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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #118 – Biblical Friendship and Connection Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. As my middle daughter has grown, it has been a joy for me to witness the types of friends she chooses. Over the last year, I’ve delighted in the depth of her friendships with people, especially those who love Jesus and are also trying to grow a life that honors and pleases Him. Would you agree that friendship is a blessing? Close friends are an extraordinary gift. I’ve always been intrigued by people, their stories, their dreams, their backgrounds, and beliefs. Listening to others enables us to grow individually and display empathy, sympathy, and feel a sense of connection, even if for a brief period of time. Experience has taught me that some people are meant to stay acquaintances, some are friends for a season, and some are God-sent companions who become family as our relationship spans many years and distances. One of my greatest joys in relation to long friendships is that whenever we have been apart for a great many months or sometimes years, whenever we talk again, it feels like there was never a separation. We are able to pick up where we left off, and although time has passed, and we have continued developing as individuals while away from each other, our hearts are still intertwined. God certainly values friendship. Have you ever noticed how many friendship stories the Bible contains? Just to name a few, I think of David and Jonathan in 1 Samuel 18, 19, and 20. Then, 2 Samuel 1 and 9 show us how their relationship endured even after the death of Jonathan. The story of Ruth and Naomi has always been special to me, and in Ruth 1:16-17, we see the love Ruth carries for her mother-in-law and close friend, Naomi. Daniel 2:49 shows us a way Daniel looked out for his friends. 2 Kings 2:2 shows Elisha looking out for Elijah. Although his friends were imperfect and didn’t always offer godly perspective, Job 2:11-13 shows that Job’s friends did the best they knew how as they came to be with him in his time of need. Philippians 2:19-23 shows how highly Paul thought of his younger friend, Timothy. Friendship is obviously biblical and is of great importance to our Heavenly Father. John 15:13-15 speaks of the greatest friendship in history as it says, “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are My friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know His master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from My Father I have made known to you.” This passage of scripture shows us that Jesus considers His followers to be His chosen, beloved friends. By laying His life down for us, Jesus has already proven that He is our ultimate best friend. As we step forward in obedience and spread His love to others through the Holy Spirit working within us, we can draw closer to the type of friend He desires us to be to Him and to others. What a miracle that as our friend who loves and cares deeply for us, Jesus makes everything the Father has taught Him known if we care to pay attention to Him. Jesus said in Mark 12:30-31, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: Love your neighbor as yourself. No other commandment is greater than these.” Obviously, Jesus calls us to care for others, not just our friends. Besides, if we didn’t extend love to those we come into contact with, how would we ever find new friends? Those who have built deep friendships with people understand that what they have together is a treasure, and if your friends are also believers, there is a depth and purity that cannot be found by those who don’t pursue Christ. There’s also a spirit-led ability to see from the perspective of the others if difficulties arise. Without Christ, we are unable to handle disagreements in ways that genuinely please the Lord each time. Imagine your best friends and the relationships you have shared over time. Just as each person is unique, our closest friends will bring out different aspects of our personality. You know who you think of calling if you want to discuss biblical or political issues, who will help you deepen your walk with Christ, who will make you laugh, who will tell you when you are wrong, and who will simply listen when you need a shoulder to cry on or a sympathetic ear. Jesus is able to do all of this, but also much, much more. I often imagine what it must have been like for the disciples as they walked this earth with Jesus at their side. Christ’s inner circle of men were privileged to learn from and fellowship with Him directly. The relationship we have available to us now through salvation in Christ is even more intimate, because Jesus inhabits followers through the deposit of the Holy Spirit within us. This guarantee of eternal worth and value allows us to abide with Jesus now and live with anticipation of a glorious fellowship to come. Although I much prefer the Holy Spirit residing within me, and I know how desperately I need Him, I’m still intrigued by the relationship Jesus held with his disciples. The term “disciple” in Christianity refers primarily to a dedicated follower of Jesus. We see this term used in Acts, within the New Testament, and of course, in the gospels. In that time period, being a disciple meant the “follower of a teacher.” The student would actively imitate the life and teachings of their master. They deliberately desired, and took action to become, a replica of their teacher. Are you actively trying to become a replica of Christ? Isn’t that what we are supposed to do as we follow Him as believers? If you are not purposely leaning into and relying on Christ, what is stopping you? Through the blessed benefit of the resurrection, we have the Holy Spirit living inside of us, abiding within to enable us to become more like Christ as we release self and allow Him to disciple us. It sounds so easy, yet our pride and ignorance make it so hard. How do we maintain and deepen this great friendship we have been blessed to receive with Jesus? How do we live as a student who becomes a replica of Jesus, our teacher and friend? Connection is the answer. In John 15:1-27, Jesus says, “I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit He prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in Me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in Me. “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in Me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from Me you can do nothing. If you do not remain in Me, you are like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in Me and My words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. This is to My Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be My disciples. “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in My love. If you keep My commands, you will remain in My love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in His love. I have told you this so that My joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete. My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are My friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you. You did not choose Me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in My name the Father will give you. This is my command: Love each other. “If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated Me first. If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you. Remember what I told you: ‘A servant is not greater than his master.’ If they persecuted Me, they will persecute you also. If they obeyed My teaching, they will obey yours also. They will treat you this way because of My name, for they do not know the One who sent me. If I had not come and spoken to them, they would not be guilty of sin; but now they have no excuse for their sin. Whoever hates Me hates my Father as well. If I had not done among them the works no one else did, they would not be guilty of sin. As it is, they have seen, and yet they have hated both Me and my Father. But this is to fulfill what is written in their Law: ‘They hated Me without reason.’ “When the Advocate comes, whom I will send to you from the Father—the Spirit of Truth who goes out from the Father—He will testify about Me. And you also must testify, for you have been with Me from the beginning.” What are 9 truths we receive from this passage of scripture? 1. Jesus, the true vine, is the Source of all life. 2. Jesus tells us of two types of branches, those that bear fruit and those that are barren. Just as we cannot tell the character of a person by simply looking at them, branches may appear the same until one fails to yield fruit. 3. No branch is able to bear fruit unless it remains connected to the vine. Christians cannot survive and mature in their faith unless we remain connected to the true vine, Jesus. Abiding in and continuing to seek Jesus, deepening our walk with Him moment by moment, is the only way to bear fruit that honors and glorifies God. 4. As we remain connected to the vine through Bible study, prayer, worship, and seeking Jesus in all we do, we view the world through an eternal lens as Christ did, expectant of the work the holy Spirit is unfolding within and through us daily. 5. Joy and love are natural grown through abiding in deepening relationship with Jesus. Jesus desires us to have full, abundant lives! 6. Christ tells us that His followers are His beloved friends. Because He has already laid His life down for us, Jesus has proven His love for us. We must choose whether to serve the Lord and allow us to love one another in the ways He has taught through humble, obedient, sacrificial lifestyles. 7. The love and sacrifice of Jesus calls us to bear fruit, to live out the gospel through obedience to the Holy Spirit within us, and to share the gospel with love and humility. Believers have a strong calling to become lifelong disciples of Jesus, not merely superficial believers, and to endure what the world may throw at us with the grace of Christ, knowing He is our shield and strength. 8. Persecution should, unfortunately, be expected. If the world hated Christ, it will certainly hate those who exemplify Him. 9. Just as Jesus promised and sent His disciples the Spirit of Truth to testify through the oral and written testimony of the apostles, we have the provision of the Holy Spirit within us to disciple, embolden, and equip us for the purpose we are to serve under Christ. Jesus, our best friend, loves at all times and gave the greatest sacrifice a friend can give for us, whether we choose Him or not. As we draw nearer to Jesus, He draws nearer to us and we begin to understand the depth and width of His everlasting, sacrificial love. Jesus calls us His friend, but He is actually so much more. Knowing that moment by moment we must release self and choose to become a clearer version of Christ daily, let’s look at 6 practical facts that help ensure we remain maturing on the vine of Christ. 1. Choose friends wisely, especially your closest ones. As we are reminded in this episode, friends are incredibly important. If we tend to become like those we are around, we want our friends to reflect Christ and for our friendships to stretch and grow us in godly ways. 1 Corinthians 15:33 says, “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.” 2. Although we can be away from good friends for a time and still pick up where we left off, we must remain connected to Christ. John 15:5 says, “I am the vine and you are the branches. The one who remains in Me, and I in him, will bear much fruit. For apart from Me you can do nothing.” Jesus spoke of being the vine because He knew the disciples would understand the concept He was trying to make clear. Vines were common in that day as the economy was based on producing and maintaining healthy crops. Vines grow from a central branch which is rooted deep in the soil. Smaller branches then spread from this deep-rooted main branch and bear the fruit. Just as fruit on the vines cannot live apart from the source of sustaining life, we cannot live healthy, productive, godly lives without remaining connected to our central branch, and Source of Life, Jesus, who enables us to thrive through His love and nourishment. 3. Keep His commands. This world has no power over us unless we allow it. Rely on the strength and guidance of the Holy Spirit within you in every way. 1 John 2:27 says, “But the anointing that you received from Him abides in you, and you have no need that anyone should teach you. But as His anointing teaches you about everything, and is true, and is no lie—just as it has taught you, abide in Him.” The word abide is used in the Bible more than 100 times. Nineteen of those references are used in 1 John alone. Abide in this verse is calling us to continue or remain in relationship with Christ – abide in Him. If we do so, we are empowered to believe and obey the truth that sets us free and also enabled to love Him and others. In this verse from 1 John we are also reminded of the power of abiding in Christ. The powerful, life-giving word of God, is sufficient for the wisdom from Christ that we need and the application of all things. The Holy Spirit reveals the truths of God for those who seek and abide in Christ. 4. Love with a sacrificial love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no account of wrongs. Love takes no pleasure in evil, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” Only through the strength and empowerment of the Holy Spirit within us and a strong, connected life with Christ can we begin to offer the unselfish and sacrificial love of Jesus. 5. If the world hates us, it hated Jesus first. If they see Him in us, they will hate us. Matthew 10:22 says, “And you will be hated by all for my name's sake. But the one who endures to the end will be saved.” Only through abiding in Christ will be able to withstand the hatred and persecution of this world. Even when we abide in Him, our flesh calls to retaliate or condemn others, especially when they hurt us or those we love. As we remain connected to the vine of Christ, the Holy Spirit reproduces the life of Christ within us, transforming us into a clearer vision of His image, enabling the Spirit to conquer our fleshly nature. 6. Jesus leaves us two important weapons - the Holy Spirit within us and the Holy Spirit-inspired Bible will enable us to remain connected to Him and to be able to receive and communicate His love as we obediently follow Him. John 14:15-21 says, “If you love Me, you will keep My commandments. And I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Advocate to be with you forever— the Spirit of truth. The world cannot receive Him, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him. But you do know Him, for He abides with you and will be in you. I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you. In a little while the world will see Me no more, but you will see Me. Because I live, you also will live. On that day you will know that I am in My Father, and you are in Me, and I am in you. Whoever has My commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me. The one who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and reveal Myself to him.” Friends are such a blessing and I have several godly women in my life that I cherish. Like you probably do, I feel it is a gift to sit down and talk with friends of the same mindset and encourage each other as we travel life in this world. Each friend I have is a treasure and a gift that I know God has placed in my life for specific reasons. I pray we always seek God together and reveal Him to each other more clearly as time marches on. Yet, Jesus is the very best friend any of us can have. Whether you have several friends or you feel like no one understands you, know that Christ does. Trust His word and the sacrifice Jesus offered willingly for you. Seek greater connection with Him as you choose to remain connected to the vine, our Source of Life. Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for the gift of your son, Jesus. We praise You for Your goodness, generosity, and sacrifice to and for us. Help each of us listening to this podcast episode to seek and follow You with a sacrificial love that allows us to begin a deeper walk with You and to become a clearer image of Christ each day. Help us to be fruitful as we remain attached to Your vine. Produce more fruit within us and use it for Your good pleasure. May we draw ever nearer to You and trust that You are drawing nearer to us, enabling us to shine You more clearly and sincerely, drawing others to You. Thank you for being our guide, advisor, and friend. You are all we need. Help our lives to reflect that truth. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. You may find them on the terrihitt.com website. Click on podcasts and type in the topic or title you wish to hear in the search bar at the top of the page. Have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen, follow it, and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 118 - Biblical Friendship and Connection Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #118 – Biblical Friendship and Connection Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. As my middle daughter has grown, it has been a joy for me to witness the types of friends she chooses. Over the last year, I’ve delighted in the depth of her friendships with people, especially those who love Jesus and are also trying to grow a life that honors and pleases Him. Would you agree that friendship is a blessing? Close friends are an extraordinary gift. I’ve always been intrigued by people, their stories, their dreams, their backgrounds, and beliefs. Listening to others enables us to grow individually and display empathy, sympathy, and feel a sense of connection, even if for a brief period of time. Experience has taught me that some people are meant to stay acquaintances, some are friends for a season, and some are God-sent companions who become family as our relationship spans many years and distances. One of my greatest joys in relation to long friendships is that whenever we have been apart for a great many months or sometimes years, whenever we talk again, it feels like there was never a separation. We are able to pick up where we left off, and although time has passed, and we have continued developing as individuals while away from each other, our hearts are still intertwined. God certainly values friendship. Have you ever noticed how many friendship stories the Bible contains? Just to name a few, I think of David and Jonathan in 1 Samuel 18, 19, and 20. Then, 2 Samuel 1 and 9 show us how their relationship endured even after the death of Jonathan. The story of Ruth and Naomi has always been special to me, and in Ruth 1:16-17, we see the love Ruth carries for her mother-in-law and close friend, Naomi. Daniel 2:49 shows us a way Daniel looked out for his friends. 2 Kings 2:2 shows Elisha looking out for Elijah. Although his friends were imperfect and didn’t always offer godly perspective, Job 2:11-13 shows that Job’s friends did the best they knew how as they came to be with him in his time of need. Philippians 2:19-23 shows how highly Paul thought of his younger friend, Timothy. Friendship is obviously biblical and is of great importance to our Heavenly Father. John 15:13-15 speaks of the greatest friendship in history as it says, “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are My friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know His master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from My Father I have made known to you.” This passage of scripture shows us that Jesus considers His followers to be His chosen, beloved friends. By laying His life down for us, Jesus has already proven that He is our ultimate best friend. As we step forward in obedience and spread His love to others through the Holy Spirit working within us, we can draw closer to the type of friend He desires us to be to Him and to others. What a miracle that as our friend who loves and cares deeply for us, Jesus makes everything the Father has taught Him known if we care to pay attention to Him. Jesus said in Mark 12:30-31, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: Love your neighbor as yourself. No other commandment is greater than these.” Obviously, Jesus calls us to care for others, not just our friends. Besides, if we didn’t extend love to those we come into contact with, how would we ever find new friends? Those who have built deep friendships with people understand that what they have together is a treasure, and if your friends are also believers, there is a depth and purity that cannot be found by those who don’t pursue Christ. There’s also a spirit-led ability to see from the perspective of the others if difficulties arise. Without Christ, we are unable to handle disagreements in ways that genuinely please the Lord each time. Imagine your best friends and the relationships you have shared over time. Just as each person is unique, our closest friends will bring out different aspects of our personality. You know who you think of calling if you want to discuss biblical or political issues, who will help you deepen your walk with Christ, who will make you laugh, who will tell you when you are wrong, and who will simply listen when you need a shoulder to cry on or a sympathetic ear. Jesus is able to do all of this, but also much, much more. I often imagine what it must have been like for the disciples as they walked this earth with Jesus at their side. Christ’s inner circle of men were privileged to learn from and fellowship with Him directly. The relationship we have available to us now through salvation in Christ is even more intimate, because Jesus inhabits followers through the deposit of the Holy Spirit within us. This guarantee of eternal worth and value allows us to abide with Jesus now and live with anticipation of a glorious fellowship to come. Although I much prefer the Holy Spirit residing within me, and I know how desperately I need Him, I’m still intrigued by the relationship Jesus held with his disciples. The term “disciple” in Christianity refers primarily to a dedicated follower of Jesus. We see this term used in Acts, within the New Testament, and of course, in the gospels. In that time period, being a disciple meant the “follower of a teacher.” The student would actively imitate the life and teachings of their master. They deliberately desired, and took action to become, a replica of their teacher. Are you actively trying to become a replica of Christ? Isn’t that what we are supposed to do as we follow Him as believers? If you are not purposely leaning into and relying on Christ, what is stopping you? Through the blessed benefit of the resurrection, we have the Holy Spirit living inside of us, abiding within to enable us to become more like Christ as we release self and allow Him to disciple us. It sounds so easy, yet our pride and ignorance make it so hard. How do we maintain and deepen this great friendship we have been blessed to receive with Jesus? How do we live as a student who becomes a replica of Jesus, our teacher and friend? Connection is the answer. In John 15:1-27, Jesus says, “I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit He prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in Me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in Me. “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in Me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from Me you can do nothing. If you do not remain in Me, you are like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. If you remain in Me and My words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. This is to My Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be My disciples. “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in My love. If you keep My commands, you will remain in My love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in His love. I have told you this so that My joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete. My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are My friends if you do what I command. I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you. You did not choose Me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in My name the Father will give you. This is my command: Love each other. “If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated Me first. If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you. Remember what I told you: ‘A servant is not greater than his master.’ If they persecuted Me, they will persecute you also. If they obeyed My teaching, they will obey yours also. They will treat you this way because of My name, for they do not know the One who sent me. If I had not come and spoken to them, they would not be guilty of sin; but now they have no excuse for their sin. Whoever hates Me hates my Father as well. If I had not done among them the works no one else did, they would not be guilty of sin. As it is, they have seen, and yet they have hated both Me and my Father. But this is to fulfill what is written in their Law: ‘They hated Me without reason.’ “When the Advocate comes, whom I will send to you from the Father—the Spirit of Truth who goes out from the Father—He will testify about Me. And you also must testify, for you have been with Me from the beginning.” What are 9 truths we receive from this passage of scripture? 1. Jesus, the true vine, is the Source of all life. 2. Jesus tells us of two types of branches, those that bear fruit and those that are barren. Just as we cannot tell the character of a person by simply looking at them, branches may appear the same until one fails to yield fruit. 3. No branch is able to bear fruit unless it remains connected to the vine. Christians cannot survive and mature in their faith unless we remain connected to the true vine, Jesus. Abiding in and continuing to seek Jesus, deepening our walk with Him moment by moment, is the only way to bear fruit that honors and glorifies God. 4. As we remain connected to the vine through Bible study, prayer, worship, and seeking Jesus in all we do, we view the world through an eternal lens as Christ did, expectant of the work the holy Spirit is unfolding within and through us daily. 5. Joy and love are natural grown through abiding in deepening relationship with Jesus. Jesus desires us to have full, abundant lives! 6. Christ tells us that His followers are His beloved friends. Because He has already laid His life down for us, Jesus has proven His love for us. We must choose whether to serve the Lord and allow us to love one another in the ways He has taught through humble, obedient, sacrificial lifestyles. 7. The love and sacrifice of Jesus calls us to bear fruit, to live out the gospel through obedience to the Holy Spirit within us, and to share the gospel with love and humility. Believers have a strong calling to become lifelong disciples of Jesus, not merely superficial believers, and to endure what the world may throw at us with the grace of Christ, knowing He is our shield and strength. 8. Persecution should, unfortunately, be expected. If the world hated Christ, it will certainly hate those who exemplify Him. 9. Just as Jesus promised and sent His disciples the Spirit of Truth to testify through the oral and written testimony of the apostles, we have the provision of the Holy Spirit within us to disciple, embolden, and equip us for the purpose we are to serve under Christ. Jesus, our best friend, loves at all times and gave the greatest sacrifice a friend can give for us, whether we choose Him or not. As we draw nearer to Jesus, He draws nearer to us and we begin to understand the depth and width of His everlasting, sacrificial love. Jesus calls us His friend, but He is actually so much more. Knowing that moment by moment we must release self and choose to become a clearer version of Christ daily, let’s look at 6 practical facts that help ensure we remain maturing on the vine of Christ. 1. Choose friends wisely, especially your closest ones. As we are reminded in this episode, friends are incredibly important. If we tend to become like those we are around, we want our friends to reflect Christ and for our friendships to stretch and grow us in godly ways. 1 Corinthians 15:33 says, “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.” 2. Although we can be away from good friends for a time and still pick up where we left off, we must remain connected to Christ. John 15:5 says, “I am the vine and you are the branches. The one who remains in Me, and I in him, will bear much fruit. For apart from Me you can do nothing.” Jesus spoke of being the vine because He knew the disciples would understand the concept He was trying to make clear. Vines were common in that day as the economy was based on producing and maintaining healthy crops. Vines grow from a central branch which is rooted deep in the soil. Smaller branches then spread from this deep-rooted main branch and bear the fruit. Just as fruit on the vines cannot live apart from the source of sustaining life, we cannot live healthy, productive, godly lives without remaining connected to our central branch, and Source of Life, Jesus, who enables us to thrive through His love and nourishment. 3. Keep His commands. This world has no power over us unless we allow it. Rely on the strength and guidance of the Holy Spirit within you in every way. 1 John 2:27 says, “But the anointing that you received from Him abides in you, and you have no need that anyone should teach you. But as His anointing teaches you about everything, and is true, and is no lie—just as it has taught you, abide in Him.” The word abide is used in the Bible more than 100 times. Nineteen of those references are used in 1 John alone. Abide in this verse is calling us to continue or remain in relationship with Christ – abide in Him. If we do so, we are empowered to believe and obey the truth that sets us free and also enabled to love Him and others. In this verse from 1 John we are also reminded of the power of abiding in Christ. The powerful, life-giving word of God, is sufficient for the wisdom from Christ that we need and the application of all things. The Holy Spirit reveals the truths of God for those who seek and abide in Christ. 4. Love with a sacrificial love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no account of wrongs. Love takes no pleasure in evil, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” Only through the strength and empowerment of the Holy Spirit within us and a strong, connected life with Christ can we begin to offer the unselfish and sacrificial love of Jesus. 5. If the world hates us, it hated Jesus first. If they see Him in us, they will hate us. Matthew 10:22 says, “And you will be hated by all for my name's sake. But the one who endures to the end will be saved.” Only through abiding in Christ will be able to withstand the hatred and persecution of this world. Even when we abide in Him, our flesh calls to retaliate or condemn others, especially when they hurt us or those we love. As we remain connected to the vine of Christ, the Holy Spirit reproduces the life of Christ within us, transforming us into a clearer vision of His image, enabling the Spirit to conquer our fleshly nature. 6. Jesus leaves us two important weapons - the Holy Spirit within us and the Holy Spirit-inspired Bible will enable us to remain connected to Him and to be able to receive and communicate His love as we obediently follow Him. John 14:15-21 says, “If you love Me, you will keep My commandments. And I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Advocate to be with you forever— the Spirit of truth. The world cannot receive Him, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him. But you do know Him, for He abides with you and will be in you. I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you. In a little while the world will see Me no more, but you will see Me. Because I live, you also will live. On that day you will know that I am in My Father, and you are in Me, and I am in you. Whoever has My commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me. The one who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and reveal Myself to him.” Friends are such a blessing and I have several godly women in my life that I cherish. Like you probably do, I feel it is a gift to sit down and talk with friends of the same mindset and encourage each other as we travel life in this world. Each friend I have is a treasure and a gift that I know God has placed in my life for specific reasons. I pray we always seek God together and reveal Him to each other more clearly as time marches on. Yet, Jesus is the very best friend any of us can have. Whether you have several friends or you feel like no one understands you, know that Christ does. Trust His word and the sacrifice Jesus offered willingly for you. Seek greater connection with Him as you choose to remain connected to the vine, our Source of Life. Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for the gift of your son, Jesus. We praise You for Your goodness, generosity, and sacrifice to and for us. Help each of us listening to this podcast episode to seek and follow You with a sacrificial love that allows us to begin a deeper walk with You and to become a clearer image of Christ each day. Help us to be fruitful as we remain attached to Your vine. Produce more fruit within us and use it for Your good pleasure. May we draw ever nearer to You and trust that You are drawing nearer to us, enabling us to shine You more clearly and sincerely, drawing others to You. Thank you for being our guide, advisor, and friend. You are all we need. Help our lives to reflect that truth. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. You may find them on the terrihitt.com website. Click on podcasts and type in the topic or title you wish to hear in the search bar at the top of the page. Have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen, follow it, and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #027 – An Uncomfortable Life Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. One of the greatest perks of being a podcaster is that no one can see me. I can record without wearing makeup, dressed in my shabby “stay home” clothes, and my hair barely finger combed. Nobody at home cares, and my youngest actually prefers this mommy look and attire. If I am just staying at home, dressing this way is ultra-comfortable! Do you have favorite, comfortable attire? Is it what you usually only wear at home? Or do you always dress that way? I admit that I am picky. I don’t like pajamas that twist, sleeping on sheets with wrinkles in them, or socks that slide and pinch my toes with the sock seam. Who can stand anything that binds or pulls? Being comfortable keeps a person cheerful, at ease, and contented, while discomfort is disturbing, even painful at times. When I am extremely uncomfortable, it ends up being all I can think about. There are times, however, when we need to accept discomfort, even welcome it. Distress or displeasure are not feelings we would normally desire, so why would we consider inviting unease or hardship? If we desire to grow in our relationship with God, it is imperative that we learn to embrace feeling uncomfortable and we express gratitude through it. Let’s look to the Bible for some insight. Here’s an easy question. Can you think of any Biblical characters that lived a life of ease? No. Do you know why? You might remember that Jesus forewarned us in John 16:33, “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” No one lives without sorrow, unease, persecution, or discomfort. But did you catch the good news? Although Jesus warned us that this world carries tribulation, He also promised us that we could have peace through Him during trials. He also reminded us that He has already overcome the world. In Romans 8:28 we learn this, “Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God. And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” Jesus has gone before us, preparing us for trials by warning of upcoming adversity, allowing the Holy Spirit inside us to help us to pray when life gets so complicated that we do not have the words, and encouraging us to learn that for those who love God, and are called according to His purpose, all things will work together for good. After laying such established groundwork for us, He continues strengthening us by revealing that He has already overcome the world. Remember when I mentioned Bible characters earlier? I stated that I couldn’t think of anyone who lived a life without trials or hardship. Just a sprinkling of them were Abraham, Moses, Joseph, Daniel, David, John the Baptist, Paul, and, of course, Jesus. None of them could boast of a life of ease, especially not Jesus, yet comfort was never a priority for Him. Jesus’s greatest goal was obedience to God. Affliction and adversity did not distract Him. This world can bring unfathomable pain and suffering. So much is beyond our control. There are many days when I whisper to myself, “Jesus, come. Save us from ourselves.” We understand that we are supposed to accept hardship and pain, but knowing doesn’t make it easy. Abuse, neglect, financial difficulties, marital problems, starvation, temptation, child trafficking, sickness, temptation, pain, anxiety, depression, failure, confusion, betrayal, discouragement, death, and the list can go on and on. Sometimes we are victims to what life brings, other times, we cause our own grief and difficulties. There are times when God must intercede and possibly discipline us by allowing us to experience discomfort. But through everything, God will work it together for good when we love Him and are called according to His purpose. Despite all of it, our lives are intertwined and God allows us to affect and encourage one another through the good, bad, easy, and hard. No matter what we must endure, Jesus does walk through the pain and suffering with us. He knows suffering, the loneliness and hardship, the feeling of betrayal, the pain, and loss. He is waiting for each one of us to personally ask Him to take our load, and wants to encourage us and carry us through. Jesus suffers when we suffer. Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” If God, who loves us, allows us to endure adversity, shouldn’t we ask ourselves why? Something positive must come from the difficulty and anguish. Because they certainly don’t feel good and it is tough to understand how they could be for any good. What could the benefits be? 1. We gain empathy – when we experience grief, suffering, or are uncomfortable because of what we have experienced, we are changed. We better understand the thoughts and feelings of others and can actually hurt with and for them in ways never before possible. Romans 12:15 says, “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” 2. We are humbled – through our experiences, pain, or hardship, we better understand that the world does not revolve around us. We are opened to the sovereignty of God and able to modestly accept the calling of Jesus to place others before ourselves. We realize that all we have, whether great or moderate, is from God’s hand and provision. Romans 12:16 says, “Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.” 3. We see God’s strength and provision – When we suffer, and still praise and trust in Him, we experience God’s provision. How will we know what He can do for us personally (beyond reading His word) unless we witness it? Just as we can never out give God, He will meet us where we are and provide exactly what we need (and sometimes more). Philippians 4:19 says, “And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” And Matthew 6:31-34 says, “So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear? For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” 4. We rely on God – As we lean more on God, we gain more trust and faith. We release more to Him and continue deepening our walk with and through Him. Psalm 46:1 says, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” 5. We are prepared for eternity – As we mature our relationship with God through Jesus and the Holy Spirit working inside us, we capture each moment for eternity and prepare for our eternity with Him. Romans 12:2 says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” 6. We allow God to work through us to affect another for Him. As we are better equipped to live with an eternal perspective, others around us, family, friends, and strangers benefit from the light God projects from our life, which strengthens their walk with the Lord at the same time. Matthew 5:14-16 says, “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” Christ was uncomfortable. He suffered. We are uncomfortable. We suffer. Romans 8:12-17 says, “So then, brothers, we are debtors, not to the flesh, to live according to the flesh. For if you live according to the flesh you will die, but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live. For all who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God. For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father!” The Spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs—heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, provided we suffer with him in order that we may also be glorified with him.” It is often easier to believe through hindsight that there are blessings in suffering, but the longer we build and deepen our faith, we trust God’s word, and begin to notice signals from the promptings of the Holy Spirit that we need to become uncomfortable. Would we really ever want to feel a spirit of unease? Why in the world would we desire to be annoyed, miserable, or distressed? Hebrews 6:1a says, “Therefore let us move beyond the elementary teachings about Christ and be taken forward to maturity.” Let’s uncover a few ways we can benefit from feeling uncomfortable. 1. We may need to be made aware of danger. There may be a danger hidden in something we are doing, in someone we know, or in a way only God is aware of. The Holy Spirit guides and prompts, and we must be attentive by being attuned to the stirrings within. Psalm 138:7 says, “Though I walk in the midst of trouble, you preserve my life; you stretch out your hand against the wrath of my enemies, and your right hand delivers me.” 2. We may need to uncover or remove an ungodly habit. When we belong to Jesus, He relentlessly pursues us to return to Him when we stray. If we possess a habit or desire that does not come from Him, He will alert us with feelings that make us uncomfortable. It is true that if we do not heed those warnings, we can eventually tune His voice out, but He never leaves us and we will never experience peace through those activities. 2 Timothy 2:22 says, “So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.” 3. We may need to become more aware of others in need. Sometimes the stirrings in our spirit are meant to awaken us to others. We are not meant to live only for ourselves. Matthew 22:37 says, “Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself.” 4. We may need to discover a new way of thinking or doing that is more in alignment with God’s character. If we want to live with eternal perspective, we must crave Jesus and love Him with an intensity that propels us to mature each day, allowing Him to transform and mold us to be more like Him. Ephesians 2:3 says, “All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our flesh and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature deserving of wrath.” 5. We may need to learn how to think or process feelings or emotions in a way that honors and models Jesus. The fruits of the spirit do not come naturally. We are so far from where Jesus desires us to be. His ways are so much higher and purer. Colossians 3:12 says, “Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” 6. We may need to be stretched in order to become capable of handling greater responsibilities through the Lord. God may be calling you to speak out or to stay silent. He may be calling you to begin or end something. He may be calling us to forgive or to love someone. Through our maturation process in the Lord, we have to expect to be stretched beyond what we can imagine fulfilling in our own strength so we can fully experience His. Philippians 4:13 says, "I can do all things through Christ, who gives me strength." Psalm 138:3 says, "In the day when I cried out, You answered me, and made me bold with strength in my soul." 7. We may need to develop a stronger reliance on God. If we run from or neglect to build or mature our relationship with God, we will always have distress somewhere in our soul. Nothing on this earth will ever fulfill or aid us as He can. Psalm 63:1 says, “O God, you are my God; earnestly I seek you; my soul thirsts for you; my flesh faints for you, as in a dry and weary land where there is no water.” There may be additional purposes for the uneasiness God allows in our spirit. Jeremiah 16:19 says, “Lord, my strength and my fortress, my refuge in time of distress, to you the nations will come from the ends of the earth and say, “Our ancestors possessed nothing but false gods, worthless idols that did them no good.” We may need to be corrected, restrained, or purified. Hebrews 12:6 says, “For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.” If we desire to follow Jesus more closely and develop a heart like His, there are certain questions we should ask ourselves when discomfort settles in our spirit and we are not sure why it is there. 1. Do my family and friends know I follow Jesus? Do they recognize Him in me? 2. Do I only rely on a Sunday sermon to grow my walk and mature my relationship with Jesus? 3. Do I feel challenged? The gospel should pull us in directions that run opposite to this world. Our flesh wants to satisfy self, so the words and direction from God should stretch us throughout our life. We will never complete Christian maturity in this lifetime. 4. Do my family and friends continue see new and positive differences in me since I committed my life to following Christ? 5. Do I live with gratitude or do I feel entitled to what I have and always look for more? 6. Do I turn blind eyes toward something that God would like me to see as He does? 7. Do I find my identity in Christ and reflect that knowledge in the way I live? 8. Do I constantly complain and fault others instead of allowing Christ to work to change me? We must allow ourselves to feel discomfort. In a society that quickly wants to alleviate and cover anything that doesn’t satisfy or feel good now, we sometimes have to force ourselves to stop and experience the feelings and emotions. Acknowledge the pain, distraction, anxiety, doubts, fears, and heartache. Let go of ego or pride and humbly turn to Him. He is waiting. Take your needs to God and give them to Him to carry them. Ask Him to uncover your heart and motives. Notice what is causing your emotions and feelings. What are your habits? What are your triggers? As you dig deeper into these things and work backwards to find out more about what they were caused by and are causing in your life, you will find how they affect your beliefs and your relationships with God, as well as with others. Lift those burdens to Him. Surrender. Ask the One who created you and who knows everything about you, for His perfect guidance, direction, wisdom, insight, and clarification. Do not hide your discomfort or pain. Don’t run from it. Continue praying through the difficulties and immerse yourself in scripture. Trust that there is a purpose for what you have or are enduring. Continue praying and listening for Him. Remain obedient to what He calls. Live with gratitude, despite the obstacles that come from deciphering what you are going through. Remember that there are many seasons in life. Nothing will last forever, despite how it feels right now. John 14:27 says, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” Where do you want to change? Who do you want to become? Mark 14:33 says, “He took Peter, James and John along with him, and he began to be deeply distressed and troubled.” Jesus, while in the Garden of Gethsemane, felt such profound and intense emotions. The bible says He was troubled, exceedingly sorrowful, and deeply distressed. Our Savior described Himself as overwhelmed with sorrow, even to the point of death and was so afflicted that He sweat blood. The anguish He felt is nothing we have ever experienced. Through it all, what was His constant state? He sought His Father. He continued looking Up. He desired obedience and remained fixed on eternity and what the Father needed Him to do. Isaiah 33:2 says, “Lord, be gracious to us; we long for you. Be our strength every morning, our salvation in time of distress.” We do not know when heartache will crush us. There are not always warnings before disaster hits, but as Romans 8:18 says, “I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.” Yet, sometimes we do know adversity will come because we have not dealt with something we need to or we have neglected our walk with the Lord. Many reasons could apply, but God is faithful. Psalm 43:5 says, “Why are you cast down, O my soul? And why are you disquieted within me? Hope in God; For I shall yet praise Him. The help of my countenance and my God.” The most significant action we can take at any time is to worship and praise God. Do not forget to focus on and keep your gaze lifted toward Him. Regardless of whether we feel angry, fearful, sad, overlooked, confused, or distraught, He is always present and waiting. He understands and desires our devotion and adoration. 2 Corinthians 4:16-18 says, “So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.” God please help us allow You to make us uncomfortable. Help us welcome the uneasiness that you sometimes use to call our attention to what matters in Your heart. Pursue us until we can no longer resist You, so that we yearn for You, Father above all else and we actively follow You with a passion to be more like You daily, looking forward to eternity and striving to already live like we are there. Amen. Did you enjoy this episode? Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and learn how to live with more eternal perspective? Right now, because this podcast is new, listeners can’t find it unless they specifically know the name to search for. You can help them find it by leaving a quick review and rating for the show and by sharing about the podcast on social media or word of mouth. Can you think of a friend or family member who might enjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them. Until next week, keep looking Up and finding new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 027 An Uncomfortable Life Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #027 – An Uncomfortable Life Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. One of the greatest perks of being a podcaster is that no one can see me. I can record without wearing makeup, dressed in my shabby “stay home” clothes, and my hair barely finger combed. Nobody at home cares, and my youngest actually prefers this mommy look and attire. If I am just staying at home, dressing this way is ultra-comfortable! Do you have favorite, comfortable attire? Is it what you usually only wear at home? Or do you always dress that way? I admit that I am picky. I don’t like pajamas that twist, sleeping on sheets with wrinkles in them, or socks that slide and pinch my toes with the sock seam. Who can stand anything that binds or pulls? Being comfortable keeps a person cheerful, at ease, and contented, while discomfort is disturbing, even painful at times. When I am extremely uncomfortable, it ends up being all I can think about. There are times, however, when we need to accept discomfort, even welcome it. Distress or displeasure are not feelings we would normally desire, so why would we consider inviting unease or hardship? If we desire to grow in our relationship with God, it is imperative that we learn to embrace feeling uncomfortable and we express gratitude through it. Let’s look to the Bible for some insight. Here’s an easy question. Can you think of any Biblical characters that lived a life of ease? No. Do you know why? You might remember that Jesus forewarned us in John 16:33, “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” No one lives without sorrow, unease, persecution, or discomfort. But did you catch the good news? Although Jesus warned us that this world carries tribulation, He also promised us that we could have peace through Him during trials. He also reminded us that He has already overcome the world. In Romans 8:28 we learn this, “Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God. And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” Jesus has gone before us, preparing us for trials by warning of upcoming adversity, allowing the Holy Spirit inside us to help us to pray when life gets so complicated that we do not have the words, and encouraging us to learn that for those who love God, and are called according to His purpose, all things will work together for good. After laying such established groundwork for us, He continues strengthening us by revealing that He has already overcome the world. Remember when I mentioned Bible characters earlier? I stated that I couldn’t think of anyone who lived a life without trials or hardship. Just a sprinkling of them were Abraham, Moses, Joseph, Daniel, David, John the Baptist, Paul, and, of course, Jesus. None of them could boast of a life of ease, especially not Jesus, yet comfort was never a priority for Him. Jesus’s greatest goal was obedience to God. Affliction and adversity did not distract Him. This world can bring unfathomable pain and suffering. So much is beyond our control. There are many days when I whisper to myself, “Jesus, come. Save us from ourselves.” We understand that we are supposed to accept hardship and pain, but knowing doesn’t make it easy. Abuse, neglect, financial difficulties, marital problems, starvation, temptation, child trafficking, sickness, temptation, pain, anxiety, depression, failure, confusion, betrayal, discouragement, death, and the list can go on and on. Sometimes we are victims to what life brings, other times, we cause our own grief and difficulties. There are times when God must intercede and possibly discipline us by allowing us to experience discomfort. But through everything, God will work it together for good when we love Him and are called according to His purpose. Despite all of it, our lives are intertwined and God allows us to affect and encourage one another through the good, bad, easy, and hard. No matter what we must endure, Jesus does walk through the pain and suffering with us. He knows suffering, the loneliness and hardship, the feeling of betrayal, the pain, and loss. He is waiting for each one of us to personally ask Him to take our load, and wants to encourage us and carry us through. Jesus suffers when we suffer. Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” If God, who loves us, allows us to endure adversity, shouldn’t we ask ourselves why? Something positive must come from the difficulty and anguish. Because they certainly don’t feel good and it is tough to understand how they could be for any good. What could the benefits be? 1. We gain empathy – when we experience grief, suffering, or are uncomfortable because of what we have experienced, we are changed. We better understand the thoughts and feelings of others and can actually hurt with and for them in ways never before possible. Romans 12:15 says, “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” 2. We are humbled – through our experiences, pain, or hardship, we better understand that the world does not revolve around us. We are opened to the sovereignty of God and able to modestly accept the calling of Jesus to place others before ourselves. We realize that all we have, whether great or moderate, is from God’s hand and provision. Romans 12:16 says, “Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.” 3. We see God’s strength and provision – When we suffer, and still praise and trust in Him, we experience God’s provision. How will we know what He can do for us personally (beyond reading His word) unless we witness it? Just as we can never out give God, He will meet us where we are and provide exactly what we need (and sometimes more). Philippians 4:19 says, “And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” And Matthew 6:31-34 says, “So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear? For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” 4. We rely on God – As we lean more on God, we gain more trust and faith. We release more to Him and continue deepening our walk with and through Him. Psalm 46:1 says, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” 5. We are prepared for eternity – As we mature our relationship with God through Jesus and the Holy Spirit working inside us, we capture each moment for eternity and prepare for our eternity with Him. Romans 12:2 says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” 6. We allow God to work through us to affect another for Him. As we are better equipped to live with an eternal perspective, others around us, family, friends, and strangers benefit from the light God projects from our life, which strengthens their walk with the Lord at the same time. Matthew 5:14-16 says, “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” Christ was uncomfortable. He suffered. We are uncomfortable. We suffer. Romans 8:12-17 says, “So then, brothers, we are debtors, not to the flesh, to live according to the flesh. For if you live according to the flesh you will die, but if by the Spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live. For all who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God. For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father!” The Spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs—heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, provided we suffer with him in order that we may also be glorified with him.” It is often easier to believe through hindsight that there are blessings in suffering, but the longer we build and deepen our faith, we trust God’s word, and begin to notice signals from the promptings of the Holy Spirit that we need to become uncomfortable. Would we really ever want to feel a spirit of unease? Why in the world would we desire to be annoyed, miserable, or distressed? Hebrews 6:1a says, “Therefore let us move beyond the elementary teachings about Christ and be taken forward to maturity.” Let’s uncover a few ways we can benefit from feeling uncomfortable. 1. We may need to be made aware of danger. There may be a danger hidden in something we are doing, in someone we know, or in a way only God is aware of. The Holy Spirit guides and prompts, and we must be attentive by being attuned to the stirrings within. Psalm 138:7 says, “Though I walk in the midst of trouble, you preserve my life; you stretch out your hand against the wrath of my enemies, and your right hand delivers me.” 2. We may need to uncover or remove an ungodly habit. When we belong to Jesus, He relentlessly pursues us to return to Him when we stray. If we possess a habit or desire that does not come from Him, He will alert us with feelings that make us uncomfortable. It is true that if we do not heed those warnings, we can eventually tune His voice out, but He never leaves us and we will never experience peace through those activities. 2 Timothy 2:22 says, “So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.” 3. We may need to become more aware of others in need. Sometimes the stirrings in our spirit are meant to awaken us to others. We are not meant to live only for ourselves. Matthew 22:37 says, “Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself.” 4. We may need to discover a new way of thinking or doing that is more in alignment with God’s character. If we want to live with eternal perspective, we must crave Jesus and love Him with an intensity that propels us to mature each day, allowing Him to transform and mold us to be more like Him. Ephesians 2:3 says, “All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our flesh and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature deserving of wrath.” 5. We may need to learn how to think or process feelings or emotions in a way that honors and models Jesus. The fruits of the spirit do not come naturally. We are so far from where Jesus desires us to be. His ways are so much higher and purer. Colossians 3:12 says, “Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” 6. We may need to be stretched in order to become capable of handling greater responsibilities through the Lord. God may be calling you to speak out or to stay silent. He may be calling you to begin or end something. He may be calling us to forgive or to love someone. Through our maturation process in the Lord, we have to expect to be stretched beyond what we can imagine fulfilling in our own strength so we can fully experience His. Philippians 4:13 says, "I can do all things through Christ, who gives me strength." Psalm 138:3 says, "In the day when I cried out, You answered me, and made me bold with strength in my soul." 7. We may need to develop a stronger reliance on God. If we run from or neglect to build or mature our relationship with God, we will always have distress somewhere in our soul. Nothing on this earth will ever fulfill or aid us as He can. Psalm 63:1 says, “O God, you are my God; earnestly I seek you; my soul thirsts for you; my flesh faints for you, as in a dry and weary land where there is no water.” There may be additional purposes for the uneasiness God allows in our spirit. Jeremiah 16:19 says, “Lord, my strength and my fortress, my refuge in time of distress, to you the nations will come from the ends of the earth and say, “Our ancestors possessed nothing but false gods, worthless idols that did them no good.” We may need to be corrected, restrained, or purified. Hebrews 12:6 says, “For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.” If we desire to follow Jesus more closely and develop a heart like His, there are certain questions we should ask ourselves when discomfort settles in our spirit and we are not sure why it is there. 1. Do my family and friends know I follow Jesus? Do they recognize Him in me? 2. Do I only rely on a Sunday sermon to grow my walk and mature my relationship with Jesus? 3. Do I feel challenged? The gospel should pull us in directions that run opposite to this world. Our flesh wants to satisfy self, so the words and direction from God should stretch us throughout our life. We will never complete Christian maturity in this lifetime. 4. Do my family and friends continue see new and positive differences in me since I committed my life to following Christ? 5. Do I live with gratitude or do I feel entitled to what I have and always look for more? 6. Do I turn blind eyes toward something that God would like me to see as He does? 7. Do I find my identity in Christ and reflect that knowledge in the way I live? 8. Do I constantly complain and fault others instead of allowing Christ to work to change me? We must allow ourselves to feel discomfort. In a society that quickly wants to alleviate and cover anything that doesn’t satisfy or feel good now, we sometimes have to force ourselves to stop and experience the feelings and emotions. Acknowledge the pain, distraction, anxiety, doubts, fears, and heartache. Let go of ego or pride and humbly turn to Him. He is waiting. Take your needs to God and give them to Him to carry them. Ask Him to uncover your heart and motives. Notice what is causing your emotions and feelings. What are your habits? What are your triggers? As you dig deeper into these things and work backwards to find out more about what they were caused by and are causing in your life, you will find how they affect your beliefs and your relationships with God, as well as with others. Lift those burdens to Him. Surrender. Ask the One who created you and who knows everything about you, for His perfect guidance, direction, wisdom, insight, and clarification. Do not hide your discomfort or pain. Don’t run from it. Continue praying through the difficulties and immerse yourself in scripture. Trust that there is a purpose for what you have or are enduring. Continue praying and listening for Him. Remain obedient to what He calls. Live with gratitude, despite the obstacles that come from deciphering what you are going through. Remember that there are many seasons in life. Nothing will last forever, despite how it feels right now. John 14:27 says, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” Where do you want to change? Who do you want to become? Mark 14:33 says, “He took Peter, James and John along with him, and he began to be deeply distressed and troubled.” Jesus, while in the Garden of Gethsemane, felt such profound and intense emotions. The bible says He was troubled, exceedingly sorrowful, and deeply distressed. Our Savior described Himself as overwhelmed with sorrow, even to the point of death and was so afflicted that He sweat blood. The anguish He felt is nothing we have ever experienced. Through it all, what was His constant state? He sought His Father. He continued looking Up. He desired obedience and remained fixed on eternity and what the Father needed Him to do. Isaiah 33:2 says, “Lord, be gracious to us; we long for you. Be our strength every morning, our salvation in time of distress.” We do not know when heartache will crush us. There are not always warnings before disaster hits, but as Romans 8:18 says, “I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.” Yet, sometimes we do know adversity will come because we have not dealt with something we need to or we have neglected our walk with the Lord. Many reasons could apply, but God is faithful. Psalm 43:5 says, “Why are you cast down, O my soul? And why are you disquieted within me? Hope in God; For I shall yet praise Him. The help of my countenance and my God.” The most significant action we can take at any time is to worship and praise God. Do not forget to focus on and keep your gaze lifted toward Him. Regardless of whether we feel angry, fearful, sad, overlooked, confused, or distraught, He is always present and waiting. He understands and desires our devotion and adoration. 2 Corinthians 4:16-18 says, “So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.” God please help us allow You to make us uncomfortable. Help us welcome the uneasiness that you sometimes use to call our attention to what matters in Your heart. Pursue us until we can no longer resist You, so that we yearn for You, Father above all else and we actively follow You with a passion to be more like You daily, looking forward to eternity and striving to already live like we are there. Amen. Did you enjoy this episode? Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and learn how to live with more eternal perspective? 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Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #069 – In Pursuit of Godly Truth – Interview with Professor William Wagner - Part 2 Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Last week I began a conversation with Professor William Wagner, President of Salt and Light Global Ministry. If you listened, you know we were just getting started. This week we continue where the conversation left off and delve much deeper into the concerns of culture, not only in America, but through the world. If you are a believer of Jesus and a follower of Christ, I urge you to listen to this conversation with a prayerful heart that calls out to God to open your eyes where they may be blinded and to open your heart where it may be closed from His truths. As we continue our journey with the Lord, we must desire to be changed by Him moment by moment, to access the ability that comes from Him, to readily recognize deceit in the world. The battle of contending for the faith God desires for us will require those who profess Christ as Savior to keep ourselves centered in our love and obedience to Him, despite the costs. He is able to keep us from stumbling and present us faultless through His wisdom and power. We must keep our minds and hearts focused on Him. Three verses come to mind as so promising and critical in maintaining our godly walk through Jesus. Psalm 53:2 says, “God looks down from heaven on the entire human race; he looks to see if anyone is truly wise, if anyone seeks God.” 1 Chronicles 22:19a says, “Now set your heart and soul to seek the Lord your God.” 2 Timothy 2:15 says, “Make every effort to present yourself approved to God, an unashamed workman who accurately handles the word of truth.” Let’s begin Part 2 of my conversation with Professor William Wagner, a man who loves Jesus and strives to honor, obey, and please Him. I pray that as you listen to us speak the words of the Lord become clearer to you and empower you to follow and shine Him even more closely. ---------------------------------Interview with Professor Wagner--------------------------------------- In my conversation with Professor Wagner, he said, “If we’re going to win this battle, it’s going to be in the pews.” I agree. Our hearts must be so entwined with God’s that deceit and ploys of Satan are perfectly clear. Throughout history, God has worked through ordinary men and women who obediently followed His calling for them. Where is God calling you? What is He allowing to become more clear in your life? Just as we spoke about today, God always leaves a remnant. Are you part of it? Boldly and humbly move where He calls and continue using His discernment to guide and grow you. Terms may have been redefined in this world, but God never changes. Commit to reading His word and maturing in your walk with Him so that the moral relativity of culture does not confuse or sway you from the truths He so clearly sets before us. Precious, Holy, Heavenly Father, we bow before You, humbly acknowledging our distance from You and ask that You build up a most holy faith within us. As we pray by Your Holy Spirit, please show us mercy and keep our focus on our Lord Jesus growing. We have strayed so far from where You would have us be. Snatch us from the fires of this fleshly world. Please keep us from stumbling even more greatly, and make us able to stand in the presence of Your glory blameless and with great joy as we face You, our God our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord. May we shine and proclaim Your glory, majesty, dominion and authority, before all time and now and forever. Turn us away from the filth, lies, and apathy of the culture of this world and cause us to crave You and Your truths and break the bonds of deception we have allowed to entwine and captivate us. In Your glorious and merciful name we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you haven’t already, I encourage you to listen to the first episode of my interview with Professor Wagner – Part 1 of our conversation that aired last week. You can find it at terrihitt.com, where you can listen or read transcripts of episodes and find several free resources specially designed to mature your walk with Jesus and influence children to choose Jesus over culture. I pray that this podcast always draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 069 In Pursuit of Godly Truth Part 2 Listen to Episode Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #069 – In Pursuit of Godly Truth – Interview with Professor William Wagner - Part 2 Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Last week I began a conversation with Professor William Wagner, President of Salt and Light Global Ministry. If you listened, you know we were just getting started. This week we continue where the conversation left off and delve much deeper into the concerns of culture, not only in America, but through the world. If you are a believer of Jesus and a follower of Christ, I urge you to listen to this conversation with a prayerful heart that calls out to God to open your eyes where they may be blinded and to open your heart where it may be closed from His truths. As we continue our journey with the Lord, we must desire to be changed by Him moment by moment, to access the ability that comes from Him, to readily recognize deceit in the world. The battle of contending for the faith God desires for us will require those who profess Christ as Savior to keep ourselves centered in our love and obedience to Him, despite the costs. He is able to keep us from stumbling and present us faultless through His wisdom and power. We must keep our minds and hearts focused on Him. Three verses come to mind as so promising and critical in maintaining our godly walk through Jesus. Psalm 53:2 says, “God looks down from heaven on the entire human race; he looks to see if anyone is truly wise, if anyone seeks God.” 1 Chronicles 22:19a says, “Now set your heart and soul to seek the Lord your God.” 2 Timothy 2:15 says, “Make every effort to present yourself approved to God, an unashamed workman who accurately handles the word of truth.” Let’s begin Part 2 of my conversation with Professor William Wagner, a man who loves Jesus and strives to honor, obey, and please Him. I pray that as you listen to us speak the words of the Lord become clearer to you and empower you to follow and shine Him even more closely. ---------------------------------Interview with Professor Wagner--------------------------------------- In my conversation with Professor Wagner, he said, “If we’re going to win this battle, it’s going to be in the pews.” I agree. Our hearts must be so entwined with God’s that deceit and ploys of Satan are perfectly clear. Throughout history, God has worked through ordinary men and women who obediently followed His calling for them. Where is God calling you? What is He allowing to become more clear in your life? Just as we spoke about today, God always leaves a remnant. Are you part of it? Boldly and humbly move where He calls and continue using His discernment to guide and grow you. Terms may have been redefined in this world, but God never changes. Commit to reading His word and maturing in your walk with Him so that the moral relativity of culture does not confuse or sway you from the truths He so clearly sets before us. Precious, Holy, Heavenly Father, we bow before You, humbly acknowledging our distance from You and ask that You build up a most holy faith within us. As we pray by Your Holy Spirit, please show us mercy and keep our focus on our Lord Jesus growing. We have strayed so far from where You would have us be. Snatch us from the fires of this fleshly world. Please keep us from stumbling even more greatly, and make us able to stand in the presence of Your glory blameless and with great joy as we face You, our God our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord. May we shine and proclaim Your glory, majesty, dominion and authority, before all time and now and forever. Turn us away from the filth, lies, and apathy of the culture of this world and cause us to crave You and Your truths and break the bonds of deception we have allowed to entwine and captivate us. In Your glorious and merciful name we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you haven’t already, I encourage you to listen to the first episode of my interview with Professor Wagner – Part 1 of our conversation that aired last week. You can find it at terrihitt.com, where you can listen or read transcripts of episodes and find several free resources specially designed to mature your walk with Jesus and influence children to choose Jesus over culture. I pray that this podcast always draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Professor William Wagner holds the academic rank of Distinguished Professor Emeritus. Prior to joining academia, he served with distinction in all three branches of the federal government, including as a federal judge. https://www.facebook.com/SaltLightGlobal/ https://www.slgwitness.com/

< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode 021 - Say NO to Ungodly Influences in Your Heart and Home Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #021 – Say NO to Ungodly Influences in Your Heart and Home Are you yearning for greater connection with your child? Would you like to parent beyond the moment with eternal perspective? Let’s grow together now with practical tips, scripture, and stories geared to draw your heart to Jesus and guide your child into His arms. As I look back in review of my life, I recognize ways I was been deceived and sometimes followed self instead of my Savior. Especially in my 20’s and early 30’s, when I was younger in the faith, I grew well in some areas and was ignorant in others. I was not discipled properly, and because of that, like each of us, I followed the propensity to follow what looked or seemed right due to lack of biblical training. Don’t let this happen to you or your child. Everyone needs proper discipleship. Whether you have a son or daughter who has confessed Jesus as their personal Savior and is beginning a walk with Him or have a child who has been following Jesus for some time, godly mentorship is crucial . Since I desire to intentionally seek God’s wisdom and direction so that my intentions and actions will be pleasing to Him, I am focused on maturing my faith daily. I’m sure you desire to do the same. If not, please listen to the influences we will discuss today. Perhaps one or more has become a stumbling block that hinders your walk and in extension, will do the same to your precious child as they watch and learn from you. Each one of us is susceptible to falling daily and need to keep our eyes on Jesus. As we purposely look for things that need to be eliminated from our lives to gain godly wisdom and grow our Heavenly relationship, we experience the truth that the Christian walk is a lifestyle that evolves as our faith and obedience stretches and deepens. On this episode today, I want to draw attention to ungodly influences or practices that might reside in your heart and home. Some have become so ingrained in our culture that it is hard for people to recognize they are coasting in a walk with Jesus or drifting away from God. If left unaddressed, these things will affect your walk with Christ, separating you from strong relationship with Him, but also touch and shape those you meet, as well as those you love. Please pray that as you listen, your spirit will be pricked in areas God may be calling you to submit or obey by removing them from your life, so you may humbly please and follow Him as He desires. As I write this podcast, I’m also asking God to alert me to areas I need to remove from my life or repent to Him. This episode is heavy on Scriptures, because God’s Word is our hope and strength, a gift from the Almighty to us, a lifeline of hope, guidance, and strength. Please take notes if you desire and remember that you may also visit terrihitt.com to print a transcript of this episode to save the verses you hear for future reference, because God’s word to us is so powerful and healing. It simply is the sustenance we need daily. Of course, Scripture is the way our heart and mind hears the gift of salvation. It allows us to grow our relationship with God through Christ. God opens us to His truths and exposes the deception of this world through His holy Words. Every believer has heard that truth, but not everyone believes and practices what God shares and commands. A person will never be convicted and transformed apart from the power of God and His holy Word. I’ve compiled a list that I believe touches every human in some way. As you listen, prayerfully seek God’s direction and guidance to see if He may be calling you to remove, repent, or restructure your walk with Him in some way. Ask Him to guard your children, your parenting, and guide you to clearly follow Him so your children will witness the way you honor and obey God. Pray that your children will humbly and willingly live within His boundaries with joy. Ungodly Influences That May Exist in Your Heart or Home: 1. Attitude – 2 Timothy 4:3-4 says, “For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching but having itching ears, they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths .” Without humbly seeking and clinging to Jesus, our attitude is subject to a roller coaster of emotions. Only a steady focus on Christ can protect believers from a wash of emotions or thoughts that move far from where our Heavenly Father calls us to abide . 2. False Preachers – 1 John 4:1-6 says, “Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world. By this you know the Spirit of God: every spirit that confesses that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God, and every spirit that does not confess Jesus is not from God. This is the spirit of the antichrist, which you heard was coming and now is in the world already. Little children, you are from God and have overcome them, for He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world. They are from the world; therefore, they speak from the world, and the world listens to them. We are from God. Whoever knows God listens to us; whoever is not from God does not listen to us. By this we know the Spirit of Truth and the spirit of error.” Our world is full of false preachers and those who proclaim to follow Christ yet lead others far from what His Word teaches and commands. It is imperative to be in God’s holy Word daily, and to purposely grow your knowledge of, understanding of, and obedience to Scripture moment by moment. When you walk through each day, your thought process should revert to what God says about topics and situations . Study His character and commands so that you recognize false teachings immediately – from others and within your thought process. Just as the serpent deceived Adam and Eve by twisting God’s truths, he is out to swindle each human and rob us of a joy-filled, obedient life here and for eternity. 3. Influencers - Proverbs 27:17 says, “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another .” Just because someone has a strong social media presence, is a Hollywood star, a famous athlete, or a popular pastor it does not mean they practice what they preach. I have found that not everyone with a social media account lives the way they show online. Neither does everyone without an online presence. Each of us are influencers to another in some way. Especially if you are a parent. Strive to be a genuine reflection of Jesus . The way to do so is to know Him intimately through the Bible and prayer. Our walk with Christ grows stronger by seeking and abiding in Him . Let His influence be the guiding factor and influence in your heart and home. 4. Activities – (Language, Alcohol, Drugs, Pornography, Adultery, or Addictions – too much of something or anything done with the wrong intentions – food, shopping, exercise, etc.) - Proverbs 3:32 says, “For the devious person is an abomination to the LORD, but the upright are in His confidence .” So many people struggle with secret sin. God sees and knows all. Whether it is an addiction or something that is threatening to become one, or if it something that a person is doing despite what God’s Word commands, freedom is only found once we submit and humbly ask forgiveness from God. It is only when we realize we are hurting the Lord through our sin that we can rely on His strength to follow Christ through the steps to freedom . It may be a moment-by-moment submission to God or a one-time release, but He is present. He cares. God’s strength is enough for anything . 5. Entertainment (Books, Movies, Music, Magazines, Games) -Romans 12:2 says, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect .” Just as in #4, Christ has paid the price for our sins; He is more than enough to release any of us from what He calls unpleasing or sinful. Most of the entertainment available in our society is filthy. If you even look at advertisements, you see how far from Christ we have moved. Our children see what is available as normal unless they are taught to seek what is godly and holy. They will likely desire what you are drawn to. This includes, not only entertainment, but characteristics, morals, and dedication to growing their relationship with Jesus. 6. Friends - 1 Corinthians 15:33 says, “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals .” Those we surround ourselves with become heavy influences on our beliefs, attitude, actions, and reactions. In extension, they affect those we love. Our lives influence others. Be careful to lead others to Christ through your beliefs, words, attitude, motives, and actions . 7. Décor and Decorations – John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” Our homes should be a godly place of refuge for all who enter, especially for those who live within the walls. The type of décor we use silently expresses our belief system, memories, morals, and desires . Decorations used for holidays show our character and exposes where our walk is with Christ. Do you showcase items that would be pleasing to Him if He were visiting unexpectedly? Remember, He is within the walls of your home and sees into your heart. What joy our homes can be filled with if we let His heart speak to ours and we allow the light of the Holy Spirit within to guide us in our décor and decoration choices. 8. Addictions - James 4:4 says, “You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore, whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God .” Addictions are the ways humans in need of healing look for fulfillment in excessive and sometimes hurtful, damaging, or neglectful ways . When we desire too much or fall into habits that draw us away from God’s best for us or His holy commands, it is time to focus on strengthening our personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ. Only Jesus and His omnipotent strength can rescue and release us from the pain and bondage of any type of addiction. Only He can fill the gaps or hurts in our character or emotions that we desperately seek and try to fill with other things. 9. Relationships - Proverbs 12:26 says, “One who is righteous is a guide to his neighbor, but the way of the wicked leads them astray .” Sometimes we simply need to let go of the past, forgive, and enjoy relationships with those in our life. At other times, we need to let go of the past by releasing people from our life. Because God knows motives, hearts, and situations, our relationship with Jesus is a beautiful and godly guide to whether we should be growing or going. Our identity in and through Jesus is where we find our strength and wisdom to treat ourselves and others as He would direct . Model godly relationships for your children and let them witness Christ work in your life through them. 10. Bitterness – Hebrews 12:15 says, “See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled .” When we stop to practice true thankfulness for what we do and what we do not receive because we trust in God and His sovereignty, we are able to find identity and recognition through Him, instead of this world . When we center our thoughts, feelings, and emotions on Him, bitterness does not find soil to plant roots. 11. Unforgiveness – Ephesians 4:26 says, “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger. ” Because of Christ’s sacrifice, we have seen perfect forgiveness modeled. When we practice what He proclaims, we can draw upon His strength to endure what this life brings without allowing unforgiveness to overtake our spirit . 12. Ungodly Character – Ezekiel 36:26 says, “And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.” Our belief system, values, motivations, and attitude form and expose the character we exhibit . If we trust in God and continue to seek personal relationship with Jesus, respect God’s Word and authority in our life, and seek to please and honor Him, the ungodliness we naturally turn toward will transform more and more into a reflection of Christ. Ephesians 5:3 says, “But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints .” 13. Pridefulness – Proverbs 16:18 says, “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall .” Our culture celebrates pride while God despises the practice. Each human must battle the fleshly inclination to follow and exalt self. The key to conquering pride lies within whether we rely on self or Christ to eradicate it . While some suffer more from pride than others, even the smallest form can lead to devastating destruction. 14. Indifference - Revelation 3:15-16 says, “’I know your works: you are neither cold nor hot. Would that you were either cold or hot! So, because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth .’” God yearns for our heart but gives us free choice. Within that freedom, He desires that we be cold or hot. Either desire Him or not. God does not want a lukewarm spirit that claims to love Him yet does nothing to mature in Him, exhibit that love, or serve Him with a cheerful heart. 15. Idleness - 1 Timothy 5:13 says, “Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.” As we draw nearer to God in our personal relationship through Jesus, we are more prone to use our time wisely for Him and serve others more freely in His name . 16. The Occult - Leviticus 19:31 says, “Do not turn to mediums or necromancers; do not seek them out, and so make yourselves unclean by them: I am the LORD your God .” I recognize more of this in our culture and world daily. Don’t you? As the forms are sometimes clearly visible and sometimes sneakily creeping into our lives or the lives of our children through various forms, the devil wastes no time seeking to steal, kill, and destroy as God’s Word warns. Horoscopes, most young adult books and even children’s books, especially the popular the Harry Potter series, which desensitizes us and our children to the practice of evil and witchcraft, astrology, communication with the deceased, crystals, mediums, and those who offer healing through mediums, Quija boards, seances, channeling, magic, tarot cards, psychic hotlines, and evil décor all are an abomination to the Lord and through His word. Our sovereign and Holy Father instructs us to stay far from the occult without compromise . The list is long; I pray I highlighted most of what we need to watch out for. Where do you find your hope? Your guidance and strength? Proverbs 3:5-8 says, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and turn away from evil. It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones.” Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me .” God is not willing that any should perish, as Scripture clearly tells us. His guidelines are a fence of protection to keep us far from harm and safe in His perfect protection. Galatians 5:19-24 says, “Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires .” Dear Heavenly Father, God only You are holy. Only You are worthy. How far we are from You! Help us to find our way to You in deeper and godlier ways. Carve the impurities from our life and equip us to be the mentors and guides our children and grandchildren need. Father, we need You! Thank you for Your holy Word and the difference it makes in the life of one committed to You. May we reflect You so lovingly and accurately that our children passionately seek and follow You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast. Both of my podcasts may be found at terrihitt.com, iHeart Radio, Spotify, and are also part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts may also now be found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed this podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? If you believe the content you hear should be heard so that more people can raise or influence children for Christ, would you please write a review and rate the podcast for me? Please also follow and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up and purposely connect with your child and Christ. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 075 - Embrace Being an Imperfect Parent but Don't Stay There Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 075 – Embrace Being an Imperfect Parent But Don’t Stay There Godly over good parenting. Have you heard that term before? I speak of it often. In fact, it’s become one of my favorite ways to connect with someone when we talk about parenting. Why? One of the greatest joys of my life has been finding out the truth about parenting. It wasn’t until I began to see the holy privilege bestowed by God when He allows one to become a parent that I also felt one of the deepest sorrows of my life. How did something so joyous bring such sorrow? Sorrow is described as a type of grieving or regret . The fact that the definition labels sorrow as a form of grief speaks to the depth of remorse. But did you know that there are different types of sorrow ? One is a human , fleshly sorrow , the other a godly sorrow . 2 Corinthians 7:10-11a says, “Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done. ” What exactly is godly sorrow? The Bible refers to godly sorrow as sorrow that is prompted or produced by the Holy Spirit and aligns with the will of God . It is God, by His grace, who grants our saving faith, which includes repentance from sin. 2 Timothy 2:25 says, “He must gently reprove those who oppose him, in the hope that God may grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth .” The repentance I felt over parenting brought a godly sorrow that was brought by my deepening walk with Christ. Knowing Christ more intimately dropped the ego from my parenting skills. By the world’s standards I was an excellent parent, but by God’s measure, I was not the godly parent He calls each believer to be. Believers know that true repentance cannot occur unless genuine sorrow for the sin committed is felt. In fact, godly repentance identifies the salvation of a believer. One following Christ as Savior and in a maturing relationship with Jesus will continue to repent of sins as awareness of fleshly desires and actions are recognized and committed. This allows a deepening walk and the fruit of the Spirit to flourish in the life of the believer. On the other hand, what is referred to as human sorrow is simply remorse that is not in alignment with God’s will . Perhaps the person becomes remorseful because they were caught in an act or they didn’t reach an intended result. Perhaps their pride is wounded by the actions of another or by something they personally did or didn’t complete. When someone carries this type of human sorrow, joy, peace, hope, or any of the fruits easily identifiable in the life of a believer aren’t identified. Instead, the person may experience feelings such as depression, despair, hopelessness, self-pity, embarrassment, or anger. When we are genuinely repentant, however, our attitude changes. Righteousness is pursued eagerly. We desire Christ to cover and carry us. No longer indifferent to sin, evil, or deception, our character and desires shift closer to Christ’s as the Holy Spirit continues redeeming work within us. We grieve that our actions and desires once brought pain and dishonor to our Heavenly Father. We are filled with gratitude for the work Jesus performed on the cross, allowing us to approach the Father and restore relationship with Him. As the Holy Spirit continues a transforming work within, we long for holiness to define our nature and realize it can only come through the life-saving power of Christ as we continue to humbly submit with love and reverence to Him. This is what happened to me after raising my first set of children. My husband and I were good parents when we raised our first set of children, very good in the eyes of the world. Beginning our family at the age of 18, we were often told that we were mature for our years and wise in many areas. While it felt wonderful to receive the praise of others, their words didn’t bring the joy that I later learned came from purposely parenting to please and honor the Lord. I learned how sorrow can pertain to parenting. As humans, none of us are perfect. No one can claim 100% skillful parenting the way God would call. First, humans will never reach the perfection of Christ. Second, we live in a fallen world, and no matter how well a person attempts to parent, human desires, meaning the parent’s, the child’s, siblings, family, friends, or strangers, events, needs, wants, mistakes, etc. will interject or interfere in some way. Life isn’t easy and raising humans to adulthood is not a task to embark on without seeking and remaining steadfast to God and His will for the parents and the child. If I was such a good parent, why would I feel sorrowful about parenting? Am I blaming my first set of children or saying that they turned out to be “bad” kids? Definitely not. My thoughts don’t reflect on them at all, but totally on my husband and me. On this side of raising my first set, I can see how we were young and spiritually immature. In fact, I didn’t know Jesus as Savior until years later, and even then, it took me a while to really understand what being discipled meant. If you think about it logically, if I wasn’t growing in relationship with God through an intentionally deepening and maturing walk with Christ, how could I expect my parenting skills to draw my children to Him? I couldn’t exhale to my children what I hadn’t yet inhaled. As I grew in Jesus at the time, it was through sporadic readings of my Bible. There might be times I read often, then times of just seeing my Bible on the nightstand, letting it remind me of how much I loved Jesus, but I thought I didn’t have time to read. Just because I had a Bible in my house, that didn’t mean I was absorbing God’s holy wisdom and learning to use it is ways that drew my children to His feet. Did they know Jesus? Yes. We talked about God, but were they learning to depend on Him for every need as they grew a strong walk with Him? There’s a massive gap between children knowing mom and dad love and follow Christ and hearing their words of wisdom to train them versus seeing mom and dad live a maturing faith moment by moment and instilling God’s morals and truths to build a lifetime of trust and obedience to Christ and build their identity through Him. The tricky part is that I thought I was building that faith and trust in Christ. I’ve learned that without a purposed plan to raise each child in the truths of the gospel and the joy of the Lord, you are building your house on shifting sand. Matthew 7:24-26 says, “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand .” When my kids were raised and my husband and I knew God was calling us to begin a second round of parenting with our baby girl from China, I felt the sting of repentant, godly remorse. Our Heavenly Father was speaking to my heart, telling me He had plans far different for this child than I ever imagined when I became a first time mom at eighteen. When He placed a desire within my husband and me to raise a baby after our first set of children were out of the house, I knew He had a purpose I had yet to understand. Growing up, I never even wanted children. Now I knew God was calling us to begin a second generation of parenting. My husband and I shared very specific desires and goals for what we would do the same and what we would do differently. We assessed our first parenting years in the ways we believed God’s eyes and heart would, then considered and prayed about what grieved and pleased Him. Our new baby would purposely see our faith and Jesus through our words, actions, reactions, desires, and deeds. We were committed to consistently raising her in ways that we prayerfully believed would delight the Lord as we sought and depended on Him. Exodus 20:12 says, “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you .” How can your children honor God if they don’t see you making that choice. As a parent models humble submission, love, and obedience to God, a natural extension of your child’s blossoming walk with God will be obedience and love toward you. We deeply desired our daughter to love God first through a relationship with Jesus, then we knew she would love and respect us, as well. In my Set-Apart Collective, I teach mothers a Motherhood Mindset Model and how to construct a Purposed Parenting Plan much like the one we created that enables them to parent and live with godly purpose and take thoughts and actions captive for Christ as they model the way for their children to do the same. Do you feel areas of godly parenting remorse? Whether you are a long time or new parent, you will never feel you have every aspect of parenting down. Even if your ego tells you how well you are doing, unless you are purposed in mentoring a lifetime of love and obedience to Christ in tangible ways that draw your child to Him and training your child how to live for Jesus, your parenting is in vain. The child in your care is on loan. The God who created the heavens and earth and knitted your child together in secret with a purposed plan for their life has entrusted that child to your care to raise for Him. Are you up to the task? What are ways you can embrace being an imperfect parent without staying there? Knowing God entrusted His children to your care, you must remember that He didn’t haphazardly choose you or your child. With loving, trusting intentions, He placed you and each child you parent with you. Of course He knows you’re not able to raise children without Him. He is calling for you to give Him the sovereign place He deserves and allow Him to protect and provide moment by moment as you call out to Him. As you know, Adam and Eve were the first parents. They were also the first imperfect parents. You and I come from a very long line of imperfect caregivers. No one is able to raise children as God would call without reliance on Him in every aspect of the journey. The Bible recounts story after story offering examples of imperfect parenting and children who neglected to follow or obey God. In fact, Adam and Eve were the first disobedient children and they actually did have a perfect Father. Two imperfect parents did happen to raise a perfect Son, Jesus. No doubt, Mary and Joseph knew Jesus was special, but they were human. They would not know how to rear a child to become the Savior of the World, even if they had known God’s plan. God, in His goodness knew their hearts when He chose them. God knew the plan and purpose Jesus carried. God, in His Sovereignty chose the exact parents for Jesus to be raised by, knowing they would obediently, yet imperfectly choose to honor God and raise their Son for Him. God carried, guided, and guarded. You and I don’t know the plans God has for our children. We don’t know the eternal purpose they have on this earth. But it is through our God-given authority that we must prayerfully and humbly seek God’s arms to carry us moment by moment to raise His children for Him. Just as Jesus replied in Luke 2:49 which says, “Why were you searching for me?” He asked. “Didn’t you know I had to be in my Father’s house ,” you and I must constantly, prayerfully, and humbly be about our Heavenly Father’s business and show our children how to do the same in their life. This world doesn’t honor the gift of motherhood through eyes like God. The heart of the world doesn’t beat for mothers staying home with children. It doesn’t know the value of a mother working a long day at work to provide for her children, then praise that mother for intentionally finding a way every evening to draw the hearts of her children to the feet of Jesus. As a mother rests in the arms of God, she mentors the way to Christ for her children instead of ignorantly or accidentally teaching the ways of the world. Your sacrifice, obedience, prayers, Scriptural teachings, and godly actions taken moment by moment will be the seeds God will use to harvest in His time. To prepare the soil of your child’s heart for teachings to take root for God, there are important steps purposed mothers and fathers must take. 1. Realize that you are not enough. Praise God! You’re not meant to be. 2 Corinthians 3:5 says, “Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God .” God waits to carry you. His desire is to breathe Truth and light into your life and family. Place Him at the center of your family. 2. Become closer to God through a maturing relationship with Christ. It’s one thing to love God. It’s different to have communion with Him through Jesus. John 14:6 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. If you really know Me, you will know My Father as well. From now on, you do know Him and have seen Him .” 3. Know and love your spouse and children through eyes and heart like God. To do that, you must first know and follow the Lord in humble obedience. John 13:34 says, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another .” 4. Put God first, then spouse, then children, then work. Deuteronomy 6:5 says, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength .” 5. Humbly honor God by reading or listening to His Word. Share His Word regularly, both individually and as a family. Speak truths to others, share the gospel, but also live in ways that show you follow Christ and give Him honor when people talk to you about the differences they see in you. Teach your child to pray and talk to God. Let your children hear you pray for them and ask them to pray for you. Pray together as a family daily. People often say they don’t have time, but I have found that when you place God first, you find you discover more time for Him. Proverbs 15:29 says, “The Lord is far from the wicked, but he hears the prayer of the righteous. ” 6. Let your child hear you bring God into daily conversations. Whether you’re in nature, at the store, in the car, in conversation, invite God in. Showcase God’s work in the events you are experiencing and help them form biblical critical thinking skills early in life. Set the groundwork for this process and see their skills grow as they do. Hebrews 11:6 says, “But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him .” 7. Teach God’s Truths and let your child see you live those truths with joy , not simply preach God’s Word to them. Isaiah 54:13 says, “All your children will be taught by the LORD, and great will be their peace .” 8. Parent with God-honoring authority, humility, and grace. Ask God to guide and guard your mind, heart, family, and decisions. Matthew 19:14 says, “Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these .” This verse will pertain to your children, whether young or grown. It’s never to late to mentor a life that honors Christ for your child to see and learn from. I urge you to make time to assess your parenting . Assess your relationship with Christ. You may be like I was the first time I parented. Without knowing it, I was training my children to love Jesus, but rely more on self. Although we discussed Christ and knew we loved Him as Savior, looking back, moments weren’t held captive for Christ. Days slipped by without godly over good parenting to mold and shape my children into the image of Christ. Ask God to show you the way to His heart. Ask Him to guide your mind to think as His does and to show you how to reach the minds of your children for Him. Know that as you inhale Christ, you are able to exhale Him for others to breathe. Deepen and widen the roots of your maturity through relationship with Jesus and watch God work as only He can as you ask him to carry you. Dear Heavenly Father, there is none like You. How merciful and loving You are to seek us and never let us out of Your firm grasp. Through Jesus we know we have eternal life and that nothing can pluck us from Your mighty hand. How we need You! In our wisdom we sometimes think we are following You without knowing how far we begin to stray. Father, keep us near. Draw us closer when You see us begin to wander. Don’t let us rely on worldly wisdom or fleshly thoughts. Take our minds captive for Christ and allow us to see with Your eyes and feel with Your heart. We want to parent for You! We want to see the results of children raised to know, love, and honor You. May we be able to proclaim Your mighty works and show others the way to trust Your guidance in parenting. Help our children lead the next generation in deeper faith in You and a holy obedience. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. There’s so much more to dig into on this topic. If you find you’d like more information, please let me know. Send your questions and requests to info@terrihitt.com . Supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. I believe godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. That’s why I’ve created the Set-Apart Collective. Have you decided peers and culture won’t be the main influence over your child? Would you like to parent to prepare your child for eternity with Christ, not to repair a relationship? In the Set-Apart Collective, you will deepen your walk with Christ, learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family. The Set-Apart Collective wait list is open now. The first group of women is currently growing together. Please send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. If you connected in some way with this episode, would you please rate and review the podcast on Apple or Spotify? It only takes a minute or so and makes a big difference in people finding the podcast. You and I know that the best reviews are by word of mouth, so would you please choose a friend to recommend the show to? Let them know that the podcast is found at terrihitt.com, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify. Imagine the change we will see in the way mothers parent for Christ if they learn to be intentional, too. Remember, if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection. Previous Next

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< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast - Episode 039 - How to Stop, Breathe, and Live Simply Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast God has given me a desire to help you mature your relationship with Christ so you’ll raise set-apart children for Jesus. Today we’ll look at another way to be purposed in connecting with your child and Christ. Episode #039 – How to Stop, Breathe, and Live Simply Yesterday my middle daughter and I went to the bank late in the afternoon. As we waited in the drive-through, I looked at her and asked, “When we finished here, do you want to go to the park and swing?” Her eyes lit up like they did when she was 6 years old and I would ask the same question. “Really?” she asked. “Yes!” I replied quickly. We had so much fun. We swinged with our legs in sync with each other, pumped as hard and high as we could go, and twisted the swings sideways, twisting the chains tightly, then letting go and getting dizzy as we unwound. We had the park to ourselves and we reveled in the simple sweetness of spending time together outside with absolutely no cares. I have always stated that people would be happier and exhibit more joy if they took time to be in nature and enjoy activities like swinging and coloring. We left when children arrived with their mother, allowing them to take control of the swings, but that time we had alone in the park brought back such sweet memories of the many, many times we spent there as my girl grew up. Just as with other “last times” in our lives, I never knew the last time I took her to that park would be the final time she would run and play with the carefree life of a young girl. It felt so good to go back and enjoy that feeling together. When is the last time you took time to stop, breathe, and live simply? How regularly do you step outside to listen to the birds sing? Have you recently explored wooded trails or searched for insects to study in your backyard? Being so connected to nature is one of the ways to connect closer to God. I believe being outside allows our mind to connect with His love, creativity, passions, and longings. Our muscles unwind and relax, and out attitudes become softer. After all, we were created to be outdoors attuned to His creation. Philippians 4:12 says, “ I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want .” Sharing time in nature with our children, no matter their age, brings connection. Chores and jobs cease to exist for a time. Problems or concerns drift away as we experience freedom and fullness. Of course, you create connection with your child with any activity you do. There is just something special about fueling your body in nature. Spending time surrounded by the creations of God together, recognizing Him and His glory simply adds a special bond and beauty to your relationship. If you are a regular listener of this podcast or the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast, I have explained in previous episodes that I am taking time to fully enjoy summer. I plan to rerun some popular podcasts and create shorter new ones. It is my hope that you are outside with your family or are spending time relaxing and living simply with them. I hope you are allowing yourself to build what needs to be completed and are stopping to breathe in the sweet time you have with those closest to you and those you wish to be closer to. Make the time. Stop and enjoy life. Enjoy nature. Enjoy each other and praise the Fahter.You will be glad you did. Dear Heavenly Father, You are the One we need to make the most time for. You alone are the One who complete us, who created us for a purpose at this very time. We thank you for the gift of life and the gift of Christ. Help us to seek Him daily and allow a transformation of our soul to match His with a clarity seen by those around us. Please carry us and allow us to shine in new ways daily because we so clearly reflect You. Help us to make the time to pursue You and to show You clearly to our children. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” podcast. This summer the episodes will be shorter and I may occasionally offer favorite replays as I spend time with my family and follow a special collective I believe God is calling me to complete for Him. Remember, this podcast, and the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast, may be found at terrihitt.com, Apple Podcasts, iHeart Radio, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts may also now be found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? Did you know that when you review my podcasts on Apple, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcasts online so that more people are allowed to find and hear them. Will you please take a moment to follow the shows and think of someone you can share the podcasts with and encourage them to follow and share, as well? Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway them away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Parent and Connect With Eternal Perspective. Previous Next

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #090 – Ignite the Fire of Learning with Sheila Carroll – Part 2 Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Welcome back to the podcast this week. I pray you listened to Part 1 of my interview with Sheila Carroll last week. It was a wonderful introduction to Sheila and the insight God has given her into education. If you haven’t yet listened, please do so before you hear Part 2. If you’ve already heard Part 1, we are about to press in and learn some very useful tips that will help to ignite the fire of learning in your child and perhaps fan the flames for you as you are better equipped to trust the Lord to guide and provide for you in this precious journey we call home education. ----------------------------------------------- INTERVIEW --------------------------------------------------- Are you better equipped to home educate your child after hearing these episodes with Sheila? I pray God allowed you to hear the exact words you need to hear to take action in new ways or use encouragement offered to stay the course set before you. If you are in a season of life where you are teaching your child from home, rejoice! God is present. He is with you. He knows exactly what style of teaching you prefer, He knows exactly how each of your children are wired, and He desires simple obedience and trust from you, coupled with humility to seek Him in all ways to enable Him to work through each of you in ways you have not yet discovered. Homeschooling is one of the best blessings of my life. God has worked in numerous ways over the years I have stepped into the role of home educator. He has much more work to do, but He has been present every step of the way, going before us as I seek Him with a humble and ready heart. My children and I would not have the same relationship if I had chosen another method of education for them. I would not trade one hard or easy second of sacrifice, tears, laughter, love, or passion. I hope you will prayerfully consider the work God desires to do in your home and through you and your children. I invite you to join me next week as we begin another interview that is sure to bless and encourage, as well as uplift your spirits as you continue purposely teaching your children from home. Remember that what we are doing is holy work, ultimately purposed for the Lord and the blessings of homeschooling reaches well into the eternal heart and mindset of each of our children. Father God, You are precious to us. You are holy and sovereign. It is no mistake that we are educating our children from home for such a time as this. Father, protect our home. Protect our children. Culture attempts to sway and distract, it steals the joy and innocence of our children. It attempts to rob us of the purpose You have set in each of us. Father, we need You so much! Please ignite the passion of following Your beautifully set plans for us. Please ignite the joy of teaching as You light the joy of learning in our children. You alone hold the key. You know how we are made and how we think as mothers. You have hand-crafted each child we have the opportunity to teach, raise, or influence. We thank You for the mighty blessings and opportunities You have put before us. Make us able. Give us Your hope, trust, faith, and abilities to create and sustain or grow a healthy environment and atmosphere at home where we are joyous and insightful as we teach, and our children are joyous and blessed to be home. Help us remember to set You first and allow You to ignite a passion for You in our children. May they seek You, find You, and serve You well and with purpose and influence established by You. We thank You, Father for all You have set before us and the ways we will watch You work. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. I truly hope this interview series with Sheila uplifted and encouraged you as you find new ways to seek God, bring glory to Him as you raise and teach your children, and better equip you to run the race God is entrusting to you as you educate your child at home. Homeschooling is a long-distance race, not a sprint. As we seek God, rely on Him with a humble heart, and set a philosophy of education inspired by Him, we will find success in His eyes and experience a full and rich relationship with our Father and the precious children He has entrusted to us. Do not seek perfection, but seek Him, and love your children well as you discover the passions and purposes set inside them. Find ways to reach the love of learning God has instilled in them individually. Learn and teach in His strength, not your own. You may connect with Sheila online in the following ways: www.livingbookscurriculum.com www.charlottemasonhomeschooling.com www.sheilacarroll.com I invite you to listen next week when I introduce another wonderful leader in home education. I pray you find additional encouragement and desire to continue on your journey at home with your children as God leads the way. Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 090 - Ignite the Fire of Learning with Sheila Carroll - Part 2 Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #090 – Ignite the Fire of Learning with Sheila Carroll – Part 2 Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Welcome back to the podcast this week. I pray you listened to Part 1 of my interview with Sheila Carroll last week. It was a wonderful introduction to Sheila and the insight God has given her into education. If you haven’t yet listened, please do so before you hear Part 2. If you’ve already heard Part 1, we are about to press in and learn some very useful tips that will help to ignite the fire of learning in your child and perhaps fan the flames for you as you are better equipped to trust the Lord to guide and provide for you in this precious journey we call home education. ----------------------------------------------- INTERVIEW --------------------------------------------------- Are you better equipped to home educate your child after hearing these episodes with Sheila? I pray God allowed you to hear the exact words you need to hear to take action in new ways or use encouragement offered to stay the course set before you. If you are in a season of life where you are teaching your child from home, rejoice! God is present. He is with you. He knows exactly what style of teaching you prefer, He knows exactly how each of your children are wired, and He desires simple obedience and trust from you, coupled with humility to seek Him in all ways to enable Him to work through each of you in ways you have not yet discovered. Homeschooling is one of the best blessings of my life. God has worked in numerous ways over the years I have stepped into the role of home educator. He has much more work to do, but He has been present every step of the way, going before us as I seek Him with a humble and ready heart. My children and I would not have the same relationship if I had chosen another method of education for them. I would not trade one hard or easy second of sacrifice, tears, laughter, love, or passion. I hope you will prayerfully consider the work God desires to do in your home and through you and your children. I invite you to join me next week as we begin another interview that is sure to bless and encourage, as well as uplift your spirits as you continue purposely teaching your children from home. Remember that what we are doing is holy work, ultimately purposed for the Lord and the blessings of homeschooling reaches well into the eternal heart and mindset of each of our children. Father God, You are precious to us. You are holy and sovereign. It is no mistake that we are educating our children from home for such a time as this. Father, protect our home. Protect our children. Culture attempts to sway and distract, it steals the joy and innocence of our children. It attempts to rob us of the purpose You have set in each of us. Father, we need You so much! Please ignite the passion of following Your beautifully set plans for us. Please ignite the joy of teaching as You light the joy of learning in our children. You alone hold the key. You know how we are made and how we think as mothers. You have hand-crafted each child we have the opportunity to teach, raise, or influence. We thank You for the mighty blessings and opportunities You have put before us. Make us able. Give us Your hope, trust, faith, and abilities to create and sustain or grow a healthy environment and atmosphere at home where we are joyous and insightful as we teach, and our children are joyous and blessed to be home. Help us remember to set You first and allow You to ignite a passion for You in our children. May they seek You, find You, and serve You well and with purpose and influence established by You. We thank You, Father for all You have set before us and the ways we will watch You work. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. I truly hope this interview series with Sheila uplifted and encouraged you as you find new ways to seek God, bring glory to Him as you raise and teach your children, and better equip you to run the race God is entrusting to you as you educate your child at home. Homeschooling is a long-distance race, not a sprint. As we seek God, rely on Him with a humble heart, and set a philosophy of education inspired by Him, we will find success in His eyes and experience a full and rich relationship with our Father and the precious children He has entrusted to us. Do not seek perfection, but seek Him, and love your children well as you discover the passions and purposes set inside them. Find ways to reach the love of learning God has instilled in them individually. Learn and teach in His strength, not your own. You may connect with Sheila online in the following ways: www.livingbookscurriculum.com www.charlottemasonhomeschooling.com www.sheilacarroll.com I invite you to listen next week when I introduce another wonderful leader in home education. I pray you find additional encouragement and desire to continue on your journey at home with your children as God leads the way. Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. http://www.livingbookscurriculum.com http://www.charlottemasonhomeschooling.com http://www.sheilacarroll.com

Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #006 – What Defines Me Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. In a world where there is confusion about life, death, and eternity, knowing what and why we believe what we do is vitally and eternally important. Why? Because I have to know my beliefs before I can live them. I suspect that most people listening to this podcast are already following Christ and enjoy listening to words of praise, inspiration, and encouragement to deepen their walk with Jesus. However, I can’t ignore the command in my spirit that leads me to clarify exactly what following Christ means. I don’t know for sure who may hear this podcast and I need to obediently follow what I believe the Holy Spirit is prompting me to share. Are you like me? I love to learn. I instinctively ask so many questions that close friends and family members joke about me. I found digging a little deeper into the terms Christian and Christianity interesting. Have you ever looked up the definition of the word, “Christian?” I never had before. I didn’t need to. As a believer, I know what the term means, but I decided to look. As a noun, the dictionary definition states that a Christian is “a person who has received Christian baptism or is a believer in Christianity.” I will come back to this. As an adjective, it means “relating to or professing Christianity or its teachings.” So of course, I looked up, “Christianity.” The dictionary states that Christianity is “the religion founded on the teachings of Jesus Christ.” The Hebrew and Greek definitions of Christian mean, “Follower of Christ.” The word “Christ” is the root word of “Christian” and is defined as “the Messiah or anointed One, referring to Jesus Christ.” Next, I reflected on the difference between the dictionary definition and what the Bible shows that the word, “Christian” means. Of course, there may be more entries, but I found the term Christian used in Acts 11:26, Acts 26:28, and 1 Peter 4:16. What caught my attention as the most telling is just one of those passages. Why? Because it reflects the way many people live today. Acts 26:28 says, “Then Agrippa said to Paul, “You almost persuade me to become a Christian.” Although King Agrippa heard Paul relay his astonishing personal testimony of the truth of his conversion to following Jesus, he would not allow himself to be humbled enough to declare Christ as King. Many of us live the same way. Each of us needs to ask ourselves an important question. Have I let the truth of Jesus penetrate my heart? The gospel changes lives. It opens eyes and alters hearts and mindsets. It changes families and communities. It forces each of us to face behaviors and beliefs that are uncomfortable. Almost everyone dislikes change. We don’t want to be told what to do. We think we have control or we think we have time. The power and truth of the gospel moves people from living in darkness under the power of Satan and places us in the powerful, loving light of Jesus. It provides hope and secures our future if we choose to let Jesus penetrate our hearts and lives. If we think we are walking with Jesus and our life has not changed, we need to reassess our relationship. No one can face the truth of Christ, study His word and life, and remain unchanged. Hebrews 4:12 tells us, “For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” If we don’t know Jesus as our personal Savior, those words can be threatening and frightening. Because I‘ve already submitted to Jesus as the Lord of my life, I find the words promising, as well as a beautiful safeguard that will continue to grow and mold me in the proper ways, ensuring that I become more pleasing to God the more that I pursue Him and allow Him to work in and through me. The needed transformation took place in my life after I understood that I am a sinner who needed Jesus. I spoke a simple, yet very heartfelt prayer confessing to the Lord that I knew I had broken His laws and that sin separated me from Him. I repented and asked for forgiveness. I professed my knowledge and belief that Jesus, God’s Holy Son, died as my substitute. I thanked Jesus for forgiving me and cleansing me from unrighteousness. I invited Jesus to take control of my life and I asked Him to change me and enable me to live the way He desires. I accepted His promise of sending the Holy Spirit to reside in, and transform me, to be more and more like Him each day. I thanked Him for his sacrifice for me. If you need to ask Jesus into your life, please feel free to use what I prayed as a template for your own prayer. It shows that all you need is a simple, yet heart-felt prayer. I am also listing a few key verses that you can read to reference for more insight before you pray. Romans 3:23, Romans 6:23, Romans 5:8, I John 1:9, Romans 10:9-10, Romans 10:13 A Christian is someone saved by the grace of Jesus and has accepted His gift as I stated in the example of my own prayer. Simply praying the prayer won’t get you into heaven, but it combined with the heart knowledge and desire to truly follow Jesus because you repent and confess your need for Him and acknowledge His merciful act of grace through dying as a substitute for your sin does. At the beginning of this episode, I stated that the dictionary defines a Christian as “a person who has received Christian baptism or is a believer in Christianity.” The truth is that baptism is the way we publicly show we have accepted Jesus as our Savior. It is an act of obedience that should follow our heart change for Christ and should be done as soon as possible after salvation. Although the Holy Spirit comes to reside in us immediately, it definitely takes intentional effort on our part daily to ensure that our walk with the Lord continues to deepen and grow. He is faithful, but we are not. Just as with any relationship, we have to want it to flourish. Spending time deepening our walk with God is the best investment we can make for not only ourselves, but for our family. I know that as a follower of Jesus I can call myself a Christian only after I have accepted Him as my Lord and Savior. Simply believing in and loving God or praying to Him did not make me a Christian. I lived until my early twenties under that mistaken assumption. Jesus tells us clearly in John 14:6, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” What I am stating is not my opinion; it is fact from God’s Holy word. Jesus makes the way to heaven very clear. Also, don’t be deceived into following religions that are act-based. Instead, build a relationship with the only One who can save you from unrighteousness. 1 John 4:15 states, “If anyone confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God.” God, Jesus the Son, and the Holy Spirit all participate in the salvation experience. God, the Father sent His Son as a substitute for us, allowing us a glimpse of His eternal love. The Holy Spirit indwells the believer. Jesus is the Truth, the Hope, and the Message for this world. He is the Savior each of us needs, whether we understand it yet or not. Why do I believe this? The Bible tells us. I yearn for all to know and experience His truth and loving care through salvation. What a different world we would reside in if only hearts would be softened to Him. Satan’s power to deceive and the pride of too many cause a blindness that kills and destroys. Do you know Jesus and have a personal relationship with Him? The second half of the dictionary definition of Christian states, “a believer in Christianity.” Just saying that you believe in Jesus does not make you a Christian. We must commit to Him and release control of our life to Him, as I said earlier in the example of what I prayed. Make sure that your eternal future is securely in His hands. God is so good to give us free will. I think that would be so difficult to do! God created each of us uniquely and intentionally. Instead of forcing us to acknowledge and love Him, He allows us to choose what we believe and what and who we will follow in this life. He allows us to choose whatever religion we desire. I actually dislike the word, religion, but treasure knowing that I have a relationship. My walk with God through Jesus is entirely relationship-based. I believe what the Bible states and I acknowledge the remarkable difference in my life through my attitude, thoughts, desires, and actions since I have come to know Jesus as my Savior and continue to mature in Him. I have learned through experience that what the Bible says is living and true. Jesus is alive and active in my life. Is He alive in yours? Another very important point I must raise in this episode is life after salvation. So, we pray a prayer asking Jesus to lead our life. What happens next? Unfortunately, this is where many people trip in their walk. I know I had wonderful intentions after choosing to follow Jesus. I made the mistake of following people, not Jesus. After they let me down, I faltered in knowing what to do next. I didn’t get the right discipleship needed to learn about Jesus and correctly grow my relationship. It took longer for me to understand and know Him deeply, and to release proper access to my life than it should have. If you are a new Christian, please do not hesitate to reach out for support to know the next steps to fully develop your understanding of Jesus. There is nothing magical or mysterious about following Jesus. It is actually incredibly simple. Jesus desires us to have the faith of a child. We just need to acknowledge our need for Him, accept His grace, and confess Him as the Lord of our life. The hardest part is afterwards. We have to work at the relationship like any other, and it is the most important one we will ever have. The fact that the gospel, the way to salvation through Christ is so uncomplicated, sometimes allows people to question whether they actually belong to Jesus and will live for eternity in heaven with Him one day. I will list a few Bible verses that I hope will reassure anyone who questions their future or might need to reevaluate whether they have entered into a relationship with Jesus. Revelation 3:20, John 10:27-28, Romans 8:38-39, 1 John 5:10-13, Matthew 10:32, Luke 12:8, and Ephesians 2:8-9, which is my favorite. It states, “For by grace you have been saved by faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.” Beyond the reassurances of scripture, the most effective way of ensuring our eternal walk with Jesus is secure is through the works He produces through us. A Christian lives and exhibits a changed life. God creates a good work in believers. Philippians 1:6 says, “being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ.” Are you changing daily, becoming more Christ-like? Colossians 1:9b-11 says, “filled with the knowledge of His will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding; that you may walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing Him, being fruitful in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God; strengthened with all might, according to His glorious power, for all patience and longsuffering with joy.” As believers, we are filled with knowledge and spiritual understanding by immersing ourselves in and studying God’s word and by keeping open communication with Him through prayer. Because of the Holy Spirit inside us, we are able to better discern God’s will. Wisdom and understanding can only come from the Lord and by following Him through a deepening relationship. The more intimately we know and understand God and His word; we will produce fruit for Him as we gain knowledge and grow in Him. We also gain fruits of the Spirit from Him. Instead of desiring and partaking in sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these, we possess and exhibit love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. We persevere through trials as He carries us because we trust in Him. We praise Him in deeper ways because we understand He has plans for good and not to harm us. We believe the good He has for us is not strictly ours, but is the best for all as He intricately weaves lives and His glorious plans. We walk in faith, share the gospel, and help others to live lives that reflect Christ. We look at our present and future through the lens of eternal perspective and live in ways that exemplify His truths and in doing so, it is not a burden, but a joy. Here are several questions that are necessary to review if we have accepted Christ as our Savior and want to continue growing and shining for Him. 1. Do I intentionally and joyfully spend time in prayer throughout each day? Are my prayers living and breathing extensions of my thoughts and life as I raise my heart to God with gratitude before requests? God already knows us, but He desires intimacy, as well as honor in our lives. 2. Do I spend time in God’s word through reading my Bible each day? Podcasts, inspirational stories and blogs, etc. are wonderful ways to be encouraged and taught, but the most effective way to grow and deepen our walk is through consistent, personal time in His Holy word. 3. Do I place my spiritual growth behind more pressing duties in my life? God must be a priority. We know we make time for what we declare is important. 4. What are my first thoughts and desires when I awaken each morning? What about my last thoughts when I go to sleep? Make it a habit to talk to God as you go to sleep and to awaken with gratitude in your heart and on your lips as you start the day. Ask Him to guide and time your day. Ask Him to shine through you in every encounter. Ask for His patience, His love, whatever you know is lacking. Pray for the person who bad mouths you or the child bullying your son or daughter. Ask God to give you a heart for them, and to give them a heart for Him. Allow the Holy Spirit to transform you. 5. Do I feel true joy in my life? Two important fruits of the Spirit we receive from walking with Jesus is pure joy and peace despite circumstances. Psalm 94:19 says, “In the multitude of my anxieties within me, Your comfort delights my soul.” 6. Have I found a Bible-believing church to mentor and encourage me or to invest in others? Am I using the gifts God has given me for Him? In order for my family and friends to know my beliefs, I have to live them. If they are not clear to me, they will be clear to no one else. We must take time to reflect on our life. 1. If I am in a relationship or have children they will not be positively influenced by me in eternal ways if I am not intentionally allowing the Lord to work through me. 2. Do my words reflect my beliefs and desire to grow in Jesus? 3. Do my actions reflect my beliefs and desire to grow in Jesus? 4. Am I allowing God to alter my thoughts? My thoughts reflect my words, attitude, and actions. Do I submit to them or to the Lord? 5. My emotions, attitude, words, and actions influence and affect my loved ones daily. Do I attract or repel them and others to the Lord? How does the world see me? Is my life authentic? Do I project a false image? Do I exude warmth? Do I come across as stand-offish? Am I kind or rude? Would others be attracted to Christ because they see Him in me? What I think about myself will affect how others see me and how they view Christ. Where do I find my worth? Jeremiah 1:5a says, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you.” Ephesians 1:4-5 says, “Just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love, having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will.” Psalm 27:10 says, “When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take care of me.” What are my strengths? Do I praise God for these qualities? Do I acknowledge that they are from Him and use them for Him? What are my weaknesses? Am I thankful that I have weaknesses that force me to rely on God? Do I ask God to strengthen these areas so that I may honor Him? Do I allow other people or circumstances to affect or influence my mindset and actions? Two verses beautifully instruct us in this area. Romans 12:2 says, “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” The other verse is Ephesians 5:1-2, “Therefore, be imitators of God as dear children. And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma.” When we yield to the Holy Spirit, we inherit daily change. Our relationship with Christ becomes experiential. He penetrates and alters our attitude, thoughts, and actions. He regulates our emotions and erases fears. We are no longer “in the body of Christ." We are living for Christ. We don’t just “identify” with Christ; we abide in and fellowship with Him. When we are tempted to become angry or hurt, or a variety of other emotions, we rely on Christ within us to enable our reaction to be what He desires, instead of allowing our fleshly responses to control us. Is this easy? Not always. We are human. But God is not. We must rely on His strength. God is able to do above and beyond what we can conceive. As we yield to Him, He modifies our instinctive responses and creates something new and beautiful within us. When we fail to respond in the ways that please Him, we repent and lean closer in reliance on Him. Philippians 4:8 offers sound advice for yielding to the life God desires for us. “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy – meditate on these things.” Finally, a last set of ways to evaluate and discern the way we live. 1. What would others say defines me: Jesus or the world? What would my family say? 2. Which exposes my life focus as shown through my daily habits (Jesus or the world)? 3. What am I willing to do in order to change this definition of my current lifestyle? 4. Do I submit to advertisements that show me what to desire and how to live? 5. Are my values dictated more by social media or friends, rather than God? 6. What are my last actions before bed and my first actions upon awakening? 7. Do I rely more on God or myself throughout each day? 8. How have I reflected Jesus to others? 9. Am I embarrassed for others to know I follow Him? 10. Have I stepped out in faith and obedience where God has asked me to? 11. Do I have the same peace, joy, and hope through both good and difficult times? After a life conversion to follow Christ, we will not exhibit all of the above qualities immediately. It takes time to grow in our faith and dependence on God. The key is to immediately begin cultivating our trust through the ways already stated. As we pursue Him, He allows wisdom, knowledge, and understanding to flow into our lives. As we draw near to Him, He draws near to us. Ephesians 5:8-10 says, “For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness, and truth), and find out what pleases the Lord.” Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 006 What Defines Me Listen to Episode Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #006 – What Defines Me Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. In a world where there is confusion about life, death, and eternity, knowing what and why we believe what we do is vitally and eternally important. Why? Because I have to know my beliefs before I can live them. I suspect that most people listening to this podcast are already following Christ and enjoy listening to words of praise, inspiration, and encouragement to deepen their walk with Jesus. However, I can’t ignore the command in my spirit that leads me to clarify exactly what following Christ means. I don’t know for sure who may hear this podcast and I need to obediently follow what I believe the Holy Spirit is prompting me to share. Are you like me? I love to learn. I instinctively ask so many questions that close friends and family members joke about me. I found digging a little deeper into the terms Christian and Christianity interesting. Have you ever looked up the definition of the word, “Christian?” I never had before. I didn’t need to. As a believer, I know what the term means, but I decided to look. As a noun, the dictionary definition states that a Christian is “a person who has received Christian baptism or is a believer in Christianity.” I will come back to this. As an adjective, it means “relating to or professing Christianity or its teachings.” So of course, I looked up, “Christianity.” The dictionary states that Christianity is “the religion founded on the teachings of Jesus Christ.” The Hebrew and Greek definitions of Christian mean, “Follower of Christ.” The word “Christ” is the root word of “Christian” and is defined as “the Messiah or anointed One, referring to Jesus Christ.” Next, I reflected on the difference between the dictionary definition and what the Bible shows that the word, “Christian” means. Of course, there may be more entries, but I found the term Christian used in Acts 11:26, Acts 26:28, and 1 Peter 4:16. What caught my attention as the most telling is just one of those passages. Why? Because it reflects the way many people live today. Acts 26:28 says, “Then Agrippa said to Paul, “You almost persuade me to become a Christian.” Although King Agrippa heard Paul relay his astonishing personal testimony of the truth of his conversion to following Jesus, he would not allow himself to be humbled enough to declare Christ as King. Many of us live the same way. Each of us needs to ask ourselves an important question. Have I let the truth of Jesus penetrate my heart? The gospel changes lives. It opens eyes and alters hearts and mindsets. It changes families and communities. It forces each of us to face behaviors and beliefs that are uncomfortable. Almost everyone dislikes change. We don’t want to be told what to do. We think we have control or we think we have time. The power and truth of the gospel moves people from living in darkness under the power of Satan and places us in the powerful, loving light of Jesus. It provides hope and secures our future if we choose to let Jesus penetrate our hearts and lives. If we think we are walking with Jesus and our life has not changed, we need to reassess our relationship. No one can face the truth of Christ, study His word and life, and remain unchanged. Hebrews 4:12 tells us, “For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” If we don’t know Jesus as our personal Savior, those words can be threatening and frightening. Because I‘ve already submitted to Jesus as the Lord of my life, I find the words promising, as well as a beautiful safeguard that will continue to grow and mold me in the proper ways, ensuring that I become more pleasing to God the more that I pursue Him and allow Him to work in and through me. The needed transformation took place in my life after I understood that I am a sinner who needed Jesus. I spoke a simple, yet very heartfelt prayer confessing to the Lord that I knew I had broken His laws and that sin separated me from Him. I repented and asked for forgiveness. I professed my knowledge and belief that Jesus, God’s Holy Son, died as my substitute. I thanked Jesus for forgiving me and cleansing me from unrighteousness. I invited Jesus to take control of my life and I asked Him to change me and enable me to live the way He desires. I accepted His promise of sending the Holy Spirit to reside in, and transform me, to be more and more like Him each day. I thanked Him for his sacrifice for me. If you need to ask Jesus into your life, please feel free to use what I prayed as a template for your own prayer. It shows that all you need is a simple, yet heart-felt prayer. I am also listing a few key verses that you can read to reference for more insight before you pray. Romans 3:23, Romans 6:23, Romans 5:8, I John 1:9, Romans 10:9-10, Romans 10:13 A Christian is someone saved by the grace of Jesus and has accepted His gift as I stated in the example of my own prayer. Simply praying the prayer won’t get you into heaven, but it combined with the heart knowledge and desire to truly follow Jesus because you repent and confess your need for Him and acknowledge His merciful act of grace through dying as a substitute for your sin does. At the beginning of this episode, I stated that the dictionary defines a Christian as “a person who has received Christian baptism or is a believer in Christianity.” The truth is that baptism is the way we publicly show we have accepted Jesus as our Savior. It is an act of obedience that should follow our heart change for Christ and should be done as soon as possible after salvation. Although the Holy Spirit comes to reside in us immediately, it definitely takes intentional effort on our part daily to ensure that our walk with the Lord continues to deepen and grow. He is faithful, but we are not. Just as with any relationship, we have to want it to flourish. Spending time deepening our walk with God is the best investment we can make for not only ourselves, but for our family. I know that as a follower of Jesus I can call myself a Christian only after I have accepted Him as my Lord and Savior. Simply believing in and loving God or praying to Him did not make me a Christian. I lived until my early twenties under that mistaken assumption. Jesus tells us clearly in John 14:6, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” What I am stating is not my opinion; it is fact from God’s Holy word. Jesus makes the way to heaven very clear. Also, don’t be deceived into following religions that are act-based. Instead, build a relationship with the only One who can save you from unrighteousness. 1 John 4:15 states, “If anyone confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God.” God, Jesus the Son, and the Holy Spirit all participate in the salvation experience. God, the Father sent His Son as a substitute for us, allowing us a glimpse of His eternal love. The Holy Spirit indwells the believer. Jesus is the Truth, the Hope, and the Message for this world. He is the Savior each of us needs, whether we understand it yet or not. Why do I believe this? The Bible tells us. I yearn for all to know and experience His truth and loving care through salvation. What a different world we would reside in if only hearts would be softened to Him. Satan’s power to deceive and the pride of too many cause a blindness that kills and destroys. Do you know Jesus and have a personal relationship with Him? The second half of the dictionary definition of Christian states, “a believer in Christianity.” Just saying that you believe in Jesus does not make you a Christian. We must commit to Him and release control of our life to Him, as I said earlier in the example of what I prayed. Make sure that your eternal future is securely in His hands. God is so good to give us free will. I think that would be so difficult to do! God created each of us uniquely and intentionally. Instead of forcing us to acknowledge and love Him, He allows us to choose what we believe and what and who we will follow in this life. He allows us to choose whatever religion we desire. I actually dislike the word, religion, but treasure knowing that I have a relationship. My walk with God through Jesus is entirely relationship-based. I believe what the Bible states and I acknowledge the remarkable difference in my life through my attitude, thoughts, desires, and actions since I have come to know Jesus as my Savior and continue to mature in Him. I have learned through experience that what the Bible says is living and true. Jesus is alive and active in my life. Is He alive in yours? Another very important point I must raise in this episode is life after salvation. So, we pray a prayer asking Jesus to lead our life. What happens next? Unfortunately, this is where many people trip in their walk. I know I had wonderful intentions after choosing to follow Jesus. I made the mistake of following people, not Jesus. After they let me down, I faltered in knowing what to do next. I didn’t get the right discipleship needed to learn about Jesus and correctly grow my relationship. It took longer for me to understand and know Him deeply, and to release proper access to my life than it should have. If you are a new Christian, please do not hesitate to reach out for support to know the next steps to fully develop your understanding of Jesus. There is nothing magical or mysterious about following Jesus. It is actually incredibly simple. Jesus desires us to have the faith of a child. We just need to acknowledge our need for Him, accept His grace, and confess Him as the Lord of our life. The hardest part is afterwards. We have to work at the relationship like any other, and it is the most important one we will ever have. The fact that the gospel, the way to salvation through Christ is so uncomplicated, sometimes allows people to question whether they actually belong to Jesus and will live for eternity in heaven with Him one day. I will list a few Bible verses that I hope will reassure anyone who questions their future or might need to reevaluate whether they have entered into a relationship with Jesus. Revelation 3:20, John 10:27-28, Romans 8:38-39, 1 John 5:10-13, Matthew 10:32, Luke 12:8, and Ephesians 2:8-9, which is my favorite. It states, “For by grace you have been saved by faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.” Beyond the reassurances of scripture, the most effective way of ensuring our eternal walk with Jesus is secure is through the works He produces through us. A Christian lives and exhibits a changed life. God creates a good work in believers. Philippians 1:6 says, “being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ.” Are you changing daily, becoming more Christ-like? Colossians 1:9b-11 says, “filled with the knowledge of His will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding; that you may walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing Him, being fruitful in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God; strengthened with all might, according to His glorious power, for all patience and longsuffering with joy.” As believers, we are filled with knowledge and spiritual understanding by immersing ourselves in and studying God’s word and by keeping open communication with Him through prayer. Because of the Holy Spirit inside us, we are able to better discern God’s will. Wisdom and understanding can only come from the Lord and by following Him through a deepening relationship. The more intimately we know and understand God and His word; we will produce fruit for Him as we gain knowledge and grow in Him. We also gain fruits of the Spirit from Him. Instead of desiring and partaking in sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these, we possess and exhibit love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. We persevere through trials as He carries us because we trust in Him. We praise Him in deeper ways because we understand He has plans for good and not to harm us. We believe the good He has for us is not strictly ours, but is the best for all as He intricately weaves lives and His glorious plans. We walk in faith, share the gospel, and help others to live lives that reflect Christ. We look at our present and future through the lens of eternal perspective and live in ways that exemplify His truths and in doing so, it is not a burden, but a joy. Here are several questions that are necessary to review if we have accepted Christ as our Savior and want to continue growing and shining for Him. 1. Do I intentionally and joyfully spend time in prayer throughout each day? Are my prayers living and breathing extensions of my thoughts and life as I raise my heart to God with gratitude before requests? God already knows us, but He desires intimacy, as well as honor in our lives. 2. Do I spend time in God’s word through reading my Bible each day? Podcasts, inspirational stories and blogs, etc. are wonderful ways to be encouraged and taught, but the most effective way to grow and deepen our walk is through consistent, personal time in His Holy word. 3. Do I place my spiritual growth behind more pressing duties in my life? God must be a priority. We know we make time for what we declare is important. 4. What are my first thoughts and desires when I awaken each morning? What about my last thoughts when I go to sleep? Make it a habit to talk to God as you go to sleep and to awaken with gratitude in your heart and on your lips as you start the day. Ask Him to guide and time your day. Ask Him to shine through you in every encounter. Ask for His patience, His love, whatever you know is lacking. Pray for the person who bad mouths you or the child bullying your son or daughter. Ask God to give you a heart for them, and to give them a heart for Him. Allow the Holy Spirit to transform you. 5. Do I feel true joy in my life? Two important fruits of the Spirit we receive from walking with Jesus is pure joy and peace despite circumstances. Psalm 94:19 says, “In the multitude of my anxieties within me, Your comfort delights my soul.” 6. Have I found a Bible-believing church to mentor and encourage me or to invest in others? Am I using the gifts God has given me for Him? In order for my family and friends to know my beliefs, I have to live them. If they are not clear to me, they will be clear to no one else. We must take time to reflect on our life. 1. If I am in a relationship or have children they will not be positively influenced by me in eternal ways if I am not intentionally allowing the Lord to work through me. 2. Do my words reflect my beliefs and desire to grow in Jesus? 3. Do my actions reflect my beliefs and desire to grow in Jesus? 4. Am I allowing God to alter my thoughts? My thoughts reflect my words, attitude, and actions. Do I submit to them or to the Lord? 5. My emotions, attitude, words, and actions influence and affect my loved ones daily. Do I attract or repel them and others to the Lord? How does the world see me? Is my life authentic? Do I project a false image? Do I exude warmth? Do I come across as stand-offish? Am I kind or rude? Would others be attracted to Christ because they see Him in me? What I think about myself will affect how others see me and how they view Christ. Where do I find my worth? Jeremiah 1:5a says, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you.” Ephesians 1:4-5 says, “Just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love, having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will.” Psalm 27:10 says, “When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take care of me.” What are my strengths? Do I praise God for these qualities? Do I acknowledge that they are from Him and use them for Him? What are my weaknesses? Am I thankful that I have weaknesses that force me to rely on God? Do I ask God to strengthen these areas so that I may honor Him? Do I allow other people or circumstances to affect or influence my mindset and actions? Two verses beautifully instruct us in this area. Romans 12:2 says, “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” The other verse is Ephesians 5:1-2, “Therefore, be imitators of God as dear children. And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma.” When we yield to the Holy Spirit, we inherit daily change. Our relationship with Christ becomes experiential. He penetrates and alters our attitude, thoughts, and actions. He regulates our emotions and erases fears. We are no longer “in the body of Christ." We are living for Christ. We don’t just “identify” with Christ; we abide in and fellowship with Him. When we are tempted to become angry or hurt, or a variety of other emotions, we rely on Christ within us to enable our reaction to be what He desires, instead of allowing our fleshly responses to control us. Is this easy? Not always. We are human. But God is not. We must rely on His strength. God is able to do above and beyond what we can conceive. As we yield to Him, He modifies our instinctive responses and creates something new and beautiful within us. When we fail to respond in the ways that please Him, we repent and lean closer in reliance on Him. Philippians 4:8 offers sound advice for yielding to the life God desires for us. “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy – meditate on these things.” Finally, a last set of ways to evaluate and discern the way we live. 1. What would others say defines me: Jesus or the world? What would my family say? 2. Which exposes my life focus as shown through my daily habits (Jesus or the world)? 3. What am I willing to do in order to change this definition of my current lifestyle? 4. Do I submit to advertisements that show me what to desire and how to live? 5. Are my values dictated more by social media or friends, rather than God? 6. What are my last actions before bed and my first actions upon awakening? 7. Do I rely more on God or myself throughout each day? 8. How have I reflected Jesus to others? 9. Am I embarrassed for others to know I follow Him? 10. Have I stepped out in faith and obedience where God has asked me to? 11. Do I have the same peace, joy, and hope through both good and difficult times? After a life conversion to follow Christ, we will not exhibit all of the above qualities immediately. It takes time to grow in our faith and dependence on God. The key is to immediately begin cultivating our trust through the ways already stated. As we pursue Him, He allows wisdom, knowledge, and understanding to flow into our lives. As we draw near to Him, He draws near to us. Ephesians 5:8-10 says, “For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness, and truth), and find out what pleases the Lord.” Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. 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< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode 017 - Purpose of School Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #017 – Purpose of School Are you yearning for greater connection with your child? Would you like to parent beyond the moment with eternal perspective? Let’s grow together now with practical tips, scripture, and stories geared to draw your heart to Jesus and guide your child into His arms. When President Barack Obama presented his State of the Union Address several years ago, announcing a new challenge to redesign America’s high schools in order to better equip graduates for the demands of a high-tech economy, I believe many who heard this promise missed the opportunity to ponder exactly what the real purpose of school is. Have you ever stopped to think about what you actually expect from a public school? Is the institutional public education system in America meeting your expectations and the needs of your unique child? As I continue this podcast episode, it will be apparent that I am a huge homeschool proponent. Please take what I say from this opinion and know that I trust each of the listeners of this podcast are prayerful about what God has for you and your family. I also trust that each family will very prayerfully seek God’s instruction on what is best for your children and not only what is convenient. I understand what it is like to work full-time outside the home. I felt like I did not have the opportunity to homeschool. We felt the extra income I brought in was needed. We also worked very hard to get to the point that I could quit that job and be able to survive without the additional income. I also know there are many mothers (and some fathers) who work full-time and homeschool their children. Remember that when you homeschool, you are freed from the constraints of public education and free to form what works for your family under God . Even though I will talk in this episode about how public school is currently established, remember that the freedom found in home education relieves you from building your home school as a replica of the education your child currently receives. Through the years, I found that the more I moved beyond how traditional education in public school was set up, and focused on our relationship with Christ, the needs of my children, the plans I had for them and their future, and considered their qualities, interests, and talents, the more successful our private school became. Public education, as it is constructed now, corrals your child for 7 – 8 hours of education a day beginning in grade school, then adds additional time of approximately an hour for homework after school. As children reach the middle and high school years, the hours spent in class or activities, practices, and sports climb even higher. When you add in the increased homework load and jobs, and we see that kids spend almost all of their waking hours away from home and family. It’s easy to assume that parents have virtually no influence over school-aged children unless they are home-educated. Our culture tends to push the myth that public education is the only way to prepare students for life, to allow them to acquire skills necessary to obtain a career after graduation. Yet is this actually true? Many feel the government education system now established in America merely pushes students along until graduation, in order to assure that “no child is left behind.” Even more distressing is the concern that 21st century schools have been exposed as progressively worsening indoctrination camps which fail to properly educate students, instead pushing agendas that divide families. Does it appear to you that public schools set up children for a successful future that equips them to reach their full and God-given potential? Or is it based on an assembly line mentality that moves children from grade to grade until graduation? Some think of homeschooling as an inappropriate substitution for education, citing low socialization of students as the negative mark against this method of education. I believe what proves homeschooling as the superior choice is the type of socialization students receive. Home-educated children aren’t hidden in a closet or dungeon with no social life. The majority of homeschooled children are supported by adults and other children, whether it be siblings or peers in co-ops or extracurricular activities and study groups, and focus on a different guideline or set of expectations for socialization, which enables them to become well-equipped in interactions and able to converse with a range of ages and interests. In addition, I’d like to ask those who feel homeschooled children lack a social life this question. What part of sitting at a desk for hours a day in an institutional atmosphere and being taught morals and ideals contrary to what your family believes and that do nothing to promote a strong relationship with God is superior to what a loving, observant, godly parent can provide for his or her child ? Most homeschoolers are actually closer to family, more mature for their age, converse with parents about life issues, are uninterested in blindly following culture, and most have not been introduced to inappropriate graphic sexualized teachings, communist and socialist brainwashing, or gender and identity confusion. Often educationally superior to the majority of publicly educated students in a variety of ways, including testing in the areas of language arts and literacy, authentic American history, and often Biblical studies, the home-educated child proves that a government-driven system interested in stripping genuine American history cannot be trusted to equip our children for a successful future that ensures God-given rights and talents. Americans are now right to question whether public schools are simply indoctrination camps that provide 9-5 childcare services and are paving the way for leftist ideology and dissolution of Christian values our country was founded upon. Parents must certainly begin asking important questions, if they are not already doing so. 1. What is the purpose of school? 2. Is my child receiving the education I want them to have? 3. Is the education my child receives appropriate in the eyes of God? 4. Does their education shape them to be and use the unique God-given potential inside them? Deuteronomy 6:6-8 says, “These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates .” The most important education your child will receive should come from you, the parent. Godly instruction is eternal. Relationship with God through Jesus will never be stripped away, it never fades, and only increases as your child deepens and matures their walk with God. Deuteronomy 6:5 says, “Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength .” The greatest gift a homeschool journey will bring you and your child is the opportunity to connect parent to child under God. A strong foundation built through intentional, consistent time in the Bible together is absolutely priceless. This relationship firmly constructed on the truths and training of God and with each other connected to and through Him is a blessing our Heavenly Father extends as we train our children in Him and seek His guidance on teaching and equipping them to know, love, honor, and obey Him. Am I saying that every homeschooled child is going to be a model Christian? No. Each person has free will, but a school crafted through an atmosphere of learning God’s word and truths in a loving, humble, household where parents live the life they preach lovingly and unwaveringly will draw the heart of your child to God in a way nothing else will. Deuteronomy 4:9 says, “Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them fade from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them .” When we live with fullness of joy in a mature and growing walk with Christ, allowing our Heavenly Father to guide our heart and mind, attitude and emotions, our children see and reap the benefits as they are taught to learn and carry the same loving, humble walk with Christ. Ephesians 6:4 says, “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord .” I know my home life and relationships with my children would not be the joy they are without homeschool. Our daily Bible studies are a highlight and necessity that has equipped us with spiritual growth and maturity at a level that would not have been possible otherwise. Psalm 34:11 says, “Come, my children, listen to me; I will teach you the fear of the LORD. ” Ephesians 6:1 says, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right .” Aside from the beautiful benefits of a gentle, godly atmosphere and training in the Lord each day, there are other advantages that come from teaching your child at home. Home education, however, is not a perfect solution without struggles. In fact, most mothers who make the choice to teach their children from home have many concerns or fears as they start the process. No one enters this area without wondering if they can do it. Part of the beauty in homeschooling comes from being right where God wants us. We are completely dependent on Him to make our school a success, if we choose to recognize Him as the one in control. I have been on my knees more times than I can count over the years. Through hardships and trying life situations, illness, adoption, deaths, and more, God has kept us on track and given us the opportunity to enjoy learning. We make our schedule fit our life, not shift our life to meet the demands of an institutional system . Are you one who has wondered whether you should elect to homeschool your children? Have you already started and are in need of encouragement? Homeschooling is as isolated or robust as we choose for it to be, but remember this: God is always there with you. He created your children. He formed my children. Each person is a unique and individual human being created for a purpose ordained by God Himself. As you homeschool, keep God front and center, seek His will with what and how you will teach. Ask Him to gift you with wisdom on what curriculum choices are best for your family. Allow time to seek His guidance and discernment, and allow time to hear His words and recognize His prompts to you. I’d like to list several important tips that helped us and that I believe may serve you in this season of beginning or continuing your school. Don’t worry about taking notes. You can find the transcript to this episode and all of the tips and information online at terrihitt.com. 1. Create a homeschool that seeks God first and strives to understand and obey His call. 2. Create a homeschool that respects the child. 3. Create a homeschool that serves the unique talents and interests crafted within your child. 4. Create a learning environment that fosters a love of learning. 5. Create a homeschool that allows children to make mistakes without condemnation or embarrassment. 6. Create a homeschool that focuses on the strengths and weaknesses your child is exhibiting and fosters what he or she needs to succeed with joy. Additionally, I believe you will want to create a homeschool that answers these questions (and whatever others you desire for your unique family). 1. Where do I want my child to be in his or her relationship with God at the end of their school years? 2. What type of relationship do I want with my child each school year? 3. What relationship do I want with my child when our school years together are over? 4. What do you want your child to be able to say about homeschooling together? 5. How do I want the love of Christ reflected in our homeschool and relationships together? 6. Do I observe and understand the ways my child learns? 7. Am I working to develop myself in order to reach the needs of my child? 8. How can I use our time together and the curriculum I choose to form the traits I desire my child to develop? 9. How can I strengthen the beautiful qualities God has already crafted inside my child? Near the beginning of our homeschool journey, I created a Mission Statement that still guides our time today. This statement hangs in our dedicated schoolroom, and serves as a reminder to me of the importance of setting and maintaining specific values and principles I desire to foster throughout the life of my children and myself. I am sharing it to help you imagine and craft a Mission Statement that best serves your family and enables you to keep your focus foremost in your mind through the years. “Our mission at GraceLight Academy is to study, understand, and instill the Lord Jesus Christ in our heart, words, thoughts, and actions and to recognize His love, provision, and guidance in our lives. We will also strive to instill and foster a lifelong love of learning and to gratefully use the gifts and talents He lovingly bestowed to us in ways that honor and glorify Him.” We also have a sign in our room that reads, “GraceLight Academy is dedicated to the Lord, for only He can make something out of nothing .” We have also crafted class rules that guided the early years of learning together and continue to be a foundational strength in our school. “At GraceLight Academy we listen carefully and respectfully to one another. We allow others time to talk, and we strive to please God as we learn from each other. When we don’t understand something, whether it is an old fact or something brand new, we ask questions and never feel ashamed. We want to learn. God gave us beautiful minds to use in ways that please and honor Him. We also take time to cuddle. God made us a family and we want to show our love for each other .” As I read this set of rules, I smile because I remember why I included the last portion. I wanted to ensure that while we continued on busy and sometimes hard schedules with family and life issues throughout seasons during the years, we would always make time to tell one another when we needed a time out of sorts to connect and enjoy each other. I never want the rush of life to rule our actions or reactions, but for love to be honoring and inclusive so that we always feel safe and joyful at home together. We also have a quote by Robert Collier on our wall. It reads, “Success is the sum of small efforts repeated day in and day out .” One other quote hangs on another wall. It is entitled, “We Are a Family,” and is by G. Copeland. It reads, “Since before any of us were born, God planned for us to share our lives with each other. He knew exactly how our strengths and weaknesses would balance one another, and the depth of love, understanding, and commitment we would learn to feel. He knew that the richness of our separate characters would be developed through the hard times, and that mutual trust and respect would be born as a result of overcoming the trials together. He knew that we would laugh together and cry together. He knew we needed each…to hug, to help, to teach, to share…to love .” Of course, an American flag hangs in our schoolroom and our walls are also decorated with school and artwork, timelines, facts, and Bible verses that are meaningful to us and which support the focus of our school and life. I chose them when we began homeschooling so that the wisdom, attitude, and hope I desired would be what was shaped within each of us, and of course, each year we may add or subtract some of what hangs. I will share some of the Bible verses we chose now in the hope that it will inspire you to find what verses speak to you and help support the goals you have in your mind and heart. PROMISE : 1 Corinthians 15:58 , “Therefore, my beloved brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain.” I chose this verse to remind us that when days are hard, learning is not easy, or life is complicated, we always have the promises of the Lord to sustain and encourage us. WISDOM : Proverbs 16:21 , “The wise in heart are called discerning, and gracious words promote instruction. ” I chose this verse to remind us that God’s wisdom is all we need. This world is not our home and we must keep our focus on Him through all we do. ATTITUDE : Proverbs 5:12-14, “You will say, “How I hated discipline! How my heart spurned correction! I would not obey my teachers or turn my ear to my instructors. And I was soon in serious trouble in the assembly of God’s people.” I chose this verse to ensure we began our homeschool journey with the proper attitude and continued to grow it over the years in ways that honor and please God and bring us closer to Him and each other. HOPE : Isaiah 55:11 , “So shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.” I chose this verse to remind us in good and hard times of life that no matter how we feel or what circumstances appear to be like, God is good. He is present. He goes before us, and so do the truths of His word. I wanted us to always seek Him and stand on His truths. Your homeschool should reflect your family, children, and goals. There is so much to be said on this topic alone! If you want to get a clearer understanding of home education, I suggest reading the Charlotte Mason Home Education series of books as they teach of a philosophy of education and formation of character. I also suggest using a majority of living books in your curriculum. As we see educational concerns and changes in public schools, more parents have made the choice to home educate their children. Please make sure you follow state regulations and guidelines to ensure that your school is established correctly from the beginning. I highly recommend that you find local educator groups to help guide you. For example, I am I member of Midwest Parent Educators. You can search online to see what may be in your area. I also highly recommend HSLDA, Home School Legal Defense Association. You can also find information about this excellent organization online. As a member, you gain access to help with almost any area of your homeschool questions and concerns. For example, they guide you to local groups, help with school planning, and can assist with guidance for high school, transcripts, and so much more. Remember to craft the school you prayerfully desire to build. My youngest had to begin learning English at the age of nine, undergo many surgeries and procedures, and didn’t really start to learn until she was ten years old because of spending her early years in an orphanage. We haven’t labeled her grade like a public school would. It can be annoying at times to answer the simple question about what year she is in, but we have found simplicity and freedom in allowing her to learn faster in some areas and take more time on others. Thus, her grade levels are mixed, but it works perfectly for her. Many children are learning in this way and I find it much superior to the traditional institutional learning. I also ask that you consider what works for your child. When President Obama gave his State of the Union address many years ago and spoke of preparing students for college, I believe he overlooked the simple fact that not all children need a college education. Some will be led to use their God-given abilities in other skilled areas. Some may follow their heart calling to be a stay-at-home mother and raising the next generation of children. Whatever your child is equipped for and prayerfully following with your guidance will be the path they are destined to take. Don’t let comments or questions from others deflate their excitement or alter the plans God has for them. Instead of asking recent high school graduates where they are going to college, we should inquire what plans they are pursuing next. There are people needed in skilled trades and I love that God made each of us with unique interests. Just because our culture has grown to expect college, it does not mean that it is the right choice for everyone, especially with the huge amount of debt and the indoctrination that can dangerously confuse those attending. However, if your child is in pursuit of a career that needs a college degree, know that a homeschool education is respected and admired by universities, just as a public education is. I hope this episode equips and encourages you in your understanding of the purpose of school. It is important to realize and remember that home education is established as a lifestyle that encourages the best of my children and prayerfully brings the best out in me as I continue to learn and grow, as well. There is so much more to be said about home education. In fact, there is too much information for several podcast episodes. If you have questions for me, I’m happy to help in any way I can. Please feel free to contact me at info@terrihitt.com . Dear Heavenly Father, You are so good. Thank you for entrusting Your children to us. Thank you for making each of them unique and beautifully, intentionally formed in the image of You. Father, we praise You for the opportunity to homeschool our precious children. Please protect our freedom and choice to home educate Your children and help us to start them off in the way they should go as we seek Your perfect ways for them individually all the days we are privileged to raise and influence them. Help us to see them as You do and equip them to follow the gifts and talents You have gifted to them. May they pursue You with love, honor, and loving devotion and follow the path You have set before them. Help us to never be a stumbling block for our children. Enable us to be godly encouragement that shines You and Your truths. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast. Both of my podcasts may be found at terrihitt.com, iHeart Radio, Spotify, and are also part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts may also now be found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. If you find value in what you hear through my podcasts, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. To hear episodes that deal with homeschooling or educating children, I suggest listening to the following episodes of the Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast: Episode 89, Ignite the Fire of Learning with Sheila Carroll – Part 1, Episode 90, Ignite the Fire of Learning with Sheila Carrol – Part 2, Episode 91, Interview with Charlene Notgrass – Notgrass History – Part 1, Episode 92, Interview with Charlene Notgrass – Notgrass History – Part 2, Episode 93, Interview with Emily Hladik – Understanding American History – Part 1, and Episode 94, Interview with Emily Hladik – Understanding American History – Part 2. You may easily find these episodes at terrihitt.com. Just click on “podcasts” and type in the topic or title you wish to hear about in the search bar at the top of the page. Please let me know if you would like more information on the topic of homeschooling. Also, have you rated or reviewed this podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? For those who have, I thank you so very much! If you haven’t, would you please consider doing so? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. If you believe the content you hear should be heard so that more people can begin to deepen their walk with Jesus, live with eyes set on eternity, and raise or influence children for Christ, would you please write a review and rate the podcast for me? Please also follow and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. 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< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast - Episode 066 - Specific Steps to Strengthen Connection to My Child and Christ Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 066 Specific Steps to Strengthen Connection to My Child and Christ I love hearing the sweet sounds of my daughter’s voices. Right now I can hear them in the living room as they play checkers together. I know the delight I get from listening to them converse is just a fraction of what God feels when He sees His children getting along and acting in ways that honor Him. While we know all children must learn to connect with respect, love, and grace, sometimes sibling connections are taken for granted. Since my girls weren’t sisters until the ages of 9 and 11, they had to learn to love one another. Their love was born through decisions and purposeful connection . Much like what we should do as parents. Although most of us automatically love our children before they are even in our arms, we still need to make choices that build meaningful and godly connection through the lifetime of our relationship. In the last Purposed Parent Connected Child Episode we discussed the importance of strong connection to your child. This is obviously a crucial step in parenting, but I believe the most important reason a parent should want strong connection with their child is simple. You want to be your child’s godly main influence in this loud and crazy world. No one is going to care about your child like you – as a loving, Christ-following parent. If you are a Bible-believing mother who desires your child to follow Jesus, you must be determined and prepared to stand against this world and the ungodly messages feeding into your child. Let’s face it, those messages are faster, louder, and sometimes a lot more attractive than how you quietly influence at home. That’s why building connection with your children must begin as early as you have them. In fact, I believe with all my heart that the best connection begins then because you are starting from the ground up. You’ve hopefully prepared the soil, which in this instance is what you carry in your mind and heart. Your thoughts and beliefs are what your child’s relationship with Christ will be built upon . You have to possess what you desire your child to have . Next, choose the materials you will build with. These will be your character, the mindset work you are completing through Christ’s truths, the plans you have made to raise this child for God, your relationship with your spouse, and your personal walk with Christ). Does that mean you’re out of luck if you don’t know Christ as Savior until your child is older? Absolutely not! But it does mean that you have a lot of work and prayer to accomplish. But then, that’s the definition of parenting! Since our last episode spoke about the importance of being connected to your child, we’ll use this episode to talk about different ways to build connection to your child. There is no way to capture every way of constructing strong connection in one podcast episode, but I’ll share some of my favorite ways with you. Have you ever stopped to ponder how much more influential you are in leading your child to Jesus when you share a solid connection with each other? I always enjoy sharing connection and relationship tips, because connection with children is a beautiful gift from the Father for the Father . Let’s start with ways to connect with a younger child. I’ll share some of my personal favorites. From the time my middle daughter was a baby, I enjoyed Bible lessons with her. Those lessons consisted mostly of singing short songs which were made up lyrics of Bible truths or songs set to familiar tunes like Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star or Happy Birthday. We also played a lot of Bible music CD’s for children or classical instrumental music. I also regularly read “The Story of Jesus” to my baby, and it was the key to silencing her crying on the first night we brought her home from China at ten months of age. I also read the Bible aloud, so she was used to hearing Scripture. I prayed for her, but also when I was with her, I prayed over her, so she could hear the prayers. When she was one, I began sharing Bible verses with her. I would say the verse in a soft voice used for talking to babies and clap my hands or sway with movement to the verse. Motion and movement always kept her attention and the sound of my voice was soothing to her, making the verses more interesting. Of course, she can’t remember those days, but I know the seeds of faith were already being implanted in the soil of her heart. Because she was adopted when she was almost one year old, I was very concerned about ensuring that we bond and attach well. Everything I did was purposed , to connect her to me and to Jesus . I knew the first ten months of her life were deprived of emotional, mental, and spiritual stimuli. It was my job as a loving parent to stimulate her brain and help it connect neural pathways. Looking at connection through an eternal perspective, I knew that the work I was doing for my daughter and I ultimately translated to work for the Lord . Intentionally positioning her with confidence that I was safe and always there for her as I responded to needs also built a foundation for her that God was also safe. I spent many years doing art projects with her, playing with Play-Doh, dancing, singing, playing outside, using play kitchens, playing with dolls and stuffed animals, doing role plays, going on walks outdoors, and exploring nature together. Anything I could think of to increase time together and give us opportunities to talk and laugh was welcome. Most of our daily conversations would be directed back to God in some way, Praise, worship, stories of His love, stores of His provisions, Bible stories, any way God could be brought into the conversation and honored or thanked was grafted into our time together. Of course, homeschooling was a plus at our house. I’ll never regret the years we spent in our schoolroom together. They were absolutely some of the hardest, easiest, and most rewarding bonding times with my children. One of the best methods of building a strong connection with your child of any age is simply being present. I don’t mean sitting at home with them, but being engaged – with your attention , voice , reactions , and body language . Finding activities to do with your teen that are reflective of their interests or are common interests between the two of you, even activities that may build new interests are important to share together. Often teens will open up at night or when you are driving them in the car. Honestly, preteens or teens usually open up at the least convenient time for you, but remember how important those moments are for connection . To help a reluctant preteen or teen confide feelings, emotions, or thoughts, you may also take walks together, share a day trip, trade writing journals, play games, or do physical activities together, such as bowling, skating, basketball, or many other ideas. Another thing to mention is that all you do with younger children establishes the groundwork that will later bear the values and morals learned through the small and large interactions throughout their life . As your child approaches the teen years, their critical thinking skills sharpen and you will see thinking, morals, and values mesh. Good morals such as respecting elders, not cheating, lying, or stealing, as well as values such as integrity and kindness sink deeper into the soil of your child’s developing critical thinking skills. On the flip side, so do bad morals and values. Now let’s examine some strong ways to connect with an older child. I don’t know whether you think this way, but I’ve always felt that in some ways a child entering the teen years is almost like a toddler. Toddlers and teens can both whine, throw tantrums, not want to go to bed, be messy and selfish, and want independence, yet still need you. Both the toddler and teen find ways to express their needs, and they aren’t always what you would consider acceptable methods. Knowing your individual child is important. You are best able to decipher whether your child or teen needs food, whether they are tired, stressed, overworked, scared, or lonely. You will notice when behavior is ordinary or out of character and when it is worth investigating deeper. Just as when your child was a baby, your teen will show in various ways whether they feel their needs are being met. When your teen feels that needs are being met by you, trust and attachment occurs, and the cycle is repeated and strengthened. When children enter the teen years, it is harder for some parents than others. As a parent of four children, I can say that each of mine reacted differently to the process of maturing. However, the children I worked hardest to have a Christlike connection with are the ones who never exhibited “typical” teen behavior or attitudes. As we parent our growing child, it is very important to help them know who they are in Christ, even before they know Him as Savior. Self-esteem is a term we hear often, but I like to refer to it as “godly esteem.” Godly esteem focuses on Who created us, Who we belong to, and the God-given purpose we carry on this earth. Building godly esteem is critical for raising children who become productive, well-adjusted, loving adults who honor and obey God . If your teen exhibits many behaviors many in this world write off as “typical,” that is a definite red flag in my opinion, meaning there is connection work to do. You can listen to the Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast episode #063 – Stop Raising Typical Teens for my opinion in that area. My goal was always to step in sync with my child when they were young so that the later years would be an extension of the relationship we worked for earlier. Just like your walk with God develops intentionally over time, your child deserves attention and understanding. We need to parent in ways that help us see their unique, God-given talents and interests, then parent to help them see and strengthen what God has uniquely entrusted to them. Another aspect to consider is that every mother carries individual experiences that shape her and the way she loves, listens, laughs, and raises children. It is extremely important for a woman to evaluate her past, present, and future through a godly lens, comparing her experiences and beliefs against what Scripture, the ultimate source of truth teaches . A mother securely attached to Christ will better parent her child with connection through the difficulties of maturing, whether it be emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually, and financially. One of the most effective pieces of my Set-Apart Collective is the Motherhood Mindset Model that enables women to be cognizant of how they have been shaped by their past and how their thoughts, attitudes, feelings, and beliefs line up against God’s truths. As they work through the Mindset Model, they are able to become the mother and wife He created them to be as they allow God to transform their mind and thought patterns. Being an adoptive parent solidified another connection truth for me. Just because a child behaves a particular way doesn’t mean you understand the “why” behind the behavior. For example, when a child exhibits difficult behavior or has a sudden change in behavior, we need to stop and consider two things. One, what is my child conveying (or saying) with this behavior? Two, what is my child asking for through the behavior? Remembering these two points helps build solid connection. Instead of berating, ignoring, or punishing the child, a connected parent deciphers behavior and uses the opportunity to draw nearer to their child, to reach the heart of her child . Just because a mother works to construct connection, it doesn’t mean she babies or spoils her child. Finding the reason behind behavior doesn’t mean letting your child “walk all over you,” instead it simply means you are attuned and responsive . When I raised my last two, I also told them from the time they were young that we would need to be purposed in growing and maintaining a close relationship with God and each other . Every relationship takes work . When you let each other know you are willing to invest in each other with time, words, actions, love, grace, and respect, you are letting your child know they are important to you . It also shows them it is essential to be even more purposed at having a close relationship with God. You have also imparted to them the knowledge and desire to work at connected relationships . The most important factor in the close connection I have with my children has been God’s Word. Having the goal of reading the Bible together and praying together daily has cemented our faith and family connection. What beautiful work God does in families who commit to connection with Him and each other. I have many resources on prayer. If you’d like more information, please contact me. In the last podcast episode, “How to Strengthen Connection to My Child and Christ,” I stated that I believe children have replaced attachment with mom and dad for attachment to peers . That’s a concerning thought, because when parents lose the status of mentor or influencer in the life of their children, the home, then in turn, the world, is altered. That’s the result we are seeing in America today. Cultural (meaning society) influences have a stronger attraction than traditional family values and is more important to many teens. As kids follow kids, traditions, morals, values, and relationships suffer. Most importantly, parents lose the blessing of teaching their child the way Deuteronomy 6:5-9 , instructs, "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates ." This is one of my favorite passages in the Bible and one I have taken to heart as a mother. In it, God gives specific instructions on how to make Him known to our children. It also offers beautiful, godly insight into how to build a firm foundation under our children and how to continue constructing a heart of faith and obedience to Christ for a lifetime. As you study the words in Deuteronomy 6:5-9, examine your mind and heart. Do you love the Lord your God with all your heart? Are there areas in your mind or heart that are closed off from God? Do you carry hurt or shame that needs to be worked out with God so that you can live fully present in the freeness and mercy of His agape love? Did you notice that God commands us to love Him with all of our heart , soul , and might ? This commandment means unreserved love with the whole heart. Agape love is committed to a humble connection with God. When we love like this, we freely obey God’s laws. Deuteronomy 6:5-9 also instructs us to keep the words God commanded in our heart . That means to hold them as a precious , sacred gift . All you and I think and do is directed by the condition of our heart . As we hold God’s words dear to our heart, we will meditate on them, absorb them in our thoughts, beliefs, feelings, actions, and reactions . Our obedience then flows from love and holy reverence rather than a formal need to follow God’s laws. As we read on in the passage, we notice God’s command to teach His words diligently to our children. As you go about your day, your love for God, your reverence, respect, and humble submission should be evident in your speech, attitude, and desires. His teachings should be on your lips as they flow from your mind and heart from the moment you rise and think of Him until you lay down to sleep with Him on your mind. Thoughts of God, prayers to Him, and obedience to Him should be as effortless as breathing. At the end of this passage in Deuteronomy, you see God instruct “to bind His words and teachings as a sign on the hand and as frontlets between the eyes.” He was instructing the Israelites to continue meditating on and also be directed by His commandments . In Biblical times, God’s instructions in this passage were taken quite literally as the Israelites wore boxes containing verses to their hands and foreheads. How does this speak to you and me regarding connecting with our children? It serves as a reminder to keep God’s Words foremost in our mind and to carry them out daily. It reminds us to allow the life-changing power of God’s truths to penetrate our own heart and mind so that we are living examples of Him to our children. It reminds us to carry out the love of God and allow Him to transform us moment by moment for our children to see and emulate. It binds us to God as we remember His mercy and grace and enables us to trust Him to extend that same mercy and grace to us as we parent the beautiful gifts He has allowed us to raise for Him. Dear Heavenly Father, Your sovereign, holy presence in our life is so needed. Thank you for drawing nearer to us as we draw nearer to You. I pray that You will help each person listening to this podcast to experience Your presence with their children in new ways as they purposely pursue passionate connection together under You. Help us as women to long for You as the deer longs for streams of water. May our spirit thirst for You and find what we need in Your arms. May we mentor that desire to our children and shine You in ways that bring them to You for eternity. Press Your commandments into our heart and mind so that we do not sin against You or cause our children to walk in ways that dishonor You. Help us model Christ with beauty and grace from You because we love and follow You so closely. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Do you have questions, comments, or suggestions for me to add in an upcoming podcast? Please feel free to let me know at info@terrihitt.com . Supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. I believe godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. That’s why I’ve created the Set-Apart Collective. Would you like to deepen your walk with Christ, learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan? I want to share special news with my podcast listeners. The Set-Apart Collective wait list is open now. Send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information and a special code to receive a discount if you find you’d like to join the collective. It’s time for mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. If you connected in some way with this episode, would you please rate and review the podcast on Apple or Spotify? The best reviews are by word of mouth, so if you would also choose a friend to recommend the show to, imagine the change we could see in the way mothers parent for Christ. Please tell others that this podcast is found at terrihitt.com, Apple Podcasts, iHeart Radio, Spotify, and on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place. Remember, if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection. Previous Next

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #025 – Relationship or Religion? Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. If you have listened to a few of my podcasts, you probably already know that I am not a cold weather person and you understand how much I love spring and summer! I am filled with absolute delight this time of year. I’m really not that fond of the color green, but I definitely adore seeing all the lush leaves on the full trees outside. There are several plants in my kitchen, bringing in the feeling of being outdoors. Each one was specially chosen by a friend or family member who gifted it to me when I lost a loved one. I deeply appreciate the generosity of those who chose the special gifts, and it is nice to think of my loved ones when I see the plants, but I am absolutely not gifted with a green thumb. Watering my plants keeps them alive, but I don’t research the best care or do anything more than give them a drink them once every week or two. Because I don’t take the time to know and understand their needs, my poor plants merely survive, not thrive. This parallels what happens to each of us if we forget we are supposed to have a relationship with God, not serve Him through the motions of religion. Our Heavenly Father intended for us to experience so much more than many of us know with Him. Jesus came so that we would have a rich and fulfilling connection and build a life of reliance on God. Jesus is our living model, our sacrifice who came that we can experience a rich and generous life of joy and peace. John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I have come that they may have life and have it abundantly.” I don’t want to merely survive like my plants, but to flourish and prosper the way God intended when He sacrificed His life to set me free. John 15:5 says, “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” Without a living connection to Jesus we wither and fade to a useless leaf ready to fall from the branch. Have you ever been asked whether you are a religious person? A few times strangers have asked me that question after we meet and chat. I believe my answer surprises them. No, I tell them. I am not religious, but I do have a relationship with Jesus. Through Him, I am able, just as we are all able, to remain connected to the Source. Despite the conditions of our life, we will be able to enjoy the beneficial fruits of joy and love when we abide in Him through relationship. John 15:7-12 says, “If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. By this My Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit and so prove to be My disciples. As the Father has loved Me, so have I loved you. Abide in My love. If you keep My commandments, you will abide in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and abide in His love. These things I have spoken to you, that My joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full. This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.” The Lord wants us to have a reciprocal relationship with Him. His words must abide in us, His attitude and motives must abide in us because we abide in Him. Next, He requires that we model and extend that relationship to others. Jesus does not desire relations with one person over another. He longs for deep connection with every single one of us. Jesus wants every one of His followers to be the image of Him, live out His word and ways, share Him, and influence others for Him. We plant the seeds in the garden as we allow Him to shine through, transform, and work through us. He brings forth the harvest. Apart from Him, we can do nothing. If we just carry a spiritual mindset or religious motives, we miss the benefits of growing a true relationship with Jesus as life-long, mature disciples of our Lord. We risk walking with only casual or lukewarm lifestyles, or as unbelievers. Jesus, through His deep and purposed love for us, desires that we experience abundant lives, rich in Him. The definition Jesus held of abundance and what our culture believes it to be are not the same. The world preaches “self” or “abundance prosperity.” God word teaches us that He wants us to prosper, to have abundant lives. Abundance as defined by God would be hearts and souls tied to Him, drawing us nearer to Him, gaining fruits of the spirit and connecting us to Him in deep, supernatural ways through our body, mind, and spirit. Prosperity as this world craves is material-based through affluence, success, and wealth. Jesus came to the earth in the lowliest of ways, and lived a life without worldly wealth. It is not His desire that we follow Him in order to live a life of ease, comfort, or wealth. He wants us to follow Him because we trust, believe, and love Him, and want to spend the rest of our lives getting to know and following Him. He warned us that in this world we would suffer persecution and we understand that there is no guarantee of happiness, but through Him, there is joy. Deep and lasting joy that comes through a purposed and growing relationship. Let me add, there is nothing wrong with having wealth, but the sheer desire of money and the motivation to do anything to get it, forsaking the Lord, our family, or what God calls us to do is unbiblical. A true relationship with the Lord is not dissimilar to what we attempt with those we love and care for here on earth. We desire closeness and connection, we long to be understood, and we want to feel needed and appreciated. Those intimate connections and desires live within us because we were designed that way. God placed those needs inside us because He wants us to fill those longings with Him. He made us for relationship. Instead, we often forget Him and strive to fulfill our fleshly, worldly wants, giving little thought to God. We also fail to connect the emptiness we feel inside or our longings to possess more junk to our casualness and lack of relation with Him. Our walk with the Lord then slides down the slippery slope of little more than traditional holiday rituals or an occasional thought or prayer for something we want. Sometimes our walk with God is nothing more than a hollow attempt at mindless communion during Sunday services with no other thought of or connection with Him until the next week. We each also need to be careful not to fall into the trap of believing our attempts to do the “right” thing saves us. Simply moving through motions or checking off spiritual boxes on our mental to-do list will not give us a heart, mind, or spirit connection to the One who desires us above anything else. Not one of us can ever be good or righteous enough. That is the deception of living a religious lifestyle. Jesus paid the price for us to reach God. Our personal relationship with God is sanctified through Jesus alone. Our lives are permanently altered and transformed through His sacrifice, life instructions for us through the Holy Bible, and the Holy Spirit deposited inside us when we accept Him as our personal Savior and life mentor. When we do not understand the simplicity of God’s plan, it can cause us to thoughtlessly recite prayers or do actions that we believe make us appear holier. It can cause us to strive to do more performance-based activities for Him instead of finding and following the life mission He has specifically and intimately purposed for us. When we yield to Him and allow Him to transform and complete us, He will direct our lives and enable us to experience true freedom and joy as we mature through Him. A religious lifestyle mentality cripples our growth and understanding of God. Our Heavenly Father created us for relationship with Him. He is personal. He is intimate. He desires that we seek Him above all else. Ephesians 2:8-9 says, “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.” Galatians 1:10 says, “For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.” Simply going to church or being active in church or being kind to others does not make us a Christian. A changed heart through the sacrifice of Jesus and the indwelling of the Holy Spirit that continues to transform us moment by moment as we yield to Him secures our eternal future. Matthew 7:21-23 says, “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.” We must desire and intentionally pursue true relationship with God through Jesus in order to live with Him in eternity. God desires a deep, authentic relationship with us. He sees into our heart and understands our motives far better than we do. Without Him we are broken and incomplete. With Him, our hearts and minds are miraculously transformed. Have you seen the changes He has made on your life? In your thoughts? In your actions? If not, please begin to analyze your life, your desires, your motives, actions, and words. When the Holy Spirit indwells a person, change is inevitable as we yield to Him. Religion is defined as a set of beliefs concerning the purpose of the universe, usually involving devotional and ritual observances, and often containing a moral code governing the conduct of human affairs. It is also described as a specific fundamental set of beliefs and practices generally agreed upon by a number of persons or sects of a specific organization such as the Christian religion or the body of persons adhering to a particular set of beliefs and practices. It is also defined as the practice of religious beliefs or ritual observances of faith. Relationship is an emotional connection. Can we have a personal bond with our Heavenly Father through the observance and accomplishments of religion? Of course. Is our heart penetrated and our walk with the Lord strengthened through Jesus through the observance of religion? Maybe. Not necessarily. Relationship with God through Jesus is certain. The Bible tells us so. John 14:6 says, “Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” Relationship through Jesus is the key to heaven and life. John 1:18 says, “No one has ever seen God, but the one and only Son, who is himself God and is in closest relationship with the Father, has made him known.” Relationship is heart-based. God wants our heart, then He will transform the rest as we allow His work to continue in us. The battle between relationship versus religion may be one of the biggest hurdles non-believers face as they watch Christians to see if they can view a glimpse of Christ in us. Why? 1. When they see Christians attack other Christians. 2. When they feel attacked by Christians. 3. When they do not see a difference in the way we live. 4. When they sense that we are judging them. 5. When they feel like we only preach to them. Non-believers need followers of Jesus to stop following religion and reveal the relationship. 1. They need to see and believe that Christians can get along. 2. They need to feel safe around us. 3. They need to see a difference in the way we live (that matches what we say). 4. They need to feel that we accept them as valuable humans, even if we do not have the same beliefs. 5. They need to hear our words surrounded by love in action. When we fail to know Jesus through relationship, we cannot show Him with truth and love. Each of us have undoubtedly made mistakes in trying to show or share Jesus. The more time we spend in His word, in private time reflecting on and studying His word, in speaking to Him and listening for His words to us, in walking through obedience, and in serving others how He calls us to, we are better equipped to reflect and shine Him in a broken and dark world of people looking for what Jesus offers. Isaiah 41:10 says, “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Psalms 46:1-3 says, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear though the earth gives way, though the mountains be moved into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam, though the mountains tremble at its swelling.” As we ponder the differences between relationship versus religion, and the universal benefits of lavishing knowing Jesus through time invested in our relationship, let us consider this verse from 2 Corinthians 9:6, which says, “But this I say: He who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and he who sows bountifully will also reap bountifully.” In a world where none of us wish to reap sparingly, let us exhibit the difference between religion and relationship. May we intentionally sow for a bountiful return in and through Christ. Many on this earth are hurting, seeking relief from pain, anxiety, betrayal, and loss. They are in search of love, friendship, companionship, understanding, and much more. May we purpose that our lives be so rich in the abundance of Christ that others linger to learn more of what is within us because they cannot pass Him by. Did you enjoy this topic? Would you like others to hear one of the podcast episodes? If so, would you please make time to leave a review and rating for the show? In order for others to be able to hear about Jesus through this podcast, I need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift this podcast higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Right now, because the podcast is new and the following is small, listeners won’t find it unless they specifically know the name to search for. Please share this podcast on social media or with friends and family so that others will find new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 025 Relationship or Religion Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #025 – Relationship or Religion? Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. If you have listened to a few of my podcasts, you probably already know that I am not a cold weather person and you understand how much I love spring and summer! I am filled with absolute delight this time of year. I’m really not that fond of the color green, but I definitely adore seeing all the lush leaves on the full trees outside. There are several plants in my kitchen, bringing in the feeling of being outdoors. Each one was specially chosen by a friend or family member who gifted it to me when I lost a loved one. I deeply appreciate the generosity of those who chose the special gifts, and it is nice to think of my loved ones when I see the plants, but I am absolutely not gifted with a green thumb. Watering my plants keeps them alive, but I don’t research the best care or do anything more than give them a drink them once every week or two. Because I don’t take the time to know and understand their needs, my poor plants merely survive, not thrive. This parallels what happens to each of us if we forget we are supposed to have a relationship with God, not serve Him through the motions of religion. Our Heavenly Father intended for us to experience so much more than many of us know with Him. Jesus came so that we would have a rich and fulfilling connection and build a life of reliance on God. Jesus is our living model, our sacrifice who came that we can experience a rich and generous life of joy and peace. John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I have come that they may have life and have it abundantly.” I don’t want to merely survive like my plants, but to flourish and prosper the way God intended when He sacrificed His life to set me free. John 15:5 says, “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” Without a living connection to Jesus we wither and fade to a useless leaf ready to fall from the branch. Have you ever been asked whether you are a religious person? A few times strangers have asked me that question after we meet and chat. I believe my answer surprises them. No, I tell them. I am not religious, but I do have a relationship with Jesus. Through Him, I am able, just as we are all able, to remain connected to the Source. Despite the conditions of our life, we will be able to enjoy the beneficial fruits of joy and love when we abide in Him through relationship. John 15:7-12 says, “If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. By this My Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit and so prove to be My disciples. As the Father has loved Me, so have I loved you. Abide in My love. If you keep My commandments, you will abide in My love, just as I have kept My Father’s commandments and abide in His love. These things I have spoken to you, that My joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full. This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.” The Lord wants us to have a reciprocal relationship with Him. His words must abide in us, His attitude and motives must abide in us because we abide in Him. Next, He requires that we model and extend that relationship to others. Jesus does not desire relations with one person over another. He longs for deep connection with every single one of us. Jesus wants every one of His followers to be the image of Him, live out His word and ways, share Him, and influence others for Him. We plant the seeds in the garden as we allow Him to shine through, transform, and work through us. He brings forth the harvest. Apart from Him, we can do nothing. If we just carry a spiritual mindset or religious motives, we miss the benefits of growing a true relationship with Jesus as life-long, mature disciples of our Lord. We risk walking with only casual or lukewarm lifestyles, or as unbelievers. Jesus, through His deep and purposed love for us, desires that we experience abundant lives, rich in Him. The definition Jesus held of abundance and what our culture believes it to be are not the same. The world preaches “self” or “abundance prosperity.” God word teaches us that He wants us to prosper, to have abundant lives. Abundance as defined by God would be hearts and souls tied to Him, drawing us nearer to Him, gaining fruits of the spirit and connecting us to Him in deep, supernatural ways through our body, mind, and spirit. Prosperity as this world craves is material-based through affluence, success, and wealth. Jesus came to the earth in the lowliest of ways, and lived a life without worldly wealth. It is not His desire that we follow Him in order to live a life of ease, comfort, or wealth. He wants us to follow Him because we trust, believe, and love Him, and want to spend the rest of our lives getting to know and following Him. He warned us that in this world we would suffer persecution and we understand that there is no guarantee of happiness, but through Him, there is joy. Deep and lasting joy that comes through a purposed and growing relationship. Let me add, there is nothing wrong with having wealth, but the sheer desire of money and the motivation to do anything to get it, forsaking the Lord, our family, or what God calls us to do is unbiblical. A true relationship with the Lord is not dissimilar to what we attempt with those we love and care for here on earth. We desire closeness and connection, we long to be understood, and we want to feel needed and appreciated. Those intimate connections and desires live within us because we were designed that way. God placed those needs inside us because He wants us to fill those longings with Him. He made us for relationship. Instead, we often forget Him and strive to fulfill our fleshly, worldly wants, giving little thought to God. We also fail to connect the emptiness we feel inside or our longings to possess more junk to our casualness and lack of relation with Him. Our walk with the Lord then slides down the slippery slope of little more than traditional holiday rituals or an occasional thought or prayer for something we want. Sometimes our walk with God is nothing more than a hollow attempt at mindless communion during Sunday services with no other thought of or connection with Him until the next week. We each also need to be careful not to fall into the trap of believing our attempts to do the “right” thing saves us. Simply moving through motions or checking off spiritual boxes on our mental to-do list will not give us a heart, mind, or spirit connection to the One who desires us above anything else. Not one of us can ever be good or righteous enough. That is the deception of living a religious lifestyle. Jesus paid the price for us to reach God. Our personal relationship with God is sanctified through Jesus alone. Our lives are permanently altered and transformed through His sacrifice, life instructions for us through the Holy Bible, and the Holy Spirit deposited inside us when we accept Him as our personal Savior and life mentor. When we do not understand the simplicity of God’s plan, it can cause us to thoughtlessly recite prayers or do actions that we believe make us appear holier. It can cause us to strive to do more performance-based activities for Him instead of finding and following the life mission He has specifically and intimately purposed for us. When we yield to Him and allow Him to transform and complete us, He will direct our lives and enable us to experience true freedom and joy as we mature through Him. A religious lifestyle mentality cripples our growth and understanding of God. Our Heavenly Father created us for relationship with Him. He is personal. He is intimate. He desires that we seek Him above all else. Ephesians 2:8-9 says, “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.” Galatians 1:10 says, “For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.” Simply going to church or being active in church or being kind to others does not make us a Christian. A changed heart through the sacrifice of Jesus and the indwelling of the Holy Spirit that continues to transform us moment by moment as we yield to Him secures our eternal future. Matthew 7:21-23 says, “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. On that day many will say to me, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?’ And then will I declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness.” We must desire and intentionally pursue true relationship with God through Jesus in order to live with Him in eternity. God desires a deep, authentic relationship with us. He sees into our heart and understands our motives far better than we do. Without Him we are broken and incomplete. With Him, our hearts and minds are miraculously transformed. Have you seen the changes He has made on your life? In your thoughts? In your actions? If not, please begin to analyze your life, your desires, your motives, actions, and words. When the Holy Spirit indwells a person, change is inevitable as we yield to Him. Religion is defined as a set of beliefs concerning the purpose of the universe, usually involving devotional and ritual observances, and often containing a moral code governing the conduct of human affairs. It is also described as a specific fundamental set of beliefs and practices generally agreed upon by a number of persons or sects of a specific organization such as the Christian religion or the body of persons adhering to a particular set of beliefs and practices. It is also defined as the practice of religious beliefs or ritual observances of faith. Relationship is an emotional connection. Can we have a personal bond with our Heavenly Father through the observance and accomplishments of religion? Of course. Is our heart penetrated and our walk with the Lord strengthened through Jesus through the observance of religion? Maybe. Not necessarily. Relationship with God through Jesus is certain. The Bible tells us so. John 14:6 says, “Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” Relationship through Jesus is the key to heaven and life. John 1:18 says, “No one has ever seen God, but the one and only Son, who is himself God and is in closest relationship with the Father, has made him known.” Relationship is heart-based. God wants our heart, then He will transform the rest as we allow His work to continue in us. The battle between relationship versus religion may be one of the biggest hurdles non-believers face as they watch Christians to see if they can view a glimpse of Christ in us. Why? 1. When they see Christians attack other Christians. 2. When they feel attacked by Christians. 3. When they do not see a difference in the way we live. 4. When they sense that we are judging them. 5. When they feel like we only preach to them. Non-believers need followers of Jesus to stop following religion and reveal the relationship. 1. They need to see and believe that Christians can get along. 2. They need to feel safe around us. 3. They need to see a difference in the way we live (that matches what we say). 4. They need to feel that we accept them as valuable humans, even if we do not have the same beliefs. 5. They need to hear our words surrounded by love in action. When we fail to know Jesus through relationship, we cannot show Him with truth and love. Each of us have undoubtedly made mistakes in trying to show or share Jesus. The more time we spend in His word, in private time reflecting on and studying His word, in speaking to Him and listening for His words to us, in walking through obedience, and in serving others how He calls us to, we are better equipped to reflect and shine Him in a broken and dark world of people looking for what Jesus offers. Isaiah 41:10 says, “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Psalms 46:1-3 says, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear though the earth gives way, though the mountains be moved into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam, though the mountains tremble at its swelling.” As we ponder the differences between relationship versus religion, and the universal benefits of lavishing knowing Jesus through time invested in our relationship, let us consider this verse from 2 Corinthians 9:6, which says, “But this I say: He who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and he who sows bountifully will also reap bountifully.” In a world where none of us wish to reap sparingly, let us exhibit the difference between religion and relationship. May we intentionally sow for a bountiful return in and through Christ. Many on this earth are hurting, seeking relief from pain, anxiety, betrayal, and loss. They are in search of love, friendship, companionship, understanding, and much more. May we purpose that our lives be so rich in the abundance of Christ that others linger to learn more of what is within us because they cannot pass Him by. Did you enjoy this topic? Would you like others to hear one of the podcast episodes? If so, would you please make time to leave a review and rating for the show? In order for others to be able to hear about Jesus through this podcast, I need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift this podcast higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Right now, because the podcast is new and the following is small, listeners won’t find it unless they specifically know the name to search for. 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Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perpective Podcast Episode #004 – Eternity Driven Hearts Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. Thank you for entrusting and investing part of your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. We’ve been experiencing such beautiful winter weather where I live. I would be absolutely delighted if the weather would continue to stay this mild for the remainder of the season. I’m definitely not a cold weather girl, but I’ve made peace with winter this year because it’s been so good to me…at least this far. I live in an area with several hills and trees. Wooded areas surround our homes and a lake is in the center of the subdivision. I often see deer, raccoons, foxes, and even bobcats and coyotes. I can now reluctantly admit that although I don’t care for winter, when the snow comes, it looks absolutely beautiful. When I stand in my kitchen and look outside, I feel like I’m looking into a snow globe. Sometimes it’s easy for us to think of all the gorgeous views God gives us in this world (with the crystal white snow, lush trees, rainbows, brilliant skies, blue waters, exotic flowers…and all the unique and adorable animals, and think that this is as good as it can be. Except that we know God has promised in His word that there is so much more to come. He actually tells us in one of my favorite verses, found in 1 Corinthians, that no eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love Him. Listen to this verse from Ecclesiastes 3:11, “He has made everything appropriate in its time. He has also set eternity in their heart, yet so that man will not find out the work which God has done from the beginning even to the end.” Just ponder those verses. God promises us that what He has planned is far better than anything the greatest imaginative minds ever born could fathom and His timing is perfect and appropriate, even though we don’t understand and cannot grasp all that He is, has done, or can do. God has placed eternity in our hearts. This craving will not be satisfied through any experience in this world. Even the happiest person on earth who believes they are “living their best life” will never have complete fullness of joy without Christ as their Savior and center of it. Romans 8:18-25 is a long passage, but listen to the beauty and promise contained. “For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory that is to be revealed to us. For the anxious longing of the creation waits eagerly for the revealing of the sons of God. For the creation was subjected to futility, not willingly, but because of Him who subjected it, in hope that the creation itself also will be set free from its slavery to corruption into the freedom of the glory of the children of God. For we know that the whole creation groans and suffers the pains of childbirth together until now. And not only this, but also we ourselves, having the first fruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, waiting eagerly for our adoption as sons, the redemption of our body. For in hope we have been saved, but hope that is seen is not hope; for who hopes for what he already sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, with perseverance we wait eagerly for it.” Placing eternity in our hearts is so important to God that all of creation, even nature and animals, yearn for restoration with God. As humans made in God’s image, our Heavenly Father presents each of us with opportunities to serve Him and access His redemptive gift daily. Our eternity is secure with Him once we have accepted Christ as our Savior, yet He continues to bless us by allowing participation in His redemptive experience when we are watchful for, recognize, and seize moments to allow Him to flow through us and minister to others. One aspect of living with eternal perspective means caring for others enough to ask God to work through us and to be open to His prompts. Remember, God sometimes speaks softly. At times, we only hear His gentle whispers prompting our spirit. Sometimes He presses firm, persistent reminders in our thoughts. Other times, we might sense an almost audible voice. Just as we are all unique, the way God communicates is tailored specifically to each of us, His beloved children. Our personalities, our situations, our communication style, and relationship with the Lord must play a factor in how He talks to and shows Himself to us. When my oldest daughter died, I experienced God’s personal and intimate voice and touch through smell. I awakened at about 7:30 one Sunday morning. As I passed through our great room on my way to the kitchen, I was struck by an intense aroma. As most mothers can do, I recognized the scent as my oldest child. I still remember kissing her on the forehead at her hairline and smelling her unique smell when she was a baby. That very personal aroma stayed with her as she grew older. That morning it filled our great room all the way to the ceiling. There was absolutely no mistaking that it was my daughter. I actually stopped and looked up to the ceiling as I spoke. “God,” I said. “Why do I smell Jaime? Is something going to happen to her?” It scared me just because it was such an intense smell. Without going into the entire story right now, our daughter did pass away from complications of a genetic disorder that we discovered later in her life. The disorder had caused a thimble-sized blood clot in the left frontal lobe of her brain and she passed away from a seizure caused by the remaining scar tissue, even though she was still taking her blood thinner and anti-seizure medications. I believe God warned me with her scent 24 hours in advance. She died the next day about 7:30 in the morning. As my daughter was in her 20’s and living in an apartment, police officers came to tell me the news. As I stood in the doorway, I held my then youngest daughter, who was four years old. After absorbing the initial information, my thoughts turned to remaining calm and not disrupting Marissa’s life. I knew what the officers were going to tell me because God had warned me, probably for reasons I don’t understand, but also so that I could keep a posture of calm and peace for my child who had lived with enough upheaval in her short years. Inside, I was devastated, but grateful for the forewarning I had received. God speaks so personally to us. What an intimate relationship God desires with each of us. When the Lord called my husband and I to bring our middle daughter home from China, He whispered to me in a firm voice I readily recognized. I was getting into the car at the shopping mall. My husband was starting the vehicle as I sat in my seat and looked at him. “God just told me that I’m going to have another baby before I’m 45,” I told him. Since I underwent a hysterectomy at age 22, my husband asked, “Am I going to die and you’re going to marry a man with kids?” “No,” I shook my head. “We are going to have a baby.” He accepted my response so easily. We had two children, and had never planned to have another, and obviously we could not. Yet, he accepted what I said and we drove home. A few years later, God spoke to both my husband and me through visions at the same time. When we told each other about them, we called them dreams. They were about adopting a little girl from China. We knew God was at work. My last example today, although there are many others, is the year I awakened on New Year’s Day, 2013. The first thought on my mind that morning was that someone in my family was going to die before the year was over. It disturbed me to have this thought penetrate my mind as I started the day and a new year. Once you lose a child, fear can so easily overtake your life. It would be incredibly easy for me to let fear control me. Once a death this deep has invaded your world, you cannot forget that it exists. You cannot turn away from the knowledge that it visited once and has a foot in the door of your life. Yet, I am His. That glorious fact equips me with the privilege of intentionally handing the burden of that fear to Jesus daily. Any time fear begins to creep inside my thoughts, I immediately allow Him to carry my thoughts and emotions. His death and resurrection has released me from the bondage of fear. Because of the cross, nothing in this world should have a grip on me, except Jesus Christ. The longer I rely on His strength, the less time it takes to willingly release my weakness to Him. I actually became angry at God when he warned me of another death that morning in 2013 and I wrestled with God over the news. I told Him I didn’t want His warnings. I told Him I was tired of all the years of advance knowledge He had presented to me. I cried and later mourned the sweet connection I had with my Heavenly Father that I feared would now be forever gone. I became ashamed by my attitude and the fact that I had been bold enough to presume that I could tell God what He could or could not do in my life. Then, I repented and asked for forgiveness. I knew that God understood and already knew my feelings. He could handle them, but I wanted Him to know that I respected His authority in my life. I knew that He had presented me gifts that I would need. I was simply letting fear rule my emotions and I did not want to lose another loved one. Later that month my father was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. He died in September. The year was long and especially difficult, but I was thankful that God had forewarned me of trouble that was forthcoming. He knew I needed to prepare again. He is rich in mercy. It is up to me to accept responsibility to desire God and allow Him to grow my maturity as I seek Him through prayer and scripture. He graciously allows me to desire Him and be willing to let Him take control as I permit Him to carry me. I don’t believe God walks beside me. We are not partners. He is my Lord and I want Him to carry me through everything life delivers. I include Him in all areas of my daily life and enjoy knowing that He is ever-present in times of need and in times of joy. He does the very same for you. The craving God places in each of us is not a spiritual fix easily satisfied by inspirational words or quotes, meditation, or a walk in the woods, but a deep craving for more than this world offers. As we seek Him and continue developing all areas of our life through Him, He also places in each of us the desire for others to seek and find Him. That doesn’t mean we are all meant to be missionaries in far-off countries, but it does mean that we are created to care for others and their eternity. I believe that my biggest mission field is striving to live more like Christ daily. I have realized that the way I show Him in my words, actions, priorities, and lifestyle will either draw others to Him or pull them away from a relationship with Christ. Colossians 4:5 instructs us, “Conduct yourselves with wisdom toward outsiders, making the most of the opportunity.” This makes my heart ache as I think of the variety of people I meet each time I go somewhere. Do any of my deep longings for Jesus or my love for Him show at all? I don’t want them to think I am a nice person, or a spiritual person. I pray they see a light shine within me that pulls them straight to Christ. We do not know when Jesus will return. Not even Jesus knows! We understand that through this verse in Mark 13:32, “But of that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.” We are also told through Matthew 24:36, “But of that day and hour no one knows, not even the angels of heaven, nor the Son, but the Father alone.” We can’t fathom what God has planned for us individually or as the collective world before His return, but we have faith and we trust, because of His word. We know with certainty that He has, and will make, everything occur appropriately in His perfect timing. We cannot see the work He is doing from beginning to end and much of what He does is such a mystery, as it should be. He is God. Yet, the closer we draw to Him gives us deepened clarity and understanding that we truly do have a hole in our hearts that is placed and shaped for Him alone. Ephesians 5:15-16 warn us, “Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men, but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil.” This verse should pierce our hearts as we think of our daily routines and the business we have let society push at us. I find my greatest peace when I deliberately slow our family activities down. It takes skillful balance to maintain joy and calm. I want my children and husband to live in a home filled with the peace and calm of Jesus, not a busy schedule that leaves us hoping for time with Him. Days flash by and turn into months and years before we realize we never made the time to do what really matters. God doesn’t wait. He knows that we will accomplish what we think is important. I want my priority to be a legacy of a giant sign flashing the name, “Jesus” for all to see. When I die, I want those who love me to mourn seeing Him through me daily, but be strengthened and encouraged to continue maturing their own walk with Him. Then I know I have modeled an eternity-driven heart and have lived with eternal perspective. Thank you for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 004 Eternity Driven Hearts Listen to Episode Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perpective Podcast Episode #004 – Eternity Driven Hearts Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. Thank you for entrusting and investing part of your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. We’ve been experiencing such beautiful winter weather where I live. I would be absolutely delighted if the weather would continue to stay this mild for the remainder of the season. I’m definitely not a cold weather girl, but I’ve made peace with winter this year because it’s been so good to me…at least this far. I live in an area with several hills and trees. Wooded areas surround our homes and a lake is in the center of the subdivision. I often see deer, raccoons, foxes, and even bobcats and coyotes. I can now reluctantly admit that although I don’t care for winter, when the snow comes, it looks absolutely beautiful. When I stand in my kitchen and look outside, I feel like I’m looking into a snow globe. Sometimes it’s easy for us to think of all the gorgeous views God gives us in this world (with the crystal white snow, lush trees, rainbows, brilliant skies, blue waters, exotic flowers…and all the unique and adorable animals, and think that this is as good as it can be. Except that we know God has promised in His word that there is so much more to come. He actually tells us in one of my favorite verses, found in 1 Corinthians, that no eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love Him. Listen to this verse from Ecclesiastes 3:11, “He has made everything appropriate in its time. He has also set eternity in their heart, yet so that man will not find out the work which God has done from the beginning even to the end.” Just ponder those verses. God promises us that what He has planned is far better than anything the greatest imaginative minds ever born could fathom and His timing is perfect and appropriate, even though we don’t understand and cannot grasp all that He is, has done, or can do. God has placed eternity in our hearts. This craving will not be satisfied through any experience in this world. Even the happiest person on earth who believes they are “living their best life” will never have complete fullness of joy without Christ as their Savior and center of it. Romans 8:18-25 is a long passage, but listen to the beauty and promise contained. “For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory that is to be revealed to us. For the anxious longing of the creation waits eagerly for the revealing of the sons of God. For the creation was subjected to futility, not willingly, but because of Him who subjected it, in hope that the creation itself also will be set free from its slavery to corruption into the freedom of the glory of the children of God. For we know that the whole creation groans and suffers the pains of childbirth together until now. And not only this, but also we ourselves, having the first fruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, waiting eagerly for our adoption as sons, the redemption of our body. For in hope we have been saved, but hope that is seen is not hope; for who hopes for what he already sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, with perseverance we wait eagerly for it.” Placing eternity in our hearts is so important to God that all of creation, even nature and animals, yearn for restoration with God. As humans made in God’s image, our Heavenly Father presents each of us with opportunities to serve Him and access His redemptive gift daily. Our eternity is secure with Him once we have accepted Christ as our Savior, yet He continues to bless us by allowing participation in His redemptive experience when we are watchful for, recognize, and seize moments to allow Him to flow through us and minister to others. One aspect of living with eternal perspective means caring for others enough to ask God to work through us and to be open to His prompts. Remember, God sometimes speaks softly. At times, we only hear His gentle whispers prompting our spirit. Sometimes He presses firm, persistent reminders in our thoughts. Other times, we might sense an almost audible voice. Just as we are all unique, the way God communicates is tailored specifically to each of us, His beloved children. Our personalities, our situations, our communication style, and relationship with the Lord must play a factor in how He talks to and shows Himself to us. When my oldest daughter died, I experienced God’s personal and intimate voice and touch through smell. I awakened at about 7:30 one Sunday morning. As I passed through our great room on my way to the kitchen, I was struck by an intense aroma. As most mothers can do, I recognized the scent as my oldest child. I still remember kissing her on the forehead at her hairline and smelling her unique smell when she was a baby. That very personal aroma stayed with her as she grew older. That morning it filled our great room all the way to the ceiling. There was absolutely no mistaking that it was my daughter. I actually stopped and looked up to the ceiling as I spoke. “God,” I said. “Why do I smell Jaime? Is something going to happen to her?” It scared me just because it was such an intense smell. Without going into the entire story right now, our daughter did pass away from complications of a genetic disorder that we discovered later in her life. The disorder had caused a thimble-sized blood clot in the left frontal lobe of her brain and she passed away from a seizure caused by the remaining scar tissue, even though she was still taking her blood thinner and anti-seizure medications. I believe God warned me with her scent 24 hours in advance. She died the next day about 7:30 in the morning. As my daughter was in her 20’s and living in an apartment, police officers came to tell me the news. As I stood in the doorway, I held my then youngest daughter, who was four years old. After absorbing the initial information, my thoughts turned to remaining calm and not disrupting Marissa’s life. I knew what the officers were going to tell me because God had warned me, probably for reasons I don’t understand, but also so that I could keep a posture of calm and peace for my child who had lived with enough upheaval in her short years. Inside, I was devastated, but grateful for the forewarning I had received. God speaks so personally to us. What an intimate relationship God desires with each of us. When the Lord called my husband and I to bring our middle daughter home from China, He whispered to me in a firm voice I readily recognized. I was getting into the car at the shopping mall. My husband was starting the vehicle as I sat in my seat and looked at him. “God just told me that I’m going to have another baby before I’m 45,” I told him. Since I underwent a hysterectomy at age 22, my husband asked, “Am I going to die and you’re going to marry a man with kids?” “No,” I shook my head. “We are going to have a baby.” He accepted my response so easily. We had two children, and had never planned to have another, and obviously we could not. Yet, he accepted what I said and we drove home. A few years later, God spoke to both my husband and me through visions at the same time. When we told each other about them, we called them dreams. They were about adopting a little girl from China. We knew God was at work. My last example today, although there are many others, is the year I awakened on New Year’s Day, 2013. The first thought on my mind that morning was that someone in my family was going to die before the year was over. It disturbed me to have this thought penetrate my mind as I started the day and a new year. Once you lose a child, fear can so easily overtake your life. It would be incredibly easy for me to let fear control me. Once a death this deep has invaded your world, you cannot forget that it exists. You cannot turn away from the knowledge that it visited once and has a foot in the door of your life. Yet, I am His. That glorious fact equips me with the privilege of intentionally handing the burden of that fear to Jesus daily. Any time fear begins to creep inside my thoughts, I immediately allow Him to carry my thoughts and emotions. His death and resurrection has released me from the bondage of fear. Because of the cross, nothing in this world should have a grip on me, except Jesus Christ. The longer I rely on His strength, the less time it takes to willingly release my weakness to Him. I actually became angry at God when he warned me of another death that morning in 2013 and I wrestled with God over the news. I told Him I didn’t want His warnings. I told Him I was tired of all the years of advance knowledge He had presented to me. I cried and later mourned the sweet connection I had with my Heavenly Father that I feared would now be forever gone. I became ashamed by my attitude and the fact that I had been bold enough to presume that I could tell God what He could or could not do in my life. Then, I repented and asked for forgiveness. I knew that God understood and already knew my feelings. He could handle them, but I wanted Him to know that I respected His authority in my life. I knew that He had presented me gifts that I would need. I was simply letting fear rule my emotions and I did not want to lose another loved one. Later that month my father was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. He died in September. The year was long and especially difficult, but I was thankful that God had forewarned me of trouble that was forthcoming. He knew I needed to prepare again. He is rich in mercy. It is up to me to accept responsibility to desire God and allow Him to grow my maturity as I seek Him through prayer and scripture. He graciously allows me to desire Him and be willing to let Him take control as I permit Him to carry me. I don’t believe God walks beside me. We are not partners. He is my Lord and I want Him to carry me through everything life delivers. I include Him in all areas of my daily life and enjoy knowing that He is ever-present in times of need and in times of joy. He does the very same for you. The craving God places in each of us is not a spiritual fix easily satisfied by inspirational words or quotes, meditation, or a walk in the woods, but a deep craving for more than this world offers. As we seek Him and continue developing all areas of our life through Him, He also places in each of us the desire for others to seek and find Him. That doesn’t mean we are all meant to be missionaries in far-off countries, but it does mean that we are created to care for others and their eternity. I believe that my biggest mission field is striving to live more like Christ daily. I have realized that the way I show Him in my words, actions, priorities, and lifestyle will either draw others to Him or pull them away from a relationship with Christ. Colossians 4:5 instructs us, “Conduct yourselves with wisdom toward outsiders, making the most of the opportunity.” This makes my heart ache as I think of the variety of people I meet each time I go somewhere. Do any of my deep longings for Jesus or my love for Him show at all? I don’t want them to think I am a nice person, or a spiritual person. I pray they see a light shine within me that pulls them straight to Christ. We do not know when Jesus will return. Not even Jesus knows! We understand that through this verse in Mark 13:32, “But of that day or hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.” We are also told through Matthew 24:36, “But of that day and hour no one knows, not even the angels of heaven, nor the Son, but the Father alone.” We can’t fathom what God has planned for us individually or as the collective world before His return, but we have faith and we trust, because of His word. We know with certainty that He has, and will make, everything occur appropriately in His perfect timing. We cannot see the work He is doing from beginning to end and much of what He does is such a mystery, as it should be. He is God. Yet, the closer we draw to Him gives us deepened clarity and understanding that we truly do have a hole in our hearts that is placed and shaped for Him alone. Ephesians 5:15-16 warn us, “Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men, but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil.” This verse should pierce our hearts as we think of our daily routines and the business we have let society push at us. I find my greatest peace when I deliberately slow our family activities down. It takes skillful balance to maintain joy and calm. I want my children and husband to live in a home filled with the peace and calm of Jesus, not a busy schedule that leaves us hoping for time with Him. Days flash by and turn into months and years before we realize we never made the time to do what really matters. God doesn’t wait. He knows that we will accomplish what we think is important. I want my priority to be a legacy of a giant sign flashing the name, “Jesus” for all to see. When I die, I want those who love me to mourn seeing Him through me daily, but be strengthened and encouraged to continue maturing their own walk with Him. Then I know I have modeled an eternity-driven heart and have lived with eternal perspective. Thank you for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. 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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #033 – The Keys Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. I would describe myself as an extroverted introvert. Quiet time to reflect and unwind at home is needed. Although I love people, can talk to anyone, and really am interested in knowing them, I need down time. For the most part, our home is very relaxed and quiet, but last week my youngest had a melt-down. It has actually been a while since the last one. When she first came home from China, she wasn’t able to express her emotions, needs, or desires, so if something triggered memories, trauma, or fears, big feelings and crying sessions lasting two hours would take over. This behavior or type of emotional release is very common. Most adoptive parents have dealt with melt-downs. They usually lessen over time and eventually fade away to a distant memory of early days together. Which is mostly what ours have done. Until last week. As I sat on the floor with my precious girl, waiting for her to release her emotions, I thought about how far we had come. I felt blessed to have seen this one coming, I had recognized the trigger when it happened, and I was one hundred percent ready to sit on the floor and just be there with her. During the times this happens, all she wants is for me to stay there, to prove that she is not alone, that I love her, and I can handle the “bigness” of what she is experiencing. As extremely difficult as this can be on everyone, especially when children first arrive home, this process has brought us closer to each other. It has strengthened our bonds and attached us in miraculous ways. But it doesn’t make it easy. This particular melt-down lasted less than an hour, and the tears were not non-stop. As I observed my youngest, I was thankful to know my girl much better now. I understood that she needed to laugh in between sets of tears and was joyful that I possessed the know-how and ability to cater to her particular sense of humor. I also knew when to hug. I knew when to be silent and still. When a child is in the middle of a melt-down, their brain is not functioning normally. Although I understand that she isn’t able to process at that time, I still sometimes find myself asking her a few questions, attempting to help. We’ve been together long enough now that she allowed them, but wasn’t able to answer. I knew that whatever important words I said during that time needed to be repeated at a time she would understand and retain them, too. It was time to revisit what had happened during her outburst this week. So, earlier this week I sat down on the same bedroom floor and talked to her about the melt-down. We talked about why it happened. I shared about how hard it is sometimes to find the right words to express exactly what we are feeling. We talked about other people and how feelings can easily get hurt. Now that her brain wasn’t in an agitated or upset mode, she was more capable of admitting her needs and wants. Even though she has been with us for five years now, English is not her first language, and it is still difficult at times to find the right words for her to express big emotions. I told her that it is sometimes hard for people who have always lived and grown up in America to know how to talk about what they are feeling. I found a small box with a lid and showed her a demonstration I knew she wouldn’t absorb the day of, but had tried anyway. Although she looked like she was listening at the time of the melt-down, she couldn’t remember any of it. So I sat down in front of her with the box and shared again. “See this?” I asked her. “Yes,” she said as she nodded. “This box is a person.” Always up for make-believe, she smiled with interest as I continued. I took the lid off and held up a small stuffed animal. “Let’s pretend this is a feeling.” I dropped it in the box and held up another toy. “This is a thought.” In the box it went. I reminded her of previous discussions we have shared about feelings, thoughts, and emotions. She remembered I had told her that although we have many, and we need to feel and admit them, they are not always accurate or true, even though they feel like it. I continued adding items to the box, saying that people have many thoughts, feelings, and emotions every day. “When we do not have the words to tell others what we think or feel.” I said, “Our head and heart get so full we feel many things. We may get confused, or scared, or mad, or frustrated.” I filled the box up all the way and showed her the inside of it. “We wonder how to get the feelings and thoughts out. Sometimes it’s good to cry and even Jesus cried sometimes. But we can also talk to people and share how we feel so they can help us. In China you did not have anyone, but now you do. I always want to help.” I do talk,” she said. “I always talk to God.” “I’m so happy,” I told her as I gave her a hug. “When you talk to God, the feelings and emotions and thoughts can come out.” I started talking the animals out of the box one at a time. “Then the box feels lighter and we don’t feel like crying because we feel like someone hears us and can understand and help. The thoughts won’t make us feel heavy and sad. Remember that Mommy and Daddy can help. But I’m always glad you talk to God first.” “I know,” she said as she moved closer to me. After a moment she said, “The box is like a puzzle,” she said. “We have to find the right pieces for us.” What? I was astounded and in awe of my girl. She proved how far she had traveled in her time with us. She understood. She carried a deeper understanding than I realized. Being a parent is one of the greatest gifts I have been given. Anyone who has been listening to this podcast for a while knows our story and has heard me speak on this before. Adoptive parenting has humbled me even more than biological parenting. Adoptive parenting forces mothers and fathers to face and admit insecurities while dealing with a child who was once an absolute stranger with no ties to them. They have to navigate and deal with their own hang-ups, pains, or disappointments while facing the raw terror and trauma of a child that only God can heal. Many parents get lost on how the child treats them or rejects them. If we hold self-doubts and uncertainties in our own life, then couple those with the rejection of a child we work so hard to bring home, a family can easily spiral into crisis. Parenting is never about us. Life is not about us. The greatest sacrifice a parent can make is to face the responsibility of raising a child for God with a spirit of great humility. We know nothing about the child in our care, whether biological or adopted, until we release ourselves to our Heavenly Father and allow Him to reveal their special gifts, talents, emotions, and interests. Only by clinging to God are we able to merge broken human personalities and hurts, traumas, fears, hopes, dreams, and love to meet the needs of another. There is no greater gift we can offer than to lay down our life for our child and strive to see them through the eyes of their Creator. Without God, we are damaged vessels. Motherhood offers women the opportunity to face what is broken and allow God to mend and renew. Actually, parenthood offers us the opportunity to face what is broken and allow God to mend and renew. It isn’t just mothers who must face imperfections and bow to Him as we raise the children He entrusted to our care. What is the best method for learning and growing as a parent? As a person? Possessing active humility and simple trust. Last week on the podcast I read verses from Daniel 4:1-37 and shared about teachability. This week I feel the need to offer more, with emphasis on the best ways to be teachable. Humility and trust. We do not have to be the smartest person to learn, or the most intelligent parent, but we do need to pay attention, and carry a desire to learn or change, and maintain or gain, a humble spirit. When we are humble, we recognize that others may carry more knowledge or insight, and perhaps more wisdom than us. We recognize that God is the ultimate source of wisdom and as we seek Him, and desire to understand Him and His ways, we will also gain practical and godly wisdom. Humility teaches us: 1. To be a better listener than speaker. 2. To be slow to speak. 3. To admit our mistakes. 4. To consider others more highly than ourselves. 5. To seek the wisdom of God in everything. James 3:13-18 says, “Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show by good conduct that his works are done in the meekness of wisdom. But if you have bitter envy and self-seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth. This wisdom does not descend from above, but is earthly, sensual, demonic. For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.” I think often about how God must feel when He looks down on this world; the pain His heart must feel. I purposely strive daily to view those I love and strangers around me through a lens that desires results from an eternal perspective that pleases God. I want what I do and think to give my Heavenly Father joy. Instead, how much pain does He receive from me daily? The words in James 3:13-18 show how far so many of us are from where God is calling us to be. When we are wise, we show it through good conduct. Look at the streets filled right now with looting and murder. I see no meekness of wisdom. I see envy and self-seeking, lies, and confusion. God’s wisdom fills us with more humility and wisdom that is pure from Him, peaceable, gentle, and willing to yield while full of mercy and good fruits. He tells us there is no hypocrisy or partiality. There is peace. We cannot know Him, His fruits, His peace, wisdom, or humility without knowing Him. We cannot be teachable without Him. Our world is so far from where we need to be, but that can change one person at a time. I always exclaim that the cure for what ails this nation is one simple thing. The problem is the condition of our hearts. Change the hearts, change the people, change our nation, change the world. The solution is Jesus. That is not my opinion. Is it a fact straight from the Bible. Jesus proclaimed in John 14:6, “I am the truth, the way, and the life; no one comes to the Father, but through Me.” In John 8:24, he said, “For unless you believe that I am He, you shall die in your sins.” The Apostle Peter assured us of the truthfulness of those words when he quoted the words found in Acts 4:12, “And there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved.” Paul agreed in 1 Timothy 2:5 when he said, “There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus. Simply spoken, the Old Testament points the way to the coming Messiah and the New Testament is united in the fact that no one can know or come to God, our Heavenly Father, except through the person of Jesus Christ. Only Jesus can heal hearts. This world needs Him much more than we realize. Basic, but important steps are needed to approach change through Jesus and a relationship with our Heavenly Father. These steps allow our heart and mind to be changed and will keep us growing and maturing properly. There are two important keys. What are they? Humble submission and trust. First, we must recognize and admit our needs. Next, we must be ready for change. Finally, we must want permanent transformation. A shift begins with the willingness to be humbled and the desire to live with permanent humility. I’m going to share several verses to prepare our minds to see our need. 1 Peter 5:5 says, “Likewise you younger people, submit yourselves to your elders. Yes, all of you be submissive to one another, and be clothed with humility, for “God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble.” Proverbs 15:33 says, “The fear of the LORD is the instruction of wisdom, And before honor is humility.” Proverbs 22:4 says, “By humility and the fear of the LORD Are riches and honor and life.” Colossians 2:23 says, “These things indeed have an appearance of wisdom in self-imposed religion, false humility, and neglect of the body, but are of no value against the indulgence of the flesh.” Philippians 2:3 says, “Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.” Colossians 3:12 says, “Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering.” Proverbs 11:2 says, “When pride comes, then comes shame; But with the humble is wisdom.” James 3:13 says, “Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show by good conduct that his works are done in the meekness of wisdom.” Ephesians 4:2 says, “with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love.” Do you recognize these qualities in most of the people living today? Do you recognize them in yourself most of the time? We all have so much work to do. We must allow ourselves to be humbled and gain the desire and ability to trust God with our life. The whole of it. What about trust? In our society, it is hard-earned. Are you ready to extend it to, and allow it to stay, in God’s hand? How does trust in God help us? 1. Trust erases fear. 2. Trust produces peace and joy despite circumstances. 3. Trust enables us to turn away from evil. 4. Trust builds a fortress through the shield of God’s armor. 5. Trust produces a strong faith. 6. Trust enables obedience. Hebrews 11:1 says, “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” Listen to these additional verses about trust. Just like humility, trust is so important that God doesn’t speak on it just once, but continues to prove reasons for us to trust and shows us the only way to a life filled with the richness of peace and other fruits of the spirit we all desire and seek. Psalm 37:3 says, “Trust in the LORD, and do good; Dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness.” Isaiah 12:2 says, “Behold, God is my salvation, I will trust and not be afraid; ‘For Yah, the Lord, is my strength and song; He also has become my salvation.” Psalm 37:5 says, “Commit your way to the LORD; trust in Him, and He will act.” Psalm 62:8 says, “Trust in Him at all times, O people; pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us.” Proverbs 3:5 says, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.” Remember the story I shared about my youngest at the beginning of this podcast? The same principles apply to everyone because we have all experienced different levels of loss, hurt, frustration, confusion, needs, and more. We all have the same desire to be understood and to be able to express ourselves and still be loved and wanted. Think of the analogy I used with the box. Instead of releasing thoughts, feelings, and emotions from the box, think of our mind and heart as safe deposit boxes. If you use the example of the box with the lid, search the word of God and seek to study and understand it, then apply it safely in our hearts and minds to nourish our soul. In effect, we put it in “the box.” When that box is filled with the word of God, conversations and prayers, active listening for His voice, words, and directions to us, humble trust, and active pursuit of Him, and obedience, we release negativity and false beliefs, hurts, bitterness, anger, and more from the box. We build a deposit of humble trust and love for the only One who understands us and will never forsake us. Faith is a series of steps taken through a life of humility and trust with blind obedience through Jesus. Are you ready to begin or expand your walk with the Lord? Me, too. I know with certainty that anything we submit to and do for the Lord will bring us sweet joy on this earth and for eternity. Father, I thank You for Your presence in my life. Please enable me to follow You with humility that is pleasing to You. Help me to trust what you teach and reveal to me. Give me the courage to be obedient to what and where You call me. Let my faith grow and not falter. Help me bring You great joy. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Did you enjoy this episode? Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and learn how to live with more eternal perspective? Right now, because this podcast is new, listeners can’t find it unless they specifically know the name to search for. You can help them find it by leaving a quick review and rating for the show and by sharing about the podcast on social media or word of mouth. Can you think of a friend or family member who might enjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them. Until next week, keep looking Up and finding new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 033 The Keys Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #033 – The Keys Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. I would describe myself as an extroverted introvert. Quiet time to reflect and unwind at home is needed. Although I love people, can talk to anyone, and really am interested in knowing them, I need down time. For the most part, our home is very relaxed and quiet, but last week my youngest had a melt-down. It has actually been a while since the last one. When she first came home from China, she wasn’t able to express her emotions, needs, or desires, so if something triggered memories, trauma, or fears, big feelings and crying sessions lasting two hours would take over. This behavior or type of emotional release is very common. Most adoptive parents have dealt with melt-downs. They usually lessen over time and eventually fade away to a distant memory of early days together. Which is mostly what ours have done. Until last week. As I sat on the floor with my precious girl, waiting for her to release her emotions, I thought about how far we had come. I felt blessed to have seen this one coming, I had recognized the trigger when it happened, and I was one hundred percent ready to sit on the floor and just be there with her. During the times this happens, all she wants is for me to stay there, to prove that she is not alone, that I love her, and I can handle the “bigness” of what she is experiencing. As extremely difficult as this can be on everyone, especially when children first arrive home, this process has brought us closer to each other. It has strengthened our bonds and attached us in miraculous ways. But it doesn’t make it easy. This particular melt-down lasted less than an hour, and the tears were not non-stop. As I observed my youngest, I was thankful to know my girl much better now. I understood that she needed to laugh in between sets of tears and was joyful that I possessed the know-how and ability to cater to her particular sense of humor. I also knew when to hug. I knew when to be silent and still. When a child is in the middle of a melt-down, their brain is not functioning normally. Although I understand that she isn’t able to process at that time, I still sometimes find myself asking her a few questions, attempting to help. We’ve been together long enough now that she allowed them, but wasn’t able to answer. I knew that whatever important words I said during that time needed to be repeated at a time she would understand and retain them, too. It was time to revisit what had happened during her outburst this week. So, earlier this week I sat down on the same bedroom floor and talked to her about the melt-down. We talked about why it happened. I shared about how hard it is sometimes to find the right words to express exactly what we are feeling. We talked about other people and how feelings can easily get hurt. Now that her brain wasn’t in an agitated or upset mode, she was more capable of admitting her needs and wants. Even though she has been with us for five years now, English is not her first language, and it is still difficult at times to find the right words for her to express big emotions. I told her that it is sometimes hard for people who have always lived and grown up in America to know how to talk about what they are feeling. I found a small box with a lid and showed her a demonstration I knew she wouldn’t absorb the day of, but had tried anyway. Although she looked like she was listening at the time of the melt-down, she couldn’t remember any of it. So I sat down in front of her with the box and shared again. “See this?” I asked her. “Yes,” she said as she nodded. “This box is a person.” Always up for make-believe, she smiled with interest as I continued. I took the lid off and held up a small stuffed animal. “Let’s pretend this is a feeling.” I dropped it in the box and held up another toy. “This is a thought.” In the box it went. I reminded her of previous discussions we have shared about feelings, thoughts, and emotions. She remembered I had told her that although we have many, and we need to feel and admit them, they are not always accurate or true, even though they feel like it. I continued adding items to the box, saying that people have many thoughts, feelings, and emotions every day. “When we do not have the words to tell others what we think or feel.” I said, “Our head and heart get so full we feel many things. We may get confused, or scared, or mad, or frustrated.” I filled the box up all the way and showed her the inside of it. “We wonder how to get the feelings and thoughts out. Sometimes it’s good to cry and even Jesus cried sometimes. But we can also talk to people and share how we feel so they can help us. In China you did not have anyone, but now you do. I always want to help.” I do talk,” she said. “I always talk to God.” “I’m so happy,” I told her as I gave her a hug. “When you talk to God, the feelings and emotions and thoughts can come out.” I started talking the animals out of the box one at a time. “Then the box feels lighter and we don’t feel like crying because we feel like someone hears us and can understand and help. The thoughts won’t make us feel heavy and sad. Remember that Mommy and Daddy can help. But I’m always glad you talk to God first.” “I know,” she said as she moved closer to me. After a moment she said, “The box is like a puzzle,” she said. “We have to find the right pieces for us.” What? I was astounded and in awe of my girl. She proved how far she had traveled in her time with us. She understood. She carried a deeper understanding than I realized. Being a parent is one of the greatest gifts I have been given. Anyone who has been listening to this podcast for a while knows our story and has heard me speak on this before. Adoptive parenting has humbled me even more than biological parenting. Adoptive parenting forces mothers and fathers to face and admit insecurities while dealing with a child who was once an absolute stranger with no ties to them. They have to navigate and deal with their own hang-ups, pains, or disappointments while facing the raw terror and trauma of a child that only God can heal. Many parents get lost on how the child treats them or rejects them. If we hold self-doubts and uncertainties in our own life, then couple those with the rejection of a child we work so hard to bring home, a family can easily spiral into crisis. Parenting is never about us. Life is not about us. The greatest sacrifice a parent can make is to face the responsibility of raising a child for God with a spirit of great humility. We know nothing about the child in our care, whether biological or adopted, until we release ourselves to our Heavenly Father and allow Him to reveal their special gifts, talents, emotions, and interests. Only by clinging to God are we able to merge broken human personalities and hurts, traumas, fears, hopes, dreams, and love to meet the needs of another. There is no greater gift we can offer than to lay down our life for our child and strive to see them through the eyes of their Creator. Without God, we are damaged vessels. Motherhood offers women the opportunity to face what is broken and allow God to mend and renew. Actually, parenthood offers us the opportunity to face what is broken and allow God to mend and renew. It isn’t just mothers who must face imperfections and bow to Him as we raise the children He entrusted to our care. What is the best method for learning and growing as a parent? As a person? Possessing active humility and simple trust. Last week on the podcast I read verses from Daniel 4:1-37 and shared about teachability. This week I feel the need to offer more, with emphasis on the best ways to be teachable. Humility and trust. We do not have to be the smartest person to learn, or the most intelligent parent, but we do need to pay attention, and carry a desire to learn or change, and maintain or gain, a humble spirit. When we are humble, we recognize that others may carry more knowledge or insight, and perhaps more wisdom than us. We recognize that God is the ultimate source of wisdom and as we seek Him, and desire to understand Him and His ways, we will also gain practical and godly wisdom. Humility teaches us: 1. To be a better listener than speaker. 2. To be slow to speak. 3. To admit our mistakes. 4. To consider others more highly than ourselves. 5. To seek the wisdom of God in everything. James 3:13-18 says, “Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show by good conduct that his works are done in the meekness of wisdom. But if you have bitter envy and self-seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth. This wisdom does not descend from above, but is earthly, sensual, demonic. For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.” I think often about how God must feel when He looks down on this world; the pain His heart must feel. I purposely strive daily to view those I love and strangers around me through a lens that desires results from an eternal perspective that pleases God. I want what I do and think to give my Heavenly Father joy. Instead, how much pain does He receive from me daily? The words in James 3:13-18 show how far so many of us are from where God is calling us to be. When we are wise, we show it through good conduct. Look at the streets filled right now with looting and murder. I see no meekness of wisdom. I see envy and self-seeking, lies, and confusion. God’s wisdom fills us with more humility and wisdom that is pure from Him, peaceable, gentle, and willing to yield while full of mercy and good fruits. He tells us there is no hypocrisy or partiality. There is peace. We cannot know Him, His fruits, His peace, wisdom, or humility without knowing Him. We cannot be teachable without Him. Our world is so far from where we need to be, but that can change one person at a time. I always exclaim that the cure for what ails this nation is one simple thing. The problem is the condition of our hearts. Change the hearts, change the people, change our nation, change the world. The solution is Jesus. That is not my opinion. Is it a fact straight from the Bible. Jesus proclaimed in John 14:6, “I am the truth, the way, and the life; no one comes to the Father, but through Me.” In John 8:24, he said, “For unless you believe that I am He, you shall die in your sins.” The Apostle Peter assured us of the truthfulness of those words when he quoted the words found in Acts 4:12, “And there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved.” Paul agreed in 1 Timothy 2:5 when he said, “There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus. Simply spoken, the Old Testament points the way to the coming Messiah and the New Testament is united in the fact that no one can know or come to God, our Heavenly Father, except through the person of Jesus Christ. Only Jesus can heal hearts. This world needs Him much more than we realize. Basic, but important steps are needed to approach change through Jesus and a relationship with our Heavenly Father. These steps allow our heart and mind to be changed and will keep us growing and maturing properly. There are two important keys. What are they? Humble submission and trust. First, we must recognize and admit our needs. Next, we must be ready for change. Finally, we must want permanent transformation. A shift begins with the willingness to be humbled and the desire to live with permanent humility. I’m going to share several verses to prepare our minds to see our need. 1 Peter 5:5 says, “Likewise you younger people, submit yourselves to your elders. Yes, all of you be submissive to one another, and be clothed with humility, for “God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble.” Proverbs 15:33 says, “The fear of the LORD is the instruction of wisdom, And before honor is humility.” Proverbs 22:4 says, “By humility and the fear of the LORD Are riches and honor and life.” Colossians 2:23 says, “These things indeed have an appearance of wisdom in self-imposed religion, false humility, and neglect of the body, but are of no value against the indulgence of the flesh.” Philippians 2:3 says, “Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.” Colossians 3:12 says, “Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering.” Proverbs 11:2 says, “When pride comes, then comes shame; But with the humble is wisdom.” James 3:13 says, “Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show by good conduct that his works are done in the meekness of wisdom.” Ephesians 4:2 says, “with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love.” Do you recognize these qualities in most of the people living today? Do you recognize them in yourself most of the time? We all have so much work to do. We must allow ourselves to be humbled and gain the desire and ability to trust God with our life. The whole of it. What about trust? In our society, it is hard-earned. Are you ready to extend it to, and allow it to stay, in God’s hand? How does trust in God help us? 1. Trust erases fear. 2. Trust produces peace and joy despite circumstances. 3. Trust enables us to turn away from evil. 4. Trust builds a fortress through the shield of God’s armor. 5. Trust produces a strong faith. 6. Trust enables obedience. Hebrews 11:1 says, “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” Listen to these additional verses about trust. Just like humility, trust is so important that God doesn’t speak on it just once, but continues to prove reasons for us to trust and shows us the only way to a life filled with the richness of peace and other fruits of the spirit we all desire and seek. Psalm 37:3 says, “Trust in the LORD, and do good; Dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness.” Isaiah 12:2 says, “Behold, God is my salvation, I will trust and not be afraid; ‘For Yah, the Lord, is my strength and song; He also has become my salvation.” Psalm 37:5 says, “Commit your way to the LORD; trust in Him, and He will act.” Psalm 62:8 says, “Trust in Him at all times, O people; pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us.” Proverbs 3:5 says, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.” Remember the story I shared about my youngest at the beginning of this podcast? The same principles apply to everyone because we have all experienced different levels of loss, hurt, frustration, confusion, needs, and more. We all have the same desire to be understood and to be able to express ourselves and still be loved and wanted. Think of the analogy I used with the box. Instead of releasing thoughts, feelings, and emotions from the box, think of our mind and heart as safe deposit boxes. If you use the example of the box with the lid, search the word of God and seek to study and understand it, then apply it safely in our hearts and minds to nourish our soul. In effect, we put it in “the box.” When that box is filled with the word of God, conversations and prayers, active listening for His voice, words, and directions to us, humble trust, and active pursuit of Him, and obedience, we release negativity and false beliefs, hurts, bitterness, anger, and more from the box. We build a deposit of humble trust and love for the only One who understands us and will never forsake us. Faith is a series of steps taken through a life of humility and trust with blind obedience through Jesus. Are you ready to begin or expand your walk with the Lord? Me, too. I know with certainty that anything we submit to and do for the Lord will bring us sweet joy on this earth and for eternity. Father, I thank You for Your presence in my life. Please enable me to follow You with humility that is pleasing to You. Help me to trust what you teach and reveal to me. Give me the courage to be obedient to what and where You call me. Let my faith grow and not falter. Help me bring You great joy. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Did you enjoy this episode? Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and learn how to live with more eternal perspective? Right now, because this podcast is new, listeners can’t find it unless they specifically know the name to search for. You can help them find it by leaving a quick review and rating for the show and by sharing about the podcast on social media or word of mouth. Can you think of a friend or family member who might enjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them. 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< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode 033 - What is Better Than Reading Scripture to Your Children? Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #033 – What is Better Than Reading Scripture to Your Children? Thank you for listening to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast. My prayer is that you and I will parent with purpose and confidently connect with Christ and our children moment by moment. With each child I have raised, I have learned more about being a parent and a person submitted to God. I’ve shared on the podcast before that I have always been a good mom. Through the graciousness and mercy of our Heavenly Father, I’ve become a godly mom. There is such a difference! If we pay attention to the needs of our children, strive to be with them daily, discipline when needed, and so on, this world allows us to be good parents. We take pride in the fact that we are good parents. When we discover the difference between good and godly, a lifetime opportunity for discipleship extending toward eternity awaits us and our children! In order to arrive at the understanding between these types of parenting, we must begin with seeking the Lord. Of course, many agree that reading Scripture to your children is the best way for them to come to know Christ. I disagree. It is so much deeper than simply reading the Bible. As a young mother, I thought that if my children knew I loved Jesus and I talked about Him, imparting knowledge of and love for Him that my children would come to follow the same faith. As I grew in my wisdom and understanding of God, I came to understand that there is so much more! Parents can’t be held accountable for whether our children decide to follow Christ, but we are responsible for growing them in the fullness of knowledge of the Lord . We are called to lay a strong foundation built on the solid ground of Christ. We are the tillers of the ground before the foundation is laid, and we are the carpenters that will carefully examine the construction of the house and quickly seek to address any repairs that must be made. Our walk with God through Christ and the way we allow Him to carry and create us anew daily is the sweet aroma that will attract and guide our children toward Him. In order for our children to have an interest in Jesus they must see Him clearly in us and desire the same relationship. What a joy and privilege we have been gifted! Where is the best place to start to ensure that we are God-driven in your pursuit of Christ and your desire to resemble Him in life and parenting? A strong passage of guidance is found in Matthew 4:1-11, which says, “Then Jesus was led by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil. After fasting forty days and forty nights, He was hungry. The tempter came to Him and said, “If you are the Son of God, tell these stones to become bread.” Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’” Then the devil took Him to the holy city and had Him stand on the highest point of the temple. “If you are the Son of God,” he said, “throw yourself down. For it is written: “‘He will command His angels concerning you, and they will lift You up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.’” Jesus answered him, “It is also written: ‘Do not put the Lord your God to the test.’” Again, the devil took Him to a very high mountain and showed Him all the kingdoms of the world and their splendor. “All this I will give You,” he said, “if You will bow down and worship me.” Jesus said to him, “Away from Me, Satan! For it is written: ‘Worship the Lord your God, and serve Him only.’” Then the devil left Him, and angels came and attended Him .” In this short passage much is revealed about Satan’s tactics and the faithfulness and holiness of Christ. The devil knew who Jesus was and intended to sway Him from the task He was to carry out. If Satan knew who Jesus was and the power He carried, yet still attempted to distract and sway Him, the devil will certainly attack our children ! At Satan’s urging, Jesus could have proven Himself and turned stones into bread, but Satan wasn’t the one Jesus followed. His eyes remained on the Father. Jesus had intentionally gone into the wilderness to fast. In Scripture, the wilderness has typically meant a time of preparation. This was an important and crucial time for what was to come with Christ. Satan desired to ruin the mission Christ was on. Testing and tempting Jesus was a targeted attack, and the devil had nothing to lose. For Jesus to succumb to such an easy temptation to take the chance at having food would have ruined what God was about to do through Christ. Think about the significance. Just as in the garden of Eden, the devil tempted with food. However, Jesus, fully God and fully man, did not take the bait. Through the power of Christ within us, we also do not have to take the bait when temptation arises. Guess what? It is within our strength, and it is our duty as parents to teach our children to rely on the same power. Next, the devil tries to cause Jesus to throw Himself from a temple in order to cause angels to rescue Him. Satan saw that Jesus had trusted God in the first test of temptation, so now he twisted his ploy to try to force Jesus to jump in order to show that He still trusted God. In his appeal, Satan even quotes Scripture in his tempting speech. But Jesus used godly wisdom, knowing well that God promises protection for His own, but also crafted us with common sense and wisdom from Him. Just as many people quote the Bible out of context and false preachers twist passages into something they are not, Jesus recognized the devils tactics. We are wise to teach our children more than just words from God. They need to learn and trust depth and context . The last temptation from the devil seems more desperate. Calling for Jesus to worship him, Satan offers all the kingdoms of the earth and promises them to Jesus if He would only bow down and worship him. It is as though Satan believes he can tempt Jesus to forgo the suffering of the cross and just take all that is His already. Although many have easily believed the great deceiver, Jesus did not. Christ knew that He must continue to follow God in complete obedience and focus . It was His privilege and birthright to do so. Christ would never follow or serve Satan. Just as He remained focused on truth , we have the task of embedding the truth of God and the love of Christ into our children . Through the power of the Holy Spirit within us, we can complete our privilege and birthright to be the guiding force of godliness for our children . While parenting, it is almost like we are in a time of roaming the wilderness. So many trials and triumphs surround us. We can feel alone, but we never are. Just as Jesus was tempted, we are tempted. Our spouse is tempted. Our children are tempted. But as Christ kept His eyes and mind focused on the Father, drawing strength and fortitude from Him, we can trust and rely on God to guide us through the wilderness years of parenting and guard our children as we direct them to Him time and time again. Our source of spiritual , mental , physical , emotional , and parenting strength is God’s Holy Word. It serves as the answer to every need and question we have. The key is reading and studying the Word so that we know the resources available to us. The Bible is the life manual we wish for, yet forget we have . God’s Word: 1. Imparts Truth – John 17:17 says, “Sanctify them by the truth; Your word is truth .” 2. Saves – John 14:6 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me .” 3. Sanctifies – John 17:19 says, “For them I sanctify myself, that they too may be truly sanctified .” 4. Protects – Psalm 94:22 says, “But the Lord has become my fortress, and my God the rock in whom I take refuge .” 5. Blesses – Psalm 1:1-2 says, “Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers, but whose delight is in the law of the Lord, and who meditates on his law day and night .” 6. Enlightens – Isaiah 5:20 says, “Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter .” 7. Guides – Psalm 32:8 says, “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go. I will counsel you with My loving eye on you.” 8. Rewards – 2 Timothy 2:15 says, “Similarly, anyone who competes as an athlete does not receive the victor’s crown except by competing according to the rules .” 9. Provides Life – Matthew 4:4 says, “Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’” What are 5 ways to do more than simply read Scripture to your children? 1. Establish a routine to read and study God’s Word together . In order for you or your children to know and grow in the Lord, you must make Him a priority. It’s hard, but well worth the time and energy it takes to establish a consistent schedule. Study God’s word on your own to build and shape your character, knowledge, and trust. Study it with your children and family. 2. Write or memorize Scripture together . Any time spent memorizing or writing Scripture carries benefits and blessings. To teach your child this habit is a beautiful goal that will bring lasting blessings if they continue in it. 3. Pray together . Use God’s Word in your prayers. Encourage your children to do the same. Ask God to teach and enlighten you and your children through studying and living His Word. 4. Teach and Practice Critical Thinking . Children must learn to effectively approach and analyze information and form godly discernment. They must know how to defend their faith in order to make it their own as they grow, mature, and make important decisions. 5. Live Your Beliefs. Show your children that it is important and honoring to God for each of you to live what He commands through words, actions, reactions, attitudes, etc. What are some tips to help you do more than simply read Scripture to your children? 1. Be age appropriate . Purchase age appropriate Bibles for your child to use in personal reading time. Also break verses or passages down to an age appropriate level. You can get the meaning and importance of the Word across even when you change words you use to explain Scripture. Using drawings, music, poems, skits, and toys to enact Bible scenes is very helpful with younger children. I used a white board often with my youngest. The drawings enabled her a deeper level of understanding than just using words as she was learning a new language. 2. Vary lesson lengths . Make your lessons shorter or longer, depending on the ages of your children and the subject matter you are studying. Stretch your children, but do not exasperate them. Make time to answer questions. When questions arise that you cannot answer, find the answers together. It’s wonderful when you both grow in the Lord together. 3. Remember that God’s Word is applicable to every age and season of life . Allow your children to experience God’s love, grace, and mercy, as well as learn His commands. The Bible is for your children, but is not simply about them. Teach them it is about the love of God and encourage them to find Him in the Words. 4. Teach and grow the basics you’ve imparted to them as your children mature and life situations arise. Use Scripture to guide daily events, as well as the praise and the discipline you give them. Pray that your growth in God and guidance through Him will allow you to see and grasp opportunities to illustrate what you and your child have learned and are learning together in the Bible. Remember, the wilderness years of parenting allow us to continuously and prayerfully connect with God to renew our mind and heart through Him, His Holy Word, and the wisdom He imparts to us through both and the Holy Spirit alive within. The closer we draw to Him, the closer we are to those we love and carry a greater ability to draw them nearer to the One who holds the key to a life of love and godliness that leads to a beautiful eternity with Christ together. Dear Heavenly Father, Your goodness to entrust children to us is astounding. We are so thankful and filled with gratitude at Your lovingkindness and mercy toward us. Thank you for allowing us to raise Your children and showing us the ways to direct them to You if we only choose to do so. Enable us to please You more and more daily as we strive to draw nearer to You and make You clearly known to Your children. May their hearts and souls cry out for You and find You through the godly instruction we impart to them. May they grow to be faithful followers of You and continue longing for You and obeying You throughout their life on this earth. Equip us to be the parents You created us to be and please don’t allow us to stray from Your desires or will. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” podcast. This and my “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, iHeart Radio, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts may also now be found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? Did you know that when you review my podcasts on Apple, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcasts online so that more people are allowed to find and hear them. 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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #125 – Willing Steward Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. This week we reached the one year home mark with our Golden Retriever, Beau. Yesterday was National Dog Day, so it was fun to be able to create a Facebook post sharing how he has grown and changed, what his personality is like now, and how he acts in our family. Like a typical “only child,” Beau likes to be the center of everything we do and is strong enough to force his way in wherever he wants to be. At this point, I’ve lost count of how many toys he has accumulated over the last twelve months. In fact, he has chewed through more than I can remember, so even if I were to count what I can find in the house, he has actually received much more than I would know. Like my dog (and probably your pet), as well as most children, we adults fit into this category of having much more than we realize. Did you notice I said “have,” not own? That’s because just as we provide for Beau, all that is in our possession comes from God for specific purposes as He allows each of us free will to choose what type of steward we will be. 1 Peter 4:10-11 says, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God. If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen.” The definition of the word, “steward” that we find in the dictionary or as it is often defined by society is, “one who is responsible to oversee and protect something considered worth caring for and preserving.” As believers, we understand that the definition of Christian stewardship is different, and would be defined as, “using gifts, talents, resources, possessions, wealth, time, and mindset for the service, honor, and glory of God.” All comes from God and He calls us to steward all for Him. 1 Chronicles 29:14 says, “But who am I, and who are my people, that we should be able to give as generously as this? Everything comes from you, and we have given you only what comes from your hand.” I didn’t always understand this. For example, when I was a younger follower of Christ, I can remember learning in Scripture that I was supposed to tithe. I couldn’t see any way that we could do so. Our finances were so tight that I knew there was no way we would survive tithing. Yet, just as Scripture tells us, God is not mocked. It wasn’t until we finally began offering our finances, as well as self, that we saw God truly shine His glory in ways we never imagined. 2 Corinthians 9:6-8 says, “Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work. “ Honestly, I use this principle of stewardship because it is important, but I don’t want anyone to think that I’m saying when we offer our money to God He will reward us with more money. God, in His sovereignty gives us exactly what we need to grow and mature us in our relationship with Him. Although at the time we did see our finances stretch and multiply in ways we never could have planned or imagined, we have never been blessed with immense financial wealth, and although we have been abundantly provided for by the Lord, He has chosen to bless us more deeply in emotional, spiritual, mental, and relational ways that have been perfect for us. God has also humbled us in many ways over the years, and for that, I am blessed and full of gratitude. Without all we have faced, we would not be the individuals or family we have become. I am thankful and desire to be closer to Christ in every way tomorrow, and more so the next day, and on and on. Matthew 6:33-34 says, “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” It also took me a while as a new Christian to really grasp the fact that all we have has been provided by the Lord. I often thanked God for what we had been given, and trusted that when we didn’t receive some things we thought we needed, He was looking over us and going before us in every way. Then, I finally learned through tough experiences that it’s one thing to have head knowledge that comes from reading God’s word, yet the Word became life-altering and so real when I deeply grasped and took hold of what it teaches and promises. When I applied it to my life, allowing God’s truths to seep into and overflow my heart, I truly acknowledged the sovereignty of God in a way I hadn’t before. His holiness, His love, was seen with a new heart and eyes. I was better able to step out in faith, humbly bow to His authority, and obey His calls and commands. Hebrews 11:6 says, “And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him.” God wants our stewardship offering to reflect our faith and trust in Him. I felt free when we humbly began tithing on that day so many years ago. How blessed I felt to not worry and just do as God asked! We stepped out, not in blind faith, but through confidence supported by God’s words and promises. Our Heavenly Father has never let us down or left us without what we needed, plus more. Again, I’m not speaking of only tithing finances or of prosperity preaching, that falsely teaches if you give abundantly, God will bless your finances with great wealth. God chooses to bless obedience in multiple creative ways that are perfectly suited for each individual and the plans He has for us. Our freedom comes through obedience to Him. Can you think of ways you can be an excellent steward for what God has allowed you to have? It could be financial, or through time or talents, gifts, or resources. Even this podcast is a way I steward and present what God has given to me. The Live With Eternal Perspective podcast and the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast are simply acts of obedience for me and ways I steward time, talents, and interests for our gracious Heavenly Father. Have you wondered just what God requires from you in order to be a good steward? If we look in the Bible, we see several verses that lead us to better understand God’s heart for Christian stewardship. One, however, sticks out to me. God wants us to focus on Him. Our life is not to be founded upon this world, but the foundation of Christ. Romans 14:12 says, “So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God.” Viewing life through an eternal lens enables you to focus on what God considers of value. Remember that all we have will one day disappear. Nothing material will go with us when we leave this world to stand before God. We will face the Creator of the Universe and all mankind without what we accumulated on earth, but with what we learned of Him, used for Him, and did for Him. 1 Corinthians 4:2 says, “Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful.” God has given each of us something, and often, many things that can be used for His good and glory. Nothing we own is simply for us to hide away or use for only ourselves. Even personal experiences shape and stretch us, and through an eternal perspective viewpoint, can be used to affect the lives of others for or against God. Christians are called to joyfully and with honest, loving hearts, give to the Lord. Listen to this passage from 1 Chronicles 29:10-18 which says, “David praised the LORD in the presence of the whole assembly, saying, “Praise be to you, LORD, the God of our father Israel, from everlasting to everlasting. Yours, LORD, is the greatness and the power and the glory and the majesty and the splendor, for everything in heaven and earth is Yours. Yours, LORD, is the kingdom; You are exalted as head over all. Wealth and honor come from You; You are the ruler of all things. In Your hands are strength and power to exalt and give strength to all. Now, our God, we give You thanks, and praise Your glorious name. “But who am I, and who are my people, that we should be able to give as generously as this? Everything comes from You, and we have given you only what comes from Your hand. We are foreigners and strangers in Your sight, as were all our ancestors. Our days on earth are like a shadow, without hope. LORD our God, all this abundance that we have provided for building You a temple for Your Holy Name comes from Your hand, and all of it belongs to You. I know, my God, that You test the heart and are pleased with integrity. All these things I have given willingly and with honest intent. And now I have seen with joy how willingly Your people who are here have given to You. LORD, the God of our fathers Abraham, Isaac and Israel, keep these desires and thoughts in the hearts of Your people forever, and keep their hearts loyal to You. ” David’s prayer to God began with humble praise and thanksgiving. He knew that everything he owned had come from God. Just like us, nothing offered back to God isn’t already His or given to us by Him. David was able to willingly surrender back to God because he understood that God was the Owner, the Originator, and the Operator of the universe. David clearly understood that when we choose to follow God, it is a heart matter, not just a mind matter. 1 Peter 4:10 says, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” Once we choose to be a willing steward, we develop into a trustworthy steward, then mature to become a faithful steward. Through the grace, love, direction, and discernment of our gracious Heavenly Father, we can assess where we are now, where He desires us to go next, and how He will enable us to get there. Dear Heavenly Father, Your goodness is overwhelming. Your patience, kindness, and love for us is unending and undeserved. Thank you for Your holy presence in our lives. As we humbly submit to You, Father, please enable us to examine our heart through Your standards, to live with Your expectations and guidelines, and to sacrifice and steward where and as You call. May we see changes within us from day to day and be filled with joy as we allow You to carry and equip us for the purposes You designed us for. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. Just click on “podcasts” and type in the topic or title you wish to hear about in the search bar at the top of the page or wherever you listen to podcasts I also want to remind you that the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, but is also a part of the Spark Media Network, and now the podcast may also be found on the Edifi app, where you can find thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed this podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? For those who have, I thank you so very much! If you haven’t, would you please consider doing so? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. If you believe the content you hear should be heard so that more people can begin to deepen their walk with Jesus and live with eyes set on eternity, would you please write a review and rate the podcast for me? I also want to ask if you have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen to this new podcast, especially if you are raising children or influencing grandchildren. Please follow and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 125 - Willing Steward Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #125 – Willing Steward Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. This week we reached the one year home mark with our Golden Retriever, Beau. Yesterday was National Dog Day, so it was fun to be able to create a Facebook post sharing how he has grown and changed, what his personality is like now, and how he acts in our family. Like a typical “only child,” Beau likes to be the center of everything we do and is strong enough to force his way in wherever he wants to be. At this point, I’ve lost count of how many toys he has accumulated over the last twelve months. In fact, he has chewed through more than I can remember, so even if I were to count what I can find in the house, he has actually received much more than I would know. Like my dog (and probably your pet), as well as most children, we adults fit into this category of having much more than we realize. Did you notice I said “have,” not own? That’s because just as we provide for Beau, all that is in our possession comes from God for specific purposes as He allows each of us free will to choose what type of steward we will be. 1 Peter 4:10-11 says, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God. If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen.” The definition of the word, “steward” that we find in the dictionary or as it is often defined by society is, “one who is responsible to oversee and protect something considered worth caring for and preserving.” As believers, we understand that the definition of Christian stewardship is different, and would be defined as, “using gifts, talents, resources, possessions, wealth, time, and mindset for the service, honor, and glory of God.” All comes from God and He calls us to steward all for Him. 1 Chronicles 29:14 says, “But who am I, and who are my people, that we should be able to give as generously as this? Everything comes from you, and we have given you only what comes from your hand.” I didn’t always understand this. For example, when I was a younger follower of Christ, I can remember learning in Scripture that I was supposed to tithe. I couldn’t see any way that we could do so. Our finances were so tight that I knew there was no way we would survive tithing. Yet, just as Scripture tells us, God is not mocked. It wasn’t until we finally began offering our finances, as well as self, that we saw God truly shine His glory in ways we never imagined. 2 Corinthians 9:6-8 says, “Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work. “ Honestly, I use this principle of stewardship because it is important, but I don’t want anyone to think that I’m saying when we offer our money to God He will reward us with more money. God, in His sovereignty gives us exactly what we need to grow and mature us in our relationship with Him. Although at the time we did see our finances stretch and multiply in ways we never could have planned or imagined, we have never been blessed with immense financial wealth, and although we have been abundantly provided for by the Lord, He has chosen to bless us more deeply in emotional, spiritual, mental, and relational ways that have been perfect for us. God has also humbled us in many ways over the years, and for that, I am blessed and full of gratitude. Without all we have faced, we would not be the individuals or family we have become. I am thankful and desire to be closer to Christ in every way tomorrow, and more so the next day, and on and on. Matthew 6:33-34 says, “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” It also took me a while as a new Christian to really grasp the fact that all we have has been provided by the Lord. I often thanked God for what we had been given, and trusted that when we didn’t receive some things we thought we needed, He was looking over us and going before us in every way. Then, I finally learned through tough experiences that it’s one thing to have head knowledge that comes from reading God’s word, yet the Word became life-altering and so real when I deeply grasped and took hold of what it teaches and promises. When I applied it to my life, allowing God’s truths to seep into and overflow my heart, I truly acknowledged the sovereignty of God in a way I hadn’t before. His holiness, His love, was seen with a new heart and eyes. I was better able to step out in faith, humbly bow to His authority, and obey His calls and commands. Hebrews 11:6 says, “And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him.” God wants our stewardship offering to reflect our faith and trust in Him. I felt free when we humbly began tithing on that day so many years ago. How blessed I felt to not worry and just do as God asked! We stepped out, not in blind faith, but through confidence supported by God’s words and promises. Our Heavenly Father has never let us down or left us without what we needed, plus more. Again, I’m not speaking of only tithing finances or of prosperity preaching, that falsely teaches if you give abundantly, God will bless your finances with great wealth. God chooses to bless obedience in multiple creative ways that are perfectly suited for each individual and the plans He has for us. Our freedom comes through obedience to Him. Can you think of ways you can be an excellent steward for what God has allowed you to have? It could be financial, or through time or talents, gifts, or resources. Even this podcast is a way I steward and present what God has given to me. The Live With Eternal Perspective podcast and the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast are simply acts of obedience for me and ways I steward time, talents, and interests for our gracious Heavenly Father. Have you wondered just what God requires from you in order to be a good steward? If we look in the Bible, we see several verses that lead us to better understand God’s heart for Christian stewardship. One, however, sticks out to me. God wants us to focus on Him. Our life is not to be founded upon this world, but the foundation of Christ. Romans 14:12 says, “So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God.” Viewing life through an eternal lens enables you to focus on what God considers of value. Remember that all we have will one day disappear. Nothing material will go with us when we leave this world to stand before God. We will face the Creator of the Universe and all mankind without what we accumulated on earth, but with what we learned of Him, used for Him, and did for Him. 1 Corinthians 4:2 says, “Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful.” God has given each of us something, and often, many things that can be used for His good and glory. Nothing we own is simply for us to hide away or use for only ourselves. Even personal experiences shape and stretch us, and through an eternal perspective viewpoint, can be used to affect the lives of others for or against God. Christians are called to joyfully and with honest, loving hearts, give to the Lord. Listen to this passage from 1 Chronicles 29:10-18 which says, “David praised the LORD in the presence of the whole assembly, saying, “Praise be to you, LORD, the God of our father Israel, from everlasting to everlasting. Yours, LORD, is the greatness and the power and the glory and the majesty and the splendor, for everything in heaven and earth is Yours. Yours, LORD, is the kingdom; You are exalted as head over all. Wealth and honor come from You; You are the ruler of all things. In Your hands are strength and power to exalt and give strength to all. Now, our God, we give You thanks, and praise Your glorious name. “But who am I, and who are my people, that we should be able to give as generously as this? Everything comes from You, and we have given you only what comes from Your hand. We are foreigners and strangers in Your sight, as were all our ancestors. Our days on earth are like a shadow, without hope. LORD our God, all this abundance that we have provided for building You a temple for Your Holy Name comes from Your hand, and all of it belongs to You. I know, my God, that You test the heart and are pleased with integrity. All these things I have given willingly and with honest intent. And now I have seen with joy how willingly Your people who are here have given to You. LORD, the God of our fathers Abraham, Isaac and Israel, keep these desires and thoughts in the hearts of Your people forever, and keep their hearts loyal to You. ” David’s prayer to God began with humble praise and thanksgiving. He knew that everything he owned had come from God. Just like us, nothing offered back to God isn’t already His or given to us by Him. David was able to willingly surrender back to God because he understood that God was the Owner, the Originator, and the Operator of the universe. David clearly understood that when we choose to follow God, it is a heart matter, not just a mind matter. 1 Peter 4:10 says, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” Once we choose to be a willing steward, we develop into a trustworthy steward, then mature to become a faithful steward. Through the grace, love, direction, and discernment of our gracious Heavenly Father, we can assess where we are now, where He desires us to go next, and how He will enable us to get there. Dear Heavenly Father, Your goodness is overwhelming. Your patience, kindness, and love for us is unending and undeserved. Thank you for Your holy presence in our lives. As we humbly submit to You, Father, please enable us to examine our heart through Your standards, to live with Your expectations and guidelines, and to sacrifice and steward where and as You call. May we see changes within us from day to day and be filled with joy as we allow You to carry and equip us for the purposes You designed us for. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. Just click on “podcasts” and type in the topic or title you wish to hear about in the search bar at the top of the page or wherever you listen to podcasts I also want to remind you that the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, but is also a part of the Spark Media Network, and now the podcast may also be found on the Edifi app, where you can find thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed this podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? For those who have, I thank you so very much! If you haven’t, would you please consider doing so? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. If you believe the content you hear should be heard so that more people can begin to deepen their walk with Jesus and live with eyes set on eternity, would you please write a review and rate the podcast for me? I also want to ask if you have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen to this new podcast, especially if you are raising children or influencing grandchildren. Please follow and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast - Episode 088 - The Truth About Affirmations Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 088 – The Truth About Affirmations Thank you for taking time to share your day with me. I pray this podcast deepens your walk with Jesus and your children. I have some questions for you to ponder as we start the episode today. What do you do when you desire change in your life? Where is the first place you seek to find direction? What gives you strength? Where do you find hope that change can occur? Many people turn to a popular source of hope for change. Affirmations are often used in today’s society. Many coaches, speakers, and influencers recommend their use for daily life and business success. You may wonder what affirmations are. I think an easy description is that affirmations are a method that some people use to change beliefs or behaviors. Affirmations can be written or spoken and are to be used as if they are “already happening.” Some examples would be: “I am successful in my career” or “I attract wealth.” As people use affirmations they create or choose, the written or spoken word is meant to “reprogram” the mind, encourage, and change beliefs or actions about self, life, business, finances, and so on. Affirmations are believed to alter thoughts and actions as they attract what the user desires. Affirmations may be popular, but as I describe them, do you think they sound biblical? As you listen, can you see that they actually sound secular? A word like “attract” is more often a “New Age” term and should alert believers to beware. As we continue this episode, ask God to give you discernment as to whether you should be using affirmations. I’ll show you why I think He calls us to another source. Scripture is very clear that Christians don’t carry transformative power, except for that of the Holy Spirit alive within us. So why would we believe that speaking affirmations that are simply words and thoughts coming from human experiences, beliefs, and desires would be worth repeating in an effort to manifest change ? Jeremiah 17:9 says, “The heart is deceitful above all things, And desperately wicked; Who can know it ?” Romans 8:7 says, “The mind governed by the flesh is hostile to God; it does not submit to God’s law, nor can it do so .” Some proponents of speaking affirmations believe that using them “raises vibrations” or “channels abundance.” Again, this is stepping into New Age terminology and beliefs that are in opposition to God and His Word. Others in favor of using affirmations may believe they’re using positivity to create changes within themselves. They use the affirmations as visual reminders of their goals, prompts to remember goals, encouragement to get there, or inspiration to promote change. When you begin to use affirmations, you learn that there are guidelines – or rules as to how to correctly apply affirmations, such as when and how to use them. As followers of Christ, we have been set free of worldly rules of this type. In fact, we must remember that Scripture offers the best guide for creating desired changes in words, behavior, actions, and successes. You don’t need to chant or write words a certain number of times or get caught up in remembering to recite those affirmations daily. Users of affirmations insist they seem to work. I think the mind is pliable and feeds from the positivity and consistency. However, I also believe that affirmations pose a danger in swaying a person to rely on self instead of Savior . The Bible clearly warns believers against self-reliance. As users repeat the practice of claiming affirmations there is increasing reliance on self and decreasing dependance on God. That is not a safe place for any Christian. Let’s back up a bit and start as I often do by finding the meaning of the word affirm . The word is used “to state or assert positively .” Another definition is to “maintain a true .” Simply making a statement and believing it to be true isn’t as impactful or lasting as prayerful consideration of what God calls you to do - or relying on Him to shift your thoughts, actions, reactions, or circumstances. If you’re a user of affirmations, please don’t shut out what I am saying. Would you please prayerfully consider the message I am delivering? As believers, Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight .” Rely on God to “affirm” you, your future, and what you can or should do. Scripture is clear that you are instructed to take thoughts captive for Christ. In fact, 2 Corinthians 10:4-5 says, “The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ .” Scripture is both your offense and defense . We know from Scripture that the Holy Spirit is the source of the Word . 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work. ” You can trust God’s powerful, holy Word. Through it, you are equipped for every good work. Just what is a good work ? What you discern from following God through a maturing walk with Jesus and prayerful consideration of His voice and will . 2 Peter 1:20-21 says, “Above all, you must understand that no prophecy of Scripture came about by the prophet’s own interpretation of things. For prophecy never had its origin in the human will, but prophets, though human, spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit .” Scripture proves that not even prophets could trust self. They were merely humans who spoke from God as the Holy Spirit moved within them. The Holy Spirit, as the third person of the Trinity, is Truth , as God is Truth . The Holy Spirit always works in accordance with Scripture, never contradictory. Since the Word comes from the Source of the Holy Spirit it is the very breath and life of God. Spoken word (and breath) was used by God to create the world, the universe, you and me. Hebrews 11:3 says, “By faith we understand that the universe was formed at God's command, so that what is seen was not made out of what was visible .” What power comes from God and His word! In Ephesians 6:17 , we read, “Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God .” Using this image of the sword of the Spirit, we better understand that the strength we hold comes directly from God . As Ephesians speaks of the sword, remember that this is a deadly weapon used in war. The imagery used in this verse reminds us again of the mightiness of God and His Word. Proverbs 18:21a says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue .” Great good or destructive harm can be achieved through the tongue. When you speak affirmations you are choosing to affirm life or death. Anything not based on God’s truth is speaking death. Anything based on power of self over Savior carries deception and death. Do you remember Jesus’s reaction when confronted by Satan in the desert? Scripture was the weapon He used with strength and success . Jesus didn’t bargain with the devil or speak positive affirmations. He went straight to the source of wisdom and power. God’s Holy Word . The best defense you and I can employ in this world is to use Scripture as Jesus did. Our Savior didn’t need to fight or look to self. The Word did all He needed. Just as it does for you and me. Our offense is also the Word. As Scripture is used in preaching, coaching, and counseling we recognize power purposed by our sovereign and holy Heavenly Father as He prepares us to rely on His strength and skill. In a culture increasingly falling away from Christ, we must recognize and resist the pull to affirm self . Dare to deepen your faith and consistently proclaim God’s Word as the foundation of Truth on which to build your basis of identity, morality, or change. As you stand on the Word of God as foundational for your thoughts, dreams, and desires and speak His Words as truth over situations, Satan gains zero foothold over your mind, words, or actions. Instead, you move ever closer to the One who created you, defines you, and loves you with an everlasting source of love, hope, and truth. Seek more of Him and less of self, regardless of what this world may instruct. You will begin to recognize the dreams He planted deep within you when you were created. You will accomplish much more than you can imagine or hope for. How can we think that our words hold power to transform? It is nothing more than pride . Do you see the obedience and power in using God’s Word? When people rely on affirmations made by self , they fall victim to this verse from 2 Corinthians 4:4 which says, “The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers, so that they cannot see the light of the gospel that displays the glory of Christ, who is the image of God.” Instead believer, remember John 1:3 which says, “All things were made through Him, and without Him nothing was made that was made.” God is the expert on you. He knows the dreams built within you that you may not have even discovered yet. Build your walk with Him through Christ and seek His thoughts on what to affirm in your life through His holy Word, through prayer, and through relationship with Him. Allow Scripture, not affirmations, to be the force that rewires your brain pathways and changes your outlook, desires, and actions . Using Scripture is easy. Start with several verses from the Bible. Turn those lines into words you can use to affirm truth, power, and strength from God in your life. First, I’ll read the Scripture as it is in the Bible, then using inspiration from that verse, I’ll craft biblical affirmations of God’s truth as examples for you to use and to begin building additional statements for you to use. I love calling these Scripture Statements . 2 Corinthians 1:4 says, “Who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God .” Statement : God is my comforter through any tribulation. He gives me assurance and ability to comfort others in trouble using the comfort and strength He gives to me. 2 Corinthians 3:5 says, “Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God .” Statement: Through God I am competent to claim excellence. Psalm 116:1-2 says, “I love the Lord, because He has heard My voice and my supplications. Because He has inclined His ear to me, therefore I will call upon Him as long as I live. ” Statement: God hears every one of my prayers. Psalm 37:4 says, “Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart .” Statement: I delight in the Lord! He knows the true desires of my heart and will give me all I need. Psalm 46:1 says, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble .” Statement: God is my refuge and strength. Psalm 56:3 says, “When I am afraid, I put my trust in You .” Statement: I have no fear, because I trust in the Lord. Philippians 4:7 says, “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus .” Statement: God’s peace is far above my understanding, and He is the one guarding my heart and mind. Colossians 2:10 says, “And you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power.” Statement: I am complete in every way through God, the head of all principality and power. 2 Corinthians 12:10 says, “That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong .” Statement: Because of Christ, I delight in weaknesses and difficulties because my strength is complete in Him. Isaiah 43:18-19 says, “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland .” Statement: No matter my past, I am renewed through Christ! Through God, I have a new way of life and desires. Psalm 94:19 says, “In the multitude of my thoughts within me thy comforts delight my sou l.” Statement: God comforts and delights my heart and soul. 2 Corinthians 5:7 says, “For we live by faith, not by sight .” Statement: I don’t care what this world brings. I live by faith in the Lord, not by sight. Joshua 1:9 says, “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go .” Statement: I am strong and courageous because the Lord is with me wherever I go. Do you see the power God gives you through His Word and the Holy Spirit within you? Don’t disobediently rely on man-made words to attempt change in your life. Instead, seek God first and use the power He has gifted you in supernatural, holy ways. Dear Heavenly Father, how great You are! We praise You for giving us the gift of Your Holy Word and the strength and guidance You provide to us through it. Father, help us remember to rely on Scripture rather than self. Help us to call on our Savior over self. Help us have your discernment and wisdom. Enable us to discern with Your insight when we are moving away from You or following worldly methods. Bring us back to You and Your will and ways. Help us utilize Your Word as the foundation for our beliefs and identity. Help us craft change in our life because we rely on Scripture and call on Your mighty power. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. If you’re a working mom inside or outside the home and need an easy way to begin teaching your babies, toddlers, or preschoolers about Jesus, send me an email at info@terrihitt.com . I’m currently working on a devotional to bring your children to the feet of Jesus early. Let me know you’re interested, and I’ll let you know how to receive a copy. Also, you may have heard me talk about the Set-Apart Collective often in this podcast. Why do I share it so often? I know the program works. Through 8 weeks of one-on-one and group coaching, along with Scripturally-based materials I provide, you will complete 8 steps that include the following: Seek God First, Establish Identity, Teach Truth, A Set-Apart Woman, Parent Set-Apart Kids, Arm for Battle, Relationships, and Training. What you learn and solidify in your personal life will directly affect the way you serve God and parent for Him. It will help you construct godly confidence and esteem through Christ in your children. Whether you’re expecting or your kids are out of the house, I guarantee that the work you do in this collective will carry you closer to Christ and your children. If you’re ready to invest in the future of yourself and your children, contact me at info@terrihitt.com for more details or visit terrihitt.com/setapart. Because you are a podcast listener, let me know you heard about the special price I’m offering you. I seriously want you to experience results and live a set-apart life with a set-apart family. Instead of a $997 value, I’ll give you a discount code that enables you to pay only $247. If you are serious about parenting with eternal perspective and raising children to chase Christ over culture, I’m making this very affordable and easy to do. Why? Because supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. Godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. That’s why I’ve created the Set-Apart Collective. If you’ve decided peers and culture won’t be the main influence over your child and you desire to parent to prepare your child for eternity with Christ, the Set-Apart Collective, will deepen your walk with Christ. You’ll learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family. The Set-Apart Collective is open now. Please send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information or look online at terrihitt.com/setapart. We can also set up a 15 minute call to see whether it would be a good fit for you. 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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #123 – Engaged with Eternity Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. If you are a Christ follower, do you remember when you first accepted Jesus as your Savior? I recall the intense beating of my heart that magnified the urge to get out of my seat on the day I went forward in church. The choir was singing “Just As I Am” and when I hear that song even now, I clearly see myself moving forward down the church aisle all these years later. There was no way to ignore or deny that God was at work within me. Even though my life was immediately transformed, as I was now a Christian, for me, my new life in Christ came in incremental steps as I learned more about my new relationship with Jesus and began to release self to rely on Him. It took time and lots of intentionality, to get to the maturing relationship I now possess. Just like each of us should strive for, I hope I’m not the same person tomorrow that I am today. I want to continue purposeful growth. Years of mistakes and spiritual growth through relationship with Jesus have taught me to be intentional daily about the walk I have and more importantly, about seeking to view life through eyes and heart like Christ. As I have shared on this podcast before, although I had a close and growing walk with Christ when my daughter passed away, it wasn’t until I lost her that I felt God lifted a veil and I was able to feel the world with a heart seeking eternity; I felt as though was living with half of my soul in this world and half existing in Heaven. Of course, I thought I was living in that manner before, but sometimes it’s only after we suffer such great loss that we allow reality to sink in and see the world with eyes more attuned to how Christ would call us to view life. I knew that as believers we were to see the world as a journey we pass through, and I tried to do just that, but now, I can honestly say that each and every day I value life with a much deeper eternal appreciation and long for the day I will be in Heaven with joy and anticipation, yet I love being where God calls me to serve Him at this time. However, I am cognizant of the truth that I can never reach the level of gratitude that I should carry. I will never honor God as highly as He deserves. Yet I no longer call this world my home. I long for a life with my Savior and the fullness I will receive once I am with Him. How about you? Isaiah 55:8-9 says, “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” His ways are not our ways. The Kingdom of Heaven is flipped the opposite of what this world preaches and sells. It’s different than what our human flesh calls us to do. Yet, followers of Christ have hope for this life and for eternity. We know to keep our gaze focused on our eternal home with Jesus. But do we always do so? Life moves quickly. Activities, emergencies, work, family, social life, shopping, cooking, cleaning, church, school, and obligations keep our minds and our calendars beyond full. Simply watching the news can throw our attention into a whirlwind of worries or scary speculations that squander time and alter our attitude. Colossians 3:2 says, “Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” 1 Peter 1:13 says, “Therefore, with minds that are alert and fully sober, set your hope on the grace to be brought to you when Jesus Christ is revealed at his coming.” Life is fleeting; none of us know the number of the days assigned to us. Anything can happen from one second to the next. In fact, it is only through my faith and reliance on Jesus that I am not a nervous wreck after the loss of my oldest daughter. It would be easy to worry about those I love and expect to lose them at any time. Without the Holy Spirit living within me, I know I would not be the same person. He is my strength and hope each and every second. He allows me to live with peace, joy, and hope that I would not have without Him. Because I have suffered great loss, I know how quickly we are surprised with unexpected trials and tragedies. Life changes in the seconds between our plans. Emergencies and unexpected events have their own timetable. Psalm 90:12 says, “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” God knows the last breath we will take, the last word a loved one may utter, when will we receive the last kiss or smile from those closest to us. Job 14:5 says, “A person’s days are determined; you have decreed the number of his months and have set limits he cannot exceed.” When we’re young we don’t think of our later years; they seem so distant that we somehow don’t fully believe they will arrive. I remember only thinking about retirement at 401K enrollment time at my first “adult” job. The date set for me was such a long time in the future that it seemed it was written for another person. Now that time is almost here. What if all I had to place hope on was the temporary pleasures or concerns of this world? Because of the love and sacrifice of Christ, I have much more. 2 Corinthians 4:16b-18 says, “Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” James 4:14 says, “Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.” How often do you reflect on the fact that God created you for fellowship with Him? I know you know that truth, but do you live like you believe it? His desire is that we joyfully choose to walk with Him, to talk with Him, and to share with and for Him. The Alpha and the Omega, the Beginning and the End, the First and the Last is above all and created all; He alone deserves our love, respect, honor, and praise. Psalm 90:2 says, “Before the mountains were born or You brought forth the whole world, from everlasting to everlasting you are God.” Our Heavenly Father is never surprised by what has or will happen. He created each of us with great care, love, and purpose. You were created for reasons no one else will fulfill. Even the mistakes you have made were already known by our wondrous, loving Heavenly Father. Isaiah 46:11 says, “From the east I summon a bird of prey; from a far-off land, a man to fulfill my purpose. What I have said, that I will bring about; what I have planned, that I will do.” Knowing what His beloved creation would do and be like, God created a way for us to have eternal fellowship with Him. Clearly making the way to Him known, God made a beautiful pathway to His feet so that we would never question salvation. John 14:6 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” John 5:24 says, “Very truly I tell you, whoever hears My word and believes Him who sent Me has eternal life and will not be judged but has crossed over from death to life.” Scripture instructs us toward Christ’s greatest commands for us: Matthew 22:37-39 says, “Jesus declared, “ ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.” How often do you think of these commands with eyes and heart that seek eternal perspective? 2 Corinthians 5:10 says, “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.” 1 John 2:17 says, “The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever.” There is no way we can do the will of God without knowing Him. How do we do what we don’t know? Are you keeping in the Word of God? If you are a believer, do you make time daily to study scripture? Even a short, but consistent amount of daily time will allow your eyes and heart to view God with an eternal mindset that will alter the way you view this world and the actions and reactions you make. Do you listen for His still, small voice? Do you seek clarity from Him before moving with actions you want to take, so that you know you are living the steps He purposed? Matthew 6:19-21 says, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Acts 17:31 says, “For He has set a day when He will judge the world with justice by the man He has appointed. He has given proof of this to everyone by raising Him from the dead.” Christ calls us to keep our gaze fixed on Him, pressing forward toward our eternal future. What are ways you can purpose to live for eternity now? Philippians 3:12-14 says, “Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” I urge you to assess your life through eternal perspective today. Prayerfully seek the Lord and ask Him to give you a heart for eternity. Ask Him to give you eyes that see the world through an eternal lens. See how He would guide you to follow Him differently, cling to Him more closely, and serve Him more intimately. Nothing we do for God is wasted. As we love Him more purposely, even the way we serve others is truly work done for Him. What will you change to walk with Him and serve Him more closely today? Dear Heavenly Father, there is none like You. Your goodness overwhelms us. Your love astounds us. May we seek You with eyes and hearts that intentionally desire Your eternity-driven perspective. May we intimately view life with the expectation of an eternity with You. Please fix your words and perspectives in our hearts and minds, and help us to value and remember them as You desire. Keep our minds in perfect peace because we steadfastly cling to You. Help us trust in You forever, for You, our LORD, are the Rock eternal. Help us to pay attention and turn our ears to Your wisdom, and please apply Your heart to all we think and do as we trust in You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. To hear episodes that deal with living with eternal driven hearts, I suggest listening to Episodes 004, Eternity Driven Hearts, 026, Mind Fixed on Eternity, or 056, A Passionate Life for Jesus. You may find these episodes on the terrihitt.com website. Just click on “podcasts” and type in the topic or title you wish to hear about in the search bar at the top of the page or wherever you listen to podcasts I want to remind you that the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, but is also a part of the Spark Media Network, and now the podcast may also be found on the Edifi app, where you can find thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed this podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? For those who have, I thank you so very much! If you haven’t, would you please consider doing so? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. If you believe the content you hear should be heard so that more people can begin to deepen their walk with Jesus and live with eyes set on eternity, would you please write a review and rate the podcast for me? I also want to ask if you have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen to this new podcast, especially if you are raising children or influencing grandchildren. Please follow and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 123 - Engaged With Eternity Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #123 – Engaged with Eternity Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. If you are a Christ follower, do you remember when you first accepted Jesus as your Savior? I recall the intense beating of my heart that magnified the urge to get out of my seat on the day I went forward in church. The choir was singing “Just As I Am” and when I hear that song even now, I clearly see myself moving forward down the church aisle all these years later. There was no way to ignore or deny that God was at work within me. Even though my life was immediately transformed, as I was now a Christian, for me, my new life in Christ came in incremental steps as I learned more about my new relationship with Jesus and began to release self to rely on Him. It took time and lots of intentionality, to get to the maturing relationship I now possess. Just like each of us should strive for, I hope I’m not the same person tomorrow that I am today. I want to continue purposeful growth. Years of mistakes and spiritual growth through relationship with Jesus have taught me to be intentional daily about the walk I have and more importantly, about seeking to view life through eyes and heart like Christ. As I have shared on this podcast before, although I had a close and growing walk with Christ when my daughter passed away, it wasn’t until I lost her that I felt God lifted a veil and I was able to feel the world with a heart seeking eternity; I felt as though was living with half of my soul in this world and half existing in Heaven. Of course, I thought I was living in that manner before, but sometimes it’s only after we suffer such great loss that we allow reality to sink in and see the world with eyes more attuned to how Christ would call us to view life. I knew that as believers we were to see the world as a journey we pass through, and I tried to do just that, but now, I can honestly say that each and every day I value life with a much deeper eternal appreciation and long for the day I will be in Heaven with joy and anticipation, yet I love being where God calls me to serve Him at this time. However, I am cognizant of the truth that I can never reach the level of gratitude that I should carry. I will never honor God as highly as He deserves. Yet I no longer call this world my home. I long for a life with my Savior and the fullness I will receive once I am with Him. How about you? Isaiah 55:8-9 says, “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” His ways are not our ways. The Kingdom of Heaven is flipped the opposite of what this world preaches and sells. It’s different than what our human flesh calls us to do. Yet, followers of Christ have hope for this life and for eternity. We know to keep our gaze focused on our eternal home with Jesus. But do we always do so? Life moves quickly. Activities, emergencies, work, family, social life, shopping, cooking, cleaning, church, school, and obligations keep our minds and our calendars beyond full. Simply watching the news can throw our attention into a whirlwind of worries or scary speculations that squander time and alter our attitude. Colossians 3:2 says, “Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” 1 Peter 1:13 says, “Therefore, with minds that are alert and fully sober, set your hope on the grace to be brought to you when Jesus Christ is revealed at his coming.” Life is fleeting; none of us know the number of the days assigned to us. Anything can happen from one second to the next. In fact, it is only through my faith and reliance on Jesus that I am not a nervous wreck after the loss of my oldest daughter. It would be easy to worry about those I love and expect to lose them at any time. Without the Holy Spirit living within me, I know I would not be the same person. He is my strength and hope each and every second. He allows me to live with peace, joy, and hope that I would not have without Him. Because I have suffered great loss, I know how quickly we are surprised with unexpected trials and tragedies. Life changes in the seconds between our plans. Emergencies and unexpected events have their own timetable. Psalm 90:12 says, “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” God knows the last breath we will take, the last word a loved one may utter, when will we receive the last kiss or smile from those closest to us. Job 14:5 says, “A person’s days are determined; you have decreed the number of his months and have set limits he cannot exceed.” When we’re young we don’t think of our later years; they seem so distant that we somehow don’t fully believe they will arrive. I remember only thinking about retirement at 401K enrollment time at my first “adult” job. The date set for me was such a long time in the future that it seemed it was written for another person. Now that time is almost here. What if all I had to place hope on was the temporary pleasures or concerns of this world? Because of the love and sacrifice of Christ, I have much more. 2 Corinthians 4:16b-18 says, “Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” James 4:14 says, “Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.” How often do you reflect on the fact that God created you for fellowship with Him? I know you know that truth, but do you live like you believe it? His desire is that we joyfully choose to walk with Him, to talk with Him, and to share with and for Him. The Alpha and the Omega, the Beginning and the End, the First and the Last is above all and created all; He alone deserves our love, respect, honor, and praise. Psalm 90:2 says, “Before the mountains were born or You brought forth the whole world, from everlasting to everlasting you are God.” Our Heavenly Father is never surprised by what has or will happen. He created each of us with great care, love, and purpose. You were created for reasons no one else will fulfill. Even the mistakes you have made were already known by our wondrous, loving Heavenly Father. Isaiah 46:11 says, “From the east I summon a bird of prey; from a far-off land, a man to fulfill my purpose. What I have said, that I will bring about; what I have planned, that I will do.” Knowing what His beloved creation would do and be like, God created a way for us to have eternal fellowship with Him. Clearly making the way to Him known, God made a beautiful pathway to His feet so that we would never question salvation. John 14:6 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” John 5:24 says, “Very truly I tell you, whoever hears My word and believes Him who sent Me has eternal life and will not be judged but has crossed over from death to life.” Scripture instructs us toward Christ’s greatest commands for us: Matthew 22:37-39 says, “Jesus declared, “ ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.” How often do you think of these commands with eyes and heart that seek eternal perspective? 2 Corinthians 5:10 says, “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.” 1 John 2:17 says, “The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever.” There is no way we can do the will of God without knowing Him. How do we do what we don’t know? Are you keeping in the Word of God? If you are a believer, do you make time daily to study scripture? Even a short, but consistent amount of daily time will allow your eyes and heart to view God with an eternal mindset that will alter the way you view this world and the actions and reactions you make. Do you listen for His still, small voice? Do you seek clarity from Him before moving with actions you want to take, so that you know you are living the steps He purposed? Matthew 6:19-21 says, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Acts 17:31 says, “For He has set a day when He will judge the world with justice by the man He has appointed. He has given proof of this to everyone by raising Him from the dead.” Christ calls us to keep our gaze fixed on Him, pressing forward toward our eternal future. What are ways you can purpose to live for eternity now? Philippians 3:12-14 says, “Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” I urge you to assess your life through eternal perspective today. Prayerfully seek the Lord and ask Him to give you a heart for eternity. Ask Him to give you eyes that see the world through an eternal lens. See how He would guide you to follow Him differently, cling to Him more closely, and serve Him more intimately. Nothing we do for God is wasted. As we love Him more purposely, even the way we serve others is truly work done for Him. What will you change to walk with Him and serve Him more closely today? Dear Heavenly Father, there is none like You. Your goodness overwhelms us. Your love astounds us. May we seek You with eyes and hearts that intentionally desire Your eternity-driven perspective. May we intimately view life with the expectation of an eternity with You. Please fix your words and perspectives in our hearts and minds, and help us to value and remember them as You desire. Keep our minds in perfect peace because we steadfastly cling to You. Help us trust in You forever, for You, our LORD, are the Rock eternal. Help us to pay attention and turn our ears to Your wisdom, and please apply Your heart to all we think and do as we trust in You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. To hear episodes that deal with living with eternal driven hearts, I suggest listening to Episodes 004, Eternity Driven Hearts, 026, Mind Fixed on Eternity, or 056, A Passionate Life for Jesus. You may find these episodes on the terrihitt.com website. Just click on “podcasts” and type in the topic or title you wish to hear about in the search bar at the top of the page or wherever you listen to podcasts I want to remind you that the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, but is also a part of the Spark Media Network, and now the podcast may also be found on the Edifi app, where you can find thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed this podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? For those who have, I thank you so very much! If you haven’t, would you please consider doing so? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. If you believe the content you hear should be heard so that more people can begin to deepen their walk with Jesus and live with eyes set on eternity, would you please write a review and rate the podcast for me? I also want to ask if you have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen to this new podcast, especially if you are raising children or influencing grandchildren. Please follow and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #030 – Are You Wearing His Armor? Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. The past week has been full of distractions. It has not been an easy time of focusing on what I planned for. Preparing for our upcoming school year, trying to clean my house before school begins, reading God’s word and praying for discernment on what to reflect on and read for the podcast this week were what I wanted to do, but instead, life has interfered. So, I have been working on medical necessities for my youngest, going to important medical visits, advocating, writing a letter, and speaking to departments at the local children’s hospital to ensure that her unique needs are not forgotten during this Covid season. It has been draining, but I will gladly do as much as I need to if it ensures her needs are met. When our visit to cardiology last week alerted her physician to look at our girl a little more closely, several tests were scheduled and more blood work was ordered to be drawn. God has truly carried our girl through a time of extra tests during a season where both parents cannot go to visits unless exceptions are made, and it is a time that would have thrown her into a two-hour crying spree a few years ago. The difference in her is truly astounding and brings me once again to my knees to watch God work. Her joy, trust, and hopeful attitude has been an inspiration to me as we await these test results and I know that her future is certainly in God’s hands. As I walked through thoughts of what her future holds this week, I was forced to consider realities I don’t usually ponder. I know her medical conditions and I trust that God is in control and will carry and provide for her. When things took a slight turn last week, I was forced to ponder the fact that her future may change faster than I expected. While I do not want that scenario, I can say that all is well with my soul. God has carried me through hard before and He will never stop. He has carried our precious daughter through hard before. He is still with her – and she knows Him now. The hardest season in my life was the death of our oldest daughter. During that heart-shattering time, I buried myself in God’s word and strapped His armor on tight. In fact, it was super-glued to my body. I like to think I still wear it daily, but last week I was reminded to keep it polished and shining for others to see. If you have listened to this podcast for long, you know my thoughts on eternal perspective. I firmly believe that everything I do affects those round me for eternity. I want others to see the way God carries and encourages me. The way He loves me, because He will love you the same, too. But last week was so emotional for me. I had to let myself process emotions and feel the possibilities, but then look firmly back to the Lord and know that none of what we discovered at the cardiology office was a surprise to Him and that He still holds each of us in His firm grasp. I know it is our time to curl up in His lap together and wait for Him to shower blessings. For it is always in the toughest seasons that we grow in Him if we only allow Him to cradle and carry us. That back story must give you a hint of why I chose to read from Ephesians 6:10-19 this week. This is where I drew my deepest strength during my greatest time of heartbreak and where I continue to go to remind myself that I do not need to be strong in myself. When we are weak, make no mistake, the devil finds ways unique to what he has observed works in our life and tries to wiggle in and distract us from seeking God or tries to discourage us. These are the times we must stand strong and know where to turn. We need to remember Who my God is and allow His mighty and powerful armor to cover me as I rest in His arms. Ephesians 6:10-19 says, “Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints— and for me, that utterance may be given to me, that I may open my mouth boldly to make known the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains; that in it I may speak boldly, as I ought to speak.” Let's take a look at some of the verses in this passage. Now we know that when we are in a battle, a spiritual battle, we definitely need to have spiritual weapons. God has given us absolutely everything that we need to remain strong in Him. I'd like to look at some notes written by Dr. David Jeremiah and I think they are beautifully written. I could not say things any better. Bear with me as I turn to this in my Bible. People think of war as something glamorous until they, or someone they know, becomes a casuality. The same is true in the spiritual arena. Spiritual warfare seems to be a popular subject for movies, lectures, books, and preaching. But many believers are casualties of Satan's schemes. Make no mistake. Whether they are aware of it or not, all Christians are engaged in a very real spiritual battle between two opposing kingdoms. Those least in the know are often the first casualties. Thankfully, Paul provides believers with a self-defense course in Ephesians 6, and Jesus equips us with all six dimensions of our spiritual armor. He is our truth, our righteousness, our peace, the object of our faith, the source of our salvation, and the living word of God. When we put on Jesus Christ, we are protected by the only person Satan has never defeated. Using the armor of a Roman soldier as a model, the apostle Paul described how a Christian can stand strong in the midst of this ever-present, but unseen spiritual battle: 1. The belt of truth - verse 6:14. The soldiers belt served as the foundation of his armor, holding his sword and his breastplate. Because Satan is the father of lies, he cannot stand against the truth. Jesus said, "I am the truth.Victory in spiritual warfare starts with truth. 2. The breastplate of righteousness - verse 6:14. The breastplate guarded the heart, the source of the soldier's life. In a similar way, righteousness protects the spiritual life of the Christian. Our righteousness comes not from ourselves, but from Christ. 3. Feet protected by the gospel of peace - verse 6:15. The soldier's heavy, armored sandals gave him traction and security in the heat of the battle. So our peace with God through Jesus Christ gives us security. in the face of Satan's accusations. 4. The shield of faith - verse 6:16. The soldier's leather-covered shield could be soaked in water to extinguish the flaming arrows of the enemy. Faith in God's promises deflects and extinguishes the lies of Satan. 5. The helmet of salvation - verse 6:17. The aromored helmet protected the soldier's brain. Since the primary battlefield in spiritual warfare is the Christian's mind, assurance of salvation defeats the doubts Satan uses to attack us. 6. The sword of the Spirit, the word of God - verse 6:17. Paul noted ony one offensive weapon, the soldier's sword. For the Christian, the sword is the Word of God. Thankfully, our spiritual armor is to be used in a war that has already been won. It is said of Napoleon Bonaparte that as he attempted to conquer all the kingdoms of the known world, he spread out a map on a table, pointed to a specific place, and said to his lieutenants, " Sirs, if it weren't for that red spot, I could conquer the world." The spot to which he pointed was the British Isles, the very nation that met Napoleon at Waterloo in Belgium and defeated him in league with a group of nations. There is no doubt that when Satan talks with his minions about conquering the world, he says the same thing about the red hilltop of Calvary where Christ's blood was spilled. "If it were not for that red spot, I could rule the world." But that red spot is what makes all the differnece in our spiritual battle. We do not have to live in fear of the devil. We need enter only the spiritual battle to which we have been called, aware of its reality and its subtlety, and armed with the truth that the ultimate vistory against Satan has already been achieved, Therefore, right now at this moment we are "more than conquerors through Him who loved us." Personal experience in my life has seen how true that what Dr. David Jeremiah just wrote about in these verses has proven Ephesians to be so true. How about you? Have you put on the armor of God and seen the difference that it makes in your life? Have you read those words and been so inspired by what God has done, how he has carried you and protected you? I'd like to read some more notes that Dr. David Jeremiah has written. I simply cannot write these any better and they are so powerful and so promising and so true. I want you to be inspired. Verses 6:10-12 Christians live in a spiritual war zone where the enemy - Satan - uses many tactics in his attempts to defeat them. Those tactics are evidenced by some of the descriptions of Satan in scripture: he is called the deceiver, a murderer, the tempter, a liar, the accuser of the brethren, and the wicked one. Satan's war against God's people follows an organized strategy. Principalities refers to his head officers; wiles refers to clever plans, crafty deceptions, and cunning methods. Like a military general, Satan plans his attacks and directs his demonic forces. Paul mentions six pieces of armor, of which five are defensive. Paul's list mentions nothing for a Christian's back because God expects no deserters in His army. When Christians put on the armor of God they are putting on Christ Himslef. He is the one who fights Satan on their behalf. How glorious it is for us. when we realize that fact. We don't have to fight Satan. God does the battles. More notes here from 6:11-12 say: Every time Paul mentions another class of spiritual beings, he reaffirms that we wrestle against them. The word against appears six times in these two verses. Think of a Christian rowing a boat against the current, trying to make spiritual progress in one direction while Satan turns the current of the world in the opposite direction. You guys know what that's talking about. People, flesh and blood, may persecute, betray, or hurt God's children, but Christians must never forget that the real battle is against Satan, he is the one who brings evil into their lives and tempts them to sin. Believers who view other people as the enemy will not be able to vanquish the true foe. Let's see some more notes here. How about 6:13. Christians need all the armor God has provided to defend against Satan's attacks. They must not choose one piece of armor over another to suit their preferences; they must be proficient in using every piece. Amen to that. 6:14-17, the notes read: Spiritual battles must be fought with spiritual weapons. God's people do not fight with arguments or violence but with truth, righteousness, the gospel of peace, faith, salvation, and the word of God. God promises that such weapons will defeat the enemy. The only weapon for offense in the Christian's armor is the word of God. Two Greek words are commonly translated word in English: "logos," which describes the Bible as a whole, and "rhema," the term here, which refers to a particular "saying of God" that has special application for a given situation. The Bible as a whole is an armory from which to select swords for specific battles. Jesus illustrated the use of the "rhema of God" in His victory over Satan in the wilderness. Verse 6:18 reads: A study of Old Testament wars reveals that when the armies of Israel fought in their own strength, they always lost. But when they cast themselves upon God's mercy, victory always followed. Supplication means to ask God for whatever one needs. Asking is the rule of the kingdom and the rule of the church. How true are these notes? As you listen, I pray that you can use these notes in so many of the areas of our culture, of our personal lives, of things that we are going through right now as a nation, and as individuals. Also, at the very end, we will end with this passage that I read in verse 6:19. The notes here say: Paul did not pray for a release from jail, or for an improvement in his situation, or for his own health. He asked his friends to pray for boldness to unveil the mystery of the gospel of Christ. Paul wanted to be an ambassador that he could speak boldly, as he ought to speak. Just as each of us need to do through the way we live each day. Living with an eternal perspective that draws us nearer to God, and draws others nearer to Him at the same time. We don't want the armor that we wear to reflect us. We want it to reflect Christ. We want the words we speak, the actions we do, the thoughts we make, all of those things to have one commonality, and that is, living with an eternal perspective. That we recognize that all we do matters, for us, for others, and for Christ. Lord, help us to live with an eternal perspective that draws others to You and makes You boldly known. Help us to keep our armor on at all times, diligently waiting for You to fight our battles. God, we just thank you so much for all You are and do in our lives. Help us to be bold and to show You clearly in all ways. Did you enjoy this episode? Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and learn how to live with more eternal perspective? Right now, because this podcast is new, listeners cannot find it unless they specifically know the name to search for. You can help by leaving a quick review and rating for the show and by sharing about the podcast on social media or word of mouth. Can you think of a friend or family member who might enjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them. Until next week, keep looking Up and finding new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 030 Are You Wearing His Armor Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #030 – Are You Wearing His Armor? Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. The past week has been full of distractions. It has not been an easy time of focusing on what I planned for. Preparing for our upcoming school year, trying to clean my house before school begins, reading God’s word and praying for discernment on what to reflect on and read for the podcast this week were what I wanted to do, but instead, life has interfered. So, I have been working on medical necessities for my youngest, going to important medical visits, advocating, writing a letter, and speaking to departments at the local children’s hospital to ensure that her unique needs are not forgotten during this Covid season. It has been draining, but I will gladly do as much as I need to if it ensures her needs are met. When our visit to cardiology last week alerted her physician to look at our girl a little more closely, several tests were scheduled and more blood work was ordered to be drawn. God has truly carried our girl through a time of extra tests during a season where both parents cannot go to visits unless exceptions are made, and it is a time that would have thrown her into a two-hour crying spree a few years ago. The difference in her is truly astounding and brings me once again to my knees to watch God work. Her joy, trust, and hopeful attitude has been an inspiration to me as we await these test results and I know that her future is certainly in God’s hands. As I walked through thoughts of what her future holds this week, I was forced to consider realities I don’t usually ponder. I know her medical conditions and I trust that God is in control and will carry and provide for her. When things took a slight turn last week, I was forced to ponder the fact that her future may change faster than I expected. While I do not want that scenario, I can say that all is well with my soul. God has carried me through hard before and He will never stop. He has carried our precious daughter through hard before. He is still with her – and she knows Him now. The hardest season in my life was the death of our oldest daughter. During that heart-shattering time, I buried myself in God’s word and strapped His armor on tight. In fact, it was super-glued to my body. I like to think I still wear it daily, but last week I was reminded to keep it polished and shining for others to see. If you have listened to this podcast for long, you know my thoughts on eternal perspective. I firmly believe that everything I do affects those round me for eternity. I want others to see the way God carries and encourages me. The way He loves me, because He will love you the same, too. But last week was so emotional for me. I had to let myself process emotions and feel the possibilities, but then look firmly back to the Lord and know that none of what we discovered at the cardiology office was a surprise to Him and that He still holds each of us in His firm grasp. I know it is our time to curl up in His lap together and wait for Him to shower blessings. For it is always in the toughest seasons that we grow in Him if we only allow Him to cradle and carry us. That back story must give you a hint of why I chose to read from Ephesians 6:10-19 this week. This is where I drew my deepest strength during my greatest time of heartbreak and where I continue to go to remind myself that I do not need to be strong in myself. When we are weak, make no mistake, the devil finds ways unique to what he has observed works in our life and tries to wiggle in and distract us from seeking God or tries to discourage us. These are the times we must stand strong and know where to turn. We need to remember Who my God is and allow His mighty and powerful armor to cover me as I rest in His arms. Ephesians 6:10-19 says, “Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints— and for me, that utterance may be given to me, that I may open my mouth boldly to make known the mystery of the gospel, for which I am an ambassador in chains; that in it I may speak boldly, as I ought to speak.” Let's take a look at some of the verses in this passage. Now we know that when we are in a battle, a spiritual battle, we definitely need to have spiritual weapons. God has given us absolutely everything that we need to remain strong in Him. I'd like to look at some notes written by Dr. David Jeremiah and I think they are beautifully written. I could not say things any better. Bear with me as I turn to this in my Bible. People think of war as something glamorous until they, or someone they know, becomes a casuality. The same is true in the spiritual arena. Spiritual warfare seems to be a popular subject for movies, lectures, books, and preaching. But many believers are casualties of Satan's schemes. Make no mistake. Whether they are aware of it or not, all Christians are engaged in a very real spiritual battle between two opposing kingdoms. Those least in the know are often the first casualties. Thankfully, Paul provides believers with a self-defense course in Ephesians 6, and Jesus equips us with all six dimensions of our spiritual armor. He is our truth, our righteousness, our peace, the object of our faith, the source of our salvation, and the living word of God. When we put on Jesus Christ, we are protected by the only person Satan has never defeated. Using the armor of a Roman soldier as a model, the apostle Paul described how a Christian can stand strong in the midst of this ever-present, but unseen spiritual battle: 1. The belt of truth - verse 6:14. The soldiers belt served as the foundation of his armor, holding his sword and his breastplate. Because Satan is the father of lies, he cannot stand against the truth. Jesus said, "I am the truth.Victory in spiritual warfare starts with truth. 2. The breastplate of righteousness - verse 6:14. The breastplate guarded the heart, the source of the soldier's life. In a similar way, righteousness protects the spiritual life of the Christian. Our righteousness comes not from ourselves, but from Christ. 3. Feet protected by the gospel of peace - verse 6:15. The soldier's heavy, armored sandals gave him traction and security in the heat of the battle. So our peace with God through Jesus Christ gives us security. in the face of Satan's accusations. 4. The shield of faith - verse 6:16. The soldier's leather-covered shield could be soaked in water to extinguish the flaming arrows of the enemy. Faith in God's promises deflects and extinguishes the lies of Satan. 5. The helmet of salvation - verse 6:17. The aromored helmet protected the soldier's brain. Since the primary battlefield in spiritual warfare is the Christian's mind, assurance of salvation defeats the doubts Satan uses to attack us. 6. The sword of the Spirit, the word of God - verse 6:17. Paul noted ony one offensive weapon, the soldier's sword. For the Christian, the sword is the Word of God. Thankfully, our spiritual armor is to be used in a war that has already been won. It is said of Napoleon Bonaparte that as he attempted to conquer all the kingdoms of the known world, he spread out a map on a table, pointed to a specific place, and said to his lieutenants, " Sirs, if it weren't for that red spot, I could conquer the world." The spot to which he pointed was the British Isles, the very nation that met Napoleon at Waterloo in Belgium and defeated him in league with a group of nations. There is no doubt that when Satan talks with his minions about conquering the world, he says the same thing about the red hilltop of Calvary where Christ's blood was spilled. "If it were not for that red spot, I could rule the world." But that red spot is what makes all the differnece in our spiritual battle. We do not have to live in fear of the devil. We need enter only the spiritual battle to which we have been called, aware of its reality and its subtlety, and armed with the truth that the ultimate vistory against Satan has already been achieved, Therefore, right now at this moment we are "more than conquerors through Him who loved us." Personal experience in my life has seen how true that what Dr. David Jeremiah just wrote about in these verses has proven Ephesians to be so true. How about you? Have you put on the armor of God and seen the difference that it makes in your life? Have you read those words and been so inspired by what God has done, how he has carried you and protected you? I'd like to read some more notes that Dr. David Jeremiah has written. I simply cannot write these any better and they are so powerful and so promising and so true. I want you to be inspired. Verses 6:10-12 Christians live in a spiritual war zone where the enemy - Satan - uses many tactics in his attempts to defeat them. Those tactics are evidenced by some of the descriptions of Satan in scripture: he is called the deceiver, a murderer, the tempter, a liar, the accuser of the brethren, and the wicked one. Satan's war against God's people follows an organized strategy. Principalities refers to his head officers; wiles refers to clever plans, crafty deceptions, and cunning methods. Like a military general, Satan plans his attacks and directs his demonic forces. Paul mentions six pieces of armor, of which five are defensive. Paul's list mentions nothing for a Christian's back because God expects no deserters in His army. When Christians put on the armor of God they are putting on Christ Himslef. He is the one who fights Satan on their behalf. How glorious it is for us. when we realize that fact. We don't have to fight Satan. God does the battles. More notes here from 6:11-12 say: Every time Paul mentions another class of spiritual beings, he reaffirms that we wrestle against them. The word against appears six times in these two verses. Think of a Christian rowing a boat against the current, trying to make spiritual progress in one direction while Satan turns the current of the world in the opposite direction. You guys know what that's talking about. People, flesh and blood, may persecute, betray, or hurt God's children, but Christians must never forget that the real battle is against Satan, he is the one who brings evil into their lives and tempts them to sin. Believers who view other people as the enemy will not be able to vanquish the true foe. Let's see some more notes here. How about 6:13. Christians need all the armor God has provided to defend against Satan's attacks. They must not choose one piece of armor over another to suit their preferences; they must be proficient in using every piece. Amen to that. 6:14-17, the notes read: Spiritual battles must be fought with spiritual weapons. God's people do not fight with arguments or violence but with truth, righteousness, the gospel of peace, faith, salvation, and the word of God. God promises that such weapons will defeat the enemy. The only weapon for offense in the Christian's armor is the word of God. Two Greek words are commonly translated word in English: "logos," which describes the Bible as a whole, and "rhema," the term here, which refers to a particular "saying of God" that has special application for a given situation. The Bible as a whole is an armory from which to select swords for specific battles. Jesus illustrated the use of the "rhema of God" in His victory over Satan in the wilderness. Verse 6:18 reads: A study of Old Testament wars reveals that when the armies of Israel fought in their own strength, they always lost. But when they cast themselves upon God's mercy, victory always followed. Supplication means to ask God for whatever one needs. Asking is the rule of the kingdom and the rule of the church. How true are these notes? As you listen, I pray that you can use these notes in so many of the areas of our culture, of our personal lives, of things that we are going through right now as a nation, and as individuals. Also, at the very end, we will end with this passage that I read in verse 6:19. The notes here say: Paul did not pray for a release from jail, or for an improvement in his situation, or for his own health. He asked his friends to pray for boldness to unveil the mystery of the gospel of Christ. Paul wanted to be an ambassador that he could speak boldly, as he ought to speak. Just as each of us need to do through the way we live each day. Living with an eternal perspective that draws us nearer to God, and draws others nearer to Him at the same time. We don't want the armor that we wear to reflect us. We want it to reflect Christ. We want the words we speak, the actions we do, the thoughts we make, all of those things to have one commonality, and that is, living with an eternal perspective. That we recognize that all we do matters, for us, for others, and for Christ. Lord, help us to live with an eternal perspective that draws others to You and makes You boldly known. Help us to keep our armor on at all times, diligently waiting for You to fight our battles. God, we just thank you so much for all You are and do in our lives. Help us to be bold and to show You clearly in all ways. Did you enjoy this episode? Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and learn how to live with more eternal perspective? Right now, because this podcast is new, listeners cannot find it unless they specifically know the name to search for. You can help by leaving a quick review and rating for the show and by sharing about the podcast on social media or word of mouth. Can you think of a friend or family member who might enjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them. Until next week, keep looking Up and finding new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 068 - Are You Teaching Your Child to Fall Victim to Emotions Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 068 – Are You Teaching Your Child to Fall Victim to Emotions? Goodness! I remember when we brought our youngest daughter home from China, life was a whirlwind. So many beautiful and hard times intertwined. We had just lost my mother and at the time, I keep my gaze lifted to God, waiting for Him to carry me through each moment. Although everything went very well considering the pressures I had been under, and the history of my child, my youngest was in a situation where absolutely everything was new and scary. Think of how that would feel! She had no control over anything happening to her. So, of course she tried to take control when she could, and I tried to make sure she felt control when I could. Our girl tended to cry when things seemed overwhelming. Those tears or what we called, “meltdowns” usually weren’t too often, but when they came they were loud – and lasted a long time. One meltdown could last at least two hours. When emotions, thoughts, or feelings get too big and you don’t have the words or trust to describe what is happening, it’s easy to cry loud and long. Emotions can certainly overwhelm, as was the case for my youngest daughter. It doesn’t matter whether you’re young, old, or in between. Emotions are big at any age. For some children, however, emotions become so large and scary that it becomes easy to resort to undesirable behaviors. In fact, it’s not only children wo are affected by these behaviors. Many adults have learned to cope with emotions by hiding them behind actions that ward others off. Do you have any behaviors that your child is beginning to mirror? Your core beliefs as a woman and mother impact your thoughts, emotions, responses, and behavior. These are passed on to your children through your words, actions, and reactions. When your emotions produce bad habits, your child experiences a learned response that will most likely stick for life, unless you work to correct it within yourself now. As a believer, there should be a noticeable difference in the way you act. Your core beliefs, thoughts, emotions, responses, and behavior should be guided by a higher, holier measure. Your emotions shouldn’t be guarded by reactive or protective responses, but from a relationship with Jesus that believes and teaches truth from the ultimate Source. The best ways to teach your child not to live by emotions is by godly example . Consider yourself as I pose a few questions. In what ways do you help your child respond emotionally in godly ways? Are you modeling godly emotional responses? What steps are you taking to ensure your beliefs align with God’s truths so you will mentor emotions and actions correctly to your children? How often do you mentor the following lifestyle choices to your children? 1. Gratefulness/Thankfulness – Do you teach your child through words (such as prayers and conversations), attitude, and actions? Being thankful means carrying and exhibiting gratitude for the things we want or like and the things we don’t. 2. Thought Patterns – Do you teach your child that you choose to dwell on the positive, not negative aspects of life, situations, and problems – including people? 3. Emotions – Do you teach that it is good and natural for feelings to be expressed, but also mentor appropriate ways to do so? 4. Critical Thinking/Problem Solving – Do you look for ways to teach your child critical thinking skills when dealing with emotions? Do you help them identify emotions and problem solve to see what will best help them before overwhelm occurs? 5. Service – Do you serve with your child? There is always someone in a harder situation or with less of what we desire. Do you teach your child to find ways to be of service to them. 6. Victim Mentality – Have you taught your child that Jesus warned we would face tribulation? This world isn’t fair, but knowing that Jesus went before us and purposely told us what to expect, and also promised to carry us through the difficulties should set a strong mental foundation built on truth. Do you remind your child that Jesus is there to carry and console them? Do you point the way to God through trials? 7. Tantrums – Do you teach your child how to regulate emotions? They often don’t have words to express what they feel, think, fear, or believe. Do you help them work through issues or leave them to deal with emotions alone? 8. Reactions – Do you allow everything you think or feel to show on your face or in your reactions? Are you training your child to attract overwhelm by your habits or reactions? They see and hear every word and reaction. Without knowing it, they absorb and evaluate what you do, catalog your behavior in their memories, and eventually mirror your consistent, continued habits. Let what they learn from you lead them to Christ and you. When kids don’t have control over emotions, it may lead to school, friendship, and trust issues, illnesses, mental health problems, or self-harming behaviors. Children are sensitive. They react emotionally and physically to stress, fear, illness, confusion, and more. When this happens, instead of melting down with your child, look at the situation as an opportunity to help them (and yourself) form godly reactions and character. I’ve learned that as I help my children identify and express emotions, I learn right along with them. It allows us to move nearer to God and each other. Remember, acting out is a response to your child’s emotions. Teaching children how to respond in new ways takes time, just like it does for new habits to form for adults. However, working with your child to express feelings, emotions, and fears in these new ways will decrease the need for tantrums and tears or whatever behavior your child acquires. Instead of simply seeing the way your child responds as negative, view it as a time for godly instruction. Just as God patiently guides you, your child is literally crying out in various ways for your help. Don’t let your emotions or fears guide your response. Instead, let them be a godly guide that molds character instead of an impulsive reaction to silence noise and discomfort. Partner with your child to find beneficial ways of expressing thoughts and feelings. What are some of the ways you can best respond to your child during times of high emotions? 1. Look them in the eye 2. Kneel to their height 3. Maintain calm, no matter what you feel inside 4. Hold your child close or sit next to them 5. Speak softly 6. Validate what you are seeing. For example, “I see that you seem sad.” Or “It seems like you might feel lonely.” 7. Let them respond without interruption. 8. Listen without correcting when they relay feelings or thoughts. 9. Encourage them to try to identify what emotion they are feeling and when it started. What are the best methods to help with self-regulation? First, you have to remember that children may not know why they feel a certain way. Or they may not know how to label that feeling. One of the keys to self-regulation is to teach your child to replace how they feel with an emotion they know . Emotions will begin as a sensation in the body, while feelings originate from thoughts . An example might be when they begin to get a headache after certain events or they notice they are clenching their teeth at certain times or their muscles tighten just before they get mad. If you teach your child to feel a sensation begin, you can then instruct them on different options to reduce or prevent meltdowns or disruptive, inappropriate behavior. Teaching your child to approach the emotion they recognize with a new strategy empowers them with the ability to self-regulate before emotions overwhelm them. Remember, first, talk to your child about emotions. Ask them to discuss the emotion they’ve felt, then identity an approach that would work for them. For example, if your child finds that when they are in a room with a lot of noise it is difficult to think or it makes them feel abandoned, help them brainstorm about what will work for them before the feelings that trigger the meltdown arise. Perhaps they could come to you and take your hand to let you know they need to move to a quiet area. Finding a strategy that works for your child and family may take several attempts as they learn to assess and identify emotions and what triggers them. Be patient. Work with your unique child. There are many emotions and strategies that could be applied. Consider the age of your child, their experience, their background, the behavior you are trying to stop, and find what will work best. The strategies you choose may also be changed over time. Finally, teach your child to observe how they feel when emotions hit, then how they feel after applying the strategy to avoid overwhelm. Over time, they will be able to overcome overwhelm and may no longer need the strategies. Above all, as you teach your child to recognize emotions and apply approaches, teach them to pray . Teach them to talk to God, to ask for His wisdom and help. Help them realize that God is giving ideas as you both ask for guidance. Teach them that God knows their innermost thoughts and feelings, their emotions because He created them with a beautiful purpose. Let them know that God cares and will guide you to answers as you trust and follow Him. Let your child know you are praying for him, and pray for your child with them. Working together to curb the big emotions your child carries and to lay your own emotions in God’s capable hands is a journey of trust and faith you can walk together. Dear Heavenly Father, You are so good to us. We are thankful for Your grace, Your mercy, and Your love. We know You are a God of emotions, because we are created in Your image. You have so generously allowed us to experience emotions, but we need You to carry us through them. Sometimes they can feel so big or overwhelming and our children need us to mentor godly ways to express emotions so they will learn to do the same. Carry us, Father, when life doesn’t run smoothly and our children are overwhelmed. Draw nearer to us and keep us on Your path for godly homes and training that honors You and sets our children up for a lifetime pursuit of You with joy. Jesus said that with man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible. We know our families are in Your capable hands. Please help us release self and children to You. You tell us that those who wait for You shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint. Help us to have Your strength in life and the ability to help our children with an eternal viewpoint that parents for the future, not just the ease of today. We know that we are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed because our hope and trust are in You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. I believe godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. That’s why I’ve created the Set-Apart Collective. Would you like to walk with other like-minded mothers to deepen your walk with Christ, learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan? I want to share special news with my podcast listeners. The Set-Apart Collective wait list is open now. Send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information and a special code to receive a discount if you find you’d like to join the collective. It’s time for mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. If you connected in some way with this episode, would you please rate and review the podcast on Apple or Spotify? It only takes a minute or so and makes a big difference in people finding the podcast. You and I know that the best reviews are by word of mouth, so would you please choose a friend to recommend the show to? Let them know that the podcast is found at terrihitt.com, Apple Podcasts, iHeart Radio, and Spotify. Imagine the change we could see in the way mothers parent for Christ if they are intentional, too. Remember, if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection. Previous Next

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #075 - Make Time for Rest in Him The last two weeks have been extremely busy and difficult at our house as we have dealt with unexpected issues. We are all doing all right, yet I know that God is calling us to rest. Life has been throwing hard moments and decisions that none of us were ready for. Isn’t that the way the world works? In reality, if it were any different, we probably wouldn’t be forced at times to grow very quickly in depth of faith that matures our walk with God through Jesus. I am thankful, and I am praising God for His hand in the hard times that we face, but only for the purpose of growing my depth of reliance in Him and walking in greater obedience. I sense His spirit prompting me to create an upcoming podcast with the details, but for now, I am to rest. In Him. Mark 6:30-32 says, “The apostles gathered together with Jesus; and they reported to Him all that they had done and taught. And He said to them, “Come away by yourselves to a secluded place and rest a while.” (For there were many people coming and going, and they did not even have time to eat.) They went away in the boat to a secluded place by themselves.” Jesus is concerned with each detail of our life as He allows moments that cause us to choose Him despite pain, heartache, and suffering. I am thankful I know and trust Him. Do you trust Jesus? Life is too hard without Him. Jesus even cares about the practicalities of our life. He understands when we are exhausted, hurting, or confused. Our Lord and Savior desires us to rest in Him wholly. Matthew 13:33b says, “The kingdom of heaven is like leaven, which a woman took and hid in three measures of meal till it was all leavened.” Just as bread must contain leaven to rise, our faith journey must continue to be kneaded into a new form. After being added to the lump of dough, the added yeast will achieve the work it is to do over time. Although the results are not seen and they are not immediate, the leaven is working, eventually affecting our life and those around us. Such is the work of the Lord in and through us. Precious Lord, You are holy. You are sovereign. You are good, despite circumstances. You understand when we are weary. You know when we are hurting. In fact, you move before us to put all things into place for those who trust in You. We know You work all things together for the good of those who love You, for those who are called according to Your purpose. Just as Jesus rested, You call us to abide in You and allow Your Spirit to calm us, to cradle us, to carry us. We need You, Father. Give us Your peace that passes understanding. Allow us to rise up on wings of eagles and soar with renewed strength in Your great name. Cause us to follow wherever You lead with a hope and trust that please You and give You great joy as You delight in us. In Your precious name we pray. Amen. This week I pray you find new ways to rest in Him and cause yourself to cling to Him in deeper ways that test your faith and understanding. Allow Him to bring you to a new level of trust and abandonment of self. I hope you will look at past episodes of Live With Eternal Perspective to help you find ways to seek God with a heart and mind fixed on eternity. Send me a message at info@terrihitt.com if you would like suggestions on specific topics. Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 075 Make Time for Rest in Him Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #075 - Make Time for Rest in Him The last two weeks have been extremely busy and difficult at our house as we have dealt with unexpected issues. We are all doing all right, yet I know that God is calling us to rest. Life has been throwing hard moments and decisions that none of us were ready for. Isn’t that the way the world works? In reality, if it were any different, we probably wouldn’t be forced at times to grow very quickly in depth of faith that matures our walk with God through Jesus. I am thankful, and I am praising God for His hand in the hard times that we face, but only for the purpose of growing my depth of reliance in Him and walking in greater obedience. I sense His spirit prompting me to create an upcoming podcast with the details, but for now, I am to rest. In Him. Mark 6:30-32 says, “The apostles gathered together with Jesus; and they reported to Him all that they had done and taught. And He said to them, “Come away by yourselves to a secluded place and rest a while.” (For there were many people coming and going, and they did not even have time to eat.) They went away in the boat to a secluded place by themselves.” Jesus is concerned with each detail of our life as He allows moments that cause us to choose Him despite pain, heartache, and suffering. I am thankful I know and trust Him. Do you trust Jesus? Life is too hard without Him. Jesus even cares about the practicalities of our life. He understands when we are exhausted, hurting, or confused. Our Lord and Savior desires us to rest in Him wholly. Matthew 13:33b says, “The kingdom of heaven is like leaven, which a woman took and hid in three measures of meal till it was all leavened.” Just as bread must contain leaven to rise, our faith journey must continue to be kneaded into a new form. After being added to the lump of dough, the added yeast will achieve the work it is to do over time. Although the results are not seen and they are not immediate, the leaven is working, eventually affecting our life and those around us. Such is the work of the Lord in and through us. Precious Lord, You are holy. You are sovereign. You are good, despite circumstances. You understand when we are weary. You know when we are hurting. In fact, you move before us to put all things into place for those who trust in You. We know You work all things together for the good of those who love You, for those who are called according to Your purpose. Just as Jesus rested, You call us to abide in You and allow Your Spirit to calm us, to cradle us, to carry us. We need You, Father. Give us Your peace that passes understanding. Allow us to rise up on wings of eagles and soar with renewed strength in Your great name. Cause us to follow wherever You lead with a hope and trust that please You and give You great joy as You delight in us. In Your precious name we pray. Amen. This week I pray you find new ways to rest in Him and cause yourself to cling to Him in deeper ways that test your faith and understanding. Allow Him to bring you to a new level of trust and abandonment of self. I hope you will look at past episodes of Live With Eternal Perspective to help you find ways to seek God with a heart and mind fixed on eternity. Send me a message at info@terrihitt.com if you would like suggestions on specific topics. Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

< Back Godly Motherhood Podcast Episode 135 - Godly Motherhood Will Transform Your Parenting for Jesus Welcome to the Godly Motherhood Podcast - Episode 135 - Godly Motherhood Will Transform Your Parenting for Jesus Today I’m sharing a conversation with Carolyn Wiley, founder of Rose and Pearl Publishing. First – let’s address the podcast name change. This is the first episode to release after the official switch from Purposed Parent/Connected Child to Godly Motherhood. This new name reflects the lifestyle our Heavenly Father commands us to seek. You see, the world we live in tells us to seek what we define as good for us, but God demands us to be set-apart. To seek what’s holy. After parenting for 46 years, I’ve learned that as we invite moment by moment transformation of our heart and mind, we inhale Christ and exhale Him effortlessly onto our children. By sharing guest interviews and biblically sound teaching laced with personal stories, each week episodes will draw you nearer to the Father’s feet and heart while equipping you to raise kids who chase Christ over culture. Today I’m sharing a conversation with Dr. Carolyn Wiley, my good friend and the publisher of my upcoming book, “The Good Mom Trap.” Carolyn is a bestselling textbook author, publishing strategist, and the founder of Rose & Pearl Publishing—a faith-filled publishing company serving high-level Christian coaches and CEOs. With a doctorate in Higher Education specializing in Institutional Effectiveness, Carolyn co-authored one of the nation’s top-selling statistics textbooks, generating 7-figure annual sales and used by universities across the country. But her true gift lies in blending data-driven precision with Spirit-led creativity—helping experts turn their body of work into a book that’s both a strategic asset and a sacred assignment. From Harvard-trained memoirist to legacy-minded ghostwriter, Carolyn guides her clients through every phase of the publishing process with prophetic insight, editorial excellence, and unmatched clarity—so their message multiplies their impact and positions their business for next-level visibility. Now you may not be a business-woman, but this episode focuses on her time in my program, the Set-Apart Collective, a Christian walk, and her new book releasing September 5. If you’re a reader, I highly recommend you grab this one. I wouldn’t be surprised if it gets optioned for a movie in the future. Settle in with your laundry or pump up the speed on your exercise equipment and let’s listen to this newest Godly Motherhood episode. -------CONVERSATION------- If you have questions after this episode, please reach out to me at info@terrihitt.com . I’m happy to help you discover ways you can ensure you trust and submit to God to lead your parenting. I also have a resource that you’ll find helpful as you navigate your daily routine as a mom. If you’re ready to become the godly mother God entrusts you to be for Him and His children, you’ll love my free “Good to Godly: A 31-Day Scripture and Prayer Guide for Moms.” Visit terrihitt.com to receive this resource. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. Remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom as the world defines - and focus on being the godly parent God commands. If you’re ready to be more intentional - to be purposed in preparing your children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ, contact me at info@terrihitt.com . I think you’ll be interested in my Set-Apart mini renewal program for $197. I have a limited number of partial scholarships at this price. Don’t wait to experience a deeper walk with God and closer connection with Christ and your children. Previous Next

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< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast - Episode 094 - How My Dog Inspires Godly Parenting Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 094 – How My Dog Inspires Godly Parenting Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast deepens your walk with Jesus and your children, equipping you to become a set-apart woman and mother. Job 12:7-10 says, “But ask the animals, and they will teach you, or the birds in the sky, and they will tell you; or speak to the earth, and it will teach you, or let the fish in the sea inform you. Which of all these does not know that the hand of the Lord has done this? In His hand is the life of every creature and the breath of all mankind .” I remember several months ago when our Golden Retriever had surgery. Afterwards he wasn’t allowed to jump, run, or be very active for about 10 days. Of course, he didn’t understand why he was suddenly restricted from doing everything he loves to do. He didn’t know why his routine was disrupted. In fact, besides losing privileges he was accustomed to, he was forced to wear a humiliating pajama-style striped bodysuit that kept him from licking or scratching in the surgical area. Since my dog can tend to act more like a cat, (he loves to jump up to the highest positions he can lay in), some of his favorite places were blocked off with bean bags and chairs as he recovered from surgery. One day I watched him eyeing one of his usual lounging areas. I could see displeasure reflected in his eyes when he couldn’t get to it. Resigned, he walked over to a small bean bag on the floor and curled himself into a tight ball to fit. His reactions remind me how children sometimes react. They, like us, tend to take much for granted, assuming they have the right to continue the same patterns, habits, and expectations whenever they desire. If something changes or they feel it’s been taken away, they don't understand. They might get angry, frustrated, disappointed, or stressed. However, although my dog was disappointed, he resigned himself to finding another spot. Even though he didn't understand why I wasn't letting him continue routine events, he didn't cry or fuss. He simply found another solution to what bothered him, still trusting that he would be loved and cared for. If only our children could react the same way. What if they got up each morning looking for the blessings that day would bring. But are they being taught to live with that perspective? Are we modeling godly resilience? Unlike animals, our children are capable of reasoning at a high level. Each parent must discern whether they are teaching their children to reason with a godly, eternal perspective or a mindset that society touts as good, but falls short of the expectations of God. Living with eyes, mind, and heart focused above is accomplished through a consistent, humble lifestyle that must be modeled to our children. Viewing the simplicity of expectations through the eyes of an animal that God allows us to care for is a reminder of how much excess humans have – of how much we assume and expect. How easily we can get caught up in worldly views and desires that are in turn handed down to our children. If you want your children to have the ability to view life through an eternal lens that pleases God, you must embrace life in a way that appreciates the losses as much as you grab the gifts. Losses often stretch you beyond what you imagine you can endure, allowing you the opportunity to reach a new level of intimacy with God...if you allow yourself to focus on Him instead of selfish desires. Are you modeling that faithfulness for your children to accept and emulate? As disappointments, failures, mistakes, regrets, or hardships tug at your confidence or emotions, don’t allow them to affect your relationship with Christ. Just as important, don’t allow your disappointments to sway your child away from God or toward a habit of complaining. Instead, let trials and triumphs draw you and your children nearer to God. Seek God despite circumstances so that you can allow His transformation to flow through you, no matter what happens to you. As much as we love answers, as much as we want pain or hardship to cease, we must learn to follow Him and allow His work to penetrate where we need it. We must allow God access to our heart and the heart of our children - instead of allowing them to fuss about trials. Instead of trying to erase pain and make every road smooth. Earlier I shared a story about my Golden Retriever. Recently he spotted one section of fencing surrounding our backyard garden was bent over. Because he has seen us inside the garden area, he decided it was only right that he be allowed inside that fence, too. He jumped inside, and as he made his way through rows of vegetables, he kept coming up against all the other sections of fence, which were standing upright. Although when he’s in the house he loves to jump onto the backs of furniture, he couldn’t figure out that he’s big enough to scale the growing produce or short chicken wire fence protecting our garden from rodents. Even though he easily entered the garden, my dog couldn’t solve the issue of getting back out. Because he’s such a Velcro-dog, when he realized none of us were in the garden with him, he decided it wasn’t as fun as he hoped. His only desire was to find a way out to be with us. It actually left him unable to think clearly as he only focused on us, instead of thinking about clearing the obstacles around him. Watching him made me ponder how often humans easily get ourselves into situations we don’t know how to escape. I imagined my dog as a child who thought he knew best until it was too late. Without our help he thought he was trapped. What situations do we allow ourselves to enter without a plan? How are we teaching our children to make wise choices that reflect God’s values and teachings? Are we teaching them to rely on Him when confusion or trouble strike? Or do they wander around confused and disoriented? Even when I called to my dog and showed him the area of fencing that was still laying down, he remained a little scared about jumping back over it. How often does God show us the way, but we remain paralyzed with fear because it’s not what we expected or we haven’t experienced it before. Instead of simply trusting me and jumping the way I instructed, it took time to coax my dog to take the correct route of the mess he got himself into. I’m thankful God allows humans to care for animals, to love them and learn with them. I’m even more thankful for the children He entrusted to me – His precious children that He allows me to instruct and lead to Him. As you think over your life, look for ways you can change your desires and reactions so that your children receive a godly example of how to live for Christ. Show them how to react when under stress, when plans change and life seems unsure, and when they don’t receive what they expect. Every act you do for Christ equips your child to construct an earlier, deeper walk with Jesus that will last into eternity. Dear Heavenly Father, Your Word tells us that the heavens declare Your glory and the skies proclaim the work of Your hands. You teach us that day after day You pour forth speech; night after night You reveal knowledge. Help us to see Your glory revealed through creation. Help us to recognize the beauty and majesty of Your hands. Help us to learn the lessons You sometimes present so simply if we only open our eyes and heart. Help us to study Your Word so we know and recognize You in all the beautiful ways You reveal Yourself to us with a holy and unsurpassed love. Equip us to parent our children with Your love and grace in ways that impact them for an eternity with You. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Raising children is challenging. No one has all the answers because each child is unique as are parenting styles and family dynamics. By connecting with and knowing your children as you maintain purposed growth in Christ, you will be better prepared for any situation you face. That’s why you hear me share about the Set-Apart Collective in this podcast. Supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. Godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will deepen your walk with Christ. You’ll learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family. Send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information or look online at terrihitt.com/setapart. We can also set up a no obligation, strategic 15 minute call to chat about your needs to see if the program is a right fit for you. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. Because you’re a podcast listener, let me know if you’re ready to invest in the future of your children. If you tell me you heard about the special price I offer on this podcast, I will give you a big discount because I want you to experience results. Instead of a $997 value, I’ll give you a discount code that enables you to pay only $247. If you are serious about parenting with eternal perspective and raising children to chase Christ over culture, I’m making this very affordable and easy to do. Also, if you appreciated this episode, would you please rate and review the podcast on Apple or Spotify? It only takes a few minutes and makes a big difference in whether people are able to find the podcast. Also, you and I know that the best reviews are by word of mouth, so please choose a friend to recommend the show to. Imagine the changes we will see in the way mothers parent for Christ if they learn to be intentional, too. One last thing to remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection. Previous Next

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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #042 – Cast Your Cares Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. This episode is not about the election, but because it will air the week of Election Day, I understand that as we are waiting to see the results, or after the results are in, some people may be quite upset. Some people will worry so much that the feelings and fears in their minds will affect their body in unhealthy ways as the worry spirals into anxiety. This is perfect timing to address how worry and anxiety withers our spirit and divides our heart, just as it seems to be dividing our nation. Allowing worry and/or anxiety to seep into our mind actually hands wicked power to our emotions and separates us from the provisions of God. Worry is an uneasy human condition our Creator knew we would experience. Jesus no doubt was faced with the threat of worry when he lived on this earth. We know that although Jesus was fully God, He was also fully man. He felt the emotions we experience and understood the pain and uncertainty behind them. Since we have the hindsight of knowing the life of Jesus and the privilege of His words and promises to us, we can be thankful that He specifically addresses worry for us, providing us assurance and hope that anxiety can be overcome. Through Him. As you may have heard on this podcast, I love diving into the formal definitions of words. Let’s look at how worry is defined: to torment oneself with or suffer from disturbing thoughts; to fret, to torment with cares, anxieties, etc.; trouble; plague. Listen to this definition: to seize, especially by the throat, with the teeth and shake or mangle, as one animal does another. To divide, tear, rip apart, and shake in opposite directions. When we allow worry or anxiety to torment us, we allow emotions, and in turn, our life to be torn apart by the circumstances we are facing. Worry grants power to what concerns us, allowing disturbing thoughts to grip and rule us as God is removed from the center of our thoughts. Our Heavenly Father provided us with what we need to be able to experience the human emotions he allowed us, yet not be overwhelmed by them. He offers us opportunity and resources to choose to exercise faith and trust that He is enough to overcome our greatest obstacles. Because we tend allow our minds to conceive and dwell on so much, it can be very difficult to release worry, frustrations, fears, and other emotions that contribute to anxiety. Through Jesus, help is at hand. If we read Matthew 6:25-34, we see that Jesus actually repeats the command, “Do not worry,” a total of three times in these few verses. This proves that He understands how difficult it can be to lay worry at His feet. In His words to us, He also offers five truths that have the power to defy and erase worry and anxiety. “Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature? “So why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin; and yet I say to you that even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. Now if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is, and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will He not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? “Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For after all these things the Gentiles seek. For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” What are some of the ways that worry (and the anxiety it leads to) is harmful? Jesus shows us in these passages: 1. Jesus understands that worry is an obstacle. He also knows that through Him, it can be overcome. Jesus asks us to not worry, not to be concerned with our life, what we will eat or drink, what we will wear. If we are followers of Jesus and have committed our life to Him, we are trusting Him to lead us into eternity. We can most certainly trust Him with the small details of everyday life. 2. Jesus sees even birds of the air. They have no true home; they are not able to collect or save, yet they are well-fed and cared for. How much more does our Heavenly Father love us? We are much more valuable to Him than the birds He provides for. 3. Jesus reminds us that worrying gains us nothing of value. It leads to harmful effects in our mind and body, affecting our health and mental attitude, as well as our words and actions. Most of all, it builds a wedge between God and us. 4. Jesus gives us the example of the beauty of the fields. How gorgeous are the colorful fields and flowers? The colors, textures, and designs God has created in nature are only copied by humans. Everything we create is modeled after what God has already accomplished and shared with us. “The lilies of the field neither toil not spin,” yet they are more beautifully dressed than even King Solomon could be. We are of much more value and God longs for us to have faith in the provisions He has set for us. 5. Jesus knows our needs and longs for us to release our concerns to Him. He yearns for us to exhibit faith and trust because we believe He intimately understands and cares for every one of us. When we follow Jesus as our Savior, we unknowingly exhibit a lack of faith and relationship when we allow worry to control us. Jesus directs us to prioritize our relationship with Him. “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness.” (verse 33). We must remain proactive. “Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things.” (verse 34). How do we ensure that we keep Jesus first? 1. Lift and fix my eyes on Jesus and constantly placing Him at the top of my daily to-do list. 2. Make sure I make time for His word. 3. Strive to understand His holy word. 4. Apply God’s word to my daily life through the actions I make and using it as my mental guide for wisdom. 5. Seek to know and grow in the Lord through daily conversation through prayer. 6. Intentionally be still enough to hear Him speak to me. 7. Obey what I know God is sharing and commanding me to do and be. Relationship with God through Jesus is the only strategy to effectively combat worry and anxiety. In addition to reminding us not to worry, it is said that the command to “fear not” is given 365 times in the Bible. With 365 days a year, that gives us one reminder per day. God knows we are forgetful and prideful, and tend to carry loads we are not meant to. Our loving Heavenly Father always walks ahead of us, providing for every need. Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” Proverbs 12:25 says, “Anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, but a good word makes it glad.” Psalm 56:3-4 says, “Whenever I am afraid, I will trust in You. In God (I will praise His word), In God I have put my trust; I will not fear. What can flesh do to me?” No matter what you desired the outcome of the election to be, and beyond that, no matter what ails you in this very moment, God understands. Our loving Father has allowed this moment in time so that you will turn to Him, trusting that He is in charge. Allow Him to carry your load and offer relief. Romans 8:26-28 says, “Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. Now He who searches the hearts knows what the mind of the Spirit is, because He makes intercession for the saints according to the will of God. And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” Seek Him. Trust Him. Call out to Him. Release worries to Him. Repeat as often as needed as you build and grow your faith. Father God, please help me. I’m in need of Your everlasting goodness and provisions to keep my eyes, mind, and heart fixed on You. This world and the distractions within it cause me to stumble daily. I trust in You, but fall and fail so often. My spirit is weak and I need Your beautiful reminders of provision and hope. Please strengthen my faith and trust and provide me with freedom from worry and anxiety. Help me place my concerns in Your capable hands and give me the joy and pleasure of seeing You work and provide for my every true need. In Your precious name we pray. Amen. If you enjoyed this podcast, and would like to receive a free resource that ties to this episode and was created to help ease your spirit and attack worry or anxiety, visit terrihitt.com/resources and download the “Cast Your Cares - Resources Against Worry” Ebook. I deeply desire God to cultivate a strong community of women who embrace life with an eternal perspective through the work He has given me. I pray you will be inspired and equipped to seek and abide in God’s truths as you live with deep joy and will influence children to live for and find their identity through Jesus. Besides playing on Apple Podcast and Spotify, the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast is also linked to my new website. Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and learn how to live with more eternal perspective? Can you think of a friend or family member who might enjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them and take time to leave a quick rating and review. Until next week, keep looking Up and finding new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 042 Cast Your Cares Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #042 – Cast Your Cares Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. This episode is not about the election, but because it will air the week of Election Day, I understand that as we are waiting to see the results, or after the results are in, some people may be quite upset. Some people will worry so much that the feelings and fears in their minds will affect their body in unhealthy ways as the worry spirals into anxiety. This is perfect timing to address how worry and anxiety withers our spirit and divides our heart, just as it seems to be dividing our nation. Allowing worry and/or anxiety to seep into our mind actually hands wicked power to our emotions and separates us from the provisions of God. Worry is an uneasy human condition our Creator knew we would experience. Jesus no doubt was faced with the threat of worry when he lived on this earth. We know that although Jesus was fully God, He was also fully man. He felt the emotions we experience and understood the pain and uncertainty behind them. Since we have the hindsight of knowing the life of Jesus and the privilege of His words and promises to us, we can be thankful that He specifically addresses worry for us, providing us assurance and hope that anxiety can be overcome. Through Him. As you may have heard on this podcast, I love diving into the formal definitions of words. Let’s look at how worry is defined: to torment oneself with or suffer from disturbing thoughts; to fret, to torment with cares, anxieties, etc.; trouble; plague. Listen to this definition: to seize, especially by the throat, with the teeth and shake or mangle, as one animal does another. To divide, tear, rip apart, and shake in opposite directions. When we allow worry or anxiety to torment us, we allow emotions, and in turn, our life to be torn apart by the circumstances we are facing. Worry grants power to what concerns us, allowing disturbing thoughts to grip and rule us as God is removed from the center of our thoughts. Our Heavenly Father provided us with what we need to be able to experience the human emotions he allowed us, yet not be overwhelmed by them. He offers us opportunity and resources to choose to exercise faith and trust that He is enough to overcome our greatest obstacles. Because we tend allow our minds to conceive and dwell on so much, it can be very difficult to release worry, frustrations, fears, and other emotions that contribute to anxiety. Through Jesus, help is at hand. If we read Matthew 6:25-34, we see that Jesus actually repeats the command, “Do not worry,” a total of three times in these few verses. This proves that He understands how difficult it can be to lay worry at His feet. In His words to us, He also offers five truths that have the power to defy and erase worry and anxiety. “Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature? “So why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin; and yet I say to you that even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. Now if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is, and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will He not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? “Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For after all these things the Gentiles seek. For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” What are some of the ways that worry (and the anxiety it leads to) is harmful? Jesus shows us in these passages: 1. Jesus understands that worry is an obstacle. He also knows that through Him, it can be overcome. Jesus asks us to not worry, not to be concerned with our life, what we will eat or drink, what we will wear. If we are followers of Jesus and have committed our life to Him, we are trusting Him to lead us into eternity. We can most certainly trust Him with the small details of everyday life. 2. Jesus sees even birds of the air. They have no true home; they are not able to collect or save, yet they are well-fed and cared for. How much more does our Heavenly Father love us? We are much more valuable to Him than the birds He provides for. 3. Jesus reminds us that worrying gains us nothing of value. It leads to harmful effects in our mind and body, affecting our health and mental attitude, as well as our words and actions. Most of all, it builds a wedge between God and us. 4. Jesus gives us the example of the beauty of the fields. How gorgeous are the colorful fields and flowers? The colors, textures, and designs God has created in nature are only copied by humans. Everything we create is modeled after what God has already accomplished and shared with us. “The lilies of the field neither toil not spin,” yet they are more beautifully dressed than even King Solomon could be. We are of much more value and God longs for us to have faith in the provisions He has set for us. 5. Jesus knows our needs and longs for us to release our concerns to Him. He yearns for us to exhibit faith and trust because we believe He intimately understands and cares for every one of us. When we follow Jesus as our Savior, we unknowingly exhibit a lack of faith and relationship when we allow worry to control us. Jesus directs us to prioritize our relationship with Him. “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness.” (verse 33). We must remain proactive. “Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things.” (verse 34). How do we ensure that we keep Jesus first? 1. Lift and fix my eyes on Jesus and constantly placing Him at the top of my daily to-do list. 2. Make sure I make time for His word. 3. Strive to understand His holy word. 4. Apply God’s word to my daily life through the actions I make and using it as my mental guide for wisdom. 5. Seek to know and grow in the Lord through daily conversation through prayer. 6. Intentionally be still enough to hear Him speak to me. 7. Obey what I know God is sharing and commanding me to do and be. Relationship with God through Jesus is the only strategy to effectively combat worry and anxiety. In addition to reminding us not to worry, it is said that the command to “fear not” is given 365 times in the Bible. With 365 days a year, that gives us one reminder per day. God knows we are forgetful and prideful, and tend to carry loads we are not meant to. Our loving Heavenly Father always walks ahead of us, providing for every need. Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” Proverbs 12:25 says, “Anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, but a good word makes it glad.” Psalm 56:3-4 says, “Whenever I am afraid, I will trust in You. In God (I will praise His word), In God I have put my trust; I will not fear. What can flesh do to me?” No matter what you desired the outcome of the election to be, and beyond that, no matter what ails you in this very moment, God understands. Our loving Father has allowed this moment in time so that you will turn to Him, trusting that He is in charge. Allow Him to carry your load and offer relief. Romans 8:26-28 says, “Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. Now He who searches the hearts knows what the mind of the Spirit is, because He makes intercession for the saints according to the will of God. And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” Seek Him. Trust Him. Call out to Him. Release worries to Him. Repeat as often as needed as you build and grow your faith. Father God, please help me. I’m in need of Your everlasting goodness and provisions to keep my eyes, mind, and heart fixed on You. This world and the distractions within it cause me to stumble daily. I trust in You, but fall and fail so often. My spirit is weak and I need Your beautiful reminders of provision and hope. Please strengthen my faith and trust and provide me with freedom from worry and anxiety. Help me place my concerns in Your capable hands and give me the joy and pleasure of seeing You work and provide for my every true need. In Your precious name we pray. Amen. If you enjoyed this podcast, and would like to receive a free resource that ties to this episode and was created to help ease your spirit and attack worry or anxiety, visit terrihitt.com/resources and download the “Cast Your Cares - Resources Against Worry” Ebook. I deeply desire God to cultivate a strong community of women who embrace life with an eternal perspective through the work He has given me. I pray you will be inspired and equipped to seek and abide in God’s truths as you live with deep joy and will influence children to live for and find their identity through Jesus. Besides playing on Apple Podcast and Spotify, the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast is also linked to my new website. Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and learn how to live with more eternal perspective? 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< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 111 - SugarFreed - Interview with Christine Trimpe Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 111 – SugarFreed - Interview with Christine Trimpe Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom and BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you will be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episodes, would you please share this episode or others with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, and leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast. When you do, you’re helping affect generations for Jesus. I’m blessed and excited to introduce my guest on today’s podcast. Christine Trimpe is a transformative wellness leader dedicated to empowering professional Christian women to reclaim their health and vitality through her faith-based, holistic approach to weight loss. As the founder of The SugarFreed Me Method and a certified SUGAR® Licensed Practitioner, Christine helps clients achieve lifelong healing from sugar addiction and food-related struggles. Her clients experience dramatic transformations, including sustained weight loss and breakthroughs in physical, emotional, and spiritual health, with over 80% retention in her programs. After a 100-pound weight loss journey, Christine created a method beyond conventional dieting, integrating faith, emotional regulation, and metabolic health principles. Christine’s own story—marked by a significant health journey, an embrace of ketogenic eating, and a breakthrough lifestyle change—has inspired thousands since she first shared it on her blog and across social media. Her journey has been highlighted in leading wellness magazines, including Woman’s World and First for Women , and featured on DietDoctor.com , where she was named a top low-carb success story. Let’s welcome Christine. -------------------------------------------------INTERVIEW ---------------------------------------------- I hope you enjoyed hearing this incredible story. Christine’s extensive career in corporate America, paired with her BBA degree, uniquely equips her to guide women in tackling complex health challenges and finding balance in all aspects of life. Her just released book, SugarFreed , follows her acclaimed devotional, Seeking Joy (2021), which received the Christian Market Book Award and Christian Indie Award. Christine and her husband, Rob, have been married for over thirty years and enjoy life in Metro Detroit, where she leads worship, hikes the outdoors and loves spending time with her family and pets. With her passion for exhortation, faith, and generosity, Christine’s mission is to equip women to overcome years of weight struggles, embrace freedom from sugar addiction, and ultimately live with joy and purpose. You can connect with Christine at ChristineTrimpe.com . Dear Heavenly Father, Our great, sovereign Lord. Thank you for the ability to come to You at any time with any praise or request. Thank you for sending Jesus as our lifeline and hope, our Savior, who leads us straight to You. I pray every woman who listened to Christine’s story today will see Your mighty hand in her life and know that You wait for each of us to come to you with all concerns. Help us remember that You are capable and waiting to carry us through every detail in life. You wait for us to call on You, to submit to You and Your tender care and healing. Please be with each of us in the areas we need and draw us ever nearer to Your heart and mind. Help us rest in Your mighty arms and keep us reliant on You. Thank you that You care for us in every way and desire deep fellowship with us. Equip us to be strong in You and to step out in faith and obedience in all the ways You call for us. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Raising children is challenging. No one has all the answers because each child is unique as are parenting styles and family dynamics. By connecting with and knowing your children as you maintain purposed growth in Christ, you will be better prepared for any situation you face. That’s why you hear me share about the Set-Apart Collective in this podcast. I work with professionals who care about making Jesus known to their children. Are you a high-achieving woman who loves Jesus, but is so busy with the rush of work and daily life that you feel like you’re being drained like the water in your bathtub? Do you yearn to get closer to Jesus and show Him to your kids so you will create a love that will last into eternity? The desire is there, but your days spiral out of control before you even think about opening your Bible. Do you ever stop to think that you are the first Jesus your child will see? Let me remind you there is hope. There is a way you can be equipped to raise kids who chase Christ over culture. If you want a connected relationship with Christ and your children that leads them to your side and His feet, instead of them seeking validation from peers, I have an 8-step program to move you from frustrated to fulfilled. I will show you how to reflect Jesus in a way that attracts your family to a connected relationship that lasts into eternity. Remember, godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset you carry. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will arm you with a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You’ll also deepen your identity in Christ so you can mentor the way for your children to do the same. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family and you will have the tools to raise set apart kids as you parent the heart, not simply the behavior. Does this sound like a lifeline to help you be that set-apart mom God has entrusted you to be? Visit terrihitt.com/coaching and click the link for a free, no obligation conversation call with me. This is a strategic call where I will hear your biggest struggle and show you how to turn it into a blessing that will bring you closer to Christ and your children. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. One last thing to remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 123 - One Secret to Connecting With Your Kids Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 123 – One Secret to Connecting With Your Kids Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom and BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you will be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episodes, would you please share this episode or others with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, and leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast. When you do, you’re helping affect generations for Jesus. Now on to this episode that shares one secret to connecting with your kids… I want you to lean in for this episode. I’m actually glad this is a podcast and we’re not sitting face-to-face. You know why? Today I’m sharing one fantastic way to get your kids to open up faster than many other ways you’ve tried. Do you know what that secret is? The back of your head. Seriously. This view of you can seem attractive to your children for many reasons. Let me share a story of my own to prove the point. My youngest loves to use my bathroom. Why not? The master bedroom tub is three times as big as the tub in her sister’s bathroom. Brooklyn’s room only has a shower, and that’s no fun; there’s no way you can float in there. So, my bathroom it is! One evening I was using my shower, and Brooklyn was in the tub. Although it was hard to hear her voice, my daughter insisted on talking to me. While I was barely able to hear her over the waterfall flowing over my head and unable to see her face, she began sharing what she could remember of an incident at the orphanage she lived in for nine years before we were blessed to bring her home with us. As she floated in the warm bath water, and I was nearby, but couldn’t stare into her eyes and cause her to cry or be distracted, she opened up about time that was painful. My experience with her that evening showcased the point that opening up is often easier when eye contact isn’t being made. Think of the opportunities this opens up for you to interact verbally with your child – or your moment may arrive while in the car, walking together, or in darkness while relaxing at home together. So the secret we’re talking about today is to connect with your child in multiple ways while you’re not face-to-face. Using that as the foundation of this episode, I want to share ways to foster conversation using that guideline. So use this guide while you’re in the car, walking outside side by side, or sitting at home in a low-dimmed room before bedtime. One of the ways is what I mentioned briefly already. Use the car as a safe place to talk. Kids often open up to the back of your head faster than your face when they are struggling. It can be challenging for your children to see emotions on your face when they share something vulnerable. Or it can be too emotional for them to look into your eyes. Sometimes they need to share before hearing or seeing judgement or emotion. Kids (like adults) open up when they feel safe, when they don’t feel judged, and feel they can speak freely. Remember to keep yourself from making conversation feel like a chore or burden for your child. If you’re not used to sharing close connection or a lot of communication, use your time and words wisely. Use discernment and prayerful guidance about what and when you share about yourself, your past or your present. Remember that your vulnerability and wisdom can open up lines of communication and deeper connection. But don’t lay details on your child who might not be ready to deal with topics or information that isn’t age appropriate. One way to get kids to open up easier is to ask open-ended questions. Instead of asking, “What did you do today,” consider saying, “What’s one thing that made you smile today?” or “What interested you the most today?” Reword questions so they don’t come across as demanding. For example, instead of What did you do at lunch that often elicits a response like, “I don’t know,” say something like, “I had an interesting time at lunch today. I ate with _________ and it made me wonder who you were sharing lunch with today.” Make the questions true conversation so your child is drawn into the relational aspects of conversation. Briefly talk about your day or your friends, etc. before you ask about theirs. Instead of giving advice (unless asked for it), listen to your child, acknowledge feelings, and make appropriate comments to what they share. For example, It seems like something might be bothering you.” Or “Thank you for sharing that.” Or “That sounds like it would be frustrating for me. How did it make you feel?” Don’t get offended by responses. Sometimes kids seem distant or sarcastic before they open up. Words can be a defensive mechanism. Attitude and responses can be guided by where your relationship is with them currently or through things they are experiencing. Also remember to spend time with your child doing fun activities they love. Because you’re already building connection, communication will be easier and will guide the ways they open up. Dear Heavenly Father, how great You are. Thank you for showing us Your glory and sovereignty. Thank you for entrusting us with Your precious children. Enable us to respond to them in ways that honor You and draw them nearer to You in every way. Equip us to seek You first because You know the hearts and minds of our children and want the very best for them. Please help us to have beautiful connection with our kids because their heart is tied to Yours. Help us listen with grace and love as our children speak to us. May our responses be driven by You and may Your wisdom and insight guard every word from our mouth. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. If you’re ready to become the godly mom God entrusts you to be for Him and His children, you might like my free “Good to Godly: A 31-Day Scripture and Prayer Guide for Moms.” Visit terrihitt.com to receive this resource. You are the first Jesus your child will see. Your relationship with Christ is the light that shines Him to your children. If you want a connected relationship with Jesus and your children that leads them to your side and His feet, instead of them seeking validation from peers, my Set-Apart Collective program can show you how to reflect Christ in a way that attracts your family to a connected relationship that lasts into eternity. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will arm you with a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You’ll also deepen your identity in Christ so you can mentor the way for your children to do the same. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family and you will have the tools to raise set apart kids as you parent the heart, not simply the behavior. Visit terrihitt.com/coaching and click the link for a free, no obligation conversation call with me. This is a strategic call where I will hear your biggest struggle and show you how to turn it into a blessing that will bring you closer to Christ and your children. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. Remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #139 – Are You Really a Christian? Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. After hearing the name of this episode, you may wonder if I am being judgmental. I promise I’m not. By choosing the title, “Are You a Christian,” I want you, (and myself), to consider what it takes to be a follower of Christ. If a stranger observed your life, actions, and reactions, would they be able to discern which you are? What about the words you speak? Or consider the activities you pursue? How do they reflect Jesus? When your children, whether grown or young watch you day to day, what do they see? What impressions are you making on them? Do you point the way to Christ? Today we’ll discuss ways life challenges us, allowing us opportunities to rely on self or Christ. Which do you usually choose? 1. Relationships - We all know how difficult relationships can be. Have you ever loved someone so much, but just couldn’t communicate clearly with them? Human nature is so complex. Sometimes we have wonderful relationships without issues, but then are those people that for some reason, we can only have a surface relationship with. It’s difficult when one is a believer and one is not, but so much more frustrating when both are believers. Because humans, even believers have different backgrounds, communication methods, interests, and emotional triggers, and we are at different maturity points in our walk with Christ, coupled with the truth that we live in a fallen world, communication and relationships can be extremely difficult. It’s a wonder we can communicate at all sometimes. Not only are relationships challenging, but have you ever finished a conversation with someone with the frustrated feeling that they did not clearly hear what you said? Have you had to pray, knowing that God is using this person to refine you? As much as you may love the person, it’s hard to be sure that you will ever have the deeper relationship you desire. What about when you know someone speaks untruths behind your back? You know it to be true, because trusted loved ones have defended and informed you of it. Now, you’ve become hesitant to share much with the person. Maybe each time you try to deepen your relationship, it just gets harder. You might feel like the more you try to form deeper conversations and move closer to them, it just makes everything worse. You might even feel like you can’t share anything other than a superficial relationship. Or have you ever thought a person was one way, then as you entered into a closer relationship with them you saw the truth? They were not who they pretended or tried to make you think they were. Or have you prayed for someone in your family, at work, or a stranger you met, knowing that God is using you to send mighty prayers up to Him for their sake? You may have had a disagreement, He may have laid them on your heart, burdening you to cry out for them. I’ve learned that no one in this life will ever fully satisfy us. Not even those we are very close to. Why? Because we were not meant for this world and there is no substitution for Christ. The lives we have were meant for much more than we experience here. Without each person submitting to Christ and praying and working to establish relationships under His guidance, the world, and people, will never offer us what He can. We must look for ways to offer Jesus what we can while we journey in this life. 2. Politics - In the last few years, people, even believers have been divided over political opinions. Politics seem to be the tipping point that can extinguish friendships. Have you been unfollowed by someone you thought would be a lifelong friend? Maybe a family member can’t see past the fact that you can simply agree to disagree over life issues, but still carry love and respect for each other through the grace of Christ. How we view disagreements, disappointments, and disasters say a lot about the mind and heartset we carry. We can only look to God and humbly ask Him to heal relationships by working through all parties involved, and we must work to be sure our actions and reactions, even when we are hurt, do not sin against God. There is only one way to work toward that goal: ensure that we are intentionally working to follow and honor the Lord each day. Even if you never reconnect with the person you believe wronged you, continue to pray for them. Don’t let bitterness invade your heart. Relying on Christ to ease and heal the pain of broken relationships is the only way to find healing. 3. Religion – Nowadays, if politics haven’t driven your friends away, religion might. In some ways, it seems like we have more Christians in the world than we really do. What do I mean? Many people profess to be a Christian, yet when you delve below surface talk, you learn that your views are vastly different. Many religions identify as “Christian,” yet unless they follow Jesus Christ as personal Savior and Lord, they are not Christian. Jesus warned us that He would cause division. Luke 12:51-53 says, “Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division. From now on there will be five in one family divided against each other, three against two and two against three. They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.” Of course, life is filled with many more situations that define whether a person is truly living (or attempting to live) a lifestyle that honors Christ. What I mentioned are just a few of the most noticeable, and what so many struggle with. How much joy would we receive if each of us strived to follow Christ in each of these situations? How much would we please our Heavenly Father as we choose to live in His power, then act and react with His grace and priorities leading us? Romans 6:6 says, “We know that our old self was crucified with Him in order that the body of sin might be brought to nothing, so that we would no longer be enslaved to sin.” Our “old self” is defined as what we were before the Holy Spirit abided within us through new life in Christ. Our former existence is no more. When we believe in Jesus as our Lord and Savior, the “old self” dies; the new life we receive now divinely appointed through grace. The control our former self held over us is released; the curse of death replaced by eternal life through Jesus. Believers are no longer subject to live under the influence of evil that the old self carried. Yet, knowing the influence and capacity to sin still flows within our human flesh, we must remember and rely on the power of Christ within us. We cannot trust fleshly responses that guide from hurt, fears, jealousy, and so many more emotions that clash with the Father’s truths. Romans 6:11 says, “So you also must consider yourselves dead to sin and alive to God in Christ Jesus.” In this verse, Paul urges believers to grasp by faith what God says and has revealed to be true. We must strive to remember and live the truth that through Christ, and the Holy Spirit alive within us, we have power over the sin that threatens to rule our nature. We carry power to deny sin abiding within us, enabling us to live with fullness of Christ directing us. Romans 6:17-18 says, “But thanks be to God, that you who were once slaves of sin have become obedient from the heart to the standard of teaching to which you were committed, and, having been set free from sin, have become slaves of righteousness.” True believers following Christ have an instinctive and evident desire to study and obey God’s Word. Having been set free from the death and burden of sin, the Holy Spirit enables believers to escape the binds of unrighteousness and become captive to righteousness. How does a believer remain true to follow the Holy Spirit within and keep the desire for righteousness? Only through the strength of Christ. Believers must fix our eyes, heart, and mind above and allow the work of Christ to grow and flow within us. A life eternally changed by Christ behaves differently because we believe differently. The more a believer seeks Jesus, the more a believer craves Him. The Holy Spirit living within believers fuels us with Christ’s hunger for righteousness and holiness. Living as a Christian is not defined by: 1. Joining a church 2. Reciting prayers 3. Being baptized 4. Serving others 5. Eating certain foods and abstaining from others Christians craving Christ: 1. Humbly accept Christ as Lord and Savior and submit to Him 2. Rely on the Holy Spirit within us to eradicate our sinful nature 3. Admit our need for the strength of Jesus and His grace and mercy as we seek Christ moment by moment 4. Shift our mindset and desires to match His 5. Allow His actions to change our reactions 6. Allow the Holy Spirit to continue to guard and cleanse us of sin 7. Carry joy by the power of Christ in us 8. Live with gratitude for the change Christ has made in us 9. Allow Christ to infuse His love for others inside us 10. Carry a biblical worldview that affects our choices and opinions 11. Intentionally become more Christlike daily John 2:23-25 says, “Now while He was in Jerusalem at the Passover Festival, many people saw the signs He was performing and believed in His name. But Jesus would not entrust Himself to them, for He knew all people. He did not need any testimony about mankind, for He knew what was in each person.” When we believe in His name because we have seen the signs Jesus displayed versus simply trusting that Jesus is who He says He is, we follow Him with an intellectual commitment versus living with a whole-hearted assurance led by faith. Jesus calls for believers to trust, follow, honor, love, and obey because we cannot comprehend living without Him. The Lord sees our whole heart. Jesus is a discerner of genuine conversion for Him versus excitement and intrigue for what could be called “magnificent events” that prompt our belief. Matthew 7:21 says, “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of Heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in Heaven.” I’d like to pose a few questions for each of us to consider: Are you sure you are a Christian? If God is a discerner of hearts, what does He see in yours? What should you change about your beliefs, actions, or reactions that will make your life more pleasing to God? What are ways to ensure you are living the full life God intends His believers to enjoy? What can you do to ensure that Christ is clearly shown to those viewing your life? John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that he gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” 2 Corinthians 5:17 says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” Dear Heavenly Father, You are the God of all creation. The heavens and the earth applaud Your name. Great are Your mysteries and the things You reveal to us. Thank you for loving us enough to make a way for us to find eternal life with You. Thank you for Your painful sacrifices so that mankind could be restored to You. Father, we pray that our hearts will be found clean before You. May we live with pureness of heart that seeks to know You more intimately and show You more clearly. May our mind, heart, and mouth exemplify You more and more each day because we choose You over self and world. Help us to desire You more than what this world offers and pledge to make shifts in our lives that bring us nearer to You. Enable us to humbly seek Your worldviews and live in ways that honor what You desire. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast. You can find this and other transcripts online at terrihitt.com. Remember that both of my podcasts are available on the website. You can also find them on Apple Podcast, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts are also found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. Will you take a moment to follow the shows and think of someone you can share the podcasts with and encourage them to follow and share, as well? Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast - Episode 139 - Are You Really a Christian? Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #139 – Are You Really a Christian? Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. After hearing the name of this episode, you may wonder if I am being judgmental. I promise I’m not. By choosing the title, “Are You a Christian,” I want you, (and myself), to consider what it takes to be a follower of Christ. If a stranger observed your life, actions, and reactions, would they be able to discern which you are? What about the words you speak? Or consider the activities you pursue? How do they reflect Jesus? When your children, whether grown or young watch you day to day, what do they see? What impressions are you making on them? Do you point the way to Christ? Today we’ll discuss ways life challenges us, allowing us opportunities to rely on self or Christ. Which do you usually choose? 1. Relationships - We all know how difficult relationships can be. Have you ever loved someone so much, but just couldn’t communicate clearly with them? Human nature is so complex. Sometimes we have wonderful relationships without issues, but then are those people that for some reason, we can only have a surface relationship with. It’s difficult when one is a believer and one is not, but so much more frustrating when both are believers. Because humans, even believers have different backgrounds, communication methods, interests, and emotional triggers, and we are at different maturity points in our walk with Christ, coupled with the truth that we live in a fallen world, communication and relationships can be extremely difficult. It’s a wonder we can communicate at all sometimes. Not only are relationships challenging, but have you ever finished a conversation with someone with the frustrated feeling that they did not clearly hear what you said? Have you had to pray, knowing that God is using this person to refine you? As much as you may love the person, it’s hard to be sure that you will ever have the deeper relationship you desire. What about when you know someone speaks untruths behind your back? You know it to be true, because trusted loved ones have defended and informed you of it. Now, you’ve become hesitant to share much with the person. Maybe each time you try to deepen your relationship, it just gets harder. You might feel like the more you try to form deeper conversations and move closer to them, it just makes everything worse. You might even feel like you can’t share anything other than a superficial relationship. Or have you ever thought a person was one way, then as you entered into a closer relationship with them you saw the truth? They were not who they pretended or tried to make you think they were. Or have you prayed for someone in your family, at work, or a stranger you met, knowing that God is using you to send mighty prayers up to Him for their sake? You may have had a disagreement, He may have laid them on your heart, burdening you to cry out for them. I’ve learned that no one in this life will ever fully satisfy us. Not even those we are very close to. Why? Because we were not meant for this world and there is no substitution for Christ. The lives we have were meant for much more than we experience here. Without each person submitting to Christ and praying and working to establish relationships under His guidance, the world, and people, will never offer us what He can. We must look for ways to offer Jesus what we can while we journey in this life. 2. Politics - In the last few years, people, even believers have been divided over political opinions. Politics seem to be the tipping point that can extinguish friendships. Have you been unfollowed by someone you thought would be a lifelong friend? Maybe a family member can’t see past the fact that you can simply agree to disagree over life issues, but still carry love and respect for each other through the grace of Christ. How we view disagreements, disappointments, and disasters say a lot about the mind and heartset we carry. We can only look to God and humbly ask Him to heal relationships by working through all parties involved, and we must work to be sure our actions and reactions, even when we are hurt, do not sin against God. There is only one way to work toward that goal: ensure that we are intentionally working to follow and honor the Lord each day. Even if you never reconnect with the person you believe wronged you, continue to pray for them. Don’t let bitterness invade your heart. Relying on Christ to ease and heal the pain of broken relationships is the only way to find healing. 3. Religion – Nowadays, if politics haven’t driven your friends away, religion might. In some ways, it seems like we have more Christians in the world than we really do. What do I mean? Many people profess to be a Christian, yet when you delve below surface talk, you learn that your views are vastly different. Many religions identify as “Christian,” yet unless they follow Jesus Christ as personal Savior and Lord, they are not Christian. Jesus warned us that He would cause division. Luke 12:51-53 says, “Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division. From now on there will be five in one family divided against each other, three against two and two against three. They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.” Of course, life is filled with many more situations that define whether a person is truly living (or attempting to live) a lifestyle that honors Christ. What I mentioned are just a few of the most noticeable, and what so many struggle with. How much joy would we receive if each of us strived to follow Christ in each of these situations? How much would we please our Heavenly Father as we choose to live in His power, then act and react with His grace and priorities leading us? Romans 6:6 says, “We know that our old self was crucified with Him in order that the body of sin might be brought to nothing, so that we would no longer be enslaved to sin.” Our “old self” is defined as what we were before the Holy Spirit abided within us through new life in Christ. Our former existence is no more. When we believe in Jesus as our Lord and Savior, the “old self” dies; the new life we receive now divinely appointed through grace. The control our former self held over us is released; the curse of death replaced by eternal life through Jesus. Believers are no longer subject to live under the influence of evil that the old self carried. Yet, knowing the influence and capacity to sin still flows within our human flesh, we must remember and rely on the power of Christ within us. We cannot trust fleshly responses that guide from hurt, fears, jealousy, and so many more emotions that clash with the Father’s truths. Romans 6:11 says, “So you also must consider yourselves dead to sin and alive to God in Christ Jesus.” In this verse, Paul urges believers to grasp by faith what God says and has revealed to be true. We must strive to remember and live the truth that through Christ, and the Holy Spirit alive within us, we have power over the sin that threatens to rule our nature. We carry power to deny sin abiding within us, enabling us to live with fullness of Christ directing us. Romans 6:17-18 says, “But thanks be to God, that you who were once slaves of sin have become obedient from the heart to the standard of teaching to which you were committed, and, having been set free from sin, have become slaves of righteousness.” True believers following Christ have an instinctive and evident desire to study and obey God’s Word. Having been set free from the death and burden of sin, the Holy Spirit enables believers to escape the binds of unrighteousness and become captive to righteousness. How does a believer remain true to follow the Holy Spirit within and keep the desire for righteousness? Only through the strength of Christ. Believers must fix our eyes, heart, and mind above and allow the work of Christ to grow and flow within us. A life eternally changed by Christ behaves differently because we believe differently. The more a believer seeks Jesus, the more a believer craves Him. The Holy Spirit living within believers fuels us with Christ’s hunger for righteousness and holiness. Living as a Christian is not defined by: 1. Joining a church 2. Reciting prayers 3. Being baptized 4. Serving others 5. Eating certain foods and abstaining from others Christians craving Christ: 1. Humbly accept Christ as Lord and Savior and submit to Him 2. Rely on the Holy Spirit within us to eradicate our sinful nature 3. Admit our need for the strength of Jesus and His grace and mercy as we seek Christ moment by moment 4. Shift our mindset and desires to match His 5. Allow His actions to change our reactions 6. Allow the Holy Spirit to continue to guard and cleanse us of sin 7. Carry joy by the power of Christ in us 8. Live with gratitude for the change Christ has made in us 9. Allow Christ to infuse His love for others inside us 10. Carry a biblical worldview that affects our choices and opinions 11. Intentionally become more Christlike daily John 2:23-25 says, “Now while He was in Jerusalem at the Passover Festival, many people saw the signs He was performing and believed in His name. But Jesus would not entrust Himself to them, for He knew all people. He did not need any testimony about mankind, for He knew what was in each person.” When we believe in His name because we have seen the signs Jesus displayed versus simply trusting that Jesus is who He says He is, we follow Him with an intellectual commitment versus living with a whole-hearted assurance led by faith. Jesus calls for believers to trust, follow, honor, love, and obey because we cannot comprehend living without Him. The Lord sees our whole heart. Jesus is a discerner of genuine conversion for Him versus excitement and intrigue for what could be called “magnificent events” that prompt our belief. Matthew 7:21 says, “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of Heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in Heaven.” I’d like to pose a few questions for each of us to consider: Are you sure you are a Christian? If God is a discerner of hearts, what does He see in yours? What should you change about your beliefs, actions, or reactions that will make your life more pleasing to God? What are ways to ensure you are living the full life God intends His believers to enjoy? What can you do to ensure that Christ is clearly shown to those viewing your life? John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that he gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” 2 Corinthians 5:17 says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” Dear Heavenly Father, You are the God of all creation. The heavens and the earth applaud Your name. Great are Your mysteries and the things You reveal to us. Thank you for loving us enough to make a way for us to find eternal life with You. Thank you for Your painful sacrifices so that mankind could be restored to You. Father, we pray that our hearts will be found clean before You. May we live with pureness of heart that seeks to know You more intimately and show You more clearly. May our mind, heart, and mouth exemplify You more and more each day because we choose You over self and world. Help us to desire You more than what this world offers and pledge to make shifts in our lives that bring us nearer to You. Enable us to humbly seek Your worldviews and live in ways that honor what You desire. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast. You can find this and other transcripts online at terrihitt.com. Remember that both of my podcasts are available on the website. You can also find them on Apple Podcast, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts are also found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. Will you take a moment to follow the shows and think of someone you can share the podcasts with and encourage them to follow and share, as well? Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 101 - Three Qualities You Must Teach Your Children Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 101 – Three Qualities You Must Teach Your Children Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast deepens your walk with Jesus and your children, and equips you to become a set-apart woman raising children to chase Christ over culture. Hey, as we get started today, I want to remind you that if you like this episode or have been encouraged by other episodes of Purposed Parent Connected Child, please make the time to leave a rating and review. The truth is that the more ratings and reviews the show gets, the easier the algorithm makes it to find the show. So, please take action and leave that rating and review on Apple podcasts or share the show with friends. My family thanks you along with me because every show is a family endeavor for Christ. Now, on to today’s episode about important qualities you need to teach your children. As a mom, you probably know there are many characteristics God requires believers to carry. Today, I want us to focus on three important qualities He desires we teach our children . First, let’s look at a important verse - Psalm 56:4 , which says, “In God, whose Word I praise—in God I trust. I will not be afraid. What can man do to me ?” As we begin, I’d like to share a story that highlights the first quality God requires us to teach our children. Trust . As a mom to two born from my womb and two born from another, who all miraculously became mine through God’s mighty and loving ways, I understand very well the necessity for trust . As a very young bio mom, I took for granted that my children would trust and love me. Ignorant of the effects caused by neglect and deprivation in early years, I never realized how different relationships might be when a child was adopted vs. being a bio baby. Thankfully, my husband and I wisely took several classes, read books, articles, blogs, and spoke to others who had paved the way before us as parents, adoption facilitators, and counselors in the field when we adopted. When we stepped in faith to bring home our ten month old baby girl from China, we were ecstatic! Just like when I was pregnant, my husband and I already had a deep love blooming and spreading inside us. Then, when we were face to face with our brand new daughter, that love immediately cemented. Even though our girl was just ten months old, she had a life with many experiences before she came to be with us. Because of the nature of adoption, she had suffered neglect, trauma, heartbreak, and many other emotions and occurrences before we met her. After a cycle of broken trust in her life, it was foremost in our minds and hearts to ensure that she would feel safe, loved, and grow the ability to fully trust us. Ten years later, my husband and I brought home a nine year old from China. The amount of suffering and neglect she had already experienced was heartbreaking. After nine years of deprivation, she now had to learn to live with a family fully ready to love and nurture her. Our youngest daughter had to face emotions, thoughts, feelings, and actions to allow herself to be cared for. Of course, that took time. For her to move from someone who felt unseen or like an inconvenience to accepting that she was now a cherished daughter, the first step was to learn to trust us. This example is such a beautiful reflection of our walk with Jesus. Trust is the first step in relationship with Christ. Trust is also the first of three qualities God requires you to possess - and to lovingly train your child to carry. When your children develop a strong, connected, trusting relationship with you , it is easier for them to be able to trust in Jesus . So let’s look at the word, trust . For some, trust is an easy gift to give others. For some, trust will have to be earned. Because of background, experiences, and formed beliefs, trust is simply not easily given by all. How is trust built with someone who hasn’t known trustworthy people in their life? You may not have adopted children or parent children who have experienced trauma or neglect, but simply desire to lay the groundwork for a strong foundation of trust in your home. There are simple, yet effective ways to build trust in any of those circumstances. Let’s go over the best ways to build trust. These are not listed in any particular order, but as they come to my mind. 1. Play – If you’ve listened to other Purposed Parent Connected Child episodes, you may have heard me speak often about my youngest daughter and I having a scheduled daily play date. This has been one of the top ways we have connected and cemented our relationship with each other. It has also led to her trusting me enough to trust Jesus. What does you child enjoy? How can you intentionally incorporate time together daily enjoying an activity that fuels your child’s interests? 2. Listen – Make eye contact with your children. Hear what they are saying. This means you may have to slow down your schedule. Be available so they can share what is going on in their life and thoughts. This leads to open and enjoyable conversations that deepens your relationship with each other and lays the groundwork for a walk with Christ. 3. Validate – Show that you hear them (this doesn’t mean you have to agree). Let them see that you understand they have emotions, feelings, and thoughts. Respect them, and also teach your children biblical truth throughout their life so that they will use God’s Word as a compass against which they measure those feelings, thoughts, and emotions. 4. Honor/respect them as a person. Yes, you are in authority over your child, but God is trusting you to love, guide, and build relationship that will lovingly lead your children to Him. 5. Agree on expectations together (when possible). Your child will probably not agree with your parental decisions one hundred percent of the time, however, as you build relationship and trust, you are able to communicate in ways that continue to foster and build higher trust. 6. Honor/foster independence – don’t try to make all decisions for your children. Know that they are on a journey of growth, just as you are. As they grow, times, situations, and abilities change. You must allow your child to grow while seeking God to guide you with biblical insight and wisdom in helping your children mature to become godly adults. 7. Ask open-ended questions – As your child matures, ask open-ended questions in discussion to see where their mind and heart are residing. This helps guide you in parenting and allows you to see where they may need additional help maturing. 8. Moderate your reactions – As you continue to purposely mature your walk with God through Christ, you are better equipped when surprises come. As you raise your children to know and reside in Jesus, your will also experience less surprises. When those do happen, moderate your reactions. Don’t fly off the handle or react too harshly. Trust continues to grow when hard times or surprises are handled with insightful wisdom. 9. Uphold commitments – Just like the old saying, “make promises sparingly and keep them no matter the cost,” trust is built when you uphold commitments you have promised your children. If emergencies arise, the relationship you have built will keep your trustworthiness safe, but if you never keep promises, you will not build trust or a strong connection. You will push your child away, as well as any positive influence to trust in Jesus. There are many factors that create trust. I hope this list is one you can say you’ve already established in your home. If not, use this listing as a guide to help you establish intentional methods to multiply trust in your home and for Christ. The next quality God requires you to carry and teach your child is Praise . When people think of praise, they often think of being thankful for something. Of course, that is part of what I mean here. But in reality, since we are speaking of God, our Heavenly Father, the Maker of all things, simply being thankful isn’t enough. Praise should have an element of thankfulness and gratitude, surely, but also carry a recognition of Who God is. God is Holy. God is sovereign. God is The Great I Am . In order to train your child to carry the attitude of praise , you must clearly exhibit true praise around the recognition of your Heavenly Father and all He is. This begins with an eternal perspective centered on God . 1. Set an example - Identify where your walk with God is strong and where it is weak. What is your impression of God? Do you carry an attitude of praise despite circumstances? Does it come across to your children? The best way to mentor praise to your children is to make sure they see it modeled by you . 2. Prayer – Is it possible to praise God without prayer? No. What a blessing that God left us a hotline straight to Him. This personal line never expires and is never out of service. The more you use it, the more you want to. The more you use it, the more your children will want to if you lovingly and consistently model strong relationship with God through Christ from your earliest time together. Use prayer with your child as soon as you have them. Let them get accustomed to hearing you rely on and praise the Lord. 3. Service – One of the most effective ways to praise God is by serving others through and for Him. Even better is when you serve with your children and let them experience the blessing of helping others. 4. Compliment others – Looking for ways to compliment others is simple and fun! When I’m out with my girls we always like to compliment people. It gives me so much joy to see the faces of those we compliment light up with surprise and a smile. It’s also a gift to hear your children find beautiful ways to compliment others. I’m sure God feels joy when we bring delight to the hearts of others He created with love and purpose. As we do it, we are actually praising Him as we praise His creation. 5. Gratitude/Praise Journal – If you enjoy writing in a journal, it’s a delight to write prayer requests, answers, and thoughts in a journal to read years later. When your children see you record these words, they may also want to begin keeping a journal for themselves. If you have a child who is too young to write, teach him or her to draw pictures or you can talk together and write the words. Teaching your children to look for blessings, answers to prayer, or to record the progress of their relationship with Jesus is a gift they may continue for life. 6. Teach – The way you react to God – your walk with Him, the way you pray, the way you live, your desires, actions, and reactions all expose your belief system and where it is weak or strong. God’s sovereignty and holiness must be evident in the way you live and in the way you train your children to see and react to Him. Psalm 27:4 says, “One thing I ask from the Lord, this only do I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, to gaze on the beauty of the Lord and to seek Him in His temple .” “Gaze upon the beauty of the Lord and seek Him .” How well do your children see you live with that posture? In order to gaze upon the beauty of the Lord, we must know Him through His Word and recognize His character. To love Him with a humble heart, fear God with a holy reverence, respect God's holy commands and instructions, serve God with a humble heart, and obey God with respect for His sovereignty, we have to be present with Him, maturing a relationship He paid a dear price to offer each of us. Everything we’ve discussed about trust and praise flow into the next quality God requires. Submission . In this world, submission isn’t always a word that commands respect or admiration. Of course, the kingdom of God is contrary to this world. Relationship with God requires humility. In the eyes of the Father being humble is not a weakness, but an act of trust, praise, and submission. Submission isn’t meant to be oppressive. In fact, just the opposite. Submission to God offers eternal freedom. John 4:34 says, “Jesus said to them, “My food is to do the will of Him who sent Me and to accomplish His work.” Jesus, our perfect mentor showed us the ways to please and obey God. Draw nearer to God moment by moment. Allow Him to change your heart, mindset, attitude, actions, reactions, and desires. Trust . Praise , and Submit . These three qualities form a firm foundation that leads to obedience. Luke 1:38-39 says, "For nothing will be impossible with God.” And Mary said, “Behold, I am the servant of the Lord; let it be to me according to your word.” And the angel departed from her." Without trusting God, praising God, and submitting to Him, Mary would never have stepped forward in obedience. Consider these questions: Do you trust , praise , and submit to the Father so you will step forward in obedience no matter where or when He calls? Are you mentoring the way for your children to do the same? What ways are you teaching trust, praise, and submission to your children in order that they will have the foundation to obey God in all He calls? As the blessed woman God chose to raise His children, you don’t have to be perfect. But you do need to love Jesus and intentionally deepen your walk with God moment by moment. What is one step you will purposely take to ensure you model the way to Him for your children? Dear Heavenly Father, Your ways are good. Your holy Word tells us so. We trust in You. We praise You. We submit to You. Help us continue to move ever deeper into Your arms and abide in Your care. May we be beautiful mentors for our children to see Christ and follow You through relationship with Him. May our love for Jesus shine ever brightly and in ways that You must bless because we humbly obey where You call. May our children do the same with joy and gladness. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Raising children is challenging. No one has all the answers because each child is unique as are parenting styles and family dynamics. By connecting with and knowing your children as you maintain purposed growth in Christ, you will be better prepared for any situation you face. That’s why you hear me share about the Set-Apart Collective in this podcast. I work with professionals who care about making Jesus known to their children. Are you a high-achieving woman who loves Jesus, but is so busy with the rush of work and daily life that you feel like you’re being drained like the water in your bathtub? Do you yearn to get closer to Jesus and show Him to your kids so you will create a love that will last into eternity? The desire is there, but your days spiral out of control before you even think about opening your Bible. Do you ever stop to think that you are the first Jesus your child will see? Let me remind you there is hope. There is a way you can be equipped to raise kids who chase Christ over culture. If you want a connected relationship with Christ and your children that leads them to your side and His feet, instead of them seeking validation from peers, I have an 8-step program to move you from frustrated to fulfilled. I will show you how to reflect Jesus in a way that attracts your family to a connected relationship that lasts into eternity. Remember, godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset you carry. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will arm you with a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You’ll also deepen your identity in Christ so you can mentor the way for your children to do the same. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family and you will have the tools to raise set apart kids as you parent the heart, not simply the behavior. Does this sound like a lifeline to help you be that set-apart mom God has entrusted you to be? Visit terrihitt.com/coaching and click the link for a free, no obligation conversation call with me. This is a strategic call where I will hear your biggest struggle and show you how to turn it into a blessing that will bring you closer to Christ and your children. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. One last thing to remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 085 - Raising Christian Kids - Why It's Important to Build Your Child's Confidence in Christ, Not on Self-Reliance Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 085 –Raising Christian Kids: Why It's Important to Build Your Child's Confidence in Christ, Not on Self-Reliance Thank you for taking time to share your day with me. I pray what you hear each week deepens your walk with Jesus and your children. Today I want to dig into confidence. Many parenting experts tout self-confidence in children as a foundational necessity. I disagree. In fact, I believe self-confidence is harmful , dangerous , and unbiblical . 2 Corinthians 3:5 says, “Not that we are sufficient of ourselves to think of anything as being from ourselves, but our sufficiency is from God .” After reading this verse, don’t you agree that it’s clear? Parents should raise children to carry godly confidence. God never intended for humans to rely on self . In fact, Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me .” God clearly makes it known that the only way we find peace, joy, or other fruits of the Spirit is by releasing self and submitting to Him. John 15:4-5 says, “Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in Me. I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in Me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing.” Raising your children to follow self over Christ is the cause , and definitely not the cure, of many problems. Problems pop up quickly when a child builds confidence based on self . Because building confidence on self will never withstand the storms of life, some of the issues your child might exhibit as they mature could be as follows: 1. Frequent comparison of self to others 2. Negative talk about self 3. Isolation from family or friends 4. Afraid to do things without parents 5. Easily angered or frustrated 6. Sluggishness/loss of interest or motivation in something that used to excite them 7. Depression 8. Frequent crying 9. Fearfulness/Worry 10. Resistance to school 11. Frequent illness – such as stomachaches or headaches 12. Low self-esteem Now that I’ve brought up this topic, let’s examine ways a child might exhibit low self-esteem. 1. Bullying 2. Neglect 3. Bad grades 4. Lack of coordination 5. Excessive praise 6. Excessive criticism 7. Ignoring God’s commands to build esteem through Him 8. Addictions When your children have built esteem on self and have trouble with grades, relationships, body size, bullying, etc. they have nothing to fall back on. Their foundation of self-esteem crumbles. There is no lasting support. Worldly parenting coaches and therapists will try to persuade parents that building high self-esteem is the key to eradicating low self-esteem and the symptoms of it. This tactic actually makes the situation worse for your child. Only building confidence through identity in Christ will enable your children to live in freedom, joy, and peace that will multiply and last through eternity. Secular specialists say that high self-esteem allows your children to be independent, resilient, secure, good decision makers, and respected. These experts stress that methods of building high self-esteem can be easy, such as: 1. Affirmations – Many adults also adhere to the practice of affirmations. There is actually a lot of Christians who believe in this practice. However, I know (because the Bible says so) that nothing man can write, think, or feel will override what God’s holy Word teaches. Instead of affirmations such as “I am pretty.” “I am smart” or others such as these, help your children find applicable Bible verses that speak God’s truth and life. Encourage them to memorize, write, or speak biblical words. Teach them that Jesus used Scripture to stand against the devil. If it’s good enough for Jesus to use as an offensive weapon, I highly recommend your children (and you) do the same. In fact, let your children hear you speak Truth and apply it in your life and activities. 2. Compose love letters to self – If your children want to write love letters to themselves, there’s not anything wrong with doing so. But how long will words they write last as encouragement? How long will they believe human opinion of themselves? God’s Word teaches that what man believes comes from our mind, heart, and experiences – all of which are skewed by this fallen world. Instead, have your children read the love letters of the Bible and study the Words of Jesus to receive the truth and healing He offers. 3. Write and read a self-love journal – Again, your children can write as many messages to themselves as they desire. But what the Bible teaches God says about His creation and reading about the sacrifice Jesus made for them will build the only foundation that will hold and transform feelings, emotions, and thoughts and bring them back to the truths of God. If they want to journal, they can let feelings, ideas, and thoughts flow. However, just as we should do, I think it’s important to teach our children to think about what they’ve released on paper and analyze whether it reflects God’s truths. 4. Make a personal manifesto - so your child can manifest the character and life they want. Instead of trying to manifest what your children dream of (which is not biblical, but is a new age practice), teach them the importance of being mindful of the talents and interests God formed within them when they were created. Remind and encourage them that they (and each person) is unique and on this earth for purposes ordained by God . They matter deeply to Him. Teach them to seek His guidance on how to use the talents and interests He crafted within them in ways that bring Him honor, glory, and pleasure. It’s one of the keys to lasting and godly confidence. During this episode we’ve examined multiple ways secular parenting coaches and therapists recommend you build self-esteem in your children. Are you seeing how unbiblical that advice actually is? Now we’re going to look at several ideas to help you raise children who know Jesus. Remember, knowing Jesus is the first step in forming identity , godly esteem , and confidence through Christ. Let’s look at nine steps. 1. Personally Seek God – If you lovingly show your children that God is a priority in your life, He will likely become important to your children. If you live a life that seeks more of self or worldly values and desires, your child probably will, too. 2. Read God’s Word - Study God’s Word together . Worship Him together. Make Him known so they will seek Him. If God is a priority to you, the way you lovingly follow Him, mature your walk with Him through relationship with Jesus, and model a godly lifestyle to your children by making time to study the Bible and apply it to your lives will influence your children more than anything else can. A purposed, consistent lifestyle focused on Christ will build a solid foundation and connection. 3. Communication – Communication with God and each other is vital. Praying to God alone, with your children, with your husband, and as a family is very important. Praying over your children while they are present, especially in the moments they are concerned about something or ask you to pray for them is a vital part of growing their faith. Teaching them that through Jesus we are able to come straight to God is a basic Biblical truth that will bring them nearer to Him. 4. Bring them to Bible-believing and preaching church so your family will belong to a community of believers who will pray for your children, grow together, and serve together. 5. Model humble praise and gratitude – As you humbly submit to Christ as your personal Savior and model a life that praises, submits to, obeys God, and lives with gratitude – even through trials, you breathe a sweet fragrance of Christ in your home and into your child’s spirit. 6. Teach them to go to God first . If they love, obey, and follow Him, they will love and obey you. Show them that you are accountable to God, so they will understand the importance of honoring their Heavenly Father. Teach them that you love and honor God, that you are submitting to Him as your Heavenly Father. Let them know God has entrusted them to you, and it is your duty to teach them how to chase Christ. 7. Live a set-apart life so they will see you strive to be more Christlike moment by moment. Let them know you live in the strength of Jesus , not your own. Live a life of integrity that follows God’s Word in the way you live, think, speak, act, and react. Let them know that you are actively asking God to change your desires and words moment by moment to make you more pleasing to Him. Let your children see you live this lifestyle. 8. Teach about sin, repentance, and forgiveness . When you live a lifestyle that honors Christ and follows His loving guidelines, you model a life that will show your child the way to the Father. 9. Live with eternal perspective . Teach your children that this world is not their final destination. Show them the way to God and how to prepare to live with Him in Heaven for eternity . Your children belong to the Father who has entrusted them to you for this season . What a privilege and honor you have been given. Luke 12:42-43 says, “And the Lord said, “Who then is that faithful and wise steward, whom his master will make ruler over his household, to give them their portion of food in due season? Blessed is that servant whom his master will find so doing when he comes .” Your children can tell whether the words you teach about God match your actions, words, desires, and reactions. They are able to see the joy in your eyes and body language as you speak of Jesus and speak to them. Matthew 22:37 says, “Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. ’” Is this what your children see you do? Matthew 7:24-27 says, “Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash .” God is not mocked. The Bible tells us we will reap what we sow. As the old saying says, the years can feel long, but days pass too quickly. Your best of plans amount to nothing but lost opportunities unless you purposely put them in place and act upon them moment by moment. You may have heard me talk about the Set-Apart Collective often in this podcast. Why do I share it so often? I know the program works. Through 6 weeks of one-on-one and group coaching, along with Scripturally-based materials I provide, you will complete 8 steps that include the following: Seek God First, Establish Identity, Teach Truth, A Set-Apart Woman, Parent Set-Apart Kids, Arm for Battle, Relationships, and Training. What you learn and solidify in your personal life will directly affect the way you serve God and parent for Him. It will help you construct godly confidence and esteem through Christ in your children. If you’re ready to invest in the future of your children, contact me at info@terrihitt.com for more details or visit terrihitt.com/setapart. Because you are a podcast listener, let me know you heard about the special price I’m offering you. I seriously want you to experience results and live a set-apart life with a set-apart family. Instead of a $997 value, I’ll give you a discount code that enables you to pay only $247. If you are serious about parenting with eternal perspective and raising children to chase Christ over culture, I’m making this very affordable and easy to do. Dear Heavenly Father, Your goodness is overwhelming when we pause and consider all You have done and are doing for us. Thank you for allowing us to parent Your children for this brief time we have on earth together. Please help us to raise children who chase Christ over culture and build godly esteem through Your truths and ways. We know You love the children. You tell us we must become like children to enter heaven. They are so special to You, yet You entrust them to us. What a holy privilege. Help us parent in Your power. Please help our children fulfill the plans You have created within them because we have led them straight to You. May they see You in us and never turn from You. Please help our children not to follow self, but to set their mind and heart on what You say about them. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. Godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. That’s why I’ve created the Set-Apart Collective. Have you decided peers and culture won’t be the main influence over your child? Would you like to parent to prepare your child for eternity with Christ, not to repair a relationship? In the Set-Apart Collective, you will deepen your walk with Christ, learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family. The Set-Apart Collective is open now. Please send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information or look online at terrihitt.com/setapart. We can also set up a 15 minute call to chat about details. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. If you connected in some way with this episode, would you please rate and review the podcast on Apple or Spotify? It only takes a minute or so and makes a big difference in people finding the podcast. You and I know that the best reviews are by word of mouth, so would you please choose a friend to recommend the show to? Let them know that the podcast is found at terrihitt.com, Apple Podcasts, and Spotify. Imagine the change we will see in the way mothers parent for Christ if they learn to be intentional, too. Remember, if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection. 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