike faith Jesus calls us to embrace in Matthew 18:3-4. “Assuredly, I say to you, unless you are converted and become as little children, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever humbles himself as this little child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.” Another scripture, 1 Corinthians 14:20, tells us, “Brethren, do not be children in understanding; however, in malice be babes, but in understanding be mature.” We are called to become mature in spiritual knowledge and understanding, yet remain naive regarding evil. Adults often confuse the two. We become knowledgeable about sins of the world, and focus our attention on things that aren’t really important in our relationship with eternity. We neglect living in reverence for God, and postpone deepening our walk with Him. We lack the trust to rely on Him to provide for us. Think about the opposite way children approach life. They trust the one who cares for them, even when they shouldn’t. They want to spend time with those they care about and lavish love on the ones who adore them, the way we must intentionally be with Jesus and others. One thing I must ask myself daily is whether my actions match what my heart believes. Do others see Jesus through me? What about you. Can others see what you believe? Before my daughter died, I thought the worst thing that could ever happen to me would be to lose a child. Now I know that the most devastating thing would be to lose Jesus. He has taken me through my biggest fear and proven Himself faithful. Thankfully, His word promises me that no one can pluck me from His hand. I will never lose Jesus. When Jesus lived on this earth, His desire was to glorify God. He modeled that for me to follow. He modeled that for you to follow. Are we representing Christ in the way He should be shown? The hardest challenges and excruciating pains in our life can drive us deeper into the arms of Jesus or give us an excuse to run away from Him. In order to truly live with eternal perspective, we must view eternity through a new lens. Eternity is multi-dimensional; affecting everything we are and do. While we have a limited amount of time on earth to know, love, and show Jesus, we will spend the remainder of our timeless existence in the presence of the Lord, if we are believers. That means we must submit to God’s plan for our life – and His plan for others. We must glorify and honor Jesus in all that we do. We must look beyond ourselves to Jesus and abide in His view of others. We must focus on discipleship of ourselves and others. We must place Jesus on the throne of our affections and thoughts. When our mind is fixed on things above, seeking Jesus and drawing nearer to Him, our heart organically develops to be more like His. Our life reflects the change. We are allowing Him to truly abide in us and transform us. Sometimes the transformation is easy; sometimes it is agonizing. It is always worth the investment – for self, others, and Him. Let me list some important questions that I think help us to put eternity into an easier focus for us. Let’s ask ourselves the following: What do I believe about the promise Jesus gives me regarding eternity? Do my actions reflect my beliefs? What do I believe about the potential Jesus says I have to affect His kingdom? Do my actions reflect my beliefs? What do I believe about the possibilities (the gifts) Jesus created in me? Do my actions reflect my beliefs? What do I believe about the value Jesus places on me as His beloved child? Do my actions reflect my beliefs? Do I know and have I accepted Jesus as my personal Savior? Do my actions reflect my beliefs? How we measure our belief will become our result – both here and for eternity. Imagine groggily lifting yourself from bed fifteen minutes later than normal one morning with all the “to-do” list of items already rolling through your mind. You can barely take another step because you’ve been so behind with all the activities and expectations of life, and you just can’t get enough sleep. As you walk from the bedroom to the kitchen, you see Jesus sitting at your kitchen table, waiting to visit with just you. Are you panic-stricken? Or do you feel peace? Do you begin apologizing for the mess in your house? Are you giving excuses as to why you don’t have enough time to keep it as clean as you’d like to and start telling Him everything that you’ve had to do? Maybe you ask Him why He didn’t add about ten more hours to each day; or better yet, another day to each week. Or do you simply sit with Him? Are you able to abide in the presence of your Savior? Are you willing to let go of the expectations you place on yourself and allow Him to restore your mindset and spirit? Often, we don’t know Jesus because we say that we don’t have time, deceiving ourselves that in order to grow in Him, we must be involved in several group Bible studies, be at every church function, take lessons on how to interpret our spiritual gifts, read every good book about faith and Jesus, and keep a spiritual journal. The list can be endless. We make knowing and loving Jesus a task. Love for our Savior should fuel our actions in simple and direct ways. Sit with Bible in hand and read His teachings and the wisdom of God. Pray. Listen for God. Connect with other believers. See where the Heavenly Father leads you next. Jesus simply desires our heart in genuine worship and relationship. Luke 10:38-42 illustrates two sisters who love Jesus. One is consumed with doing what she thinks is important, instead of simply being in His presence. After complaining to Jesus about the actions of her sister, Jesus gently rebukes her. “Martha, Martha, you are worried and troubled about many things. But one thing is needed, and Mary has chosen that good part, which will not be taken away from her.” Live to be more engaged with Jesus than engaged for Him. Make time to be at His feet and listen for His direction. Soak up His presence. Thank you for listening to this first Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 000 Introduction Listen to Episode Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Introduction Episode #000 Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast. I’m Terri and you are listening to my Introductory Episode #000. I cannot believe I actually just said those words! Aren’t the things God calls us to do often very surprising and above our ability? At least I find that to be true in my life and this is definitely one of those times. Thank you for spending part of your day with me by listening to my first podcast episode. Sharing God stories and talking about Jesus are two of my favorite things to do with others. If you’re like me, and we were face-to-face, we would probably sip hot teas in a cute coffee shop while time slipped away unnoticed. One of my greatest joys and blessings is sharing what God has done in my life, hearing what He has done in yours, and also encouraging others to deepen their walk with Him. I truly believe part of my calling is to encourage, educate, and equip women to lead intentional lives by embracing an eternal perspective. Today I’ll talk more about what that means to me and why I started this podcast about it. By the way, it feels a little challenging to be the only person talking on this podcast, because I want the authenticity behind what I say to be recognized. I pray you’ll hear my heart behind the words and connect with the love I have for Jesus, and more importantly, the love He has for you. Being able to share ways that He has changed my life and promising you that He can change yours, too is a joy for me. I’ll be the main person sharing on this podcast, but I do also plan to have guests from time to time. One of the most important experiences I want to share today is how the deepest pain in my life so far became a catalyst for me to live intentionally and with eternal perspective. I know we’re supposed to live with our minds fixed on Jesus and eternity, and as a believer, I know that this world is just a passage for me. I am not meant to stay in this temporary dwelling. So let me back up a bit to before everything changed. Although I already understood that truth, and tried to keep it foremost in my heart, I didn’t in the way that I do now. It wasn’t that I blatantly disregarded God’s word. It’s just that life happens and it’s simple to move right along with all the demands and distractions we allow. Of course, sometimes I would stop and ponder the words written in Hebrews 13:14, “For here we do not have an enduring city, but we are looking for the city that is to come,” or the verse in Matthew 6:19-21 that states, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Each time I reflected on those verses, it would bring me a step closer to trying to live the way God calls us to. Don’t you appreciate the way God intimately works in each of us? He knows us so well! He loves us so deeply. Despite ourselves, He cares for us. It’s not that I was living a lifestyle that excluded God. I loved Him and was working to grow my faith walk and relationship daily. I was blessed with nice things I was grateful for, but they weren’t excessive. I didn’t try to store up extravagant treasures, but I know deep down I took too much for granted, even life itself, and sometimes I felt entitled to what I had. Take health insurance, for example. When the premiums kept rising, I complained that I wasn’t getting the benefits I used to, instead of rejoicing that I still had insurance. In His goodness, God is able to use events to guide us to Him in even deeper ways. I hadn’t kept eternity in the forefront of my mind and actions. Even though I attempted to, the active thought of me as an alien or stranger in this world was not embedded into my brain daily until I received a mindset shift when my oldest daughter died. Then, my perception of this world was altered. This world was no longer my home. During that immensely painful season of deep loss, God "lifted the veil" and showed me His face. My precious relationship with Jesus was elevated to an altar of faith. As I experienced this loss with Him, I continued growing and developing holier bonds of understanding and trust. My comfort was endless as He never left my side. As long as I continued to hold tightly to Him, not relying on support from others, or inside myself for strength, Jesus went above and beyond what I knew to expect because His care was deeply personal. No one else perfectly understood what I endured, except for Him. He didn’t just walk through each day with me; He cradled and carried me. I’m not saying a bereaving person should not allow others to help them, but simply that Jesus alone knew what I needed in each moment. When my precious daughter passed, God set me free from life on this earth. This place is no longer my home. My spirit now feels what my head thought it understood. I live with one foot on earth to do as He instructs, and one foot in heaven. I delight in being here with my beloved family. Yet, I know that I must listen intently to what God calls me to. He must work His purposes through me. Eternal perspective is beautifully multi-faceted, it’s not just a lifestyle directive we read about in the Bible and think we interpret and attempt to live. God touched the depths of my heart in new ways that my eyes couldn't see and my ears could not hear previously. Every moment, even when I make mistakes, is a miraculous opportunity to live in a way that moves me, and others, to a deeper relationship with Jesus. I am not guaranteed another second of life. Living with eternal perspective is truly in the forefront of my mind and intentions. I am no longer deceived. Everything that happens to me is viewed through an eternal perspective that also affects everyone around me. After my beloved daughter died, I received extreme comfort in knowing that she was with Jesus. This drove home the impact of including others in my eternal viewpoint. Before my daughter died, when I pondered the definition of eternal perspective, I knew not to store treasures on earth, but to look heavenward. I understood that I was to share the gospel. Those commands are basics in Christianity. What makes it different for me now is that I also keep in the forefront of my mind just how my actions and words can affect the eternal life of another person. Every reaction and word I speak has eternal repercussions for someone else. Of course, I knew it before, but now that God has shifted His wisdom in my heart and renewed my mind, I see more clearly just how easily our own emotions and histories can cloud human reactions. I now purposely attempt to give each emotion and reaction to God before responding or speaking to others. Living with this different viewpoint makes it so much easier to sincerely care more deeply about how everything I do can be shaped to better impact the life of another for Christ. As I raise my younger children, I see clearly how what I do becomes who they are. I knew it before, but Jesus continues to drive the point home to me even more. Here’s a story that may better illustrate what I mean. One day we were on our way home from speech therapy with my youngest daughter. It was hours past lunch time and I was hungry. We had another appointment in a couple of hours and all I could think about was getting food in the girls and me before we had to head out again. I decided to stop at a Subway restaurant on the way home. Because of allergies, I can’t eat it, but the girls love it. I hoped we could run in, get the food, take it home, and I would fix myself something while they ate. The only potential flaw with this solution was that Subway can be SO sloooow. Of course, when we pulled into the parking lot and looked through the window, we could see customers already in line. Another car pulled in beside us. I told my teen to get out quickly and get inside before the other people got in line before us. My plan was for her to run in to get the food while I waited in the car with our youngest. After I spoke, I noticed she started moving a little slower than before. “Hurry,” I reminded her as my stomach growled. “Mom,” she said as she looked at me with disappointment and irritation in her eyes and voice. “Don’t you think they’re hungry, too? What if they need to get in line first?” “We’re in a hurry,” I told her, although the sting of conviction was already pricking my spirit. “Please move faster.” Just short of an eye roll, my daughter got out of the car and entered the restaurant behind the group of people from the car next to us. As I feared, we waited about twenty minutes for her to get back to the car as my lunch time was rapidly dwindling away. Before I backed out of the parking spot, I made sure to address the sting in my pride.”You were right that I was being selfish. I’m hungry and I wanted to eat before we have to leave for our next appointment. You have your food now, but I still have to get home and eat mine before it’s time to leave. I was putting myself first,” I admitted. Although I wanted her to listen to and respect what I instructed her to do, I knew that there was a bigger lesson - an eternal one - at stake. God wants us to follow Him and put others before ourselves. Philippians 2:3 instructs, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.” God wants absolutely everything I do to reflect the highest level of living for Him. Every single moment offers me an opportunity to allow Him to flow through me. It is not easy. As you can see, I make mistakes. My heart is seen by God, however, and He knows that I desire showing Him to all and that I need Him to continue humbling, stretching, and molding me to become who He desires. There is no pleasure in remaining me. True joy abides when He is allowed to reside in and restore what He created. Eternal perspective living applies to absolutely everything I do. Every decision, comment, and action becomes part of a chain of events impacting myself and others around me, especially those I love. Sometimes, when I am tired or rushed, I might feel an urge to hurry things, but I hear Jesus speak to my soul. He reminds me to slow down. The moment at hand becomes a snapshot of the life album of the person I am dealing with. My reaction and attitude have the ability to affect them beyond what I can see, becoming part of their eternity. I’m honestly the worst with strangers when I get this way, especially people I cannot understand well on the telephone and I have been on an endless loop of transfers with no one able to help me when dealing with health issues for my daughter. I also have a hard time when someone offends or harms one of my children. God has worked on, and will continue working with me in these areas. Although I am far from perfect, He reminds me that I represent Him, and that the simple ways I respond can add up to complex negative or positive outcomes. How different would our world be if we lived according to God’s principles and consistently allowed others to become more important than ourselves? I am not a Bible scholar, but I am in love with God’s words and teachings. I’m fascinated that He took the trouble of preparing a life manual for us, sent straight from Him, and full of everything we need to live for Him, learn from Him, and be prepared to meet Him face-to-face one day. There is so much to learn, but I delight in sitting at the feet of Jesus. I consider myself a girl in love with Him. It’s true that I’m technically a married woman, a mother of four, and a grandma to one, but I consider myself a girl in my faith walk, because I want to maintain the childlike faith Jesus calls us to embrace in Matthew 18:3-4. “Assuredly, I say to you, unless you are converted and become as little children, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever humbles himself as this little child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.” Another scripture, 1 Corinthians 14:20, tells us, “Brethren, do not be children in understanding; however, in malice be babes, but in understanding be mature.” We are called to become mature in spiritual knowledge and understanding, yet remain naive regarding evil. Adults often confuse the two. We become knowledgeable about sins of the world, and focus our attention on things that aren’t really important in our relationship with eternity. We neglect living in reverence for God, and postpone deepening our walk with Him. We lack the trust to rely on Him to provide for us. Think about the opposite way children approach life. They trust the one who cares for them, even when they shouldn’t. They want to spend time with those they care about and lavish love on the ones who adore them, the way we must intentionally be with Jesus and others. One thing I must ask myself daily is whether my actions match what my heart believes. Do others see Jesus through me? What about you. Can others see what you believe? Before my daughter died, I thought the worst thing that could ever happen to me would be to lose a child. Now I know that the most devastating thing would be to lose Jesus. He has taken me through my biggest fear and proven Himself faithful. Thankfully, His word promises me that no one can pluck me from His hand. I will never lose Jesus. When Jesus lived on this earth, His desire was to glorify God. He modeled that for me to follow. He modeled that for you to follow. Are we representing Christ in the way He should be shown? The hardest challenges and excruciating pains in our life can drive us deeper into the arms of Jesus or give us an excuse to run away from Him. In order to truly live with eternal perspective, we must view eternity through a new lens. Eternity is multi-dimensional; affecting everything we are and do. While we have a limited amount of time on earth to know, love, and show Jesus, we will spend the remainder of our timeless existence in the presence of the Lord, if we are believers. That means we must submit to God’s plan for our life – and His plan for others. We must glorify and honor Jesus in all that we do. We must look beyond ourselves to Jesus and abide in His view of others. We must focus on discipleship of ourselves and others. We must place Jesus on the throne of our affections and thoughts. When our mind is fixed on things above, seeking Jesus and drawing nearer to Him, our heart organically develops to be more like His. Our life reflects the change. We are allowing Him to truly abide in us and transform us. Sometimes the transformation is easy; sometimes it is agonizing. It is always worth the investment – for self, others, and Him. Let me list some important questions that I think help us to put eternity into an easier focus for us. Let’s ask ourselves the following: What do I believe about the promise Jesus gives me regarding eternity? Do my actions reflect my beliefs? What do I believe about the potential Jesus says I have to affect His kingdom? Do my actions reflect my beliefs? What do I believe about the possibilities (the gifts) Jesus created in me? Do my actions reflect my beliefs? What do I believe about the value Jesus places on me as His beloved child? Do my actions reflect my beliefs? Do I know and have I accepted Jesus as my personal Savior? Do my actions reflect my beliefs? How we measure our belief will become our result – both here and for eternity. Imagine groggily lifting yourself from bed fifteen minutes later than normal one morning with all the “to-do” list of items already rolling through your mind. You can barely take another step because you’ve been so behind with all the activities and expectations of life, and you just can’t get enough sleep. As you walk from the bedroom to the kitchen, you see Jesus sitting at your kitchen table, waiting to visit with just you. Are you panic-stricken? Or do you feel peace? Do you begin apologizing for the mess in your house? Are you giving excuses as to why you don’t have enough time to keep it as clean as you’d like to and start telling Him everything that you’ve had to do? Maybe you ask Him why He didn’t add about ten more hours to each day; or better yet, another day to each week. Or do you simply sit with Him? Are you able to abide in the presence of your Savior? Are you willing to let go of the expectations you place on yourself and allow Him to restore your mindset and spirit? Often, we don’t know Jesus because we say that we don’t have time, deceiving ourselves that in order to grow in Him, we must be involved in several group Bible studies, be at every church function, take lessons on how to interpret our spiritual gifts, read every good book about faith and Jesus, and keep a spiritual journal. The list can be endless. We make knowing and loving Jesus a task. Love for our Savior should fuel our actions in simple and direct ways. Sit with Bible in hand and read His teachings and the wisdom of God. Pray. Listen for God. Connect with other believers. See where the Heavenly Father leads you next. Jesus simply desires our heart in genuine worship and relationship. Luke 10:38-42 illustrates two sisters who love Jesus. One is consumed with doing what she thinks is important, instead of simply being in His presence. After complaining to Jesus about the actions of her sister, Jesus gently rebukes her. “Martha, Martha, you are worried and troubled about many things. But one thing is needed, and Mary has chosen that good part, which will not be taken away from her.” Live to be more engaged with Jesus than engaged for Him. Make time to be at His feet and listen for His direction. Soak up His presence. Thank you for listening to this first Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective.

Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #003 - Obedience Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. So many topics are swirling in my mind, vying for attention, trying to be the one we are going to focus on. I don’t know whether it’s because obedience is one of my favorite themes and life goals, but I keep returning to humility, submissiveness, and respect for God. I deeply treasure how I have watched those qualities grow in my children. My youngest daughter lived without even hearing the name of Jesus for most of her life. We adopted her when she was 9 years old, then consistently began filling her empty spiritual reservoir with love and reverence for Jesus. Seeing us live out our beliefs and hearing us speak and teach of Jesus ultimately led her to accept Him as her Savior this past summer. My daughters, Brooklyn and Marissa truly enjoy our daily Bible studies together. I see God working in and changing each of us steadily as we continue committing part of our days to Him. One of the most rewarding parts for me is knowing that the girls don’t limit their spiritual development to one portion of the day. They understand that their relationship with Jesus is their responsibility. In order to grow and mature their walk, they must commit to the Heavenly Father individually, by making private and quiet time with God a personal priority and communication with God through prayer, an active and on-going conversation each day. When I promised God that I would raise each of them to know, love, and honor Him, I knew it was a solemn choice and a task I was completely unable to manage on my own. This is my second time raising a family, and although I was not a bad mother the first time, I did not have the spiritual maturity I have since developed. I married my husband soon after we graduated from high school. I was 17 years old. He was 18. I was not a Christian. I loved God, but never knew the story of Jesus. We had our first baby, a daughter, when I was 18. Our second child, a son, was born when I was 21. I accepted Christ as my Savior a few months before I turned 22. I could not have loved either of our children any more than I did, yet I was not the Christian mother I wish I had been because I did not know Jesus or have the spiritual relationship with the Lord to have done so at that time. Although I raised them to know and love the Lord to the best of the ability I had at that time, I am a different mother now. I have intentionally matured as a woman and in my walk with Christ. I receive such joy from teaching the girls about Jesus and in continuing to mentor my grown son. By the time my husband and I knew that God was calling us to adopt in our early forties, we had a much stronger walk with Jesus and knew with a certainty that raising our child for Him would be a priority. It was such a treasure to know that God was entrusting us to begin a second family. We wanted to please Him with the spiritual choices we made and practiced. Despite a few people telling us we were too old to start another family, and that we should keep working and saving for retirement, we kept our hearts and minds focused on the Lord and His desire and directive for us. When we brought home our ten month old baby girl from China, my heart was awakened to the power of obedience despite circumstances, and the delight that follows it. Psalm 47:1 says it best, “Clap your hands, all you nations; and shout to God with cries of joy.” Blindly stepping out in obedience brought undiluted and absolutely precious joy. It was the first time I knew for certain that God had called me to fully trust and submit to His will with a plan I had never dreamed of. Allowing God to orchestrate a new direction and provide in absolutely every way deepened my faith and ability to understand God’s heart. My Heavenly Father began showing me the desires He had created in me. Simply hearing and trusting Him, then obeying at any cost, changed my life. It transformed each member of our family in personal ways. When God was gracious enough to ask us to adopt again ten years later, we brought home our 9 year old daughter. Romans 15:13 says, “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” The words are so true. With such pure blessing coming from obedience, what makes it so hard for Christians to obey? Is it fear? Or is it the fact that we have free will and think we will make time for what God asks later? Maybe we don’t want what God requires and think we know better? I think often we step on the fast-paced treadmill of life and allow ourselves to be pushed along, falsely pacified by the thought that we have tomorrow. We don’t recognize the blindness of our eyes and hearts, or the subtle deceit we invite into our life by placing God behind us instead of before us. How many gifts and blessings do we miss or lose because we don’t step out in obedience? Only God knows. How do we train ourselves to experience lives of submission that are pleasing to God? Jesus is the answer. Although the Bible doesn’t tell us much about Jesus as a child, we do gain important insight about obedience in Luke 2. When Jesus was just 12 years old, He went to Jerusalem with His parents for the Feast of the Passover. When the family left to return home, however, Jesus stayed behind without His family knowing. It was three days before His parents returned and found Him at the temple, sitting in the midst of teachers. The Son of God was absorbed in listening to them and in asking questions of His own. All who heard Him were astounded at His answers and understanding. Yet Jesus’ mother could not understand why her son had committed this act of disobedience against them. They had anxiously searched for Him. When Mary asked Jesus why He had done this to them, Jesus calmly asked her, “Why did you seek Me? Did you not know that I must be about My Father’s business?” These words of Jesus prove that He knew His identity as the Son of God. How incredibly challenging, it must have been for Mary to raise God’s divine son! The next verse, however, clearly shows that Jesus submitted to His earthly parents when He left Jerusalem to return to Nazareth with His family. God in human flesh respected the call to yield to earthly parents, as instructed in the Ten Commandments through Exodus 20:12a. “Honor your father and mother.” Submission takes concentrated effort, as well as love and reverence for the Heavenly Father. Jesus first made the decision to remain in Jerusalem to learn of God and to submit to His Heavenly Father, but then acknowledged that obedience to His earthly parents was imperative. Returning to Nazareth was what God required Jesus to do. Obedience brought Jesus to earth and He remained submissive to God in every way during His years of human life. He modeled submission so that we see the importance of obedience. Every request God made of Jesus was humbly and obediently followed, even to the point of death on a cross, so that every single one of us has the ability to approach God for eternal life through Him. Jesus knew death was imminent, as well as the excruciating separation from His Heavenly Father, yet He remained faithful to obey His call. The respect and humility Jesus exhibited for us also demonstrates how godly obedience, in God’s timing, extracts fullness of joy. When it does, it is not only for the benefit of one, but usually for many. Simple obedience leads to living life with an eternal perspective that is pleasing to God and offers a promise of blessing to those who follow Him through it, as Jesus said in Luke 11:8. ‘He replied, “Blessed rather are those who hear the word of God and obey it.”’ Jesus possessed a heart fully yielded to God and He demonstrated how we can, too. As believers, we experience both our flesh, and the power of Jesus, within us. It is our option to choose which one to follow. Matthew 26:41 warns, “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The Spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.” Jesus devoted His life to studying the word of God, looking to His Father for guidance, living with a humble and submissive heart, and obeying God’s calls regardless of the outcome for Himself. He aligned Himself with God and did not suffer from distractions of a world He was only traveling through. His heart was fixed above and His hands and feet followed. He desired to do the work purposed for Him. How do we live the same way? How do we walk like Jesus without fear? By studying and clinging to the teachings of Jesus. Start by looking Up to the Lord and placing Him first. So often, believers are paralyzed because it is hard to step into the unknown. Fear should be a warning to us that we are looking to self. Fear does not come from God, unless it is a healthy reaction to danger. When I feel fear, I immediately step back and assess what I am doing. If the underlying belief and motivation driving my action or desire can stand against scripture without shame, and I have counseled God about what I am considering, I turn the fear into fuel that births obedience. If God has placed a thought in me that will honor or glorify Him and fear is present, I know the father of lies is attempting to keep me from following the Father of Light and Truth. As believers, we have the power of the Holy Spirit living within us. I don’t value or believe present day quotes that challenge us to “be strong” or that “we can do it.” These are meaningless and distracting words strung together that give Satan glee each time we mutter them to ourselves or each other. Why would a believer desire to stand on our own limited ability? With Jesus within us, we have unlimited strength and power ever present. He waits for us to lean on Him, to ask Him to carry us. Through the strength and wisdom of the Holy Spirit, combined with God’s Holy word, the Bible, and the valuable access we have to God through prayer, we are armed for any battle. Once we have accepted Jesus as our Savior and are living with the intent of growing closer to Christ, we are already taking steps of obedience. The Holy Spirit within us enables us to believe and to live for Jesus, yet we still have the choice as to whether we will yield and allow Christ to be the ruler of our heart and life each moment. As we draw nearer to Him, He draws nearer to us. Our spirit and heart are open and ready to accept our humble position at God’s feet and our heart is pliable to acknowledge the power of God and His sovereignty. Will we submit? As we grow in the Lord, our thoughts and actions better match the desires He created for us. A request from God becomes a catalyst to blessing through our submissiveness. My obedience demonstrates to God that my heart trusts and desires His will. When we view obedience through an eternal perspective, we see that humble obedience affects our life, the lives of others around us, and even the lives of strangers. In contrast, so does disobedience. Just like ripple effects of a pebble on water, our decision to obey or disobey God can bless or cripple the spiritual walk and relationships of others. Obedience blesses; disobedience curses. Our present, as well as future is altered by our daily choices. What will our spouse, children, grandchildren, neighbors, co-workers, family members, etc. reap from our actions? Or what will they have to contend with? In what ways have we enabled them to live a life full of blessings? Or have we set them up for a life stunted by condemnation? Obedience can be easy. Most often, it requires sacrifice. It always demands a humble and submissive heart. It took me years of following Christ to finally absorb at a deep level that yielding to His desires brings the sweetest fruit. The God of the Universe created me with intimate needs and desires combined with gifts He placed inside me for specific reasons that only He understands. I have discovered that as I follow where He leads, joy and peace capture my spirit. I don’t have to know where the road leads. I just have to follow His direction. Instead of looking ahead or behind, my greatest blessings are found in looking straight Up to the only One who knows where my heart truly desires to go and where He can use me for the good of His kingdom. One of the beautiful blessings about obedience is in knowing that it looks different for every one of us. To obey Jesus means that we willingly and lovingly submit to His authority and will for our life. It means that we look forward to seeing where our life will lead and what beautiful and uniquely created desires He will draw from us. Most often, we never even knew they were in our heart because He opens our eyes and hearts to delighting in Him and loving others more than ourselves. Thank you for listening to this episode of the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 003 Obedience Listen to Episode Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #003 - Obedience Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. So many topics are swirling in my mind, vying for attention, trying to be the one we are going to focus on. I don’t know whether it’s because obedience is one of my favorite themes and life goals, but I keep returning to humility, submissiveness, and respect for God. I deeply treasure how I have watched those qualities grow in my children. My youngest daughter lived without even hearing the name of Jesus for most of her life. We adopted her when she was 9 years old, then consistently began filling her empty spiritual reservoir with love and reverence for Jesus. Seeing us live out our beliefs and hearing us speak and teach of Jesus ultimately led her to accept Him as her Savior this past summer. My daughters, Brooklyn and Marissa truly enjoy our daily Bible studies together. I see God working in and changing each of us steadily as we continue committing part of our days to Him. One of the most rewarding parts for me is knowing that the girls don’t limit their spiritual development to one portion of the day. They understand that their relationship with Jesus is their responsibility. In order to grow and mature their walk, they must commit to the Heavenly Father individually, by making private and quiet time with God a personal priority and communication with God through prayer, an active and on-going conversation each day. When I promised God that I would raise each of them to know, love, and honor Him, I knew it was a solemn choice and a task I was completely unable to manage on my own. This is my second time raising a family, and although I was not a bad mother the first time, I did not have the spiritual maturity I have since developed. I married my husband soon after we graduated from high school. I was 17 years old. He was 18. I was not a Christian. I loved God, but never knew the story of Jesus. We had our first baby, a daughter, when I was 18. Our second child, a son, was born when I was 21. I accepted Christ as my Savior a few months before I turned 22. I could not have loved either of our children any more than I did, yet I was not the Christian mother I wish I had been because I did not know Jesus or have the spiritual relationship with the Lord to have done so at that time. Although I raised them to know and love the Lord to the best of the ability I had at that time, I am a different mother now. I have intentionally matured as a woman and in my walk with Christ. I receive such joy from teaching the girls about Jesus and in continuing to mentor my grown son. By the time my husband and I knew that God was calling us to adopt in our early forties, we had a much stronger walk with Jesus and knew with a certainty that raising our child for Him would be a priority. It was such a treasure to know that God was entrusting us to begin a second family. We wanted to please Him with the spiritual choices we made and practiced. Despite a few people telling us we were too old to start another family, and that we should keep working and saving for retirement, we kept our hearts and minds focused on the Lord and His desire and directive for us. When we brought home our ten month old baby girl from China, my heart was awakened to the power of obedience despite circumstances, and the delight that follows it. Psalm 47:1 says it best, “Clap your hands, all you nations; and shout to God with cries of joy.” Blindly stepping out in obedience brought undiluted and absolutely precious joy. It was the first time I knew for certain that God had called me to fully trust and submit to His will with a plan I had never dreamed of. Allowing God to orchestrate a new direction and provide in absolutely every way deepened my faith and ability to understand God’s heart. My Heavenly Father began showing me the desires He had created in me. Simply hearing and trusting Him, then obeying at any cost, changed my life. It transformed each member of our family in personal ways. When God was gracious enough to ask us to adopt again ten years later, we brought home our 9 year old daughter. Romans 15:13 says, “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” The words are so true. With such pure blessing coming from obedience, what makes it so hard for Christians to obey? Is it fear? Or is it the fact that we have free will and think we will make time for what God asks later? Maybe we don’t want what God requires and think we know better? I think often we step on the fast-paced treadmill of life and allow ourselves to be pushed along, falsely pacified by the thought that we have tomorrow. We don’t recognize the blindness of our eyes and hearts, or the subtle deceit we invite into our life by placing God behind us instead of before us. How many gifts and blessings do we miss or lose because we don’t step out in obedience? Only God knows. How do we train ourselves to experience lives of submission that are pleasing to God? Jesus is the answer. Although the Bible doesn’t tell us much about Jesus as a child, we do gain important insight about obedience in Luke 2. When Jesus was just 12 years old, He went to Jerusalem with His parents for the Feast of the Passover. When the family left to return home, however, Jesus stayed behind without His family knowing. It was three days before His parents returned and found Him at the temple, sitting in the midst of teachers. The Son of God was absorbed in listening to them and in asking questions of His own. All who heard Him were astounded at His answers and understanding. Yet Jesus’ mother could not understand why her son had committed this act of disobedience against them. They had anxiously searched for Him. When Mary asked Jesus why He had done this to them, Jesus calmly asked her, “Why did you seek Me? Did you not know that I must be about My Father’s business?” These words of Jesus prove that He knew His identity as the Son of God. How incredibly challenging, it must have been for Mary to raise God’s divine son! The next verse, however, clearly shows that Jesus submitted to His earthly parents when He left Jerusalem to return to Nazareth with His family. God in human flesh respected the call to yield to earthly parents, as instructed in the Ten Commandments through Exodus 20:12a. “Honor your father and mother.” Submission takes concentrated effort, as well as love and reverence for the Heavenly Father. Jesus first made the decision to remain in Jerusalem to learn of God and to submit to His Heavenly Father, but then acknowledged that obedience to His earthly parents was imperative. Returning to Nazareth was what God required Jesus to do. Obedience brought Jesus to earth and He remained submissive to God in every way during His years of human life. He modeled submission so that we see the importance of obedience. Every request God made of Jesus was humbly and obediently followed, even to the point of death on a cross, so that every single one of us has the ability to approach God for eternal life through Him. Jesus knew death was imminent, as well as the excruciating separation from His Heavenly Father, yet He remained faithful to obey His call. The respect and humility Jesus exhibited for us also demonstrates how godly obedience, in God’s timing, extracts fullness of joy. When it does, it is not only for the benefit of one, but usually for many. Simple obedience leads to living life with an eternal perspective that is pleasing to God and offers a promise of blessing to those who follow Him through it, as Jesus said in Luke 11:8. ‘He replied, “Blessed rather are those who hear the word of God and obey it.”’ Jesus possessed a heart fully yielded to God and He demonstrated how we can, too. As believers, we experience both our flesh, and the power of Jesus, within us. It is our option to choose which one to follow. Matthew 26:41 warns, “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The Spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.” Jesus devoted His life to studying the word of God, looking to His Father for guidance, living with a humble and submissive heart, and obeying God’s calls regardless of the outcome for Himself. He aligned Himself with God and did not suffer from distractions of a world He was only traveling through. His heart was fixed above and His hands and feet followed. He desired to do the work purposed for Him. How do we live the same way? How do we walk like Jesus without fear? By studying and clinging to the teachings of Jesus. Start by looking Up to the Lord and placing Him first. So often, believers are paralyzed because it is hard to step into the unknown. Fear should be a warning to us that we are looking to self. Fear does not come from God, unless it is a healthy reaction to danger. When I feel fear, I immediately step back and assess what I am doing. If the underlying belief and motivation driving my action or desire can stand against scripture without shame, and I have counseled God about what I am considering, I turn the fear into fuel that births obedience. If God has placed a thought in me that will honor or glorify Him and fear is present, I know the father of lies is attempting to keep me from following the Father of Light and Truth. As believers, we have the power of the Holy Spirit living within us. I don’t value or believe present day quotes that challenge us to “be strong” or that “we can do it.” These are meaningless and distracting words strung together that give Satan glee each time we mutter them to ourselves or each other. Why would a believer desire to stand on our own limited ability? With Jesus within us, we have unlimited strength and power ever present. He waits for us to lean on Him, to ask Him to carry us. Through the strength and wisdom of the Holy Spirit, combined with God’s Holy word, the Bible, and the valuable access we have to God through prayer, we are armed for any battle. Once we have accepted Jesus as our Savior and are living with the intent of growing closer to Christ, we are already taking steps of obedience. The Holy Spirit within us enables us to believe and to live for Jesus, yet we still have the choice as to whether we will yield and allow Christ to be the ruler of our heart and life each moment. As we draw nearer to Him, He draws nearer to us. Our spirit and heart are open and ready to accept our humble position at God’s feet and our heart is pliable to acknowledge the power of God and His sovereignty. Will we submit? As we grow in the Lord, our thoughts and actions better match the desires He created for us. A request from God becomes a catalyst to blessing through our submissiveness. My obedience demonstrates to God that my heart trusts and desires His will. When we view obedience through an eternal perspective, we see that humble obedience affects our life, the lives of others around us, and even the lives of strangers. In contrast, so does disobedience. Just like ripple effects of a pebble on water, our decision to obey or disobey God can bless or cripple the spiritual walk and relationships of others. Obedience blesses; disobedience curses. Our present, as well as future is altered by our daily choices. What will our spouse, children, grandchildren, neighbors, co-workers, family members, etc. reap from our actions? Or what will they have to contend with? In what ways have we enabled them to live a life full of blessings? Or have we set them up for a life stunted by condemnation? Obedience can be easy. Most often, it requires sacrifice. It always demands a humble and submissive heart. It took me years of following Christ to finally absorb at a deep level that yielding to His desires brings the sweetest fruit. The God of the Universe created me with intimate needs and desires combined with gifts He placed inside me for specific reasons that only He understands. I have discovered that as I follow where He leads, joy and peace capture my spirit. I don’t have to know where the road leads. I just have to follow His direction. Instead of looking ahead or behind, my greatest blessings are found in looking straight Up to the only One who knows where my heart truly desires to go and where He can use me for the good of His kingdom. One of the beautiful blessings about obedience is in knowing that it looks different for every one of us. To obey Jesus means that we willingly and lovingly submit to His authority and will for our life. It means that we look forward to seeing where our life will lead and what beautiful and uniquely created desires He will draw from us. Most often, we never even knew they were in our heart because He opens our eyes and hearts to delighting in Him and loving others more than ourselves. Thank you for listening to this episode of the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective.

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 097 - How Do You Enable Your Children to Bear Fruit for Christ? Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 097 – How Do You Enable Your Children to Bear Fruit for Christ? Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast deepens your walk with Jesus and your children, equipping you to become a set-apart woman and mother raising children to chase Christ over culture. Adoption is a huge piece of the beautiful story of my family. As a mom to two children born to me and two children brought to our family after they were born, I am thankful God chose us for all four. The creator of heaven and earth knew who would be a member of our home and heart. I’m so thankful God weaved the blessing of adoption through the gospel. I bring adoption up in this episode about enabling children to bear fruit for Christ because just last week I was asked whether my two daughters from China took to each other right away. I have to say that God was good. The girls have NEVER fought with one another or ignored each other. In fact, they’ve always been kind to one another. But their relationship has grown into a sister bond over time. As I’ve watched their communication and love blossom, I have noticed that it has grown stronger and more resilient as they have purposely matured their walk with Jesus. I trust that is the reason they’ve never had fights or been unkind to one another. In fact, I receive SUCH joy hearing them communicate with each other throughout the day. I truly tingle with delight inside when I listen to them. God has filled my cup to overflowing with them. Praise Jesus! As Christian parents, we receive a great thrill when we see fruits of the Spirit evident in our believing children. Well, I’d better clarify…of course, your greatest parenting delight should be when your child accepts Jesus as their personal Lord and Savior, but after that, deep joy abounds when you begin to see evidence of their walk with Jesus appear in their daily words, desires, and actions. That is what I’ve observed with my girls. But it all takes concentrated effort. Just as the Bible tells us in James 4:8a , “Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you .” As they have drawn nearer to Him it has given them a deeper love for one another. Because of that love they have a mutual respect and extend courtesy between them. Think back to when you first followed Jesus. You may have jumped into your new life with both feet and submitted easily to His guidance and love. Or you may have slowly submitted self to Him more and more over time. Either way, wouldn’t you agree that the way you exhibit Christ’s influence in your life dictates the level of depth in your Christian walk? Consider your children. Have you seen differences in the way your child lives and reacts after they followed Christ? If not, there are ways you can help them begin to bear fruit for Christ . Most of the time growth in Christ is difficult, unless the follower is regularly in the Word. Reading the Bible, seeking God’s wisdom, and communicating with Him through prayer is key to a maturing relationship. Just as you can’t grow your marriage, your relationship with your children, or a new friendship without spending time getting to know that person, you can’t live with godly insight or wisdom, let alone fruits of the Spirit - unless you purposely pursue intimacy with God through Jesus. One top way to help your children pursue Christ with purposed passion is to let them witness you chase God . As you make your relationship with your Heavenly Father evident in natural ways through your lifestyle and desires, you beautifully mentor the way for your children. Are your kids able to see fruits of the Spirit in you? What if they don't? Apologize - to them and God. Tell your children you haven’t been living the way God would want you to - or the way He wants you to model for them. Then begin showing - by example, the way to God. Let them see you in the Word, but also be in the Word with them. Don’t make it a religious affair, but rather a relationship – and a commitment to honor God with the children He entrusted to you. Build a connected relationship that allows you to better know, love, and serve God together. Allow your lifestyle to be one that inhales the truths, love, grace, mercy, and wisdom of God. Exhale those qualities onto your children in the way you speak, act, and react to the daily pressures, trials, and triumphs of life. Another way to help your children begin to exhibit fruits of the Spirit is to look for the natural gifts and talents the Lord gave them . As mom, you probably know your children better than anyone else (except of course, God). Ask Him to reveal what He has purposed for them. Ask Him to show you what interests and talents He bestowed to them when He created them with love and purpose. For example, my middle daughter began painting at the age of one. God exhibited how faithful He is when He prompted me to buy a Little Tykes art easel at a garage sale before we even had our infant home from China. When I discovered her fascination with paints and saw her delight glowing at an event that had set up easels for older children to paint, I came home and dragged that easel out of my basement. I set it up in her playroom and after spreading an old shower curtain on the floor around the easel, I dabbed several colors of acrylic paint onto a paper plate, and made a hole on one side for her to place her thumb through to hold it. Next, I pulled out paint brushes, and clipped a large sheet of paper to the easel. She has been painting now for 18 years. Despite many other interests and activities, this is the one that she has persisted in returning to. In fact, I can hear actually her dipping her paintbrush into the cup of water as she paints with watercolors while I work on this episode. Knowing God gave her talent and the desire to paint, my daughter has always used her work to honor God and showcase His creation. This became one of the ways she bears fruit for Him through action and words as she gives glory to Him. Instead of painting ugliness, she paints light and beauty, especially things of creation or that would beautify a home while instilling joy and peace. What talents or interests has God crafted into your children? How can you help them find what purpose God gifted them? Help them use that skill for Him . Serving is another way to teach your children to bear fruit for Christ. Service at home is the first exposure your children will learn. Teaching by example makes the best impression. When they experience your love and dedication, hear you say how grateful you are to serve them because you love them, and you teach them to serve their father and siblings, you are laying a base foundation for service to others. Depending on your life circumstances, extended family members, neighbors, church members, or the elderly in your community are wonderful places to serve next. Because you instilled the act of selflessness in your children at a young age, service will likely become an important piece of their character and actions as they mature. Galatians 5:22-23 says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law . “ This passage in the Bible clearly shares what the fruits of the Spirit are. Without knowing these fruits given by the Spirit when we belong to Christ, we cannot begin to recognize when they are or aren’t in use. Another beautiful way to see fruits mature in your children is to make this passage of Scripture known to them. Remind them of the way the Holy Spirit transforms us into a new being. Remind them how through Jesus, they are no longer bound by sin. Teach them to invite the Holy Spirit to bring forth the fruits of love, joy, peace, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control in their lives to benefit others and grow their walk with Jesus. Equip them to these fruits to form godly character and integrity. Help them look for these qualities in themselves and strive to help them shine for Christ. I’m still amazed that God deposited the Holy Spirit inside me when I became a believer of Christ. Aren’t you in awe that He has done that for you? Instill that wonder in your children as you study God’s Word together and invite Him into each day with you. As the fragrance of Christ permeates your character and home, your children will be better able to bear fruit for Christ as they recognize and utilize the fruits of the Spirit empowering them. Dear Heavenly Father, just as Your holy Word says, how great thou art! Oh, God thank you for Your powerful love for us and the children You entrusted us to raise for You. Enable us to mentor a reverence and love for You that makes them bear much fruit. Help us to be a shining example of Your love and grace. Help us to be a model of bearing fruit that lasts. May our children see You so clearly and lovingly that they can’t help but pursue You. We thank you for entrusting Your precious children to our care. In the name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Raising children is challenging. No one has all the answers because each child is unique as are parenting styles and family dynamics. By connecting with and knowing your children as you maintain purposed growth in Christ, you will be better prepared for any situation you face. That’s why you hear me share about the Set-Apart Collective in this podcast. I work with moms of littles from infancy to upper grade school. Are you a high achieving woman who loves Jesus, but is so busy with the rush of work and daily life that you feel like you’re being drained like the water in your bathtub? Do you yearn to get closer to Jesu and show Him to your kids so you will create a love that will last into eternity? The desire is there, but your days spiral out of control before you even think about opening your Bible. Do you ever stop to think that you are the first Jesus your child will see? Let me remind you there is hope. There is a way you can be equipped to raise kids who chase Christ over culture. If you want a connected relationship with Christ and your children that leads them to your side and His feet, instead of them seeking validation from peers, I have an 8-step program to move you from frustrated to fulfilled. I will show you how to reflect Jesus in a way that attracts your family to a connected relationship that lasts into eternity. Remember, godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset you carry. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will arm you with a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You’ll also deepen your identity in Christ so you can mentor the way for your children to do the same. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family. Does this sound like a lifeline to help you be that set-apart mom God has entrusted you to be? Visit terrihitt.com/coaching and click the link for a free, no obligation conversation call with me. This is a strategic call where I will hear your biggest struggle and show you how to turn it into a blessing that will bring you closer to Christ and your children. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. One last thing to remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #128 – Living to Flourish through Christ Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. Psalm 92:12-15 says, “The righteous will flourish like a palm tree, they will grow like a cedar of Lebanon; planted in the house of the LORD, they will flourish in the courts of our God. They will still bear fruit in old age, they will stay fresh and green, proclaiming, “The LORD is upright; He is my Rock, and there is no wickedness in Him.” As I read this passage last week, the eloquent wording grabbed my attention. Perhaps because I’m older, I appreciated the beauty, but had to learn more about why there was such an intentional comparison to a palm tree. As I researched, I learned that the palm grows steadily over time, largely unaffected by elements of nature, unlike other types of trees that can be more susceptible to what happens around them. The palm tree stands perfectly upright under varying conditions, and survives from generation to generation. Since I didn’t know anything about a cedar of Lebanon, I also researched this impressive tree, and found that it grows to be very large. Just the width can get to about 35 or 40 feet around, plus the boughs spread over 100 feet wide. What is most impressive and significant for the purpose of this comparison to aging is that the tree flourishes for ages, and is always green. When the cedar of Lebanon is cut down, the wood is exceptionally beautiful, durable, and, in many ways incorruptible. Both the palm tree and the cedar of Lebanon bear fruit in old age, and as the verses eloquently show us, we can carry much beauty and grace in aging when we seek and humbly follow the Lord. I especially valued the fact that palm trees stay “fresh and green” and are largely unaffected by the elements of nature. We each know that the elements of this life can be as stormy as the roughest seas. To draw the comparison to my own life at this time, I recently found that someone we know and trusted isn’t who he appeared. It would be so easy to be swayed by emotions and allow my fleshly nature to override how God would call me to react. As I processed my emotions, conversed with the Lord, prayed, and moved on, I rested in the assurance that my character, as it continues to mature through Christ each moment, can remain fresh and green, unmoved by the elements of life in this broken world. I can release the relationship I thought we had with this person and move on, praying for him as he comes to mind, but clinging more tightly to the relationship I hold with Jesus without becoming bitter or angry. 2 Corinthians 4:16 says, “Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.” Our Almighty God wastes nothing. I think of the purpose our Creator had when He created nature and placed man and woman beneath the glorious sky and lush trees. Since I walk outside often with my middle daughter, I understand the ability to connect with God in ways we’re unable to inside buildings. Obviously, we can be close to God as we read and study His word and converse with Him indoors, but being in nature connects us in a significantly deeper way with His nature. Imagine Adam and Eve living in the Garden of Eden. God created absolute paradise for them to abide with Him. Perfect temperature, safety, freedom, and beauty surrounded them, and they neither knew nor imagined anything different. Like us, they took what they had for granted, probably never appreciating what they held until it was taken away after their dreadful, sinful mistake. Knowing God made a perfect home for them within nature, let’s examine the passage from Psalm 92:12-15 in a deeper way. I believe the poetic structure of the wording reveals so much about God’s view on aging and the way we are to advance toward godliness of character humbly and purposely for and through Him. Would you agree that we can easily recognize our society worships youth? Often treated as disposable, the elderly or even those of us who are aging are ignored or looked over for jobs, opinions, or advice. Instead of being shown the respect we have earned or noting the value we carry through acquired experience and wisdom, many younger people, and our society, tend to devalue elderly people. Through the wording in Psalm 92:12-15, we experience the thoughts God carries for those older than us. More specifically, the ones who have spent a lifetime seeking and following Him, recognizing, and openly proclaiming God as their rock and strength. What can we learn from those more experienced in following the Lord? Let’s see what God’s word teaches: Verse 12 says,” The righteous will flourish like a palm tree.” We know there is pain and heartache in this broken world, but we can trust God’s word. Despite the suffering on earth, we are promised that those who seek, know, follow, and obey the Lord will flourish. Although His definition may be different than what we sometimes hope for, we know He is sovereign and as Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.” I’ve never considered “growing like a palm tree,” but I’ve always loved them. Any time we’ve gone on vacation where palm trees grow, I’m instantly ready to bask in the warmth I know I’ll find in that location. So, as I read the verse, all I immediately felt was the comparison that I could be warm to others, so they could see Christ in me. But I knew that the writer of these words would have a much deeper meaning with this word choice. Did you know that palm trees are known for their long life? If we were to flourish like a palm tree, we would have a long and productive life for Christ. Only God knows what that definition would hold as He has unique and beautiful plans for each one of us. Unless we are standing tall and flourishing for Him, we may never realize the blessings of doing so. Growing like a cedar of Lebanon was never anything I thought of doing. in fact, I never even knew what the tree looked like, but as I researched and learned about it, I’m ready to be compared to one. Strong, solid, and immovable, a person living like a cedar of Lebanon would be upright, strong in the Lord, and the trials and tragedies of this world would not move them from their faith. In fact, anything they face only thrusts their roots into deeper and richer soil. The strength and vitality of both trees allow them to continue bearing fruit into old age, just as those who cling to Christ and live uprightly as they come to know and show Him more clearly through daily life will do. Isaiah 46:4 says, “Even to your old age and gray hairs I am He, I am He who will sustain you. I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you.” As we mature our walk with God through Christ and live to glorify and honor Him, He continues to go before us, sustaining and carrying us as we humbly release self-control and let Him. Isaiah 40:29-31 says, “He gives strength to the weary, and to him who lacks might He increases power. Though youths grow weary and tired, and vigorous young men stumble badly, yet those who wait for the LORD will gain new strength; they will mount up with wings like eagles, they will run and not get tired, they will walk and not become weary.” Have you faced situations in which you had no strength? Have you been in such despair that you had no idea how you would carry on or what to do next? If so, know that you were exactly where God desires you to be. In that space, you have a clearer view of your need for Him. For some, it is the only time they will allow God to carry the loads they stubbornly grasp tightly. When we finally realize we do not carry the capacity to endure all things alone we finally realize our true strength comes in and through Christ. Psalm 73:26 says, “My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” The worst times of my life have proven to be the best as that clear path to God has carried me to His waiting arms. Psalm 90:12 says, “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” As we learn to seek Christ in every moment, good or bad, joyful or sorrowful, we develop a relationship that lasts throughout the ages as He proves to be our constant comfort and perfect friend as we age. Job 12:12 says, “Is not wisdom found among the aged? Does not long life bring understanding?” Job’s words are true for those who have sought to grow relationship with God through Jesus and live in ways that bring them closer to Him moment by moment. Without reliance on Christ and seeking a life that reflects Him, our life will not bring clarity or understanding to self or others. What are you doing today that will advance your walk with Christ? How are you advancing His kingdom in the way you live? Each day is new. Every moment offers the chance to renew our walk with Christ and allow Him to carry us in new ways. Job 5:26 says, “You will come to the grave in full vigor, like sheaves gathered in season.” As we grow in fullness of love for Him through an abiding relationship over time, we can live with the expectation of sweet reunion with our Father and the Son. Will the life you leave behind be a legacy for you or one that points to Christ? Dear Heavenly Father, You are sovereign and worthy of praise, glory, and honor. Thank you for the gift You have given us through Your Son, Jesus. Thank you for providing a way to You through Him. Father, cause our hearts to crave You and reflect Jesus more each day. Help our walk with You to deepen daily during the quiet and the busy moments because we seek Your hands, face, and heart. May we age with grace learned through time spent with You and may Your love be evident to all, guiding them ever nearer to You. May our lives be testimonies of what time with You creates. Father, may our hearts adore You and shine Your perfect love and provision. Help us to live uprightly and stand on the rock that is carved by relationship with and dependence on You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Additional episodes may be heard at terrihitt.com, but the podcast is also a part of the Spark Media Network. Now the podcast may also be found on the Edifi app, where you can find thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed this podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? If you haven’t, would you please consider doing so? When you review the podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. Have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen to this new podcast, especially if you are raising children or influencing grandchildren. Please follow and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 128 - Living to Flourish through Christ Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #128 – Living to Flourish through Christ Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. Psalm 92:12-15 says, “The righteous will flourish like a palm tree, they will grow like a cedar of Lebanon; planted in the house of the LORD, they will flourish in the courts of our God. They will still bear fruit in old age, they will stay fresh and green, proclaiming, “The LORD is upright; He is my Rock, and there is no wickedness in Him.” As I read this passage last week, the eloquent wording grabbed my attention. Perhaps because I’m older, I appreciated the beauty, but had to learn more about why there was such an intentional comparison to a palm tree. As I researched, I learned that the palm grows steadily over time, largely unaffected by elements of nature, unlike other types of trees that can be more susceptible to what happens around them. The palm tree stands perfectly upright under varying conditions, and survives from generation to generation. Since I didn’t know anything about a cedar of Lebanon, I also researched this impressive tree, and found that it grows to be very large. Just the width can get to about 35 or 40 feet around, plus the boughs spread over 100 feet wide. What is most impressive and significant for the purpose of this comparison to aging is that the tree flourishes for ages, and is always green. When the cedar of Lebanon is cut down, the wood is exceptionally beautiful, durable, and, in many ways incorruptible. Both the palm tree and the cedar of Lebanon bear fruit in old age, and as the verses eloquently show us, we can carry much beauty and grace in aging when we seek and humbly follow the Lord. I especially valued the fact that palm trees stay “fresh and green” and are largely unaffected by the elements of nature. We each know that the elements of this life can be as stormy as the roughest seas. To draw the comparison to my own life at this time, I recently found that someone we know and trusted isn’t who he appeared. It would be so easy to be swayed by emotions and allow my fleshly nature to override how God would call me to react. As I processed my emotions, conversed with the Lord, prayed, and moved on, I rested in the assurance that my character, as it continues to mature through Christ each moment, can remain fresh and green, unmoved by the elements of life in this broken world. I can release the relationship I thought we had with this person and move on, praying for him as he comes to mind, but clinging more tightly to the relationship I hold with Jesus without becoming bitter or angry. 2 Corinthians 4:16 says, “Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.” Our Almighty God wastes nothing. I think of the purpose our Creator had when He created nature and placed man and woman beneath the glorious sky and lush trees. Since I walk outside often with my middle daughter, I understand the ability to connect with God in ways we’re unable to inside buildings. Obviously, we can be close to God as we read and study His word and converse with Him indoors, but being in nature connects us in a significantly deeper way with His nature. Imagine Adam and Eve living in the Garden of Eden. God created absolute paradise for them to abide with Him. Perfect temperature, safety, freedom, and beauty surrounded them, and they neither knew nor imagined anything different. Like us, they took what they had for granted, probably never appreciating what they held until it was taken away after their dreadful, sinful mistake. Knowing God made a perfect home for them within nature, let’s examine the passage from Psalm 92:12-15 in a deeper way. I believe the poetic structure of the wording reveals so much about God’s view on aging and the way we are to advance toward godliness of character humbly and purposely for and through Him. Would you agree that we can easily recognize our society worships youth? Often treated as disposable, the elderly or even those of us who are aging are ignored or looked over for jobs, opinions, or advice. Instead of being shown the respect we have earned or noting the value we carry through acquired experience and wisdom, many younger people, and our society, tend to devalue elderly people. Through the wording in Psalm 92:12-15, we experience the thoughts God carries for those older than us. More specifically, the ones who have spent a lifetime seeking and following Him, recognizing, and openly proclaiming God as their rock and strength. What can we learn from those more experienced in following the Lord? Let’s see what God’s word teaches: Verse 12 says,” The righteous will flourish like a palm tree.” We know there is pain and heartache in this broken world, but we can trust God’s word. Despite the suffering on earth, we are promised that those who seek, know, follow, and obey the Lord will flourish. Although His definition may be different than what we sometimes hope for, we know He is sovereign and as Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.” I’ve never considered “growing like a palm tree,” but I’ve always loved them. Any time we’ve gone on vacation where palm trees grow, I’m instantly ready to bask in the warmth I know I’ll find in that location. So, as I read the verse, all I immediately felt was the comparison that I could be warm to others, so they could see Christ in me. But I knew that the writer of these words would have a much deeper meaning with this word choice. Did you know that palm trees are known for their long life? If we were to flourish like a palm tree, we would have a long and productive life for Christ. Only God knows what that definition would hold as He has unique and beautiful plans for each one of us. Unless we are standing tall and flourishing for Him, we may never realize the blessings of doing so. Growing like a cedar of Lebanon was never anything I thought of doing. in fact, I never even knew what the tree looked like, but as I researched and learned about it, I’m ready to be compared to one. Strong, solid, and immovable, a person living like a cedar of Lebanon would be upright, strong in the Lord, and the trials and tragedies of this world would not move them from their faith. In fact, anything they face only thrusts their roots into deeper and richer soil. The strength and vitality of both trees allow them to continue bearing fruit into old age, just as those who cling to Christ and live uprightly as they come to know and show Him more clearly through daily life will do. Isaiah 46:4 says, “Even to your old age and gray hairs I am He, I am He who will sustain you. I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you.” As we mature our walk with God through Christ and live to glorify and honor Him, He continues to go before us, sustaining and carrying us as we humbly release self-control and let Him. Isaiah 40:29-31 says, “He gives strength to the weary, and to him who lacks might He increases power. Though youths grow weary and tired, and vigorous young men stumble badly, yet those who wait for the LORD will gain new strength; they will mount up with wings like eagles, they will run and not get tired, they will walk and not become weary.” Have you faced situations in which you had no strength? Have you been in such despair that you had no idea how you would carry on or what to do next? If so, know that you were exactly where God desires you to be. In that space, you have a clearer view of your need for Him. For some, it is the only time they will allow God to carry the loads they stubbornly grasp tightly. When we finally realize we do not carry the capacity to endure all things alone we finally realize our true strength comes in and through Christ. Psalm 73:26 says, “My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” The worst times of my life have proven to be the best as that clear path to God has carried me to His waiting arms. Psalm 90:12 says, “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” As we learn to seek Christ in every moment, good or bad, joyful or sorrowful, we develop a relationship that lasts throughout the ages as He proves to be our constant comfort and perfect friend as we age. Job 12:12 says, “Is not wisdom found among the aged? Does not long life bring understanding?” Job’s words are true for those who have sought to grow relationship with God through Jesus and live in ways that bring them closer to Him moment by moment. Without reliance on Christ and seeking a life that reflects Him, our life will not bring clarity or understanding to self or others. What are you doing today that will advance your walk with Christ? How are you advancing His kingdom in the way you live? Each day is new. Every moment offers the chance to renew our walk with Christ and allow Him to carry us in new ways. Job 5:26 says, “You will come to the grave in full vigor, like sheaves gathered in season.” As we grow in fullness of love for Him through an abiding relationship over time, we can live with the expectation of sweet reunion with our Father and the Son. Will the life you leave behind be a legacy for you or one that points to Christ? Dear Heavenly Father, You are sovereign and worthy of praise, glory, and honor. Thank you for the gift You have given us through Your Son, Jesus. Thank you for providing a way to You through Him. Father, cause our hearts to crave You and reflect Jesus more each day. Help our walk with You to deepen daily during the quiet and the busy moments because we seek Your hands, face, and heart. May we age with grace learned through time spent with You and may Your love be evident to all, guiding them ever nearer to You. May our lives be testimonies of what time with You creates. Father, may our hearts adore You and shine Your perfect love and provision. Help us to live uprightly and stand on the rock that is carved by relationship with and dependence on You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Additional episodes may be heard at terrihitt.com, but the podcast is also a part of the Spark Media Network. Now the podcast may also be found on the Edifi app, where you can find thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed this podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? If you haven’t, would you please consider doing so? When you review the podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. Have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen to this new podcast, especially if you are raising children or influencing grandchildren. Please follow and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Episode 008 - Building Character Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #008 – Building Character Are you yearning for greater connection with your child? Would you like to parent beyond the moment with eternal perspective? Let’s grow together now with practical tips, scripture, and stories geared to draw your heart to Jesus and guide your child into His arms. Whether you are a parent of young children, have children who are about to leave for college, or have grown adults raising their own children, it’s always a humbling blessing to see them reflect the Lord in their words and actions. Being a parent is such a layered gift. We can easily tend to parent in our own strength, look for ways our children are like us, and in fact, call them our “mini me.” Most of us have been there at some time; viewing our children as tiny extensions of ourselves, finding ways they are like us, and basking in their accomplishments that reflect well on us. What I’ve learned by maturing my walk with Jesus is that each child in this world was miraculously and individually formed with intimate and personal care. For God so loved the world that He brought my child into it with a purpose in mind. He brought your children to this world for special purposes only they can fulfill as they allow Christ to work through them. 1 Chronicles 16:8-11 says, “Give praise to the Lord, proclaim His name; make known among the nations what He has done. Sing to Him, sing praise to Him; tell of all His wonderful acts. Glory in His holy name; let the hearts of those who seek the Lord rejoice. Look to the Lord and His strength; seek His face always .” With hindsight gained from raising one set of children and now well into my years of mentoring my second set in Christ, I know the importance of intentionality . Living with eternal perspective applies to everything we do and how we view life. Like decay that spreads unless addressed, if we are not purposeful in our walk with Jesus, our children will most likely follow the world and the desires taught by those who do not know Jesus. Our walk with Christ and the truths we teach because of the Holy Spirit alive within us is the shield that will offer protection from this world and make Jesus known to them. A mature relationship that builds Christlike character cannot be formed without a deep desire for Jesus to be reflected daily for our children. It’s easy to raise them in ways that produce the morality taught in this world, but we must desire and do more for the children God has entrusted to us. When we imagine the character we want them to hold, let’s not confuse the holiness Christ seeks with morality . Worldly morality prompts our child to conform to rules or standards for conduct, but who sets the boundaries? Many preach living your own truth and doing what feels right. God’s word teaches His truths, which are the only holy, living, active truths that serve all and honor our Lord. Holiness is a transformation only realized through relationship with Christ . When we are lovingly following the Lord and what He calls good or holy, Christlike character is formed in us and then, our children as they witness the Holy Spirit at work within to transform us. As they follow Jesus, developing their own faith, they recognize the Holy Spirit inside, beckoning their spirit to humbly please and honor Christ, and character training begins. When our children look to Jesus instead of the morals advertised by friends, influencers, celebrities, or culture, they will respect the instruction shown and given by us. Holy character is forming. 1 Chronicles 22:19a says, “Now set your heart and your soul to seek the Lord your God.” As we live in a world increasingly hostile to the gospel of Christ, we must remember the basics of a strong foundational relationship with Jesus and our children. As we draw nearer to God, our character matures and transforms to one that attracts our children and causes them to draw nearer to us and their Heavenly Father. We know the basics, done with a loving and consistent spirit makes a dramatic difference in the spiritual life of our children. Reading our Bible , making time for quiet study and reflection of God’s word and spending time in prayer with Him, speaking and listening for His guidance, wisdom, knowledge, and understanding builds a strong connection that withstands the trials life will bring. When we extend that same purpose with our children, reading and studying the Bible together, praying together and looking for the ways God is working and teaching, a solid groundwork is laid on which to mentor and help them to build a mature relationship with their Heavenly Father. I’d like to offer a suggestion: when you finish this podcast episode, I recommend listening to Live With Eternal Perspective podcast episode 046, “Maturing Character Like Christ” to hear practical and encouraging tips for living under pressure with heart and mind fixed on Jesus. When we allow our gaze to rely on Him despite difficulties, the Lord moves us to character mirroring His , and through character, to a hope that endures and reflects His grace, hope, and love. Our children see and absorb exactly how we process and react to life. We want to do all we can to ensure we live the way Jesus calls and continue growing in Him moment by moment so that our children will, too. You can find “Maturing Character Like Christ” on the terrihitt.com website. Simply click on the podcasts page and type the information in the search bar. It’s so simple to listen on your phone or iPad as you work, exercise, or travel. Beyond the basics of our walk with Jesus, what else can we do to guide our children to Him? How do we enable them to desire and grow Christlike character that pleases God and deepens their walk with Jesus? The Holy Spirit is the enabler of character like Christ. When our children or grandchildren are taught to know and love Jesus, to view the world as Christ does, their drive for ungodly behavior or worldly pleasures that do not please God diminishes. They must love and honor Jesus. The same applies to us. So how do we ensure that we raise our children or influence grandchildren with the ability to view the world as Christ does? How do we instill godly character that gives God joy? By teaching them God’s holy word and applying His truths to life. We make Him real to them. We show them the difference Christ makes in a life submitted to Him. Each of us pass through this world quickly. We are here for such a short while. Isaiah 40:7 says it best. “The grass withers and the flowers fade beneath the breath of the Lord. And so it is with people.” Our life can be proof that we can live in this world, yet not be a part of it. We can live set-apart with thoughts and character . We can examine and process where we are in our life at this very moment and where we want to be. Is it where He would have you go? Ponder ways to submit to God and allow Him to take you where He desires and has purposed. What differences would it make in the life of your child or grandchild to witness you asking for and submitting to the changes God makes in you ? The world tells us that integrity is adherence to moral and ethical principles. But whose principles? As believers in Christ, we know that His standards are the only ones we should esteem. The world tells us that we must hold good character, evident through characteristics such as persistence, self-control, honesty, optimism, intelligence, gratitude, integrity, and leadership. But who is the judge of the level of our character? Why do they choose these specific qualities? I believe there are 3 higher objectives we must keep at the forefront of our mind as we raise our children to view this world as Jesus does and live as He would call. 1. Heart for Christ – Prepare the soil of our child’s heart to make them ready for the gospel seeds to sprout and flourish. 2. Submission to Christ – Exhibit personal submission to Jesus in ways that draw our child nearer to Him. 3. Separation from World – Live a life that is set-apart and more attractive than what this world advertises as desirable. How are we able to do these steps? The answer is the same for each objective: mentor the behavior of Christ . 1. We consistently apply the foundational Bible and prayer basics we discussed earlier in this episode. 2. We allow the Holy Spirit to work within us and transform us to react like Christ. 3. Listen to your child, empathize, but don’t turn away from discipline when needed. 4. Discipline as correction, not punishment. God holds us accountable, but He does not shame us. 5. Don’t reflect or condone the behavior of this world, instead allow the Holy Spirit to continue renewing you moment by moment. As you live consistently with behavior that reflects the teachings of Jesus, you are showing character that will be noticed. 6. Be consistent in godly thoughts, actions, and reactions. 7. Take life moments as they come and use as teachable times. Don’t ignore the hard moments that often appear when families are in a rush or during very active times. Think of these as opportunities (that have been expressed through the trials of life) and use them to bring ungodly behavior up for discussion (yours included). Address consequences or ways to change. The way we exhibit Christ when we use parental authority over our children can be a magnet that attracts or repels them to our Savior. Remember, the nearer we draw to Jesus, the more we allow the Holy Spirit authority to reconstruct our heart and mind. As our children see the change within us reflected in daily actions and words, they witness, learn, and recognize the power of Christ and their character will change. Ezekiel 36:26 says, “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh .” Allow Christ to multiply in and through us while we are in the midst of trials and tragedy. Teach your children to do the same. 1 Peter 1:3-7 says, “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! By His great mercy He has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, and into an inheritance that is imperishable, undefiled, and unfading, reserved in heaven for you, who through faith are shielded by God’s power for the salvation that is ready to be revealed in the last time. In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in various trials so that the proven character of your faith—more precious than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may result in praise, glory, and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ.” Christ sustains and grows us during trials and persecution. Nothing lasts forever, the cruelty or trials will end, but the fruits of Christ’s transformation within us brings us to an eternity with Jesus. Romans 5:1-5 says, “Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we stand. And we rejoice in the hope of the glory of God. Not only that, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out His love into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, whom He has given us .” Seek and exhibit character that shines Christ. 2 Peter 1:5-8 says, “For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith virtue; and to virtue, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness;and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love. For if you possess these qualities and continue to grow in them, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ .” As the Holy Spirit works within us, as it works within our children, godly character forms new traits that are impossible for humans to possess apart from Christ, such as: fruits of the spirit, discernment, wisdom, knowledge, understanding, patience, self-denial, mercy, humility, pureness of heart, honesty, loyalty, and godly integrity. Galatians 5:22-24 says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us walk in step with the Spirit.” As godly parents, we must search the heart and mind of our child and reflect on the following questions: 1. Who am I when no one is watching? 2. Who is my child when no one is watching? 3. What do I do when the right action will hurt me, but benefit another person? 4. What does my child do when the right action will hurt him, but benefit another person? 5. Are my actions consistent when I am watched by someone and when I am not? 6. Are my child’s actions consistent when he is watched by someone and when he is not? Abe Lincoln said, “Character is like a tree and reputation like its shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing . As followers of Christ, we know Jesus is the real thing. We must stand in His shadow, praying for His light to pass over and remove the darkness from us. We must also pursue a genuine and strong walk with Him. As life mentors for our children and grandchildren, we must think of our leadership in terms that are simple enough to remember and follow daily: 1. If we are a godly, trustworthy, consistent leader, our children will see Christ in us and trust Him. 2. Good mentors follow excellent leaders. Keep your eyes and heart on Jesus so your child will, too. 3. Shift praise and accolades to Jesus and remember where your strength and wisdom is established so your child will do the same. 4. Counsel others to look to and lean on Jesus. It’s easier to speak in general as you share about God, but it is imperative to narrow down to Christ . Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life. Your child needs to see your faith in action. 1 Chronicles 28:9 says, “And you, My son Solomon, acknowledge the God of your father, and serve Him with wholehearted devotion and with a willing mind, for the Lord searches every heart and understands every desire and every thought. If you seek Him, He will be found by you; but if you forsake Him, He will reject you forever .” I’m sometimes asked what I believe makes the biggest difference in a child’s life. I would say introducing our children to Jesus by the way we live our relationship with Him and joyfully studying the Bible together is key. Shoot for daily. Hebrews 4:12 reminds us, “For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.” Nothing will reach our children for Jesus and build godly character better than God’s holy word and seeing their parent and or grandparents lovingly and joyfully live by it . Dear Heavenly Father, You are the biggest blessing to us. Thank you for the Holy Spirit within believers. Thank you for the access we have to You every moment. You are so, so good. Father, You have entrusted such precious gifts to our care. You search us, know us intimately, and still place them with us. How we need You! Draw us ever nearer to You daily. Enable us to seek You in clearer ways, in more godly ways. Help us to recognize our needs and release ourselves to You fully. May we please You greatly with the way we raise and influence our children and grandchildren for You. We are not worthy. But You are. We want our children to love You with joyful and godly hearts. Give them character that pleases and shines You. May they walk ever more closely with You than we have. May each generation draw nearer to You than the last. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you pray for your child, please look for my free ebook, “Prayers for My Child,” available on the website under the “Resources” page and is designed to guide the heart of your child to the feet of Jesus through scripturally-based prayer. The Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast is now available at terrihitt.com, where you can access the episodes housed in one convenient location, receive access to blog posts, read transcripts, and find additional resources designed to mature your walk with Christ and equip you to raise or influence connected children through Him. God knows that we are not capable of successful parenting on our own. As we rely on Him, releasing doubts and expectations, and humbly bow to His guidance and experience, we find greater clarity in parenting and a wondrous walk with our Creator that will extend to our children and those around us for generations . I pray this podcast helps you parent with purpose and deepen your connection to Jesus and your children as you intentionally place Christ above culture or self. Allow Him to work through you for true connection that will draw your children to Him and build a maturing relationship with Christ and your child that lasts for eternity. Previous Next

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #127 – Living Fully in the Moment Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. Do you ever wish for an exciting change in your life? Guess what? Each morning I get to live a new adventure in the world of Legos. Like clockwork, my youngest expects me to play with her before her day officially starts. As soon as she is out of bed with teeth brushed and medicine taken, we are connected in a world of make-believe. We’ve held this date for 7 years. Do you wonder whether it’s hard for us to maintain this schedule? Without fail, unless we have an errand that presses into our time, we do not deviate from our special time together. Sure, I think some might look at this as a trapping of sorts. To be honest, on days when I have a pressing schedule, it’s sometimes tempting to skip. Often many other things are pressing for my attention, and I’d have a valid reason (in my eyes, anyway) to say I’m just not able to play that day. Yet, God has shown me the importance, the blessing, and the privilege to connect with my girl in this special one-on-one way. Maybe it’s because I’m an older, or “do-over” mom, or maybe it’s because my heart has been pierced with loss and grieves for more time with my oldest daughter, but I understand the eternal value in these simple moments. Without a doubt, I believe that the communication we share and the trust my daughter has placed in me stems in a very large part from this simple, but dedicated time, to just sit together and play. Because I have proven myself reliable and we have bonded through this important way, my girl knows she can believe other things I tell her, ask her to do, or teach her. I’ve grabbed the opportunity to know her better through the very best way a child communicates – play. In a way, I’ve been gifted lost time, as well. Because I missed 9 years with my precious daughter, I recognize that God has miraculously gifted me the honor of being the one to teach her to play. Watching her learn the basics required for play were the beginning of a miracle that only He could supply. Although no one gave her time or recognition before, she has the most amazing imagination and ability to create. I’ve come to see facets of her personality and skills I would not have known otherwise. Because I appreciate our time together very much, a comment she made one day that she is glad I “am childishly playful” was one of the best compliments I have ever received. As I pondered what this opinion meant to her, the worth she received from the time I dedicated to her, and how it made me feel, I thought of God at the beginning of creation. Think of every animal, insect, bird, fish, human, continent, and on and on. Do you think God could have made all He has so superbly unique without being childishly playful? My point is that God wants us to enjoy life, to live in full appreciation of the moment, lest we miss it altogether and yearn a missed opportunity forever. Yet, He also wants us to view our moments with a heart that craves our eternal home with Him and seeks the value of what we are doing for His kingdom and our walk with Him. He desires that we view what we are living now with eyes and heart for how He will use it for eternity, whether we consider what we are going through to be good or bad, easy or hard. 1 Corinthians 10:31 says, “So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” Our love for God should saturate our heart so that our motives always seek His glory. Our walk with God should build up the walk of another for Him. Knowing the relationship I am crafting with my daughter is not just for my joy and benefit, but is a mentorship for her and her relationship with Christ, I look at the time spent as an investment in her eternity. I believe there are 5 tips to help each of us to remember to live in the moment, yet be directed by a mind set on eternity. 1. Seek God’s direction for your life. Unless you are actively and humbly submitting to Christ moment by moment, you will be deceived by fleshly desires. • Commit to daily Bible Study – If daily reading or study is your goal, it will become a habit like brushing your teeth or making your bed. If an unexpected event happens and you are unable to read one day, you have a supply built inside to sustain you until the next day or you will miss it so much that you will look at even a few lines of the Bible to quench your thirst for truth. • Keep an open dialogue of prayer through each day and stop to speak and listen to your Heavenly Father. Through study of His Word, we come to know our Heavenly Father in new and authentic ways. As we pray to and listen for the Father, we are even more attuned to the Holy Spirit within us. 2. Pray for discernment in your commitments and activity level. • Let simplicity have more room in your life. When our schedules are too packed or we haven’t be led by the direction of our Father, we cannot hear the Holy Spirit or recognize His guidance. • Be purposed in what you commit to. Our regular activities make life busy, but balanced. What we commit to has been prayed over and is used for Christ. 3. Cultivate a grateful attitude. Look for reasons to be joyful. Everything serves a purpose in your life. Philippians 4:6 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” Rest in the arms of your Heavenly Father. Trust His timetable and that He is present through what you consider set-backs. Look for Him at work and ask God to help you see Him clearly. 4. Practice living with a mindset like Christ. • Let no grudges, bitterness, hatred, unforgiveness, or hurts take hold of your mind, heart, or spirit. • Don’t take anything for granted. Take moments captive for Christ. How would God desire you use what happens in your life? • Don’t expect perfect days. I’ve learned and matured more during hardship than have in ease. Look for God’s hand in everything you encounter. 5. Pay attention to the world. • Look at culture, your life, clothing, interests, etc. through the eyes of Christ. • Evaluate whether you are living for more of this world or living for the purpose you hold here. Ask God to show you where He desires you to change. Balance your view of life with appreciation and a heart centered on God to ensure you make the most of every opportunity. Ephesians 5:15-20 says, “Pay careful attention, then, to how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, redeeming the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to reckless indiscretion. Instead, be filled with the Spirit, speaking to one another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit. Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” Don’t live for moments, but in the moment God has gifted you. James 4:14 says, “Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.” We each have a choice. Are we living in the moment or for the moment? When you live in the moment, we can appreciate what God has gifted to us. We know time is short. This moment is all we are guaranteed. Proverbs 27:1 says, “Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring.” If we are living for the moment, we tend to look only at that time, but not remember that the moments we have in this world are a gift; they are a time for serving the purposes our Father desires for us. It’s easy to live for moments. Births, weddings, celebrations, vacations, the list goes on. Never let the focus on milestones or desires overshadow your need to live in the moment you now possess. Jesus celebrated, too. Yet even in the midst of big events, He kept His eyes and heart on the eternal. Nothing was more important than serving His Father and knowing that God’s desires for Him were completed. Romans 12:1-2 says, “Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—His good, pleasing and perfect will.” Dear Heavenly Father, You are our Savior and we place our trust in You. Help us to remember that You are good. You call us to You, to come in good or bad times, and to center our thoughts on You. Father, Your Word shows us the way. Your love carries us. If we let You. Help us to set our minds on You, not the things of this world. Let that mindset penetrate each area of our life. The only way we can do that is to continue to seek Your face, heart, and mindset in all ways. We must be at Your feet, humbling ourselves under You. We must seek Your face first and last each day, and in the moments between. You know the plans You have for us. May we look forward to the future You have set for us with endurance and joy that comes only from You and a close relationship with You. Help us to look to You, Lord, and use Your strength as You guide us in Your truth and ways. Help our hope remain in You as our face seeks Yours. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Additional episodes may be heard at terrihitt.com, but the podcast is also a part of the Spark Media Network. Now the podcast may also be found on the Edifi app, where you can find thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed this podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? If you haven’t, would you please consider doing so? When you review the podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. Have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen to this new podcast, especially if you are raising children or influencing grandchildren. Please follow and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 127 - Living Fully in the Moment Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #127 – Living Fully in the Moment Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. Do you ever wish for an exciting change in your life? Guess what? Each morning I get to live a new adventure in the world of Legos. Like clockwork, my youngest expects me to play with her before her day officially starts. As soon as she is out of bed with teeth brushed and medicine taken, we are connected in a world of make-believe. We’ve held this date for 7 years. Do you wonder whether it’s hard for us to maintain this schedule? Without fail, unless we have an errand that presses into our time, we do not deviate from our special time together. Sure, I think some might look at this as a trapping of sorts. To be honest, on days when I have a pressing schedule, it’s sometimes tempting to skip. Often many other things are pressing for my attention, and I’d have a valid reason (in my eyes, anyway) to say I’m just not able to play that day. Yet, God has shown me the importance, the blessing, and the privilege to connect with my girl in this special one-on-one way. Maybe it’s because I’m an older, or “do-over” mom, or maybe it’s because my heart has been pierced with loss and grieves for more time with my oldest daughter, but I understand the eternal value in these simple moments. Without a doubt, I believe that the communication we share and the trust my daughter has placed in me stems in a very large part from this simple, but dedicated time, to just sit together and play. Because I have proven myself reliable and we have bonded through this important way, my girl knows she can believe other things I tell her, ask her to do, or teach her. I’ve grabbed the opportunity to know her better through the very best way a child communicates – play. In a way, I’ve been gifted lost time, as well. Because I missed 9 years with my precious daughter, I recognize that God has miraculously gifted me the honor of being the one to teach her to play. Watching her learn the basics required for play were the beginning of a miracle that only He could supply. Although no one gave her time or recognition before, she has the most amazing imagination and ability to create. I’ve come to see facets of her personality and skills I would not have known otherwise. Because I appreciate our time together very much, a comment she made one day that she is glad I “am childishly playful” was one of the best compliments I have ever received. As I pondered what this opinion meant to her, the worth she received from the time I dedicated to her, and how it made me feel, I thought of God at the beginning of creation. Think of every animal, insect, bird, fish, human, continent, and on and on. Do you think God could have made all He has so superbly unique without being childishly playful? My point is that God wants us to enjoy life, to live in full appreciation of the moment, lest we miss it altogether and yearn a missed opportunity forever. Yet, He also wants us to view our moments with a heart that craves our eternal home with Him and seeks the value of what we are doing for His kingdom and our walk with Him. He desires that we view what we are living now with eyes and heart for how He will use it for eternity, whether we consider what we are going through to be good or bad, easy or hard. 1 Corinthians 10:31 says, “So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” Our love for God should saturate our heart so that our motives always seek His glory. Our walk with God should build up the walk of another for Him. Knowing the relationship I am crafting with my daughter is not just for my joy and benefit, but is a mentorship for her and her relationship with Christ, I look at the time spent as an investment in her eternity. I believe there are 5 tips to help each of us to remember to live in the moment, yet be directed by a mind set on eternity. 1. Seek God’s direction for your life. Unless you are actively and humbly submitting to Christ moment by moment, you will be deceived by fleshly desires. • Commit to daily Bible Study – If daily reading or study is your goal, it will become a habit like brushing your teeth or making your bed. If an unexpected event happens and you are unable to read one day, you have a supply built inside to sustain you until the next day or you will miss it so much that you will look at even a few lines of the Bible to quench your thirst for truth. • Keep an open dialogue of prayer through each day and stop to speak and listen to your Heavenly Father. Through study of His Word, we come to know our Heavenly Father in new and authentic ways. As we pray to and listen for the Father, we are even more attuned to the Holy Spirit within us. 2. Pray for discernment in your commitments and activity level. • Let simplicity have more room in your life. When our schedules are too packed or we haven’t be led by the direction of our Father, we cannot hear the Holy Spirit or recognize His guidance. • Be purposed in what you commit to. Our regular activities make life busy, but balanced. What we commit to has been prayed over and is used for Christ. 3. Cultivate a grateful attitude. Look for reasons to be joyful. Everything serves a purpose in your life. Philippians 4:6 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” Rest in the arms of your Heavenly Father. Trust His timetable and that He is present through what you consider set-backs. Look for Him at work and ask God to help you see Him clearly. 4. Practice living with a mindset like Christ. • Let no grudges, bitterness, hatred, unforgiveness, or hurts take hold of your mind, heart, or spirit. • Don’t take anything for granted. Take moments captive for Christ. How would God desire you use what happens in your life? • Don’t expect perfect days. I’ve learned and matured more during hardship than have in ease. Look for God’s hand in everything you encounter. 5. Pay attention to the world. • Look at culture, your life, clothing, interests, etc. through the eyes of Christ. • Evaluate whether you are living for more of this world or living for the purpose you hold here. Ask God to show you where He desires you to change. Balance your view of life with appreciation and a heart centered on God to ensure you make the most of every opportunity. Ephesians 5:15-20 says, “Pay careful attention, then, to how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, redeeming the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to reckless indiscretion. Instead, be filled with the Spirit, speaking to one another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit. Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” Don’t live for moments, but in the moment God has gifted you. James 4:14 says, “Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.” We each have a choice. Are we living in the moment or for the moment? When you live in the moment, we can appreciate what God has gifted to us. We know time is short. This moment is all we are guaranteed. Proverbs 27:1 says, “Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring.” If we are living for the moment, we tend to look only at that time, but not remember that the moments we have in this world are a gift; they are a time for serving the purposes our Father desires for us. It’s easy to live for moments. Births, weddings, celebrations, vacations, the list goes on. Never let the focus on milestones or desires overshadow your need to live in the moment you now possess. Jesus celebrated, too. Yet even in the midst of big events, He kept His eyes and heart on the eternal. Nothing was more important than serving His Father and knowing that God’s desires for Him were completed. Romans 12:1-2 says, “Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—His good, pleasing and perfect will.” Dear Heavenly Father, You are our Savior and we place our trust in You. Help us to remember that You are good. You call us to You, to come in good or bad times, and to center our thoughts on You. Father, Your Word shows us the way. Your love carries us. If we let You. Help us to set our minds on You, not the things of this world. Let that mindset penetrate each area of our life. The only way we can do that is to continue to seek Your face, heart, and mindset in all ways. We must be at Your feet, humbling ourselves under You. We must seek Your face first and last each day, and in the moments between. You know the plans You have for us. May we look forward to the future You have set for us with endurance and joy that comes only from You and a close relationship with You. Help us to look to You, Lord, and use Your strength as You guide us in Your truth and ways. Help our hope remain in You as our face seeks Yours. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Additional episodes may be heard at terrihitt.com, but the podcast is also a part of the Spark Media Network. Now the podcast may also be found on the Edifi app, where you can find thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed this podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? If you haven’t, would you please consider doing so? When you review the podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. Have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen to this new podcast, especially if you are raising children or influencing grandchildren. Please follow and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #137 – Renewing Inwardly through Christ Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. Last December, my youngest underwent an oral surgery she was forced to wait a year to receive. Watching me advocate to ensure sure she got the best care as quickly as the surgeons and hospital could coordinate it, combined with her history of multiple surgeries and procedures, made her begin dwelling on survival and mortality. We shared many conversations, some with tears, all with prayers, and a few with mixed responses. Lately, as she has released most of her concerns, my responses have been lighter. Just as life is a journey that requires each individual to change and grow, our discussions have been impacted by the spiritual, mental, and emotional concerns caused for her because of the multiple delays in scheduling and performing this procedure. This afternoon, I was finishing lunch at the dining room table. Brooklyn had already eaten, and she went to the opposite side of the table where I couldn’t quite see what she was doing. Suddenly, I heard an odd sound something like, “oof” and then complete silence. “Are you okay,” I asked. A sigh. “Yes.” “Are you sure? What are you doing?” “I’m laying on the floor thinking about getting older.” “I love getting older,” I said. “What?!” “Yes. I love how much closer I am to God and how much more I have learned about Him.” “But I don’t want to get older. I don’t want things to change.” “It’s hard when things change,” I agreed. After waiting a bit, I added, “but it’s also hard when things stay the same. I want to keep growing and learning. I can’t do that if I stay the same age.” “I want to be two years younger than I am right now and have you be 47,” she remarked. I’ve heard these ages many times. She has a thing about the age of 47, which is 15 years younger than I am. “Oh, 47? I don’t think I want to go back to that age.” “But you’d be so much younger,” she replied. Because we’ve talked about this before, I knew she felt that if I was younger she would have me around longer, I said, “I don’t really think about age. I don’t want to worry about what might happen as I get older because I’d miss all the wonderful blessings happening now. I like what I’ve learned and where I am now. I’m so glad to be this mommy for you. Each day gives me the chance to be a new person inside.” This truth pertains to us and our children or grandchildren. As we absorb and process what we think and feel, the time then arrives to do and believe what Scripture and God’s truths say. 2 Corinthians 4:16 says, “So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day.” God’s Word offers such beautiful truth about aging. Just as God is concerned about the person inside as He looks directly into our heart and mind, we must be concerned with who we are becoming and focus on the work the Holy Spirit is doing within. We don’t want to miss participating in the work being completed within us. As my youngest daughter matures and works through concerns she carries based off of past experiences, traumas, and losses, I want my sweet daughter to know that God sees everything. He knows her past. He knows her future. He is ready to grow and change not only her, but the loved ones around her, to ensure she becomes the person He has purposed for the special work she was created for. Life is more than staying in one spot of happiness. We have to trust that God has more than one blessing in store for us. As the Holy Spirit completes the work of Christ within us daily, we will be renewed by His strength and desires as the influence of this world fades dimmer and dimmer. Romans 12:1-2 says, “Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—His good, pleasing and perfect will.” Believers must allow God to renew our mind, revive our spirit, and release His mindset. Ephesians 3:14-21 “For this reason I bow my knees to the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, from whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man, that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height— to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” When believers receive a new identity through Christ, we are awakened spiritually and welcomed into the family of God. Through humble submission, adoration, focused dedication to God, and assurance through His holy Word, we live with assurance of a renewed spirit within. Although our fleshly bodies waste away, (just as my daughter doesn’t want to happen to her mommy), our inner core, the renewed Christian, should be strengthening through the work of the Holy Spirit inside. As we are drawn toward deeper faith, understanding, discernment, and obedience where we knew no lasting comfort or wisdom before, we are now infused by supernatural cleansing and drawn to the foundational truths and fruits of Christ. 2 Corinthians 3:4-6 says, “Such confidence we have through Christ before God. Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God. He has made us competent as ministers of a new covenant—not of the letter but of the Spirit; for the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life.” Christians should respect the law, but choose to follow the Holy Spirit deposited within them by Christ. The law enlightens us to truth and sin, but because of our personal relationship with Christ, the Holy Spirit is intimately working within each person to renew and refresh believers moment by moment as we humbly trust and submit to Christ. We must purpose to allow our inward character to renew daily as we seek Christlike characteristics and desires only accessible to us when we have submitted to Jesus as our Lord and Savior. 2 Corinthians 4:16 says, “Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.” What a beautiful truth about aging God’s way. Believers should be able to discern a difference in the character of Christ exhibited through them from day to day. What differences do you see in your life that make you different than you were yesterday? Are these changes worldly or godly? Are you drawing nearer to Him? Do you know/trust that God is drawing nearer to you? Let’s discuss what believers can do to ensure we continue to renew inwardly: 1. Study the Word – ponder it. I hesitate to say meditate on it because the term has become twisted with New Age ideologies. What God desires is not that we empty our mind, but that we renew it with His Word, instructions, and mindset. As we ponder His teachings and commands and adhere to His mindset, we become more Christlike in thoughts, actions, responses, and words. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness.” Joshua 1:8 says, “Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.” 2. Strive to live God’s Word. As we study the Word, as we allow the Holy Spirit to guide us in God’s truths, our mindset become more eternally focused and yearns to uphold a lifestyle like that Christ mentored. Psalm 119:11 says, “I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.” Psalm 119:105 says, “Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.” Deuteronomy 11:18-23 says, “Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates, so that your days and the days of your children may be many in the land the Lord swore to give your ancestors, as many as the days that the heavens are above the earth. If you carefully observe all these commands I am giving you to follow—to love the Lord your God, to walk in obedience to Him and to hold fast to Him— then the Lord will drive out all these nations before you, and you will dispossess nations larger and stronger than you.” 3. Safeguard your mind. Now more than any other generation, we have so much to distract and discourage us from seeking God. We’ve made this world and our activities our god. We must become and remain diligent to remember to think on the things God instructs and the Holy Spirit prompts. 2 Corinthians 10:5 says, “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” 4. Seek God through prayerful and scriptural conversation. God is always present. Available non-stop, He stands ready to hear from us. When we seek God with a genuine heart, no matter what we have to say, He responds, but we delight His heart when we study His Word and speak it to Him. Praying Scriptural prayers to God holds such promise and power. Speaking the words of the Bible enable us to know and use God’s Word, becoming more Christlike in thoughts, words, and deeds. 1 Thessalonians 5:17 says, “pray continually.” Mark 1:35 says, “Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where He prayed.” Matthew 6:6-8 says, “But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask Him.” 5. Summon Scripture – Memorize the Word. In order to pray His Word, we must learn it. Whether you make a concentrated effort to memorize God’s Word (a wonderful use of time) or read the Word so often that you know God’s Word, we absolutely must know God through the Scripture He sent for us. God could have written a book about anything. Instead, He lovingly sent us all we need to know about Him and how to live in this world. If you think there isn’t an answer to be found in Scripture, study harder. Through His Word, we absolutely know the character of God, can identify sin, and we see the way He desires us to live. Joshua 1:8 says, “Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.” Psalm 119:16 says, “I delight in Your decrees; I will not neglect Your word.” Matthew 4:4 says, “Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’” Study God’s Word, live His Word, safeguard your mind, converse with God through prayer, and know and use Scripture daily. These are solid, biblical ways to continue renewing inwardly day by day. Without the saving grace of Jesus, believers would never be free of sin or the consequences of separation. Now living with the Holy Spirit alive within, believers can begin to comprehend the agape love that lives outside the reach of our finite heart and mind. Vast and complete, God’s love is a mystery only He can unravel to those who are committed to submitting to a life of devotion to Him. Believers submitted to Christ live with assurance that we will continue to grow and mature in relationship with God. Inside, we are renewing, growing into a Christlike maturity as we keep our eyes, heart, and mind fixed on Him and trust the truths and promises of God. Looking beyond afflictions of this world toward the invisible future promised by God, those of us committed to Christ cast aside the temporary pain or trouble in this world. Through faith, we focus on what is to come. Dear Heavenly Father, our great, glorious God, we thank you for the Holy Spirit alive inside believers. What a beautiful deposit You purposely left with those who trust in Christ. Help us to see life more clearly each moment through Your eyes, mind, and heart. The acts of the flesh should obvious to us, yet even Christians live with sexual immorality, impurity, idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, selfishness, envy, drunkenness, and more that goes against all You desire for us. Help us to carry the opposite – Your fruits of The Spirit. Your Word promises that those who belong to Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Enable us to desire You more deeply, to live by the Spirit, and to walk in step with the Spirit. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast. You can find this episode, as well as other transcripts online at terrihitt.com. Both of my podcasts are available on the website. You can also find them on Apple Podcast, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts are also found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Was the content of this podcast helpful to you? If so, while you’re on the website, you can choose to leave your email address. This enables you to receive monthly encouragement and resources to help you in your journey with Christ. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? 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Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 137 - Renewing Inwardly Through Christ Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #137 – Renewing Inwardly through Christ Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. Last December, my youngest underwent an oral surgery she was forced to wait a year to receive. Watching me advocate to ensure sure she got the best care as quickly as the surgeons and hospital could coordinate it, combined with her history of multiple surgeries and procedures, made her begin dwelling on survival and mortality. We shared many conversations, some with tears, all with prayers, and a few with mixed responses. Lately, as she has released most of her concerns, my responses have been lighter. Just as life is a journey that requires each individual to change and grow, our discussions have been impacted by the spiritual, mental, and emotional concerns caused for her because of the multiple delays in scheduling and performing this procedure. This afternoon, I was finishing lunch at the dining room table. Brooklyn had already eaten, and she went to the opposite side of the table where I couldn’t quite see what she was doing. Suddenly, I heard an odd sound something like, “oof” and then complete silence. “Are you okay,” I asked. A sigh. “Yes.” “Are you sure? What are you doing?” “I’m laying on the floor thinking about getting older.” “I love getting older,” I said. “What?!” “Yes. I love how much closer I am to God and how much more I have learned about Him.” “But I don’t want to get older. I don’t want things to change.” “It’s hard when things change,” I agreed. After waiting a bit, I added, “but it’s also hard when things stay the same. I want to keep growing and learning. I can’t do that if I stay the same age.” “I want to be two years younger than I am right now and have you be 47,” she remarked. I’ve heard these ages many times. She has a thing about the age of 47, which is 15 years younger than I am. “Oh, 47? I don’t think I want to go back to that age.” “But you’d be so much younger,” she replied. Because we’ve talked about this before, I knew she felt that if I was younger she would have me around longer, I said, “I don’t really think about age. I don’t want to worry about what might happen as I get older because I’d miss all the wonderful blessings happening now. I like what I’ve learned and where I am now. I’m so glad to be this mommy for you. Each day gives me the chance to be a new person inside.” This truth pertains to us and our children or grandchildren. As we absorb and process what we think and feel, the time then arrives to do and believe what Scripture and God’s truths say. 2 Corinthians 4:16 says, “So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day.” God’s Word offers such beautiful truth about aging. Just as God is concerned about the person inside as He looks directly into our heart and mind, we must be concerned with who we are becoming and focus on the work the Holy Spirit is doing within. We don’t want to miss participating in the work being completed within us. As my youngest daughter matures and works through concerns she carries based off of past experiences, traumas, and losses, I want my sweet daughter to know that God sees everything. He knows her past. He knows her future. He is ready to grow and change not only her, but the loved ones around her, to ensure she becomes the person He has purposed for the special work she was created for. Life is more than staying in one spot of happiness. We have to trust that God has more than one blessing in store for us. As the Holy Spirit completes the work of Christ within us daily, we will be renewed by His strength and desires as the influence of this world fades dimmer and dimmer. Romans 12:1-2 says, “Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—His good, pleasing and perfect will.” Believers must allow God to renew our mind, revive our spirit, and release His mindset. Ephesians 3:14-21 “For this reason I bow my knees to the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, from whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man, that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height— to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” When believers receive a new identity through Christ, we are awakened spiritually and welcomed into the family of God. Through humble submission, adoration, focused dedication to God, and assurance through His holy Word, we live with assurance of a renewed spirit within. Although our fleshly bodies waste away, (just as my daughter doesn’t want to happen to her mommy), our inner core, the renewed Christian, should be strengthening through the work of the Holy Spirit inside. As we are drawn toward deeper faith, understanding, discernment, and obedience where we knew no lasting comfort or wisdom before, we are now infused by supernatural cleansing and drawn to the foundational truths and fruits of Christ. 2 Corinthians 3:4-6 says, “Such confidence we have through Christ before God. Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God. He has made us competent as ministers of a new covenant—not of the letter but of the Spirit; for the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life.” Christians should respect the law, but choose to follow the Holy Spirit deposited within them by Christ. The law enlightens us to truth and sin, but because of our personal relationship with Christ, the Holy Spirit is intimately working within each person to renew and refresh believers moment by moment as we humbly trust and submit to Christ. We must purpose to allow our inward character to renew daily as we seek Christlike characteristics and desires only accessible to us when we have submitted to Jesus as our Lord and Savior. 2 Corinthians 4:16 says, “Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.” What a beautiful truth about aging God’s way. Believers should be able to discern a difference in the character of Christ exhibited through them from day to day. What differences do you see in your life that make you different than you were yesterday? Are these changes worldly or godly? Are you drawing nearer to Him? Do you know/trust that God is drawing nearer to you? Let’s discuss what believers can do to ensure we continue to renew inwardly: 1. Study the Word – ponder it. I hesitate to say meditate on it because the term has become twisted with New Age ideologies. What God desires is not that we empty our mind, but that we renew it with His Word, instructions, and mindset. As we ponder His teachings and commands and adhere to His mindset, we become more Christlike in thoughts, actions, responses, and words. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness.” Joshua 1:8 says, “Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.” 2. Strive to live God’s Word. As we study the Word, as we allow the Holy Spirit to guide us in God’s truths, our mindset become more eternally focused and yearns to uphold a lifestyle like that Christ mentored. Psalm 119:11 says, “I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.” Psalm 119:105 says, “Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.” Deuteronomy 11:18-23 says, “Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates, so that your days and the days of your children may be many in the land the Lord swore to give your ancestors, as many as the days that the heavens are above the earth. If you carefully observe all these commands I am giving you to follow—to love the Lord your God, to walk in obedience to Him and to hold fast to Him— then the Lord will drive out all these nations before you, and you will dispossess nations larger and stronger than you.” 3. Safeguard your mind. Now more than any other generation, we have so much to distract and discourage us from seeking God. We’ve made this world and our activities our god. We must become and remain diligent to remember to think on the things God instructs and the Holy Spirit prompts. 2 Corinthians 10:5 says, “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” 4. Seek God through prayerful and scriptural conversation. God is always present. Available non-stop, He stands ready to hear from us. When we seek God with a genuine heart, no matter what we have to say, He responds, but we delight His heart when we study His Word and speak it to Him. Praying Scriptural prayers to God holds such promise and power. Speaking the words of the Bible enable us to know and use God’s Word, becoming more Christlike in thoughts, words, and deeds. 1 Thessalonians 5:17 says, “pray continually.” Mark 1:35 says, “Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where He prayed.” Matthew 6:6-8 says, “But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask Him.” 5. Summon Scripture – Memorize the Word. In order to pray His Word, we must learn it. Whether you make a concentrated effort to memorize God’s Word (a wonderful use of time) or read the Word so often that you know God’s Word, we absolutely must know God through the Scripture He sent for us. God could have written a book about anything. Instead, He lovingly sent us all we need to know about Him and how to live in this world. If you think there isn’t an answer to be found in Scripture, study harder. Through His Word, we absolutely know the character of God, can identify sin, and we see the way He desires us to live. Joshua 1:8 says, “Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.” Psalm 119:16 says, “I delight in Your decrees; I will not neglect Your word.” Matthew 4:4 says, “Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’” Study God’s Word, live His Word, safeguard your mind, converse with God through prayer, and know and use Scripture daily. These are solid, biblical ways to continue renewing inwardly day by day. Without the saving grace of Jesus, believers would never be free of sin or the consequences of separation. Now living with the Holy Spirit alive within, believers can begin to comprehend the agape love that lives outside the reach of our finite heart and mind. Vast and complete, God’s love is a mystery only He can unravel to those who are committed to submitting to a life of devotion to Him. Believers submitted to Christ live with assurance that we will continue to grow and mature in relationship with God. Inside, we are renewing, growing into a Christlike maturity as we keep our eyes, heart, and mind fixed on Him and trust the truths and promises of God. Looking beyond afflictions of this world toward the invisible future promised by God, those of us committed to Christ cast aside the temporary pain or trouble in this world. Through faith, we focus on what is to come. Dear Heavenly Father, our great, glorious God, we thank you for the Holy Spirit alive inside believers. What a beautiful deposit You purposely left with those who trust in Christ. Help us to see life more clearly each moment through Your eyes, mind, and heart. The acts of the flesh should obvious to us, yet even Christians live with sexual immorality, impurity, idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, selfishness, envy, drunkenness, and more that goes against all You desire for us. Help us to carry the opposite – Your fruits of The Spirit. Your Word promises that those who belong to Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Enable us to desire You more deeply, to live by the Spirit, and to walk in step with the Spirit. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast. You can find this episode, as well as other transcripts online at terrihitt.com. Both of my podcasts are available on the website. You can also find them on Apple Podcast, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts are also found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Was the content of this podcast helpful to you? If so, while you’re on the website, you can choose to leave your email address. This enables you to receive monthly encouragement and resources to help you in your journey with Christ. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. Will you take a moment to follow the shows and think of someone you can share the podcasts with and encourage them to follow and share, as well? Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #136 – How to Thrive as a Christian in a World of Unbelievers Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. An event that happened one evening about 15 years ago stands out in my mind like it was yesterday. Most of the women at this event were strangers to me, but since a mutual friend had invited each of us to her place to watch an important adoption movie, I felt very comfortable going. At the end of the film, several of us shared our thoughts about what was important to us and why. As soon as my beliefs were spoken, one woman exploded with angry words that shocked and silenced me. Amazed that my belief in God and the viewpoint I had on adoption based on my relationship with Jesus had offended her so harshly, I was unable to think of any response other than to concentrate on stopping the tears threatening to spill down my cheeks. Although my logical side guessed that she was not a believer and must have had something happen in her past that turned her angry against God or Christians, I couldn’t converse logically because I was so disappointed in my friend for not intervening and keeping the space we were in safe for all viewpoints and, of course, for the hurtful words thrown at me by this stranger. As soon as possible, I left the meeting and cried all the way home as I poured my thoughts out to God, and then on the phone with a close friend. I had never faced someone so violently opposed to hearing biblically-based views. It was only later than I realized I had assumed the woman was not a Christian. In reality, believers can look so much like the world that God is never seen. It used to be that professing Christianity was respected. Tolerated. Trusted. Now the most outspoken seem to be those who despise or reject God, or those who when you mention God carry their own definition of what a Christian is. It’s only when you begin conversations that you’re able to discern that the God you worship is not the god they claim as lord of their life. Since it is common for many who profess to be Christians not to read their Bible, they aren’t familiar with the Word. Many of these believers enjoy or prefer the “gentler” approach to preaching. They don’t want to spend a Sunday morning uncomfortable in the pews. In fact, most churches don’t even have pews anymore. It’s more casual to sit on a chair you’d find at any meeting. And it’s more pleasant to hear that God is our friend, looking out for us from above. He understands when we slip up, but He knows we don’t plan to continue sinning. Surely He knows that we aren’t hurting anyone but ourselves, so it’s not a big deal. We’re told he’s an awesome, patient God, so there’s not really anything to worry about. Unbelievers or casual “Christians” do believe that God knows the Gospel offends people. They think He understands that we don’t know how to share Jesus without discomfort or embarrassment. In fact, many believe it’s easier to hear prosperity preaching or blame our issues on enneagram numbers so we don’t have to face change. Or growth. Or put effort into developing a relationship with Christ that purposely matures daily. That way we won’t stand out as separate from others and we won’t offend anyone. God knows we don’t want to scare people off or act like we’re superior by judging them. God surely understands that believers shouldn’t mention current cultural topics like abortion, pre-marital sex, politics, assigned sex at birth, or pornography. By the time believers with this mindset are finished compromising self on so many issues, they may as well remove the identifying label of “Christian” from their identity. Just as unbelievers who have chosen to deny God, each believer must come to a time of humble brokenness that forces us to acknowledge our trust, faith, and hope are only found through Jesus, and confess that we are a product of grace and mercy extended by Christ alone. 1 Corinthians 3:11-17 says, “For no one can lay a foundation other than that which is laid, which is Jesus Christ. Now if anyone builds on the foundation with gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, straw— each one’s work will become manifest, for the Day will disclose it, because it will be revealed by fire, and the fire will test what sort of work each one has done. If the work that anyone has built on the foundation survives, he will receive a reward. If anyone’s work is burned up, he will suffer loss, though he himself will be saved, but only as through fire. Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him. For God’s temple is holy, and you are that temple.” How often do you think of representing God, of being a living representation of His holy temple? Each of us needs to be cognizant of exactly Who God is and what He requires from us as followers of Jesus. Have you noticed that many churches in our present day don’t mention hell often, but Jesus actually preached more about hell than heaven. Many modern churches focus more on a loving God who blesses with prosperity than a God who lovingly disciplines. Romans 1:18-32 says, “For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth. For what can be known about God is plain to them, because God has shown it to them. For his invisible attributes, namely, his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived, ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made. So they are without excuse. For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Claiming to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man and birds and animals and creeping things. Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen. For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error. And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done. They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, maliciousness. They are gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless. Though they know God’s righteous decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who practice them.” Just like unbelievers, Christians reap what we sow. God will release us to follow the acts of our choosing. When we turn away from the Lord and follow worldly desires instead of heeding the commands of our long-suffering Heavenly Father, God may turn us over to live as pagans to follow the depravity in our heart. This is how generations are lost. Choosing to live the easiest lifestyle is actually more difficult in the end. Thus, we must face the question: how many children and grandchildren are negatively affected or spiritually lost due to compromises in our life that became lifestyle? How many unbelievers will never be reached because they see no difference in the life of those of us professing to be believers? Believers must find that “sweet spot” of reliance on Christ and maturing faith that fuels a desire to be mentored by Christ. One that propels us to sit at His feet in humble adoration. Love is the greatest commandment after worshipping God. It is the only way the holy, agape love from Jesus will lead us to study and understand His Words and desires, even those unspoken pleas and beliefs in the Bible. If we know the Father and we are led by the Son, we should understand and exemplify His guidelines in our life. Our beliefs, words, actions, and reactions should mirror those of Christ, not portray personal feelings or emotions. We should be able to display Jesus, yet point others to Him. When we are questioned or ridiculed about our ideology, we must direct those unbelievers to Him. What we think doesn’t matter. What Jesus says to be truth affects each of us for eternity. The world may not like the fact that believers have a different set of moral codes, but true followers of Christ should be more concerned about reading and studying the Word than listening to the opinions of the world. We must seek to fully understand the Words in red and strive to humble ourselves before Him rather than seek human approval. People may reject the teachings and commands of God, but they may come to follow Him if what we live and speak comes from His Word as we faithfully and prayerfully seek His will and ways, then respond with genuine love and concern when leading others to His Word for direction. What are some of the ways unbelievers view Christ or Christians? 1. Some look at God as a personal “magic genie” who should grant every wish. When He doesn’t, they reject Him. 2. Some think Christians are mean and judgmental. Scripture is foreign to them or they interpret the Word differently because they do not spend time studying and understanding God. 3. Some see God as a crutch and they believe only weak or simple-minded people believe in God. What are some of the reasons people choose to reject Christ? 1. They were raised in a non-Christian home. 2. They may have been raised in a “Christian” home, but never saw biblical principles lived or they were never discipled. 3. They never made the faith of their parents fully their own. 4. They had a weak faith that was rocked or shattered by experiences. 5. They do not understand the Bible because they do not make time to study the Word and grow or mature their walk with Christ, so they begin to question God. 6. They don’t want to humble themselves and submit to God. 7. They don’t want to release sin. I believe God gives each of us the opportunity to experience personal relationship with Him. Because He allows us free will, we shouldn’t expect that everyone will follow Him. It is God’s desire that all know Him, but it is He who does the work in the heart and soul of each person. We should share the Good News of Christ and not be afraid to mature our personal walk with Jesus, but we should not be ashamed or hesitant to speak boldly about our walk with Him. We should be ready to give an account of the work He has done within us. One of the hardest things for me to understand is how those of us who profess to be believers and followers of Christ can differ so greatly on topics such as pre-marital sex, homosexuality, abortion, politics, assigned sex at birth, and other topics like these. Certainly, what we have lived and experienced comes into play, but must be released to focus on what God’s Word teaches and instructs. We are merely fallible humans and only God’s Word can be trusted to lead and instruct what is truth and what are products of a broken, sinful world. Some people claim that abortion isn’t addressed in the Bible, but if you know the character and teachings of our Holy God, we understand that He values life. The Creator of Heaven and Earth intimately planned and prepared each life. Scripture is very clear as to what God believes about abortion. But while our God of love and grace detests abortion, he still loves the person who has had one. Just like any other sin we serve, God is ready to forgive and move us from a place of shame, confusion, deceit, or fear into His mercy and truth. Since we all come from different backgrounds and histories, are at different steps of growth in Christ, live in a fallen, sinful world full of hardships and tragedies, coupled with the fact that not everyone believes in Christ as Savior and attempts to live within His guidelines, it is amazing to me that anyone gets along. But what saddens me is that knowing Christ, and knowing the changes He has and continues to make in me daily as I trust in and follow Him, it makes it difficult for me to understand why some are hesitant and even sometimes passionately hateful about learning more about Jesus and also what He would believe about the state of the world today. Is it because Christians have failed them? Even when we allow for godly grace and love to move us in relationships and communication with others, our sinful nature will sometimes get it wrong – or they will misunderstand. In our pursuit of Jesus, we must always remember the grace and mercy extended to us and live within the guidelines He established for us. Trust Him for the rest and remember that although we should attempt to treat others with love and respect, we cannot please everyone, especially those living with evilness through serving this world. Believers are to live in ways pleasing to God, glorifying Him, not simply live to please everyone in the world. There are times our viewpoints and attitudes will just not be in alignment. This is what causes the divide. This is how the devil flourishes. Also, when others do not believe or follow Christ, they will simply not understand the words we share or the beliefs we carry. 1 Corinthians 2:14 says, “The natural person does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are folly to him, and he is not able to understand them because they are spiritually discerned.” Because of the relationship we carry with Jesus, we must fix our eyes and heart on Him, knowing that when our deepest desire is to please Him, we can trust that He is in charge and will be with us. We can cling to Him and allow Him to carry us through what occurs, whether it be pain and suffering or promise and success. Because believers have the promises of God through His holy Word, we live with hope that is certain, not just a belief. Hope that carries us, comforts us, and connects us to an eternal future with Him. God’s holy Word beautifully and personally instructs each of us about how to live and withstand life in this broken, sinful world. Yet, the power of His living Word also intimately encourages and equips us at the same time. Romans 15:5-6 says, “May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.” As believers, we have this hope, but also many other fruits of the Spirit, yet because we are at different stages of maturation in our personal walk with Christ and interpretation of the Bible, we will not see eye to eye on all subjects. Imagine if we each allowed the grace of Christ to control our hearts, instead of judgement. With mind, heart, and mouth we should seek to allow Jesus to control our thoughts, motives, actions, reactions, and words so that they remain glorifying to Him and edifying for others. Matthew 5:13-16 says, “You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown out and trampled under people’s feet. You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” I believe one of the strongest benefits of believing is the hope found through Christ. How do we learn of this hope? Through reading and studying His precious words. More than ever, I crave reading God’s holy Word. Similar to how we become addicted to sugar when we have it often in our diet, the Word of God draws us in the more we read it. As our relationship grows and matures, our desire for God does as well. Romans 15:4 says, “For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.” My youngest daughter was brought home to be with us when she was nine years old. If you’ve listened to this podcast for long, you may already know some of her story. Now that she has been with us for several years, and has learned to speak English, it is very interesting to hear what she has to say about her time in China. One of the most touching statements she has made is that she never had hope while there. Now that she is living life with a family that loves her very much, and she has found Jesus as her Savior, she faces each day with hope for the present and for the future. Romans 15:13 says, “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.” The biggest source of hope for her is found through family and the living hope she has discovered by living in a loving Christian home. By reading God’s Word daily, participating in family devotional time, family prayer time, scripture writing, and conversations that bring Christ into every aspect of life, she has learned that she can hope for a future that is secure through Jesus. The Bible has been integral in allowing her to seek and find Jesus herself. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.” Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” • What are some of the benefits believers can exhibit to unbelievers as we show them the difference Christ makes in our lives? We can show them the difference He makes in the following areas: Relationship, Obedience, Faith, Love, Pardon from sin, Fruits of the Spirit, Fellowship with God, Eternal Life • What are some of the benefits they can discover as they commit to following Christ? They will see God work in areas that prove His faithfulness: Love, Relationship, Forgiveness, Faith, Wisdom, Trust, Respect, Grace Ephesians 3:14-20 says, “For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named, that according to the riches of His glory He may grant you to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” As we strive to live in ways that honor the Father and show grace to others, I believe Christians have strides to make. Only through the loving direction of our gracious Heavenly Father can we properly begin to exhibit His love. As we do so, it does not mean that we compromise the standards He has set for us, but we do live with freedom to love others, even those who rebel against God. We realize that each of us has sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. We are to be discerning, not compromising or going against what God calls for us, but understanding that not all know Him. When living in ignorance, one will not understand or come to accept what they perceive as judgment from a group of people living in ways they do not comprehend. The hardship of trying to live with grace in a world of unbelievers grows more challenging each day. But don’t let it silence your voice or stop you from reaching out to let someone hear stories of God at work in your life and what He can and wants to do for them. God does not issue warnings or instructions to stifle or control any of us. He desires that we walk in step with His commands because He carries no sin and can tolerate no sin. Following His wisdom allows us to stay in step with the Holy Spirit and His beautiful purposes for our life. Through grace and mercy, we have the privilege of seeing the heart of our Father more clearly, thus leaving us with a huge responsibility and purpose to make Him clearly known. So first, we must intentionally seek Him ourselves and strive to humbly know Him fully. Dear Heavenly Father, how far from You we are. How mighty is Your great love for us. Thank you for never leaving or forsaking us. Thank you for Your Son who allows us to be reconciled to You. Father, help us to desire to know You more each day. May the person we are today never be the person we reveal tomorrow because we are in pursuit of a deepening relationship with You moment by moment. Help us to reveal You to others in the ways You ordain and desire. Help us to clearly show You because we make the time to know You. Help our nation and our world to deeply desire and find You because believers are living in the fullness of Your truths and love for others to be attracted to You. Thank you for Your great book of instruction, the Bible. We could spend a lifetime pursuing You within this book and still not be close to knowing You fully. Fill in the gaps we miss and allow our spirit to shine You. We are lost without You. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast. You can find this and other transcripts online at terrihitt.com. Remember that both of my podcasts are available on the website. 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I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 136 - How to Thrive as a Christian in a World of Unbelievers Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #136 – How to Thrive as a Christian in a World of Unbelievers Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. An event that happened one evening about 15 years ago stands out in my mind like it was yesterday. Most of the women at this event were strangers to me, but since a mutual friend had invited each of us to her place to watch an important adoption movie, I felt very comfortable going. At the end of the film, several of us shared our thoughts about what was important to us and why. As soon as my beliefs were spoken, one woman exploded with angry words that shocked and silenced me. Amazed that my belief in God and the viewpoint I had on adoption based on my relationship with Jesus had offended her so harshly, I was unable to think of any response other than to concentrate on stopping the tears threatening to spill down my cheeks. Although my logical side guessed that she was not a believer and must have had something happen in her past that turned her angry against God or Christians, I couldn’t converse logically because I was so disappointed in my friend for not intervening and keeping the space we were in safe for all viewpoints and, of course, for the hurtful words thrown at me by this stranger. As soon as possible, I left the meeting and cried all the way home as I poured my thoughts out to God, and then on the phone with a close friend. I had never faced someone so violently opposed to hearing biblically-based views. It was only later than I realized I had assumed the woman was not a Christian. In reality, believers can look so much like the world that God is never seen. It used to be that professing Christianity was respected. Tolerated. Trusted. Now the most outspoken seem to be those who despise or reject God, or those who when you mention God carry their own definition of what a Christian is. It’s only when you begin conversations that you’re able to discern that the God you worship is not the god they claim as lord of their life. Since it is common for many who profess to be Christians not to read their Bible, they aren’t familiar with the Word. Many of these believers enjoy or prefer the “gentler” approach to preaching. They don’t want to spend a Sunday morning uncomfortable in the pews. In fact, most churches don’t even have pews anymore. It’s more casual to sit on a chair you’d find at any meeting. And it’s more pleasant to hear that God is our friend, looking out for us from above. He understands when we slip up, but He knows we don’t plan to continue sinning. Surely He knows that we aren’t hurting anyone but ourselves, so it’s not a big deal. We’re told he’s an awesome, patient God, so there’s not really anything to worry about. Unbelievers or casual “Christians” do believe that God knows the Gospel offends people. They think He understands that we don’t know how to share Jesus without discomfort or embarrassment. In fact, many believe it’s easier to hear prosperity preaching or blame our issues on enneagram numbers so we don’t have to face change. Or growth. Or put effort into developing a relationship with Christ that purposely matures daily. That way we won’t stand out as separate from others and we won’t offend anyone. God knows we don’t want to scare people off or act like we’re superior by judging them. God surely understands that believers shouldn’t mention current cultural topics like abortion, pre-marital sex, politics, assigned sex at birth, or pornography. By the time believers with this mindset are finished compromising self on so many issues, they may as well remove the identifying label of “Christian” from their identity. Just as unbelievers who have chosen to deny God, each believer must come to a time of humble brokenness that forces us to acknowledge our trust, faith, and hope are only found through Jesus, and confess that we are a product of grace and mercy extended by Christ alone. 1 Corinthians 3:11-17 says, “For no one can lay a foundation other than that which is laid, which is Jesus Christ. Now if anyone builds on the foundation with gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, straw— each one’s work will become manifest, for the Day will disclose it, because it will be revealed by fire, and the fire will test what sort of work each one has done. If the work that anyone has built on the foundation survives, he will receive a reward. If anyone’s work is burned up, he will suffer loss, though he himself will be saved, but only as through fire. Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him. For God’s temple is holy, and you are that temple.” How often do you think of representing God, of being a living representation of His holy temple? Each of us needs to be cognizant of exactly Who God is and what He requires from us as followers of Jesus. Have you noticed that many churches in our present day don’t mention hell often, but Jesus actually preached more about hell than heaven. Many modern churches focus more on a loving God who blesses with prosperity than a God who lovingly disciplines. Romans 1:18-32 says, “For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth. For what can be known about God is plain to them, because God has shown it to them. For his invisible attributes, namely, his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived, ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made. So they are without excuse. For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Claiming to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man and birds and animals and creeping things. Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen. For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error. And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done. They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, maliciousness. They are gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless. Though they know God’s righteous decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who practice them.” Just like unbelievers, Christians reap what we sow. God will release us to follow the acts of our choosing. When we turn away from the Lord and follow worldly desires instead of heeding the commands of our long-suffering Heavenly Father, God may turn us over to live as pagans to follow the depravity in our heart. This is how generations are lost. Choosing to live the easiest lifestyle is actually more difficult in the end. Thus, we must face the question: how many children and grandchildren are negatively affected or spiritually lost due to compromises in our life that became lifestyle? How many unbelievers will never be reached because they see no difference in the life of those of us professing to be believers? Believers must find that “sweet spot” of reliance on Christ and maturing faith that fuels a desire to be mentored by Christ. One that propels us to sit at His feet in humble adoration. Love is the greatest commandment after worshipping God. It is the only way the holy, agape love from Jesus will lead us to study and understand His Words and desires, even those unspoken pleas and beliefs in the Bible. If we know the Father and we are led by the Son, we should understand and exemplify His guidelines in our life. Our beliefs, words, actions, and reactions should mirror those of Christ, not portray personal feelings or emotions. We should be able to display Jesus, yet point others to Him. When we are questioned or ridiculed about our ideology, we must direct those unbelievers to Him. What we think doesn’t matter. What Jesus says to be truth affects each of us for eternity. The world may not like the fact that believers have a different set of moral codes, but true followers of Christ should be more concerned about reading and studying the Word than listening to the opinions of the world. We must seek to fully understand the Words in red and strive to humble ourselves before Him rather than seek human approval. People may reject the teachings and commands of God, but they may come to follow Him if what we live and speak comes from His Word as we faithfully and prayerfully seek His will and ways, then respond with genuine love and concern when leading others to His Word for direction. What are some of the ways unbelievers view Christ or Christians? 1. Some look at God as a personal “magic genie” who should grant every wish. When He doesn’t, they reject Him. 2. Some think Christians are mean and judgmental. Scripture is foreign to them or they interpret the Word differently because they do not spend time studying and understanding God. 3. Some see God as a crutch and they believe only weak or simple-minded people believe in God. What are some of the reasons people choose to reject Christ? 1. They were raised in a non-Christian home. 2. They may have been raised in a “Christian” home, but never saw biblical principles lived or they were never discipled. 3. They never made the faith of their parents fully their own. 4. They had a weak faith that was rocked or shattered by experiences. 5. They do not understand the Bible because they do not make time to study the Word and grow or mature their walk with Christ, so they begin to question God. 6. They don’t want to humble themselves and submit to God. 7. They don’t want to release sin. I believe God gives each of us the opportunity to experience personal relationship with Him. Because He allows us free will, we shouldn’t expect that everyone will follow Him. It is God’s desire that all know Him, but it is He who does the work in the heart and soul of each person. We should share the Good News of Christ and not be afraid to mature our personal walk with Jesus, but we should not be ashamed or hesitant to speak boldly about our walk with Him. We should be ready to give an account of the work He has done within us. One of the hardest things for me to understand is how those of us who profess to be believers and followers of Christ can differ so greatly on topics such as pre-marital sex, homosexuality, abortion, politics, assigned sex at birth, and other topics like these. Certainly, what we have lived and experienced comes into play, but must be released to focus on what God’s Word teaches and instructs. We are merely fallible humans and only God’s Word can be trusted to lead and instruct what is truth and what are products of a broken, sinful world. Some people claim that abortion isn’t addressed in the Bible, but if you know the character and teachings of our Holy God, we understand that He values life. The Creator of Heaven and Earth intimately planned and prepared each life. Scripture is very clear as to what God believes about abortion. But while our God of love and grace detests abortion, he still loves the person who has had one. Just like any other sin we serve, God is ready to forgive and move us from a place of shame, confusion, deceit, or fear into His mercy and truth. Since we all come from different backgrounds and histories, are at different steps of growth in Christ, live in a fallen, sinful world full of hardships and tragedies, coupled with the fact that not everyone believes in Christ as Savior and attempts to live within His guidelines, it is amazing to me that anyone gets along. But what saddens me is that knowing Christ, and knowing the changes He has and continues to make in me daily as I trust in and follow Him, it makes it difficult for me to understand why some are hesitant and even sometimes passionately hateful about learning more about Jesus and also what He would believe about the state of the world today. Is it because Christians have failed them? Even when we allow for godly grace and love to move us in relationships and communication with others, our sinful nature will sometimes get it wrong – or they will misunderstand. In our pursuit of Jesus, we must always remember the grace and mercy extended to us and live within the guidelines He established for us. Trust Him for the rest and remember that although we should attempt to treat others with love and respect, we cannot please everyone, especially those living with evilness through serving this world. Believers are to live in ways pleasing to God, glorifying Him, not simply live to please everyone in the world. There are times our viewpoints and attitudes will just not be in alignment. This is what causes the divide. This is how the devil flourishes. Also, when others do not believe or follow Christ, they will simply not understand the words we share or the beliefs we carry. 1 Corinthians 2:14 says, “The natural person does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are folly to him, and he is not able to understand them because they are spiritually discerned.” Because of the relationship we carry with Jesus, we must fix our eyes and heart on Him, knowing that when our deepest desire is to please Him, we can trust that He is in charge and will be with us. We can cling to Him and allow Him to carry us through what occurs, whether it be pain and suffering or promise and success. Because believers have the promises of God through His holy Word, we live with hope that is certain, not just a belief. Hope that carries us, comforts us, and connects us to an eternal future with Him. God’s holy Word beautifully and personally instructs each of us about how to live and withstand life in this broken, sinful world. Yet, the power of His living Word also intimately encourages and equips us at the same time. Romans 15:5-6 says, “May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.” As believers, we have this hope, but also many other fruits of the Spirit, yet because we are at different stages of maturation in our personal walk with Christ and interpretation of the Bible, we will not see eye to eye on all subjects. Imagine if we each allowed the grace of Christ to control our hearts, instead of judgement. With mind, heart, and mouth we should seek to allow Jesus to control our thoughts, motives, actions, reactions, and words so that they remain glorifying to Him and edifying for others. Matthew 5:13-16 says, “You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown out and trampled under people’s feet. You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” I believe one of the strongest benefits of believing is the hope found through Christ. How do we learn of this hope? Through reading and studying His precious words. More than ever, I crave reading God’s holy Word. Similar to how we become addicted to sugar when we have it often in our diet, the Word of God draws us in the more we read it. As our relationship grows and matures, our desire for God does as well. Romans 15:4 says, “For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.” My youngest daughter was brought home to be with us when she was nine years old. If you’ve listened to this podcast for long, you may already know some of her story. Now that she has been with us for several years, and has learned to speak English, it is very interesting to hear what she has to say about her time in China. One of the most touching statements she has made is that she never had hope while there. Now that she is living life with a family that loves her very much, and she has found Jesus as her Savior, she faces each day with hope for the present and for the future. Romans 15:13 says, “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.” The biggest source of hope for her is found through family and the living hope she has discovered by living in a loving Christian home. By reading God’s Word daily, participating in family devotional time, family prayer time, scripture writing, and conversations that bring Christ into every aspect of life, she has learned that she can hope for a future that is secure through Jesus. The Bible has been integral in allowing her to seek and find Jesus herself. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.” Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” • What are some of the benefits believers can exhibit to unbelievers as we show them the difference Christ makes in our lives? We can show them the difference He makes in the following areas: Relationship, Obedience, Faith, Love, Pardon from sin, Fruits of the Spirit, Fellowship with God, Eternal Life • What are some of the benefits they can discover as they commit to following Christ? They will see God work in areas that prove His faithfulness: Love, Relationship, Forgiveness, Faith, Wisdom, Trust, Respect, Grace Ephesians 3:14-20 says, “For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named, that according to the riches of His glory He may grant you to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” As we strive to live in ways that honor the Father and show grace to others, I believe Christians have strides to make. Only through the loving direction of our gracious Heavenly Father can we properly begin to exhibit His love. As we do so, it does not mean that we compromise the standards He has set for us, but we do live with freedom to love others, even those who rebel against God. We realize that each of us has sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. We are to be discerning, not compromising or going against what God calls for us, but understanding that not all know Him. When living in ignorance, one will not understand or come to accept what they perceive as judgment from a group of people living in ways they do not comprehend. The hardship of trying to live with grace in a world of unbelievers grows more challenging each day. But don’t let it silence your voice or stop you from reaching out to let someone hear stories of God at work in your life and what He can and wants to do for them. God does not issue warnings or instructions to stifle or control any of us. He desires that we walk in step with His commands because He carries no sin and can tolerate no sin. Following His wisdom allows us to stay in step with the Holy Spirit and His beautiful purposes for our life. Through grace and mercy, we have the privilege of seeing the heart of our Father more clearly, thus leaving us with a huge responsibility and purpose to make Him clearly known. So first, we must intentionally seek Him ourselves and strive to humbly know Him fully. Dear Heavenly Father, how far from You we are. How mighty is Your great love for us. Thank you for never leaving or forsaking us. Thank you for Your Son who allows us to be reconciled to You. Father, help us to desire to know You more each day. May the person we are today never be the person we reveal tomorrow because we are in pursuit of a deepening relationship with You moment by moment. Help us to reveal You to others in the ways You ordain and desire. Help us to clearly show You because we make the time to know You. Help our nation and our world to deeply desire and find You because believers are living in the fullness of Your truths and love for others to be attracted to You. Thank you for Your great book of instruction, the Bible. We could spend a lifetime pursuing You within this book and still not be close to knowing You fully. Fill in the gaps we miss and allow our spirit to shine You. We are lost without You. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast. You can find this and other transcripts online at terrihitt.com. Remember that both of my podcasts are available on the website. 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< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 110 - Ways to Show Your Child Christlike Character Every Day Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 110 – Ways to Show Your Child Christ-Like Character Every Day Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom and BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you will be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episodes, would you please share this episode or others with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, and leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast. When you do, you’re helping affect generations for Jesus. Now on to this episode about showing your child Christlike character every day. The truth is that what we say matters, but our children will emulate what they see . When we brought our youngest home from China at the age of nine, I was already praying about how we would show her the truth of Christ. I quickly realized that simply the way we reacted to her exhibited the clearest view of Him. Simply put, I would be the first mentor of Jesus she experienced. Because she never had a loving family to care for her when she was hungry, tired, or afraid, because she didn’t have a mother or father to lovingly wrap arms around her and clean a scraped knee when she fell, she was not used to affection. She didn’t want anyone to show her extra attention or make a fuss over her. The day after we received her in China our family went downstairs in the hotel to an extravagant breakfast buffet. An entire room was filled with gourmet dishes and food pieces that probably made Brooklyn feel she lived with a royal family (if she would have known what that was). We each took another piece of bread from the buffet and brought it with us to feed to the koi fish in the pond at the back of the hotel. Afterwards, we took a walk in the sunshine around the building grounds. There were small hilly areas and as she ran, Brooklyn tripped and fell down a small hill. Of course, we went after her immediately. I could see that one arm and knee were grass-stained and her knee was a little bloody. “Are you alright?” I asked her. As I reached to hug her, she turned away and walked across the grass. I had seen what she didn’t want known. She was hurt, inside and out. Tears were filling her eyes. Bravely, my wisp of a toddler size 2 daughter tried to maintain the strength of an adult. It was the power my nine year old had depended on to survive alone for years. Brooklyn didn’t want the touch of strangers when hurt. Even though we seemed kind to her, experience proved she couldn’t rely on others. Any sympathy we showed threatened to open a dam of tears, exposing more emotion that she was equipped to handle. Kindness was painful. This was the first of many times she would reject our loving touch or words. Although she couldn’t yet understand English, she knew our tone was consoling. She felt that our touch was loving, but didn’t have experience with that emotion. Everything was much too tender and raw. Love hurt. It was risky and unknown and through previous experience, she knew it wouldn’t last. Now, after nine years and extra months with us, (longer than she was in the neglectful orphanage), we have a beautiful, redeemed relationship. Redeemed, you might ask? Yes. I stand by that word. Redeemed means to be delivered from sin and its consequences. Though she had a challenging and heartbreaking beginning to her life, our daughter’s situation was redeemed through Christ. Because my husband and I love and follow Jesus, we recognized the Holy Spirit when He told us we had two daughters living in China. He led us to them and we were able to begin a life of lasting love and laughter together. Now both of their lives are redeemed through Christ. Jesus is their personal Lord and Savior and they serve Him well. When you love God and honor Him with your heart, mind, soul, and strength, you will beautifully mentor His characteristics to your children moment by moment, day by day. No matter how long it takes. Because you are committed to Him. To them. That is one example of showing your children Christlike character every day. We cultivate the soil, sow the seeds, and pray as God does the transforming work. I believe that is what Mary did so effortlessly in the first chapter of Luke. Luke 1:26-38 says,“ In the sixth month of Elizabeth’s pregnancy, God sent the angel Gabriel to Nazareth, a town in Galilee, to a virgin pledged to be married to a man named Joseph, a descendant of David. The virgin’s name was Mary. The angel went to her and said, “Greetings, you who are highly favored! The Lord is with you.” Mary was greatly troubled at his words and wondered what kind of greeting this might be. But the angel said to her, “Do not be afraid, Mary; you have found favor with God. You will conceive and give birth to a son, and you are to call him Jesus. He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High. The Lord God will give him the throne of his father David, and he will reign over Jacob’s descendants forever; his kingdom will never end.” “How will this be,” Mary asked the angel, “since I am a virgin?” The angel answered, “The Holy Spirit will come on you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you. So the holy one to be born will be called the Son of God. Even Elizabeth your relative is going to have a child in her old age, and she who was said to be unable to conceive is in her sixth month. For no word from God will ever fail.” “I am the Lord’s servant,” Mary answered. “May your word to me be fulfilled.” Then the angel left her.” This story always leaves me in awe . Not that I idolize Mary, but I respect the position she was in. The attitude of her heart and mind were in alignment with God’s destiny for her. I adore the intimate way God knew to approach Mary and the way she responded. I aspire to always be aware and obedient to where God calls me. Mary exhibited beautiful, Christlike behavior. I want my children and husband to say they see me exhibit Christlike character. That means I must be dedicated to God and purposed in my relationship with Him. I must stop grieving the Father by submitting to the Son. That is the foundation of Christlike behavior. Do you also desire to be purposeful in honoring and obeying God so that you show your children Christlike character each day? Moment by moment? You can’t do so unless you are submitted to Christ. It is His power working within that allows you to become more Christlike. It is His power working within that allows you to shine Him to your children and draw them to Him. Each day we grieve the Father in small or large ways. So let’s focus on what characteristics we consider to be Christlike. The first words most of us think of are: Patient, Humble, Honest, Courageous, Loving, Forgiving, Obedient. This is a great list to begin with. Now consider…do your children witness you exhibiting these qualities? In what ways do you exhibit these fruits of the Spirit? Now let’s consider the opposite. What characteristics can you think of that are not Christlike? Angry, Disobedient, Dishonest, Unforgiving, Impatient, Prideful, Arrogant, Hateful, Fearful. Do your children see these qualities in your daily life or interactions? Do your children exhibit these qualities in their life? Take an honest look at the way you act, react, and live your life. Are there times you gossip, show unrighteous anger, refuse to forgive, anger quickly, show pride instead of humility? Each of us do in different ways. Some of us are more susceptible than others, but we are works in progress. So are children. So is your spouse. Humbly ask God to reveal areas you need to submit to Him. Ask Him to show you where you are misleading your children, whether in ignorance or defiance. This is something I do in my own life. I know that when I ask God is going to expose something specific. Remember, you are the living example of Jesus your children see. Your Christian walk will attract or repel them. Little eyes and ears see and hear your mistakes daily. As you follow God and react with the strength of the Holy Spirit inside, you are equipped to exhibit Christ instead of flesh . This is central to teaching your children Christlike character. Being aware of how God requires you to walk is an important step. Micah 6:8 says, “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God .” Using daily moments to grow, learn, and teach by example and His Word are critical in showing Christlike behavior to your children, Not only do you use these ways to grow your children in Jesus, but you also use these methods to grow self. Think of how often you are presented with opportunities for growth daily. A crazy driver, too much change at the store, a co-worker who gets on your nerves, a misunderstanding with a family member or friend. Your relationship with your spouse. The loss of a job, illness, or the death of a loved one. Each of these are opportunities to allow the Holy Spirit within to do a good work through the ways He comforts and carries, stretches and grows you. Your children also present a variety of ways to teach them godly characteristics. Telling the truth rather than a lie, getting along with friends at school, taking up for someone who is being bullied, listening to a teacher, keeping a bedroom clean, respecting parents,..again their list is endless. Consider these moments opportunities , not hindrances. You are an imperfect human raising imperfect humans. Your children are being shaped into the image of Christ. That is hard work! You cannot complete that work alone, just as you cannot complete the work in yourself alone. How blessed you are when faced with opportunities to direct your children to Jesus . Your attitude and actions, your reactions and joy in the Lord will lead them to His feet if you use irritations and mistakes for Him. This leads me to an important point. Don’t neglect addressing ungodly behaviors . King David is a great example of this. His negligence to use godly instruction with his children created terrible and deadly problems down the road. Do not let sin take root. When your child exhibits characteristics or behaviors that need guidance, take responsibility to mentor godly behavior. Any behavior that is not Christlike is a sin . Don’t condone or dismiss ungodly words or ways. Sometimes parents think a sin is small or they don’t have time to take care of a problem when it presents itself. Use the moments when they come. Plant the godly seeds that will bring a Christlike harvest if you continue to tend the soil and weed the garden. Likewise, when you see Christlike character exhibited in your children, compliment their behavior. Children learn by example and appreciate praise, as well. A genuine compliment goes far when shaping godly behavior. Pray for and with your kids. Let them hear you pray with specifics for them. Tell them you pray for them when they’re not around, as well. When they hear you praying Scripture over them or hear your complimentary words to the Father, or when they hear you requesting Christlike behavior for them, they know you care. They know you pay attention. Follow up with praying for specific Christlike behavior for yourself with them, too. When they ask you for prayer, do it right then with them. When your children know Christlike behavior is important to you because it is important to God, and they see you walking in the ways you preach, they will pay attention. Christlike behavior becomes an objective and priority for them when it is an obvious goal for you. Romans 13:14 says, “Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the flesh .” This verse clearly instructs us to put on the Lord Jesus. Wear Him. Wrap Him around you like a shield. This command in Romans 13:14 instructs our children, but also us as mothers. As women. We must show our children the way to wear Christ. When He resides inside of us, we are renewed through the Holy Spirit. Our clothes, our character are washed new over and over again as we are transformed through wearing Christ. The world says to raise self-reliant, kind, ambitious kids. God demands that we raise godly kids with Christlike character. Children who submit to Jesus and obey His Word and ways, who love Him, who desire to please Him, serve Him and others, forgive others, and live with discernment, not judgement will exhibit Christlike behavior that continues to be renewed and refined. In order to mentor Jesus and Christlike behavior to your children, remember that you receive opportunities every single day. Don’t overlook them. Don’t waste them. Be an example of Christ and use other examples that present themselves daily. The Christlike character of others and Bible stories are wonderful examples. Life moments always carry messages and meaning. Find ways to weave teaching moments through them without being preachy. Culture continues to change. Society has moved away from following God, but He has not disappeared. Bravely stand for what God calls. As you deepen your relationship with Him through Jesus, you will be more and more equipped to hear and obey His voice. Question what is presented in books, magazines, music, schools, movies, television shows, etc. Be discerning and teach your children how to be discerning and disciplined in purposely listening for God’s voice. Unless you teach them Christlike character in these areas, they will follow the world, not the Word. Instead of looking for ways to punish mistakes your children make, parent the heart, not simply stop behavior. When you discipline, you are providing discipleship. Be intentional. Parent with purpose. God has entrusted His precious children to you. Become the Christlike parent He calls you to be to raise children for Him. As you place God first in your heart and mind, as you allow the Holy Spirit to lead and direct and move with joy and obedience, your children will experience what Christlike behavior looks like and how it responds and reacts day to day. Dear Heavenly Father, how great You are. What a blessing you have bestowed on us to parent Your children. Reach our hearts, dear Father. Help us to desire You and become more Christlike day by day. May we seek the moments in life that allow us to train our children in godly behavior. May we take the opportunities as they come and use them with joy and gladness directed by You. May we place mentoring You first amidst the activities that distract our days. Help us remember that this life is not a dress rehearsal. We are on stage for our children to watch. All we do is seen and evaluated by them. Equip us to be Christlike mentors who are a sweet fragrance that brings them to You and shows them how to build their own house of faith that will last into eternity. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Raising children is challenging. No one has all the answers because each child is unique as are parenting styles and family dynamics. By connecting with and knowing your children as you maintain purposed growth in Christ, you will be better prepared for any situation you face. That’s why you hear me share about the Set-Apart Collective in this podcast. I work with professionals who care about making Jesus known to their children. Are you a high-achieving woman who loves Jesus, but is so busy with the rush of work and daily life that you feel like you’re being drained like the water in your bathtub? Do you yearn to get closer to Jesus and show Him to your kids so you will create a love that will last into eternity? The desire is there, but your days spiral out of control before you even think about opening your Bible. Do you ever stop to think that you are the first Jesus your child will see? Let me remind you there is hope. There is a way you can be equipped to raise kids who chase Christ over culture. If you want a connected relationship with Christ and your children that leads them to your side and His feet, instead of them seeking validation from peers, I have an 8-step program to move you from frustrated to fulfilled. I will show you how to reflect Jesus in a way that attracts your family to a connected relationship that lasts into eternity. Remember, godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset you carry. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will arm you with a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You’ll also deepen your identity in Christ so you can mentor the way for your children to do the same. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family and you will have the tools to raise set apart kids as you parent the heart, not simply the behavior. Does this sound like a lifeline to help you be that set-apart mom God has entrusted you to be? Visit terrihitt.com/coaching and click the link for a free, no obligation conversation call with me. This is a strategic call where I will hear your biggest struggle and show you how to turn it into a blessing that will bring you closer to Christ and your children. 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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #062 – Helping Children Handle Emotions Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Before we start the podcast today, I’d like to mention the upcoming Who Is Carter Foundation third annual Gala fundraiser on April 9th at 6:00 PM. The Brain Possible Podcast is fully funded and operated by this wonderful, nonprofit organization. Who Is Carter would love for you to be there in person or online! Your support at the gala ensures the ability to continue to bring you their podcasts, resources, and more into the coming year. There are two ways to attend: If you live in the Kansas City area, attend in person at The Bardot Luxury Event Space at 1616 Grand Avenue in Kansas City, MO. There will be great food, an inspiring program, live music, and unique auction items such as a stay at the Ritz Carlton, Cancun or a Guatemala fishing resort trip, and even a VIP meet-and-greet with Chiefs’ wide receiver Tyreek Hill! Of course, every available COVID-19 precaution will be in place to ensure the safety of everyone in attendance. If you don’t live in the Kansas City area, or are more comfortable staying in, you can join the activities virtually! Tune in online on the evening of the 9th; you’ll even have full access to bid on silent auction items online! Visit whoiscarter.org/gala for more information and to purchase tickets. This wonderful organization I have mentioned on the podcast before looks forward to being with you on April 9! Thank you for considering attending the Who Is Carter Foundation Gala. Now, on to this episode about helping our children manage emotions. By the way, this topic was suggested to me by my youngest child, who has experienced that having the assistance of loving parents to help her learn proper behavior and emotional control is one of her biggest blessings. Each of us, who are living, continue to grow in the Lord’s wisdom and grace daily as works in progress. Who hasn’t witnessed a mother dealing with a stressed, emotional child in public? Everyone has probably empathized with either the child or mother at one time or another. Here’s an important question. Have you been that mother? I have. It was one of the most embarrassing situations I have encountered. However, after the wave of humiliation passed, I felt desperate and helpless to control the situation. Next, I was empowered by realizing the truth that what my child deals with is not the business of anyone else. Strangers don’t know or understand the complexity of what my child has lived and I do not have to explain anything. Helping my child should be the very first thought that guides me. When most parents see that their child is uncomfortable or hurting, we immediately want to make things better. Emotions are complicated and tricky; they don’t usually get resolved quickly or easily. Humans are unique and complex. Emotional outbursts can occur for a variety of reasons. Many adults have not learned to manage feelings. Children, especially those who have come from hard situations or who have special needs, must be coached on appropriate behavior and have suitable emotional release modeled for them. On the second day we had our youngest daughter, we went to the hotel restaurant to partake in the enormous breakfast buffet served daily. On that day, I was carrying our tiny girl, who looked the absolute picture of innocence in the silky pastel pink dress and tiny jeweled sandals that the orphanage had given her to come to us in. Later, after she learned English and was able to converse with us, she told me she loved that dress and shoes so much because it was the only fancy dress someone had ever given her and the only pair of shoes that were truly hers alone. As we walked into buffet hall full of people filling their plates with almost anything you can imagine, our child, who signified the illusion of angelic charm and temperament decided she couldn’t cope anymore. Hunger was surpassed by raw fear. Screams so primal and megaphone loud emerged and turned every face our way. Our daughter struggled to break free of my grasp, her satiny dress hurrying her escape as I could not keep hold of her squirming body as it was fueled and strengthened by terror. Since I was in a foreign city, didn’t speak the language, and what seemed like every disapproving face in the room was on us, getting back to the safety of our hotel room was the only option that seemed attainable. When a child acts out there is an underlying reason. As parents, we are privileged to be the detective that puts pieces of their unique puzzle together. Helping our child find the best way to mature with godly attitude and actions is one of the important responsibilities God has allowed us. Emotions, whether from an adult or a child, are a reaction to something we feel, think, or experience. We all need to release emotions, but when they are wildly discharged, with all control lost, it is what I call a “melt down.” The only permanent and healthy way to reduce or eradicate these is by identifying the trigger. Parents, as well as children, have to understand that emotions and triggers must eventually be realized and released. Some people naturally discern this and it actually helps us process. I sometimes don’t care whether I have a conversation with myself or another person; I just need to understand and let go of what I am feeling so that I can take the next step. Most of the time, I don’t need input; I just need to have that time to speak thoughts and put my plan into place, so to speak. Other people find it difficult to express what they are going through. Sometimes they don’t yet understand, or maybe they are very private and are not ready to expose that area yet. Often, our children need to be trained to be able to talk. When this is the case, the first way we prep them to acquire the ability to release their feelings is by listening. I have learned over the years that my first response when someone expresses problems or difficulties is to try to make them feel better. If you are like this, many times, this type of response has the opposite effect of what you are trying to achieve because we are not validating what they are feeling. Instead of helping our child, we may be perceived as covering up what they are trying to express, of ignoring their feelings, or of not hearing what they are saying. Listening without speaking, then validating or repeating back how they feel goes a long way toward helping our child feel comfortable in expressing more of what they think and how they feel. We are enabling them to process at the same time as we are also building a stronger connection with them. As we listen, we show empathy by maintaining eye contact. Show your child you care by stopping other activities and allowing undivided attention to be your gift to them. Acknowledge their pain, loss, or whatever feeling they are sharing. Help if you are able, in the ways they need. Remember that even if what they share is hurtful to you, their emotions are not about you. Your child is entitled to their feelings. After they have shared, ask to pray together and allow God to work through both of you. Your child was gifted to you by God, who never makes mistakes. He allowed them to be yours for the time you are both on earth. You are not good or capable enough to raise this tiny human on your own. Ask God to show you and gift you with the ability to allow Him to work through you to reach the needs your child has and to enable them to flourish in their relationship with God and you. As God works in your child, He will create a good work in you, as well. It is so easy for the reactions of children to create triggers in parents. When we brought our youngest home, it would have been easy for our relationship to turn sour. I am incredibly thankful I did not attempt to parent her when I was much younger. God, in His perfect timing allowed me to be with her when I was much older and hopefully a little more filled with God’s wisdom. The meltdowns that lasted for hours are not something easily handled in my own strength. I truly had to allow God to work His grace, love, and understanding through me in ways that I can only explain as supernatural. Her pain was not a reflection of me or my husband, but had to do with all that she had and was experiencing. Without knowing our language, communication was challenging, yet God reminded each of us that a smile, laughter, and music is universal. Through Him, we found ways to make feelings known and develop connection. Nowadays, it is popular for mothers to express the need for self-love and care. Through my experience, I have come to believe that instead of focusing on the “self” part, we should direct our desires and needs to the Lord. He alone can fill the intimate needs we carry and enable us to love in the ways our child desires. Most people need some alone time. Many people crave people, and need lots of them around, but others, like me, need down time. Through making time to reflect on God’s words and truths and to allow those to process our emotions, feelings, and needs, then pray for God’s guidance, our outlook can reflect what God would want our heart and mind to inhabit, then enable Him to shine from us. However, I don’t care for the “me” culture that has permeated our society. Time alone with wine, craving others instead of family, and needing more and more solitude leads to hurt and bitterness. There must be a balance. As we focus on our personal needs in godly ways, we allow ourselves to find the best methods to personally cope and function when life inevitably throws curves and bumps. Remember that when dealing with an out of control child (or adult), we sometimes need to walk away for a cooling off time. Or we need to allow our child to have one. I don’t send my child away for a time out; I keep her near. When she came home, the only thing she needed when she was unable to express emotions was to have me silently sit with her. While all I wanted to do was talk and help her get through the pain, she needed quiet time to express what she was feeling through tears, yet desperately wanted me with her, no matter how long her crying spells took. Psalm 147:3 says, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” As I shared, sometimes our children need ample time to process emotions as we sit in the pain with them. Silently. I have learned through the years that each child is different from each other – and from me. Thank God for making each of us so uniquely, however, we must respect that individuality. One of my four children takes time with any question. This child needs time to express what they think without a word from me. I have learned that usually about the time I think they are not going to respond because it seems so long to me, they are just beginning to speak. Over the years, I have been so grateful that God has taught me to hold my tongue. Responses and thoughts this child has expressed have been beyond what I thought they would say and filled with wisdom and love. Had I interfered and not given the time they needed to process, deep connection and bonds would have been destroyed. James 1:19-20 says, “My beloved brothers, understand this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteousness that God desires.” When our youngest came home, she had never experienced true family life or connection. Besides not knowing our language, she was uneducated and did not have the slightest idea of how to express what she was thinking or feeling inside. Relaying stories of other children (such as myself or my husband, even made-up stories) and how they cope or resolve situations, reading books, and drawing pictures on paper or a whiteboard helped her to understand that feelings such as anger, sadness, happiness, joy, confusion, and more are real and necessary for everyone. Our precious girl also began to understand that each of these emotions are gifts in that we are able to feel and experience life so uniquely. The key is in learning to name, handle, and express them appropriately. We also acted out emotions and situations, made “choose the best answer worksheets” about how to express emotions and make wise choices, made expressive faces in the mirror and identified them with each other, and practiced observing and identifying emotions in the faces and actions of other people. One of the best investments I have is making the commitment to play with my girl daily. Our goal is to begin each day playing together, unless we have to go somewhere special such as church or a doctor appointment, etc,. I make sure to ignore my phone during that period of time and devote my attention to whatever she wants to play. This proves that my daughter is worthy of my time and attention. It also allows me an excellent opportunity to observe and experience her attitude, words, reactions, and interests every day. I am able to see if something seems to be bothering her as she unintentionally makes the toys we play act things out. Honestly, this time usually enables her to work through whatever is occurring in her heart and mind. I have found this to be the absolute best gauge of her feelings and something that has enabled us to connect in a deeper way as we grew our relationship together. If you notice that your child has outbursts during play time with you or others, calmly speak to them and model the type of behavior they need to acquire. If your child seems to be detached or unable to respond, use patience and empathy to help them see your acceptance of and love for them despite their behavior. If you feel you need outside professional help, seek a Christian counselor who specializes in working with children. An important note to remember is that children, as well as many adults, are most likely not able to process or control our emotions when we are upset. However, we must teach our child that we can choose and model how we respond to others when they are upset. 2 Timothy 1:7 says, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” Through the power of the Holy Spirit within us, we can continue to work through and toward what is right for our child and ourselves, in God’s eyes. Remember Romans 8:28, which says, “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” Another important fact to remember and teach our child to trust is that our thoughts and feelings do not always carry truth. Feelings, thoughts, or emotions we express come from what we store in our heart. So do our responses to those attitudes. Proverbs 4:23 says, “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” When we are a believer and follower of Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit inside us desires to do good work. As we draw nearer to God and seek His wisdom and strength, He will enable us to discover what is controlling our emotions, attitudes, and actions as He helps us react as He calls. How do we learn to handle emotions in a biblical way? God’s Holy word, the Bible helps us deal with and overcome ungodly or difficult emotions. Earlier I spoke of one of the best investments I’ve made with my youngest. When speaking of investments, the one that tops the value list is definitely sharing Jesus and spending time in His word together, as well as praying together daily. Romans 12:2 says, “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” We must learn to do the following: 1. Take issues to God. Don’t leave Him out of our life. As your children see you depend on God and handle your emotions and reactions in godly ways, they will also learn to do the same. 2. Pray. Spend time alone with God and also pray with your child. 3. Quote scripture. When you are having a difficult time, it always helps to remember and rely on scripture. What did Jesus do when he was tempted? He quoted scripture. Simply spouting scripture is not the key. Living a life that seeks to know Jesus intimately and letting Him flow from within us is what captures the heart of our children for Him. 4. Becoming or remaining active is always very helpful. God designed our bodies for physical activity to help manage emotions, make us strong, and keep us healthy. We also experience enjoyment when we find a physical activity we like. Perhaps you and your child can experience an activity together, or you may use one to enable you to use that time alone to fuel up to prepare for the demands your personal life entails. 5. Friends are also another way to help us relax and energize. God created us for fellowship. 6. Knowing which triggers to avoid is always wise. Often, time alone with personal reflection and prayer can help us identify the areas in which we need to focus and grow. Proverbs 15:1 says, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Methods to use with our child benefit them, while also growing and stretching us in new ways as we also become more pleasing to God and more appreciative of what we have been entrusted by Him. 1. Role play, as well as some of the tips I mentioned earlier in the podcast episode can be an important and fun way for your child to learn and grow. 2. Study Bible scripture and practice memorizing and or writing scripture together. Make it fun and personal to the interests of you and your child. Write in sand, on white boards, in special journals, on Playdoh; whatever the two of you will remember and enjoy is perfect. 3. Teach God’s word and His views on the condition of our heart. 4. Practice controlling your emotions and reactions. Observe your self through the heart and eyes of God’s eternal perspective. Remember that everything you model may be accepted and repeated by your child. 5. Practice attachment with your child. Make time to know them and show them how important they are to you. Find their personal love language and make time to spend together doing the activities they enjoy most. 6. Always find natural ways to bring God into your times together. God is not a separate compartment of our life. He is the air we need to survive. Your child also needs to learn to turn to Him first and allow God to regulate emotions. Joshua 1:9 says, “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go." Remember that God desires our success with His children. Nothing is more pleasing or honoring to God than laying our trials and burdens at His feet and mentoring our children to do the same. As we allow Him to create a good work through us, we will be more equipped to create a lifetime of precious memories with children who seek Him, allow Him to work through them, and help them craft godly coping skills and reactions. Father God, how we need You. Nothing we attempt on our own is remotely good or acceptable. Only through You are we able to grow a life that models Your light. Help us to manage our emotions, thoughts, feelings, and reactions in godly ways that honor and please You, then model and mentor our children in ways that are even higher and closer to what You desire. Help us to seek You every moment so that clinging to You is a natural response for our children. In Your precious name we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this episode. I pray you find the peace and hope only Jesus can deliver through the words in each episode. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I’m thrilled to share that my latest free resource, “Scattering Seeds: Planting Character and Faith in Your Child” has released! This eBook is an excellent encouragement and support for mothers or grandmothers of young children. I encourage you to visit my website to access and download it soon. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 062 Helping Children Handle Emotions Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #062 – Helping Children Handle Emotions Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Before we start the podcast today, I’d like to mention the upcoming Who Is Carter Foundation third annual Gala fundraiser on April 9th at 6:00 PM. The Brain Possible Podcast is fully funded and operated by this wonderful, nonprofit organization. Who Is Carter would love for you to be there in person or online! Your support at the gala ensures the ability to continue to bring you their podcasts, resources, and more into the coming year. There are two ways to attend: If you live in the Kansas City area, attend in person at The Bardot Luxury Event Space at 1616 Grand Avenue in Kansas City, MO. There will be great food, an inspiring program, live music, and unique auction items such as a stay at the Ritz Carlton, Cancun or a Guatemala fishing resort trip, and even a VIP meet-and-greet with Chiefs’ wide receiver Tyreek Hill! Of course, every available COVID-19 precaution will be in place to ensure the safety of everyone in attendance. If you don’t live in the Kansas City area, or are more comfortable staying in, you can join the activities virtually! Tune in online on the evening of the 9th; you’ll even have full access to bid on silent auction items online! Visit whoiscarter.org/gala for more information and to purchase tickets. This wonderful organization I have mentioned on the podcast before looks forward to being with you on April 9! Thank you for considering attending the Who Is Carter Foundation Gala. Now, on to this episode about helping our children manage emotions. By the way, this topic was suggested to me by my youngest child, who has experienced that having the assistance of loving parents to help her learn proper behavior and emotional control is one of her biggest blessings. Each of us, who are living, continue to grow in the Lord’s wisdom and grace daily as works in progress. Who hasn’t witnessed a mother dealing with a stressed, emotional child in public? Everyone has probably empathized with either the child or mother at one time or another. Here’s an important question. Have you been that mother? I have. It was one of the most embarrassing situations I have encountered. However, after the wave of humiliation passed, I felt desperate and helpless to control the situation. Next, I was empowered by realizing the truth that what my child deals with is not the business of anyone else. Strangers don’t know or understand the complexity of what my child has lived and I do not have to explain anything. Helping my child should be the very first thought that guides me. When most parents see that their child is uncomfortable or hurting, we immediately want to make things better. Emotions are complicated and tricky; they don’t usually get resolved quickly or easily. Humans are unique and complex. Emotional outbursts can occur for a variety of reasons. Many adults have not learned to manage feelings. Children, especially those who have come from hard situations or who have special needs, must be coached on appropriate behavior and have suitable emotional release modeled for them. On the second day we had our youngest daughter, we went to the hotel restaurant to partake in the enormous breakfast buffet served daily. On that day, I was carrying our tiny girl, who looked the absolute picture of innocence in the silky pastel pink dress and tiny jeweled sandals that the orphanage had given her to come to us in. Later, after she learned English and was able to converse with us, she told me she loved that dress and shoes so much because it was the only fancy dress someone had ever given her and the only pair of shoes that were truly hers alone. As we walked into buffet hall full of people filling their plates with almost anything you can imagine, our child, who signified the illusion of angelic charm and temperament decided she couldn’t cope anymore. Hunger was surpassed by raw fear. Screams so primal and megaphone loud emerged and turned every face our way. Our daughter struggled to break free of my grasp, her satiny dress hurrying her escape as I could not keep hold of her squirming body as it was fueled and strengthened by terror. Since I was in a foreign city, didn’t speak the language, and what seemed like every disapproving face in the room was on us, getting back to the safety of our hotel room was the only option that seemed attainable. When a child acts out there is an underlying reason. As parents, we are privileged to be the detective that puts pieces of their unique puzzle together. Helping our child find the best way to mature with godly attitude and actions is one of the important responsibilities God has allowed us. Emotions, whether from an adult or a child, are a reaction to something we feel, think, or experience. We all need to release emotions, but when they are wildly discharged, with all control lost, it is what I call a “melt down.” The only permanent and healthy way to reduce or eradicate these is by identifying the trigger. Parents, as well as children, have to understand that emotions and triggers must eventually be realized and released. Some people naturally discern this and it actually helps us process. I sometimes don’t care whether I have a conversation with myself or another person; I just need to understand and let go of what I am feeling so that I can take the next step. Most of the time, I don’t need input; I just need to have that time to speak thoughts and put my plan into place, so to speak. Other people find it difficult to express what they are going through. Sometimes they don’t yet understand, or maybe they are very private and are not ready to expose that area yet. Often, our children need to be trained to be able to talk. When this is the case, the first way we prep them to acquire the ability to release their feelings is by listening. I have learned over the years that my first response when someone expresses problems or difficulties is to try to make them feel better. If you are like this, many times, this type of response has the opposite effect of what you are trying to achieve because we are not validating what they are feeling. Instead of helping our child, we may be perceived as covering up what they are trying to express, of ignoring their feelings, or of not hearing what they are saying. Listening without speaking, then validating or repeating back how they feel goes a long way toward helping our child feel comfortable in expressing more of what they think and how they feel. We are enabling them to process at the same time as we are also building a stronger connection with them. As we listen, we show empathy by maintaining eye contact. Show your child you care by stopping other activities and allowing undivided attention to be your gift to them. Acknowledge their pain, loss, or whatever feeling they are sharing. Help if you are able, in the ways they need. Remember that even if what they share is hurtful to you, their emotions are not about you. Your child is entitled to their feelings. After they have shared, ask to pray together and allow God to work through both of you. Your child was gifted to you by God, who never makes mistakes. He allowed them to be yours for the time you are both on earth. You are not good or capable enough to raise this tiny human on your own. Ask God to show you and gift you with the ability to allow Him to work through you to reach the needs your child has and to enable them to flourish in their relationship with God and you. As God works in your child, He will create a good work in you, as well. It is so easy for the reactions of children to create triggers in parents. When we brought our youngest home, it would have been easy for our relationship to turn sour. I am incredibly thankful I did not attempt to parent her when I was much younger. God, in His perfect timing allowed me to be with her when I was much older and hopefully a little more filled with God’s wisdom. The meltdowns that lasted for hours are not something easily handled in my own strength. I truly had to allow God to work His grace, love, and understanding through me in ways that I can only explain as supernatural. Her pain was not a reflection of me or my husband, but had to do with all that she had and was experiencing. Without knowing our language, communication was challenging, yet God reminded each of us that a smile, laughter, and music is universal. Through Him, we found ways to make feelings known and develop connection. Nowadays, it is popular for mothers to express the need for self-love and care. Through my experience, I have come to believe that instead of focusing on the “self” part, we should direct our desires and needs to the Lord. He alone can fill the intimate needs we carry and enable us to love in the ways our child desires. Most people need some alone time. Many people crave people, and need lots of them around, but others, like me, need down time. Through making time to reflect on God’s words and truths and to allow those to process our emotions, feelings, and needs, then pray for God’s guidance, our outlook can reflect what God would want our heart and mind to inhabit, then enable Him to shine from us. However, I don’t care for the “me” culture that has permeated our society. Time alone with wine, craving others instead of family, and needing more and more solitude leads to hurt and bitterness. There must be a balance. As we focus on our personal needs in godly ways, we allow ourselves to find the best methods to personally cope and function when life inevitably throws curves and bumps. Remember that when dealing with an out of control child (or adult), we sometimes need to walk away for a cooling off time. Or we need to allow our child to have one. I don’t send my child away for a time out; I keep her near. When she came home, the only thing she needed when she was unable to express emotions was to have me silently sit with her. While all I wanted to do was talk and help her get through the pain, she needed quiet time to express what she was feeling through tears, yet desperately wanted me with her, no matter how long her crying spells took. Psalm 147:3 says, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” As I shared, sometimes our children need ample time to process emotions as we sit in the pain with them. Silently. I have learned through the years that each child is different from each other – and from me. Thank God for making each of us so uniquely, however, we must respect that individuality. One of my four children takes time with any question. This child needs time to express what they think without a word from me. I have learned that usually about the time I think they are not going to respond because it seems so long to me, they are just beginning to speak. Over the years, I have been so grateful that God has taught me to hold my tongue. Responses and thoughts this child has expressed have been beyond what I thought they would say and filled with wisdom and love. Had I interfered and not given the time they needed to process, deep connection and bonds would have been destroyed. James 1:19-20 says, “My beloved brothers, understand this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteousness that God desires.” When our youngest came home, she had never experienced true family life or connection. Besides not knowing our language, she was uneducated and did not have the slightest idea of how to express what she was thinking or feeling inside. Relaying stories of other children (such as myself or my husband, even made-up stories) and how they cope or resolve situations, reading books, and drawing pictures on paper or a whiteboard helped her to understand that feelings such as anger, sadness, happiness, joy, confusion, and more are real and necessary for everyone. Our precious girl also began to understand that each of these emotions are gifts in that we are able to feel and experience life so uniquely. The key is in learning to name, handle, and express them appropriately. We also acted out emotions and situations, made “choose the best answer worksheets” about how to express emotions and make wise choices, made expressive faces in the mirror and identified them with each other, and practiced observing and identifying emotions in the faces and actions of other people. One of the best investments I have is making the commitment to play with my girl daily. Our goal is to begin each day playing together, unless we have to go somewhere special such as church or a doctor appointment, etc,. I make sure to ignore my phone during that period of time and devote my attention to whatever she wants to play. This proves that my daughter is worthy of my time and attention. It also allows me an excellent opportunity to observe and experience her attitude, words, reactions, and interests every day. I am able to see if something seems to be bothering her as she unintentionally makes the toys we play act things out. Honestly, this time usually enables her to work through whatever is occurring in her heart and mind. I have found this to be the absolute best gauge of her feelings and something that has enabled us to connect in a deeper way as we grew our relationship together. If you notice that your child has outbursts during play time with you or others, calmly speak to them and model the type of behavior they need to acquire. If your child seems to be detached or unable to respond, use patience and empathy to help them see your acceptance of and love for them despite their behavior. If you feel you need outside professional help, seek a Christian counselor who specializes in working with children. An important note to remember is that children, as well as many adults, are most likely not able to process or control our emotions when we are upset. However, we must teach our child that we can choose and model how we respond to others when they are upset. 2 Timothy 1:7 says, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” Through the power of the Holy Spirit within us, we can continue to work through and toward what is right for our child and ourselves, in God’s eyes. Remember Romans 8:28, which says, “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” Another important fact to remember and teach our child to trust is that our thoughts and feelings do not always carry truth. Feelings, thoughts, or emotions we express come from what we store in our heart. So do our responses to those attitudes. Proverbs 4:23 says, “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” When we are a believer and follower of Jesus Christ, the Holy Spirit inside us desires to do good work. As we draw nearer to God and seek His wisdom and strength, He will enable us to discover what is controlling our emotions, attitudes, and actions as He helps us react as He calls. How do we learn to handle emotions in a biblical way? God’s Holy word, the Bible helps us deal with and overcome ungodly or difficult emotions. Earlier I spoke of one of the best investments I’ve made with my youngest. When speaking of investments, the one that tops the value list is definitely sharing Jesus and spending time in His word together, as well as praying together daily. Romans 12:2 says, “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” We must learn to do the following: 1. Take issues to God. Don’t leave Him out of our life. As your children see you depend on God and handle your emotions and reactions in godly ways, they will also learn to do the same. 2. Pray. Spend time alone with God and also pray with your child. 3. Quote scripture. When you are having a difficult time, it always helps to remember and rely on scripture. What did Jesus do when he was tempted? He quoted scripture. Simply spouting scripture is not the key. Living a life that seeks to know Jesus intimately and letting Him flow from within us is what captures the heart of our children for Him. 4. Becoming or remaining active is always very helpful. God designed our bodies for physical activity to help manage emotions, make us strong, and keep us healthy. We also experience enjoyment when we find a physical activity we like. Perhaps you and your child can experience an activity together, or you may use one to enable you to use that time alone to fuel up to prepare for the demands your personal life entails. 5. Friends are also another way to help us relax and energize. God created us for fellowship. 6. Knowing which triggers to avoid is always wise. Often, time alone with personal reflection and prayer can help us identify the areas in which we need to focus and grow. Proverbs 15:1 says, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Methods to use with our child benefit them, while also growing and stretching us in new ways as we also become more pleasing to God and more appreciative of what we have been entrusted by Him. 1. Role play, as well as some of the tips I mentioned earlier in the podcast episode can be an important and fun way for your child to learn and grow. 2. Study Bible scripture and practice memorizing and or writing scripture together. Make it fun and personal to the interests of you and your child. Write in sand, on white boards, in special journals, on Playdoh; whatever the two of you will remember and enjoy is perfect. 3. Teach God’s word and His views on the condition of our heart. 4. Practice controlling your emotions and reactions. Observe your self through the heart and eyes of God’s eternal perspective. Remember that everything you model may be accepted and repeated by your child. 5. Practice attachment with your child. Make time to know them and show them how important they are to you. Find their personal love language and make time to spend together doing the activities they enjoy most. 6. Always find natural ways to bring God into your times together. God is not a separate compartment of our life. He is the air we need to survive. Your child also needs to learn to turn to Him first and allow God to regulate emotions. Joshua 1:9 says, “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go." Remember that God desires our success with His children. Nothing is more pleasing or honoring to God than laying our trials and burdens at His feet and mentoring our children to do the same. As we allow Him to create a good work through us, we will be more equipped to create a lifetime of precious memories with children who seek Him, allow Him to work through them, and help them craft godly coping skills and reactions. Father God, how we need You. Nothing we attempt on our own is remotely good or acceptable. Only through You are we able to grow a life that models Your light. Help us to manage our emotions, thoughts, feelings, and reactions in godly ways that honor and please You, then model and mentor our children in ways that are even higher and closer to what You desire. Help us to seek You every moment so that clinging to You is a natural response for our children. In Your precious name we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this episode. I pray you find the peace and hope only Jesus can deliver through the words in each episode. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I’m thrilled to share that my latest free resource, “Scattering Seeds: Planting Character and Faith in Your Child” has released! This eBook is an excellent encouragement and support for mothers or grandmothers of young children. I encourage you to visit my website to access and download it soon. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast - Episode 076 - Do You Make it Difficult for God to Give You His Best? Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 076 – Do You Make it Difficult for God to Give You His Best? When I was young I kept several journals. Sometimes they were fancy, some were just a spiral notebook, but from the earliest recollections of my childhood, I always had something to write in. Whether it was fiction, poetry, or simply my thoughts, placing words on paper cleared my mind and enabled me to survive challenging times. Although my parents loved me and did the best they knew how to do, our home life was sometimes difficult. Placing my deepest thoughts on paper and allowing creativity to flow allowed me a type of escape and release I wasn’t able to find elsewhere. God obviously created me with a love for words and books. After I got married at 17, my husband became my biggest supporter. His encouragement to follow my dreams was consistent. I remember the Christmas he presented me with my first laptop. The joy in his eyes when I opened that gift still touches me so deeply it brings tears. During my twenties and thirties I wrote several novels, and would have continued to polish, perfect, and submit each one to agents and editors. What stopped me? I knew in my spirit that God was telling me it wasn’t His plan. In my late thirties, God made it clear to me that this was not the path He wanted me to walk. I was shocked. Writing felt like the air I breathed. The thought of stopping felt like a death in a deep place of my soul. But I couldn’t ignore that I knew I was hearing Him clearly. To continue to pursue a writing career would be direct disobedience to God. So what did I do? I packed away every manuscript. Even the one I was enjoying writing more than any of the others. It was a Christian fiction novel that was growing my faith as I wrote it, but I couldn’t deny that obedience to what God was calling would deepen my faith even more than putting words on paper. As God directed me to stop writing altogether, I realized He was calling me to sacrifice what I had unknowingly placed higher than Him. I never really felt like I loved writing more than Him, but in hindsight, I can see that the way writing filled my spirit could be considered a form of idolization. My new life without writing began to shape me in higher ways for Him as I allowed God to fill me and give me release. Instead of stealing the air I breathed when I quit writing, I began to inhale and exhale God with greater depth of faith, trust, and obedience. Many years later, God whispered to me that it was good for me to write again. At first, I resisted, knowing that He had previously directed me not to write. But that still, small voice was persistent. The difference was that now God filled me with different writing desires. I no longer yearned to publish fictional stories, whether Christian or mainstream. My writing became about the ways God had carried me through loss, through trials, and into obedience. My stories were crafted from a heart full of love and awe for Jesus and the way He had changed my life and family. My stories were gifts of praise and hope for others to build a foundation of truth and salvation through Christ. My writing was all for Him. Just last week, I thought about my writing journey. I had been reminded of how God transforms each of us who trust in Jesus. How? By watching the actions of our two year old Golden Retriever, Beau. On this particular day, I was washing Beau's “Chewys,” which are a rubberized toy with a carved out center to hold food of whatever sort you want to fill it with. Then the “Chewy” is placed in the freezer so the item freezes and your dog gets to enjoy licking the iced treat. Since our dog tends to get bored through the day and sometimes begins licking himself out of that boredom, we purchased the “Chewys” with the hope that they would be a distraction to lessen the habit. As I was preparing to put treats in Beau’s “Chewys” and freeze them for him to enjoy later, he watched me, highly concerned because I had his toys. My dog circled the kitchen, panted, and tried to see what I was doing. He peered over the countertop with upleveled anxiety as watched me place a few pieces of his food in the center of the toy. He whined and paced again, then returned to sit next to me with concern stretched across his usually joyful golden expression. Do you ever get anxious or worried when you can’t get something? When something you want badly is just out of your reach? Beau’s behavior made me think about what we must look like to God sometimes. How must our Heavenly Father feel when He knows He’s preparing a beautiful tailor-made gift for us, but we refuse to wait in peace and trust. Instead we try to make what we want happen and of course, always in the timing we desire. Have you ever wondered how much you might miss out on just because you’re so concerned with getting something you think is best? Have you ever desired something so deeply because of the way it made you feel ? Can you think of a time that happened to you? Mine would be my writing. I never asked God whether I was supposed to write. I just knew the desire was in me. How could it be wrong if the desire seemed to be part of the very core of me? Giving up writing was painful. If I hadn’t clearly heard God tell me to stop, I certainly wouldn’t have. Now, on the other side of that process, God lovingly allowed me to write again, but changed my reasons for doing it. He changed my heart and thought process. I see how false my sense of peace was years ago when I strived to write those novels that would propel me into a multi-city book tour. When I wrote simply because I loved creating characters and plots, I didn’t experience the same peace-filled joy that I have now when writing for God. What I do now isn’t to impress or gain accolades, but simply to live in obedience and to show what the Lord has done for me, what He continues to do, and what He is doing for others. He’s given me a calling to help younger mothers raise children to chase Christ over culture and to help mothers parent to prepare, not repair. He’s given me a yearning now to let mothers know to stop being a good parent, and become a godly mother. So much meaning and joy has blossomed from writing for Him. Not only for me, but for my family. When we study the Bible we see many stories of humans who made mistakes, like you and me. We may not think so at first glance, but at the core, the people we read about in the Bible are just like us. As you read their stories, you notice that there were many times God had better plans for them than they had for themselves. Or He desired to give them better than they could conceive. Because we all fail, because we are so far from God and His sovereignty, we are prone to easily sway from God’s best or to expect less than He intends to give. Think for a moment about God’s provisions for the Israelites when He led them out of captivity. Remember the way they responded with sin and rebellion, fear and complaints? They missed seeing the beautiful, promised land God had for them. They forgot His promises of a hope and a future. We also have Adam and Eve, the very first in a long line of sinners who missed what God created for them. Think of Esau losing his blessing to Jacob. Esau didn’t value God’s Word and promise like his brother, and allowed Jacob to steal it from him. Each person thought they knew more than God or had a better idea of what would be best for them. Humans following self instead of a loving, giving Father. Genesis 25:29-34 says, “Once when Jacob was cooking some stew, Esau came in from the open country, famished. He said to Jacob, “Quick, let me have some of that red stew! I’m famished!” (That is why he was also called Edom). Jacob replied, “First sell me your birthright.” “Look, I am about to die,” Esau said. “What good is the birthright to me?” But Jacob said, “Swear to me first.” So he swore an oath to him, selling his birthright to Jacob. Then Jacob gave Esau some bread and some lentil stew. He ate and drank, and then got up and left. So Esau despised his birthright .” There are several ways we can lose the blessings God has in store. Let’s look at some of the ways you can miss out on God’s best for you, and in turn, your family. 1. Feelings/Emotions – What we feel and how those feelings affect us. Although people often use the terms feelings and emotions interchangeably, they have distinct, but similar meanings. Emotions involve our feelings, but stem from an event or circumstance that evoke a feeling, such as fear, sadness, happiness, surprise, anger, or disgust. Feelings are our reactions to those emotions and how we interpret them. For example, if you are shopping and you get mugged, that situation causes emotions such as fear or anger. You may feel like it is unsafe to shop in that store again. You may feel like there are no nice people anymore because bystanders didn’t react the way you needed at the time. Sometimes life circumstances and/or situations evoke emotions that cause feelings that bring reactions and actions that pull us away from trusting in God. Or those reactions bring actions that aren’t honoring to God and cause problems or heartache. 2. Past Experiences – Past experiences can linger in our heart and mind. It is truly only through the life-changing power of relationship with Christ and the power of the Holy Spirit living within that we are able to live in freedom. If we don’t submit to the promptings of the Holy Spirit and instead live by reacting to emotions and feelings, we cheat ourselves and our family out of blessings God desires to bring to us. 3. Pride/Stubbornness – Sometimes we know we shouldn’t react with the actions and/or words we do, but because of pride and stubbornness we do what we want regardless of consequences. Our Holy God doesn’t bless rebellion. 4. Jealousy/Greed – When we look at how God has blessed another or we believe that we have less than others, we aren’t living with the thankful spirit God desires we carry. Our Heavenly Father carries no partiality, but He does honor humility, faith, trust, and obedience. He sees into our heart at the very core of what we think, feel, believe, and desire. God won’t bless a heart set against Him or one that lives without gratitude. 5. Disobedience/Sin – When we live in ways that go against God, His desires for us, and His teachings, we walk in disobedience. God wants the best for His people, but He is sovereign and holy. He will not bless sin or disobedience. James 4:1-6 says, “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. You adulterous people, don’t you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God? Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God. Or do you think Scripture says without reason that he jealously longs for the spirit he has caused to dwell in us? But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: “God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” Your walk with God is such a blessing when you follow Him in the ways He deserves and calls. Don’t set yourself up to miss out on the blessings He wants to pour on you. Don’t let your children miss the blessings He desires they receive. Your walk influences the walk of your children. The God you show them, and the way you respond to Him, will be engraved in their mind and heart. Don’t let them be led astray by your circumstances, emotions, feelings, past experiences, ego, stubbornness, jealousy, disobedience, or sin. Know and show the God of the Universe, the One who made a way for you to know and show Him. Help your children see and claim Jesus as their Savior. Allow them to be blessed in the mighty ways God has for them. Your life will be immensely blessed when they are blessed by Him. Psalm 46:10 says, “He says, “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth .” Dear Heavenly Father, there is truly none like You. The closer we walk with You the more joy, peace, and love we carry. Thank you for making a way straight to You through Jesus. Your Word tells us that we are Your handiwork, that we are created in Christ Jesus to do good works which You have already prepared for us in advance. Father, thank you for loving us so much that You crafted us with purposes that come from You and are designed to honor and please You. Help us live in ways that honor and fill You with delight. Help us to make You known to the children You have entrusted to us. Allow them to find You and be blessed by all You have for them. May they let Jesus shine from them and bring You honor. Thank you for loving us so much and for having a heart that only wants the best for us. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. I believe godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. That’s why I’ve created the Set-Apart Collective. Have you decided peers and culture won’t be the main influence over your child? Would you like to parent to prepare your child for eternity with Christ, not to repair a relationship? In the Set-Apart Collective, you will deepen your walk with Christ, learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family. The Set-Apart Collective wait list is open now. The first group of women is currently growing together. The second group is about to start. Please send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. If you connected in some way with this episode, would you please rate and review the podcast on Apple or Spotify? It only takes a minute or so and makes a big difference in people finding the podcast. You and I know that the best reviews are by word of mouth, so would you please choose a friend to recommend the show to? Let them know that the podcast is found at terrihitt.com, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify. Imagine the change we will see in the way mothers parent for Christ if they learn to be intentional, too. Remember, if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection. 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< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode 029 - Blameless Before Christ Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #029 – Blameless Before Christ Thank you for listening to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast. My prayer is that you and I will parent with purpose and confidently connect with Christ and our children moment by moment. We brought our middle daughter home from China eighteen years ago. I have such beautiful memories of how deeply I longed to raise her for Christ before we ever brought her home. In fact, God began working on my heart years before we even knew we had a baby in China. It’s ironic, because my husband and I were perfectly content that we had raised two children, a son and a daughter. We knew we were entering a new season in our life since they had both graduated from high school. We weren’t sure what it would be like, but we had raised children starting at the age of eighteen and we were still young. Well, you know that saying, “but God?” That definitely applies here. I’ve always been one of those people who critically examines myself. Let me explain. For example, when I was young my parents only had to say, “we are very disappointed in you.” The spankings or groundings that I received when I was in trouble were nothing to compared to a stern look of disapproval or hearing that I had let them down. So after we had raised our first set of children, I would sometimes mentally review our parenting years in my mind. There were so many beautiful memories and times I thought we had done well as parents. There were also recollections of moments I wished I had handled differently. No one is perfect and I didn’t expect my life or parenting skills to be, but I like to learn. I like to grow. Most of all, I desire to mature my walk with Christ moment by moment. Because of the purposed growth I had in my relationship with Jesus by this time, I had become a different person than I was when I had two children by the time I was 21 years old. How deeply I wished I had known Christ in those early precious years. I wish I had given my children a deeper knowledge of Jesus, but I didn’t even know Jesus until I was 22. I yearned to have known Jesus earlier and really matured my walk with Him quickly. Sometimes my mind would wander to tiny thoughts of how I would parent differently if I had a baby at that time in my life. By then I was around 40. It surprised me that I had these wistful urges to parent differently with a deeper connection to Christ. It certainly wasn’t empty nest syndrome. It was more of an awakening that God was stirring within me, not a craving for another child. In my mind, I could see myself with a little girl and I thought of all of the things I would do differently. In hindsight, I now know that God was weaving many details together because He knew the plans He had for us and the plans for our future daughters. He was preparing a heart that thought it was finished parenting for the tasks He would honor my husband and I with. A mother’s heart usually has many longings. As believers, we want our children to have and be the best God intends for them. We all know each day can bring trying times. Our intention may be to start and end the day with sunshine and roses, but events or mishaps occur that challenge or change the plans we made. Life interferes and if we are not eternal minded, we trade opportunities God intended with purpose for cheap versions of a worldly existence. We think it’s good. We can be perfectly happy, but we may not know we are missing a deep joy in our soul that gives God joy and honor. We miss opportunities to lift our child to the Lord and teach them the way to live a blameless life before Christ. I know I was a good mother. But time and relationship with Jesus has taught me how to be a godly mother. There is no comparison. I want to continue to mature in the depth of my skills and wisdom as a mother parenting for the Lord. I desire for you to be a godlier mother, too. Our children desperately need Jesus. The instruction they receive from us is the direct line that will guide them to Him. In the book of Philippians, Paul speaks to the saints in Christ who are in Philippi. His words in Philippians 1:8-11 are beautifully inspiring and I yearn for us as diligent, discerning mothers to listen to what he says. The passage reads as follows, “For God is my witness, how greatly I long for you all with the affection of Jesus Christ. And this I pray, that your love may abound still more and more in knowledge and all discernment , that you may approve the things that are excellent , that you may be sincere and without offense till the day of Christ, being filled with the fruits of righteousness which are by Jesus Christ , to the glory and praise of God .” Can you imagine saying these words to your children? Think of the godly power of placing their names individually at the beginning and then reciting this passage to them. Imagine praying these words over them, for them. The power of Christ would be at work to honor this prayer as you strive to parent with eternal meaning. In this passage shared from Paul’s eloquent and loving letter, we hear great wisdom regarding the way we are to live as heirs with Christ. Let’s look more closely at the passage and break down the meaning it still holds for us and our children today. 1. The word “affection” used in this passage is the strongest Greek word for intense emotion, and refers to internal organs, considered to be the parts of the body that hold and react to intense emotion . This word selection indicates a generous, gracious love that encompasses the entire being of a person. Imagine Christ’s power behind you as you purposely raise your children to greatly long for Him and for them to see you doing the same. 2. “In knowledge” is also from a Greek word, depicting absolute, advanced insight, judgement, and understanding. This form of biblical love is deeply rooted and regulated in Scriptural truth. Exactly the type of teaching and training we should purpose to give our children. 3. “Discernment” references moral integrity and insight, as well as effective and efficient utilization of knowledge. This astute attentiveness analyzes and approves what is appropriate or amiss. As 1 Thessalonians 5:21-22 says, “Test all things; hold fast what is good. Abstain from every form of evil .” This deliberate discernment seeks to determine what is good and what is evil. Oh, how we must long for God to give us the discernment we need to parent with these qualities in mind with our eyes, heart, and mind fixed on eternity and centered on building these character qualities with a focus on God in our children. 4. As the passage continues, the phrase, “approve the things that are excellent” allows believers to differentiate what is truly important to Christ and enables the right priorities to be established and endorsed. As we raise our children in this sinful world, we must endorse and endow them with excellence built on a foundation of godly principles and relationship that honors God through Christ. 5. To be “sincere and without offense” is the highest calling for believers to attain. Our lifetime should be spent in an attempt to establish this genuine standing before Christ. A believers and followers of Christ, the integrity we carry in our personal life is the purity others believe comes from Christ. All we are and do reflects Him. This is what we should desire our children to witness within us. As we build our relationship with Jesus, making it stronger day by day, the result should bring us closer to this goal and allow us to be a witness to our children of a goal for them to strive for as well. Our children see and understand what is truly important to us. It is critical that we mirror the character of Christ and the passion He carried for pleasing and honoring the Father. 6. The phrase “fruits of righteousness which are by Jesus Christ” refers to what is produced within believers through our standing with Jesus and the Holy Spirit living within us. As believers, we have have been redeemed and transformed through Jesus and also receive ongoing transformation through the Holy Spirit, which is alive and at work within us. The day our child also accepts Christ as Savior and begins a personal walk with Him is the best day a parent can experience. To see the fruits of the Spirit building fruits of righteousness as they pursue Christ is a miracle we are privileged to see and participate in. 7. To the glory and praise of God” recognizes and highlights Paul’s desire (and what should be our longing) – to glorify our Father in Heaven. That we can help our children do the same is a beautiful blessing. Each of us who claim to be Christians must purposely exercise the same preparation and practiced discipline that Jesus did as He obeyed our Heavenly Father as we live and parent daily. We must establish godly priorities and mentor them to our children so that they can live with true integrity established through relationship with Christ. Our godly mentorship allows our children to discover, desire, and develop a maturing walk with Jesus that will bless them for eternity. Philippians 2:14-16 says, “Do all things without complaining and disputing, that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world, holding fast the word of life, so that I may rejoice in the day of Christ that I have not run in vain or labored in vain .” “Blameless and harmless” mean to live above blame or disgrace, a life of purity and dignity that is only found through salvation and relationship with Jesus. Humans tend to relate to other humans and follow the standards or cultural norms accepted, but believing mothers desire that our children follow Jesus as mentor and guide and live in ways that will cause them to be blameless before Jesus each day. This will take the proper attitude from us and our children. As we set the tone and temperament of our household, mentoring Christ as we mature our personal walk with Him, we prayerfully rely on God to work out the salvation of our children as we entrust and lift them to Him. I love the words, “shine as lights in the world.” Before we even brought our middle daughter home as a baby, my husband and I prayed each day that we would raise her in pleasing ways to the Lord, that she would come to know Jesus as her Savior, and that she would be a shining light for Him. Do you know one of the most common compliments we receive for her? People tell us that she is a light. Mothers, as you purpose to raise children who will carry a mind set for eternity with Jesus, pray specific scriptural prayers. Seek His words and pray His words over your children. Pray them for yourself and your spouse. God will honor every prayer that is within His will. God is not willing that any should perish and He deeply desires for your children to love and honor you because they cherish and obey Him. Dear Heavenly Father, Your glorious light has the capacity to shine through us and into the hearts of others. Help us allow You to work through us. We are nothing without You. We thank you for the holiness and mercy You offer us and for the way You love us completely. Help us to see our children through Your eyes and heart. Enable us to carry Your mindset for eternity as we raise and care for them. Help us to stand blameless before You and model the character of Christ to our children and those we interact with. May this world be brighter because You are in us and we are actively and passionately pursuing You moment by moment. Father, thank you for teaching and growing us daily. May we never turn from You and only stay in the center of Your palm, attracting our children to You so that together we may stand blameless before You now and into eternity. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” podcast. This and my “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, iHeart Radio, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts may also now be found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? Did you know that when you review my podcasts on Apple, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcasts online so that more people are allowed to find and hear them. Will you please take a moment to follow the shows and think of someone you can share the podcasts with and encourage them to follow and share, as well? Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway them away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Parent and Connect With Eternal Perspective. Previous Next