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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #031 – An Illuminated Life Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. As I work on this podcast, I am in awe of the work and blessings God has shined in my life over the last two weeks. Our family has had some challenges. But God carried us through every one of them. Does that mean we are now free of hardships or obstacles? Certainly not. But each time God graces us with provisions for one of them, we are strengthened and reminded of His ever-present goodness in our life, whether we recognize it at the time or not. Last night I spent time just sitting at God’s feet. As I reflected over events of the day, I thanked Him for several opportunities that proved He was with me, and with my family. I had encountered a few opportunities where I could have easily grown frustrated or fearful over the last 24 hours, but God never let my mind travel there. He brought quick resolutions to my every need. I was so thankful for all of it that I simply had to sit and be with Him, thanking and praising Him. Mostly, I just wanted to be in His presence. Do you make time to rest in Him and simply sit at His feet? The year 2020 has been filled with challenges for everyone. We have been provided countless moments to fall in front of the Lord. I don’t know anyone who has not been affected by events taking place this year. Regardless of where your opinion sits on the multitude of issues we have seen, the truth stands that it has been a year for each of us to evaluate ourselves and where we stand with God. Our relationship with Jesus reveals and affects everything about us. How have the 2020 changes affected your faith? How have the changes and events affected your mental state? Your health? Your temperament? Your work? Your lifestyle? The way you treat your family? The way you treat others? The way you let others affect you? I’ve seen so much anger, frustration, bitterness, and misunderstandings on social media. Why? I believe it is because everything goes back to the condition of our hearts. When we don’t know Jesus, we can’t show Jesus. When we do know Him, however, the responsibility is high. We must be the light that flickers into the spirit of those around us in a very dark world. That light is not lit by our power, but by the omnipotence of the Holy Spirit living inside us. Jesus inside our flesh. We must slow down and rest in Him before reacting to the chaos of this world. Luke 8:16-18 says, “No one after lighting a lamp covers it with a jar or puts it under a bed, but puts it on a stand, so that those who enter may see the light. For nothing is hidden that will not be made manifest, nor is anything secret that will not be known and come to light. Take care then how you hear, for to the one who has, more will be given, and from the one who has not, even what he thinks that he has will be taken away.” Do you know what one of the best lessons I have learned from facing an obstacle was? Besides watching God work, that is. It has been being able to share with others what He has done in my life and helping them to rest in Him. One of favorite things to do is share God stories. Because the Holy Spirit is alive inside of me, the light of Jesus should illuminate everything about me. Because of my weak and sinful flesh, I do not always shine Him the way that I should, but each moment I endeavor to let Him have His will over me. All of us can, and should, be doing better. If Jesus is alive inside us, we need to allow Him to spread through everything we do and are. It is our duty to allow Him to radiate His light through us and reach others. Our joy through Him should be made public, not be hidden in any way. We should attract others to Him because of the peaceful radiance they feel and see emanating through us. We must seek to use the opportunities we receive to rest in God’s arms or lay at His feet as the foundation for serving Him well and bring others to Him because of them. Simply doing for God is not what I mean. We must allow Him to react within us and guide our fears, passions, needs, desires, and actions. If we do not apply what He has provided to and for us as a way to spread Him to others who do not know Him, or to those who need encouragement and reminders of His strength and provision, we have shoved the light under the bed or placed a cover over it. When we utilize the spiritual muscles God is growing in us to lift those around us up to Him, we become stronger in our own faith. Just like exercising, our faith can grow weak and out of shape when we do not remember to allow God to penetrate every area of us and work to mature our trust and faith in Him daily. As we allow Christ to work in us, we develop a mind and spirit that links to His. We understand and appreciate even more of what Jesus is, and has done, for us. He enables us to mature a deeper fellowship with Him and gives us boldness in sharing Him with others. In contrast, when we do not allow Him to work in us and we do not seek a growing relationship, our communication weakens, similar to an unused muscle left to atrophy. I believe this has been the year to make certain we boldly stand for Christ, allowing His light to shine in proper and authentic ways. If others seek to tear us down, criticize, or complain, we must pray for them. When we hear others criticize our president, for example, regardless of what our opinion of him is, we should pray for Him and the person speaking poorly of him. I was extremely saddened this week when I saw on social media that when the President Trump lost his brother, people tweeted that the wrong Trump died. When did our country turn so boldly evil and hateful? God has authorized specific people to be in power. His word clearly instructs us in Romans 13:1-2 to “Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God. Therefore whoever resists the authorities resists what God has appointed, and those who resist will incur judgment.” When the light exists in us and is powered by the One true light source by our faithful and true relationship with Jesus, there is no room or excuse for darkness. We must repent as individuals and as a nation, lay at His feet, soaking in His love, light, strength, and guidance to continue moving through a world increasingly corrupt. We are not without hope. We just have to claim His and believe it, then move boldly forward in it without excuse or relying on our feeble strength. Are you ready? What are the best ways to move forward shining His light in the way He desires? 1. Know Jesus as Savior. 2. Read God’s word. 3. Seek Him and deepen your walk and relationship with Him. 4. Ask God to illuminate your mind with His truths. 5. Pray to God for your relationship with Him to be healthy and pure. 6. Pray for others, especially those who hurt you and anger you. 7. Repeat each step – every day. Each one of us, myself included must truly stop and make time for what is important. Merciful Heavenly Father, please help us. Remind us daily to look Up to You. For You are the One we must rely on. Everything in this world that we believe to be important will fade away and You will be left standing on the throne we bow to. God, let us feel the urgency and act on it by allowing You to direct and carry us through each moment in ways that shine and reflect Your love, strength, truth, and compassion. Let our hearts and minds suffer for what pains You and recognize and move in the ways You uniquely call us to, allowing You to act through us, giving us the words and abilities needed. Lord, our time here is short. Help us remember that and truly live each day with an eternal perspective that drives us to You and brings others with us. Did you enjoy this episode? Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and learn how to live with more eternal perspective? Right now, because this podcast is new, listeners can’t find it unless they specifically know the name to search for. You can help them find it by leaving a quick review and rating for the show and by sharing about the podcast on social media or word of mouth. Can you think of a friend or family member who might enjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them. Until next week, keep looking Up and finding new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 031 An Illuminated Life Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #031 – An Illuminated Life Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. As I work on this podcast, I am in awe of the work and blessings God has shined in my life over the last two weeks. Our family has had some challenges. But God carried us through every one of them. Does that mean we are now free of hardships or obstacles? Certainly not. But each time God graces us with provisions for one of them, we are strengthened and reminded of His ever-present goodness in our life, whether we recognize it at the time or not. Last night I spent time just sitting at God’s feet. As I reflected over events of the day, I thanked Him for several opportunities that proved He was with me, and with my family. I had encountered a few opportunities where I could have easily grown frustrated or fearful over the last 24 hours, but God never let my mind travel there. He brought quick resolutions to my every need. I was so thankful for all of it that I simply had to sit and be with Him, thanking and praising Him. Mostly, I just wanted to be in His presence. Do you make time to rest in Him and simply sit at His feet? The year 2020 has been filled with challenges for everyone. We have been provided countless moments to fall in front of the Lord. I don’t know anyone who has not been affected by events taking place this year. Regardless of where your opinion sits on the multitude of issues we have seen, the truth stands that it has been a year for each of us to evaluate ourselves and where we stand with God. Our relationship with Jesus reveals and affects everything about us. How have the 2020 changes affected your faith? How have the changes and events affected your mental state? Your health? Your temperament? Your work? Your lifestyle? The way you treat your family? The way you treat others? The way you let others affect you? I’ve seen so much anger, frustration, bitterness, and misunderstandings on social media. Why? I believe it is because everything goes back to the condition of our hearts. When we don’t know Jesus, we can’t show Jesus. When we do know Him, however, the responsibility is high. We must be the light that flickers into the spirit of those around us in a very dark world. That light is not lit by our power, but by the omnipotence of the Holy Spirit living inside us. Jesus inside our flesh. We must slow down and rest in Him before reacting to the chaos of this world. Luke 8:16-18 says, “No one after lighting a lamp covers it with a jar or puts it under a bed, but puts it on a stand, so that those who enter may see the light. For nothing is hidden that will not be made manifest, nor is anything secret that will not be known and come to light. Take care then how you hear, for to the one who has, more will be given, and from the one who has not, even what he thinks that he has will be taken away.” Do you know what one of the best lessons I have learned from facing an obstacle was? Besides watching God work, that is. It has been being able to share with others what He has done in my life and helping them to rest in Him. One of favorite things to do is share God stories. Because the Holy Spirit is alive inside of me, the light of Jesus should illuminate everything about me. Because of my weak and sinful flesh, I do not always shine Him the way that I should, but each moment I endeavor to let Him have His will over me. All of us can, and should, be doing better. If Jesus is alive inside us, we need to allow Him to spread through everything we do and are. It is our duty to allow Him to radiate His light through us and reach others. Our joy through Him should be made public, not be hidden in any way. We should attract others to Him because of the peaceful radiance they feel and see emanating through us. We must seek to use the opportunities we receive to rest in God’s arms or lay at His feet as the foundation for serving Him well and bring others to Him because of them. Simply doing for God is not what I mean. We must allow Him to react within us and guide our fears, passions, needs, desires, and actions. If we do not apply what He has provided to and for us as a way to spread Him to others who do not know Him, or to those who need encouragement and reminders of His strength and provision, we have shoved the light under the bed or placed a cover over it. When we utilize the spiritual muscles God is growing in us to lift those around us up to Him, we become stronger in our own faith. Just like exercising, our faith can grow weak and out of shape when we do not remember to allow God to penetrate every area of us and work to mature our trust and faith in Him daily. As we allow Christ to work in us, we develop a mind and spirit that links to His. We understand and appreciate even more of what Jesus is, and has done, for us. He enables us to mature a deeper fellowship with Him and gives us boldness in sharing Him with others. In contrast, when we do not allow Him to work in us and we do not seek a growing relationship, our communication weakens, similar to an unused muscle left to atrophy. I believe this has been the year to make certain we boldly stand for Christ, allowing His light to shine in proper and authentic ways. If others seek to tear us down, criticize, or complain, we must pray for them. When we hear others criticize our president, for example, regardless of what our opinion of him is, we should pray for Him and the person speaking poorly of him. I was extremely saddened this week when I saw on social media that when the President Trump lost his brother, people tweeted that the wrong Trump died. When did our country turn so boldly evil and hateful? God has authorized specific people to be in power. His word clearly instructs us in Romans 13:1-2 to “Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God. Therefore whoever resists the authorities resists what God has appointed, and those who resist will incur judgment.” When the light exists in us and is powered by the One true light source by our faithful and true relationship with Jesus, there is no room or excuse for darkness. We must repent as individuals and as a nation, lay at His feet, soaking in His love, light, strength, and guidance to continue moving through a world increasingly corrupt. We are not without hope. We just have to claim His and believe it, then move boldly forward in it without excuse or relying on our feeble strength. Are you ready? What are the best ways to move forward shining His light in the way He desires? 1. Know Jesus as Savior. 2. Read God’s word. 3. Seek Him and deepen your walk and relationship with Him. 4. Ask God to illuminate your mind with His truths. 5. Pray to God for your relationship with Him to be healthy and pure. 6. Pray for others, especially those who hurt you and anger you. 7. Repeat each step – every day. Each one of us, myself included must truly stop and make time for what is important. Merciful Heavenly Father, please help us. Remind us daily to look Up to You. For You are the One we must rely on. Everything in this world that we believe to be important will fade away and You will be left standing on the throne we bow to. God, let us feel the urgency and act on it by allowing You to direct and carry us through each moment in ways that shine and reflect Your love, strength, truth, and compassion. Let our hearts and minds suffer for what pains You and recognize and move in the ways You uniquely call us to, allowing You to act through us, giving us the words and abilities needed. Lord, our time here is short. Help us remember that and truly live each day with an eternal perspective that drives us to You and brings others with us. Did you enjoy this episode? Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and learn how to live with more eternal perspective? Right now, because this podcast is new, listeners can’t find it unless they specifically know the name to search for. You can help them find it by leaving a quick review and rating for the show and by sharing about the podcast on social media or word of mouth. Can you think of a friend or family member who might enjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them. Until next week, keep looking Up and finding new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

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< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 103 - The Power of Teaching Patience to Your Child Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 103 – The Power of Teaching Patience to Your Child Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom and BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you will be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episodes, would you please share this episode or others with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, then leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast and are helping affect generations for Jesus. Would you agree that being a parent tests and develops patience? I think we all know that being a parent uncovers the best and worst in us. However, when we rely on the Lord to parent through us, when we let go of self and submit to Him to guide and grow us, we discover how to parent in ways that lead our child to God. When we attempt to parent in our strength, we fail mightily and the effects hit our children mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. This is why we must desire to be more Christlike. It’s why we must purposely work toward that goal so that we will become patient . Most mothers understand what a privilege it is to be a parent! Hopefully, you recognize ways God is working through you personally and uniquely to instill the godly character of patience. How ironic it is that we need godly patience to parent, but we refine it while doing the job. That is – if we submit to God and ask Him to grow that beautiful fruit of the Spirit within us. One of the many ways God helped me become more patient was with my middle daughter. While I don’t remember exactly what grade she was in, I know it was during her younger elementary school years that God finally opened my eyes to the way her mind and heart worked. Throughout my daughter’s life, when asked questions, she ponders her response. Most of the time you can’t see any hesitation, but when the question carries a deeper importance, there is a delay in her answer. Before I understood this hesitation (and the reason why) I sometimes wondered what was taking so long. However, about the time I was ready to jump in and relieve her of having to answer, she would respond. One day God opened my eyes to the fact that she cared deeply about truth. Responding with integrity and offering a genuine response was of utmost importance. I understood how deeply she considered what she wanted to say. Her mindfulness made her message all the more important. Through that experience, God showed me how to wait. I didn’t need to think of rescuing others. I needed to control my impatience and wait for others to carefully formulate the unique responses they were purposed to contribute. What wisdom my girl shows when she responds. I’m usually in awe of the way God wired her brain to work. She is able to assess different sides of issues and still answer with a godly response aligned with Scripture, not just voice an opinion. Each day we receive countless opportunities to develop the art of patience. Praise God that He continues that good work in us moment by moment when we ask Him to. As patience grows in you, use your deepening walk with Christ to help you foster patience in your children. Today I’m going to suggest several ways you can help your child grow the skill and gift of patience. One thing I want to remind you as we begin is that your kids want to know you’re present for them. They want to feel that you care. What that means is that connection is key to teaching your child anything. Often, parents will feel as if interruptions from their children are a disruption to their schedule. How would you feel if someone you loved viewed any time you need them as a disrupted day or plan. This doesn’t mean that I’m saying your child needs you to be at their beck and call. What it does mean is that they need to know you love them and are accessible. Children are often still learning the concept of time. When young, they believe their needs are the most pressing item in your day. Their needs are felt very big and “right now.” They believe the world and everyone in it revolves around their needs. In a safe, loving home, parents usually are present. Children are used to time with one or both parents. When phone calls, errands, or unexpected events occur, schedules and expectations are interrupted. However, because they are used to the ability to reconnect with parents, they trust their needs will be taken care of. They are able to remain more patient until that happens if they have been taught the foundations of connection. We must remember that children are just that…children. You and I had to learn patience, and are actually still learning. The gift of patience continuously grows if we seek it. Parents have to seek ways to teach children to be patient. For example, when you tell your children to “give you a moment” to finish something – a phone call, washing dishes, etc., they understand if you count down time with them either verbally or with a timer or visual reminder of time passing. However, the word, “moment” means nothing. This can actually cause more frustration if you are not finished in a moment . A blink of an eye. When you are visiting with someone, perhaps a friend or are at a doctor’s office and you are trying to finish a conversation, you can take your child onto your lap, offer a distraction such as a hug, gently bounce them on your knees, give a book for them to look at, or give them a miniature hourglass to watch the sand. These will help as long as you complete your activity when you say you will - or as quickly as possible. This allows your children to see that you are true to your word. It helps them believe you when you promise something and allows them to act without frustration, enabling them to construct brain pathways needed to build patience. In these examples, the children are young. If your children are under the age of five, of course more guidance and time with them is needed. Remember that this age will take your words literally,. At this time, books, puzzles, coloring, building blocks, etc. for a set time works well. If you’ve taken time to play alongside your child in quiet, consistent times, she will be more apt to handle a bit of independent play when you need time alone or are spending time with others. Of course, factors such as being tired, hungry, or not feeling well will play a factor in how your child reacts on any day. You must also consider your children’s temperament and maturity so that you don’t exasperate them. Don’t set them up to fail by scheduling activities such as private time with friends or shopping when you need to focus on what you’re doing with your children. Don’t schedule activities or parties when it’s nap time or a time they usually share one-on-one quiet time with you. As long as you’ve worked with your child to develop the art of patience, and as your child grows and matures, she should be able to handle activities while waiting. Small activities such as reading, crafts, writing, building blocks, playing with dolls, etc. also help children build the skill of patience and independent play or study time. Spend time with your children before you need them to be patient. Each time you enable your children to be successful by setting them up to avoid tantrums or irritability actually builds the strengths they need to choose pleasing habits and behaviors. You are helping them build patience when you consider their needs and abilities and gently strengthen while slowly stretching them in the right ways. Remember, you want to parent for the future, not the moment . This means self-work for you, too. Most of what your children learn is from how you teach them to act and react through observing you. 1. How do you tend to react? Do you usually react to stress or surprises with calmness? With anger? Yelling? Perfectionism? Frustration? Inappropriate language? Overwhelm? 2. What causes your reactions? A strong and growing walk with Christ? Sleep deprivation? Perfectionism? Health issues? Marriage issues? Your child’s abilities? 3. Are you ever triggered by your children? How do you handle it? Is it because of your emotional background? Your child’s challenging behaviors? Your insecurities? Your spouse’s expectations? 4. Do you rely on God to heal areas you’ve identified as unpleasing to Him or hurtful to your children? 5. Do you pay attention to the needs your child is speaking, whether by his words or with actions? The behavior of children exposes needs they may not know how to articulate. Even adults react with behavior and words they shouldn’t. Your child depends on you to grow in the Lord and be the godly, connected adult with them and Jesus. 6. Do you give yourself grace as you continue to learn and change? Do you do the same for your children and spouse? You want to set them up to be Christlike. 7. Do you demonstrate patience? In what ways are you patient? In what ways do you need to humbly ask God to grow patience? Your children are simply immature, needy humans placed under your care by a loving and wisdom-filled God. He entrusted those children in your home to you for a purpose. Allow Him to heal you where needed. Ask Him to equip you to raise godly sons and daughters that give you joy and who please and honor Him. As mothers, we have the God-given privilege of tilling the ground and planting the seeds of faith and fruits of the spirit, yet God brings the harvest. We must patiently mature our walk with Christ and bring our children to the feet and heart of Christ through the way we live, love, speak, act, and react. If you desire your child to exhibit great patience, remember that you are the first person to teach them the way to holding and sharing that gift. Dear Heavenly Father, how great You are. How wonderful it is that You have entrusted Your children to us. Thank you for the honor and responsibility. We know we are not capable of raising children to please and honor You. This world is full of hardships, trials, temptations, and we are sinful and shallow reflections of You. How far we are from Your holiness, yet You assigned this task to us. Thank you for allowing us this honor. Thank you for letting us know we are incapable of such a task without You. Thank you for giving us Jesus to show us the way to You so that we can show our children. Thank you that the more we reflect Your godly character and cultivate the fruits of the spirit, including patience, the closer we lift our children to You. Help them to be better reflections of You. Help them to desire to carry patience and help us reflect it in ways that give You great satisfaction. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Raising children is challenging. No one has all the answers because each child is unique as are parenting styles and family dynamics. By connecting with and knowing your children as you maintain purposed growth in Christ, you will be better prepared for any situation you face. That’s why you hear me share about the Set-Apart Collective in this podcast. I work with professionals who care about making Jesus known to their children. Are you a high-achieving woman who loves Jesus, but is so busy with the rush of work and daily life that you feel like you’re being drained like the water in your bathtub? Do you yearn to get closer to Jesus and show Him to your kids so you will create a love that will last into eternity? The desire is there, but your days spiral out of control before you even think about opening your Bible. Do you ever stop to think that you are the first Jesus your child will see? Let me remind you there is hope. There is a way you can be equipped to raise kids who chase Christ over culture. If you want a connected relationship with Christ and your children that leads them to your side and His feet, instead of them seeking validation from peers, I have an 8-step program to move you from frustrated to fulfilled. I will show you how to reflect Jesus in a way that attracts your family to a connected relationship that lasts into eternity. Remember, godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset you carry. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will arm you with a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You’ll also deepen your identity in Christ so you can mentor the way for your children to do the same. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family and you will have the tools to raise set apart kids as you parent the heart, not simply the behavior. Does this sound like a lifeline to help you be that set-apart mom God has entrusted you to be? Visit terrihitt.com/coaching and click the link for a free, no obligation conversation call with me. This is a strategic call where I will hear your biggest struggle and show you how to turn it into a blessing that will bring you closer to Christ and your children. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. One last thing to remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 123 - One Secret to Connecting With Your Kids Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 123 – One Secret to Connecting With Your Kids Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom and BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you will be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episodes, would you please share this episode or others with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, and leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast. When you do, you’re helping affect generations for Jesus. Now on to this episode that shares one secret to connecting with your kids… I want you to lean in for this episode. I’m actually glad this is a podcast and we’re not sitting face-to-face. You know why? Today I’m sharing one fantastic way to get your kids to open up faster than many other ways you’ve tried. Do you know what that secret is? The back of your head. Seriously. This view of you can seem attractive to your children for many reasons. Let me share a story of my own to prove the point. My youngest loves to use my bathroom. Why not? The master bedroom tub is three times as big as the tub in her sister’s bathroom. Brooklyn’s room only has a shower, and that’s no fun; there’s no way you can float in there. So, my bathroom it is! One evening I was using my shower, and Brooklyn was in the tub. Although it was hard to hear her voice, my daughter insisted on talking to me. While I was barely able to hear her over the waterfall flowing over my head and unable to see her face, she began sharing what she could remember of an incident at the orphanage she lived in for nine years before we were blessed to bring her home with us. As she floated in the warm bath water, and I was nearby, but couldn’t stare into her eyes and cause her to cry or be distracted, she opened up about time that was painful. My experience with her that evening showcased the point that opening up is often easier when eye contact isn’t being made. Think of the opportunities this opens up for you to interact verbally with your child – or your moment may arrive while in the car, walking together, or in darkness while relaxing at home together. So the secret we’re talking about today is to connect with your child in multiple ways while you’re not face-to-face. Using that as the foundation of this episode, I want to share ways to foster conversation using that guideline. So use this guide while you’re in the car, walking outside side by side, or sitting at home in a low-dimmed room before bedtime. One of the ways is what I mentioned briefly already. Use the car as a safe place to talk. Kids often open up to the back of your head faster than your face when they are struggling. It can be challenging for your children to see emotions on your face when they share something vulnerable. Or it can be too emotional for them to look into your eyes. Sometimes they need to share before hearing or seeing judgement or emotion. Kids (like adults) open up when they feel safe, when they don’t feel judged, and feel they can speak freely. Remember to keep yourself from making conversation feel like a chore or burden for your child. If you’re not used to sharing close connection or a lot of communication, use your time and words wisely. Use discernment and prayerful guidance about what and when you share about yourself, your past or your present. Remember that your vulnerability and wisdom can open up lines of communication and deeper connection. But don’t lay details on your child who might not be ready to deal with topics or information that isn’t age appropriate. One way to get kids to open up easier is to ask open-ended questions. Instead of asking, “What did you do today,” consider saying, “What’s one thing that made you smile today?” or “What interested you the most today?” Reword questions so they don’t come across as demanding. For example, instead of What did you do at lunch that often elicits a response like, “I don’t know,” say something like, “I had an interesting time at lunch today. I ate with _________ and it made me wonder who you were sharing lunch with today.” Make the questions true conversation so your child is drawn into the relational aspects of conversation. Briefly talk about your day or your friends, etc. before you ask about theirs. Instead of giving advice (unless asked for it), listen to your child, acknowledge feelings, and make appropriate comments to what they share. For example, It seems like something might be bothering you.” Or “Thank you for sharing that.” Or “That sounds like it would be frustrating for me. How did it make you feel?” Don’t get offended by responses. Sometimes kids seem distant or sarcastic before they open up. Words can be a defensive mechanism. Attitude and responses can be guided by where your relationship is with them currently or through things they are experiencing. Also remember to spend time with your child doing fun activities they love. Because you’re already building connection, communication will be easier and will guide the ways they open up. Dear Heavenly Father, how great You are. Thank you for showing us Your glory and sovereignty. Thank you for entrusting us with Your precious children. Enable us to respond to them in ways that honor You and draw them nearer to You in every way. Equip us to seek You first because You know the hearts and minds of our children and want the very best for them. Please help us to have beautiful connection with our kids because their heart is tied to Yours. Help us listen with grace and love as our children speak to us. May our responses be driven by You and may Your wisdom and insight guard every word from our mouth. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. If you’re ready to become the godly mom God entrusts you to be for Him and His children, you might like my free “Good to Godly: A 31-Day Scripture and Prayer Guide for Moms.” Visit terrihitt.com to receive this resource. You are the first Jesus your child will see. Your relationship with Christ is the light that shines Him to your children. If you want a connected relationship with Jesus and your children that leads them to your side and His feet, instead of them seeking validation from peers, my Set-Apart Collective program can show you how to reflect Christ in a way that attracts your family to a connected relationship that lasts into eternity. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will arm you with a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You’ll also deepen your identity in Christ so you can mentor the way for your children to do the same. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family and you will have the tools to raise set apart kids as you parent the heart, not simply the behavior. Visit terrihitt.com/coaching and click the link for a free, no obligation conversation call with me. This is a strategic call where I will hear your biggest struggle and show you how to turn it into a blessing that will bring you closer to Christ and your children. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. Remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #113 – Sharing Prayers for the Battle Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together and live with purposed eternal perspective. Earlier this year I launched my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child.” At the time, I shared that I would begin releasing “Live With Eternal Perspective” episodes every other week so that I could also release the new podcast biweekly. This week I released episode 006 – “Prayers for the Battle” on the “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” podcast. If you are a parent, grandparent, or know someone raising children, this episode will equip you to pray with purposed intention and reliance on our Heavenly Father. It’s so easy for us to rush through life, subconsciously believing we are in control. We keep moving, thinking life will follow. Actually, this world simply does not revolve around us. We must live with purposed hearts that seek our Father with humble reliance on His guidance and provisions. In the “Prayers for the Battle” episode, I share 5 key steps we must take to prayerfully release our child or grandchild to God. Even if you are not yet a parent or grandparent, this episode will enable you to clearly find ways you can live with a more dedicated prayer life. In this episode I also share prayers for the 6 areas parents need to be aware of as they raise children and I offer a new free resource you can find on my website. Have you listened to a “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” episode yet? This generation needs believers committed to following Jesus to battle for them with purpose and love. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I invite you to go to “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” to listen to this important episode. Nothing we do for the Lord goes to waste. Only what excludes our Father will burn to ash when we stand before Him face-to-face. Thank you for listening to my podcasts. Remember, every other week I will release an episode here, then every other week I will release an episode you can find at “Purposed Parent/Connected Child.” If you find value in what you hear, I invite you to share both podcasts with friends and family and place a rating and review at Apple Podcasts or Spotify to enable others to find each podcast? I pray that what you hear draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 113 - Sharing Prayers for the Battle Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #113 – Sharing Prayers for the Battle Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together and live with purposed eternal perspective. Earlier this year I launched my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child.” At the time, I shared that I would begin releasing “Live With Eternal Perspective” episodes every other week so that I could also release the new podcast biweekly. This week I released episode 006 – “Prayers for the Battle” on the “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” podcast. If you are a parent, grandparent, or know someone raising children, this episode will equip you to pray with purposed intention and reliance on our Heavenly Father. It’s so easy for us to rush through life, subconsciously believing we are in control. We keep moving, thinking life will follow. Actually, this world simply does not revolve around us. We must live with purposed hearts that seek our Father with humble reliance on His guidance and provisions. In the “Prayers for the Battle” episode, I share 5 key steps we must take to prayerfully release our child or grandchild to God. Even if you are not yet a parent or grandparent, this episode will enable you to clearly find ways you can live with a more dedicated prayer life. In this episode I also share prayers for the 6 areas parents need to be aware of as they raise children and I offer a new free resource you can find on my website. Have you listened to a “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” episode yet? This generation needs believers committed to following Jesus to battle for them with purpose and love. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I invite you to go to “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” to listen to this important episode. Nothing we do for the Lord goes to waste. Only what excludes our Father will burn to ash when we stand before Him face-to-face. Thank you for listening to my podcasts. Remember, every other week I will release an episode here, then every other week I will release an episode you can find at “Purposed Parent/Connected Child.” If you find value in what you hear, I invite you to share both podcasts with friends and family and place a rating and review at Apple Podcasts or Spotify to enable others to find each podcast? I pray that what you hear draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

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< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 095 – Self-Care for Busy Moms: Strategies for Prioritizing Your Well-Being through Christ Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 095 – Self-Care for Busy Moms: Strategies for Prioritizing Your Well-Being through Christ Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast deepens your walk with Jesus and your children, equipping you to become a set-apart woman and mother. Self-care. It can mean many things to different people. I’ll be honest. After years of targeted advertisements and big box stores wanting my money, I got tired of hearing the term “self-care.” Since many ads tell women to place themselves first, to escape with bubble baths if they can’t handle stress, or a spa experience after every hard day of work, or shirts that call women to drink a glass of wine each night because parenting is so difficult, I cringe when I hear “self-care.” But advertising agencies shouldn’t dictate the definition of self-care. What does the term mean to you? Is it biblical? I believe the answer lays in how we personally define the expression. If we think of the answer with a secular mindset, the term isn’t Christlike. However, if we define the phrase self-care through the lens of caring for self so that we receive the rest and care we need , then we preserve ourselves for what God calls us to complete, I believe we move with biblical intentions. Life can be challenging. Tiring. It can be stressful. Demanding. Meeting the expectations of others – or even sometimes our own hopes or dreams - can feel overwhelming or impossible at times. That is why true self-care should start with residing and resting in Christ. In reality, none of us have come close to experiencing the burdens Jesus carried. If anyone needed self-care, it would be Him. Because Jesus was burdened, yet led a model life, we are blessed to observe His life and learn from how He lived. As we do so, we see Jesus placed God first no matter the cost, yet He still made time to care for self. During His ministry, Jesus carried a burdensome schedule. He could have continued to serve others, neglecting self. Between healing, teaching, traveling, drawing nearer to God, prayer, and more miracles, Jesus was fully God. He could have found the stamina to continue non-stop work. Yet, remember that Jesus was also fully man. He was a man who loved God with all His heart, soul, mind, and strength. He desired to serve God in ways that were fruitful, yet holy . He knew God called Him to rest, just as He Himself stopped to do when creating the world. Although Jesus knew He needed rest, He prioritized God. He ensured that knowing, serving, and honoring God were top of His mind and heart moment by moment day after day. Jesus understood that nothing was as important as placing God over everything . When Jesus wanted time alone , He spent it with the Father first . Jesus understood that without resting in God, He would not receive the rest His Spirit craved. Listen to this verse from Matthew 22:34-37 , which says, “Hearing that Jesus had silenced the Sadducees, the Pharisees got together. One of them, an expert in the law, tested Him with this question: “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind .’” Jesus’ words teach these truths: Biblical self-care begins with God . Place God first by studying His word – even if you can only manage ten or fifteen minutes a day in your current season, your intentionality will produce huge results over time. If you simply can’t find time to read the Word, listen to the Bible. The more intimate your walk with God becomes, the trials and tribulations of this world lose their sting. You see God at work and recognize His hand in your life - in the way you think, respond, and speak. Biblical self-care doesn’t feel entitled . If you place the Lord first, you’re still allowed to want time for activities such as going out for coffee with friends, a date with your husband, or pursuing a hobby. Because you place the Father first, the time you’ve already spent with God deepening your relationship will keep you from feeling like you’re falling apart without those “extras” you desire. Being refreshed in the Lord helps you maintain joy despite irritations. The time you spend with husband, children, and friends – or even the solo pursuits you follow will be sweeter as you allow God access to areas only He can fill. You begin to hear and respond to His callings and purposes for your life. Biblical self-care doesn’t over-indulge. When you make time to pursue friends, family, and fun, you appreciate the blessings, but don’t let them overtake your life. When God is in His rightful place at the center of your heart and mind, He graciously fills your day with His perfect timing and desire that are pleasing and honoring to Him. Now let’s expand on the 3 points we just discussed by looking at 7 ways to keep God first, avoid self-entitlement, and prevent over-indulgence: 1. Make it your goal to be in God’s Word daily . Study, not just read. When women hear the word “study,” they are often fearful that they don’t have time to read the Bible. When I say study, I mean read and ponder God’s words. Really absorb them by using a good study Bible that gives deeper exploration and expansion on what you are learning. Pray about what God wants you to see, hear, and understand. Ask Him to help you apply His words and teachings in your life in ways that honor Him. You can never outstudy God. But if you are in a season where you can’t spend much time per day, use the time you have to wisely craft relationship with your Heavenly Father. By purposing time with Him, you will see a difference in the way you submit to the Lord and the way His presence is noticed in your actions, reactions, words, and desires. 2. Be Thankful . No matter your circumstances, view life events with a thankful heart. Allow what you consider “bad” to shape and mold your character, heart, and mindset for Christ. If you belong to Jesus, what happens to you or those you love has already been sifted through God’s hands. What happens is not meant for evil or to harm you. Jesus warned us that we would face tribulations in this world. The best is not yet here…it is to come. Let God work through you to let circumstances, (even the hardships) bring you nearer to Him and the person He purposed you to be. Never forget you are mentoring the watching eyes and listening ears in your home. 3. Form a prayer circle of family and friends . Prayer is vital . Gather trusted prayer warriors to lift you, your family, your husband, or your children. Do the same for your prayer partners. Prayer is a mighty fortress and strength. 4. Get wise nourishment . Eat and drink wisely. Make sure you get plenty of liquids. Eat healthy foods. You know the drill. Think of caring for self as an act of gratitude to God and for those who love you. 5. Exercise 5-7 days a week . Exercise is one of those things that you know you have to do, but don’t want to do it until you actually do – and realize how much better it usually makes you feel. Just get started . Even if it is only ten minutes a day to start, go for that walk. Hit the gym. Ride that bike. Do whatever interests you. If it’s outside, it’s an added bonus. Being in nature brings an extra calm and joy to exercise benefits. Don’t think of it as exercise, but as caring for the body God gave you. As you care for your body physically, you also reap benefits mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. 6. Get enough rest . I know it can be challenging to get enough rest. As an adult, you really need 7-8 hours of rest. Even as I tell you this fact, I know it’s difficult for me to get enough rest. In all transparency, I don’t like to sleep. I always wake up in the night and look at my clock to see if I can get up yet. I’m excited to start the day. I usually get about 61/2 to 7 broken hours of sleep. I yearn for a night I don’t have to get up to use the restroom at least once and remember those days I used to sleep without awakenings for at least 8 hours. But try your best to get enough sleep. Your mind and body will thank you today and in the years to come. 7. Spend time with those God gave you . What a gift that God gives us people to love. He hand-chose each of your family members. Be prayerful about your relationships. Strive to honor God with them. Don’t let this list of items make you fret. It may sound like a lot as you listen, but as you incorporate these steps into your lifestyle, they become second nature. You won’t always have time to do every item daily, but as you incorporate them into your lifestyle, you create a flow that is pleasing to God, your family, and yourself. Now that we’ve talked about how to keep God first, avoid self-entitlement, and prevent over-indulgence, let’s look again at the life of Jesus and the examples He set for us. Through Him, we learn how Jesus accomplished self-care while remaining in pursuit of God and how we can do the same. 1. Teach – Jesus wasn’t formally trained as a Rabbi, but people recognized His gifts. Christ is called a teacher over forty times in the New Testament. As He taught, Jesus used many methods to reach people exactly where they were, such as parables, proverbs, riddles, and more. His radical words caused people to challenge the kingdom of this world and view sin and eternal life through new eyes and heart. Do you know Jesus well enough to show Him to others? 2. Serve – Jesus was motivated by love when He served. Love for God and others was always His influence. Obedience to God kept Him focused on love, even when it cost Him His life. Are you motivated to obey God through your love for Jesus? 3. Retreat – Jesus chose stillness. When He retreated to be with God, He didn’t think about time He might be wasting because there were other things He needed to do. He allowed God to quiet His mind. Jesus remained at the Father’s feet so He could easily and clearly hear His voice. He allowed the Word of God to keep Him close as He studied and trusted the commands His father gave. Jesus regularly retreated to a quiet place to pray and prioritize the plans of His Father. He taught His disciples this example, and He clearly mentored how we can do the same. Do you regularly pursue the Lord through time with Him? 4. Rest – At the beginning of His Word to us in Genesis, God set the example of work and rest. Jesus, following the Father’s footsteps, also left a perfect imprint for our heart to follow in obedience. First, we are instructed to come to Jesus. Without relationship with Jesus, we cannot know the way to God. We cannot please Him. Without Christ, we never experience true rest or peace. Jesus calls to each of us when He says, “All you who labor and are heavy laden.” Every living person experiences trials and hardships, burdens that we are unable to carry in our strength. If we desire deep and lasting joy, peace, and rest, we can heed the promise in His words, “I will give you rest.” Jesus also instructs us to “Take my yoke upon you.” He means for us to remove the yoke, or burdens we carry and give them to Him. Allow Him to shoulder the load. Jesus tells us to “Learn from Me,” as He shows us how to rest in God through intimate relationship. He promises we will “Find rest into your souls.” Jesus truly gives “peace that surpasses all understanding.” Are you able to receive what He offers by heeding His actions and words? Are you resting in God as you rest in Christ? 5. Repeat – Maintain and mature the relationship you are building with God through Christ. Follow the loving examples Jesus set for you. It can be distracting to listen to all the self-care advice offered by the world. Television and magazine ads, billboards, and more tout taking care of self as the most important aspect of life. Except we know they just want to sell self-care products or experiences. However, as we’ve heard on this episode, there is truth to the idea that we need to care for self in order to care for others well. Most importantly, we need to care for self in godly ways that honor Christ. The most important ways to care for self are simple. We strive to be healthy physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and financially. As you care for yourself physically, you practice the habits of eating, hydrating, exercising, and sleeping well. As you care for yourself emotionally, you come to know self through emotions and your past and current habits. As you care for yourself mentally, you think and speak to self with love and respect. Most importantly, you study and practice God’s truths and allow them to shape your thoughts and desires. As you care for yourself financially, you work to keep money and the way you accumulate and spend it, in order as God would call. The Bible actually gives much insight into how God calls us to hold and spend money. Of course, He also instructs us how to carry it in our heart in God-honoring ways. As you care for yourself spiritually, you allow self to seek God, not man-made religions. You draw strength from His truths and practice His commands in humble obedience and love. Your spiritual health is the most important component of self-care as it affects all other areas. As you deepen your self-care journey in Christlike ways, I urge you to consider the areas of your life such as sleep, eating and drinking, exercise, relationships, Bible study and prayer, and journaling, if you enjoy getting thoughts out on paper. Keeping a prayer journal or a gratitude journal are also ways of strengthening your spiritual, emotional, and mental health. Pursuing the passions God created within you, serving others, allowing yourself to loosen up and laugh often, caring for a pet, and continued learning to broaden passions and interests, whether through classes, podcasts, reading, or a mentorship are all ways to relax and utilize talents endowed to you. Asking yourself questions such as: What energizes me? What drains me? What do you feel you need to do to be a godly mom? A godly woman? A godly wife? How can you get there? Ask God to build you a strong foundation of self-care that then extends to care for others in your life. Prayerfully consideration of where you feel your life is lacking, what is difficult, or where you feel over-stretched, will enable you to know where to begin pursuing the questions I mentioned. Also prayerfully consider your schedule and season of life. Ask God to show you how to fit His idea of self-care into your lifestyle. Start small if needed, but continue to pursue the Lord first as you incorporate stronger relationship with Him into any area of self-care you choose. Dear Heavenly Father, You are the One who created the heavens and the earth just as You purposely created each of us. Help us to honor You with the care we give self and others. Help us to see where we are lacking in caring for the body, mind, and spirit You crafted for us. Help us seek You first and incorporate Your ideas of care into self and home. May we remember the model life Jesus set for us and know how to apply His lifestyle and teaching into our home. Father, You are truly good. You desire us to care for self, just as You call us to care for others. But it all stems from relationship with You first. May we begin a better routine of self-care today. May we make it godly, not good. May we give you joy as You flow through and guide us. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Raising children is challenging. No one has all the answers because each child is unique as are parenting styles and family dynamics. By connecting with and knowing your children as you maintain purposed growth in Christ, you will be better prepared for any situation you face. That’s why you hear me share about the Set-Apart Collective in this podcast. Supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. Godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will deepen your walk with Christ. You’ll learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family. Send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information or look online at terrihitt.com/setapart. We can also set up a no obligation, strategic 15 minute call to chat about your needs to see if the program is a right fit for you. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. Also, if you appreciated this episode, would you please rate and review the podcast on Apple or Spotify? It only takes a few minutes and makes a big difference in whether people are able to find the podcast. Also, you and I know that the best reviews are by word of mouth, so please choose a friend to recommend the show to. Imagine the changes we will see in the way mothers parent for Christ if they learn to be intentional, too. One last thing to remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #072 –Faith That Perseveres Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Sometimes our best laid plans are not what God has crafted for us. Just as true is the opposite! What God offers to us is sometimes not our first choice. As I have walked the journey of podcasting, this is even clearer to me. It has been an honor to bow before the Lord weekly as I prayerfully consider topics, scriptures, and themes. As with everything in life, this podcast is held very loosely. Joy fills me weekly, honestly, daily as I watch where the Lord takes me and what He requires of me. There have been days of union with Him where I feel His hand guiding every word crafted in the podcast. What a joy I have lived as I see Him work in me to continue forming me into an image more suited for Him, as well as allowing Him to humble me and lift me up into a new creation. There have been moments of absolutely nothing to say as I wait on Him to fill me with His presence and promise that a podcast will be provided. This was one of those weeks. For the first time in 16 months, I had nothing to offer. It’s not that I didn’t have anything to say. Just ask my youngest, who always tells me that one of my best qualities is talking. Yet, by the grace of God, she also tells me that the quality she thinks I hold the best is the ability to love. I love the Lord and I deeply desire to only say on this podcast what I believe He calls me to. Thus, this week, I had to be patient. I had to wait. There was no doubt He would give me something to say. God’s timing is always pure. It is always present. It is always perfect. I wanted to wait until I knew for sure what God wanted my words to be this week. As I have shared before, I always thought I was living with a heart for eternity. Until I lost my oldest daughter, I believed I was living the way God desired with a heart and mind fixed on Him. Yet, her death caused me to look so much deeper into life, death, and eternity. Which is one of the reasons I believe God called me to begin this podcast. Where are you today? What is your viewpoint of eternity? Do you believe a single moment of your life is yours alone? God gives us time on earth. He fills our lives with blessings we rarely see for what they truly are. Even the air we breathe, the breaths we take, the ability to speak, to think, to walk, to bend over, to see, to hear, a safe bed to sleep in, a house to come home to, a family that loves us. Each one a blessing. I know there are broken homes, families that are falling apart, bitterness, envy, strife, arguments, loss, and so much more in this world. Yet, when we turn our thinking inside out, we more closely match the way God thinks. Can I tell you all His thoughts? No! But I know they are not my own. His are not the reasoning or understanding we have, yet through our relationship with God through Jesus, we have the ability and the blessing to begin each moment to think and reason and act more like He does, more like He desires. Each problem we have can be conceived as a blessing. We must know God so well that we use each opportunity to draw us nearer to Him. How would He desire us to handle it? How would He call us to react? Where are we faltering? How can we stretch our faith and ability to trust that God has a plan and that nothing is a surprise to Him? If He is allowing us to go through it, there is opportunity for eyes and hearts to turn to Him because of it. If we are struggling because we are dealing with the repercussions of sin or mistakes, are we going to continue making the same ones or grasp this moment to shift our live onto a God-glorifying journey that changes self and others for eternity? What can you do this day to begin anew in seeking to understand the world and others, the situation you may be living in, the way you respond to life, and so much more? This moment was crafted long ago. God knew you would come to it and He is waiting for you to surrender it to Him. Beauty and sweetness abide in the bitter pain of surrender. Look Up to the only One who can rescue and sustain you. Spend time with Him. Get in His word and converse with Him daily through prayers and listen for His voice. He will not lead you astray. Place your hope and trust in Him. Psalm 40:1-17 says, “I waited patiently for the Lord; He inclined to me and heard my cry. He lifted me up from the pit of despair, out of the miry clay; He set my feet upon a rock, and made my footsteps firm. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the Lord. Blessed is the man who has made the Lord his trust, who has not turned to the proud, nor to those who lapse into falsehood. Many, O Lord my God, are the wonders You have done, and the plans You have for us— none can compare to You— if I proclaim and declare them, they are more than I can count. Sacrifice and offering You did not desire, but my ears You have opened. Burnt offerings and sin offerings You did not require. Then I said, “Here I am, I have come— it is written about me in the scroll: I delight to do Your will, O my God; Your law is within my heart.” I proclaim righteousness in the great assembly; behold, I do not seal my lips, as You, O Lord, do know. I have not covered up Your righteousness in my heart; I have declared Your faithfulness and salvation; I have not concealed Your loving devotion and faithfulness from the great assembly. O Lord, do not withhold Your mercy from me; Your loving devotion and faithfulness will always guard me. For evils without number surround me; my sins have overtaken me, so that I cannot see. They are more than the hairs of my head, and my heart has failed within me. Be pleased, O Lord, to deliver me; hurry, O Lord, to help me. May those who seek my life be ashamed and confounded; may those who wish me harm be repelled and humiliated. May those who say to me, “Aha, aha!” be appalled at their own shame. May all who seek You rejoice and be glad in You; May those who love Your salvation always say, “The Lord be magnified!” But I am poor and needy; may the Lord think of me. You are my helper and deliverer; O my God, do not delay.” So much truth and hope in this passage of scriptures! Blessed is the man who makes the Lord His trust. The Lord’s thoughts of us are more than can be numbered. The Lord is our help and deliverer. Live each moment in expectation that God is present. He is prepared. He is personal. Privately and publicly proclaim His goodness and faithfulness as you purposely grow your walk with Him. Let others see the difference He makes in one surrendered life. There is none like Him. Gracious and loving Heavenly Father. There is none like You. We thank you for Your goodness, Your presence in our lives. Lord, please make us to know our end, the measure of our days. Help us to remember our frailty and live with the knowledge that our days are as handbreadths. Our time is short. At our best, we are but vapor. Yet, you love us with an everlasting love. Help us to wait patiently for You. Enable us to hear Your calls for us and see our life as You do. May we honor You with the appreciation You are due for all the good gifts You allow in our life. May we see them with eyes, minds, and hearts that acknowledge Your goodness and grace and humbly extend it to others as You desire and call us to. Your loving kindness and truth is a precious gift to us. May we offer it back to You with humble spirits that allow the Holy Spirt free reign and may we thirst for You, our Living God, more than what this world offers so that our lives are a reflection of You. Help us keep a growing faith that shines to this empty world and draws others closer to You as we abide in Your arms. In Your precious name we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 072 Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #072 –Faith That Perseveres Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Sometimes our best laid plans are not what God has crafted for us. Just as true is the opposite! What God offers to us is sometimes not our first choice. As I have walked the journey of podcasting, this is even clearer to me. It has been an honor to bow before the Lord weekly as I prayerfully consider topics, scriptures, and themes. As with everything in life, this podcast is held very loosely. Joy fills me weekly, honestly, daily as I watch where the Lord takes me and what He requires of me. There have been days of union with Him where I feel His hand guiding every word crafted in the podcast. What a joy I have lived as I see Him work in me to continue forming me into an image more suited for Him, as well as allowing Him to humble me and lift me up into a new creation. There have been moments of absolutely nothing to say as I wait on Him to fill me with His presence and promise that a podcast will be provided. This was one of those weeks. For the first time in 16 months, I had nothing to offer. It’s not that I didn’t have anything to say. Just ask my youngest, who always tells me that one of my best qualities is talking. Yet, by the grace of God, she also tells me that the quality she thinks I hold the best is the ability to love. I love the Lord and I deeply desire to only say on this podcast what I believe He calls me to. Thus, this week, I had to be patient. I had to wait. There was no doubt He would give me something to say. God’s timing is always pure. It is always present. It is always perfect. I wanted to wait until I knew for sure what God wanted my words to be this week. As I have shared before, I always thought I was living with a heart for eternity. Until I lost my oldest daughter, I believed I was living the way God desired with a heart and mind fixed on Him. Yet, her death caused me to look so much deeper into life, death, and eternity. Which is one of the reasons I believe God called me to begin this podcast. Where are you today? What is your viewpoint of eternity? Do you believe a single moment of your life is yours alone? God gives us time on earth. He fills our lives with blessings we rarely see for what they truly are. Even the air we breathe, the breaths we take, the ability to speak, to think, to walk, to bend over, to see, to hear, a safe bed to sleep in, a house to come home to, a family that loves us. Each one a blessing. I know there are broken homes, families that are falling apart, bitterness, envy, strife, arguments, loss, and so much more in this world. Yet, when we turn our thinking inside out, we more closely match the way God thinks. Can I tell you all His thoughts? No! But I know they are not my own. His are not the reasoning or understanding we have, yet through our relationship with God through Jesus, we have the ability and the blessing to begin each moment to think and reason and act more like He does, more like He desires. Each problem we have can be conceived as a blessing. We must know God so well that we use each opportunity to draw us nearer to Him. How would He desire us to handle it? How would He call us to react? Where are we faltering? How can we stretch our faith and ability to trust that God has a plan and that nothing is a surprise to Him? If He is allowing us to go through it, there is opportunity for eyes and hearts to turn to Him because of it. If we are struggling because we are dealing with the repercussions of sin or mistakes, are we going to continue making the same ones or grasp this moment to shift our live onto a God-glorifying journey that changes self and others for eternity? What can you do this day to begin anew in seeking to understand the world and others, the situation you may be living in, the way you respond to life, and so much more? This moment was crafted long ago. God knew you would come to it and He is waiting for you to surrender it to Him. Beauty and sweetness abide in the bitter pain of surrender. Look Up to the only One who can rescue and sustain you. Spend time with Him. Get in His word and converse with Him daily through prayers and listen for His voice. He will not lead you astray. Place your hope and trust in Him. Psalm 40:1-17 says, “I waited patiently for the Lord; He inclined to me and heard my cry. He lifted me up from the pit of despair, out of the miry clay; He set my feet upon a rock, and made my footsteps firm. He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the Lord. Blessed is the man who has made the Lord his trust, who has not turned to the proud, nor to those who lapse into falsehood. Many, O Lord my God, are the wonders You have done, and the plans You have for us— none can compare to You— if I proclaim and declare them, they are more than I can count. Sacrifice and offering You did not desire, but my ears You have opened. Burnt offerings and sin offerings You did not require. Then I said, “Here I am, I have come— it is written about me in the scroll: I delight to do Your will, O my God; Your law is within my heart.” I proclaim righteousness in the great assembly; behold, I do not seal my lips, as You, O Lord, do know. I have not covered up Your righteousness in my heart; I have declared Your faithfulness and salvation; I have not concealed Your loving devotion and faithfulness from the great assembly. O Lord, do not withhold Your mercy from me; Your loving devotion and faithfulness will always guard me. For evils without number surround me; my sins have overtaken me, so that I cannot see. They are more than the hairs of my head, and my heart has failed within me. Be pleased, O Lord, to deliver me; hurry, O Lord, to help me. May those who seek my life be ashamed and confounded; may those who wish me harm be repelled and humiliated. May those who say to me, “Aha, aha!” be appalled at their own shame. May all who seek You rejoice and be glad in You; May those who love Your salvation always say, “The Lord be magnified!” But I am poor and needy; may the Lord think of me. You are my helper and deliverer; O my God, do not delay.” So much truth and hope in this passage of scriptures! Blessed is the man who makes the Lord His trust. The Lord’s thoughts of us are more than can be numbered. The Lord is our help and deliverer. Live each moment in expectation that God is present. He is prepared. He is personal. Privately and publicly proclaim His goodness and faithfulness as you purposely grow your walk with Him. Let others see the difference He makes in one surrendered life. There is none like Him. Gracious and loving Heavenly Father. There is none like You. We thank you for Your goodness, Your presence in our lives. Lord, please make us to know our end, the measure of our days. Help us to remember our frailty and live with the knowledge that our days are as handbreadths. Our time is short. At our best, we are but vapor. Yet, you love us with an everlasting love. Help us to wait patiently for You. Enable us to hear Your calls for us and see our life as You do. May we honor You with the appreciation You are due for all the good gifts You allow in our life. May we see them with eyes, minds, and hearts that acknowledge Your goodness and grace and humbly extend it to others as You desire and call us to. Your loving kindness and truth is a precious gift to us. May we offer it back to You with humble spirits that allow the Holy Spirt free reign and may we thirst for You, our Living God, more than what this world offers so that our lives are a reflection of You. Help us keep a growing faith that shines to this empty world and draws others closer to You as we abide in Your arms. In Your precious name we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #059 – Building Biblical Self-Esteem in Children Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Last week on the podcast we explored building biblical self-esteem. This is such a huge topic to cover, yet it boils down to a very simple truth. When we build our confidence in the Lord, we find that our faith in self is bolstered and connected to the only source that is able to sustain, rebuild, and perfect us. We no longer have to flounder or attempt to prove ourselves. This world no longer holds us captive in what culture or experiences attempt to shape us to become. We are finally free to fully explore who we were created to be and as we view ourselves through God’s perspective, we begin to place Him, then others, above us in a humble, respectful, and serving way that fills us more deeply than before. If you are a parent, your solid dependence on, and confidence in God, built through Jesus, is one of the strongest gifts you can give your child. As you mature in God, and you lovingly model that relationship to your children, you begin to instill a legacy of faith that will confidently carry them for generations. Why is it that mothers purpose to carry such heavy loads to ensure that our children have the best education, opportunities, clothes, beautifully decorated bedrooms, etc., yet many do not place the importance of a solid biblical foundation and maturing walk with Jesus at the top of their endless list of what truly matters? I understand. As you may know, I have already raised one set of precious children to adulthood. Once they were raised, God placed a special yearning, a calling, on the hearts of my husband and myself. Neither of us had the desire to begin raising children again. It was truly the Holy Spirit working within us. As our first two were growing up, we were happy and knew we were blessed to have them, but we were 18 and 21 when we had them, so we understood that we would still be young when they reached adulthood! We actually looked forward to that time. We were both still in our thirties when both of our children had already graduated from high school. God, however, had other plans. Once He let us in on the first step, we knew He had blessed us beyond what we ever expected. Our world took a drastic turn as He carried us to a completely new life with new goals and expectations. We brought our infant daughter home from China when I was 44 years old. A 26 year difference in age when beginning another family set is tremendous, yet God infused us with delight, health, and energy for the next phase of living and His plans for us. Because I was finally purposely maturing in my walk with Christ daily and was being granted the opportunity to parent from scratch again, I treasured moments to seek God through prayer and soul-searching decisions. My husband and I knew that we were not the same people we were at 18 and 21. What did we want to change? This was our opportunity. We were blessed to explore what our parenting priorities would be. What was God whispering to our spirit? What did He tell us was important to Him? We prayed a lot individually, but also as a team. God was the center of our marriage and we wanted our child to be raised knowing Him as the center of their life, as well. My husband and I wanted to fully honor and obey God this time. Although I believed we made some right choices raising my first set of children as we grew in Christ, I realized how far I had been from truly resting in God and making Him known in the ways God had made known to me as I matured in Him. We were good parents before, but I knew in my heart we were more worldly than godly as we parented. I didn’t even know Jesus when I first became a mother. I knew it would be our focus this time to raise a child who chose Jesus over culture and that God would be an integral part of each day. Why am I saying all of this? It is imperative that we examine our parenting in light of what God would say if He were in the room and you were seeking counsel from Him. Remember this: He is with you. We should be seeking Him moment by moment through prayer. Our Heavenly Father is a Good Father. God made each of us. He knows what type of parent you are, where you need help, where you need to change, what you need to release to Him, what you need to be on our knees more for, and exactly what each of your children need. He placed them with you for a purpose. He desires you to rely on Him and to mentor them to do the same. One of the crucial areas of raising a child is instilling them with godly, biblical self-esteem. Since last week we discussed the topic of self-esteem in adults, I believe it is important to follow-up this week with the topic of our children. I feel that I did not serve my children or the Lord well in this area the first time I parented. It wasn’t that I didn’t give my children time. I was there for them. They knew how much my husband and I loved them. Yet, we built their confidence and self-esteem more on what this world measures and on them believing in themselves. At that time, I wasn’t as adept at finding the gifts God gave each of them and helping them grow their skills for the Lord. I didn’t teach them to seek God’s will to find the purpose He had for them in a way that used what talents and interests they possessed and gave that service back to Him. Of course, I prayed and thought I was doing a good job at the time, but the truth is that I was not yet mature enough in my personal faith to know what I was lacking. My children did not receive the best measure of confidence they should have received in the way God desires them to receive it – from Him. Parenting is beyond challenging. We are raising humans! Even when we are mature followers of Christ, we will never know all of the answers. The closer we are to living as Jesus, the more we cling to Him, the more adept we become at meeting the needs our child carries. How? Because we submit and allow Him to work through us. We will never be perfect, but God doesn’t expect us to be. He does, however, desire for us to parent with a focus on Him and a mind and heart set on raising children to know, honor, and obey Him. One way to do that is to create purposeful ways to instill biblical self-esteem in our children and teach them to find identity through Him and the biblical truths God has established. Let’s examine the best methods to build esteem and identity that focuses on and honors God. You might wonder if self-esteem and Identity are the same. The two are slightly different, but do affect each other. Identity reveals how you perceive yourself. It is who you think you are and is directly tied to your sense of self-worth, since it shows how you define yourself. Self-esteem exposes the value you see in yourself. As followers of Jesus, we understand that God establishes identity in us when He plans our life, even before He places us in the womb. God already defined and valued each of us and our children before we were ever born. Psalm 139:13-18 says, “You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed. How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered! I can’t even count them; they outnumber the grains of sand! And when I wake up, You are still with me!” In this broken world, identity can easily become questioned or twisted when our self-esteem is not built on God’s loving truths. This is a lengthy list, and much of it pertains to us, as well as our children. You don’t need to try to remember or write all of these suggestions down. Please visit terrihitt.com and print the transcript for this podcast or contact me at info@terrihitt.com and I will send you the list. 1. Build personal identity and worth through God. When parents have a strong and maturing relationship with the Lord, our act of parenting becomes more loving and godly. 2. Let your child see you live a confident and bold life of faith and trust in God. 3. Teach your child God’s word when they are young – right from the beginning of their life, or as soon as you have them. 4. Raise your child to understand God’s love and grace – but also their need for repentance through Jesus. 5. Let your child know you are a sinner, too. Tell them about your walk with Jesus in age appropriate times and words. Teach them how important Jesus is to you. 6. Bring God into all areas of life. He is the Creator of all things. God should be valued, recognized, praised, worshipped, and discussed naturally and flow seamlessly into all aspects of daily life and conversation. 7. Raise your child to value Jesus more than culture – because you do. 8. Let your child know that you are raising him to know God because He commands you to in His word and because you love Him and want to obey Him. 9. Spend one-on-one time with your child. Love them through their “love language.” Let them know you love them for simply being themselves, not what they accomplish. When your child feels valued by you, they are more likely to believe God finds them valuable and lovable. 10. Let your child see you read the Bible regularly. 11. Read the Bible with your child. Discuss readings and write or memorize scripture together. 12. Encourage them to read their Bible independently, as well. 13. Help them to lead family prayers or worship sometimes. 14. Pray together. Let your child know you pray for them. Ask them to pray for you, too. 15. Point out ways God would have your child handle disappointments, situations, others, etc in a loving, patient, understanding manner. Teach them to seek Him in all ways. 16. Compliment your child often for godly character, morals, integrity, etc. 17. Look them in the eye as you speak to them. This one is hard. I know at our house we move so much and are busy, but if you are like me, make it a point to seek eye contact as often as you can. Stronger connection and love are built through looking fully at each other. 18. Limit electronic time. 19. Monitor books, magazines, television, movies, music, attire, etc. Study the elements of faith versus worldly values that are included in the materials your child uses. Each one helps to shape their identity and eternity. Even some music that is labeled Christian is far from it. Popular books, shows, and some educational resources also quietly and sneakily undermine God’s morals and desires for your precious child. Review materials with a pure and prayerful heart. Don’t be afraid to restrict what God prompts you to. 20. Help your child discover their gifts, talents, and interests. Find ways they can use them for God. 21. Help your child find God’s purpose for them. This is key in helping them build a strong identity. 22. Serve together. 23. Set godly boundaries for your child, and follow through with correction when needed. Remember that correction is not shame or punishment. 24. Do not attempt to be your child’s best friend. Point them to God and help them rely on Him first. 25. Let your child know the wisdom of this world will be contrary to God’s. As we discussed earlier, self-esteem is linked to what our child believes about himself. When he has been taught to build esteem for self on what God’s opinion of him is, your child will carry a much higher value of self. Not surprisingly, the greater biblical value he places on himself, the healthier he will be overall. He will also become more joyful and able to accept and handle stress and worry because he is learning to release it to God. When this is the case, your child is also more apt to be honest and trustworthy. In contrast to this type of self-confidence and value, if your child bases self-worth on secular views, he is more likely to blame others for his mistakes and failures, use words as weapons against himself and others, lie, avoid challenges and hard work, carry more stress and worry, have less friends, desire isolation over community, have poor eye contact, and see no need for God in his life. Mark 10:13-16 says, “One day some parents brought their children to Jesus so he could touch and bless them. But the disciples scolded the parents for bothering Him. When Jesus saw what was happening, He was angry with his disciples. He said to them, “Let the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the Kingdom of God belongs to those who are like these children. I tell you the truth, anyone who doesn’t receive the Kingdom of God like a child will never enter it.” Then He took the children in his arms and placed His hands on their heads and blessed them.” Jesus desires children to know Him. He longs for them to willingly choose Him and not be held away. The heart of a child is open to the truth and love of Jesus more than at any other time in his life. God wants children to know they are loved and valued, that they were created on purpose for a unique function only they possess. Matthew 10:29-31 says, “What is the price of two sparrows—one copper coin? But not a single sparrow can fall to the ground without your Father knowing it. And the very hairs on your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are more valuable to God than a whole flock of sparrows.” God knows that in order for them to be healthy, a child must begin building a focused sense of esteem through God and His value of him. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Instill God’s truths and desires in your child. Let him know that God cares and loves him with a passion we cannot comprehend, but know to be true. Back up the truths you teach your child with God’s word and a loving spirit, so he thirsts for God and the Bible himself. Help him develop an instinctive habit for turning to God throughout his lifetime. Of all the plans we make for our children, all of the preparations for their future, helping them build a solid foundation of faith, identity, and self-esteem based on God’s value of them should be at the top. At the end of their life, it will not matter whether they attended college, what their grades were, how well they played sports, whether they made the dance team, or how many friends they had. All God will care about is whether Jesus knows your child as His own and if he lived his life as God desired. Every choice and action your child makes will be based on what he believes about himself, and what his identity and self-esteem are built on and molded from. It will prove what your child believes about eternity. Help him to begin living with an eternal perspective now. Dear Heavenly Father, we thank you for the blessed opportunity to parent your children. What a privilege we have to be entrusted with them for such a time as we are together in this world. Father, help us to mold and build the proper relationship with you ourselves so that we can model a life as close to Jesus as possible. Help us to rely on You to know and lead each child we have in the ways you desire. We know so little, Lord, and the task is mighty. We need you! Help us, Father, to guide our children straight to you and teach them to find identity through You and to esteem themselves to be humble, yet mighty in You. Help us to remain on our knees as we parent, Lord. May we grow in You with each day and shine You into the hearts of our children. May we be a great blessing that leads them straight to You so they may receive the joys and blessings You have for them now and for eternity. In Your precious and holy name we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this episode. Be sure to sign up for my email list to be notified when my next resource, “Scattering Seeds: Planting Character and Faith in Your Child” releases. This free eBook is an excellent encouragement and support for mothers or grandmothers of young children. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Christ and encourage you to raise or influence children to chase Jesus instead of this world. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to Jesus and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up and find new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 059 Building Biblical Self-Esteem in Children Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #059 – Building Biblical Self-Esteem in Children Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Last week on the podcast we explored building biblical self-esteem. This is such a huge topic to cover, yet it boils down to a very simple truth. When we build our confidence in the Lord, we find that our faith in self is bolstered and connected to the only source that is able to sustain, rebuild, and perfect us. We no longer have to flounder or attempt to prove ourselves. This world no longer holds us captive in what culture or experiences attempt to shape us to become. We are finally free to fully explore who we were created to be and as we view ourselves through God’s perspective, we begin to place Him, then others, above us in a humble, respectful, and serving way that fills us more deeply than before. If you are a parent, your solid dependence on, and confidence in God, built through Jesus, is one of the strongest gifts you can give your child. As you mature in God, and you lovingly model that relationship to your children, you begin to instill a legacy of faith that will confidently carry them for generations. Why is it that mothers purpose to carry such heavy loads to ensure that our children have the best education, opportunities, clothes, beautifully decorated bedrooms, etc., yet many do not place the importance of a solid biblical foundation and maturing walk with Jesus at the top of their endless list of what truly matters? I understand. As you may know, I have already raised one set of precious children to adulthood. Once they were raised, God placed a special yearning, a calling, on the hearts of my husband and myself. Neither of us had the desire to begin raising children again. It was truly the Holy Spirit working within us. As our first two were growing up, we were happy and knew we were blessed to have them, but we were 18 and 21 when we had them, so we understood that we would still be young when they reached adulthood! We actually looked forward to that time. We were both still in our thirties when both of our children had already graduated from high school. God, however, had other plans. Once He let us in on the first step, we knew He had blessed us beyond what we ever expected. Our world took a drastic turn as He carried us to a completely new life with new goals and expectations. We brought our infant daughter home from China when I was 44 years old. A 26 year difference in age when beginning another family set is tremendous, yet God infused us with delight, health, and energy for the next phase of living and His plans for us. Because I was finally purposely maturing in my walk with Christ daily and was being granted the opportunity to parent from scratch again, I treasured moments to seek God through prayer and soul-searching decisions. My husband and I knew that we were not the same people we were at 18 and 21. What did we want to change? This was our opportunity. We were blessed to explore what our parenting priorities would be. What was God whispering to our spirit? What did He tell us was important to Him? We prayed a lot individually, but also as a team. God was the center of our marriage and we wanted our child to be raised knowing Him as the center of their life, as well. My husband and I wanted to fully honor and obey God this time. Although I believed we made some right choices raising my first set of children as we grew in Christ, I realized how far I had been from truly resting in God and making Him known in the ways God had made known to me as I matured in Him. We were good parents before, but I knew in my heart we were more worldly than godly as we parented. I didn’t even know Jesus when I first became a mother. I knew it would be our focus this time to raise a child who chose Jesus over culture and that God would be an integral part of each day. Why am I saying all of this? It is imperative that we examine our parenting in light of what God would say if He were in the room and you were seeking counsel from Him. Remember this: He is with you. We should be seeking Him moment by moment through prayer. Our Heavenly Father is a Good Father. God made each of us. He knows what type of parent you are, where you need help, where you need to change, what you need to release to Him, what you need to be on our knees more for, and exactly what each of your children need. He placed them with you for a purpose. He desires you to rely on Him and to mentor them to do the same. One of the crucial areas of raising a child is instilling them with godly, biblical self-esteem. Since last week we discussed the topic of self-esteem in adults, I believe it is important to follow-up this week with the topic of our children. I feel that I did not serve my children or the Lord well in this area the first time I parented. It wasn’t that I didn’t give my children time. I was there for them. They knew how much my husband and I loved them. Yet, we built their confidence and self-esteem more on what this world measures and on them believing in themselves. At that time, I wasn’t as adept at finding the gifts God gave each of them and helping them grow their skills for the Lord. I didn’t teach them to seek God’s will to find the purpose He had for them in a way that used what talents and interests they possessed and gave that service back to Him. Of course, I prayed and thought I was doing a good job at the time, but the truth is that I was not yet mature enough in my personal faith to know what I was lacking. My children did not receive the best measure of confidence they should have received in the way God desires them to receive it – from Him. Parenting is beyond challenging. We are raising humans! Even when we are mature followers of Christ, we will never know all of the answers. The closer we are to living as Jesus, the more we cling to Him, the more adept we become at meeting the needs our child carries. How? Because we submit and allow Him to work through us. We will never be perfect, but God doesn’t expect us to be. He does, however, desire for us to parent with a focus on Him and a mind and heart set on raising children to know, honor, and obey Him. One way to do that is to create purposeful ways to instill biblical self-esteem in our children and teach them to find identity through Him and the biblical truths God has established. Let’s examine the best methods to build esteem and identity that focuses on and honors God. You might wonder if self-esteem and Identity are the same. The two are slightly different, but do affect each other. Identity reveals how you perceive yourself. It is who you think you are and is directly tied to your sense of self-worth, since it shows how you define yourself. Self-esteem exposes the value you see in yourself. As followers of Jesus, we understand that God establishes identity in us when He plans our life, even before He places us in the womb. God already defined and valued each of us and our children before we were ever born. Psalm 139:13-18 says, “You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed. How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered! I can’t even count them; they outnumber the grains of sand! And when I wake up, You are still with me!” In this broken world, identity can easily become questioned or twisted when our self-esteem is not built on God’s loving truths. This is a lengthy list, and much of it pertains to us, as well as our children. You don’t need to try to remember or write all of these suggestions down. Please visit terrihitt.com and print the transcript for this podcast or contact me at info@terrihitt.com and I will send you the list. 1. Build personal identity and worth through God. When parents have a strong and maturing relationship with the Lord, our act of parenting becomes more loving and godly. 2. Let your child see you live a confident and bold life of faith and trust in God. 3. Teach your child God’s word when they are young – right from the beginning of their life, or as soon as you have them. 4. Raise your child to understand God’s love and grace – but also their need for repentance through Jesus. 5. Let your child know you are a sinner, too. Tell them about your walk with Jesus in age appropriate times and words. Teach them how important Jesus is to you. 6. Bring God into all areas of life. He is the Creator of all things. God should be valued, recognized, praised, worshipped, and discussed naturally and flow seamlessly into all aspects of daily life and conversation. 7. Raise your child to value Jesus more than culture – because you do. 8. Let your child know that you are raising him to know God because He commands you to in His word and because you love Him and want to obey Him. 9. Spend one-on-one time with your child. Love them through their “love language.” Let them know you love them for simply being themselves, not what they accomplish. When your child feels valued by you, they are more likely to believe God finds them valuable and lovable. 10. Let your child see you read the Bible regularly. 11. Read the Bible with your child. Discuss readings and write or memorize scripture together. 12. Encourage them to read their Bible independently, as well. 13. Help them to lead family prayers or worship sometimes. 14. Pray together. Let your child know you pray for them. Ask them to pray for you, too. 15. Point out ways God would have your child handle disappointments, situations, others, etc in a loving, patient, understanding manner. Teach them to seek Him in all ways. 16. Compliment your child often for godly character, morals, integrity, etc. 17. Look them in the eye as you speak to them. This one is hard. I know at our house we move so much and are busy, but if you are like me, make it a point to seek eye contact as often as you can. Stronger connection and love are built through looking fully at each other. 18. Limit electronic time. 19. Monitor books, magazines, television, movies, music, attire, etc. Study the elements of faith versus worldly values that are included in the materials your child uses. Each one helps to shape their identity and eternity. Even some music that is labeled Christian is far from it. Popular books, shows, and some educational resources also quietly and sneakily undermine God’s morals and desires for your precious child. Review materials with a pure and prayerful heart. Don’t be afraid to restrict what God prompts you to. 20. Help your child discover their gifts, talents, and interests. Find ways they can use them for God. 21. Help your child find God’s purpose for them. This is key in helping them build a strong identity. 22. Serve together. 23. Set godly boundaries for your child, and follow through with correction when needed. Remember that correction is not shame or punishment. 24. Do not attempt to be your child’s best friend. Point them to God and help them rely on Him first. 25. Let your child know the wisdom of this world will be contrary to God’s. As we discussed earlier, self-esteem is linked to what our child believes about himself. When he has been taught to build esteem for self on what God’s opinion of him is, your child will carry a much higher value of self. Not surprisingly, the greater biblical value he places on himself, the healthier he will be overall. He will also become more joyful and able to accept and handle stress and worry because he is learning to release it to God. When this is the case, your child is also more apt to be honest and trustworthy. In contrast to this type of self-confidence and value, if your child bases self-worth on secular views, he is more likely to blame others for his mistakes and failures, use words as weapons against himself and others, lie, avoid challenges and hard work, carry more stress and worry, have less friends, desire isolation over community, have poor eye contact, and see no need for God in his life. Mark 10:13-16 says, “One day some parents brought their children to Jesus so he could touch and bless them. But the disciples scolded the parents for bothering Him. When Jesus saw what was happening, He was angry with his disciples. He said to them, “Let the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the Kingdom of God belongs to those who are like these children. I tell you the truth, anyone who doesn’t receive the Kingdom of God like a child will never enter it.” Then He took the children in his arms and placed His hands on their heads and blessed them.” Jesus desires children to know Him. He longs for them to willingly choose Him and not be held away. The heart of a child is open to the truth and love of Jesus more than at any other time in his life. God wants children to know they are loved and valued, that they were created on purpose for a unique function only they possess. Matthew 10:29-31 says, “What is the price of two sparrows—one copper coin? But not a single sparrow can fall to the ground without your Father knowing it. And the very hairs on your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are more valuable to God than a whole flock of sparrows.” God knows that in order for them to be healthy, a child must begin building a focused sense of esteem through God and His value of him. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Instill God’s truths and desires in your child. Let him know that God cares and loves him with a passion we cannot comprehend, but know to be true. Back up the truths you teach your child with God’s word and a loving spirit, so he thirsts for God and the Bible himself. Help him develop an instinctive habit for turning to God throughout his lifetime. Of all the plans we make for our children, all of the preparations for their future, helping them build a solid foundation of faith, identity, and self-esteem based on God’s value of them should be at the top. At the end of their life, it will not matter whether they attended college, what their grades were, how well they played sports, whether they made the dance team, or how many friends they had. All God will care about is whether Jesus knows your child as His own and if he lived his life as God desired. Every choice and action your child makes will be based on what he believes about himself, and what his identity and self-esteem are built on and molded from. It will prove what your child believes about eternity. Help him to begin living with an eternal perspective now. Dear Heavenly Father, we thank you for the blessed opportunity to parent your children. What a privilege we have to be entrusted with them for such a time as we are together in this world. Father, help us to mold and build the proper relationship with you ourselves so that we can model a life as close to Jesus as possible. Help us to rely on You to know and lead each child we have in the ways you desire. We know so little, Lord, and the task is mighty. We need you! Help us, Father, to guide our children straight to you and teach them to find identity through You and to esteem themselves to be humble, yet mighty in You. Help us to remain on our knees as we parent, Lord. May we grow in You with each day and shine You into the hearts of our children. May we be a great blessing that leads them straight to You so they may receive the joys and blessings You have for them now and for eternity. In Your precious and holy name we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this episode. Be sure to sign up for my email list to be notified when my next resource, “Scattering Seeds: Planting Character and Faith in Your Child” releases. This free eBook is an excellent encouragement and support for mothers or grandmothers of young children. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Christ and encourage you to raise or influence children to chase Jesus instead of this world. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to Jesus and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up and find new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #139 – Are You Really a Christian? Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. After hearing the name of this episode, you may wonder if I am being judgmental. I promise I’m not. By choosing the title, “Are You a Christian,” I want you, (and myself), to consider what it takes to be a follower of Christ. If a stranger observed your life, actions, and reactions, would they be able to discern which you are? What about the words you speak? Or consider the activities you pursue? How do they reflect Jesus? When your children, whether grown or young watch you day to day, what do they see? What impressions are you making on them? Do you point the way to Christ? Today we’ll discuss ways life challenges us, allowing us opportunities to rely on self or Christ. Which do you usually choose? 1. Relationships - We all know how difficult relationships can be. Have you ever loved someone so much, but just couldn’t communicate clearly with them? Human nature is so complex. Sometimes we have wonderful relationships without issues, but then are those people that for some reason, we can only have a surface relationship with. It’s difficult when one is a believer and one is not, but so much more frustrating when both are believers. Because humans, even believers have different backgrounds, communication methods, interests, and emotional triggers, and we are at different maturity points in our walk with Christ, coupled with the truth that we live in a fallen world, communication and relationships can be extremely difficult. It’s a wonder we can communicate at all sometimes. Not only are relationships challenging, but have you ever finished a conversation with someone with the frustrated feeling that they did not clearly hear what you said? Have you had to pray, knowing that God is using this person to refine you? As much as you may love the person, it’s hard to be sure that you will ever have the deeper relationship you desire. What about when you know someone speaks untruths behind your back? You know it to be true, because trusted loved ones have defended and informed you of it. Now, you’ve become hesitant to share much with the person. Maybe each time you try to deepen your relationship, it just gets harder. You might feel like the more you try to form deeper conversations and move closer to them, it just makes everything worse. You might even feel like you can’t share anything other than a superficial relationship. Or have you ever thought a person was one way, then as you entered into a closer relationship with them you saw the truth? They were not who they pretended or tried to make you think they were. Or have you prayed for someone in your family, at work, or a stranger you met, knowing that God is using you to send mighty prayers up to Him for their sake? You may have had a disagreement, He may have laid them on your heart, burdening you to cry out for them. I’ve learned that no one in this life will ever fully satisfy us. Not even those we are very close to. Why? Because we were not meant for this world and there is no substitution for Christ. The lives we have were meant for much more than we experience here. Without each person submitting to Christ and praying and working to establish relationships under His guidance, the world, and people, will never offer us what He can. We must look for ways to offer Jesus what we can while we journey in this life. 2. Politics - In the last few years, people, even believers have been divided over political opinions. Politics seem to be the tipping point that can extinguish friendships. Have you been unfollowed by someone you thought would be a lifelong friend? Maybe a family member can’t see past the fact that you can simply agree to disagree over life issues, but still carry love and respect for each other through the grace of Christ. How we view disagreements, disappointments, and disasters say a lot about the mind and heartset we carry. We can only look to God and humbly ask Him to heal relationships by working through all parties involved, and we must work to be sure our actions and reactions, even when we are hurt, do not sin against God. There is only one way to work toward that goal: ensure that we are intentionally working to follow and honor the Lord each day. Even if you never reconnect with the person you believe wronged you, continue to pray for them. Don’t let bitterness invade your heart. Relying on Christ to ease and heal the pain of broken relationships is the only way to find healing. 3. Religion – Nowadays, if politics haven’t driven your friends away, religion might. In some ways, it seems like we have more Christians in the world than we really do. What do I mean? Many people profess to be a Christian, yet when you delve below surface talk, you learn that your views are vastly different. Many religions identify as “Christian,” yet unless they follow Jesus Christ as personal Savior and Lord, they are not Christian. Jesus warned us that He would cause division. Luke 12:51-53 says, “Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division. From now on there will be five in one family divided against each other, three against two and two against three. They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.” Of course, life is filled with many more situations that define whether a person is truly living (or attempting to live) a lifestyle that honors Christ. What I mentioned are just a few of the most noticeable, and what so many struggle with. How much joy would we receive if each of us strived to follow Christ in each of these situations? How much would we please our Heavenly Father as we choose to live in His power, then act and react with His grace and priorities leading us? Romans 6:6 says, “We know that our old self was crucified with Him in order that the body of sin might be brought to nothing, so that we would no longer be enslaved to sin.” Our “old self” is defined as what we were before the Holy Spirit abided within us through new life in Christ. Our former existence is no more. When we believe in Jesus as our Lord and Savior, the “old self” dies; the new life we receive now divinely appointed through grace. The control our former self held over us is released; the curse of death replaced by eternal life through Jesus. Believers are no longer subject to live under the influence of evil that the old self carried. Yet, knowing the influence and capacity to sin still flows within our human flesh, we must remember and rely on the power of Christ within us. We cannot trust fleshly responses that guide from hurt, fears, jealousy, and so many more emotions that clash with the Father’s truths. Romans 6:11 says, “So you also must consider yourselves dead to sin and alive to God in Christ Jesus.” In this verse, Paul urges believers to grasp by faith what God says and has revealed to be true. We must strive to remember and live the truth that through Christ, and the Holy Spirit alive within us, we have power over the sin that threatens to rule our nature. We carry power to deny sin abiding within us, enabling us to live with fullness of Christ directing us. Romans 6:17-18 says, “But thanks be to God, that you who were once slaves of sin have become obedient from the heart to the standard of teaching to which you were committed, and, having been set free from sin, have become slaves of righteousness.” True believers following Christ have an instinctive and evident desire to study and obey God’s Word. Having been set free from the death and burden of sin, the Holy Spirit enables believers to escape the binds of unrighteousness and become captive to righteousness. How does a believer remain true to follow the Holy Spirit within and keep the desire for righteousness? Only through the strength of Christ. Believers must fix our eyes, heart, and mind above and allow the work of Christ to grow and flow within us. A life eternally changed by Christ behaves differently because we believe differently. The more a believer seeks Jesus, the more a believer craves Him. The Holy Spirit living within believers fuels us with Christ’s hunger for righteousness and holiness. Living as a Christian is not defined by: 1. Joining a church 2. Reciting prayers 3. Being baptized 4. Serving others 5. Eating certain foods and abstaining from others Christians craving Christ: 1. Humbly accept Christ as Lord and Savior and submit to Him 2. Rely on the Holy Spirit within us to eradicate our sinful nature 3. Admit our need for the strength of Jesus and His grace and mercy as we seek Christ moment by moment 4. Shift our mindset and desires to match His 5. Allow His actions to change our reactions 6. Allow the Holy Spirit to continue to guard and cleanse us of sin 7. Carry joy by the power of Christ in us 8. Live with gratitude for the change Christ has made in us 9. Allow Christ to infuse His love for others inside us 10. Carry a biblical worldview that affects our choices and opinions 11. Intentionally become more Christlike daily John 2:23-25 says, “Now while He was in Jerusalem at the Passover Festival, many people saw the signs He was performing and believed in His name. But Jesus would not entrust Himself to them, for He knew all people. He did not need any testimony about mankind, for He knew what was in each person.” When we believe in His name because we have seen the signs Jesus displayed versus simply trusting that Jesus is who He says He is, we follow Him with an intellectual commitment versus living with a whole-hearted assurance led by faith. Jesus calls for believers to trust, follow, honor, love, and obey because we cannot comprehend living without Him. The Lord sees our whole heart. Jesus is a discerner of genuine conversion for Him versus excitement and intrigue for what could be called “magnificent events” that prompt our belief. Matthew 7:21 says, “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of Heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in Heaven.” I’d like to pose a few questions for each of us to consider: Are you sure you are a Christian? If God is a discerner of hearts, what does He see in yours? What should you change about your beliefs, actions, or reactions that will make your life more pleasing to God? What are ways to ensure you are living the full life God intends His believers to enjoy? What can you do to ensure that Christ is clearly shown to those viewing your life? John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that he gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” 2 Corinthians 5:17 says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” Dear Heavenly Father, You are the God of all creation. The heavens and the earth applaud Your name. Great are Your mysteries and the things You reveal to us. Thank you for loving us enough to make a way for us to find eternal life with You. Thank you for Your painful sacrifices so that mankind could be restored to You. Father, we pray that our hearts will be found clean before You. May we live with pureness of heart that seeks to know You more intimately and show You more clearly. May our mind, heart, and mouth exemplify You more and more each day because we choose You over self and world. Help us to desire You more than what this world offers and pledge to make shifts in our lives that bring us nearer to You. Enable us to humbly seek Your worldviews and live in ways that honor what You desire. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast. You can find this and other transcripts online at terrihitt.com. Remember that both of my podcasts are available on the website. 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I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast - Episode 139 - Are You Really a Christian? Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #139 – Are You Really a Christian? Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. After hearing the name of this episode, you may wonder if I am being judgmental. I promise I’m not. By choosing the title, “Are You a Christian,” I want you, (and myself), to consider what it takes to be a follower of Christ. If a stranger observed your life, actions, and reactions, would they be able to discern which you are? What about the words you speak? Or consider the activities you pursue? How do they reflect Jesus? When your children, whether grown or young watch you day to day, what do they see? What impressions are you making on them? Do you point the way to Christ? Today we’ll discuss ways life challenges us, allowing us opportunities to rely on self or Christ. Which do you usually choose? 1. Relationships - We all know how difficult relationships can be. Have you ever loved someone so much, but just couldn’t communicate clearly with them? Human nature is so complex. Sometimes we have wonderful relationships without issues, but then are those people that for some reason, we can only have a surface relationship with. It’s difficult when one is a believer and one is not, but so much more frustrating when both are believers. Because humans, even believers have different backgrounds, communication methods, interests, and emotional triggers, and we are at different maturity points in our walk with Christ, coupled with the truth that we live in a fallen world, communication and relationships can be extremely difficult. It’s a wonder we can communicate at all sometimes. Not only are relationships challenging, but have you ever finished a conversation with someone with the frustrated feeling that they did not clearly hear what you said? Have you had to pray, knowing that God is using this person to refine you? As much as you may love the person, it’s hard to be sure that you will ever have the deeper relationship you desire. What about when you know someone speaks untruths behind your back? You know it to be true, because trusted loved ones have defended and informed you of it. Now, you’ve become hesitant to share much with the person. Maybe each time you try to deepen your relationship, it just gets harder. You might feel like the more you try to form deeper conversations and move closer to them, it just makes everything worse. You might even feel like you can’t share anything other than a superficial relationship. Or have you ever thought a person was one way, then as you entered into a closer relationship with them you saw the truth? They were not who they pretended or tried to make you think they were. Or have you prayed for someone in your family, at work, or a stranger you met, knowing that God is using you to send mighty prayers up to Him for their sake? You may have had a disagreement, He may have laid them on your heart, burdening you to cry out for them. I’ve learned that no one in this life will ever fully satisfy us. Not even those we are very close to. Why? Because we were not meant for this world and there is no substitution for Christ. The lives we have were meant for much more than we experience here. Without each person submitting to Christ and praying and working to establish relationships under His guidance, the world, and people, will never offer us what He can. We must look for ways to offer Jesus what we can while we journey in this life. 2. Politics - In the last few years, people, even believers have been divided over political opinions. Politics seem to be the tipping point that can extinguish friendships. Have you been unfollowed by someone you thought would be a lifelong friend? Maybe a family member can’t see past the fact that you can simply agree to disagree over life issues, but still carry love and respect for each other through the grace of Christ. How we view disagreements, disappointments, and disasters say a lot about the mind and heartset we carry. We can only look to God and humbly ask Him to heal relationships by working through all parties involved, and we must work to be sure our actions and reactions, even when we are hurt, do not sin against God. There is only one way to work toward that goal: ensure that we are intentionally working to follow and honor the Lord each day. Even if you never reconnect with the person you believe wronged you, continue to pray for them. Don’t let bitterness invade your heart. Relying on Christ to ease and heal the pain of broken relationships is the only way to find healing. 3. Religion – Nowadays, if politics haven’t driven your friends away, religion might. In some ways, it seems like we have more Christians in the world than we really do. What do I mean? Many people profess to be a Christian, yet when you delve below surface talk, you learn that your views are vastly different. Many religions identify as “Christian,” yet unless they follow Jesus Christ as personal Savior and Lord, they are not Christian. Jesus warned us that He would cause division. Luke 12:51-53 says, “Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division. From now on there will be five in one family divided against each other, three against two and two against three. They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.” Of course, life is filled with many more situations that define whether a person is truly living (or attempting to live) a lifestyle that honors Christ. What I mentioned are just a few of the most noticeable, and what so many struggle with. How much joy would we receive if each of us strived to follow Christ in each of these situations? How much would we please our Heavenly Father as we choose to live in His power, then act and react with His grace and priorities leading us? Romans 6:6 says, “We know that our old self was crucified with Him in order that the body of sin might be brought to nothing, so that we would no longer be enslaved to sin.” Our “old self” is defined as what we were before the Holy Spirit abided within us through new life in Christ. Our former existence is no more. When we believe in Jesus as our Lord and Savior, the “old self” dies; the new life we receive now divinely appointed through grace. The control our former self held over us is released; the curse of death replaced by eternal life through Jesus. Believers are no longer subject to live under the influence of evil that the old self carried. Yet, knowing the influence and capacity to sin still flows within our human flesh, we must remember and rely on the power of Christ within us. We cannot trust fleshly responses that guide from hurt, fears, jealousy, and so many more emotions that clash with the Father’s truths. Romans 6:11 says, “So you also must consider yourselves dead to sin and alive to God in Christ Jesus.” In this verse, Paul urges believers to grasp by faith what God says and has revealed to be true. We must strive to remember and live the truth that through Christ, and the Holy Spirit alive within us, we have power over the sin that threatens to rule our nature. We carry power to deny sin abiding within us, enabling us to live with fullness of Christ directing us. Romans 6:17-18 says, “But thanks be to God, that you who were once slaves of sin have become obedient from the heart to the standard of teaching to which you were committed, and, having been set free from sin, have become slaves of righteousness.” True believers following Christ have an instinctive and evident desire to study and obey God’s Word. Having been set free from the death and burden of sin, the Holy Spirit enables believers to escape the binds of unrighteousness and become captive to righteousness. How does a believer remain true to follow the Holy Spirit within and keep the desire for righteousness? Only through the strength of Christ. Believers must fix our eyes, heart, and mind above and allow the work of Christ to grow and flow within us. A life eternally changed by Christ behaves differently because we believe differently. The more a believer seeks Jesus, the more a believer craves Him. The Holy Spirit living within believers fuels us with Christ’s hunger for righteousness and holiness. Living as a Christian is not defined by: 1. Joining a church 2. Reciting prayers 3. Being baptized 4. Serving others 5. Eating certain foods and abstaining from others Christians craving Christ: 1. Humbly accept Christ as Lord and Savior and submit to Him 2. Rely on the Holy Spirit within us to eradicate our sinful nature 3. Admit our need for the strength of Jesus and His grace and mercy as we seek Christ moment by moment 4. Shift our mindset and desires to match His 5. Allow His actions to change our reactions 6. Allow the Holy Spirit to continue to guard and cleanse us of sin 7. Carry joy by the power of Christ in us 8. Live with gratitude for the change Christ has made in us 9. Allow Christ to infuse His love for others inside us 10. Carry a biblical worldview that affects our choices and opinions 11. Intentionally become more Christlike daily John 2:23-25 says, “Now while He was in Jerusalem at the Passover Festival, many people saw the signs He was performing and believed in His name. But Jesus would not entrust Himself to them, for He knew all people. He did not need any testimony about mankind, for He knew what was in each person.” When we believe in His name because we have seen the signs Jesus displayed versus simply trusting that Jesus is who He says He is, we follow Him with an intellectual commitment versus living with a whole-hearted assurance led by faith. Jesus calls for believers to trust, follow, honor, love, and obey because we cannot comprehend living without Him. The Lord sees our whole heart. Jesus is a discerner of genuine conversion for Him versus excitement and intrigue for what could be called “magnificent events” that prompt our belief. Matthew 7:21 says, “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of Heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in Heaven.” I’d like to pose a few questions for each of us to consider: Are you sure you are a Christian? If God is a discerner of hearts, what does He see in yours? What should you change about your beliefs, actions, or reactions that will make your life more pleasing to God? What are ways to ensure you are living the full life God intends His believers to enjoy? What can you do to ensure that Christ is clearly shown to those viewing your life? John 3:16 says, “For God so loved the world that he gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” 2 Corinthians 5:17 says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” Dear Heavenly Father, You are the God of all creation. The heavens and the earth applaud Your name. Great are Your mysteries and the things You reveal to us. Thank you for loving us enough to make a way for us to find eternal life with You. Thank you for Your painful sacrifices so that mankind could be restored to You. Father, we pray that our hearts will be found clean before You. May we live with pureness of heart that seeks to know You more intimately and show You more clearly. May our mind, heart, and mouth exemplify You more and more each day because we choose You over self and world. Help us to desire You more than what this world offers and pledge to make shifts in our lives that bring us nearer to You. Enable us to humbly seek Your worldviews and live in ways that honor what You desire. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast. You can find this and other transcripts online at terrihitt.com. Remember that both of my podcasts are available on the website. You can also find them on Apple Podcast, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts are also found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. Will you take a moment to follow the shows and think of someone you can share the podcasts with and encourage them to follow and share, as well? Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #036 – Visible Reverence Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Today I’d like to start with a sweet story, but I’ll share hard truths, too. Let’s start with the part that warms my heart. My youngest child loves to walk through the house with her arm linked in mine. Actually, she would probably adore having our arms joined anywhere we go. As we were walking through the house the other day, we passed a large mirror. I glanced at it as we passed and saw the look of adoration on her face as she gazed at me with the most loving expression. How blessed I am to be her mother. What opportunities God has given me through being the object of her love. I am truly thankful and make time to reciprocate her love in the ways she appreciates, which usually means one-on-one playtime. I try to show her how appreciated she is and how thankful we are to have her in our family. My biggest and most important daily goal, however, is to teach her to direct true reverence to God. As much as she loves me, and I appreciate being the focus of her adoration, I am responsible for teaching her how to love Him more. As many listeners of this podcast know, I am raising my second set of children. While I feel I showed deep love and care to all of my children, modeling reverence for God and actively placing Him as my priority was not one of the qualities I yet carried. How I wish I had already developed a deeper walk with Jesus! When I became a Christian in my early twenties, I was hurt by church members and let that affect my spiritual growth. While I loved Jesus, I slowly stopped reading my Bible daily and did not develop the relationship I should have in the timing I could have had. Although I talked to my children about knowing and loving the Lord, I wasn’t modeling an active adoration that translated to visible reverence for Him. Our house was unknowingly built on sand shoveled in by Satan as he deceived me in many ways, instead of being erected on the rock God calls us to use as the only foundation that will withstand the storms of life. I am so thankful that my adult son follows Jesus. I know his walk would be different though, if I had known better and not let pride and foolish worldly wisdom trick me into thinking I was wise and following God in ways that were not what He had designed as best for me or my family. When we are not purposely maturing our walk through Jesus and becoming all He desires, we are cheating our children out of an inheritance God wants to hand them on this earth. Knowing what I would do differently now, and have been given the opportunity to do through our second set of children, makes me more aware of what I see in the world today. I am not saying I am all wise and know all of the answers, but I have learned many lessons and have developed a much more mature walk with God over time. I am still grateful every day that I have my girls, and I am truly doing my utmost to relay a devotion for God to them, and also shine it to my son and grandson. Every time I fall short, I strive to take it to the Lord for His stirrings on where and how to rely on Him more fully and enable Him to do the work in me that is needed. I see multiple ways our society has lost the desire to instruct our children in the ways of the Lord. As our culture moves farther away from Christianity, I fear for the souls of our youngest and most vulnerable. The world does not seek Him in our way of life. Our lifestyles are wrapped more and more in obtaining frivolous items and spending more time comparing ourselves to others, while leaving us little time to connect with the soul God placed in us with and for great purpose. In fact, many people run from facing the inner thoughts and condition of their heart, which only compounds the issues they face. Modern children are well-versed in and over-exposed to social media and peer pressure, and we, as parents, are losing more rights as the years pass. Children and teens are exposed or introduced to various issues much too young and are left to ponder and battle adult topics with the resilience and understanding of a child. We are at a major cross-road of moral and holy significance. Do we want our precious children, beautiful gifts from God who are entrusted to us for care, to be in the world or be a part of the world? There is such a distinct difference. We are not meant to be a best friend to our children. We are their provider and protector first. As parents who seek to know, love, and follow the Lord, we must ensure that our number one priority is for our children to see us living with visible eternal perspective and for them to understand the meaning and significance of that calling. We must also teach them true love and purpose through Jesus, not what the world calls them to do or be. This eternity-based decision starts with us. You and me. No matter whether we raise our family with a partner or alone, we are each responsible for our own individual walk with God. We have to make the decision that He is a priority for us. No more excuses. “Not enough time,” “I’ll do it tomorrow,” “After I finish this,” “The kids aren’t interested,” or “I think it’s just too late.” The excuses can go on and on. How about this one? “I’m doing okay. The kids seem fine.” That may be the most dangerous one of all. It’s time to allow God to awaken mothers and fathers to a revolution of freedom. True change, lasting change comes from God. Then everything else flows from this important relationship. When our children see us grow an authentic and beautiful walk with God through Jesus and we strive to embody the qualities of Jesus and in turn, exhibit them in our life, true reverence is visible and impactful. When they see us obeying God, and they have been lovingly taught to develop a love and respect for Him, that honor is also extended to us as their parent. There is no such thing as the lie that society presents to us. The world tells us that teens act a certain way. I do not believe it. While teens undergo many bodily and emotional changes, there is no reason or excuse for them to act certain ways that stir disrespect or shallowness. We must be connected to Jesus in loving, growing ways that allow us insight into our children. They should be growing beside us because it is a relationship we are actively nurturing moment by moment every single day. Our job, our responsibility is to ensure that we have introduced and modeled Jesus to them and we keep the communication lines open because we are developing lifetime relationships with the Lord and our precious child. Today I presented my middle daughter with a tough question. I asked her to tell me what about my walk impacts her the most for the Lord. I thought she might have to take some time and get back to me, but surprisingly, she was able to answer quickly. Always painfully honest, and my deepest thinker, she usually takes time to ponder questions so that she gives the most accurate response possible. “Your wisdom and the way you give such straightforward advice,” she said, then continued with, “Also, the way you treat Dad and the way you treat us,” she smiled. Although it sounds like I was fishing for a compliment, I wasn’t. Instead, I was looking for critical input to evaluate my performance and provide me with valuable insight. If I am not intentionally directing myself and my family toward Jesus in a loving, authentic way daily, I not only have to answer to God one day, but to I also answer to my family right now. I wasted earlier years of my life not focused with the deeper purpose I should have for God’s holy work in my children. I’m very thankful that the Lord opened my heart years ago and that He still continues to drop the scales from my eyes moment by moment. I see it almost as if I am a pipeline that flows from God to my child. I am the conduit or passage that enables Him to reach them in the most efficient way. I do not want to be a blockage in that journey. Christians often debate on how to be a good witness. I believe we must start in our own homes. The love of Christ must be evident. It must be authentic. It must be active. Our children know whether we believe what we say, because of the actions they see us do. They see who we are. When we are genuine, we become credible, and so does God. I am human, but I love Jesus. More and more daily. I crave Him and His work in me. The closer I move to Him, the closer He draws to me, just as His word tells us. The more I read and study His word, the more I understand and recognize Him. It is also the only way others will see Him in me. I try to pattern my beliefs and values after what I see in Christ. Although I have acquaintances or family members who do not pattern their life in the same way, and do activities and have lifestyles that run contrary to those qualities, I try my best to love them where they are, just as I hope people love me where I am. When we have open discussions about those topics, I approach them from a Biblical standpoint and offer Jesus as a guide, not my opinion or interpretations. We are all human. The only way this lifestyle approach works is if I remain growing in Jesus and on my knees for guidance daily, and if they do the same. When we can discuss issues from the POV of Jesus and how He lived for us to pattern, we have a starting point for discussion and growth. I have to be able to listen when I am in the wrong, just as those around me must be. One of the greatest problems of this generation is that we all want to do what we want and do not care about the consequences that may stem from it. We want it all and we want it our way. I do not want my children to grow up with that mindset or those habits. I make mistakes daily. Because of Christ in me, I often recognize them quickly. When I don’t, He stings me with a gentle nudge inside my spirit that pierces my obstinance or cluelessness. He is gracious to point them out to me. I wish I could say He changed me and has made me free of errors, but since that is not the way life works, I have to continue growing through Him and allowing Him to continue molding and shaping me into a beautiful vessel that He can actually use for His purposes and not my selfish desires. The humbling I receive every time actually sharpens my walk with Him and increases my love and thirst for Him. It all starts with developing and maturing a visible reverence for God through my relationship with Jesus and making sure I humbly recognize my place in the lives of others. I am not here for partaking in every whim and desire I chose, but for real and intentional purpose that God can only work through me. Your life has the same beautiful and meaningful value. God has filled my spirit with such a strong inclination toward inspiring other women to focus on living with eternal perspective and to equip you to teach your children love and purpose through Jesus. Living in this way is the most impactful and fulfilling task we can complete in this lifetime. The basic steps to begin molding and shaping your children to carry a reverent attitude toward God is to begin with three easy steps and grow from there. 1. Develop a personal and maturing walk with God through Jesus. Serve God humbly with the way we live, seek Him, and spend our time. Let our children see that God is worthy to be praised and made a priority. Hebrews 12:28 says, “Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom which cannot be shaken, let us have grace, by which we may serve God acceptably with reverence and godly fear.” 2. Continue intentionally learning and growing in the Lord daily. Let our children see us study our Bible and study with them through daily Bible readings or lessons. They do not have to be long or complicated, but they do need to be enjoyable and consistent. Pray with and for our children. Let them hear us pray for them regularly and encourage them to pray for us. 2 Timothy 1:13 says, “Hold on to the pattern of sound teaching you have heard from me, with the faith and love that are in Christ Jesus.” 3. Remain rooted in the Lord and persistent over time. Keep your faith and reverence visible in words and actions. 1 Peter 3:2 says, “when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.” Although this verse was originally used in the Bible to speak to wives who were new converts to Christianity and used for encouragement and training for them to remain steadfast for their husbands to see, I believe it applies for our walk in general. Life is a series of habits, whether good or bad, that shape and mold our character and actions, as well as those around us. This also perfectly leads into 1 Peter 3:3-4, “Do not let your adornment be merely outward – arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel – rather let It be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” When we focus less on the distractions of this world and what advertisements and others push and influence us to desire, our true longings can be met and our children receive a mother who is much better settled and joyous to train them in the ways that will truly satisfy and provide. It is not easy to live in this world, yet not be a part of it. Living with a visible reverence for Jesus that guides and shapes our desires is the foundation for building the life God aspires for us to have, and that deep down, every soul needs. Some mothers fear it may be too late. Maybe you have not walked closely with God and wish that you could change what you have done or what you may be doing now. Until we leave this earth, it is never too late. Begin where you are. Right now. God never leaves us and is always ready for us to move closer or come to Him for the first time. Without a doubt, the best and most meaningful purpose I have held in this life has been raising my children and teaching them about Jesus. The relationships that stem from this step of faith and obedience is absolutely priceless and eternal. Considering that I never wanted children growing up, God has changed my heart completely. I am in awe that He entrusted two sets of children to me. I will never cease trying to honor Him with visible reverence that attracts my children and grandson to Him. I would be honored to encourage your in your walk with Jesus or help you find ways to shape the life of your children around Him. If you have specific questions, please contact me through Instagram or Facebook. You can also reach me at thedoovermom@gmail.com. and you can look forward to more resources available on my new website that launches very soon. Father God, we thank you for the opportunity and privilege to know and walk with You. Thank you that you, God, the One who created each of us, desire a personal relationship with all who will humbly seek You. Help us to follow You in the ways You call and created for us. Shape us as women and as mothers to be who You desire us to and to visibly exude a reverence for You that shapes and molds future generations and calls them to bow in submission to You. Let me be one who allows You to make a difference through me. I pray in Jesus’ precious name, Lord. Amen. Did you enjoy this episode? Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and learn how to live with more eternal perspective? Can you think of a friend or family member who might enjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them and take time to leave a quick rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast. Until next week, keep looking Up and finding new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 036 Visible Reverence Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #036 – Visible Reverence Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Today I’d like to start with a sweet story, but I’ll share hard truths, too. Let’s start with the part that warms my heart. My youngest child loves to walk through the house with her arm linked in mine. Actually, she would probably adore having our arms joined anywhere we go. As we were walking through the house the other day, we passed a large mirror. I glanced at it as we passed and saw the look of adoration on her face as she gazed at me with the most loving expression. How blessed I am to be her mother. What opportunities God has given me through being the object of her love. I am truly thankful and make time to reciprocate her love in the ways she appreciates, which usually means one-on-one playtime. I try to show her how appreciated she is and how thankful we are to have her in our family. My biggest and most important daily goal, however, is to teach her to direct true reverence to God. As much as she loves me, and I appreciate being the focus of her adoration, I am responsible for teaching her how to love Him more. As many listeners of this podcast know, I am raising my second set of children. While I feel I showed deep love and care to all of my children, modeling reverence for God and actively placing Him as my priority was not one of the qualities I yet carried. How I wish I had already developed a deeper walk with Jesus! When I became a Christian in my early twenties, I was hurt by church members and let that affect my spiritual growth. While I loved Jesus, I slowly stopped reading my Bible daily and did not develop the relationship I should have in the timing I could have had. Although I talked to my children about knowing and loving the Lord, I wasn’t modeling an active adoration that translated to visible reverence for Him. Our house was unknowingly built on sand shoveled in by Satan as he deceived me in many ways, instead of being erected on the rock God calls us to use as the only foundation that will withstand the storms of life. I am so thankful that my adult son follows Jesus. I know his walk would be different though, if I had known better and not let pride and foolish worldly wisdom trick me into thinking I was wise and following God in ways that were not what He had designed as best for me or my family. When we are not purposely maturing our walk through Jesus and becoming all He desires, we are cheating our children out of an inheritance God wants to hand them on this earth. Knowing what I would do differently now, and have been given the opportunity to do through our second set of children, makes me more aware of what I see in the world today. I am not saying I am all wise and know all of the answers, but I have learned many lessons and have developed a much more mature walk with God over time. I am still grateful every day that I have my girls, and I am truly doing my utmost to relay a devotion for God to them, and also shine it to my son and grandson. Every time I fall short, I strive to take it to the Lord for His stirrings on where and how to rely on Him more fully and enable Him to do the work in me that is needed. I see multiple ways our society has lost the desire to instruct our children in the ways of the Lord. As our culture moves farther away from Christianity, I fear for the souls of our youngest and most vulnerable. The world does not seek Him in our way of life. Our lifestyles are wrapped more and more in obtaining frivolous items and spending more time comparing ourselves to others, while leaving us little time to connect with the soul God placed in us with and for great purpose. In fact, many people run from facing the inner thoughts and condition of their heart, which only compounds the issues they face. Modern children are well-versed in and over-exposed to social media and peer pressure, and we, as parents, are losing more rights as the years pass. Children and teens are exposed or introduced to various issues much too young and are left to ponder and battle adult topics with the resilience and understanding of a child. We are at a major cross-road of moral and holy significance. Do we want our precious children, beautiful gifts from God who are entrusted to us for care, to be in the world or be a part of the world? There is such a distinct difference. We are not meant to be a best friend to our children. We are their provider and protector first. As parents who seek to know, love, and follow the Lord, we must ensure that our number one priority is for our children to see us living with visible eternal perspective and for them to understand the meaning and significance of that calling. We must also teach them true love and purpose through Jesus, not what the world calls them to do or be. This eternity-based decision starts with us. You and me. No matter whether we raise our family with a partner or alone, we are each responsible for our own individual walk with God. We have to make the decision that He is a priority for us. No more excuses. “Not enough time,” “I’ll do it tomorrow,” “After I finish this,” “The kids aren’t interested,” or “I think it’s just too late.” The excuses can go on and on. How about this one? “I’m doing okay. The kids seem fine.” That may be the most dangerous one of all. It’s time to allow God to awaken mothers and fathers to a revolution of freedom. True change, lasting change comes from God. Then everything else flows from this important relationship. When our children see us grow an authentic and beautiful walk with God through Jesus and we strive to embody the qualities of Jesus and in turn, exhibit them in our life, true reverence is visible and impactful. When they see us obeying God, and they have been lovingly taught to develop a love and respect for Him, that honor is also extended to us as their parent. There is no such thing as the lie that society presents to us. The world tells us that teens act a certain way. I do not believe it. While teens undergo many bodily and emotional changes, there is no reason or excuse for them to act certain ways that stir disrespect or shallowness. We must be connected to Jesus in loving, growing ways that allow us insight into our children. They should be growing beside us because it is a relationship we are actively nurturing moment by moment every single day. Our job, our responsibility is to ensure that we have introduced and modeled Jesus to them and we keep the communication lines open because we are developing lifetime relationships with the Lord and our precious child. Today I presented my middle daughter with a tough question. I asked her to tell me what about my walk impacts her the most for the Lord. I thought she might have to take some time and get back to me, but surprisingly, she was able to answer quickly. Always painfully honest, and my deepest thinker, she usually takes time to ponder questions so that she gives the most accurate response possible. “Your wisdom and the way you give such straightforward advice,” she said, then continued with, “Also, the way you treat Dad and the way you treat us,” she smiled. Although it sounds like I was fishing for a compliment, I wasn’t. Instead, I was looking for critical input to evaluate my performance and provide me with valuable insight. If I am not intentionally directing myself and my family toward Jesus in a loving, authentic way daily, I not only have to answer to God one day, but to I also answer to my family right now. I wasted earlier years of my life not focused with the deeper purpose I should have for God’s holy work in my children. I’m very thankful that the Lord opened my heart years ago and that He still continues to drop the scales from my eyes moment by moment. I see it almost as if I am a pipeline that flows from God to my child. I am the conduit or passage that enables Him to reach them in the most efficient way. I do not want to be a blockage in that journey. Christians often debate on how to be a good witness. I believe we must start in our own homes. The love of Christ must be evident. It must be authentic. It must be active. Our children know whether we believe what we say, because of the actions they see us do. They see who we are. When we are genuine, we become credible, and so does God. I am human, but I love Jesus. More and more daily. I crave Him and His work in me. The closer I move to Him, the closer He draws to me, just as His word tells us. The more I read and study His word, the more I understand and recognize Him. It is also the only way others will see Him in me. I try to pattern my beliefs and values after what I see in Christ. Although I have acquaintances or family members who do not pattern their life in the same way, and do activities and have lifestyles that run contrary to those qualities, I try my best to love them where they are, just as I hope people love me where I am. When we have open discussions about those topics, I approach them from a Biblical standpoint and offer Jesus as a guide, not my opinion or interpretations. We are all human. The only way this lifestyle approach works is if I remain growing in Jesus and on my knees for guidance daily, and if they do the same. When we can discuss issues from the POV of Jesus and how He lived for us to pattern, we have a starting point for discussion and growth. I have to be able to listen when I am in the wrong, just as those around me must be. One of the greatest problems of this generation is that we all want to do what we want and do not care about the consequences that may stem from it. We want it all and we want it our way. I do not want my children to grow up with that mindset or those habits. I make mistakes daily. Because of Christ in me, I often recognize them quickly. When I don’t, He stings me with a gentle nudge inside my spirit that pierces my obstinance or cluelessness. He is gracious to point them out to me. I wish I could say He changed me and has made me free of errors, but since that is not the way life works, I have to continue growing through Him and allowing Him to continue molding and shaping me into a beautiful vessel that He can actually use for His purposes and not my selfish desires. The humbling I receive every time actually sharpens my walk with Him and increases my love and thirst for Him. It all starts with developing and maturing a visible reverence for God through my relationship with Jesus and making sure I humbly recognize my place in the lives of others. I am not here for partaking in every whim and desire I chose, but for real and intentional purpose that God can only work through me. Your life has the same beautiful and meaningful value. God has filled my spirit with such a strong inclination toward inspiring other women to focus on living with eternal perspective and to equip you to teach your children love and purpose through Jesus. Living in this way is the most impactful and fulfilling task we can complete in this lifetime. The basic steps to begin molding and shaping your children to carry a reverent attitude toward God is to begin with three easy steps and grow from there. 1. Develop a personal and maturing walk with God through Jesus. Serve God humbly with the way we live, seek Him, and spend our time. Let our children see that God is worthy to be praised and made a priority. Hebrews 12:28 says, “Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom which cannot be shaken, let us have grace, by which we may serve God acceptably with reverence and godly fear.” 2. Continue intentionally learning and growing in the Lord daily. Let our children see us study our Bible and study with them through daily Bible readings or lessons. They do not have to be long or complicated, but they do need to be enjoyable and consistent. Pray with and for our children. Let them hear us pray for them regularly and encourage them to pray for us. 2 Timothy 1:13 says, “Hold on to the pattern of sound teaching you have heard from me, with the faith and love that are in Christ Jesus.” 3. Remain rooted in the Lord and persistent over time. Keep your faith and reverence visible in words and actions. 1 Peter 3:2 says, “when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.” Although this verse was originally used in the Bible to speak to wives who were new converts to Christianity and used for encouragement and training for them to remain steadfast for their husbands to see, I believe it applies for our walk in general. Life is a series of habits, whether good or bad, that shape and mold our character and actions, as well as those around us. This also perfectly leads into 1 Peter 3:3-4, “Do not let your adornment be merely outward – arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel – rather let It be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” When we focus less on the distractions of this world and what advertisements and others push and influence us to desire, our true longings can be met and our children receive a mother who is much better settled and joyous to train them in the ways that will truly satisfy and provide. It is not easy to live in this world, yet not be a part of it. Living with a visible reverence for Jesus that guides and shapes our desires is the foundation for building the life God aspires for us to have, and that deep down, every soul needs. Some mothers fear it may be too late. Maybe you have not walked closely with God and wish that you could change what you have done or what you may be doing now. Until we leave this earth, it is never too late. Begin where you are. Right now. God never leaves us and is always ready for us to move closer or come to Him for the first time. Without a doubt, the best and most meaningful purpose I have held in this life has been raising my children and teaching them about Jesus. The relationships that stem from this step of faith and obedience is absolutely priceless and eternal. Considering that I never wanted children growing up, God has changed my heart completely. I am in awe that He entrusted two sets of children to me. I will never cease trying to honor Him with visible reverence that attracts my children and grandson to Him. I would be honored to encourage your in your walk with Jesus or help you find ways to shape the life of your children around Him. If you have specific questions, please contact me through Instagram or Facebook. You can also reach me at thedoovermom@gmail.com . and you can look forward to more resources available on my new website that launches very soon. Father God, we thank you for the opportunity and privilege to know and walk with You. Thank you that you, God, the One who created each of us, desire a personal relationship with all who will humbly seek You. Help us to follow You in the ways You call and created for us. Shape us as women and as mothers to be who You desire us to and to visibly exude a reverence for You that shapes and molds future generations and calls them to bow in submission to You. Let me be one who allows You to make a difference through me. I pray in Jesus’ precious name, Lord. Amen. Did you enjoy this episode? Would you like others to hear weekly encouragement and learn how to live with more eternal perspective? Can you think of a friend or family member who might enjoy encouragement? If so, please share this podcast with them and take time to leave a quick rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast. Until next week, keep looking Up and finding new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode 021 - Say NO to Ungodly Influences in Your Heart and Home Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #021 – Say NO to Ungodly Influences in Your Heart and Home Are you yearning for greater connection with your child? Would you like to parent beyond the moment with eternal perspective? Let’s grow together now with practical tips, scripture, and stories geared to draw your heart to Jesus and guide your child into His arms. As I look back in review of my life, I recognize ways I was been deceived and sometimes followed self instead of my Savior. Especially in my 20’s and early 30’s, when I was younger in the faith, I grew well in some areas and was ignorant in others. I was not discipled properly, and because of that, like each of us, I followed the propensity to follow what looked or seemed right due to lack of biblical training. Don’t let this happen to you or your child. Everyone needs proper discipleship. Whether you have a son or daughter who has confessed Jesus as their personal Savior and is beginning a walk with Him or have a child who has been following Jesus for some time, godly mentorship is crucial . Since I desire to intentionally seek God’s wisdom and direction so that my intentions and actions will be pleasing to Him, I am focused on maturing my faith daily. I’m sure you desire to do the same. If not, please listen to the influences we will discuss today. Perhaps one or more has become a stumbling block that hinders your walk and in extension, will do the same to your precious child as they watch and learn from you. Each one of us is susceptible to falling daily and need to keep our eyes on Jesus. As we purposely look for things that need to be eliminated from our lives to gain godly wisdom and grow our Heavenly relationship, we experience the truth that the Christian walk is a lifestyle that evolves as our faith and obedience stretches and deepens. On this episode today, I want to draw attention to ungodly influences or practices that might reside in your heart and home. Some have become so ingrained in our culture that it is hard for people to recognize they are coasting in a walk with Jesus or drifting away from God. If left unaddressed, these things will affect your walk with Christ, separating you from strong relationship with Him, but also touch and shape those you meet, as well as those you love. Please pray that as you listen, your spirit will be pricked in areas God may be calling you to submit or obey by removing them from your life, so you may humbly please and follow Him as He desires. As I write this podcast, I’m also asking God to alert me to areas I need to remove from my life or repent to Him. This episode is heavy on Scriptures, because God’s Word is our hope and strength, a gift from the Almighty to us, a lifeline of hope, guidance, and strength. Please take notes if you desire and remember that you may also visit terrihitt.com to print a transcript of this episode to save the verses you hear for future reference, because God’s word to us is so powerful and healing. It simply is the sustenance we need daily. Of course, Scripture is the way our heart and mind hears the gift of salvation. It allows us to grow our relationship with God through Christ. God opens us to His truths and exposes the deception of this world through His holy Words. Every believer has heard that truth, but not everyone believes and practices what God shares and commands. A person will never be convicted and transformed apart from the power of God and His holy Word. I’ve compiled a list that I believe touches every human in some way. As you listen, prayerfully seek God’s direction and guidance to see if He may be calling you to remove, repent, or restructure your walk with Him in some way. Ask Him to guard your children, your parenting, and guide you to clearly follow Him so your children will witness the way you honor and obey God. Pray that your children will humbly and willingly live within His boundaries with joy. Ungodly Influences That May Exist in Your Heart or Home: 1. Attitude – 2 Timothy 4:3-4 says, “For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching but having itching ears, they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths .” Without humbly seeking and clinging to Jesus, our attitude is subject to a roller coaster of emotions. Only a steady focus on Christ can protect believers from a wash of emotions or thoughts that move far from where our Heavenly Father calls us to abide . 2. False Preachers – 1 John 4:1-6 says, “Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world. By this you know the Spirit of God: every spirit that confesses that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God, and every spirit that does not confess Jesus is not from God. This is the spirit of the antichrist, which you heard was coming and now is in the world already. Little children, you are from God and have overcome them, for He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world. They are from the world; therefore, they speak from the world, and the world listens to them. We are from God. Whoever knows God listens to us; whoever is not from God does not listen to us. By this we know the Spirit of Truth and the spirit of error.” Our world is full of false preachers and those who proclaim to follow Christ yet lead others far from what His Word teaches and commands. It is imperative to be in God’s holy Word daily, and to purposely grow your knowledge of, understanding of, and obedience to Scripture moment by moment. When you walk through each day, your thought process should revert to what God says about topics and situations . Study His character and commands so that you recognize false teachings immediately – from others and within your thought process. Just as the serpent deceived Adam and Eve by twisting God’s truths, he is out to swindle each human and rob us of a joy-filled, obedient life here and for eternity. 3. Influencers - Proverbs 27:17 says, “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another .” Just because someone has a strong social media presence, is a Hollywood star, a famous athlete, or a popular pastor it does not mean they practice what they preach. I have found that not everyone with a social media account lives the way they show online. Neither does everyone without an online presence. Each of us are influencers to another in some way. Especially if you are a parent. Strive to be a genuine reflection of Jesus . The way to do so is to know Him intimately through the Bible and prayer. Our walk with Christ grows stronger by seeking and abiding in Him . Let His influence be the guiding factor and influence in your heart and home. 4. Activities – (Language, Alcohol, Drugs, Pornography, Adultery, or Addictions – too much of something or anything done with the wrong intentions – food, shopping, exercise, etc.) - Proverbs 3:32 says, “For the devious person is an abomination to the LORD, but the upright are in His confidence .” So many people struggle with secret sin. God sees and knows all. Whether it is an addiction or something that is threatening to become one, or if it something that a person is doing despite what God’s Word commands, freedom is only found once we submit and humbly ask forgiveness from God. It is only when we realize we are hurting the Lord through our sin that we can rely on His strength to follow Christ through the steps to freedom . It may be a moment-by-moment submission to God or a one-time release, but He is present. He cares. God’s strength is enough for anything . 5. Entertainment (Books, Movies, Music, Magazines, Games) -Romans 12:2 says, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect .” Just as in #4, Christ has paid the price for our sins; He is more than enough to release any of us from what He calls unpleasing or sinful. Most of the entertainment available in our society is filthy. If you even look at advertisements, you see how far from Christ we have moved. Our children see what is available as normal unless they are taught to seek what is godly and holy. They will likely desire what you are drawn to. This includes, not only entertainment, but characteristics, morals, and dedication to growing their relationship with Jesus. 6. Friends - 1 Corinthians 15:33 says, “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals .” Those we surround ourselves with become heavy influences on our beliefs, attitude, actions, and reactions. In extension, they affect those we love. Our lives influence others. Be careful to lead others to Christ through your beliefs, words, attitude, motives, and actions . 7. Décor and Decorations – John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” Our homes should be a godly place of refuge for all who enter, especially for those who live within the walls. The type of décor we use silently expresses our belief system, memories, morals, and desires . Decorations used for holidays show our character and exposes where our walk is with Christ. Do you showcase items that would be pleasing to Him if He were visiting unexpectedly? Remember, He is within the walls of your home and sees into your heart. What joy our homes can be filled with if we let His heart speak to ours and we allow the light of the Holy Spirit within to guide us in our décor and decoration choices. 8. Addictions - James 4:4 says, “You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore, whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God .” Addictions are the ways humans in need of healing look for fulfillment in excessive and sometimes hurtful, damaging, or neglectful ways . When we desire too much or fall into habits that draw us away from God’s best for us or His holy commands, it is time to focus on strengthening our personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ. Only Jesus and His omnipotent strength can rescue and release us from the pain and bondage of any type of addiction. Only He can fill the gaps or hurts in our character or emotions that we desperately seek and try to fill with other things. 9. Relationships - Proverbs 12:26 says, “One who is righteous is a guide to his neighbor, but the way of the wicked leads them astray .” Sometimes we simply need to let go of the past, forgive, and enjoy relationships with those in our life. At other times, we need to let go of the past by releasing people from our life. Because God knows motives, hearts, and situations, our relationship with Jesus is a beautiful and godly guide to whether we should be growing or going. Our identity in and through Jesus is where we find our strength and wisdom to treat ourselves and others as He would direct . Model godly relationships for your children and let them witness Christ work in your life through them. 10. Bitterness – Hebrews 12:15 says, “See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled .” When we stop to practice true thankfulness for what we do and what we do not receive because we trust in God and His sovereignty, we are able to find identity and recognition through Him, instead of this world . When we center our thoughts, feelings, and emotions on Him, bitterness does not find soil to plant roots. 11. Unforgiveness – Ephesians 4:26 says, “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger. ” Because of Christ’s sacrifice, we have seen perfect forgiveness modeled. When we practice what He proclaims, we can draw upon His strength to endure what this life brings without allowing unforgiveness to overtake our spirit . 12. Ungodly Character – Ezekiel 36:26 says, “And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.” Our belief system, values, motivations, and attitude form and expose the character we exhibit . If we trust in God and continue to seek personal relationship with Jesus, respect God’s Word and authority in our life, and seek to please and honor Him, the ungodliness we naturally turn toward will transform more and more into a reflection of Christ. Ephesians 5:3 says, “But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints .” 13. Pridefulness – Proverbs 16:18 says, “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall .” Our culture celebrates pride while God despises the practice. Each human must battle the fleshly inclination to follow and exalt self. The key to conquering pride lies within whether we rely on self or Christ to eradicate it . While some suffer more from pride than others, even the smallest form can lead to devastating destruction. 14. Indifference - Revelation 3:15-16 says, “’I know your works: you are neither cold nor hot. Would that you were either cold or hot! So, because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth .’” God yearns for our heart but gives us free choice. Within that freedom, He desires that we be cold or hot. Either desire Him or not. God does not want a lukewarm spirit that claims to love Him yet does nothing to mature in Him, exhibit that love, or serve Him with a cheerful heart. 15. Idleness - 1 Timothy 5:13 says, “Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.” As we draw nearer to God in our personal relationship through Jesus, we are more prone to use our time wisely for Him and serve others more freely in His name . 16. The Occult - Leviticus 19:31 says, “Do not turn to mediums or necromancers; do not seek them out, and so make yourselves unclean by them: I am the LORD your God .” I recognize more of this in our culture and world daily. Don’t you? As the forms are sometimes clearly visible and sometimes sneakily creeping into our lives or the lives of our children through various forms, the devil wastes no time seeking to steal, kill, and destroy as God’s Word warns. Horoscopes, most young adult books and even children’s books, especially the popular the Harry Potter series, which desensitizes us and our children to the practice of evil and witchcraft, astrology, communication with the deceased, crystals, mediums, and those who offer healing through mediums, Quija boards, seances, channeling, magic, tarot cards, psychic hotlines, and evil décor all are an abomination to the Lord and through His word. Our sovereign and Holy Father instructs us to stay far from the occult without compromise . The list is long; I pray I highlighted most of what we need to watch out for. Where do you find your hope? Your guidance and strength? Proverbs 3:5-8 says, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD and turn away from evil. It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones.” Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me .” God is not willing that any should perish, as Scripture clearly tells us. His guidelines are a fence of protection to keep us far from harm and safe in His perfect protection. Galatians 5:19-24 says, “Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires .” Dear Heavenly Father, God only You are holy. Only You are worthy. How far we are from You! Help us to find our way to You in deeper and godlier ways. Carve the impurities from our life and equip us to be the mentors and guides our children and grandchildren need. Father, we need You! Thank you for Your holy Word and the difference it makes in the life of one committed to You. May we reflect You so lovingly and accurately that our children passionately seek and follow You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast. Both of my podcasts may be found at terrihitt.com, iHeart Radio, Spotify, and are also part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts may also now be found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed this podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? If you believe the content you hear should be heard so that more people can raise or influence children for Christ, would you please write a review and rate the podcast for me? Please also follow and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up and purposely connect with your child and Christ. Previous Next

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #076 – Direct Your Focus Last week I shared that my family is experiencing a difficult season. How I detest times like this, yet appreciate them at the same time. Why? Because I have lived long enough to know that the hardest times have stretched me beyond where I would cause my feet to travel. Jesus has carried me through the worst and the best moments in my life. While it would be amazing to live a perfectly happy life with no difficulties, the honest truth of this fallen world is that we are all alike. We will never find perfection. Life will continue to deliver painful blows. We are blessed when we recognize and remember that God already goes before us. Deuteronomy 1:30-31 says, “The Lord your God, who goes before you, will fight for you, just as you saw Him do for you in Egypt and in the wilderness, where the Lord your God carried you, as a man carries his son, all the way by which you traveled until you reached this place.” Oh, how I love the Lord! His ways are timeless! He is good. Intentionally place your full trust in Him. Direct your gaze Upward in every moment of life; not just when you think you need Him. I saw a Facebook post this week that reminds me of this truth. A mother was sending her child off to begin her life of “adulthood” and her heart is feeling multiple emotions! Understandably so. But the words that caught my attention were when she said that she prayed she had prepared her child enough for this world and that she guessed it was in God’s hands now. I am not singling out or judging what this mom spoke from her heart. Yet, as a follower of Christ who deeply desires to live in ways that honor God moment by moment and to always direct others to Jesus, I want to point out the fact that we must shift our thought process. Every moment of our life should already be in God’s hands. We should strive to grow so close to Him that our heart and mind are attuned to what the Father is calling us to submit to and release to Him moment by moment. We must seek to humble ourselves and submit to the Spirit within us, purposely allowing Christ to reign in our hearts and minds to eradicate self, more and more. How do we do this? The methods of a strong and maturing relationship with God through Jesus are basic. The difficulty comes in intentionally pursuing Him with a passionate mix of trust, hope, love, and faith that comes from seeking Him despite feelings and desires that get in the way and blind us to His truths. For example, if we feel far from God, or that He has abandoned us, that means we must draw nearer to Him. James 4:8 says, “Come close to God, and God will come close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; purify your hearts, for your loyalty is divided between God and the world.” Never rely on feelings or thoughts, emotions or desires to direct your walk with Jesus. Psalm 73:28 says, “But as for me, it is good to draw near to God. I have made the Lord God my refuge, that I may proclaim all Your works.” Good Father, It is the prayer of my heart that every unpleasant moment or hardship I experience on this earth will do nothing but draw me ever nearer to You. I pray that is the same for each listener and for our loved ones. May we inhale the Spirit with every difficulty and exhale Jesus for all to experience and capture the delight and joy of the Lord. For You are good, despite our circumstances and pain, feelings or emotions. Help us to remember to draw near to You so that You will draw nearer to us. May we always be mindful that You are always a step ahead, providing the means for us to thrive in this world if we only place our constant hope and trust in You. In Your precious name we pray and plead. Amen. As I continue to rest in the Lord through this season, I want to mention a few of the past “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast episodes you may find helpful. Where are you right now? Are you ready to: Submit Your Heart? Episode 1 – Heart Conditions Protect Your Thoughts? Episode 2 – Protecting Our thoughts Strive for Obedience? Episode 3 – Obedience Prepare your child or grandchild to live for Him? Episode 7 – Equipping Children Submit emotions? Episode 38 – Who Master’s My Emotions As I continue to rest in the Spirit within and know that He has good plans for me and my family that will not harm us, but will bring us ever closer to Him, I will continue to encourage and equip you to find your rest in and through Jesus, as well. May our spirits ever long for Him and marvel at the ways He provides all we need, especially as we submit each moment into His capable hands. We don’t have to understand or agree with His ways, but we must purposely know Him so that we will willingly trust Him. Thank you, Jesus, for all You are and allow. This week I pray you find new ways to rest in Him and cause yourself to cling to Him in deeper ways that test your faith and understanding. Allow Him to bring you to a new level of trust and abandonment of self. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture as You rely on God to direct your steps. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to the Lord and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 076 Direct Your Focus Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #076 – Direct Your Focus Last week I shared that my family is experiencing a difficult season. How I detest times like this, yet appreciate them at the same time. Why? Because I have lived long enough to know that the hardest times have stretched me beyond where I would cause my feet to travel. Jesus has carried me through the worst and the best moments in my life. While it would be amazing to live a perfectly happy life with no difficulties, the honest truth of this fallen world is that we are all alike. We will never find perfection. Life will continue to deliver painful blows. We are blessed when we recognize and remember that God already goes before us. Deuteronomy 1:30-31 says, “The Lord your God, who goes before you, will fight for you, just as you saw Him do for you in Egypt and in the wilderness, where the Lord your God carried you, as a man carries his son, all the way by which you traveled until you reached this place.” Oh, how I love the Lord! His ways are timeless! He is good. Intentionally place your full trust in Him. Direct your gaze Upward in every moment of life; not just when you think you need Him. I saw a Facebook post this week that reminds me of this truth. A mother was sending her child off to begin her life of “adulthood” and her heart is feeling multiple emotions! Understandably so. But the words that caught my attention were when she said that she prayed she had prepared her child enough for this world and that she guessed it was in God’s hands now. I am not singling out or judging what this mom spoke from her heart. Yet, as a follower of Christ who deeply desires to live in ways that honor God moment by moment and to always direct others to Jesus, I want to point out the fact that we must shift our thought process. Every moment of our life should already be in God’s hands. We should strive to grow so close to Him that our heart and mind are attuned to what the Father is calling us to submit to and release to Him moment by moment. We must seek to humble ourselves and submit to the Spirit within us, purposely allowing Christ to reign in our hearts and minds to eradicate self, more and more. How do we do this? The methods of a strong and maturing relationship with God through Jesus are basic. The difficulty comes in intentionally pursuing Him with a passionate mix of trust, hope, love, and faith that comes from seeking Him despite feelings and desires that get in the way and blind us to His truths. For example, if we feel far from God, or that He has abandoned us, that means we must draw nearer to Him. James 4:8 says, “Come close to God, and God will come close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; purify your hearts, for your loyalty is divided between God and the world.” Never rely on feelings or thoughts, emotions or desires to direct your walk with Jesus. Psalm 73:28 says, “But as for me, it is good to draw near to God. I have made the Lord God my refuge, that I may proclaim all Your works.” Good Father, It is the prayer of my heart that every unpleasant moment or hardship I experience on this earth will do nothing but draw me ever nearer to You. I pray that is the same for each listener and for our loved ones. May we inhale the Spirit with every difficulty and exhale Jesus for all to experience and capture the delight and joy of the Lord. For You are good, despite our circumstances and pain, feelings or emotions. Help us to remember to draw near to You so that You will draw nearer to us. May we always be mindful that You are always a step ahead, providing the means for us to thrive in this world if we only place our constant hope and trust in You. In Your precious name we pray and plead. Amen. As I continue to rest in the Lord through this season, I want to mention a few of the past “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast episodes you may find helpful. Where are you right now? Are you ready to: Submit Your Heart? Episode 1 – Heart Conditions Protect Your Thoughts? Episode 2 – Protecting Our thoughts Strive for Obedience? Episode 3 – Obedience Prepare your child or grandchild to live for Him? Episode 7 – Equipping Children Submit emotions? Episode 38 – Who Master’s My Emotions As I continue to rest in the Spirit within and know that He has good plans for me and my family that will not harm us, but will bring us ever closer to Him, I will continue to encourage and equip you to find your rest in and through Jesus, as well. May our spirits ever long for Him and marvel at the ways He provides all we need, especially as we submit each moment into His capable hands. We don’t have to understand or agree with His ways, but we must purposely know Him so that we will willingly trust Him. Thank you, Jesus, for all You are and allow. This week I pray you find new ways to rest in Him and cause yourself to cling to Him in deeper ways that test your faith and understanding. Allow Him to bring you to a new level of trust and abandonment of self. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture as You rely on God to direct your steps. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to the Lord and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 100 - Purposed Parenting to Build Generational Faith and Leave an Eternal Legacy with Rachel-Ruth Lotz Wright and Riggin Wright Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 100 – Purposed Parenting to Build Generational Faith and Leave an Eternal Legacy with Rachel-Ruth Lotz Wright and Riggin Wright Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast deepens your walk with Jesus and your children, and equips you to become a set-apart woman raising children to chase Christ over culture. Today I have the joy of sharing a conversation with two special guests. My first guest, Rachel-Ruth Lotz Wright was born and raised in Raleigh, North Carolina. She’s the daughter of Daniel and Anne Graham Lotz and granddaughter of Billy and Ruth Graham. Following graduation from Baylor University in Waco, TX, she married Steven Wright, a high school football coach, and they have three daughters: Bell, Sophia, and Riggin. Rachel-Ruth teaches a weekly women’s Bible Study that originated at the University of North Carolina and now, through Zoom, has gone worldwide. She also shares God’s Word at numerous events around the country. She serves on the Board of Directors for AnGeL Ministries, in addition to chairing the weekly prayer team that undergirds her mother’s ministry. Her passion for leading children to Jesus and getting them into God’s Word helped to inspire her mother’s first children’s book, Heaven: God’s Promise for Me. She has co-authored two books with her mother, Jesus Followers, and Preparing to Meet Jesus. Rachel-Ruth feels called to encourage others to fall in love with Jesus through the teaching of His Word. My second guest, Riggin Wright is the daughter of Rachel-Ruth Lotz Wright and Steven Wright. She’s a high school senior. Riggin is very involved in sports and just like her mom, enjoys sharing the love of Jesus. Riggin also leads a Bible study at her school. In our conversation we discuss how to be a purposed parent and the importance of building generational faith so we can leave an eternal legacy that honors God and points our children straight to the heart and feet of Jesus. We share personal family stories and how we learned to parent the heart not simply the behavior. You’ll hear us discuss how parenting requires complete surrender and inviting God to renew us daily. We also discuss why women must stop striving to be good moms, so they can become godly moms and how we are responsible to pray for God to claim the hearts of our children, but that starts with our personal walk with Christ. ____________________________ INTERVIEW_______________________________ (Read full interview notes at Apple Podcast transcripts) Dear Heavenly Father, Thank you for sending us Your Son, Jesus and allowing us the privilege of choosing You. Thank you that we can enter into Your presence at any time and find You waiting and already steps ahead of us. Thank you for depositing the Holy Spirit inside those who belong to You and enabling us to shake off self and step into being more Christlike moment by moment, day by day. Father, equip us as mothers to raise the children You so lovingly entrusted to us in ways that bring you delight and glory. Help us to remember that we are unable to parent in any way that pleases, but that through You we are equipped. Empower us with the mercy, grace, love, insight, understanding, wisdom, and strength we need. Remind us to rest in Your ever capable arms and seek Your guidance and guard as we parent Your special blessings to us. May we ever long for You and seek You first above all things so that we can brightly shine Your truths and a desire for You for our children. Help us be purposed and consistent in the way we seek and obey You and in the ways we receive Your great provisions to parent. It is all from You and for You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Raising children is challenging. No one has all the answers because each child is unique as are parenting styles and family dynamics. By connecting with and knowing your children as you maintain purposed growth in Christ, you will be better prepared for any situation you face. That’s why you hear me share about the Set-Apart Collective in this podcast. I work with professionals who care about making Jesus known to their children. Are you a high-achieving woman who loves Jesus, but is so busy with the rush of work and daily life that you feel like you’re being drained like the water in your bathtub? Do you yearn to get closer to Jesus and show Him to your kids so you will create a love that will last into eternity? The desire is there, but your days spiral out of control before you even think about opening your Bible. Do you ever stop to think that you are the first Jesus your child will see? Let me remind you there is hope. There is a way you can be equipped to raise kids who chase Christ over culture. If you want a connected relationship with Christ and your children that leads them to your side and His feet, instead of them seeking validation from peers, I have an 8-step program to move you from frustrated to fulfilled. I will show you how to reflect Jesus in a way that attracts your family to a connected relationship that lasts into eternity. Remember, godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset you carry. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will arm you with a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You’ll also deepen your identity in Christ so you can mentor the way for your children to do the same. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family and you will have the tools to raise set apart kids as you parent the heart, not simply the behavior. Does this sound like a lifeline to help you be that set-apart mom God has entrusted you to be? Visit terrihitt.com/coaching and click the link for a free, no obligation conversation call with me. This is a strategic call where I will hear your biggest struggle and show you how to turn it into a blessing that will bring you closer to Christ and your children. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. One last thing to remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #047 – Preparing for Christ – Part 1 Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Can you believe it is almost the end of 2020? No matter what your thoughts are about this year, and you may have many, God has been in control. He was, is, and will remain in control. Nothing has touched us as individuals, as a nation, or in this world that was not already sifted through His capable and trustworthy hands. His eye is on the sparrow. We know He watches over us. As it is the end of the year, many worthy organizations are looking for end of year support, and I want to take a moment today to mention one of my favorite local charities in Kansas City, the “Who Is Carter Foundation.” They have established a worldwide project to provide support, treatment options, and resources to those supporting exceptional children with neurological conditions. That project can be found at thebrainpossible.com, and you can learn more about the foundation at whoiscarter.org. We have personally worked with this organization and truly appreciate their mission and the support they offer. I encourage you to visit their websites and learn more and pass the info on to a friend or family member who might benefit from their various services. Talking about the end of 2020 reminds me that the holiday season is already here! Each year, it seems that Christmas has a way of sneaking up on me. Is it like that for you, too? Life moves so quickly. One moment it’s summer and I’m savoring the heat most other people despise. Suddenly, I’m thrust into leaves falling and winds blowing, bringing cold weather that chills me before temperatures even drop below 50 degrees. I never feel fully ready to jump into the rush of a holiday season because it seems so sneaky. Yet, as I consistently and intentionally purpose to live with my heart and mind focused on Jesus daily through an eternal lens, it enables my preparations for Christmas to be more authentic, although not in the way the world teaches. My attitude and desires are gratefully aware of His presence in my life. To have the honor of creating additional praise in our routine becomes a pleasure, not a chore. Once I release timetables and what our culture pushes on me faster and sooner each calendar turn, I believe I am better equipped to transition into seasons such as Christmas with a full heart and ready spirit. I’ve learned that if my heart is already practicing worship and praise for Jesus through a daily personal and deepening relationship, I won’t feel the stress or pressure to complete preparations by a certain time or rise to expectations I don’t want placed on myself. This is where I want to abide. Social media has shown me photos of the beautiful homes of friends and acquaintances as they prepare for the season, many earlier than usual this year. I love seeing what they do and feel joyous that they are decorating and celebrating in ways that give them pleasure. Yet, it is not for me. There was a time when my middle daughter was younger that we regularly set up five trees in the house, wrapped the stairway railing in holly and bows, placed several nativity scenes in the house, decorated fireplace mantles, and baked many Christmas goodies. In love with the lights and excitement of the holiday season, my daughter excitedly anticipated the preparations and decorating process. I remember when she was a toddler, one of her favorite activities was riding in the cart at Target and Wal-Mart, spending a great amount of time visiting the holiday décor section and exclaiming over the brightly lit trees and blow-ups lawn décor. Nowadays, we are so busy that the thought of decking the house out like that exhausts me and the rest of the family. We still hold tightly, however, to traditions we enjoy and that have become staples in our family, but we strive to keep the meaning of the celebrations high and clear and the emphasis on gifting low. Continually resting in Jesus is the only way to receive the peace and joy we desire. The spirit of Christmas is more than trees, ornaments, holiday baking, and gathering with family to exchange and open gifts. Not that any of those are bad, but remembering and cherishing, celebrating Christ coming to us in human form is meant to linger in our spirit throughout the year. Why does society divide the time? Because Christmas has become so commercial and many are lost, without knowing Christ or celebrating the true purpose. As followers of Christ, we can keep the true spirit of Christmas within our heart and mind if we focus on becoming more like Him daily. The older I get, the less excited I get about the commercialism surrounding such a sacred holiday. Of course, I love to give and receive gifts. Especially when the perfect one is found and I get to experience the delight of giving something personal and special to someone I love dearly. Yet, the assignment of shopping just because it is a certain time of year is a chore I don’t enjoy. I want to sit quietly with Jesus, reflecting on Who He is and wants He is calling me to do for Him. Quiet time with the Lord, in His word, with no sounds or schedule. Just the two of us together as I focus on what He has done and is doing within me. Although I attempt to speak to and listen for Him daily, I know there is nothing as sacred as true, undivided time with nothing to do but hear from Him. No prayers that unintentionally get interrupted with children or spouse calling. No distracted thoughts flitting through my mind as I am speaking my heart. What if Christmas was just each one of us seeking Him with whole hearts? No presents except the ones we offer Him in return? What if we sat in solitude, allowing Jesus to probe our spirit and reveal new mysteries to each of us? What would He say that we are not hearing now? I urge each one of us to carve special time, whether long or short, to rest in the Lord in this time before Christmas arrives, simply and intentionally preparing our hearts for Him. The podcast this week is not in my normal format. I’ve purposely selected several verses to read that are not typically used at Christmas, to slow us down and prepare us to remember the mercy of the Lord, and to seek and be grateful for His good and perfect will for us, to remember Who He is and the enormous gift we have in Jesus. The podcast will be divided into two parts to help us prepare for the arrival of Noel, where we more clearly remember Immanuel. Christ with us. I hope you will rest with me in the beauty and promise of these simple, yet sovereign words as I read verses and speak on each one. I hope it helps you to carve out special time to listen to His words, ponder your relationship, and reflect on Jesus and His immense love for you. For each of us. For God so loved the world! There is absolutely nothing more powerful than words, promises, and wisdom from God found in the Bible and the gift of eternal life we receive through Jesus. Romans 1:20 says, “For since the creation of the world God's invisible qualities--his eternal power and divine nature have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse.” God reveals himself to us through creation. Psalm 19:1 declares, “The heavens declare the glory of God and the firmament shows His handiwork.” No one should be able to miss the clear evidence from God of His majesty and sovereignty. John 14:6 says, “Jesus answered, "I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” How blessed we are to receive these words, and from Jesus Himself! This verse carries some of the most basic and forthright words in the Bible. They are also the most important. Jesus clearly tells us that He is the way to God. Christians do not have to argue with unbelievers or question our relationship through Jesus. For those who believe the way to God is too narrow, in reality, it is the opposite. Jesus came for everyone and clearly states the way with His words. Instead of thinking it is “limited” to say there is only one way, we can be thankful that God makes it very clear. Jesus assures us that He is the way and that no one will come to God, except through Him. Christ is our way to God, and He is also the living reality of each of God’s predictions and promises. Through the Holy Spirit within us, Jesus links Himself to us in this life, and for eternity. Philippians 1:11 says, “May you always be filled with the fruit of your salvation—the righteous character produced in your life by Jesus Christ—for this will bring much glory and praise to God.” What beautiful and powerful words! They are a promise of all the character traits we will receive when we build a solid and mature personal relationship with God through Jesus. Ephesians 2:10 says, “For we are God's handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Through the merciful and unmerited grace of our Heavenly Father, we are created as His masterpiece. It is our honor to serve Him and others with the gifts and interests He individually crafted for each of us. 2 Corinthians 4:10 says, “Through suffering, our bodies continue to share in the death of Jesus so that the life of Jesus may also be seen in our bodies.” Another beautiful promise. Suffering never seems like a gift, but through and because of Jesus, we experience the Lord shining through us when we hurt or suffer in any way. When we are broken, and expectantly reliant on Him, He will work within us and shine His glory from us. How this work prepares us and gifts us with an even clearer view of eternity! My greatest hardships have elevated my view of life to see with eternal perspective every moment. 1 John 4:8 says, “Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” Oh, how God transforms us when we truly follow Him! Even as we are changed moment by moment to resemble Him, our love will never reach the heights of His. Jesus is true love. God is the author of love. He is love. Love is rooted in His nature and character. God exhibited true love through Jesus and required absolutely nothing of us, yet He loves us with an everlasting love beyond our comprehension. This world warps love with our selfish and ungodly desires. How much different we would be if we all chose to follow Him and allow His transforming love to radiate through us. 2 Peter 3:9 says, “The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance.” Again we see how merciful God is! He patiently waits, while allowing the sin He cannot bear, knowing some will still some to repentance. During this time of grace, those who already know Jesus should use the time we are granted to do His work and make Him known to others. Isaiah 40:28 says, “Do you not know? Have you not heard? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom.” God understands our every thought and desire. He is ahead of our every need. For those who believe that God no longer cares, we see that He is indeed always with us and never grows tired or weary of caring for us. 1 John 1:5 says, “This is the message we heard from Jesus and now declare to you: God is light, and there is no darkness in him at all.” God is infinitely holy, completely righteous, and pure in absolutely every way. Hallelujah! He is our Father, Provider, and Protector. He is our Guiding Light. We must remain close to Him and allow His light and righteousness to pour into us. James 1:17 says, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” We are blessed to have as our holy Heavenly Father the very same God who created the heavens and the earth, who aligned the stars and moon, and who lovingly created each of us personally. He intentionally loves and cares for us in ways only He can and He yearns to do it. He is dependable and will not change, shift, or leave us. Psalm 18:30 says, “As for God, His way is perfect: The Lord's word is flawless; He shields all who take refuge in Him.” Although those who do not follow the Lord may believe those of us who do are weak, we understand that all of us are weak and we glory in that weakness! Hallelujah! He is strong where I am weak! God is infinitely stronger than any of us and we desire His power to work in and through us. He lovingly cares for us as we rely on Him to protect and save us. God certainly shields us with His word and His mighty, loving power. Make me weak, Lord! Galatians 5:22-23 says, “But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” The very same character traits found in Jesus are available to us through the Holy Spirit as we mature our walk with Christ. They come as a by-product of following Him and are nothing we can gain by our own works or attempts. As we join our lives to Him, we begin to be transformed into new creations that imitate the glorious qualities He embodies. Since God is the author of the law and He sent the Spirit, both align perfectly with the fruits that we begin to possess and exhibit through Him. Micah 7:18-19 says, “Who is a God like you, who pardons sin and forgives the transgression of the remnant of his inheritance? You do not stay angry forever but delight to show mercy. You will again have compassion on us; you will tread our sins underfoot and hurl all our iniquities into the depths of the sea.” How God delights in showing us mercy! Our God of love does not hold grudges, is joyful when we repent, and heartily extends forgiveness to us as we return to Him. Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” God’s word is living and active, not just a compilation of meaningless words. It is holy, life-affirming, and life-changing. God’s word cuts through to our moral and spiritual core, revealing who we are and exposing our intentions. Accept, believe, and live God’s word so that it will transform and shape your life. Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.” What we allow access to our mind will determine and shape our present – and our eternity. What we think on forms our attitude, words, and actions. If we have difficulty shaping thoughts that are as God calls: noble, right, pure, lovely, etc., we must assess what we are exposing ourselves to and whether we are in His word to cleanse and support our mind and actions. When we ask God to purify our mind and desires and help us focus on the thoughts He calls us to have, He will enable us to crave and keep wholesome material going in so that holiness will flow out. 1 Peter 1:15 says. “But now you must be holy in everything you do, just as God who chose you is holy.” Our Heavenly Father is a God of mercy and justice who expects His followers to imitate Him, and desire to be holy, just as He is. Romans 5:1-5 says, “Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we boast in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.” Once we are reconciled to God through Jesus, there is no sin blocking our relationship with Him. This peace with God is only available because of the price Jesus paid for our sins when He died on the cross. We are now complete with Jesus, yet still growing in and through Him. Because we are human, we still struggle with the temptations and sins this life offers, yet we have the privilege of heeding the Holy Spirit within us and taking our battles to the Lord to fight on our behalf. As we mature through Him, we recognize that with each release we grow more intertwined with God and do not grow discouraged by the weights and pressures of this world. We know every trial will carry us closer to Him and should bring Him glory as He works in and through us. Praise God! We are renewed through Him daily! Rest and abide in God’s holy words of scripture as you prepare your heart to worship Jesus in a deeper way this holiday season. No greater gift is available to us in this life than to accept fellowship with God through the sacrifice of Jesus and live with Him for eternity. Place Him before preparations and shopping, wrapping, and movies. May His word be stored in your mind and reflected on as you shape your life after His. Gracious Heavenly Father, we rejoice in the love You have for us and thank you for the gracious gift of eternal life with You through your Son, Jesus. Calm our spirit, our heart, and mind as we reflect on all You are this Christmas season. Help us to seek You in new ways. Open us to seeing this world with Your eyes and desires. Thank you for Your eternal love for us. Help us to move and respond to this world with eternal perspective that mirrors You. In Your precious name we pray. I deeply desire to allow God to cultivate a strong community of women through the work He has given me. I pray you will be better equipped to live with an eternal perspective and encouraged to influence children for Jesus. Future episodes and resources will be geared toward the important duty we have as parents and grandparents to guide and guard children for Jesus. The Live With Eternal Perspective podcast is currently linked to my new website at terrihitt.com, where you can access all the podcasts housed in one convenient location, as well as receive access to blog posts, transcripts, and additional free resources that are added to regularly. Thank you for listening. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to Jesus and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up and find for new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 047 Preparing for Christ - Part 1 Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #047 – Preparing for Christ – Part 1 Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Can you believe it is almost the end of 2020? No matter what your thoughts are about this year, and you may have many, God has been in control. He was, is, and will remain in control. Nothing has touched us as individuals, as a nation, or in this world that was not already sifted through His capable and trustworthy hands. His eye is on the sparrow. We know He watches over us. As it is the end of the year, many worthy organizations are looking for end of year support, and I want to take a moment today to mention one of my favorite local charities in Kansas City, the “Who Is Carter Foundation.” They have established a worldwide project to provide support, treatment options, and resources to those supporting exceptional children with neurological conditions. That project can be found at thebrainpossible.com, and you can learn more about the foundation at whoiscarter.org. We have personally worked with this organization and truly appreciate their mission and the support they offer. I encourage you to visit their websites and learn more and pass the info on to a friend or family member who might benefit from their various services. Talking about the end of 2020 reminds me that the holiday season is already here! Each year, it seems that Christmas has a way of sneaking up on me. Is it like that for you, too? Life moves so quickly. One moment it’s summer and I’m savoring the heat most other people despise. Suddenly, I’m thrust into leaves falling and winds blowing, bringing cold weather that chills me before temperatures even drop below 50 degrees. I never feel fully ready to jump into the rush of a holiday season because it seems so sneaky. Yet, as I consistently and intentionally purpose to live with my heart and mind focused on Jesus daily through an eternal lens, it enables my preparations for Christmas to be more authentic, although not in the way the world teaches. My attitude and desires are gratefully aware of His presence in my life. To have the honor of creating additional praise in our routine becomes a pleasure, not a chore. Once I release timetables and what our culture pushes on me faster and sooner each calendar turn, I believe I am better equipped to transition into seasons such as Christmas with a full heart and ready spirit. I’ve learned that if my heart is already practicing worship and praise for Jesus through a daily personal and deepening relationship, I won’t feel the stress or pressure to complete preparations by a certain time or rise to expectations I don’t want placed on myself. This is where I want to abide. Social media has shown me photos of the beautiful homes of friends and acquaintances as they prepare for the season, many earlier than usual this year. I love seeing what they do and feel joyous that they are decorating and celebrating in ways that give them pleasure. Yet, it is not for me. There was a time when my middle daughter was younger that we regularly set up five trees in the house, wrapped the stairway railing in holly and bows, placed several nativity scenes in the house, decorated fireplace mantles, and baked many Christmas goodies. In love with the lights and excitement of the holiday season, my daughter excitedly anticipated the preparations and decorating process. I remember when she was a toddler, one of her favorite activities was riding in the cart at Target and Wal-Mart, spending a great amount of time visiting the holiday décor section and exclaiming over the brightly lit trees and blow-ups lawn décor. Nowadays, we are so busy that the thought of decking the house out like that exhausts me and the rest of the family. We still hold tightly, however, to traditions we enjoy and that have become staples in our family, but we strive to keep the meaning of the celebrations high and clear and the emphasis on gifting low. Continually resting in Jesus is the only way to receive the peace and joy we desire. The spirit of Christmas is more than trees, ornaments, holiday baking, and gathering with family to exchange and open gifts. Not that any of those are bad, but remembering and cherishing, celebrating Christ coming to us in human form is meant to linger in our spirit throughout the year. Why does society divide the time? Because Christmas has become so commercial and many are lost, without knowing Christ or celebrating the true purpose. As followers of Christ, we can keep the true spirit of Christmas within our heart and mind if we focus on becoming more like Him daily. The older I get, the less excited I get about the commercialism surrounding such a sacred holiday. Of course, I love to give and receive gifts. Especially when the perfect one is found and I get to experience the delight of giving something personal and special to someone I love dearly. Yet, the assignment of shopping just because it is a certain time of year is a chore I don’t enjoy. I want to sit quietly with Jesus, reflecting on Who He is and wants He is calling me to do for Him. Quiet time with the Lord, in His word, with no sounds or schedule. Just the two of us together as I focus on what He has done and is doing within me. Although I attempt to speak to and listen for Him daily, I know there is nothing as sacred as true, undivided time with nothing to do but hear from Him. No prayers that unintentionally get interrupted with children or spouse calling. No distracted thoughts flitting through my mind as I am speaking my heart. What if Christmas was just each one of us seeking Him with whole hearts? No presents except the ones we offer Him in return? What if we sat in solitude, allowing Jesus to probe our spirit and reveal new mysteries to each of us? What would He say that we are not hearing now? I urge each one of us to carve special time, whether long or short, to rest in the Lord in this time before Christmas arrives, simply and intentionally preparing our hearts for Him. The podcast this week is not in my normal format. I’ve purposely selected several verses to read that are not typically used at Christmas, to slow us down and prepare us to remember the mercy of the Lord, and to seek and be grateful for His good and perfect will for us, to remember Who He is and the enormous gift we have in Jesus. The podcast will be divided into two parts to help us prepare for the arrival of Noel, where we more clearly remember Immanuel. Christ with us. I hope you will rest with me in the beauty and promise of these simple, yet sovereign words as I read verses and speak on each one. I hope it helps you to carve out special time to listen to His words, ponder your relationship, and reflect on Jesus and His immense love for you. For each of us. For God so loved the world! There is absolutely nothing more powerful than words, promises, and wisdom from God found in the Bible and the gift of eternal life we receive through Jesus. Romans 1:20 says, “For since the creation of the world God's invisible qualities--his eternal power and divine nature have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse.” God reveals himself to us through creation. Psalm 19:1 declares, “The heavens declare the glory of God and the firmament shows His handiwork.” No one should be able to miss the clear evidence from God of His majesty and sovereignty. John 14:6 says, “Jesus answered, "I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” How blessed we are to receive these words, and from Jesus Himself! This verse carries some of the most basic and forthright words in the Bible. They are also the most important. Jesus clearly tells us that He is the way to God. Christians do not have to argue with unbelievers or question our relationship through Jesus. For those who believe the way to God is too narrow, in reality, it is the opposite. Jesus came for everyone and clearly states the way with His words. Instead of thinking it is “limited” to say there is only one way, we can be thankful that God makes it very clear. Jesus assures us that He is the way and that no one will come to God, except through Him. Christ is our way to God, and He is also the living reality of each of God’s predictions and promises. Through the Holy Spirit within us, Jesus links Himself to us in this life, and for eternity. Philippians 1:11 says, “May you always be filled with the fruit of your salvation—the righteous character produced in your life by Jesus Christ—for this will bring much glory and praise to God.” What beautiful and powerful words! They are a promise of all the character traits we will receive when we build a solid and mature personal relationship with God through Jesus. Ephesians 2:10 says, “For we are God's handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Through the merciful and unmerited grace of our Heavenly Father, we are created as His masterpiece. It is our honor to serve Him and others with the gifts and interests He individually crafted for each of us. 2 Corinthians 4:10 says, “Through suffering, our bodies continue to share in the death of Jesus so that the life of Jesus may also be seen in our bodies.” Another beautiful promise. Suffering never seems like a gift, but through and because of Jesus, we experience the Lord shining through us when we hurt or suffer in any way. When we are broken, and expectantly reliant on Him, He will work within us and shine His glory from us. How this work prepares us and gifts us with an even clearer view of eternity! My greatest hardships have elevated my view of life to see with eternal perspective every moment. 1 John 4:8 says, “Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” Oh, how God transforms us when we truly follow Him! Even as we are changed moment by moment to resemble Him, our love will never reach the heights of His. Jesus is true love. God is the author of love. He is love. Love is rooted in His nature and character. God exhibited true love through Jesus and required absolutely nothing of us, yet He loves us with an everlasting love beyond our comprehension. This world warps love with our selfish and ungodly desires. How much different we would be if we all chose to follow Him and allow His transforming love to radiate through us. 2 Peter 3:9 says, “The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance.” Again we see how merciful God is! He patiently waits, while allowing the sin He cannot bear, knowing some will still some to repentance. During this time of grace, those who already know Jesus should use the time we are granted to do His work and make Him known to others. Isaiah 40:28 says, “Do you not know? Have you not heard? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom.” God understands our every thought and desire. He is ahead of our every need. For those who believe that God no longer cares, we see that He is indeed always with us and never grows tired or weary of caring for us. 1 John 1:5 says, “This is the message we heard from Jesus and now declare to you: God is light, and there is no darkness in him at all.” God is infinitely holy, completely righteous, and pure in absolutely every way. Hallelujah! He is our Father, Provider, and Protector. He is our Guiding Light. We must remain close to Him and allow His light and righteousness to pour into us. James 1:17 says, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” We are blessed to have as our holy Heavenly Father the very same God who created the heavens and the earth, who aligned the stars and moon, and who lovingly created each of us personally. He intentionally loves and cares for us in ways only He can and He yearns to do it. He is dependable and will not change, shift, or leave us. Psalm 18:30 says, “As for God, His way is perfect: The Lord's word is flawless; He shields all who take refuge in Him.” Although those who do not follow the Lord may believe those of us who do are weak, we understand that all of us are weak and we glory in that weakness! Hallelujah! He is strong where I am weak! God is infinitely stronger than any of us and we desire His power to work in and through us. He lovingly cares for us as we rely on Him to protect and save us. God certainly shields us with His word and His mighty, loving power. Make me weak, Lord! Galatians 5:22-23 says, “But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” The very same character traits found in Jesus are available to us through the Holy Spirit as we mature our walk with Christ. They come as a by-product of following Him and are nothing we can gain by our own works or attempts. As we join our lives to Him, we begin to be transformed into new creations that imitate the glorious qualities He embodies. Since God is the author of the law and He sent the Spirit, both align perfectly with the fruits that we begin to possess and exhibit through Him. Micah 7:18-19 says, “Who is a God like you, who pardons sin and forgives the transgression of the remnant of his inheritance? You do not stay angry forever but delight to show mercy. You will again have compassion on us; you will tread our sins underfoot and hurl all our iniquities into the depths of the sea.” How God delights in showing us mercy! Our God of love does not hold grudges, is joyful when we repent, and heartily extends forgiveness to us as we return to Him. Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” God’s word is living and active, not just a compilation of meaningless words. It is holy, life-affirming, and life-changing. God’s word cuts through to our moral and spiritual core, revealing who we are and exposing our intentions. Accept, believe, and live God’s word so that it will transform and shape your life. Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.” What we allow access to our mind will determine and shape our present – and our eternity. What we think on forms our attitude, words, and actions. If we have difficulty shaping thoughts that are as God calls: noble, right, pure, lovely, etc., we must assess what we are exposing ourselves to and whether we are in His word to cleanse and support our mind and actions. When we ask God to purify our mind and desires and help us focus on the thoughts He calls us to have, He will enable us to crave and keep wholesome material going in so that holiness will flow out. 1 Peter 1:15 says. “But now you must be holy in everything you do, just as God who chose you is holy.” Our Heavenly Father is a God of mercy and justice who expects His followers to imitate Him, and desire to be holy, just as He is. Romans 5:1-5 says, “Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we boast in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.” Once we are reconciled to God through Jesus, there is no sin blocking our relationship with Him. This peace with God is only available because of the price Jesus paid for our sins when He died on the cross. We are now complete with Jesus, yet still growing in and through Him. Because we are human, we still struggle with the temptations and sins this life offers, yet we have the privilege of heeding the Holy Spirit within us and taking our battles to the Lord to fight on our behalf. As we mature through Him, we recognize that with each release we grow more intertwined with God and do not grow discouraged by the weights and pressures of this world. We know every trial will carry us closer to Him and should bring Him glory as He works in and through us. Praise God! We are renewed through Him daily! Rest and abide in God’s holy words of scripture as you prepare your heart to worship Jesus in a deeper way this holiday season. No greater gift is available to us in this life than to accept fellowship with God through the sacrifice of Jesus and live with Him for eternity. Place Him before preparations and shopping, wrapping, and movies. May His word be stored in your mind and reflected on as you shape your life after His. Gracious Heavenly Father, we rejoice in the love You have for us and thank you for the gracious gift of eternal life with You through your Son, Jesus. Calm our spirit, our heart, and mind as we reflect on all You are this Christmas season. Help us to seek You in new ways. Open us to seeing this world with Your eyes and desires. Thank you for Your eternal love for us. Help us to move and respond to this world with eternal perspective that mirrors You. In Your precious name we pray. I deeply desire to allow God to cultivate a strong community of women through the work He has given me. I pray you will be better equipped to live with an eternal perspective and encouraged to influence children for Jesus. Future episodes and resources will be geared toward the important duty we have as parents and grandparents to guide and guard children for Jesus. The Live With Eternal Perspective podcast is currently linked to my new website at terrihitt.com, where you can access all the podcasts housed in one convenient location, as well as receive access to blog posts, transcripts, and additional free resources that are added to regularly. Thank you for listening. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to Jesus and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up and find for new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #136 – How to Thrive as a Christian in a World of Unbelievers Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. An event that happened one evening about 15 years ago stands out in my mind like it was yesterday. Most of the women at this event were strangers to me, but since a mutual friend had invited each of us to her place to watch an important adoption movie, I felt very comfortable going. At the end of the film, several of us shared our thoughts about what was important to us and why. As soon as my beliefs were spoken, one woman exploded with angry words that shocked and silenced me. Amazed that my belief in God and the viewpoint I had on adoption based on my relationship with Jesus had offended her so harshly, I was unable to think of any response other than to concentrate on stopping the tears threatening to spill down my cheeks. Although my logical side guessed that she was not a believer and must have had something happen in her past that turned her angry against God or Christians, I couldn’t converse logically because I was so disappointed in my friend for not intervening and keeping the space we were in safe for all viewpoints and, of course, for the hurtful words thrown at me by this stranger. As soon as possible, I left the meeting and cried all the way home as I poured my thoughts out to God, and then on the phone with a close friend. I had never faced someone so violently opposed to hearing biblically-based views. It was only later than I realized I had assumed the woman was not a Christian. In reality, believers can look so much like the world that God is never seen. It used to be that professing Christianity was respected. Tolerated. Trusted. Now the most outspoken seem to be those who despise or reject God, or those who when you mention God carry their own definition of what a Christian is. It’s only when you begin conversations that you’re able to discern that the God you worship is not the god they claim as lord of their life. Since it is common for many who profess to be Christians not to read their Bible, they aren’t familiar with the Word. Many of these believers enjoy or prefer the “gentler” approach to preaching. They don’t want to spend a Sunday morning uncomfortable in the pews. In fact, most churches don’t even have pews anymore. It’s more casual to sit on a chair you’d find at any meeting. And it’s more pleasant to hear that God is our friend, looking out for us from above. He understands when we slip up, but He knows we don’t plan to continue sinning. Surely He knows that we aren’t hurting anyone but ourselves, so it’s not a big deal. We’re told he’s an awesome, patient God, so there’s not really anything to worry about. Unbelievers or casual “Christians” do believe that God knows the Gospel offends people. They think He understands that we don’t know how to share Jesus without discomfort or embarrassment. In fact, many believe it’s easier to hear prosperity preaching or blame our issues on enneagram numbers so we don’t have to face change. Or growth. Or put effort into developing a relationship with Christ that purposely matures daily. That way we won’t stand out as separate from others and we won’t offend anyone. God knows we don’t want to scare people off or act like we’re superior by judging them. God surely understands that believers shouldn’t mention current cultural topics like abortion, pre-marital sex, politics, assigned sex at birth, or pornography. By the time believers with this mindset are finished compromising self on so many issues, they may as well remove the identifying label of “Christian” from their identity. Just as unbelievers who have chosen to deny God, each believer must come to a time of humble brokenness that forces us to acknowledge our trust, faith, and hope are only found through Jesus, and confess that we are a product of grace and mercy extended by Christ alone. 1 Corinthians 3:11-17 says, “For no one can lay a foundation other than that which is laid, which is Jesus Christ. Now if anyone builds on the foundation with gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, straw— each one’s work will become manifest, for the Day will disclose it, because it will be revealed by fire, and the fire will test what sort of work each one has done. If the work that anyone has built on the foundation survives, he will receive a reward. If anyone’s work is burned up, he will suffer loss, though he himself will be saved, but only as through fire. Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him. For God’s temple is holy, and you are that temple.” How often do you think of representing God, of being a living representation of His holy temple? Each of us needs to be cognizant of exactly Who God is and what He requires from us as followers of Jesus. Have you noticed that many churches in our present day don’t mention hell often, but Jesus actually preached more about hell than heaven. Many modern churches focus more on a loving God who blesses with prosperity than a God who lovingly disciplines. Romans 1:18-32 says, “For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth. For what can be known about God is plain to them, because God has shown it to them. For his invisible attributes, namely, his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived, ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made. So they are without excuse. For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Claiming to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man and birds and animals and creeping things. Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen. For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error. And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done. They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, maliciousness. They are gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless. Though they know God’s righteous decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who practice them.” Just like unbelievers, Christians reap what we sow. God will release us to follow the acts of our choosing. When we turn away from the Lord and follow worldly desires instead of heeding the commands of our long-suffering Heavenly Father, God may turn us over to live as pagans to follow the depravity in our heart. This is how generations are lost. Choosing to live the easiest lifestyle is actually more difficult in the end. Thus, we must face the question: how many children and grandchildren are negatively affected or spiritually lost due to compromises in our life that became lifestyle? How many unbelievers will never be reached because they see no difference in the life of those of us professing to be believers? Believers must find that “sweet spot” of reliance on Christ and maturing faith that fuels a desire to be mentored by Christ. One that propels us to sit at His feet in humble adoration. Love is the greatest commandment after worshipping God. It is the only way the holy, agape love from Jesus will lead us to study and understand His Words and desires, even those unspoken pleas and beliefs in the Bible. If we know the Father and we are led by the Son, we should understand and exemplify His guidelines in our life. Our beliefs, words, actions, and reactions should mirror those of Christ, not portray personal feelings or emotions. We should be able to display Jesus, yet point others to Him. When we are questioned or ridiculed about our ideology, we must direct those unbelievers to Him. What we think doesn’t matter. What Jesus says to be truth affects each of us for eternity. The world may not like the fact that believers have a different set of moral codes, but true followers of Christ should be more concerned about reading and studying the Word than listening to the opinions of the world. We must seek to fully understand the Words in red and strive to humble ourselves before Him rather than seek human approval. People may reject the teachings and commands of God, but they may come to follow Him if what we live and speak comes from His Word as we faithfully and prayerfully seek His will and ways, then respond with genuine love and concern when leading others to His Word for direction. What are some of the ways unbelievers view Christ or Christians? 1. Some look at God as a personal “magic genie” who should grant every wish. When He doesn’t, they reject Him. 2. Some think Christians are mean and judgmental. Scripture is foreign to them or they interpret the Word differently because they do not spend time studying and understanding God. 3. Some see God as a crutch and they believe only weak or simple-minded people believe in God. What are some of the reasons people choose to reject Christ? 1. They were raised in a non-Christian home. 2. They may have been raised in a “Christian” home, but never saw biblical principles lived or they were never discipled. 3. They never made the faith of their parents fully their own. 4. They had a weak faith that was rocked or shattered by experiences. 5. They do not understand the Bible because they do not make time to study the Word and grow or mature their walk with Christ, so they begin to question God. 6. They don’t want to humble themselves and submit to God. 7. They don’t want to release sin. I believe God gives each of us the opportunity to experience personal relationship with Him. Because He allows us free will, we shouldn’t expect that everyone will follow Him. It is God’s desire that all know Him, but it is He who does the work in the heart and soul of each person. We should share the Good News of Christ and not be afraid to mature our personal walk with Jesus, but we should not be ashamed or hesitant to speak boldly about our walk with Him. We should be ready to give an account of the work He has done within us. One of the hardest things for me to understand is how those of us who profess to be believers and followers of Christ can differ so greatly on topics such as pre-marital sex, homosexuality, abortion, politics, assigned sex at birth, and other topics like these. Certainly, what we have lived and experienced comes into play, but must be released to focus on what God’s Word teaches and instructs. We are merely fallible humans and only God’s Word can be trusted to lead and instruct what is truth and what are products of a broken, sinful world. Some people claim that abortion isn’t addressed in the Bible, but if you know the character and teachings of our Holy God, we understand that He values life. The Creator of Heaven and Earth intimately planned and prepared each life. Scripture is very clear as to what God believes about abortion. But while our God of love and grace detests abortion, he still loves the person who has had one. Just like any other sin we serve, God is ready to forgive and move us from a place of shame, confusion, deceit, or fear into His mercy and truth. Since we all come from different backgrounds and histories, are at different steps of growth in Christ, live in a fallen, sinful world full of hardships and tragedies, coupled with the fact that not everyone believes in Christ as Savior and attempts to live within His guidelines, it is amazing to me that anyone gets along. But what saddens me is that knowing Christ, and knowing the changes He has and continues to make in me daily as I trust in and follow Him, it makes it difficult for me to understand why some are hesitant and even sometimes passionately hateful about learning more about Jesus and also what He would believe about the state of the world today. Is it because Christians have failed them? Even when we allow for godly grace and love to move us in relationships and communication with others, our sinful nature will sometimes get it wrong – or they will misunderstand. In our pursuit of Jesus, we must always remember the grace and mercy extended to us and live within the guidelines He established for us. Trust Him for the rest and remember that although we should attempt to treat others with love and respect, we cannot please everyone, especially those living with evilness through serving this world. Believers are to live in ways pleasing to God, glorifying Him, not simply live to please everyone in the world. There are times our viewpoints and attitudes will just not be in alignment. This is what causes the divide. This is how the devil flourishes. Also, when others do not believe or follow Christ, they will simply not understand the words we share or the beliefs we carry. 1 Corinthians 2:14 says, “The natural person does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are folly to him, and he is not able to understand them because they are spiritually discerned.” Because of the relationship we carry with Jesus, we must fix our eyes and heart on Him, knowing that when our deepest desire is to please Him, we can trust that He is in charge and will be with us. We can cling to Him and allow Him to carry us through what occurs, whether it be pain and suffering or promise and success. Because believers have the promises of God through His holy Word, we live with hope that is certain, not just a belief. Hope that carries us, comforts us, and connects us to an eternal future with Him. God’s holy Word beautifully and personally instructs each of us about how to live and withstand life in this broken, sinful world. Yet, the power of His living Word also intimately encourages and equips us at the same time. Romans 15:5-6 says, “May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.” As believers, we have this hope, but also many other fruits of the Spirit, yet because we are at different stages of maturation in our personal walk with Christ and interpretation of the Bible, we will not see eye to eye on all subjects. Imagine if we each allowed the grace of Christ to control our hearts, instead of judgement. With mind, heart, and mouth we should seek to allow Jesus to control our thoughts, motives, actions, reactions, and words so that they remain glorifying to Him and edifying for others. Matthew 5:13-16 says, “You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown out and trampled under people’s feet. You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” I believe one of the strongest benefits of believing is the hope found through Christ. How do we learn of this hope? Through reading and studying His precious words. More than ever, I crave reading God’s holy Word. Similar to how we become addicted to sugar when we have it often in our diet, the Word of God draws us in the more we read it. As our relationship grows and matures, our desire for God does as well. Romans 15:4 says, “For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.” My youngest daughter was brought home to be with us when she was nine years old. If you’ve listened to this podcast for long, you may already know some of her story. Now that she has been with us for several years, and has learned to speak English, it is very interesting to hear what she has to say about her time in China. One of the most touching statements she has made is that she never had hope while there. Now that she is living life with a family that loves her very much, and she has found Jesus as her Savior, she faces each day with hope for the present and for the future. Romans 15:13 says, “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.” The biggest source of hope for her is found through family and the living hope she has discovered by living in a loving Christian home. By reading God’s Word daily, participating in family devotional time, family prayer time, scripture writing, and conversations that bring Christ into every aspect of life, she has learned that she can hope for a future that is secure through Jesus. The Bible has been integral in allowing her to seek and find Jesus herself. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.” Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” • What are some of the benefits believers can exhibit to unbelievers as we show them the difference Christ makes in our lives? We can show them the difference He makes in the following areas: Relationship, Obedience, Faith, Love, Pardon from sin, Fruits of the Spirit, Fellowship with God, Eternal Life • What are some of the benefits they can discover as they commit to following Christ? They will see God work in areas that prove His faithfulness: Love, Relationship, Forgiveness, Faith, Wisdom, Trust, Respect, Grace Ephesians 3:14-20 says, “For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named, that according to the riches of His glory He may grant you to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” As we strive to live in ways that honor the Father and show grace to others, I believe Christians have strides to make. Only through the loving direction of our gracious Heavenly Father can we properly begin to exhibit His love. As we do so, it does not mean that we compromise the standards He has set for us, but we do live with freedom to love others, even those who rebel against God. We realize that each of us has sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. We are to be discerning, not compromising or going against what God calls for us, but understanding that not all know Him. When living in ignorance, one will not understand or come to accept what they perceive as judgment from a group of people living in ways they do not comprehend. The hardship of trying to live with grace in a world of unbelievers grows more challenging each day. But don’t let it silence your voice or stop you from reaching out to let someone hear stories of God at work in your life and what He can and wants to do for them. God does not issue warnings or instructions to stifle or control any of us. He desires that we walk in step with His commands because He carries no sin and can tolerate no sin. Following His wisdom allows us to stay in step with the Holy Spirit and His beautiful purposes for our life. Through grace and mercy, we have the privilege of seeing the heart of our Father more clearly, thus leaving us with a huge responsibility and purpose to make Him clearly known. So first, we must intentionally seek Him ourselves and strive to humbly know Him fully. Dear Heavenly Father, how far from You we are. How mighty is Your great love for us. Thank you for never leaving or forsaking us. Thank you for Your Son who allows us to be reconciled to You. Father, help us to desire to know You more each day. May the person we are today never be the person we reveal tomorrow because we are in pursuit of a deepening relationship with You moment by moment. Help us to reveal You to others in the ways You ordain and desire. Help us to clearly show You because we make the time to know You. Help our nation and our world to deeply desire and find You because believers are living in the fullness of Your truths and love for others to be attracted to You. Thank you for Your great book of instruction, the Bible. We could spend a lifetime pursuing You within this book and still not be close to knowing You fully. Fill in the gaps we miss and allow our spirit to shine You. We are lost without You. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast. You can find this and other transcripts online at terrihitt.com. Remember that both of my podcasts are available on the website. 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I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 136 - How to Thrive as a Christian in a World of Unbelievers Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #136 – How to Thrive as a Christian in a World of Unbelievers Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. An event that happened one evening about 15 years ago stands out in my mind like it was yesterday. Most of the women at this event were strangers to me, but since a mutual friend had invited each of us to her place to watch an important adoption movie, I felt very comfortable going. At the end of the film, several of us shared our thoughts about what was important to us and why. As soon as my beliefs were spoken, one woman exploded with angry words that shocked and silenced me. Amazed that my belief in God and the viewpoint I had on adoption based on my relationship with Jesus had offended her so harshly, I was unable to think of any response other than to concentrate on stopping the tears threatening to spill down my cheeks. Although my logical side guessed that she was not a believer and must have had something happen in her past that turned her angry against God or Christians, I couldn’t converse logically because I was so disappointed in my friend for not intervening and keeping the space we were in safe for all viewpoints and, of course, for the hurtful words thrown at me by this stranger. As soon as possible, I left the meeting and cried all the way home as I poured my thoughts out to God, and then on the phone with a close friend. I had never faced someone so violently opposed to hearing biblically-based views. It was only later than I realized I had assumed the woman was not a Christian. In reality, believers can look so much like the world that God is never seen. It used to be that professing Christianity was respected. Tolerated. Trusted. Now the most outspoken seem to be those who despise or reject God, or those who when you mention God carry their own definition of what a Christian is. It’s only when you begin conversations that you’re able to discern that the God you worship is not the god they claim as lord of their life. Since it is common for many who profess to be Christians not to read their Bible, they aren’t familiar with the Word. Many of these believers enjoy or prefer the “gentler” approach to preaching. They don’t want to spend a Sunday morning uncomfortable in the pews. In fact, most churches don’t even have pews anymore. It’s more casual to sit on a chair you’d find at any meeting. And it’s more pleasant to hear that God is our friend, looking out for us from above. He understands when we slip up, but He knows we don’t plan to continue sinning. Surely He knows that we aren’t hurting anyone but ourselves, so it’s not a big deal. We’re told he’s an awesome, patient God, so there’s not really anything to worry about. Unbelievers or casual “Christians” do believe that God knows the Gospel offends people. They think He understands that we don’t know how to share Jesus without discomfort or embarrassment. In fact, many believe it’s easier to hear prosperity preaching or blame our issues on enneagram numbers so we don’t have to face change. Or growth. Or put effort into developing a relationship with Christ that purposely matures daily. That way we won’t stand out as separate from others and we won’t offend anyone. God knows we don’t want to scare people off or act like we’re superior by judging them. God surely understands that believers shouldn’t mention current cultural topics like abortion, pre-marital sex, politics, assigned sex at birth, or pornography. By the time believers with this mindset are finished compromising self on so many issues, they may as well remove the identifying label of “Christian” from their identity. Just as unbelievers who have chosen to deny God, each believer must come to a time of humble brokenness that forces us to acknowledge our trust, faith, and hope are only found through Jesus, and confess that we are a product of grace and mercy extended by Christ alone. 1 Corinthians 3:11-17 says, “For no one can lay a foundation other than that which is laid, which is Jesus Christ. Now if anyone builds on the foundation with gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, straw— each one’s work will become manifest, for the Day will disclose it, because it will be revealed by fire, and the fire will test what sort of work each one has done. If the work that anyone has built on the foundation survives, he will receive a reward. If anyone’s work is burned up, he will suffer loss, though he himself will be saved, but only as through fire. Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you? If anyone destroys God’s temple, God will destroy him. For God’s temple is holy, and you are that temple.” How often do you think of representing God, of being a living representation of His holy temple? Each of us needs to be cognizant of exactly Who God is and what He requires from us as followers of Jesus. Have you noticed that many churches in our present day don’t mention hell often, but Jesus actually preached more about hell than heaven. Many modern churches focus more on a loving God who blesses with prosperity than a God who lovingly disciplines. Romans 1:18-32 says, “For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth. For what can be known about God is plain to them, because God has shown it to them. For his invisible attributes, namely, his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived, ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made. So they are without excuse. For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Claiming to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man and birds and animals and creeping things. Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen. For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error. And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done. They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, maliciousness. They are gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless. Though they know God’s righteous decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who practice them.” Just like unbelievers, Christians reap what we sow. God will release us to follow the acts of our choosing. When we turn away from the Lord and follow worldly desires instead of heeding the commands of our long-suffering Heavenly Father, God may turn us over to live as pagans to follow the depravity in our heart. This is how generations are lost. Choosing to live the easiest lifestyle is actually more difficult in the end. Thus, we must face the question: how many children and grandchildren are negatively affected or spiritually lost due to compromises in our life that became lifestyle? How many unbelievers will never be reached because they see no difference in the life of those of us professing to be believers? Believers must find that “sweet spot” of reliance on Christ and maturing faith that fuels a desire to be mentored by Christ. One that propels us to sit at His feet in humble adoration. Love is the greatest commandment after worshipping God. It is the only way the holy, agape love from Jesus will lead us to study and understand His Words and desires, even those unspoken pleas and beliefs in the Bible. If we know the Father and we are led by the Son, we should understand and exemplify His guidelines in our life. Our beliefs, words, actions, and reactions should mirror those of Christ, not portray personal feelings or emotions. We should be able to display Jesus, yet point others to Him. When we are questioned or ridiculed about our ideology, we must direct those unbelievers to Him. What we think doesn’t matter. What Jesus says to be truth affects each of us for eternity. The world may not like the fact that believers have a different set of moral codes, but true followers of Christ should be more concerned about reading and studying the Word than listening to the opinions of the world. We must seek to fully understand the Words in red and strive to humble ourselves before Him rather than seek human approval. People may reject the teachings and commands of God, but they may come to follow Him if what we live and speak comes from His Word as we faithfully and prayerfully seek His will and ways, then respond with genuine love and concern when leading others to His Word for direction. What are some of the ways unbelievers view Christ or Christians? 1. Some look at God as a personal “magic genie” who should grant every wish. When He doesn’t, they reject Him. 2. Some think Christians are mean and judgmental. Scripture is foreign to them or they interpret the Word differently because they do not spend time studying and understanding God. 3. Some see God as a crutch and they believe only weak or simple-minded people believe in God. What are some of the reasons people choose to reject Christ? 1. They were raised in a non-Christian home. 2. They may have been raised in a “Christian” home, but never saw biblical principles lived or they were never discipled. 3. They never made the faith of their parents fully their own. 4. They had a weak faith that was rocked or shattered by experiences. 5. They do not understand the Bible because they do not make time to study the Word and grow or mature their walk with Christ, so they begin to question God. 6. They don’t want to humble themselves and submit to God. 7. They don’t want to release sin. I believe God gives each of us the opportunity to experience personal relationship with Him. Because He allows us free will, we shouldn’t expect that everyone will follow Him. It is God’s desire that all know Him, but it is He who does the work in the heart and soul of each person. We should share the Good News of Christ and not be afraid to mature our personal walk with Jesus, but we should not be ashamed or hesitant to speak boldly about our walk with Him. We should be ready to give an account of the work He has done within us. One of the hardest things for me to understand is how those of us who profess to be believers and followers of Christ can differ so greatly on topics such as pre-marital sex, homosexuality, abortion, politics, assigned sex at birth, and other topics like these. Certainly, what we have lived and experienced comes into play, but must be released to focus on what God’s Word teaches and instructs. We are merely fallible humans and only God’s Word can be trusted to lead and instruct what is truth and what are products of a broken, sinful world. Some people claim that abortion isn’t addressed in the Bible, but if you know the character and teachings of our Holy God, we understand that He values life. The Creator of Heaven and Earth intimately planned and prepared each life. Scripture is very clear as to what God believes about abortion. But while our God of love and grace detests abortion, he still loves the person who has had one. Just like any other sin we serve, God is ready to forgive and move us from a place of shame, confusion, deceit, or fear into His mercy and truth. Since we all come from different backgrounds and histories, are at different steps of growth in Christ, live in a fallen, sinful world full of hardships and tragedies, coupled with the fact that not everyone believes in Christ as Savior and attempts to live within His guidelines, it is amazing to me that anyone gets along. But what saddens me is that knowing Christ, and knowing the changes He has and continues to make in me daily as I trust in and follow Him, it makes it difficult for me to understand why some are hesitant and even sometimes passionately hateful about learning more about Jesus and also what He would believe about the state of the world today. Is it because Christians have failed them? Even when we allow for godly grace and love to move us in relationships and communication with others, our sinful nature will sometimes get it wrong – or they will misunderstand. In our pursuit of Jesus, we must always remember the grace and mercy extended to us and live within the guidelines He established for us. Trust Him for the rest and remember that although we should attempt to treat others with love and respect, we cannot please everyone, especially those living with evilness through serving this world. Believers are to live in ways pleasing to God, glorifying Him, not simply live to please everyone in the world. There are times our viewpoints and attitudes will just not be in alignment. This is what causes the divide. This is how the devil flourishes. Also, when others do not believe or follow Christ, they will simply not understand the words we share or the beliefs we carry. 1 Corinthians 2:14 says, “The natural person does not accept the things of the Spirit of God, for they are folly to him, and he is not able to understand them because they are spiritually discerned.” Because of the relationship we carry with Jesus, we must fix our eyes and heart on Him, knowing that when our deepest desire is to please Him, we can trust that He is in charge and will be with us. We can cling to Him and allow Him to carry us through what occurs, whether it be pain and suffering or promise and success. Because believers have the promises of God through His holy Word, we live with hope that is certain, not just a belief. Hope that carries us, comforts us, and connects us to an eternal future with Him. God’s holy Word beautifully and personally instructs each of us about how to live and withstand life in this broken, sinful world. Yet, the power of His living Word also intimately encourages and equips us at the same time. Romans 15:5-6 says, “May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.” As believers, we have this hope, but also many other fruits of the Spirit, yet because we are at different stages of maturation in our personal walk with Christ and interpretation of the Bible, we will not see eye to eye on all subjects. Imagine if we each allowed the grace of Christ to control our hearts, instead of judgement. With mind, heart, and mouth we should seek to allow Jesus to control our thoughts, motives, actions, reactions, and words so that they remain glorifying to Him and edifying for others. Matthew 5:13-16 says, “You are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown out and trampled under people’s feet. You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” I believe one of the strongest benefits of believing is the hope found through Christ. How do we learn of this hope? Through reading and studying His precious words. More than ever, I crave reading God’s holy Word. Similar to how we become addicted to sugar when we have it often in our diet, the Word of God draws us in the more we read it. As our relationship grows and matures, our desire for God does as well. Romans 15:4 says, “For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.” My youngest daughter was brought home to be with us when she was nine years old. If you’ve listened to this podcast for long, you may already know some of her story. Now that she has been with us for several years, and has learned to speak English, it is very interesting to hear what she has to say about her time in China. One of the most touching statements she has made is that she never had hope while there. Now that she is living life with a family that loves her very much, and she has found Jesus as her Savior, she faces each day with hope for the present and for the future. Romans 15:13 says, “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.” The biggest source of hope for her is found through family and the living hope she has discovered by living in a loving Christian home. By reading God’s Word daily, participating in family devotional time, family prayer time, scripture writing, and conversations that bring Christ into every aspect of life, she has learned that she can hope for a future that is secure through Jesus. The Bible has been integral in allowing her to seek and find Jesus herself. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.” Hebrews 4:12 says, “For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” • What are some of the benefits believers can exhibit to unbelievers as we show them the difference Christ makes in our lives? We can show them the difference He makes in the following areas: Relationship, Obedience, Faith, Love, Pardon from sin, Fruits of the Spirit, Fellowship with God, Eternal Life • What are some of the benefits they can discover as they commit to following Christ? They will see God work in areas that prove His faithfulness: Love, Relationship, Forgiveness, Faith, Wisdom, Trust, Respect, Grace Ephesians 3:14-20 says, “For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named, that according to the riches of His glory He may grant you to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” As we strive to live in ways that honor the Father and show grace to others, I believe Christians have strides to make. Only through the loving direction of our gracious Heavenly Father can we properly begin to exhibit His love. As we do so, it does not mean that we compromise the standards He has set for us, but we do live with freedom to love others, even those who rebel against God. We realize that each of us has sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. We are to be discerning, not compromising or going against what God calls for us, but understanding that not all know Him. When living in ignorance, one will not understand or come to accept what they perceive as judgment from a group of people living in ways they do not comprehend. The hardship of trying to live with grace in a world of unbelievers grows more challenging each day. But don’t let it silence your voice or stop you from reaching out to let someone hear stories of God at work in your life and what He can and wants to do for them. God does not issue warnings or instructions to stifle or control any of us. He desires that we walk in step with His commands because He carries no sin and can tolerate no sin. Following His wisdom allows us to stay in step with the Holy Spirit and His beautiful purposes for our life. Through grace and mercy, we have the privilege of seeing the heart of our Father more clearly, thus leaving us with a huge responsibility and purpose to make Him clearly known. So first, we must intentionally seek Him ourselves and strive to humbly know Him fully. Dear Heavenly Father, how far from You we are. How mighty is Your great love for us. Thank you for never leaving or forsaking us. Thank you for Your Son who allows us to be reconciled to You. Father, help us to desire to know You more each day. May the person we are today never be the person we reveal tomorrow because we are in pursuit of a deepening relationship with You moment by moment. Help us to reveal You to others in the ways You ordain and desire. Help us to clearly show You because we make the time to know You. Help our nation and our world to deeply desire and find You because believers are living in the fullness of Your truths and love for others to be attracted to You. Thank you for Your great book of instruction, the Bible. We could spend a lifetime pursuing You within this book and still not be close to knowing You fully. Fill in the gaps we miss and allow our spirit to shine You. We are lost without You. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast. You can find this and other transcripts online at terrihitt.com. Remember that both of my podcasts are available on the website. You can also find them on Apple Podcast, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts are also found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. Will you take a moment to follow the shows and think of someone you can share the podcasts with and encourage them to follow and share, as well? Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. 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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #125 – Willing Steward Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. This week we reached the one year home mark with our Golden Retriever, Beau. Yesterday was National Dog Day, so it was fun to be able to create a Facebook post sharing how he has grown and changed, what his personality is like now, and how he acts in our family. Like a typical “only child,” Beau likes to be the center of everything we do and is strong enough to force his way in wherever he wants to be. At this point, I’ve lost count of how many toys he has accumulated over the last twelve months. In fact, he has chewed through more than I can remember, so even if I were to count what I can find in the house, he has actually received much more than I would know. Like my dog (and probably your pet), as well as most children, we adults fit into this category of having much more than we realize. Did you notice I said “have,” not own? That’s because just as we provide for Beau, all that is in our possession comes from God for specific purposes as He allows each of us free will to choose what type of steward we will be. 1 Peter 4:10-11 says, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God. If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen.” The definition of the word, “steward” that we find in the dictionary or as it is often defined by society is, “one who is responsible to oversee and protect something considered worth caring for and preserving.” As believers, we understand that the definition of Christian stewardship is different, and would be defined as, “using gifts, talents, resources, possessions, wealth, time, and mindset for the service, honor, and glory of God.” All comes from God and He calls us to steward all for Him. 1 Chronicles 29:14 says, “But who am I, and who are my people, that we should be able to give as generously as this? Everything comes from you, and we have given you only what comes from your hand.” I didn’t always understand this. For example, when I was a younger follower of Christ, I can remember learning in Scripture that I was supposed to tithe. I couldn’t see any way that we could do so. Our finances were so tight that I knew there was no way we would survive tithing. Yet, just as Scripture tells us, God is not mocked. It wasn’t until we finally began offering our finances, as well as self, that we saw God truly shine His glory in ways we never imagined. 2 Corinthians 9:6-8 says, “Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work. “ Honestly, I use this principle of stewardship because it is important, but I don’t want anyone to think that I’m saying when we offer our money to God He will reward us with more money. God, in His sovereignty gives us exactly what we need to grow and mature us in our relationship with Him. Although at the time we did see our finances stretch and multiply in ways we never could have planned or imagined, we have never been blessed with immense financial wealth, and although we have been abundantly provided for by the Lord, He has chosen to bless us more deeply in emotional, spiritual, mental, and relational ways that have been perfect for us. God has also humbled us in many ways over the years, and for that, I am blessed and full of gratitude. Without all we have faced, we would not be the individuals or family we have become. I am thankful and desire to be closer to Christ in every way tomorrow, and more so the next day, and on and on. Matthew 6:33-34 says, “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” It also took me a while as a new Christian to really grasp the fact that all we have has been provided by the Lord. I often thanked God for what we had been given, and trusted that when we didn’t receive some things we thought we needed, He was looking over us and going before us in every way. Then, I finally learned through tough experiences that it’s one thing to have head knowledge that comes from reading God’s word, yet the Word became life-altering and so real when I deeply grasped and took hold of what it teaches and promises. When I applied it to my life, allowing God’s truths to seep into and overflow my heart, I truly acknowledged the sovereignty of God in a way I hadn’t before. His holiness, His love, was seen with a new heart and eyes. I was better able to step out in faith, humbly bow to His authority, and obey His calls and commands. Hebrews 11:6 says, “And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him.” God wants our stewardship offering to reflect our faith and trust in Him. I felt free when we humbly began tithing on that day so many years ago. How blessed I felt to not worry and just do as God asked! We stepped out, not in blind faith, but through confidence supported by God’s words and promises. Our Heavenly Father has never let us down or left us without what we needed, plus more. Again, I’m not speaking of only tithing finances or of prosperity preaching, that falsely teaches if you give abundantly, God will bless your finances with great wealth. God chooses to bless obedience in multiple creative ways that are perfectly suited for each individual and the plans He has for us. Our freedom comes through obedience to Him. Can you think of ways you can be an excellent steward for what God has allowed you to have? It could be financial, or through time or talents, gifts, or resources. Even this podcast is a way I steward and present what God has given to me. The Live With Eternal Perspective podcast and the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast are simply acts of obedience for me and ways I steward time, talents, and interests for our gracious Heavenly Father. Have you wondered just what God requires from you in order to be a good steward? If we look in the Bible, we see several verses that lead us to better understand God’s heart for Christian stewardship. One, however, sticks out to me. God wants us to focus on Him. Our life is not to be founded upon this world, but the foundation of Christ. Romans 14:12 says, “So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God.” Viewing life through an eternal lens enables you to focus on what God considers of value. Remember that all we have will one day disappear. Nothing material will go with us when we leave this world to stand before God. We will face the Creator of the Universe and all mankind without what we accumulated on earth, but with what we learned of Him, used for Him, and did for Him. 1 Corinthians 4:2 says, “Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful.” God has given each of us something, and often, many things that can be used for His good and glory. Nothing we own is simply for us to hide away or use for only ourselves. Even personal experiences shape and stretch us, and through an eternal perspective viewpoint, can be used to affect the lives of others for or against God. Christians are called to joyfully and with honest, loving hearts, give to the Lord. Listen to this passage from 1 Chronicles 29:10-18 which says, “David praised the LORD in the presence of the whole assembly, saying, “Praise be to you, LORD, the God of our father Israel, from everlasting to everlasting. Yours, LORD, is the greatness and the power and the glory and the majesty and the splendor, for everything in heaven and earth is Yours. Yours, LORD, is the kingdom; You are exalted as head over all. Wealth and honor come from You; You are the ruler of all things. In Your hands are strength and power to exalt and give strength to all. Now, our God, we give You thanks, and praise Your glorious name. “But who am I, and who are my people, that we should be able to give as generously as this? Everything comes from You, and we have given you only what comes from Your hand. We are foreigners and strangers in Your sight, as were all our ancestors. Our days on earth are like a shadow, without hope. LORD our God, all this abundance that we have provided for building You a temple for Your Holy Name comes from Your hand, and all of it belongs to You. I know, my God, that You test the heart and are pleased with integrity. All these things I have given willingly and with honest intent. And now I have seen with joy how willingly Your people who are here have given to You. LORD, the God of our fathers Abraham, Isaac and Israel, keep these desires and thoughts in the hearts of Your people forever, and keep their hearts loyal to You. ” David’s prayer to God began with humble praise and thanksgiving. He knew that everything he owned had come from God. Just like us, nothing offered back to God isn’t already His or given to us by Him. David was able to willingly surrender back to God because he understood that God was the Owner, the Originator, and the Operator of the universe. David clearly understood that when we choose to follow God, it is a heart matter, not just a mind matter. 1 Peter 4:10 says, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” Once we choose to be a willing steward, we develop into a trustworthy steward, then mature to become a faithful steward. Through the grace, love, direction, and discernment of our gracious Heavenly Father, we can assess where we are now, where He desires us to go next, and how He will enable us to get there. Dear Heavenly Father, Your goodness is overwhelming. Your patience, kindness, and love for us is unending and undeserved. Thank you for Your holy presence in our lives. As we humbly submit to You, Father, please enable us to examine our heart through Your standards, to live with Your expectations and guidelines, and to sacrifice and steward where and as You call. May we see changes within us from day to day and be filled with joy as we allow You to carry and equip us for the purposes You designed us for. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. Just click on “podcasts” and type in the topic or title you wish to hear about in the search bar at the top of the page or wherever you listen to podcasts I also want to remind you that the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, but is also a part of the Spark Media Network, and now the podcast may also be found on the Edifi app, where you can find thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed this podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? For those who have, I thank you so very much! If you haven’t, would you please consider doing so? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. If you believe the content you hear should be heard so that more people can begin to deepen their walk with Jesus and live with eyes set on eternity, would you please write a review and rate the podcast for me? I also want to ask if you have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen to this new podcast, especially if you are raising children or influencing grandchildren. Please follow and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 125 - Willing Steward Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #125 – Willing Steward Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. This week we reached the one year home mark with our Golden Retriever, Beau. Yesterday was National Dog Day, so it was fun to be able to create a Facebook post sharing how he has grown and changed, what his personality is like now, and how he acts in our family. Like a typical “only child,” Beau likes to be the center of everything we do and is strong enough to force his way in wherever he wants to be. At this point, I’ve lost count of how many toys he has accumulated over the last twelve months. In fact, he has chewed through more than I can remember, so even if I were to count what I can find in the house, he has actually received much more than I would know. Like my dog (and probably your pet), as well as most children, we adults fit into this category of having much more than we realize. Did you notice I said “have,” not own? That’s because just as we provide for Beau, all that is in our possession comes from God for specific purposes as He allows each of us free will to choose what type of steward we will be. 1 Peter 4:10-11 says, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God. If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen.” The definition of the word, “steward” that we find in the dictionary or as it is often defined by society is, “one who is responsible to oversee and protect something considered worth caring for and preserving.” As believers, we understand that the definition of Christian stewardship is different, and would be defined as, “using gifts, talents, resources, possessions, wealth, time, and mindset for the service, honor, and glory of God.” All comes from God and He calls us to steward all for Him. 1 Chronicles 29:14 says, “But who am I, and who are my people, that we should be able to give as generously as this? Everything comes from you, and we have given you only what comes from your hand.” I didn’t always understand this. For example, when I was a younger follower of Christ, I can remember learning in Scripture that I was supposed to tithe. I couldn’t see any way that we could do so. Our finances were so tight that I knew there was no way we would survive tithing. Yet, just as Scripture tells us, God is not mocked. It wasn’t until we finally began offering our finances, as well as self, that we saw God truly shine His glory in ways we never imagined. 2 Corinthians 9:6-8 says, “Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work. “ Honestly, I use this principle of stewardship because it is important, but I don’t want anyone to think that I’m saying when we offer our money to God He will reward us with more money. God, in His sovereignty gives us exactly what we need to grow and mature us in our relationship with Him. Although at the time we did see our finances stretch and multiply in ways we never could have planned or imagined, we have never been blessed with immense financial wealth, and although we have been abundantly provided for by the Lord, He has chosen to bless us more deeply in emotional, spiritual, mental, and relational ways that have been perfect for us. God has also humbled us in many ways over the years, and for that, I am blessed and full of gratitude. Without all we have faced, we would not be the individuals or family we have become. I am thankful and desire to be closer to Christ in every way tomorrow, and more so the next day, and on and on. Matthew 6:33-34 says, “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” It also took me a while as a new Christian to really grasp the fact that all we have has been provided by the Lord. I often thanked God for what we had been given, and trusted that when we didn’t receive some things we thought we needed, He was looking over us and going before us in every way. Then, I finally learned through tough experiences that it’s one thing to have head knowledge that comes from reading God’s word, yet the Word became life-altering and so real when I deeply grasped and took hold of what it teaches and promises. When I applied it to my life, allowing God’s truths to seep into and overflow my heart, I truly acknowledged the sovereignty of God in a way I hadn’t before. His holiness, His love, was seen with a new heart and eyes. I was better able to step out in faith, humbly bow to His authority, and obey His calls and commands. Hebrews 11:6 says, “And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to Him must believe that He exists and that He rewards those who earnestly seek Him.” God wants our stewardship offering to reflect our faith and trust in Him. I felt free when we humbly began tithing on that day so many years ago. How blessed I felt to not worry and just do as God asked! We stepped out, not in blind faith, but through confidence supported by God’s words and promises. Our Heavenly Father has never let us down or left us without what we needed, plus more. Again, I’m not speaking of only tithing finances or of prosperity preaching, that falsely teaches if you give abundantly, God will bless your finances with great wealth. God chooses to bless obedience in multiple creative ways that are perfectly suited for each individual and the plans He has for us. Our freedom comes through obedience to Him. Can you think of ways you can be an excellent steward for what God has allowed you to have? It could be financial, or through time or talents, gifts, or resources. Even this podcast is a way I steward and present what God has given to me. The Live With Eternal Perspective podcast and the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast are simply acts of obedience for me and ways I steward time, talents, and interests for our gracious Heavenly Father. Have you wondered just what God requires from you in order to be a good steward? If we look in the Bible, we see several verses that lead us to better understand God’s heart for Christian stewardship. One, however, sticks out to me. God wants us to focus on Him. Our life is not to be founded upon this world, but the foundation of Christ. Romans 14:12 says, “So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God.” Viewing life through an eternal lens enables you to focus on what God considers of value. Remember that all we have will one day disappear. Nothing material will go with us when we leave this world to stand before God. We will face the Creator of the Universe and all mankind without what we accumulated on earth, but with what we learned of Him, used for Him, and did for Him. 1 Corinthians 4:2 says, “Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful.” God has given each of us something, and often, many things that can be used for His good and glory. Nothing we own is simply for us to hide away or use for only ourselves. Even personal experiences shape and stretch us, and through an eternal perspective viewpoint, can be used to affect the lives of others for or against God. Christians are called to joyfully and with honest, loving hearts, give to the Lord. Listen to this passage from 1 Chronicles 29:10-18 which says, “David praised the LORD in the presence of the whole assembly, saying, “Praise be to you, LORD, the God of our father Israel, from everlasting to everlasting. Yours, LORD, is the greatness and the power and the glory and the majesty and the splendor, for everything in heaven and earth is Yours. Yours, LORD, is the kingdom; You are exalted as head over all. Wealth and honor come from You; You are the ruler of all things. In Your hands are strength and power to exalt and give strength to all. Now, our God, we give You thanks, and praise Your glorious name. “But who am I, and who are my people, that we should be able to give as generously as this? Everything comes from You, and we have given you only what comes from Your hand. We are foreigners and strangers in Your sight, as were all our ancestors. Our days on earth are like a shadow, without hope. LORD our God, all this abundance that we have provided for building You a temple for Your Holy Name comes from Your hand, and all of it belongs to You. I know, my God, that You test the heart and are pleased with integrity. All these things I have given willingly and with honest intent. And now I have seen with joy how willingly Your people who are here have given to You. LORD, the God of our fathers Abraham, Isaac and Israel, keep these desires and thoughts in the hearts of Your people forever, and keep their hearts loyal to You. ” David’s prayer to God began with humble praise and thanksgiving. He knew that everything he owned had come from God. Just like us, nothing offered back to God isn’t already His or given to us by Him. David was able to willingly surrender back to God because he understood that God was the Owner, the Originator, and the Operator of the universe. David clearly understood that when we choose to follow God, it is a heart matter, not just a mind matter. 1 Peter 4:10 says, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” Once we choose to be a willing steward, we develop into a trustworthy steward, then mature to become a faithful steward. Through the grace, love, direction, and discernment of our gracious Heavenly Father, we can assess where we are now, where He desires us to go next, and how He will enable us to get there. Dear Heavenly Father, Your goodness is overwhelming. Your patience, kindness, and love for us is unending and undeserved. Thank you for Your holy presence in our lives. As we humbly submit to You, Father, please enable us to examine our heart through Your standards, to live with Your expectations and guidelines, and to sacrifice and steward where and as You call. 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Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #005 - Handling Hardships Thank you for entrusting and investing part of your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. At the time I am working on this podcast, several of my friends are experiencing hardships in their life. One will celebrate her first Christmas without her beloved husband; one celebrates her first Christmas without a beloved son; one just lost two family members and has another in the hospital. Others have children in the hospital. Many people I know are fighting battles in this world. Adversity has no schedule. Trials don’t respect holidays, busy lives, or people. Death and affliction sometimes seem to happen randomly, but as believers, we know that God is never surprised. Everything that happens to believers has already been sifted through His sovereign hands. He is with us through every storm, waiting to carry us through. Ten years ago, I lost my oldest daughter, Jaime. My family entered a season of what felt like destruction. The years between 2009 and 2015 were brutal to live through. After walking through the loss of my child, attention had to be shifted to my parents. My mother suffered from Alzheimer’s and my father, sister, and I made the very difficult decision to move her to a memory care unit. Multiple reasons prompted us to make that decision, but we certainly did not want her to feel abandoned or forgotten. My father, my sister, my daughter, Marissa (who was around five years old at the time), and I visited her daily. Marissa was at the facility so much that they allowed her to visit random residents in their rooms. It cheered each one of them, as well as the staff, to see her smiling face and hear the bubbly voice of a young child. Marissa also helped with crafts and the physical activity program in my mother’s unit. Although being around so much illness was often difficult at the time, in hindsight, God allowed the experiences to soften the heart of my daughter toward the elderly. Even now, she feels comfortable around older adults and enjoys conversing with them. After my mother had been living in the memory care facility for a while, my father began having significant symptoms in 2012 that finally prompted him to see a doctor. In January of 2013, he was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. At the time, they gave him one week to a year to live. While we had been seeing my mother every day and devoting large amounts of time to be with her and help with major decisions in her care, Marissa and I now had to divide my mother’s time and share it with my father. He got so sick that we had to lessen the time we spent with my mother considerably, although I still kept in close contact with her caregivers, and my sister was still visiting and helping with her care her as often as she could. Dad simply needed so much at that time. We took him to doctor appointments, helped with his medicine, finances, errands, and general understanding of his health. After he was rushed to the hospital in June, the doctors knew he would not be able to return home. When he regained enough strength by the end of the week to be released, the generous people at the facility my mother lived in tried to find him a room near her. He was moved there briefly, but since his insurance did not cover the facility, we had to find an alternative. Although he was stronger, he was still weak and needed special care, so his deepest wish to return home and drive his little truck around town would not come true. For several reasons, my father was not able to live with my sister or myself. The social worker at my mother’s facility found a nursing home near my father’s house that had an opening and he was moved there within the week. We now had our time split between two parents with high needs, who lived in two separate facilities. Spending almost every day battling emergencies with my father was extremely taxing. On top of that, managing cleaning out his house to donate and sell items to prepare his home for market, and helping with my managing my mother’s care and making time to see her, was exhausting and emotionally difficult. I was burdened by the fact that my young daughter was definitely not getting the time and attention she was accustomed to, or deserved. I was juggling too many things, as was my sister, and the needs of my precious daughter were being ignored. I continually prayed for God to sustain us through this storm. I remember one morning while Marissa was still sleeping, I was putting my makeup on when I received a phone call from the woman I had hired to hold an estate sale at my parent’s home. One of the employees she hired had sold their refrigerator the day before, but had not turned the water off when they pulled out the refrigerator. The house was flooded. Additional bad news came with that call as well, and when it was over, I was crushed. I knew God was with us. I had seen His hand working in so many precious ways through everything during the last four years, and I had tried through it all to remain optimistic and to notice and be thankful for the ways God was working, but in that moment, all I felt was defeat. I went to my closet, lay on the floor inside, and shut the door in case Marissa awakened. Then I began to cry. Hard. In defeat, I threw my feelings out to God. Then, my emotions surfaced; they were my subconscious reactions to everything that had been happening with my parents and family. I knew He already understood and was caring for all of my concerns, but I had to talk to Him. So much was intertwined in caring for both parents, and all the hurts and losses over the years had roots that were being exposed as the soil of my parent’s capabilities eroded. For example, as challenging as it was caring for my father, the blessing of loving him in his final days brought him to me in a new way. I knew God understood and I poured everything out in a jumble of words that only He could piece together into the masterpiece He would create through our distress. My father always told me how much he loved me as I grew up, but his actions didn’t always match his words. I had grown up wanting private time with him, but never got it. I longed for daddy/daughter dates, or even just his undivided attention without him racing off. Through caring for him, I found he was at my mercy. He had to spend time with me. He was so weak and was confined to a wheelchair, so I would take him on “dates” to the physical therapy room to find activities we could do together. Our options were limited, but the act of telling him we were on a date and moving him to a new location was therapy for my soul. One of my favorite activities was placing a bedside table between us and rolling a small ball across the top for him to bat back to me. Years of hurt and sorrow washed from my spirit each time we played. I was reminded of the numerous pleas I had cried to God for my earthly father during most of my life. My Heavenly Father was now answering in small, unexpected, but perfect ways tailored to my specific needs. 1 Peter 5:7 promises, “Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” I wondered if my father had always wanted more time together, too, but because of addiction and shame, had not been able to break the cycle of his life and make the changes he desired. I cherished the deeper talks we began having when he was sick and held them in my heart as I crawled into bed with my daddy on his weakest days, holding him close. I had become the parent, subtly interceding where I felt prompted by God. It enabled any residue of hurt to wash away just as Jesus had washed the feet of His disciples. I now understood sacrifice in a different way that I hoped began to resemble Jesus. Only God knows the purpose of suffering, but I believe our Heavenly Father loves each of His children and intertwines life scenarios for the good of all involved and for His eternal glory. I knew with a certainty that God was in control, that He would provide and care for my parents, as well as my family, but the process was still so hard! Dealing with so much at once, especially with both parents, took a lot of emotional, mental, physical, financial, and spiritual investment. I had tried to be very specific about releasing daily burdens to God and letting Him deal with all that was happening. I knew my relationship was strong, yet there were subtle ways I could see Satan creeping in to attempt to distract me. 1 Peter 5:8 warns us, “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experienced by your brotherhood in the world. But may the God of all grace, who called us to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you.” I had to purposely look for ways God was working in order to stretch my faith and allow it to penetrate my character more deeply. It was an absolutely intentional mindset, but if I hadn’t forced it, my family would have been devastated by the intense needs and demands pressed on us. While I was surrounded by pain, brokenness, and trials, my Savior called for me to release them to Him. As I placed them in His capable hands, intimate grains of hope and joy blossomed inside me and brought forth gratitude, not for the destruction in this world, but for the way He lifts us above earthly vision and draws us nearer to His eternal splendor. He is enough for our every need. Despite many ways that hardship was presented almost daily, God carried me as I clung to His word, mindful of His past faithfulness to me, especially during the loss of my oldest daughter. That combination enabled me to keep myself securely focused on Him. I didn’t want to underestimate the devil, but my relationship with Christ promised me that He was greater than Satan and already had the final victory. I didn’t know how long this battle would last, but I had to remain focused on and committed to the only One who could give me the endurance I would need. I certainly couldn’t find it in my own strength. I’m a very strong and logical person, but I can promise you that my family and I would not have made it through all that happened without God. I’m so thankful I already knew and trusted in Him. I’m also incredibly grateful that He used all of it to draw me nearer to Him and that He has been able to redeem and use all the bad residue from the hardships for His glory. Trials like the ones we experience through challenging times can make us doubt God. The question most people wonder is, “Why does He allow suffering?” My first response to that is always the beautiful reminder that Jesus cared enough to warn about persecution. In John 16:33b, Jesus says, “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world,” and in Romans 5:3-4, Paul speaks words meant to encourage and teach. “We also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Suffering should be expected in this fallen world. Sometimes, it is the catalyst that causes a person to finally release their life to Christ. Other times, it causes a believer to begin viewing affliction with the mindset of Christ. Suffering can purify our mind and heart, causing us to bow to God’s power and sovereignty. At times, however, it may feel as though we are being judged or punished when things are hard and afflictions continue. But if as a believer, we are living in upright ways, and are intentionally deepening our relationship with God, we can be assured that our suffering is a normal part of life and that it is within His will. That means God will use it for His purposes and glory, and not to harm or destroy us. The Bible is filled with examples of men and women who also lived in ways that God approved and disapproved of, and they also experienced distress and pain. Other times, God may allow affliction in our life as instruction or discipline. There are times that God permits it to prove our character and belief, or for the purpose of using what we endured to encourage or inspire others to continue looking to the Lord in their time of need. Other times, God simply allows it to teach us what we could not learn in any other way. Often times, it is for the purpose of erasing or preventing pride in our lives. I know in my life, I have lived through many lessons designed to craft patience. God also allows trials and hardship to teach us to obey Him. How astounding is it that God can use all of the various ways I mentioned (and I am sure even more) and tailor them so individually to each person and situation, yet also intertwine them with others, to change our focus and our future? Through scripture and life experience as believers, we know that God allows things to happen in a believer’s life for many reasons. Sometimes the only way we can grow in a particular area is because of – or by living through - the exact situation that occurred. Whether we endured it, helped a loved one through it, or were a witness to someone else fighting the battle, God knows exactly what to use. Isaiah 48:10 is telling, “See, I have refined you, though not as silver; I have tested you in the furnace of affliction.” Sometimes hardships need to knock us to our knees, and keep us there, as we learn to rely on and completely abide in Him. As believers, we must always remember that we are meant for more. In order to become more like Jesus, we must allow Him to refine us. Without the purification our souls need, our character will never reflect Christ to a world in need. Change can be painful. It’s not easy, it’s never convenient, and we aren’t able to see beyond our present discomfort to the glorious plan God has created and allowed us to be a part of. May we beg God to prevent us from falling into or remaining in a lukewarm relationship with Him, causing Him to vomit us from His mouth. May the trials we endure in our lives force us into His arms and deepen our faith roots in robust soil enriched with His plan for growth and nutrition. 1 Peter 2:21reminds us, “For to this you were called, because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that you should follow His steps.” Jesus is our example in every way. He told us there would be suffering and He modeled how to endure it. Jesus allowed God to direct His steps, His behavior, and His attitude, and His gratitude in every circumstance. This world is not our final destination. As we shift our minds to view every moment of life through an eternal lens, may we remember that we are being prepared for so much more and cling to the perfect example of Christ. Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 005 Handling Hardships Listen to Episode Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #005 - Handling Hardships Thank you for entrusting and investing part of your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. At the time I am working on this podcast, several of my friends are experiencing hardships in their life. One will celebrate her first Christmas without her beloved husband; one celebrates her first Christmas without a beloved son; one just lost two family members and has another in the hospital. Others have children in the hospital. Many people I know are fighting battles in this world. Adversity has no schedule. Trials don’t respect holidays, busy lives, or people. Death and affliction sometimes seem to happen randomly, but as believers, we know that God is never surprised. Everything that happens to believers has already been sifted through His sovereign hands. He is with us through every storm, waiting to carry us through. Ten years ago, I lost my oldest daughter, Jaime. My family entered a season of what felt like destruction. The years between 2009 and 2015 were brutal to live through. After walking through the loss of my child, attention had to be shifted to my parents. My mother suffered from Alzheimer’s and my father, sister, and I made the very difficult decision to move her to a memory care unit. Multiple reasons prompted us to make that decision, but we certainly did not want her to feel abandoned or forgotten. My father, my sister, my daughter, Marissa (who was around five years old at the time), and I visited her daily. Marissa was at the facility so much that they allowed her to visit random residents in their rooms. It cheered each one of them, as well as the staff, to see her smiling face and hear the bubbly voice of a young child. Marissa also helped with crafts and the physical activity program in my mother’s unit. Although being around so much illness was often difficult at the time, in hindsight, God allowed the experiences to soften the heart of my daughter toward the elderly. Even now, she feels comfortable around older adults and enjoys conversing with them. After my mother had been living in the memory care facility for a while, my father began having significant symptoms in 2012 that finally prompted him to see a doctor. In January of 2013, he was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. At the time, they gave him one week to a year to live. While we had been seeing my mother every day and devoting large amounts of time to be with her and help with major decisions in her care, Marissa and I now had to divide my mother’s time and share it with my father. He got so sick that we had to lessen the time we spent with my mother considerably, although I still kept in close contact with her caregivers, and my sister was still visiting and helping with her care her as often as she could. Dad simply needed so much at that time. We took him to doctor appointments, helped with his medicine, finances, errands, and general understanding of his health. After he was rushed to the hospital in June, the doctors knew he would not be able to return home. When he regained enough strength by the end of the week to be released, the generous people at the facility my mother lived in tried to find him a room near her. He was moved there briefly, but since his insurance did not cover the facility, we had to find an alternative. Although he was stronger, he was still weak and needed special care, so his deepest wish to return home and drive his little truck around town would not come true. For several reasons, my father was not able to live with my sister or myself. The social worker at my mother’s facility found a nursing home near my father’s house that had an opening and he was moved there within the week. We now had our time split between two parents with high needs, who lived in two separate facilities. Spending almost every day battling emergencies with my father was extremely taxing. On top of that, managing cleaning out his house to donate and sell items to prepare his home for market, and helping with my managing my mother’s care and making time to see her, was exhausting and emotionally difficult. I was burdened by the fact that my young daughter was definitely not getting the time and attention she was accustomed to, or deserved. I was juggling too many things, as was my sister, and the needs of my precious daughter were being ignored. I continually prayed for God to sustain us through this storm. I remember one morning while Marissa was still sleeping, I was putting my makeup on when I received a phone call from the woman I had hired to hold an estate sale at my parent’s home. One of the employees she hired had sold their refrigerator the day before, but had not turned the water off when they pulled out the refrigerator. The house was flooded. Additional bad news came with that call as well, and when it was over, I was crushed. I knew God was with us. I had seen His hand working in so many precious ways through everything during the last four years, and I had tried through it all to remain optimistic and to notice and be thankful for the ways God was working, but in that moment, all I felt was defeat. I went to my closet, lay on the floor inside, and shut the door in case Marissa awakened. Then I began to cry. Hard. In defeat, I threw my feelings out to God. Then, my emotions surfaced; they were my subconscious reactions to everything that had been happening with my parents and family. I knew He already understood and was caring for all of my concerns, but I had to talk to Him. So much was intertwined in caring for both parents, and all the hurts and losses over the years had roots that were being exposed as the soil of my parent’s capabilities eroded. For example, as challenging as it was caring for my father, the blessing of loving him in his final days brought him to me in a new way. I knew God understood and I poured everything out in a jumble of words that only He could piece together into the masterpiece He would create through our distress. My father always told me how much he loved me as I grew up, but his actions didn’t always match his words. I had grown up wanting private time with him, but never got it. I longed for daddy/daughter dates, or even just his undivided attention without him racing off. Through caring for him, I found he was at my mercy. He had to spend time with me. He was so weak and was confined to a wheelchair, so I would take him on “dates” to the physical therapy room to find activities we could do together. Our options were limited, but the act of telling him we were on a date and moving him to a new location was therapy for my soul. One of my favorite activities was placing a bedside table between us and rolling a small ball across the top for him to bat back to me. Years of hurt and sorrow washed from my spirit each time we played. I was reminded of the numerous pleas I had cried to God for my earthly father during most of my life. My Heavenly Father was now answering in small, unexpected, but perfect ways tailored to my specific needs. 1 Peter 5:7 promises, “Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” I wondered if my father had always wanted more time together, too, but because of addiction and shame, had not been able to break the cycle of his life and make the changes he desired. I cherished the deeper talks we began having when he was sick and held them in my heart as I crawled into bed with my daddy on his weakest days, holding him close. I had become the parent, subtly interceding where I felt prompted by God. It enabled any residue of hurt to wash away just as Jesus had washed the feet of His disciples. I now understood sacrifice in a different way that I hoped began to resemble Jesus. Only God knows the purpose of suffering, but I believe our Heavenly Father loves each of His children and intertwines life scenarios for the good of all involved and for His eternal glory. I knew with a certainty that God was in control, that He would provide and care for my parents, as well as my family, but the process was still so hard! Dealing with so much at once, especially with both parents, took a lot of emotional, mental, physical, financial, and spiritual investment. I had tried to be very specific about releasing daily burdens to God and letting Him deal with all that was happening. I knew my relationship was strong, yet there were subtle ways I could see Satan creeping in to attempt to distract me. 1 Peter 5:8 warns us, “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experienced by your brotherhood in the world. But may the God of all grace, who called us to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you.” I had to purposely look for ways God was working in order to stretch my faith and allow it to penetrate my character more deeply. It was an absolutely intentional mindset, but if I hadn’t forced it, my family would have been devastated by the intense needs and demands pressed on us. While I was surrounded by pain, brokenness, and trials, my Savior called for me to release them to Him. As I placed them in His capable hands, intimate grains of hope and joy blossomed inside me and brought forth gratitude, not for the destruction in this world, but for the way He lifts us above earthly vision and draws us nearer to His eternal splendor. He is enough for our every need. Despite many ways that hardship was presented almost daily, God carried me as I clung to His word, mindful of His past faithfulness to me, especially during the loss of my oldest daughter. That combination enabled me to keep myself securely focused on Him. I didn’t want to underestimate the devil, but my relationship with Christ promised me that He was greater than Satan and already had the final victory. I didn’t know how long this battle would last, but I had to remain focused on and committed to the only One who could give me the endurance I would need. I certainly couldn’t find it in my own strength. I’m a very strong and logical person, but I can promise you that my family and I would not have made it through all that happened without God. I’m so thankful I already knew and trusted in Him. I’m also incredibly grateful that He used all of it to draw me nearer to Him and that He has been able to redeem and use all the bad residue from the hardships for His glory. Trials like the ones we experience through challenging times can make us doubt God. The question most people wonder is, “Why does He allow suffering?” My first response to that is always the beautiful reminder that Jesus cared enough to warn about persecution. In John 16:33b, Jesus says, “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world,” and in Romans 5:3-4, Paul speaks words meant to encourage and teach. “We also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Suffering should be expected in this fallen world. Sometimes, it is the catalyst that causes a person to finally release their life to Christ. Other times, it causes a believer to begin viewing affliction with the mindset of Christ. Suffering can purify our mind and heart, causing us to bow to God’s power and sovereignty. At times, however, it may feel as though we are being judged or punished when things are hard and afflictions continue. But if as a believer, we are living in upright ways, and are intentionally deepening our relationship with God, we can be assured that our suffering is a normal part of life and that it is within His will. That means God will use it for His purposes and glory, and not to harm or destroy us. The Bible is filled with examples of men and women who also lived in ways that God approved and disapproved of, and they also experienced distress and pain. Other times, God may allow affliction in our life as instruction or discipline. There are times that God permits it to prove our character and belief, or for the purpose of using what we endured to encourage or inspire others to continue looking to the Lord in their time of need. Other times, God simply allows it to teach us what we could not learn in any other way. Often times, it is for the purpose of erasing or preventing pride in our lives. I know in my life, I have lived through many lessons designed to craft patience. God also allows trials and hardship to teach us to obey Him. How astounding is it that God can use all of the various ways I mentioned (and I am sure even more) and tailor them so individually to each person and situation, yet also intertwine them with others, to change our focus and our future? Through scripture and life experience as believers, we know that God allows things to happen in a believer’s life for many reasons. Sometimes the only way we can grow in a particular area is because of – or by living through - the exact situation that occurred. Whether we endured it, helped a loved one through it, or were a witness to someone else fighting the battle, God knows exactly what to use. Isaiah 48:10 is telling, “See, I have refined you, though not as silver; I have tested you in the furnace of affliction.” Sometimes hardships need to knock us to our knees, and keep us there, as we learn to rely on and completely abide in Him. As believers, we must always remember that we are meant for more. In order to become more like Jesus, we must allow Him to refine us. Without the purification our souls need, our character will never reflect Christ to a world in need. Change can be painful. It’s not easy, it’s never convenient, and we aren’t able to see beyond our present discomfort to the glorious plan God has created and allowed us to be a part of. May we beg God to prevent us from falling into or remaining in a lukewarm relationship with Him, causing Him to vomit us from His mouth. May the trials we endure in our lives force us into His arms and deepen our faith roots in robust soil enriched with His plan for growth and nutrition. 1 Peter 2:21reminds us, “For to this you were called, because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that you should follow His steps.” Jesus is our example in every way. He told us there would be suffering and He modeled how to endure it. Jesus allowed God to direct His steps, His behavior, and His attitude, and His gratitude in every circumstance. This world is not our final destination. As we shift our minds to view every moment of life through an eternal lens, may we remember that we are being prepared for so much more and cling to the perfect example of Christ. Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective.

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Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #006 – What Defines Me Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. In a world where there is confusion about life, death, and eternity, knowing what and why we believe what we do is vitally and eternally important. Why? Because I have to know my beliefs before I can live them. I suspect that most people listening to this podcast are already following Christ and enjoy listening to words of praise, inspiration, and encouragement to deepen their walk with Jesus. However, I can’t ignore the command in my spirit that leads me to clarify exactly what following Christ means. I don’t know for sure who may hear this podcast and I need to obediently follow what I believe the Holy Spirit is prompting me to share. Are you like me? I love to learn. I instinctively ask so many questions that close friends and family members joke about me. I found digging a little deeper into the terms Christian and Christianity interesting. Have you ever looked up the definition of the word, “Christian?” I never had before. I didn’t need to. As a believer, I know what the term means, but I decided to look. As a noun, the dictionary definition states that a Christian is “a person who has received Christian baptism or is a believer in Christianity.” I will come back to this. As an adjective, it means “relating to or professing Christianity or its teachings.” So of course, I looked up, “Christianity.” The dictionary states that Christianity is “the religion founded on the teachings of Jesus Christ.” The Hebrew and Greek definitions of Christian mean, “Follower of Christ.” The word “Christ” is the root word of “Christian” and is defined as “the Messiah or anointed One, referring to Jesus Christ.” Next, I reflected on the difference between the dictionary definition and what the Bible shows that the word, “Christian” means. Of course, there may be more entries, but I found the term Christian used in Acts 11:26, Acts 26:28, and 1 Peter 4:16. What caught my attention as the most telling is just one of those passages. Why? Because it reflects the way many people live today. Acts 26:28 says, “Then Agrippa said to Paul, “You almost persuade me to become a Christian.” Although King Agrippa heard Paul relay his astonishing personal testimony of the truth of his conversion to following Jesus, he would not allow himself to be humbled enough to declare Christ as King. Many of us live the same way. Each of us needs to ask ourselves an important question. Have I let the truth of Jesus penetrate my heart? The gospel changes lives. It opens eyes and alters hearts and mindsets. It changes families and communities. It forces each of us to face behaviors and beliefs that are uncomfortable. Almost everyone dislikes change. We don’t want to be told what to do. We think we have control or we think we have time. The power and truth of the gospel moves people from living in darkness under the power of Satan and places us in the powerful, loving light of Jesus. It provides hope and secures our future if we choose to let Jesus penetrate our hearts and lives. If we think we are walking with Jesus and our life has not changed, we need to reassess our relationship. No one can face the truth of Christ, study His word and life, and remain unchanged. Hebrews 4:12 tells us, “For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” If we don’t know Jesus as our personal Savior, those words can be threatening and frightening. Because I‘ve already submitted to Jesus as the Lord of my life, I find the words promising, as well as a beautiful safeguard that will continue to grow and mold me in the proper ways, ensuring that I become more pleasing to God the more that I pursue Him and allow Him to work in and through me. The needed transformation took place in my life after I understood that I am a sinner who needed Jesus. I spoke a simple, yet very heartfelt prayer confessing to the Lord that I knew I had broken His laws and that sin separated me from Him. I repented and asked for forgiveness. I professed my knowledge and belief that Jesus, God’s Holy Son, died as my substitute. I thanked Jesus for forgiving me and cleansing me from unrighteousness. I invited Jesus to take control of my life and I asked Him to change me and enable me to live the way He desires. I accepted His promise of sending the Holy Spirit to reside in, and transform me, to be more and more like Him each day. I thanked Him for his sacrifice for me. If you need to ask Jesus into your life, please feel free to use what I prayed as a template for your own prayer. It shows that all you need is a simple, yet heart-felt prayer. I am also listing a few key verses that you can read to reference for more insight before you pray. Romans 3:23, Romans 6:23, Romans 5:8, I John 1:9, Romans 10:9-10, Romans 10:13 A Christian is someone saved by the grace of Jesus and has accepted His gift as I stated in the example of my own prayer. Simply praying the prayer won’t get you into heaven, but it combined with the heart knowledge and desire to truly follow Jesus because you repent and confess your need for Him and acknowledge His merciful act of grace through dying as a substitute for your sin does. At the beginning of this episode, I stated that the dictionary defines a Christian as “a person who has received Christian baptism or is a believer in Christianity.” The truth is that baptism is the way we publicly show we have accepted Jesus as our Savior. It is an act of obedience that should follow our heart change for Christ and should be done as soon as possible after salvation. Although the Holy Spirit comes to reside in us immediately, it definitely takes intentional effort on our part daily to ensure that our walk with the Lord continues to deepen and grow. He is faithful, but we are not. Just as with any relationship, we have to want it to flourish. Spending time deepening our walk with God is the best investment we can make for not only ourselves, but for our family. I know that as a follower of Jesus I can call myself a Christian only after I have accepted Him as my Lord and Savior. Simply believing in and loving God or praying to Him did not make me a Christian. I lived until my early twenties under that mistaken assumption. Jesus tells us clearly in John 14:6, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” What I am stating is not my opinion; it is fact from God’s Holy word. Jesus makes the way to heaven very clear. Also, don’t be deceived into following religions that are act-based. Instead, build a relationship with the only One who can save you from unrighteousness. 1 John 4:15 states, “If anyone confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God.” God, Jesus the Son, and the Holy Spirit all participate in the salvation experience. God, the Father sent His Son as a substitute for us, allowing us a glimpse of His eternal love. The Holy Spirit indwells the believer. Jesus is the Truth, the Hope, and the Message for this world. He is the Savior each of us needs, whether we understand it yet or not. Why do I believe this? The Bible tells us. I yearn for all to know and experience His truth and loving care through salvation. What a different world we would reside in if only hearts would be softened to Him. Satan’s power to deceive and the pride of too many cause a blindness that kills and destroys. Do you know Jesus and have a personal relationship with Him? The second half of the dictionary definition of Christian states, “a believer in Christianity.” Just saying that you believe in Jesus does not make you a Christian. We must commit to Him and release control of our life to Him, as I said earlier in the example of what I prayed. Make sure that your eternal future is securely in His hands. God is so good to give us free will. I think that would be so difficult to do! God created each of us uniquely and intentionally. Instead of forcing us to acknowledge and love Him, He allows us to choose what we believe and what and who we will follow in this life. He allows us to choose whatever religion we desire. I actually dislike the word, religion, but treasure knowing that I have a relationship. My walk with God through Jesus is entirely relationship-based. I believe what the Bible states and I acknowledge the remarkable difference in my life through my attitude, thoughts, desires, and actions since I have come to know Jesus as my Savior and continue to mature in Him. I have learned through experience that what the Bible says is living and true. Jesus is alive and active in my life. Is He alive in yours? Another very important point I must raise in this episode is life after salvation. So, we pray a prayer asking Jesus to lead our life. What happens next? Unfortunately, this is where many people trip in their walk. I know I had wonderful intentions after choosing to follow Jesus. I made the mistake of following people, not Jesus. After they let me down, I faltered in knowing what to do next. I didn’t get the right discipleship needed to learn about Jesus and correctly grow my relationship. It took longer for me to understand and know Him deeply, and to release proper access to my life than it should have. If you are a new Christian, please do not hesitate to reach out for support to know the next steps to fully develop your understanding of Jesus. There is nothing magical or mysterious about following Jesus. It is actually incredibly simple. Jesus desires us to have the faith of a child. We just need to acknowledge our need for Him, accept His grace, and confess Him as the Lord of our life. The hardest part is afterwards. We have to work at the relationship like any other, and it is the most important one we will ever have. The fact that the gospel, the way to salvation through Christ is so uncomplicated, sometimes allows people to question whether they actually belong to Jesus and will live for eternity in heaven with Him one day. I will list a few Bible verses that I hope will reassure anyone who questions their future or might need to reevaluate whether they have entered into a relationship with Jesus. Revelation 3:20, John 10:27-28, Romans 8:38-39, 1 John 5:10-13, Matthew 10:32, Luke 12:8, and Ephesians 2:8-9, which is my favorite. It states, “For by grace you have been saved by faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.” Beyond the reassurances of scripture, the most effective way of ensuring our eternal walk with Jesus is secure is through the works He produces through us. A Christian lives and exhibits a changed life. God creates a good work in believers. Philippians 1:6 says, “being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ.” Are you changing daily, becoming more Christ-like? Colossians 1:9b-11 says, “filled with the knowledge of His will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding; that you may walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing Him, being fruitful in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God; strengthened with all might, according to His glorious power, for all patience and longsuffering with joy.” As believers, we are filled with knowledge and spiritual understanding by immersing ourselves in and studying God’s word and by keeping open communication with Him through prayer. Because of the Holy Spirit inside us, we are able to better discern God’s will. Wisdom and understanding can only come from the Lord and by following Him through a deepening relationship. The more intimately we know and understand God and His word; we will produce fruit for Him as we gain knowledge and grow in Him. We also gain fruits of the Spirit from Him. Instead of desiring and partaking in sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these, we possess and exhibit love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. We persevere through trials as He carries us because we trust in Him. We praise Him in deeper ways because we understand He has plans for good and not to harm us. We believe the good He has for us is not strictly ours, but is the best for all as He intricately weaves lives and His glorious plans. We walk in faith, share the gospel, and help others to live lives that reflect Christ. We look at our present and future through the lens of eternal perspective and live in ways that exemplify His truths and in doing so, it is not a burden, but a joy. Here are several questions that are necessary to review if we have accepted Christ as our Savior and want to continue growing and shining for Him. 1. Do I intentionally and joyfully spend time in prayer throughout each day? Are my prayers living and breathing extensions of my thoughts and life as I raise my heart to God with gratitude before requests? God already knows us, but He desires intimacy, as well as honor in our lives. 2. Do I spend time in God’s word through reading my Bible each day? Podcasts, inspirational stories and blogs, etc. are wonderful ways to be encouraged and taught, but the most effective way to grow and deepen our walk is through consistent, personal time in His Holy word. 3. Do I place my spiritual growth behind more pressing duties in my life? God must be a priority. We know we make time for what we declare is important. 4. What are my first thoughts and desires when I awaken each morning? What about my last thoughts when I go to sleep? Make it a habit to talk to God as you go to sleep and to awaken with gratitude in your heart and on your lips as you start the day. Ask Him to guide and time your day. Ask Him to shine through you in every encounter. Ask for His patience, His love, whatever you know is lacking. Pray for the person who bad mouths you or the child bullying your son or daughter. Ask God to give you a heart for them, and to give them a heart for Him. Allow the Holy Spirit to transform you. 5. Do I feel true joy in my life? Two important fruits of the Spirit we receive from walking with Jesus is pure joy and peace despite circumstances. Psalm 94:19 says, “In the multitude of my anxieties within me, Your comfort delights my soul.” 6. Have I found a Bible-believing church to mentor and encourage me or to invest in others? Am I using the gifts God has given me for Him? In order for my family and friends to know my beliefs, I have to live them. If they are not clear to me, they will be clear to no one else. We must take time to reflect on our life. 1. If I am in a relationship or have children they will not be positively influenced by me in eternal ways if I am not intentionally allowing the Lord to work through me. 2. Do my words reflect my beliefs and desire to grow in Jesus? 3. Do my actions reflect my beliefs and desire to grow in Jesus? 4. Am I allowing God to alter my thoughts? My thoughts reflect my words, attitude, and actions. Do I submit to them or to the Lord? 5. My emotions, attitude, words, and actions influence and affect my loved ones daily. Do I attract or repel them and others to the Lord? How does the world see me? Is my life authentic? Do I project a false image? Do I exude warmth? Do I come across as stand-offish? Am I kind or rude? Would others be attracted to Christ because they see Him in me? What I think about myself will affect how others see me and how they view Christ. Where do I find my worth? Jeremiah 1:5a says, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you.” Ephesians 1:4-5 says, “Just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love, having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will.” Psalm 27:10 says, “When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take care of me.” What are my strengths? Do I praise God for these qualities? Do I acknowledge that they are from Him and use them for Him? What are my weaknesses? Am I thankful that I have weaknesses that force me to rely on God? Do I ask God to strengthen these areas so that I may honor Him? Do I allow other people or circumstances to affect or influence my mindset and actions? Two verses beautifully instruct us in this area. Romans 12:2 says, “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” The other verse is Ephesians 5:1-2, “Therefore, be imitators of God as dear children. And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma.” When we yield to the Holy Spirit, we inherit daily change. Our relationship with Christ becomes experiential. He penetrates and alters our attitude, thoughts, and actions. He regulates our emotions and erases fears. We are no longer “in the body of Christ." We are living for Christ. We don’t just “identify” with Christ; we abide in and fellowship with Him. When we are tempted to become angry or hurt, or a variety of other emotions, we rely on Christ within us to enable our reaction to be what He desires, instead of allowing our fleshly responses to control us. Is this easy? Not always. We are human. But God is not. We must rely on His strength. God is able to do above and beyond what we can conceive. As we yield to Him, He modifies our instinctive responses and creates something new and beautiful within us. When we fail to respond in the ways that please Him, we repent and lean closer in reliance on Him. Philippians 4:8 offers sound advice for yielding to the life God desires for us. “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy – meditate on these things.” Finally, a last set of ways to evaluate and discern the way we live. 1. What would others say defines me: Jesus or the world? What would my family say? 2. Which exposes my life focus as shown through my daily habits (Jesus or the world)? 3. What am I willing to do in order to change this definition of my current lifestyle? 4. Do I submit to advertisements that show me what to desire and how to live? 5. Are my values dictated more by social media or friends, rather than God? 6. What are my last actions before bed and my first actions upon awakening? 7. Do I rely more on God or myself throughout each day? 8. How have I reflected Jesus to others? 9. Am I embarrassed for others to know I follow Him? 10. Have I stepped out in faith and obedience where God has asked me to? 11. Do I have the same peace, joy, and hope through both good and difficult times? After a life conversion to follow Christ, we will not exhibit all of the above qualities immediately. It takes time to grow in our faith and dependence on God. The key is to immediately begin cultivating our trust through the ways already stated. As we pursue Him, He allows wisdom, knowledge, and understanding to flow into our lives. As we draw near to Him, He draws near to us. Ephesians 5:8-10 says, “For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness, and truth), and find out what pleases the Lord.” Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 006 What Defines Me Listen to Episode Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #006 – What Defines Me Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. In a world where there is confusion about life, death, and eternity, knowing what and why we believe what we do is vitally and eternally important. Why? Because I have to know my beliefs before I can live them. I suspect that most people listening to this podcast are already following Christ and enjoy listening to words of praise, inspiration, and encouragement to deepen their walk with Jesus. However, I can’t ignore the command in my spirit that leads me to clarify exactly what following Christ means. I don’t know for sure who may hear this podcast and I need to obediently follow what I believe the Holy Spirit is prompting me to share. Are you like me? I love to learn. I instinctively ask so many questions that close friends and family members joke about me. I found digging a little deeper into the terms Christian and Christianity interesting. Have you ever looked up the definition of the word, “Christian?” I never had before. I didn’t need to. As a believer, I know what the term means, but I decided to look. As a noun, the dictionary definition states that a Christian is “a person who has received Christian baptism or is a believer in Christianity.” I will come back to this. As an adjective, it means “relating to or professing Christianity or its teachings.” So of course, I looked up, “Christianity.” The dictionary states that Christianity is “the religion founded on the teachings of Jesus Christ.” The Hebrew and Greek definitions of Christian mean, “Follower of Christ.” The word “Christ” is the root word of “Christian” and is defined as “the Messiah or anointed One, referring to Jesus Christ.” Next, I reflected on the difference between the dictionary definition and what the Bible shows that the word, “Christian” means. Of course, there may be more entries, but I found the term Christian used in Acts 11:26, Acts 26:28, and 1 Peter 4:16. What caught my attention as the most telling is just one of those passages. Why? Because it reflects the way many people live today. Acts 26:28 says, “Then Agrippa said to Paul, “You almost persuade me to become a Christian.” Although King Agrippa heard Paul relay his astonishing personal testimony of the truth of his conversion to following Jesus, he would not allow himself to be humbled enough to declare Christ as King. Many of us live the same way. Each of us needs to ask ourselves an important question. Have I let the truth of Jesus penetrate my heart? The gospel changes lives. It opens eyes and alters hearts and mindsets. It changes families and communities. It forces each of us to face behaviors and beliefs that are uncomfortable. Almost everyone dislikes change. We don’t want to be told what to do. We think we have control or we think we have time. The power and truth of the gospel moves people from living in darkness under the power of Satan and places us in the powerful, loving light of Jesus. It provides hope and secures our future if we choose to let Jesus penetrate our hearts and lives. If we think we are walking with Jesus and our life has not changed, we need to reassess our relationship. No one can face the truth of Christ, study His word and life, and remain unchanged. Hebrews 4:12 tells us, “For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” If we don’t know Jesus as our personal Savior, those words can be threatening and frightening. Because I‘ve already submitted to Jesus as the Lord of my life, I find the words promising, as well as a beautiful safeguard that will continue to grow and mold me in the proper ways, ensuring that I become more pleasing to God the more that I pursue Him and allow Him to work in and through me. The needed transformation took place in my life after I understood that I am a sinner who needed Jesus. I spoke a simple, yet very heartfelt prayer confessing to the Lord that I knew I had broken His laws and that sin separated me from Him. I repented and asked for forgiveness. I professed my knowledge and belief that Jesus, God’s Holy Son, died as my substitute. I thanked Jesus for forgiving me and cleansing me from unrighteousness. I invited Jesus to take control of my life and I asked Him to change me and enable me to live the way He desires. I accepted His promise of sending the Holy Spirit to reside in, and transform me, to be more and more like Him each day. I thanked Him for his sacrifice for me. If you need to ask Jesus into your life, please feel free to use what I prayed as a template for your own prayer. It shows that all you need is a simple, yet heart-felt prayer. I am also listing a few key verses that you can read to reference for more insight before you pray. Romans 3:23, Romans 6:23, Romans 5:8, I John 1:9, Romans 10:9-10, Romans 10:13 A Christian is someone saved by the grace of Jesus and has accepted His gift as I stated in the example of my own prayer. Simply praying the prayer won’t get you into heaven, but it combined with the heart knowledge and desire to truly follow Jesus because you repent and confess your need for Him and acknowledge His merciful act of grace through dying as a substitute for your sin does. At the beginning of this episode, I stated that the dictionary defines a Christian as “a person who has received Christian baptism or is a believer in Christianity.” The truth is that baptism is the way we publicly show we have accepted Jesus as our Savior. It is an act of obedience that should follow our heart change for Christ and should be done as soon as possible after salvation. Although the Holy Spirit comes to reside in us immediately, it definitely takes intentional effort on our part daily to ensure that our walk with the Lord continues to deepen and grow. He is faithful, but we are not. Just as with any relationship, we have to want it to flourish. Spending time deepening our walk with God is the best investment we can make for not only ourselves, but for our family. I know that as a follower of Jesus I can call myself a Christian only after I have accepted Him as my Lord and Savior. Simply believing in and loving God or praying to Him did not make me a Christian. I lived until my early twenties under that mistaken assumption. Jesus tells us clearly in John 14:6, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” What I am stating is not my opinion; it is fact from God’s Holy word. Jesus makes the way to heaven very clear. Also, don’t be deceived into following religions that are act-based. Instead, build a relationship with the only One who can save you from unrighteousness. 1 John 4:15 states, “If anyone confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God.” God, Jesus the Son, and the Holy Spirit all participate in the salvation experience. God, the Father sent His Son as a substitute for us, allowing us a glimpse of His eternal love. The Holy Spirit indwells the believer. Jesus is the Truth, the Hope, and the Message for this world. He is the Savior each of us needs, whether we understand it yet or not. Why do I believe this? The Bible tells us. I yearn for all to know and experience His truth and loving care through salvation. What a different world we would reside in if only hearts would be softened to Him. Satan’s power to deceive and the pride of too many cause a blindness that kills and destroys. Do you know Jesus and have a personal relationship with Him? The second half of the dictionary definition of Christian states, “a believer in Christianity.” Just saying that you believe in Jesus does not make you a Christian. We must commit to Him and release control of our life to Him, as I said earlier in the example of what I prayed. Make sure that your eternal future is securely in His hands. God is so good to give us free will. I think that would be so difficult to do! God created each of us uniquely and intentionally. Instead of forcing us to acknowledge and love Him, He allows us to choose what we believe and what and who we will follow in this life. He allows us to choose whatever religion we desire. I actually dislike the word, religion, but treasure knowing that I have a relationship. My walk with God through Jesus is entirely relationship-based. I believe what the Bible states and I acknowledge the remarkable difference in my life through my attitude, thoughts, desires, and actions since I have come to know Jesus as my Savior and continue to mature in Him. I have learned through experience that what the Bible says is living and true. Jesus is alive and active in my life. Is He alive in yours? Another very important point I must raise in this episode is life after salvation. So, we pray a prayer asking Jesus to lead our life. What happens next? Unfortunately, this is where many people trip in their walk. I know I had wonderful intentions after choosing to follow Jesus. I made the mistake of following people, not Jesus. After they let me down, I faltered in knowing what to do next. I didn’t get the right discipleship needed to learn about Jesus and correctly grow my relationship. It took longer for me to understand and know Him deeply, and to release proper access to my life than it should have. If you are a new Christian, please do not hesitate to reach out for support to know the next steps to fully develop your understanding of Jesus. There is nothing magical or mysterious about following Jesus. It is actually incredibly simple. Jesus desires us to have the faith of a child. We just need to acknowledge our need for Him, accept His grace, and confess Him as the Lord of our life. The hardest part is afterwards. We have to work at the relationship like any other, and it is the most important one we will ever have. The fact that the gospel, the way to salvation through Christ is so uncomplicated, sometimes allows people to question whether they actually belong to Jesus and will live for eternity in heaven with Him one day. I will list a few Bible verses that I hope will reassure anyone who questions their future or might need to reevaluate whether they have entered into a relationship with Jesus. Revelation 3:20, John 10:27-28, Romans 8:38-39, 1 John 5:10-13, Matthew 10:32, Luke 12:8, and Ephesians 2:8-9, which is my favorite. It states, “For by grace you have been saved by faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.” Beyond the reassurances of scripture, the most effective way of ensuring our eternal walk with Jesus is secure is through the works He produces through us. A Christian lives and exhibits a changed life. God creates a good work in believers. Philippians 1:6 says, “being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ.” Are you changing daily, becoming more Christ-like? Colossians 1:9b-11 says, “filled with the knowledge of His will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding; that you may walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing Him, being fruitful in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God; strengthened with all might, according to His glorious power, for all patience and longsuffering with joy.” As believers, we are filled with knowledge and spiritual understanding by immersing ourselves in and studying God’s word and by keeping open communication with Him through prayer. Because of the Holy Spirit inside us, we are able to better discern God’s will. Wisdom and understanding can only come from the Lord and by following Him through a deepening relationship. The more intimately we know and understand God and His word; we will produce fruit for Him as we gain knowledge and grow in Him. We also gain fruits of the Spirit from Him. Instead of desiring and partaking in sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these, we possess and exhibit love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. We persevere through trials as He carries us because we trust in Him. We praise Him in deeper ways because we understand He has plans for good and not to harm us. We believe the good He has for us is not strictly ours, but is the best for all as He intricately weaves lives and His glorious plans. We walk in faith, share the gospel, and help others to live lives that reflect Christ. We look at our present and future through the lens of eternal perspective and live in ways that exemplify His truths and in doing so, it is not a burden, but a joy. Here are several questions that are necessary to review if we have accepted Christ as our Savior and want to continue growing and shining for Him. 1. Do I intentionally and joyfully spend time in prayer throughout each day? Are my prayers living and breathing extensions of my thoughts and life as I raise my heart to God with gratitude before requests? God already knows us, but He desires intimacy, as well as honor in our lives. 2. Do I spend time in God’s word through reading my Bible each day? Podcasts, inspirational stories and blogs, etc. are wonderful ways to be encouraged and taught, but the most effective way to grow and deepen our walk is through consistent, personal time in His Holy word. 3. Do I place my spiritual growth behind more pressing duties in my life? God must be a priority. We know we make time for what we declare is important. 4. What are my first thoughts and desires when I awaken each morning? What about my last thoughts when I go to sleep? Make it a habit to talk to God as you go to sleep and to awaken with gratitude in your heart and on your lips as you start the day. Ask Him to guide and time your day. Ask Him to shine through you in every encounter. Ask for His patience, His love, whatever you know is lacking. Pray for the person who bad mouths you or the child bullying your son or daughter. Ask God to give you a heart for them, and to give them a heart for Him. Allow the Holy Spirit to transform you. 5. Do I feel true joy in my life? Two important fruits of the Spirit we receive from walking with Jesus is pure joy and peace despite circumstances. Psalm 94:19 says, “In the multitude of my anxieties within me, Your comfort delights my soul.” 6. Have I found a Bible-believing church to mentor and encourage me or to invest in others? Am I using the gifts God has given me for Him? In order for my family and friends to know my beliefs, I have to live them. If they are not clear to me, they will be clear to no one else. We must take time to reflect on our life. 1. If I am in a relationship or have children they will not be positively influenced by me in eternal ways if I am not intentionally allowing the Lord to work through me. 2. Do my words reflect my beliefs and desire to grow in Jesus? 3. Do my actions reflect my beliefs and desire to grow in Jesus? 4. Am I allowing God to alter my thoughts? My thoughts reflect my words, attitude, and actions. Do I submit to them or to the Lord? 5. My emotions, attitude, words, and actions influence and affect my loved ones daily. Do I attract or repel them and others to the Lord? How does the world see me? Is my life authentic? Do I project a false image? Do I exude warmth? Do I come across as stand-offish? Am I kind or rude? Would others be attracted to Christ because they see Him in me? What I think about myself will affect how others see me and how they view Christ. Where do I find my worth? Jeremiah 1:5a says, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you.” Ephesians 1:4-5 says, “Just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love, having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will.” Psalm 27:10 says, “When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take care of me.” What are my strengths? Do I praise God for these qualities? Do I acknowledge that they are from Him and use them for Him? What are my weaknesses? Am I thankful that I have weaknesses that force me to rely on God? Do I ask God to strengthen these areas so that I may honor Him? Do I allow other people or circumstances to affect or influence my mindset and actions? Two verses beautifully instruct us in this area. Romans 12:2 says, “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” The other verse is Ephesians 5:1-2, “Therefore, be imitators of God as dear children. And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma.” When we yield to the Holy Spirit, we inherit daily change. Our relationship with Christ becomes experiential. He penetrates and alters our attitude, thoughts, and actions. He regulates our emotions and erases fears. We are no longer “in the body of Christ." We are living for Christ. We don’t just “identify” with Christ; we abide in and fellowship with Him. When we are tempted to become angry or hurt, or a variety of other emotions, we rely on Christ within us to enable our reaction to be what He desires, instead of allowing our fleshly responses to control us. Is this easy? Not always. We are human. But God is not. We must rely on His strength. God is able to do above and beyond what we can conceive. As we yield to Him, He modifies our instinctive responses and creates something new and beautiful within us. When we fail to respond in the ways that please Him, we repent and lean closer in reliance on Him. Philippians 4:8 offers sound advice for yielding to the life God desires for us. “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy – meditate on these things.” Finally, a last set of ways to evaluate and discern the way we live. 1. What would others say defines me: Jesus or the world? What would my family say? 2. Which exposes my life focus as shown through my daily habits (Jesus or the world)? 3. What am I willing to do in order to change this definition of my current lifestyle? 4. Do I submit to advertisements that show me what to desire and how to live? 5. Are my values dictated more by social media or friends, rather than God? 6. What are my last actions before bed and my first actions upon awakening? 7. Do I rely more on God or myself throughout each day? 8. How have I reflected Jesus to others? 9. Am I embarrassed for others to know I follow Him? 10. Have I stepped out in faith and obedience where God has asked me to? 11. Do I have the same peace, joy, and hope through both good and difficult times? After a life conversion to follow Christ, we will not exhibit all of the above qualities immediately. It takes time to grow in our faith and dependence on God. The key is to immediately begin cultivating our trust through the ways already stated. As we pursue Him, He allows wisdom, knowledge, and understanding to flow into our lives. As we draw near to Him, He draws near to us. Ephesians 5:8-10 says, “For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness, and truth), and find out what pleases the Lord.” Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. 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< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 096 - How Parents Can Guide Children to Live Out Faith in a Secular World Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 096 – How Parents Can Guide Their Children to Live Out Faith in a Secular World Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast deepens your walk with Jesus and your children, equipping you to become a set-apart woman and mother. One afternoon my youngest child came to me as I worked in the office, her smile beaming so brightly. She pushed her palm toward me, and in it, rested a tiny cherry tomato grown in her garden. As I reached for her gift, thoughts swarmed my mind. "I'm not hungry." "I already had several tomatoes today and too many cause stomach problems." "I hope she washed it." As fast as those negativities pressed at me, God covered them with His truth. "How loving of her to think of me." So I returned her joy with a smile of my own and reached for her offering. After popping the fruit in my mouth to taste the sweet juice, I had one reply. "You grow the best cherry tomatoes." How often are we presented with gifts such as this? A moment that seems like an interruption becomes a divine meeting between opportunity and a decision to love. After we hugged and I thanked her for thinking of me, we chatted a bit and she left my side with a spring in her step and delight on her face. She felt like the best gardener in the world. A giving daughter. Thoughtful. She felt seen. Appreciated. How easily I could have ruined the moment. Mothers, how often are you presented with Heaven-sent opportunities? Most likely, many times a day. Maybe you seize each one like a savored treasure. Or maybe you don’t recognize the instant it appears, and see only problems or pressures. Instead, look for moments you can choose to grasp, not allow to flutter to the ground unused. This is one example of how we can guide our children to live their faith. We build a closeness that surpasses the rush of this world and allows a glimpse of Heaven to enter the chaos life can bring. We teach our children to understand the beauty of giving and thinking of others. We don’t stop the natural tendency they carry to please. We mold those characteristics into qualities they will use to serve and honor God and others. We don’t rob their joy or crush their tender spirit. Today we’re going to share more ways mothers can be purposed in helping our children build a strong foundation that equips them to live out a lasting faith in this secular world. First, we need to identify what our children need to guide and grow them toward faith that lasts for eternity. In order to do that, we need to realize the effects of the secular world your child lives in. Even if you have invested in a private or Christian school, or you homeschool your children, the world and the culture created by it seep into their lives. Extended family, neighbors, strangers in the store, classmates, social media, television shows, movies, games, music, books, language, (the list is long) – all pose the potential to have a positive or negative impact on your child’s faith. Do you know what types of challenges your children are currently facing? Do you understand what they are likely to face in the future? How does that knowledge impact your parenting style? Do worldly values affect your faith and relationship with God? Your relationship with God affects your child’s ability to maintain strong faith in a secular world. The truth is that you must be strengthening your faith in order to build the foundation for your children. You must study and know God’s Word in order to teach Biblical worldview to your children. You must also study God’s Word with your children. They must see that you prioritize the Father. You must make prayer a priority for yourself and your family. You must weave God into daily life. He is real and His presence in your home must be real, too. You must regularly discuss how Biblical truths must be a foundation for worldview. Show your children how to live the truths you believe . You must be the fragrance of Christ in your home. In order to do so, you must inhale Christ moment by moment so you can exhale Him in your words, desires, actions, reactions, habits, and lifestyle. Some of the ways you can set your children up for successfully living faith out in the world for others to see Jesus, are as follows. Today we’re going to address 19 ways. Don’t worry about taking notes. Listen and absorb, then remember to look at terrihitt.com/podcast to see the complete listing in transcript form. 1. Guard the innocence and safety of your children. Use biblical discernment to guide activities and events. For example, in present society, most moms agree that it’s not wise to allow children to attend sleepovers. Although the Bible doesn’t specifically address this topic, it does give advice on being wise parents. 2. Point out life situations that aren’t biblical. Whether it be movies, books, games, attire, actions, or more, let your children know why something wouldn’t be pleasing to God. Don’t use personal likes or dislikes to guide you. Take your opinion back to biblical truths to see what God said on the topic. Teach them to study Scripture so that when a particular topic is not addressed, they will know God’s guidance on the issue because they know already Him through the Word. For example, God values life, as His Word clearly says. Although the Bible doesn’t clearly say, “Do not have an abortion,” the topic is addressed in His character and Scripture. 3. Model listening to praise and worship music. Find songs that carry strong Scriptural truths and sing them at home. Even if your older children don’t enjoy them at first, over time, the words will seep into their spirit. God’s Word never returns void. 4. Dress your children modestly. Begin when they’re young. For example, if you don’t want your daughter to wear bikinis when she becomes a teen, don’t dress her in them as a toddler. 5. Watch what you model in desires, words, and actions. If you don’t want your children to use profanity, drink, smoke, or do drugs, don’t partake in them yourself. Your children always learn more from your actions than your words. 6. Introduce Jesus to your children as soon as you have them. It’s never too early. Even a baby in the womb is able to hear the Bible in utero. The first night we had our ten month old baby home from China I read the book, “The Story of Jesus” to her. It brought calm when nothing else soothed her. With my two youngest children we were able to incorporate Christian music in the home as soon as we had them. We did Bible studies, even when they were newly home and didn’t understand English. I would draw photos or act out stories to bring about understanding. Take the steps God desires to plant the seeds and allow Him to work in their life. 7. Be purposed and consistent in modeling relationship with Christ. As they see you read the Bible, pray, pray with them and for them, and seek Christ in all you do and consider, they will be more apt to pay attention when you show and speak about the Lord daily. You are building that foundation your child will build a house of faith upon. You want your children to pursue relationship with Jesus, not a religion with rules and regulations. 8. Teach your children how to refer to God’s Word and to use biblical worldview when shaping values, actions, desires, reactions, and relationships. 9. Show them how to serve others and Christ in and out of the home. 10. Don’t aspire to raise what the world calls typical children. God calls you and I to raise set-apart children. Nothing about Christ is typical. Jesus went against worldly values and held all to a godly standard. 11. Strive to parent the heart of your children, not the behavior. You want to discipline to disciple, not punish. All you do should be done with a heart to serve the Lord and raise children who know, honor, love, and obey Him with joy. 12. Develop relationship with your children through Christ so they value your opinion over that of peers. When you spend time getting to know your children, not just bark orders at them, you develop a closeness that must be in place in order for them to respect you or God. 13. Enlist prayer partners to pray specific requests and Scriptures for your children. I know my children are following the Lord in part due to those who held my family in prayer over many years. 14. Go to church regularly as a family. But don’t go out of duty or obligation. Make it a time to draw nearer to God and each other. Do it for relationship. Don’t treat church as a religion. 15. Read and study God’s Word together. Pray together and for each other. 16. View yourself not just as a parent, but as a mentor assigned by God to bring your children to Christ. 17. Regularly discuss current world issues together and talk about how Jesus would respond to them. Discern from Scripture what God’s belief is on the topic you are discussing. 18. Make family traditions and activities honoring to Christ. Whether it be Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving, or other birthdays or holidays, bring God into the plan. He ordained the day and is waiting to be invited to the events. 19. Combat worldly educational indoctrination with godly education . As this world continues to shift and teach children ungodly deceit such as changing sex, sex before marriage, fluid pronouns, and more, use those opportunities to educate your child with loving, godly truths. Work through questions or situations that arise with the Bible as your guide. God’s Word holds all the answers we need. We just need to make the time to find them. Without reading the Word, we can’t help our children apply it or choose to be faithful to it. If you feel overwhelmed or unsure if you can handle these steps, ask God for His guidance. Pray for Him to show you opportunities. The more you listen to His promptings and step out in obedience, the easier your walk will be. Start with one thing you can do to better honor Christ and keep looking Up as you move forward to guide your children to live out faith in this secular world. Remember, if you’d like guided steps on how to incorporate these areas into your life and parenting, this is exactly what I equip you to do in the Set-Apart Collective. Dear Heavenly Father, we thank you for Your great provision and protection on our life. We praise You for entrusting us to watch Your children and guide them to You. Equip us to know the ways to their heart. Help us know You so well that we can’t help but shine You to them and others. May Your light burst forth so brightly that Your presence and love cannot be denied. May our children seek You because they have been taught Your truths. May they recognize deceit in this world. Help us not to ignorantly steer them in the wrong ways. Keep us in Your arms so they will rest at Your feet. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Raising children is challenging. No one has all the answers because each child is unique as are parenting styles and family dynamics. By connecting with and knowing your children as you maintain purposed growth in Christ, you will be better prepared for any situation you face. That’s why you hear me share about the Set-Apart Collective in this podcast. I work with moms of littles from infancy to upper grade school. Are you a high achieving woman who loves Jesus, but is so busy with the rush of work and daily life that you feel like you’re being drained like the water in your bathtub? Do you yearn to get closer to Jesus and show Him to your kids so you will create a love that will last into eternity? The desire is there, but your days spiral out of control before you even think about opening your Bible. Do you ever stop to think that you are the first Jesus your child will see? Let me remind you there is hope. There is a way you can be equipped to raise kids who chase Christ over culture. If you want a connected relationship with Christ and your children that leads them to your side and His feet, instead of them seeking validation from peers, I have an 8-step program to move you from frustrated to fulfilled. I will show you how to reflect Jesus in a way that attracts your family to a connected relationship that lasts into eternity. Remember, godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset you carry. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will arm you with a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You’ll also deepen your identity in Christ so you can mentor the way for your children to do the same. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family. Does this sound like a lifeline to help you be that set-apart mom God has entrusted you to be? Visit terrihitt.com/coaching and click the link for a free, no obligation conversation call with me. This is a strategic call where I will hear your biggest struggle and show you how to turn it into a blessing that will bring you closer to Christ and your children. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. One last thing to remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode 006 - Prayers for the Battle Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #006 – Prayers for the Battle Are you yearning for greater connection with your child? Would you like to parent beyond the moment with eternal perspective? Let’s grow together now with practical tips, scripture, and stories geared to draw your heart to Jesus and guide your child into His arms. On the last Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast episode number 005, we discussed what is means to battle for your child. At the end of the episode, I promised that on the next episode we would discuss specific prayers to equip you in the battle. This episode is rich with scriptural prayers you may use as templates for prayers you are led to offer. Remember, first you must know and show God in order for your child to form a desire to seek Him. One of the most loving acts you can offer your children is to obediently love God so wholly that your child experiences Him fully through your life and realize they must seek Him for themselves. Your child must see the faith life you experience and want the same relationship with their Heavenly Father. Prayer is one of the most important elements that will guide your child to Him. As I always emphasize, we must regularly read God’s word to know Him and grow in Him. We must also intimately communicate with our Heavenly Father through the gift of prayer , through speaking and listening. Prayer is not just muttering words to God and going on our day. It is a sacred, personal time with the Creator of the universe, our holy Heavenly Father. As God’s word teaches us, prayer is the offense we must use in the armor God has created for us. Prayer enables you to guide your child to the feet of Jesus, where you will both be able to stand against the wicked schemes of Satan, flesh, and this world. Our children must know that we trust in and rely on the Lord for every provision. They should see us live out our profession of faith so they may emulate it as they build their own faith. As they see us allow God to go before our trials and tribulations, see us submit to His work , guidance , and protection in our life as He lovingly carries us through each battle, they are more apt to do the same. This is the example we must mentor to our children so that they learn the blessing of an obedient life and grasp the power of God’s protection plan. Our children must see us apply God’s clear, strong offense of prayer through requesting and accepting His provisions and protection . They must witness us allowing Him to be the voice we seek and respond to. We must teach them to hear and follow their Heavenly Father and to make the faith we have taught to them their own . What are 5 key steps you must take to prayerfully release your child to God? 1. Teach your child to seek Jesus . A child can learn to find peace in the presence of Jesus and mature His relationship for a lifetime when he sees you live it in front of him. Teach your child to rest in Him because you do. 2. Pray for your child more than you make “purchases” for him . Children today have everything! But do they have Jesus residing within them? Let your child know how important a personal relationship with Jesus is because you have a maturing one, too. 3. Trust God to develop the faith you plant in your child . God cannot lie. There is only truth within Him. God assures us that He wants relationship with us. He loves your child more than you do and has a plan and purpose for each of your specific and unique children. 4. Surrender everything to God and teach your child to so the same . Let your child know you trust God by praying with and for your child. Teach them to pray for you. Openly discuss how you release cares and concerns to God and prove it by praying with them and living as one who trusts that God has matters in His control. Praise God no matter the answer to your prayers. God has His own timetable and knows the answers that will bring glory to His name. 5. Depend on God for the future of your child . As you go before situations in prayer, speaking God’s word and growing in the Lord in every way, trust that He is working all things for good. Remain steadfast in growing your faith and your prayers. Sometimes answers take a lifetime; sometimes we are unable to see the answers in our lifetime. Always remember to pray in accordance with God’s wills and desires, just as Jesus did, and submit to what He allows. Psalm 145:17-19 says, “The Lord is righteous in all His ways and kind in all His deeds. The Lord is near to all who call on Him, to all who call out to Him in truth. He fulfills the desires of those who fear Him; He hears their cry and saves them .” Prayer works, but doesn’t always bring the answer or timing we hoped for. Scripture tells us in Hebrews 4:12 , “The word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires .” Nothing else carries this power or wisdom of God’s word. Let’s use it now to transform God’s holy word into powerful prayers for the purpose of guarding and guiding the lives of our children and humbly releasing them into the wise and loving hands of God. In the last episode, I spoke of 6 areas parents need to be aware of as they raise their children. Let’s look at bible verses for each topic area and how to use purposed scripture in ways that allow you to pray in accordance with His will. 1. Satan - 2 Corinthians 4:4 says, “The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers so they cannot see the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God .” Dear God, thank you that You are my perfect guide and loving Father. I know the god of this age works to blind the minds of unbelievers, causing them to miss the light of the gospel and the glory of Jesus. Help me to be a lover of You and a parent who shines Your light and glory to my children. Let them see You exhibited so brightly that they cannot ignore Your presence and direction. May they draw near to You by what they see in me so You will draw near to them. Help them be a light for Your glory that enables others to see Your image. 2. Culture/society - Galatians 5:16-17 says, “So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh craves what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are opposed to each other, so that you do not do what you want.” Dear Heavenly Father, You call me to walk in the Spirit, but my flesh craves the opposite. Your truth tells me that by walking with You, I will not gratify the desires my flesh wants. My earthly body is in opposition to what You call. You walk in and only desire truth. Please enable me to please only You and walk in desires of the Spirit as I mentor my child to do the same. Cause them to crave Your desires and seek Your ways and truths. 3. Parental - Deuteronomy 6:6-8 says, “These words I am commanding you today are to be upon your hearts. And you shall teach them diligently to your children and speak of them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as reminders on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorposts of your houses and on your gates .” Gracious Loving Father, You command me to keep Your words upon my heart. Strike my heart with a thirst for Your word that extends to my children. You require me to teach Your truths diligently to my children and request that I speak of them whether I am at home or on the road, when I lie down and when I get up. You teach me to seek You at all times, remember Your words, and enable my children to do the same. Help me remember Your words and to exhibit You and Your scripture so beautifully in my life that my children speak of You and follow you at home, on the road, when they lie down, and when they get up. Fill them with a desire for more of You and the obedience to follow where You call. 4. Self-worth - 1 Samuel 16:7 says, “But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or height, for I have rejected him; the Lord does not see as man does. For man sees the outward appearance, but the Lord sees the heart .” Dear Father God, my fleshly eyes see more of the outward appearance of man at first glance, instead of the way You view each one of us, Your precious creation. Help me to see others as You do, but also to view myself through Your eyes and heart. Enable me to teach my children to value themselves and others through Your lens of truth. May my children release earthly opinions and selfish ambition and see with eyes of Truth the purposed way You have created them. May their heart continually mature to seek Yours and transform more and more into the image You set for them daily. 5. Attitude/Speech - Psalm 49:13 says, “My mouth will impart wisdom, and the meditation of my heart will bring understanding.” Father God, I thank you for Your mighty truth and holiness. May I continue to become more Christlike moment by moment and shine You for my children to view and follow me daily. May my words, actions, and reactions bring them to You and may them mirror the heart, thoughts, words, and attitude You call for them. Please give them Your wisdom because they seek You first and desire to know You in intimate and maturing ways that are pleasing to You. 6. Calling - Matthew 6:33-34 says, “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Today has enough trouble of its own.” Gracious, Loving Heavenly Father. There is none like You. You bring light and life into my existence, shower me with goodness and joy when I humbly follow You. Teach my children through me, show them Your love and grace. Allow me to lead them to Your arms and expose Your heart through me. May they seek You and Your ways without worry as they walk in close relationship with You. Allow them to find the purpose You have crafted within them. May they believe what You say about them through Your holy word and strive to follow what You lead them to be. May they have an intimate connection with You and humbly submit to Your purposes for them with joy as they follow You day by day. Although these prayers are basic, I hope they help you better see the way to pray scripture, kneeling before God with petitions in ways that honor and bring glory to our Heavenly Father. Just as Jesus prayed, we must give honor to God in the beginning of our prayers as we walk into the presence of the Lord with a humble spirit. Since prayers are so intimate, and for the sake of time in this episode, I have not created true beginnings into the prayers during this podcast. Also, I have not added endings to them, but please feel free to use these prayers to craft your own beautiful prayers. I pray that you find deep joy in your time before the Father and see Him work in wondrous ways because of the specific and honoring prayers you humbly offer to Him. Matthew 5:14-16 says, “You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a basket. Instead, they set it on a stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” We must allow the light of God to be what shines for all to see in our life. Followers of Christ must live on guard. We cannot let anything separate us from our Source of Light, or allow anyone to mistake His shining light for our strength. The light abiding within us shines brightly to attract others to Jesus. In another way, I see this verse as a beautiful reminder to me that I must allow Christ to pour out of me so that my children see Him within me. May they be amazed daily at the way I am transformed and may they see and remember that I always turn the praise and glory to Jesus so that they will do the same in their own life. Dear Heavenly Father, You are so gracious, loving, and kind. There is none like You, Great I Am. Thank you for Your provisions for us, Your sacrificial love for us. Thank you for the gift of the children You have purposed for and to us. Your beautiful plans are brighter and better than we can ever imagine. Thank you for entrusting the life of another into our care. May we please You with every step we take. May we move toward You in our own life and in the way we show and shine You to our children. Father, I pray we each desire You more deeply daily and our children do the vary same. May we please You with the intentions of our heart and the actions we take. May our speech praise You and our actions glorify You. Please care for our children through Your great hands. May they clearly see You and be drawn to You through what we make known to them in the way we live and teach them about You. Father, cut off the vines that are useless and prune us to make us more useful and pleasing to You. May our children live in ways that are closer to You and joyful to You because of it. May they give You great joy and pleasure because we have relied on You to show the way to their heart and bring them to their knees before You in humble and grateful love and obedience. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. If you enjoyed this episode, I suggest listening to my “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast episodes on Prayer and Praying Scripture. You can easily find them at terrihitt.com. You may appreciate Episode 18 – “Prayer,” episodes 63-65 on “Praying Scripture,” and Episode 66, “Praying Scripture with Children.” Click on the podcast page and type the episode you are looking for in the search bar at the top of the page. You can also look for “Prayers for My Child,” an ebook available on the website on the “Resources” page designed to guide the heart of your child to the feet of Jesus through prayer. This book continues many more scripturally-based prayers and you’re welcome to access it at no charge as a gift from me. The Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast will soon be available at terrihitt.com, where you can access the episodes housed in one convenient location, receive access to blog posts, read transcripts, and find additional resources designed to mature your walk with Christ and equip you to raise or influence connected children through Him. God knows that we are not capable of successful parenting on our own. As we rely on Him, releasing doubts and expectations, and humbly bow to His guidance and experience, we find greater clarity in parenting and a wondrous walk with our Creator that will extend to our children and those around us for generations . I pray this podcast helps you parent with purpose and deepen your connection to Jesus and your children as you intentionally place Christ above culture or self. Allow Him to work through you for true connection that will draw your children to Him and build a maturing relationship with Christ and your child that lasts for eternity. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 067 - Have You Planned for Your Child's Spiritual Growth? Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 067 – How Are You Planning for Your Child’s Spiritual Growth? I remember wanting to read everything I could about child development when I was pregnant with my first child. I was eighteen years old, and if I heard another parent or doctor state something, or if the information was was published, I thought it had to be true! How different I feel about those sources today. Regardless, that curiosity and desire to do well as a mother spurred me to find answers before they were needed. I wanted to be ahead, to know what to expect , and to give my child the best start in life. By the time I had my second child, I felt pretty confident that I could rely more on instinct and experience than what others said. But a generation later, when we brought our ten month old daughter home from China, I was back to reading books plus taking attachment, cultural, and trauma classes. Ten years after that, when we brought our youngest home as a nine year child with much deprivation in her history, I had also completed several foster-to-adopt courses. All of those courses and materials, combined with lots of prayer left me as prepared as I could be. People say you never know what to expect when you adopt, but the truth is that you don’t know what you will encounter as a bio mom, either. Most mothers like to be prepared. It makes us feel like better parents when we think we know a little more about what to expect. We feel empowered when we’re armed with the resources we might need. The phrase “mama bear” is so true. We fight for our children and knowledge is one of the best defenses we can have. But one thing I’ve noticed is that most mothers don’t think about planning for the spiritual development of their children. I certainly didn’t do it the first time I parented. It wasn’t until my husband and I decided to begin parenting with a baby again over twenty years later that we created a purposed parenting plan that caused me to think about charting spiritual growth. Obviously, spiritual development of your child is even more important than their physical, mental, and emotional development, because it affects their eternity . Why do we accidentally leave so much of it to chance? One of the Bible verses I’m intrigued by is Luke 2:52. In it, we read, "And Jesus increased in wisdom and in stature and in favor with God and man.” Surprisingly, God’s Word doesn’t tell us much about Jesus as a child. Yet this short verse exposes so much if we pay attention . First, let’s stop and look up the definition of wisdom, “the quality or state of being wise; knowledge of what is true or right coupled with just judgment as to action, discernment, or insight .” Next, if we look up the word stature, it says, “degree of development attained; level of achievement .” We know this means the Bible is telling us Jesus had godly insight and discernment, the wisest you can get and He achieved it at a very high level. As Jesus matured, He continued to grow in these ways of God. Don’t you bet God charted the spiritual growth of His Son? Don’t you think He was purposed in what Jesus was exposed to and what God allowed to happen? In how He used every experience to mature Jesus’ character and godliness? Just as we should do with our children. Because God intentionally planted eternity on our hearts, He also placed the need for us to mature spiritually while we grow physically, mentally, and emotionally. Just as He did with Jesus. Ecclesiastes 3:11a says, “He has made everything beautiful in its time. Also, He has put eternity into man’s heart .” Just as there are medically proven developmental stages for children, the spiritual life of a child seems to mature in stages. Before the age of seven, a child typically cannot understand the abstract. Some say that the thought of a Heavenly Father may be difficult to comprehend because children aren’t able to see God or understand specific theological points in discussions. However, they do understand and enjoy rituals and symbols, such as the cross or prayers. Although research demonstrates what is believed about children at this age, believing mothers must remember what the Bible tells us in Matthew 19:14. “Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these .” I believe that when we teach our children Biblical truths about God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit from the beginning of our time with them, and we prayerfully nurture their faith. When we ask God to convey His wisdom to us in how to parent His child in godly ways, He will honor our prayers. Continue exposing your child to God’s truths as early as possible in ways that enable your child to build interest, understanding, and faith. The heart of a young child is ready to hear about Jesus. You are nurturing their eternity. Until the late preteen years, around the age of twelve, you are helping your child construct their important foundation of faith. They are growing a personal sense of connection to God through experience with family. Where and how your child worships, the truths he has learned from the Bible, other faith-based experiences, family and church rituals, and traditions remain very important in building faith and understanding at this age. The teen years should solidify connection with God through Christ. A teen is searching for answers about self, the world, and others. You know Jesus is the answer. As you have helped your child build identity through Christ in younger years, you can now help them connect what they’ve already learned and experienced so they will bring faith, trust, and obedience to a higher level. Throughout the life of your child, whether in the earliest or teen years, continue with traditions you’ve established at home and church. Continue teaching God’s truths and helping your child understand why they believe. Although sometimes you may think your child doesn’t pay attention, they are absorbing everything, especially what you deem important and what you remain consistent with. Your faith , godly character , and obedience to God and His Word will affect them more than any other influence. If you are prayerfully and purposely committed to God, and personal growth in and through Him, your family, and children will see God at work in you. Remember, God gifts you with perfect parenting direction within His perfect Life Manual, His holy Word, the Bible and your prayerful time with Him. As you study God’s Word, you see that He has given you exactly what is needed to influence children for Jesus. He has offered guidelines, guards, and promises. When you hear the following verses, listen with new ears. Hear the heart behind the words. Think of ways you should use the verses to lead you and help you influence and raise your children for God. Let me give a few examples: Psalm 34:11 says, “Come, my children, listen to me; I will teach you the fear of the Lord .” The only way to learn the fear of the Lord is to know Him. After you accept Christ as your personal Savior, live with the Holy Spirit within, study God’s Word, and trust and follow the Lord with humble submission, you are transformed. You are made new. You carry new eyes, ears, heart, and desires. As you learn more of God and His truths, you carry the fear of the Lord because you recognize His holiness and sovereignty. Spiritual growth has occurred and you are able to help your children grow, as well. Deuteronomy 6:6-7 says, “These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up .” God tells us that we should be thinking of Him, living for and growing in Him, and purposely teaching our children to do the same moment by moment. Living for and growing in God should be as simple as the act of breathing . Life is full of distractions. Remember, God didn’t place Adam and Eve in a world like we have today and they still fell. We must be extra cautious of the confusion, interferences, and sin faced daily. God never said parenting for Him would be easy, but He has required us to do so. What will you sacrifice to obey Him and make Him known to your children? Ephesians 6:4 says, “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord .” Have you seen parents who treat their children as competitors or best friends? I have. None of us are perfect parents, but our children deserve the best we can give them. Your child receives your best when you intentionally draw near to God so He will draw nearer to you. Daily. Every moment. Wear those invisible blinders that lead your heart, mind, and eyes to Him. The closer you are to Christ, humbly trusting and obeying, learning how to be the godly woman and parent He desires, the less exasperated, confused, or hopeless your child will be. Numbers 14:18 says, “The Lord is slow to anger, abounding in love and forgiving sin and rebellion. Yet He does not leave the guilty unpunished; He punishes the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation .” What needs to change in your life or the life of your spouse? Living with eternal perspective means paying attention to ways you can extract sins and spiritual neglect from your life and home. What happens now moves into future generations. How are you, your spouse, and children going to influence those after you for eternity? Your choices and decisions matter. Proverbs 14:1 says, “A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands .” Who you are and what you do are drawing your child closer to or further away from Christ. How are you moving nearer to God daily? In what ways are you making Him known to your children? Do you inhale God’s love, grace, and mercy moment by moment and exhale His truths for your child to grasp? By your own hands you are influencing the next generation for Jesus in ways that either honor or dishonor God. There are so many verses – a whole book of them – that we could go over in this episode. I’ll list a few more verses without my thoughts for you to ponder and begin with. There are so many additional excellent verses to use in the Bible. Look at the Bible with new eyes the next time you study. Pinpoint verses that may be used to shape your character, motives, parenting, marriage, and choices. This is the best start to purposed parenting and planning for your child’s spiritual growth. John 17:17 says, “Sanctify them by the truth; your word is truth .” Psalm 119:97 says, “Oh, how I love your law! I meditate on it all day long .” Galatians 5:25 says, “Since we are living by the Spirit, let us follow the Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives .” Hebrews 12:11 says, “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. ” 1 Samuel 3:13 says, “For I told him that I would judge his family forever because of the sin he knew about; his sons blasphemed God, and he failed to restrain them .” Proverbs 23:24 says, “The father of a righteous child has great joy; a man who fathers a wise son rejoices in him .” James 1:5 says, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you .” Psalm 19:7-9 says, “The law of the Lord is perfect, refreshing the soul. The statutes of the Lord are trustworthy, making wise the simple. The precepts of the Lord are right, giving joy to the heart. The commands of the Lord are radiant, giving light to the eyes. The fear of the Lord is pure, enduring forever. The decrees of the Lord are firm, and all of them are righteous .” Psalm 127:3 says, “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from Him.” Use these verses to help you begin charting the spiritual life of your children in purposed ways. Just as you mark the walls of your home to show the height your child is reaching, impress the heart and mind of your child with spiritual truths that will shape their character and morals for eternity. Dear Heavenly Father, how gracious You are to us. How can You entrust Your children into our incapable hands? Your generosity is astounding! Your holy character and sovereignty over our lives are such a gift. Your guidelines to us are a treasure that we need to cherish with more intentionality. May we read Your Words with open hearts and receive Your teachings with open hands. Help us to interpret and examine Your teachings with wisdom and insight that comes from You. Help us use Your Words to raise our children and influence our grandchildren for generations to come. May our families shine for You because we make time to know, love, and honor You now and help our children to do the same. In the precious name of Jesus I pray. Amen. Supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. I believe godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. That’s why I’ve created the Set-Apart Collective. Would you like to walk with other like-minded mothers to deepen your walk with Christ, learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan? I want to share special news with my podcast listeners. The Set-Apart Collective wait list is open now. Send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information and a special code to receive a discount if you find you’d like to join the collective. It’s time for mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. If you connected in some way with this episode, would you please rate and review the podcast on Apple or Spotify? The best reviews are by word of mouth, so if you would also choose a friend to recommend the show to, imagine the change we could see in the way mothers parent for Christ. Also, please tell friends and family that the podcast can be found at terrihitt.com, Apple Podcasts, iHeart Radio, Spotify, and on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place. Remember, if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will likely sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection. Previous Next

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast. Episode #011 – Abundance Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Forced changes in our nation over the last several weeks have shaped a new definition of abundance in the minds of most Americans. If you ponder the definition of the word, you most likely think of “a very large quantity of something” or “plentifulness of good things,” or “prosperity.” Throughout our years of marriage, my husband and I have shared times of ease and of difficulty. Getting married right out of high school with only $1,000 in savings was hard. Within the first year we had a baby and new expenses, medical bills, plus my health took a hit. After suffering for a few years with health issues, I had to have a hysterectomy at the age of 22. By then, we had two children and a lot more medical bills and expenses. I look back at those early years with wonder at how we survived. Before we knew God was caring for us, He was. My in-laws were there to help in many ways, and they prayed for us daily. Gradually, my health improved, and I began babysitting at home until our children were a little older and then I had to go to work outside of the home. We were working very hard to get out of debt. I remember paying about $100 total a month (which was a lot), breaking payments into $5 per medical specialist we owed just to keep them from calling collections on us. It was all we could afford. The Lord definitely provided miracles for us multiple times where we had no idea what we would do. Then, in later years, after our first two children were young adults, and we were in the last months of our first adoption from China, we needed $9,000.00 for the remaining expenses and travel money we needed to bring our infant daughter home. We prayed together daily through our “paper pregnancy” and this was one of the many requests we lifted to the Lord. After praying specifically about this need for about two weeks, my husband was called into his boss’s office at work and received a bonus check. After taxes and tithing, the amount was exactly $9,000.00. Matthew 6:11 says, “Give us this day our daily bread.” On our second adoption, I was no longer working outside of the home as I left my job the week before we left for China the first time. We had sucked through savings when we had to pay for the unexpected funeral of our oldest daughter and then my husband was laid off his job for almost two years. We honestly had no idea how we would pay for another adoption. The cost had risen substantially from ten years earlier, yet we knew with a certainty that God was calling us to obey and adopt. It was clear that God had a plan and we needed to bring home our last child. We knew it was our obligation to be clear on His calling and then step out in obedience. We were absolutely certain that God would provide everything we needed because of what He tells us in His word and faithfulness to us in the past. During this time, God blessed us with many loving friends and family members who donated small amounts that added up to help enormously. He also prompted two special friends to give large amounts that surprised and blessed our hearts immensely. We were recipients of several small grants from various organizations and a matching grant that complimented the giving of friends and family I mentioned earlier. Yet, just one week before our travel date, we were still in need of $3000.00. As I sat in a meeting with hospice discussing arrangements for my mother with Alzheimer’s, who had suddenly taken a turn for the worse, I received a call from one last organization. They wanted to let me know that they had a last-minute grant for us in the amount of $3,000.00. Only God. Matthew 6:33-34 says, “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” We stepped out in abundant obedience and let God manage the abundant details. Through the years, God has proven to me that I have taken times of abundance for granted. The more we made financially, sometimes I expected more. It doesn’t matter whether I felt like we were doing things with our money that God would approve of or not. What was critical is that I began to feel entitled to what I had. Life insurance is a great example of what I mean. Earlier I mentioned my husband’s job loss. It was when the economy took a dip about ten years ago and was the only income source our family had. My husband and I had made a pact that I would remain a stay-home mother as we raised our second family. It was extremely important to us to honor that promise we made to God and each other. Due to his job loss, we had to purchase COBRA (Continuation Coverage Assistance), which was extremely expensive. In addition, my insurance eligibility was suddenly questioned. It took months of work, a doctor visit with different blood tests, and petitioning from a rheumatologist and me before the insurance company decided they would insure me. I knew God heard our urgent prayers. I remembered each time I had complained about insurance premiums and co-pays being so expensive in the past and appreciated the blessing of just being covered now, despite it costing much more money. God had changed my heart while still providing care. Deuteronomy 8:2 says, “Remember how the Lord your God led you all the way in the desert these forty years, to humble you and to test you in order to know what was in your heart, whether or not you would keep His commands.” Everything we experience in life, whether we are ignoring the Lord or following Him intentionally, can be used to deepen our faith and understanding of Him and to allow us to draw nearer to Him so He will draw nearer to us. I consider that ultimate abundance. The majority of us in the United States live abundant lives. Especially in comparison to much of the world. Because of that, even if we live with what we consider to be grateful hearts, we may not live with an abundant awareness that everything we have is truly a gift provided by God. Deuteronomy 8:17-18a instruct us, “You may say to yourself, ‘My power and the strength of my hands have produced this wealth for me.’ But remember the Lord your God, for it is He who gives you the ability to produce wealth.” Everything is formed by His hands and comes to us from His hands. Often, when times are plentiful, we take things for granted without realizing it. We neglect to remember that our prosperity is not to be credited to our own wit, determination, or power. God allows and gives us all that we are and have. Although His love for us is intense and lasting, He rightfully expects us to manage all that He gives us in ways that will be pleasing to Him and with a remembrance that it is all from and for Him. God gives and takes for seasons and purposes that allow His abundant work to be completed in and around us. What God allows us to possess must be used for Him. If our lives are full of abundance, He has entrusted those gifts to us for a purpose at this time. The more we receive from His hands, the higher our responsibility to use our time, understanding, and resources becomes. Often, when our gifts and resources are financial, we find it is easy to become self-reliant and to forget what we have is a gift. It may or may not continue to be entrusted to us. We are to have open hands and an open heart with all we receive from God. Mark 10:23 says, “Jesus looked around and said to His disciples, ‘How hard it is for the rich to enter the kingdom of God.” When we already possess everything we could want and have the means to purchase anything we desire, it can be difficult to recognize our abundant need for a Savior. It is also easy to convince ourselves that the gifts and abundance we have are for our pleasure. Yet, when God has entrusted a resource to us, He expects us to use it for others to glorify His name and bring others to Him. 1 Peter 4:10-11a says, “Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, he should do it as one speaking the very words of God. If anyone serves, he should do it with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ.” How loving God is to endow us with gifts and talents! He could have allowed none of us to enjoy abilities that bring joy and pleasure. That He enables us to serve Him with them is further evidence that His love for us is extravagant and of course, abundant. Have you noticed that when you use what God has gifted you for selfish purposes just how little pleasure is felt? When we exercise generosity and serve others with what we have received, fullness of joy and gratitude flood in and propel us to give more. I have a friend who lives in South Carolina. During the last four years that I have known her, I have witnessed her embody giving with a beautiful spirit of grace. When our youngest celebrated our first birthday home with us, this friend ordered her a beautiful cake that was shipped to us. This past Christmas I received a late Christmas gift in the mail. It was a beautiful Christian Planner that I now use for work in this ministry. Who do you think it was from? Yes, it was also sent from this same South Carolina friend. She always looks for ways to give and enables others to feel seen and honored. I have been immensely blessed in being a recipient of her personalized care and generosity. She has found a way to show the principle of giving with a whole heart that has caused me, and I am sure many others, to feel abundantly loved. Joy and contentment are eternal. When we allow God to fill us with the ability to live and give joyfully with what He provides and strive to honor Him with it, we will also have the abundant peace that accompanies joy and contentment. Philippians 4:11b-13 says, “I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content. I know how to be abased, and I know how to abound. Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Is it easy to live with abundant contentment? No, not easy, but possible. To embody continuous contentment, we must make a choice to rely on the Holy Spirit alive in us to teach the behavior needed to ignore circumstances, or emotions, and build our resistance to complaining or searching for more. The Greek word for contentment is also translated as “satisfied, adequate, competent, or sufficient” in the New Testament. God’s will is for us to be abundantly satisfied despite circumstances. Galatians 5:22-25 says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us walk in step with the Spirit.” Living with abundance is not just about money or contentment mindsets. Jesus gives us the ability to fully live with abundant hearts, thoughts, peace, gratitude, joy, hope, love, kindness, gentleness, patience, self-control, and contentment. Because of Him, our minds and emotions can be free to live with the abundance He intends for us. Ephesians 3:20 says, “Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all we ask or think, according to the power at work within us.” When we strive to live closely with Jesus, He opens our eyes and minds, as well as our heart, to see and firmly believe that an abundant life is built on what we claim through and because of Him. Colossians 3:1-2 says, “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” I think something extremely important in the verses I mentioned from Colossians is found in what comes next in verse 3, which says, “For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God.” Surrendering to Him each and every moment is crucial if we desire an abundant life. Abundant surrender. We cannot recognize and we will not claim all He intends for us if we are not becoming more like Him daily. I want my will to be bent and shaped to His. Less of me and more of Jesus is the chant I keep reminding myself daily. I have recognized that Jesus is the key to fulfilling the abundant desires God placed in me when I was a thought in His heart. Proverbs 16:3 says, “Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.” My abundance has been found in following Him with a willing heart and obedient steps. Psalm 36:8 says, “They feast on the abundance of your house; you give them drink from your river of delights.” Through living with an abundant and obedient heart, we are able to allow others to see and taste what God has done and claim Him for themselves. God does not love any of us more than the other. He desires abundance through Him for every single one of us. When we look at what abundant means in the Greek translation, we see, “exceedingly, very highly, beyond measure, a quantity so abundant as to be considerably more than one would expect or anticipate.” What does that mean for followers of Jesus? He promises us a life that is much greater than we could ever imagine. How can that be? Think of all of the intelligent and highly creative minds this world has ever held. Not a single one of us can conceptualize what God has in store. 1 Corinthians 2:9 says, “But as it is written, eye has not seen, nor ear heard, nor have entered into the heart of man the things which God has prepared for those who love Him.” Wealth, power, and privilege are not priorities in the eyes of Jesus. The King of Kings left His throne to come to this broken world for us. The usual way this world thinks is opposite of the way God’s mind or kingdom operates. Obviously, some Christians have been blessed with wealth and power for a purpose, however, many of us are faithfully seeking what He calls us to count as abundant. Each breath we take, our loved ones, our health, the ability to have an occupation, and so much more that we have been given, are all abundant blessings. Simply knowing Jesus as our personal Savior is the most abundant provision and miracle we have been offered. God calls us to seek spiritual abundance with Him as the focus rather than rely on or chase after worldly abundance. If He looks after the sparrow, and cares for its every need, if He clothes the fields, how much more will He provide for us? We must be faithful to fix our minds and hearts on Jesus; God will abundantly care for the rest. 1 Corinthians 13:12 says, “For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.” As we continue to desire to be more Christ-like, and be stretched and grown through our walk with Him, we have an ever-present hope and promise. When we stand before Jesus one day, we will finally experience the grace and joy of a faithful life that has proven to be amply fulfilled by His passionate, abundant love for us. My beloved brothers and sisters in Christ, God does provide abundantly. He knows the details of our lives and desires good for us. He also expects abundance from us in return. He desires abundant trust and demands abundant obedience. He longs for us to desire Him with abundant passion. He seeks our abundant gratitude for His loving grace. He wants us to be abundantly content with all He has given and taken away. He wants us to surrender willingly and abundantly to Him. Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 011 Abundance Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast. Episode #011 – Abundance Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Forced changes in our nation over the last several weeks have shaped a new definition of abundance in the minds of most Americans. If you ponder the definition of the word, you most likely think of “a very large quantity of something” or “plentifulness of good things,” or “prosperity.” Throughout our years of marriage, my husband and I have shared times of ease and of difficulty. Getting married right out of high school with only $1,000 in savings was hard. Within the first year we had a baby and new expenses, medical bills, plus my health took a hit. After suffering for a few years with health issues, I had to have a hysterectomy at the age of 22. By then, we had two children and a lot more medical bills and expenses. I look back at those early years with wonder at how we survived. Before we knew God was caring for us, He was. My in-laws were there to help in many ways, and they prayed for us daily. Gradually, my health improved, and I began babysitting at home until our children were a little older and then I had to go to work outside of the home. We were working very hard to get out of debt. I remember paying about $100 total a month (which was a lot), breaking payments into $5 per medical specialist we owed just to keep them from calling collections on us. It was all we could afford. The Lord definitely provided miracles for us multiple times where we had no idea what we would do. Then, in later years, after our first two children were young adults, and we were in the last months of our first adoption from China, we needed $9,000.00 for the remaining expenses and travel money we needed to bring our infant daughter home. We prayed together daily through our “paper pregnancy” and this was one of the many requests we lifted to the Lord. After praying specifically about this need for about two weeks, my husband was called into his boss’s office at work and received a bonus check. After taxes and tithing, the amount was exactly $9,000.00. Matthew 6:11 says, “Give us this day our daily bread.” On our second adoption, I was no longer working outside of the home as I left my job the week before we left for China the first time. We had sucked through savings when we had to pay for the unexpected funeral of our oldest daughter and then my husband was laid off his job for almost two years. We honestly had no idea how we would pay for another adoption. The cost had risen substantially from ten years earlier, yet we knew with a certainty that God was calling us to obey and adopt. It was clear that God had a plan and we needed to bring home our last child. We knew it was our obligation to be clear on His calling and then step out in obedience. We were absolutely certain that God would provide everything we needed because of what He tells us in His word and faithfulness to us in the past. During this time, God blessed us with many loving friends and family members who donated small amounts that added up to help enormously. He also prompted two special friends to give large amounts that surprised and blessed our hearts immensely. We were recipients of several small grants from various organizations and a matching grant that complimented the giving of friends and family I mentioned earlier. Yet, just one week before our travel date, we were still in need of $3000.00. As I sat in a meeting with hospice discussing arrangements for my mother with Alzheimer’s, who had suddenly taken a turn for the worse, I received a call from one last organization. They wanted to let me know that they had a last-minute grant for us in the amount of $3,000.00. Only God. Matthew 6:33-34 says, “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” We stepped out in abundant obedience and let God manage the abundant details. Through the years, God has proven to me that I have taken times of abundance for granted. The more we made financially, sometimes I expected more. It doesn’t matter whether I felt like we were doing things with our money that God would approve of or not. What was critical is that I began to feel entitled to what I had. Life insurance is a great example of what I mean. Earlier I mentioned my husband’s job loss. It was when the economy took a dip about ten years ago and was the only income source our family had. My husband and I had made a pact that I would remain a stay-home mother as we raised our second family. It was extremely important to us to honor that promise we made to God and each other. Due to his job loss, we had to purchase COBRA (Continuation Coverage Assistance), which was extremely expensive. In addition, my insurance eligibility was suddenly questioned. It took months of work, a doctor visit with different blood tests, and petitioning from a rheumatologist and me before the insurance company decided they would insure me. I knew God heard our urgent prayers. I remembered each time I had complained about insurance premiums and co-pays being so expensive in the past and appreciated the blessing of just being covered now, despite it costing much more money. God had changed my heart while still providing care. Deuteronomy 8:2 says, “Remember how the Lord your God led you all the way in the desert these forty years, to humble you and to test you in order to know what was in your heart, whether or not you would keep His commands.” Everything we experience in life, whether we are ignoring the Lord or following Him intentionally, can be used to deepen our faith and understanding of Him and to allow us to draw nearer to Him so He will draw nearer to us. I consider that ultimate abundance. The majority of us in the United States live abundant lives. Especially in comparison to much of the world. Because of that, even if we live with what we consider to be grateful hearts, we may not live with an abundant awareness that everything we have is truly a gift provided by God. Deuteronomy 8:17-18a instruct us, “You may say to yourself, ‘My power and the strength of my hands have produced this wealth for me.’ But remember the Lord your God, for it is He who gives you the ability to produce wealth.” Everything is formed by His hands and comes to us from His hands. Often, when times are plentiful, we take things for granted without realizing it. We neglect to remember that our prosperity is not to be credited to our own wit, determination, or power. God allows and gives us all that we are and have. Although His love for us is intense and lasting, He rightfully expects us to manage all that He gives us in ways that will be pleasing to Him and with a remembrance that it is all from and for Him. God gives and takes for seasons and purposes that allow His abundant work to be completed in and around us. What God allows us to possess must be used for Him. If our lives are full of abundance, He has entrusted those gifts to us for a purpose at this time. The more we receive from His hands, the higher our responsibility to use our time, understanding, and resources becomes. Often, when our gifts and resources are financial, we find it is easy to become self-reliant and to forget what we have is a gift. It may or may not continue to be entrusted to us. We are to have open hands and an open heart with all we receive from God. Mark 10:23 says, “Jesus looked around and said to His disciples, ‘How hard it is for the rich to enter the kingdom of God.” When we already possess everything we could want and have the means to purchase anything we desire, it can be difficult to recognize our abundant need for a Savior. It is also easy to convince ourselves that the gifts and abundance we have are for our pleasure. Yet, when God has entrusted a resource to us, He expects us to use it for others to glorify His name and bring others to Him. 1 Peter 4:10-11a says, “Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, he should do it as one speaking the very words of God. If anyone serves, he should do it with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ.” How loving God is to endow us with gifts and talents! He could have allowed none of us to enjoy abilities that bring joy and pleasure. That He enables us to serve Him with them is further evidence that His love for us is extravagant and of course, abundant. Have you noticed that when you use what God has gifted you for selfish purposes just how little pleasure is felt? When we exercise generosity and serve others with what we have received, fullness of joy and gratitude flood in and propel us to give more. I have a friend who lives in South Carolina. During the last four years that I have known her, I have witnessed her embody giving with a beautiful spirit of grace. When our youngest celebrated our first birthday home with us, this friend ordered her a beautiful cake that was shipped to us. This past Christmas I received a late Christmas gift in the mail. It was a beautiful Christian Planner that I now use for work in this ministry. Who do you think it was from? Yes, it was also sent from this same South Carolina friend. She always looks for ways to give and enables others to feel seen and honored. I have been immensely blessed in being a recipient of her personalized care and generosity. She has found a way to show the principle of giving with a whole heart that has caused me, and I am sure many others, to feel abundantly loved. Joy and contentment are eternal. When we allow God to fill us with the ability to live and give joyfully with what He provides and strive to honor Him with it, we will also have the abundant peace that accompanies joy and contentment. Philippians 4:11b-13 says, “I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content. I know how to be abased, and I know how to abound. Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Is it easy to live with abundant contentment? No, not easy, but possible. To embody continuous contentment, we must make a choice to rely on the Holy Spirit alive in us to teach the behavior needed to ignore circumstances, or emotions, and build our resistance to complaining or searching for more. The Greek word for contentment is also translated as “satisfied, adequate, competent, or sufficient” in the New Testament. God’s will is for us to be abundantly satisfied despite circumstances. Galatians 5:22-25 says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us walk in step with the Spirit.” Living with abundance is not just about money or contentment mindsets. Jesus gives us the ability to fully live with abundant hearts, thoughts, peace, gratitude, joy, hope, love, kindness, gentleness, patience, self-control, and contentment. Because of Him, our minds and emotions can be free to live with the abundance He intends for us. Ephesians 3:20 says, “Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all we ask or think, according to the power at work within us.” When we strive to live closely with Jesus, He opens our eyes and minds, as well as our heart, to see and firmly believe that an abundant life is built on what we claim through and because of Him. Colossians 3:1-2 says, “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” I think something extremely important in the verses I mentioned from Colossians is found in what comes next in verse 3, which says, “For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God.” Surrendering to Him each and every moment is crucial if we desire an abundant life. Abundant surrender. We cannot recognize and we will not claim all He intends for us if we are not becoming more like Him daily. I want my will to be bent and shaped to His. Less of me and more of Jesus is the chant I keep reminding myself daily. I have recognized that Jesus is the key to fulfilling the abundant desires God placed in me when I was a thought in His heart. Proverbs 16:3 says, “Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.” My abundance has been found in following Him with a willing heart and obedient steps. Psalm 36:8 says, “They feast on the abundance of your house; you give them drink from your river of delights.” Through living with an abundant and obedient heart, we are able to allow others to see and taste what God has done and claim Him for themselves. God does not love any of us more than the other. He desires abundance through Him for every single one of us. When we look at what abundant means in the Greek translation, we see, “exceedingly, very highly, beyond measure, a quantity so abundant as to be considerably more than one would expect or anticipate.” What does that mean for followers of Jesus? He promises us a life that is much greater than we could ever imagine. How can that be? Think of all of the intelligent and highly creative minds this world has ever held. Not a single one of us can conceptualize what God has in store. 1 Corinthians 2:9 says, “But as it is written, eye has not seen, nor ear heard, nor have entered into the heart of man the things which God has prepared for those who love Him.” Wealth, power, and privilege are not priorities in the eyes of Jesus. The King of Kings left His throne to come to this broken world for us. The usual way this world thinks is opposite of the way God’s mind or kingdom operates. Obviously, some Christians have been blessed with wealth and power for a purpose, however, many of us are faithfully seeking what He calls us to count as abundant. Each breath we take, our loved ones, our health, the ability to have an occupation, and so much more that we have been given, are all abundant blessings. Simply knowing Jesus as our personal Savior is the most abundant provision and miracle we have been offered. God calls us to seek spiritual abundance with Him as the focus rather than rely on or chase after worldly abundance. If He looks after the sparrow, and cares for its every need, if He clothes the fields, how much more will He provide for us? We must be faithful to fix our minds and hearts on Jesus; God will abundantly care for the rest. 1 Corinthians 13:12 says, “For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.” As we continue to desire to be more Christ-like, and be stretched and grown through our walk with Him, we have an ever-present hope and promise. When we stand before Jesus one day, we will finally experience the grace and joy of a faithful life that has proven to be amply fulfilled by His passionate, abundant love for us. My beloved brothers and sisters in Christ, God does provide abundantly. He knows the details of our lives and desires good for us. He also expects abundance from us in return. He desires abundant trust and demands abundant obedience. He longs for us to desire Him with abundant passion. He seeks our abundant gratitude for His loving grace. He wants us to be abundantly content with all He has given and taken away. He wants us to surrender willingly and abundantly to Him. Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective.

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 134 - Change and Rest Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 134 – Change and Rest Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom and BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you will be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Before we start today’s episode, I want to invite you to work with me. If you’re feeling overwhelm instead of overjoy, or you simply feel you don’t know how to do the things you think will help your kids know Christ, send me a message at info@terrihitt.com . There is a way to alleviate frustration or fear and find freedom as a godly mom. No matter the age of your kids, from infant to adult, your relationship can improve and you can find greater connection with Jesus that will affect theirs into eternity. Send me a message today for info about how easy it is to work together and begin experiencing change with my summer special for only $297. Don’t wait. As a bonus, I’m offering the first five women accepted into the program a one-on-one session plus four weeks of individualized group coaching. Over the last several months I’ve been experiencing health issues. In fact, since September of 2024, I’ve been sick more than well. But one thing hasn’t changed. The presence of Christ and the power He works through me. That same power works within you when you belong to Jesus. Everything experienced in this temporary world should bring us nearer to Him. Praise God that when we are His, we can live with the assurance that He is present, and that all things work together for good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. Through this time I have many God stories, glimpse of hope and assurance that indeed God is with me. He carries me and He carries you. Despite what feelings or thoughts tend to make us believe. We can rest in His truths. I’m sure some of my stories will make their way into future episodes. God has been busy. He’s working new projects and giving me changes to make for Him. Such as changes to this podcast. In the near future, you’ll notice Purposed Parent Connected Child changing to the Godly Motherhood Podcast with a tagline of Chasing Christ Over Culture. It has taken me MONTHS of prayer to discern whether I was hearing God correctly. Now it’s time to move forward in obedience. Future episodes will focus on biblical truths and encouragement for moms, spiritual and emotional training for mothers and children, and Christian parenting. We’ll discover together how to become godly moms who purposely chase Christ over culture with our children. If you’re a mom, you’ve been entrusted with great treasure. The Great I Am, the God of the Universe designed your children with extreme care and great purpose and meant for them to be discipled by you. Join with me to discover ways to be equipped to please God as we travel through life, preparing for eternity. As for now, I plan to take some time off for summer. I’m in the final phase of book edits on “The Good Mom Trap: Break the Lie That Good Parenting Creates Godly Kids.” It’s been a beautiful journey I’ll probably share with a guest on the podcast sometime in the future. In fact, I’ve got more guests to be introduced to you after the podcast resumes. In the meantime, I plan to make the name change this summer. So when you return to listen, it will be with the new name, but same photo in a slightly different form. As long as you subscribe, you’ll know when new episodes are released. In the meantime, remember that there are MANY episodes already recorded and available to hear, as well as episodes from my former podcast, Live With Eternal Perspective. My prayer is that you enjoy your summer with family and I hope you’re here for the newly named podcast before fall arrives. Dear Heavenly Father, Your love is such a gift. Thank you for Your grace, mercy, and lovingkindness. The longer we cling to You the more we stand in awe of You. Please help each of us to follow where You lead. May we move closer to You despite trials or triumphs. May we cling to Your truths and promises. May the ground below us be a solid foundation built on Christ, not the shifting sands of this world. Help us draw nearer to You and feel You draw nearer to us. In the precious name of Your Holy Son, Jesus we pray. Amen. If you have questions after this episode, please reach out to me at info@terrihitt.com . I’m happy to help you discover the ways you can ensure you trust and submit to God to lead your parenting. I also have a resource that you’ll find helpful as you navigate your daily routine as a mom. If you’re ready to become the godly mother God entrusts you to be for Him and His children, you’ll love my free “Good to Godly: A 31-Day Scripture and Prayer Guide for Moms.” Visit terrihitt.com to receive this resource. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. Remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #096 – Open Hearts for Orphans – Interview with Lisa Murphy Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Last week I began a series of conversations to bring awareness to National Adoption Month and the miracle of adoption. When we adopted from China, several people asked why. Not only were they inquiring as to why we were adopting after we had already raised two children, but they also wanted to understand why we were not adopting from the United States. Some people asked why we were going all the way to China for our baby. Our answer is honest and quite easy. We went where God called us to go. We never considered adopting, let alone traveling to a foreign country to do so until God changed our hearts and let us know His plan. What a glorious life we have lived because of heeding His call and stepping forward in obedience. My guest today is Lisa Murphy, a wife of 29 years to her husband, Jim, and mother to five unexpected and beautiful children through adoption - four living on earth and one residing in Heaven. Lisa is the Founder and CEO of Open Hearts For Orphans Inc., a 501(c)3 non-profit organization created to care for orphaned and abandoned children around the world through medical intervention, meeting basic needs, and providing their "Say Yes" adoption grants to families in the process. Open Hearts For Orphans especially believes that children belong in loving families and to date has issued over seventy adoption grants to families adopting children with special needs from fifteen different countries. Lisa’s adoption story began when she embraced the unexpected grace of our Heavenly Father who crafts desires and dreams within us during our creation. He weaves lives and stories together in beautiful ways that prove His existence, love, and provision for us. I pray you will see Him at work as you listen to Lisa’s tragic, yet hope-filled story and see how God used tragedy and hardship to bring awareness, love, provision, and change for orphans because our Great God cares for what society may consider “the least of these.” Life is never just about us alone; it is about each person God created in His image with a love so deep and wide that He offered the greatest sacrifice of His son, Jesus. God uses our lives, as well, for bigger purposes than we can imagine. Stepping out in faith to follow where He directs brings blessings for so many more than just ourselves and crafts a portrait of devotion and pure, holy love that is more beautiful than any piece of art we will see this side of heaven. ----------------------------------------------------INTERVIEW------------------------------------------------ Isn’t God wise to protect us from knowing our future? What fears and insecurities we are guarded from simply because He asks us to trust Him, to join Him on the journey of crafting a life that allows His sturdy, strong arms to carry us. His mighty works are evident in Lisa’s life as God crafted her family together in the ways He desires and that give Him joy. He knew the deepest desires of Lisa’s spirit, hopes that were not even realized by her yet, would be touched through His unexpected plans. For more information about Open Hearts for Orphans, please visit their website, Facebook page, Instagram, and YouTube channel. You may reach Lisa at openheartsfororphansorg@gmail.com. Lisa’s book, With An Open Heart their family's personal account of love, loss, and unexpected blessings is a deeply moving, true story that lovingly chronicles her family's shockingly short, yet profoundly powerful experience with their son Daniel and his zest for life. All royalties for Lisa's memoir are directed to Open Hearts for Orphans. Father God, we humbly bow before You. You are the Great I Am, the Beginning and the End, and our Great Provider. Father, we thank You for Your gracious, lavish love. Thank you for the ways You carry us, and for the multitude of things You do that we never notice or realize. Thank You for the plans You crafted for us before we were even born. Heavenly Father, You are good, Your plans are good. Even when we do not understand them or see them, we trust in You. Our hope is in You. Help us to see and desire You more clearly, more intimately each day. In the precious name of Jesus we humbly pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 096 - Open Hearts for Orphans - Interview with Lisa Murphy Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #096 – Open Hearts for Orphans – Interview with Lisa Murphy Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Last week I began a series of conversations to bring awareness to National Adoption Month and the miracle of adoption. When we adopted from China, several people asked why. Not only were they inquiring as to why we were adopting after we had already raised two children, but they also wanted to understand why we were not adopting from the United States. Some people asked why we were going all the way to China for our baby. Our answer is honest and quite easy. We went where God called us to go. We never considered adopting, let alone traveling to a foreign country to do so until God changed our hearts and let us know His plan. What a glorious life we have lived because of heeding His call and stepping forward in obedience. My guest today is Lisa Murphy, a wife of 29 years to her husband, Jim, and mother to five unexpected and beautiful children through adoption - four living on earth and one residing in Heaven. Lisa is the Founder and CEO of Open Hearts For Orphans Inc., a 501(c)3 non-profit organization created to care for orphaned and abandoned children around the world through medical intervention, meeting basic needs, and providing their "Say Yes" adoption grants to families in the process. Open Hearts For Orphans especially believes that children belong in loving families and to date has issued over seventy adoption grants to families adopting children with special needs from fifteen different countries. Lisa’s adoption story began when she embraced the unexpected grace of our Heavenly Father who crafts desires and dreams within us during our creation. He weaves lives and stories together in beautiful ways that prove His existence, love, and provision for us. I pray you will see Him at work as you listen to Lisa’s tragic, yet hope-filled story and see how God used tragedy and hardship to bring awareness, love, provision, and change for orphans because our Great God cares for what society may consider “the least of these.” Life is never just about us alone; it is about each person God created in His image with a love so deep and wide that He offered the greatest sacrifice of His son, Jesus. God uses our lives, as well, for bigger purposes than we can imagine. Stepping out in faith to follow where He directs brings blessings for so many more than just ourselves and crafts a portrait of devotion and pure, holy love that is more beautiful than any piece of art we will see this side of heaven. ----------------------------------------------------INTERVIEW------------------------------------------------ Isn’t God wise to protect us from knowing our future? What fears and insecurities we are guarded from simply because He asks us to trust Him, to join Him on the journey of crafting a life that allows His sturdy, strong arms to carry us. His mighty works are evident in Lisa’s life as God crafted her family together in the ways He desires and that give Him joy. He knew the deepest desires of Lisa’s spirit, hopes that were not even realized by her yet, would be touched through His unexpected plans. For more information about Open Hearts for Orphans, please visit their website, Facebook page, Instagram, and YouTube channel. You may reach Lisa at openheartsfororphansorg@gmail.com . Lisa’s book, With An Open Heart their family's personal account of love, loss, and unexpected blessings is a deeply moving, true story that lovingly chronicles her family's shockingly short, yet profoundly powerful experience with their son Daniel and his zest for life. All royalties for Lisa's memoir are directed to Open Hearts for Orphans. Father God, we humbly bow before You. You are the Great I Am, the Beginning and the End, and our Great Provider. Father, we thank You for Your gracious, lavish love. Thank you for the ways You carry us, and for the multitude of things You do that we never notice or realize. Thank You for the plans You crafted for us before we were even born. Heavenly Father, You are good, Your plans are good. Even when we do not understand them or see them, we trust in You. Our hope is in You. Help us to see and desire You more clearly, more intimately each day. In the precious name of Jesus we humbly pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please visit terrihitt.com to access podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture. 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< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 133 - Stop Getting in God's Way: Let Him Parent Through You Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 133 – Stop Getting in God’s Way: Let Him Parent Through You Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom and BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you will be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Before we start today’s episode, I want to invite you to work with me. If you’re feeling overwhelm instead of overjoy, or you simply feel you don’t have time to do all the things you think will help your kids know Christ, send me a message at info@terrihitt.com . There is a way to alleviate frustration or fear and find freedom as a godly mom. No matter the age of your kids, from infant to adult, your relationship can improve and you can find greater connection with Jesus that will affect theirs. Send me a message today for info about how easy it is to work together and begin experiencing change for only $397. Now, let's talk about how to stop getting in God's way, so you can let Him parent through you. One of the best revelations a follower of Christ can make is jumping into and abiding in the arms of God. People often remark that they’re walking with God, or holding His hand. I want you to be intentional. Go deeper. Our Heavenly Father never belongs by our side. The Lord of All, Prince of Peace, Author and Perfecter of our Faith, and the Alpha and Omega holds out His strong and capable arms, ready for us to rest and abide within His arms. This means He isn’t behind or beside us. Instead, He is the One carrying and sustaining you through every disturbance, disruption, and delight. Where are you now? Are you abiding in the Father’s arms? Or are you choosing to trust Jesus for eternity, but not for each moment? Matthew 14:22-33 says, “Immediately He made the disciples get into the boat and go before Him to the other side, while He dismissed the crowds. And after He had dismissed the crowds, He went up on the mountain by Himself to pray. When evening came, He was there alone, but the boat by this time was a long way from the land, beaten by the waves, for the wind was against them. And in the fourth watch of the night He came to them, walking on the sea. But when the disciples saw Him walking on the sea, they were terrified, and said, “It is a ghost!” and they cried out in fear. But immediately Jesus spoke to them, saying, “Take heart; it is I. Do not be afraid.” And Peter answered Him, “Lord, if it is you, command me to come to you on the water.” He said, “Come.” So Peter got out of the boat and walked on the water and came to Jesus. But when he saw the wind, he was afraid, and beginning to sink he cried out, “Lord, save me.” Jesus immediately reached out His hand and took hold of him, saying to him, “O you of little faith, why did you doubt?” And when they got into the boat, the wind ceased. And those in the boat worshiped Him, saying, “Truly you are the Son of God .” What a decision Peter made! He chose to step out of the boat and into the choppy, stormy waters to walk toward Jesus. While His eyes and mind were centered on Jesus, Peter actually walked on the water! When his focus slipped away from Christ and fell to self and surroundings, Peter experienced fear, panic, and difficulties. Jesus had not moved; He had not changed. Jesus remained centered on Peter and ready to care for him. Peter’s mind moved away from Jesus and he began to sink. Focus marks the distinction between faith and fear. Are you choosing to focus on self, the world and those around you, or on the Only One who can carry you? While it is easy to blame Peter and belittle his faith, he was willing to be the one who walked toward Jesus. Peter was willing to leave the other disciples, leave what he knew, and venture alone into the turbulent waters toward Jesus. The other men remain unchanged and unmoving inside the boat while Peter took the risk of trusting Christ. Why did the others remain in the boat? Why didn’t they walk with Peter? Why is it so difficult to place and keep our mind, heart, and focus on Christ? What do people struggle to trust God with each occasion and stage of life? There are actually multiple reasons. Let’s look at what the most common causes are and how we can turn to Scripture to battle them. 1. Trust – It can be difficult to trust or believe in what we cannot see. Hebrews 11:1 says, “Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen .” John 20:29 says, “Jesus said to him, “Have you believed because you have seen me? Blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed .” 2. Worry/Anxiety – It’s easy to imagine what might happen and allow our thoughts to spiral out of control. Anxiety and stress are products of this world, not by-products of the Way. 1 Peter 5:7 says, “Casting all your anxieties on him, because He cares for you .” Matthew 6:31-34 says, “Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble .” 3. Control – We don’t want to relinquish our perceived control. Matthew 11:28 says, “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest .” Philippians 4:6 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God .” The only One who holds control is our Father. You weren’t meant to be in charge. Release the need and trust as you lay in His hands. 4. Doubt – When things don’t go the way we desire or think they should or if we begin to wonder why there is hardship and evil in the world, doubt can begin to creep in. Hebrew 11:1 says, “Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen .” Matthew 6:30 says, “But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will He not much more clothe you, O you of little faith ?” 5. Sinfulness – I also like to call this selfishness. When we don’t want to give up sin, we are choosing self over Christ. We’re also choosing self over our family. Personal sin always affects those who love us. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 says, “Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body .” Romans 7:22-23 says, “For I delight in the law of God, in my inner being, but I see in my members another law waging war against the law of my mind and making me captive to the law of sin that dwells in my members .” 6. Arrogance/Pride – Pride rears up in each of us through different ways. Whether it be entitlement, perfectionism, bragging, if we think we are superior to someone or deserve something more than another, the root of each thought ties back to arrogance or pride. James 4:6 says, “But He gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble .” James 4:10 says, “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will exalt you .” 7. Unworthiness – Each of us was bought with a price. The life of Jesus was exchanged so that we could begin to understand our great worth to God. Isaiah 43:18 says, “Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old .” Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope .” Matthew 6:26 says, “Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they ?” 8. Fear – When fear creeps in, it’s because we’ve taken our mind and eyes off of God and centered them on self or surroundings. Every time I have felt fear even begin to touch me I stop and focus on Jesus (and in my mind I actually picture blinders on my face that force my vision upwards on God). As I rest in His presence and pray to Him about the situation I am fearing, He takes the burden and calms any fears. It is said that God leaves the message “Do not fear” 365 times in the Bible. I'm not sure whether that is an accurate count, but I trust that the Lord gives us the command as many times as needed. He knows our thoughts can easily be distracted and move from His sovereign holiness and perfect provision and protection. Psalm 34:4 says, “I sought the LORD, and He answered me and delivered me from all my fears .” Psalm 115:11 says, “You who fear the LORD, trust in the LORD! He is their help and their shield.” John 14:27 says, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid .” 9. Faith – Perhaps our belief doesn’t feel real or big enough. Maybe difficult times in the past, unanswered prayers, or present hardships may cause us to feel like God has forsaken us or that He isn’t real. Each of the points we discussed can arguably return back to the thought of faith that is too little. But remember, God’s Word tells us all we need is a faith the size of a mustard seed. Plant that seed and let it grow and mature through Christ. James 1:2-4 says, “Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing .” Romans 8:18 says, “For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us .” We each know how easy it can be to allow self or situations to distract us and move our eyes off Christ. Being aware of this offers us the opportunity to purposely prepare to be ahead of our next season of trials. Intentionally living in ways that set us up to trust God gives us assurance that our focus will not be easily swayed this moment or tomorrow. That’s the only way to be able to mentor this behavior full of faith and trust to your children. Without you living in ways that magnify the Lord and His mighty work in your life, your testimony won’t influence generations for Jesus. How can you live in ways that set your family up to trust God for eternity and the everyday? 1. Know Jesus through a personal relationship. 2. Read and study God’s word. 3. Prayer – speak to God and listen for God. 4. Pursue close relationship with God daily. 5. Invite and allow Christ to transform your life. 6. Decide to rest and abide in His arms. Take your thoughts captive for Christ and see the difference He makes to your surrendered soul. Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me .” Ephesians 6:12 says, “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places .” As you study God’s Word and think about or pray about the verses we read today, ponder the following questions: Teach these question and habits to your children to continue. 1. What does this verse promise? 2. What does this verse command? 3. Where do I need to apply this in my life? Ask God to carry your cares and deepen your faith and trust. He alone is able to reach the crevices of your body and spirit and remedy what troubles you. He alone can use your faithfulness to influence your whole family for Him. Dear Heavenly Father, Your love for us is so great! Your glory fills the earth and yet we fail to experience Your love and power as You desire. Help us to see You clearly as Your word instructs and to love us with a love that fills us in the deep and dark spaces of need we each carry. Thank you for loving us first and for making a way straight to You through Jesus. Help our faith to be full, alive, and active. Enable us to cling to You through every moment we face and trust in Your provision and protection despite what happens in the world around us. Fix our eyes and our heart on You. Help us mentor our children to do the same. In the precious name of Your Holy Son, Jesus we pray. Amen. If you have questions after this episode, please reach out to me at info@terrihitt.com . I’m happy to help you discover the ways you can ensure you trust and submit to God to lead your parenting. I also have a resource that you’ll find helpful as you navigate your daily routine as a mom. 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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #140 – How to Identify False Teachers Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. Last year I was disappointed by a couple of people who came into my life. I thought they were upstanding, godly people who genuinely loved the Lord. After getting to know them better, I was surprised to discover that either they were making mistake after mistake or they simply weren’t who they appeared to be. I really cannot express my disappointment in even thinking that they may not be who I thought they were. Sadness covered me as I imagined that I had been deceived. After this initial thought, I feared for their eternal future. I did not want these people I had come to care for to be anything other than what they first appeared to be. I didn’t want them to potentially live for eternity without Christ. I’m still praying for the two people I am referring to. I hope I met them when they were going through hard seasons and that the love they professed for Jesus is true. I hope that they made bad choices in the times I spent with them and that they have grown daily since that time and are better equipped to shine the Lord in authentic ways that won’t make people second guess them or their position with Christ. I hope they are seeking the Lord in new ways that leave no question who they follow. I hope that when I make mistakes it is not in front of others who might question my love for Jesus. I hope that my mistakes never make the Lord appear to be less than He is. I want all the glory for anything worthy I accomplish to go to Him. I have learned that anything of value that I do is not of my own hand, but comes from time spent with the Father and in His provision. Not knowing whether someone is an authentic believer after beginning to know them truly grieves my heart in various ways. I want everyone to know and love the Lord with a true and lasting relationship that brings joy, peace, love, and all of the fruits of the Spirit in ways they can’t help but proclaim love and devotion to Jesus. Without judging, but with the use of godly discernment, take the story I gave with people I came to know last year and transfer it to pastors, ministry leaders, podcasters, and others who publicly profess Christ in some sort of ministry. We are a front line, so to speak, to opinions people will hold of Christ. Such a high responsibility is a calling. It is a high service for one we cannot begin to represent well enough. Although I believe most people who exert effort, love, prayer, and time into helping others see, know, love, and honor Christ truly love Jesus and want to serve Him well, there are some who are going through the motions for personal gain or glory. As sad as that fact is, there are ways we can protect ourselves and others from becoming deceived and following these false teachers. First, let’s read, then break-down and examine a passage of Scripture from 1 John 1:5-10 which says, “This is the message we have heard from Him and proclaim to you, that God is light, and in Him is no darkness at all. If we say we have fellowship with Him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin. If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us.” Many false teachers will deny or ignore the existence of sin. Believers must be diligent and discerning to observe the way those professing love for Christ conduct their life. Whether it be in the acts they perform, the words they speak, the attitude they express, or the way they lie their life, these people will do something that produces red flags. In the passage of verses we read, John affirms the reality of sin and the mindset believers should carry toward it. If a person denies the reality of sin, they may be exposing their lack of salvation or understanding of sin. When we hear, “this is the message we have heard from Him,” John is stating that what they are repeating is not from them, but from God. Galatians 1:11-12 says, “I want you to know, brothers and sisters, that the gospel I preached is not of human origin. I did not receive it from any man, nor was I taught it; rather, I received it by revelation from Jesus Christ. The words, “God is light” in 1 John 1:5 confirms that in God we can find no darkness. He is the Author of Light. No darkness can exist within Him. We know that usually when one hears the term, “light” we think of absence of darkness, purity or holiness. When we know the word is referencing our Heavenly Father, we think of holiness or biblical truths. 1 Thessalonians 5:4-6 says, “But you, brothers and sisters, are not in darkness so that this day should surprise you like a thief. You are all children of the light and children of the day. We do not belong to the night or to the darkness. So then, let us not be like others, who are asleep, but let us be awake and sober.” Those who do not truly know the Lord profess to be enlightened with wisdom, although believers should recognize that the knowledge and insight they speak is from within, not given to them by God. When wisdom is not given by God, it will end up being the opposite. When we do not walk and live in the light, we exist in darkness. When John continues in verse 5, he states, “no darkness at all.” With these words, John confirms that we can be assured that in God we find holy perfection. There is absolutely nothing in the character of God that deviates from truth, purity, or holiness. James 1:17-18 says, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all He created.” Although there are many who claim to enjoy fellowship with God, the lifestyle they live, may it be words, activities, actions, reactions, character, integrity, and so on, indicates that they lack genuine repentance and submission to Christ. When I speak these words, I realize that we are each human and prone to sin, mistakes, and misunderstandings. I do not make this remark lightly. I do so only to warn each of us, myself included that we must be aware and cautious. Of course, we want to give others the benefit of the doubt, and we certainly want to pray for them, but do not be deceived. We cannot live in darkness and profess to be of the light. Just as I spoke of the light earlier, to live in light in the Christian sense means to be a follower of Christ. To live in darkness is to live without Christ. Although we each sin in some way daily, those dedicated to maturing a genuine walk with Christ daily live with an urgency that demands obedient and submission and keeps them in search of light. Within us, the Holy Spirit is at work to warn and protect us, to steer us away from darkness. “Do not practice,” as said in verse 6 reinforces what I just said about living in darkness. When one professing to be a follower of Christ does not practice what they say they believe or they continue practicing what goes against God’s commands and directions, their habits point to the truth. Verse 7 confirms that in contrast to those living in darkness, while claiming to be of the light, when one professes to love and follow Christ, there is a noticeable and continual refining, renewal of the soul that can only be completed through our precious Lord. As verse 8 shows, false teachers will claim to be in the light while they knowingly walk in darkness, denying sin within them. If someone denies having any sin, that darkness cannot be addressed and conquered through Christ. Verse 9 proves that we each need to draw nearer to Christ with purpose so that we can recognize and confess sin. His Word promises that He is faithful. As we confess our sins, He will forgive and purify us. As Christians have salvation through the work of Christ on the cross, we can live with purpose, intent on drawing nearer to Jesus daily. We have been forgiven of all sins. Of course, if one continues in known sin that goes against the Father, we must confess and receive the cleansing work of the Father, but the Holy Spirit is at work moment by moment to enable us to rest in the hand of God and continue to eradicate sin from our life. As we peel back the layers, so to speak, we find more and more ways to submit and be cleansed, but false teachers do not admit to sin nature or see the need to be cleansed of sin in their life. Verse 10 reminds us that if we claim that no sin is in us, we “make Him a liar.” As false teachers make no claim of sin, they blaspheme and slander God. This passage we just studied from James succinctly shows the truth of how to live in light-filled and correct fellowship with Christ and others. James 1:17-27 says, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all He created. My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do. Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless. Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.” Many people are confused by social media, school agendas, educators, leaders, influencers, celebrities, pastors, and cultural shifts. Children are being raised without the compass of Christ to guide and protect them. Those without a godly compass to lead and instruct them with truth often easily fall victim to a rebellious nature of self-pleasure and seeking easy ways to do so. Or they fall prey to new age ideologies and false religions. It seems like the younger generation desires life without authority, but I believe every person prefers a life without boundaries to some extent, simply because humans prefer our own selfish nature to allow us whatever pleasures we desire. However, once we are free from the bondage of sin and flesh through Christ, we change, transformed by the power of the Holy Spirit alive within. Because there are many who have not yet experienced this freedom found only through Christ, false teachers, preachers, and advertisers have a large audience they can fill with exactly what these seekers may search for. By claiming self-love, materialism, reincarnation, new age practices, earn your way to Heaven tactics, prosperity preaching, and more, those in need of filling a void inside will listen and respond with eagerness to this shiny new hope. Let’s look at a few ways people may be deceived and how believers may be better equipped to discern and detect false leaders. 1. False leaders promote human glory instead of glorifying God. 1 John 4:2-3 says, “This is how you can recognize the Spirit of God: Every spirit that acknowledges that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God, but every spirit that does not acknowledge Jesus is not from God. This is the spirit of the antichrist, which you have heard is coming and even now is already in the world.” 2. False leaders don’t teach the inerrancy of Scripture. 2 Peter 1:20-21 says, “Above all, you must understand that no prophecy of Scripture came about by the prophet’s own interpretation of things. For prophecy never had its origin in the human will, but prophets, though human, spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit.” John 17:17 says, “Sanctify them by the truth; Your word is truth.” 3. False teachers believe there is no need for repentance and don’t speak about what God says about sin. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” Romans 6:23 says, “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” 4. False teachers don’t preach about the reality of hell. Hebrews 9:27-28 says, “Just as people are destined to die once, and after that to face judgment, so Christ was sacrificed once to take away the sins of many; and He will appear a second time, not to bear sin, but to bring salvation to those who are waiting for Him.” 5. False teachers teach personal prosperity. Philippians 4:19 says, “And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” 6. False teachers teach doctrine that goes against the Bible. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God a may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.” 7. False teachers are prideful and divisive. 1 Timothy 6:3-5 says, “If anyone teaches otherwise and does not agree to the sound instruction of our Lord Jesus Christ and to godly teaching, they are conceited and understand nothing. They have an unhealthy interest in controversies and quarrels about words that result in envy, strife, malicious talk, evil suspicions and constant friction between people of corrupt mind, who have been robbed of the truth and who think that godliness is a means to financial gain.” John 10:11-13 says, “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep. The hired hand is not the shepherd and does not own the sheep. So when he sees the wolf coming, he abandons the sheep and runs away. Then the wolf attacks the flock and scatters it. The man runs away because he is a hired hand and cares nothing for the sheep.” 8. False teachers seek fame and/or fortune. The verses we read in 1 Timothy 6:3-5 earlier speak to this point, as well. This is a point I have had to review myself. During the time I have created and aired my podcasts and publicly been outspoken for Christ, I have been very careful to check my heart. I never want to write or release these podcasts or any of the material I create, unless it honors Christ. I am not the one to be highlighted. He is. I pray that you see Him so clearly in me and that others will see Him very clearly in you. 9. False teachers don’t believe or teach that Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. Jesus is the only way to God and eternal life. John 14:6 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” Acts 4:10-12 says, “Then know this, you and all the people of Israel: It is by the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, whom you crucified but whom God raised from the dead, that this man stands before you healed. Jesus is ‘the stone you builders rejected, which has become the cornerstone.’ Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.” Dear Heavenly Father, there is none like You. Holy is Your name. Good are the plans You have set for us. Help us to seek You, find You, love You, honor You, and obey You despite circumstances. May our desire for You deepen daily and cause us to humbly submit in reverence to You. Please keep us from following false teachers. May they be so evident to us as Christians that we are not deceived, even for a moment. Help us to live with joy and discernment from You so that we do not judge others, but rightly live in fellowship with You and those around us, yet never allow us to stray from what You call for us. Help us to never accept or condone what You clearly do not desire for us. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. 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Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 140 - How to Identify False Teachers Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #140 – How to Identify False Teachers Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. Last year I was disappointed by a couple of people who came into my life. I thought they were upstanding, godly people who genuinely loved the Lord. After getting to know them better, I was surprised to discover that either they were making mistake after mistake or they simply weren’t who they appeared to be. I really cannot express my disappointment in even thinking that they may not be who I thought they were. Sadness covered me as I imagined that I had been deceived. After this initial thought, I feared for their eternal future. I did not want these people I had come to care for to be anything other than what they first appeared to be. I didn’t want them to potentially live for eternity without Christ. I’m still praying for the two people I am referring to. I hope I met them when they were going through hard seasons and that the love they professed for Jesus is true. I hope that they made bad choices in the times I spent with them and that they have grown daily since that time and are better equipped to shine the Lord in authentic ways that won’t make people second guess them or their position with Christ. I hope they are seeking the Lord in new ways that leave no question who they follow. I hope that when I make mistakes it is not in front of others who might question my love for Jesus. I hope that my mistakes never make the Lord appear to be less than He is. I want all the glory for anything worthy I accomplish to go to Him. I have learned that anything of value that I do is not of my own hand, but comes from time spent with the Father and in His provision. Not knowing whether someone is an authentic believer after beginning to know them truly grieves my heart in various ways. I want everyone to know and love the Lord with a true and lasting relationship that brings joy, peace, love, and all of the fruits of the Spirit in ways they can’t help but proclaim love and devotion to Jesus. Without judging, but with the use of godly discernment, take the story I gave with people I came to know last year and transfer it to pastors, ministry leaders, podcasters, and others who publicly profess Christ in some sort of ministry. We are a front line, so to speak, to opinions people will hold of Christ. Such a high responsibility is a calling. It is a high service for one we cannot begin to represent well enough. Although I believe most people who exert effort, love, prayer, and time into helping others see, know, love, and honor Christ truly love Jesus and want to serve Him well, there are some who are going through the motions for personal gain or glory. As sad as that fact is, there are ways we can protect ourselves and others from becoming deceived and following these false teachers. First, let’s read, then break-down and examine a passage of Scripture from 1 John 1:5-10 which says, “This is the message we have heard from Him and proclaim to you, that God is light, and in Him is no darkness at all. If we say we have fellowship with Him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin. If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us.” Many false teachers will deny or ignore the existence of sin. Believers must be diligent and discerning to observe the way those professing love for Christ conduct their life. Whether it be in the acts they perform, the words they speak, the attitude they express, or the way they lie their life, these people will do something that produces red flags. In the passage of verses we read, John affirms the reality of sin and the mindset believers should carry toward it. If a person denies the reality of sin, they may be exposing their lack of salvation or understanding of sin. When we hear, “this is the message we have heard from Him,” John is stating that what they are repeating is not from them, but from God. Galatians 1:11-12 says, “I want you to know, brothers and sisters, that the gospel I preached is not of human origin. I did not receive it from any man, nor was I taught it; rather, I received it by revelation from Jesus Christ. The words, “God is light” in 1 John 1:5 confirms that in God we can find no darkness. He is the Author of Light. No darkness can exist within Him. We know that usually when one hears the term, “light” we think of absence of darkness, purity or holiness. When we know the word is referencing our Heavenly Father, we think of holiness or biblical truths. 1 Thessalonians 5:4-6 says, “But you, brothers and sisters, are not in darkness so that this day should surprise you like a thief. You are all children of the light and children of the day. We do not belong to the night or to the darkness. So then, let us not be like others, who are asleep, but let us be awake and sober.” Those who do not truly know the Lord profess to be enlightened with wisdom, although believers should recognize that the knowledge and insight they speak is from within, not given to them by God. When wisdom is not given by God, it will end up being the opposite. When we do not walk and live in the light, we exist in darkness. When John continues in verse 5, he states, “no darkness at all.” With these words, John confirms that we can be assured that in God we find holy perfection. There is absolutely nothing in the character of God that deviates from truth, purity, or holiness. James 1:17-18 says, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all He created.” Although there are many who claim to enjoy fellowship with God, the lifestyle they live, may it be words, activities, actions, reactions, character, integrity, and so on, indicates that they lack genuine repentance and submission to Christ. When I speak these words, I realize that we are each human and prone to sin, mistakes, and misunderstandings. I do not make this remark lightly. I do so only to warn each of us, myself included that we must be aware and cautious. Of course, we want to give others the benefit of the doubt, and we certainly want to pray for them, but do not be deceived. We cannot live in darkness and profess to be of the light. Just as I spoke of the light earlier, to live in light in the Christian sense means to be a follower of Christ. To live in darkness is to live without Christ. Although we each sin in some way daily, those dedicated to maturing a genuine walk with Christ daily live with an urgency that demands obedient and submission and keeps them in search of light. Within us, the Holy Spirit is at work to warn and protect us, to steer us away from darkness. “Do not practice,” as said in verse 6 reinforces what I just said about living in darkness. When one professing to be a follower of Christ does not practice what they say they believe or they continue practicing what goes against God’s commands and directions, their habits point to the truth. Verse 7 confirms that in contrast to those living in darkness, while claiming to be of the light, when one professes to love and follow Christ, there is a noticeable and continual refining, renewal of the soul that can only be completed through our precious Lord. As verse 8 shows, false teachers will claim to be in the light while they knowingly walk in darkness, denying sin within them. If someone denies having any sin, that darkness cannot be addressed and conquered through Christ. Verse 9 proves that we each need to draw nearer to Christ with purpose so that we can recognize and confess sin. His Word promises that He is faithful. As we confess our sins, He will forgive and purify us. As Christians have salvation through the work of Christ on the cross, we can live with purpose, intent on drawing nearer to Jesus daily. We have been forgiven of all sins. Of course, if one continues in known sin that goes against the Father, we must confess and receive the cleansing work of the Father, but the Holy Spirit is at work moment by moment to enable us to rest in the hand of God and continue to eradicate sin from our life. As we peel back the layers, so to speak, we find more and more ways to submit and be cleansed, but false teachers do not admit to sin nature or see the need to be cleansed of sin in their life. Verse 10 reminds us that if we claim that no sin is in us, we “make Him a liar.” As false teachers make no claim of sin, they blaspheme and slander God. This passage we just studied from James succinctly shows the truth of how to live in light-filled and correct fellowship with Christ and others. James 1:17-27 says, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all He created. My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do. Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless. Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.” Many people are confused by social media, school agendas, educators, leaders, influencers, celebrities, pastors, and cultural shifts. Children are being raised without the compass of Christ to guide and protect them. Those without a godly compass to lead and instruct them with truth often easily fall victim to a rebellious nature of self-pleasure and seeking easy ways to do so. Or they fall prey to new age ideologies and false religions. It seems like the younger generation desires life without authority, but I believe every person prefers a life without boundaries to some extent, simply because humans prefer our own selfish nature to allow us whatever pleasures we desire. However, once we are free from the bondage of sin and flesh through Christ, we change, transformed by the power of the Holy Spirit alive within. Because there are many who have not yet experienced this freedom found only through Christ, false teachers, preachers, and advertisers have a large audience they can fill with exactly what these seekers may search for. By claiming self-love, materialism, reincarnation, new age practices, earn your way to Heaven tactics, prosperity preaching, and more, those in need of filling a void inside will listen and respond with eagerness to this shiny new hope. Let’s look at a few ways people may be deceived and how believers may be better equipped to discern and detect false leaders. 1. False leaders promote human glory instead of glorifying God. 1 John 4:2-3 says, “This is how you can recognize the Spirit of God: Every spirit that acknowledges that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God, but every spirit that does not acknowledge Jesus is not from God. This is the spirit of the antichrist, which you have heard is coming and even now is already in the world.” 2. False leaders don’t teach the inerrancy of Scripture. 2 Peter 1:20-21 says, “Above all, you must understand that no prophecy of Scripture came about by the prophet’s own interpretation of things. For prophecy never had its origin in the human will, but prophets, though human, spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit.” John 17:17 says, “Sanctify them by the truth; Your word is truth.” 3. False teachers believe there is no need for repentance and don’t speak about what God says about sin. Romans 3:23 says, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” Romans 6:23 says, “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” 4. False teachers don’t preach about the reality of hell. Hebrews 9:27-28 says, “Just as people are destined to die once, and after that to face judgment, so Christ was sacrificed once to take away the sins of many; and He will appear a second time, not to bear sin, but to bring salvation to those who are waiting for Him.” 5. False teachers teach personal prosperity. Philippians 4:19 says, “And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” 6. False teachers teach doctrine that goes against the Bible. 2 Timothy 3:16-17 says, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God a may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.” 7. False teachers are prideful and divisive. 1 Timothy 6:3-5 says, “If anyone teaches otherwise and does not agree to the sound instruction of our Lord Jesus Christ and to godly teaching, they are conceited and understand nothing. They have an unhealthy interest in controversies and quarrels about words that result in envy, strife, malicious talk, evil suspicions and constant friction between people of corrupt mind, who have been robbed of the truth and who think that godliness is a means to financial gain.” John 10:11-13 says, “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep. The hired hand is not the shepherd and does not own the sheep. So when he sees the wolf coming, he abandons the sheep and runs away. Then the wolf attacks the flock and scatters it. The man runs away because he is a hired hand and cares nothing for the sheep.” 8. False teachers seek fame and/or fortune. The verses we read in 1 Timothy 6:3-5 earlier speak to this point, as well. This is a point I have had to review myself. During the time I have created and aired my podcasts and publicly been outspoken for Christ, I have been very careful to check my heart. I never want to write or release these podcasts or any of the material I create, unless it honors Christ. I am not the one to be highlighted. He is. I pray that you see Him so clearly in me and that others will see Him very clearly in you. 9. False teachers don’t believe or teach that Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. Jesus is the only way to God and eternal life. John 14:6 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” Acts 4:10-12 says, “Then know this, you and all the people of Israel: It is by the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, whom you crucified but whom God raised from the dead, that this man stands before you healed. Jesus is ‘the stone you builders rejected, which has become the cornerstone.’ Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.” Dear Heavenly Father, there is none like You. Holy is Your name. Good are the plans You have set for us. Help us to seek You, find You, love You, honor You, and obey You despite circumstances. May our desire for You deepen daily and cause us to humbly submit in reverence to You. Please keep us from following false teachers. May they be so evident to us as Christians that we are not deceived, even for a moment. Help us to live with joy and discernment from You so that we do not judge others, but rightly live in fellowship with You and those around us, yet never allow us to stray from what You call for us. Help us to never accept or condone what You clearly do not desire for us. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. 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I was once the woman striving to be a “good” parent—meeting expectations, managing behavior, and measuring success by standards that looked acceptable but lacked eternal weight. I raised two children before realizing that good parenting does not automatically produce godly conviction. “Typical” was not the legacy I desired. Before our third child came home, my husband and I made a defining decision: we would parent with purpose. We committed to raising children who love, honor, and reflect Christ. Through family losses, job changes, medical challenges, and unexpected seasons—including welcoming our fourth child at nine years old—we remained anchored to that intentional plan. When our firstborn daughter passed away in her twenties, eternity became unmistakably real. Grief refined my faith, sharpened my perspective, and forever clarified what truly matters. Mothers are easily distracted by the urgent—schools, schedules, milestones, and cultural pressures. 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< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode 025 - Facing Hard Stuff to Become a Godlier Parent Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast Episode #025 – Facing Hard Personal Stuff to Become a Godlier Parent Are you yearning for greater connection with your child? Would you like to parent beyond the moment with eternal perspective? Let’s grow together now with practical tips, scripture, and stories geared to draw your heart to Jesus and guide your child into His arms. Have you paid attention to the explosion of growth in the personal coaching space? Maybe you’ve used a personal coach or are planning to use one in the future. Did you know that the personal development industry brings in billions of dollars of revenue per year and continues to expand rapidly? In fact, the last report I read was published back in 2017, so it was already very dated, but at that time, the reported yearly revenue was already almost 12 billion. Let’s stop and look at the definition of coaching for the purpose of this episode. The term “coaching” as defined by the International Coaching Federation (or ICF) as “partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires clients to maximize their personal and professional potential .” The federation reports that they want people to understand that “coaching is an individual service that greatly differs from therapy, consulting, or training .” Personal development coaches are a large portion of the personal development industry. These coaches help clients understand where they currently are in life, decide where they want to go or who they want to be, and then help them progress toward their determined goal. Acting as a role model or mentor, the coaches guide the way for their clients and hold them accountable. Different areas of help may include, but are certainly not limited to relationships, faith, parenting, health, finances, weight loss, exercise, work/life balance, and career. There are also different types of personal development coaches, as some work one-on-one with clients and others are such celebrities or influencers with big followings that they never even meet their clients face-to-face. In fact, they may never even know the names of their clients, because books, courses, conferences, and events attract and influence hundreds of thousands of people quarterly. Why am I reporting all of this coaching information? Because with so many people using coaching services of various kinds, I want to highlight how important it is to make sure that if you decide to work with a person, you ensure the person you choose is a trustworthy mentor or influencer for the vision you have for your life. More importantly, if you are a follower of Christ, it is crucial to ensure that your guide or coach is a godly Christ follower who wants to help you ensure that you follow God’s purpose for your life. Remember, if your priority is to be a parent who influences your child with and for the Lord, you must first humbly follow Christ daily. In order to be a godlier parent tomorrow than you are today, Christ must remain at the center of your mind, heart, desires, and intentions. Many people do not need coaches to help them because they have found true and righteous healing through Christ. However, many people desire to find help through Jesus as they mature their walk with Him, yet enjoy working with a godly person to educate, guide, and equip them. They may not have wounds to address, but need assistance to move forward with dreams and desires. There are a multitude of reasons a person may choose to work with coaches. Please ensure that if you have one, the individual is centered in Christ and maturing their walk with Him with purposed intention and joy and that Fruits of the Spirit are easily evident . This episode is shared with the intention of equipping each of us to examine where we currently are and progress toward the goal stated in Philippians 3:14-15 which says, “I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Let those of us who are mature think this way, and if in anything you think otherwise, God will reveal that also to you .” Let’s just be honest and say that everyone has done something or has things in their past that they are ashamed of or wish they had handled differently. For those of us with faith in and a future with Christ, we can release the past and embrace the future Christ is revealing to us and enabling us to attain through His direction and strength. In order to become a godlier parent, we must release self to Christ moment by moment, relying on Him to show us the way to live one step at a time. Through humble submission to Him, we are not who we were yesterday . Praise God!! I truly mean that! At the end of each day, believers are able to live with gratitude and offer thanks that we are not even who we were when we awakened at the beginning of the current day. For this episode, I’ve gathered a list of verses and questions for each of us to ponder in order to keep moving nearer to Christ with intention . As you examine where you are now, you’ll be able to prayerfully lift concerns, failures, questions, worries, or whatever you may be feeling to the Lord and allow Him to carry and craft you into the version He desires for you and also for your child or children to learn and grow from. I’ve broken these thoughts into three lists. One is for self-examination , one for parental examination, and one for life examination in order to find ways to draw nearer to God in your personal and parenting life. As I read the verses or questions, pray about how God can carry you to meet His requirements for you through the particular verse. Also remember that you don’t have to write each one down. Allow yourself to listen, pray, and ponder. You can visit terrihitt.com to read the transcript and print the verses, if desired. First up: Self-Examination : 2 Corinthians 13:5 says, “Examine yourselves, to see whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves. Or do you not realize this about yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you? —unless indeed you fail to meet the test .” Psalm 139:23-24 says, “Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting !” Psalm 26:2 says, “Prove me, O LORD, and try me; test my heart and my mind .” Deuteronomy 8:5 says, “Know then in your heart that, as a man disciplines his son, the LORD your God disciplines you .” Hebrews 12:11 says, “For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. ” Job 13:23 says, “How many are my iniquities and my sins? Make me know my transgression and my sin .” Jeremiah 17:9 says, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it ?” Lamentations 3:40 says, “Let us test and examine our ways, and return to the LORD !” Parental Examination : Deuteronomy 6:5-7 says, “You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. ” Isaiah 38:19 says, “The living, the living, he thanks you, as I do this day; the father makes known to the children your faithfulness .” Proverbs 29:17 says, “Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart .” Luke 1:17 says, “And he will go before him in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the disobedient to the wisdom of the just, to make ready for the Lord a people prepared .” Proverbs 17:21 says, “He who sires a fool gets himself sorrow, and the father of a fool has no joy .” Ephesians 6:4 says, “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord .” Life Examination : 1. Problems: How do you handle problems? Do you model releasing problems to God or do you attempt to hold onto difficulties? Do you carry visible stress for your child to witness? Do your children watch you struggle with problems or humbly ask God to carry them for you? Do you close down when you are worried or do you turn to God even more? Are you prone toward depression? What situations bring on feelings of depression or unhappiness? What things steal your joy? Do you try to carry troubles before you lift them to God? 2. Emotions Are you able to lovingly express emotions to your children? Do you portray loving emotions and offer compliments to your children often? Is it difficult for you to love or express love to your children because you carry unresolved issues within? Are you able to easily sacrifice personal desires and comfort for your children? What do you wish you could change about the way you relate to your children? 3. Parenting Do you parent like you were parented or have you developed your own parenting style under God’s leadership and for each unique child He has entrusted to you? Do you parent for and under the Lord or parent by reactions? Do you study scripture so you parent with God’s morals, commands, and heart? Do you intentionally see your children individually through eyes and heart like God? Are you prayerfully trying to hear and follow God’s plans for your child? Are you comfortable with affection from your children? Do you parent for friend, family, or social media approval or for God’s approval? How well do you deal with your child’s emotions and needs? Do you have unresolved issues that keep you from dealing with the hurts and emotions your child faces? Thank you for listening to this small list of Scripture and specific questions designed for personal examination. It’s crucial to stop and focus with godly intention and not let hours or days pass by without steadying yourself in God’s hand. Guided living through prayer and Scripture will help each of us see where we need to invite God to work within us. I invite you to make time to study the verses I suggested, as well as other Scripture that comes to mind as you pray. God knows exactly what you and your children need to follow Him and fulfill the beautiful purposes He plans for you. Everything we endure in life, hard and easy, allows us the opportunity to choose whether we will faithfully walk in humble relationship with Jesus. Life allows us to choose whether we will view life through an eternal and scriptural perspective. Your life and the lives of your children are significant; you each serve a purpose only God ordained and knows. Live a life that relies on and shines Christ. Allow future generations to build a strong foundation on the legacy of Jesus that they receive from your loving guidance and purposed intention. Dear Heavenly Father, Your goodness and mercy toward us is the greatest gift, yet You still lavish even more on those who love You and are called according to Your purposes. As we know and follow You, we understand that these gifts are not meant just for our good pleasure, but for Your honor and glory. Thank you for entrusting each of us with the children You have purposed for us and for giving us all we need to raise them for You as we humbly bow at Your feet. You are truly all we need. Life isn’t easy, but You warned us there would be trials and persecution as we follow You. You also promised that You have already overcome the world. Thank you. Help us to see where we need You and where we need less of self. Allow us to transform through Your holy and loving power and grace each moment. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” podcast. This and my “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, iHeart Radio, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts may also now be found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. Will you take a moment to follow the shows and think of someone you can share the podcasts with and encourage them to follow and share, as well? Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Parent and Connect With Eternal Perspective. Previous Next

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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #123 – Engaged with Eternity Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. If you are a Christ follower, do you remember when you first accepted Jesus as your Savior? I recall the intense beating of my heart that magnified the urge to get out of my seat on the day I went forward in church. The choir was singing “Just As I Am” and when I hear that song even now, I clearly see myself moving forward down the church aisle all these years later. There was no way to ignore or deny that God was at work within me. Even though my life was immediately transformed, as I was now a Christian, for me, my new life in Christ came in incremental steps as I learned more about my new relationship with Jesus and began to release self to rely on Him. It took time and lots of intentionality, to get to the maturing relationship I now possess. Just like each of us should strive for, I hope I’m not the same person tomorrow that I am today. I want to continue purposeful growth. Years of mistakes and spiritual growth through relationship with Jesus have taught me to be intentional daily about the walk I have and more importantly, about seeking to view life through eyes and heart like Christ. As I have shared on this podcast before, although I had a close and growing walk with Christ when my daughter passed away, it wasn’t until I lost her that I felt God lifted a veil and I was able to feel the world with a heart seeking eternity; I felt as though was living with half of my soul in this world and half existing in Heaven. Of course, I thought I was living in that manner before, but sometimes it’s only after we suffer such great loss that we allow reality to sink in and see the world with eyes more attuned to how Christ would call us to view life. I knew that as believers we were to see the world as a journey we pass through, and I tried to do just that, but now, I can honestly say that each and every day I value life with a much deeper eternal appreciation and long for the day I will be in Heaven with joy and anticipation, yet I love being where God calls me to serve Him at this time. However, I am cognizant of the truth that I can never reach the level of gratitude that I should carry. I will never honor God as highly as He deserves. Yet I no longer call this world my home. I long for a life with my Savior and the fullness I will receive once I am with Him. How about you? Isaiah 55:8-9 says, “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” His ways are not our ways. The Kingdom of Heaven is flipped the opposite of what this world preaches and sells. It’s different than what our human flesh calls us to do. Yet, followers of Christ have hope for this life and for eternity. We know to keep our gaze focused on our eternal home with Jesus. But do we always do so? Life moves quickly. Activities, emergencies, work, family, social life, shopping, cooking, cleaning, church, school, and obligations keep our minds and our calendars beyond full. Simply watching the news can throw our attention into a whirlwind of worries or scary speculations that squander time and alter our attitude. Colossians 3:2 says, “Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” 1 Peter 1:13 says, “Therefore, with minds that are alert and fully sober, set your hope on the grace to be brought to you when Jesus Christ is revealed at his coming.” Life is fleeting; none of us know the number of the days assigned to us. Anything can happen from one second to the next. In fact, it is only through my faith and reliance on Jesus that I am not a nervous wreck after the loss of my oldest daughter. It would be easy to worry about those I love and expect to lose them at any time. Without the Holy Spirit living within me, I know I would not be the same person. He is my strength and hope each and every second. He allows me to live with peace, joy, and hope that I would not have without Him. Because I have suffered great loss, I know how quickly we are surprised with unexpected trials and tragedies. Life changes in the seconds between our plans. Emergencies and unexpected events have their own timetable. Psalm 90:12 says, “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” God knows the last breath we will take, the last word a loved one may utter, when will we receive the last kiss or smile from those closest to us. Job 14:5 says, “A person’s days are determined; you have decreed the number of his months and have set limits he cannot exceed.” When we’re young we don’t think of our later years; they seem so distant that we somehow don’t fully believe they will arrive. I remember only thinking about retirement at 401K enrollment time at my first “adult” job. The date set for me was such a long time in the future that it seemed it was written for another person. Now that time is almost here. What if all I had to place hope on was the temporary pleasures or concerns of this world? Because of the love and sacrifice of Christ, I have much more. 2 Corinthians 4:16b-18 says, “Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” James 4:14 says, “Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.” How often do you reflect on the fact that God created you for fellowship with Him? I know you know that truth, but do you live like you believe it? His desire is that we joyfully choose to walk with Him, to talk with Him, and to share with and for Him. The Alpha and the Omega, the Beginning and the End, the First and the Last is above all and created all; He alone deserves our love, respect, honor, and praise. Psalm 90:2 says, “Before the mountains were born or You brought forth the whole world, from everlasting to everlasting you are God.” Our Heavenly Father is never surprised by what has or will happen. He created each of us with great care, love, and purpose. You were created for reasons no one else will fulfill. Even the mistakes you have made were already known by our wondrous, loving Heavenly Father. Isaiah 46:11 says, “From the east I summon a bird of prey; from a far-off land, a man to fulfill my purpose. What I have said, that I will bring about; what I have planned, that I will do.” Knowing what His beloved creation would do and be like, God created a way for us to have eternal fellowship with Him. Clearly making the way to Him known, God made a beautiful pathway to His feet so that we would never question salvation. John 14:6 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” John 5:24 says, “Very truly I tell you, whoever hears My word and believes Him who sent Me has eternal life and will not be judged but has crossed over from death to life.” Scripture instructs us toward Christ’s greatest commands for us: Matthew 22:37-39 says, “Jesus declared, “ ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.” How often do you think of these commands with eyes and heart that seek eternal perspective? 2 Corinthians 5:10 says, “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.” 1 John 2:17 says, “The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever.” There is no way we can do the will of God without knowing Him. How do we do what we don’t know? Are you keeping in the Word of God? If you are a believer, do you make time daily to study scripture? Even a short, but consistent amount of daily time will allow your eyes and heart to view God with an eternal mindset that will alter the way you view this world and the actions and reactions you make. Do you listen for His still, small voice? Do you seek clarity from Him before moving with actions you want to take, so that you know you are living the steps He purposed? Matthew 6:19-21 says, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Acts 17:31 says, “For He has set a day when He will judge the world with justice by the man He has appointed. He has given proof of this to everyone by raising Him from the dead.” Christ calls us to keep our gaze fixed on Him, pressing forward toward our eternal future. What are ways you can purpose to live for eternity now? Philippians 3:12-14 says, “Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” I urge you to assess your life through eternal perspective today. Prayerfully seek the Lord and ask Him to give you a heart for eternity. Ask Him to give you eyes that see the world through an eternal lens. See how He would guide you to follow Him differently, cling to Him more closely, and serve Him more intimately. Nothing we do for God is wasted. As we love Him more purposely, even the way we serve others is truly work done for Him. What will you change to walk with Him and serve Him more closely today? Dear Heavenly Father, there is none like You. Your goodness overwhelms us. Your love astounds us. May we seek You with eyes and hearts that intentionally desire Your eternity-driven perspective. May we intimately view life with the expectation of an eternity with You. Please fix your words and perspectives in our hearts and minds, and help us to value and remember them as You desire. Keep our minds in perfect peace because we steadfastly cling to You. Help us trust in You forever, for You, our LORD, are the Rock eternal. Help us to pay attention and turn our ears to Your wisdom, and please apply Your heart to all we think and do as we trust in You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. To hear episodes that deal with living with eternal driven hearts, I suggest listening to Episodes 004, Eternity Driven Hearts, 026, Mind Fixed on Eternity, or 056, A Passionate Life for Jesus. You may find these episodes on the terrihitt.com website. Just click on “podcasts” and type in the topic or title you wish to hear about in the search bar at the top of the page or wherever you listen to podcasts I want to remind you that the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, but is also a part of the Spark Media Network, and now the podcast may also be found on the Edifi app, where you can find thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed this podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? For those who have, I thank you so very much! If you haven’t, would you please consider doing so? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. If you believe the content you hear should be heard so that more people can begin to deepen their walk with Jesus and live with eyes set on eternity, would you please write a review and rate the podcast for me? I also want to ask if you have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen to this new podcast, especially if you are raising children or influencing grandchildren. Please follow and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 123 - Engaged With Eternity Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #123 – Engaged with Eternity Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. If you are a Christ follower, do you remember when you first accepted Jesus as your Savior? I recall the intense beating of my heart that magnified the urge to get out of my seat on the day I went forward in church. The choir was singing “Just As I Am” and when I hear that song even now, I clearly see myself moving forward down the church aisle all these years later. There was no way to ignore or deny that God was at work within me. Even though my life was immediately transformed, as I was now a Christian, for me, my new life in Christ came in incremental steps as I learned more about my new relationship with Jesus and began to release self to rely on Him. It took time and lots of intentionality, to get to the maturing relationship I now possess. Just like each of us should strive for, I hope I’m not the same person tomorrow that I am today. I want to continue purposeful growth. Years of mistakes and spiritual growth through relationship with Jesus have taught me to be intentional daily about the walk I have and more importantly, about seeking to view life through eyes and heart like Christ. As I have shared on this podcast before, although I had a close and growing walk with Christ when my daughter passed away, it wasn’t until I lost her that I felt God lifted a veil and I was able to feel the world with a heart seeking eternity; I felt as though was living with half of my soul in this world and half existing in Heaven. Of course, I thought I was living in that manner before, but sometimes it’s only after we suffer such great loss that we allow reality to sink in and see the world with eyes more attuned to how Christ would call us to view life. I knew that as believers we were to see the world as a journey we pass through, and I tried to do just that, but now, I can honestly say that each and every day I value life with a much deeper eternal appreciation and long for the day I will be in Heaven with joy and anticipation, yet I love being where God calls me to serve Him at this time. However, I am cognizant of the truth that I can never reach the level of gratitude that I should carry. I will never honor God as highly as He deserves. Yet I no longer call this world my home. I long for a life with my Savior and the fullness I will receive once I am with Him. How about you? Isaiah 55:8-9 says, “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the LORD. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” His ways are not our ways. The Kingdom of Heaven is flipped the opposite of what this world preaches and sells. It’s different than what our human flesh calls us to do. Yet, followers of Christ have hope for this life and for eternity. We know to keep our gaze focused on our eternal home with Jesus. But do we always do so? Life moves quickly. Activities, emergencies, work, family, social life, shopping, cooking, cleaning, church, school, and obligations keep our minds and our calendars beyond full. Simply watching the news can throw our attention into a whirlwind of worries or scary speculations that squander time and alter our attitude. Colossians 3:2 says, “Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” 1 Peter 1:13 says, “Therefore, with minds that are alert and fully sober, set your hope on the grace to be brought to you when Jesus Christ is revealed at his coming.” Life is fleeting; none of us know the number of the days assigned to us. Anything can happen from one second to the next. In fact, it is only through my faith and reliance on Jesus that I am not a nervous wreck after the loss of my oldest daughter. It would be easy to worry about those I love and expect to lose them at any time. Without the Holy Spirit living within me, I know I would not be the same person. He is my strength and hope each and every second. He allows me to live with peace, joy, and hope that I would not have without Him. Because I have suffered great loss, I know how quickly we are surprised with unexpected trials and tragedies. Life changes in the seconds between our plans. Emergencies and unexpected events have their own timetable. Psalm 90:12 says, “Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” God knows the last breath we will take, the last word a loved one may utter, when will we receive the last kiss or smile from those closest to us. Job 14:5 says, “A person’s days are determined; you have decreed the number of his months and have set limits he cannot exceed.” When we’re young we don’t think of our later years; they seem so distant that we somehow don’t fully believe they will arrive. I remember only thinking about retirement at 401K enrollment time at my first “adult” job. The date set for me was such a long time in the future that it seemed it was written for another person. Now that time is almost here. What if all I had to place hope on was the temporary pleasures or concerns of this world? Because of the love and sacrifice of Christ, I have much more. 2 Corinthians 4:16b-18 says, “Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” James 4:14 says, “Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.” How often do you reflect on the fact that God created you for fellowship with Him? I know you know that truth, but do you live like you believe it? His desire is that we joyfully choose to walk with Him, to talk with Him, and to share with and for Him. The Alpha and the Omega, the Beginning and the End, the First and the Last is above all and created all; He alone deserves our love, respect, honor, and praise. Psalm 90:2 says, “Before the mountains were born or You brought forth the whole world, from everlasting to everlasting you are God.” Our Heavenly Father is never surprised by what has or will happen. He created each of us with great care, love, and purpose. You were created for reasons no one else will fulfill. Even the mistakes you have made were already known by our wondrous, loving Heavenly Father. Isaiah 46:11 says, “From the east I summon a bird of prey; from a far-off land, a man to fulfill my purpose. What I have said, that I will bring about; what I have planned, that I will do.” Knowing what His beloved creation would do and be like, God created a way for us to have eternal fellowship with Him. Clearly making the way to Him known, God made a beautiful pathway to His feet so that we would never question salvation. John 14:6 says, “Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” John 5:24 says, “Very truly I tell you, whoever hears My word and believes Him who sent Me has eternal life and will not be judged but has crossed over from death to life.” Scripture instructs us toward Christ’s greatest commands for us: Matthew 22:37-39 says, “Jesus declared, “ ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.” How often do you think of these commands with eyes and heart that seek eternal perspective? 2 Corinthians 5:10 says, “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.” 1 John 2:17 says, “The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever.” There is no way we can do the will of God without knowing Him. How do we do what we don’t know? Are you keeping in the Word of God? If you are a believer, do you make time daily to study scripture? Even a short, but consistent amount of daily time will allow your eyes and heart to view God with an eternal mindset that will alter the way you view this world and the actions and reactions you make. Do you listen for His still, small voice? Do you seek clarity from Him before moving with actions you want to take, so that you know you are living the steps He purposed? Matthew 6:19-21 says, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Acts 17:31 says, “For He has set a day when He will judge the world with justice by the man He has appointed. He has given proof of this to everyone by raising Him from the dead.” Christ calls us to keep our gaze fixed on Him, pressing forward toward our eternal future. What are ways you can purpose to live for eternity now? Philippians 3:12-14 says, “Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” I urge you to assess your life through eternal perspective today. Prayerfully seek the Lord and ask Him to give you a heart for eternity. Ask Him to give you eyes that see the world through an eternal lens. See how He would guide you to follow Him differently, cling to Him more closely, and serve Him more intimately. Nothing we do for God is wasted. As we love Him more purposely, even the way we serve others is truly work done for Him. What will you change to walk with Him and serve Him more closely today? Dear Heavenly Father, there is none like You. Your goodness overwhelms us. Your love astounds us. May we seek You with eyes and hearts that intentionally desire Your eternity-driven perspective. May we intimately view life with the expectation of an eternity with You. Please fix your words and perspectives in our hearts and minds, and help us to value and remember them as You desire. Keep our minds in perfect peace because we steadfastly cling to You. Help us trust in You forever, for You, our LORD, are the Rock eternal. Help us to pay attention and turn our ears to Your wisdom, and please apply Your heart to all we think and do as we trust in You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you find value in what you hear, and you would like more information on the topic we discussed today, I invite you to listen to previous episodes. To hear episodes that deal with living with eternal driven hearts, I suggest listening to Episodes 004, Eternity Driven Hearts, 026, Mind Fixed on Eternity, or 056, A Passionate Life for Jesus. You may find these episodes on the terrihitt.com website. Just click on “podcasts” and type in the topic or title you wish to hear about in the search bar at the top of the page or wherever you listen to podcasts I want to remind you that the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast may be found at terrihitt.com, but is also a part of the Spark Media Network, and now the podcast may also be found on the Edifi app, where you can find thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed this podcast on Apple Podcasts yet? For those who have, I thank you so very much! If you haven’t, would you please consider doing so? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. If you believe the content you hear should be heard so that more people can begin to deepen their walk with Jesus and live with eyes set on eternity, would you please write a review and rate the podcast for me? I also want to ask if you have you listened to my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” yet? I hope you will listen to this new podcast, especially if you are raising children or influencing grandchildren. Please follow and share both of my podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or be a grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast. Episode #008 – A Humble Spirit Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. My youngest child loves to create acronyms, especially funny ones. Lately, they have all been about me. The last couple of days she has been calling me “MAP.” We’ll come back to this. This same daughter has told me for years that she wants to be just like me. She is always saying that we are twins. This sweetheart has had a long “I want to be like Mommy” phase. I was shocked when out of the blue last night she told me that she didn’t want to be just like me anymore. I’ll admit. It hurt my ego. She’s growing up too fast, my heart protested. “Oh, no,” I said to her. “We’re not twins anymore?” “No,” she said without a trace of remorse. “Why not?” I asked. “Mommy’s work all the time. I don’t want to.” She laughs, but I immediately feel “Mom Guilt.” I don’t want her to grow up thinking all I do is work around the house. I remind her that I make time to play with her every single day, then we spend the day together in homeschool. She’s good with that; in fact, she’s not guilting me with the acronym. Having only lived a normal family life for the last four years, she is making observations and voicing her feelings. Now let’s go back to the acronym, MAP. Know what she says it stands for? “Mommy’s A Peasant.” As she laughs, the Holy Spirit gives me the best response for her. “Thank you,” I said. “What?” she asked. “You said I’m a peasant, right?” “Yes,” she said. “You think I do things for the family all day?” “Yes.” “Think about Jesus,” I reminded her. “I’m nothing like Him,” I said, “But if Jesus came to serve and not be served, I think I can try to do the same for my family.” She sat up, facing me with full attention and interest. We talked about Jesus and why He came to live on the earth among us. She’s heard most of what I said before, but just as many of us do, she was hearing the same stories in a new context. Fresh eyes and a different perspective gave new life to the tales she thought she had learned. So far today she hasn’t called me a peasant, but she has designed an acronym for herself. It’s PAP. Her nickname is Peanut, and “Peanut’s a peasant.” In fact, she has now christened her Daddy as “DAP” and her sister as “MAP,” as well. Philippians 2:1-11 says, “So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.” How great God is that He chooses to gift us with such easy ways to draw ourselves and others to Him. How merciful is He that in our fallen nature where our ego threatens to rule us at every turn, the Holy Spirit lives inside those of us who love Him, so that we may be guided to hear His quiet truths and remember that life is not about us. All that we do should lift Him toward the glory and honor He is due. May He increase and I decrease. Proverbs 16:18 says, “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.” My goodness. I love the way God shows me where my ego gets in the way. Why did my identity feel bruised when she told me that I worked a lot? It’s because I try so hard to be there for her. I make sure we play since she didn’t have time in the important formative years. I purposely create opportunities to grow our bonds with each other. But the key point to remember is that none of it would be possible without the work of my Heavenly Father allowing the good works to come to fruition. He is the One guiding my spirit to desire what to do with her. He is also the One forming the bonds and attachment that occurs. As I bow to Him, relying on His promptings, I allow Him to flow into our lives. Instead of feeling a little wounded with the opinion she voiced, I should rejoice that she shares her thoughts so openly. I should remember that her feelings are not about me. Whenever we allow our personal thoughts or feelings twist around what someone else shares with us, our emotions with always get distorted. Have you ever been humbled by the Lord? I have. Many times. Unfortunately, I’ve been forced to learn hard lessons in the area of humility. Especially in the areas I was most competent or talented. God knows that the areas He blesses us in are sometimes our weakest spots. It’s easier for us to be deceived and think that we can handle something on our own. We tend to look to Him less, until we learn lessons in humility the hard way and learn where our true strength lies. James 4:10 says, “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.” 1 Peter 5:6-7 says, “Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.” God cares for, protects, and lifts the humble. “Oh, Lord, please humble me so that I may be cared for and lifted up as You desire.” James 3:13-18 warns, “Who is wise and understanding among you? By his good conduct let him show his works in the meekness of wisdom. But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth. This is not the wisdom that comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice. But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. And a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.” My middle daughter used to participate in pageantry. Now before your mind goes to the glitzy, swimsuit, heels, and caked-on makeup look painted on a five year-old, that is not what I am referring to. If that’s your definition of most of the pageantry world, it’s truly much different. In fact, her favorite pageant system, USA National Miss is founded on, and based on principles pleasing to God. There is competition, of course, but the national director nurtures the girls to know where she stands with the Lord and to exhibit qualities that honor Him. I bring up pageant competitions because the world of pageantry is viewed as cut-throat and shallow. We experienced the opposite. However, what it did for me personally was completely change my selfish ambition of wanting my daughter to be the best and to win everything she entered, even though I never pushed or seemed that way to others from the outside. When we first started, I believed if the judges would see her, they would agree she should be the winner. As time went on, what I noticed that we found friends and that I adored all the girls and families. We began helping others, giving them tips, letting them borrow items they needed, praying with them, traveling with them, and sharing life with them. I saw how worthy they all were. I learned I was seeing them all through God’s eyes and heart. We no longer allowed my daughter in participate in pageantry hoping she would win, but so that she would develop and sharpen skills such as interview, public speaking, service, and the ability to handle obtaining or losing the end result she desired. Pageantry built the same skills as participation in any sport, for both myself and my daughter. She trained and competed maturely and responsibly, and with a gracious and kind heart, and believed that the outcome was in God’s hands. I deeply appreciate the way God used the evolution of her skills to transform my heart to be more in alignment with what He desires. Life is not about competing to be the best. It is simply an individual journey each of us walks to humbly discover, know, and become more Christ-like each day. The way we live should be viewed through that lens. We are each given different gifts and talents that we can employ however, God never wants us to use them to demean, belittle, or crush others. He doesn’t call us to “show-off” skills, but I believe He wants us to use them to work together and to find ways to honor and serve Him through them. God has a plan and purpose for each of us. He loves us all the same. 2 Chronicles 7:14-15 tells us, ”If my people who are called by my name humble themselves, and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land. Now my eyes will be open and my ears attentive to the prayer that is made in this place.” Imagine a world in which we all humbly bow to God, seeking ways to show Him though all we do. Psalm 25:8-9 tells us, “Good and upright is the LORD; therefore, He instructs sinners in the way. He leads the humble in what is right and teaches the humble His way.” Imagine a world in which we all choose to listen to and humbly obey God. Proverbs 15:33 says, “Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the Lord; therefore, He instructs sinners in His ways. He guides the humble in what is right and teaches them His way.” When my middle daughter was younger, she had a dance instructor we were blessed to work with. My daughter respected her and gained so much from the talent and professional skills she taught. There was, however, a quality that I hope this teacher learned from my daughter. I remember one day when this instructor wanted to discuss with me in private that my daughter was meek and submissive to others. I knew the behavior she talked about. I could see in my mind the times my girl would hold us up when we were out in public as she stopped to open doors for others without anyone even noticing she was there. No one stopped to thank her or take the door from her so that she would be able to go on back to us. They simply kept walking through the door, not even noticing it was a child helping them. It used to irritate me a bit because I expected adults to recognize her and at least take the door. My girl still does this for others; in fact, her humble behavior now carries a quiet confidence with it. One that comes from above. She knows not everyone appreciates this simple gesture. She doesn’t need to gain their approval. The kindness is not only performed for them. Her actions are spurred by what she feels God is asking her to do. I know I have personally learned that what sometimes what appears to be weakness is actually strength cloaked in God’s desire for us to humble ourselves before Him and others. As Jesus tells us to live with the faith of a child, I believe we can learn so much from our children. Instead of teaching them to be tougher or to be more competitive, we should be learning from them and taking on the humbleness they intuitively exhibit. As we desire to grow closer to the Lord, there are questions to ponder and answers we must assess about our hearts to ensure we allow Him to shine from within us and guard against the self-sabotage of ego and self-importance. In what ways do I hear God whispering to me to change? Where has pride taken over my spirit? Do I seek to honor God in what I do? Do I seek selfish attention or have self-serving ambitions when I serve others? Is my work an attempt to make myself appear more successful and fill a hole within myself best completed by God? Do I sacrifice my family in an attempt to gain worldly attention? Each of us has areas that we need to allow God to make visible to us so we can allow His holy work to mend from within. Proverbs 11:2 says, “When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom.” The lessons God crafts for each of us are so personal. Whether we choose to learn from them or continue walking without a humble spirit is our choice. Although I am immensely thankful that He allows us the ability to select whether we will allow ourselves to humbly submit to Him and follow His ways, I have also grown thankful for the hard lessons I have learned. Not that I wanted to endure them, or allow others in my life to suffer, but because they have proven to me how great and gracious my Heavenly Father really is. He not only allows us the ability to choose, but the ability to learn through experience. When we fail or fall, He graciously picks us back up and loves us despite the arrogant or ignorant mistakes we make, allowing us the ability and opportunity to learn from Him and extend that grace to others. Humility comes in many forms. Studying the life of Jesus affords us the gift of seeing a grace-filled and beautiful life unfold and the humility and wisdom from our Savior to enrich our life if we accept the responsibility of trusting Him and understanding the definition of a humble life. A modest walk is not something to despise or desire to change. It is a quality that we need to savor as a gift from above and treasure it as we labor to retain and build upon it. It does not mean we have no confidence; on the contrary, it means that we have full confidence in Him and in what He is accomplishing in and through us. As we seek to live each day with more eternal perspective, a humble spirit is essential to develop and grow as we release prideful attitude and actions and adopt a Christlike view of significance. Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 008 A Humble Spirit Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast. Episode #008 – A Humble Spirit Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. My youngest child loves to create acronyms, especially funny ones. Lately, they have all been about me. The last couple of days she has been calling me “MAP.” We’ll come back to this. This same daughter has told me for years that she wants to be just like me. She is always saying that we are twins. This sweetheart has had a long “I want to be like Mommy” phase. I was shocked when out of the blue last night she told me that she didn’t want to be just like me anymore. I’ll admit. It hurt my ego. She’s growing up too fast, my heart protested. “Oh, no,” I said to her. “We’re not twins anymore?” “No,” she said without a trace of remorse. “Why not?” I asked. “Mommy’s work all the time. I don’t want to.” She laughs, but I immediately feel “Mom Guilt.” I don’t want her to grow up thinking all I do is work around the house. I remind her that I make time to play with her every single day, then we spend the day together in homeschool. She’s good with that; in fact, she’s not guilting me with the acronym. Having only lived a normal family life for the last four years, she is making observations and voicing her feelings. Now let’s go back to the acronym, MAP. Know what she says it stands for? “Mommy’s A Peasant.” As she laughs, the Holy Spirit gives me the best response for her. “Thank you,” I said. “What?” she asked. “You said I’m a peasant, right?” “Yes,” she said. “You think I do things for the family all day?” “Yes.” “Think about Jesus,” I reminded her. “I’m nothing like Him,” I said, “But if Jesus came to serve and not be served, I think I can try to do the same for my family.” She sat up, facing me with full attention and interest. We talked about Jesus and why He came to live on the earth among us. She’s heard most of what I said before, but just as many of us do, she was hearing the same stories in a new context. Fresh eyes and a different perspective gave new life to the tales she thought she had learned. So far today she hasn’t called me a peasant, but she has designed an acronym for herself. It’s PAP. Her nickname is Peanut, and “Peanut’s a peasant.” In fact, she has now christened her Daddy as “DAP” and her sister as “MAP,” as well. Philippians 2:1-11 says, “So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Therefore God has highly exalted him and bestowed on him the name that is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.” How great God is that He chooses to gift us with such easy ways to draw ourselves and others to Him. How merciful is He that in our fallen nature where our ego threatens to rule us at every turn, the Holy Spirit lives inside those of us who love Him, so that we may be guided to hear His quiet truths and remember that life is not about us. All that we do should lift Him toward the glory and honor He is due. May He increase and I decrease. Proverbs 16:18 says, “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.” My goodness. I love the way God shows me where my ego gets in the way. Why did my identity feel bruised when she told me that I worked a lot? It’s because I try so hard to be there for her. I make sure we play since she didn’t have time in the important formative years. I purposely create opportunities to grow our bonds with each other. But the key point to remember is that none of it would be possible without the work of my Heavenly Father allowing the good works to come to fruition. He is the One guiding my spirit to desire what to do with her. He is also the One forming the bonds and attachment that occurs. As I bow to Him, relying on His promptings, I allow Him to flow into our lives. Instead of feeling a little wounded with the opinion she voiced, I should rejoice that she shares her thoughts so openly. I should remember that her feelings are not about me. Whenever we allow our personal thoughts or feelings twist around what someone else shares with us, our emotions with always get distorted. Have you ever been humbled by the Lord? I have. Many times. Unfortunately, I’ve been forced to learn hard lessons in the area of humility. Especially in the areas I was most competent or talented. God knows that the areas He blesses us in are sometimes our weakest spots. It’s easier for us to be deceived and think that we can handle something on our own. We tend to look to Him less, until we learn lessons in humility the hard way and learn where our true strength lies. James 4:10 says, “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.” 1 Peter 5:6-7 says, “Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.” God cares for, protects, and lifts the humble. “Oh, Lord, please humble me so that I may be cared for and lifted up as You desire.” James 3:13-18 warns, “Who is wise and understanding among you? By his good conduct let him show his works in the meekness of wisdom. But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth. This is not the wisdom that comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice. But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. And a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.” My middle daughter used to participate in pageantry. Now before your mind goes to the glitzy, swimsuit, heels, and caked-on makeup look painted on a five year-old, that is not what I am referring to. If that’s your definition of most of the pageantry world, it’s truly much different. In fact, her favorite pageant system, USA National Miss is founded on, and based on principles pleasing to God. There is competition, of course, but the national director nurtures the girls to know where she stands with the Lord and to exhibit qualities that honor Him. I bring up pageant competitions because the world of pageantry is viewed as cut-throat and shallow. We experienced the opposite. However, what it did for me personally was completely change my selfish ambition of wanting my daughter to be the best and to win everything she entered, even though I never pushed or seemed that way to others from the outside. When we first started, I believed if the judges would see her, they would agree she should be the winner. As time went on, what I noticed that we found friends and that I adored all the girls and families. We began helping others, giving them tips, letting them borrow items they needed, praying with them, traveling with them, and sharing life with them. I saw how worthy they all were. I learned I was seeing them all through God’s eyes and heart. We no longer allowed my daughter in participate in pageantry hoping she would win, but so that she would develop and sharpen skills such as interview, public speaking, service, and the ability to handle obtaining or losing the end result she desired. Pageantry built the same skills as participation in any sport, for both myself and my daughter. She trained and competed maturely and responsibly, and with a gracious and kind heart, and believed that the outcome was in God’s hands. I deeply appreciate the way God used the evolution of her skills to transform my heart to be more in alignment with what He desires. Life is not about competing to be the best. It is simply an individual journey each of us walks to humbly discover, know, and become more Christ-like each day. The way we live should be viewed through that lens. We are each given different gifts and talents that we can employ however, God never wants us to use them to demean, belittle, or crush others. He doesn’t call us to “show-off” skills, but I believe He wants us to use them to work together and to find ways to honor and serve Him through them. God has a plan and purpose for each of us. He loves us all the same. 2 Chronicles 7:14-15 tells us, ”If my people who are called by my name humble themselves, and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land. Now my eyes will be open and my ears attentive to the prayer that is made in this place.” Imagine a world in which we all humbly bow to God, seeking ways to show Him though all we do. Psalm 25:8-9 tells us, “Good and upright is the LORD; therefore, He instructs sinners in the way. He leads the humble in what is right and teaches the humble His way.” Imagine a world in which we all choose to listen to and humbly obey God. Proverbs 15:33 says, “Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the Lord; therefore, He instructs sinners in His ways. He guides the humble in what is right and teaches them His way.” When my middle daughter was younger, she had a dance instructor we were blessed to work with. My daughter respected her and gained so much from the talent and professional skills she taught. There was, however, a quality that I hope this teacher learned from my daughter. I remember one day when this instructor wanted to discuss with me in private that my daughter was meek and submissive to others. I knew the behavior she talked about. I could see in my mind the times my girl would hold us up when we were out in public as she stopped to open doors for others without anyone even noticing she was there. No one stopped to thank her or take the door from her so that she would be able to go on back to us. They simply kept walking through the door, not even noticing it was a child helping them. It used to irritate me a bit because I expected adults to recognize her and at least take the door. My girl still does this for others; in fact, her humble behavior now carries a quiet confidence with it. One that comes from above. She knows not everyone appreciates this simple gesture. She doesn’t need to gain their approval. The kindness is not only performed for them. Her actions are spurred by what she feels God is asking her to do. I know I have personally learned that what sometimes what appears to be weakness is actually strength cloaked in God’s desire for us to humble ourselves before Him and others. As Jesus tells us to live with the faith of a child, I believe we can learn so much from our children. Instead of teaching them to be tougher or to be more competitive, we should be learning from them and taking on the humbleness they intuitively exhibit. As we desire to grow closer to the Lord, there are questions to ponder and answers we must assess about our hearts to ensure we allow Him to shine from within us and guard against the self-sabotage of ego and self-importance. In what ways do I hear God whispering to me to change? Where has pride taken over my spirit? Do I seek to honor God in what I do? Do I seek selfish attention or have self-serving ambitions when I serve others? Is my work an attempt to make myself appear more successful and fill a hole within myself best completed by God? Do I sacrifice my family in an attempt to gain worldly attention? Each of us has areas that we need to allow God to make visible to us so we can allow His holy work to mend from within. Proverbs 11:2 says, “When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom.” The lessons God crafts for each of us are so personal. Whether we choose to learn from them or continue walking without a humble spirit is our choice. Although I am immensely thankful that He allows us the ability to select whether we will allow ourselves to humbly submit to Him and follow His ways, I have also grown thankful for the hard lessons I have learned. Not that I wanted to endure them, or allow others in my life to suffer, but because they have proven to me how great and gracious my Heavenly Father really is. He not only allows us the ability to choose, but the ability to learn through experience. When we fail or fall, He graciously picks us back up and loves us despite the arrogant or ignorant mistakes we make, allowing us the ability and opportunity to learn from Him and extend that grace to others. Humility comes in many forms. Studying the life of Jesus affords us the gift of seeing a grace-filled and beautiful life unfold and the humility and wisdom from our Savior to enrich our life if we accept the responsibility of trusting Him and understanding the definition of a humble life. A modest walk is not something to despise or desire to change. It is a quality that we need to savor as a gift from above and treasure it as we labor to retain and build upon it. It does not mean we have no confidence; on the contrary, it means that we have full confidence in Him and in what He is accomplishing in and through us. As we seek to live each day with more eternal perspective, a humble spirit is essential to develop and grow as we release prideful attitude and actions and adopt a Christlike view of significance. Thank you so much for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective.

< Back Godly Motherhood Podcast - Episode 139 - How to Respond to Kids From a Biblical Perspective Godly Motherhood podcast – Episode 139 – How to Respond to Kids From a Biblical Perspective Welcome to the Godly Motherhood podcast. If you’re a mom, you can’t parent in your strength. The Good News is that you aren’t supposed to. On this podcast I’ll mentor how to rest and abide in the Father’s arms. Through Him, you’ll be carried - and capable of raising each unique child entrusted to your care as you teach them to chase Christ over culture moment by moment. Just last week, I released Godly Motherhood Podcast Episode # 138 – entitled, “How to Raise Kids to Think Critically and Biblically.” This week’s episode reiterates a small portion of that episode. This is Episode 139 – How to Talk to Kids From a Biblical Perspective Last week I shared some thoughts with moms in my current Set-Apart Collective program. I’d like to share a few with you now. One of the moms asked how to answer kids in a way that turns them toward God when they ask hard questions. For example, let’s say your child is trying to do homework, but gets frustrated. As moms, we want to rush in and alleviate the pain. We want to reassure them that they’re smart. Capable. Able to do the work if they try hard enough. But is that really the way to reach what they’re feeling that brought out the frustration? SO many variables flow into how we shift from parenting from a place of wanting to reassure our kids and take away pain - or from a place of answering quickly while we juggle 10 tasks. Mothers tend to jump into erasing pain. We want to make days smooth for our kids. We want them to see themselves as we see them. Instead, we must remember to tend to the soil of our hearts - inhale Christ so we effortlessly exhale Him onto our children. Then work with them in ways that lead them to see themselves not as we do, but as HE does. It's a process...that starts with us. Having said that, let me remind you of a section from my last podcast, "How to Raise Kids Who Think Critically and Biblically: Here are 9 ways to help your children develop biblical critical thinking skills: 1. Encourage Questions 2. Enjoy Answering Questions 3. Enforce “No Question is Dumb” 4. Seek Answers Together 5. Ask Your Child Questions 6. Allow Time to Think and Process 7. Practice Critical Thinking Together 8. Inspire Creativity 9. Read the Bible Together Here are 4 ways to teach your child that people don’t stop to think critically when : 1. We Are Rushed – When forced to make fast decisions, people usually move with what is easiest. 2. We Are Confused – Teach your children that when something doesn’t make sense, they must make time to pray and seek God’s wisdom through Scripture and speak with someone they trust to lead and advise them in God’s truths. 3. We Are Selfish – When we follow only selfish desires, we usually make decisions we regret later, decisions that hurt others, or decisions that go against God’s desires. 4. We Are Apathetic – If children are allowed to remain indifferent or uninterested, they will not make time to seek and follow God’s values and commands. Matthew 24:4 – “ And Jesus answered them, “See that no one leads you astray.” Help your children build a framework for establishing biblical critical thinking by teaching them to: Compare everything heard, seen, or taught against the Bible . 1. Is the source of information godly? 2. Is the source of information credible? 3. Is the source of information experienced? 4. What is the motive of the source? 5. What is the perspective of the source? 6. Is the information opinion or is it fact backed by Scripture and/or biblical values? 7. Is the information backed by biblical evidence? I remind you of these points, because teaching our kids godly esteem and identity in Christ - along with biblical, critical thinking skills will enable us to approach those remarks our kids say, like "I can't do this." or "I'm not smart enough," or "No one likes me" through a biblical and eternal lens. Instead of rushing to reassure our kids that we believe in them, ask probing questions like Jesus did. Like those I mentioned earlier, but in context of the remarks your kids made. Sometimes we think we know where their mind is - and they may be a mile away from where we suspect. Asking questions will invite and allow better understanding and godlier leadership for our kids. Don't rush in to make things smooth, easy, or fast for kids either. (ie:"I believe in you." "You can do this.") We usually need to "walk through the pain" of what we (or they) are thinking or feeling (with godly guidance) in order to reach real transformation. The responses they give will lead us to reflect and answer with responses - when we're pursuing God consistently - and in ways that what we say matches our actions, attitudes, and desires. Raising kids is a process guided by prayer, the Word, and communication that points to God in every situation. Just as our answers and responses to questions and remarks should be. If you’d like to dig deeper, send me an email. Thank you for listening to this podcast. The Godly Motherhood podcast will be absent from the airways for a few weeks while I complete final edits on my book, “The Good Mom Trap.” When the podcast returns, we’ll have more episodes to flesh out questions like those posed in this episode, interviews, and biblical teachings to equip you in areas of godly womanhood and motherhood. Dear Heavenly Father, You are the Great I Am, the Maker of all things, the designer of our soul. How blessed we are to know You, to have You available for all things at all times. We praise and thank You for entrusting Your precious children to our hands and homes. Please enable us to seek You first in all things. Help our thoughts be so connected to Yours that our words reflect Yours and we direct the children in our care straight to Your heart and truths. Help us not rescue them, but help them build identity through Jesus as Savior. Help us not alleviate all pains, but help them resolve troubles by resting in Your capable arms. May it be so because we are already there. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to this episode. I have a free resource you’ll find helpful as you navigate your daily routine as a mom. If you’re ready to become the godly mother God entrusts you to be for Him and His children, you’ll love my free “Good to Godly: A 31-Day Scripture and Prayer Guide for Moms.” Visit terrihitt.com to receive this resource. Also, if you’d like to get more info or get on the waiting list to hear when the next Godly Womanhood or Godly Motherhood program begins, send me an email at info@terrihitt.com . Time is short. Leave a legacy that lasts into eternity. Unless you’re purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. Focus on eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #107 –Scripture and Solitude Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together and live with purposed eternal perspective. My youngest seeks private time with me daily. If I view her desire to be with me, to ensure that we play together daily as a chore, I feel burdened or overwhelmed thinking about our busy schedule and trying to fit in playtime every single day. If I shift my mindset, however, knowing that our playtime should be guarded, that we never know how many days we are given with anyone, I savor the precious moments we have. Playing together is so important to her mental, emotional, and spiritual growth and has blessed our attachment process. Looking back at our memories, laughter, secrets, and creativity together, play time is one of the activities I cherish the most. This same mindset should apply to our walk with God. When I was a new Christian, I read my Bible as often as possible, trying to absorb as much as I could. Sometimes it was difficult to learn the meanings of the strange new words I had never heard of, imagine cities I’d never been to, or understand the cultures of a time so long ago. Yet, I kept reading. Passion for Jesus resided in me and I wanted to hear more. Over time, my life got busier. My Bible could sit untouched for days by my bed. As time continued to pass, I still loved God very much, but my actions and reactions began to look more fleshly than godly and my words reflected myself rather than my Heavenly Father. Thankfully, I didn’t continue moving away from the word, but began moving back to the One who gives true life and love, drawn back to His word for the nourishment my mind, heart, and body craved. Scripture, wisdom of the Bible, is defined as sacred writings. The Word sacred means consecrated, or set-apart. In order for us to be set-apart in our daily living and our walk with God, we must intentionally purpose to live life differently than our flesh would call us to or as the world lures us to follow. Believers know scripture is God-breathed and inspired. The Holy word God breathed, inspired, and established for us is undoubtedly more than words in a book. Full of God’s truths, instructions, promises, and wisdom, scripture is an under-used treasure and gift. I’m incredibly thankful that God kept His eyes and hand on me when I stopped intentionally deepening my walk with Him daily as a young woman. No matter what we tell ourselves we think or how we feel, we will drift away from the heart of God, following selfish needs or desires, unless we are purposeful in moving nearer to Him. God knows the plans He has for each of us, the purposes we were created for, the things that touch us and speak to our heart. God cares intimately. He knows what to allow in our life, what to expel from it, and how to accomplish both without crushing our spirit or individuality. If we keep our eyes and heart focused on Him despite whether we are experiencing life standing tall on the mountain or crouching with despair in the valley, our walk with Him will deepen and mature in innumerable ways that last for eternity. So, how do we develop faith that withstands the burdens and trials of life? How do we manage to draw nearer to God, especially during the fast-paced and challenging days we live? God’s Holy word is the crucial starting point where we find the presence and purpose of Jesus and find freedom through Him. Through scripture, we find Christ, the perfect Savior and mentor. To my knowledge, the Bible never specifically instructs us to seek solitude. Yet, we often see Jesus drawing nearer to His Father through seeking refuge in solitude. When we study the life and actions of Jesus, we witness the way He intentionally found time and made the freedom to be in the presence of His Heavenly Father despite His demanding life. What is the purpose of seeking God through solitude and scripture? Through careful study of Bible scripture, and seeing the example Jesus left us of sitting with the Lord in solitude, we recognize specific privileges we receive as a child of the King, as well as opportunities to stretch the relationship we have to a greater depth and understanding of Jesus. Scripture helps us to: 1. Know God – 1 Samuel 16:7 says, “But the Lord said to Samuel, "Do not consider his appearance or height, for I have rejected him; the Lord does not see as man does. For man sees the outward appearance, but the Lord sees the heart." Our Heavenly Father looks directly into our heart. Because He formed us, He knows each innermost thought, urge, weakness, and strength. God understands the feelings we have for Him, the regrets, the joys, and loves us despite each of them. Above all, He is not persuaded by or turned away from any of them. Reading scripture allows us to read God. We recognize Him. Through the Holy Spirit, we can have God alive within us! As we seek to know, honor, and please the Father through His holy word, we are able to understand and discern the character and ways of God much more clearly and accurately as we draw nearer to Him. 2. Hear God – Psalm 95:6-7a says, “O come, let us worship and bow down; let us kneel before the Lord our Maker. For He is our God, and we are the people of His pasture, the sheep under His care.” We are the created. He is the Creator. As we seek Him and come to know Him through His word, we see the great depths God has gone to in order to make Himself known to us. The Creator of heaven and earth has pursued us with a relentless and holy love. As we learn what He desires, we come to be more like Him through our thoughts, actions, reactions, and words. We clearly hear and follow what He calls for us and we begin to experience fellowship and joy in new ways this world cannot offer. 3. Focus on God – Matthew 15:8 says, “These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me.” When we focus on self, we cannot focus on the Lord. Only through the work of the Holy Spirit can we truly love as God calls us to. God calls for pure hearts to be drawn to Him in authentic adoration and affection. Jeremiah 29:13 says, “You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.” As we know the Lord through His holy word, our hearts are changed. When we discover Jesus as our personal Savior, and the Holy Spirit abides within us, He woos us to Himself and gifts us with the ability to discern His truths and promises and desire them with our whole heart. Yet, because the love our Heavenly Father has for us is so unselfish and of the greatest depth, He allows us to choose whether to continue drawing nearer to Him moment by moment. Jeremiah 24:7 says, “I will give them a heart to know Me, that I am the Lord. They will be My people, and I will be their God, for they will return to Me with all their heart.” Jesus’s redeeming love is the only power that transforms our hearts from the selfish, stubborn flesh within us and penetrates our heart with a pure and holy transformation. John 17:3 says, “Now this is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom You have sent.” As we focus on Jesus, we see and know God. For believers with a personal relationship with Christ, we have the blessed assurance that we will live with God for eternity one day. Eternal life through Jesus is not merely living forever with God, but is the definer of the quality of our life. Now that we’ve examined what scripture helps us discover, let’s examine what blessings solitude provides. Solitude helps us to: 1. Make discerning decisions – If we regularly spend time in God’s word, our heart is pricked and aware of God’s truths and commands. Hebrews 4:12-13 says, “For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it pierces even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow. It judges the thoughts and intentions of the heart. Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight; everything is uncovered and exposed before the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.” Committing also, to spending time alone with the Lord is difficult. Often, it is hard enough to make time to read the Bible regularly, let alone make additional time to sit in solitude with God. Any relationship, however, needs time to focus on the heart of one another, to purposely make time to love and appreciate, to listen to the desires of the one we love. Here, we do the same for the One who loves us. Sitting in solitude, in time meant to hear the Lord speak opens our heart and mind to awareness of what God is saying to us and how to apply it in our life. Understanding awakens the proper actions or reactions the Lord is calling us to make. 2. Focus on God’s truths – When we focus on time with God, it allows us to process our fleshly thoughts, feelings, and emotions, then discern and determine how to release what is not God’s truths. God lovingly made each of us unique and filled us with the ability to feel strongly and passionately. It is only through Him that we have the ability to determine what is our truth and what is God’s truth and how to move from there. John 8:32 says, “Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” 3. Rest and renew in Christ – Life can be exhausting. We rush from moment to moment activities, fill our mind with desires, needs, wants, and mindless entertainment, making excuses that we have no time for God. True rest is only found in the Lord. When we make the time to be with Him, we find the ability to drop the activities that serve no eternal purpose or we are able to focus on our days with a new mindset and His joy and strength. Matthew 11:28-29 says, “Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” 4. Seek God’s strength – Psalm 121:1-2 says, “I lift up my eyes to the hills. From where does my help come? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.” Without relationship with God through Jesus and purposeful reflection on Him, trusting God, seeking His strength and provision, we wearily trudge through each day reliant on self. Human strength fails. We get weary, stressed, depressed, and react without godly thoughts or intentions. God knows how difficult we make releasing self and worries or problems to Him. The Bible is filled with verses about His strength and provision for us. John 16:33 says, “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” Absolutely nothing is too much for God. Isaiah 41:10 says, “Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be afraid, for I am your God. I will strengthen you; I will surely help you; I will uphold you with My right hand of righteousness.” Joshua 1:9 says, “Have I not commanded you to be strong and courageous? Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” As we read, study, and process God’s precious words to us and reflect on them through solitude with Jesus, our mind, heart, thoughts, emotions, feelings, actions, and reactions are altered. Our lives are changed as we view the world, our life, and the lives of others through the eternal perspective of Jesus. Gracious Heavenly Father, how good You are to us. You have made Yourself known to us, Your creation, through a love so profound we barely understand. Yet as we devote ourselves to knowing You, we begin to grasp the depth, the height, the width of Your loving provisions to us. There is none like You. We thank you for thinking of us, for giving us a life in which we can seek You, find You, and follow You into joy unexplainable. Please help each of us to find You in new ways as we make time to read Your holy word and make room for You in our life. Let us not exclude You from the intimate relationship You long for with Your beloved children. May we see You more clearly, exhibit You more lovingly as we walk more closely with You and spend quiet time together to see Your face, heart, and mind. May we reflect You in all we are and do. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening. If you find value in what you hear, I invite you to help others find the podcast. Please share Live With Eternal Perspective episodes with friends and family so that they can begin to listen each week. I’m very excited to share that my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” releases soon! I hope you will look for it, follow it, and share both podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. You can find more details on my website at terrihitt.com. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 107 Scripture and Solitude Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #107 –Scripture and Solitude Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together and live with purposed eternal perspective. My youngest seeks private time with me daily. If I view her desire to be with me, to ensure that we play together daily as a chore, I feel burdened or overwhelmed thinking about our busy schedule and trying to fit in playtime every single day. If I shift my mindset, however, knowing that our playtime should be guarded, that we never know how many days we are given with anyone, I savor the precious moments we have. Playing together is so important to her mental, emotional, and spiritual growth and has blessed our attachment process. Looking back at our memories, laughter, secrets, and creativity together, play time is one of the activities I cherish the most. This same mindset should apply to our walk with God. When I was a new Christian, I read my Bible as often as possible, trying to absorb as much as I could. Sometimes it was difficult to learn the meanings of the strange new words I had never heard of, imagine cities I’d never been to, or understand the cultures of a time so long ago. Yet, I kept reading. Passion for Jesus resided in me and I wanted to hear more. Over time, my life got busier. My Bible could sit untouched for days by my bed. As time continued to pass, I still loved God very much, but my actions and reactions began to look more fleshly than godly and my words reflected myself rather than my Heavenly Father. Thankfully, I didn’t continue moving away from the word, but began moving back to the One who gives true life and love, drawn back to His word for the nourishment my mind, heart, and body craved. Scripture, wisdom of the Bible, is defined as sacred writings. The Word sacred means consecrated, or set-apart. In order for us to be set-apart in our daily living and our walk with God, we must intentionally purpose to live life differently than our flesh would call us to or as the world lures us to follow. Believers know scripture is God-breathed and inspired. The Holy word God breathed, inspired, and established for us is undoubtedly more than words in a book. Full of God’s truths, instructions, promises, and wisdom, scripture is an under-used treasure and gift. I’m incredibly thankful that God kept His eyes and hand on me when I stopped intentionally deepening my walk with Him daily as a young woman. No matter what we tell ourselves we think or how we feel, we will drift away from the heart of God, following selfish needs or desires, unless we are purposeful in moving nearer to Him. God knows the plans He has for each of us, the purposes we were created for, the things that touch us and speak to our heart. God cares intimately. He knows what to allow in our life, what to expel from it, and how to accomplish both without crushing our spirit or individuality. If we keep our eyes and heart focused on Him despite whether we are experiencing life standing tall on the mountain or crouching with despair in the valley, our walk with Him will deepen and mature in innumerable ways that last for eternity. So, how do we develop faith that withstands the burdens and trials of life? How do we manage to draw nearer to God, especially during the fast-paced and challenging days we live? God’s Holy word is the crucial starting point where we find the presence and purpose of Jesus and find freedom through Him. Through scripture, we find Christ, the perfect Savior and mentor. To my knowledge, the Bible never specifically instructs us to seek solitude. Yet, we often see Jesus drawing nearer to His Father through seeking refuge in solitude. When we study the life and actions of Jesus, we witness the way He intentionally found time and made the freedom to be in the presence of His Heavenly Father despite His demanding life. What is the purpose of seeking God through solitude and scripture? Through careful study of Bible scripture, and seeing the example Jesus left us of sitting with the Lord in solitude, we recognize specific privileges we receive as a child of the King, as well as opportunities to stretch the relationship we have to a greater depth and understanding of Jesus. Scripture helps us to: 1. Know God – 1 Samuel 16:7 says, “But the Lord said to Samuel, "Do not consider his appearance or height, for I have rejected him; the Lord does not see as man does. For man sees the outward appearance, but the Lord sees the heart." Our Heavenly Father looks directly into our heart. Because He formed us, He knows each innermost thought, urge, weakness, and strength. God understands the feelings we have for Him, the regrets, the joys, and loves us despite each of them. Above all, He is not persuaded by or turned away from any of them. Reading scripture allows us to read God. We recognize Him. Through the Holy Spirit, we can have God alive within us! As we seek to know, honor, and please the Father through His holy word, we are able to understand and discern the character and ways of God much more clearly and accurately as we draw nearer to Him. 2. Hear God – Psalm 95:6-7a says, “O come, let us worship and bow down; let us kneel before the Lord our Maker. For He is our God, and we are the people of His pasture, the sheep under His care.” We are the created. He is the Creator. As we seek Him and come to know Him through His word, we see the great depths God has gone to in order to make Himself known to us. The Creator of heaven and earth has pursued us with a relentless and holy love. As we learn what He desires, we come to be more like Him through our thoughts, actions, reactions, and words. We clearly hear and follow what He calls for us and we begin to experience fellowship and joy in new ways this world cannot offer. 3. Focus on God – Matthew 15:8 says, “These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me.” When we focus on self, we cannot focus on the Lord. Only through the work of the Holy Spirit can we truly love as God calls us to. God calls for pure hearts to be drawn to Him in authentic adoration and affection. Jeremiah 29:13 says, “You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart.” As we know the Lord through His holy word, our hearts are changed. When we discover Jesus as our personal Savior, and the Holy Spirit abides within us, He woos us to Himself and gifts us with the ability to discern His truths and promises and desire them with our whole heart. Yet, because the love our Heavenly Father has for us is so unselfish and of the greatest depth, He allows us to choose whether to continue drawing nearer to Him moment by moment. Jeremiah 24:7 says, “I will give them a heart to know Me, that I am the Lord. They will be My people, and I will be their God, for they will return to Me with all their heart.” Jesus’s redeeming love is the only power that transforms our hearts from the selfish, stubborn flesh within us and penetrates our heart with a pure and holy transformation. John 17:3 says, “Now this is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom You have sent.” As we focus on Jesus, we see and know God. For believers with a personal relationship with Christ, we have the blessed assurance that we will live with God for eternity one day. Eternal life through Jesus is not merely living forever with God, but is the definer of the quality of our life. Now that we’ve examined what scripture helps us discover, let’s examine what blessings solitude provides. Solitude helps us to: 1. Make discerning decisions – If we regularly spend time in God’s word, our heart is pricked and aware of God’s truths and commands. Hebrews 4:12-13 says, “For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it pierces even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow. It judges the thoughts and intentions of the heart. Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight; everything is uncovered and exposed before the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.” Committing also, to spending time alone with the Lord is difficult. Often, it is hard enough to make time to read the Bible regularly, let alone make additional time to sit in solitude with God. Any relationship, however, needs time to focus on the heart of one another, to purposely make time to love and appreciate, to listen to the desires of the one we love. Here, we do the same for the One who loves us. Sitting in solitude, in time meant to hear the Lord speak opens our heart and mind to awareness of what God is saying to us and how to apply it in our life. Understanding awakens the proper actions or reactions the Lord is calling us to make. 2. Focus on God’s truths – When we focus on time with God, it allows us to process our fleshly thoughts, feelings, and emotions, then discern and determine how to release what is not God’s truths. God lovingly made each of us unique and filled us with the ability to feel strongly and passionately. It is only through Him that we have the ability to determine what is our truth and what is God’s truth and how to move from there. John 8:32 says, “Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” 3. Rest and renew in Christ – Life can be exhausting. We rush from moment to moment activities, fill our mind with desires, needs, wants, and mindless entertainment, making excuses that we have no time for God. True rest is only found in the Lord. When we make the time to be with Him, we find the ability to drop the activities that serve no eternal purpose or we are able to focus on our days with a new mindset and His joy and strength. Matthew 11:28-29 says, “Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” 4. Seek God’s strength – Psalm 121:1-2 says, “I lift up my eyes to the hills. From where does my help come? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.” Without relationship with God through Jesus and purposeful reflection on Him, trusting God, seeking His strength and provision, we wearily trudge through each day reliant on self. Human strength fails. We get weary, stressed, depressed, and react without godly thoughts or intentions. God knows how difficult we make releasing self and worries or problems to Him. The Bible is filled with verses about His strength and provision for us. John 16:33 says, “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” Absolutely nothing is too much for God. Isaiah 41:10 says, “Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be afraid, for I am your God. I will strengthen you; I will surely help you; I will uphold you with My right hand of righteousness.” Joshua 1:9 says, “Have I not commanded you to be strong and courageous? Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” As we read, study, and process God’s precious words to us and reflect on them through solitude with Jesus, our mind, heart, thoughts, emotions, feelings, actions, and reactions are altered. Our lives are changed as we view the world, our life, and the lives of others through the eternal perspective of Jesus. Gracious Heavenly Father, how good You are to us. You have made Yourself known to us, Your creation, through a love so profound we barely understand. Yet as we devote ourselves to knowing You, we begin to grasp the depth, the height, the width of Your loving provisions to us. There is none like You. We thank you for thinking of us, for giving us a life in which we can seek You, find You, and follow You into joy unexplainable. Please help each of us to find You in new ways as we make time to read Your holy word and make room for You in our life. Let us not exclude You from the intimate relationship You long for with Your beloved children. May we see You more clearly, exhibit You more lovingly as we walk more closely with You and spend quiet time together to see Your face, heart, and mind. May we reflect You in all we are and do. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening. If you find value in what you hear, I invite you to help others find the podcast. Please share Live With Eternal Perspective episodes with friends and family so that they can begin to listen each week. I’m very excited to share that my second podcast, “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” releases soon! I hope you will look for it, follow it, and share both podcasts with friends or family who would like to choose Christ over culture and be a parent (or grandparent) who connects with eternal purpose. You can find more details on my website at terrihitt.com. Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

Have you decided peers and culture won't be the main influence over your children? Are you ready to replace "good" parenting with godly parenting and connection? Would you like to chase Christ over culture with your children? Are you ready to raise kids who choose CHRIST instead of CULTURE? Are you ready to connect with your kids on a DEEPER level? Are you ready to parent with a CONFIDENCE that only comes from God? You know that you need to confidently parent for Christ without fear or regret... Except there's SO much darkness in the world. Have you decided you WON'T let today's culture be the main influence over your children? You need to learn how to stop being a good mom and become a godly parent . SHOW ME HOW! Anchor 1 Did parenting feel like it would be a lot easier... before you became a mother? Remember, you're NOT meant to parent in your strength. If you feel…inadequate, GUILTY, discouraged, or OVERWHELMED in motherhood... you’re not alone. The days go by so quickly and you feel like you're not being a "good Christian mom." God calls you to raise SET-APART kids, but you can’t, until YOU ARE set-apart through Christ. Are you ready to move from overwhelmed to overjoyed? I NEED THAT CONFIDENCE! The overwhelm? The worry? The stress? Those thoughts and feelings DON'T come from God... Through Christ, you can raise children with a strong mind, heart, and identity defined by Him . Introducing Chooses CHRIST over CULTURE for herself and her family Has JOY and PEACE while parenting her children Builds an unshakable CONNECTION with her kids A community of moms AND 1:1 mentorship that makes you a GODLY (not just "good") Mom who: APPLY NOW How you'll transform in 12 weeks: In The Set-Apart Collective you'll: Receive one-on-one AND group mentorship You'll get heart-to-heart mentorship in two private sessions, while also having weekly mentorship calls with like-minded mothers. Create a Family Vision/Mission Statement Your Family Vision / Mission Statement will help you pray intentional prayers for your child and your family. The God-ordained vision and mission will help you find even more joy in motherhood. Learn to parent the heart, so discipline becomes DISCIPLESHIP You will learn how to use your kids' behavior as an opportunity to parent the HEART not just the behavior . PREPARE your kids to follow Christ in their MIDDLE SCHOOL YEARS, TEEN YEARS, and BEYOND You don't have to be worried about your kids being influenced by culture, peers, or mental struggles. When you parent to PREPARE and not REPAIR, you will have the tools you need to build their identity in Christ. Do life with like-minded mothers on the same mission for Christ You get to connect with other moms with the same values as you. Together, we can share struggles with one another, pray for one another, and encourage each other. Lifelong friendships will be made. I NEED THIS! Bonus An EXTRA free 1:1 MENTORSHIP CALL How we'll sanctify your life, together : WEEK 1 WEEK 1 WEEK 2 WEEK 3 Introduction: Set-Apart Parenting Seek God First Establish Identity Teach Truth Lay the groundwork to break free from relying on self and be equipped to allow God to CARRY you in parenting. Make the Lord a priority in motherhood in ways you've never considered... until now. Your actions, thoughts, AND reactions... they either point to Christ or a fallen world. What are you modeling to your children? You'll find out how to seek God like never before. Before you help your children find and grow their identity, YOU have to have a solid identity. You'll understand your PURPOSE on a deeper level, stop questioning your worth, and find the TRUTH about your identity according to His Word. In a world that is SO fixated on teaching your children lies, what do you do? You teach them HIS TRUTHS. You'll learn timeless, biblical tools to teach your children... so they won't be swayed by a secular culture. WEEK 4 WEEK 5 WEEK 6 WEEK 7 A Set-Apart Woman Being set-apart begins with our hearts and minds. If your soul and conscience are set on God, your ACTIONS and REACTIONS will point your children towards Him. Parent Set-Apart Kids Do you want your kids to look more like the WORLD or THE WAY? Are you tired of being concerned about the middle school, teen, and adult years? You will be able to parent set-apart kids with God's confidence. Arm for Battle A set-apart mom knows TIME IS SHORT. The devil seeks to devour her, her children, and her family. She trains for earthly battles the way God instructs, with a peace that surpasses understanding. Relationships Your relationship with God is the STANDARD for all your relationships. Whether it's that one difficult person or the child you want an even deeper connection with, you'll know how to flourish with family and friends. WEEK 8 Training You will be equipped to train your children to be set-apart... such a skill becomes a blessing that can be passed down for GENERATIONS. By building a legacy of faith, you'll be a GODLY mom. "Terri Hitt has been an absolute blessing to me as a mother. Her practical and insightful guidance on how to shepherd a child in a way that can foster their spiritual growth has transformed my perspective. I truly appreciated the thoughtfulness and care she put into every detail, from the beautiful course design to the live trainings and recordings that gave me a real sense of community. Terri's Bible reading plans were a wonderful addition to the Collective, as it is so important for me to deepen my own walk with the Lord while nurturing my children's spiritual lives. I am so grateful for her wisdom and the way she pours her heart into helping families thrive in their faith." Emily "I was so grateful for God's perfect timing in leading me to be a part of the Set-Apart Collective. As a momma who parented four kids into their teen and young adult years and suddenly found herself in 'round two' with a baby as an adoptive mom, I feel like this was the perfect season to re-focus on my calling as a mom. The information and wisdom Terri shares in this collective is just what my heart needed to give me strength and conviction to start back at square one and be intentional once again to raise young people who love and seek Jesus. I recommend this information to new moms, seasoned moms and all those in between. The information is concise yet deep and will encourage women to live up to our highest calling - motherhood that points to Jesus." Sammie It wasn’t until we connected in person at a LIVE event that I truly saw the depth of Terri's calling. I was immediately drawn to her love for the Father, her gentle wisdom , and—if I’m honest—her best “calling card”: her daughter Marissa. The joy and light of Christ that radiated from her made it clear Terri wasn’t just teaching godly parenting—she was living it out, and it was bearing beautiful fruit. Before joining the Set Apart Collective in January, I thought being a godly mom meant adjusting what I was doing with my daughter —finding the right Bible study or correcting behavior with Scripture. But the longer I tried that approach, the more I felt like something was missing . It wasn’t clicking the way I thought it should. Through Terri’s guidance, I realized the true shift wasn’t about changing what I was doing with my child—it was about changing what I was doing that drew me closer to Jesus. When I started focusing on intimacy with Him, everything else began to overflow from that place. That was the missing link I didn’t even know how to name before. Inside the Set Apart Collective, I found more than just a parenting program—I found a home. A sisterhood of godly women walking through the same questions and struggles I had . I found a mentor in Terri who doesn’t sugarcoat or pretend to have all the answers, but who shares from her own wins and wounds, always pointing us back to Christ. I received tools that helped me root my identity in Him—and model that process for my daughter. Now I have language to express what had been stirring in my spirit all along. I’m parenting from overflow instead of striving. I feel nurtured, supported, and equipped in a way I never did before. If you’re wondering, “Will this really work for me?”—I get it. I was there, too. But here’s what I’ve learned: if you’re ready to stop chasing perfection and start pursuing Jesus more deeply, then this is exactly where you need to be. Terri doesn’t just teach parenting—she walks with you, shoulder to shoulder, as you become the woman and mother God created you to be. Carolyn Wiley Founder of Rose and Pearl Publishing Being a "Christian" isn't enough. You long to nurture active, lasting faith but wonder how. A hectic once-a-week trip to church isn't enough to cultivate the relationship you dream of with Christ and for your children. You feel like there isn’t enough time through the week to dig deeper in your personal walk with Jesus or disciple your children the way you thought you would. You wonder how to find TIME for Him yourself and question how to lead your children to Jesus. Fears or concerns arise when you see kids follow the influence of friends or listen to society more than parents. You don’t want that to happen in your home. You're not the only woman who wants more for her children NOW and for ETERNITY. SHOW ME HOW You could listen to another podcast... or you could start putting GODLY PARENTING into ACTION. You could keep going to therapy... but it's not rooted in biblical principles. You could keep talking to your friends and getting advice from other moms... but they haven't parented two sets of children over two generations. You can only bring your family closer to Christ with time and commitment... and you're not alone. You can only bring your family closer to Christ with time and commitment... and you're not alone. You can only bring your family closer to Christ with time and commitment... and you're not alone. You can only bring your family closer to Christ with time and commitment... and you're not alone. An investment of ETERNAL value 12 weeks 8 weeks The sanctification of becoming a GODLY mom is the same as polishing a diamond that was always there... Here's what life will look like AFTER: You're going to grow closer to the Lord, You're going to find out what's holding you back in parenting (in ways you never thought of before), You're going to grow closer to your child, Church won't feel like the only solution to keep your kids connected to Christ... you'll find new, unique ways to INHALE Christ so you can EXHALE Him to your children. You'll STOP being a GOOD mom... and become a GODLY mom Are you ready to be a Set-Apart mom? APPLY NOW One of my favorite things about the Set Apart Collective was learning that we are the first version of Jesus that our children will see . That's weighty , convicting , and absolutely changes the way I interact with and disciple my son." Darby GODLY OVER GOOD GODLY OVER GOOD GODLY OVER GOOD GODLY OVER GOOD Losing my adult daughter was THE hardest experience as a parent... The loss of my daughter was a wake-up call... Mom to mom? I DON'T WANT YOU TO ASK YOURSELF THE SAME QUESTION I DID... "What went WRONG?" I thought I was a good mom - doing it all the right way. But I wasn't focused on being a GODLY mom. Your kids need you to lead the way to Christ. You can't exhale what you don't inhale. Are you ready to be a set-apart mom leading your children straight to Christ? I'm mom of four who raised my children in two “sets,” and over two generations, allowing me a unique perspective about parenting. I've learned... Nothing is more important than raising the children God ENTRUSTED to you - for Him. YES! This program isn't for everyone... but it is for you if you know these truths... You won't get worldly advice, You'll get a wisdom-filled, biblical perspective You won't know how to just parent for today... You'll learn how to parent your kids for today AND for their ETERNAL LIFE You won't get common parenting critiques, You'll get intentional, personal, Christian mentorship that always points to Him Like most moms, you probably plan for the temporal (e.g., the right baby crib, the right school, the right finances for their future...) . But how quickly do those plans fade to memories? How are you planning for the eternity of your children? I WANT TO START! In The Set-Apart Collective™, you’ll be strengthened to live a life that pursues Christ in every way. “For My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways, declares the Lord .” Isaiah 55:8 You desire: Deeper relationship with Christ and your children To stop using worldly wisdom Be more prayerfully purposed To raise “godly ,” not "good" or “typical” children To raise your children with faith that thrives even after they are grown To parent the heart , not the behavior Discipline to disciple , not punish To stop overwhelm and become overjoyed “And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise .” Deuteronomy 6:6-7 Have you planned for your home to be a foundation for eternity? “Where there is no vision, the people perish .” Proverbs 29:18a FAQs Do I have to be a Christian to join? Yes... This mentorship is for you if you're a Christian so our foundational values are in alignment. What if this is above my budget? I understand... but I also KNOW how ESSENTIAL it is to teach our children (and future generations) TRUTH. And if you've read this far? You probably do, too. You don't want anxiety to be passed down. You don't want to be concerned about the middle school and teen years. Peace that surpasses understanding? A stronger relationship with Christ? The surety that you *and* your family are choosing Christ over culture? That's an investment of ETERNAL value. Can't I get this kind of mentorship at my church, from a family member, from a friend, by reading the Bible, etc.? Yes and NO... I teach DIRECTLY from God's Word (i.e. When I mentor you, I'm not adding or subtracting from Scripture). HOWEVER, the Bible shows how VITAL it is for women to mentor and be mentored (Titus 2:3-5). We will go DEEP and address SPECIFIC ways you can (or can continue to) show your kids The Way... instead of the world. I pray before - and during - EVERY call. In Christ, I mentor you. ↑ YES... HELP ME DO THIS! What would your life look like if you said YES to GODLY, set-apart parenting? What would your child's life look like if you taught them how to be in the world... but NOT of the world? What would your life (and your family's life) look like if you became a wise mentor who purposely guides godly growth . "The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down ." Proverbs 14:1 I WANT IN!

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< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 112 - How to Protect Innocence in Childhood Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 112 – How to Protect Innocence in Childhood Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom and BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you will be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episodes, would you please share this episode or others with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, and leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast. When you do, you’re helping affect generations for Jesus. Now on to our important episode about how to keep innocence in childhood. I adored the perspective our middle daughter Marissa carried when she was a tiny girl. Actually, still to this day she has the same artistic eye and genuine joy for seeing beauty in the world. One day as we were walking on a sunny day, she exclaimed, “Oh! Look at the sparkles on the sidewalk.” I’d already raised two children to adulthood and survived my own childhood. Yet I don’t remember ever noticing sparkles in the concrete. But, just as she said, when I looked at the sidewalk, tiny sprinkles of silver sparkled back. Even to this day, some fifteen or sixteen years later I look for sparkles of joy in concrete. Matthew 18:1-6 says, “At that time the disciples came to Jesus, saying, "Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven? And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them and said, "Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me, but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea .” Babies have such innocent, trusting souls. God could have brought His children into the world as adults. Instead, He brought us in as infants to be nurtured, protected, and pointed to Him. The beauty of childhood should be celebrated with trust, shaped to care for others, consider others your friends, and treat others with Christlike love because pure joy emanates from your heart. Think of the beauty childhood and little lives should be filled with. Kids enjoy finding hearts in the shapes of nature, seeing animals in clouds, and enjoy raindrops, mud, and snowy days just as much as a sunny day. They see beauty in uniqueness and don’t want anyone to feel sad or hurt. They speak from the heart, offer compliments simply and joyfully, twirl on a whim, and believe everyone is beautiful. However, societal shifts sneakily indoctrinate children with agendas at early ages and without parental consent. Children are exposed to adult materials and mindsets much earlier than decades before, yet they remain underequipped emotionally or spiritually to handle the images, knowledge, actions, or emotions impressed on their innocent minds. Why should it matter that innocence is in jeopardy? Don’t people say kids are resilient? Our godless culture is disregarding God’s design for the innocence of children. Society is erasing the God-assigned role of the parent to shepherd the heart and mind of the children He has entrusted to us. Society has been progressively promoting and glamourizing sin for decades. But now there seems to be a targeted push for children, who should be intentionally raised to know Jesus clearly and follow Him with dedication born from love and faith – not religion. Instead, the children are being lost to a culture with worldly morality and without godly intentions. God’s children aren’t being grounded in purposed faith that’s rooted in His Word and ways. Instead, we’re being lured and absorbed into a culture without absolute Truth. As parents, our personal identity must be secure in God through Jesus and in our faith-fueled relationship with Him. He must be the compass that guides and guards our heart and home. We must purposely search and study Scripture so we’re equipped to shelter, counsel, and prepare the children entrusted to us in Christlike and godly ways. As believers and guardians of precious children God commanded us to shepherd, we must commit through eyes fixed on eternity , to check what enters the life of our children, and also what surrounds them. We must be prepared proactively, not reactively, to fight as godly-centered warriors for the heart and mind of our children. Our concerns and cautions should be strong to protect from the evil influences of this world and provide godliness and Truth for our children. For example, sometimes we shelter from – and sometimes we allow access to things of this world. But when we allow access, it is in ways that direct with discussion and determination toward and through Christ. It is providing stability and strength for our children to grow into mature Christians who live in this world, but are not part of it. We’re to equip them to grow in strength and stature, able to form critical, godly thinking. You were divinely appointed and the children in your care were specifically chosen to be guarded and influenced by you. You were entrusted with the tender, yet challenging position of raising them for the King of Kings. The only way you are able to complete that monumental, but glorious task is through His strength and truths. As you teach relationship with God through Jesus and in the words you preach, intentionally guide your children into the arms of Jesus. Every obstacle is an opportunity to bring them to Him. Disciple them continually in light of eternity and you will find it easier to combat cultural influences and raise children who seek and stand for godly values because they carry an intimate relationship with Him. Remember, your children see you more clearly than you see yourself. Let your actions and your words send them straight to Christ. Be vigilant. Scripture tells us that the devil is out to steal, kill, and destroy. The world proves the truth of these words from Christ. I know you’re already aware of the importance of this issue. So what do we do about it? Be diligent! So often parents either ignorantly or lazily neglect to guide and guard the way God demands. Whether we are deceived or defiant, the lives of God’s precious children are touched and changed. I don’t need to list the “how’s’ of protecting children from this culture. You’ve already heard ways to keep ungodly values out of your home and several Purposed Parent Connected Child episodes are available to guide you. But I do want to remind you to keep your guard raised. Build the fence of protection far from the cliff. Don’t build that barrier right on the cliff, because as the ground your child is on erodes, that hedge will fall, and you want plenty of protection around the children God entrusted to you. Take each day captive for Christ. Don’t let schedules dictate the level of your parenting or protection. Fast paces and packed timelines keep parents from investing the needed time to talk to or play with kids to build connection to keep and foster purity in hearts and home. They deceive us into thinking we don’t have time to read God’s Word, study and teach it to our children, or have time to pray. It’s all how you choose to prioritize. Will it be God first? Do you choose to teach the children in your home the world or the Word? It's time for good mothers to take a stand and commit to becoming the godly mom God entrusted and equips you to be. Keeping innocence in the home begins and ends with you. I recently released an item that I am happy to share at no charge. Visit terrihitt.com to receive a complimentary 31-Day Prayer & Scripture Guide to help you jumpstart this or continue this sacred journey. Coming soon, I’ll have devotionals you can use with your babies and children. The first edition for tiny hearts is already complete, but just not on the website yet. Additional devotionals are in the process of being written now and will be available this year. Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for Your loving kindness and mercies to us. Thank you for entrusting us to be the guide and guardian for Your children. Your gracious, loving gift to us is beyond our human understanding. God, You clearly instruct us in Your Word to raise children to know, follow, hear, love, and obey You. We’re to talk of You when we rise up, when we lie down, when we walk along the way. We’re to infuse Your presence and Spirit into all aspects of our life and the lives of Your Children. Thank you for this beautiful picture of Your grace, Father. Help us be and remain obedient and joyful as we strive to become the godly women and mothers only You can equip us to be. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Because your home is key to safeguarding your children, I want to share a sweet and innocent company that has the same mission to safeguard the hearts and minds of children - Melane & Co. This shop was created by my middle daughter, who is the artist behind the watercolor creations available. Are you disgusted with book illustrations that honor darkness, not light? Have you ever taken your child to a gathering or been in the home of another person who has art hanging on the walls that simply isn’t God-honoring? Whether you’re looking through magazines, visiting a gallery, or a friend’s home, your kids have probably been exposed to artwork that you just wish they hadn’t seen. Has this happened to you? If it hasn’t yet, it probably will. But your home can be a place of refuge. Remember, under God’s command, you are responsible for safeguarding the heart and home of your children. If you’re looking for home décor that your child can grow up with and that won’t cause a flush to spread across your faces, Melane & Co. has gentle, beautiful watercolor prints, cards, and custom floral or pet paintings that bring joy and delight to young and old. Raising children is challenging. Don’t let artwork be another stumbling block. I invite you to visit Melane & Co. at www.melaneandco.com for a variety of pieces to bring a smile to your faces and walls. You’ll find fine quality watercolor cards you can use for gifts to family, friends, or teachers. If your home has a furry family member or two, you’ll also see a way to include them in your décor. A custom portrait of your pet is a timeless way to remember the joy they give so effortlessly daily. Any way you can honor God in your home with classic pieces that are sweet to the eyes and soul help you mentor Christ in beautiful ways. Visit Melane & Co. today. One last thing to remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. 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Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #153 – Change from a Good to Godly Woman and Mother Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. Goodness! I can’t believe school has started once again and the gorgeous days of summer will soon be moving out, ushering in crisper, cooler air. This time of year always makes me a little sad. I long for summer to last indefinitely. Since nothing lasts forever, seasons are a beautiful reminder of why we need to live with eternal perspective. Have you had days, weeks, or years of life that you want to last forever? Or maybe right now you feel the opposite. Do you wonder how much longer you have to endure the season you are experiencing? Change can be good. Especially when we aren’t aware that we are not living in ways that God desires for us. Change can become the catalyst that moves us to be in sync with the next transformation God has for us. I distinctly remember a time I’m glad I moved away from. There was a period in my life when I wanted to make sure I was a good person. A good woman. A good wife. A good daughter. A good mother. As my relationship with Jesus matured, I understood that limiting myself to “good” was “ungodly.” God calls believers to a much higher standard than good. Good isn’t good enough for God. It’s true that in the beginning when God created, He exclaimed that what He made was good. However, God is proclaiming His creations are good, not that we individually or collectively are. What I mean is that what God created is by His intelligent and perfect design. Anything He makes is good. Yet, in this sinful, fallen world, it didn’t take long for God’s creations to choose sin. Without Christ indwelling us, we continue to move farther from God. Without the Holy Spirit within us, there is no perfection or godliness. In fact, we are unable to claim the status of “good,” let alone “godly.” So how do you and I move from desiring a good life to building godly lives? Only through Christ. Once believers see our need for God, we begin to realize the need for His perfect Son, Jesus to pay the price for our sin. Once we realize the need for a Savior, and accept the free gift Jesus offers, we are able to live with His Holy Spirit within us. We are no longer bound to the world and the sinful temptations. Through relationship with Him, the Holy Word, and prayerful conversations with God, we can experience a shift from good to godly. That is, if we are seeking Him and a humble, obedient, close connection daily. What we desire must be held up to a mirror, so to speak, as we look at how our desires are reflected against what God calls for us in His holy Word. My heart fills with joy when I remember the time between when my first set of children were raised and before my husband and I knew that God was calling us to adopt a sweet baby from China. Before we knew our daughter was waiting for us, I was experiencing deeper growth in my spiritual walk with Christ. Slowly by slowly, I allowed God greater access to me. I wish I could profess to be one of those people who surrender fully in the moment they accept Christ, but the truth is that each of us have varying degrees of surrender throughout our lifetime. We never reach that finish line in this life. We are so very far beneath God, and so far from Him, that our lifetime should be focused on pursuing deeper relationship with Him and continuing to surrender self. As my relationship with Jesus deepened and widened, I thought back to when my husband and I had raised our first two children. I was not a Christian when my first two were born. Although I came to follow Jesus when they were young, I wasn’t well discipled. I wasted so many years thinking I was “good” and not striving to be godly. Would you like to know my deepest regret? Although my children always heard about Jesus, and knew I loved and followed Him, I did not know to intentionally disciple them. I didn’t yet understand that the Christian walk is a beautiful relationship between God and man. I didn’t understand the command in Deuteronomy 6:5-9, which says, “You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” I assumed that what I was doing to teach my children about Jesus was enough. In reality, they were learning my limited faith, and since I was not growing as well as I should have been, they were only able to mimic a portion of my faith and not being discipled well to chase Christ for themselves. As my husband and I grew our walk with Jesus, we knew with certainty that God was calling us to travel to China to bring home the baby God had waiting to be ours. Before we went, we prayed together daily for the girl she would grow to be. Our heart desired that she be a light for Jesus, that she pursue Him with a pure heart, and that she would be an inspiration for others to follow Him. I remember the days I worked backwards, formulating a plan to raise her with very high goals. Ten years later when we returned to China to bring home our last child, the “master plan” for raising our girls for Christ had been practiced, and our youngest enabled us to continue the course with another beautiful soul to nourish for Jesus. Although there are so many important details I’m not including here, this story is so important to me, because our second step into parenting with a new generation of children was very intentional. My mind and heart was fixed, anchored on Christ through all obstacles. My husband and I committed to stand on that firm foundation. When deep waters swirled around us, when tragedy and troubles plagued our home, we tightened our grip on that three-fold cord that kept God in the center of all. No matter what happened, we remained committed to raising our girls and influencing our grown son and grandson for Christ. Just as I began this podcast almost four years ago through an act of obedience when I knew God was whispering to me to begin one, I know He is now calling me to end this show. I’ve waited through the summer months to ensure I knew for sure what He was calling, but I recently came to realize that waiting any longer to make sure my choice is good, or what God is calling when I know the peace I have in my heart to end the podcast is actually a form of disobedience. Even if I never intended it to be. So what is next? My heart sings with joy when I encourage and equip busy mothers to move past guilt, anxiety, frustration, or the variety of other emotions this world presses upon us. God has greatly pressed upon my heart the need for me, as an older mother, to wrap my arm around you and help you move from these emotions or feelings to a place of peace. I want to encourage and equip mothers to create close connection with Christ and her children and raise kids who chase Christ over culture. Mothers and grandmothers too, it is time to rise and raise children who know and honor God. The effects of this culture have run rampant for too long. How long will mothers sit back and watch as children follow peers over parents or Christ? It doesn’t matter how good a parent you want to be or are. God calls you and I to be holy, godly mothers. There is nothing greater we can do than fix our heart and mind above and focus on the methods given by God to raise children for Him. I invite you to follow my other podcast, Purposed Parent/Connected Child. I urge you to please leave a review and rate the show so that others may find it. If we don’t purposely lead our children to Christ, the world will sway them away. It starts with you and me. Our life must be so focused on living godly lives through Christ that our children clearly see Him through us and desire Him for themselves. It's time to stop the attachment our children have with peers and teach them the way to attachment with Christ. It starts with the parent. That means you and me. I have so much to share in future Purposed Parent/Connected Child episodes. A new season begins very soon. I pray you will be moved from a good to godly woman and mother as you listen to the episodes. Dear Heavenly Father, You alone are holy. You alone are greater than the good we desire. Move us from good to godly in the ways You know we need. Help us to be more and more pleasing to You each moment. May our heart and mind be in sync with Your desires for us as we move ever nearer to You. Father, I thank you for Your Word, Your perfect guidance. May we understand You better and please You more as we read and act in obedience to it. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast for the last several years. This podcast has brought me and my family even closer to God and each other. I have witnessed our faith and obedience multiply because of this show. I truly hope that it has affected you in ways that move you to the woman God intended for you to be. As much as I loved this podcast, I feel in my spirit that God is calling me to end this chapter of obedience to Him, and I know that makes me available and humbly ready to serve in the new ways He calls. I hope you look for the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast and share it with friends and family so that we can be the generation that returns our children to godly lifestyles and desires. I pray that Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast and what you have heard on past episodes of Live With Eternal Perspective draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Thank you so much for your past support. I pray that even if you are no longer a parent of a child growing up in your home, you will find resources in Purposed Parent/Connected Child episodes that will strengthen your attachment to your grown child or grandchildren and draw you ever nearer to God. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 153 - Change From a Good to Godly Woman and Mother Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #153 – Change from a Good to Godly Woman and Mother Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. Goodness! I can’t believe school has started once again and the gorgeous days of summer will soon be moving out, ushering in crisper, cooler air. This time of year always makes me a little sad. I long for summer to last indefinitely. Since nothing lasts forever, seasons are a beautiful reminder of why we need to live with eternal perspective. Have you had days, weeks, or years of life that you want to last forever? Or maybe right now you feel the opposite. Do you wonder how much longer you have to endure the season you are experiencing? Change can be good. Especially when we aren’t aware that we are not living in ways that God desires for us. Change can become the catalyst that moves us to be in sync with the next transformation God has for us. I distinctly remember a time I’m glad I moved away from. There was a period in my life when I wanted to make sure I was a good person. A good woman. A good wife. A good daughter. A good mother. As my relationship with Jesus matured, I understood that limiting myself to “good” was “ungodly.” God calls believers to a much higher standard than good. Good isn’t good enough for God. It’s true that in the beginning when God created, He exclaimed that what He made was good. However, God is proclaiming His creations are good, not that we individually or collectively are. What I mean is that what God created is by His intelligent and perfect design. Anything He makes is good. Yet, in this sinful, fallen world, it didn’t take long for God’s creations to choose sin. Without Christ indwelling us, we continue to move farther from God. Without the Holy Spirit within us, there is no perfection or godliness. In fact, we are unable to claim the status of “good,” let alone “godly.” So how do you and I move from desiring a good life to building godly lives? Only through Christ. Once believers see our need for God, we begin to realize the need for His perfect Son, Jesus to pay the price for our sin. Once we realize the need for a Savior, and accept the free gift Jesus offers, we are able to live with His Holy Spirit within us. We are no longer bound to the world and the sinful temptations. Through relationship with Him, the Holy Word, and prayerful conversations with God, we can experience a shift from good to godly. That is, if we are seeking Him and a humble, obedient, close connection daily. What we desire must be held up to a mirror, so to speak, as we look at how our desires are reflected against what God calls for us in His holy Word. My heart fills with joy when I remember the time between when my first set of children were raised and before my husband and I knew that God was calling us to adopt a sweet baby from China. Before we knew our daughter was waiting for us, I was experiencing deeper growth in my spiritual walk with Christ. Slowly by slowly, I allowed God greater access to me. I wish I could profess to be one of those people who surrender fully in the moment they accept Christ, but the truth is that each of us have varying degrees of surrender throughout our lifetime. We never reach that finish line in this life. We are so very far beneath God, and so far from Him, that our lifetime should be focused on pursuing deeper relationship with Him and continuing to surrender self. As my relationship with Jesus deepened and widened, I thought back to when my husband and I had raised our first two children. I was not a Christian when my first two were born. Although I came to follow Jesus when they were young, I wasn’t well discipled. I wasted so many years thinking I was “good” and not striving to be godly. Would you like to know my deepest regret? Although my children always heard about Jesus, and knew I loved and followed Him, I did not know to intentionally disciple them. I didn’t yet understand that the Christian walk is a beautiful relationship between God and man. I didn’t understand the command in Deuteronomy 6:5-9, which says, “You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” I assumed that what I was doing to teach my children about Jesus was enough. In reality, they were learning my limited faith, and since I was not growing as well as I should have been, they were only able to mimic a portion of my faith and not being discipled well to chase Christ for themselves. As my husband and I grew our walk with Jesus, we knew with certainty that God was calling us to travel to China to bring home the baby God had waiting to be ours. Before we went, we prayed together daily for the girl she would grow to be. Our heart desired that she be a light for Jesus, that she pursue Him with a pure heart, and that she would be an inspiration for others to follow Him. I remember the days I worked backwards, formulating a plan to raise her with very high goals. Ten years later when we returned to China to bring home our last child, the “master plan” for raising our girls for Christ had been practiced, and our youngest enabled us to continue the course with another beautiful soul to nourish for Jesus. Although there are so many important details I’m not including here, this story is so important to me, because our second step into parenting with a new generation of children was very intentional. My mind and heart was fixed, anchored on Christ through all obstacles. My husband and I committed to stand on that firm foundation. When deep waters swirled around us, when tragedy and troubles plagued our home, we tightened our grip on that three-fold cord that kept God in the center of all. No matter what happened, we remained committed to raising our girls and influencing our grown son and grandson for Christ. Just as I began this podcast almost four years ago through an act of obedience when I knew God was whispering to me to begin one, I know He is now calling me to end this show. I’ve waited through the summer months to ensure I knew for sure what He was calling, but I recently came to realize that waiting any longer to make sure my choice is good, or what God is calling when I know the peace I have in my heart to end the podcast is actually a form of disobedience. Even if I never intended it to be. So what is next? My heart sings with joy when I encourage and equip busy mothers to move past guilt, anxiety, frustration, or the variety of other emotions this world presses upon us. God has greatly pressed upon my heart the need for me, as an older mother, to wrap my arm around you and help you move from these emotions or feelings to a place of peace. I want to encourage and equip mothers to create close connection with Christ and her children and raise kids who chase Christ over culture. Mothers and grandmothers too, it is time to rise and raise children who know and honor God. The effects of this culture have run rampant for too long. How long will mothers sit back and watch as children follow peers over parents or Christ? It doesn’t matter how good a parent you want to be or are. God calls you and I to be holy, godly mothers. There is nothing greater we can do than fix our heart and mind above and focus on the methods given by God to raise children for Him. I invite you to follow my other podcast, Purposed Parent/Connected Child. I urge you to please leave a review and rate the show so that others may find it. If we don’t purposely lead our children to Christ, the world will sway them away. It starts with you and me. Our life must be so focused on living godly lives through Christ that our children clearly see Him through us and desire Him for themselves. It's time to stop the attachment our children have with peers and teach them the way to attachment with Christ. It starts with the parent. That means you and me. I have so much to share in future Purposed Parent/Connected Child episodes. A new season begins very soon. I pray you will be moved from a good to godly woman and mother as you listen to the episodes. Dear Heavenly Father, You alone are holy. You alone are greater than the good we desire. Move us from good to godly in the ways You know we need. Help us to be more and more pleasing to You each moment. May our heart and mind be in sync with Your desires for us as we move ever nearer to You. Father, I thank you for Your Word, Your perfect guidance. May we understand You better and please You more as we read and act in obedience to it. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast for the last several years. This podcast has brought me and my family even closer to God and each other. I have witnessed our faith and obedience multiply because of this show. I truly hope that it has affected you in ways that move you to the woman God intended for you to be. As much as I loved this podcast, I feel in my spirit that God is calling me to end this chapter of obedience to Him, and I know that makes me available and humbly ready to serve in the new ways He calls. I hope you look for the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast and share it with friends and family so that we can be the generation that returns our children to godly lifestyles and desires. I pray that Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast and what you have heard on past episodes of Live With Eternal Perspective draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Thank you so much for your past support. I pray that even if you are no longer a parent of a child growing up in your home, you will find resources in Purposed Parent/Connected Child episodes that will strengthen your attachment to your grown child or grandchildren and draw you ever nearer to God.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #079 – Interview with Rachel-Ruth Lotz Wright Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Do you know someone who carries a vivid imagination and possesses the ability to make everyday stories come to life? Perhaps they love Jesus and old testament Bible stories and share them with grace and faith that applies to any situation. They know God’s word and make the Bible come to life with a zeal that makes you want to sit at their feet. Rachel Ruth Lotz Wright simply loves Jesus and the stories God has entrusted to us through the Bible. Conversing with her made me wish I had had the chance to be a little girl listening to her reenact biblical history with her enthusiastic words, growing my knowledge and wisdom with every story. Or maybe become one of the thousands of women who participate in her online Bible classes, (which I’m positive are making more disciples of Jesus through the work God does as she obediently allows Him to work through her). Our conversation together shares the importance of consistently walking with Jesus and submitting to His Lordship as we deepen our relationship with Him. Rachel-Ruth was born into a strong Christian family through the grace of God. What she is doing with her faith is now because she has made the faith of the family her own. As she shares, you learn that her faith is not wimpy, but as she once prayed to the Lord, she relies on Him to continue to stretch and guide her moment by moment. Rachel-Ruth was born and raised in Raleigh, North Carolina, the daughter of Anne Graham Lotz and granddaughter of Billy Graham. Following her graduation from Baylor University in Waco, TX, she married Steven Wright, a high school football coach, and now has three daughters: Bell, Sophia, and Riggin. Rachel-Ruth teaches a weekly women’s Bible study at the University of North Carolina and has shared God’s word at numerous events around the country. She also serves on the Board of Directors for AnGel Ministries, in addition to chairing the weekly prayer team that undergirds her mother’s ministry. Rachel-Ruth’s passion for leading children to Jesus and getting them into God’s word compelled her to lead monthly missions chapels at her children’s school, to teach middle school children at the Fellowship of Christian Athletes Coaches Camp, and helped to inspire her mother’s first children’s book, “Heaven: God’s Promise for Me.” Rachel-Ruth feels called to encourage others to fall in love with Jesus through the teaching of His word. Her love for Him is solid and real. I hope you enjoy our conversation together as we discuss life stories and timeless biblical truths applicable to society today. Because each of us are imperfect beings, we underline the importance of not subjecting others to our opinions, but striving to learn, apply, and teach God’s holy and perfect word, and the instructions and promises He left for us. Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life. Through Him, we have the ability to live a life filled with the fruits of the spirit and one that fills the deepest longings within us. ------------------------------------------------------------INTERVIEW------------------------------------------------------- Father God, there is none like You. You alone are righteous and holy. Your word promises that if we accept Your words and hide Your commandments within us, that if we incline our ears to Your wisdom, and direct our heart to Your understanding, that if we seek You like silver, we will discover Your knowledge. May we acquire Your wisdom and understanding, Father, that we may live lives pleasing to You. May we live uprightly with the wisdom and knowledge You enter into our heart and minds because we love You and desire You more than gold. Please watch over us and guard our steps. Allow us to lead a blameless life as we walk in Your ways and in sweet fellowship with You. Help us to strengthen our walk with You through knowledge of Your word and time spent with You and multiply our delight at simple moments with You. In Your holy and precious name we pray. Amen. Psalm 119:131 says, “I open my mouth and pant, longing for Your commandments.” May each of us continue deepening our relationship with the Lord intentionally every moment so that Jesus sees us yearn for Him and living His commands, because of our sweet fellowship with Him that draws others nearer to God, as well. This week I pray you find new ways to rest in Him and cause yourself to cling to Him in deeper ways that test your faith and understanding. Allow Him to bring you to a new level of trust and abandonment of self. Please visit terrihitt.com to access additional podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture as You rely on God to direct your steps. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to the Lord and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 079 Rachel-Ruth Lotz Wright Interview Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #079 – Interview with Rachel-Ruth Lotz Wright Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed to be back with you to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. Do you know someone who carries a vivid imagination and possesses the ability to make everyday stories come to life? Perhaps they love Jesus and old testament Bible stories and share them with grace and faith that applies to any situation. They know God’s word and make the Bible come to life with a zeal that makes you want to sit at their feet. Rachel Ruth Lotz Wright simply loves Jesus and the stories God has entrusted to us through the Bible. Conversing with her made me wish I had had the chance to be a little girl listening to her reenact biblical history with her enthusiastic words, growing my knowledge and wisdom with every story. Or maybe become one of the thousands of women who participate in her online Bible classes, (which I’m positive are making more disciples of Jesus through the work God does as she obediently allows Him to work through her). Our conversation together shares the importance of consistently walking with Jesus and submitting to His Lordship as we deepen our relationship with Him. Rachel-Ruth was born into a strong Christian family through the grace of God. What she is doing with her faith is now because she has made the faith of the family her own. As she shares, you learn that her faith is not wimpy, but as she once prayed to the Lord, she relies on Him to continue to stretch and guide her moment by moment. Rachel-Ruth was born and raised in Raleigh, North Carolina, the daughter of Anne Graham Lotz and granddaughter of Billy Graham. Following her graduation from Baylor University in Waco, TX, she married Steven Wright, a high school football coach, and now has three daughters: Bell, Sophia, and Riggin. Rachel-Ruth teaches a weekly women’s Bible study at the University of North Carolina and has shared God’s word at numerous events around the country. She also serves on the Board of Directors for AnGel Ministries, in addition to chairing the weekly prayer team that undergirds her mother’s ministry. Rachel-Ruth’s passion for leading children to Jesus and getting them into God’s word compelled her to lead monthly missions chapels at her children’s school, to teach middle school children at the Fellowship of Christian Athletes Coaches Camp, and helped to inspire her mother’s first children’s book, “Heaven: God’s Promise for Me.” Rachel-Ruth feels called to encourage others to fall in love with Jesus through the teaching of His word. Her love for Him is solid and real. I hope you enjoy our conversation together as we discuss life stories and timeless biblical truths applicable to society today. Because each of us are imperfect beings, we underline the importance of not subjecting others to our opinions, but striving to learn, apply, and teach God’s holy and perfect word, and the instructions and promises He left for us. Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life. Through Him, we have the ability to live a life filled with the fruits of the spirit and one that fills the deepest longings within us. ------------------------------------------------------------INTERVIEW------------------------------------------------------- Father God, there is none like You. You alone are righteous and holy. Your word promises that if we accept Your words and hide Your commandments within us, that if we incline our ears to Your wisdom, and direct our heart to Your understanding, that if we seek You like silver, we will discover Your knowledge. May we acquire Your wisdom and understanding, Father, that we may live lives pleasing to You. May we live uprightly with the wisdom and knowledge You enter into our heart and minds because we love You and desire You more than gold. Please watch over us and guard our steps. Allow us to lead a blameless life as we walk in Your ways and in sweet fellowship with You. Help us to strengthen our walk with You through knowledge of Your word and time spent with You and multiply our delight at simple moments with You. In Your holy and precious name we pray. Amen. Psalm 119:131 says, “I open my mouth and pant, longing for Your commandments.” May each of us continue deepening our relationship with the Lord intentionally every moment so that Jesus sees us yearn for Him and living His commands, because of our sweet fellowship with Him that draws others nearer to God, as well. This week I pray you find new ways to rest in Him and cause yourself to cling to Him in deeper ways that test your faith and understanding. Allow Him to bring you to a new level of trust and abandonment of self. Please visit terrihitt.com to access additional podcast episodes housed in one convenient location, read blog posts, transcripts, and access additional resources designed to mature your walk with Jesus through an eternal perspective and encourage you to raise or influence children to choose Christ over culture as You rely on God to direct your steps. I pray this podcast draws you nearer to the Lord and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. http://@rachelruthlotzwright | https://www.facebook.com/RachelRuthLW | https://www.annegrahamlotz.org/about-rachel-ruth-lotz-wright/

Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #001 Heart Conditions Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective podcast Episode #001 – Heart Conditions. Thank you for entrusting and investing part of your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. In the last podcast, #000, the Introductory podcast, I explained a little about why I started this show. The main points I shared are the great joy I experience in sharing and hearing God stories, in encouraging others to live with an eternal perspective for Jesus, and that I consider myself a “girl” in love with Jesus. I hope each episode encourages and inspires you to mature your walk with Christ and allow Him to transform your heart, as well. I pray that each personal experience and lesson I share with you points your heart and mind upward to Him. I have a husband, one daughter in Heaven, one son, a grandson, and two daughters on earth. My youngest daughter is always on the hunt for hearts. She spots the shape in flowers, in artwork, in cereal, rocks…really the list is very long. I enjoy looking for them with her. Finding hearts together feels like a special gift from God to make us smile. One Christmas morning, I found a perfectly shaped heart in the foam on top of my orange juice. Our sweet girl came home from China to be with us at the age of nine. Brooklyn had survived a lonely existence in the crib room at a Chinese orphanage. The bed she was confined to was smaller than an American port-a-crib. No one talked to her, ate with her, or played with her. Because of her heart condition, no one thought she would survive, except for God. At the age of 7, Brooklyn was able to have open heart surgery. There was actually a first step in this procedure that should have been have been performed on her when she was just an infant, and the surgery she had in China should have been performed when she was around the age of 2. We will never know why or how she finally received the operation, but it enabled her to experience life with much better quality, and she was abruptly released from the crib room to join regular orphanage life at 7 years old. There’s a deep and detailed story behind that release, but I’ll save it for another podcast. Because our girl has several heart defects, the surgery she had wasn’t a repair, but she definitely did have a better quality of life than before. Knowing that Brooklyn’s health was much improved, but that it was still imperative she have another open heart surgery, the orphanage finally prepared documents for her to be eligible for adoption. Most couples, however, did not want to take a risk on a child who could not have her heart repaired, even after the next surgery. Because her future was uncertain, her prepared adoption records sat mostly unnoticed. I believe God was holding her for us to find. I had been praying for various children, both domestically and internationally, to find forever homes for over ten years at the time I saw Brooklyn’s face online. While scrolling through photos and offering prayers for several of the children I viewed on my computer screen one morning, I literally stopped when I saw her. I could not scroll past her face or expression. I immediately began praying for her, yet instead of moving on to other children to pray for them, she remained embedded in my memory. I told my husband about her and asked him to pray for her, too, but instead of releasing thoughts of her, I continued day dreaming about her each day. After a couple of weeks, I contacted the adoption agency that listed her and inquired about her history. I also asked for more information to be gathered. Before long, I memorized every fact they had on her and I was receiving updates from China. The agent I worked with said I knew her file better than anyone. The only concern that kept rearing an ugly question was her health. I sent her medical file to top pediatric cardiologists at several major hospitals in the United States. They all reported back with the same information. Any repair would be palliative. Her heart could not be fixed. At some point, a heart transplant would be needed. It was such deep news to process. My husband and I went straight to the Lord. The major hesitation in my heart was that we had already lost a daughter. I didn’t want to experience that pain again. I also didn’t want my then nine year old daughter or my grown son to experience losing a sibling again. Marissa was four when Jaime died. It had been brutally hard. Even harder on her and the whole family was losing Jaime, then also dealing with the gradual decline of my mother’s health due to Alzheimer’s disease, and walking through almost a year of lung cancer with my father. My father died six years after Jaime, but dealing with me managing the care of my parents in the interim was excruciating for my then youngest child. We spent almost every day with either my mother or father and it had been one hard battle after another for years by this time. My mother was still alive and I knew her health would only decline. Even thinking of caring for a palliative child who had lived in isolation most of her nine years in an orphanage on top of everything made no sense. But one question kept pressing in my mind. Would it make sense to God? My husband and I prayed for three months before knowing it did. This was His plan. God doesn’t call us to seek a life of ease; He calls us to obey. Once we knew God was requesting us to bring Brooklyn home to our family, we moved as quickly as possible to submit documents to begin the adoption process. After we received pre-approval, we completed our home study, began completing all of the required paperwork, and gathered much needed funds. In our case, I spent hours locating, completing, and submitting grant applications. God provided absolutely everything we needed. We were blessed to be recipients of several matching grants and experienced the generosity of many friends and family. There is never an excuse for us to ignore the calls that God places in or on each of us. Where God leads, He does provide. It is our responsibility to take the step of faith that creates obedience and opens the door for God to supply. One special friend held a huge garage sale for us and donated all the money toward the adoption fund. On top of that, she contributed $500 to the adoption. Another dear friend donated $800 towards the adoption. God was clearly calling others to invest in His work and in the life of His dear daughter who deserved a family to love her. It only took eight months from the start of our paperwork that began the process, until we actually traveled to China. We were on a mission to get our girl home, and then quickly get her as healthy as possible. After she was home, Brooklyn had so many doctor appointments. There were many health issues and as I said before, this subject would be another podcast on its own. Following other surgeries that she had to undergo to rid her body of multiple infections, we were finally able to focus on her second heart surgery. Due to several heart defects, our girl basically lives on half a heart. But let me tell you that her heart explodes with love as full as several whole hearts. That’s actually the focus of our podcast today: the condition of our heart. One of my favorite verses is Proverbs 4:23, which warns, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Do you ever just stop and look around? It seems everyone is always in a hurry. We’re so used to immediate gratification, and over-scheduled lives. We’ve jam-packed kindness right out of the picture. No one has time for it. In reality, we make time for what we care about. This world – and all of us in it – will not change until we change the condition of our hearts. I truly believe the problems of this world would be solved if we all allowed a heart adjustment from Jesus. Before Jesus left His disciples, He warned them that He would not talk with them much longer. “The ruler of this world is coming,” He said. “He has nothing in me.” Jesus was letting them know that Satan had nothing over Him. There was absolutely no handle with which Satan could get a hold on Jesus or persuade Him to sin. Here’s the important point for us to remember. Satan actually needs fertile ground to plant and grow his damage and destruction. This means that when we have an area of our life that has not been surrendered to the Lord, we invite Satan into the garden of our hearts to begin preparing for a harvest. Do you realize that God’s word is actually full of warnings for us? The Bible holds wise and seemingly simple advice to steer us straight to Jesus and away from the clutches of Satan. Here are a few: Don’t let the sun go down on your anger. Give to those who have need. Be kind to one another. Be tenderhearted. Forgive one another. Walk in love and be imitators of God. They are all such simple directives. What is the key? We have to follow these commands with a pure and willing heart that is submitted to Jesus because we love Him and we have surrendered our lives to Him as our Savior. The works we do are acts of love and obedience – they’re not done to attempt to gain favor or to look good to others. Everything circles back to the condition of our heart. Ephesians 4:30 instructs, “And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.” What I find so fascinating is that the verses right before, and also following this verse, warn extensively about the inappropriate use of anger, fighting, slander, bad attitudes, and our tongue. This proves that the Holy Spirit is deeply grieved by sins committed daily by those of us who profess to love Him. Matthew 12:34b says, “For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” If you skip down to verses 36 and 37, Jesus warns, “But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. For by your words, you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.” The excess in our hearts - both good and bad - will eventually spill out of our mouths. When it happens, it reveals our core nature. Colossians 4:5 offers a wise solution. “Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one.” Simply translated, this means that the words of believers must be spoken with the intention of being useful for helping others and for building them up. Help others and build them up. So incredibly hard to do when we’re angry. Hard to do when we have been abused or misunderstood. Almost impossible when we’ve been wrongly accused. Just like Jesus was. Yet, every single action He took was intentional. Jesus didn’t react according to how He felt. Jesus longed to fulfill His Father’s plans for Him. He longed to please the Father. Jesus loves us so much that He kept His focus on what He knew with a certainty God was calling Him to do. Jesus didn’t put himself on the throne of His life. Because He knew His life wasn’t His own. Neither is ours. We know it, but don’t always keep it in the forefront of our mind and heart. Abiding in Jesus means we are to allow every bit of ourselves to abide in Him. We are here on this earth for such a short time. There’s a purpose to the personal suffering each one of us has endured. No one else is created exactly as you are. No one else is created exactly as I am. We are called to use our lives for Him and let that overflow to each other. Each of our stories, each of our glories and disasters are sifted through His hands before they touch us and have been allowed for a divine purpose. Our hearts cannot help but be radically transformed when we remember that truth. In turn, our transformation affects everyone around us. This then draws others to Jesus, as we allow His heart and mind to radiate and work through us. Our hearts begin to love others as Jesus does and our words and actions prove it. This is living with true eternal perspective. It changes everything about us, beginning with our heartitude. It’s my made-up word, but I think you know what I mean. It’s what God refers to as our “core nature.” Heartitude vomits what we’ve got stored inside. We suddenly expel what is, and has been, buried deep within. For example: What about when we are tired at the end of a day and we just want to run into the grocery store and get out quickly with what we need for dinner. The lines are looong! One cashier works as quickly as they can to process everyone in the store through one line, and of course, everyone suddenly wants to leave at the same time. The scowl on our face and the impatience in our body language tells everyone around us just how much we love Jesus, right? What about when we’re dealing with customer service or a medical representative on a phone call, and after we’ve been transferred again, and have repeated our story for about the fifth time, but we’re still no closer to getting direction or resolution on our issue? The tone of our voice and choice of our words lets the person on the other end of the phone hear how much we love and follow Jesus, right? What about when someone, an adult, or even another child, intentionally treats your child unfairly or unkindly? Even after you rationally discuss it with them, they continue to harass or harm your beloved child. What about when they make fun of your child with special needs? Our reaction reflects how we respond just like Jesus, right? I have lived through each of these triggers. Sometimes I have responded in a way that I believe Jesus would approve of, and I believe I have shown Him to others through the way I handled my reaction. But at other times, I know I have saddened Jesus with my response. I immediately regretted the choices I made. It grieved my heart to know that I intentionally caused sorrow for Jesus. When we live by reaction or for what is easiest for us at the time, we are choosing to live for our own flesh, whether that is because we are simply being selfish, or because we lost our temper, or because we became frustrated, it doesn’t matter. We are intentionally making a choice to hurt Jesus, whether we recognize it or not. We all have different triggers and strongholds. Instead of living in shame or embarrassment when you react in an ungodly way, praise God for it! I am always humbled after responding in a manner unworthy of a daughter of the King. I apologize to God (and the person I offended, if I can) and I look at my weakness as a reflection in a mirror that has clearly shined my area of need. God has shown my frailty with a distinct clarity because He loves and He understands me completely. He is expelling “me” so He can fill all of the spaces. As we abide in God and allow Him to fully reside in us, the changes are permanent and visible. “More of Him, less of me” becomes the chant we hear internally and respond from when we are thrown off balance, disturbed, or hurt because Jesus and His reactions and replies are permanently embedded in the pulse of our being. We are then truly living with an eternal perspective. Thank you for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 001 Heart Conditions Listen to Episode Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #001 Heart Conditions Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective podcast Episode #001 – Heart Conditions. Thank you for entrusting and investing part of your precious time with me to grow in Jesus together. I am blessed and thrilled to be back with you today to discuss more ways to live with eternal perspective. In the last podcast, #000, the Introductory podcast, I explained a little about why I started this show. The main points I shared are the great joy I experience in sharing and hearing God stories, in encouraging others to live with an eternal perspective for Jesus, and that I consider myself a “girl” in love with Jesus. I hope each episode encourages and inspires you to mature your walk with Christ and allow Him to transform your heart, as well. I pray that each personal experience and lesson I share with you points your heart and mind upward to Him. I have a husband, one daughter in Heaven, one son, a grandson, and two daughters on earth. My youngest daughter is always on the hunt for hearts. She spots the shape in flowers, in artwork, in cereal, rocks…really the list is very long. I enjoy looking for them with her. Finding hearts together feels like a special gift from God to make us smile. One Christmas morning, I found a perfectly shaped heart in the foam on top of my orange juice. Our sweet girl came home from China to be with us at the age of nine. Brooklyn had survived a lonely existence in the crib room at a Chinese orphanage. The bed she was confined to was smaller than an American port-a-crib. No one talked to her, ate with her, or played with her. Because of her heart condition, no one thought she would survive, except for God. At the age of 7, Brooklyn was able to have open heart surgery. There was actually a first step in this procedure that should have been have been performed on her when she was just an infant, and the surgery she had in China should have been performed when she was around the age of 2. We will never know why or how she finally received the operation, but it enabled her to experience life with much better quality, and she was abruptly released from the crib room to join regular orphanage life at 7 years old. There’s a deep and detailed story behind that release, but I’ll save it for another podcast. Because our girl has several heart defects, the surgery she had wasn’t a repair, but she definitely did have a better quality of life than before. Knowing that Brooklyn’s health was much improved, but that it was still imperative she have another open heart surgery, the orphanage finally prepared documents for her to be eligible for adoption. Most couples, however, did not want to take a risk on a child who could not have her heart repaired, even after the next surgery. Because her future was uncertain, her prepared adoption records sat mostly unnoticed. I believe God was holding her for us to find. I had been praying for various children, both domestically and internationally, to find forever homes for over ten years at the time I saw Brooklyn’s face online. While scrolling through photos and offering prayers for several of the children I viewed on my computer screen one morning, I literally stopped when I saw her. I could not scroll past her face or expression. I immediately began praying for her, yet instead of moving on to other children to pray for them, she remained embedded in my memory. I told my husband about her and asked him to pray for her, too, but instead of releasing thoughts of her, I continued day dreaming about her each day. After a couple of weeks, I contacted the adoption agency that listed her and inquired about her history. I also asked for more information to be gathered. Before long, I memorized every fact they had on her and I was receiving updates from China. The agent I worked with said I knew her file better than anyone. The only concern that kept rearing an ugly question was her health. I sent her medical file to top pediatric cardiologists at several major hospitals in the United States. They all reported back with the same information. Any repair would be palliative. Her heart could not be fixed. At some point, a heart transplant would be needed. It was such deep news to process. My husband and I went straight to the Lord. The major hesitation in my heart was that we had already lost a daughter. I didn’t want to experience that pain again. I also didn’t want my then nine year old daughter or my grown son to experience losing a sibling again. Marissa was four when Jaime died. It had been brutally hard. Even harder on her and the whole family was losing Jaime, then also dealing with the gradual decline of my mother’s health due to Alzheimer’s disease, and walking through almost a year of lung cancer with my father. My father died six years after Jaime, but dealing with me managing the care of my parents in the interim was excruciating for my then youngest child. We spent almost every day with either my mother or father and it had been one hard battle after another for years by this time. My mother was still alive and I knew her health would only decline. Even thinking of caring for a palliative child who had lived in isolation most of her nine years in an orphanage on top of everything made no sense. But one question kept pressing in my mind. Would it make sense to God? My husband and I prayed for three months before knowing it did. This was His plan. God doesn’t call us to seek a life of ease; He calls us to obey. Once we knew God was requesting us to bring Brooklyn home to our family, we moved as quickly as possible to submit documents to begin the adoption process. After we received pre-approval, we completed our home study, began completing all of the required paperwork, and gathered much needed funds. In our case, I spent hours locating, completing, and submitting grant applications. God provided absolutely everything we needed. We were blessed to be recipients of several matching grants and experienced the generosity of many friends and family. There is never an excuse for us to ignore the calls that God places in or on each of us. Where God leads, He does provide. It is our responsibility to take the step of faith that creates obedience and opens the door for God to supply. One special friend held a huge garage sale for us and donated all the money toward the adoption fund. On top of that, she contributed $500 to the adoption. Another dear friend donated $800 towards the adoption. God was clearly calling others to invest in His work and in the life of His dear daughter who deserved a family to love her. It only took eight months from the start of our paperwork that began the process, until we actually traveled to China. We were on a mission to get our girl home, and then quickly get her as healthy as possible. After she was home, Brooklyn had so many doctor appointments. There were many health issues and as I said before, this subject would be another podcast on its own. Following other surgeries that she had to undergo to rid her body of multiple infections, we were finally able to focus on her second heart surgery. Due to several heart defects, our girl basically lives on half a heart. But let me tell you that her heart explodes with love as full as several whole hearts. That’s actually the focus of our podcast today: the condition of our heart. One of my favorite verses is Proverbs 4:23, which warns, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Do you ever just stop and look around? It seems everyone is always in a hurry. We’re so used to immediate gratification, and over-scheduled lives. We’ve jam-packed kindness right out of the picture. No one has time for it. In reality, we make time for what we care about. This world – and all of us in it – will not change until we change the condition of our hearts. I truly believe the problems of this world would be solved if we all allowed a heart adjustment from Jesus. Before Jesus left His disciples, He warned them that He would not talk with them much longer. “The ruler of this world is coming,” He said. “He has nothing in me.” Jesus was letting them know that Satan had nothing over Him. There was absolutely no handle with which Satan could get a hold on Jesus or persuade Him to sin. Here’s the important point for us to remember. Satan actually needs fertile ground to plant and grow his damage and destruction. This means that when we have an area of our life that has not been surrendered to the Lord, we invite Satan into the garden of our hearts to begin preparing for a harvest. Do you realize that God’s word is actually full of warnings for us? The Bible holds wise and seemingly simple advice to steer us straight to Jesus and away from the clutches of Satan. Here are a few: Don’t let the sun go down on your anger. Give to those who have need. Be kind to one another. Be tenderhearted. Forgive one another. Walk in love and be imitators of God. They are all such simple directives. What is the key? We have to follow these commands with a pure and willing heart that is submitted to Jesus because we love Him and we have surrendered our lives to Him as our Savior. The works we do are acts of love and obedience – they’re not done to attempt to gain favor or to look good to others. Everything circles back to the condition of our heart. Ephesians 4:30 instructs, “And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.” What I find so fascinating is that the verses right before, and also following this verse, warn extensively about the inappropriate use of anger, fighting, slander, bad attitudes, and our tongue. This proves that the Holy Spirit is deeply grieved by sins committed daily by those of us who profess to love Him. Matthew 12:34b says, “For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” If you skip down to verses 36 and 37, Jesus warns, “But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. For by your words, you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.” The excess in our hearts - both good and bad - will eventually spill out of our mouths. When it happens, it reveals our core nature. Colossians 4:5 offers a wise solution. “Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one.” Simply translated, this means that the words of believers must be spoken with the intention of being useful for helping others and for building them up. Help others and build them up. So incredibly hard to do when we’re angry. Hard to do when we have been abused or misunderstood. Almost impossible when we’ve been wrongly accused. Just like Jesus was. Yet, every single action He took was intentional. Jesus didn’t react according to how He felt. Jesus longed to fulfill His Father’s plans for Him. He longed to please the Father. Jesus loves us so much that He kept His focus on what He knew with a certainty God was calling Him to do. Jesus didn’t put himself on the throne of His life. Because He knew His life wasn’t His own. Neither is ours. We know it, but don’t always keep it in the forefront of our mind and heart. Abiding in Jesus means we are to allow every bit of ourselves to abide in Him. We are here on this earth for such a short time. There’s a purpose to the personal suffering each one of us has endured. No one else is created exactly as you are. No one else is created exactly as I am. We are called to use our lives for Him and let that overflow to each other. Each of our stories, each of our glories and disasters are sifted through His hands before they touch us and have been allowed for a divine purpose. Our hearts cannot help but be radically transformed when we remember that truth. In turn, our transformation affects everyone around us. This then draws others to Jesus, as we allow His heart and mind to radiate and work through us. Our hearts begin to love others as Jesus does and our words and actions prove it. This is living with true eternal perspective. It changes everything about us, beginning with our heartitude. It’s my made-up word, but I think you know what I mean. It’s what God refers to as our “core nature.” Heartitude vomits what we’ve got stored inside. We suddenly expel what is, and has been, buried deep within. For example: What about when we are tired at the end of a day and we just want to run into the grocery store and get out quickly with what we need for dinner. The lines are looong! One cashier works as quickly as they can to process everyone in the store through one line, and of course, everyone suddenly wants to leave at the same time. The scowl on our face and the impatience in our body language tells everyone around us just how much we love Jesus, right? What about when we’re dealing with customer service or a medical representative on a phone call, and after we’ve been transferred again, and have repeated our story for about the fifth time, but we’re still no closer to getting direction or resolution on our issue? The tone of our voice and choice of our words lets the person on the other end of the phone hear how much we love and follow Jesus, right? What about when someone, an adult, or even another child, intentionally treats your child unfairly or unkindly? Even after you rationally discuss it with them, they continue to harass or harm your beloved child. What about when they make fun of your child with special needs? Our reaction reflects how we respond just like Jesus, right? I have lived through each of these triggers. Sometimes I have responded in a way that I believe Jesus would approve of, and I believe I have shown Him to others through the way I handled my reaction. But at other times, I know I have saddened Jesus with my response. I immediately regretted the choices I made. It grieved my heart to know that I intentionally caused sorrow for Jesus. When we live by reaction or for what is easiest for us at the time, we are choosing to live for our own flesh, whether that is because we are simply being selfish, or because we lost our temper, or because we became frustrated, it doesn’t matter. We are intentionally making a choice to hurt Jesus, whether we recognize it or not. We all have different triggers and strongholds. Instead of living in shame or embarrassment when you react in an ungodly way, praise God for it! I am always humbled after responding in a manner unworthy of a daughter of the King. I apologize to God (and the person I offended, if I can) and I look at my weakness as a reflection in a mirror that has clearly shined my area of need. God has shown my frailty with a distinct clarity because He loves and He understands me completely. He is expelling “me” so He can fill all of the spaces. As we abide in God and allow Him to fully reside in us, the changes are permanent and visible. “More of Him, less of me” becomes the chant we hear internally and respond from when we are thrown off balance, disturbed, or hurt because Jesus and His reactions and replies are permanently embedded in the pulse of our being. We are then truly living with an eternal perspective. Thank you for listening to the Live With Eternal Perspective podcast. God has impressed so much on my heart to share. Living with an eternal perspective affects absolutely everything in my life. I am thrilled to delve into different areas with you. Since everything affects our eternity, we will have a lot to discuss! I’d love to hear your thoughts. If you found value in this podcast, please subscribe so you don’t miss an episode. I also encourage you to leave a review. In order for others to be able to find this podcast, I will need the support of listeners who will invest a few minutes in subscribing and reviewing to lift Live With Eternal Perspective higher on the charts so that the platform shows it to everyone. Thank you again for sharing part of your day with me. Until next time, keep looking Upward and finding new ways to live with an Eternal Perspective.

Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #138 – Christ, The Master Builder Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. Each morning my youngest trusts that she and I will sit together and play before we do anything else. In fact, as soon as I wake her up, she uses the restroom, brushes her teeth, takes her medications, and meets me where Lego’s and creativity have overtaken the space. Our entire kitchen table is filled with creations that prove her genius ability to construct something from nothing. What can be challenging to me is of no effort for her. Sure, it looks easy to build tiny objects from plastic bricks, but when you want true workmanship that boasts working doors with hidden hinges, elaborate pieces of furniture, and symmetrical construction, you need an expert creator. Of course, that would be her. I’m content to sit in my role as the one who honors what she makes. I help use her designs and ideas in joyful ways that bring us closer together. Anything I make on my own falls far short of the craftmanship she possesses, and the quality of my constructed items fall short of her ingenuity, but I sit by her side to observe and learn, so I may grow my skills under the master. Although Brooklyn is superbly skilled at establishing visions of what she desires to make and then actually causing it to come into existence, her skills fall short of the glory of God. My girl constructs elaborate cities and stories, while God created a world, universe, and all that we know and can only imagine. He designed intimate details into each person and knows each of us by name. He knows the days established for us and what we have done, are doing, and will do, and created each one of us for purposes and with gifts He crafted into being. 1 Corinthians 3:5-14 says, “What, after all, is Apollos? And what is Paul? Only servants, through whom you came to believe—as the Lord has assigned to each his task. I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow. So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow. The one who plants and the one who waters have one purpose, and they will each be rewarded according to their own labor. For we are co-workers in God’s service; you are God’s field, God’s building. By the grace God has given me, I laid a foundation as a wise builder, and someone else is building on it. But each one should build with care. For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ. If anyone builds on this foundation using gold, silver, costly stones, wood, hay or straw, their work will be shown for what it is, because the Day will bring it to light. It will be revealed with fire, and the fire will test the quality of each person’s work. If what has been built survives, the builder will receive a reward.” In a way slightly similar to how Brooklyn has patiently given me the skills to build, but on a much, much larger and more important scale, God showed Paul how to sow the seeds of the gospel message into the hearts of people. God also enabled Apollos to nourish the believers and grow them in faith. Paul founded the Corinth church and Apollos took that foundation and built upon it. The work God requires involves a multitude of people who carry a variety of God-given gifts, talents, and abilities. Although I think Brooklyn is an architectural superstar, the truth is that her abilities come from a choice God made to gift her in that area. How many more God-gifted abilities does she carry? How many will she choose to use for Him? God doesn’t craft special talents into us for us to become superstars who receive all the glory. He patiently plans and lovingly lavishes abilities on us for the purpose of combining followers who will become “team members” of sorts who will set aside personal desires and glory in exchange for approval from Him. Of course, we know that Paul and Apollos worked for the Lord, but what arose spiritually from their work was credited to God’s power, grace, and mercy. Believers know that Jesus is the foundation of the church. He is the reason we worship, why we give praise; we cannot lay another foundation other than what has been established by Christ’s sacrifice, love, and obedience. Paul laid a strong and perfect foundation for the Corinth church by preaching salvation through Christ. Paul was used by God to establish spiritual foundations as he worked to construct groundwork for churches in Macedonia, Greece, and Asia Minor, while others, such as Timothy and Apollos were used to build upon the foundations of his labors. Each person working for God was allowed to participate through God’s loving mercy and grace. In our time, we must remember that whoever builds our present day church, whether it be preachers, teachers, deacons, or worshippers, the church must be built with first fruits, or the very best we can offer through establishing godly doctrine built on God’s Word and a lifestyle of godly integrity. In the Corinthian church, many members were vulnerable to incorrect doctrine, immature in their faith, and hardened toward one another. Instead of being committed to God and each other, they had much to learn in shaping Christian character and sacrifice. Just as the Lego buildings I construct are not as solid as the ones Brooklyn builds, believers must be careful to build their life on the solid foundation of Christ. Jesus is the firm foundation that lasts. All else will fall away. If we choose to build a life upon fame, wealth, another person, culture, or however we define success, our life will not stand in eternity. When we stand before Him, God will determine through His sinless, sovereign mind whether each of us has been faithful to follow the instructions and guidelines set by Christ. Any honor and glory for salvation goes to God, as He alone saves. As we work for the Lord, we will not see what we view as equality in our journey on earth. Some believers will see great fruit from their work in this lifetime; some will not, but each person who sacrificially and obediently works for the Lord is seen equally by God. He will reward who and how He chooses. We do not know and cannot comprehend His plans. We must look only to what God calls us to do and step out to complete the tasks He poses for us as we keep our heart focused on obediently honoring and pleasing Him. As we labor for the Lord, I believe we must fix our eyes above. No matter what feels like drudgery or may be unpleasant, no matter whether we experience what we consider success or what this world calls failure, we have choices to make. 1. What foundation will we choose to build our life upon? 2. Will that foundation endure into eternity? Believers must also remember to ask ourselves: 1. Is what I am laying as my foundation pleasing to God? 2. Will I trust that God will bless what I allow Him to complete through my obedience for His purposes (even when I don’t see the fruit)? Matthew 9:37-38 says, “He said to his disciples, “The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few. Ask the Lord of the harvest, therefore, to send out workers into His harvest field.” Are you willing to labor for the Lord without seeing the outcome? 1 Corinthians 15:58 says, “Therefore, my dear brothers and sisters, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.” Do you trust His work? 1 Thessalonians 1:3 says, “We remember before our God and Father your work produced by faith, your labor prompted by love, and your endurance inspired by hope in our Lord Jesus Christ.” Are you inspired by Christ or this world? Colossians 1:28-29 says, “He is the One we proclaim, admonishing and teaching everyone with all wisdom, so that we may present everyone fully mature in Christ. To this end I strenuously contend with all the energy Christ so powerfully works in me.” Do you allow Him to energize and strengthen you each moment? 1 Timothy 4:10 says, “That is why we labor and strive, because we have put our hope in the living God, who is the Savior of all people, and especially of those who believe.” Is your hope and trust in Christ? Philippians 2:16 says, “As you hold firmly to the word of life. And then I will be able to boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor in vain.” Are you looking forward to the day you will stand in front of Jesus? 2 Timothy 2:15 says, “Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth.” Are you ready to humbly stand before God unashamed? 1 Timothy 1:12 says, “I thank Christ Jesus our Lord, who has given me strength, that He considered me trustworthy, appointing me to His service.” Do you consider yourself appointed to His service? How does that affect your actions and decisions daily? Ephesians 2:10 says, “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Are you willing to continue to surrender each day? Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for Your glorious work within us. Thank You for the plans you have made for us and the salvation You established for us through Jesus. May each of us surrender more completely moment by moment, see ourselves through Your eyes, and come to follow You in deeper ways daily. Thank you for establishing good works through us and for allowing us to participate in Your work. May we allow you, the Master Builder access to our deepest parts as You continue to craft Yourself into our heart and mind. Oh, God, how we long to be fully Yours and to stand before You with humble joy one day and hear that You are pleased with the way we lived. May we be filled with hope, joy, and grace in light of our expectation of an eternity with You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast. You can find this and other transcripts online at terrihitt.com. Remember that both of my podcasts are available on the website. You can also find them on Apple Podcast, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts are also found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. Will you take a moment to follow the shows and think of someone you can share the podcasts with and encourage them to follow and share, as well? Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective. Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode 138 - Christ, The Master Builder Listen to Episode Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Live With Eternal Perspective Podcast Episode #138 – Christ, The Master Builder Thank you for entrusting and investing your precious time with me to seek, find, and follow Jesus together as we live with purposed eternal perspective. Each morning my youngest trusts that she and I will sit together and play before we do anything else. In fact, as soon as I wake her up, she uses the restroom, brushes her teeth, takes her medications, and meets me where Lego’s and creativity have overtaken the space. Our entire kitchen table is filled with creations that prove her genius ability to construct something from nothing. What can be challenging to me is of no effort for her. Sure, it looks easy to build tiny objects from plastic bricks, but when you want true workmanship that boasts working doors with hidden hinges, elaborate pieces of furniture, and symmetrical construction, you need an expert creator. Of course, that would be her. I’m content to sit in my role as the one who honors what she makes. I help use her designs and ideas in joyful ways that bring us closer together. Anything I make on my own falls far short of the craftmanship she possesses, and the quality of my constructed items fall short of her ingenuity, but I sit by her side to observe and learn, so I may grow my skills under the master. Although Brooklyn is superbly skilled at establishing visions of what she desires to make and then actually causing it to come into existence, her skills fall short of the glory of God. My girl constructs elaborate cities and stories, while God created a world, universe, and all that we know and can only imagine. He designed intimate details into each person and knows each of us by name. He knows the days established for us and what we have done, are doing, and will do, and created each one of us for purposes and with gifts He crafted into being. 1 Corinthians 3:5-14 says, “What, after all, is Apollos? And what is Paul? Only servants, through whom you came to believe—as the Lord has assigned to each his task. I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow. So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow. The one who plants and the one who waters have one purpose, and they will each be rewarded according to their own labor. For we are co-workers in God’s service; you are God’s field, God’s building. By the grace God has given me, I laid a foundation as a wise builder, and someone else is building on it. But each one should build with care. For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ. If anyone builds on this foundation using gold, silver, costly stones, wood, hay or straw, their work will be shown for what it is, because the Day will bring it to light. It will be revealed with fire, and the fire will test the quality of each person’s work. If what has been built survives, the builder will receive a reward.” In a way slightly similar to how Brooklyn has patiently given me the skills to build, but on a much, much larger and more important scale, God showed Paul how to sow the seeds of the gospel message into the hearts of people. God also enabled Apollos to nourish the believers and grow them in faith. Paul founded the Corinth church and Apollos took that foundation and built upon it. The work God requires involves a multitude of people who carry a variety of God-given gifts, talents, and abilities. Although I think Brooklyn is an architectural superstar, the truth is that her abilities come from a choice God made to gift her in that area. How many more God-gifted abilities does she carry? How many will she choose to use for Him? God doesn’t craft special talents into us for us to become superstars who receive all the glory. He patiently plans and lovingly lavishes abilities on us for the purpose of combining followers who will become “team members” of sorts who will set aside personal desires and glory in exchange for approval from Him. Of course, we know that Paul and Apollos worked for the Lord, but what arose spiritually from their work was credited to God’s power, grace, and mercy. Believers know that Jesus is the foundation of the church. He is the reason we worship, why we give praise; we cannot lay another foundation other than what has been established by Christ’s sacrifice, love, and obedience. Paul laid a strong and perfect foundation for the Corinth church by preaching salvation through Christ. Paul was used by God to establish spiritual foundations as he worked to construct groundwork for churches in Macedonia, Greece, and Asia Minor, while others, such as Timothy and Apollos were used to build upon the foundations of his labors. Each person working for God was allowed to participate through God’s loving mercy and grace. In our time, we must remember that whoever builds our present day church, whether it be preachers, teachers, deacons, or worshippers, the church must be built with first fruits, or the very best we can offer through establishing godly doctrine built on God’s Word and a lifestyle of godly integrity. In the Corinthian church, many members were vulnerable to incorrect doctrine, immature in their faith, and hardened toward one another. Instead of being committed to God and each other, they had much to learn in shaping Christian character and sacrifice. Just as the Lego buildings I construct are not as solid as the ones Brooklyn builds, believers must be careful to build their life on the solid foundation of Christ. Jesus is the firm foundation that lasts. All else will fall away. If we choose to build a life upon fame, wealth, another person, culture, or however we define success, our life will not stand in eternity. When we stand before Him, God will determine through His sinless, sovereign mind whether each of us has been faithful to follow the instructions and guidelines set by Christ. Any honor and glory for salvation goes to God, as He alone saves. As we work for the Lord, we will not see what we view as equality in our journey on earth. Some believers will see great fruit from their work in this lifetime; some will not, but each person who sacrificially and obediently works for the Lord is seen equally by God. He will reward who and how He chooses. We do not know and cannot comprehend His plans. We must look only to what God calls us to do and step out to complete the tasks He poses for us as we keep our heart focused on obediently honoring and pleasing Him. As we labor for the Lord, I believe we must fix our eyes above. No matter what feels like drudgery or may be unpleasant, no matter whether we experience what we consider success or what this world calls failure, we have choices to make. 1. What foundation will we choose to build our life upon? 2. Will that foundation endure into eternity? Believers must also remember to ask ourselves: 1. Is what I am laying as my foundation pleasing to God? 2. Will I trust that God will bless what I allow Him to complete through my obedience for His purposes (even when I don’t see the fruit)? Matthew 9:37-38 says, “He said to his disciples, “The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few. Ask the Lord of the harvest, therefore, to send out workers into His harvest field.” Are you willing to labor for the Lord without seeing the outcome? 1 Corinthians 15:58 says, “Therefore, my dear brothers and sisters, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.” Do you trust His work? 1 Thessalonians 1:3 says, “We remember before our God and Father your work produced by faith, your labor prompted by love, and your endurance inspired by hope in our Lord Jesus Christ.” Are you inspired by Christ or this world? Colossians 1:28-29 says, “He is the One we proclaim, admonishing and teaching everyone with all wisdom, so that we may present everyone fully mature in Christ. To this end I strenuously contend with all the energy Christ so powerfully works in me.” Do you allow Him to energize and strengthen you each moment? 1 Timothy 4:10 says, “That is why we labor and strive, because we have put our hope in the living God, who is the Savior of all people, and especially of those who believe.” Is your hope and trust in Christ? Philippians 2:16 says, “As you hold firmly to the word of life. And then I will be able to boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor in vain.” Are you looking forward to the day you will stand in front of Jesus? 2 Timothy 2:15 says, “Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth.” Are you ready to humbly stand before God unashamed? 1 Timothy 1:12 says, “I thank Christ Jesus our Lord, who has given me strength, that He considered me trustworthy, appointing me to His service.” Do you consider yourself appointed to His service? How does that affect your actions and decisions daily? Ephesians 2:10 says, “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Are you willing to continue to surrender each day? Dear Heavenly Father, thank you for Your glorious work within us. Thank You for the plans you have made for us and the salvation You established for us through Jesus. May each of us surrender more completely moment by moment, see ourselves through Your eyes, and come to follow You in deeper ways daily. Thank you for establishing good works through us and for allowing us to participate in Your work. May we allow you, the Master Builder access to our deepest parts as You continue to craft Yourself into our heart and mind. Oh, God, how we long to be fully Yours and to stand before You with humble joy one day and hear that You are pleased with the way we lived. May we be filled with hope, joy, and grace in light of our expectation of an eternity with You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast. You can find this and other transcripts online at terrihitt.com. Remember that both of my podcasts are available on the website. You can also find them on Apple Podcast, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts are also found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? When you review my podcast on Apple Podcasts, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcast online so that more people are allowed to find and hear it. Will you take a moment to follow the shows and think of someone you can share the podcasts with and encourage them to follow and share, as well? Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will direct them away from Christ. Live With Eternal Perspective helps us to find, trust, and follow Christ more intimately. Purposed Parent/Connected Child shares biblical, practical truths for parents and grandparents to influence and mentor Christ over culture. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Live With Eternal Perspective.

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< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 118 - How to Help Your Kids Develop Biblical Worldview Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 118 – How to Help Your Kids Develop Biblical Worldview Thank you for sharing your day with me. I pray this podcast gives you the awareness and tools you need to STOP being a GOOD mom and BECOME the GODLY mom God entrusts you to be. Then you will be the SET-APART woman PURPOSELY raising children to chase CHRIST over culture. Just a quick reminder as we start, if you enjoy Purposed Parent Connected Child podcast episodes, would you please share this episode or others with a friend or family member? When you graciously take a moment to do that, and leave a rating or review at Apple Podcast, you are ensuring that others will find the podcast. When you do, you’re helping affect generations for Jesus. Now on to this episode about how to help your kids develop biblical worldview. My youngest doesn’t talk about her time in China very often. When she does, I listen carefully, storing away pieces of information and memories in my mind and heart to help her process her past as she is ready to manage it. As much as I wish I could have been with her from the beginning, that wasn’t our story. Instead of focusing on what we cannot change, we trust that there was a reason for the time she was without family and we focus on God’s redemptive power, grace, and love so we can be thankful for the time we have together now, and as we look forward to the future. As her mother, it is my divine privilege to love, protect her, and help her continue to move forward. One of the things I’ve noticed is that as time presses forward, she loses what little memories she has of her life in China. Through what she has already shared, I have pieced together patterns that I believe have helped her to process things that happened to her, cope with it in the best way for her, and move forward. What surprises me, however, is that it’s not necessarily the events that happened there that bother her the most. Instead, it’s what didn’t happen. As she continues to learn more about Jesus, read her Bible, study Bible notes, and share in biblical discussions, my youngest has revealed that she’s hurt by the fact that no one in China told her about Jesus. She had no knowledge or information about how to live in ways that offered her joy and hope. Developing a biblical worldview shapes identity and belief system . A strong biblical worldview becomes an unwavering internal compass to lead your actions and reactions. It is essential that Christian mothers train our kids to develop and carry a strong biblical worldview. A biblical worldview will be your child’s lens to viewing the world through God’s eyes and for living with His heart. Sadly, many mothers have not purposed time to prioritize mentorship for their children in this way. They themselves have yet to believe the life-changing effects that a walk with God through relationship with Jesus provides. We see evidence in our society daily. Surprisingly, even people who profess to be Christian do not rely on the unshakable word of God to lead them in truth that shapes convictions and actions. Our ideals for life, how we view life, what we expect, and how we act and react, will stem from something. God should be our source of trust, integrity, cultural beliefs, and lead our desires, reactions, and words. Anything we face in life, whether it be politics, raising children, sanctity of life, marriage, or relationships should seek and adhere to what His holy word teaches and instructs. Unfortunately, our society often values celebrities, politicians, educators, friends, self, or political parties before God. What we must realize is that any cultural ideal we follow or use as a solution or guideline in our life is simply secularism when God is absent from the equation. When humanity promotes or idealizes secular beliefs, we are dangerously following self. Our children will pay the consequences. God’s word is absolute truth. We don’t need relative truth, which our world promotes. Anything apart from God’s truth eventually fails, bringing emptiness, misery, and disaster. When we go astray, I believe it happens because we have not searched and utilized God’s word as our source of light, hope, strength, and guidance. Instead, we often fall back on what is comfortable or easy, or we revert to selfish desires. What we have experienced, what we feel, what we know, or what others say or do often takes control of our flesh and God’s word is forgotten or dismissed. Proverbs 29:18 says, “Where there is no revelation, people cast off restraint; but blessed is the one who heeds wisdom’s instruction.” When we don’t heed God’s warnings, promises, or instructions, we lose the divine, righteous guidance of our Heavenly Father; we abandon self to fleshly and sinful desires, as well as making ourselves easily manipulated by others who only look out for self. The ways in which you as a mother engage in culture affects and directs the heart and decisions of your children. How can you train them to carry biblical discernment needed as a follower of Christ? The answer begins with your life. What you believe and follow will most likely be what your child builds his life upon. God’s thoughts and truth must be important and sacred to you in order for them to be what governs and directs your children. Remember, a biblical worldview comes from knowing and living God’s word - from reading, studying, and applying God’s word to every situation. If you ingest God’s word, you’ll be sustained by His holy truths and principles. Then you’ll have the skills to build a strong foundation for your child. Wisdom, insight, and clarity come through walking with God, studying under Him, and allowing Him to mentor you. We develop relationship with God through His word, prayerful reflection, and conversation with Him. Transformation comes when you invite the work of the Holy Spirit to fill and reconstruct your thought processes and responses. Obedience occurs when you step out in faith and trust what you’ve learned. It comes from hearing the Holy Spirit within you as He instructs you on what to do. It deepens when you obey what you hear. If you believe God’s word, carry it as a sacred, guiding counselor within you, and invite the Holy Spirit God deposited within you to transform your life, you will affect the life of your child and lead her to Him. Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things .” 2 Corinthians 4:4 says, “Satan, who is the god of this world, has blinded the minds of those who don’t believe. They are unable to see the glorious light of the Good News. They don’t understand this message about the glory of Christ, who is the exact likeness of God .” In order to obtain and maintain a biblical worldview, mothers must implement the following 5 steps as a lifestyle priority: 1. Regularly read and study God’s word. This means using an excellent study Bible and searching for answers. Journaling, or keeping notes helps some; writing or memorizing Scripture helps others. Find what works best for you. Make sure you’re reading God’s word regularly (that is key) and that you are breaking it down so that you really understand it. Learn to apply it in all areas of your life. Don’t just get your reading completed for the day and move on without considering what you’ve learned. 2. Trust in God’s sovereignty and His word. Each person has to make a choice as to whether we really believe what we say we do about Jesus. If we don’t, that is our choice. God allows us free will. But if we do believe, then we must make our life reflect that belief. Our eternity and the lives of those around us depend on it. 3. Stand on God’s word for self-worth and values instead of self or society. There are many agendas in this world that are in direct opposition to God. Among them are the way media portrays values and self-worth. God’s word should be your guiding influence. The God of the Universe cannot lie. Believe what He says about you. Let it penetrate your spirit and senses as you deepen your walk with Jesus, affecting everything about you, especially your relationship with your spouse and the way you parent. 4. Focus on God’s truths; don’t allow worldly influences, selfish desires, or Satan to distract or dissuade you from God’s promises or principles. Focusing on the truths and principals of God’s word should be the compass you live by. Make Him your True North and do not allow the deceit and distraction of this world to move you from living steadfastly in His grasp. 5. Look for God in every situation. God isn’t a Sunday morning visitor in our life. He is the core we wrap ourselves around. He is our guide and purpose. Find Him in the ordinary and the exceptional moments of life. He should be the underlying force behind everything we do and are. John 12:25-26 says, “Whoever loves his life will lose it, but whoever hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life. If anyone serves Me, he must follow Me; and where I am, My servant will be as well. If anyone serves Me, the Father will honor Him.” Christian mothers must purpose to know Jesus intimately and follow Him without distraction . Inhale Him so you will effortlessly exhale Him on your family. Our life in this world will showcase what we believe and desire. What we believe also details our life after death and for eternity. Those who love this world with a mindset of doing as they wish, chasing what they see here and now will lose what God has purposed for them in this present time, but more importantly, for eternity. We may not see the spiritual realm that is to come, but God’s word makes it clear that this world is not our home. Developing relationship with God through Christ and coming to truly know Jesus through God’s word enables us to mature a love so deep and wide that it creates an eternal bond. Mentor Christ so clearly to your children that their vision is directed upwards toward eternity . Matthew 6:19-21 says, “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also .” Dear Heavenly Father, You are the God of all creation, the Maker of Heaven and Earth. Thank you for Your everlasting love and faithfulness to us. We know you have good plans for us, not to harm us, and are for the good of Your kingdom. Help us to live with constant gratitude and a heart that seeks You above all things. Let the way we seek and love You be made evident to the children You have entrusted to our care. May our work for You in their lives be pleasing to You and fruitful or them. This world entices us with riches and momentary blessings that we crave, yet You clearly warn us not to fix our eyes or heart on them. You call us to live set apart as a faithful servant for You. Help us to be found worthy of what You call for us. Give us a heart that cries for You and Your ways. May it be mimicked by our children. Allow us to sit at Your feet with our children and enjoy what You call good. We need You so much, Father. Help us to live a steadfast life that honors all You are. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Raising children is challenging. No one has all the answers because each child is unique as are parenting styles and family dynamics. By connecting with and knowing your children as you maintain purposed growth in Christ, you will be better prepared for any situation you face. That’s why you hear me share about the Set-Apart Collective in this podcast. I work with ambitious women who care about making Jesus known to their children. Are you a high-achieving woman who loves Jesus, but is so busy with the rush of work and daily life that you feel like you’re being drained like the water in your bathtub? Do you yearn to get closer to Jesus and show Him to your kids so you will create a love that will last into eternity? The desire is there, but your days spiral out of control before you even think about opening your Bible. Do you ever stop to think that you are the first Jesus your child will see? Let me remind you there is hope. There is a way you can be equipped to raise kids who chase Christ over culture. If you want a connected relationship with Christ and your children that leads them to your side and His feet, instead of them seeking validation from peers, I have an 8-step program to move you from frustrated to fulfilled. I will show you how to reflect Jesus in a way that attracts your family to a connected relationship that lasts into eternity. Remember, godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset you carry. If you don’t want peers and culture to be the main influence over your child, if you desire to parent to “prepare” your child for eternity with Christ, not repair your relationship with them, the Set-Apart Collective will arm you with a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model™, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan™. You’ll also deepen your identity in Christ so you can mentor the way for your children to do the same. You will be a purposed mother with an intentional mind and heart set on Christ and your family and you will have the tools to raise set apart kids as you parent the heart, not simply the behavior. Does this sound like a lifeline to help you be that set-apart mom God has entrusted you to be? Visit terrihitt.com/coaching and click the link for a free, no obligation conversation call with me. This is a strategic call where I will hear your biggest struggle and show you how to turn it into a blessing that will bring you closer to Christ and your children. It’s time for believing mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. Time is short. Make yours matter for eternity. If you need a little jumpstart, visit my website at terrihitt.com/resources. Scroll down near the bottom of the page and click on the link for my free ebook, “Good to Godly: A 31 Day Scripture and Prayer Guide for Moms.” One last thing to remember - if you’re not purposed in knowing Jesus and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway your children away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast enables you to stop being a good mom and focus on being a godly parent. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to parent with eternal purpose and connection with your children and Christ. Previous Next

< Back Purposed Parent Connected Child Podcast Episode 068 - Are You Teaching Your Child to Fall Victim to Emotions Welcome to the Purposed Parent/Connected Child podcast – Episode 068 – Are You Teaching Your Child to Fall Victim to Emotions? Goodness! I remember when we brought our youngest daughter home from China, life was a whirlwind. So many beautiful and hard times intertwined. We had just lost my mother and at the time, I keep my gaze lifted to God, waiting for Him to carry me through each moment. Although everything went very well considering the pressures I had been under, and the history of my child, my youngest was in a situation where absolutely everything was new and scary. Think of how that would feel! She had no control over anything happening to her. So, of course she tried to take control when she could, and I tried to make sure she felt control when I could. Our girl tended to cry when things seemed overwhelming. Those tears or what we called, “meltdowns” usually weren’t too often, but when they came they were loud – and lasted a long time. One meltdown could last at least two hours. When emotions, thoughts, or feelings get too big and you don’t have the words or trust to describe what is happening, it’s easy to cry loud and long. Emotions can certainly overwhelm, as was the case for my youngest daughter. It doesn’t matter whether you’re young, old, or in between. Emotions are big at any age. For some children, however, emotions become so large and scary that it becomes easy to resort to undesirable behaviors. In fact, it’s not only children wo are affected by these behaviors. Many adults have learned to cope with emotions by hiding them behind actions that ward others off. Do you have any behaviors that your child is beginning to mirror? Your core beliefs as a woman and mother impact your thoughts, emotions, responses, and behavior. These are passed on to your children through your words, actions, and reactions. When your emotions produce bad habits, your child experiences a learned response that will most likely stick for life, unless you work to correct it within yourself now. As a believer, there should be a noticeable difference in the way you act. Your core beliefs, thoughts, emotions, responses, and behavior should be guided by a higher, holier measure. Your emotions shouldn’t be guarded by reactive or protective responses, but from a relationship with Jesus that believes and teaches truth from the ultimate Source. The best ways to teach your child not to live by emotions is by godly example . Consider yourself as I pose a few questions. In what ways do you help your child respond emotionally in godly ways? Are you modeling godly emotional responses? What steps are you taking to ensure your beliefs align with God’s truths so you will mentor emotions and actions correctly to your children? How often do you mentor the following lifestyle choices to your children? 1. Gratefulness/Thankfulness – Do you teach your child through words (such as prayers and conversations), attitude, and actions? Being thankful means carrying and exhibiting gratitude for the things we want or like and the things we don’t. 2. Thought Patterns – Do you teach your child that you choose to dwell on the positive, not negative aspects of life, situations, and problems – including people? 3. Emotions – Do you teach that it is good and natural for feelings to be expressed, but also mentor appropriate ways to do so? 4. Critical Thinking/Problem Solving – Do you look for ways to teach your child critical thinking skills when dealing with emotions? Do you help them identify emotions and problem solve to see what will best help them before overwhelm occurs? 5. Service – Do you serve with your child? There is always someone in a harder situation or with less of what we desire. Do you teach your child to find ways to be of service to them. 6. Victim Mentality – Have you taught your child that Jesus warned we would face tribulation? This world isn’t fair, but knowing that Jesus went before us and purposely told us what to expect, and also promised to carry us through the difficulties should set a strong mental foundation built on truth. Do you remind your child that Jesus is there to carry and console them? Do you point the way to God through trials? 7. Tantrums – Do you teach your child how to regulate emotions? They often don’t have words to express what they feel, think, fear, or believe. Do you help them work through issues or leave them to deal with emotions alone? 8. Reactions – Do you allow everything you think or feel to show on your face or in your reactions? Are you training your child to attract overwhelm by your habits or reactions? They see and hear every word and reaction. Without knowing it, they absorb and evaluate what you do, catalog your behavior in their memories, and eventually mirror your consistent, continued habits. Let what they learn from you lead them to Christ and you. When kids don’t have control over emotions, it may lead to school, friendship, and trust issues, illnesses, mental health problems, or self-harming behaviors. Children are sensitive. They react emotionally and physically to stress, fear, illness, confusion, and more. When this happens, instead of melting down with your child, look at the situation as an opportunity to help them (and yourself) form godly reactions and character. I’ve learned that as I help my children identify and express emotions, I learn right along with them. It allows us to move nearer to God and each other. Remember, acting out is a response to your child’s emotions. Teaching children how to respond in new ways takes time, just like it does for new habits to form for adults. However, working with your child to express feelings, emotions, and fears in these new ways will decrease the need for tantrums and tears or whatever behavior your child acquires. Instead of simply seeing the way your child responds as negative, view it as a time for godly instruction. Just as God patiently guides you, your child is literally crying out in various ways for your help. Don’t let your emotions or fears guide your response. Instead, let them be a godly guide that molds character instead of an impulsive reaction to silence noise and discomfort. Partner with your child to find beneficial ways of expressing thoughts and feelings. What are some of the ways you can best respond to your child during times of high emotions? 1. Look them in the eye 2. Kneel to their height 3. Maintain calm, no matter what you feel inside 4. Hold your child close or sit next to them 5. Speak softly 6. Validate what you are seeing. For example, “I see that you seem sad.” Or “It seems like you might feel lonely.” 7. Let them respond without interruption. 8. Listen without correcting when they relay feelings or thoughts. 9. Encourage them to try to identify what emotion they are feeling and when it started. What are the best methods to help with self-regulation? First, you have to remember that children may not know why they feel a certain way. Or they may not know how to label that feeling. One of the keys to self-regulation is to teach your child to replace how they feel with an emotion they know . Emotions will begin as a sensation in the body, while feelings originate from thoughts . An example might be when they begin to get a headache after certain events or they notice they are clenching their teeth at certain times or their muscles tighten just before they get mad. If you teach your child to feel a sensation begin, you can then instruct them on different options to reduce or prevent meltdowns or disruptive, inappropriate behavior. Teaching your child to approach the emotion they recognize with a new strategy empowers them with the ability to self-regulate before emotions overwhelm them. Remember, first, talk to your child about emotions. Ask them to discuss the emotion they’ve felt, then identity an approach that would work for them. For example, if your child finds that when they are in a room with a lot of noise it is difficult to think or it makes them feel abandoned, help them brainstorm about what will work for them before the feelings that trigger the meltdown arise. Perhaps they could come to you and take your hand to let you know they need to move to a quiet area. Finding a strategy that works for your child and family may take several attempts as they learn to assess and identify emotions and what triggers them. Be patient. Work with your unique child. There are many emotions and strategies that could be applied. Consider the age of your child, their experience, their background, the behavior you are trying to stop, and find what will work best. The strategies you choose may also be changed over time. Finally, teach your child to observe how they feel when emotions hit, then how they feel after applying the strategy to avoid overwhelm. Over time, they will be able to overcome overwhelm and may no longer need the strategies. Above all, as you teach your child to recognize emotions and apply approaches, teach them to pray . Teach them to talk to God, to ask for His wisdom and help. Help them realize that God is giving ideas as you both ask for guidance. Teach them that God knows their innermost thoughts and feelings, their emotions because He created them with a beautiful purpose. Let them know that God cares and will guide you to answers as you trust and follow Him. Let your child know you are praying for him, and pray for your child with them. Working together to curb the big emotions your child carries and to lay your own emotions in God’s capable hands is a journey of trust and faith you can walk together. Dear Heavenly Father, You are so good to us. We are thankful for Your grace, Your mercy, and Your love. We know You are a God of emotions, because we are created in Your image. You have so generously allowed us to experience emotions, but we need You to carry us through them. Sometimes they can feel so big or overwhelming and our children need us to mentor godly ways to express emotions so they will learn to do the same. Carry us, Father, when life doesn’t run smoothly and our children are overwhelmed. Draw nearer to us and keep us on Your path for godly homes and training that honors You and sets our children up for a lifetime pursuit of You with joy. Jesus said that with man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible. We know our families are in Your capable hands. Please help us release self and children to You. You tell us that those who wait for You shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint. Help us to have Your strength in life and the ability to help our children with an eternal viewpoint that parents for the future, not just the ease of today. We know that we are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed because our hope and trust are in You. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Supporting and encouraging mothers to rest in Christ and pursue a holy relationship with Him so they purposely raise set-apart children is the cry of my heart. I believe godly parenting is rooted in relationship with Christ and the mindset a mother carries. That’s why I’ve created the Set-Apart Collective. Would you like to walk with other like-minded mothers to deepen your walk with Christ, learn a Christ-centered Motherhood Mindset Model, and create a Purposed Parenting Plan? I want to share special news with my podcast listeners. The Set-Apart Collective wait list is open now. Send me an email at info@terrihitt.com to let me know you’d like to receive information and a special code to receive a discount if you find you’d like to join the collective. It’s time for mothers to be purposed in preparing their children for a lifetime pursuit of Christ. If you connected in some way with this episode, would you please rate and review the podcast on Apple or Spotify? It only takes a minute or so and makes a big difference in people finding the podcast. You and I know that the best reviews are by word of mouth, so would you please choose a friend to recommend the show to? Let them know that the podcast is found at terrihitt.com, Apple Podcasts, iHeart Radio, and Spotify. 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< Back Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast - Episode 038 - Teach Your Child the Beauty of Boredom Welcome to the Terri Hitt – Purposed Parent/Connected Child Podcast God has given me a desire to help women mature their relationship with Christ so you can raise set-apart children for Jesus. Today we’ll look at another way to be purposed in connecting with your child and Christ. Episode #038 – Teach Your Child the Beauty of Boredom Last week I took time to quietly observe a decorative metal pinwheel in the garden of a neighbor. When the wind gently blew, I saw the blade slowly spin, but when the wind increased, the pinwheel quickly spun without stopping for a few minutes. The action of the cute garden accessory brought to mind how life challenges us. When the pinwheel blades stood still, which didn’t happen often, it reminded me of times when we have little going on. Perhaps things feel easy or we aren’t over-scheduled and moving from activity to project. As the wind increased and the pinwheel began moving, it was mindful of the action of life. How quickly we move through the hours, not always realizing the precious eternal moments quietly presented to us daily. When the blades furiously spun, it made me think of moments that feel eternally long when we’re faced with difficulties and trials, but become those hardships that can break or define our faith. They’re the times that cause us to fall to our knees in surrender and prayer or remind us to remain bowed before the Father, depending on the level of the humility we already possess. I was thankful for the minutes spent watching the pinwheel. As I sat doing nothing except observing blades and pondering faith, I cherished the quiet time that to some might make them bored. Without boredom how are we to deepen thoughts, explore feelings in light of truth, or hear the voice of God speak? If adults can’t face boredom, how can we mentor embracing a simpler or pondering life to our children? One skill a parent sometimes forgets to teach is the ability to look boredom in the eye and remain comfortable. This is an ability that many children simply haven’t experienced. Having nothing to do, yet forgoing a phone, tablet, or electronic device is an art that should be taught and used well. Instead, most like to teach children how to combat boredom or how to keep from being bored. But I remember being bored as a child taught me to find something constructive to do, which usually involved creativity. As a Christian mom, I hope that if my children have nothing to do, instead of complaining about boredom, they will pick up a Bible or do something that can bring them closer to the Lord or that they will spend their time doing something that honors or pleases God. While too much quiet time can be harmful to children, a wise parent looks for the balance that allows their child to develop and mature life skills they will carry to the next generation. For example, one hobby my youngest has enjoyed this spring is observing nature, meaning bugs in particular. Using a camera, magnifying glass, and several mini terrariums she has created from jars and other containers, she has collected and observed many insects. Gathering fun and interesting facts about each of the various kinds of insects has been interesting for her and educational for me. Her confidence has grown, while her level of boredom has declined. Seeing God’s creation in this new way has brought joy and knowledge that I hope will increase her faith and the abilities God placed within her. Dealing with boredom is a life skill that will serve every child and enable them to reach the potential God has crafted inside each unique individual . Colossians 3:23 says, “And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men .” Isn’t this a beautiful and applicable verse to use for the occurrence of boredom? Kids (and adults) should learn to foster a cheerful heart despite their level of activity or interest in life situations. With that cheerful heart, we carry the privilege of honoring God in all we do, through our actions and our attitude. Would you like to know 5 ways you can turn boredom into success for your children? 1. When you allow your children to be bored, their brains get the opportunity to build critical thinking and problem-solving skills , as well as learn delayed gratification . Each of these offer important, long-term benefits. 2. When you allow your children to be bored, they gain the privilege of learning to adjust to, and embrace the quiet . Without it, they may never hear God speaking to their spirit. 3. When you allow your children to be bored, they learn to confront and be joyful in unpleasant or uncomfortable feelings and to seek the truth of God , as well as His understanding and guidance of emotions . 4. When you allow your children to be bored, they learn the important lesson that they don’t have to enjoy every activity they do , enabling them to develop discipline and commitment , skills they will carry into adulthood. 5. When you allow your children to be bored, they receive the opportunity to deepen attachment and connection with you and Christ . While sometimes children need to sit in silence to discover self and God, it’s also a beautiful way to find and enjoy simple activities together that may lead to meaningful memories and constructive conversation . The more comfortable you are with silence and boredom, the more comfort your children will find. Embrace being bored and find the purpose behind silence. Let your children find new activities and interests. Help them develop the unique personalities and talents God purposed into them when they were fearfully and wonderfully made. Dear Heavenly Father, You are so good to give us the capacity to embrace the quiet and the busy. Please enable us and our children to honor You with both. Equip us to mentor the way to enjoy boredom so that our children come to You for understanding and guidance when they find themselves craving more than what has been presented to them. Help them to look for You in all things and to know that through You they will find beauty in new ways each day. May they draw nearer to You and the person they are called to be in times of busy and boredom. We thank you for all seasons of our lives and for the ability to see You even in the stirrings of the wind through a pinwheel. In the precious name of Jesus we pray. Amen. Thank you for listening to the “Purposed Parent/Connected Child” podcast. This summer the episodes will be shorter and I may occasionally offer favorite replays as I spend time with my family and follow a special collective I believe God is calling me to complete for Him. Remember, this podcast, and the “Live With Eternal Perspective” podcast, may be found at terrihitt.com, Apple Podcasts, iHeart Radio, Spotify, and they are part of the Spark Media Network. Both podcasts may also now be found on the Edifi app, where you can hear thousands of the best Christian podcasts in one place for your listening enjoyment. Have you rated or reviewed my podcasts on Apple Podcasts yet? Did you know that when you review my podcasts on Apple, it helps to elevate the standing of the podcasts online so that more people are allowed to find and hear them. Will you please take a moment to follow the shows and think of someone you can share the podcasts with and encourage them to follow and share, as well? Remember, if we are not purposed in knowing Jesus ourselves and showing Him to the next generation, the world will sway them away from Christ. I pray that what you hear on this podcast draws you nearer to God and helps you cling to Him, despite any circumstances in your life. Until next week, keep looking Up while focusing on new ways to Parent and Connect With Eternal Perspective. Previous Next